What is Executive Dysfunction? | Kati Morton
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I didn't realize Initiation was part of executive function; it's really really hard for me to start tasks even if I'm excited to do them
Same problem I have as well. Even when I get warnings or i'm intrinsically motivated to do something, the sense of urgency doesn't always come into full gear and that doesn't last for a long time. I feel you're pain, it's a frustrating feeling.
Same
Same
This is me i literally hate myself for it. I feel like the laziest peice of shit ://
@@alabaz2302 you’re doing the best you can, it’s okay❤️
Also, if you grew up with childhood emotional neglect this also causes trouble planning and setting goals for yourself etc.
😭🎶🎉💕👍emotional regulation, staying on task, take long walks with your pet. Completing small goals(big goals broken down nicely) gives our brain dopamine which helps us focus. Positive feedback loop 💕
Oh my god is this what I have?!?!?
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@@jenrich111 Thank you your comment made my day
You know what, no wonder
Watching this while sitting in my disaster of a house. Depression is fun.
Wow I felt that :/
It is !
I understand. Me too. 🎉
:(
At least you have a house...I’m still renting from my parents at 27. Now that’s depressing. :/
I like how you say we instead of you
Is autism a separate and isolated disorder not am i isolating from society?
I don’t - it seems disingenuous.
@@BetaBuxDelux put this is a dictionary
Same
This is interesting. I recently was telling my sister about something I call “the resistance” that I feel like I’m constantly fighting to do anything I want to do. I’ll end up laying on the couch for hours KNOWING I need to get up and wanting to get up and get to work but I just can’t seem to make my body move.
She said that would fall under executive dysfunction (which is how I ended up here) but most of those things you list I don’t struggle with at all. But this was still really interesting to learn about.
Same! And the fact that I don't struggle with most of the things mentioned in this video makes me go back to thinking that I just procrastinate, but I really hope that I have executive dysfunction because it will make me hate myself less for constantly being on the edge of destroying my future :')
Same is my case.I even fought with myself in figuring out my problem.
Same. I think a lot of folks deal with some degree of a couple of these things.
I struggle w/initiation outside of a rigid structure for things I’m not excited about. It just takes more energy to push past that threshold. But can’t relate to any of the others. A lot of folks would probably benefit from tools meant to help with executive function.
This sounds a lot like a How To ADHD video about the motivation bridge/gap. Another awesome youtuber!
This is exactly what I'm doing right now, I have so much to do but I just can't get up
i really struggle with initiation. starting schoolwork, getting ready for bed, pretty much any task is difficult if not impossible. and i'm super disorganized, in terms of both my time and my environment. i can't deal with schedules and to-do lists.
Same, lists just make me anxious because I know I will fall behind schedule for sure
I would love to be able to put my self on a schedule, but to actually make myself do it is another story.
I've made schedules, but then I just actively ignore the schedules.
I always get major anxiety when I plan my day where I just end up doing nothing 🙄
omg same
Same
Just go with the flow
Same
That has to be extremely difficult for you. It seems to me you may benefit from someone you trust or can have a service help with assistance to do life more easily than what your dealing with. You don’t have to do it all alone especially when your eligible for such. Most people don’t ask to be in rut. It’s hard to dig yourself out of them. I’m not any better off than you. I struggle with some daily tasks. It’s not easy to get things done all the time. You can only try to do what you can if your without assistance.
If I don't write down everything I need to get done, my thoughts feel like the keys with wings from Harry Potter, chaotically and aggressively flying around my headspace.
Sometimes I can't even tidy my living room unless I write down the individual and specific steps to complete the task. Executive dysfunction is a major part of why I'm disabled by my mental state.
Sarah Acree Thats why i always needed a caledar, day planner, phone calendar, and to synchronize them several times a week. Now i have none and nothing gets done.
I was telling my last therapist what I'd done while looking in my phone.,stuff like eating and showering and when i slept. She asked "you wrote that down?" Like its unusual, then wrote some note to herself.
I didnt feel safe. Everytime she scribbled notes i felt like there was something wrong with me.
Yep, exactly. And I know what you mean, feeling judged or defective. Sometimes I don't realize that I'm behaving in an unusual way until I see someone else reacting to me. Always remind yourself that your therapist has to make observations to help you!
Sarah Acree my prior therapist never took notes. Maybe after I left. This one was an intern. So she wasn't as good.
completly true
I HAVE USED THIS ANALOGY SO MANY TIMES oh my gosh I thought I was the only one.
What's heeeeeeeeelarious about all this is that because of the focus on executive dysfunction as an organization problem, I've been super-trained to organize. That's no longer a problem. They trained that out of me hard core as a kid after my ADHD diagnosis. I've got charts and plans and organizers out my rear... and a huge mega problem with Initiation, Shifting and Working Memory, because no one thought to help with that back then. lol.
I am so glad you have been able to organize more and manage that, I hope you are still able to get some professional support so you can work through any issues with initiation, shifting and working memory :) xoxo
Thanks! I have a LMFT I see but the ADHD things kind of got back-burnered to the C-PTSD* things, and then when I resolved those we terminated. Lol. Mostly I've just structured my life to avoid problems in those areas, at least for my job. I work IT Helpdesk, so I don't have to self-initiate or plan or manage my time at all. They call me, I fix it, I wait for the next call. I probably could use to work on it anyway though because I usually wind up home from work doing one thing for the rest of the evening even though I wanted to do several. (*Unplanned first born, mum with a serous case of fleas, 'defective'... yadda yadda...)
Is there really anything to be done for the working memory part? I kind of figured it was like... a hardware issue. Not enough RAM kind of thing.
Mayonnaise Jane same, plus time management.
Whoa so lucky. They tried training me a lot as a kid too. Sadly didnt work and I spend most of my days trying to find my phone
omg same, I can easily schedule things and am quite organizes already as a person, but getting tasks started is always my biggest problem, like I have to write an essay? I know what I have to do, and I can have a time period planned for it, but if I can't get started what is the point of those other aspects?? Like all the advise I have found so far is just like, sit down and start, and that's just impossible
my executive dysfunction is really difficult to work around cause even when i do plan out my week and set a schedule for what i need to do, i can never seem to follow through since all my tasks feel so big that my anxiety just renders me useless. like, i know i can get work done, but it's like i've forgotten how to do it effectively and my anxiety is both pushing me to be productive while also hindering that process.
especially this past week, i've been meaning to catch up on school and complete some artwork and a bunch of other stuff but i haven't been able to do more than open a textbook and then immediately get scared and recede into my comfort activities which is usually just reading stuff.
i also have the issue of being kind of afraid of needing to process new information. so having to read ny textbooks, or just reading/watching something new is so daunting that i just end up not doing anything for days or weeks on end.
what sucks most though is that it's bled into my being an artist, so actually producing work feels impossible when it's usually the thing that would be relaxing to me.
this is my exact day to day life
Mine too.
This! My life. Even down to the artwork.
Oh my god.. the first paragraph in particular really resonates with me!!!! I can set all the alarms I want on my phone and when they go off I still usually ignore them because it just feels like it's too big of an ordeal even if I know the thing will only take like 5-10 minutes. I've tried using a time block (I think that's what it's called..?) app and it helps for a while... then I lose my momentum and I stop.... then I start up again weeks or months later...same thing happens. Then I thought I could use it for 2-3 days a week so I'm days aren't too structured, cause that can be an issue for me too...that hasn't worked because then I forget to create the schedule for the random days instead of it being an nightly routine.
I've thought for so long now that I'm just lazy and disinterested and a terrible procrastinator. But yesterday a friend if mine began talking about how hard it is for her to accomplish simple tasks because they feel like the biggest hurdle and when i said that I felt the same she said it sounded like executive dysfunction. I feel relieved that there is a real reason for this issue in my life...that I'm not crazy...and yet it feels like the hardest thing to correct and work on.. 😓🙃😵💫
You just described my life as well, all the way down to the art bit 😭
I can’t even tell you the door this just opened for me. Like holy shit I don’t feel alone, I feel validated in my seemingly “unnecessary “ struggles. 100% taking this to my counselor.
Same, I didn’t know there was a term for what I am struggling with
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Fuck yea. Same!
I’ve been diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, and you’ve just described my whole life.
The problem with separating work and play areas is when you have to work at a computer- the internet is both work AND play, so it's extremely difficult to not get my thoughts constantly distracted and pulled all over the place. Focusing on getting a task done is hard enough already, but when it involves going online, it takes forever. For instance, here I am commenting on this youtube channel and I can't remember why I sat down at my computer.
I have ADHD and pretty severe executive dysfunction as a consequence. In order to do anything I have to set alarms so I remember to eat and drink bc otherwise I will literally just not do it?? I feel like this isn't talked about enough especially as it can literally lead to physical health problems if people can't carry certain things out
I either eat a whole jar of pretzels because I started and forgot to stop, or forget to eat until I get the sugar shakes and feel faint. Oops.
You sure the eating problem isn't just caused by your medication? It's one of the most basic side effects of most ADHD medication and you should be VERY aware of that precisely because of the possible health problems it can lead to.
When I finally got my diet and dosage of adderall (which involved titrating dosages UP and extending duration), I realized that my "appetite suppression" was actually an ineffectual, blanket way of describing an aversion to certain types/qualities of food. I constantly indulge strong cravings for sweet, smooth or salty mostly with fruit, smoothies, soups, nuts, and a whole lot more fruit.
Thank you so so much for sharing!! It's great that more people know this can be part of it as well. xoxo
Omg I know what you're talking about. I live alone for the first time in my life and there are moments or even weeks when I have to really force myself to do basic things like eat or shower. It's not about appetite, because I do get hungry, but I just can't physically bring myself to do that task, it's like I'm thinking "I should go to the kitchen and get/make some food" and the command simply doesn't go from the brain to the body. For me, I don't think executive dysfunction is caused by ADHD, but it's probably linked with my depression and depersonalization/derealization
This helps so much with explaining it to my parents without sounding like a lazy mess. Tanks so much 💓
Yay! So happy to help :) xoxo
Written instructions is always helpful for me. And it can be supportive for people, like myself, who are also visual learners. Great topic to discuss Kati.
Optimistic4ever yes...def lists help so much for me too
Thank you for sharing!!! I am glad you enjoyed the video :) xoxo
Agreed Optimistic4ever!!
I think I'm seriously going to have to save this video and rewatch it multiple times a week so I can start implementing all of the suggestions that were made. Unfortunately I just forgot half of them and information tends to get mixed up for me, but I'm not going to let that get in the way!
I’d forgotten I’d even subscribed today , just a couple of hours ago , and I’ve just realised by seeing the girls face ! Not what she’d said 🤔 I have executive dysfunction , but how and why do I feel I need to explain , without them thinking I’m making excuses for my self , luckily I do have high emotions , but I don’t get angry verbally , just occasionally when I am commenting on what somebody said about somebody else, when they have been rude about some one , I have to get stuck in there’s and defend the person being bullied, but in a message , There we go , And I always end up writing an essay not getting to the point. 😐, to write this I’ve had to check everything backwards because I’ve written lots of things twice and sometimes 3 times
It really helps me when I am extremely overwhelmed to have somebody help me initiate a task.
I have never felt more understood!!! For years I thought I was just lazy and pathetic because my thoughts would jump everywhere, I'd become paralyzed by decisions others would find simple to answer, and multitasking being such a struggle. Thank you so much Kati. I feel so understood and validated.
Kati how do I stop oversharing?? I’m not sure why I do it but sometimes things just flow from my mouth, only to later regret being so “open.” And then I feel bad and I’m not sure if I feel that way because I’ve crossed a boundary or if it’s some other reason. So where’s the line? How do we know? And when we overstep, how do we fix it?
Yeah I just met a guy at a train and we talked a lot. After that he didn't ask for my number and I guess it's because I shared too much information.
libbycatherine great question, i do the same thing. With me i'm pretty sure it's because i don't have anyone close enough to vent to, so it just comes out to random people. Maybe it's the same for you?
I don't think you should assume you shared too much info because someone you met didn't ask for your number. You didn't ask for his either so maybe he thinks the same thing. Sometimes people just have conversations with people and don't feel the need to keep in contact with them or they don't know if it would be appropriate. You never know.
libbycatherine I feel you I over share a lot
Nicole Llih if someone did feel that way, what would that mean in relation to oversharing?
I have deficits in all 8 areas.
I have a form of executive dysfunction, called Sensory Processing Disorder, and I actually find it easier to relay messages by writing or typing them than by mouth because, when I do it by mouth, it's hard to spit it out. For example, when I call my soon-to-be husband to ask him to buy groceries on his way home, it goes something like this: "Hey honey. Um, would you mind getting some uh, uh, uh, some, some, some eggs, uh, bacon, and uh, uh, uh cheese before you leave?" It has taken me as long as 10 minutes to rattle off a list to him. But, it only takes me about a minute to write it out in a text message. As a matter of fact, when I was in high school, I held the record for the most words typed in one minute at 160wpm.
So that's Sensory Processing Disorder? I've been like this but I didn't know it's part of that.
are you autistic? With the being able to write better than speak? Because I have both autism and sensory processing disorder but I thought sensory processing disorder isn’t out speaking by itself?
when she was talking about it almost being impossible to organize a vacation literally broke my heart because i cant organize anything and it made me realize how hard its gonna be
This is me to a tee. Mine comes from PTSD from past childhood/young adult abuses. I've been diagnosed with PTSD and ADHD with high functioning anexiety.. And now executive dysfunction...
Its always so hard to explain to people what executive dysfunction is and how it's not just being "lazy." I can now show people this video to help them get a better understanding! Thank you so much for making it!!
I struggle in 4 points. I thought that executive functioning was only organization. Very interesting topic
So glad it was helpful!! And yes it goes way beyond just organization! xoxo
I struggle in all 8 points....
Thank you Kati. I feel less alone and a little less helpless because of your videos and the community youve created. Thank you. Youre such a beautiful, kind person xx
Awe you are so welcome Natasha :) I am so glad I can be a helpful resource when you need it!! xoxo
You’re never alone my dude!! I just got diagnosed and thought I was alone with this for so long. So glad to have a bit of a community now.
I’ve found that breaking down organizational tasks to the smallest detail and then being open to rearranging it all as I go along helps. Sometimes I have to wait for the right answer to reveal itself and do my best to not stress about it in the meantime.
unfortunately for me as a person with ADHD, I struggle with these things frequently. I try my best to create a routine to get everything done but my job constantly piles extra work on me. This of course gives me great stress as I am thinking OMG I CAN NEVER GET THIS DONE and I tend to constantly be behind my own schedule and constantly stressed out. People don't seem to get that I am slightly different from them. They need to learn to work within my capabilities and I am going to do fabulously at everything. checkoff lists and reminders would do wonders for me.
Two of those points actually helped me! So I've been wanting to teach myself programming, right?
But my work and play area are both on the computer, so it's easy to get sidetracked. Suddenly I realized: I can use my Linux operating system for programming, and my Windows for play! It requires a complete computer restart to switch between those, so they're well separated.
Initiation is a very difficult one for me, but breaking it down into smaller ones or set time periods is brilliant. I think I'll just go do some programming right now, just this one chapter of this course, for at least 1 hour and 10 minutes. It's weird how suddenly it feels a lot more manageable... anyway off I go bye! o/
I know that this issue is not exclusive to ADHD but I really, really appreciate the attention you've been shedding on the disorder lately.
One way that I like to combat my executive dysfunction by asking for time outs. When I'm arguing & I can feel myself get hot, I ask for a time out before I can say something really ugly. If I'm in a conversation & I can't keep up, I'll say "OK. Let's pause for a second because I want to make sure we're on the same page. This is what I think you're saying, is that right?"
My favorite tactic to stop impulsiveness during conversation is to put my finger on my nose whenever I feel myself about to sign up for something I really can't handle or speak over someone. Oh, that's another thing. When I interrupt, I try to realize it as soon as possible & say "I'm apologize, I didn't mean to cut you off. Please continue."
As a widow my mother really stayed on us hard about getting things done, cleaning, picking up the house and doing yard work. She was always harping on us but She never really taught us anything about how to organize our lives how to keep a schedule how to set goals how to plan for our lives, college or careers. I’ve been lost all my life. There was never any structure in our house, just constant demands and orders to carry out tasks. We all got burned out at young ages but we never really learned how to handle daily life. I’ve never really known what to do. Our mother was big on manners and social skills but she didn’t teach us so many important things. Now I’m unemployed and I feel paralyzed. I don’t how to resolve problems and I don’t know how to initiate a path for my life. It’s terrifying not know what goals to even set. My life is an absolute mess and I’m clueless about what to do.
I love the help you have provided at the end, especially the bit about transitions. Thanks Katie!
when i first heard someone explain this term (in a very basic way), i suspected i might suffer with executive dysfunction. watching this video that went in depth really solidified it. especially hearing you talk about shift. i've always said that i have to have at least a few days to emotionally deal with something major before i actually have to do it.
there are some tips i've learned, though. the first one being getting a bullet journal, planner, or some sort of alarm system to keep on task. i especially recommend a bullet journal. there's no wrong way to bullet journal, and you won't feel bad if you miss a few days because there are no prewritten dates.
another thing i suggest is to set yourself to do three things a day. which may sound daunting, but that list could look like:
1. get out of bed
2. brush your teeth
3. don't forget to eat something
setting realistic goals for yourself makes initiating them so much easier.
oof ive tried the list thing many times but i just.. randomly stop doing it when its been like a week or maybe week and a half. i dont have any motivation at all lol
Thank you so much for this video!!
Thank you so much for making this video omg
helpful! I really like the layout of this video specifying all the main details!
Love how I find so many people having issues with getting started...working on those issues. I have just watched the video for the first time and got a whiff of hopelessness because "how am I gonna keep track on that if I can't keep track on anything else?"
This was really helpful. Thank you.
Thank you for this great video!
I just found your channel a few days ago and I really like your approach! Warm hugs from Sweden!
Wow I didn't realize this was a thing. This actually explains so much. Thanks for talking about this Kati!
Thank you so much for this video! It explains some of struggles I have to a T... x
Thank you so much this video was great, really organised and helpful!
This is so interesting. I had never heard of this before, but I definitely relate to most of those things. Thanks Kati xx
This has been extremely informative, Thank you!
Thank you for sharing this great informative video! I learned a lot!
Thank you very much. This video was very helpful
Thank You For Sharing. ❤️
This explains so much!
This hits home hard for me, having ASD and ADHD Inattentive diagnoses! Nicely explained for an "intro" to the topic!
The welcome at the beginning is just everything.❤
This particular video touched a raw nerve. Thank You You’re the best!
This helps alot! I have trouble with alot of these but never knew anything about it all through my life. Thanks.
Very helpful ❤ thank you so much
Thank you so much for making this video! It almost feels like it was just for me
Relevant and enlightening, it explains a lot. Thank you!
I knew it was there but didn't know how to define it.
thank you kati for this video!!! ive always thought i might have something because its just hard for me to do things but i thought im just a highly sensitive person.. now this makes even more sense! being highly sensitive is still hard to deal with but not as hard as having no organizational skills at all! and i hate that being spontaneous makes me feel anxious and not at all good. literally just the other day was out with a friend for some drinks and they suggested we stay out for the night and my heart just stopped because i didnt plan it. and even though i didnt jave anything waiting at home i just couldnt do it :/ anyway thank you for this !! now i know that im not alone!!!
I have been looking for a video like this for soooo long. . . One that my adhd brain can listen to without getting bored or distracted and to the point . . . Thank you.
im glad you posted this...my daughter and myself both have been diagnosed with this in our therapies...
On my journey of understanding you have helped. Thank you.
You nailed it, I have this with some ADHD. Every day simple things can be a struggle.
A topic I don't know very much about. Thank you for sharing!
Executive dysfunction is definitely me. My essence.
Since i do not perceive time as a continuum, schedule/setting goals/prioritising , is mission impossible.
I sometimes lose track of the present day of the week. I can miss a whole day, unaccounted for.
I missed two holidays, this year.
I missed noticing two elections, and one war.
I never noticed the corona virus, until people were wearing masks in the street.
This is very helpful!! I’m constantly doing assignments last minute or handing them in late because I struggle with executive dysfunction
Thank you for this video.
Wow -thank you so very much for this! I've been living with Executive Dysfunction, along with being on the Autistic Spectrum, and serious clinical Depression for most of my life. I often treat myself badly, because I score highly on IQ tests, always did well i school, have an excellent long-term memory for facts (or at least the ones that interest me), but at the same time cannot hold a "normal" job, and struggle with interpersonal relationships. The more I learn about how my strangely wired brain works, the better I get at coping with these challenges, and the more I'm able to actually do. Lists are my best friends - a notebook full of lists is a must have for my day-to-day existence! Now if could only get my working memory up to speed in ballet class... XP
This is a great video and it really, really explains what I’ve struggled with for years! I recently started a new medication and these issues have definitely become easier for me. I honestly didn’t realize how much my depression was affecting my executive functioning. With my new medication and some of the behavior changes you go over I’m really finding everyday life much more “doable”. Thank you so much for explaining this in such detail.
Lovely Kati, for those of us with ASD/AS, even though not being in the official criterias, executive funtionning difficulties are often part of our lives.
Thanks for your highly valuable work you're offering us. You're one of the greats here over YT.
BUDDHA FX I have 6 disorders and all but one are not symptoms of ASD so I basically have ASD and Tourettes Syndrome.
Wow thank you Kati, i will be definitely discussing this with my therapist in my next appointment. I ❤ your mental help video's, keep up the great work 😁 Take care Mark.
Thank you so much for this video Kati, all of your videos always help me to deal with my depression and anxiety and I always feel horrible when I have to deal with this in specific but you made me hopefull that I'll be able to manage it with the proper tools and tips, hope you'll talk more about executive dysfunction in the future, greetings from Venezuela!
Thanks for this video; I appreciate your concise summary of executive function and some of the associated misbehaviors. My mother was diagnosed with fronto-temporal dementia at the age of 56, and even before being diagnosed her executive functions were greatly impaired. It's easy to see most of these categories of behavior were affected when I think back to her struggles to begin and follow through on even basic tasks. As a result of her illness, the rest of the family struggled with depression that led to impairment of each one of our executive functions for quite a long time. Even now, 10 years after her death, some of the first signs that I am slipping back towards depression is impairment of some of those 8 areas. I appreciate your behavioral task suggestions and will keep them in my toolbox to fend off falling back into that terrible place.
Thank you!
You are amazing.
Oh my god.... thank you so much for this. Never knew my situation had a name.
Hey Kati! Thank you for making this video! I myself struggle daily with most of the issues you described in this video. I was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome (which, as of the DSM V is now categorised as ASD) back around when I was in 5th grade, but I didn’t really get very much information about my diagnosis beyond the basics of certain aspects. I’m now 31 and have been trying to educate myself more and more recently about my condition. I’d say the most significant discovery I’ve made has been with regards to executive functions and ASD. Finding out there was a name to put to all of the seemingly unrelated issues I’ve faced all my life has been extremely empowering, as now I can finally find appropriate coping mechanisms and strategies (like those you’ve listed here). I will make sure to share this video with my loved ones! Thank you!
This video is excellent! I am TBI survivor and this 100% sums up and explains a lot thank you
Thank you for this video. I feel like my life makes a little more sense.
Greetings from Chihuahua, Mexico. I love your videos ❤️❤️, they are very useful. Thank you so much
This is Definitely what I have. Such a relief it finally has a name after more than 20 years
very interesting topic for me, i struggle with most of the executive functions, i'm grateful for the advice with what behaviors help. i would LOVE more information in another video. thank you so much, great video! 👍❤
Another amazing and helpful video. Thank You, Kati. As someone without a therapist I find Your videos to be the best for me right now. Yet I find it scarily familiar...
Set a timer for checking the schedule! What a great idea!
Thank you SO MUCH!!! I have dysthymia, run my own business, and executive dysfunction is something I've only recently learned about. This was a really concise and easy to digest video about it. I will share it widely with my peers and family.
Thank you so much for this Kati. I've struggled badly with this all my life, and now that I've started college and living on my own it's worse than ever. I've failed nine out of ten subjects this year (most of them with a zero) and I've been completely unable to keep my flat minimally tidy and clean at all. Also I haven't made even one friend in college and in the city I've moved to, so I've felt really lonely a this year (at least now I'm back home for the summer and some of my friends from here are going to move with me this September).
The worst thing is that everyone (specially my parents) seems to think I'm just a spoiled, lazy kid and that everything is my fault. Nobody seems to understand that I'm unable (at least right now) to get passing grades since I'm "intellectually gifted" (not a big fan of this term). I know the problem actually is that I have extremely low (like almost nonexistent) executive functioning skills, but the few times I've tried explaining it to some of my friends they didn't understand it or didn't believe me and thought I was just making excuses.
I'm also quite positive (like 99,999...% positive) I have ASD and ADHD, but the therapist I started seeing a month ago seems to be very skeptical about all of this, and I don't know what to do anymore. I don't think I'll be able to succeed in life if I don't get the help and understanding I need, but it seems like I'll have to wait for a really long time to get any of this. I try to stay hopeful, but it's increasingly hard.
I hope you can find a therapist or other professional to understands what you are going through (maybe look for an ADHD or ASD specialist).. and then you can work with your college to get the help you need to succeed :) xoxo
I have never felt so understood more than after watching this. ❤️
This is really helpful and you do a fantastic job of explaining things. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful!
This was so helpful especially the parts about working memory. As an adult I’ve found that my working memory has nearly completely deteriorated. I’ve had problems with organization since I was a kid and some of it I’ve overcome but parts of it I haven’t. The tips part really helped.
Thank you for this video. Gave me a deeper insight on this topic. Knew about half of the mentioned struggle in skills. I see it in my class with my little kids. For these kids it's either ADHD or trauma.
My husband struggles with this daily. I’m definitely going to have him start using some of these tips to help manage it.
Thank you Kati for this video it has help me understand this disorder. Please do more video on this topic. It was great topic to talk about.
So interesting, thanks a lot Kati I didnt know that trouble at all before!
I liked that you gave us some things we can try to help our executive dysfunction. Thanks for that. I hope you do some more research on this in the future and bring us more tips and more advice. Those of us who really struggle with this truly suffer.
Thank you. Im a mess and this just might have given me the answers and hope i needed bc i truly feel i cant function. Been recovering from tbi for a long time. Its nice to see im not alone with these issues.
You always look so beautiful and radiant! I can feel your good energy in every video 😊❤
This describes me so well
I had no idea what my problems were called. Thanks for breaking this down and giving those great suggestions. I think being depressed and avoidant after trauma and being on the Asperger's spectrum has made my dysfunction get more and more serious over the years.
I've been waiting for this video, thank you so much ❤️
I hope it was helpful :) xoxo
thank you kati 💜. this really explained what i've been dealing with for the past few months 😫 i cant even remember what my senior told me that i need to report to my boss, its so hard to concentrate, and its really disturbing for me at works. but thankyou now i understand it a little bit and i will follow how to make it better. Thank you so much 💜
Very helpful! This one's a keeper...
...now if I can only remember that I kept it... and where I put it...
I just got into university and I am overwhelmed by all that I will need to do, alongside managing my mental health. I feel like I have somewhere to start preparing from now, so thank you. x