6 skills NEW THERAPISTS must develop to BE EFFECTIVE
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- The 6 most important lessons you must learn to become a good therapist.
Timestamps:
0:47 - Get direct feedback
2:44 - Take on a case that scares you
4:52 - Own your ignorance
8:48 - You are not a savior
11:10 - Know your blind spots
13:54 - Start practicing good boundaries
17:02 - Get comfortable being uncomfortable challenge
18:17 - Comment of the week
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Thank you again for such a wonderful video!! This was extremely helpful and I feel much more clarity! I especially loved the piece about owning your ignorance! That is really all we can do as starters :) Also, I appreciate how quickly you put together such a high quality, content-packed video. Your support and guidance is very much appreciated!
Thanks so much for inspiring this video, Leah! Really really makes me happy to hear the idea of owning your ignorance resonated with you. It's something that took me a very long time to work through.
Thank you that help so much
Just got my Master’s degree in Clinical Psychology and the goal is to become a clinical psychologist. This type of content is really helpful and takes the edge off. The more I do the less qualified I feel to practice in this field. You mentioning the imposter syndrome was a light-bulb moment for me. Thank you.
hello! i am finishing my master’s degree in clinical psychology and psychotherapy this summer. how is your career going?🤗
0:47 - Get direct feedback
2:44 - Take on a case that scares you
4:52 - Own your ignorance
8:48 - You are not a savior
11:10 - Know your blind spots
13:54 - Start practicing good boundaries
17:02 - Get comfortable being uncomfortable challenge
18:17 - Comment of the week
what type of test do clinical psychologist mostly use which is different from other psychologist
@Javelin Melody Thank you for watching!
Thank you!!!
@@drali very naughty
Really I love this video am new psychologists and this help me so much
Such a great channel. I love the “you are not a savior” segment. Fantastic insight and beautiful delivery. Sincere gratitude! ♥️
Thank you so much for your supportive comment! It's something that took me A LONG time to learn and practice myself.
The Psych Show 😊✨
ya the channel was nice he was able to explain much better than my faculy
Omg thank you I needed this, been super insecure lately about been a therapist, I’m so close but I’m still scared
You got this! Being a therapist requires a lot of courage. You are giving people permission to speak the unspeakable. Be a good, ethical, compassionate human. That's the majority of the job. Everything else will get better with time and experience.
I started my internship last week and my very first client was suicidal 😳 my heart was pounding out of my chest. Once I snapped out of it I found the suicide assessment form and assessed them then i stepped out to call my supervisor (which I should’ve did first but it felt weird to just leave after them telling me that) I freaked out on the inside but it really did help me doing something that scared me. I’m still working with the client now and it’s gotten better.
Nice job! If you ever want more experience and training in it, I volunteered for a local crisis line and had a good experience!
Thank you that’s a great idea!!!
Are there any tıps to calm them😢?
The first time I ever saw a therapist, I went in with this hope of being fixed. What Is Wrong With Me??? I was a bit disappointed to hear that person tell me I'm pretty normal and there's nothing wrong with me (mentally). I did eventually find out I had a physical issue that contributed to making me feel off mentally (my body was busy slowly killing my thyroid off at that time, but I didn't know it yet).
I'm grateful the therapist I saw didn't have a savior complex and didn't waste their time and mine searching for a solution that didn't exist. Once I got my thyroid meds sorted, I was fine again (that took several years, but that's another story).
Great advice, Ali! I hope all would-be therapists take to heart that they're not meant to be saviors. They should give care to the best of their ability, and refer the patient to a more appropriate doctor if necessary, or just tell the patient there's nothing wrong with them psychologically if that's the case. This is something patients really need to understand too, though. You can't "fix" people, and patients shouldn't expect you to do this.
Thank you for taking the time to share your perspective. It's not one we usually get to hear. I definitely see therapy as a collaborative relationship where two people work together. One person doesn't "do" anything to the other. Neither does one person "fix" the other. Together, hopefully the therapist and client/patient can find a new way forward.
@@drali Any time! :)
@@xzonia1 you can take help from me
The Psych Show agree! People often think psychologists are mind readers. Psychologists are not psychics 😆 it’s a 50/50 two-way working relationship.
@@theawakenedheart8783 but there are mind readers too
This is great advice for any healthcare professional!
I totally didn't think of how this could be applicable to other healthcare professions!
Thank you so much for this video! I started my practicum for my masters in clinical mental health counseling and am suffering severe imposter syndrome. I am so excited to work with my clients yet so scared of letting them down, so your segment in “owning your own ignorance” helped me a lot. Much appreciated!
Thank you so much! I'm at the end of a Masters in clinical social work, and today I saw my first patient right after I saw this video. This helped me calm down before my appointment!
Congratulations on reaching this stage and beginning a whole new journey! Thank you for your willingness to help others dealing with some of the most difficult things in life 🙌🏽
I'm not a therapist but I still watched your videos because I can still apply these lessons in regular life
Happy to hear these are helpful outside of therapists!
Kindness, wisdom, mindfulness, deep listener, understanding, and compassion.
im 17 and want to be a therapist. so i listen to your videos. you are so helpful. i take notes :)
I’m still in my first year of grad school and it’s a big career change for me. your videos give me great reassurance that my anxiety of becoming a therapist is normal and that I can view these problems in positive developmental way. Thank you for this videos and all your other videos!
So glad I found your channel when I most need it! This is great, thanks for normalizing the process (and bumps) of becoming a therapist!
Thank you for this vid. I am currently in my master’s program for marriage and family therapy. These are definitely helpful tips to remember.
So happy this was helpful! Thanks for taking the time to comment. Best of luck to you in your studies!
Thank you, Dr. Ali. You gave me another insights.
Hi Dr. Mattu, thank you so much for sharing this. I've saved this video to watch since it came out and completely forgotten about it! Now that I've watched it, it was really helpful for me! Being a trainee clinical psychologist, and most of the times dealing with self-doubts about my capacity to be a therapist can be overwhelming but these advises are brilliant and not in a "directive" manner so as to overwhelms us even more. I'm genuinely grateful for stumbling upon your channel some long time ago :)
Thanks so much for your honesty, really helpful advice
This video was so helpful. Thank you for being so generous and authentic. Truly appreciated.
So ridiculously helpful, thank you!
I just found your channel and am definitely subscribing. For my grad school, there is just one last course to finish before beginning practicum. Professionally, I am changing employment from non-profit counselling to privately supervised work in psychometry and psychotherapy. This period of transition feels wobbly and the uncertainty can be daunting. So happy to see your content. Thank you.
OMG. I’m new in this field-and this video is EVERYTHING! You said so much of what I’ve been thinking! Thank you thank you thank you so much!!
Thank you, Thankyou
this video was extremely helpful. Beginning work as a therapist (amidst the pandemic) has proven to be quite challenging! The imposter syndrome definitely runs rampant at times but this insight has been extremely comforting. Working to be compassionate to my own blindspots, sticking to boundaries, and trusting myself. Thank you so much!
This was great! Thank you
all the tips are absolutely useful for ANY profession AND for outside professional life too. Thank you
Your voice and charisma together with the explanation 👌👏👏👏👏🙏
I just found you on TH-cam and I’m so happy I did!
Such an honest take on therapy .. thank you for being so up close and personal! Looking up to you Dr Ali ^_^
Thanks for your liveliness, enjoy seeing the videos and it's very helpful though I m new just to be a hypnotherapist.
Thanks for this video! Great tips!
I am a LPC and I really wish I came across your channel while I was working in my practicum. Everything you have said is so valuable and needed for me this present day. Especially boundaries! You are soooo down to earth and a breath of fresh air even on this video recording! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experiences!
Thank you
You are awesome! Today is my first providing trauma therapist session and this is so helpful.❤
Thank you for this video. It was very useful. I'm a new therapist. I'll definitely continue following up your channel.
U are the best - feeling better about first gig coming up
I’m not a therapist, but I’m about to enter a new job position that I’m nervous about. Thanks for making this video! I’ve also been watching your other content about social anxiety and I’m really glad I discovered your content
I’m currently pursuing my Master’s in Counselling Psychology and I’m set to start my practicum in May - this video was super helpful! Thank you so much! The imposter syndrome is so real right now haha
thank you for these videos! 🥰
Thanks
All these tips are so helpful when starting out! We love the work you do!
Thanks so much! Glad to hear this helped!
Love these videos! I'm hoping to do my PhD soon and these videos are so helpful - would you be able to do a video on overcoming Retroactive Jealousy? Feel like this is a topic not talked about enough and you could really do it justice!
Iam preparing for a client right now, i just moved the USA and everything is new, this video is all i could have needed now.
Doctor Ali, all the points that you have mentioned would apply to any field and not just psychiatry. Excellent tips!!
thank you so much for this! it was soo helpful! Just subscribed to your channel!
Thank you ❤
Very engaging, insightful, & honest. Thank you for posting!
Thank you for this. I have recently started working as a community mental health therapist. And I need all the tips I can get.
Excited for this one.
Hope you enjoy it!
Man you're awesome thank you for these videos :)
Oh Lord, that was so helpful! Thanks a lot!!
Happy to hear it helped!
Thank you. I have been in my practicum for over a year. Everyday you learn something new. I love the advise, thanks for this video!
Thanks for your comment! What’s the most import lesson you’ve learned so far, Ness?
The Psych Show hi :) I totally learn to tolerate the discomfort for growth. Another thing you mention is taking a case that scares you! I was nervous working with couples. After I tried I was totally okay with it. Also, one great lesson that thought, as you mentioned, is not working harder than the client. I came it wanting to rescue everyone but then realize I was getting burned out. I love how you mentioned “consult” that is something I indeed tell my clients because I do not want to do a disservice if I do not know the answer in that exact moment. I had made some mistake but it taught me to trust the process. Thank you please continue making videos! It is a great help for us!
well-said!
Started grad school last month and I’m getting assigned a client this week! Extremely nervous but also excited. Thank you for this video. 😊
Im applying to phd next year i hope to be in california or texas in 2023
A source told my class how we always have the choice to not see certain clients and only focus on the ones we're comfortable with. This may be an option while practicing, but such choices don't come along in life. So with the aim of growing + learning in career and life, I agree with exploring different people and not fixating on just a few types.
Hi Dr. Mattu, thank you for sharing this ! I am a doctoral student right now and start my clinical training shortly. These pearls of wisdom make the transition easier and are a good reminder that all clinicians can always improve and have to recognize their shortcomings. I love your videos!
Thanks so much for your comment! A supervisor of mine told me, “I’ve learned more in the 10 years after I graduated than I did in grad school.” If you enter this field, you will be a lifelong learner and will constantly be humbled by all that you don’t know. Good luck on your studies!
Hello Dr. Ali, I looked up videos this afternoon about effective counseling because I am a newbie and am feeling less than effective for my clients. Thank you for the information. I feel a bit better. Thank you again! : )
This channel is so awesome!! I’m newly graduated highschool student of class 21”
And psychology, cognitive behavioral therapy has been a very big interest for me.
I don’t know what you think but I have a new theory for what I call “time travel psychology” where the past, present and future you think about your highlights but also your lows and what necessarily leads to those lows.
You're awesome Dr. Ali! Thank you ... You can't imagine how much your videos are helping me. I'm so jealous of your work I love it. Where do you live in CA?
Thank you for your genuine and awesome advice!
It's 4th week of clinical training and I felt like a ball of anxiety, preoccupied with contemplation of how to response next or how the session should proceed. Your sharing is truly helpful, love all your videos!
Thanks so much for your kind words! Early on I would try to plan out all of my sessions too. Part of that is healthy preparation as you don't have much experience in this area. Part of that is anxiety since this is still a relatively new thing. Just something to watch out for is if your planning gets in the way of the emotions in the room, the person in front of you, and the here and now. I've found a therapist always make progress when we pay attention to what's happening to your patient *right now*.
Fairly new follower and didn't know you went to school in DC, I'm from there and living in California now, very cool!
Thanks for this! I'm in my 3rd week of grad school, and I will take all of these tips in mind!
Congratulations on starting your journey!
Awesome video, lots of good info.
Thank you! Glad you enjoyed it.
it feels like this is a job that u learn forever, there cant be any complacent
I am just at the right place at the right time...!!! Yayyy!!!
The GCBU challenge being to not be too much of a perfectionist the day before the exam I do not feel ready to take is a sign that I am doing the right thing by getting on youtube and chilling after too much studying
Thank you for the awesome video, as always
Great video. I’m feeling a bit less anxious about starting to see my first clients.
Am a MFT this video is so helpful! Thank you for this!
Hi Dr. Mattu! Big fan of your videos good sir. I'm wrapping up my B.A. in Psychology this year and will be moving on to a masters program in the following. I've spoken to two different psychology department chair professors as well as adjunct ones about my career goals and while they have shared great wisdom, I feel a bit of unease with how i'm going to proceed. Everyone keeps telling me "Just keep going forward to that PhD and if your passion is truly psychology, everything will fall into place". I can't help but see this statement as problematic. It seems like nobody even knows a PsyD exists because I want to stay as far away from research as possible and focus on personal application of the practice although some research is required I'm guessing. I want to be a Clinical Psychologist just like yourself but with with a Doctorate of Psychology degree. I'm getting worried about the costs at this rate as I stayed in undergraduate studies for an additional year after falling out of college for a while and ramped up an additional 25k debt because I'm attending a high-end private institution for undergrad studies (Probably a terrible idea) but I love the school. I'm wrapping up my bachelor's as I said and I'm already around 75k in the whole with financial assistance from this decision. I have no idea what a master's program is going to cost as it vary's significantly from place to place as well as obtaining that PhD/PsyD. Any advice on approaching the financial worries?
It's a very helpful video even if you're not a therapist. Almost all these points could be applied to a teacher for example. Or I bet a lot more professions. We all can benefit when we own our ignorance, acknowledge our blind spots, stop being a saviour or set boundaries, Thanks!
Wonderful to hear it can resonate with lots of different professions! Thank you for your feedback.
good boundaries
I need sooooo much help owning my ignorance. I feel very comfortable with my own thoughts and communication so it doesn't feel like ignorance. I'm guilty of presuming they know what serenity looks like, so my descriptions and communication falls of the wayside.
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Thanks so much Dr. Mattu! I'm in my second year of grad school for LADC and LPCC, entering my practicum this fall. This was super helpful!
how many years do most therapists stay in their professions and what are the possible branch off occupations? thanks stay cool!
I’m 13 wanting to be a therapist hehe
Hi there! I’m in the process of applying to a masters program in counselling psychology, however, I’m debating if I should go forward with it if accepted. I have panic disorder,, is it possible to be a good therapist with panic disorder? I fear having a panic attack during a session with a client. I’m also scared I won’t be able to complete my practicum if I am struggling with my panic attacks
Looking at the "table of contents", I'm actually surprised that you don't give advice on how to land your first job.
I don't know what it's like in the USA, but I know that here in Belgium, a lot of psychologists have issues to get a job.
I'll def work my way to that topic eventually. My next career oriented videos are going to focus on choosing and getting into a graduate program.
Hi Dr.Ali Mattu. I've been watching your videos for a long while. In one of your early videos you mentioned you struggled with a form of selective mute-ism in highschool (it has been long time since I've seen those old videos so please excuse me if this is incorrect). When I was first watching those videos I was an extremely socially anxious, lonely, and depressed teenager in highschool. Around that time I became interested in psychology so finding your videos became sort of match made in heaven.
Anyways, my depression got way worse. I went to therapy, but due to a lot of bad circumstances that particular practice I was unable to relate to any of the in-training therapists and hence ceased having therapy (I cycled through about 6 therapists in less than a year and it was very expensive). My depression got even worse.
Ok so that backstory was necessary to know for my question (at least that's what I keep telling myself). I stopped watching your videos and I began to really not enjoy the idea of therapy. This was mainly because whenever I would watch your videos or hear about other therapist I had extremely hard time relating to them. They seemed to have their life figured out or at least were able to talk and hold conversations with relative ease and they didn't seem depressed; all these being qualities I desperately wanted but could never achieve. So...
*How do you combat the repeatability issue between therapist and client? Should you show some kind of weakness to come off more relatable? What happens when a client can't relate to you for similar reasons that I presented?*
The likelihood of you responding to this is very low, but I'd simply like to thank you anyways.
GIOVANNI!!! Good to see you again. I remember you from the comments section a year or so ago.
I'm sorry to hear you've had a hard time with both depression as well as getting help for depression. 6 therapists in less than a year is a lot to go through (emotionally and financially).
Therapist and patient match is a very hard thing. It's important to trust your therapist, feel like they understand you and are listening to you, and also know that they have expertise in the problem you have. This makes me think I should probably make a video on this topic...
How do I deal with these types of issues? Well, I really really really try to understand my patients passions, interests, and motivations for being in treatment. Usually that helps a lot. I also am pretty similar with my patients, friends, and TH-cam community. What you see is largely what you get. That works for some people...and it also doesn't work for others. I've had patients not come back because they felt I was too casual. Or maybe they didn't like all the toys I had in my office...
But that's okay. I will never be the perfect fit for everyone. Similar to TH-cam, some people will like my mental health videos and others won't. Fortunately, there are other great channels to check out and other therapists out there as well (though it's much harder to access new therapists).
So what I recommend at this point is to consider group therapy, a support group, or perhaps a psychiatrist. I'm not sure where you live but NAMI (www.nami.org/) is a great place to find some of those resources. And there are MANY options to consider for depression treatment from a psychiatrist.
Great to see you here again! Thanks for taking the time to comment.
@@drali Thank you so much for your response. I'm surprised you remember.
Ps. My university provides psychological services for their admitted students. I've already registered for group therapy starting in February.
I read The Imperfect Therapist by Kottler and Blau and this is a great reminder. I'm applying to MSW and Clinical Mental Health Counseling programs, if anybody has advice for choosing one degree over the other in terms of feeling prepared for being a therapist, I'd love some TH-cam replies! ❤
Thanks for such a wonderful video!
I am considering studying psychology and was just wondering what the differences are between being a therapist or counseling or being a clinical psychologist?
I’m not in school for it at the moment. I found, based on my personal research, that it largely depends on your degree and the type of work you choose to go into.
How is it going now?
I was wondering do new therapist have to worry about finding clients? If they dont have their own independent practice but work for an agency, does the agency provide their clients for them?
Thanks for this video! Watching this before seeing my first client today for practicum in Mental Health Counseling program
september 2022
Oh my god, I have a pen stand I made that looks exactly like that Captain America shield you have :D
I was wondering what are your thoughts on people who have worked through their mental health and traumatic past, would they make good therapists or would they get traumatized from dealing with other people experiences?
Well you’re talking to someone who did just that. Work through your own stuff, know your blind spots, and you got this.
Thanks for the response, I appreciate it!
This is so helpful. I am in the thick of my program and starting practicum while also work with the autism community and am definitely feeling the self doubt and anxiety creeping up.
How do we know if we’re ready to be a therapist? I just graduated with a masters in social work and I haven’t had much experience in the field. my concentration was mental health and substance abuse. I was just offered a therapist position in a private practice setting with supervision from an MSW. I don’t feel ready but idk if it’s a lack of skills or lack of confidence.
How much time does it get usually to get financially safe as a therapist?
I’m starting to think that autism-spectrum disorder can be misdiagnosed with personality disorders, like schizoid and avoidant disorder. How would I know if my personality disorder puts me on the autism spectrum? Are they often mistaken for one another? And what is the rate of comorbidity between these conditions?
Dr. Ali, please do a video on why there is an apparent increase in Autism Diagnosis. Imo, it's because previously, Autism was only diagnosed in children, but not applied to adults. Now, the mental health professionals are realizing that children with Autism have parents with Autism and the number of diagnoses are on adults. I was diagnosed at 48 and through my research found that Gen X adults were not diagnosed because the diagnosis was not used until 1992, and even then, only on "extreme" cases in children. Please do an informative video on this topic, or even a short series to explain it, and if there could be misdiagnoses and how Autism can be misdiagnosed. Pretty please :)
Are psychologists bound by the hypocratic oath and do you discuss patients with other Dr’s
You should do "advice for new Supervisor"
Oh I have so much material for that! I taught a semester on supervision. Really found “Clinical Supervision: A Competency-Based Approach” to be a helpful starting place.
You seem to be brilliant, can i receive training under you?..
Hey! I'm about halfway through my internship year and my loans are...daunting. I know I'm going to have to start making payments soon. Do you have any advice for early-career psychologists for paying off student loans? Apart from getting a job?
Good question! Big picture don’t ignore the loans. Talk to your financing company. You always have the option to defer payments while moving from internship to post-doc to licensed psychologist (though interest will increase). Some great info is available here: www.apa.org/apags/resources/affording-repaying.
Sir, am pursuing my bachelor's in Psy in India. Many a time I really feel inferior to people who have had better opportunities{by sheer hard work and effort they put in} to go and pursue the same abroad. How do I bridge the gap between the education and guidance I have received than to what the real world demands; that actually taught abroad... practicality unlike ours that's more theoretical and how-t-achieve-good-grades-oriented!!!
I'd get some hands on experiences working with people who are doing what you want to do. Volunteer with them, get a position, anything that gets you real experience.
@@drali Okay Sir.
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