Absolutely 💯 amazing. To get out of a very deep CFS hole! I know that I could never have coped without the amazing support from my husband a few friends and groups like this. Unfortunately my family don't really get it but that's not for me to judge because some people either can't cope with it, can't really understand it or are poorly misinformed by uneducated professionals who sadly also did not get taught the knowledge when studying medicine! Talk about, do your head in let alone the illness! I used to get angry but part of my healing was to accept that it is a complex illness for me so why not the on lookers? But you definitely need one person that believes and really validates your illness. It gave me the endurance to begin healing. I hope this helps someone. Finding a person with similar CFS symptoms and mindset on how to get better really helps too. Huge congratulations Tara. Your a legend and thankyou Toby for saving lives. ❤️
I liked hearing Toby talk about the mini, micro adjustments/adaptations to build resilience over time. I am building a good baseline plan, ...but I can also see where it is too much of one thing or deficient of another. As of now it is consistently unsustainable. But I've gotten a few "a-ha" moments here from Tara... where now I can tweak and adjust my plan for the better. Thank you for such a fabulous episode!❤❤❤
That was an amazing recovery story! Really inspiring and encouraging. Just right for a day when I´m feeling quite sick and miserable. It gives me hope that it can get better eventually, if I keep working on my healthy habits. Thank you, Tara for sharing your story!
WOW!! Tara Such a powerful episode of recovery and resilience and persistence, and the willingness to be vulnerable, letting go and leaning in. It really does take a lot to trust yourself and trust others again when you’re going through this. I just can’t say enough. There’s just so much that I got from this today. 🙏 52:30 #CFS Health And Tobey and the amazing team. I have not been in the program long.. I’m learning every day ❤️ I’ve looking forward to the kick starter call today.
That's great Mari Ann! It's wonderful that you're feeling hopeful again. Even though you haven't seen major improvements or setbacks, just the fact that you're finding new hope is a positive step forward.
Omg, i can relate it started when my baby was 18months. Could nt go to the park with him… Im lucky mu hubby is Family first, and took care of me, still is…grateful❤ Thanks for inspiring us
Inspirational. On a bad day where I'm in bed, this gives me hope. I am in process of working through all the free stuff Tobys team has out there and signed up for the program. Hoping it helps me as much as it did you Tara. Thanks for sharing.
Tara mentioned that she needs to avoid some places in Austin. This strikes a chord with me having needed to travel to Austin twice in the last 6 months for cardiac procedures-Austin itself is triggering for me! But now, with this behind me, I’m considering whether it would be a better time to participate in a program. Earlier, with so much cardiac stuff going on, I didn’t feel like I could give the necessary focus to a program.
I have heard it a lot of times you telling do 50% of what you think you could do. I think today I have understood it. I can see now what made me crashing last week and the times before. I just have not to do the other 50%. Being aware of the point when the first half is reached. Finding a strategy to get it. Probably a plan to make before starting activity. Thank you. Send tons of love to you both.
Amazingly helpful video, like others I’ve done a lot of the work but can’t get to movement stage without exhaustion…. Please can we have more info on what restorative breathing is, also restorative movement…. Thank you Tara for sharing, so much on common with you. I had CFS 30 years ago, single mum, etc luckily muddled through as CFS not recognised. Now i have it again at 69 and desperate to get better…. Weight loss is a huge worry….. 🙏🏻
I would have liked to hear more from Tara... on how she got herself to do things on days that were really difficult. Did she constantly remind herself why she was doing all this? How did she talk to herself during this time? What did she say? Did she use little tricks? (if you do this for 2 min then you can rest for 10 min), Etc. I find after pushing myself so hard for years... that now i listen when I'm tired and stop. But now it's harder to "make" myself do things when I'm tired and painful.
Learning to have a complete focus on what is positive and what is working was very hard. And I still go up and down. But I’ve had to learn to really watch my thoughts and consciously shift what I’m paying attention to. Some days were so dark and so lonely that I definitely did not want to get out of bed. Being so tired by the end of the day that I just wanted to lay on the floor happened many evenings. One of the thing the program focuses on, is that you share your wins and not focus as much on the struggles. I think that was a tremendous insight for me.
@@taraputnam9152 Thank you so much Tara for replying personally to my question. I completely agree with you about focusing on the positive gains vs the "misery of defeat"...lol. I am usually a positive person and don't spend much time dwelling on the pain and exhaustion. But I guess I was thinking of how to consistently do my baseline activities when I've basically conditioned myself to rest when I'm feeling worse than normal. That total exhaustion, when you can barely get up to go to the bathroom.... how to still push myself to go for a walk or houseclean. Thank you again for your reply.
@@taraputnam9152 I guess I just realized I'm working off the "trade off" system.... so I'm not sure how that is in relation to baseline practice. Example... I have to get home insurance today... so rather than do my 5 min morning walk.... I save up my energy for my appt. I know I will be doing that movement when I go to my appt today. I'm still getting my 5 min (or more) of movement, but it's not my baseline activity. So how does that relate to baseline consistency? Maybe it's my mindset of not doing one activity...to save up energy for another activity that is more important and necessary. I find myself having to do this almost every day... which leads to inconsistency in my baseline goals.
Trade offs are hard. But that is exactly what I did. An appointment one day OR an hour of therapy OR a short event meant be gentle and very little for a couple of days after to recover. Little by little you will be able to do a little more. It took me a year from one pound weights only one set every other day and stretching the next day to going out and about freely. 💕💕
@@taraputnam9152 You have done so well and accomplished so much!! I am so very happy for you! And thank you for the reinforcement. I was worried that the trade off technique was detrimental to my baseline.... but it sounds like if I can just continue to be consistent with some type of movement every day.... and gradually build up.... it should still work. Thank you! Best Wishes for an exceptional life for both you and your daughter!!! ❤️
Omgggh🥺🙏🙏🧡🧡still watching...i am in a similiar Situation since 2016!!!😢😢😢and nearly giving Up at the Moment. I live alone with all of that and its really hell.... I have so so much cruel brain " damage" and Symptoms Like dementia. ITS so so scary. I have that caused by lyme and coinfektions and completely bedridden. Cant treat...because i tolerate nothing
I laughed when she said that all her supplements went down to fish oil and vit B. Same for me. I found that those two things were huge game changers. Not all the crazy herbs and unusual supplements that people said to take. Back when I was really sick and in pain...I tried just about anything. So relatable....this video.
Can SSRI help with CFS? I suspect that I’ve had CFS for a few years but I was on SSRI for a year and my symptoms improved that time. But once I quit medication they came back.
Hiya Tara, I'm so happy for you on getting back to be a better you health,spiritually and emotionally wise etc.. 🙏 I got so much from your talk and from Toby 💯 I do have a question and I hope you can answer, you said at the pretty close to the start that you had NO ONE to help etc.. but at the end you thanked your family, saying that you couldn't have done it without them and Toby, so could you have recovered with Toby's help alone. 🥰☘
Thanks for reaching out. And I’m glad that my story was helpful to hear. I do believe recovery would be possible with just Toby. My family was able to come every once a while and help for a couple of days every few months. Which was a huge support. However, where I live, I no longer had any friends or people to help out in anyway close by. the program truly guided me into finding out how to help my self be able to get to healing. Much kindness and so much healing. Love to you.
When I hear people say they were devistated that it would take 6-12 months to recover, I know they havent been where some of us have, either in depth or duration. I would have been elated if i knew there was a way to get to 50% in 5 years. If you feel this way too don't feel alone.
I am not type A , never have been and i could actually consider myself on the lazy side.. You mentioned you have never had a client who was lazy.. just wonder if this is right for me/
Hey Clarisse! I'm sorry to hear about your situation. We do not give out our clients or ex clients personal information, I’m sure you can understand. If you’d like help like Tara got, please email our team at info@cfshealth.com and they will give you the details.
This is what can happen when you've got the best support 27/7. Most people can't afford this. She still has bad days so is not cured. And when the course ends? I imagine that would start to feel very different. It'll just come back eventually.
Hi. I ended the course several months ago. I do have bad days. Just like regular people 💕 definitely healed and healthy. I did not have 24/7 support at all. Not sure what your referring to. CFS health is not a 24/7 program but a community with lots of knowledge and support on how to heal from CFS ❤ Much kindness to you.
Oh my heart. When she speaks to the pieces of her identity being taken away and just wanting to be held and have someone tell you it'll be okay, but no one can because they don't know either.... YES. Wait, but how did she go through a divorce if she couldn't care for herself?
Chronic fatigue syndrome doesnt exist. M.E however does and just like M.S there is no cure or recovery. Anyone who says that just had basic chronic fatigue that can go with any other illness. Stop spreading lies its hard enough to live with this.
Absolutely 💯 amazing.
To get out of a very deep CFS hole!
I know that I could never have coped without the amazing support from my husband a few friends and groups like this. Unfortunately my family don't really get it but that's not for me to judge because some people either can't cope with it, can't really understand it or are poorly misinformed by uneducated professionals who sadly also did not get taught the knowledge when studying medicine!
Talk about, do your head in let alone the illness!
I used to get angry but part of my healing was to accept that it is a complex illness for me so why not the on lookers?
But you definitely need one person that believes and really validates your illness. It gave me the endurance to begin healing.
I hope this helps someone.
Finding a person with similar CFS symptoms and mindset on how to get better really helps too. Huge congratulations Tara.
Your a legend and thankyou Toby for saving lives. ❤️
I’ve signed up and I really need to get through this for my son. I need this.
I liked hearing Toby talk about the mini, micro adjustments/adaptations to build resilience over time. I am building a good baseline plan, ...but I can also see where it is too much of one thing or deficient of another. As of now it is consistently unsustainable. But I've gotten a few "a-ha" moments here from Tara... where now I can tweak and adjust my plan for the better. Thank you for such a fabulous episode!❤❤❤
Glad to hear that you found Toby's discussion on mini, micro adjustments/adaptations inspiring!
That was an amazing recovery story! Really inspiring and encouraging. Just right for a day when I´m feeling quite sick and miserable. It gives me hope that it can get better eventually, if I keep working on my healthy habits. Thank you, Tara for sharing your story!
WOW!! Tara Such a powerful episode of recovery and resilience and persistence, and the willingness to be vulnerable, letting go and leaning in. It really does take a lot to trust yourself and trust others again when you’re going through this. I just can’t say enough. There’s just so much that I got from this today. 🙏 52:30 #CFS Health And Tobey and the amazing team.
I have not been in the program long.. I’m learning every day ❤️ I’ve looking forward to the kick starter call today.
Empowering story of your life at your worse and inspiring us all with your recovery ❤ sad poignant and healing ❤
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Thank you for this beautifully vulnerable share Tara ❤❤ so much love and power to you!
Amazing! I’m finding new hope, since I’ve been kind of stuck, no major crashes but also no major improvement.
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That's great Mari Ann! It's wonderful that you're feeling hopeful again. Even though you haven't seen major improvements or setbacks, just the fact that you're finding new hope is a positive step forward.
@@CFSHealth ❤️ 🙏
Amazing energy 🤩
Omg, i can relate it started when my baby was 18months. Could nt go to the park with him… Im lucky mu hubby is Family first, and took care of me, still is…grateful❤
Thanks for inspiring us
You are so very blessed to have a loving supportive husband!!! What a gift to have something you can always be grateful for everyday.
So inspirational 🤗❤️
Inspirational. On a bad day where I'm in bed, this gives me hope. I am in process of working through all the free stuff Tobys team has out there and signed up for the program. Hoping it helps me as much as it did you Tara. Thanks for sharing.
Brilliant interview Tara ❤ well done on all your hard work, success and your new life x
Thank you! We really appreciate your kind words Vivienne!
Tara mentioned that she needs to avoid some places in Austin. This strikes a chord with me having needed to travel to Austin twice in the last 6 months for cardiac procedures-Austin itself is triggering for me! But now, with this behind me, I’m considering whether it would be a better time to participate in a program. Earlier, with so much cardiac stuff going on, I didn’t feel like I could give the necessary focus to a program.
I have heard it a lot of times you telling do 50% of what you think you could do. I think today I have understood it. I can see now what made me crashing last week and the times before. I just have not to do the other 50%. Being aware of the point when the first half is reached. Finding a strategy to get it. Probably a plan to make before starting activity. Thank you. Send tons of love to you both.
Great "A-Ha" moment and awareness for you Elke!! Congrats!!!🎉🎉🎉
Thank you for your kind words!
I’m so confused does that mean 50’percent intensity less ? Also 50
Percent of actual activities ? For example do I work out 50 percent less intensity
Heroic!
Really powerful story, what bravery!
We're truly grateful for your appreciation Suzannax. Yes, It was indeed an incredibly powerful story
Amazingly helpful video, like others I’ve done a lot of the work but can’t get to movement stage without exhaustion…. Please can we have more info on what restorative breathing is, also restorative movement….
Thank you Tara for sharing, so much on common with you.
I had CFS 30 years ago, single mum, etc luckily muddled through as CFS not recognised. Now i have it again at 69 and desperate to get better…. Weight loss is a huge worry….. 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your kind words we're thrilled to hear that the video has been helpful to you
I would have liked to hear more from Tara... on how she got herself to do things on days that were really difficult. Did she constantly remind herself why she was doing all this? How did she talk to herself during this time? What did she say? Did she use little tricks? (if you do this for 2 min then you can rest for 10 min), Etc. I find after pushing myself so hard for years... that now i listen when I'm tired and stop. But now it's harder to "make" myself do things when I'm tired and painful.
Learning to have a complete focus on what is positive and what is working was very hard. And I still go up and down. But I’ve had to learn to really watch my thoughts and consciously shift what I’m paying attention to. Some days were so dark and so lonely that I definitely did not want to get out of bed. Being so tired by the end of the day that I just wanted to lay on the floor happened many evenings. One of the thing the program focuses on, is that you share your wins and not focus as much on the struggles. I think that was a tremendous insight for me.
@@taraputnam9152 Thank you so much Tara for replying personally to my question. I completely agree with you about focusing on the positive gains vs the "misery of defeat"...lol. I am usually a positive person and don't spend much time dwelling on the pain and exhaustion. But I guess I was thinking of how to consistently do my baseline activities when I've basically conditioned myself to rest when I'm feeling worse than normal. That total exhaustion, when you can barely get up to go to the bathroom.... how to still push myself to go for a walk or houseclean. Thank you again for your reply.
@@taraputnam9152 I guess I just realized I'm working off the "trade off" system.... so I'm not sure how that is in relation to baseline practice. Example... I have to get home insurance today... so rather than do my 5 min morning walk.... I save up my energy for my appt. I know I will be doing that movement when I go to my appt today. I'm still getting my 5 min (or more) of movement, but it's not my baseline activity. So how does that relate to baseline consistency? Maybe it's my mindset of not doing one activity...to save up energy for another activity that is more important and necessary. I find myself having to do this almost every day... which leads to inconsistency in my baseline goals.
Trade offs are hard. But that is exactly what I did. An appointment one day OR an hour of therapy OR a short event meant be gentle and very little for a couple of days after to recover.
Little by little you will be able to do a little more. It took me a year from one pound weights only one set every other day and stretching the next day to going out and about freely. 💕💕
@@taraputnam9152 You have done so well and accomplished so much!! I am so very happy for you! And thank you for the reinforcement. I was worried that the trade off technique was detrimental to my baseline.... but it sounds like if I can just continue to be consistent with some type of movement every day.... and gradually build up.... it should still work. Thank you! Best Wishes for an exceptional life for both you and your daughter!!! ❤️
Omgggh🥺🙏🙏🧡🧡still watching...i am in a similiar Situation since 2016!!!😢😢😢and nearly giving Up at the Moment. I live alone with all of that and its really hell.... I have so so much cruel brain " damage" and Symptoms Like dementia. ITS so so scary. I have that caused by lyme and coinfektions and completely bedridden. Cant treat...because i tolerate nothing
❤️ 😢 🤗
Sorry to hear that. Have you considered mast cell activation syndrome / issues? Not saying it would be the answer but it could help if that's a factor
@@stevenstevenson6343 yes i think since lyme i also have Problems with Histamin and mastcells
Thanks for watching Kirsten! I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a difficult time
My story is the same like yours. Hugs ❤
Hi Toby do You got any healing from childhoodtrauma?
I laughed when she said that all her supplements went down to fish oil and vit B. Same for me. I found that those two things were huge game changers. Not all the crazy herbs and unusual supplements that people said to take. Back when I was really sick and in pain...I tried just about anything. So relatable....this video.
Can SSRI help with CFS? I suspect that I’ve had CFS for a few years but I was on SSRI for a year and my symptoms improved that time. But once I quit medication they came back.
Amazing tara😍 and thanks to by
Thank you!
Hiya Tara, I'm so happy for you on getting back to be a better you health,spiritually and emotionally wise etc.. 🙏 I got so much from your talk and from Toby 💯 I do have a question and I hope you can answer, you said at the pretty close to the start that you had NO ONE to help etc.. but at the end you thanked your family, saying that you couldn't have done it without them and Toby, so could you have recovered with Toby's help alone. 🥰☘
Thanks for reaching out. And I’m glad that my story was helpful to hear. I do believe recovery would be possible with just Toby. My family was able to come every once a while and help for a couple of days every few months. Which was a huge support. However, where I live, I no longer had any friends or people to help out in anyway close by. the program truly guided me into finding out how to help my self be able to get to healing. Much kindness and so much healing. Love to you.
When I hear people say they were devistated that it would take 6-12 months to recover, I know they havent been where some of us have, either in depth or duration. I would have been elated if i knew there was a way to get to 50% in 5 years. If you feel this way too don't feel alone.
I am not type A , never have been and i could actually consider myself on the lazy side.. You mentioned you have never had a client who was lazy.. just wonder if this is right for me/
I’m very underweight and also going through a divorce… I would love to get in touch with Tara , is that possible? Thank you so much ❤
Hey Clarisse! I'm sorry to hear about your situation. We do not give out our clients or ex clients personal information, I’m sure you can understand. If you’d like help like Tara got, please email our team at info@cfshealth.com and they will give you the details.
Being underweight is a problem for me too, trying to eat the best way makes me lose weight. Sadly I went through divorce too😢
Yes im really lost everything but maybe nessary go heal your self ..
Im a caregiver..and lost myself
This is what can happen when you've got the best support 27/7.
Most people can't afford this.
She still has bad days so is not cured.
And when the course ends? I imagine that would start to feel very different.
It'll just come back eventually.
Hi. I ended the course several months ago. I do have bad days. Just like regular people 💕 definitely healed and healthy.
I did not have 24/7 support at all. Not sure what your referring to. CFS health is not a 24/7 program but a community with lots of knowledge and support on how to heal from CFS ❤
Much kindness to you.
@@taraputnam9152 sorry having a bad time mentally so feeling negative.
If it helps people that's still good.
All the best to u
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People are just assholes, I don't understand why people just can't be caring and try to understand what others are going through.
Oh my heart. When she speaks to the pieces of her identity being taken away and just wanting to be held and have someone tell you it'll be okay, but no one can because they don't know either.... YES. Wait, but how did she go through a divorce if she couldn't care for herself?
I did and had carers--
Chronic fatigue syndrome doesnt exist. M.E however does and just like M.S there is no cure or recovery. Anyone who says that just had basic chronic fatigue that can go with any other illness. Stop spreading lies its hard enough to live with this.
Hi Rose. It sounds very challenging to believe this. I’m curious to your story and to why you feel this way. Much kindness.