I was in an 8 year relationship with an alcoholic and didn’t realize he was a true alcoholic but over time…he indeed was. I left him because he refused to get help and be respectful to me. I wish so much I could have found you sooner..what you’re sharing is so so helpful. Thank you !!!
Hello, so glad that I ran into this video. For the past 2 years I’ve been asking myself so many questions and you have answered most of them. Been married for 30 years and always feeling like I’m walking on eggshells! And have asked myself why! I don’t do that to her, always feel like I am the one putting the effort while draining on the inside.
Im in an unhealth relationship. The way we fight and deal with stress. Ive got a diploma in community services and youth work. I try all my tricks. She is scared to do things it makes us fight a lot. 27 years together she is 46 and happy not moving in life. Im 43 and Im in a rush now 😢 She sts on all my plans points out all the down falls straight away.
Thank you so much! This is so incredibly helpful and up lifting. It really builds my confidence and makes me feel that i'm not going crazy with myself and with what i feel. Things with my partner are not right. But your video shows me that i should have trusted myself already some time ago when i felt that some things are not like i thought they should be. and i should have trusted my senses and inner voice more. You are the best ! Keep going ! xxx
I've experienced all. First I thought it was me...I've even thought that he wanting to spend every waking moment was good and then I thought he was sooooo in love. He says he is...24 yrs.
I have been in this but don’t know how to get out. I have tried all I can and even done counseling by myself and he did go 17 years later. It has gotten so bad I broke out in hives in 2016 from the stress of his mom and him and how they would gain up on me. We always divorced but wooed me again and now here we are again and it’s so bad that I don’t care and getting anxious again when he gets mad. We don’t slept in the same bed for years. I don’t know what to do and I pray and wait and seek God but I’m still getting hives and anxiety with him. It’s just bad all around.
I have question for you for you. What type is affair is only holding hands and kissing and hugging and meeting up ans texting them with no sex with them?
Can a relationship succeed if you don’t speak with your partner’s parents? I love my partner and picture marriage but their parents have shown toxic behavior. Are we doomed? Feels like a huge roadblock for us. He is so supportive and asserts that him and I are a team, but I’d love to get your opinion. Trying to let go of guilt because I want him to define his own relationship with his fam, but he chooses to distance himself from them to protect himself from manipulation and emotional abuse.
I understand your situation. My situation is the opposite slightly different. He talks to his parents...especially mom...literally 10 times every day. I understand but then he also shows her he loves her which I thought was great but...is it normal?
I wasnt sure what video of yours to post this on but would love some advice. My partner of 5 years has decided to follow a reasonably unstable dream in another country. (That sounds horrible because I should be a supportive partner, but trust me its ridiculous) I got offered a job here in the country we live in now and I took the job because he told to me he would move to the new city with me. Now that I know he wont be joining me we tried to break up. Were back together now even though I know he's going to be moving away and I'm struggling with not feeling betrayed. He wants a long distance relationship but I'm not sure if I can do that. I loved him before finding out he wants to leave. And now all I can think about is him leaving me all alone. I'm trying to distance myself but it hurts so much. Do you have any tips for helping me cope with the idea of betrayal? Do I need to try leave the relationship again or should I try long distance? I dont want to try long distance and just have a constant feeling of anger towards him because he left me.
Hes moving to go to study in a different country because his best friend is moving there. He wants to study Theatre and Acting at a school he doesnt know anything about and hasn't even applied to. He's never done any acting and seems to think because he has a pretty face (hes a model) that he can just study acting and make it to the big screens. He doesnt know anything about the country or school he wants to go to. I tried to talk to him about this but he just shrugs it off and says that it's a stupid idea but he still wants to go. He knows it's stupid because he has told me not to even come with him because its likely it wont work out. I'm so confused! I just feel heartbroken. Yet when we broke up we lasted almost no time apart before being back in each others arms. I've spent the last couple weeks trying to become more independent so that I wont feel so alone when he leaves.
i dont see anything wrong with codependency as people talk about it these days. If both partners are codependent, isnt it good? its not good if one is attached and other is avoidant.
I was in an 8 year relationship with an alcoholic and didn’t realize he was a true alcoholic but over time…he indeed was. I left him because he refused to get help and be respectful to me. I wish so much I could have found you sooner..what you’re sharing is so so helpful. Thank you !!!
Hello, so glad that I ran into this video. For the past 2 years I’ve been asking myself so many questions and you have answered most of them. Been married for 30 years and always feeling like I’m walking on eggshells! And have asked myself why! I don’t do that to her, always feel like I am the one putting the effort while draining on the inside.
I love your voice!!! So soothing
Im in an unhealth relationship. The way we fight and deal with stress. Ive got a diploma in community services and youth work.
I try all my tricks.
She is scared to do things it makes us fight a lot.
27 years together she is 46 and happy not moving in life. Im 43 and Im in a rush now 😢
She sts on all my plans points out all the down falls straight away.
how about someone who barely wants to hang out? the opposite of wanting to be with you 24/7
Very good information.
Kristin, this is super helpful thank you so much!
Thank you so much!
This is so incredibly helpful and up lifting.
It really builds my confidence and makes me feel that i'm not going crazy with myself and with what i feel.
Things with my partner are not right.
But your video shows me that i should have trusted myself already some time ago when i felt that some things are not like i thought they should be.
and i should have trusted my senses and inner voice more.
You are the best ! Keep going !
xxx
This was awesome. So helpful. Thank you!!
Very good group of signs. Thank you.
Literally the best
So helpful!! Thank you!
You are very welcome :)
10/10
Thankfully I am out and the person is not even worth being called my ex. LOL
I've experienced all. First I thought it was me...I've even thought that he wanting to spend every waking moment was good and then I thought he was sooooo in love. He says he is...24 yrs.
I have been in this but don’t know how to get out. I have tried all I can and even done counseling by myself and he did go 17 years later. It has gotten so bad I broke out in hives in 2016 from the stress of his mom and him and how they would gain up on me. We always divorced but wooed me again and now here we are again and it’s so bad that I don’t care and getting anxious again when he gets mad. We don’t slept in the same bed for years. I don’t know what to do and I pray and wait and seek God but I’m still getting hives and anxiety with him. It’s just bad all around.
What if I know he is unhealthy to me but I don't have anywhere else to go?
I have question for you for you.
What type is affair is only holding hands and kissing and hugging and meeting up ans texting them with no sex with them?
Can a relationship succeed if you don’t speak with your partner’s parents? I love my partner and picture marriage but their parents have shown toxic behavior. Are we doomed? Feels like a huge roadblock for us. He is so supportive and asserts that him and I are a team, but I’d love to get your opinion. Trying to let go of guilt because I want him to define his own relationship with his fam, but he chooses to distance himself from them to protect himself from manipulation and emotional abuse.
I understand your situation. My situation is the opposite slightly different. He talks to his parents...especially mom...literally 10 times every day. I understand but then he also shows her he loves her which I thought was great but...is it normal?
Yes I’m experiencing 7 out of 10.
Same girl!
I wasnt sure what video of yours to post this on but would love some advice. My partner of 5 years has decided to follow a reasonably unstable dream in another country. (That sounds horrible because I should be a supportive partner, but trust me its ridiculous) I got offered a job here in the country we live in now and I took the job because he told to me he would move to the new city with me. Now that I know he wont be joining me we tried to break up. Were back together now even though I know he's going to be moving away and I'm struggling with not feeling betrayed. He wants a long distance relationship but I'm not sure if I can do that. I loved him before finding out he wants to leave. And now all I can think about is him leaving me all alone. I'm trying to distance myself but it hurts so much. Do you have any tips for helping me cope with the idea of betrayal? Do I need to try leave the relationship again or should I try long distance? I dont want to try long distance and just have a constant feeling of anger towards him because he left me.
Hes moving to go to study in a different country because his best friend is moving there. He wants to study Theatre and Acting at a school he doesnt know anything about and hasn't even applied to. He's never done any acting and seems to think because he has a pretty face (hes a model) that he can just study acting and make it to the big screens. He doesnt know anything about the country or school he wants to go to. I tried to talk to him about this but he just shrugs it off and says that it's a stupid idea but he still wants to go. He knows it's stupid because he has told me not to even come with him because its likely it wont work out. I'm so confused! I just feel heartbroken. Yet when we broke up we lasted almost no time apart before being back in each others arms. I've spent the last couple weeks trying to become more independent so that I wont feel so alone when he leaves.
Sorry darling. It sounds like you are not his #1 priority and he’s a dreamer, while you’re practical.
i dont see anything wrong with codependency as people talk about it these days. If both partners are codependent, isnt it good? its not good if one is attached and other is avoidant.
A lot of the toxic traits is me ..😮