NEVER DATE OR MARRY THESE 13 TYPES OF MEN |

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  • There are 13 types of men single women should never date or marry. After all, few women WANT to waste their time with men who aren't considered "husband material", but it happens. There are at least a dozen, well defined types of men who make poor choices for long-term partners or husbands.
    Though every woman has a different level of tolerance for nonsense, these types should be given the side eye and double-vetted before you relax your standards and agree to embark on a dating relationship.
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  • @faithful2myfreedom934
    @faithful2myfreedom934 7 ปีที่แล้ว +60

    For the life of me I can't understand women who date guys with multiple baby mommas. Like do you want to be the next one? Furthermore, ladies you're special, but not that damn special. If a man has one too many kids but spends all his time and/or money on you those are resources his kids aren't getting. So when he gets you pregnant he'll be a deadbeat to your seed too.

  • @royalescorpio
    @royalescorpio 7 ปีที่แล้ว +46

    I was just telling a friend how common emotional abuse is. Women don't even notice that it's happening because it has become normalized. Umph!

  • @Monikblessed
    @Monikblessed 7 ปีที่แล้ว +30

    I dated the one that couldn't make up his mind about anything, especially marriage. There are too many black men like this in predominately black communities.

  • @michellemackey8272
    @michellemackey8272 7 ปีที่แล้ว +28

    I just stopped dating a guy that I thought had insecurity & control issues. An ex-fiance cheated on him in the past. He talked about how women don't want average men. We want men with status. Blah blah blah. Then he started talking about, "The bible says a man is head." This was in reference to a woman he dated that would "clap it up in church" as he called it but she didn't believe in the head of household business. Then would talk more about church. Then tell me he doesn't like being tried. This video spoke to my soul. Oh the bullets I dodged.

  • @Mysasser1
    @Mysasser1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +42

    This is why I am a huge fan of courting. When this happens the correct amount of time is alloted for both parties to make a proper choice.
    A video for the young ladies so they know the signs of being courted vs. being played would be very helpful.

    • @michellemackey8272
      @michellemackey8272 7 ปีที่แล้ว +12

      Mysasser1 Yup. If a man doesn't provide courtship...I RUN. It's usually because he doesn't want you to see something.

    • @mayaaisha
      @mayaaisha 7 ปีที่แล้ว

      Good idea

    • @Mysasser1
      @Mysasser1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Deborrah Cooper you got that right but see a lot of young women don't know the difference between then just wanting that vs trying to get to know them.

    • @GoddessBlueYozakura7
      @GoddessBlueYozakura7 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hahaha!

  • @Antoinette70
    @Antoinette70 7 ปีที่แล้ว +26

    The critical dudes have issues. The control freak is sick, and those dudes are weirdos! Been there and left that mess years ago! They don't want you to go to the grocery store without them, because they are insecure and think another guy is getting your phone number. These dudes are all losers. Look out for the control freak, because they can turn on you like a pit bull to be women beaters!

  • @naturalsystah
    @naturalsystah 7 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    SMH ex husband was many of these rolled into one. I was a dumbass then but not now.

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      +andromeda Key word = EX

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      Goodness gracious. None of your relatives taught you about men? That's just scandalous.

    • @naturalsystah
      @naturalsystah 7 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Deborrah Cooper oh I got taught somewhat, but he was very slick SMH

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      +andromeda Ohhhh.

  • @laynonna
    @laynonna 4 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    Wish I heard this 10 years ago. The insecure guy is all I've ever encountered with during online dating and I wondered why I never took the guys seriously. Can't stay the helL offline looking for gratification and attention from women seeking love from mommy while not able to carry a convo in person. I used to be the same way but then I got a FULL TIME JOB, HOBBIES AND GREW UP and off social media! Never used it to keep in touch because I hate ppl and don't want to see them on my downtime. Lol

  • @chocomiloloke1667
    @chocomiloloke1667 2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The guy with several baby mamas is sooooo true. So irresponsible and a complete waste of time

    • @SR77736
      @SR77736 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I befriended one and he was entitled AF. Expecting women to be submissive and had all these demands but wasn't offering a damn thing. No providing, no commitment or value. Just "going with the flow." Yet he was always trying to boss me around and lead. Foh. Blocked him!!! Ugh the delusion! Whose gonna give a man submission and let him lead when he isn't offering anything but played out dusty dick?

  • @alexsalsman5585
    @alexsalsman5585 7 ปีที่แล้ว +17

    I LOVE you Deborrah! You've changed my life. THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO!!!!

  • @shesh6061
    @shesh6061 7 ปีที่แล้ว +11

    Zero tolerance!

  • @BiancaStarksMusic
    @BiancaStarksMusic 6 ปีที่แล้ว +16

    I love your videos cause u keep it real girlfriend keep them coming!

  • @snoopy-mf7nv
    @snoopy-mf7nv 4 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    You are funny! I like your style. I am always down for the straight out approach in the raw and a touch of humor always adds spice. You got a new subscriber.

  • @audreysuniverse3051
    @audreysuniverse3051 2 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I told a dude I was dating he was handsome and he took. It wrong and said it was weird
    Guess his mom never called him handsome

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  2 ปีที่แล้ว +7

      That was him telling that he had extremely low self-esteem.

    • @audreysuniverse3051
      @audreysuniverse3051 2 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@Debsterism yeah he does - cause he is short and fat ! But he is very handsome in the face ! But every time he will tel me I’m f’ing somebody if I’m just at home sitting on my couch legs hairy as hell all nappy headed - doesn’t matter what I’m doing he’s always telling me I’m f”big someone or I’m a bitch or slut or hoe - stupid an I really ain’t cheating

  • @willowclay3137
    @willowclay3137 3 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Yeah my ex was a mean Narcissist! Run! And keep running girls! Get a good pair of running shoes!

  • @musicrelatioshipsfeelings5230
    @musicrelatioshipsfeelings5230 7 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Your spot on with this list... Love your channel lots of valuable information.

  • @yolandasalone221
    @yolandasalone221 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    Wow lol ....you are so right.

  • @maryamdiao1509
    @maryamdiao1509 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    17:15 both of my parents are like this and their marriage unfortunately. Critical and controlling that’s how I was carrying through life for awhile. But luckily I’m changing for the better

  • @Mysasser1
    @Mysasser1 7 ปีที่แล้ว +8

    ALL.OF.THIS.!!!!!

  • @mayaaisha
    @mayaaisha 7 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    😂😂😂 lmao..love your realness

  • @maryamdiao1509
    @maryamdiao1509 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    9:15 these men know very well what their doing. Always some truth to their feelings behind their joke. You always spit facts. I used to work with a bum who would act like that

  • @peace_lovejoy8246
    @peace_lovejoy8246 5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    lol u r a trip love it

  • @leanysealvarado7499
    @leanysealvarado7499 2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I am so late to the party. Just recently discovered your channel and now I have to watch them every day!!! I am so glad you have created enough videos for me to watch for a long time. 🥰❤️👍🏾

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  2 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Welcome to the channel!! Please share a link or two on your social media to help other young ladies find their way here.

    • @leanysealvarado7499
      @leanysealvarado7499 2 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@Debsterism will do!!!🫡💯❤️

  • @notjustaprettyface
    @notjustaprettyface 3 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    We are so similar as it relates to how we communicate with stupid men…no Vaseline!!! Straight henny, no chaser 🤣🤣🤣

  • @danashaw8463
    @danashaw8463 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Community dock don't travel far lol

  • @missball404
    @missball404 7 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    EXCELLENT LIST👍👍👍💜

  • @rakimuh3187
    @rakimuh3187 3 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Good advice

  • @tatathebutterfly
    @tatathebutterfly 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Another great video Deborrah! May I have your email to ask you a question?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  ปีที่แล้ว

      Use the form at debsterism.com

  • @Cejuan25
    @Cejuan25 7 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I must ask, why are women the only ones allowed to criticize the other gender?

    • @Debsterism
      @Debsterism  7 ปีที่แล้ว +45

      +Cejuan25 Are you kidding me right bow+ There are thousands if black males with blogs, blogtalkradio shows, books, Facebook and Google plus pages, as well as TH-cam channels who do nothing but berate black women! Favorite topics, refusal to submit, too many sex partners (that don't include them), weaves, babies and single parent homes (created after BM abandoned women and children), etc. They've made entire careers on that. Here the focus is on education and awareness about the BM mentality of gaming, using, and dumping women so young black girls won't waste their time with such situations. I push women towards healthy, mutually rewarding relationships...not to overgive just to have a man in their life! Those dudes don't care about healthy because they don't care about women. They view women as cunts to serve them and their demands, nothing more.
      As long as you've been around, I am disappointed you are still unable to differentiate between bashing and a warning/alert about very real male behaviors towards women.

    • @Cejuan25
      @Cejuan25 7 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      I was asking because while I agree I need to change any issues she brings up with me, it should be the same when i bring up an issue, concern or criticism about her. It should be mutual but respectful.