I was in my masculine energy for so long . Whenever i was angry, i make sure to let men know i was angry, screaming and everything . and lately i ve been embracing being a woman, soft and vulnerable. Now, when im angry, i pull my thoughts and myself together for days , then when im ready to speak the issues, and feel less angry, i do tell them softly and calmly, and this made a drastic of a difference.
It really does, I have quite the temper, but I've been working on recognizing when I'm being trusted and how to not react, but calmly handle whatever situating I am currently dealing with. It's a work in progress and I'm not perfect, but when I do, it really makes all the difference.
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I worked at a warehouse as a student for my school. My friend would complain that the men left all the lifting to the women. The men would say that it is 2020 and women are independent and can lift the heavy boxes. But after I started to watch femininity videos I got lots of help at the warehouse. I spoke softly and all the men would help me with the heavy stuff. The one that kept on saying that men and women are equal even got offended that I didn't ask him for help with a big box. I told him that because of what he said I don't. He then became very helpful with me. All but one guy was helpful. He was not a masculine guy. Being more feminine does change the way the men act towards you. I just changed my tone of voice. Because you can't dress pretty at a dirty warehouse...My friend who is very masculine, loud said that men don't help her. She was surprised of how the men helped me but not her. I told her the changes that I did. But she doesn't want to be softer.
I was early in my office kitchen once, sleepy and just poured myself a cup of coffee, then struggled to open the jar of honey, and as I was struggling, this manager from another team passed by, and said need help? But just as he said that, the jar finally opened. And I was like uh no thanks. And the guy was like "oh, so you're one of those super feminist women who don't need men? Tell us straight, so we know what we're going to deal with". And I was super sleepy, and just flatly said "fine, next time I'll pretend I can't open the jar"
I'm a feminine woman but at my job as a restaurant crew member. All that gets lost. I trying being more feminine and open to everyone as best as I can. But it's funny, people are always trying to help but it's usually when I don't want it. I can be stubborn sometimes and growing up I had a lot of low self esteem issues in my ability to do certain things and just want to learn or conquer things on my own. Idk, I just feel like an empty vessel at work, ready to be filled with whatever situation arises.
I am really feminine naturally but I just witness older women hating on me and giving me nightmare at work and around, in shops and such. I noticed men like an indipendent woman who pays for her rent while living with him without being married 🤣
@@ambersummer2685 it's fine ,you're just doing your best at work,that also a good trait of women,it's not ab getting help all the time,it's ab accepting when it's offered
@@jasmincayanong_1998 My comment was deleted. I said that I dated a bad boy because he was fun. I also said I was objectified by older men. Please don't delete.
100%. I’m already married to a provider man, but a while back I lost my phone at the park across the street while walking our dogs. I asked a man if he has seen a phone on the ground, he said he would help me look for it. After finding it we had a polite conversation, he let me know right away a) he had enough money to retire, and b) he was looking to settle down with a woman and start a family. It was flattering and hopefully he found a nice woman eventually, though the chances are low where I am at (no offense to women of Portland OR)
I’ve also noticed, gentle opinions have more effect than abrasive ones because they allow the man to mull it over and feel as though they reached the choice themself rather than feeling they were told what to think.
Oh my gosh that’s so funny you including the “Pick ME, choose ME, love ME” scene from Grey’s Anatomy 🤣 “Romance” scenes like that in movies and TV shows are SO funny because every smart woman knows you cannot beg for a man’s attention or “capture” him, if you have to do that, he doesn’t want you! A man will only choose you if you’re his type! Otherwise, just move along and find a new man. A man will never love a woman who doesn’t love herself and who is desperate. 🤷♀️
Absolutely ! This scene makes me laugh so much I had to include it 😂 This is "pick me" energy to the fullest ahah! And I want my beautiful darlings to have a goddess energy ✨
I don't know why this showed up in my feed but.... You make a really good point about masculine energy turning many men off. I think people sometimes make it more complicated than it needs to be. There are men who are attracted to masculine energy and most of them are pursuing, dating, or in relationships with .... masculine men. Honestly, I've never encountered a straight man who was attracted to masculine energy.
As a teenage girl, I find that I'm the same way when it comes to gratitude. I sometimes do my sister's chores because I know my mom won't be happy when she gets home from work if they're not done, but the next day, my sister just makes more mess and has no gratitude for helping her. It makes me sort of upset, and my mom agrees.
It is NOT "CAN you help me?! CAN gives men an out. Instead, say "WILL you help me?! But, also, never let the man/men know about the WILL. You keep that for yourself.
What you are saying is so true, Lisa! Thank you so so much for this video! 💞I had such a revelation regarding my own masculine behavior. I'm a computer scientist, running my own business on the side and currently renovating my own house. You already guessed it - very independent 21st century woman, lots of masculine energy there. I started playing LARP (live roleplay) a while ago and wanted to play a character who is very different from my real-life me. So I am playing this slightly naive girl who's not really into pursuing a career, who loves to play and sing and dance instead and who's heavily relying on men to provide for her, help her etc. In my head I figured I was playing a "loser" of sorts, because she wasn't the masculine energy overachiever I was in real life. But guess what. MEN LOVE HER. Men are flocking to her like moths to the light, eager to be with her, help her, provide for her. Even though I am only playing a role, men have fallen for me IRL because of it. That's when I realized that my masculine real-life behavior was not the "winner" behavior I thought it was. That my roleplay character was not perceived as a loser who didn't achieve anything in life but as a very feminine woman who knows how to enjoy and to receive with grace. It changed everything for me and I am now striving to unite my successfull real-life me with my feminine roleplay me 🥰
Beautiful, I find your videos extremely empowering! I'm a very strict, diligent woman, I really know how to boss men around and make them feel extremely inadequate and irrelevant, that has helped me a great deal professionally and financially speaking. Unfortunately such traits have lead me to lots of disappointment in my love life, I agree 100% with you that men will not give in if you show them that you don't need them at all. I've been practicing shift from masculine to feminine energy as you've mentioned in other videos and it really works! honestly I feel so much better about myself, I can be pretty, vulnerable and I laugh much more than ever before. I'm slowly learning that I do not have to loose a part of myself, I can use my feminine energy at will according to the situation and get what I want from my relationships. Thanks for sharing your experience with us 🙏🏼
I'm soo glad my videos help you ! It truly is amazing to discover more about feminine and masculine energy, how we can switch from one to another in different situations, and have different outcomes 🥰 This is beautiful !
So.... you're the live action of ariana's song, position!! Thank you for sharing. I have this debate to myself, should i toughen up myself in office? because im an intern and don't wanna be looked down on, but i don't wanna have too much masculine persona just to prove i could do my job well
@@kimplung8250 Wow, don’t know the song but I’ll listen to it... If you work at a highly competitive industry or a male dominated environment, chances are that someone will try to prey on you or throw you under the bus at some point (men and women will do it, the more you climb the corporate ladder the more you’ll see it). Be aware, know your stuff and never take it personally. As for your private life, definitely keep watching Lisa’s videos, being a woman is amazing, fun and beautiful and she constantly reminds you all of that.
I can't believe that I have been embodying masculine energy for years. It's also a fact that I utilized this energy as a defense mechanism following numerous disappointments with men. One day, my male boss enlightened me about my masculine energy and encouraged me to embrace my feminine side. He emphasized the importance of appearing and feeling feminine, mentioning that altering this energy would not only benefit me at work but also in my personal life. I was taken aback by this revelation and now I'm committed to working on myself to reintegrate my femininity, which doesn't signify weakness as I had previously believed, but rather a neglected part of my identity. I do believe that society has its flaws, and the messages about women's capabilities being equal to men's have often created confusion and affected the mindset and behavior of many women in my generation towards men.
Beautiful as always 😊 I love these videos! So few ladies today seem to care about femininity and think everything should be 50/50. Not chasing men is so important and I wish I'd learnt this earlier. "Men are like trains and busses, there's always another one coming."
Real men know they've to invest in a women for the good future, to make her his wife & understands your value & the incredible value of feminine energy.
Although men like to make the first approach. We also like when a woman gives a sign that she wants to be approached. This could be something as simple as catching his eye and giving a smile. This is actually traditional that a woman make the first signal of interest. Centuries ago a woman would drop her handkerchief, for a man to pick up and then strike up a conversation with her. "Approach anxiety" is what occurs when a man is forced to make the first move with zero evidence that his approach can be welcome. Giving us a sign can also help protect you all from players too since these guys are the only ones brave enough to approach women while being totally blind to the outcome. So if any of you find yourself asking "why do I always attract players" there is your answer.
I appreciate your videos so much! As a 21 year old female, raised by by single mother, it's kinda hard having men being willing to pay for this and do this for you. I'm pretty independent, to a certain extent. I sometimes like to do things for myself and sometimes I make the first move. I also have an aggressive side to me. I can be pushy, forward, playful, yet in a flirty manner. This is me and who I am and I don't intend on changing, but I can improve in some things. This doesn't mean that I don't want a man who isn't generous or masculine or sensitive in any way, I just don't like being controlled/told what to do and when to do and how to act, etc. I don't want a man who's controlling, but I want a man who takes control. I am pretty dominant, but I want my man to be 100% dominant in the relationship. Although some guy aren't attracted to women who are like me, I intend to attract those who like women like me and who aren't intimidated and turned off and like me for me!
What?!?! You are too aggressive and too masculine. You it's black or white. Either you want to be the man or you want him to be the man. Single mothers who raise these children alone are doomed both men and women and are not balanced mentally, physically, or even in their gender roles. Example: if my husband, not a boyfriend or a friend tell me to not wear something, I would change it. But if he's treating me like a door.mat and not treating me as a beautiful lady and just stringing me along then I won't tolerate it and I will walk away. It's a big difference. It's okay for a man to control a women and lead a woman, it's not okay for women to be masculine and screaming how a man can't control her. Big turn off!!!
This video came just in time ❤ there is a guy I'm interested in and he is not moving as fast as I want him to. I realize he has to be the one to chase, not me! Thank you🥰
Love this. Thank you for uplifting the beauty of the differences between men and women. We are equal, but are different and that is ok. In fact it makes relationships such a mysterious pleasure when we understand how to be pleasing to each other.
@@Lisaglamour I'm sweet and compassionate but have a temper and am very fiesty and for some reason, EVERY man I've known seems to find my fiestiness arousing and purposely tries to make me angry from time to time. Like they've all told me this. "You're so sexy when you're angry!"(my man has said this many times too)
I hear alot about the never pay 50/50 on dates and i'm all for it but how do I go about responding to a man who asks. I wouldn't want to say something that makes me seem rude or grow a reputation of being rude or potentially stuck up. how can I let a man know that I won't be paying 50/50 but do so respectfully?
If they ask you, to do so while on date, agree to do so nicely, pay your part and if he planned or trying to find another activity afterwards, politely end, and NEVER go out with him again.
If you’re not sure if he’ll pay for the dinner, when you look at the menu ask him “can I order this?”, and before they bring the bill tell him “thank you so much for this wonderful dinner, I had a great time. You are truly a gentleman”. And don’t forget to act very feminine throughout the whole date!
I usually have extra money in case.. dont let him know u have money tho or brought a money, otherwise some men will expect a 50/50.. but real men don't ask for money or what do you work. They ask more about YOU. If that happens when he asked for 50/50, nod and split bill. NEXT: DONT DATE HIM EVER AGAIN! AVOID!!
Well let me tell you that if a man doesn't offer to pay on a date then he's not worthy of your time. He's not a gentleman...just pay that 50% and never meet him again
I understand your desire but I would personally advise you to ONLY date men who are older than you (maximum 12 years though). A man in his thirties is basically still a boy and in most cases he's still too young to be able to fulfill his role as a provider. Usually men in their forties are the most eligible because they're more likely to be financially stable and emotionally mature. There are exceptions though, as in everything
I honestly have seen and have personal experience that they reach masculinity in their mid forties. Men will also grow, change and evolve, just like women. It takes men longer to realize what they truly want and there are phases in their life that they can stay in longer than others. The ideal masculinity I think we as women look for is a provider. Men need time to reach that point in their life to finally decide who they will make their queen. That doesn’t always take place in their 30s. I’m married to a masculine man and he’s 15 years older than me, however he’s everything I look for in a man. I’ve always preferred older men because of their maturity.
@@elenavalentina4608 Thank you. I understand where you're coming from but I desire marriage and children. Many older men have been there and done that and aren't necessarily in a 'rush' to do it again. I would a love a man my age where we can grow together.
@@life.as.victoria True. I prefer mature men as well!! I easily attract them but would prefer to stay in my age bracket as we'll have more in common. 😝😊
Because they feel like you're competing with them. They basically feel like you're a guy. It's so hard and ridiculous to be feminine at work. In fact if you're feminine at work no one takes you seriously. Try to practice switching your energy from your work place and personal life...
Misogynists. They attack women if they're better than them, because they feel threatened and then they also attack women if they're worse, by mocking how inferior they supposedly are. It's clearly hormonal. If women get the same negative reaction from men to having opposing traits, it cannot stem from rationality. Do you mind saying what country you're from?
YES! me, too. Also, a women's body chemicals is different than men. So if a woman were to be with a man, and they break up, it more difficult for a woman on an emotional and mental level. That's why, I won't put myself through this Again! Lessons learned.
@@fitnfab6522 yes exactly I’m studying neuroscience and it’s proven that women lack the hormone that enables men to sleep around and not feel attached, when having us women actually release hormones that make us believe we’re in love when we aren’t, also I believe in soul ties etc and that our energy really and truly can be transported through one another, I also just feel as though I wouldn’t want to describe my virginity as something that a guy TOOK from me but rather something I GAVE HIM.
Hey Lisa, as a man this is like a breath of fresh air - it seems like this is really the best way for both sexes to get the best out of each other by operating in their respective energies - why do you think women tend not to operate in this way these days?
I don't like ordering my man. But because I am VERY dominant at my work, I sometimes don't switch between my masculine and feminine energy very quickly.
Love it! And your outfit is beautiful as always. Thank you for always sharing such GOLD with us! I will highly value myself so I can meet a high value man!
You need to make a video on how other women treat femininity because it’s soooo shocking!! I find myself deepening my voice around girls because they treat me better when I’m not super girly😳
RIGHT?! I always put effort in my looks even when going to gym and they ALWAYS say "why are you so overdressed? why are you dressed like we are going somewhere important?" and I always feel guilty
This is an interesting observation that even I have (just now) realized about my own interactions with other women. I am curious as to what that stems from though.
I looooove watching your videos, i love that you're old fashioned like me, your words really resonate with me and they've helped me so much. I just turned 21 so i'm not really looking for a man i'm focusing on school and becoming a high value/woman. I still have a long way to go, first step is changing the mindset which will change how you see everything, then comes self acceptance which is what i'm working on. I am absolutely in love with your style, your outfit here is totally something i would wear, i love your color palette (in another video about signs for not high caliber men i think, you wore this beauuuutiful pale yellow dress i thought you looked very elegant and feminine and the dress gave you a gorgeous silhouette
What I'm seeing more on dating apps is that women will ask for my number and then try to tell me what we're doing on our date. 🤣 I'm sure there's plenty of passive men who want a more aggressive woman to take the lead. But it turns me off instantly every time because it's extremely masculine behavior.
Thank you Lisa, you help me so much to start over again. Thank you for the free lessons that really helps not only my relationship but me as a person as well. ♥
About the first move though, if you really like this man (and definitely don't wanna let him go without effort), I think it's okay to approach first. But not in a flirty way! a simple hi and smile would do good, leave a good-feminine first impression just to make them know you exist, and after that it's up to him, if he likes you, he'll chase you.
I would say, let him approach YOU darling. He is the one that should not want to let you go, not the opposite! Work on your confidence to feel worthy darling, you are the price not him! What you can do to let him know you are interested is just a little eye contact, but let him come to you first (this is masculine energy). Resting is feminine 😘 If he doesn't come to you, that means he doesn't want to. A man will go for what he wants! Don't worry there are plenty of men out there 😉
I love your videos Lisa. Thank you so much for all the wisdom that I wish I heard already years ago. Beautiful energy and vibes. Loving it. Thank you so much. 💕
Does my brother count?I need to heal from my past relationship in order to fully move on for a masculine man who's loyal and respectful as my brother is he's my hero for now
@@Lisaglamour thank you so much I also have male cousin he's a Scorpio he's both macho and gentleman once I went to his house for my female cousins birthday she's 4 now she's a Taurus and he helped me to walk and served me apple juice I don't do any alcohol
The dress you're wearing at the 0:50 mark is STUNNING. I'm obsessed. Is there a link for it on any of your social media pages? PS- great video as always. I've always had the feminine look down; not so much in my mindset or attitude though. Your content has helped me improve that❤💄👠.
I had asked my husband to pick me up for Christmas but he totally ignored me for a month , needless to say he is my Ex- now, he did all that you said in the video for his married sister and only married me to grab my earning to provide for his married sister .. Indian men and inlaws are cunning and mistreat the new daughter-in-law
It's not your fault. We as black women have been taught different. I know because I have been there. Take it as an opportunity to learn from past mistakes and grow better. 🙂
I was already watching your other vidoe and got a notification this new one was on! So exciting and always thank you for posting. You are part of my coffee and mindset morning routine for the day!
+ men love to feel that they are successful at pleasing you and making you happy and making your life feel easier because you will feel better happier and in your feminine a lot more - which he is attracted to
@@tralaritralarajiju2652 Now I have to find another man to day dream about.😭 I never dream of another women's man. Well not implying I had a chance with him or anything....but still.😭 You get my point.
Reaction is emotional and gives power away. It usually doesn't solve problems and makes situations worse. Action gives control to our lives as we contemplate the best course of action.
Hm I am not sure about 50/50. I was on a date once and I told him “sorry, I always go Dutch on dates. If men want to spend money on me, they can buy me gifts.” I said this in a sweet voice, and the next date we had he gave me a beautiful bracelet 💕 men also like novelty and especially if you are new to femininity this approach can help you avoid feeling guilty and gives him the opportunity to demonstrate his thoughtfulness 🌸 of course this is simply my own experience and will be different for everyone but I thought I would write it down in case anyone else finds it useful 💕
I feel like it's okay if that is how you prefer to approach the date. It seems like the guy you were with was willing to pay full but still respected your kind of thoughtfulness (pay 50/50 but buy gift instead); meaning he's gentleman and masculine enough. The problem is with the man who asked for 50/50 or even pretending he forgets to bring his wallet (absolute worse!). Thank you for sharing though! It gives me more viewpoint.
Good point. Clearly he wanted to pay so it's clear that he was a gentleman. I'd never go Dutch personally but I love your approach, he still invested regardless. Men who irk me are the ones who force you to go Dutch or act as tho they forget their wallet etc.
Im not a high calibre man (frm a materialistic point) but my new gf see herself as am alpha female..its kinda off putting..shes attractive..but shes not feminine in her mannerisim..so it makes less engaging when it comes to sex ..but wen ive met quite shy feminine females its like a rocket all night..why is that?
There ARE women who wants feminine energy men, and there also exist men who want masculine women... Although I have only seen this in the BDSM community. You are most likely right about the broader population, however.
I was in my masculine energy for so long . Whenever i was angry, i make sure to let men know i was angry, screaming and everything . and lately i ve been embracing being a woman, soft and vulnerable. Now, when im angry, i pull my thoughts and myself together for days , then when im ready to speak the issues, and feel less angry, i do tell them softly and calmly, and this made a drastic of a difference.
It really does, I have quite the temper, but I've been working on recognizing when I'm being trusted and how to not react, but calmly handle whatever situating I am currently dealing with. It's a work in progress and I'm not perfect, but when I do, it really makes all the difference.
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vvätt a cult titch i0v... look at housync? ; C
massskülline Feemäil? in the quadRänt? ? ´thäy liV€!
I worked at a warehouse as a student for my school. My friend would complain that the men left all the lifting to the women. The men would say that it is 2020 and women are independent and can lift the heavy boxes. But after I started to watch femininity videos I got lots of help at the warehouse. I spoke softly and all the men would help me with the heavy stuff. The one that kept on saying that men and women are equal even got offended that I didn't ask him for help with a big box. I told him that because of what he said I don't. He then became very helpful with me. All but one guy was helpful. He was not a masculine guy. Being more feminine does change the way the men act towards you. I just changed my tone of voice. Because you can't dress pretty at a dirty warehouse...My friend who is very masculine, loud said that men don't help her. She was surprised of how the men helped me but not her. I told her the changes that I did. But she doesn't want to be softer.
I was early in my office kitchen once, sleepy and just poured myself a cup of coffee, then struggled to open the jar of honey, and as I was struggling, this manager from another team passed by, and said need help? But just as he said that, the jar finally opened. And I was like uh no thanks. And the guy was like "oh, so you're one of those super feminist women who don't need men?
Tell us straight, so we know what we're going to deal with". And I was super sleepy, and just flatly said "fine, next time I'll pretend I can't open the jar"
Woah! Sooo good💞💞
I'm a feminine woman but at my job as a restaurant crew member. All that gets lost.
I trying being more feminine and open to everyone as best as I can.
But it's funny, people are always trying to help but it's usually when I don't want it. I can be stubborn sometimes and growing up I had a lot of low self esteem issues in my ability to do certain things and just want to learn or conquer things on my own.
Idk, I just feel like an empty vessel at work, ready to be filled with whatever situation arises.
I am really feminine naturally but I just witness older women hating on me and giving me nightmare at work and around, in shops and such. I noticed men like an indipendent woman who pays for her rent while living with him without being married 🤣
@@ambersummer2685 it's fine ,you're just doing your best at work,that also a good trait of women,it's not ab getting help all the time,it's ab accepting when it's offered
I had no standards when I was young-I admit it. I forgive myself.
@Cary Sontag Are we being a troll young sir?
We all were.. I dated a bad boy and it was the worst thing I ever did.. I have no standards that time and no self-respect.
@@jasmincayanong_1998 My comment was deleted. I said that I dated a bad boy because he was fun. I also said I was objectified by older men. Please don't delete.
The more feminine we are, the more masculine men will be and they will help us out more. IT allows their masculine, protective nature to come out.
Preach
100%. I’m already married to a provider man, but a while back I lost my phone at the park across the street while walking our dogs. I asked a man if he has seen a phone on the ground, he said he would help me look for it. After finding it we had a polite conversation, he let me know right away a) he had enough money to retire, and b) he was looking to settle down with a woman and start a family. It was flattering and hopefully he found a nice woman eventually, though the chances are low where I am at (no offense to women of Portland OR)
I love that
The more feminine we are the BETTER MEN WILL TREAT US
@@femininevibes2213 why are you shouting?
I’ve also noticed, gentle opinions have more effect than abrasive ones because they allow the man to mull it over and feel as though they reached the choice themself rather than feeling they were told what to think.
Psychology is key, love this ❤
Very true
Oh my gosh that’s so funny you including the “Pick ME, choose ME, love ME” scene from Grey’s Anatomy 🤣 “Romance” scenes like that in movies and TV shows are SO funny because every smart woman knows you cannot beg for a man’s attention or “capture” him, if you have to do that, he doesn’t want you! A man will only choose you if you’re his type! Otherwise, just move along and find a new man. A man will never love a woman who doesn’t love herself and who is desperate. 🤷♀️
Absolutely ! This scene makes me laugh so much I had to include it 😂 This is "pick me" energy to the fullest ahah! And I want my beautiful darlings to have a goddess energy ✨
Omg yes! That poor woman was downright pathetic!
I don't know why this showed up in my feed but....
You make a really good point about masculine energy turning many men off. I think people sometimes make it more complicated than it needs to be.
There are men who are attracted to masculine energy and most of them are pursuing, dating, or in relationships with .... masculine men.
Honestly, I've never encountered a straight man who was attracted to masculine energy.
As a teenage girl, I find that I'm the same way when it comes to gratitude. I sometimes do my sister's chores because I know my mom won't be happy when she gets home from work if they're not done, but the next day, my sister just makes more mess and has no gratitude for helping her. It makes me sort of upset, and my mom agrees.
It is NOT "CAN you help me?! CAN gives men an out. Instead, say "WILL you help me?! But, also, never let the man/men know about the WILL. You keep that for yourself.
Ohhh yes brilliant I love this ✨😘!!!
As a man, I completely agree with all of these advices! I’m impressed by the content and presentation of this video, congratulations! :)
What you are saying is so true, Lisa! Thank you so so much for this video! 💞I had such a revelation regarding my own masculine behavior. I'm a computer scientist, running my own business on the side and currently renovating my own house. You already guessed it - very independent 21st century woman, lots of masculine energy there. I started playing LARP (live roleplay) a while ago and wanted to play a character who is very different from my real-life me. So I am playing this slightly naive girl who's not really into pursuing a career, who loves to play and sing and dance instead and who's heavily relying on men to provide for her, help her etc. In my head I figured I was playing a "loser" of sorts, because she wasn't the masculine energy overachiever I was in real life. But guess what. MEN LOVE HER. Men are flocking to her like moths to the light, eager to be with her, help her, provide for her. Even though I am only playing a role, men have fallen for me IRL because of it. That's when I realized that my masculine real-life behavior was not the "winner" behavior I thought it was. That my roleplay character was not perceived as a loser who didn't achieve anything in life but as a very feminine woman who knows how to enjoy and to receive with grace. It changed everything for me and I am now striving to unite my successfull real-life me with my feminine roleplay me 🥰
Beautiful, I find your videos extremely empowering!
I'm a very strict, diligent woman, I really know how to boss men around and make them feel extremely inadequate and irrelevant, that has helped me a great deal professionally and financially speaking.
Unfortunately such traits have lead me to lots of disappointment in my love life, I agree 100% with you that men will not give in if you show them that you don't need them at all.
I've been practicing shift from masculine to feminine energy as you've mentioned in other videos and it really works! honestly I feel so much better about myself, I can be pretty, vulnerable and I laugh much more than ever before.
I'm slowly learning that I do not have to loose a part of myself, I can use my feminine energy at will according to the situation and get what I want from my relationships. Thanks for sharing your experience with us 🙏🏼
I'm soo glad my videos help you ! It truly is amazing to discover more about feminine and masculine energy, how we can switch from one to another in different situations, and have different outcomes 🥰 This is beautiful !
So.... you're the live action of ariana's song, position!! Thank you for sharing. I have this debate to myself, should i toughen up myself in office? because im an intern and don't wanna be looked down on, but i don't wanna have too much masculine persona just to prove i could do my job well
@@kimplung8250 Wow, don’t know the song but I’ll listen to it... If you work at a highly competitive industry or a male dominated environment, chances are that someone will try to prey on you or throw you under the bus at some point (men and women will do it, the more you climb the corporate ladder the more you’ll see it). Be aware, know your stuff and never take it personally.
As for your private life, definitely keep watching Lisa’s videos, being a woman is amazing, fun and beautiful and she constantly reminds you all of that.
Well done darling
I can't believe that I have been embodying masculine energy for years. It's also a fact that I utilized this energy as a defense mechanism following numerous disappointments with men. One day, my male boss enlightened me about my masculine energy and encouraged me to embrace my feminine side. He emphasized the importance of appearing and feeling feminine, mentioning that altering this energy would not only benefit me at work but also in my personal life. I was taken aback by this revelation and now I'm committed to working on myself to reintegrate my femininity, which doesn't signify weakness as I had previously believed, but rather a neglected part of my identity. I do believe that society has its flaws, and the messages about women's capabilities being equal to men's have often created confusion and affected the mindset and behavior of many women in my generation towards men.
Beautiful as always 😊 I love these videos! So few ladies today seem to care about femininity and think everything should be 50/50. Not chasing men is so important and I wish I'd learnt this earlier. "Men are like trains and busses, there's always another one coming."
With that being said women are like money. You get some, you get rid of it, but you'll always make more money.
Sometimes, when I let go of masculinity, I feel, like I lose control 😅.
This is why it is important to have boundaries 😊 I did a video about boundaries check it out !
Real men know they've to invest in a women for the good future, to make her his wife & understands your value & the incredible value of feminine energy.
I'm 35 and now realizing my relationship has wrecked me. I need to love myself again.
I need to exhibit masculine qualities to be a leader at work. Hard to transfer over.
Although men like to make the first approach. We also like when a woman gives a sign that she wants to be approached. This could be something as simple as catching his eye and giving a smile.
This is actually traditional that a woman make the first signal of interest. Centuries ago a woman would drop her handkerchief, for a man to pick up and then strike up a conversation with her.
"Approach anxiety" is what occurs when a man is forced to make the first move with zero evidence that his approach can be welcome.
Giving us a sign can also help protect you all from players too since these guys are the only ones brave enough to approach women while being totally blind to the outcome.
So if any of you find yourself asking "why do I always attract players" there is your answer.
Of course I agree with you ☺️! I talked about being more approachable in an other video !
I appreciate your videos so much! As a 21 year old female, raised by by single mother, it's kinda hard having men being willing to pay for this and do this for you. I'm pretty independent, to a certain extent. I sometimes like to do things for myself and sometimes I make the first move. I also have an aggressive side to me. I can be pushy, forward, playful, yet in a flirty manner. This is me and who I am and I don't intend on changing, but I can improve in some things.
This doesn't mean that I don't want a man who isn't generous or masculine or sensitive in any way, I just don't like being controlled/told what to do and when to do and how to act, etc. I don't want a man who's controlling, but I want a man who takes control. I am pretty dominant, but I want my man to be 100% dominant in the relationship. Although some guy aren't attracted to women who are like me, I intend to attract those who like women like me and who aren't intimidated and turned off and like me for me!
Are u an Aquarius lol
What?!?! You are too aggressive and too masculine.
You it's black or white.
Either you want to be the man or you want him to be the man.
Single mothers who raise these children alone are doomed both men and women and are not balanced mentally, physically, or even in their gender roles.
Example: if my husband, not a boyfriend or a friend tell me to not wear something, I would change it.
But if he's treating me like a door.mat and not treating me as a beautiful lady and just stringing me along then I won't tolerate it and I will walk away.
It's a big difference.
It's okay for a man to control a women and lead a woman, it's not okay for women to be masculine and screaming how a man can't control her.
Big turn off!!!
This video came just in time ❤ there is a guy I'm interested in and he is not moving as fast as I want him to. I realize he has to be the one to chase, not me! Thank you🥰
Absolutely darling ! Let him chase you like the princess that you are ❤
Girl, you are so elegant and classy!
Thank you very much ❤
Love this. Thank you for uplifting the beauty of the differences between men and women. We are equal, but are different and that is ok. In fact it makes relationships such a mysterious pleasure when we understand how to be pleasing to each other.
Men love a spicy challenging woman too. Don't be all softness or all aggression. Just stay unpredictable.
I agree! I will do a video about this 😊
@@Lisaglamour I'm sweet and compassionate but have a temper and am very fiesty and for some reason, EVERY man I've known seems to find my fiestiness arousing and purposely tries to make me angry from time to time. Like they've all told me this. "You're so sexy when you're angry!"(my man has said this many times too)
I hear alot about the never pay 50/50 on dates and i'm all for it but how do I go about responding to a man who asks. I wouldn't want to say something that makes me seem rude or grow a reputation of being rude or potentially stuck up. how can I let a man know that I won't be paying 50/50 but do so respectfully?
If they ask you, to do so while on date, agree to do so nicely, pay your part and if he planned or trying to find another activity afterwards, politely end, and NEVER go out with him again.
If you’re not sure if he’ll pay for the dinner, when you look at the menu ask him “can I order this?”, and before they bring the bill tell him “thank you so much for this wonderful dinner, I had a great time. You are truly a gentleman”. And don’t forget to act very feminine throughout the whole date!
I usually have extra money in case.. dont let him know u have money tho or brought a money, otherwise some men will expect a 50/50.. but real men don't ask for money or what do you work. They ask more about YOU. If that happens when he asked for 50/50, nod and split bill. NEXT: DONT DATE HIM EVER AGAIN! AVOID!!
Well let me tell you that if a man doesn't offer to pay on a date then he's not worthy of your time. He's not a gentleman...just pay that 50% and never meet him again
I absolutely love how blatantly honest you are 😊 I love your videos
Where can we find masculine men in their thirties? I attract ones in their forties and fifties but I would love someone my age.
I understand your desire but I would personally advise you to ONLY date men who are older than you (maximum 12 years though). A man in his thirties is basically still a boy and in most cases he's still too young to be able to fulfill his role as a provider. Usually men in their forties are the most eligible because they're more likely to be financially stable and emotionally mature. There are exceptions though, as in everything
I honestly have seen and have personal experience that they reach masculinity in their mid forties. Men will also grow, change and evolve, just like women. It takes men longer to realize what they truly want and there are phases in their life that they can stay in longer than others. The ideal masculinity I think we as women look for is a provider. Men need time to reach that point in their life to finally decide who they will make their queen. That doesn’t always take place in their 30s. I’m married to a masculine man and he’s 15 years older than me, however he’s everything I look for in a man. I’ve always preferred older men because of their maturity.
@@elenavalentina4608 Thank you. I understand where you're coming from but I desire marriage and children. Many older men have been there and done that and aren't necessarily in a 'rush' to do it again. I would a love a man my age where we can grow together.
@@life.as.victoria yes exactly! You explained it much better than me thank you!
@@life.as.victoria True. I prefer mature men as well!! I easily attract them but would prefer to stay in my age bracket as we'll have more in common. 😝😊
I have had men attack me for just being good at my job, and minding my own business.
Because they feel like you're competing with them. They basically feel like you're a guy. It's so hard and ridiculous to be feminine at work. In fact if you're feminine at work no one takes you seriously. Try to practice switching your energy from your work place and personal life...
@@Rwissam1987 But what if I am just not very feminine? I like to be assertive.. 😂
Misogynists. They attack women if they're better than them, because they feel threatened and then they also attack women if they're worse, by mocking how inferior they supposedly are.
It's clearly hormonal. If women get the same negative reaction from men to having opposing traits, it cannot stem from rationality.
Do you mind saying what country you're from?
Thanks Lisa! Always on point and in style!
Thank you 🥰
Your outfit here is absolutely stunning. You look gorgeous!
Thank you so much for sharing your message of classy femininity, Lisa! I am very grateful for your positive influence on my composure and behavior ♡
I plan on waiting till marriage:
No ring, means no way I’m playing with your dingaling
YES! me, too. Also, a women's body chemicals is different than men. So if a woman were to be with a man, and they break up, it more difficult for a woman on an emotional and mental level. That's why, I won't put myself through this Again! Lessons learned.
@@fitnfab6522 yes exactly I’m studying neuroscience and it’s proven that women lack the hormone that enables men to sleep around and not feel attached, when having us women actually release hormones that make us believe we’re in love when we aren’t, also I believe in soul ties etc and that our energy really and truly can be transported through one another, I also just feel as though I wouldn’t want to describe my virginity as something that a guy TOOK from me but rather something I GAVE HIM.
I'm a married woman w children in their 30s and I was never taught this by my family of origin
Hey Lisa, as a man this is like a breath of fresh air - it seems like this is really the best way for both sexes to get the best out of each other by operating in their respective energies - why do you think women tend not to operate in this way these days?
I don't like ordering my man.
But because I am VERY dominant at my work, I sometimes don't switch between my masculine and feminine energy very quickly.
Omg girl this advice is soo golden. I am going to listen to it over and over again! You also have this magical sweet aura. I love it!!
Love how you speak and your soft voice. I’ll try to practice 😊
YT algos brought me here, but as a man everything she's saying is truth.
Which movie is the "cheap, man-chasing trollope" line from? That cracked me up.
I think it’s greys anatomy
Okay but the pastel spring green top is poppin'
Like...Yasss gurl ✨💅🏻💖
I really love how you put Henry Cavill's image in thumbnail 😂
Thanks Lisa. Always speaking facts.
Outfit is incredible as usual 😍
My problem is I chase 😩 I need to stopp! Always trying to prove my worth.
This video is terrific - THANK YOU. But what you said from 11:24 to 11:41 AND 12:11 to 12:30 is SHEER GOLD! BEAUTIFUL! GOD BLESS YOU xoxo
Love it! And your outfit is beautiful as always. Thank you for always sharing such GOLD with us! I will highly value myself so I can meet a high value man!
A man gives a woman takes that's how nature works
This is lovely thank you for your contributions. You don't know how correct you are.
You need to make a video on how other women treat femininity because it’s soooo shocking!! I find myself deepening my voice around girls because they treat me better when I’m not super girly😳
RIGHT?! I always put effort in my looks even when going to gym and they ALWAYS say "why are you so overdressed? why are you dressed like we are going somewhere important?" and I always feel guilty
@@ivab4926 oh my goodness I sooo relate!!!🥲😂
This is an interesting observation that even I have (just now) realized about my own interactions with other women. I am curious as to what that stems from though.
I do the same. I’m learned to stop doing it though.
I looooove watching your videos, i love that you're old fashioned like me, your words really resonate with me and they've helped me so much. I just turned 21 so i'm not really looking for a man i'm focusing on school and becoming a high value/woman. I still have a long way to go, first step is changing the mindset which will change how you see everything, then comes self acceptance which is what i'm working on. I am absolutely in love with your style, your outfit here is totally something i would wear, i love your color palette (in another video about signs for not high caliber men i think, you wore this beauuuutiful pale yellow dress i thought you looked very elegant and feminine and the dress gave you a gorgeous silhouette
Great video!! I love these types of videos and subjects that you do! Also your outfit is adorable, super feminine and simple. You look beautiful!!
What I'm seeing more on dating apps is that women will ask for my number and then try to tell me what we're doing on our date. 🤣
I'm sure there's plenty of passive men who want a more aggressive woman to take the lead. But it turns me off instantly every time because it's extremely masculine behavior.
Great points liza! Most of these points indeed make me run for the hills!
Thank you Lisa, you help me so much to start over again. Thank you for the free lessons that really helps not only my relationship but me as a person as well. ♥
About the first move though, if you really like this man (and definitely don't wanna let him go without effort), I think it's okay to approach first. But not in a flirty way! a simple hi and smile would do good, leave a good-feminine first impression just to make them know you exist, and after that it's up to him, if he likes you, he'll chase you.
I would say, let him approach YOU darling. He is the one that should not want to let you go, not the opposite! Work on your confidence to feel worthy darling, you are the price not him! What you can do to let him know you are interested is just a little eye contact, but let him come to you first (this is masculine energy). Resting is feminine 😘 If he doesn't come to you, that means he doesn't want to. A man will go for what he wants! Don't worry there are plenty of men out there 😉
I love your videos Lisa. Thank you so much for all the wisdom that I wish I heard already years ago. Beautiful energy and vibes. Loving it. Thank you so much. 💕
Does my brother count?I need to heal from my past relationship in order to fully move on for a masculine man who's loyal and respectful as my brother is he's my hero for now
Yes the presence of your brother being protective towards you is very helpful to feel safe in your feminine energy ☺️
@@Lisaglamour thank you so much I also have male cousin he's a Scorpio he's both macho and gentleman once I went to his house for my female cousins birthday she's 4 now she's a Taurus and he helped me to walk and served me apple juice I don't do any alcohol
This is exactly how God created us, male and female.i love your videos, you are key on
Amen 🤍💯
The dress you're wearing at the 0:50 mark is STUNNING. I'm obsessed. Is there a link for it on any of your social media pages?
PS- great video as always. I've always had the feminine look down; not so much in my mindset or attitude though. Your content has helped me improve that❤💄👠.
lisa!
I had asked my husband to pick me up for Christmas but he totally ignored me for a month , needless to say he is my Ex- now, he did all that you said in the video for his married sister and only married me to grab my earning to provide for his married sister .. Indian men and inlaws are cunning and mistreat the new daughter-in-law
Yes, indians usually make the spouse support the entire family.
Im west indian, Im sorry that happened to you 💖
I think my west african husband is doing same thing to me
Using me....
I have been doing everything wrong
It's not your fault. We as black women have been taught different. I know because I have been there. Take it as an opportunity to learn from past mistakes and grow better. 🙂
Lisa if you don't mind me asking, how old are you? You're so wise and mature for your age 😊❤️
She’s 25
Never ask for a ladies age …. She’s 25 though
Me... That's so rude to ask.
Also me... Thanks for asking. I was wondering too. 🤪
The more feminine we are the better men treat us
Then women in Arab countries despite being housewives must be masculine af. How naive you are
I was already watching your other vidoe and got a notification this new one was on! So exciting and always thank you for posting. You are part of my coffee and mindset morning routine for the day!
Great video. Thank you so much for the tips!
+ men love to feel that they are successful at pleasing you and making you happy and making your life feel easier because you will feel better happier and in your feminine a lot more - which he is attracted to
Great advice, loving the outfit!
Love your content! And simply adore your outfit❤
Lisa, I love your outfit. They are just getting better and better with each video
Lisa, my husband is disabled now and I have to do everything for him so how do I stay feminine while taking care of him? I love your videos!
You look AMAZING💗
Thank you ❤
I love how you pronounce the word "strong"
Thank you for the video, it was very educating ❤
Thank you for offering a better understanding of men than what most women have these days.
Love the tips girlie -luv u sweetie -being soft and playful works wonders on your man-femininity is our strength xx
Why would you put Henry Cavill on the thumbnail? I'm trying to forget that he's taken.😢
Saaaaameee
I was gonna say the same😂😂😂
@@tralaritralarajiju2652 Now I have to find another man to day dream about.😭 I never dream of another women's man.
Well not implying I had a chance with him or anything....but still.😭 You get my point.
@@ambersummer2685 Yess... I feel you, sis😂😂👌
Please, what is the movie at 4:14?
That scene is the most cringiest thing I’ve ever seen
Thank you so much, Lisa, your videos have been very helpful.
Wow one of my favorite video topics yet!😍😍😍 I so look forward to your videos☺️💕💕💕
Thank you very much ❤❤
Thank you Lisa 🌸🤍💕
This video was so awesome, so is you’re gorgeous dress Lisa! Your videos are such a big help!
Hello, love. Can you do a video recommending books that can help us improve our femininity, elegance, etc...
Great video! Love your outfit btw. ❤ 😊
Thank you 😘
I've had beyond enough of women being blamed for 6000 years of male behaviors!! Ever think WE are reacting to THEM?!
Reaction is emotional and gives power away. It usually doesn't solve problems and makes situations worse. Action gives control to our lives as we contemplate the best course of action.
Hm I am not sure about 50/50. I was on a date once and I told him “sorry, I always go Dutch on dates. If men want to spend money on me, they can buy me gifts.” I said this in a sweet voice, and the next date we had he gave me a beautiful bracelet 💕 men also like novelty and especially if you are new to femininity this approach can help you avoid feeling guilty and gives him the opportunity to demonstrate his thoughtfulness 🌸 of course this is simply my own experience and will be different for everyone but I thought I would write it down in case anyone else finds it useful 💕
I feel like it's okay if that is how you prefer to approach the date. It seems like the guy you were with was willing to pay full but still respected your kind of thoughtfulness (pay 50/50 but buy gift instead); meaning he's gentleman and masculine enough. The problem is with the man who asked for 50/50 or even pretending he forgets to bring his wallet (absolute worse!).
Thank you for sharing though! It gives me more viewpoint.
Good point. Clearly he wanted to pay so it's clear that he was a gentleman. I'd never go Dutch personally but I love your approach, he still invested regardless.
Men who irk me are the ones who force you to go Dutch or act as tho they forget their wallet etc.
@@kimplung8250 yes I agree. It is about the quality of man. And it kind of sets down a challenge as well, which of course men love 💞
@@lavishlovergirl yes it should be on your terms 💕
You go Dutch because you’re masculine
I love your outfit today. Could you maybe make a video on how to start becoming more feminine for beginners?
The independent persona is a major turn off for me
Manipulation also not true i won't act like who i am not...
Thank You for the video!! I Love the skirt!! Please share where did you buy !!
Very goooood video!!! You are so right! Thank you for reminding women to be women 😊
💝THANKS !!!!💝
Yaay new video ❤❤❤
Thank you Lisa ❤️
You look stunning! Could you please write where did you buy the clothes?💕
This is kinda off topic but I love how you have added some small video clips from some Bollywood movies in your video!😄
Merci beaucoup !
I like the video and that outfit is adorable!
Im not a high calibre man (frm a materialistic point) but my new gf see herself as am alpha female..its kinda off putting..shes attractive..but shes not feminine in her mannerisim..so it makes less engaging when it comes to sex
..but wen ive met quite shy feminine females its like a rocket all night..why is that?
There ARE women who wants feminine energy men, and there also exist men who want masculine women... Although I have only seen this in the BDSM community.
You are most likely right about the broader population, however.