Talk therapies are known to not be of great help to autistic persons. For various reasons. We have a hard time identifiying our own feelings because of alexithymia, so we can't really work on that. And then there is the problems related to our attention (lack of focus, hyperfocus, special interests) which can't be adressed by CBT. So in the end we just end up being gaslighted by the therapist without having made any progress. When it comes to talking about ADHD and autism, I got lucky because my mom was diagnosed with ADHD around the same time I was. My dad doesn't really want to acknowledge that (because of cultural reasons). I have less trouble talking about that with my extended family. Especially with my cousins. Mental health topics seem to be way easier to talk with other Millenials, or gen Z. The older generations just don't seem to understand the benefits of a diagnostic (in general, not ADHD/autism specific). Yeah parties are something really difficult. When I was still a student, I couldn't really escape them because it was a core part of social life. And then there is alcohol. Sometimes I got lucky, it helped me unmask / get rid of anxiety. Other times it just tuned hypersensitivity to noise to overdrive. If there are more than 10 people, my brain just unplugs (shutdown). Now I just avoid big parties (and alcohol) every time I can, unless it is a very special occasion like a marriage or a special birthday (30s, 40s and so on).
Hi! Yeah CBT was good for my bad social anxiety but quite difficult and not very appropriate for certain things that i consider actually way more important in my life. So yeah alexithymia and lack of focus etc is making therapy quite hard. Hmm interesting about your family situation. Yes i have talked about this (superficially but still) to a cousin and she has been very accepting. I rarely party or drink alcohol but am perceived as weird and a cold person because of that, which still affects me emotionally unfortunately. As much as I'd like to not care about what people think, it is hard to really do my own thing. But with time i have realized more and more which parties i should say no to and which would be potentially ok.
Hello Ingrid, Always nice to see you again. Yes moving to a new place can be challenging. I hope you will get used soon to your new place. I keep dwelling on the same thoughts and I use the internet to distract myself so I can relate. Yes Ingrid, I find your voice calm and soothing but obviously it's not the main reason why I'm here on your channel, it's because I appreciate you as person and if you don't mind me saying ' because you are my friend ' I do relate alot about being thinking the worst case scenario. My imagination can run wild on what could happen especially that I have been through a lot of events so I already have a glimpse on how bad things can be... That's why the worst case scenario doesn't work with me. Yes mee too I often don't control what's my brain is thinking I can think about random things at any time and in any place. So once again I relate to you . I can understand about the energy going. Sometimes I had to learn to insist so people can hear me especially with administration, it's so tyring so I understand too. I hope things with your parents will evolve for the better. it was such a raw and honest talk and it's always appreciated. Wishing you all the best friend. Take care
Thank you for watching! Yes change is hard and stressful so distracting myself with the internet is my coping strategy 😅 the worst case scenario tactic might help for people who are not used to seeing possibilities but i think as infps that is a tricky road to take, especially if one has been through many bad situations in the past. Thank you for the support my dear friend 😊
You are welcome. I know that change can be hard and yes the internet is my coping mechanism. You are right. What works for other people don't necessarily work for us. You are welcome. It's really heartwarming to be called dear friend, you too you are a dear friend 😊
I think that you should stop thinking what if and instead start thinking what is probable. You should continue to get therapy if it helps you. It will at least give you some one to talk even if you don't agree with them. Also doing your vlog helps as it will help to focus your thoughts. Hang in there...
The root cause of most people's psychological symptoms and syndromes is spiritual. The more spiritually enlightened we become, the more these syndromes will disappear.
@@radishraven9 I mean it in the sense of like a Buddha style enlightenment. It's more than just an intellectual accumulation of knowledge or a dedication to a set of beliefs that are considered good. It's an actual visceral knowing that comes from increasing our awareness to the point that we have firsthand experience of the divine which banishes the illusions of beliefs or mental constructs that we clung on to before enlightenment, like pure light dissolving the shadows.
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Talk therapies are known to not be of great help to autistic persons. For various reasons. We have a hard time identifiying our own feelings because of alexithymia, so we can't really work on that. And then there is the problems related to our attention (lack of focus, hyperfocus, special interests) which can't be adressed by CBT. So in the end we just end up being gaslighted by the therapist without having made any progress.
When it comes to talking about ADHD and autism, I got lucky because my mom was diagnosed with ADHD around the same time I was. My dad doesn't really want to acknowledge that (because of cultural reasons). I have less trouble talking about that with my extended family. Especially with my cousins. Mental health topics seem to be way easier to talk with other Millenials, or gen Z. The older generations just don't seem to understand the benefits of a diagnostic (in general, not ADHD/autism specific).
Yeah parties are something really difficult. When I was still a student, I couldn't really escape them because it was a core part of social life. And then there is alcohol. Sometimes I got lucky, it helped me unmask / get rid of anxiety. Other times it just tuned hypersensitivity to noise to overdrive. If there are more than 10 people, my brain just unplugs (shutdown). Now I just avoid big parties (and alcohol) every time I can, unless it is a very special occasion like a marriage or a special birthday (30s, 40s and so on).
Hi! Yeah CBT was good for my bad social anxiety but quite difficult and not very appropriate for certain things that i consider actually way more important in my life. So yeah alexithymia and lack of focus etc is making therapy quite hard.
Hmm interesting about your family situation. Yes i have talked about this (superficially but still) to a cousin and she has been very accepting.
I rarely party or drink alcohol but am perceived as weird and a cold person because of that, which still affects me emotionally unfortunately. As much as I'd like to not care about what people think, it is hard to really do my own thing.
But with time i have realized more and more which parties i should say no to and which would be potentially ok.
Hello Ingrid,
Always nice to see you again.
Yes moving to a new place can be challenging. I hope you will get used soon to your new place.
I keep dwelling on the same thoughts and I use the internet to distract myself so I can relate.
Yes Ingrid, I find your voice calm and soothing but obviously it's not the main reason why I'm here on your channel, it's because I appreciate you as person and if you don't mind me saying ' because you are my friend '
I do relate alot about being thinking the worst case scenario. My imagination can run wild on what could happen especially that I have been through a lot of events so I already have a glimpse on how bad things can be... That's why the worst case scenario doesn't work with me.
Yes mee too I often don't control what's my brain is thinking I can think about random things at any time and in any place. So once again I relate to you .
I can understand about the energy going. Sometimes I had to learn to insist so people can hear me especially with administration, it's so tyring so I understand too.
I hope things with your parents will evolve for the better.
it was such a raw and honest talk and it's always appreciated.
Wishing you all the best friend.
Take care
Thank you for watching! Yes change is hard and stressful so distracting myself with the internet is my coping strategy 😅 the worst case scenario tactic might help for people who are not used to seeing possibilities but i think as infps that is a tricky road to take, especially if one has been through many bad situations in the past. Thank you for the support my dear friend 😊
You are welcome.
I know that change can be hard and yes the internet is my coping mechanism.
You are right. What works for other people don't necessarily work for us.
You are welcome.
It's really heartwarming to be called dear friend, you too you are a dear friend 😊
I was diagnosed with ADHD too.
I think that you should stop thinking what if and instead start thinking what is probable. You should continue to get therapy if it helps you. It will at least give you some one to talk even if you don't agree with them. Also doing your vlog helps as it will help to focus your thoughts. Hang in there...
Hi yes i will continue in therapy don't worry. It is hard to judge for me what is probable sometimes, but thanks for the advice! 😊
The root cause of most people's psychological symptoms and syndromes is spiritual. The more spiritually enlightened we become, the more these syndromes will disappear.
Maybe? Depends on what you mean by "spiritually enlightened"
@@radishraven9 I mean it in the sense of like a Buddha style enlightenment. It's more than just an intellectual accumulation of knowledge or a dedication to a set of beliefs that are considered good. It's an actual visceral knowing that comes from increasing our awareness to the point that we have firsthand experience of the divine which banishes the illusions of beliefs or mental constructs that we clung on to before enlightenment, like pure light dissolving the shadows.