Am I a Bad Wife If I Find Someone Else Attractive?
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- Am I a Bad Wife If I Find Someone Else Attractive?
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It’s completely normal to find other people attractive. But starting off with “I’m trying to stay faithful” indicates bad intentions
Yeah. Plus her laughing and sounding REALLY happy every time she talks about this guy
Hope her man hears this and does a pre-emptive strike with divorce papers.
Who is actually faithful? The woman incapable of cheating? Or the woman who knows better than to put herself into a situation where cheating is an option?
Bad intentions?? This gal full on says she wants to blow her life up because she's too busy lol
Facts
The grass is always greener when you water your lawn
I like that.👍
Don’t cut into it to deep, cause it will turn and stay yellow for a while 😉🫰
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But she wants wild flowers...
TikTok has hundreds of videos of women crying into their cameras after destroying their marriages because of a hot fling.
Dr. Delony is the embodiment of “we listen & we don’t judge” he’s so blunt but w so much compassion & grace.
Except when the caller is a man then all hell breaks loose.
But we should judge. Evil is plain wrong. Cheating is evil.
He laughs at everyone that calls
@@RHanna-di9nq Too bad the comment section can't be the same. I never knew so many people out there were so perfect until I found this comment section. It's truly amazing.
@@BirdDogey1 what happened to "Thy shall not judge?" Oh, that's right, y'all pick and choose which rules work and don't work for you.
“My husband is great, and this guy seems great.” She’s gonna regret this if she loses her husband. A guy who is willing to sleep with another man’s wife is not “great”, no matter what he SEEMS to be.
She's rationalizing him being great, she's just physically attracted to him and wants to scratch that itch. If she goes through with it he won't want anything to do with her as she cheated on her husband. She will lose everything and she will find out single life as an older women is where she will end up. Her husband might want to think about this relationship. Men or women don't want to be with a cheater in a monogamous relationship.
I have a coworker who sleeps with married women and then expose them to their husbands. He always calls them idiots for assuming that he'd want them for anything more than just sx, knowing that they cheat on their husbands.
The other guy probably doesn't want her, he definitely doesn't want to keep her.
She’s literally living in a fantasy world
@@standground8284is it that one black dude on TikTok?
I feel bad for her husband
Yep married to a jezebel who does not live him
She's talking like her marriage is just like a job that she can easily shift to another one. Why marry when be this non serious.
Yeah she’s horrible. Hope he finds someone who actually cares about him
As a man who went through this - it’s an absolute blessing. I would feel bad for the new guy, he will find over time there isn’t any value in a partner like this.
I feel bad for her husband also, but I think this is fixable.
The grass is greener on the other side, but the grass is greener wherever we water it. It just looks greener on the other side.
She has already committed the crime she just wants to know how bad it is
@@charlesekpima8210 💯 %. She's definitely got ran through in her twenties and the husband was a high earning but average looking introvert that she settled for after she was bored of the c.o.c.k carousel. Feel sorry for the guy.
novelty is exciting but will get boring after a while
She’s begun the process of cheating and she doesn’t seem to care at all. I predict she will go through with the affair and she’s gone.
What crime? 😂
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This is why so many men aren't wanting to get married anymore. Her husband busts his butt and built his own business to provide a good life for his family and this lady decides to go cheat and blame it on him because he isn't giving her enough attention for a few months of the year. Then they go to court and she gets half of his stuff. Its insane. Women like this make us look so bad.
You pretty much nailed it. Women are incentivized to divorce by winning cash and prizes
Tbf so many women don’t want to get married either.
Used to be conversations between the boys about how hot a woman is and now it's about never getting married or even dating. Guys are going back to the hit it and quit it mentality. Much easier and still have loads of money
@@memecakes4436 Not statistically, Statistically men are by and large most resistant to marriage across the board. And the number of men who are resistant is growing at absurd rates
Women like you are the reason some of us men still believe in marriage.
Being single ain't so bad
The best decision!
The path of kings
😂😂😂
With a bunch of kids with already strained finances (or hubby wouldn’t have to work so hard)… uhm… maybe not as much as the fantasy seems.
Where is that cute guy at? I’m available 😂
My advice: Get the hotel key, get the champagne and the lingerie, and casually drop that key on your husband. If he doesn't act like he's excited by you anymore, *make* him excited by you. Take him by surprise, tease him, shock him. If you still don't get a reaction out of him, then you need a deeper discussion and couples counseling to figure out why he's shut himself off from the relationship.
That's a great idea! Unfortunately she should have done that before she told her husband about her crush. Because now the husband's going to assume that she's play-acting all the fantasies out with him, that she really wants to do with the other guy😬
@@deannad9105 that doesn't mean you shouldn't go forward this kind of surprise for him
and maybe she can ask him to surprise her also at some point so she can feel desired
Don’t cut a tree down in the winter just because it looks dead. Seasons change.
Exactly 💯
love that analogy
Excellent
Stupendously delivered !!!
THIS is amazing.
She doesn't seem to take this seriously at all
She sounds childish pinning a lot on some lust.
Her laughing was seriously making me 😡
She sounds giddy to me, like she's got a serious crush.
Laugh could be nervousness too.
That’s nervous energy. She took ownership immediately in this call.
She has already cheated with this guy, she now feels bad, and now she's calling to try and validate herself somehow when she knows she's wrong lol
I couldn't agree with you more.
Female 101
The way she said “I’m in that spot” when he told her she will eventually need to not be around him everyday
@watchinkc Men are statistically more likely to cheat so... it's men 101 doofus
She sounds bored. She needs to start volunteering somewhere or pick up a new hobby and a few girl friends. Having an affair is not a hobby that ends well..
When she said she would “Drop a hotel card.” I knew she’s cheated already and called in to get some validation. I just knew…
Yes, and once they cheat, often most will get a guilt trip on themselves and then they'll provoke an end to the marriage, and then lay blame to that provocation rather than blame themselves for having sex with someone else. It's a cover for what they did. And they know once they cheat, it's done usually.
Agreed because women typically do not initiate.
you assumed that with no proof
@@conscientunit1157IF YOU OLD ENOUGH AND KNOW HOW RELATIONSHIPS WORK YOU DONT NEED PROOF
@conscientunit1157 You are correct. There isnt any evidence of that. But for myself also, something was fishy about her. And her story.
I also wouldn't be surprised to find out she had already cheated.
We don’t see each other and my husband is such a hard worker, working long hours supporting our family, so to show my appreciation I’m going to go have a fling… wow. This lady needs to grow up.
Right ! This is totally how she said it too ! I didn’t hear a single bad thing , not he is addicted to blah blah blah and doesn’t show me time or any of that , she just said he works hard and he is great .. this girl is so dumb if she cheats. Blowing up her life over someone who will turn out to not be perfect ! No one is
@ Exactly! And the way she giggled and laughed over it all.
When did this caller say she was going to have a fling? Acknowledging temptation =\= intention to succumb to temptation. I would say speaking it out loud and getting the reality check to not fan the flames (in your own head) points to an effort to not succumb.
@@Kroh13 Of course she didn't say anything single bad thing about her husband. It's because she's taking accountability for herself. She knows the blame lies with her and not with her husband. This is points in her favor that she's actually trying to do the right thing
Observe, think/reason then speak/do.
Seems like she is not putting/failing to see value in her marriage before speaking.
Unfortunately have seen this before. Additionally seems like people accept the idea of over speaking every thought in their mind, instead of just stop those which are nonsense.
when someone says “I don’t know if I can trust myself” that’s a serious red flag. They are simultaneously showing a severe lack of self control AND trying to take some if not all of the blame/responsibility off of themself.
She has zero remorse. She wants an excuse to cheat without being the bad guy
Day ending in Y
maybe the guy is not even into her he may just be all over her because she is the boss
@@hoosier-daddy777 The husband is 100 percent a cliche nice guy with some nerdy hobbies and a reserved personality, that she settled for after being ran through all throughout her twenties. Now she's bored of him and what's a bad boy to sleep with on the side while the high salary earning husband continues to fund her lifestyle. Seen it so many times before it's laughable. It's a broken record at this point. Marrying a woman these days is literally one of the dumbest decisions a man can make in his life.
She's a cake eater.
I don't see what you see.
What I see: She is searching for reasons not to metaphorically "drop a grenade in her own lap", because it it tempting. I'm proud of this woman for calling in.
Recognizing physical attractiveness in someone of the opposite sex is a Hell of a lot different from developing infatuation for that individual. No comparison.
Yes, the title of this video doesn't tell the whole story of her intentions very well.
Bingo.
I see and acknowledge there are gorgeous people around me all the time, but I’ve been married 20 years and we’ve worked hard for the kick ass life we built together.
I wouldn’t trade that for all the T&A in the world.
She is blessed with a good life and family. Someone said yes to doing life with you. Focus on being grateful for what you have rather than what you don't.
Obviously not John's fault, but everything inside me says this woman is going to drop off a hotel key to this guy. She sounds way too excited to cheat. She actually sounds excited about it - and I don't think there's any talking her out of it... She's blaming her husband working long hours... She just wants a fling.
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Yep, her mind is already made up. What did she expect John to say? Surely she didn’t expect for him to say “Yeah sure go do it”. People are weird. She is going to feel like she is missing something until she plays with fire and gets burned.
HE TOLD HER TO DO IT THATS WHY
1st of all she's not blaming the husband
2nd she's a human being
3rd the call is an attempt to find an emotionally compelling reason not to cheat
4th you lack empathy
5th she has already emotionally cheated so it might to late
@@miguelbrito9910 all nonsense and excuses. Emotional support for what? Grow up! Empathy for what? Blowing up your family because someone is cute? Explain that to the kids.
If you ever find yourself about to destroy your life to fan some flame, just remember that your relationship with your spouse probably started out the same way. At one time, your heart quickened whenever he called and every touch sent a shiver up your spine. That is how virtually every marriage starts. It’s the launch sequence that gets your relationship off the ground. Eventually, if you allow it to happen, the fireworks mature into something better. Real love that has stood the test of time because it’s based on respect and commitment is very comfortable and sweet. If you dump your spouse to chase the flame and by some miracle it actually turns into a real relationship, just understand that the fireworks you’re feeling right now are on a countdown. That won’t continue, and by the time it dies down, you will have broken your husband’s heart, destroyed the lives of your children, and will probably end up alone anyway. The way this woman is cackling about setting fire to her life like a silly teenage girl doesn’t sound promising. Her poor husband is the victim here.
Bingo
All good in theory, but more than half of all marriages end in divorce so clearly it doesn’t work more than it does work.
100% ✅️
Couldn't have said it better myself 💯
Preach 🙏🔥💯
I've been married 31 years. I would divorce her in a second.
Exactly. Divorce would be far better than being alone while in a marriage, and found disgusting by one's "wife."
@donalgraeme a lot of men today have no pride, self respect or backbone.
Trouble is she would be doing it and you not even know
Me too
She sounds evil
This chick is going to ruin her relationship with her husband, kids, family, herself, etc for a one night stand
Don’t be surprised, this is MOST modern women.
@@danielyoung7458you’re hanging around the wrong women if you believe that’s most women.
Absolutely despicable
@@danielyoung7458I'm not part of "modern women"
@@danielyoung7458 And many old-fashioned and modern men.
She hung up and booked that room 😂
😂😂yep
Lmaooo true
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She getting her cheeks clapped as we speak
@@ColorfulHaze and the guy was probably talking to another woman on tinder about an hour after she betrayed her husband for a quick thrill and some playas nut all over her cheeks. Women ☕
Ya know. Being single aint so bad. I needed this.
lol not bad at all
Same thought I had lol
Being single is the best
Right😂
God I can’t imagine having to deal with this bs on the daily, what a mess.
Imagine her husband finds this video and recognizes her name, voice, and city😬
I hope he does.
I'm praying for it!
Absolutely!!
@@risingsunofjapan someone needs to save him
I hope someone connects the dots and helps this man.
Catching an attraction spark can happen to anyone.
BUT *don't fuel the fire, extinguish it*
Or you'll burn the whole house down.
💯
Honestly, thats some much BS. If you actually care and work for relationship, theres no opportunity to catch that spark lmao.
@@jakubpolitowski3740 agreed.. anytime I was with someone, it was unconditional love
I love this
@jakubpolitowski3740 such rare. Everyone's lost there honor morals and shame..
Very well done Dr John!
She’s sounds ultimately like a good woman. She sought support when she needed help. This is a challenging situation and real, and many people don’t actually understand and are very judgmental. We live in a world of sin and illusion, and if we can’t be there to understand and support each other through this all, we are definitely undeserving of what’s promised next
Oh she is going to cheat, she enjoyed this conversation WAY too much. Giggling & laughing the entire time, this is cute & funny to her. She loves thinking about this other guy & has completely immersed herself in the fantasy.
Yep she’s too far gone already.
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Yep, she already has "cheated" in her mind, she just hasn't had the nuts to have the new guy bury everything but his inside her yet. But she is going to continue to have it build up in her mind until she throws herself at the new guy and ends up ruining the "perfect" life she had over 10 mins of some strange d1ck. She won't realize how much this isn't worth it until after she physically cheats and that new guy fling is over and she wakes up 2 years later and the husband has moved on to a better woman who was looking for a good man, a good man she had but threw away. And she probably will spend the rest of her life looking for that again but will never have it. All the memories she would've had w husband and kids will never get to happen, and she'll never forgot the 8 mins with the new guy not because it lived up to the hype but because that experience cost her everything she didn't even realize she had
Validation seeker tendencies fr
Maybe she already cheated.. yea no way around it I bet.
If I heard this from my wife I would not be able to handle it ☠️
The laughing would really hurt me
Absolutely. She thinks this is a joke
If I found this out I’d divorce her. She’s a walking time bomb. If she hasn’t cheated yet she will eventually.
This will be the moment I will lost every interest in her, immediately.
Yeah because she doesn't think her husband deserves her loyalty and respect.
She cheated on husband for no reason but calls a radio station for validation for bad behavior, tell your husband before somebody show his this online ,modern woman no accountability but expect no conquenes. Her husband deserve a better wife
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I feel sorry for the husband. He works hard to provide for his wife and keeps himself in shape … all so that she can flirt with and fantasize about this other dude.
If the husband is insecure about his wife thinking another man might look better than him then maybe he’s the problem.
@@stevendavis5095 That wasn't the issue in this call, but thank you for that strawman.
@@jh26pt2 that’s exactly what you made this call to be about in your comment. Thus I replied to your comment. Insecurity in people especially men is gross no way around it and if a man can’t handle the fact that his wife gf or whatever thinks another man or woman is attractive it speaks to that man’s inability to respect himself and respect his significant other as a person. She’s hasn’t acted in anything it’s all in her mind. Why would anyone try and fight with a fantasy? That’s like tryna box with God. It’s simply a waste of time and energy. Focus on what you can do better. That’s it that’s all
@@stevendavis5095bum
@@stevendavis5095I honestly don't think people think before they type stuff. Look at your response 🤦♂️
Finding other people attractive is normal… saying things like “Trying to stay faithful” and “I’m trying to trust myself not to have affair…” is CRAZY. And she’s saying it while laughing! 🥴
I'm trying to give her the benefit of doubt and say she is laughing because she's nervous. But idk. It sounds like she's already been living in the fantasy for too long to see reality
I really appreciate people calling in and sharing very personal struggles, I hope this helps a lot of people. The most important thing is to ask for help, reach out to a wise trustworthy person to get some help when you see yourself in trouble. So many people are too ashamed for having problems that they don't get help and make things worse.
People would rather cheat than have these conversations and everyone knows it.
She’s emotionally cheating
She is going to cheat. She thinks it’s cute and funny to talk about it
@@SB0458 what is she just laughs when she's uncomfortable...
not her pouring salt in wound by saying "he's so cute" talking about another man. gross
Yup. She’s enjoying this. Instead of putting energy into her relationship.
Or when she mentioned him looking like a good kisser... Bro what? I thought you were calling in to save your marriage not gush about another man.
I think she’s just being honest so Dr. D. Knows how far this fantasy has already gone. I respect that.
I’m slow, but how do you guys get the emoji thing like that? 👍🏾
You are absolutely right @@gabrielamartiniuc6322
Her legs are in the air and she doesn’t even know it. I think she’s over her husband and is using this guy as an excuse to get out of it all. Sadly, a lustful desire for someone other than your husband is no laughing matter and should be addressed before an affair is introduced to her family. 😢
It's funny to her. She is who she is.
Hopefully, she'll at least ask for a divorce before she cheats (if she hasn't already).
This is wht happens when females are not pure when getting married
She doesn’t seem to care for her husband, her children or her business. She’s not a responsible adult and is selfish. She doesn’t take her marriage seriously enough and I think she will have the affair and she’ll disappear.
It’s funny, I listen, I get triggered…. And then I realize the bliss of being single and not having to waste my life with someone like this. True peace.
Because no one likes you. Get real.
Why the hell would you get triggered? Is this your wife?
@@firefly9838😂
The bliss of your gene pool dying off. Must be cool.
@ It is the exact move and logic of my ex wife.
She’s already lost the main battle… the battle ground in her heart.
That ground can be regained and I think is through this call.
It’s not her heart it’s her ego
@@cmnhl1329 if we act like she has already cheated physically and condemn her for that, she’ll never know the power of forgiveness or the value of catching herself before any deeper, less retractable harm is done. I think this call says the most about her character - that she’d rather stop herself from sinking to sin like this than risk living with it one more day. I pray she find the support and grace she needs to take courage into the next chapter of her life she will need.
@@brightpage1020 Amen. We pray Jesus will restore her heart for Him and her husband.
@ amen thank you 🙏 We are each of us born to sin - not many have this much courage to call ourselves out publicly for our transgressions so who am I to judge? I see her trying to do the right thing and struggling. And reaching for help and getting it. I see wisdom in her and therefore hope for her marriage.
I think some of these comments are a little harsh.
Laughing can be a coping mechanism. I suspect she is a little uncomfortable be open about this. I see a woman who is tired of the mundane and tempted by something exciting. It’s a tale as old as time. I think the advice for her was spot on, I would add to it that there is beauty in the mundane. She might fantasize about leading a different life, but there are people out there who dream to have hers.
My thoughts exactly!!!
The giggling and the fact that she knows if she lit up the “Hot Now” sign he would show up feels much more like a prelude to action than addressing how to move forward and manage these feelings. If I were the husband and heard this call, I’d likely be out because I don’t hear any concern or regrets, she seems to be enjoying this way too much.
I think she already did it.
fully agree! I felt sick for the husband, listening to her lack of empathy
Wise words for men "stay single and improve yourself"
Sounds like she's getting off talking about herself with John
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She’s already made her mind up, she’s too comfortable talking about wanting to do it and how “she’s so afraid “ of taking the next step bc she doesn’t “trust herself”.
This call was her proving (to herself? Or her husband? Idk) that she tried not to.. that she made an effort to get advice.. before doing what she’s going to do regardless.
She’s made the decision & she’s made peace with it.
Her giggling and entire demeanour screams excitement. She’s almost giddy talking about it.
She doesn’t sound torn or guilty at all..
This lady is absolutely going to cheat. 💯 😂
Like almost all of you. Nothing new. Men should never get married or be in a serious relationship with any of you.
She doesn't realize, usually the guy she cheats with doesn't want to have a life with her, he just wants to diddly-do, and then he's on to the next one! and she will feel discarded and betrayed.. or.. she'll find the next "cute" guy..
@@TrustintheUniverse1111 100%
Usually they seek married women bc of that, it’s a sure thing that won’t lead anywhere or have any expectations of him.
You’re right on the money! Especially the part about making herself feel good about having “sought advice”.
Agree
Can't agree more with the statement @9:20. "The moment your husband gets a shield on and a sword out to go to war for the family, that's when you think "I'm gonna go bang the neighbor"."
I was only in the Army for 4 years, but I've been through it personally and seen it happen an alarming amount of times. It's difficult not to be pessimistic about the world and relationships in general.
I can guarantee Dr. John’s tone would have been completely different if it were a guy calling under the exact same circumstances. If it had been a man, he would have immediately assumed there was more going on in the background probably accusing him of already cheating or worse. Yet in this case, he doesn’t even challenge her when she says the man found her ‘cute’ and would take a hotel key to meet her. How does a work conversation even escalate to someone saying, ‘You’re cute’? How does she know he’d sleep with her if she asked? This has clearly gone far beyond fantasy or speculation, yet none of this was addressed.
Completely agree. He would’ve trashed a male caller that would’ve spoken like her.
i said the same thing bra lol
Completely agree. Very soft.
I agree as well
Well yeah of course. Especially on the Ramsey network. That’s what they always do
He keeps saying
“I don’t think you like the reality of that”
And she keeps basically saying
“Yes, I really do.”
Lol this.
Dr John is firing on all cylinders in this back and forth.. he’s putting on a true clinic. So happy I found this guy a few weeks back.
People are so selfish. It never ceases to amaze me.
I think social media is to blame, it literally promotes narcissism. Do whatever makes you happy, that’s all that matters. Every time I talk to a woman who cheats, there’s a 1,000,000 justifications, almost all of them are bunk.
This woman is insufferable. Hope the guy finds out and ends up with someone much better. She's a disgrace.
@@DrLove01women are to blame only women are evil evidence shows men never hurt women for no reading for fun
But evidence shows women hurt men for no reason for fun
The fact that she KNOWS this other guy finds her attractive means they've had some sort of conversation about it, which to me is already being unfaithful... This very much seems like she's already having an emotional affair and I'm kind of surprise that was never mentioned. Hopefully she realizes this is *her problem and she needs to get her focus back on her marriage and family and move on from this fling and put in the work with the man she chose to live her forever with.
@Michelle-gg7hn I agree. Dr. John should have drilled deeper to find out how far this has gone. From what we were told it is very likely that she has been and is currently having an emotional affair with this man, and to the extent that has happened she has been cheating in a sense already. Kudos to you as a woman for looking at the other side of the equation and considering what this woman is doing to her husband already
Exactly - beyond me how this wasn’t called out.
They've probably been sexting each other with pics!.
"He might be a better kisser." 😂😂 damn bro
I try so hard not to be too judgmental of people I don't personally know, but damn this woman just irritates me SO MUCH. The entitlement, the giggling, the whole attitude... yugh.
Same here. I’m always defending callers but yeah this one was difficult for sure
She's the kind of woman you wish didn't reproduce. She doesn't deserve to be a Mom.
I thought it was just me. I'll bet money I don't even have yet she'll be having a full-blown affair soon. She doesn't really sound like she's wanting to be talked OUT of it, to be honest. 🤷🏻♀️
She’s trash
Yup
This husband is in for a brutal divorce.
She obviously does not care AT ALL.
Only concerned about how she’s going to look to everyone else.
This is why we need to keep our thoughts captive Once you start thinking about an affair thats the beginning People dont just fall into each other
I feel bad for her children and her husband some people are very selfish
Yes
“She’s not yours, it’s just your turn.” This is the type of woman that applies to. 😂 🤦🏻
She sounds way to happy to have this conversation.
Sometimes I can’t take these callers and have to stop listening
Same it’s hard to listen to
Same. So many people today are so damn insufferable. It's enough to make you want the whole world to just spontaneously explode.
Starts off with “I’m trying to be faithful…..”
Dr. Delony should have told her that her husband can probably do better than her. Heck, even staying single is WAY better than being married to someone like this.
He talks down to the men but never to the women that call his show
That's not what sells books and the show...
If my husband said he was trying really hard to be faithful to me but there was a girl at work he super wanted to b o n e I don't think I would ever fully trust him again. That would really hurt.
Short Answer. It’s not sinful to find other people attractive but to lust after them is a sin.
And any inappropriate actions is wrong.
Amen
Actions and thoughts. First the thoughts entertain the actions, which we would say is lust. Jesus said to just after someone is to commit adultery. Guard your heartb with all diligence, says Proverbs 4, for the rivers of life spring from it.
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Yes indeed. King David - a man after God´s own heart - was the great example!
Also: finding other people attractive might not be sinful per se but it might hint that one's mind is not fully fixed to the spouse in Christian marriage.
Misleading title. She’s literally planning out how to initiate an affair.
She even mentions THROWING him a hotel key card. She’d be better off paying for it in Nevada.
Yep
1000%
And Deloney is downplaying it as if she isn’t totally willing to let this man inside of her. She is only worried about being caught.
Goodness reading comments on here are so harsh for her on here. She's being honest. And asking for help. Good on her for that.
She seems to be wanting compliments and someone thinking she's fun.
She needs to have a little bit of fun time with her hubby.
I think many married people become attracted to other people at one time or another… it’s how you act and what you do with that. She said herself that she was enjoying the fantasy of who he might be, etc…. A lot of the time, it’s the attention and the fact that a new person is looking again that gets people caught up. In the end, it’s best to keep yourself focused on your marriage and why you love your partner. This is how affairs happen if people get carried away.
she's laughing about it and fantasizing ON AIR about how this person would be in bed. She will cheat if she hasn't already.
Lol..she's definitely gonna cheat! Wake up!
yea, i think its not ok to fantasize because adultery in the heart is still adultery but also the reason i think that holds true is that fantasy’s are often what lead to actions, but it still happens to the best of us because thats just human nature but in the end were always given a choice weather to act on temptation or repent and work to be a better person.
It’s wild to me that people are so internally damaged. I have been in situations with women I found attractive and the only thoughts I have in my mind are of how much damage I would do to my family by choosing this selfishness and that’s all I need to want no part of it, well that and my integrity.
I’ve had several women over the years that were a little too touchy with me to be a professional environment. Had she not been married I’d think she was flirting. But I just passed it off as her being friendly
She is gonna cheat lol
100%
And her husband probably knows it. Disgusting.
she literally said she's sick and tired of the daily routine of marriage and family life. She's not only gonna cheat, but if she were younger and beautiful, she'd be a flight risk. She would leave it all if there were a man who would adopt her.
Yeah this marriage is cooked
No. She wouldn’t call asking for advice.
So many negative comments.. I give her kudos for openly admitting exactly how she feels, and wanting to fix it. So many people don't deal with it and just let's it happen, and definitely don't openly admit having these very normal feelings
Yes, kudos to her for trying to find a reason not to cheat on her husband. Also kudos to her for sounding so laid back when discussing things that would ruin lives 😂
Sounds to me, her husband needs to find a new wife.
Nope don’t get married period
@@BrianWaller-qe7gr I'm sorry for whatever happened to you. I understand bro. This is what happens when we marry the wrong people God didn't intend for us
He needs to start protecting his assets, divorce and stay away from "marriage"
He definitely deserves a better wife
He's probably already cheating. More men admit to cheating than women.
Why is this so hard for people.... "it's so hard to not get the hotel room and have an affair"... No, it's bloody easy to not book a hotel, certainly easier to no book than it is to book.
Not that I'm condoning their actions... but they're sway by their emotions. I have ex-friends who cheated on their partners because they become infatuated easily, which then guides them to affairs. They definitely need a lot of self work because they expect others to complete them.
Righhhttt! Its Also not easy to set up a time to meet at the hotel and figure out when it would be possible to "hook up"...this call blew my mind
Us men have emotions too. It's a fortune thing that men do not act out intrusive thoughts, or it would be a more dangerous world.
She has a healthy sexual appetite. Her husband doesn’t. She is not satisfied.
@@mg8459mg almost everyone is susceptible to this, it's not because some people are "more emotionally swayed" than others - it's because they lack self-control. Affairs don't happen in a day, they brew over time because of a series of bad decisions until feelings become too difficult to control.
For example: a married man may have a conversation with an attractive coworker, and she starts flirting with him. Anyone would feel some excitement from this, but a faithful man changes the subject or leaves. The future cheater entertains the conversation and tells themselves "I won't let this go any further than that". But that excitement is like a drug. Maybe you'll only use it once, but chances are you'll try it again and want more and more of it. If you want to stay faithful, you have to shut down anything that could lead to an affair.
Feeling is natural. Action comes from decision and has consequences.
Good for her for being honest. This is remarkably common. Better to face it head on than pretend it doesn't exist.
You’re wrong. It shouldn’t exist in the first place. I’m wondering if you’re in the same boat, and that’s why you’re defending her??
@@gregorycarlson6632I mean I wouldn’t say they are defending. The truth is it can be easy to start being attracted to another. HOWEVER, she is barely making an effort to cut off the guy so she can stop thinking about him. The minute you start to think that you wanna be with someone else in the marriage is the minute you cut that person out of your life if you can
She's already cheated
100% she's already emotionally cheating. This would damage the husband tremendously if she was transparent with him, but she's not. She's a selfish self absorbed woman child.
Facts buddy tappin rn
When she said she would "drop a hotel card", you know she's done it before.
I should have thought this. I honestly don't know why I don't assume this already.
@@fignewtoneaterbecause youre( me too a bit) a bit naive and too trusting of what this person is saying.
The insight is off the charts in this conversation
Self control is a gift of the Holy Spirit. She needs God.
only way
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Shes in Salt Lake City so shes probably Mormon which means it is unlikely she will come to Christ.
@@bobbabb no more unlikely than anyone else. It's always a work of the Holy Spirit.
@@plousia Statistically it is more unlikely than a secular person, since worshipping a false God is further from God than refusing to worship anything.
Though I could be and hope that I am wrong. I will pray for her.
Also, the other guy is not a good guy. He knows what he's doing and willing to sleep with a married woman not caring about the consequences of destroying a family.
Maybe he’s married too??
Men dont care though hes gonna think, well shes gonna smash someone else with or without me.
Since when badboys care!
The other guy is doing her husband a favour. It just shows him who his woman is. A real wife wouldn’t even entertain the thought of cheating
Remember guys, no matter how nice you are, how much money you have, how amazing you make her feel, IT'S NEVER ENOUGH!
Thot behavior
Yep
Pump and dump.
Is that a word just for women?
@ nope
She belongs to the streets
I feel so bad for her nice-guy husband. He will soon be presented with divorce papers and have to pay half of his retirement plan to the caller, owe years of alimony & child support, be lucky to see his broken kids every other weekend, sell the house to pay equity to the cheater & move into an apartment next to rowdy neighbors, and work until at least 70+ if he lives that long. The caller's new studs will have more influence on the children than the father will. It's a sad story that keeps playing out because cheating wives get rewarded for their bad behavior.
Exactly. The laws in the US are Evil and on top of that, Women have been programmed to destroy families, a perfect recipe for the compete destruction of the nuclear family.
It's 100 percent time for us men to take the system back and start over.
It's 💯 unfair. Happens when wives or husbands cheat. It ruins the life of the spouse. Things will never be the same
To everyone who thinks the grass is greener on the other side, count your blessings. You have a husband who cares, children who are dependent on you, a peaceful life, a good business. Why would you want to compromise that for something temporary which ultimately will not only fade away but reck everything you’ve built with your spouse?!
Oh the life of this husband. Work super hard to build a life for your family and then your wife gets lonely because your not around so then she starts thinking about cheating and then you have to stop working out ( which is probably how you stay mentally healthy as well as physically) so that you can do even more work that she doesn't want to do so that she doesn't leave you and take half of everything you worked so hard for.
Sounds like the dude shoukd have picked a better wife, .but i guess not everyone can be as blessed as me, thank you lord for what youve given me.
Dr. John did his best. All we can do is hope he got through.
I like your content because you are not judgemental. You are a very empathetic person, is quite refreshing 😊
Marriage takes work on both ends. Dates, breaks from work, active listening, encouraging each other's dreams, putting effort into yourself and yes also showing restraint when temptation comes.
The nicer you treat a woman the more likely she is going to cheat.
@@herjitpannu2282 bingo
Modern women don’t deserve commitment. Across the board, womens lib did what it was aimed to do. Rid men of the women like the one in this video
When I clicked, I wanted to appreciate the woman calling for admitting something hard.
But to get away talk about another man. To have zero shame in your voice to the point of giggling and laughter talking about the idea of cheating on your devoted husband.
Then you want to turn around and cry that he's at work a lot? She did a pretty good job of manipulating in this call.
I wish John had been more harsh
He never will.
@ Women pay Johns bills. He will never hold them accountable
If it has been a guy calling he would have been harsh.
He won’t, his audience is mostly females. Historically, he always goes light on females and very hard on males..
John a puss.
I'm married woman. One time before marrige, one guy really physically atracted me and I saw I attracted him. During that time I really missed attention from my then boyfriend now husband. I went too far by flirting with him in front of my boyfriend cause we all worked together. So we had a big conversation, I really was sorry for my behaviour and I regret that now. I never ever had any intention on cheating as i never did. After we talked about it we solved problems in OUR relationship. So it's not always black and white, it's what is in your heart. This is going to happen but the most important part is when and are you going to stop. Now, when I see, cause women usually see that pretty quickly that some guy is starting to flirt I'm stopping immediately. I'm not going with it to not even let that be an option. We learn different and not everything is hollywood movie. This woman wants to cheat her husband and thats the difference.
she said that she doesn't have his number, she's avoiding seeing him. so how are you gonna assume that she's different than you were at that time
@zarahshabs7936 yeah but giggles are not that promising for the seriousness of her questions
@ sure but a lot of people are assuming a lot about her just based on the giggles which in my opinion is inherently flawed
How would SHE feel if it was the other way around? Her husband being attracted to another woman because she is just not lighting up his world. Sexuality really messes with a persons head. The "growing up" process doesn't stop when we turn 18. And we make many mistakes. She sounds like she's trying to deal with them but may anyway cause a "car wreck". There are no guarantees in the outcome. Not even that the "other guy" would/could reciprocate.
There’s a HUGE difference between finding someone attractive and being attracted to someone. I’m happily newly married to my amazing and gorgeous wife, and find PLENTY of other women attractive. There’s not a cell in my body that is attracted TO anyone else. Ana De Armas and Margot Robbie are out of this world attractive, hell so are Ryan Gosling and Ryan Reynolds. Finding others attractive is human nature and there’s nothing remotely wrong with it, being attracted to someone else is a whole different thing
Interesting comment. What is the difference between finding others attractive and being attracted to others in your opinion?
@@angelicaangel2624knowing someone is good looking and charming VS wanting them and wanting to be with them (like this lady who is fantasizing a scenario she KNOWS can happen in real life- he’s not just a cute guy, she WANTS him.)
That is correct. However I don't think being attracted to someone is a choice. There are plenty of men I find attractive and a small number of men I am attracted to. Neither of those things is a choice
@@angelicaangel2624 exactly what some others said. It’s simply acknowledged other peoples good looks or charm or whatever it is. Making a simple observation of “wow she’s attractive” and then moving on is a completely different thing than “wow that person is good looking and I want to have a relationship of some kind with them”
MayBlake:As long as both you and the guy are single, no problem.
If she truly loved him, she would not be even considering this affair, she would avoid encountering this other man and move on with life. Clearly she has sexual appetite, just spice things up with your husband, he works hard as mentioned ... he does not deserve you hurting him over your lust.
I’ve been on the receiving end of adultery and divorce and it’s so incredibly destructive and so incredibly painful. And it remains destructive and painful for much longer than you’d think for the people involved and for the children involved. This is such solid counsel from Dr. John, such a life-giving video.
“I’m trying to stay faithful to my husband”
That tells me what I need to know. You don’t have to “try” you are either a faithful person or you are not.
I don't think that's true. Faithfulness, like any virtue, takes effort. Giving in to our desires is the easy path.
@@evanl889 I disagree. there's a reason fidelity is considered a virtue - everyone is tempted, only some are strong/wise enough to resist it.
I just don't think she's really trying because she continuing to flirt and entertain a fantasy with this guy.
Exactly. You don’t need to try to be faithful, you just need to remain faithful which means creating healthy defensive habits that don’t put your relationship in harms way and protect your partner. This means if someone at work feels they can tell you that you are cute, you have not put this in place. Married people that want to stay married are not approachable, period.
Actually life's not entirely black and white. Maybe you should think about that before you say something that makes you sound like a moron who's incapable of nuanced thought.
@@pedrosttauthank you for actually being intelligent 👍🏾
I love this little episode wow Dr. John came in like a boss. Good job.
I’ve been in the “People Business” for over 30 years and deal with stuff like this all the time. Ladies, beware. There are many guys out there who are professional Predators. They know just the right things to say to light a woman up. I’ve seen countless cases of a woman is ready to jump in bed with any man who tells her she’s “beautiful”. Lot’s of other sweet nothings. And sorry Ladies, too many of you are too dumb and naive to recognize what’s happening to you until he casts you aside to move on to someone else. In the meantime, you’ve destroyed your marriage, your family, and everything that was dear to you. Worst of all, you’ve destroyed your soul. Please gals, take this into consideration. There are women reading this that have learned this the hard way.
so she has everything , a good husband hard working , kids and yet she is not happy ??? women.........
I know right. I was thinking this too.... 🙈 and I'm a woman... struggling on my own...doing life on my own...
Dr Delony s wife is a damn lucky wife and I hope she appreciates him as much as we all do. Every time I listen to him I learn soooo much ❤❤
I understand why people are getting triggered by her, but I appreciate her honesty and openness. It provides a lot of insight and offers a lot of teachable moments to draw important lessons from and notice red flags in our own lives. Thanks for sharing!
I don't appreciate it. I know what she's doing. She's getting the feelings out in the open in order to normalize it. The next step in her mind is to act on it. This marriage is over. And she is a selfish degenerate because she's willing to destroy her entire family's lives for what will probably amount to a single sexual encounter. Can't she get a vibrating dildo and close her eyes like most wives?
Lmao pathetic
Sounds like something you would do 😂
@ huh? Or, sounds like something to look out for in a spouse.
Also, what’s wrong with some self reflection and checking in with yourself to see what you are and aren’t taking responsibility for.
Exactly, people are acting like holier than thou. But it’s a good cautionary tale for all. Men and women. When the opportunity presents itself you don’t know what you are going to do.
I'm proud of this lady. She's being open and honest about where she's at and taking effort to do the right thing. Usually it's when people keep things in the dark that things blow up.
Of course you are, I bet you’re a cheat too
Lol, sounds like you're that lady that make fake profile to defend own illusions 😂
She’s going to hit the wall hard.
Her voice sounds like she already has hit the wall, and very likely the guy she likes does not find her attractive back. She does not sound attractive
Probably already has. Sounds at least 42 years old. The guy she wants to have an affair with is probably average looking and she's deluded into thinking it's Henry Cavill just because he wants to use her for an easy lay when she's past her prime. Seen it way too many times before at this point. People will say it's misogynistic saying this but more than half of woman on this planet just aren't worth it anymore.
That's when she'll file for divorce and try starting her "new life"
She's just acting like married men.
Dear Dr John. You are so good at saving families from destruction..
You just explained the reality which human fails to think about before commiting mistakes. 😮
The fantasy never turns out better than reality, when you’ve already built a life with someone, that’s it. Nothing else better, the grass isn’t always greener. He committed to you, the other guy most likely won’t.
"I wouldn't want to be that man who blew up the marriage".... that right there. If he does it once, he'll do it again. Stay with your husband and make the relationship ALIVE again. Her lust for this other man isnt worth losing it all 💔
Dr. D! With the “what is it about your life now that you want to blow up with this rent-a-grenade?” Spot on! Way to hit the nail on the head!! Whoooaaaahow! Oh my. You got this gal.
❤ the “and then, tomorrow? What happens tomorrow?” To get her present with the pain of implosion as viscerally as she has been in the thrill of off-limits desire. ❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉 Dr. Deloney - this is why you are THE BEST!!! 🎉🎉🎉
She mentions "the fantasy life" her imagination tempts her with using this other guy.
Maybe a life where she is a woman. Autonomous from her roles and responsibilities as a wife and mother. She is just a woman with him. He doesn't see the bills she forgot to pay or the dishes in the sink or need her to squeeze a load of laundry into their broken or clogged machine between kid's loads of swim gear or school play costumes...
Literally, all this guy thinks about her is that she is "cute and fun".
She clearly wishes her husband thought of her that way.
Ask what the dude will think of her when they share a household? The same as her husband? Once he's in that role in her life? As boring as that?
❤ the question "what is it about your life you want to blow up?"
And ❤ ❤ ❤ that revealing crack in her voice when she mentions loneliness and how much she misses her husband.
Ahw.
She doesn't want a divorce or this other guy... she wants to be valued as a woman by her husband. To feel she is as important to him as the business that supoorts them.
Otherwise, if all he needs is the money or the ego from building the business... then what does he need her for? What's the point of being married?
Her playful attitude tells me she doesn't want to have an affair because of the consequences of what she may lose. Not because of wanting to fulfill her covenant of marriage by being faithful.
Lol..ok
Uh yeah millions of men and women are in that position... need the ability of a partner but don't necessarily like them that much.
I feel like she shouldn’t bring up this other guy and rather just focus on getting what she’s desiring in her current marriage.
I can totally understand finding someone attractive in a marriage, BUT DON'T validate feelings of having a crush. A crush is major different. She might even be past crush. Please just leave him. Or see this, my guy. She is probably going to do this. RUN!!!
How old did they say she was? She's sounding like a child who doesn't want to be an adult.
A crush is just the absence of information. Credit to @ashleyduckworthyt3224 for this statement because it’s so true.
Crushes are just fantasies.
@@hoawbunter Been married for 14 years, so however old she is she's old enough to know better
There’s nothing understandable about finding someone attractive when you’re in a relationship or married.
@codedsoul7360 It is perfectly understandable and normal to find another person attractive.
Attraction is what initially draws us to another person. And usually that attractive quality is something that is easily visible. Spending time with that person, discovering who they are, what they value etc will then help us to decide whether or not the person is a worthy partner or spouse.
It is one thing for a spouse to find someone other than their spouse attractive. That is not offensive. What is offensive is when the spouse chooses to pursue someone they find attractive, to flirt with, fantasise and lust after them. By doing so they are choosing not to love their spouse.
There is more than one person on this earth that could be a worthy spouse to us. However, when we choose a spouse and enter into a committed relationship, we make the choice to love, honour and respect our spouse and marriage relationship and not pursue others. Finding someone attractive who is not our spouse is not a sin. Making the choice to act on that attraction is the sin.The word 'love' is a verb. We choose to love our spouses via our behaviour and words. We do not love our spouse via our feelings. We feel loved or not loved because of the actions of our spouse.
Hollywood has deceived many women by portraying love as solely feeling based and creating a narrative of 'the one and only' or 'my soulmate'.