OUR INTRUSIVE THOUGHTS - RELAX
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Colleen saying she sounds crazy this whole podcast but I couldn’t relate more to everything they’re both saying the whole video!! 😂😅 I admire how open and honest they are about intrusive thoughts because it’s not talked about enough!! ❤️
Same. Every time Colleen says, "does that make sense?" I'm always like, "Yes, Yes it totally makes sense"
I'm always talking back to both of them, as if they were right here, and could hear me.
Colleen girl you can leave the kids with the babysitter for an hour or two to do something like get your phone fixed they’ll be okay 😭
She does it every few weeks for work 😏
I guess it could be different when you’re away for long periods of time. She might wants to spend every second she can with them
Idk I understand the way she thinks even tho the logic she explained isn’t exactly it I am the same way. If it’s not a priority then why make time for
It. But if it was important or a priority I’m sure she would make
Time For it . I think for Eric having a broken phone would be a priory same with my husband but I’d Cary around two phones for months also lol cuz I don’t care enough
@@sierrachantell they stay with erick not the nanny
Lol the way Eric looks at u when he thinks ur full of it kills me everytime because it is the same look Flynn gives. Flynn definitely looks just like his daddy. But has the heart of u both. I love it
All of the kids are clones of Eric. No one could EVER look at them and have any doubt who they belong to 💕
@Diana King i feel like Flynn and Wesley look more like Colleen and Maisy looks like Erik
@@HassanRaashid HAHA that is the craziest thing I’ve just read! Flynn and Wesley especially are CARBON COPIES of Erik’s face🤣 I kinda think Maisy looks a bit like Colleen
@@claranjie they were just pointing out their opinion lol okay
You're SO right!
Colleen and Erik, you guys talking about how you need sound to fall asleep is so funny because I fall asleep rewatching this podcast and Colleen’s vlogs! I’ve seen every episode I swear like 8+ times bc of it! You guys and Jenna and juliens podcast are all my brain will let me fall asleep too because I need sound and you’re my comfort people, love you guys!!
Me too. I re-listen to them to fall asleep too
Sameeee me rn 😅🥰🥰🥰
Omggg yesss😭 same
Same! Only 2 channels I will listen to to fall asleep🥰
Omgg I thought I was the only one
Erik is dad sneezing. It’s common knowledge that dads MUST sneeze obnoxiously loud.
True my dad does the same thing 🤣
Colleen, as a nanny I've dealt with a few working women who struggle with guilt for working and having a life outside of their children. It's totally normal and understandable, but I think it's important for you to also prioritize yourself, your desires and your goals while still having children, especially since you have found a nanny you love! I know the phone issue doesn't seem like a big deal, but you don't want small things to turn into more small things, which turn into bigger issues. Keep taking care of you so you can be the best mom for those adorable children. "You time" matters as well!
Agreed! As someone with a helicopter mom who was always around at home and never did anything for her because she was always in my space I definitely am working through a horrible attachment issue that I hate. Not to mention now that my sister and I are adults and I don’t live at home she’s said she doesn’t even know who she is now
@Taylor my daughter is engaged to a man with a mom just like that & he now has nothing to do with his mom because she was so controlling & intrusive in their relationship and every aspect of his life. And sadly he now has no relationship with his almost 20 year old sister, because they turned her against him & talked her into dropping out of college & moving back home & getting a job at the dad's office. They still control who she dates & where she's allowed to go. It's so sad. Children need their independence and a mother, not a martyr.
YOU GUYS SHOULD ABSOLUTELY GO TO THE KIDS CHOICE AWARDS. Have a field day
You can vote for Colleen, I just did!!!
Girl y’all have 3 kids in 2023- no more resisting learning, you gotta figure this stuff out!! 😭😂 Self care has to come first at SOME POINT. You aren’t stupid or dumb in the least, you’re even frustratingly smart, but you’re def so so stubborn 😂
Sooo stubborn 😂
Eric threatening to call the police because Colleen's farts are criminally offensive 🤣🤣 i was dying at the end!
The worst is when the power goes off in the middle of the night and the pure silence wakes you up!
the conversation about silence and reading is so intriguing to me because for me I often don't notice how long I go in silence because my internal monologue (my own voice) is literally just babbling away (sometimes about intrusive thoughts!)
30:30 , Eriks reaction is truly my every day life
I'm the same!
Colleen, hearing you talk about how your brain sounds was so comforting as someone with terrible add and especially with my ocd. So very comforting to hear someone I love and look up to talk about something I struggle with and have felt alone/different because of. Made my day
Okay but just because you’ve given birth, doesn’t mean you’re magically exempt from doing household chores like taking the rubbish out to the bin from the absurd amount of packages that you order, that’s a bit of a stretch.
The intrusive thoughts discussion in this reminds me soooo much of my harm OCD. My personal OCD thoughts include both the knife things and visualizing really awful things. I have ADHD and OCD, and I also have trichotillomania and other BFRB behaviors. These things are commonly comorbid and it can be really awful and disabling. I also hate silence, it makes my brain feel unbearably loud. Anyway, I really appreciate both of you sharing your experiences, it helps me to not feel so alone
Even though my kids are grown, I understand not wanting to leave the kids and take that time to get your phone figured out. However, the stress and time devoted to being annoyed with the phone IS taking time away from the kids. Kids can also pick up on the stress you’re feeling. You will feel so much better after it’s taken care of. Alternatively, make an appointment at the phone place, find 2 small places to take the kids that are near the phone place. Have your parents or nanny with you. Your parents/nanny take the kids to place number one while you go to the phone place. When you are done, you’ll be in the same area as them and take them to a short activity, or to lunch, ice cream, etc…I’m thinking that they will be able to quickly solve your issue and then it will be over with. I love you, Colleen & Erik! Such a great podcast ❤️
erik would 100% watch the kids by himself for two hours while colleen goes to the apple store!! that convo was ridiculous but i still love you both
Colleen and Eric are so funny when they disagree. But man when they share the same opinions, there is so much loving energy that radiates out of them towards each other for just little stuff. It’s the cutest 😢
Lol I will never get over how Colleen can be so engaged in the convo then the moment Erik begins to talk or take over she immediately begins to yawn lol
Yawning is your brain's way of helping you focus, by giving you more oxygen. It doesn't mean boredom.
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts that can pop into our heads without warning, at any time. They're often repetitive - with the same kind of thought cropping up again and again - and they can be disturbing or even distressing.
You can be a good mom and still shower every day. Making yourself a martyr isn’t healthy for you, your children or those you influence.
Yes! 👏🏻 I’m a mom of 3, and I never missed a day without taking a shower.
@@sarahmccloy5536 That’s good! It took me a while to find my rhythm and not sacrifice myself in the journey of motherhood. I’m a mom of 7 and my children see my daily example (whether good or bad) of taking care of myself and making sure I’m healthy mentally and physically. There is time to take care of yourself and your children. Wake up before them, “close out” your kitchen before bed, put the phone down. Too much of our time can be spent on social media apps.
Colleen I'm a 42 year old momma of 3 young adults and I am so with you on technology and just prefer keeping it old school. I try so hard but get no where and because I'm now a single mom after 25 years being married to their father I work too many hours to even take the time. It's easier said then done for sure. Lots of love from this Northern Michigan Momma ❤️❤️
Martyr. Your not fixing the phone because you need to do a craft, and be with your kids..you can’t stand the process and wouldn’t do it even if you had no kids. I. Can’t. Stand. When people gaslight and make excuses. Own it. It’s flat out something you detest doing and you are avoiding. I’m pretty sure you have even mentioned that you detest the Apple Store/fixing dealing with phones.. it’s not that you don’t have time because you are such a saint and would rather craft with your kids than handle your adult responsibilities.
Just got home from a stressful day of work and college assignments. Glad I get to relax with both of ya'll as I wind down and prepare for bed
I totally feel you Colleen I am not technical savvy at all. And I could care less to know how but it's a must and I'm tired of that I just wish it was easy so everybody else needs to relax especially technology
I love that this it 'relax' yet the first 10 minutes I was so anxious from the disagreement 😂
i have literally listened to this specific episode AT LEAST 3 times today because i can’t handle silence. i have probably re-watched every RELAX episode at least twice just as background noise
Having anxiety is exhausting. I have 700 hundred thoughts a second 🥴🥴
i constantly replay your old podcasts at night because i can't fall asleep when it's dead silent
Me too
I do the same thing, my poor husband has to get up early and likes to sleep in silence so I turn the phone as low as I can,but he has heard all the podcasts too!!
I fall asleep to your podcast, you are my comfort people. You make me feel at home and relaxed. If I’m ill, I’ll put on one of your podcasts and it will instantly make me feel better. xx
I’m with Erik! Just go get your phone synced up! You’re using time and your kids as an excuse not to go fix the problem lol. My husband is also horrible with technology and very old school with everything. It drives me crazy! Just get with the times!
Lol it’s not that easy… I’m 25 and everything still confuses me and I’ve tried learning 😅 it could be a lot easier but it just isn’t
her priorities are her babies not her phone, no shame in her spending an extra few hours with her family rather than at the apple store
@@raimienunn6891 or could get her family out of the house and bring them with her
I thought it was funny when Colleen said kids don’t listen to podcasts, me being a 14 yr old kid who listens to this podcast every week. 😂
‘I’ve set aside time to think and it’s not fun.’
I felt that
Love you so much all the way from Perth Western Australia, btw please tour here i’m begging!!
I have been watching you for a whole decade and always watch your vlogs, you feel like a true friend and mean so much to me. Thank you for being yourself and being open about mental health.
I love you and your family and wish you all the best in life 💗🇦🇺
Def needed to watch your podcasts today. I’m struggling financially and trying to keep it together for my 4 kids. Have been having heart palpitations due to stress and anxiety I needed this podcast and to smile. I love yall’
Thank you Colleen for mentioning that some parents would be frustrated with their kid messing with the house. If I had turned off the water and then admitted to it in the same way Flynn had it would have been a spanking for me so it's great that Erik built up his son instead of making him feel bad.
I cannot stand silence either! I always have to have music on or be listening to something to avoid my mind going all over the place, as well as to avoid intrusive thoughts… especially when it comes to falling asleep at night. Thank you Colleen and Erik for this podcast episode and making me feel less alone about some of my weird mental quirks. 💞
The problem with silence is you can hear your own thoughts SO loud. That’s why I hate silence. I over think everything as it is, so when it’s silent I can hear everything 😭
I love how Colleen is like back in my day when Erik understand it and is older
You should go and take Flynn to the Kids Choice Awards!
I started laughing when Eric said “maybe you have this on right now because you can’t have it quiet”. Because I’m sitting here studying and using this as my extra noise 😂😂
It is a bit frustrating when Colleen continuously talks louder just to talk over Erik
It’s an adhd thing, she probably doesn’t even know she does it. I do it too
You can buy another phone instead of fixing the old one because you can afford it. Not everyone has a thousand dollars to get a new phone instead of fixing old one for much much less 😊 guess it just boils down to priorities.
Clapping 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏 Erik! Love you both!!!!
c'mon Colleen - you dont have to bring child birth or pregnancy in everything, we women do rock for sure but i feel we as woman conquer the world while men does too - its us (hubby & wifey together to win the world, not by competing against each other).. Eric actually does a LOT MORE than any other man trust me!!! - plus it was suppose to be an entertaining conversation till you started a 'pissing competition' as eric said hehe.. Its never about winning who does more tasks. We hear all the time how much you do, how less you sleep etc but sometimes its good to hear Eric's side too, let him shine too hun without shooting it down always to compare your tasks :) -- I LOVE YOU BOTH, you guys are amazing parents and humanbeings
This 🙌🏼
You guys really are incredible parents! I cried when Erik told the story about the water and again when Colleen talked about it in this episode. Originally hearing the story I had the trauma response of being scared for Flynn because of my own experiences, but Erik responded so much better than I could have hoped. I feel like this story truly healed something in me. Thank you guys for sharing these parts of your lives and experiences, it means the world to a lot of people❤️
My favorite podcast: Erik & Colleen debate random things and bicker back-and-forth. It's their love language and is so cute to watch💗
I was completely shocked to learn, that not everybody hears their own voice while thinking and reading😱. I kind of argue with my brain-voice or replay conversations with people all the time. I thought it was the same for everyone. I‘m kind of blown away right now…
I can't be the only one... Has anyone else notice that so many of the comments in the comment section of all of her vlogs are almost identical? Almost like they are automatically generated by a bot or something of that nature?!? They all say basically the same thing just in a different order 🤫🧐
Sounds machine hack!!! 🌸 ( for Apple users)
If you use an Apple device you can go to your settings, go to ‘accessibility’, scroll down to ‘Audio/Visual’ and turn background sounds on and you can choose from 6 different noises!
I saw this on IG the other day and it’s a game changer!!!
P.S. love you Coleen + Eric!!
Also to turn it off easily you just swipe down and a little ear button will pop up and you can control it from there!
You’ve just changed my entire life
"Maybe you don't like silence and that's why you're listening to this." Literally me giving my dog a bath and needing something to listen to 🤣
Great episode and YES! So refreshing that a child was celebrated instead of shamed!!! Your parenting gives me a ray of hope for the world.
Also as someone who flexes having had worked in restaurants I can’t believe you wanted Erik to go take a menu from the server station. That’s so impatient and obnoxious.
Listening to your podcast keeps my intrusive thoughts at bay 💗
You sillies! POS=Point Of Sale, it's the cash register. I love you guys! I never miss.
If you use a utensil it’s a salad, if you can pick it up and eat it with your hands it’s a sandwich. Taco is so obviously a SANDWICH
Jojo and Colleen are both nominated for kids choice award(not same category) I know who I'm voting for!!
I am absolutely shocked that Erik thinks a Cesar SALAD is a sandwich, while also not at all being surprised because it is the most Erik thing.
With meditation there are many many many methods. The most common is to have one point of focus. A tree. Your breathing. A sound. At some point in the meditation something called dhyana happens. This is when your efforts of concentrating on that thing drop entirely. Meditation becomes effortless and you are one with universal consciousness. It’s a beautiful feeling.
I'm with Colleen on the phone/car situation. I'm in my 30's, you'd think I'd be up with technology. I think my general distain for it keeps me from learning. I want simpler times lol
Edit- AKA, i don't care enough and I'll just trudge through
As a 36 year old mom of 2. I'm 400% behind Colleen on the phone thing. Is rather wait and hold 2 phones then go to the store for 4hours. No contest
You can make an appointment so you’ll be seen as soon as you arrive (at your designated time). Technology is more advanced now which she also doesn’t know lol.
I’M WITH YOU @heatherr2141
Colleen has a personal assistant, a nanny and a grandmother present most days though, so it's not quite comparable to us "normal" people.
In defense of Colleen, with kids and a very demanding job, I have in the past purchased a new phone and waited 3 months to open the box, set the phone up, and move the SIM. I just don't prioritize my phone over the demands of my job and needs of my kiddos. Plus, navigating the phone change makes me super anxious and requires focus to complete without freaking out.
Colleen I love you so much and Eric!! I wish this could go on for hours!❤
It’s Erik 🥺👉👈
colleen, you cannot stop your life for your kids. is 2 hours top to be at the apple store. just fix your phone when the nanny is at home.
I rewatch/listen to the podcast over and over for a week til a new episode comes out and I never get sick of it🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
Honestly, I’m 17 and absolutely hate technology/electronics. It’s one of those things that I also have zero patience for. They can never do anything right, like, I spent however much money on this and it has one freaking job to do 😭 it frustrates me so much!!! Cars, computers, Alexa, and do not even get me started on the roomba vacuum.
I agree that technology is advancing and with that, comes some more complexity. It can be annoying to learn the new stuff, but I think it’s important to also address how much more accessible it can be for people with certain disabilities!! :)
11:45 it’s definitely a laziness issue
And my god COLLEEN. Birthing children doesn’t excuse you from doing anything else around the house ever 💀
Yeah that comment from her alone sent women back hundreds of years lol
I don’t think it’s laziness. I think she has major mom guilt. She wants to spend as much time with her kids and going to a store that she doesn’t want to take her kids to is not worth it in her mind. Because, again, she wants to spend as much time with her kids as possible. Her priorities are kids then work. So I kinda get where she’s coming from but she needs to suck it up when it’s something you have to do yourself. Just get it done and over with.
Not laziness, just different priorities. And more importantly, she literally did not say birthing children excuses her from doing anything. She literally said, immediately after that, that they both have things they do individually that the other person doesn't because they are a team. And she is clearly a very hard working person, wife, and mom. She brought up birthing their children as an example of one type of work she has done for their family because Eric asked if she had ever broken down their recycling. Birthing children is definitely way more work than just the one day of giving birth as it changes your life and body during pregnancy and postpartum, is a huge commitment, and they both talk a lot about their teamwork as parents.
this room is so nicely decorated! I love it’n
0:00-8:00 (the alexa part) all the sophia’s be like 👁️👄👁️
Colleen, I agree. I hate technology. I don’t need touch screens. And cd’s are tried and true. Lol. 💚💚💚
I 100% agree about technology. AirPods don't work for me either and new cars drive me nuts. 😂 I find the screens a lot more distracting and dangerous than the old dials. It's also nice to hear someone else deals with the same kind of intrusive thoughts and overactive brain as me. Thank you as always for sharing ❤
gonna go SANDWHICH on TACO .cuz how you fold and eat it hard shell or soft shell is literally a wrap with lettuce tomato cheese like a sandwhich
I just voted for you for the kids choice awards... you are nominated in the best female creator category!!!!! you got this!!!!!!!
"I don't think your conscience" he says to Colleen who has been staring off into space for like an hour 😂 no. she's sleeping with her eyes open at this point. This episode is so funny. 😂😂
This was so humorous and refreshing! Colleen explaining her overlapping thoughts is me to a T i couldn’t stop laughing
Ask Kory to take your phone. He’s your assistant after all.
He is to busy cleaning and organizing for Colleen
This is so me! I have these thoughts all the time!
Ok but being in an MRI machine… that “silence” and being stuck with your thoughts for so long and not being able to move….now that’s torture
Coleen. Omg .
I know that you may not see this message at all. Honestly , girl, i am a vancouver girl. Your age .
100 percent understand. I have been working on cruise ships all my life and after pandemic, came back home to vancouver .
I saw your show, and also I bought my sister her boyfriend from Spain and her sister. So now you new fans from Spain.
Love you for making the show soooo relatable for anyone.
Just so you know. I was kind of worried. I was thinking. They won't get it. But you colleen were such a show. Funny , relatable hilarious. Everything.
Thanks girl. I don't think you will actually read this. But please if you or Kory read this. Let me know . Please it would honestly mean the world. You ha e no idea . Love ya.
Colleen, the tech thing is an ADHD thing. Just too much to figure out, too many steps. My mind goes blank at the instructions and even the quick rage. We like the older stuff because we know it. Doesn’t mean we shouldn’t learn new stuff, just helps to understand why.
i just wanna say hi and i love you both and watching your beautiful relationship on this podcast helped me leave my very unhealthy relationship ❤❤ love you!! been watching you for 10yrs!
Erik is such a good dad, oh my lord. I swear, if my nephew did this my brother would have screamed at him for even touching it. It's so awesome hearing about such a great story between a parent and a kid.
Not seeing pictures in your head is called Aphantasia, I have this. It always confused me when people said they could visualize things in their mind.
omg i cant stand some of these comments. like they are married and comfortable together, just cause they aren’t all lovey dovey and in a honeymoon stage doesn’t mean they’re dismissing each others feelings. and most of the comments are focused at colleen and how she should change. like this comment section can be so toxic, love you colleen🫶🏻
agreed, why r they always on eric's side
It's fascinating how desperate Colleen is to prove how different, weird or abnormal she is from every other human being that there ever was or is on planet earth. Just the rarest of rare to have an inner monologue...🙄 And Erik's comments, reactions & facial expressions crack me up bc he lives with her & exposes the truth & reality. Not just how she portrays herself in vlogs as a single mom with no time after bedazzleing 10,000 individual gems onto entire outfits. 😂 💨
Shush 😂
Then why watch? Move on.
@@erinfrey1412 For the same reason people watched shows like Jerry Springer or mtv true life.
i relate so hard on the car thing. especially when you rent one. i don’t have time to learn your weird operating system car!! knobs were brilliant haha
Take Eric and the kinds to the store and just do it this way. You can have some ice cream or something whiles they are fixing the issue with your phone.
I have a problem with silence as well and I am also a massage therapist who also regularly gets massages, I usually try, if my client is regular to pick music or sounds they prefer! Partially because if they can’t relax with water sounds then why am I playing water sounds and also to find something loud enough to cover up involuntarily sounds. Because try as you might, if you’re massaging someone you’re likely to get winded or accidentally sighing or groaning from exertion! I also have air moving because if I’m hot and sweAting and a client is under a blanket with the heating pad on they probably will get warm too. I can definitely attest to as well as the actual massage can be, if you can’t clear your mind or at least be completely distracted in a good way by the atmosphere of the room then that lowers the quality of the experience!
y’all gotta stop with the bickering, absolutely no one wants to sit down, drive etc while hearing a couple having constant domestic fights…how about y’all figure these petty issues out in private and not on a podcast in which is meant to entertain the audience and not just make us feel uncomfortable
lmao then just don’t watch
Girl bye ✌🏻
This is my favorite podcast and I love listening every week lol well I also watch haha
The more I learn about you, Colleen, the more I see we have in common. I get SO angry and frustrated at the littlest things…usually technology!
I can Relax, there will be no stupid little videos to watch until bedtime, Colleen and Erik have a Podcast uploaded.
This first convo about Alexa reminds me of having to explain technology to my parents lmao oh man 😂 and I’m not much younger than Colleen
Erik dint call us nobodies! We are the most creative smartest people I know watching you guys is wonderful.
I LOVE the sound of silence lol it’s so relaxing. Hate background noise it annoys me haha.
Colleen you describing your intrusive thoughts are exactly how mine are too!
Colleen I feel like the best 'time' is when you're away from the kids inbetween of your work schedule and hotel destination. It sounds to me even when you're touring you don't have time to see the city but you have time to barely sleep I guess that's the time to use it for tech support for your devices... Maybe that would help with your glitching or technical issues when on air...
The 2 different phones 😂😂😂 I love you guys ❤
I want to hear Colleen & Erik and Rachel & Abbie talk on one of their podcasts about internal dialogue (Rachel talked about this on her podcast this week too!!)
I'll say "sofia" proceeds to say Alexa again 3 more times because she is so heated 😂 I'm with you on the technology colleen but I try. Love you both!