7 Signs He's Not Serious About You | Relationship Advice by Mat Boggs
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Thanks so so much dear I have learnt alot from your channel. God bless you 🙏
My brother told me this. And I take it to heart. "If he's into you he'll make time for you."
Yh
That's a good brother.
Very very good brother!!!! Congratulations!!!!😊
Ummm yes and no. The time He gives...is he on his phone the whole time...playing video games and not speaking to you? Time is time but how you spend it is how you tell if he loves you.
@@eileen9992the person said the same thing you are saying… making time for the person you care about ….
My beloved late husband and I met after being set up by a friend. He said he took one look at me and before he’d even said hello, told himself silently “I’m going to marry that girl”. On our second date he arrived with 2 dozen red roses. 2 months later we moved in together. It was just like 2 comets streaking across the sky. In addition to being the worlds sweetest, most wonderful man who put me before anything else, it didn’t hurt that he was 6’4” and DDG. But that was beside the point. For 38 years he was the best reason to open my eyes every day. But fast moving Parkinson’s disease took him; I only had him on hospice for 6 days. His last words to me were “Do you have any idea how much I love you?”
I doubt there’ll ever be another love in my life but after what I was privileged to have I can’t complain.
sweet jesus, is the most beautiful Heartbreaking Story ... im glad you both had the opportunity to experience this, Blessings like this are so rare...
Ok .....that made me cry. You are a lucky woman to have had that man❤
You are so lucky....knowing that i will never have something like that on my life is so sad . ..😢😢😢
Awwwww
This is a common story I hear from people in long, happy marriages: The man knew right away the moment the couple met. I was there the night a friend of mine met her husband. I could tell he was smitten with her right away. He told the buddy he was with that night “I’m going to marry that girl.” They’re still together and that was 20 years ago.
1. Months go by and nothing changes
2. Each time this person has free time, you are never in their plans/never a priority
3. After every argument this person disappears for unknown amount of time
4. Doesn’t spend money on you/ gift you something
5. Treats you like an option/ being wishy-washy
You put it so well !!
Great conclusion, thanks! 😊👍🏼
I would like to add: "always finding excuses instead of searching for solutions" and "still focused on his/her ex"
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thank yjo
@Ruesss08,this is the situation am in right now ,a long distance relationship ,am a woman ,and it is going two and a half months now and nothing seems to be going forward,I think am gonna bow out soon,though
I feel it in my bones when a man isn’t that into me. Things just don’t add up: excuses, etc. My mother always told me that a man who is interested in you will climb a mountain to see you. If he isn’t interested, he will avoid that mountain.
My uncle would walk from one town to the next to see my aunt when they were dating in the 60s. It would take him 3 hours there...to walk...to see her and 3 hours back....they have been married for 50+ years
Same as me,you have given me courage to stand firm on what I believe
@@eileen9992Wow
Those were the days when love reings
I just read something that said, "if you get bit by a snake don't chase after it and figure out why. Walk away and get the poison out." Don't waste time on something or someone that isn't worth your time.
I have always said this about men: Actions speak louder words.
You are right dear❤❤❤❤❤
When you are down and that man refuses to pick you up and he refuses to reach out his hand to give you assistance. That's a red flag
My dad told me not to.write boys letters and not to chase boys the new generation of men do not know how.to.get.a.lady they.want.the.lady to.chase them
My dad said to me during my teens (1970s) "never chase a man. It's a huge turn off".
It's very true thanks Dad for that piece of advise
V.True
True !!! My Mom told me the same line.❤
When someone shows you who they are.....BELIEVE THEM! Getting the lesson.....Thanks Matt!! ❤️❤️
Just watch out for the liars and narcissists😅
Definitely believe them, especially these dayz..!!
P hi
Oddly, many people misphrase this as "whenever somebody tells you who they are, believe them" 😆
So, after spending years on dating apps, I found men in their 30's just want to have fun, casual because they think that they're young still, and has a lot of time to think about in serious relationship.
Now, men in their 40's they're just got out divorced, and they still feels guilty towards their kid(s) so they would prioritize the kid rather pursue a serious relationship.
And lastly, men in their 50's, they just got out of decades of relationship, divorced, kids are all grown up, empty nester, and now they're saying it's Me Time, so they would live they're life like they're in their 20's and 30's, casual sex, drinking like in college, staying up all night at the bar, hitting up with women left and right, which they never had the experience because they married early and forced to be serious about life and be a provider.
So, it's like looking for a unicorn nowadays. Men would always not serious about women and would always not into them unless they are doing it for their own benefits. And not because of LOVE.
I agree with what you say, I’m in my mid forties and I have had and am currently having the exact same experience you describe. I’m quite disappointed.
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I don't want to be too pessimistic, I wonder what men think about women.
Totally agree, unfortunately
Wow, it's like it's a losing battle no matter what age you are...😢
I think men are only serious in the moment they think about creating a family, in this case they commit. Doesn't mean they don't cheat. But they commit to a relationship. Other than that, I think most men prefer to be free as a bird and just enjoy life and sex with many different women. They don't want a commited relationship. I think we have to accept it for what it is.
1. He is slow to text or call you back. ✔ (wasn't at first, but is now)
2. He is only interested in meeting up if sex is involved. ❌
3. He doesn't give you prime time in his calendar. ✔
4. He dangles commitment but never follows through. ❌
5. He downplays important moments because he's playing Mr. Cool. I'm not Mr Romantic etc. ✔
6. He's only around when its convenient. ❌
7. He is extremely uncomfortable when talking about his feelings. ❌
I don't know what to think about my relationship. I'm not happy clearly. He was perfect at start. But its like now that he has me, there's no more effort. I love him but I know from experience sometimes we love and still have to let them go. But at my age it's not easy to find someone. That's the hard part.
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You sound like me. So painful to let go
@@zolabison2744 it truly is 😭
I would actually say domt let him go but instead talk to him about this. Tell him how u feel. If he talks to you about feelings then its good u can talk to him how u feel about him not giving u prime time etc
@shehnazjabeen6513 since I first commented, we have broken up. I have learned that I was used and he's been talking to women on dating sites the entire time. I did have a talk with him and he said his feelings just faded away. Well duh dumbass. When you don't put an effort in, don't give her any attention or time, what would you expect? Its not always unicorns, and fairy dust and butterflies. 7 yrs and I don't know how much of that time I was played. I do believe he had feelings and good intentions at the start. BUT he stole years from me and that's not right. He's a player. And too old to be playing games. Or just don't get in relationships if you want to play games. Play games. But with the right people.
I had him. He is everything described in this video, and I wasted 2 years of my life that I will never get back. But as soon as my eyes opened, I was out, and I ain't looking back.
Happened to me too and countless other ladies. They are manipulators and only feel you just enough to get what THEY want. I'm glad to hear that you got out. You deserve way better.
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Wasted my whole 4 years😢😅
thank you , just6 spent 7 months , I put in 79 percent and he put in a little 21 percent , thank God I left that maid service ,
How could I be freaking blind not to see. He shows not one, not two but a few of this signs. Thank you. I have been rationalizing his actions, giving excuses. I’m done.
Been on few relationships before and I always beg for bare minimum. But now, someone came and I'm so happy because he value me. Everything I beg before to guys, he is giving it all even when I'm not saying it. So girls, value your self. Don't be afraid to start again. Who knows that ghosting or breakup really did saved you ❤️
May God help me with such a person like yours. Blessings
Hands up if you've ever come back to this video just to rewatch that section where Mat imitates guys who claim they're "not good at remembering things like that"...
Absolute comedy gold!
Indicators are 1) when just doesn't care to get to know much about me 2) He starts acting shady & phony 3) he starts saying certain lines like " I just need some space or can we just be friends. " Things of that nature...!! I really love this video it makes perfect sense..!! I'm single but I could really use this information if I need it.
Thanks alot..🙂🙂
I needed this video this week, so thank you! All of your videos are clear and easy to understand. I find in my dating experience that if a man that normally texts back frequently and quickly but starts to take longer and has a change in energy, that may be a tell tale sign (among others) that he's not that interested! Watch his actions and patterns ladies, save yourself the heartbreak!!!
Wow the guy I just stopped seeing in February was giving me all seven signs
Your intuition knew before you even realized
Same. All 7. 😢
hi my name is Brenda too and I dated 7 months and I became his maid , ugggggggggggggggggg I finally saw the flashing blue lights
100% truth! I believe actions speak volumes in relationships.
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You are right❤❤❤❤❤❤
Actions speak volumes
The big one: He doesn’t acknowledge you on social media.. A guy who is really into you will scream from the mountain tops “I’m with HER!” All his friends and family know about you. They might even wish he’d shut up already about you. He makes it clear you’re the woman in his life on social media. If this isn’t happening, you should consider yourself still single.
So, were people's love b4 social media fake ? 😮
Not everyone in this world is into social media.. if they like you, you will know it from their actions . Likes and comments from Social media aren't the ultimate. grow up kiddo..
Forgetting my birthday is a deal breaker! Anytime I allowed this one get a pass its always led to a disaster and more regrets so now forget my birthday I forget him.
My boyfriend forgot my birthday twice. He said he put it in his Google calendar but when he got a new phone it didn't transfer over. Then one month later on the same day he said he got his Google reminder. I'm thinking if I was important to him he wouldn't need a Google reminder, he would remember my birthday on his own. What do you think? But I feel childish breaking up with him because he forgot my birthday. I told him birthdays were very important to me. For his 50th birthday, I gave him a special party and we celebrated together. For my 50th, I got nothing. He couldn't even remember my special day. He tried to tell me he never remembers birthdays, not even his own son's. I'm confused because I have feelings for him but I don't want to live the rest of my life with someone who doesn't remember my birthday. What should I do? Or am I being selfish?
The guy I was head over heels about forgot my birthday for 4 years straight, AND my birthday is on a holiday! He also only wants to meet up when we are alone. He cancels when we have plans to meet in public. I’m not in his prime time either. Matt is totally correct.
@@dragonfish888dump him now sis. That chance give it to someone who deserves it
Wanting to be remembered and acknowledged by your beloved **on your birthday** is not being selfish. @@eileentomchick3721
@@eileentomchick3721you are not being selfish,if a man truly loves you and values you he wont forget your birthday. And the fact he got you nothing says it all.
Hi Mat. I was dating guy for 17 months. First year I was waiting for him to retire, so we could realy start seeing each other more often, getting to know one another better. Well, he liked to do things together by saying...we can do this....we could go there...., but never did. So I realized, he is not realy serious about what he was saying and we started growing apart. Now I am in a new relationship, which is just oposit. The guy is a man of his word. Everything is going well, and only time will tell. Thank you for your great advises. You are the best😊
Mat, thank you so much for all the content you put out. This video is fantastic, and I am extremely grateful for this specific video. This was timely, and so well put together. I appreciate what you do and am happy to share this with other ladies. ❤
Matt as always giving courage and wisdom to do the right and protect us from pain but relieved for the good one. 🙏🏽 🌷 💫 ❤
I would say I found the true meaning of a booty call recently, when a guy I thought was just being careful would message me, tell me he misses me thinking of me, tell me he wants to spend time with me, then go silent for three days, then video call me and ask if I’m up for a visit 😢💔
But now after watching this, I can see I was more invested in him, then he was with me
I absolutely love how you speak about long distance relationships thank you ❤
Just in right time when i need to hear this. It helps me move forward easily
That story about the Valentine’s Day surprise is so so beautiful and romantic Mat.
Good information to know Matt. Thank you for sharing this information!!
Thank you Matt ,because of this video I'm willing to give my heart a chance to love someone who deserves it. I'm meeting him half way .
Thanks Mat, yep they're all true and I've had to learn most of them the hard way. I appreciate you so much, you're awesome and you crack me up lol. Thank you for helping us!
This is one of the best videos that I have watched as it has made some sense of what went wrong in past relationships
Tempo and Timing as an indicator. I like it! Silent Movie Test--also amazing!
Great video!! Exactly what I needed. Words are CHEAP!
Thank you Mat ❤this video come up just in right time for me ❤
Thank you for these advices and tips Sir 🙂 it helps alot
I like to establish a friendship first and really get to know who he really is.
Once we pass that point, however, I won’t settle for half in half out .
Thank you for this advice ❤ your videos really help me
#7 JUST GAVE ME ALL THE CONFIRMATION I NEEDED!!!! #DEAD ON THANK Y🙏🏾U.
Hi Mat, thank you for sharing, you are the best! 😉
Woow you are the best
Have learnt alot from today's advice
Thanks alot
You're absolutely right and true about this.
Just had 18 months of my time wasted. Pretty obvious when they "forget" your birthday and downplay it that they dont really bother with gifts or celebrations. Yup they would for the lady they really want. Always observe their actions and listen to your gut instincts. If it looks like a rat, it is a rat. Im on my own now but its better than being forgotten about and they expect you to be available to only them and fuss over them. Thanks Matt, this was a very helpful video. Love your channel. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing this video 👍
1) When you both have time off work and he asks you when you're together the week prior about your schedule but doesn't then call you to plan anything. That's an indicator he wants you to do all the work.
2) When he tells you "I don't think we work together well," then a week later calls you last minute to meet him and his friends somewhere 45 minutes away from your home.
3) When he straight up calls himself a confirmed bachelor who has nothing against marriage but has never thought about it for himself.
The first one. I have been trying to put words to what I was noticing for months, thank you!
So true.
Excellent advice! Showing to my daughter who just broke up but beinga teen, really didn’t know why she felt rotten with him as it was her first real boyfriend. This will help give her the language and that her instincts were correct. The boy hit 6 off these on your list on high school level not adult dating. Your list applies to all levels. 😂 Thank you!
Such a great video and so true!!
Thank you matt for your Amazing advices❤️❤️❤️✨✨
Another BRILLIANT VIDEO Mat!!! Thank you and much love to the whole fam.!
All off these signs are right on thank you so much I will take them to heart and let him go
Thank you so much for this video!
Thank you for this information that lead us to be hurt in the future, very helpful.
They have a lot of female “friends” & still need validation from them. You are not “enough”. This was very helpful. Thank you!
Thank you mat.
This really helps
Thank you Mat Boggs, your video opened my eyes about a relationship I have been in where I thought the guy loved me so dearly but with time I have seen weird questions full of ifs and then ending up at the level of my parents don't approve interracial marriage and I am so sorry for causing you pain. I understand that if he was so serious that he would go out of his way and showcase me to his family to get them convinced with me with the purpose for them to know me and I to know them. Your video opened my eyes to let go of him and not to keep hope that one day he will come back to me and say I still love you, let me introduce you to my parents or my parents approve of you. After watching your video I felt relieved from the heartbreak I was going through and now I can let go of him, making room for the right person in the future.
Actions speak for them, no words needed.
Love this! Great advice and spot ON!
Awww the story times of him dating his wife are always top tier, i love that for them... and the story was soo cute 🥲😍
I needed this thank you.
Thank you for sharing that beautiful heart warming love story!!! 😍😍😍
How are you doing?
I love when you mention the slow burn. I prefer that route.
Thank u this was very informative
Mat, I just started listening to you “few wks” ago & I have to give it to you, Bro’, you’re EXCELLENT at educating ppl on love relationships as take me for example, I’m turning 59 & have had v few bf’s & feel almost like a “virgin”...Hilarious but true! And listening to you is really getting me “game-face-ready” to get out into the world to meet my Soulmate...I feel as if I’m coming into a personal power that I’ve only for decades envisioned I’d achieve...BTW your stories of you & your beautiful Wife are so truly touching that they actually make me feel that I too am worthy of all that w/my Guy...Wow, if we could just get our “potential prospects” to listen to you too then we’d save a lot of time getting to the finish line👌Everyone needs a Mat in their pocket...& Thanks for the gift 🎁
God bless you've really been an eye opener for me since I started listening to you
Thank you so much you are right on everything you Said and it's time for me to let go .I am hurting I waited all that time but it will get better
This is so good Mat! Thank uou❤
You're such a great inspiration for me mat
Respect ❤❤❤
I had been on 1 date with a guy and prior to our second date he told me I would get “bonus points” if I don’t overdress him like the first date. He said he felt insecure because I looked better than him… I was taken aback, I definitely don’t want to be dating an insecure guy. I broke it off before the second date 😅
Edit: We met on a dating app and all my pictures are of me looking nicely dressed (he knew what he was signing up for 😂 take me as I am or not at all), I am into vintage and elegant fashion and always want to dress how I want to be addressed. There’s absolutely no shame in that, I am confident so that may have intimidated him but his loss. I know the right man for me will embrace and be happy for my sense of style ❤
I wish I know this before now, but it's not yet too late. Really learnt from these
🎉thank u so much for that advice
My measure of the intent,is whether he introduces you to family and friends, pays attention to your likes and dislikes,compatible interests.
And shows acts of affection.
Thank God I had to listen to this advice.
Thank you for the video Mat. These sings are extremely correct. I would prefer to watch this video before the relationships with my ex. Everything was ok and after went to this behaviour you described.
❤❤your advice is amazing
Well explained and understood…
Sir you and your wife are very nice people. Stay blessed, healthy and happy together ✨
This was amazing! 💙
I'm from jamaica, and i love your contents.
Matt Wow you are a lot like me! You did a awesome job for initiating that wonderful valentine's date!! Im always the one that thinks this way.
Thank you for helping me see all the possible
My ex of 4 is prime example.. right from the start, he hid me away, never took me out, he never liked talking about feelings, never celebrated small things with me.. just took.. sad to see after 4 years, he was never serious about me 😢
Had off /on with same type of guy. Decided life is too short and moved on
I'm really sorry about everything❤❤❤❤
@@ksrefsorry for everything❤❤
If a man tells you " I am not looking for anything serious : BELIEVE HIM! I am a Black woman out her dating at 57 met a nice White guy , 64. And right from the jump he told me that he was not looking for anything serious. So OK I thought I would "one and done" him for sex (which I did/very disappointed in that too). So immediately told him that I met someone else and I would have to cease all contact with him. He was just using me for companionship and wonderful dates with a fine Black sister. Experience has taught me this folks: NEVER LET A MAN TELL YOU TWICE THAT HE DOES NOT WANT YOU!!!!!!!!!
the valentines day story is TOO CUTE OH MY GOSH
Thank you Matt ❤
Good information
You are the man. You speak the truth so simply when you say men do things that are important to them. Your wife is the luckiest woman in the world.
Yup all the signs resonate for me with my situation....
Ditto- I let him go - he didn’t elevate me. Took days to answer text- actions did not speak louder than words- check please!
This man is so wise God bless you 🙏
Thank you for your advice. I am in a very similar situation, and I need to figure out if he is actually interested in me.
Thanks mat I think definately the last one not talking about his feelings for cure ❤️😊
Thank you have opening my eyes it Hurts really bad I have been waiting for this man for almost Three years and I am still waiting for him I really wanted to believe that he Loved me I want to believe what a tool I must be
Spent 2 years with a man who already had a girlfriend at home. He claimed that he was single all the way through. His lies just grew and grew
Sorry for everything❤❤
some times,God allows us to meet some bad people in our life,so that when we find the good once,we will know how to value them ❤❤
That's so disappointing isn't it. I was the fill-in while he found who he really wanted. So dangles the carrot, all a crock. It's not a good feeling being played. I asked myself, what was real, what was phoney this whole time? Then that's a waste of time. I need to practice ... Just let them go! Their loss. Not mine. 😊
@@MichaelBrown-gf4owabsolutely!! Always a lesson. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. God has all this planned out for every single one of us. God bless ❤🙏
I experwnced it now 😢
Thanks Matt you have answered the question that was on my mind I think I'm just going to block them I see I am wasting my time thanks again😊
You are the best Thank you.
You did all the right things! I haven’t had a proper date in 15 years 😢
Sorry girl 😭🫂
You have incredible videos... But please could you make a video about the topic :' why he engaged with you till 2 months of knowing each other but now after 1 and half year he is kinda pushing it far?' thank you 😍❤️
That's a beautiful Valentines day surprise 🙂
Thank you so much😢
Thanks brother..