Co-sleeping - Good or Bad?
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 20 ต.ค. 2024
- Co-sleeping triggers heated debate among parents, paediatricians and parenting experts. Is it beneficial or it’s harmful?
Watch this video to find out what experts think, what is a safety co-sleeping and what’s my personal experience.
Do you practice co-sleeping? What’s your experience with it? Please share in the comment box below.
References and useful links:
Dr. Sears on concerns related to co-sleeping:
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Safe co-sleeping:
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Summery of studies on co-sleeping and later child outcomes: bit.ly/SummaryS...
Arianna Huffington interviews Dr. McKenna on co-sleeping
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Benefits of co-sleeping: bit.ly/7Benefit...
Study on Independence: bit.ly/CoSleepi...
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Thank you for this video. I am having some shame that my three-year old, previously an amazing independent sleeper, is co-sleeping with me most nights. I just don't have the heart to say "no" to her and videos like this assure me that I won't harm her. Thank you.
I really loved your video. I am 8 months pregnant and I am going co sleeping definitely. I live in Greece and when I was born -almost 30 years ago- most greek families used to sleep altogether in the same bed due to lack of space/money... I was surprised when I went shopping for a crib that people looked at me as an alien when I asked for a crib that I could use as a sidecar! When I was talking about cosleeping they would say ok but the baby still needs to go to his own room asap because this is the right thing to do or because the doctor says so (???)... Some of my friends even laughed at me... I would love to have a PLAYroom for my child where she could have her space and privacy, and she will decide when she is ready to leave my room. Until then, mommy's arms are for hugging her, making her feel safe and secure, is that so tiring for a mommy as they say? I can't believe that there are articles of "how to move the baby to his room" saying: "leave him crying for 30 minutes", "Don't indulge, don't hug him" "Be indifferent" !!!! If people want their children to grow up on their own, and be self sufficient from their infancy they should better have mushrooms instead of children. Children need to live and act as children. Childhood lasts only for a few years, they have a whole life to live without their mom's comfort... And the big question is: If it is normal for a baby to sleep on his own in a separate room, why does a couple share the same bed? Why don't they sleep in separate rooms as "adults"? Is it more normal for a mother to sleep with daddy than to sleep with her child?
Hi Chryssanthi, I agree it was the norm for our parents childhood. My mother and her two brothers were sleeping all in the same room with their parents when they were little due to lack of space. It all changed with the increased quality of life in the last 50 years. Co-sleeping triggers lots of debate and people get defensive when someone is doing something else and is clear on their decision. We choose to Co-sleep for the 1st year, but then we revisited and decided to keep co-sleeping until we all feel comfortable to move Mika in another room. We still have the odd looks from friends but I don't pay attention anymore, neither I 'defend' myself. In the same way, though, for many parents sleeping in different rooms works perfectly fine and they prefer it (and the transition wasn't hard). I respect their choice too. The only thing I wish it was different is for paediatrics & health practitioners to give parents an informative choice - to explain to them that Co-sleeping is not bad. At the moment it seems that the advice is against almost all the time. I understand that they are worried about co-sleeping being potentially dangerous and that some parents won't make sure it's safe (drinking, smoking, etc) and in this case it's much better to give straight NO co-sleeping advice to protect the kids. I guess their work will be much harder if they have to give difference advice and they prefer to be clear. Enjoy the last month of your pregnancy! Euharisto!
Co-sleeping and bed sharing are *not* the same thing.
Yep, bed-sharing is form of co-sleeping.
Great video, Didi! I found it very helpful. There’s plenty of examples of co-sleeping where it works out amazingly. I still put my Isabella to sleep by spending 10-15 minutes with her in bed and then she is on her own. It works our for our family. I feel that children/babies can sleep with or without their parents. What’s really important is that the parents work out what they want to do in their particular situation :) Miss you lots! xoxo
+Aysel Musayeva Hi sweetie, so much agree! Parents need to find out what works best for them and not judge other parent's choice! Miss you too! I guess I need to come over to see you, guys!!
In Germany when a mother lives the hospital with her newborn, she is advised to sleep with her baby in the same room for at least the first six months but the baby must be in her own crib next to the parents bed. My daughter now is 5 months old and we are considering to move her to her own room next month. She was breastfeed until 4 months (with formula top-up) but now only formula and she wakes up once in the night to be fed. She falls asleep in our arms every night at 19:00 after bath and feeding and then we put her in her crib. We'll see how it goes and we hope she will receive this change smoothly as we've started to put her in her room for her day naps.
Thanks for your advices and starring your own experience.
Thank you so much for sharing your experience, Afroditi! I hope it goes well and smoothly! Good luck to you and your baby girl.
My story is very similar. My son slept in his crib for four months and then I started co-sleeping with for ease of breastfeeding. At 6 months we tried sleep training but the crying was too much for me to take. It did not work, so we have attached his crib with the rail down to our bed and have been kind of co-sleeping. Now my son is 10 months old and I completely agree with you on the topic. Great video.
Hi Romi, thank you for sharing! Yes, I agree and we should do what we feel best with. Lots of people stigmatise co-sleeping and parents are often not given a choice (in the sense of being advised by the experts that they can make a choice in relation to sleeping). I'm not judging when parents choose not to sleep with their kids - it must be working great for them if they do it. In the same way, I don't allow to be judged when I choose to do what feel right for my family.
By the way, you'll see how much better it gets when they grow - the first thing you see when you wake up is their sleepy face! I woke up this morning with Mika in my arms - such a beautiful way to meet the day!
+Smart Parent Stories I agree. It is one of the best feeling to wake up to your baby's beautiful face. I love your videos. Very motivational and inspirational. Keep them coming. And Mika is soo adorable.
thanks Romi:)
thumbs up! we co sleep with our kids, 3yr and 1,5yr. Love sleeping with them and still breastfeeding the youngest. Let them cry is no option for us. I always lay beside my oldest until he's asleep and the youngest falls asleep on top of me
Ha, ha, that must be fun! Mika was sleeping on my chests for a while, but he is getting heavy now. Thanks for sharing :)
My 5 months old daughter sleeps in a crib in the same room with us! She normally will sleep with us until at least 3 years old even tough she has her own room...and daddy already wants her out of our room....although she sleeps the hole night since she was 2 and a half months ! this is the way things are happening in our family! Kisses! By the way did I already said that I just love ur channel! X
Thank you so much, Ramona! I'm glad that you find it useful:)
Thank you for this video. We co sleep with both kids. Their cribs attached to our bed (one side rails down). It is easy to breastfeed and be on their side when they wake up. And as you mentioned it is easier to calm them down when they have a bad night.
+Gul A Thanks, Gul, so much for sharing your experience. For breastfeeding is no doubt so much easier :) I breastfed for 27 months - can't imagine night walking to the other room :)
I totally agree!! You should make a video of vaccination for baby's in the US. Which are not necessary?
+Angie Rodriguez Hi Angie, yes, such a controversial topic! I know that in the US they are mandatory in most states, right?
+Smart Parent Stories Yes they are. Which vaccines did Mika get since birth until now if you don't mind asking.
+Ang Rose Hi Ang, he hasn't had any yet... We're still thinking whether we should give him shot of certain vaccines.
Thank you for your research! 👍🏻 But what about if someone is babysitting?
+Eļka Peļka Hi Ejka, you mean you're there for some hours while the parents are out? I would do what the parents prefer...
Elīna Katrina I think if it's a family member, I'd allow it but not someone else.
Would you have a2nd child?
Hi Ramona, not sure yet - possibly in 1-2 years if at all. :)
Smart Parent Stories Do you think family centered c-sections to be good?
I do "all of the above". My baby girl slept in her cot beside me usually until 4am, then she will wake about every hour to breastfeed until 7am. That is when we "co-sleep", from 4 - 7am. Now she sleeps in her own room. If she ever struggles to fall back to sleep (only during rare occasions like illness or developmental milestones), I hold her until she sleeps on a chaise lounge that we have in her room.
Before I gave birth, I used to have this mind set that I am going to train my baby from a young age to do certain things. Now I've learned to just figure things out with her.
+someina hi Someina, yes! We have an idea how we want to parent and once the baby comes, we adjust! I'm following my baby's signs :). Thanks for sharing your experience!
Smart Parent Stories i’m seeing this four years later and while I am not a parent I do agree that there should be no rulebook or guide to raising a child just go along with what the day brings and love your child make sure it’s healthy happy safe and Pay attention to them please I’ve known lots of kids that were raised under this rule of I’m going to teach my child to do things a certain way and now they are struggling with depression they were never really allowed to live a little bee them selves or mess up and it’s quite sad to be honest
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i m 100% in favour of cosleeping and breastfeeding thy go hand in hand i cannot imagin baby in another room crying for mom skin touch or breastmilk its so soothing when both in same bed my husband has no issue wid it too its our natural decision and its going wid all hit my son is now 20months
+Mahelaqa Yousaf Thank you so much for sharing your experience! Really appreciate it and is great to see what other parents practice.
+Smart Parent Stories am so glad know you guyz are also co sleeping
i was bit afraid before watching the video that perhaps m doing it wrong lol
This looks like Mimi Ikonn's house!?
Times of co-sleeping are over for me 😕 my daughter turns 18 soon.