Why Black Women Struggle With Self-Love | Black Women & Self-Love Series
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 18 พ.ย. 2023
- People shame us for how we wear our hair, how we talk, the clothes we wear, and our life decisions. WE. ARE. TIRED. If you're a Black woman struggling to love yourself, you're not alone. Let's have a conversation about some of the experiences and situations that cause us to question our self-worth and diminish our self-esteem.
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Ever since I was in grade school I have been called every derogatory word you can think of. Even my own family member will say to me at times " I don't know why my brother was born so light but I was born so dark ( mind you my father is dark). At school I was bullied because of my skin complexion, body type, you name it. No one would date me, be on their team, sit by me in class nothing. There was times I dreamed of being a light skin woman to be the pretty girl, get attention and for people to like me. Sometimes I wanted to take myself out because of this so I wouldn't have to deal with this everyday.
As I grew older I have created an IDGAF attitude about what people think how I look! I know I look good inside and out and I'm not loosing any sleep about it either. As a dark skin black woman I am living in these fools head rent free and it's bothering this ish out of them and I love every bit of it.
Yes, sis! I love how you have grown, and I think a lot of us start to love ourselves and our skin more once we get older. I think this is so important for us to share with the younger dark-skinned girls dealing with the BS many of us had to go through in school.
And I’m so sorry for all the terrible experiences you went through. I hate that any of us are exposed to racism and colorism and have to heal from these painful experiences. 😔 Thank you so much for sharing ❤️
✨What were some of your experiences that chipped away at your self-worth and your ability to love yourself?
Elsa hair is when you do a big french plait. But i get what your saying in general. ,(am a dark skin black mum) and some times struggle with self esteem thank you for this.
For sure! But I think my daughter was more so referring to Elsa’s blonde, straight hair and not just the hairstyle based on other conversations we’ve had. 😔 And from one dark-skinned Black mom, I see you and thank you for sharing 💗
Your too strong and your too much of a goddess.. x
I begin to withdraw the instant any person premises who they are with a race, religion, nationality or ideology. I then have to scan my entire brain trying to gather what I know about that social norm and its expectations of me before I can safely talk to that person. Interacting with just a woman as just a man is the easiest for me. Im good at carrying stuff and making money.
Well, I imagine it would be helpful for you to do some internal work and determine why you are so triggered by how someone else identifies. Also, you might want to reflect on what it is about you that makes you have to work so hard to fit “expectations” of how people should be respected. 😊