The PROVEN approach to simplify life with kids
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[edit: focus groups are now filled :)]
To the mom who wants to experience motherhood at a natural pace, I’m on a mission to help women transform their family’s hectic lives into peaceful, enjoyable ones. I’m looking for 10 participants to discuss the challenges and hopes of transitioning to a slower lifestyle. Sign up in less than a minute: bit.ly/PTH-focus
As a minimalist homeschooling mom of a 9 and 11 year old (and a big fan of Simplicity Parenting and Comer's book!) I've found this becomes much more complicated as the children age. The societal and peer pressure to have your children in various activities, even on the Sabbath, to acquire gadgets and toys and video games, becomes a very real force against slow, holy and whole-hearted living. The more you can be grounded in your "whys" - your convictions on why this lifestyle is the best for you and your children's psychological, physical and ultimately spiritual well-being - the stronger you can stand against these mounting pressures and just say to your kids "we don't do that in our family". Thanks for your research and thoughtfulness in providing some very important "whys".
You’re welcome! I hope the video and research that went into it can support families. And I think you made some good points about the unique challenges we can expect as our kids get older.
“Undeclared war on childhood” 🎉🎉🎉 hit home for real. I see this. I get this. Thank you! You are not alone.
Thank you! I love to hear that.
My husband and i read Hunt, Gather, Parent out loud to each other while i was pregnant with our baby boy. Now that he's a new toddler, we plan to read it through again. It's just so good and we know our pre-parent brains and parent brains will glean different facets.
I love that! It really is one of the best parenting books I’ve read. I appreciate that the strategies in it are time tested. If they didn’t work they wouldn’t have been passed down through the generations.
You dont need a big life, to have a valuable one. ❤
Thank you is all I have to say. This is exactly what I’ve needed. You’re doing beautiful work on this busy platform ❤
Thank you so much! I’m so happy to hear it was helpful!
OMG, I loved this video the best so far, friend. I also love that your sister uses the term "dead face" when dealing with kids misbehaving. That is such a good term for it, and I employ it regularly with my son. I didn't think it would work, but it really does. We also talk a LOT about respect and trust and recognition of how others are being treated or how you treat others. These are part of our conversations with him when he is misbehaving toward us or others. In the end, I have found that these are the core values that he is grappling with or doesn't recognize in his behavior, and we like to talk about how what he does can and will affect others whether he realizes it or not. It is all about noticing that you are in a community (e.g., family, classroom, street corner, restaurant, etc.) and that noticing how you can affect others while also regulating your own feelings is all part of being human.
I LOVE this! Helping kids understand their role within a community and their effect on others is crucial. I’d love to know more about how you have these conversations.
I’d love this video from a family where both parents work full time. Please
Wow this was the most coziest, warmest most relaxed video i have ever seen i totally agree with slow living taking care of oneself and not participating in the hustle culture! Love it!!
Great topic and video. You are so right about all that you have said.
A wise woman once asked me “how to you spell love?”
T-I-M-E is what she spelled.
So simple yet so profound. Children don’t want things. We foolishly think more “things” will make a more happier child.
But it’s quite the opposite. It’s time that’s most valuable. There’s just so much to be said on the topic.
Love how you put this together for all the mothers out here.
Oh my gosh I cannot tell you how happy I am to have landed here. I am pregnant with my first child and already very into a minimalist lifestyle so this approach to parenting is exactly what I’m looking for. Thank you for this thoughtful video! I’ve subscribed and look forward to enjoying your content! 💜
Thank you so much! I’m so happy it’s helpful and resonating. There’s much to come! I felt like I could’ve expanded on each of these subjects for hours 😂 Had to hold myself back.
I am only on minute 13 but wow… I need to leave a comment already… 🥹 This video is so good! ❤️ Thank you. You did an amazing job 🙏 I used to visit Simone Davies ´s montessori playgroup in Amsterdam with my girl when she was a toddler. I always left the place full of motivation, energy, calmness, sense of peace ☀️ I feel the same from watchimg your video today. Thank you
Thank you so much! That’s a HIGH compliment. And what an amazing opportunity to learn from Simone!
This. This is what I needed today❤️ thank you for this video!! I’ve been struggling with slow parenting and feeling alone in it. This was worth waiting for. My heart feels lighter ❤️
You got this! I’m so happy it was helpful!
Bless you and thankyou from the Nana who is helping raise her grandbaby. That last look at the end of the video when you wrapped the blanket round you and you turned round was like, yes its possible. Love and hugs dear friend xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Oh that’s wonderful! I definitely had you in mind too, and other grandparents who are helping raise their grand babies. 🥰
Just such a beautiful video. Thank you so much for your thoughtfulness and sharing your heart. My husband and I just started reading Simplicity Parenting together, and I will be watching this video with him, too!
Wonderful! I love that you're both working at it together. That's such a blessing!
I so appreciate this video and the message throughout it. It’s evident you took the time to be intentional about this topic and your thoughtful approach was refreshing. Thank you! Can’t wait to continue to see the content you share with us.
Thank you so much! I'm so glad it's resonating. It helps me see that there is, in fact, a true need to expand and dive more deeply into this subject.
Thank you for these words and this road map... I needed to hear all of this today.
Thank you so much for this video! I have already simplified my life a lot. But as a mom of a highly sensitive child, things can get very challenging at times. And so far, I have found very little information about slow motherhood. God bless!🤍
You are so welcome! I can't wait to dive more deeply into this subject in future videos. :) Let me know if there are any specific topics or areas of slow motherhood you'd like to learn more about.
What a beautiful video! I love how "real" you are! I will definitely need to watch this again! Xx
Thank you! 🥰
Loved all the tips, but yes, they really all need an in depth video. Looking forward to those videos!
Thank you! I'm looking forward to making them :)
This video is beautiful and powerful. I found myself taking notes, I love that it is realistic and not just the picture perfect. As a mom of 2 young children I appreciate and love what you have to say here, thank you!
You’re welcome! I strongly believe this approach to parenting can be practical and doesn’t have to be picture perfect.
Such a wonderful video! Means a lot you wanted to get the video right! I hope you and your family are doing well🤍
Thank you! Hope you’re doing well too!
This video is food for the soul. You're doing amazing work. Thank you for sharing❤
Thank you! 🥰
Amen🙏 sending much love from Norway ❤
Thank you for this refreshing perspective. Slow living is something I crave but I have a difficult time finding that pace with my family of five. There always seems to be pressure to take advantage of every social , extra curricular , and educational opportunity for my children. As a new homeschooling mom, I am finding that I NEED to say no to so much more than I say yes to. Our schedule gets so overwhelming otherwise… and then my peace and calm goes out the window!
I resonate with your views and truly appreciate the time and care you took to make this video. It is encouragement that I needed. It has shown me that this way of life is in fact realistic and completely attainable.
Thank you for sharing! I love to hear that the content is resonating. A good rule of thumb when slowing down is to experiment. Try cutting back in one place and see how it affects you and the family. Make adjustments as you learn more. I also run a lot of ideas past my husband. He has a strong sense of how much we can take on while still preserving peace.
Our Sabbath is from Friday at sundown to Saturday at sundown.
I love this video! You did and amazing job! I needed to hear this today! 💖
Thank you so much!! I'm so glad it was helpful. We all need a little encouragement in this lifestyle. It's not the easiest path!
Amazing, thank you.
You're welcome! Thank you for watching!
What a beautiful, thoughtful, information rich video - thank you 🙏
You’re welcome! And thank you! ☺️
This is such a wonderful and encouraging video. I would love to know more about your personal screen time / use and any boundaries you might have around this. Thank you for your beautiful work.
Thank you! I’d love to share on that subject. 🥰
I have been on an active journey figuring out how to parent my children. A lot of what you mentioned sounded quite a bit like waldorf. Which is the parenting style I have been leaning towards. You gave me several tangible ideas of what I can do to start of. Thank you for that!
You’re welcome! I’ve never actually studied Waldorf, but my sister works in a Waldorf school and we consult each other a lot in our parenting. So I’m not too surprised to hear you say that!
lol and I just remembered that Kim John Payne worked in Waldorf schools. He was another big influence of mine!
❤.. I love this.. ❤️..
This was great info!
Thank you!
thank you for sharing. your time editing was felt as the art of your craft came thru. new subscriber here.
Thank you so much! :)
You have such a soothing and calm voice! I wish I could do voiceovers for my silent vlogs but I cringe so hard every time I try to record and listen to my own recorded voice..
Thank you! I love silent vlogs though. They’re so calming and it’s a pleasure to just hear the music and the background sounds.
@@papertownhome That is true, yes 🤍
Hi Erika,
I’m grateful your video came up as a recommendation. I too observe and think about what are current culture is like, especially the sub culture of stay at home moms. And I find myself riding these waves as well and it brings no joy. I’ve been reminded of the story when Jesus visits Mary and Martha, and we tend to follow in the ways of Martha by busyness, rather than cultivating relationships with those near us and with Christ.
I love that perspective! I hadn't even thought of their story, but it's a perfect analogy!
Best video ever ❤
Thank you!!
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❤ I really enjoyed and got so much inspiration from this video.. I long for a deeper connected life with my children and husband and nature and experiences as opposed to possessions.. I signed up to learn more about the meetings.. and I also noticed you're near paper city... were actually heading there tomorrow for my birthday! And then I think I'll pop over at the bookstore to look for the books you've mentioned.. unfortunately my library has long waits for all of them. Thanks for dedicating so much to making this video.
Thanks Brittany! And thank you for signing up for the focus group. I'm looking forward to talking with you. So funny that we're near each other! Do we live in the same city or are you visiting for the occasion?
I actually live in Portsmouth.. I just love that area.. and so my husband and kids are taking me there. 😊
@@mindvstongue That's funny that we're so close! If we weren't traveling right now we'd probably end up running into you there, haha. I hope you have a great time! Sounds like a perfect day :)
@@papertownhome I know! I thought the same thing.. enjoy your travels! Maybe we could meet up sometime.. I have a 2 year old theo as well.. lol
@@mindvstongue haha 😂 that’s so funny! I would love that!
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LOVE THIS! Also would love to see a video sharing more about your experience using a dumb phone! :)
Thank you! And I’ll definitely be sharing on that.
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I am in a huge conflict 😢 . Keep staying at home with my 2 and 4 yr old or go back to work full-time 🤔... My husband works outside the home, but with costs going up its getting really hard financially.
I completely understand! I might find myself in a similar situation some day. Just know that being a working mom doesn’t exclude you from slow motherhood. I started this whole journey as a full time working mom and only switched to SAHM a year ago. Depending on your circumstances there will be different trade offs and you may have to say no to some interests that demand too much time in favor of leaving time to rest. I strongly believe the approaches I talked about are applicable for any circumstances, with small adaptations for each individual and family. 😊
I would encourage you to stay home until your children are at least school age. Daycare is also expensive...
Would you mind sharing the cinnamon roll recipe? Those looked amazing!
Sure! Here’s the link: sallysbakingaddiction.com/easy-cinnamon-rolls-from-scratch/
This was so interesting and very helpful, thank you. I would like to cut back my children's screen time, but I hesitate because I need the quiet. I am an introvert and although I love being with my children and talking with them, they don't stop talking! Ha! So I use screen time so that I can get some quiet time to think without someone needing or wanting my attention. Do you struggle with this? I find it so exhausting to go through a whole day having someone talking to me. - Jerusha
I could have written this post myself. I have the same exact thing going on here.
I completely understand! That was my hesitation for so, so long. I really thought that I wouldn't be able to handle a full day without a dedicated break from my child needing my attention. What happened for me is that I noticed Peyton's behavior was much more difficult in the afternoon. I connected it to her craving connection with me and struggling with transitioning away from screen time after her brother woke up. At which point my attention was on Theo who was waking up and needing snuggles from me. Since I know that connection is a family value, I decided to make a shift. What I did was allow Peyton to watch for the period of time that I put Theo down to sleep and then we turn it off. Initially I followed that up by inviting her to pick a game we could play together. We did that for 5-10 minutes and then transitioned to do an activity that was less child-centered and more focused on bringing her into my world. Such as baking or prepping food for dinner. Other times she joins me in a chore around the house. Usually this focused connection time is no more than 30 minutes in length before she shifts to playing independently. When she shifts, I try to make sure I'm near her, but doing my own thing. For instance, if she starts playing in the kitchen I will stay in there and cook or clean. If she moves into the living room to play, I'll follow and sit down and read next to her. Basically, I'm making sure that I model "doing my own thing" while she does her own thing. This ensures she's getting the modeling from me and the chance to practice. It also ensures we're connected by being near each other. No day is the same and there are definitely days where she requires more attention from me. Overall I'd say it took us a couple weeks to really get into a good routine with this.
All of this said, every mom is unique and every child is unique. You might need total silence more than I do. Your child's behavior might not be impacted by screen time in the same way that my child is. Not every child is as susceptible to the negative effects of screen time. I also think we have to keep in mind that many, many parents in our culture are parenting alone for much of the day without consistent breaks or support from extended family, neighbors, etc. This is asking A LOT of ourselves. For instance, a friend of mine parents three boys six days a week (sometimes even overnight) completely by herself. Her husband travels for work and her extended family isn't nearby. Personally, I don't think asking her to parent without screen breaks is very reasonable. Instead, I'd be inclined to encourage a parent in that situation to be thoughtful about the length of time watching in one stretch. For instance, rather than one two hour stretch in the middle of the day, maybe two or three screen breaks throughout the day that add up to two hours total. Also, being thoughtful about the specific type of shows being watched. Choosing things that are slower paced, not too much camera movement, less words, etc.
Ultimately, I'd say the most helpful thing when wanting to make a change is to honestly evaluate oneself, one's child and one's situation. And then try out solutions that are most likely to work within the context of your home and family life.
If you're interested in sharing more about the specific challenges you've faced with this, consider signing up for the research conversations I'm having with moms who are interested in simple and slow living. I'm developing a program to support moms in transitioning to this lifestyle and I want to learn from folks about the challenges they face and the hopes they have, so that I can create the best program possible. Knowing more about your situation could also help me to better answer your question. If you're interested, here's the link to sign up: bit.ly/PTH-focus
@@papertownhome Thank you so much for replying. Your thoughts here are great and have given me some ideas to try that I think will work. Thanks so much! - Jerusha
I am also an introvert, and this summer my husband and I decided to instill "Lo Screen Summer", not just for our kids but for ourselves as well. I had hemmed and hawed for SO LONG, knowing less screen time would benefit our children (and ourselves!) but being unreasonably afraid.
I can report that two weeks into our experiment, I'm actually blown away by the change in our children. We are still doing some screens, but it is very intentional, and many days the children see no screens at all.They didn't have HUGE amounts of screen time before, but by cutting back to VERY LITTLE, they are more creative, play better together, FUNNIER and...they just have more light behind their eyes.
And most of all I have to ask myself "what was I so afraid of?" Through this experience I realize, so often we have these unreasonable fears that hold us back, and if we just try the thing, we can iterate for progress. But if we just keep waiting and being fearful, we just stay...stuck.
I realize that's ambiguous, but I just wanted to encourage you, from a fellow introvert! It can be done!
@@papertownhomeThank you! I so appreciate you mentioned all the details about how exactly you are managing your and your childs needs. Everywhere we see and read just plain phrases about parenting and slow living, but I couldnt imagine how I could manage that in practical way. Thank you! More of these please :)
I would love to know where I might be able to get the "step-up" wooden chairs pictured at 16:36!
Of course! We love them. They're adjustable and grow with the child. Here's the link: amzn.to/4cGFwVX
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Please could you share the link to Laura Ingel's series. Thank you
Of course! Here's the link to the treasury book I bought, which has six stories: amzn.to/45msvhL. You can also purchase the stories as individual picture books through Amazon :)
Can you do slow living if you choose not to homeschool?
I think you can. Slow living and slow parenting are about looking to traditional wisdom for solutions to modern problems. For some this will involve homeschooling their children, but for many it’s not going to be a reasonable option. I still don’t know if it’ll be an option for my family. I think if we look at traditional family and educational structures we’ll find a lot of homeschooling, but we’ll also find multigenerational homes and extended networks of people supporting parents as they raise and educate their kids. If you translate that to our modern culture you may find that such a network of support will be found in a school. For instance, my sister doesn’t homeschool her son but she spent years volunteering at his school and growing her relationships with the staff and other parents. It produced an essential network for her family. I hope this helps! Let me know if you have more questions.
Helps tremendously! Thank you for your thoughtful response ❤