Tell me, which one of the hidden ways we limit our potential resonated with you? Have you experienced an upper limit problem before? How did you overcome it if you did? If you feel stuck, remember to download the guide for tools on how to get UNstuck: www.terricole.com/4-hidden-ways-self-sabotage-undermines-success-guide
Ooh, this was so good! Throughout my career I have accomplished more, faster than my colleagues. Two things happened: some of my colleagues would undermine me through passive-aggression, withholding info, lying, playing me off others, and I would be terminated. Terminated not because of my colleagues' behaviour, but because my superiors felt threatened. Lather, rinse, repeat. I am now looking for a job that will act as a bridge to becoming self-employed. Wish me luck! 🍀
A subscription to Terri Cole is SO worth it! Often the podcasts are 'exactly' what I need! Like THIS on self-sabotage. Yes, altho status quo is not truly as enriching as hoped. I hope I'm not too old to become the ME I long to be! ❤
Hi Terri 😊 Thanks so much for this ♥️. This is something that I have been working on. It makes so much sense especially coupled with your “father wound” course. I want to “take off” so bad I can taste it, letting go of suppositions of others. I “took off” 30 years ago with my first career as a hairstylist and opened a salon. People pleasing got the best of me then and I will not let it get the best of me again. Holding back for fear of success ♥️. You are the best 🥰
My challenge is I don’t know what I want. Most life coaching channels talk about careers. I’m retired but I’m certainly not dead. I’m not interested in turning my hobbies and passions (gardening, music, Barbie sewing) into some kind of money generating venture. It’s not always about money. At this stage I guess I just want to be.
Talk poppy syndrome is a big thing in Australia, especially in smaller communities where mindset, beliefs and behaviour change very very slowly, if at all. They love the ‘Aussie battler’ story, but only if you don’t upgrade your life in anyway (bigger home, fancy car, private schools etc). They are okay with you being able to buy them a beer on Friday nights, just so long as you still ‘look’ like them.
We have “tall poppy syndrome “ here in New England. Particularly in the old mill districts. Here we call it “crabs in a bucket “. It seems to me, the only approved success is if you are from a successful family, or you worked the traditional college and up the ladder. I’m a self carpenter. Not a millionaire by any means long shot, but I take my shots, snubs and dismissive comments all the time for not working for someone else despite being a supportive cheerleader for anyone doing their thing.
Thank you! Had been trying to think of Gay's first and last name for months and just remembered his wife Katie or Kathlyn! Read some of their work years ago - bought it even but still have to find it :)
Thank you, this is so helpful ❤ I have found that I really provoke some people, often men, when I talk about my work and I avoid getting into details on my position, since it is not what they expect. Colleagues who know me professionally are fine, but at private social situations I feel I have to keep my head down. So the different expectations from society are real, and can really get to you. I feel your insights will be really helpful going forward. All the best 🌻
Yessss ... Self-sabotage is right, and alcohol is an unsustainable activity for sure!! Please do an episode on that and consider inviting Annie Grace!! This naked mind
Until I get that video out, I have talked about it a little here (just not this particular incident): th-cam.com/video/_4h1gz4Z4uc/w-d-xo.html and I've also had Ruby Warrington on to talk about getting sober: th-cam.com/video/foo9ooeo2gQ/w-d-xo.html ❤️
what I’ve learned about myself is that I should’ve been attentive to these topics years and decades ago. I am now 68 and I listen to some of your brilliant content and it makes me frustrated that I am having this Renaissance at this point in life. I think I am too old to change, how do you suggest people of my age range tackle some of these topics of personal growth? I get too mired down in missed opportunities that are realistically too long gone to benefit from. does this make sense??
It makes sense and I am witnessing you with compassion 💕 I don't believe we are ever too old to change. We hopefully have lots and lots of years left in which to make better, more mindful decisions and attract more fulfilling relationships/friendships in our lives. But we do need to mourn and grieve those lost opportunities and give ourselves grace for what we did in the past. I speak more about it in this video, at the 7:52 time stamp: th-cam.com/video/AJXBsiJJiUE/w-d-xo.htmlsi=tqYxwvcIlkkYGN94&t=472 And I touch on it here as well (in a bit of a different way): th-cam.com/video/Okw-g4mwPk0/w-d-xo.html
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Tell me, which one of the hidden ways we limit our potential resonated with you? Have you experienced an upper limit problem before? How did you overcome it if you did? If you feel stuck, remember to download the guide for tools on how to get UNstuck: www.terricole.com/4-hidden-ways-self-sabotage-undermines-success-guide
Ooh, this was so good! Throughout my career I have accomplished more, faster than my colleagues. Two things happened: some of my colleagues would undermine me through passive-aggression, withholding info, lying, playing me off others, and I would be terminated. Terminated not because of my colleagues' behaviour, but because my superiors felt threatened. Lather, rinse, repeat. I am now looking for a job that will act as a bridge to becoming self-employed. Wish me luck! 🍀
Me too
I'm so sorry to hear that, Melody ❤️ I hope you find that bridge- it sounds like you'd do well as an entrepreneur!
lol! Do we work at the same place?! #soaccurate
@@rhemastewart9750 Haha, unfortunately for me this has happened throughout my career.
A subscription to Terri Cole is SO worth it! Often the podcasts are 'exactly' what I need! Like THIS on self-sabotage.
Yes, altho status quo is not truly as enriching as hoped. I hope I'm not too old to become the ME I long to be! ❤
No one is ever too old for that 💕 Thank you so much for your support, Sherry! I appreciate you being here.
Tall Poppy Syndrome even exists in some families. Excellent episode! Thank you!
Indeed it does. Glad you enjoyed it, Diana 💕
Hi Terri 😊 Thanks so much for this ♥️. This is something that I have been working on. It makes so much sense especially coupled with your “father wound” course. I want to “take off” so bad I can taste it, letting go of suppositions of others. I “took off” 30 years ago with my first career as a hairstylist and opened a salon. People pleasing got the best of me then and I will not let it get the best of me again. Holding back for fear of success ♥️.
You are the best 🥰
Right on, Paula!! ❤️❤️
I wish l had l mother like you. Your channel helped me so much❤Thank you🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
That makes me so happy to hear 💕 I'm happy to be anyone's internet mama!
My challenge is I don’t know what I want. Most life coaching channels talk about careers. I’m retired but I’m certainly not dead. I’m not interested in turning my hobbies and passions (gardening, music, Barbie sewing) into some kind of money generating venture. It’s not always about money. At this stage I guess I just want to be.
What is that one thing you would like to leave to the world, positively contributing before you go ? Part of your legacy ❤
I say, own it! Own that you don't want it to be about money, and you just want to be. That's valid, too. 🙌🙌
@@aurelien5861such a good self-question! 💗🙌
@@aurelien5861such a good comment &question! 💗🙌
CANNOT wait for your new book to drop. Pre-ordered and ready to GOOOO! ❤❤❤
Woohooo I can't wait!! 🙌🙌🙌
I'm chronically ill and still working at every level to heal what I can
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️
Talk poppy syndrome is a big thing in Australia, especially in smaller communities where mindset, beliefs and behaviour change very very slowly, if at all. They love the ‘Aussie battler’ story, but only if you don’t upgrade your life in anyway (bigger home, fancy car, private schools etc). They are okay with you being able to buy them a beer on Friday nights, just so long as you still ‘look’ like them.
Thank you for sharing that 💕
We have “tall poppy syndrome “ here in New England. Particularly in the old mill districts. Here we call it “crabs in a bucket “. It seems to me, the only approved success is if you are from a successful family, or you worked the traditional college and up the ladder. I’m a self carpenter. Not a millionaire by any means long shot, but I take my shots, snubs and dismissive comments all the time for not working for someone else despite being a supportive cheerleader for anyone doing their thing.
Thank you for sharing that info! I'm sorry to hear you've been on the receiving end of those attitudes despite cheerleading others ❤️
Thank you! Had been trying to think of Gay's first and last name for months and just remembered his wife Katie or Kathlyn! Read some of their work years ago - bought it even but still have to find it :)
You're so welcome ❤️ I'm hoping to have him as a guest on the podcast in the future!
@@terri_cole Cool!!! 😎 ❤️ ❤️
Thank you, this is so helpful ❤ I have found that I really provoke some people, often men, when I talk about my work and I avoid getting into details on my position, since it is not what they expect. Colleagues who know me professionally are fine, but at private social situations I feel I have to keep my head down. So the different expectations from society are real, and can really get to you. I feel your insights will be really helpful going forward. All the best 🌻
Thank you for sharing your experience with us- the different expectations is SO real! ❤️
Love this, as always.
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Excellent content, so well addressed!❤
Thank you ❤️
I love you, you’re girl on fire 🔥
❤️❤️❤️in everything you do it’s magic
Thank youuuu ❤️❤️❤️
Soooo looking forward to the new book!
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True said.. Its some of the deep beliefs, need to be changed. ❤Ty Terri for info. Lov ur work
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Yessss ... Self-sabotage is right, and alcohol is an unsustainable activity for sure!! Please do an episode on that and consider inviting Annie Grace!! This naked mind
Until I get that video out, I have talked about it a little here (just not this particular incident): th-cam.com/video/_4h1gz4Z4uc/w-d-xo.html and I've also had Ruby Warrington on to talk about getting sober: th-cam.com/video/foo9ooeo2gQ/w-d-xo.html ❤️
Yes I do stay stuck because of domineering husband and physical pain, that has been a real issue keeping me small
I'm so sorry to hear that ❤️
Thanks
You're welcome!
what I’ve learned about myself is that I should’ve been attentive to these topics years and decades ago. I am now 68 and I listen to some of your brilliant content and it makes me frustrated that I am having this Renaissance at this point in life. I think I am too old to change, how do you suggest people of my age range tackle some of these topics of personal growth? I get too mired down in missed opportunities that are realistically too long gone to benefit from. does this make sense??
It makes sense and I am witnessing you with compassion 💕 I don't believe we are ever too old to change. We hopefully have lots and lots of years left in which to make better, more mindful decisions and attract more fulfilling relationships/friendships in our lives.
But we do need to mourn and grieve those lost opportunities and give ourselves grace for what we did in the past. I speak more about it in this video, at the 7:52 time stamp: th-cam.com/video/AJXBsiJJiUE/w-d-xo.htmlsi=tqYxwvcIlkkYGN94&t=472
And I touch on it here as well (in a bit of a different way): th-cam.com/video/Okw-g4mwPk0/w-d-xo.html
@@terri_cole thanks 🙏 ❤️. putting on my positivity hat to read this again.