Which one of the tips I shared will you try? What do you do to boost your self-confidence? What have you found gave you a lasting sense of confidence? Share in the comments! Download the guide here: terricole.com/build-self-confidence-tips-guide
The impostor syndrome tip speaks to me. The best tip I got from my grandmother was “ even if it seems that other people have it all figured out, they don’t. None of us knows what the hell we are doing. So don’t try comparing yourself to others, it’s a rabbit hole “ . I still giggle when I remember that statement.
Terri, thank you for this video. I've listened to it several times and realized that while caring my my mother who has dementia has been so very difficult, I have indeed grown so much. Our relationship has always been difficult. She has always been very toxic due to unaddressed trauma in her past. Her critical nature caused me to constantly doubt myself. Plans for challenges to increase self confidence: 1) train for a 5K run that is coming up in June 2) incorporate more vegetables into my meals. Goal is 8 servings of vegetables per day. 3) Drink more water and less soda during Lent and beyond🤞 4) crochet an afghan for my mother for Mother's Day.🤞 Brag List 1) completed about four 5K runs in the last ten years. Last one completed was Susan G Komen about 6 years ago 2) currently caring for a 3 year old Corso Pit. Bonnie is my emotional support dog (not certified) but I'm considering having her certified. I'm still training her - sit, stretch, lie down, give me five. This is the first dog I've cared for alone. We walk/run together about 5 times a week. I've recently begun preparing her food myself instead of giving her commercial dog food. She's beautiful, healthy and thriving. 3) I crocheted a pair of fingerless gloves for myself two weeks ago❤ 4) before my bike was stolen, I rode several times a week and my legs are AMAZING. Working on getting a new bicycle. I miss the challenge of riding uphill. 5) I've embraced the fact that I am an introvert. More so tha any other accomplishment, this has increased my self confidence. I come from an extended family of extroverts who are convinced that I am on drugs because I enjoy my alone/downtime. I'm not on drugs. I'm just different and that is okay👍
Yeah you don't want to live with resentment and be an angry person. That's what I think has happened to a lot of angry people have known. And they want to keep you down with them which is why they are not interested in you. Thankyou this is a brilliant vid.😊
Dealing with this now at a new workplace. Immense feelings of inadequacy each morning as I arrive. It only goes away once I’m in over my head on the daily. There are a LOT of folk out here, in healthcare, with expectations that you are god and can handle it all.
Thanks, Terri! This talk does make a difference in my life! I just got past an episode of feeling like a failure in front of my coworkers. But, in fact, there was a problem that needed solving. I got needed input from some leader- coworkers, and the embarrassment turned into just a blip! And what made me mad at first was sort of validated, then I could move into the solution . Little steps, and space to think and changes in my self talk are helping me to see the truer picture of my contributions at work and value my own input. I needed that .
Terri, your content is always delivered in the most nurturing and validating way. A very big part of my life experience has been emotional invalidation and as a result having to avoidant and shut down so to find a psychotherapist with your highly sought after attributes is so very comforting. Mentioning ADHD also helps spread awareness as people often get frustrated with us because we present as deaf but we are not deaf, and so there is little empathy due to little understanding. I always slow your TH-cam videos down a bit to allow me to process your words and then I can rewind and go over them some more when I need to. This is not something I can ask for in person currently hence why this video is super helpful as I am trying to be vulnerable but confident enough to advocate for my communication needs so that I can actually take part in the interaction rather than pretending to and feeling so drained and like an imposter in the process of 'masking' so that others feel comfortable and I can gaslight myself once again into the faux belief that I can cope with a pace that I cannot ❤ Thank you for your wonderful work and I appreciate and see your personal attributes that so many psychotherapists simply do not have and are so lost in the pathological aspects instead of the individual. You are a reminder to them all that science need not be clinical and cold any more. We have evolved and I hope we continue to evolve from this.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I love that you slow the videos down as a way of taking care of yourself, and I am cheering you on to advocate for your needs!
Thank you so much for this video. I love the idea of creating a brag book and your statement about past careers not being mistakes but simply the tapestry of your life. Your videos are always encouraging, and I look forward to reading your book.
Dear Terri, for me it's about my relationship with my husband now. I can set boundaries but my husband tries to break them. I still believe in myself and I keep standing for them although it's very tough to see and experience how our relationship is the last 2 weeks. Almost no contact, no love, no touches, almost not looking at me etc... But I stand for what I believe and I believe in myself. I'm very confident. My limits, desires, and dealbreakers are too important to me to make it up with his sister for the so called peace. Thanks to you Terri and other books,... 📚📚📚♥️♥️♥️🌈🌈🌈❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺
Excellent Excellent message. Thank you Terri for your invaluable Wisdom and Insights. I have your book Boundary Boss and its an invaluable resource. Thanks for blessing us with this Good and Perfect Gift! ❤
Great video, thanks Teri, I've got a PS for you- treat yourself like someone you love, if you can't imagine it for yourself imagine you're doing it for a friend, works for me
Terri thank you for this talk--I am an extrovert but my early childhood had me shy and lacking confidence. I've evolved a lot, but the 'need to please' continues to this day and I find myself giving more of myself to other people's priorities, needs, projects etc. than I do to my own--and frankly it drives me nuts. I appreciate your ideas on how to continue to build confidence, and equally serve myself!
Which one of the tips I shared will you try? What do you do to boost your self-confidence? What have you found gave you a lasting sense of confidence? Share in the comments! Download the guide here: terricole.com/build-self-confidence-tips-guide
Your information fills my mom void and helps me to nurture myslef. thank you.
So true 💕
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I so relate to this ❤
Me too
The impostor syndrome tip speaks to me. The best tip I got from my grandmother was “ even if it seems that other people have it all figured out, they don’t. None of us knows what the hell we are doing. So don’t try comparing yourself to others, it’s a rabbit hole “ . I still giggle when I remember that statement.
Your grandmother is wise ❤️
It's my birthday today and you read my comment!!! ❤🎉 thank you, thank you, thank you. Made my day!! Ive shared this video with my sister and nieces.
Happy belated birthday ❤️❤️
@@terri_cole thank you!!!!❤❤
Boosting self confidence and beginning the day with good coffee and Terri's videos!❤Then I am good to go.
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Terri, thank you for this video. I've listened to it several times and realized that while caring my my mother who has dementia has been so very difficult, I have indeed grown so much. Our relationship has always been difficult. She has always been very toxic due to unaddressed trauma in her past. Her critical nature caused me to constantly doubt myself.
Plans for challenges to increase self confidence:
1) train for a 5K run that is coming up in June
2) incorporate more vegetables into my meals. Goal is 8 servings of vegetables per day.
3) Drink more water and less soda during Lent and beyond🤞
4) crochet an afghan for my mother for Mother's Day.🤞
Brag List
1) completed about four 5K runs in the last ten years. Last one completed was Susan G Komen about 6 years ago
2) currently caring for a 3 year old Corso Pit. Bonnie is my emotional support dog (not certified) but I'm considering having her certified. I'm still training her - sit, stretch, lie down, give me five. This is the first dog I've cared for alone. We walk/run together about 5 times a week. I've recently begun preparing her food myself instead of giving her commercial dog food. She's beautiful, healthy and thriving.
3) I crocheted a pair of fingerless gloves for myself two weeks ago❤
4) before my bike was stolen, I rode several times a week and my legs are AMAZING. Working on getting a new bicycle. I miss the challenge of riding uphill.
5) I've embraced the fact that I am an introvert. More so tha any other accomplishment, this has increased my self confidence. I come from an extended family of extroverts who are convinced that I am on drugs because I enjoy my alone/downtime. I'm not on drugs. I'm just different and that is okay👍
Yeah you don't want to live with resentment and be an angry person. That's what I think has happened to a lot of angry people have known. And they want to keep you down with them which is why they are not interested in you.
Thankyou this is a brilliant vid.😊
had to hear twice ... and just find out for all of my life, i got the imposter syndrome, and promise to myself will breakthrough that thing
Dealing with this now at a new workplace. Immense feelings of inadequacy each morning as I arrive. It only goes away once I’m in over my head on the daily.
There are a LOT of folk out here, in healthcare, with expectations that you are god and can handle it all.
I am witnessing you with compassion and sending strength your way ❤️
You might not be God but you are angels to us all ❤
great idea …brag list …ON it❣️💗💗
Thankyou..from Germany
Thank you for being here, Sania ❤️
Terri is so compassionate and acknowledged ADHD for being late. I find some one like Mel Robbins always so not understanding in areas like this❤❤❤
Thanks, Terri! This talk does make a difference in my life! I just got past an episode of feeling like a failure in front of my coworkers. But, in fact, there was a problem that needed solving. I got needed input from some leader- coworkers, and the embarrassment turned into just a blip! And what made me mad at first was sort of validated, then I could move into the solution . Little steps, and space to think and changes in my self talk are helping me to see the truer picture of my contributions at work and value my own input. I needed that .
Right on, Ginger! 🙌
Terri! During a tough season - job searching and trying to start a family, this is the topic I really needed covered. I appreciate your work.
I'm so glad it resonated with you, Chelsea ❤️ Sending you strength!
Thank you for sharing
Thanks for watching!
You are so beautiful btw not just appearance wise but you have this inner attractiveness that shines through.
I am extremely grateful for your help.❤
I'm grateful you're here! 💕
Terri, your content is always delivered in the most nurturing and validating way. A very big part of my life experience has been emotional invalidation and as a result having to avoidant and shut down so to find a psychotherapist with your highly sought after attributes is so very comforting.
Mentioning ADHD also helps spread awareness as people often get frustrated with us because we present as deaf but we are not deaf, and so there is little empathy due to little understanding. I always slow your TH-cam videos down a bit to allow me to process your words and then I can rewind and go over them some more when I need to. This is not something I can ask for in person currently hence why this video is super helpful as I am trying to be vulnerable but confident enough to advocate for my communication needs so that I can actually take part in the interaction rather than pretending to and feeling so drained and like an imposter in the process of 'masking' so that others feel comfortable and I can gaslight myself once again into the faux belief that I can cope with a pace that I cannot ❤
Thank you for your wonderful work and I appreciate and see your personal attributes that so many psychotherapists simply do not have and are so lost in the pathological aspects instead of the individual. You are a reminder to them all that science need not be clinical and cold any more. We have evolved and I hope we continue to evolve from this.
Thank you so much for sharing ❤️ I love that you slow the videos down as a way of taking care of yourself, and I am cheering you on to advocate for your needs!
I am comforted by this message. Thank you… 🙏🏼💕🌟
I'm so happy to hear that ❤️
Thank you so much for this video. I love the idea of creating a brag book and your statement about past careers not being mistakes but simply the tapestry of your life. Your videos are always encouraging, and I look forward to reading your book.
I am so glad to hear it was helpful! Thanks for watching.
Thank you so much Terri Cole :) You explain so well so it easy to understand. Gratitude ❤I will try the Brag book 🙂
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So helpful 🌹💪💕 thank you
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Dear Terri, for me it's about my relationship with my husband now. I can set boundaries but my husband tries to break them. I still believe in myself and I keep standing for them although it's very tough to see and experience how our relationship is the last 2 weeks. Almost no contact, no love, no touches, almost not looking at me etc... But I stand for what I believe and I believe in myself. I'm very confident. My limits, desires, and dealbreakers are too important to me to make it up with his sister for the so called peace.
Thanks to you Terri and other books,... 📚📚📚♥️♥️♥️🌈🌈🌈❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🌺🌺🌺
I am witnessing you with compassion and sending you strength as you continue to hold your boundaries ❤️
Excellent Excellent message. Thank you Terri for your invaluable Wisdom and Insights. I have your book Boundary Boss and its an invaluable resource. Thanks for blessing us with this Good and Perfect Gift! ❤
Thank you so much, Carol, I appreciate you! ❤️
💖🙏🕊️ thanks Terri
Great video, thanks Teri,
I've got a PS for you- treat yourself like someone you love, if you can't imagine it for yourself imagine you're doing it for a friend, works for me
Right on 🙌
Terri thank you for this talk--I am an extrovert but my early childhood had me shy and lacking confidence. I've evolved a lot, but the 'need to please' continues to this day and I find myself giving more of myself to other people's priorities, needs, projects etc. than I do to my own--and frankly it drives me nuts. I appreciate your ideas on how to continue to build confidence, and equally serve myself!
You are so not alone, Lynn ❤️ Thank you for being here!
Loved this episode ! Thank you
So glad you liked it! 💕
Thank you Terri Cole for sharing this information. It was so helpful and needed.
I'm so glad it resonated, Leslie! ❤️
Very helpful content! Thank you so much, Terri, for sharing your wisdom with us!
I'm so glad you found it helpful, Marilyn ❤️
Thank you ❤❤
You're so welcome ❤️
You're so welcome Judith! ❤️
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Have lots money in your bank account, I assure you have tons of confidence 😂
"Give yourself grace when you make a mistake, cause it takes courage to try." 😍🥹💖