I'm struggling with negative thoughts.
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 19 มิ.ย. 2024
- I've been dealing with negative thoughts for the past few months, and I'm finally understanding when, where and why it all started which helps me deal with it. Although it's tough at times, I don't see it as something "sad" but rather as an opportunity to learn important lessons that I can add to my luggage of life lessons. :)
If you're dealing with something similar where it's affecting your mental health, please speak with someone about it - either a friend or a professional. You are NEVER alone.
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Feeling very nervous posting this for some reason. How's your week been? :-) Also, what are you naming your negative voice?
Hey Lana, same here I've not been struggling with negative self talk but being very sensitive to everything as well. I think this whole pandemic changed my ability to self-cope with all the large changes in my life. I think what you mentioned in your video is that I was being surrounded by negative energy as well. What I've trying to been changing is seeking therapy - there's free therapy in my country and distancing with people who don't make me feel good about myself :)! Oh also calling out a friend that they've been not been supportive or a good friend during my tough times :) Hope you get better soon!
Hey, it's been alright. I've just been thinking about journaling, past regrets, future ambitions too though, like starting a lawncare business (for now), reading more on investing and talking to dental lab technicians as this has been something I've wanted to do as an expertise to help others. All and all, I'm learning to accept that life is 1 minute of positive thought after another. 1 minute of doing, 1 minute of loving, 1 of giving, one of appreciating, 1 of simply taking a moment of pause and watching a Lana B. video.
Veckan har varit bra! Äntligen har jag fått jobba en hel vecka. Ser ut som jag kommer att få jobba hela sommaren. Så det är ju positivt i all negativitet ;)
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the devil
It's a lie to always be happy. It's okay to struggle with negative thoughts. As Jordan Peterson said, life is 90% misery and fighting problems, and 10% be genuinely happy. The best thing is to be aware of what you're feeling. From there, you'll be able to find ways to get better
I second that!
be content most of the time, be content that you are being honest with yourself and trying your best.
Jordan peterson is wrong. Being happy is an art you can learn. But I also understand for some people Jordan peterson is right. So they should follow him I think to feel better.
YOU ARE SO TRUE
This is very depressing and not true. No one should take it for serious and go on this path. If someone thinks like that, s/he should look for help. The truth is that you create your reality and if you think that it's normal to feel sad and miserable for 90% of your life you definitelly will.
I relate so much to this woman, I can’t even explain how much help I get from these videos
warms my heart!!
I don't want to sound mean. But, she's talking about her problems. How is this helpful to you?
@@haithamaljabri4576 It is because it is relatable....
@@haithamaljabri4576 she is talking about her problems and also she gives solutions to them which is actually really helpful if you're suffering with similar problems
@@Pasumetaaedits exactly
You are too smart for your own good. Inteligent people have a more dificult time being happy because they see all the problems in the world. Its hard not to overthink everything. But you are awesome! Thank you!
Brown Delight WOW I relate to this so hard
@Brown Delight I have the same problem with thinking to much when i have to sleep. Listening to sleep meditations help me, it makes me focus on something else, its not like i dont think whilst listening they just somehow make me fall asleep, you should give it a try.
@Brown Delight I found it hard at first aswell, like how can you not think. But thats not the point meditation is very different from person to person, its more about being present, just relaxing. Fokus on your breath and how you feel at the moment, does your back hurt etc. Can you feel the air on your skin. Guided meditations also help alot because they tell you what to do, and what to fokus on. It dosnt matter if you think about stuff, just aknowlegde it and let the thought go.
@@christinelee2535 if you were truely intelligent you would have already known that instead being like WWOoooww...
@@Apricot90 :O You must be incredibly intelligent, seeing as you can comment on mine just by looking at my TH-cam comment.
P.S. It's truly, not truely. love and kisses
Me: reads the title.
Same.
"Sometimes we don't need a lesson, we just want to know that we're not alone." Thank you, Lana
It never even occurred to me to name the negative voice in my head....I think past abuse/conditioning from others had me convinced that if I gave a name to the "voice inside my head" then I would surely be crazy....but in actuality it is a way to heal. It lifted a huge weight off my shoulders to realize that I could name this energy and get rid of it just the same as shedding toxic relationships. thank you so much!
happy for you! i think the most important part in naming the voice is that by naming it, you are separating yourself from it and nolonger identified with it, therefore it has way less or no power over your perception of your life. when it's named as not us, we can more easily drop it. i'm learning this lesson too and your comment resonated with me.
I totally agree with you Cora.☺️
True. People named mine "the thing" when they saw it but sometimes it said positive things too. It is weird and helpful and hurtful to have a frienemy living inside you that almost seems like a external part of you.
I am starting to think that Sunday's cannot exist without Lana.
this is true
Me too!
That wouldn’t be good that’s being code dependent
Yeah!! Ikr!!
"I wish it need not have happened in my time." said Frodo.
"So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us."
J.R.R. Tolkien - The Fellowship of The Ring
How very appropriate for these times we are living through.
So... I'm Frodo...
Forth Eorlingasssssss
Her voice is so soothing and calming, feels like I’m doing a meditation 🧘♀️
Hi erin scrimshaw
Same!💗
So here is the solution:
Every time you hear that voice, listen to the words, and listen to the tone.
Now all you need to do it's to make that voice saying the opposite words in the exact same tones.
Example:
That voice -
"Hooo YOU ARE SOOOO BAADD!!!!
Why can't you do it in the right way????"
That voice again -
"Hooo YOU ARE SOOOO GOODD!!!!
It's AMAZING how good you do it!!!!"
At first it will be a bit funny or weird. But very quickly you will notice that the bad voice isn't there anymore.
Yonatan Tovim Or, you can meditate and let that thought drift away by itself rather than forcing positive thoughts. It’s like sleeping or relaxing. You can’t force yourself to relax or sleep. You let it happen. Thoughts are transitory. Unless you have deep beliefs that life is negative and depressing (which requires therapy), you don’t need to force negative thoughts out. Let them occupy your mind until they gently move on. You could also use energy practices like EFT to reduce negative thoughts and feelings by rebalancing the energy system of the body.
Thanks a lot 🤗
@@taoist32 i agree on this, it’s better to let it drift then to oppose the voice.
“All I have are negative thoughts” - Joker Blakely
The joker quircky quotes are the funniest , and they are not even said by the joker
Exactly
" you wouldn't get it"
If you have negative thoughts it's because you had positive thoughts.
The moment you stop judging if it's positive or negative it's good or bad you fall in a state of awareness. Watch your thoughts like you watch birds flying in the sky, thoughts are flying in the sky of your mind and you're far away from them and they have nothing to do with who you are. Let thoughts come and go without interrupting or judging them. "You can't let go of something until you let them come without interrupting or judging"
We humans have a strong habit of connecting ourselves with every thought that comes to our mind and that's the reason why people are lost, they get depressed and they don't know who they are. Don't connect yourself with thoughts, watch them and you'll realize you're not your thoughts and they will stop bothering you forever. It won't be easy at first the mind will tell you noo you're what i tell you and you may believe it because of the strong habit of connecting yourself with every thought. It'll soon become easier and easier.
Lana is the person I've never met but who is so familiar. Her topics, her expressions, they're very familiar! Love your content!
call this format "tea time" 😇 thanks for sharing ur thoughts on this. have a nice sunday✌🏻
Love the idea of naming that negative voice and creating a boundary between you and them. Thank you for your honesty - you're not alone!!
It's definitely helped me :) Thanks a lot!
i don't know if you've read the book "the untethered soul" already but it helped me with my negative self talk
I will check it out. Thank you!
Thanks. 😊
Thanks 😊
i needed this, thank you.
Things will get better turn your obstacles into opportunities!!
You can't be good at everything and that's fine. Even at things you should be. Are you helping? You are. That is all that matters.
I've been experiencing the same problem, I just sat down and shared each and everything with my family, particularly my grandmother, she's my greatest strength.
You should speak up with the ones you love, keep yourself busy and meditate atleast once in a day.
"Negative thoughts are like slow dark clouds, you cannot make them go by yourself, but you can put a cover of hope until it goes". - Shivam Aryan
whoever is watching this video and thinking that they're are alone with this negative thoughts, just look at the number of views in this video and now know that you are not alone, we are all fighting and with God we know that we will have victory over this season of negative thinking.
life is up and down..we have to train our mind stay calm when things happen bad,because its not last forever.better days coming
First step towards self-love is realization that you are talking negatively about yourself. That's it. That has to be the end of it now. I used to struggle with this a lot. I know exactly what you feel, I am an introvert too. Positive self affirmations can really help.
This is a very good video.
Thanks! 👍
Your videos helped me a lot. Thanks for your help ♥️♥️
I feel the same thing depression, negative thoughts & social anxiety.
No one other can understand & feel it how hard to get rid of all these things until they get suffered.
you’re so honest, it’s lovely
Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I’m going to start giving a name to my negative voice from now on. I have also been experiencing this lately. I very rarely have nightmares but last night I dreamt that I was stuck in a bad place mentally and that no one was able to understand or help me get out of there. It felt very lonely and frustrating. It’s just funny how this video is just what I needed at this time. Thank you Lana 💕
Thank you for opening up and for sharing your story. Negative thoughts are so so difficult, but it's helped me to realize that negative thoughts are something we all feel and go through. You're not alone.
Thank you for so candidly sharing your story. I've recently been struggling with my mental health and it's taken me a long time to start writing down my thoughts in a private journal (as prose or more recently as poetry) and I was surprised how cathartic it was. Being able to get "that voice" onto paper was a good way to separate "that trespasser" from who i really am. Once it's out on paper, i feel as if im able to view my negative words and thoughts as if i was comforting a friend
This came at such a perfect time as I’m going through some mental obstacles as well. We can get through this!
Lana's uploads are the best thing about Sunday.
Thanks for opening up about this topic Lana. It is something I too have struggled with over the years. I try and catch myself in the moment when I start having negative thoughts and realise that they aren't a true reflection of who I am currently in the present. Definitely easier said than done. I would love to see you continue a sit down tea talk series!
thank you for being so open! you're inspiring me to be more vulnerable on my own channel & not afraid to share my own struggles
Thank you for this post. It's great that you speak openly about this. Most people experience negative self talk including me and we don't even think about it as a problem but it is and it makes life much more painful than it has to be. Your tips how to handle it are very useful and I'll definitely give them a try.
Thank you very much for this video.
I've always been a very positive person, especially when I was younger, but even if I'm still very grateful and optimist, with time I've become more realist and sometimes I tend to think negative. This made me feel like I was doing something wrong but actually it happens: we have to accept even those kind of regression, they are a part of life. Being positive does not mean to have toxic positivity, where everything has to be good and fine all the time, but it is about accepting who you are even if you get caught in some negativity: eventually it will pass and this will happen when you will ready to make a change.
i like watching your videos in the morning before school and it brings me so much comfort. I appreciate you Lana.
Figuring out the “why” is by far the most important part. Love this video.
I’ve been feeling/thinking so negative as of late. It’s been a huge up and down roller coaster, thank you for making this video 🙏🏼🌈
Your videos are so inspiring and calming at the same time. From someone like me who suffers from anxiety and negative thoughts this is very appreciated ❤️❤️
Being able to separate that negative voice in your head is actually a really powerful move to control the negative thoughts. Also being able to call that voice by name gives your more authority to your mental space which this negative voice has trespassed. Amazing strategy, Lana
So happy that I have stumbled across your channel yesterday! God bless the algorithm :)) Really love your input on this particular subject. I have been struggling all my life with negative self-talk and I cannot think of a time in which the voice had been quiet at all.
Thank you for sharing this. I have been going through this same cycle for many years and only recently in the past couple of years have identified it as the *Ego*, separating it like you have with naming it. I don't have a name for mine yet, besides when I do the act of writing in my journal, I call that slaying my demons to find my true self.
It's nice to see people on TH-cam be _real_ like you, I get a nice warm feeling of belonging and helps realign my perspective.
Please continue to make these videos, thanks!
We should call these litlle talks - "little talks" ❤️
Thank you for sharing.
I struggle with the same problem. I know this voice is my mother's voice and I try to see and understand that I am capable of so many good things, but sometimes it's really tough. At least I know where it's coming from and I can work on it.
Thanks again for sharing. You are a wonderful, smart and sensitive young lady. Stay safe and believe in yourself.
shoutout to recognising your own toxic traits and working on them! we’re in this together.💕
yes to this!!
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It feels like I'm talking to a best friend. Thanks for being so open and real
I can relate so much to this subject. You're right sometimes all we need is to know that we are not alone. I can definitely relate, this is something I deal with daily. And your coping mechanism of naming the voice, love it. I will give that a try and see how it works. ty for sharing your experience, and putting yourself out there like that, it takes a lot of courage and boldness. love it!
Thank you so much for this video!! I also have negative thoughts about myself as well and just listening to you talk is really helpful
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A quote from one of my favorite fantasy characters: "If you don't make any enemies you're not doing things right. Any blockhead can go through life without offending people."
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This video is soo important, love the personal ones. Thank you ❤️
I like this tea time chat. I've realized that I've been feeling apathetic about life for the longest time and just dealing with it. Maybe quarantine is making us realize things about ourselves that we've been too busy to notice
Love this Lana! Thanks for inspiring people! The quarantine, pandemic and all other issues recently really caused a lot of people to have negative thoughts, including myself. That's why I've also made it my mission to try my best to be there for others for comfort as well as keep sharing positive vibes and inspiration as much as I can💕 xo
I love how authentic you are in your videos, feels like you bring us into the same space to hang out and chit chat as friends 😍
I'm crying... thanks Lana! this is like talking to a friend, the intonation, gesture, etc LOL currently having similar experiences and it's always interesting how others perceive it and also help to cope with my own
Thank you for sharing. I can relate to these negative thoughts going through my mind since forever. This is a reminder that a lot of people go through that and it helps to talk it out. Love this style of videos ❤️
I've just discovered your channel and i'm really enjoying your content. I love how calm and serene you soudn and i found your videos really helpfull. I like seeing there's more people dealing with the same issues and struggles.
Thanks a lot Ione
Just know that your videos have helped me through so many issues and know that your subs adore you and your collectivity. Bless you and may your thoughts flourish into something beautiful
Couldn't be happier reading that :) x
love this video. you're absolutely right not every moment has to be a lesson, nor do we need to have all the answers in every moment. i sometimes video record/journal entry and i was watching back over my videos from a couple years ago and noticed how judgmental and hard on myself i was being as i was reflecting on myself and my life then. i had a clear desire to bring my actions and emotions into alignment with my values, love, and truth, but then shat on myself when i was human and not perfect. this is harmful because the negative mind/negative self talk serves only to perpetuate this sense of lack of self worth. whereas in this moment and going forward, im trying to be mindful of when these negative thoughts arise and in the moment trying to let them go and re-center myself. its really difficult when these negative thoughts are attached to a heavily charged emotion because emotions carry incredible power of experience, so sometimes ill notice only after the fact that negativity has taken over. but with continued mindfulness practice and with focus on the fact that with conscious attention and redirection of awareness to positivity and wholeness, with acceptance of myself where i'm at with intention to grow, without the need to control, and with self compassion, dissolving negative mind is possible. i love this style of video where you just talk and share your current experiences. you're right its wonderful to watch a video and feel like you're not alone. what i like most is that its not a weepy video where you feel bad about yourself, but rather where you accept you dont currently have all the answers, but are on your journey. sending love
I've been struggling with mental health issues for the last months and this video made me realize that negative thoughts could be part of the problem. I've always been very self critical and sometimes that really makes it difficult for me to be happy about achiefments or be happy in general. I think this is something I really need to work on
I love all of your videos so much, I'm glad I found your channel an hour ago.
thank you. welcome to the fam!
It’s great that your content is so relatable, you’re inspiring me to get better every single day 😍❤️I just love your videos.
Thank you!! :-)
I’ve been feeling alone lately so this was healing... you feel like a friend 🤍thanks for sharing your space
Thank you for this video you're amazing! You helped me realise where are my negative thoughts coming from. I've been lastly stuck in a environment that I don't thrive in and started to doubt myself in every possible way. You helped me to open my eyes and give me hope that i can get back to my usual self. I'd definitely like to hear another one on the same topic.
Lana personally I have for many years essentially rid myself of most (not quite all) concepts of personal negativity or positivity. Part of the problem is that I find there is more of a moral component to living. And negative and positive are more impersonal words. Also many 'negative' experiences are important to pay attention to because they might be a sign of something wrong that requires going further into the darkness to find the answer. Likewise the quest for personal positivity can often be a mask we use to hide our moral darkness away from ourselves. I have operated under these principals for more than thirty years and have not been let down by them. Essentially the darkness is not something I feel a need to escape. And the joy is always an unexpected and welcome ray of light.
Things will get better turn your obstacles into opportunities!!
I am really happy that youtube recommended your channel to me! you have been helping me stay calm and be better this past few months; more love and light to you, Lana!
So happy to read this x
thank u so much for this video
It happened to me in a few stages in life. Just be brave and fight it! Don't let that get you down, life is and will always be a struggle, however those moments that are beautiful are worth all the fighting and not giving up.
You are one of my inspiration to start my own youtube channel.. Loads of love ❤️
"Where I'll bring some tea and barely even drink from it.." 😆 so cute! Hahaha
lol ikr??!
It made me chuckle :D
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Thanks for the openness. always good to hear someone else’s point of view this issue
So happy I found this community. This was much needed as I’m struggling with the same thing, especially during this time. Thank you!
When you learn to survive without anyone , you can survive everything.
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Got to get rid of the negativity, Lana, you are great! Love your videos!
thank you for being vulnerable and sharing this. It feels really good and comforting to see you share a current struggle, makes being not all put together a legitimate thing for me too :) so I'm all for the new style! great job getting out of your comfort zone!
Thank you for sharing. Sometimes it’s more helpful to know you’re not along than to receive advice. Thank you for recognizing that!
Always nice to follow your thought process and listen to you vocalizing your ideas! Keep up the great work 👏👏
Great blog, Lana!❤️❤️
This is so helpful ,endless thanks to you Lana.
I have been going through similar kind of experience for like almost 2 years. I can see how much it is hampering my growth both in personal and professional life. I have never been able to explain this to someone, this doubtful insect constantly talking inside my head. Thank you for making this video, Lana. YES, WE ARE EXPERIENCING THIS TOGETHER! Please keep making videos like this one. It was really really helpful!
You are an amazing and inspirational women. There is too much negativity in this world. Stay positive!☺
Hi dear Lana, you are seriously one of my favorite persons on TH-cam. I feel like we have one on one conversations even though it's virtual. You are inspiring and down to earth at the same time. You have talent to connect with us! Sending you lots of positive energy. Keep going! We love you!
Thanks so much sweet you! Warms my heart.
I've struggled with negative thoughts all of my life. Constantly putting myself down throughout. Now I've learned how to meditate and it helps so much. Well done for putting yourself on camera! Its amazing to see another introvert doing something great by helping others. 👏 definitely subbed👍
Hey Lana, thanks for this type of video, it's different from what you usually do but it's still great and was so much nice to watch !
I wanted to share with you and I guess everybody in the comment section my relation with negative thoughts. It's been a part of me for my entire life, I've unfortunately always been like that .. It's certainly coming from a lack of confidence that I have since my childhood, but for the past month/year, I really wanted to change that (or evolve, because you don't really change, you learn and then become a better version of yourself).
I've talked about this with my closest friend for 10 years now, they support me every day and every time I bring this subject on the table. I try to be always be nice with me, to only bring and remember the good about what I've done today, what I've seen, learn, etc .. I really try to focus on the good things, even if they are bad. Not everything can be good, but you always learn something from "the bad".
Some days are great, I feel really good about how I see myself, but others are more difficult even if they are more rare and rare ! :)
So yeah, I really never comment TH-cam videos, it's one of my first time actually but I wanted to do and I'm very happy I did :)
I hope everyone who's reading or watching this video will get to a point in their life where negative thoughts are litteraly crushed by the weight of positive thoughts ! We all can, and will do it !
(Sorry for my english, clearly not my mother tongue but I've tried my best :P)
Acknowledging it is a first step BUT the MOST IMPORTANT FIRST STEP. ❤️ More power to you!
Hi shreyalogue
OH MY GOD YES :) I am feeling down too, and every time i need advice i want to come to you and watch your videos, you save me :)
This makes me so happy xx
Lana Blakely 🥺💕💕 girl I don’t want to get emotional but you literally saved me from my depression. Literally. I swear I was hopeless and losing all hopes at all without you
Every time I feel upset or stressed out, I just go to your channel and you just totally put me back in a positive mood. Thank you so much
Thanks for your sincerity, I don't have a name for these thoughts but sure I was feeling this, too!
Your videos are so inspiring. Thanks for this one.
Thanks for watching :)
There are some days where I feel nothing is going right, where I go over each detail of my day to determine what I did wrong, what could i do differently. Sometimes that's a good thing, it can help in future similar situations, but there are times when it can't help, I would go over each situation days, even weeks later criticising myself over what I did and what should I have done.
Not sure if this helps, but stepping back, seeing situations as if someone else did them and you're looking on at them, sometimes it helps to get those negative thoughts away but sometimes it doesn't help. If anyone else has some other things they do please let me know.
For me it's the same thing, but in episodes of days/weeks in a row every once in a while. Sometimes it just doesn't go away on itself.
When I've been feeling like this the entire day or longer, I try to make some time in the evening or afternoon to just unplug a bit and write everything down what's bothering me.
It doesn't necessarily make me feel better, but it helps me getting myself out of my head and just feel a bit more at ease with it all.
I used to be really restless about it, but I find it easier to just take it easy during those days. Sometimes it's the little things like easier to prepare meals or instead of all the dishes just washing two or three. Not getting 'everything done' is always better than not respecting your limits.
Some days we just can't get things to work out for some reason, and that's okay too.
I've been having a lot of these bad days. It's draining
@@InshasChoice sorry to hear that, hope you're ok
Wanting my reality to be different, not accepting my mistakes, not liking my body, wanting a different life, missing my past and wanting to return. I have anxiety, fear, depression, social anxiety, I am shy around other people, Insomnia, excessive hungry and sugar addiction. I have an Unhealthy habit of crying with Music at night. Overthinking, all of those things produce pain in my chest. And yes, I regret about many things that I didn't made in a properly form, it's not what I wanted at the end. I made wrong decisions, I wish I acted in a different way, currently I hear negative voices inside my head saying negative affirmations like everyone wish me failure and bad look, and more things. It is negative self-talk. We are not alone, at the moment it seems really dark and difficult to get out of the darkness, but everything gonna be okay 👌
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@@alextint5987 it's going to get better 💞
Hi!!! I’ve been watching your videos lately and I really like them. I think it’s very nice that you make subtitles in the videos bc english is not my mother language and sometimes it’s hard to understand the words. I’m loving your videos.
Honeslty thank you soo much lana your videos have never not been beneficial!!
Wow. Such a good video! I somewhat expected it to be sad because it's a sad topic but it's actually so comforting! Love this kind of thing freestyle video, please make more 🙏 It's been such a challenging time for all of us that it would be a miracle if anyone managed to stay positive all through it.
Glad it didn't come across as sad! Thanks so much for your comment Diana :) x
Hi diana otselle
"Better out than in, I always say" - Shrek. Sometimes we need to listen to our problems and have it articulated out loud, and that can be a solution in itself. At least it's conceptually laid out there so you've got the sucker in some form of parameter (might be wrong at first but it's a good start because then you use it as a benchmark and later make further ongoing discoveries to see if it's worse or better than you originally first conceived - it's like another journey you go on with continual refinement and adjustment to a better place)... whether or not it can be solved is another matter, but as long as you've made it consciously aware you can keep your eyes on it and ensure it doesn't make matters worse... it's about survival first before thriving, in my opinion. So then conceive and make small actions when it does get worse (and note it down ASAP even at the slightest turn to the worse) and experiment and make mistakes till it gets less worse and you find better ways to manage it... from there, a long term solution may even present itself - whether the environment gives you a clue or you happen to conceive of a better way after many experiments and/or repeated experiences from noticing patterns over time. And it starts with small incremental steps, and paying close attention to both the processes and it's resulting impacts.
Hi Lana, recently I've also been suffering from negative thoughts, anxiety and also over thinking about stuffs that I shouldn't. Moreover, it's pandemic time and not allowed to go outside our houses. So, I'm like locked up in my house with me and my negative thoughts.
I really loved your video and also the idea about naming the negative voice. I named her "Baddie Self-ish". I think this is going to help me lot. Thank you Lana, for this video. And you're beautiful.♡
hey Lana, you're not alone I'm also experiencing this things happening in your head and I noticed mine is worst, thanks for the tips that I can make a name from that trashy voice in my head..I want to learn to imagine if there's no negative voice in my head how beautiful my life is, but sometimes can't control it.
I need this so much 🙏❤️🙏
I absolutely love the idea of taking out the negative voice outside your head. I think I'm going to try it out. Love you, Lana!
It's been helpful! Worth a try :)
Nikharila
I really relate so much to you. I have been experiencing the same thing and I really had no idea how to escape this. Knowing that I am not alone in this has helped me already. I think to give a name to the inner negative voice is a great way. Definitely going to try it. ❤️
How about heart to heart with Lana Blakely
Thank you for this video! Thought it was helpful. I've been dealing with negative thoughts for the past few months, too, and now it's really started to take a toll on me. I'll need to name the voice and try to get rid of it
I always look forward for ur videos !! i love them
Take care ❤❤ the environment plays a big role in how you see things. I'm glad you became self-aware and got out of it real quick. I've been recently struggling with it. Sometimes you are your own biggest critic. You're doing great, girl. Perfectionism also kills. Sometimes we are just trying to get by- give yourself what you need.
Hi nicloe
I admire you a lot, it's not easy to deal our negative thoughts, before it's easy to advice but when you got in situation you don't know where to turn to, really struggling when you have that feeling of lost, to the point you don't know who you are.
I do have a title for this format, but one I am quite certain you would not consider, "Wisdom For The Ages." As a man of 61 years I connect with your insights in a way that goes straight to the emotional and critical mind, and for that, I can never fully express my gratitude. As one who has carried the label "introvert" from the beginning, your fresh perspective has given me a new angle from which I can review the journals I have kept since my teen years. You have been a great help, and I look forward to future content.