You just described my ex. She’s narcissistic, manipulative and good at gaslighting. We broke up last night and though it’s sad, it’s good for my mental health.
My manipulative partner moved out this morning. This video is helping me so much ❤ he literally sang his way out the door. After threatening so much stuff for so long for wanting to leave him. Uhg. I feel crazy. But this is helping so much thank you
Sounds just like my wife, any time she sees my getting back to myself she swoops down and takes that from me, i feel like I'm having a heart attack most of the time,chest tightness stress, anxiety, which I've never had.
Hie, my name is lerato My husband is 50 years I was drinking, when he meets me But is Controlling me check we're im wht I'm doing the more is doing this things I hate him my husband anything, I do they will be problem, my son sleep over he did not tell me when, I come home they is patties, in the house,
Number 7 is the exact thing that happened to me. When shes angry it fees like she doesnt love me. She tells me words that are very hurtful. And when shes in normal days or happy she is very sweet and always telling me that she loves me
I’m having a relationship with a manipulative person that has all the 7 signs at the moment and right now he’s doing the silent treatment of this month (it happens at least one time/month). I’ve always had a feeling that he’s been manipulating me but I’ve never accepted it. I’ve always been the one who apologized both for my and his faults, I was the only one that was trying to make things work after a fight because he made me think it was just my fault that he acted in a certain way, even after a physical abuse. I saw your video about the silent treatment and then I clicked also on others and I’m thinking that this time I’ll give up on playing games on myself and accepting such a behavior. I’m gonna let this silent treatment make me aware of my self value and of my wishes so I’ll definitely break up with him. I’ve had a false sense of a healthy relationship for more than 2 years and half because he trusted me blindly and I’ve been thinking all the time that if he can trust me like nobody did then he’s the one. But unfortunately I didn’t realize that it wasn’t the trust that made him act this way but the way I went crazy for him and came back every single time. He just knew that no matter what he did I would ALWAYS come back and he WAS right. I love your videos and you’re awesome. Thank you 😘❤️
I decided that instead of asking my husband to be in the kids lives more and our lives (because he is everywhere but family focused) I would ask him what role he plays in our family life....my mistake he literally had 2 things and went on and on like it was some great achievement and we should all be greatful 🤦♀️ I always just try to live my life and allow him to do what ever because it's way to difficult to discuss anything with him. The worst part is he sees how he is and he doesn't even try to work on it.
Today I realized the full extent my partner goes to, to be the one who benefits. I feel so used and unappreciated. But part of me is also so relieved I can call off the engagement, and have zero obligation to him. It’s been this way for 3 years, with a million lies, broken promises and apparently- fake “changes” that easily came undone the minute I expressed displeasure with his behavior .
This was so difficult to lsten to because I know it is true. I've been married to a subtly, and sometimes not so subtly manipulative partner, for 24 years today. What is so bizarre is that he is so charismatic and charming with everyone else. I'm searching out counseling and hope to find myself again.
This is like water to a thirsty soul am having issues in my relationship and I was confused as to what is happening with us and I woke up this morning and the term dysfunctional relationship popped into my head and I said to myself that am going to look it up.this video enlighten and inform me of what it is am going thru so I know what I need to do. Thank you u helped me alotttttt!!!!
I actually notice different signs of manipulative behavior you discussed in both myself and my recently new Ex..after 7 long years.... Is it common for one's manipulative or narcissistic traits to rub off onto their partner who initially did not show as strong of these traits and after years of hoping for change and lack of actual improvement, they end up absorbing and showing these traits in order to protect themselves from the feeling of unfaurness in the relationship???
Is it possible to recognize ALL the points and yet be happy with your companion ? I had been looking for a " father" in my men all my life , and when I met this charismatic, good looking , successful man, I accepted to be controlled, advised, taught....and I LOVED it. He was my lover, my father, my teacher , everything I had wanted. People around me said I was being manipulated , but I was so very happy.....We had 6 years together and then he passed away last year.We met in our sixties.
It’s crazy because I got into an argument with my gf because she wanted to go out for “labor day” which I work on the week days I’m atleast gone for 10-11 hrs thought out the day trying to get my sleep so she decided it was a good idea to turn on the lame while getting ready to go out I was expecting her to use her flash light from her phone to find what she’s needs instead of havin the lamp on having the light everywhere so I decide to go to the other room to sleep by my daughter & she comes & yank the cover off of me so this is where I got really irritated so I confronted to her to stfu & she told me to say it to her face which I did that’s when she starts hittin me as much as I wanted to hit her back I didn’t… I’m a person to avoid conflict to a certain extent until I feel disrespected which I tried to walk away & end up entertaining non sense
Mind u guys I have to wake up 6am while she’s trying to go out @ 12 & didn’t leave til one she did not care one bit about my rest I feel bad to have my daughter see none sense I tried time after time to feel like things are goin yo change but history repeats itself
I’ve been in a relationship like this for a long time. When it was finally at the breaking point he attempted to change but still has fall backs here and there. Is it possible that it is broken beyond repair even though he is willing to know make a change but this behavior has just broken me too much to move on? Is it possible that change came too fast?
Especially the part of how they say they love you so much but when things are bad they make it seem like you are the worst and they deserve so much better. I think with time this has broken me and I don’t know if he can really stop that even if now it looks like he’s trying.
Only time will tell in terms of REAL change...people can act like they've changed, but time is what really answers that question. So if you're partner is still doing hurtful things, especially when they are angry, it sounds like real change has not happened, or at least the kind of change you need in order for feel trusting of your partner and feel close again. It sounds like a lot of damage has been done, and that needs to be the focus on your relationship; repairing that hurt and rebuilding emotional safety in your relationship.
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
When you email me you can let me know your availability (preferred days and times you want to do a session), and I'll compare it with my schedule and we'll go from there. :)
@@KristinCoaching can i also i been having diffcult time in this one relationship i dont know what to do who to speak with if ur still able to plz let me know ill appreciate ur time also ps,love ur videos i came across them help me realize that am in one still hard to beliieve when i thought things were going good my relationship know i start to see hes true colors but yea
What about manipulative behavior that has been learned? My husband is a veteran so he suffers from PTSD, bi polar disorder, but he’s also learned his manipulative behavior from his shitty dad. I’m constantly pointing out how he manipulates situations and once I point it out he’ll usually lose the anger and apologize profusely and actually tries to stop doing it. Given he’s 38 years old...it’s been a battle cause I’m the only woman that’s ever challenged him on it. Is there hope for him? BTW we’ve been together 15 years...I got with him when I was a naive 16 year old and we have 3 kids so I took the shit for a LONG time before setting my foot down, and demanding change for me AND our kids.
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You just described my ex. She’s narcissistic, manipulative and good at gaslighting. We broke up last night and though it’s sad, it’s good for my mental health.
I’m floored how you are explaining this!
My manipulative partner moved out this morning. This video is helping me so much ❤ he literally sang his way out the door. After threatening so much stuff for so long for wanting to leave him. Uhg. I feel crazy. But this is helping so much thank you
Sounds just like my wife, any time she sees my getting back to myself she swoops down and takes that from me, i feel like I'm having a heart attack most of the time,chest tightness stress, anxiety, which I've never had.
Hie, my name is lerato
My husband is 50 years
I was drinking, when he meets me
But is Controlling me check we're im wht I'm doing the more is doing this things I hate him my husband anything, I do they will be problem, my son sleep over he did not tell me when, I come home they is patties, in the house,
Number 7 is the exact thing that happened to me. When shes angry it fees like she doesnt love me. She tells me words that are very hurtful. And when shes in normal days or happy she is very sweet and always telling me that she loves me
Kristen you are amazing. I googled how I can respond to my boyfriend who is being manipulative and your video came up. It’s my relationship to a T
Yup, my ex partner shows the 7 signs. And here I was, questioning what was wrong with me and why this relationship failed.
I’m having a relationship with a manipulative person that has all the 7 signs at the moment and right now he’s doing the silent treatment of this month (it happens at least one time/month). I’ve always had a feeling that he’s been manipulating me but I’ve never accepted it. I’ve always been the one who apologized both for my and his faults, I was the only one that was trying to make things work after a fight because he made me think it was just my fault that he acted in a certain way, even after a physical abuse.
I saw your video about the silent treatment and then I clicked also on others and I’m thinking that this time I’ll give up on playing games on myself and accepting such a behavior. I’m gonna let this silent treatment make me aware of my self value and of my wishes so I’ll definitely break up with him.
I’ve had a false sense of a healthy relationship for more than 2 years and half because he trusted me blindly and I’ve been thinking all the time that if he can trust me like nobody did then he’s the one. But unfortunately I didn’t realize that it wasn’t the trust that made him act this way but the way I went crazy for him and came back every single time. He just knew that no matter what he did I would ALWAYS come back and he WAS right.
I love your videos and you’re awesome. Thank you 😘❤️
I decided that instead of asking my husband to be in the kids lives more and our lives (because he is everywhere but family focused)
I would ask him what role he plays in our family life....my mistake he literally had 2 things and went on and on like it was some great achievement and we should all be greatful 🤦♀️ I always just try to live my life and allow him to do what ever because it's way to difficult to discuss anything with him. The worst part is he sees how he is and he doesn't even try to work on it.
Kristen, I appreciate you making this video. Another life changed. And yours hit me like no other video. thank you.
Today I realized the full extent my partner goes to, to be the one who benefits. I feel so used and unappreciated. But part of me is also so relieved I can call off the engagement, and have zero obligation to him. It’s been this way for 3 years, with a million lies, broken promises and apparently- fake “changes” that easily came undone the minute I expressed displeasure with his behavior .
This was so difficult to lsten to because I know it is true. I've been married to a subtly, and sometimes not so subtly manipulative partner, for 24 years today. What is so bizarre is that he is so charismatic and charming with everyone else. I'm searching out counseling and hope to find myself again.
I’m having some trouble with my relationship and I feel really lost
Me too....
Sorry
Video starts at 4:40
Lovely background. And absolutely loved this. So accurate.
This is like water to a thirsty soul am having issues in my relationship and I was confused as to what is happening with us and I woke up this morning and the term dysfunctional relationship popped into my head and I said to myself that am going to look it up.this video enlighten and inform me of what it is am going thru so I know what I need to do. Thank you u helped me alotttttt!!!!
This video is very helpful for me because I am in a narcissistic relationship and in my case this narcissist is my boyfriend.
I actually notice different signs of manipulative behavior you discussed in both myself and my recently new Ex..after 7 long years.... Is it common for one's manipulative or narcissistic traits to rub off onto their partner who initially did not show as strong of these traits and after years of hoping for change and lack of actual improvement, they end up absorbing and showing these traits in order to protect themselves from the feeling of unfaurness in the relationship???
@kristinecoaching I have a similar situation. I know this comment and video is old, but if you have an insight let me know
Thank you so much, you are right on in your videos about these people.
I didn't catch that this was going on for awhile, until I had to examine it a lot closer, I feel like I'm going crazy most of the time,
I’m currently dealing with this now :( and I don’t know what to do
Thank you for making this video
Is it possible to recognize ALL the points and yet be happy with your companion ? I had been looking for a " father" in my men all my life , and when I met this charismatic, good looking , successful man, I accepted to be controlled, advised, taught....and I LOVED it. He was my lover, my father, my teacher , everything I had wanted. People around me said I was being manipulated , but I was so very happy.....We had 6 years together and then he passed away last year.We met in our sixties.
It’s crazy because I got into an argument with my gf because she wanted to go out for “labor day” which I work on the week days I’m atleast gone for 10-11 hrs thought out the day trying to get my sleep so she decided it was a good idea to turn on the lame while getting ready to go out I was expecting her to use her flash light from her phone to find what she’s needs instead of havin the lamp on having the light everywhere so I decide to go to the other room to sleep by my daughter & she comes & yank the cover off of me so this is where I got really irritated so I confronted to her to stfu & she told me to say it to her face which I did that’s when she starts hittin me as much as I wanted to hit her back I didn’t… I’m a person to avoid conflict to a certain extent until I feel disrespected which I tried to walk away & end up entertaining non sense
Mind u guys I have to wake up 6am while she’s trying to go out @ 12 & didn’t leave til one she did not care one bit about my rest I feel bad to have my daughter see none sense I tried time after time to feel like things are goin yo change but history repeats itself
I’ve been in a relationship like this for a long time. When it was finally at the breaking point he attempted to change but still has fall backs here and there. Is it possible that it is broken beyond repair even though he is willing to know make a change but this behavior has just broken me too much to move on? Is it possible that change came too fast?
Especially the part of how they say they love you so much but when things are bad they make it seem like you are the worst and they deserve so much better. I think with time this has broken me and I don’t know if he can really stop that even if now it looks like he’s trying.
Only time will tell in terms of REAL change...people can act like they've changed, but time is what really answers that question. So if you're partner is still doing hurtful things, especially when they are angry, it sounds like real change has not happened, or at least the kind of change you need in order for feel trusting of your partner and feel close again. It sounds like a lot of damage has been done, and that needs to be the focus on your relationship; repairing that hurt and rebuilding emotional safety in your relationship.
You are so right..
Background and with candles much better.. 🙂
Good video!! I also shared my story!
Sexless marriage for over ten years and after she moved into another bedroom I bought a life like sex doll and now she’s accusing me of cheating on her
thank you myy beest coach
Im going through this right now
Like the background...but the great content is really more important than the background.
Do you have a video about being with a controlling partner?
So how can I make an appointment?
When you email me you can let me know your availability (preferred days and times you want to do a session), and I'll compare it with my schedule and we'll go from there. :)
@@KristinCoaching can i also i been having diffcult time in this one relationship i dont know what to do who to speak with if ur still able to plz let me know ill appreciate ur time also ps,love ur videos i came across them help me realize that am in one still hard to beliieve when i thought things were going good my relationship know i start to see hes true colors but yea
Love your videos.
Aww, thank you so much Periel. I'm so happy you enjoy them .
What about manipulative behavior that has been learned? My husband is a veteran so he suffers from PTSD, bi polar disorder, but he’s also learned his manipulative behavior from his shitty dad. I’m constantly pointing out how he manipulates situations and once I point it out he’ll usually lose the anger and apologize profusely and actually tries to stop doing it. Given he’s 38 years old...it’s been a battle cause I’m the only woman that’s ever challenged him on it. Is there hope for him?
BTW we’ve been together 15 years...I got with him when I was a naive 16 year old and we have 3 kids so I took the shit for a LONG time before setting my foot down, and demanding change for me AND our kids.
I really need some advice
Please email me at kristin@kristincoaching.com We can discuss my rates and what you need help with.
You're so sweet
Can I make phone appointment with you please
Hey Aya! If you have a question or would like to book a session, email is the best way to get a hold of me. Feel free to email at: kristin@kristincoaching.com