Let's help each other out! Give the men below some ideas. What is something you can say to a woman to open up conversation besides "hello" ? :) Would love to hear this! I have a feeling this is going to be hilarious! LOL
I don't say anything I just look in their eyes 😍😍😍😍😍 then they say. Why are you looking at me like that.. Then I snap out of it... and say... Like what... They start blushing.
For one..I don't do "hilarious!..the word is an instant turn off..for this deep diver!..do you find this reply .. hilarious?.. ask yourself... about this 'category' of people who find the world a hilarious place..what is their defining characteristic? ..is this what the planet needs right now?..what timbre of men who don't do... hilarious...are there any women out there to match them?..
After we exchanged names and then maybe make her laugh then I say "so tell me something interesting about yourself"... That really throws them off! But once they come up with something then continue to talk about that and then eventually they ask you "so tell me something interesting about you". And I already have a go to answer for that. Then after I mentioned that stay silent that way she has to continue talking. ;)
That's the point of the interview (if he's calling it a date, the man's mindset is already broke), the man is the interviewer asking questions, and she is the candidate seeking approval and acceptance. This is the ONLY context to speak with a women you are on a date with, interested in, or in any way sexually interested, period. The man will dominate the conversation's architecture whilst saying very little, and she will love him for it, as she gives her best presentation getting emotionally high. Make sense?
@@scottjones7553 Yes what you said makes sense. I'm going on a date with a girl on October 18th which is tomorrow lol. She has a beautiful face with thick butt and thighs while still being slim, she is into fitness. I'm also a virgin so this is exciting.
@@napoleondynamite4148 lmao leave her immediately then, if you catch signs like she is not interested talking to you, best action at the time would be to take a step back
Wrong... If a man doesn't ask you any questions back it means he's genuinely not interested in you and could careless in getting to know you.. There, that was simple and it is also a fact!
It's because women always seem to want the man to carry the entire conversation & basically keep them entertained the whole entire time. Unfortunately if we don't do this they tend to see us as uninteresting & tell their friends that we are the boring ones.
No ! You have all the power to control how you want the conversation to go . It's an experience your giving her so you have it lead her,if you stand there talking too much her will continue to listen to you . Just leave silence for her to engage also . The process is between two people . It's like a dance , think of it like that .
That's the problem, a lot of guys don't have a high value of self worth, confidence. It's easy to say be more confident and increase your value, I think it's more intricate than that.
After 44 years of marriage, silence suits me just fine...not all, but a lot of the time. My wife often says, “You never ask me questions, I’m always asking you questions.” Now, 44 years ago I’m sure it was different but I can barely remember how it was then. Your advice to the young guys is always on point, Apollonia.
I PLAY VIDEO GAMES AND THE GIRL IS TALKING I ANSWER HER QUESTIONS AND STAY SILENT THEN SHE GOES WHY DONT YOU TALK AND THAT TUIRNS HER ON AND THEN WE TAlk
She's speaking truth you shouldn't have to try so hard to impress I was on a date with this lady and she was feeling awkward I told her pretend it's our 3rd date we laughed and had a great conversations and a good date !!!
Whenever I've been on dates and there's a silence I immediately panic and start talking about myself. Not anymore, I'll give this method a shot. Thanks AP
for shy guys, I believe that men tend to start conversations with women because it can either be a societal norm where men are expected to take charge and initiate things (relationships, ideas, activities, etc.) or it is for boost of confidence where just starting a conversation is getting out of our comfort zone and ultimately let the women know that we do not have cold feet. That rambling is just from my little experience.
I know I been single for 38 years walking this earth, never had a girlfriend, never been married, no kids. Even though, throw out those many years of being alone for so long. I have been observing human personalities and behaviors for such a long time and notice that a lot of women view men from their viewpoint. In past relationships, they had with them as to be the confident one in the intimate area, knowing what they want out of a link along with life itself, and if they carry themselves well health-wise is the biggest thing women look at the most. It always seems every detail, responsibility, connections, and the way that men carry themselves to the woman that they are interested in plays a huge role for them to notice them. The interaction between a man and a woman seems to play in the mind of each partner is doing something right to let the other person see that they are themselves without sending a wrong message towards each other, which leads to overthinking. I guess that points to signs of nervousness, anxiety, and a lack of confidence in so many ways. In today's social world, it seems like all the pressure is on the man to keep a woman to see if a man worthy throughout the circus show as you said in the video. In the other area, when its a man turn to want to get to know a woman, by targeting the same questions and interactions, which was addressed to him right back at the woman that he is talking to, so he can learn something about her as well. There seems to be like it is more of a struggle because out of the woman that you're interested in, and if you are going to have that intense connection to make that relationship work. I know when many people once they soon become in relationships, they do not realize that it is a lot of hard work to keep all those things that when speaking in the 50/50 range without getting into breakups or divorces if both parties did not support the other. I guess that's why been single so long I been a deep thinker, always look hard before I get in too deep in a situation. Thanks for the upload, Apollonia Ponti I learned a lot from your video and pleased continue to coach the wisdom that you have. Most of all, keep up the good work.
Apollonia, Again another great video. What you said about " She needs to impress you too ". I sometimes ask myself why I always have to initiate the conversation . If she is there only the free meal, drinks and not for my company, then she's not appreciating or value me.
I'm loving this! I'm on a date tonight with a woman who might be "the one", so I want to make sure there's a second date. What I'm hearing is it's interesting to be interested: about her, her job, what's she's about. Thank you very much!
I’ve always found that it’s a lot easier talking to women when your doing some type of group thing. Like a bible study group, or a fitness group, or something like that because it’s kind of an organic thing rather than just walking up to random chicks in the mall.
Wow you are the only person that but it in that way . So many vids out there explaining how to chat ladies up . I have never heard this before yet . Great stuff
This is really smart and makes me realize I did always feel this pressure to impress or to keep the conversation going. I like that how you explain it too makes it about just trying to see if she's interested or not and moving on if she isn't. That's great advice.
One good thing about the guy doing a lot of the talking is it gives him a chance to talk about how he's a high value man or say something that will get her attention to show that they have something in common.
When approaching a group of hot women, it's good to open right away by asking them each to pull your finger, When these women do pull your finger then let one rip. This will demonstrate to them that you are a high value male who isn't intimidated by their beauty.
My personal talking-with-girls mantra, I call it "QUESTIONS = GOLD" First of all, this is an interview & negotiation, not a casual conversation. Casual conversations are for suckers and non-critical situations. Your encounter with her is a PREMIUM interaction, and you will be executing an interview strategy whilst negotiating, obviously. This is going to work like a job interview...and I'm pretty sure most men understand the concept behind a job interview. The interviewer asks questions and speaks very little, while the candidate responds, desperate to impress the interviewer. Get that conversational context in your mind, and the rest will all fall into place... 1) ask a question relevant to the person you already perceive her to be / context relevant to each of your lifestyles 2) close mouth and listen with an open body posture WITH eye contact (she's now staring into your eyes for extended periods of time) 3) insert silence after she speaks...to trigger her to make a comment, and more likely ask a question to you...4) now you may speak, and use your best educated vocabulary to speak confidently about the topic....keep it short but descriptive and FULL OF IMAGES to stimulate her mind and deliver the emotional (mental) high that she wants. Then observe her body language as she receives your colorful response and concise / accurate information. Her body language is positive? She smiled, nodded head? She got her dopamine hit, and you gave it to her, she wants another hit though...Time to launch another question, and repeat the process for as many dope hits you want to give her, or have practical time for...She then continues coming back to you for more dopamine until she's obsessed, NO OTHER MAN is providing her the REPEATING emotional high / dopamine you give her...so guess what, she's yours. She will tell her friends "he's so thoughtful and really listens to what I have to say, I can tell he really cares." Or "he's so take charge, and I can tell when he says something he's careful choosing his words, he seems really smart too!". Of course she feels this way, you are that person, and she's getting high as a kite! Asking questions to a girl allows them to use their mind to both respond smartly, and engage in an emotional high with you. The repeated process of asking questions is THE ONLY WAY you talk to a girl that you're interested in, 100% no exceptions on the first encounter, and on subsequent encounters until she's yours, then you can relax a bit, since you will already be exchanging unsolicited dialog. My mantra resembles what's discussed in this video nearly exactly, essentially same strategy. And isn't that a good thing to feel, knowing that your engaging in conversation WITH A NEGOTIATION STRATEGY, not free styling / dice rolling / omg what's going to happen. Screw that, you're a man, you DO have a game plan, and you are executing it right now, both consistently and intentionally, and you ARE going to get what you want from the negotiation. Weak men are plentiful and useless, and women are extremely good at smelling weakness. You must dominate and control the conversation with women, and that is to say let her do most of the talking, ironically. Your dominance is primarily exhibited in your silence and careful question asking, how interesting is that. Fellas, this has worked great for me, and once it's a habit, you stop talking to girls in any other way or context, you always have the girls attention, after all it's their responsibility to compose their responses and words in real time, you've got the easy part. You are asking her to demonstrate her best presentation while you sit there and watch her try and win your approval. Are you getting the picture? (notice I ended this post with a question, to stimulate a response)
When approaching a woman it's a good idea to tell her right away that your Mom says that you are a catch. It is important to let her know right away that you are a high value male and that your Mon validates this.
Great video. As you were sharing your thoughts I realized how many men flip conversations and make it about themselves, as if it’s a comparison competition. Like always thank you 🙏. Great things are coming your way.
videos that a couple that is in the pulling away stage but the woman is willing to look at videos together and spend the last of her time with. im leaving on a road trip this week. only have 3 more days and she agreed to sit down and watch.
I think men feel they have to make the first move. Men have to have no fear of rejection and I believe women always want to be pursued. I have never witnessed a woman initiate the first move. It's very rare. I think this is a big component to why men overthink. Love your videos😀
Apollonia great advice on the topic . I have learnt this lesson a long time ago . Let me add few things to your advice . I usually talk less than the girls I approach nowadays because I have found out that for there to be a true connection there must be silence so that new topics can arise . Most importantly, if your engaging in a conversation with someone you can't be the one cracking your head for topics that to stressful and it puts to much pressure on you . Men must also let the girl handle the pressure by leaving silence . Sometimes I plainly say" I have run of things to say" and girls are impressed by how honest I'm . Or sometimes I say " Ask me some interesting questions " . Apollonia, the problem is guys take approaching women toooo seriously . Just advice your clients to have fun talking to women .
What you said is brilliant! because men think if they let women do all the talking they will be friend zoned, so they talk about themselves a lot thinking like a salesperson and how I can show value to her. Like you said make the coversation fun, some men do ask women questions but they don't make it fun like you suggest. So they make conversation boring and women don't like boring job interview. They are looking for conversation not boring job interview or look at me if I talk long enough about myself you will see value in me.
Excellent video. I follow you on Instagram ,also.Yes,i've been guilty of thinking the conversation must always continue.Well presented on how to be quiet,but not disrespectful.Love your Man with a plan saying.Thanks again.
If you want to know her you'll listen. If you have alternative motives you both know it. Even if it's unsaid. Lying feels different in our being. If she's lying or YOU are lying it's out there. Remember, there is no rush. If you're both attracted even mildly finish the contact with "I've really enjoyed our chat, talk, time. " If you have seen her before or it's the first time don't rush it, or force it. Getting to know someone is like foreplay. It's best if you're not rushing about, forcing it, acting like there's a time limit. Be open, calm, passionate about what you're really interested in. And no means no so pay attention. If your both invested it works. If you're all in and your partner isn't then it's time to say nice chat and move on respectfully. Whether you know it or feel it or not, there are plenty of people interested in you out there. Unless you are currently dying then you have time.
It is a scientific fact that on average women say three times as many words per day as men. Therefore once you get her going sit back, relax, and listen. Try not to show boredom or fall asleep. Once she gets started you might not get a chance to get a word in edgewise anyway. If there's an awkward silence ask her an open Question and she'll be back off to the races. Listen to the quality and tone of her voice. Decide if you find it pleasant or irritating. If you get serious you might have to listen to it for a long time. I rate both men's and women's voices on a scale of 1 to 10. Recently I've been listening to a woman's voice on the internet on a radio station in another country I rate as 10. She could say anything and it's music to my ears. I rate my own voice at 3.
Today I told a woman that went to school for me that I thought she had a huge charisma under all that was in class ,that I could feel it . Then she blocked 🚫 me or deleted my number . Some woman are just like this and it is how it is and I am okay with that..but maybe I just felt back then that someone was wrong with her ..you know
it would be great to do a series for woman. your coaching could help woman meet men in the middle on all of this. your work already is great for men and woman that dont uderstand how damaging mind games and pulling away are to getting passed the 3rd state of a relationship and to be able to move on as a new and improved couple. i want you to do this Apollonia?
Informative video, a great teacher of dating, relationships, stunning as always, I over think cause I'm introverted, anxiety 24/7 while appearing cool, plus women scare me I mean no Degree only self learned and taught skills, an beautiful Educated Woman will run for all the hills
Apollonia, where do you think that a man should impress a woman comes from? I wonder how did that get started and who was it that created it? I think that it has done a lot of men a grave disservice over the decades. I enjoy your videos. Thank you.
This one girl wasn't feeling me, but my Uncle Rom says go for the ones that are attracted to u, especially bc I'ma pretty boy, most girls are probably intimated by that
Of course women should too, or should entirely start it imho! The reason is social pressure, we men are always expected to make the first move, make the first kiss, make the first greet, ask for the first date, start the conversation, etc. etc. etc. It's what is expected of us by women and other men. Shit sucks but that's the reason. Good video btw.
Let's help each other out! Give the men below some ideas. What is something you can say to a woman to open up conversation besides "hello" ? :) Would love to hear this! I have a feeling this is going to be hilarious! LOL
I don't say anything I just look in their eyes 😍😍😍😍😍 then they say. Why are you looking at me like that.. Then I snap out of it... and say... Like what... They start blushing.
For one..I don't do "hilarious!..the word is an instant turn off..for this deep diver!..do you find this reply .. hilarious?.. ask yourself... about this 'category' of people who find the world a hilarious place..what is their defining characteristic? ..is this what the planet needs right now?..what timbre of men who don't do... hilarious...are there any women out there to match them?..
By basically tell her your name first then you asked her wats is her name started from there... Right coach??
😍😍😍😍😏
After we exchanged names and then maybe make her laugh then I say "so tell me something interesting about yourself"...
That really throws them off! But once they come up with something then continue to talk about that and then eventually they ask you "so tell me something interesting about you". And I already have a go to answer for that. Then after I mentioned that stay silent that way she has to continue talking. ;)
"She needs to impress you too." GOLD!!
That's the point of the interview (if he's calling it a date, the man's mindset is already broke), the man is the interviewer asking questions, and she is the candidate seeking approval and acceptance. This is the ONLY context to speak with a women you are on a date with, interested in, or in any way sexually interested, period. The man will dominate the conversation's architecture whilst saying very little, and she will love him for it, as she gives her best presentation getting emotionally high. Make sense?
What if she doesn’t want to?🚶🏻♂️
@@scottjones7553 Yes what you said makes sense. I'm going on a date with a girl on October 18th which is tomorrow lol. She has a beautiful face with thick butt and thighs while still being slim, she is into fitness. I'm also a virgin so this is exciting.
@@napoleondynamite4148 lmao leave her immediately then, if you catch signs like she is not interested talking to you, best action at the time would be to take a step back
Right it shouldn’t be one sided
"Are you shy? ...Because I haven't heard you ask me anything." Apollonia is too good at this stuff.
Moo
Sounds good on paper, but the way she said it sounded abrasive. Doubt most women would appreciate that
Wrong... If a man doesn't ask you any questions back it means he's genuinely not interested in you and could careless in getting to know you.. There, that was simple and it is also a fact!
It's because women always seem to want the man to carry the entire conversation & basically keep them entertained the whole entire time. Unfortunately if we don't do this they tend to see us as uninteresting & tell their friends that we are the boring ones.
For real
No ! You have all the power to control how you want the conversation to go . It's an experience your giving her so you have it lead her,if you stand there talking too much her will continue to listen to you . Just leave silence for her to engage also . The process is between two people . It's like a dance , think of it like that .
Yes, you're absolutely right. It seems like we have to put a circus show in order to keep them entertained.
@@Pantera972 that's what she is saying here, don't give them a circus show. Give her room to talk, and if she can't, best to find someone who can!
You can't control anything if she is disinterested
*Embracing a mindset of exploration rather than perfection can really take the pressure off.*
Any man with a sense of self worth knows that both genders have to impress one another. 😎
True.
That's the problem, a lot of guys don't have a high value of self worth, confidence. It's easy to say be more confident and increase your value, I think it's more intricate than that.
After 44 years of marriage, silence suits me just fine...not all, but a lot of the time. My wife often says, “You never ask me questions, I’m always asking you questions.” Now, 44 years ago I’m sure it was different but I can barely remember how it was then. Your advice to the young guys is always on point, Apollonia.
Joe Mancini good day joe
ask her the question, give her the dopamine she craves, come on show her you love her by getting her high!
DOES IT WOEK THO
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Me approaching a girl: Hi
Her: Hi
Me: Good, thanks.
I'm exactly the same hahahahaha
LOL this got me
Mission accomplished lol
Bro chat about anything that you want. If she likes you, she'll be interested
It's a working progress
Nothing wrong with a comfortable silence!
Oh MY😍😍😍😍😍
I PLAY VIDEO GAMES AND THE GIRL IS TALKING I ANSWER HER QUESTIONS AND STAY SILENT THEN SHE GOES WHY DONT YOU TALK AND THAT TUIRNS HER ON AND THEN WE TAlk
But a lot of people dont like silence period. Resulting in them feeling awkward and will leave.
i have been looking for this video my whole life. thank you so much!
Thank you for watching!
You are my best online friend. Very helpful suggestion. Thanks you mam
Apollonia, I love it! Show up and be yourself! I love the silent part, make the woman talk!
Thank you!
Man i like this women here. Thats how I always feel like i need to impress the women but wtf I need you to put some work in too! Help me out a bit lol
I do everything you said in this video yes I'm only 5ft 3 tall a lil chubby yet I accept the man that I am take it or leave it life is Good
Work on yourself. Don't just remain a chubby guy. You cannot fix height but fix what you can.
She's speaking truth you shouldn't have to try so hard to impress I was on a date with this lady and she was feeling awkward I told her pretend it's our 3rd date we laughed and had a great conversations and a good date !!!
This woman is so wise...
Woah Man
Whenever I've been on dates and there's a silence I immediately panic and start talking about myself. Not anymore, I'll give this method a shot. Thanks AP
It work?
This girl is awesome !! She’s spot on and what makes it even better is that she’s not bitter or biased like many other videos out there.
#facts
your are a women with such PASSION, INTELLIGENCE, and WIT!
really ENJOY listening to you perspective.
you are SPOT ON!
THANKS!!!
Most the women don’t have much to say yet expect some type of magical conversation
for shy guys, I believe that men tend to start conversations with women because it can either be a societal norm where men are expected to take charge and initiate things (relationships, ideas, activities, etc.) or it is for boost of confidence where just starting a conversation is getting out of our comfort zone and ultimately let the women know that we do not have cold feet. That rambling is just from my little experience.
Mam I must say this, You are most honest lady I had ever saw in this TH-cam who tell only the truth to their audiences.
#respect
#loveApolloniaponti
Hi Laxmikant,
Thank you for your comment.
Best,
Apollonia
are you shy? because i haven't heard you ask anything.
THESE WORDS ARE SO POWERFUL!!
“The eyes chico, they never lie”
Tony Montana from Scarface
I think that he said chichi get the yayo
Chico means boy in spanish :D
Most women say the man should message first....when you have silence you presume they're not interested so you move on...
I know I been single for 38 years walking this earth, never had a girlfriend, never been married, no kids. Even though, throw out those many years of being alone for so long. I have been observing human personalities and behaviors for such a long time and notice that a lot of women view men from their viewpoint. In past relationships, they had with them as to be the confident one in the intimate area, knowing what they want out of a link along with life itself, and if they carry themselves well health-wise is the biggest thing women look at the most. It always seems every detail, responsibility, connections, and the way that men carry themselves to the woman that they are interested in plays a huge role for them to notice them. The interaction between a man and a woman seems to play in the mind of each partner is doing something right to let the other person see that they are themselves without sending a wrong message towards each other, which leads to overthinking.
I guess that points to signs of nervousness, anxiety, and a lack of confidence in so many ways. In today's social world, it seems like all the pressure is on the man to keep a woman to see if a man worthy throughout the circus show as you said in the video. In the other area, when its a man turn to want to get to know a woman, by targeting the same questions and interactions, which was addressed to him right back at the woman that he is talking to, so he can learn something about her as well. There seems to be like it is more of a struggle because out of the woman that you're interested in, and if you are going to have that intense connection to make that relationship work. I know when many people once they soon become in relationships, they do not realize that it is a lot of hard work to keep all those things that when speaking in the 50/50 range without getting into breakups or divorces if both parties did not support the other. I guess that's why been single so long I been a deep thinker, always look hard before I get in too deep in a situation. Thanks for the upload, Apollonia Ponti I learned a lot from your video and pleased continue to coach the wisdom that you have. Most of all, keep up the good work.
“She needs to impress you too” ...excellent. Love the view, by the way.
What a relief... Thank you Apollonia Ponti. You're awesome.
“Trust me, I’m a woman, I know!” I ain’t even mad, Miss Ponti. 👏
Thank you for being bold enough to speak on this! We really appreciate the effort. Made me a better man.
Apollonia,
Again another great video. What you said about " She needs to impress you too ". I sometimes ask myself why I always have to initiate the conversation . If she is there only the free meal, drinks and not for my company, then she's not appreciating or value me.
I'm loving this! I'm on a date tonight with a woman who might be "the one", so I want to make sure there's a second date.
What I'm hearing is it's interesting to be interested: about her, her job, what's she's about. Thank you very much!
10 more hours of such videos and I should be able to say "hi" to a woman...omg
I’ve always found that it’s a lot easier talking to women when your doing some type of group thing. Like a bible study group, or a fitness group, or something like that because it’s kind of an organic thing rather than just walking up to random chicks in the mall.
I'm a Virgo ♍ and I have trouble with women because I'm very shy help out the super shy guys please
Yes 'AP'...I love the content in this video! Thank You
Good video Apollonia!
I am following many channels about dating advice and so far this is the most sincere one.
Wow you are the only person that but it in that way . So many vids out there explaining how to chat ladies up . I have never heard this before yet . Great stuff
This is really smart and makes me realize I did always feel this pressure to impress or to keep the conversation going. I like that how you explain it too makes it about just trying to see if she's interested or not and moving on if she isn't. That's great advice.
One good thing about the guy doing a lot of the talking is it gives him a chance to talk about how he's a high value man or say something that will get her attention to show that they have something in common.
Your channel is one of the best on TH-cam presented by a woman 👌.
Apollonia, the world's need in such women like you are.it is not a compliment, it's fact!!!
Wow! I really really struggle with this when it comes to women. Apollonia Ponti you really help me clear up some issues I have, thank you.
My friend from MM recommend this video great content
Thank you so much for watching Peter!
Very informative. I love & respect your wisdom.
Just an eye-opening video! Gold!
Man I needed this. Great points and with great guidance. Thank you for being real!!!
When approaching a group of hot women, it's good to open right away by asking them each to pull your finger, When these women do pull your finger then let one rip. This will demonstrate to them that you are a high value male who isn't intimidated by their beauty.
Great video, liked the information.
Very good , advice I desperately need and what an amazing backdrop. Thank you
Glad it was helpful!
Great CONTENT............
Because when we start the talking there's less awkward silence and more possible results of getting her number
Taking time out to review all your other videos... Sad I only just got to know about your channel... Enjoyed this video. Thank you👍
Hi Stay humble,
Well, happy you're here now! :)
Best,
Apollonia
Thank you for all that you do Apollonia. I’m glad to see your channel growing!
Thank you Apollonia! Great video, you impressed me
My personal talking-with-girls mantra, I call it "QUESTIONS = GOLD"
First of all, this is an interview & negotiation, not a casual conversation. Casual conversations are for suckers and non-critical situations. Your encounter with her is a PREMIUM interaction, and you will be executing an interview strategy whilst negotiating, obviously. This is going to work like a job interview...and I'm pretty sure most men understand the concept behind a job interview. The interviewer asks questions and speaks very little, while the candidate responds, desperate to impress the interviewer. Get that conversational context in your mind, and the rest will all fall into place...
1) ask a question relevant to the person you already perceive her to be / context relevant to each of your lifestyles 2) close mouth and listen with an open body posture WITH eye contact (she's now staring into your eyes for extended periods of time) 3) insert silence after she speaks...to trigger her to make a comment, and more likely ask a question to you...4) now you may speak, and use your best educated vocabulary to speak confidently about the topic....keep it short but descriptive and FULL OF IMAGES to stimulate her mind and deliver the emotional (mental) high that she wants. Then observe her body language as she receives your colorful response and concise / accurate information. Her body language is positive? She smiled, nodded head? She got her dopamine hit, and you gave it to her, she wants another hit though...Time to launch another question, and repeat the process for as many dope hits you want to give her, or have practical time for...She then continues coming back to you for more dopamine until she's obsessed, NO OTHER MAN is providing her the REPEATING emotional high / dopamine you give her...so guess what, she's yours. She will tell her friends "he's so thoughtful and really listens to what I have to say, I can tell he really cares." Or "he's so take charge, and I can tell when he says something he's careful choosing his words, he seems really smart too!". Of course she feels this way, you are that person, and she's getting high as a kite!
Asking questions to a girl allows them to use their mind to both respond smartly, and engage in an emotional high with you. The repeated process of asking questions is THE ONLY WAY you talk to a girl that you're interested in, 100% no exceptions on the first encounter, and on subsequent encounters until she's yours, then you can relax a bit, since you will already be exchanging unsolicited dialog.
My mantra resembles what's discussed in this video nearly exactly, essentially same strategy. And isn't that a good thing to feel, knowing that your engaging in conversation WITH A NEGOTIATION STRATEGY, not free styling / dice rolling / omg what's going to happen. Screw that, you're a man, you DO have a game plan, and you are executing it right now, both consistently and intentionally, and you ARE going to get what you want from the negotiation. Weak men are plentiful and useless, and women are extremely good at smelling weakness. You must dominate and control the conversation with women, and that is to say let her do most of the talking, ironically. Your dominance is primarily exhibited in your silence and careful question asking, how interesting is that. Fellas, this has worked great for me, and once it's a habit, you stop talking to girls in any other way or context, you always have the girls attention, after all it's their responsibility to compose their responses and words in real time, you've got the easy part. You are asking her to demonstrate her best presentation while you sit there and watch her try and win your approval. Are you getting the picture? (notice I ended this post with a question, to stimulate a response)
I know plenty guys that needed this video 10 years ago!
When approaching a woman it's a good idea to tell her right away that your Mom says that you are a catch. It is important to let her know right away that you are a high value male and that your Mon validates this.
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really cool attitude you portray. I appreciate your video. I'm subscribed!
loved the video, going to try this out
Great video. As you were sharing your thoughts I realized how many men flip conversations and make it about themselves, as if it’s a comparison competition.
Like always thank you 🙏. Great things are coming your way.
Hi Mike,
Thank you so much for your support.
Best,
Apollonia
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thanks Queen you give us 💯 scientifically proven tips I was reading a lot about it tonight Wishing you long life
I wish I could thank you personally, Apollonia.
videos that a couple that is in the pulling away stage but the woman is willing to look at videos together and spend the last of her time with. im leaving on a road trip this week. only have 3 more days and she agreed to sit down and watch.
When she laid back I was about to start a conversation through the screen 😆 that shit is powerful.
I love you Apollonia Ponti
instructions unclear, how do i get them out of the bodybag?
any help is useful
I think men feel they have to make the first move. Men have to have no fear of rejection and I believe women always want to be pursued. I have never witnessed a woman initiate the first move. It's very rare. I think this is a big component to why men overthink. Love your videos😀
Excellent video and 100% spot on.
Apollonia great advice on the topic . I have learnt this lesson a long time ago . Let me add few things to your advice . I usually talk less than the girls I approach nowadays because I have found out that for there to be a true connection there must be silence so that new topics can arise . Most importantly, if your engaging in a conversation with someone you can't be the one cracking your head for topics that to stressful and it puts to much pressure on you . Men must also let the girl handle the pressure by leaving silence . Sometimes I plainly say" I have run of things to say" and girls are impressed by how honest I'm . Or sometimes I say " Ask me some interesting questions " . Apollonia, the problem is guys take approaching women toooo seriously . Just advice your clients to have fun talking to women .
What you said is brilliant! because men think if they let women do all the talking they will be friend zoned, so they talk about themselves a lot thinking like a salesperson and how I can show value to her. Like you said make the coversation fun, some men do ask women questions but they don't make it fun like you suggest. So they make conversation boring and women don't like boring job interview. They are looking for conversation not boring job interview or look at me if I talk long enough about myself you will see value in me.
You deserve my subscription 👍🏽
One of your best vids yet Apollonia
Thank you!
Excellent video. I follow you on Instagram ,also.Yes,i've been guilty of thinking the conversation must always continue.Well presented on how to be quiet,but not disrespectful.Love your Man with a plan saying.Thanks again.
Hi Dan! You're welcome. :)
Because we don't want them to think that we are boring
If you want to know her you'll listen. If you have alternative motives you both know it. Even if it's unsaid.
Lying feels different in our being. If she's lying or YOU are lying it's out there.
Remember, there is no rush. If you're both attracted even mildly finish the contact with "I've really enjoyed our chat, talk, time. "
If you have seen her before or it's the first time don't rush it, or force it.
Getting to know someone is like foreplay.
It's best if you're not rushing about, forcing it, acting like there's a time limit.
Be open, calm, passionate about what you're really interested in.
And no means no so pay attention.
If your both invested it works.
If you're all in and your partner isn't then it's time to say nice chat and move on respectfully.
Whether you know it or feel it or not, there are plenty of people interested in you out there. Unless you are currently dying then you have time.
nice points you picked up.. Thanks Apollonia
Hello Prashant,
You are welcome!
Apollonia
Thankyou a woman giving it straight
I love you Apollonia.. Thank you for this video. ❤
It is a scientific fact that on average women say three times as many words per day as men. Therefore once you get her going sit back, relax, and listen. Try not to show boredom or fall asleep. Once she gets started you might not get a chance to get a word in edgewise anyway. If there's an awkward silence ask her an open Question and she'll be back off to the races. Listen to the quality and tone of her voice. Decide if you find it pleasant or irritating. If you get serious you might have to listen to it for a long time. I rate both men's and women's voices on a scale of 1 to 10. Recently I've been listening to a woman's voice on the internet on a radio station in another country I rate as 10. She could say anything and it's music to my ears. I rate my own voice at 3.
Today I told a woman that went to school for me that I thought she had a huge charisma under all that was in class ,that I could feel it . Then she blocked 🚫 me or deleted my number .
Some woman are just like this and it is how it is and I am okay with that..but maybe I just felt back then that someone was wrong with her ..you know
Honestly good point of view
Thanx , mean a lot with this video. It’s like a master key Apollonia.
Loving this content
I liked that table so much that i didn't notice the background
Congratulations for 100k cheers Apollonia :)
Thank you!
it would be great to do a series for woman. your coaching could help woman meet men in the middle on all of this. your work already is great for men and woman that dont uderstand how damaging mind games and pulling away are to getting passed the 3rd state of a relationship and to be able to move on as a new and improved couple. i want you to do this Apollonia?
Informative video, a great teacher of dating, relationships, stunning as always, I over think cause I'm introverted, anxiety 24/7 while appearing cool, plus women scare me I mean no Degree only self learned and taught skills, an beautiful Educated Woman will run for all the hills
I have a video coming soon for you Demetrius. :)
I appreciate you Apollonia.
Your support is so appreciated!
Apollonia, where do you think that a man should impress a woman comes from? I wonder how did that get started and who was it that created it? I think that it has done a lot of men a grave disservice over the decades. I enjoy your videos. Thank you.
Good info ima use a lot of this fr
Very helpful info,,,thank you,,very much.
Hello Alexander,
So glad you found the information helpful!
Apollonia
Good video. Goooooooood video! 👏👏👏👏 Glad I subscribed a while back!
Congratulations for 101k keep smiling keep growing your channel should have 10 million one day u will have
Hi Rajesh,
Thank you so much.
Best
Apollonia
This one girl wasn't feeling me, but my Uncle Rom says go for the ones that are attracted to u, especially bc I'ma pretty boy, most girls are probably intimated by that
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Of course women should too, or should entirely start it imho!
The reason is social pressure,
we men are always expected to make the first move, make the first kiss, make the first greet, ask for the first date, start the conversation, etc. etc. etc.
It's what is expected of us by women and other men.
Shit sucks but that's the reason.
Good video btw.
Awesome advice!
Thanks you Apollonia.
Thank u sm i needed this