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My beloved late husband and I met after being set up by a friend. He said he took one look at me and before he’d even said hello, told himself silently “I’m going to marry that girl”. On our second date he arrived with 2 dozen red roses. 2 months later we moved in together. It was just like 2 comets streaking across the sky. In addition to being the worlds sweetest, most wonderful man who put me before anything else, it didn’t hurt that he was 6’4” and DDG. But that was beside the point. For 38 years he was the best reason to open my eyes every day. But fast moving Parkinson’s disease took him; I only had him on hospice for 6 days. His last words to me were “Do you have any idea how much I love you?” I doubt there’ll ever be another love in my life but after what I was privileged to have I can’t complain.
This is a common story I hear from people in long, happy marriages: The man knew right away the moment the couple met. I was there the night a friend of mine met her husband. I could tell he was smitten with her right away. He told the buddy he was with that night “I’m going to marry that girl.” They’re still together and that was 20 years ago.
I feel it in my bones when a man isn’t that into me. Things just don’t add up: excuses, etc. My mother always told me that a man who is interested in you will climb a mountain to see you. If he isn’t interested, he will avoid that mountain.
My uncle would walk from one town to the next to see my aunt when they were dating in the 60s. It would take him 3 hours there...to walk...to see her and 3 hours back....they have been married for 50+ years
I just read something that said, "if you get bit by a snake don't chase after it and figure out why. Walk away and get the poison out." Don't waste time on something or someone that isn't worth your time.
My dad told me not to.write boys letters and not to chase boys the new generation of men do not know how.to.get.a.lady they.want.the.lady to.chase them
I had him. He is everything described in this video, and I wasted 2 years of my life that I will never get back. But as soon as my eyes opened, I was out, and I ain't looking back.
Happened to me too and countless other ladies. They are manipulators and only feel you just enough to get what THEY want. I'm glad to hear that you got out. You deserve way better.
Been on few relationships before and I always beg for bare minimum. But now, someone came and I'm so happy because he value me. Everything I beg before to guys, he is giving it all even when I'm not saying it. So girls, value your self. Don't be afraid to start again. Who knows that ghosting or breakup really did saved you ❤️
I like to establish a friendship first and really get to know who he really is. Once we pass that point, however, I won’t settle for half in half out .
How could I be freaking blind not to see. He shows not one, not two but a few of this signs. Thank you. I have been rationalizing his actions, giving excuses. I’m done.
So, after spending years on dating apps, I found men in their 30's just want to have fun, casual because they think that they're young still, and has a lot of time to think about in serious relationship. Now, men in their 40's they're just got out divorced, and they still feels guilty towards their kid(s) so they would prioritize the kid rather pursue a serious relationship. And lastly, men in their 50's, they just got out of decades of relationship, divorced, kids are all grown up, empty nester, and now they're saying it's Me Time, so they would live they're life like they're in their 20's and 30's, casual sex, drinking like in college, staying up all night at the bar, hitting up with women left and right, which they never had the experience because they married early and forced to be serious about life and be a provider. So, it's like looking for a unicorn nowadays. Men would always not serious about women and would always not into them unless they are doing it for their own benefits. And not because of LOVE.
I agree with what you say, I’m in my mid forties and I have had and am currently having the exact same experience you describe. I’m quite disappointed.
I think men are only serious in the moment they think about creating a family, in this case they commit. Doesn't mean they don't cheat. But they commit to a relationship. Other than that, I think most men prefer to be free as a bird and just enjoy life and sex with many different women. They don't want a commited relationship. I think we have to accept it for what it is.
Hands up if you've ever come back to this video just to rewatch that section where Mat imitates guys who claim they're "not good at remembering things like that"... Absolute comedy gold!
I needed this video this week, so thank you! All of your videos are clear and easy to understand. I find in my dating experience that if a man that normally texts back frequently and quickly but starts to take longer and has a change in energy, that may be a tell tale sign (among others) that he's not that interested! Watch his actions and patterns ladies, save yourself the heartbreak!!!
Hi Mat. I was dating guy for 17 months. First year I was waiting for him to retire, so we could realy start seeing each other more often, getting to know one another better. Well, he liked to do things together by saying...we can do this....we could go there...., but never did. So I realized, he is not realy serious about what he was saying and we started growing apart. Now I am in a new relationship, which is just oposit. The guy is a man of his word. Everything is going well, and only time will tell. Thank you for your great advises. You are the best😊
1. He is slow to text or call you back. ✔ (wasn't at first, but is now) 2. He is only interested in meeting up if sex is involved. ❌ 3. He doesn't give you prime time in his calendar. ✔ 4. He dangles commitment but never follows through. ❌ 5. He downplays important moments because he's playing Mr. Cool. I'm not Mr Romantic etc. ✔ 6. He's only around when its convenient. ❌ 7. He is extremely uncomfortable when talking about his feelings. ❌ I don't know what to think about my relationship. I'm not happy clearly. He was perfect at start. But its like now that he has me, there's no more effort. I love him but I know from experience sometimes we love and still have to let them go. But at my age it's not easy to find someone. That's the hard part.
I would actually say domt let him go but instead talk to him about this. Tell him how u feel. If he talks to you about feelings then its good u can talk to him how u feel about him not giving u prime time etc
@shehnazjabeen6513 since I first commented, we have broken up. I have learned that I was used and he's been talking to women on dating sites the entire time. I did have a talk with him and he said his feelings just faded away. Well duh dumbass. When you don't put an effort in, don't give her any attention or time, what would you expect? Its not always unicorns, and fairy dust and butterflies. 7 yrs and I don't know how much of that time I was played. I do believe he had feelings and good intentions at the start. BUT he stole years from me and that's not right. He's a player. And too old to be playing games. Or just don't get in relationships if you want to play games. Play games. But with the right people.
The big one: He doesn’t acknowledge you on social media.. A guy who is really into you will scream from the mountain tops “I’m with HER!” All his friends and family know about you. They might even wish he’d shut up already about you. He makes it clear you’re the woman in his life on social media. If this isn’t happening, you should consider yourself still single.
So, were people's love b4 social media fake ? 😮 Not everyone in this world is into social media.. if they like you, you will know it from their actions . Likes and comments from Social media aren't the ultimate. grow up kiddo..
Mine wasn't on social media. But the result was still the same. Never met his family or friends, though he spent a ton of time talking my ears off about them. When I asked about meeting, he'd change the subject. Complete tool.
I would say I found the true meaning of a booty call recently, when a guy I thought was just being careful would message me, tell me he misses me thinking of me, tell me he wants to spend time with me, then go silent for three days, then video call me and ask if I’m up for a visit 😢💔 But now after watching this, I can see I was more invested in him, then he was with me
Forgetting my birthday is a deal breaker! Anytime I allowed this one get a pass its always led to a disaster and more regrets so now forget my birthday I forget him.
My boyfriend forgot my birthday twice. He said he put it in his Google calendar but when he got a new phone it didn't transfer over. Then one month later on the same day he said he got his Google reminder. I'm thinking if I was important to him he wouldn't need a Google reminder, he would remember my birthday on his own. What do you think? But I feel childish breaking up with him because he forgot my birthday. I told him birthdays were very important to me. For his 50th birthday, I gave him a special party and we celebrated together. For my 50th, I got nothing. He couldn't even remember my special day. He tried to tell me he never remembers birthdays, not even his own son's. I'm confused because I have feelings for him but I don't want to live the rest of my life with someone who doesn't remember my birthday. What should I do? Or am I being selfish?
The guy I was head over heels about forgot my birthday for 4 years straight, AND my birthday is on a holiday! He also only wants to meet up when we are alone. He cancels when we have plans to meet in public. I’m not in his prime time either. Matt is totally correct.
@@eileentomchick3721you are not being selfish,if a man truly loves you and values you he wont forget your birthday. And the fact he got you nothing says it all.
My ex of 4 is prime example.. right from the start, he hid me away, never took me out, he never liked talking about feelings, never celebrated small things with me.. just took.. sad to see after 4 years, he was never serious about me 😢
Indicators are 1) when just doesn't care to get to know much about me 2) He starts acting shady & phony 3) he starts saying certain lines like " I just need some space or can we just be friends. " Things of that nature...!! I really love this video it makes perfect sense..!! I'm single but I could really use this information if I need it. Thanks alot..🙂🙂
Just had 18 months of my time wasted. Pretty obvious when they "forget" your birthday and downplay it that they dont really bother with gifts or celebrations. Yup they would for the lady they really want. Always observe their actions and listen to your gut instincts. If it looks like a rat, it is a rat. Im on my own now but its better than being forgotten about and they expect you to be available to only them and fuss over them. Thanks Matt, this was a very helpful video. Love your channel. ❤
That's so disappointing isn't it. I was the fill-in while he found who he really wanted. So dangles the carrot, all a crock. It's not a good feeling being played. I asked myself, what was real, what was phoney this whole time? Then that's a waste of time. I need to practice ... Just let them go! Their loss. Not mine. 😊
@@MichaelBrown-gf4owabsolutely!! Always a lesson. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. God has all this planned out for every single one of us. God bless ❤🙏
This is a big one for me, for 4 years now. I know deep down in my heart I am not enough for him. On top of this he makes me feel so worthless and calls me horrible names if we have an argument. I can’t even sit down with this man and have a conversation as 2 adults and just talk about it.😢
Mat, thank you so much for all the content you put out. This video is fantastic, and I am extremely grateful for this specific video. This was timely, and so well put together. I appreciate what you do and am happy to share this with other ladies. ❤
1) When you both have time off work and he asks you when you're together the week prior about your schedule but doesn't then call you to plan anything. That's an indicator he wants you to do all the work. 2) When he tells you "I don't think we work together well," then a week later calls you last minute to meet him and his friends somewhere 45 minutes away from your home. 3) When he straight up calls himself a confirmed bachelor who has nothing against marriage but has never thought about it for himself.
Also when he makes plans to spend time with you he makes excuses the day prior why he cant make it or at the last min and pushes for another day. Red flag.
Excellent advice! Showing to my daughter who just broke up but beinga teen, really didn’t know why she felt rotten with him as it was her first real boyfriend. This will help give her the language and that her instincts were correct. The boy hit 6 off these on your list on high school level not adult dating. Your list applies to all levels. 😂 Thank you!
I had been on 1 date with a guy and prior to our second date he told me I would get “bonus points” if I don’t overdress him like the first date. He said he felt insecure because I looked better than him… I was taken aback, I definitely don’t want to be dating an insecure guy. I broke it off before the second date 😅 Edit: We met on a dating app and all my pictures are of me looking nicely dressed (he knew what he was signing up for 😂 take me as I am or not at all), I am into vintage and elegant fashion and always want to dress how I want to be addressed. There’s absolutely no shame in that, I am confident so that may have intimidated him but his loss. I know the right man for me will embrace and be happy for my sense of style ❤
Mat, I just started listening to you “few wks” ago & I have to give it to you, Bro’, you’re EXCELLENT at educating ppl on love relationships as take me for example, I’m turning 59 & have had v few bf’s & feel almost like a “virgin”...Hilarious but true! And listening to you is really getting me “game-face-ready” to get out into the world to meet my Soulmate...I feel as if I’m coming into a personal power that I’ve only for decades envisioned I’d achieve...BTW your stories of you & your beautiful Wife are so truly touching that they actually make me feel that I too am worthy of all that w/my Guy...Wow, if we could just get our “potential prospects” to listen to you too then we’d save a lot of time getting to the finish line👌Everyone needs a Mat in their pocket...& Thanks for the gift 🎁
The guy I was seeing told me he was crazy about me, but I’d rarely hear from him and when he bailed on me on 4th of July, we got into an argument over it and we stopped talking. I was the one who reached out (because I’m an idiot) even though he’s the one who messed up. Claimed he would fight for me, but did not do that once. I ended it a few days ago and I feel I made the right decision especially after watching this! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you Mat Boggs, your video opened my eyes about a relationship I have been in where I thought the guy loved me so dearly but with time I have seen weird questions full of ifs and then ending up at the level of my parents don't approve interracial marriage and I am so sorry for causing you pain. I understand that if he was so serious that he would go out of his way and showcase me to his family to get them convinced with me with the purpose for them to know me and I to know them. Your video opened my eyes to let go of him and not to keep hope that one day he will come back to me and say I still love you, let me introduce you to my parents or my parents approve of you. After watching your video I felt relieved from the heartbreak I was going through and now I can let go of him, making room for the right person in the future.
I searched for this topic and got your awesome video This is certainly a confirmation. You nailed everything on it's head and am so grateful and happy. Thanks a mil
Sometimes life has things going on that things just aren’t normal. I know my boyfriend loves me. But he has some serious things going on. And I’ll always be there for him
14:24 I feel like such a fool. The man I’ve been waiting around for has done all these things for 20 years and I’m still hanging onto hope that he will change. Whyyyy have I been doing this to myself?!
My punjabi prince was out with his friends having dinner. They asked him to go to the club. The moment I contacted him he dropped his friends to come see me. It made me feel important and loved to know he made me a priority ❤
Thanks Mat, yep they're all true and I've had to learn most of them the hard way. I appreciate you so much, you're awesome and you crack me up lol. Thank you for helping us!
I think the biggest red flag in the most recent, I'll call "situationship", instead of relationship, that I have gone through is that I could message until I was blue in the face. But unless I actually Facetimed him, I would probably go weeks not hearing from him. He would most always answer if I did Facetime. But rarely would he be the one to make that first move. As recently as last night he said to me that he does truiy love me. If that is the case then what is the issue? Hmmm....
Love this and its true. You just described someone I dated for a month and a half before I broke it off. He was all of the stuff you mentioned and he was a Monday yo Friday guy and never available on weekends. Sickening.
Exactly INTUITION IS IN PLACE FOR YOU BY GOD FOR A REASON DON'T IGNORE IT FOR ANY REASON PERIOD!!!! IT'S NOT ABOUT PERFECTION, IT'S ABOUT THE FEELINGS NOT JUST PHYSICAL, EMOTIONS THE PERSON ACTUALLY HAS FOR EACH OTHER NOT ONE SIDED WHO NEED THAT,NO BODY DOES!!!!!
Thank you have opening my eyes it Hurts really bad I have been waiting for this man for almost Three years and I am still waiting for him I really wanted to believe that he Loved me I want to believe what a tool I must be
When a man wants you to understand him and what he is saying to you. and understand his situation all the time. And he can't do the same for you. That's a red flag
A good indicator that a guy is not into you is when you go on a date and he's on his phone the majority of the time and when he's not, he non-stop talks about HIMSELF, never asking one question about YOU! Yes, that has happened to me and I was smart enough to tell the guy, hey, you are a nice guy but I do not feel the spark and let him go nicely as I moved on!
I’m seeing a man that lives 80 minutes from me. He has a great job and he’s a musician on weekends. He rehearses twice a week. He sends me his photo every morning and texts me 3 times a day. We haven’t had a date yet. He did say he’s interested in moving more closer to my place.
@@P55999 We did meet. We FaceTime everyday. I see him often when he performs. Now he said he is moving in with me but I’m reticent about asking him about his finances. I’m concerned he might walk away.
I know that there are salads and other foods at McDonalds other than just fries and hamburgers. There also is the choice of water with the pops for drinks. I know that there are more choices inside McDonalds that can be seen to order from online or on their app. But it can be changed to go to a much more nutritious fast food restaurant
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My beloved late husband and I met after being set up by a friend. He said he took one look at me and before he’d even said hello, told himself silently “I’m going to marry that girl”. On our second date he arrived with 2 dozen red roses. 2 months later we moved in together. It was just like 2 comets streaking across the sky. In addition to being the worlds sweetest, most wonderful man who put me before anything else, it didn’t hurt that he was 6’4” and DDG. But that was beside the point. For 38 years he was the best reason to open my eyes every day. But fast moving Parkinson’s disease took him; I only had him on hospice for 6 days. His last words to me were “Do you have any idea how much I love you?”
I doubt there’ll ever be another love in my life but after what I was privileged to have I can’t complain.
sweet jesus, is the most beautiful Heartbreaking Story ... im glad you both had the opportunity to experience this, Blessings like this are so rare...
Ok .....that made me cry. You are a lucky woman to have had that man❤
You are so lucky....knowing that i will never have something like that on my life is so sad . ..😢😢😢
Awwwww
This is a common story I hear from people in long, happy marriages: The man knew right away the moment the couple met. I was there the night a friend of mine met her husband. I could tell he was smitten with her right away. He told the buddy he was with that night “I’m going to marry that girl.” They’re still together and that was 20 years ago.
I feel it in my bones when a man isn’t that into me. Things just don’t add up: excuses, etc. My mother always told me that a man who is interested in you will climb a mountain to see you. If he isn’t interested, he will avoid that mountain.
My uncle would walk from one town to the next to see my aunt when they were dating in the 60s. It would take him 3 hours there...to walk...to see her and 3 hours back....they have been married for 50+ years
Same as me,you have given me courage to stand firm on what I believe
@@MoonchildstargazerWow
Those were the days when love reings
Your mom is real woman❤
Yesss we know intuitively.
I just read something that said, "if you get bit by a snake don't chase after it and figure out why. Walk away and get the poison out." Don't waste time on something or someone that isn't worth your time.
Amen
Good analogy 😊
Wow thank you
I have always said this about men: Actions speak louder words.
You are right dear❤❤❤❤❤
That's true
My dad said to me during my teens (1970s) "never chase a man. It's a huge turn off".
It's very true thanks Dad for that piece of advise
V.True
True !!! My Mom told me the same line.❤
When you are down and that man refuses to pick you up and he refuses to reach out his hand to give you assistance. That's a red flag
My dad told me not to.write boys letters and not to chase boys the new generation of men do not know how.to.get.a.lady they.want.the.lady to.chase them
Truth
I agree that part
Yes!
When someone shows you who they are.....BELIEVE THEM! Getting the lesson.....Thanks Matt!! ❤️❤️
Just watch out for the liars and narcissists😅
Definitely believe them, especially these dayz..!!
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Oddly, many people misphrase this as "whenever somebody tells you who they are, believe them" 😆
I had him. He is everything described in this video, and I wasted 2 years of my life that I will never get back. But as soon as my eyes opened, I was out, and I ain't looking back.
Happened to me too and countless other ladies. They are manipulators and only feel you just enough to get what THEY want. I'm glad to hear that you got out. You deserve way better.
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Wasted my whole 4 years😢😅
thank you , just6 spent 7 months , I put in 79 percent and he put in a little 21 percent , thank God I left that maid service ,
It is so cute the way his eyes dazzle when he talks about his wife. You can tell he really enjoys getting to talk about her
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Been on few relationships before and I always beg for bare minimum. But now, someone came and I'm so happy because he value me. Everything I beg before to guys, he is giving it all even when I'm not saying it. So girls, value your self. Don't be afraid to start again. Who knows that ghosting or breakup really did saved you ❤️
May God help me with such a person like yours. Blessings
You're rite ma😊
100% truth! I believe actions speak volumes in relationships.
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You are right❤❤❤❤❤❤
Actions speak volumes
I like to establish a friendship first and really get to know who he really is.
Once we pass that point, however, I won’t settle for half in half out .
How could I be freaking blind not to see. He shows not one, not two but a few of this signs. Thank you. I have been rationalizing his actions, giving excuses. I’m done.
So, after spending years on dating apps, I found men in their 30's just want to have fun, casual because they think that they're young still, and has a lot of time to think about in serious relationship.
Now, men in their 40's they're just got out divorced, and they still feels guilty towards their kid(s) so they would prioritize the kid rather pursue a serious relationship.
And lastly, men in their 50's, they just got out of decades of relationship, divorced, kids are all grown up, empty nester, and now they're saying it's Me Time, so they would live they're life like they're in their 20's and 30's, casual sex, drinking like in college, staying up all night at the bar, hitting up with women left and right, which they never had the experience because they married early and forced to be serious about life and be a provider.
So, it's like looking for a unicorn nowadays. Men would always not serious about women and would always not into them unless they are doing it for their own benefits. And not because of LOVE.
I agree with what you say, I’m in my mid forties and I have had and am currently having the exact same experience you describe. I’m quite disappointed.
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I don't want to be too pessimistic, I wonder what men think about women.
Totally agree, unfortunately
Wow, it's like it's a losing battle no matter what age you are...😢
I think men are only serious in the moment they think about creating a family, in this case they commit. Doesn't mean they don't cheat. But they commit to a relationship. Other than that, I think most men prefer to be free as a bird and just enjoy life and sex with many different women. They don't want a commited relationship. I think we have to accept it for what it is.
Hands up if you've ever come back to this video just to rewatch that section where Mat imitates guys who claim they're "not good at remembering things like that"...
Absolute comedy gold!
I needed this video this week, so thank you! All of your videos are clear and easy to understand. I find in my dating experience that if a man that normally texts back frequently and quickly but starts to take longer and has a change in energy, that may be a tell tale sign (among others) that he's not that interested! Watch his actions and patterns ladies, save yourself the heartbreak!!!
That story about the Valentine’s Day surprise is so so beautiful and romantic Mat.
Hi Mat. I was dating guy for 17 months. First year I was waiting for him to retire, so we could realy start seeing each other more often, getting to know one another better. Well, he liked to do things together by saying...we can do this....we could go there...., but never did. So I realized, he is not realy serious about what he was saying and we started growing apart. Now I am in a new relationship, which is just oposit. The guy is a man of his word. Everything is going well, and only time will tell. Thank you for your great advises. You are the best😊
Just say a year and a half geesh 😂
Stranger: awn how old is he
You: he's 30months
Just say 2 and half or hell be 3 on so and so date 😂😂😂
1. He is slow to text or call you back. ✔ (wasn't at first, but is now)
2. He is only interested in meeting up if sex is involved. ❌
3. He doesn't give you prime time in his calendar. ✔
4. He dangles commitment but never follows through. ❌
5. He downplays important moments because he's playing Mr. Cool. I'm not Mr Romantic etc. ✔
6. He's only around when its convenient. ❌
7. He is extremely uncomfortable when talking about his feelings. ❌
I don't know what to think about my relationship. I'm not happy clearly. He was perfect at start. But its like now that he has me, there's no more effort. I love him but I know from experience sometimes we love and still have to let them go. But at my age it's not easy to find someone. That's the hard part.
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You sound like me. So painful to let go
@@zolabison2744 it truly is 😭
I would actually say domt let him go but instead talk to him about this. Tell him how u feel. If he talks to you about feelings then its good u can talk to him how u feel about him not giving u prime time etc
@shehnazjabeen6513 since I first commented, we have broken up. I have learned that I was used and he's been talking to women on dating sites the entire time. I did have a talk with him and he said his feelings just faded away. Well duh dumbass. When you don't put an effort in, don't give her any attention or time, what would you expect? Its not always unicorns, and fairy dust and butterflies. 7 yrs and I don't know how much of that time I was played. I do believe he had feelings and good intentions at the start. BUT he stole years from me and that's not right. He's a player. And too old to be playing games. Or just don't get in relationships if you want to play games. Play games. But with the right people.
The big one: He doesn’t acknowledge you on social media.. A guy who is really into you will scream from the mountain tops “I’m with HER!” All his friends and family know about you. They might even wish he’d shut up already about you. He makes it clear you’re the woman in his life on social media. If this isn’t happening, you should consider yourself still single.
So, were people's love b4 social media fake ? 😮
Not everyone in this world is into social media.. if they like you, you will know it from their actions . Likes and comments from Social media aren't the ultimate. grow up kiddo..
Mine wasn't on social media. But the result was still the same. Never met his family or friends, though he spent a ton of time talking my ears off about them. When I asked about meeting, he'd change the subject. Complete tool.
Yes, I've experienced that😮
#1 sign he’s not interested is - you’re watching this. A real man will never have you confused.
Wow the guy I just stopped seeing in February was giving me all seven signs
Your intuition knew before you even realized
Same. All 7. 😢
hi my name is Brenda too and I dated 7 months and I became his maid , ugggggggggggggggggg I finally saw the flashing blue lights
I would say I found the true meaning of a booty call recently, when a guy I thought was just being careful would message me, tell me he misses me thinking of me, tell me he wants to spend time with me, then go silent for three days, then video call me and ask if I’m up for a visit 😢💔
But now after watching this, I can see I was more invested in him, then he was with me
Forgetting my birthday is a deal breaker! Anytime I allowed this one get a pass its always led to a disaster and more regrets so now forget my birthday I forget him.
My boyfriend forgot my birthday twice. He said he put it in his Google calendar but when he got a new phone it didn't transfer over. Then one month later on the same day he said he got his Google reminder. I'm thinking if I was important to him he wouldn't need a Google reminder, he would remember my birthday on his own. What do you think? But I feel childish breaking up with him because he forgot my birthday. I told him birthdays were very important to me. For his 50th birthday, I gave him a special party and we celebrated together. For my 50th, I got nothing. He couldn't even remember my special day. He tried to tell me he never remembers birthdays, not even his own son's. I'm confused because I have feelings for him but I don't want to live the rest of my life with someone who doesn't remember my birthday. What should I do? Or am I being selfish?
The guy I was head over heels about forgot my birthday for 4 years straight, AND my birthday is on a holiday! He also only wants to meet up when we are alone. He cancels when we have plans to meet in public. I’m not in his prime time either. Matt is totally correct.
@@dragonfish888dump him now sis. That chance give it to someone who deserves it
Wanting to be remembered and acknowledged by your beloved **on your birthday** is not being selfish. @@eileentomchick3721
@@eileentomchick3721you are not being selfish,if a man truly loves you and values you he wont forget your birthday. And the fact he got you nothing says it all.
You are the man. You speak the truth so simply when you say men do things that are important to them. Your wife is the luckiest woman in the world.
Actions speak for them, no words needed.
My measure of the intent,is whether he introduces you to family and friends, pays attention to your likes and dislikes,compatible interests.
And shows acts of affection.
My ex of 4 is prime example.. right from the start, he hid me away, never took me out, he never liked talking about feelings, never celebrated small things with me.. just took.. sad to see after 4 years, he was never serious about me 😢
Had off /on with same type of guy. Decided life is too short and moved on
I'm really sorry about everything❤❤❤❤
@@ksrefsorry for everything❤❤
Indicators are 1) when just doesn't care to get to know much about me 2) He starts acting shady & phony 3) he starts saying certain lines like " I just need some space or can we just be friends. " Things of that nature...!! I really love this video it makes perfect sense..!! I'm single but I could really use this information if I need it.
Thanks alot..🙂🙂
#7 JUST GAVE ME ALL THE CONFIRMATION I NEEDED!!!! #DEAD ON THANK Y🙏🏾U.
Just had 18 months of my time wasted. Pretty obvious when they "forget" your birthday and downplay it that they dont really bother with gifts or celebrations. Yup they would for the lady they really want. Always observe their actions and listen to your gut instincts. If it looks like a rat, it is a rat. Im on my own now but its better than being forgotten about and they expect you to be available to only them and fuss over them. Thanks Matt, this was a very helpful video. Love your channel. ❤
Spent 2 years with a man who already had a girlfriend at home. He claimed that he was single all the way through. His lies just grew and grew
Sorry for everything❤❤
some times,God allows us to meet some bad people in our life,so that when we find the good once,we will know how to value them ❤❤
That's so disappointing isn't it. I was the fill-in while he found who he really wanted. So dangles the carrot, all a crock. It's not a good feeling being played. I asked myself, what was real, what was phoney this whole time? Then that's a waste of time. I need to practice ... Just let them go! Their loss. Not mine. 😊
@@MichaelBrown-gf4owabsolutely!! Always a lesson. People come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime. God has all this planned out for every single one of us. God bless ❤🙏
I experwnced it now 😢
The rule i have is if "your confused about the person and his intentions" then hes not seriouse about you and dump him/her
They have a lot of female “friends” & still need validation from them. You are not “enough”. This was very helpful. Thank you!
This is a big one for me, for 4 years now. I know deep down in my heart I am not enough for him. On top of this he makes me feel so worthless and calls me horrible names if we have an argument. I can’t even sit down with this man and have a conversation as 2 adults and just talk about it.😢
Matt as always giving courage and wisdom to do the right and protect us from pain but relieved for the good one. 🙏🏽 🌷 💫 ❤
She sent me this video and said she's gonna evaluate me using these 7 parameters!!
Just in right time when i need to hear this. It helps me move forward easily
Thank you Matt ,because of this video I'm willing to give my heart a chance to love someone who deserves it. I'm meeting him half way .
the valentines day story is TOO CUTE OH MY GOSH
I absolutely love how you speak about long distance relationships thank you ❤
Mat, thank you so much for all the content you put out. This video is fantastic, and I am extremely grateful for this specific video. This was timely, and so well put together. I appreciate what you do and am happy to share this with other ladies. ❤
1) When you both have time off work and he asks you when you're together the week prior about your schedule but doesn't then call you to plan anything. That's an indicator he wants you to do all the work.
2) When he tells you "I don't think we work together well," then a week later calls you last minute to meet him and his friends somewhere 45 minutes away from your home.
3) When he straight up calls himself a confirmed bachelor who has nothing against marriage but has never thought about it for himself.
The first one. I have been trying to put words to what I was noticing for months, thank you!
So true.
Also when he makes plans to spend time with you he makes excuses the day prior why he cant make it or at the last min and pushes for another day. Red flag.
All off these signs are right on thank you so much I will take them to heart and let him go
9:37 this made me cry! I want this
Excellent advice! Showing to my daughter who just broke up but beinga teen, really didn’t know why she felt rotten with him as it was her first real boyfriend. This will help give her the language and that her instincts were correct. The boy hit 6 off these on your list on high school level not adult dating. Your list applies to all levels. 😂 Thank you!
I had been on 1 date with a guy and prior to our second date he told me I would get “bonus points” if I don’t overdress him like the first date. He said he felt insecure because I looked better than him… I was taken aback, I definitely don’t want to be dating an insecure guy. I broke it off before the second date 😅
Edit: We met on a dating app and all my pictures are of me looking nicely dressed (he knew what he was signing up for 😂 take me as I am or not at all), I am into vintage and elegant fashion and always want to dress how I want to be addressed. There’s absolutely no shame in that, I am confident so that may have intimidated him but his loss. I know the right man for me will embrace and be happy for my sense of style ❤
How did an elegant lady attract an insecure mouse?
New member here. You have opened you some things I never thought about. Thanks for the much needed info.
This man is so wise God bless you 🙏
Mat, I just started listening to you “few wks” ago & I have to give it to you, Bro’, you’re EXCELLENT at educating ppl on love relationships as take me for example, I’m turning 59 & have had v few bf’s & feel almost like a “virgin”...Hilarious but true! And listening to you is really getting me “game-face-ready” to get out into the world to meet my Soulmate...I feel as if I’m coming into a personal power that I’ve only for decades envisioned I’d achieve...BTW your stories of you & your beautiful Wife are so truly touching that they actually make me feel that I too am worthy of all that w/my Guy...Wow, if we could just get our “potential prospects” to listen to you too then we’d save a lot of time getting to the finish line👌Everyone needs a Mat in their pocket...& Thanks for the gift 🎁
The guy I was seeing told me he was crazy about me, but I’d rarely hear from him and when he bailed on me on 4th of July, we got into an argument over it and we stopped talking. I was the one who reached out (because I’m an idiot) even though he’s the one who messed up. Claimed he would fight for me, but did not do that once. I ended it a few days ago and I feel I made the right decision especially after watching this! Thanks for sharing!
Thank you so much you are right on everything you Said and it's time for me to let go .I am hurting I waited all that time but it will get better
This is one of the best videos that I have watched as it has made some sense of what went wrong in past relationships
Thank you Mat Boggs, your video opened my eyes about a relationship I have been in where I thought the guy loved me so dearly but with time I have seen weird questions full of ifs and then ending up at the level of my parents don't approve interracial marriage and I am so sorry for causing you pain. I understand that if he was so serious that he would go out of his way and showcase me to his family to get them convinced with me with the purpose for them to know me and I to know them. Your video opened my eyes to let go of him and not to keep hope that one day he will come back to me and say I still love you, let me introduce you to my parents or my parents approve of you. After watching your video I felt relieved from the heartbreak I was going through and now I can let go of him, making room for the right person in the future.
Yup all the signs resonate for me with my situation....
Ditto- I let him go - he didn’t elevate me. Took days to answer text- actions did not speak louder than words- check please!
Awww the story times of him dating his wife are always top tier, i love that for them... and the story was soo cute 🥲😍
Thank you for sharing that beautiful heart warming love story!!! 😍😍😍
How are you doing?
I searched for this topic and got your awesome video
This is certainly a confirmation. You nailed everything on it's head and am so grateful and happy.
Thanks a mil
Sometimes life has things going on that things just aren’t normal. I know my boyfriend loves me. But he has some serious things going on. And I’ll always be there for him
14:24 I feel like such a fool. The man I’ve been waiting around for has done all these things for 20 years and I’m still hanging onto hope that he will change.
Whyyyy have I been doing this to myself?!
Because you love him the most than any other things in the world
My punjabi prince was out with his friends having dinner. They asked him to go to the club. The moment I contacted him he dropped his friends to come see me. It made me feel important and loved to know he made me a priority ❤
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❤ MINE BLOCKED ME 🚫
@@jennyk1509 I really don't understand
@@jennyk1509 how are you doing?
@@jennyk1509 is he punjabi? They have habits of blocking girls after they use them for a pleasure toy because most of them are womanizers
Thank you Mat ❤this video come up just in right time for me ❤
Great video!! Exactly what I needed. Words are CHEAP!
Tempo and Timing as an indicator. I like it! Silent Movie Test--also amazing!
Good information to know Matt. Thank you for sharing this information!!
Thanks Mat, yep they're all true and I've had to learn most of them the hard way. I appreciate you so much, you're awesome and you crack me up lol. Thank you for helping us!
I think the biggest red flag in the most recent, I'll call "situationship", instead of relationship, that I have gone through is that I could message until I was blue in the face. But unless I actually Facetimed him, I would probably go weeks not hearing from him. He would most always answer if I did Facetime. But rarely would he be the one to make that first move. As recently as last night he said to me that he does truiy love me. If that is the case then what is the issue? Hmmm....
Such a great video and so true!!
Love this and its true. You just described someone I dated for a month and a half before I broke it off. He was all of the stuff you mentioned and he was a Monday yo Friday guy and never available on weekends. Sickening.
A man's body language is so important!!
Exactly INTUITION IS IN PLACE FOR YOU BY GOD FOR A REASON DON'T IGNORE IT FOR ANY REASON PERIOD!!!! IT'S NOT ABOUT PERFECTION, IT'S ABOUT THE FEELINGS NOT JUST PHYSICAL, EMOTIONS THE PERSON ACTUALLY HAS FOR EACH OTHER NOT ONE SIDED WHO NEED THAT,NO BODY DOES!!!!!
You're absolutely right and true about this.
You did all the right things! I haven’t had a proper date in 15 years 😢
Sorry girl 😭🫂
Men do ultimately what they WANT to do.
100% agree 😊
I love when you mention the slow burn. I prefer that route.
That date night dress up thing was genius haha.
Thank you have opening my eyes it Hurts really bad I have been waiting for this man for almost Three years and I am still waiting for him I really wanted to believe that he Loved me I want to believe what a tool I must be
I met this guy and he showing all the sign of a guy who is committed to me and would be the perfect partner yet I just struggle to just go with it 🙈
When a man wants you to understand him and what he is saying to you. and understand his situation all the time. And he can't do the same for you. That's a red flag
I wish I know this before now, but it's not yet too late. Really learnt from these
A good indicator that a guy is not into you is when you go on a date and he's on his phone the majority of the time and when he's not, he non-stop talks about HIMSELF, never asking one question about YOU! Yes, that has happened to me and I was smart enough to tell the guy, hey, you are a nice guy but I do not feel the spark and let him go nicely as I moved on!
Sir you and your wife are very nice people. Stay blessed, healthy and happy together ✨
Thanks mat I think definately the last one not talking about his feelings for cure ❤️😊
Love this! Great advice and spot ON!
You give me strength! Thank you 🙏
I’m seeing a man that lives 80 minutes from me. He has a great job and he’s a musician on weekends. He rehearses twice a week. He sends me his photo every morning and texts me 3 times a day. We haven’t had a date yet. He did say he’s interested in moving more closer to my place.
@@P55999 We did meet. We FaceTime everyday. I see him often when he performs. Now he said he is moving in with me but I’m reticent about asking him about his finances. I’m concerned he might walk away.
I'm from jamaica, and i love your contents.
Thank you for this information that lead us to be hurt in the future, very helpful.
You're such a great inspiration for me mat
Respect ❤❤❤
Hi Mat, thank you for sharing, you are the best! 😉
Woow you are the best
Have learnt alot from today's advice
Thanks alot
Thank God I had to listen to this advice.
Always busy! Also, being defensive when you try to bring up things he does that affects you negatively.
Really your wise words touching me l had a guy all the signs are there,😮 if all this signs are there it means he doesn't deserve you, thanks matt
Thank you matt for your Amazing advices❤️❤️❤️✨✨
That's a beautiful Valentines day surprise 🙂
I know that there are salads and other foods at McDonalds other than just fries and hamburgers. There also is the choice of water with the pops for drinks.
I know that there are more choices inside McDonalds that can be seen to order from online or on their app.
But it can be changed to go to a much more nutritious fast food restaurant
Thank you mat.
This really helps
Thank you for these advices and tips Sir 🙂 it helps alot
He has not showed up to any holidays with family this whole year. The big breaking point was not being there for me when my oldest Son passed away 😢😢