Let me know: do you need to be more discerning in any areas of your life? How might doing so uplevel your relationships? Or your relationship to yourself? I want to know your thoughts! Don't forget to download the guide here: www.terricole.com/get-the-respect-you-deserve-in-your-relationships-guide
Intimacy - into me you see....we have to know who we are and our deal breakers and boundaries as you say before we can let anyone else "see" who we are. And...if we have been abused, gaslit, etc.we need to know who we are first because people will try to tell us who we are. Thank you very much for all your work.
Ive been through relationship with a man who is also a long time friend where I dated the narcissist for many years where Im trying to heal, I loved him way too much, cared too much. He was unwilling to compromise and work on himself and get needed therapy. Teri Cole, the information you are sharing on this channel is reaching me, so helpful and empowering.
Thanks Terri this means so much. For a chronic people pleaser with absolute no boundaries your guidance helps me so much. With boundaries i am noticing a lot of people i grew up with not happy with my distance. It almost seems they miss the control but my head feels lighter having to constantly rescue others mostly no one wants the advice.
Thanks so much Terri❤ I have just asked a man I have been getting to know about his opinion of male-female friendships as this has caused me pain in the past. He has a female friend whom he calls almost every day and stays overnight at her place sometimes. For me it’s too much of an emotional closeness but I got more concerned about his response, ‘if it’s a dealbreaker for you, then end this. It’s your decision. My friends are important. You are jealous’. He is 50, am 43. Hm, my way or the high way thinking is not something I appreciate. I asked him about possible solutions/ setting new boundaries but he said it was my problem. In the past I would have stayed, now I feel both of us should be open to finding a solution, not just me. Again, thank you for your thoughts✨
You're so welcome ❤️ If you haven't watched this video I did on boundaries and control, you might want to as it sounds like it could help, too: th-cam.com/video/8sBKq8cRs78/w-d-xo.html
Terri!! Thank you for sharing the Good Friend or Frenemy Cheat Sheet. I downloaded it and it has help me realize who is not making me happy in the friendship. By the way, same here!! When i was 17, I did not know the meaning of frenemies, although I encountered one girl who is 7 years older than me. I kept wondering Oh my gosh, why does she keep looking jealous and pouchy lips when I dress with more stylish clothes or more accessories. I noticed she competing against me in Church the next Sunday. And I was wondering Uh why? That friend was happy when I was down and depressed but when I am happy and risen with a smile, she becomes unhappy and inferior to see me that way. After hearing your video and reading your downloads, now i know that person has a name-Frenemy. Take care. God bless!! Please continue uploading videos. It helps a lot!!🙂
You absolutely got a balloon drop on the "if you don't respect somebody, who gives a shit what they think about you"! Bummer when it's your kid. Also devastating when you have to acknowledge that although you REALLY paid attention to how you raised your child, being conscious and really committed to doing it BETTER, showing up, and being there, (and no revolving door of replacement "fathers"), then they turn out to be a seemingly barely related, unconscious person that takes out ALL of their frustration about the parent that wasn't there, even when they are an adult. Wow, that's a very confusing kick in the gut that pretty much eviscerates.
I have witnessed this kind of behaviour to one other parent or both, and I must say is quite sad and disturbing~😔 Good on you for trying to be BETTER~💕
Discernment can come as a gift as Christans believe. King David married Abigail because she was discerning. He loved the Abigail, also he understood he could get away better from his enemies with her as a wife.
I Have formerly read and heard, “Not everyone deserves to be in your life.” I Have also heard people comment (something like) that the five people you spend most of your time with determine the kind of person you become. Your elaboration of the first comment makes this comment explicit. I also like that you made a distinction between judging another and exercising discernment. I will stop here and just say that you shared many insights in this video.
“Not everybody has to be in your VIP section!”- Terri Cole…mic drop 🎤 😂❤ love you! From a random 36 year old recovering people-pleaser in California 😊 I appreciate your insight so much!! 🎉 🩷
Great Terri - thanks so much & I’m opening up your new Boundary Boss Wkbook! 🙌 PS- the Uncle Bob examples are helpful & kinda crack me up! No thx & Buh Bye Uncle Bob 😂
Perfect timing, I did the automatic yes - thought I had grown past that but I realise I hadn’t cultivate the internal space of late to respond rather than react. 🙏
My name is Richard, I appreciate your advice, I am soo glad that we have people that care about the quality of life. Answer to the 1st 2nd 3rd question: neither
Exactly on opposite I find it very thoughtful when you put boundaries on appearance this your standards in life which should be respected,As an overweight person I find it very thoughtful and respectful to say out and move on !
Thank you for creating this episode & learning Terri. So interesting but trying to think through and understand everything in this content. 😊🌸 The download guide for revision is so useful...thank you~thank you~
Thank you Terri. Your content is like a concentrated dose of wisdom. I loved your Boundary Boss book. I need to listen to it at least 2 more times so I can remember the content to put it into practice. Thank you.
Let me know: do you need to be more discerning in any areas of your life? How might doing so uplevel your relationships? Or your relationship to yourself? I want to know your thoughts! Don't forget to download the guide here: www.terricole.com/get-the-respect-you-deserve-in-your-relationships-guide
I always set boundaries and stuck to them if someone doesn’t like it then bye bye 😊
Intimacy - into me you see....we have to know who we are and our deal breakers and boundaries as you say before we can let anyone else "see" who we are. And...if we have been abused, gaslit, etc.we need to know who we are first because people will try to tell us who we are. Thank you very much for all your work.
Thank you for sharing ❤️
“I don’t really give a shit” about approval ❤
I wish I had your book when I was a teenager...how different my life would have been..thank you Teri...I am truly grateful for you ❤️
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Ive been through relationship with a man who is also a long time friend where I dated the narcissist for many years where Im trying to heal, I loved him way too much, cared too much. He was unwilling to compromise and work on himself and get needed therapy.
Teri Cole, the information you are sharing on this channel is reaching me, so helpful and empowering.
I'm so glad my content has been helpful ❤️
Thanks Terri this means so much. For a chronic people pleaser with absolute no boundaries your guidance helps me so much. With boundaries i am noticing a lot of people i grew up with not happy with my distance. It almost seems they miss the control but my head feels lighter having to constantly rescue others mostly no one wants the advice.
I am so glad my videos have been helpful for you ❤️
@@gloriavis then why Ru on this channel?
the timing of this is spooky because it resonates so deeply with what im going through right now. thank you, i really needed to hear this
I am so glad it resonated for you ❤️
Excellent video, Terri. Gratitude ❤
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Thanks so much Terri❤ I have just asked a man I have been getting to know about his opinion of male-female friendships as this has caused me pain in the past.
He has a female friend whom he calls almost every day and stays overnight at her place sometimes. For me it’s too much of an emotional closeness but I got more concerned about his response, ‘if it’s a dealbreaker for you, then end this. It’s your decision. My friends are important. You are jealous’. He is 50, am 43. Hm, my way or the high way thinking is not something I appreciate. I asked him about possible solutions/ setting new boundaries but he said it was my problem. In the past I would have stayed, now I feel both of us should be open to finding a solution, not just me. Again, thank you for your thoughts✨
You're so welcome ❤️ If you haven't watched this video I did on boundaries and control, you might want to as it sounds like it could help, too: th-cam.com/video/8sBKq8cRs78/w-d-xo.html
Thank yourself for dodging the bullet! Great job in knowing who you are and what are acceptable boundaries! 😍
Terri!! Thank you for sharing the Good Friend or Frenemy Cheat Sheet. I downloaded it and it has help me realize who is not making me happy in the friendship. By the way, same here!! When i was 17, I did not know the meaning of frenemies, although I encountered one girl who is 7 years older than me. I kept wondering Oh my gosh, why does she keep looking jealous and pouchy lips when I dress with more stylish clothes or more accessories. I noticed she competing against me in Church the next Sunday. And I was wondering Uh why? That friend was happy when I was down and depressed but when I am happy and risen with a smile, she becomes unhappy and inferior to see me that way. After hearing your video and reading your downloads, now i know that person has a name-Frenemy. Take care. God bless!! Please continue uploading videos. It helps a lot!!🙂
I am so glad the cheat sheet helped you- thank you for taking the time to let me know. I appreciate you ❤️❤️
You absolutely got a balloon drop on the "if you don't respect somebody, who gives a shit what they think about you"! Bummer when it's your kid. Also devastating when you have to acknowledge that although you REALLY paid attention to how you raised your child, being conscious and really committed to doing it BETTER, showing up, and being there, (and no revolving door of replacement "fathers"), then they turn out to be a seemingly barely related, unconscious person that takes out ALL of their frustration about the parent that wasn't there, even when they are an adult. Wow, that's a very confusing kick in the gut that pretty much eviscerates.
I am witnessing you with so much compassion ❤️
I have witnessed this kind of behaviour to one other parent or both, and I must say is quite sad and disturbing~😔
Good on you for trying to be BETTER~💕
@@moen4645 thank you. That actually helps me feel seen. Not alone in the world with an adult child wolf.
@@flyingcheff...I reckon you are not alone on this~💜
Discernment can come as a gift as Christans believe. King David married Abigail because she was discerning. He loved the Abigail, also he understood he could get away better from his enemies with her as a wife.
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Wonderful video .. I love your ‘realness’ .. thank you for another great video 🙂
Thank you for being here!
I appreciate this information
Hi I'm Wendi , I've gotten a lot from your content! Appreciate your authentic insight
Well hello there, Wendi! Thanks for taking the time to share that- so glad my content is helping you ❤️
Discerning what is Normal
I Have formerly read and heard, “Not everyone deserves to be in your life.” I Have also heard people comment (something like) that the five people you spend most of your time with determine the kind of person you become. Your elaboration of the first comment makes this comment explicit. I also like that you made a distinction between judging another and exercising discernment. I will stop here and just say that you shared many insights in this video.
I am so glad it was helpful, Beverly 💕 Thanks for sharing your takeaways!
“Not everybody has to be in your VIP section!”- Terri Cole…mic drop 🎤 😂❤ love you! From a random 36 year old recovering people-pleaser in California 😊 I appreciate your insight so much!! 🎉 🩷
You know it! And I am cheering you on 💕 Thanks for leaving this comment xo
Wonderfully helpful, Terri! Thank you so, so much!
So glad it was helpful! ❤️
This content is an eye opener
Great Terri - thanks so much & I’m opening up your new Boundary Boss Wkbook! 🙌 PS- the Uncle Bob examples are helpful & kinda crack me up! No thx & Buh Bye Uncle Bob 😂
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Perfect timing, I did the automatic yes - thought I had grown past that but I realise I hadn’t cultivate the internal space of late to respond rather than react. 🙏
It can be a challenge to overcome when you've been conditioned to say yes for so long. Good on you for noticing ❤️
Teri Cole, Im new to your channel, very insightful and empowering.
My name is Richard, I appreciate your advice, I am soo glad that we have people that care about the quality of life.
Answer to the 1st 2nd 3rd question: neither
Exactly on opposite I find it very thoughtful when you put boundaries on appearance this your standards in life which should be respected,As an overweight person I find it very thoughtful and respectful to say out and move on !
ThankYou for raising that deal breaker of healthy life style for the partner.Important to me too.
Right on!
excellent info…Thanks Terri💜
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Thank you for creating this episode & learning Terri.
So interesting but trying to think through and understand everything in this content. 😊🌸
The download guide for revision is so
useful...thank you~thank you~
I'm so glad the guide is useful for you, and that you enjoyed this episode ❤️❤️
Hi Terri! Thanks for creating awareness in such important and complex topics. Hugs from Madeira island.
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Empowerment shared on this channel🎉
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Thank you❤
You're so welcome ❤️
Thank you Terri. Your content is like a concentrated dose of wisdom. I loved your Boundary Boss book. I need to listen to it at least 2 more times so I can remember the content to put it into practice. Thank you.
Thank you for being here, Esther ❤️❤️
ı wish you publish it as a turkish too.
Great content ❤ Luv your Work 🎉
Thank you, I appreciate you being here ❤️
Extremely helpful, thanks so much!
So glad to hear it, Danielle! ❤️
yes, i do think that's gross. if a male partner told me i had to keep my body a certain way i would lose my shit at them.
Excellent differentiation between judgment and discernment! Thanks Terri!
So glad it was helpful Sherri 💕
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Thank you, great timing 🤍
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