Interesting self awareness and reflection on childhood and Disney movies. I disagree on drinking as being fun, I dated someone who was sober and that was the best influence I had from all my relationships.
I found that your enjoying solitude to be very relatable. I also lived alone during a huge chunk of my 20's, and those years were some of the most transformative years of my life. I'm curious, what aspects of being alone do you find most fulfilling?
I love that flowing river metaphor and how one has to go through rapids and the other is having a smooth ride. The one going through rapids may be bringing negativity to the other that’s not fair so sometimes you gotta step away and face those rapids head on and come back to that smooth ride 😊
To start - the editing on this video girl!!!! 🔥🔥🔥 Legit loving this flow - it felt natural but kept me engaged the whole time!! Loving the opportunity to learn more about you and your wisdom!! I’m in a super similar spot in my life, single gal living alone and this video really resonated with me! ❤️ 2024 is your year!!!!! Go get it!!!! 🔥💖
Awe omg thank you so much 🙏😊 And thanks for the feedback! I’m happy that trying a new style worked out 😃 And YASSS I love the single girlies doing their thing 💕✨ it’s literally the best 😆😆 Thank you! 2024 is your year too 🤩
hey! keep it up...spreading the love and wisdom...... great vid.....my favorite quotes .....' I just love love' ........'go outside'........'alone time is necessary'... My advice --be in you power. this means don't depend on anyone else to provide your contentment and happiness. If you do, you will always be disappointed. BE OPEN to INFINITE POSSIBILITIES ... don't be afraid to say .....' I don't know'. Trust in the love that you are.... Seeking Love Is a trick of the mind. Being Love Is the essence of the heart.
After watching this video I now get why this girl is single. Relationship success actually comes down to selection 90% of the time. She is clearly picking non-traditional losers.
@@salvatorevuicebot6658 I’m actually choosing to be single and very happy 😊 But you’re not completely wrong about choosing losers lol, some of my exes are umm, definitely not it 🙃 But we live and learn 😆😆
@@heathergosse I think that is a good thing. Being single for a season helps break any issues with codependency that people feel that drives them toward relationships when many times they are actually not in need of one and/or the person they are with will not be good for them long term. It is better for you to be happy on your own and then when you are ready to find a good compliment to your life, seek that out. When you are ready to find your next relationship and hopefully your last, choose stability over fun/excitement/toxic/bad boy types. Every Yin needs a Yang. Like Dharma and Greg if you remember that TV show. Dharma is the free spirited yoga instructor and dog trainer...reminds me of you lol. Greg is the Harvard educated straight laced responsible attorney. They both balance each other out in positive ways, but also are stable. I know it might no seem like "your type" at first, but date them until you hate them so you can give them a chance to grow on you. It is how many times you find 2 people from high school who you never thought would end up liking each other come to end up together. Not everything is an initial spark, somethings are a slow burn.
Serial monogamy to Serial dating lol You might want to time box how long you do this for IMO Generally speaking, you get good at what you practice. So if you train your brain to go from guy to guy to guy and view them as interchangeable, you are more likely to not be able to settle down and pick one guy for a life time and more likely to bail when things get tough or go stale.
It's great that you're living independently and making strides for self-improvement. Much respect. And I do I agree with most of the personality traits and characteristics on your list as being ideal and positive. However, most of this sounds like regurgitated content from TH-cam videos and self-help books that I've seen online, sprinked in with your own little bit of hypergamy and narcissism. Fully admitting to being codependent on men your entire adult life (most likely through sex appeal - tell me I'm wrong), and now blatantly blurting out your future agenda to seduce a man for his material wealth is not a good look. Not saying there's anything wrong with the above and your particular lifestyle. Go get that house girl! 😋👍
Thanks for your input! Funny enough, I went though a phase of reading SO many self help books back in 2019-2020, I had to cut myself off haha, so yeah, some of the information probably derived from that era. However, that's what stuck with me from those books, which proves it's importance if you ask me. Maybe I should talk to my therapist about this and not the internet but, I definitely stayed with men moreso of lack of confidence in myself, feeling lost/alone/afraid without them, mixed with the attention they gave me. I know I'm not the only one who's gone through that. Lastly, I think it's good for people to have standards because so many settle for less of what they're worth. It's okay to speak about standards out loud. There's nothing wrong with me saying I want a partner who is emotionally intelligent and has their finances together. Some assets are nice too haha. That's called standards and helps me weed out a lot of people, lol not that I'm even dating right now.
@@heathergosse I wish you luck, I’m a Pisces (female) and over my lifetime not much older than you my friend groups and those iv been closest to has always been pisces, Capricorn, cancer, Virgoes and Scorpios and an Aquarius and Aries here and there but not very close and I only found this out when I was older and getting into the astrology thing and started analysing all my closest friends birthdays 😁
Thank you! That’s so cool. I analyzed my friends birthdays a few years ago but need to do it again. I know I have some virgos and Scorpios and Capricorns. Just had a friend break up with a Leo 🙃 I wonder why lol 😆🥲😭
Girl you throwing some huge red flags 🚩 out there. I think your sweet and you mean well, but alot of your takeaways from your previous experiences make no logical sense. Historically most marriages around the world happened between young couples who have known each other since there school days or are familiar with each other through there community. The further you get from this time period, the less likely it is you will get married. Placing a man first in your life will increase, not decrease your chances of getting long term commitment. If you look statistically at elite men psychology (millionaires for example), most score high on being argumentative, self-centered, and exploitive. This makes sense to be the best of the best in business, marketing, ect. These men usually give commitment to women that are the opposite and place them first. I mean think about it, you date a millionaire and tell him; yea your like the 2nd or 3rd most important person in my life. That relationship probably won’t end well. Your placing too much importance on superfluous relationships with friends. The reality is most girlfriends will place there significant other above you. Especially as you get older. Your still young enough we’re commitment isn’t the end all be all YET. But your girlfriends WILL start locking down husbands soon and they will have little time for you. Last point I’ll make is how you talk about your past. If i were you I would either lie, or not talk about it much. Most men will act like their cool with your past just to sleep with you. They will even give you fake commitment like being your boyfriend for an extended period of time just to continue having sex with you. At this point in your life most successful relationships come through an introduction to someone through family. Like your aunt says hey there this business construction owner guy whos done repairs on our home several times. You should give him a call and talk. Or your mom has a girlfriend who has a son who is doing well in life and single. Perhaps willing to do a soft introduction. Just looking out for you, also background on me just for FYI. Im 33 and have been married for 13 years to my wife. I make over 200k a year and my wife has never worked. We’ve been together since high school.
Thanks for your feedback. Historically, marriages were arranged to keep money in the family or to form alliances with other families. I placed men first in my life too many times and lost myself, hence why I am fully enjoying my single life now. I'm rediscovering who I am without the influence from a partner. Knowing who you are is so important before you commit to someone. However, as I see you've been married for 13 years, which is awesome, growing together is beautiful too. I place importance on friendships because I see too many lonely people in my life around me, especially men. The older men get, the less effort they give toward their male friendships and more on their partner. I've seen older men get divorced and left with no one to turn to because they dropped all of their friends when they got married. I envision a great partnership where everyone has friends, has a community. Commenting on your last point. I don't have to say anything about my past, nor lie, and the men still want to sleep with me, unfortunately. Maybe I should tell them about my past so they avoid sleeping with me haha. It's quite annoying, honestly. I'll do whatever it takes to have a genuine, real conversation with a man where the goal is a genuine human connection, not him trying to get in my pants. That's why I love the festival community so much. People are a lot more respectful and see me as a human, not a toy. But also a note, as you say that men might be cautious of my past, I am cautious of men's past if they are 30 and haven't had a seriously relationship. That's Peter Pan immature shit. That's a red flag for me. Grow up. I love your last last point. It's so true. Meeting people through friends or family is honestly the best!! And the fact you're married to your high school sweat heart is awesome and special. It's cool you guys have grown up together. HOWEVER, LOL if I married my high school sweat heart. Love him and hope he's doing well but def not my vibe anymore. 💕
LOL people do not really change after a certain age. You will be better off finding someone whose characteristics and personality you can accept long term and they likewise can of you.
I looove the way you edited this! But also when you were sitting there with the fridge door open, my inner dad was like “shut that damn door” 😂😂
Interesting self awareness and reflection on childhood and Disney movies. I disagree on drinking as being fun, I dated someone who was sober and that was the best influence I had from all my relationships.
Awe okay I actually love that!!
I don't really wanna relationship, but these words seem so wise it'll stay in my head 'til one comes 😅
I found that your enjoying solitude to be very relatable. I also lived alone during a huge chunk of my 20's, and those years were some of the most transformative years of my life. I'm curious, what aspects of being alone do you find most fulfilling?
I love that flowing river metaphor and how one has to go through rapids and the other is having a smooth ride. The one going through rapids may be bringing negativity to the other that’s not fair so sometimes you gotta step away and face those rapids head on and come back to that smooth ride 😊
To start - the editing on this video girl!!!! 🔥🔥🔥 Legit loving this flow - it felt natural but kept me engaged the whole time!!
Loving the opportunity to learn more about you and your wisdom!! I’m in a super similar spot in my life, single gal living alone and this video really resonated with me! ❤️
2024 is your year!!!!! Go get it!!!! 🔥💖
Awe omg thank you so much 🙏😊 And thanks for the feedback! I’m happy that trying a new style worked out 😃
And YASSS I love the single girlies doing their thing 💕✨ it’s literally the best 😆😆 Thank you! 2024 is your year too 🤩
hey! keep it up...spreading the love and wisdom...... great vid.....my favorite quotes .....' I just love love' ........'go outside'........'alone time is necessary'...
My advice --be in you power. this means don't depend on anyone else to provide your contentment and happiness. If you do, you will always be disappointed.
BE OPEN to INFINITE POSSIBILITIES ... don't be afraid to say .....' I don't know'. Trust in the love that you are....
Seeking Love Is a trick of the mind. Being Love Is the essence of the heart.
Thank you for your feedback :)
After watching this video I now get why this girl is single. Relationship success actually comes down to selection 90% of the time. She is clearly picking non-traditional losers.
@@salvatorevuicebot6658 I’m actually choosing to be single and very happy 😊 But you’re not completely wrong about choosing losers lol, some of my exes are umm, definitely not it 🙃 But we live and learn 😆😆
@@heathergosse I think that is a good thing. Being single for a season helps break any issues with codependency that people feel that drives them toward relationships when many times they are actually not in need of one and/or the person they are with will not be good for them long term. It is better for you to be happy on your own and then when you are ready to find a good compliment to your life, seek that out.
When you are ready to find your next relationship and hopefully your last, choose stability over fun/excitement/toxic/bad boy types. Every Yin needs a Yang. Like Dharma and Greg if you remember that TV show. Dharma is the free spirited yoga instructor and dog trainer...reminds me of you lol. Greg is the Harvard educated straight laced responsible attorney. They both balance each other out in positive ways, but also are stable. I know it might no seem like "your type" at first, but date them until you hate them so you can give them a chance to grow on you. It is how many times you find 2 people from high school who you never thought would end up liking each other come to end up together. Not everything is an initial spark, somethings are a slow burn.
Love this, love YOU!!!
Love YOU 🥰 ❤
I feel like I am watching the origin story of an ssri addicted cat lady in real time 😂
I’ll let you know how the plot continues 😆😆
facts by heather 🙏🏽🤣
Serial monogamy to Serial dating lol You might want to time box how long you do this for IMO
Generally speaking, you get good at what you practice.
So if you train your brain to go from guy to guy to guy and view them as interchangeable, you are more likely to not be able to settle down and pick one guy for a life time and more likely to bail when things get tough or go stale.
#SINGLEBYCHOICEGANG
You said no pets, but you have a cat?
It's great that you're living independently and making strides for self-improvement. Much respect. And I do I agree with most of the personality traits and characteristics on your list as being ideal and positive.
However, most of this sounds like regurgitated content from TH-cam videos and self-help books that I've seen online, sprinked in with your own little bit of hypergamy and narcissism.
Fully admitting to being codependent on men your entire adult life (most likely through sex appeal - tell me I'm wrong), and now blatantly blurting out your future agenda to seduce a man for his material wealth is not a good look.
Not saying there's anything wrong with the above and your particular lifestyle. Go get that house girl! 😋👍
Thanks for your input! Funny enough, I went though a phase of reading SO many self help books back in 2019-2020, I had to cut myself off haha, so yeah, some of the information probably derived from that era. However, that's what stuck with me from those books, which proves it's importance if you ask me.
Maybe I should talk to my therapist about this and not the internet but, I definitely stayed with men moreso of lack of confidence in myself, feeling lost/alone/afraid without them, mixed with the attention they gave me. I know I'm not the only one who's gone through that.
Lastly, I think it's good for people to have standards because so many settle for less of what they're worth. It's okay to speak about standards out loud. There's nothing wrong with me saying I want a partner who is emotionally intelligent and has their finances together. Some assets are nice too haha. That's called standards and helps me weed out a lot of people, lol not that I'm even dating right now.
If you are a Taurus you should date or marry a Capricorn, virgo or pisces if you follow the stars/ astrology
Yasss I'm on the hunt! I've dated only a pisces in the past, (the rest of them were other signs). I need to check out the Virgos and Capricorns haha
@@heathergosse I wish you luck, I’m a Pisces (female) and over my lifetime not much older than you my friend groups and those iv been closest to has always been pisces, Capricorn, cancer, Virgoes and Scorpios and an Aquarius and Aries here and there but not very close and I only found this out when I was older and getting into the astrology thing and started analysing all my closest friends birthdays 😁
Thank you! That’s so cool. I analyzed my friends birthdays a few years ago but need to do it again. I know I have some virgos and Scorpios and Capricorns. Just had a friend break up with a Leo 🙃 I wonder why lol 😆🥲😭
There is much more to an individual then their sun sign. You will also want to look at your moon, rising, all that. Get your birthchart done. :)
Heyyy, don't hate on us Leos @@heathergosse hahahaha 🦁
Like your content but I think your intro could be should shorter(this is just me being constructive nothing negative) 😂❤
Thanks for the input. Funny enough, I was trying to make it shorter but couldn't decide which clips two delete hehe
That’s too much work. Lol.
Girl you throwing some huge red flags 🚩 out there. I think your sweet and you mean well, but alot of your takeaways from your previous experiences make no logical sense.
Historically most marriages around the world happened between young couples who have known each other since there school days or are familiar with each other through there community. The further you get from this time period, the less likely it is you will get married.
Placing a man first in your life will increase, not decrease your chances of getting long term commitment. If you look statistically at elite men psychology (millionaires for example), most score high on being argumentative, self-centered, and exploitive.
This makes sense to be the best of the best in business, marketing, ect. These men usually give commitment to women that are the opposite and place them first. I mean think about it, you date a millionaire and tell him; yea your like the 2nd or 3rd most important person in my life. That relationship probably won’t end well.
Your placing too much importance on superfluous relationships with friends. The reality is most girlfriends will place there significant other above you. Especially as you get older. Your still young enough we’re commitment isn’t the end all be all YET. But your girlfriends WILL start locking down husbands soon and they will have little time for you.
Last point I’ll make is how you talk about your past. If i were you I would either lie, or not talk about it much. Most men will act like their cool with your past just to sleep with you. They will even give you fake commitment like being your boyfriend for an extended period of time just to continue having sex with you.
At this point in your life most successful relationships come through an introduction to someone through family. Like your aunt says hey there this business construction owner guy whos done repairs on our home several times. You should give him a call and talk. Or your mom has a girlfriend who has a son who is doing well in life and single. Perhaps willing to do a soft introduction.
Just looking out for you, also background on me just for FYI. Im 33 and have been married for 13 years to my wife. I make over 200k a year and my wife has never worked. We’ve been together since high school.
Thanks for your feedback.
Historically, marriages were arranged to keep money in the family or to form alliances with other families.
I placed men first in my life too many times and lost myself, hence why I am fully enjoying my single life now. I'm rediscovering who I am without the influence from a partner. Knowing who you are is so important before you commit to someone. However, as I see you've been married for 13 years, which is awesome, growing together is beautiful too.
I place importance on friendships because I see too many lonely people in my life around me, especially men. The older men get, the less effort they give toward their male friendships and more on their partner. I've seen older men get divorced and left with no one to turn to because they dropped all of their friends when they got married. I envision a great partnership where everyone has friends, has a community.
Commenting on your last point. I don't have to say anything about my past, nor lie, and the men still want to sleep with me, unfortunately. Maybe I should tell them about my past so they avoid sleeping with me haha. It's quite annoying, honestly. I'll do whatever it takes to have a genuine, real conversation with a man where the goal is a genuine human connection, not him trying to get in my pants. That's why I love the festival community so much. People are a lot more respectful and see me as a human, not a toy. But also a note, as you say that men might be cautious of my past, I am cautious of men's past if they are 30 and haven't had a seriously relationship. That's Peter Pan immature shit. That's a red flag for me. Grow up.
I love your last last point. It's so true. Meeting people through friends or family is honestly the best!!
And the fact you're married to your high school sweat heart is awesome and special. It's cool you guys have grown up together. HOWEVER, LOL if I married my high school sweat heart. Love him and hope he's doing well but def not my vibe anymore. 💕
LOL people do not really change after a certain age. You will be better off finding someone whose characteristics and personality you can accept long term and they likewise can of you.