DO FILIPINAS HAVE DADDY ISSUES? Understanding Your Pinay
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ต.ค. 2024
- @filipinapea @daddyissues @thefilipinapea @TheFilipinaPea
Do Filipinas have daddy issues? Do bears poop in the woods? But what causes Filipinas to have these so-called "daddy issues", and why is it more prevalent here than in many other places? I'm never afraid to follow where the truth may lead, so let's take an unbiased look at the subject, and see where we end up!
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This video was so beautiful. Now it makes much more sense! What you described makes it perfectly clear. I think anyone who could have their life upended so quickly would carry at least some trust issues with them about whether a man will stay with her. It makes sense why she would be so eager to find a stable, loving, supportive partner that is loyal. Thank you so much for this info! It helps me better understand the culture and mindset of a Filipina. Thanks Pea!
I know a lovely Filipina who admits to having separation anxiety. As a pilot, we are often gone 3-4 days at at time before returning home. I wonder what the best way would be to ease the anxiety besides just proving that I'll return time and again. Do you have any advice Pea?
The Filipina I’m with now doesn’t get along with her dad. She’s 30 and I’m 57 the 26th of this month. I know it really surprises her if I send her a text or a message just randomly it might be just a ❤, 🌹 or a 💋 or all together.
Anyway another good job Pea. I enjoyed this one keep up the good work and stay safe and have an awesome weekend.
Looking beautiful my little sweet pea ❤️ 😍🌹😘😘😘😘
Filial piety is a sharp, often destructive, two edged sword.
Thanks for tackling this tough subject Pea.
Thank you for doing this
vid. My Pilipina wife is 8 years younger than me. When she was about 2yrs she was sent to live with her 23yr old sister. Sister was married to US serviceman and they moved from Phils to USA. My wife was raised basically as a slave/maid
for the sister and her kids.
Ordeal left scars on my wife. Mental and physical.
Hello Pea.
Im a Filipino and I agree 100% with this video. I was raised by my grandparents and other family members..listening to this video is like being in a therapist office, well worth it!
I’m here in US now but planning to visit back home and I can’t wait to spread some I love yous to family members because I know they need to hear it!
Keep doing what your doing,..God bless!!
Thanks so much for that, Ruel 👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea The difference between the Filipino extended family is that it acts as a support system unlike in the west where the state use its institutions to control certain segments of the population. Human behavior can be predicted to act in a certain way given a stimulus but not always. Human beings are complicated and this is what makes it hard to make blanket conclusion especially in therapy. Though its a good start for diagnosis, we should not make the means to be the "cure'. The daddy issues you mentioned are no different than the ones here in the developed west. The thing is that the Filipino way where the relatives are involved at some level to make certain things taboo has a purpose in keeping society stable. I disagree with you however that being macho precludes a dad from doting on their daughters. This is not what I find among Filipino males. its rather the economic issues which forced them not to be emotional. Emotions do not solve anything. Men should not be emotional. They should be logical and rational. That said it should not preclude them from showing affection either. It is the job of the mother to shape the girl to be a woman. A boy does not have that "luxury" because it is a challenge to be good at being a man. This is the only purpose of being in this world as a male whether society imprints them with certain roles or not. Which is something no woman will ever understand. I do agree though that lying to a child about certain things can be detrimental while growing up. Using it as a crutch however and all the excuses to not grow up and "suck it up" is no good either. There is no time for depression nor for self validation and the lack of daddy's affection when survival is the core of one's existence. Don't be fooled by the West's behavioral theories. Its over rated and they don't have all the answers either. It makes for good money though. Sociology, Psychotherapy, Psychology and even Religion try to answer the human question. That to a certain extent we are defined by our environment.
@@uriahthehittite2309 I absolutely agree... Also, I've been living here in Canada for the past 36 years now. And when I listened to some of these west behavioral theorists, they just do a lot of talking but with a very few right answers.
@@uriahthehittite2309 Cogito Ergo Sum.
Why the deception? Where are the matters of accountability
I feel so sad because the children ultimately pay the price
How do you educate to stop this toxicity. It makes no sense for a poor country that as you state has electricity cut off frequently and no welfare system, why are these mothers continuing this toxic cycle when cannot afford to raise a child. Education is paramount and I state again I feel sorry for those poor innocent souls called children
Great show Pea. I learned something new today and can understand my wife maybe just a little bit more. She lost her dad when she was just 10 I think. Even worse he was killed right in front of her. I can’t imagine the mental scars she has. She was sent to live with her aunt so her mom could find a new husband. Her mom married again and had two more daughters but never sent for my wife. She was treated like a maid instead of a fully loved member of her family. She forgave her mom and now she lives with us without a financial care in the world. We also help her two sisters financially because they both have multiple kids. They are both married but their husbands have substance abuse issues. She has more forgiveness in her heart then I will ever have because once you have abandoned me, you no longer exist to me. I have worked so hard to make her feel loved, safe, and trust that I will always be here for her as long as I’m alive. Thankfully I think she believes that now. You got me in my feelings thinking about how much I love her. I think that’s what makes western men and Asian women such a great match. We are willing to sacrifice so much for our wives and kids happiness, all we want in return is respect and to be loved and appreciated. Filipinas will give all their heart to any man who’s worthy on the inside no matter what they look like on the outside. Keep up the great job Pea and tell pirate Pea to have one on me. Lol
learn from your wife and forgive it is very important. i used to be just like you or even worst because before if your wrong me i would wipe your existence from my head but i changed and now i have become the second coming of the Jesus Christ God is waiting for you forgive and don't let things corrupt you all humans are trying to figure out the right as best they can some are just further than other so help them and give them the chance they need figure it out
@@Piccolo_Sun that’s great advice that everyone should follow including me. I don’t have anyone to forgive cos I said in the post if it was me but it’s not. I have to be honest, I didn’t want anything to do with her family. I have learned from my wife and if she has forgiven then I can at least accept that. Thanks for taking the time to read the book I left and sharing your wisdom. Good luck God bless. Please keep sharing your wisdom with people because this world seems to have gone rotten.
David your a good man.
Remember Action Speaks Louder Than Words. Show your children and your Filipina how much they are loved and they will know without you spelling it out in words. They are very perceptive when young and can tell if they are loved by how you treat them. A dog cannot understand your language but if you shower him with love, attention and kindness he will defend you with his life.
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Pea, you just explained so much to me about my daughter. Understand that she's not biologically mine. But she's still 100% my daughter. Her biological father wants nothing to do with her. While even after her momma and I parted she and I maintain closeness. I have never stopped telling her that I love her and letting her know that she is the most awesome and beautiful daughter anyone has ever been blessed with. She was a very withdrawn nine year old child when her momma and I got together. And now she'll video chat me at 0300 just to say, "Mahal kita sobra, Papa Ken!!" I've made many prosperous investments in my lifetime thus far. But letting her know that she is loved, valued and cared for is above them all. Thank you for helping me understand more about my daughter's thought process and culture. You are a huge blessing to us, Pea. I'm grateful to know you.
And it sounds like you’ve made a huge difference in her life 👍❤️❤️❤️
Hi Pea! Buffalo Tom here--- glad to see that you're feeling better. Add Psychologist to the growing list of occuPeations on your resume. I sometimes wish you had a new post everyday , but to enjoy your quality of production takes time. It's obvious to us Pea-nuts you work very hard . So if you wanted to do just one a week , the pain & suffering of Pea-withdrawal would be a small price to pay for having our favorite Filipina well rested & healthy! You do so much for others, now do something you yourself. Sometimes you gotta be a little bit selfish, 'look out for number one', etc . Or not . Up to you . Just saying. Buffalo Tom says " GO BILLS " . Bye Pea.
I dated a much younger girl once, and a few people rumored about us, a couple told me they were not in favor of the relationship. After a few conversations I was once alone with the girl and I told her that “some people think you have daddy issues, do you think that’s true?” She smiled, looked away, laughed a little and said, “yeah, probably.” Then she rolled her eyes and kissed me a lot, lol. I’m not sure I did anything wrong but I sure liked her. I suppose I might have some sort of issues, too. Anyway, the important thing is that you are open and honest. It was over a decade ago and we still chat. She’s awesome.
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Exactly, Mason - who cares about daddy issues anyway? 🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea prolly all the younger guys not gettin any....
@@deandee8082 by far it was the women my age who were unhappy. Women older than me didn’t seem to have an opinion.
@@deandee8082 focus on getting money, be the daddy later in life
@@trailguy I’m just 37 and I’ve already gotten to the point that I don’t care what women my age think or want. That wall is starting to hit them one by one and they are getting bitter. I don’t find them attractive so I don’t care what they think lol.
holy shit.... Pea... you crack me the F up every time! You are so witty and whipsmart... I just love you and what you do 😍😍😍 (edit) I want to add, how profound and really insightful your work is... and how much you have deep insights into your culture (and many others). I hope other filipinos are watching your incredibly conscious and insightful wisdom... bless you
Your intelligence and your honesty are unsurpassed. You deserve 10 x the huge success you have had. I hate to sound like a sycophant, but I'm truly in awe of your ability to assess a situation and explain it truthfully and in a way that entertains and amuses. (Don't worry, I'm just a HUGE fan, NOT a stalker.) LOVE your work.
Darn, I was hoping you were a stalker 🤣🤣🤣❤️👍
Dude, now I have to waste my time and go Google sycophant....tsk tsk
What? A sick infant? lol
Couldn't have said it better myself!
This is one of the most informative videos I've seen from you yet. It explains a lot. The influence of western males clearly has its upside, as well as its downside. Great info, as always.
Pea, just like all your videos this one was spot on. I sat here with my Filipina (in Jasaan Misamis Oriental Philippines) and watched your video and she agreed with everything you said!
Then she ask me why I like to watch your videos (she's the normal jealous, thinks I'm going to leave her Filipina) and I told her that I've learned so much about her from you. Then she felt better knowing I didn't want you over her..... Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Keep up the good work, your teaching foreigners about the faithfulness of most Filipinas.
Excellent, Jeffery! She believed your story, and now we can continue our secret relationship right under her nose! 🤣🤣🤣
@@TheFilipinaPea oops, better not let her see this.... Lol you know how jealous you Filipinas are and she already worried I might run off with you because she says your so pretty 😂😂😂
I told her you don't want an old man like me 🤣🤣🤔🤔😳😳
OMG you've outdone yourself again with your outro costume! TH-cam, please give Pea the first "best costumes" award!
Pea, as an American psychotherapist, your descriptions are entirely accurate and valuable to those who are not familiar with relational psychology. You are doing excellent work, thanks from the USA 🇺🇸
Wow, Jesse, then I take that as the highest possible compliment 👍❤️😊
Very GOOD Episode, Pea. I appreciated very much your Cultural insights & perspective on this issue. I married the woman of my dreams in 2017, a Pinay, and there is soooo much I'm STILL learning. Continued succes with your channel!
Based on your personal backstory, it appears to be a heartfelt issue...a few of the edits give the impression that this was an issue that is dear to you and deeply personal...big virtual hug!
Great topic Pea, and great commentary. You nailed it. My ex Filipina has a daughter who never knew her father. Even though her mom and I have been split for 3 years, her daughter and I are still very close. She still calls me daddy and I consider her a daughter.
Great video Pea. Good insight like yours is very valuable.
Thankyou Pea, you are always a big help. I"ve been seeing a Pina over in Mindinoa for 3 yrs now. I'm a older man and have two grown kids from a prior marriage here in America. She left me and the two kids I was devastated, she is on her third marriage now. Me I stayed single for many years, I raised my kids. I loved being a dad and a husband, that's what make a man a family. Well I hope to get over there soon. She has kids but I don't care, I'm still a dad. My dad was my best friend and we did alot together like fishing, crabbing, baseball etc. My x was a career woman and really didn't want kids I did. I was the only kid and hated it. Dad was from 12 kids and mom was from four. I have my faith and believe in Jesus, amen!
I needed that laugh today . Cheers Pea. Thx for the upload , another piece of the puzzle girl
Another outstanding video!!!
I have always enjoyed your content and presentation skills and your exploding subscriber count has made it clear that I am not alone in that view.
I recently watched the 2.5 hour Filipina Pea interview on Gio's channel where he was the established and successful interviewer and the Filipina Pea was the fledgling upstart with less than 1000 subscribers.
That was only two years ago!!!
Fast forward to present day and the Filipina Pea has almost 189,000 subscribers to Gio's 41,100.
You are killing it girl.
Keep up the good work Pea!!!
We love you!!!
Pea you are an Angel. I once worked as part of an outreach program with my church at a youth facility for offenders too young for prison. The number one complaint from these kids, with tears streaming down their faces was, 'their father never one day told them they loved them'. After hearing that so many times, I never let a day pass without hugging my two boys and telling them that I love them. It started when they were 2 and 3 yrs old and it continues today at 27 and 28. If we talk on the phone or in person, no conversation ends without, 'I love you Son. I love you dad'.
Yeah, my mum never once told me she loved me, or hugged me, and I'm pretty messed up. :D My dad doesn't say it as such (I think once when I was a child), but he does sign emails "love Aged P".
My son & I are always saying it to each other.
Oh Miss Pea, you crack me up, SEVERAL times per video, AND enlighten. Thank you.
wow! only posted 50 minutes ago and im number 735 for thumbs up ! hey Pea! what a great insight. you have really opened my eyes to so much about Filipino thinking and culture. keep up the great videos! hope you are having a wonderful night!
Thanks Matthew! That’s my job, and I take it seriously (most of the time) 🤣👍
@@TheFilipinaPea MWAHH! 💋
VERY well done Ms. Pea. You are smarter and brilliant than most believe you are. You deserve so much more! HUGS
Awesome and very informative miss pea 👍👍👍 as a man from the USA I can’t imagine not being able to say I love you and to express that to my daughters every day ! Whether some people want to admit it or not, we all need to feel that we are loved and appreciated 👍👍👍
Professor Pea, the content on your channel goes pass the subject and hits the heart of the matter. May God continue to Blessing you and your family and may happiness fill your hearts forever 🙏🙏🙏
This video was very helpful. My wife has daddy issues and even insists on calling me daddy. It doesn’t bother me, however I’ve always worried where it came from. Thank you pea.
Dear Pea,
You are the only youtuber I ever subscribed to. You never cease to amaze me, us, your grateful subs.
I saw a youtuber's street walk through a very poor Ph city section, trashed piled high...the people.... That video and yours gave me such a feeling of sadness, empathy.....
People in this world deserve SO much better!
If my 5000 hours of reseach in the past 35 months is true, 2023 will be an amazing beginning of the turnaround to come.
I hope, after some events which will later be described as Biblical, that that new Heaven on Earth will bring billions to an end of suffering, to joy. The Creator has touched you Pea.
Peace, health and joy to you and yours and All.
Dave
Well thanks Dave, and your comment touched me as well 👍❤️
Fantastic report!
It answered a lot of questions and misconceptions in my mind. Talk about troub!e in paradise! My heart goes out the children. Thank you, on thank you, for this video.
My Filipina partner almost strained her neck nodding in agreement with you. She, like I, loves you. Thanks Pea.
I LOVE hearing that my sister Filipina agrees 👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ms Pea you are very impressive. You constantly surprise with your insight and depth. You must be under a bit of pressure to come up with new and fresh content twice a week, every week. I wish you nothing but the best and thank you.
Almost 40,000 views and over 1,000 comments in less than a day! Well done Pea. Very insightful and clearly explained
Hey Pea! As a counselor/therapist this was wonderful insight into many behaviors I have seen, be it friends, their girlfriends, or their family. This is why your videos are always at the top of my list. God bless
If a therapist like you can say that, then I’m most flattered to get it right 👍👍❤️
Thank you for this in depth explanation of the Filipina psyche, as it pertains to us older men. I'm looking forward to seeing you reach 200K subscribers!
Me too, Neil 👍🤣❤️
WOW.
Ms. Pea. Your blog goes deep into the human physiology. And how important it is for the Father to be directly involved in a daughters life.
Amazingly insightful, as always. You have provided so much "food for thought" for those of us who are interested in Filipino culture, and this installment is no exception. You explain so much, on so many levels, that it leads me to believe that your understanding of Western values and culture is as deep as that of your own. You are a national treasure Pea, and a valuable resource for those of us who dream of someday joining you on the archipelago. Many thanks for your hard work and inestimable efforts on our behalf!
Thanks Christopher! I do study both cultures, yes 👍❤️
She is just simply "Awesome"
You’re an amazing creator and I really appreciate your standing up for men, more specifically black men. When I leave the USA I’m looking for you. Lol!❤ I could look at you forever and live on every word you speak. 🥰
You killed me with, "Does that sound good to you Daddy" OMG...I almost spit my water out! Great video as always. I'm only 5 years older than my Philippina so I guess I'm not a Daddy...lol
You can still be her rock and her strength 👍❤️
@@TheFilipinaPea Of course!
You certainly are unique Pea. Nobody else is so insightful into Filipinas. Thank you
Wow, that brought tears to my eyes... my dear.... every video you do is so right on the money and i have been following you for the past 3 years... My girl in cebu certainly falls into a situation exactly as you describe... the last child to be born... overwhelmed with children her father gave her to her aunte to be raised... she is still very close to her mom... her dad passed away a number of years ago and she now has a 4 year old daughter.... the most loving talented girl who i hope will be in my life forevermore... Pea, this video really touched me.... maybe one day we can have lunch in negros... your friend franco.
Thanks for sticking with me so long, Franco 👍👍❤️
Beautiful show, so well expressed. Have a Blessed Day.
Having dated much younger women in my past, I’ve learned from them as well. One particularly intelligent young lady, told me she enjoyed our conversations, my mannerisms, and that she felt her maturity was appreciated. Another time, i was talking with a friend who was a mother of a teenage girl, she was angry at the approaches by older men towards her daughters. I understood her position, it was correct, protective, but i saw it was laced with a touch of some personal history. I told her, as long as her daughter was taught well, displayed an understanding of realities and was cautious, to trust her daughter. Keep an open, honest and respectful dialogue with them. Meet the suitors to see their nature. Better to learn from an open book, than learn much was happening unknown and in the dark where sometimes a better solution was too late. Such things are not easy to handle, often personal history and other emotional subjectivities hinder honesty, openness and fairness. Ps, your opening “Does that sound good to you daddy?”, made me blush.
Your Honesty is always appreciated. I Love my Filipina and you help me to understand the culture she comes from and to understand her more.
You are the absolute best Pea. Those of us that are older in the States have plenty of stories about generational lies and saving face. It's a crazy thing. This is a great episode.
Thank you, and God bless ❤
And it can be so damaging, too 😢🥺
@@TheFilipinaPea Yes...and some people never get over it, which is one of the points that was apparent in this episode.
Thanks again for your work. When I was watching this episode, I couldn't help but think of your Christmas episode, and the children there at the School.
Thank you for sharing the love.😘
I have noticed that family relations in Asian cultures differ a lot from our "western" cultures and there is also a big difference within the western cultures. As an example, Americans say I love you all the time. In Europe, we don´t, but we hug and kiss our loved ones all the time 🤭. Anyway, American and European children know that they are loved BUT they hardly talk or spend time with their parents at all. We are too busy working. Our children bond more with their friends and I think that is bad. In my world, children need supervision and guidance from their parents and grandparents. Thank you, Pea, this topic is so important to discuss.
Very interesting Miss p again you bring up topics that no one ever thinks of. I'll see you Tuesday have a great weekend
Thanks Boogie! Originality is my middle name 🤣❤️👍
Thank you Pea. No one else on the planet could have given this gem of a presentation. 👌
I'm a Patreon supporter too!
Thanks so much for that 👍👍👍❤️
I’m new to your channel, but after this segment, I’m a subscriber. This is great content.
The diagnoses that you defined are text-book accurate, but it was your personal opinions that impressed me themost.
I appreciate Filipina Women even more now.
Thank You 🙏🏼
Todd
Thanks for finding me, Todd 👍
I hope you like my other content 😊❤️
Well done pea!
That was by far, the best explanation I've heard on this subject!
Pea, my children are adults and I tell them I love every time we talk, because I do. My advice to any father is spend time with your children, as much as you can and help give your wife a break, even when you think you're too tired. Be sure to show your wife how much you appreciate her role and love her. The kids will excel at everything they do if you are part of it. My kids call me every Sunday. Step up and be a man.
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Thanks for all you do, Pea, you're truly a wonderful ambassador for PI.
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You handled this very well! 😉 You definitely have a strong understanding of the psychology of this subject, which is a lot more than most people have these days... Then, you boil it all down to one simple question you can ask your Filapina wife or gf, that will yield a wealth of understanding about her! 👍🙂
This is some heavy stuff, but knowledge is always good to know in all things of life. Thank you as always for sharing Pea! 😊
When I sent Ne to Bohol to wait for me to get here, when her dad saw her, he cried. She hadn't been home in 13 years. When I mentioned her ex that abused her, here dad went into a fighter's stance. I said I feel the same way sir. Ne's parents were older than me. Her dad just passed recently. Ne is 47 & even though I am 20 years older than her we are at the same maturity level. If you are not mature at 47 I don't care what country you are from you will never be. Interesting vlog.
One of the best informative videos you’ve made Pea. Respect.
I’ve just started watching your videos and sm really enjoying them.
I am black man in America who has so much respect for Filipinos both men and women. I love them because of their hard work and dedication to their work. I have few friends but I’ve never told them how I feel about them. Watching your videos makes me love them even more. Thanks for the educational videos.
Thanks for finding my channel 👍❤️😊
I have been with you for about a month now. Everything you have put out so far has been great!! Makes me want to go back to the Philippines so much!!
Thanks so much for that, Alan 👍❤️😊
Family dynamics in the Philippines are complicated but no one in the Philippines finds it unusual----So many times it is expected that the oldest daughter will provide support for the family, missing out on education, childhood, and loving support from the family. It is strange that the oldest child of the family may be male but if he has sisters, nothing is expected from him----he is almost royalty. No wonder some of the girls have issues----but they remain loyal to their family
Exactly, Clyde - exactly 😳
7:53 Fantastic to bring this topic up!!! "Conditional" love vs "unconditional" love of the child is a huge problem (think Stockholm Syndrome where the victim falls in love with the perpetrator in a quest for unfulfilled reciprocity). The "utang na loob" (to send money home like an OFW), often arises out of conditional love more than just a desire to help the parents. I've seen daughters sold to rich men or encouraged to marry foreigners to send money home. Conditional love keeps the money flowing.
very deep perspective of your culture always enjoy your vids.thanks for the honesty you bring to your channel
You’re so very welcome, Joe 👍❤️
Hey Pea, another one of your very best, in my opinion. Thank you for making this.
I think you have uncovered a very deep-seated driver of the Filipina psyche that you describe so eloquently in many of your videos.
More powerful than the desire for a better life, or improved social status or security, is the craving for a parent's love. Its absence (or perceived absence) can have a huge effect on shaping who we become.
As you may, (or may not) remember, my mother died when I was 3 years old. My grieving father jumped on a plane and left the country. He left me and my 18 month old brother with my grandmother, without any explanation of where he was going or what had happened to our mother.
It had a huge effect on me, especially for the first 25 years of my life.
I can understand better now why younger local women might entertain us older foreigners as a viable relationship partner.
(I'm not sure all of it is entirely healthy, but in the absence of professional counselling services ) ....
Maybe the foreigner/Filipina connection is more symbiotic than at least I would have thought at first glance.
Maybe we scratch more of each other's "itches" than we realise?
Thanks once again for a wonderful video, Pea. You are so wise for your years. Bless you, beautiful lady xo
Thanks for that Andy! I always try to bring you the ‘real’ stuff 👍😊
Well done Pea, very insightful. ;). "Horizontal Docking Maneuver"??? LMAO!
When she said daddy....that got me going.
Hahahahaha
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Yeah, that works better than "Run Forrest, run !" 🏃
That was truly a heartfelt and appreciated video you made. Thank you
Absolutely Outstanding!! I learned a little that might save my neck in the near future. Thank you for being so helpful!! My Filipina had some major issues with her Filipino husband and I completely understood and did not blame her for a second. However her maturity in the way she handled the whole thing spoke volumes to me about her character very on in our relationship which kind of scared me because I realized that my Filipina is dramatically more more than me. Also both of her daughters turned out to be incredible. When I got to know them it became obvious very quickly their single mother had done a far better job raising them than most American parents that stay married and raise their children. I almost try not to think about this much and thank God I was not involved in it because it made me keep realizing I needed to grow up quite a bit to be my Filipinas daughters step dad. Also..my Filipina has had to loan me money a couple of times. $600 in American money once. You should have seen the look on the ladies face at my Western Union in America. They are used to seeing the polar opposite situation.
Hahahahaha
I bet they couldn’t believe it 🤣🤣🤣👍
anxious preoccupied attachment disorder explains my filipina gf perfectly. thank you again Pea for your intelligent and well-articulated insights
Wow, very eye opening Pea. My foreign experience has been primarily in Mexico, and the Latin culture that I've seen is very similar, with absent fathers, "machismo", etc.. The Filipino culture continues to amaze and intrigue me, and videos like this give great topics to discuss with the wonderful Filipina I've met to help me understand her and her culture better. More vids like this "por favor"! 👏👏👏
Thanks David! That’s just what I love to hear 👍❤️
Thanks Pea! We appreciate all your efforts for great content. Keep 'em coming.
I loved hearing this perspective. It makes me more open to a relationship with a younger woman when I know that the motivation is pure in nature. Providing and loving is in my nature, and having someone who craves and respects that more would give me a sense of purpose and fulfillment. I now see it as a mutually beneficial situation rather than a one sided deal.
Thank you for explaining this one to me, I truly appreciate it.
I'm enjoying your videos more and more Pea, coz I've noticed the research you're putting into your work. Sprinkled with a touch of humour and some sexyness you're a delight to watch! :)
Hi Pea, your awesome as usual ❤ to break it down like that gives us older guys a better understanding. But to think this is only a Filipino thing is wrong, it happens here in the west but is swept under the carpet 😢 please keep up shining the light on truth 😊
wow thank you for such honesty. I just told my young filipina step daughter that I love her. You touched on many interesting and sad points.I feel sorry for kids here.
Pea:
GREAT TOPIC TODAY!
I had no idea that you were a therapist! You really bring out the points of the possibilities of why a person, no matter their culture may have these issues. Not to mention how a stranger from a strange land with a stranger way of dealing with things could send fireworks of joy into the minds and hearts of Filipinas dealing with these issues.
For the most part, Western movies and tv shows really don't express the reality of life here in the west, but it's closer than just guesswork, and I could imagine the shock when westerners start showering their Filipina girlfriend or wife with affection and telling them that they love them more often than they are used to I can imagine the state of mind it would put them in. But for the most part, western men, the real men, will shower their women with affection in return for the affection they receive from their partners. It goes both ways. Men have the desire to be appreciated, cared for, and loved just like women do, and when those desires are fulfilled, they shower their partner with the same in return just to keep the fires burning in their relationship.
I'm glad to see that you put an ending clip in this video. I really enjoy your ending clips just as much as the meat of the content you deliver. it's like giving your viewers dessert after a great meal. just to satisfy the palate until the next course comes out.
Keep up the amazing topics Pea, Your success is well-earned!
A palate cleanser maybe as opposed to dessert. The former does as described and the latter is designed to finish the feast. Both are beautifully served by Pea and digested by her appreciative audience.
You totally nailed this one Pea, great episode and thank you for sharing. 🙏
You’re unique in the way you explain things in depth about Filipino culture Pea. What us Westerners see and believe to be true, is often far from the reality of how things actually are. Your willingness to discuss important issues honestly and frankly is a huge credit to you, and invaluable to us. I think many of us older guys will recognise and agree with many of your observations. Thanks teacher Pea, for the lessons in Filipino life.
Top notch video. I think I'll have to view it a few more times to get all the info you've provided. Thanks.👏🥇
Glad to see you are all recovered Pea, thanks for sharing your perspective 😊
Oh yes, I’m back 100% - thanks for caring 👍❤️
Pea, I absolutely love your openness and frank , no nonsense rhetoric. It's obvious that you have a good education and that you are willing to share youd insightful opinions with others. Please keep up the great videos.
I think this is one of your best videos ever! Your knowledge of both Eastern and Western cultures, and the high quality of your research into the psychology of personality really shines brightly here.
As always, the cleverness and precision of your expression in English is as entertaining and informative. To say 'you have a way with words' is an understatement. Your English skills are especially impressive because English is not even your native tongue.
as an aside:
I'm still unclear why you don't have the pervasive accent?
If you mean me, it’s because I’ve always practiced my English seriously since I was little. I used to watch a movie clip in English, then try to repeat the line in a mirror, watching the way my mouth moved to get the pronunciation and inflections right 👍😊
@@IanF3 Interestingly, some of us find that characteristic "pervasive accent" to be a major attraction. I know, weird, but true.
You knocked it out of the park Pea and you looked amazing. Take care
You are an exceptionally valuable resource, Pea. Anyone considering a visit to the Phillipines, for virtually any reason, would benefit by watching and learning from your videos beforehand.
Thanks for that, Noah 👍👍❤️
Excellent Pea! Thank you for your insight.
Pea, this is brilliantly written, produced and presented. A real and deep perspective on culture and psychology with Filipinas and their intra-family relationships, especially with their biological fathers. I admire everything that you openly discuss and attempt to convey with Filipinos and relationships with the West.
Thanks for that William 👍👍👍
Wow! That really explains a lot of pieces of Life's Puzzle that I couldn't quite figure out. Thanks for opening my eyes to the specifics about this.
G'morning Captain Pea! Just want to say thanks for introducing us to Paul from World Zoom. So nice to know that he worked in Siem Reap Cambodia and got to know some of the same folks I did. I know you will love it there. SO glad you recovered from your illness, thank God!!
I’m looking forward to visiting, yes 👍👍
You are incredible, Pea!
Thanks!
I am glad to see that you're well now
Ms. Pea🙏
Such a very good video. Broken family is one of the hardest part of life. Sometimes kids are living in different roof too!That's why mother need to sacrifice work overseas and live her kids behind😥
Wow, Nelda - thanks again!! Your generosity is very much appreciated 👍❤️❤️
And it’s so sad when kids get separated from their parents 😳
@@TheFilipinaPea you have a big good heart which deserve your channel to receive a love gift Ms.Pea, and may God bless you even more🙏
Good video. Just had time today to watch since I have been in Cebu. The festival is today so I will be filming it. Parent issues is a good topic.
Hope you enjoy Sinulog 👍👍🤣
Great job Pea, I love your analytics, a sad subject, but the upside should be two happy people that can break the cycle.
YES, that’s the goal - to break the cycle 👍
amazing, hilarious, and informative. Thanks Pea!
Hey Pea I'm always happy to see you! You do your homework and are great at explaining things! You would make a great teacher because I am always learning from your videos! You have become one of my go to content providers on TH-cam!
Well said bby gurrl!
In all seriousness you said a lot of things I had never even thought of before. Particularly how daughters don’t often hear “I love you” like in the West.
My girlfriend is almost the same age as myself though.
This video really hit me in every area personally. Long before I even knew what Filipino was, every oriental person I ever met when I was growing up I thought it was just Chinese. Growing up, everything you talked about I went through. So I can see from that perspective everything you were talking about makes perfect sense. It also makes it really difficult for us to see red flags in a relationship. Also hard not to have our own red flags. Hence why my first relationship was a complete disaster. Looking back it doesn’t seem to be any kind of hardship while i was there. It only seems to feel wrong while doing the looking back. As a kid we just keep moving on as if it was normal. As an adult we do kinda wish we had better mentorship from someone who was able to be close who is supposed to actually do that.
Sorry you had to live through that, Tom 😳
Well said @tom ster
Just want to help.you to not offend people and create issues ..... "Oriental" refers to food and furniture ! "Asian" refers to people, and most people hate being referred to as an object. Good luck 🤞
happy to see you 😊🤗❤🏞🏝🏡🏖
thank you , lovely video , very good ,
Hey Pea, I just got back from the Philippines 🇵🇭. I was in Manila, Cebu and spent some time in the province areas of Bataan and Zambales. As a 33 year old American male; observing the comparison between city girls and province girls is absolutely mind blowing. There is such a huge gap between mentality and ethics. I watched all your videos while I was in Manila and it was very educational and insightful! Salamat Po!
Your my favorite teacher! And by the way...lol your endings are awesome!!!!😂
So informative and thought provoking. You provide a lot of great content. Ty sooo much
Thanks FF! I always do my best 👍😊
Amazingly insightful! You never cease to amaze me with your detail and useful knowledge.