The Mental Load on Women | Boundaries, Systems, Routines for Titus 2 Women | Kitchen Day | PART 1
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02:13 Kitchen Day Tips
05:46 Subscriber Questions
08:37 Disclaimer and Validation
09:26 Systems to organize life
10:23 Planners
11:12 Schedules
12:45 Routines
13:40 Chores
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22:30 The Science behind why kids need reminders
23:11 Teaching Kids Life Skills
23:36 How to live with messy husbands & kids
27:19 Systems and Routines I Use
28:03 My hardest seasons of motherhood
28:50 Lessons from large family mom therapists
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When we first got married and before children, my husband would leave a trail as he came home from work, and his dirty clothes on the bedroom and bathroom floors and leaving his empty glasses or snack plates in the living room. After about 3 months of picking all this up daily, I had had it, so, I kept the kitchen clean and swept the floors around his trails of things and washed only the clothes that ended up in the hampers (bedroom and bathroom). About 10 days after I began this, my husband came home, left his trail and went to sit down in his favorite spot in the living room, he attempted to put a glass on the end table but it was littered with about 10 glasses and he looks at me and asks “why do you DO all day? There’s dirty dishes and clothes everywhere.” Well. I stood there and said “I did the laundry, cleaned the kitchen and bathrooms, prepped dinner, swept and mopped the floors and dusted.” He looks around and says “it looks like you missed stuff or just didn’t do anything”. Uh. I respond “If you look around, it’s your glasses and plates on the table, you muddy boot prints going from the front door to the kitchen to the living room and back to the front door- though there is a chair and mat for you take them off when you come home, your jackets, work items and socks left on the furniture and floor”. Then he says “and I have no clean underwear or socks in my drawer”. Hmmm. Me: “are they IN the dirty clothes hamper? Because if they aren’t, it’s telling me they don’t require washing.” He looks at me stupefied and irritated. I then let him know with a lot of love and patience that I was not paid maid service, that I was not his mother but that I was his wife and HELPmate just as he was my husband and HELPmate, and that I would really like if he would be thoughtful about the trails of stuff and dirty dishes and dirty clothes strung from one end of the house to the other and I would be a “dutiful” wife when he became a thoughtful husband. 40+ years of marriage, 3 children, 12 grandchildren and various pets later, he takes his boots off at the door, hangs his coats up, makes sure any dishes or glasses he uses is in the sink, his dirty clothes are in the hamper and he helps with making dinner and clean up and does it without any prompting. As for our children, they had daily chores, were at my side from the get go as I made meals or baked goodies and made a lot of messes with me in the kitchen but helped me clean up after, learned how to do their own laundry at 10 years old, helped meal plan and prep and grocery shop and wrote the checks and balanced the checkbook next to me as bills needed paid and would help enter into the monthly budget sheet the totals and see the income and out go every week and they knew when they asked for an extra and we said no, they understood the money wasn’t there for it so they would ask before the next budget week if we could fit something in. Now as adults, they just automatically continued the LIFE LESSONS and money management systems that we naturally incorporated into their daily life and development. Remember sweet mama’s, we are to raise our children in the way they should go- that does not mean just in growing their faith and relationship with our Savior, but also in daily living habits of cleaning, laundry, cooking, money management and a strong work ethic and compassion for our fellow humans.
This comment is EPIC! Thank you so much for taking the time to share this!!! It is extremely helpful, especially with the experience you have had and shared. I think you will like Sundays video, it's part two. Thank you again.
*this*. I'm still in the process, but as a mother I've been working on my children, 3 boys and 1 girl. The boys are young adult, but they're doing great! They are even working at doing their own laundry. But they put their dirty dishes by the sink, basically just clean up after themselves in every area. It would take too long to detail it. Lol! I don't feel like doing it. One of my boys even still does the dishes.
I'm still working on my girl 🥴.
Wow ! Iv been married for 4 years my husband is beyond messy miss placing his keys won't use a wallet 😢 has lost so much money where things get turned off ! I woke up praying lord I don't know what to do ! Then I read your comment ! I will give this a try ...thankyou for sharing ❤
Love this! I told my husband that he isn't a guest in our home and therefore needs to contribute towards keeping it clean. I set that boundary early on and he respects it. We are partners, I'm not his maid. Our marriage has mutual love and respect, and we don't take advantage of each other. We have 4 daughters and are trying to model what a healthy marriage should be, and it definitely shouldn't be a woman slaving away all day while the man just sits and relaxes.
My husband actually considers it unloving and disrespectful when men just park their butts on the couch and relax while their wives continue to work and are overwhelmed.
My husband and I take turns cooking or cook together (which I love!), all 6 of us clean (kids need to learn), and it just creates a much calmer environment. Plus, we get done faster, no one is feeling stressed out or overwhelmed, and have more time to have fun together. :)
I ended up putting an extra laundry basket on the floor where my husband always leaves a pile of clothes he says are not dirty, he won't take his shoes off and neither will his parents, I'm just teaching my kids to take their shoes off when they come in, so it won't be so hard for them to follow that simple request when they're married or even visiting another home. Removing shoes makes a huge difference in keeping the floors clean.
I'm not remotely religious, and do not follow any sort of spiritual doctrines to shape my life, but I like a lot of your content with great tips on how to get well-organized for homestead and household running. I also like the fact that you aren't out trying to put out that you are somehow “perfect” or that you never face challenges. You're human, with a full range of completely normal human emotions. There are way too many female homesteaders out there putting forth an unattainable and unhealthy image of being the perfect wife/mother/homemaker/etc and acting like any emotional response outside of forced happiness is somehow sinful or demonic. Thanks for being more realistic. Great editing, too.
Seconded :)
I'm a newly single momma of 3 under 3 and going through miscarriage. You have been a huge help in getting the courage to leave my abuser and plan to have a homestead with my kiddos sister in law and her 5 kiddos.
We're in the planning process of getting a plot of land and some homes to stick on it so excited!!
Hello Judith, I'm sorry to hear what you have been through. Praying for you and your family.
Homesteading is a challenge, it also isn't cheaper for most people. It can end up being very expensive, but it is a wonderful lifestyle for growing kids for sure.
Home church for us has been constant since 2020 for us and we have never been closer to the Father. It's been such a blessing spiritually feeding put family from home and teaching our Littles that God is with you here at home and learning starts here at home. Our ministry starts at home.
I agree with you, Aarianna! Thank you for commenting!
Same for us!!
Hello! New subscriber here 😊 your account has been a true answer to prayer! I’m a mama of 3 boys ages 4 to two months. I know this video was posted a while back. Did you end up doing a video on how you managed your home when you had younger kids? If so I would love to check that one out!!!!! Thank you again for being a light and sharing your heart and all this great advice ❤
I agree that it is very important to have lists, schedules, routines, having your kids know how to do chores around the house and cook and know exactly what is expected of them every day. This isn't just helpful for the day to day, but also in the emergencies and unexpected things in life. I'm a single Mom of 6 (husband and I are separated). Earlier this year I had to unexpectedly be in the hospital for a week and a half while I lost my twins (born too early). It was such a blessing that while I was at the hospital I didn't have to worry about my kids or how things were fairing at the house. I could just focus on me, my health, dealing with losing my Babies and everything at the hospital. My oldest 2 worked with their boss so that their schedules would work out so that one would be at work while the other would be at home taking care of the younger ones. Chores were done, food was always made, no one missed a meal, kids knew their school assignments to do. Things continued to move like clockwork while I was away. This also made it mentally and emotionally easier on my little ones while I was gone because it kept the feelings of chaos and panic away by having everything continue run smoothly, in control and comforting with the security of schedules staying the same.
By the way, praying for your children's jobs before they get them is wonderful! My girls had the perfect job for that time and situation with very understanding bosses!
I am so very sorry for your loss, Stephanie. May the Lord comfort you and your family during this time and bring healing in your marriage. Praying for you.
Hello again, Stephanie! I remember you from previous comments. You made such an excellent point here. Thank you for adding this! I'm pinning this comment to the top for others to see.
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily aw, thank you ❤️
@@lauran9360 Thank you so much! 💗
Stephanie, my heart breaks for you. Praying for you during this time of grieving your precious babies. 🙏 You're an amazing woman, going through all that you have.
So much spot on advice. one thing I have noticed...it is not about how MANY children you have (in regards to the floors & tidiness) it is about the lifestyle. For instance, I ONLY have 2 kids, but have the same problems with the floors. Well, I have 2 kids, a cat, a 100+lb dog, and we run a small farm with pigs, meat birds, laying hens & turkeys. I garden, can, preserve, sew, spin wool, etc..my hubby does sausage making, woodworking, mechanics....it is about our activities that drags the mess in! If I am going in & out the back door to the garden (sink is RIGHT by the door) I don't take my boots off. I'd spend all day putting shoes on & off! If my husband is in the middle of making sausage or I am canning 4 bushels of tomatoes there is going to be 'stuff' on the floor. When I watch other Christian-'homemaking'-moms-content, I get the impression that a lot of them are living a sanitized suburban life. They have manicured lawns with cute little raised beds; not 3 inches of NY State mud that they are wading thru to get to a garden that is fertilized with pig manure. They have cute little washers & dryers, not a long laundry line of clothes to bring in from outside. Their free time is devoted to steam cleaning while their kids are away at school. Many moms nowadays, make prepackaged food; little dirty prep work & hardly any clean up, & no leftovers ( I have a cousin that I was trying to help learn how to cook & told her to do xyz with leftovers & she asked, "What are leftovers?" I am not even kidding). I am bringing in eggs that have chicken poop on them. I am cutting up chickens & deer at my kitchen work table. I am wearing in clothes that were in a barn, while I mucked out stalls or fed calves & piglets. My husband is coming in with sawdust all over him. No matter how many times I sweep/vacuum, a mess is constantly 'accumulating'. That's ok. We are super, super productive people. Once I come in from doing all of that I need to hop right to homeschooling or other chores. eventually the floors get cleaned up 1x a day, but who could do more? I will say that we do not even allow the 5 second rule, tho. My hubby literally dashed across the kitchen & slapped a spoon out of his friend's hand, after he dropped it on the floor & was going to still use it🤣🤣🤣 When my husband & I lived a 'town life' & before ever having farming dreams, my house was spotless. bbbbbbuuuuutttttt, we were miserable. 🤷
YAS! The cleaning gets me because I could spend the day doing the house and by the next morning you would never know I cleaned! I raised three children with my husband and we also always had a big dog and a cat or two! My husband, and two boys are ADHD so I felt like I was herding squirrels! I had to just let go, if someone wants to pretend they are perfect or judge me for my house, it's on them. I rather enjoy my family and life than stress about "How my house looks!" Yes I clean but then I let go.
I have adhd, im a wife and mother of 3. I’ve come to the realization that nothing will get done if nothing gets done. I know what needs to get accomplished and although I feel overwhelmed a lot of the times, I just take a deep breath and start getting things done right away. Usually it only takes a few minutes and the feeling I get after it’s done is all worth it! I love a clean and tidy home. My husband is pretty messy, but with a lot of patience I’ve helped him get better with cleaning. I’ve found that notes, calendars, and other things of the sorts are much more difficult to follow because it becomes disappointing when tasks don’t get done.
Thank you for sharing!
OH. MY. GOSH. When you tripped, I legit sprayed coffee out of all my face holes. When my kids asked what the heck my problem was, I said (after my 17 minute laugh attack subsided), “I found another mom who acts just like me!” Then they looked at each other and walked away. 😂
🤣! I trip ALL THE TIME 😂! It's like a hobby. 😅
Me too! We have what we call "paper ankles" in our family that buckle and trip us constantly 😂
😂. I laughed even harder at your description "sprayed coffee out of all your face holes" 🤣🤣 you talk my language
I am a mum of 11 children. And I was diagnosed with ADHD (Inattentive) and Autism level 1 as well as executive functioning issues. This is so helpful. Life is a daily struggle.
God bless you that's really tough. X
The kids and I finally had to say no more. My husband piled his stuff on top of the refrigerator. I tried putting a basket there for him but things overflowed. When we opened the refrigerator things were falling on our heads as the kids and I are too short to see if something is about to fall. He had to move his pile to his closet. We have to remind him from time to time that we don’t appreciate things falling on our heads. 😂
Oh that is funny! Okay so you know the stuff you can put under rugs to keep them from slipping? I put those on my fridge so I can put things up there without them falling!
I decided to assign a cabinet in the laundry room where my hubby comes in for his things, we will see if that works, lol! 😅
I tried a basket for my husband too lol and that didn’t work. I was the one organizing it 😜
My fiance does the same thing !! It drives me crazy
Still watching your great video, thank you for sharing all that has worked for you! My teens complain to me that their friends moms do everything for them and they're the only ones they know that have to do chores like their own laundry, vacuuming, emptying the dishwasher, shredding, yard cleanup, washing cars, etc. I wish these parents knew what a disservice they are doing to their children and themselves taking it all on their own, I couldn't even if I wanted to and we're just a family of five.
And thank you for saying that you don't go to church right now, it helps me feel better. I am in the same place, just too drained- and being closer too them is priority at this moment.
Just stumbled across your channel, and definitely locing the content. I have 5 kids (10, 8, 5, 2, 5mos). We homeschool, and I work (telework 3 day & in the office 2). You addressed a lot of things I've figured out the hard way, and even more I haven't figured out yet, so I greatly appreciate what you post!
I have learned that many modern churches are practicing against the Bibles teaching in more than 1 area. Grace does not mean we go on sinning in our life after we come to Christ. Home church, ministry within our walls, whatever you want to call it is more important to your family.
I’m literally crying tears of joy finding your channel!. Finally I feel represented in my struggles and my family structure as me and my husband are both adhd and our kids are neurodivergent. You’re doing Gods work. Thank you so much for sharing in this space.! ❤❤
Awe, thank you!
Patiently waiting! 😊
This is so amazing! I've been bombarded by young moms asking for advice lately, and everything I tell them is in your video. All of these things help so much. I have 7 kids, and now we are getting ready to move to my home state to be near my aging parents. I'll have to find new rhythms.
Great video!
This was SO on point and truly helpful for me, thank you :)
This is exactly what I was looking for. Thank you!!
I hate that I got here late! - We’re in the UK! It’s 7:25pm. Kiddos are in bed now and I’m sitting down!
This was awesome! I felt so validated by this video! Good tips and affirming concepts!
So enjoy your authenticity! Thank you for sharing through your videos! ❤
I loved this video!!! Thank you so much
You are so welcome!
Yay!!!!! A great day now!!! You're the sweetest!!!!
Awe! Thank you!!!
Your videos are so encouraging and helpful!!! Thank you so much!
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!
This was insanely helpful xx
I'm so glad!
You have great things to share. Very valuable!
Thank you 😊
Thanks for the great video loved it!!!
You are so welcome! Thank you!
This is a great video. I love seeing what works for other large families.
I have also felt like I struggle to get it all done. We have a homestead with garden and animals, we homeschool and now that some of my kids are older we have a lot of sports commitments. Something I started doing a few months ago is assign daily helpers. It gives me a chance to spend time with my kids one on one away from the others and teach them life skills. So everyday, I have a laundry helper, a cooking helper and a garden helper. I love this for our family. It works so well. My kids are learning tons and it’s more balanced because on Sunday when I assign helper days, I can be thoughtful in my approach to make sure things are balanced. Before I did this, there were some kids who naturally gravitate to kitchen or garden and others who prefer to introvert in their rooms, but now everyone participates. We definitely still do the quick pick ups as a family, but it’s really nice to have one on one time. And I know my introverts appreciate the time with mom without navigating all the voices and sibling dynamics.
I absolutely love this idea, thank you so much for sharing it, Meggo! I am going to pass this wonderful suggestion on to everyone here. Thank you again!
What a great idea!
So many wonderful tips! Always look forward to your videos. Thanks 😊
You are so welcome! Thank you for watching!
Please Shayla make separate short videos with your tips and tricks for cleaning, popsicle making, recipes etc.
Hello ! I would and have tried but my channel isn't big enough yet, the videos would not get views. If you go back into my older videos you can find many like that when I was trying though. 🥰
HAPPY SUNDAY! Absolutely Agree. STTB
Thank you so much, Barbara, I hope you have a blessed week!
Thank you for your channel. It’s refreshing and beautiful and it makes me feel like if you are able to do what your doing then I’ll be okay with my two kids and college ❤
HAHA!!!! Gen X, we were not allowed to live indoors. So that made it easy for our moms. lol
That's right!! 😂
Thank you ❤
I am so encouraged every time I watch your videos. Thank you for your wisdom ❤
You are so welcome, thank you for telling me ☺️💛
I love what you said about Sundays being with your family!! We have been doing that and I sometimes feel so guilty but it just works for us because that is pretty much the only day we have all to ourselves. ❤
Thank you, Julie! You know the funny thing about guilt is that it's going to try to talk to you no matter what you do sometimes! I learned several years ago it didn't matter which way I went it was there, and I realized it was something the dark one was using as a weapon to defeat me. I hope my personal experience with it helps you if it applies! God bless and thank you for being here!
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily Yes! Thank you. You spoke right to my situation! Feeling pretty defeated lately because of the guilt no matter what I do. I think you’re so right that it’s the enemy trying to wear us down! Such good insight! ❤️🙏🏼
Thank you for blessing us with these amazing videos! Your content is unique and inspiring and I appreciate it so much 🥰
You are so welcome! Thank you for letting me know!
Hello! I just found your channel and I'm enjoying your videos. I shared a kitchen day video on my channel a couple of years ago. I feel a kitchen focused day is so necessary. When my schedule causes me to skip my kitchen day I feel so unorganized for the rest of the week. I'm an empty nester and I still use all of the lists, planners, calendars, and routines. It's just my personality I guess. Thanks for sharing your day and I look forward to watching many more of your videos.
New follower here and I am so thankful God lead me here! Your videos have been such an encouragement❤
Shayla, thank you for this beautiful and encouraging video! YOU ROCK for Jesus! I just completed year 27 of being a home school mama. Even though I am now a Mimi too, I am still learning through this journey! Love the t-shirt.💐
I love this comment, thank you as well and you are welcome 🙏💛!
Thank you for your videos🙏
Glad you like them!
I can hear so much of myself in Alison's question. Thank you for this video.
You are so welcome!💛
I four kids ages six and under! I love your videos and enjoy learning from you! I’d appreciate any insight into this season of your life that you might share! Thanks for the videos!
Firstly your videos in and of themselves are calming just watching how you live. Plus the edits are just beautiful. Thankyou for making the time to create something refreshing and inspiring! Secondly I love how you remind your kids about where things go. It was so gentle but so helpful to get everyone back on track!
Thank you! ☺️💛
Your videos help me tremendously- I wish I had a friend like you! Thank you for the encouragement ❤🙏🙏🙏🙏
That is so sweet of you to tell me! Thank you, Dana!
I love your kitchen. It’s organic and you take such good care of it!
Thank you so much! I waited a long time for a good kitchen and I truly love it!
Sometimes its us. A marriage is a merger of two unique individuals. A home isnt as clean as you want it nor as messy as he wants it...its actually somewhere between...which is usually harder on the cleaner one.
Awhh you have the Julia Child cook books !!! Your videos are awesome. Thank you.
Oh thank you!
I love how you said, "Better instead of bitter." Awesome.
I love how you are disinfecting things. I don't have a dish washer, but I do think that it is weird when people don't clean their stoves and fridges.
I really want to be able to deep clean now that I gave birth, but I need to heal more. Your fridge is so pretty by the way. I love those vintage looking ones. When I one day get a house of my own, that is one that I hope to have.
I think that everyone has to get into a rhythm over time where they adjust to routines. My older sons wanted me to make a schedule for them, so I got them one of those white boards in their bedroom. . .that they never look at. Ugh.
I think now that I have a newborn, I am going to have to take your tip to work on dinner earlier on. I do that at times but need to do it more regularly now.
The generation before X is the baby boomer right? I never heard of them saying they don't want their kids to do chores! My parents are baby boomers and my mom had us do dishes as soon as we could (my brothers are gen X and I am xennial), vacuum, dust, and clean the bathrooms. I've been cleaning my parents' house for them since I was 10 (I go over once a week to help them since my mom has arthritis pretty badly). I used to do my one brother's laundry for him when I was 8 for a quarter a load. Anyway, I just never heard about that, unless there is a generation between boomer and X that I didn't know about.
Your home looks SOOO good and clean as you go through this! It is wonderful.
I agree that the kids need to have fun while they work. I think about Mary Poppins a lot with, "The job's a game!" so I make it so.
I have heard of the brain functions not being fully developed until 25, which makes me laugh because I got married and had my first kids by the time I was 25! haha.
Oh no, this is so long again. I just feel I could have great conversations with you for so long.
I agree about that stage after a newborn. I had forgotten what that was like and am in it again, but the first child, I remember it was a huge struggle especially. Firstborns are the toughest. I am sleep deprived now but am doing okay, but having naps during the day helps me out a bit. How old is your eldest? I am going to have to learn how to juggle this raising teens and a newborn at once now. It is going to be an adventure.
I agree about morning devotions. I like to get everything done first before I sit down to rest for a bit in between. Doing the devotions in the afternoon suits me best. My mom has always been up at 4:30 to read her Bible and pray (I wake at 5:30).
I hope people don't judge you for not going to church when you are receiving fellowship and doing church as a family. I find that to be beautiful. Church can look differently to different people. I think about the Acts church and how they met at different places and didn't have a set building to go to until really the 3rd century.
Okay I'll stop here. Have an incredible day with your family. I have been slowly catching up on back episodes of youtube subs (I watch at 2x speed, and follow it well). Keep up the great videos.
I love your comments, Justice Pirate! Thank you for taking the time to say all of this, I truly appreciate you! Congratulations on your precious little one, what a wonderful blessing! I hope you are able to REST!
Thank you..❤️
You are welcome 😊
Your kitchen is beautiful! 🥰
Thank you!! 😊
Thank you❤
You're welcome 😊
The routines and rhythms work for our family of seven as well. I pushed that for a few years and now realize it works so much better for our family. The habits that it has helped and shown is something that is life changing. We do chores charts as well. I gave my older daughter to pick out clip art for each chore, this helped so much for all of the ones that can't read. Having her do it took it off my list and help her familiarize the computer program. It was really a game changer!!! For the young preschoolers and early readers it has been fun to use them inside a dry erase folder...they choose a favorite color dry erase marker and draw a check or smiley face. lol The house plants are looking beautiful!!! I am adding as I can to the amount I have. It brings so much to the fall and winter time of the year.
About over working ourselves- totally redoing that at the moment. I have had to stop homeschooling for a little while. I am focusing on wonderful food, sleep, self care, and a good walk a several days a week all by myself. I was doing so much all night and into the early hours of the morning, it was effecting everything, I/we suffered so much. I knew that things needed to change but I didn't know how. School is very important but I had to stop and focus on the real needs of myself and my family. Its been about three weeks and I am adding things back in once a week and deciding to add the important things. I have really had to stop and pray, asking God for instruction as what is truly needed. Choosing this has blessed my family in a massive way .
I would love to see more of your food and meal ideas. My family is no long eating plant based. I have been focusing on our food for about two months learning how to cook things all over again. I also just started a sour dough starter from cultures for health, I should have that ready in a few days ready to play with that. Food is so important in my family. I have a child with autism, two with ADHD, a failure to thrive kiddo, and my self with fibromyalgia and other female issues. All that to be said... food is just so important to me and I want to learn some ways to navigate nutrition with a large family.
Your videos keep getting better and better.
What a journey you have and are on. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️. It sounds like you are setting things up for success to me. Blessings to you, Alesha!
Thank you for the time you put aside to make these video's, its so calming and so helpful. I really appreciate that you show the other side of a household / homeschooling as well. And i love your devotionals! I really want to start implementing all these helpful tips and see what works for us 😀 May God continue to bless the work you do for your family and all of us that follows your journey.
You are so welcome! Thank you too for watching and your kind comment. Blessings to you as well! 💛🌻
Shayla!!!
Thank you for sharing 💕
I haven't made a none prayer video in almost 2 months ....I'm ready to start back... I love you and thank you for not giving up when things got hard!! I'm so proud of you and I can't wait to see part 2 💕🩷
I've been thinking of you lately, I'll be looking for a new video from you!
Thank you so much for taking time from your busy schedule to help all of us mothers. My children are all adults, two luve at home, and two are in college. I still enjoyed some of your handy tips. My hubby is retired , and he is also a help. Blessings.😊❤
Thank you too for watching and the kind encouragement 😊!💛
I have been watching your videos for a week or so and on the fence about whether you would be a consistent favorite, but this was a great episode! A lot of your kid training tips are exactly what i discovered with my 6! And then there was the relatable husband content 😅 great video!
Awesome, thank you! I understand about picking favorites to watch, I'm the same way! Thank you for sharing 😍
This is AMAZING!!! I am so thankful that you have shared these with us. It is going to help our family out so much. We are parents to 7 amazing children, like you said we only have 1 shot at this. Our oldest 2 are headed to explore their lives and the younger 5 are getting way more of us then they ever did. Because of us realizing our priorities. This is going to make a huge difference in our day to day life. Being a mom with ADHD, i am glad you mentioned all the reminders and list and cards..... I feel like I can't run off of just one of them and always thought that meant I was failing. Thanks for the uplifting help! It has helped my mama heart so much this morning.
I'm so glad this gives you some idea's, I pray they do help! Thank you for sharing this. I'm not far from my older ones leaving the nest and I know you understand this, but it is a sobering thought as I think of what time is left. Coping with ADHD is definitely something that makes it more challenging to stay organized with these things. I feel like it takes more energy and brain power- but so many reminders helps!! Thank you again for being here and your lovely comment!
Good for you. peace
This is jam-packed with such helpful information! Thank you! I took away so much new great info. Also, So much of what you said in the first 10 to 15 minutes with stuff that I've learned but no one else expressed it the same and I was like this lady knows what she's talking about because what you said has already worked for me. I also have ADHD and so the way you think many of your ideas will be helpful for me. And I believe what is helpful for someone with ADHD is also helpful for all. Maybe just especially those that have it.💜💖
I'm so glad this helped you!! Thank you for telling me!
Thank you for another great video with all your tips. We moved into a minor fixer upper and have been juggling homeschool and projects amongst everything else. Year round is the way to go🙂I need to get back to a schedule and use checklists again. Thank you for all these reminders. I look forward to your garden and cooking videos too. No judgements about Sunday. I understand. It’s a daily relationship and the Father knows your heart.
Thank you, Angelica, I really appreciate this comment! 💛 Fixer uppers while homeschooling are double precarious! Checklists are so nice, I think they work so well because the kids enjoy interacting with the list to make a check mark!
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily You’re very welcome! I just sat down to create a chore list and thought let me look at your examples to see which one the kiddos would like. As I opened up TH-cam, I saw your response. Thanks again! Have a beautiful blessed day!
Thanks again for sharing so much Shayla! I wish I could have you over to help me organize and clean. You seem to really have a handle on it all. I'm definitely gonna check out your chore system. It looks so helpful. God bless!!❤❤❤
That is sweet of you to say, Sara, you've got this!! Take it in pieces. I can only organize for around 10 to 20 minutes at a time before all my organizing brain cells need a break, lol! Blessings to you too!
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily that sounds like great advice! Thanks ☺️
I'm a new subscriber and loving your videos. I just found you two days ago and every time I'm nursing my little one for a nap I try to watch a video. It's so important to me to find faith based channels that will encourage me to do better and also be more forgiving of myself when I fall short. I have two littles and plan to homeschool. God bless you and may your channel reach so many more mama's that need encouragement. 🙏
Thank you so much! So glad to have you here, BTW!
Amen. This was such a blessing and joy to watch. I found it refreshing and encouraging to hear your insights. I am working on being a better Titus 2 woman - it's a struggle I wasn't raised to do this so I am sort of learning it now - a bit late but better than never I reckon. Much of what you said resonated with me - devotionals at the time when I'm actually able to rest in and truly focus on God's word for example (also afternoon for me - mornings feel too busy, so many things need my attention at once) and we also do not attend church haven't for years. We do at home family church and sometimes are blessed to meet up with other like minded believers for fellowship and worship either in our homes or public places like parks. When explaining why we do this once I was drawn to when Paul was fixing to go on one of his journeys and they had a dinner the night before he left sort of like a send off and he starts preaching impromptu at it and goes so long a kid falls out the window cause he fell asleep. Aside from the kid being brought back from death it shows us that "church" as it's thought of today is not what the early church did. They were the church - it was part of their everyday lives. That really helped me to understand that it is okay to do things how we feel led rather than what others do. It is our conviction based on God's word that it is better to live life being the church rather than going to church. Thank you again for the video - I am so glad it popped up in my feed this morning just when I needed to hear it. Grace and peace.
Thank you, Sunshine and Grace, I loved reading this comment, such good thoughts! Thank you for sharing. I agree, we are the Church.
I really enjoy your videos. There are so many helpful tips and tricks, even for us well-seasoned moms... by well seasoned, I mean just a mom for many years and with lots of experiences, not all positive or life changing. I'm feeling like life is difficult right now, which is why I asked about your most difficult season of life and how you coped/or are coping with it. I love all of your little cards and how you set things up to be functional. I wish I could do this, I thrive on order, and when I get systems in place for the home, very few in the family follow them. I have many kinks to work through and much modeling to do for younger children. Thanks for sharing and helping inspire us. I love your routine cards and checklist ideas. Thanks for answering my question. -Kristi
Kris, i love what you shared. Thank you! Part two is what you will resonate more with! I hope to get it edited this week🥰. You are totally not alone in feeling like this season is so hard.
Oh my goodness, thank you for addressing my comment! Your videos are like fresh air. Now I have to find a way to incorporate more bins.
You are so welcome!
I can SO relate to the two ladies who have husbands with ADHD, mine does as well, my mother in law recently moved in, and 2 of my 4 kids are neurodivergent as well! I am so tired of trying to out organize them! I can completely declutter and reorganize my kitchen, and within a week it looks like a bomb went off in every cabinet. I think God is working on my need for control this year! lol
I wholeheartedly agree with you about out of home church. Once you can lose religion and really focus on seasons in life and realize that some seasons are for finding what works for you family. We all live with enough guilt as moms as it is. My extended family is notorious for making me feel guilty about not going to church. We have several neurodiverse within our home and there was substantial church hurt due to that. We chose to home church for now to offer some protection to the children that were being bullied and also had overwhelm surrounding the thought of church. Idk I just really appreciate your authenticity regarding that.
I was sad to read what you have been/are still kind of going through. So hard. Life is to short to invest into people who make you feel guilty for just trying to do what's best for your family, though!
Stumbled upon your channel and I think it was a hug from God. 🥰Fellow ADHD mom of many. I subscribed about 5 minutes in. ♥️
Thank you 😊!
I'm so glad I found your channel. I'm also a stay at home mama 4 kids with a large age gap. My little ones are 6 and 4. Myself, and husband, and one son have ADHD 😊. Your very realistic and give great tips. I subscribed to your channel. 🙏 Thx❤
Thank you so much!!!
One of my children has ADHD tendencies (currently in the process of being professionally evaluated) anyway, I would have the hardest time getting her to first get her socks and then her shoes. She’d go to her room for the socks and become distracted by toys or sometimes her sister. Just recently I put a basket of socks in the front coat closet that has the kids shoes and it’s helped so much. I feel silly that it took me so long to think of that. Maybe this tip can help someone else out with easily distracted kiddos.
Yes to the freebie about the witching hour! I am slowly figuring that out on my own with my third baby 😅 She is 9 months old now, and I’ve been shifting dinner earlier and earlier to try to figure out what works best for our family. My older kids are a big help, but they get tired of trying to distract the baby when she’s fussy.
I just love your videos. The one about living in a “subpar” home is how I found you. So comforting to know others have dealt with making do with less. It feels like a lot of TH-cam is idealized, with beautiful homes and organized schedules. Thank you for putting out realistic content! (Your current home is BEAUTIFUL!)
Thank you so much!
That is a beautiful kitchen.
Thank you! 😊
I don’t know what a Titus 2 woman is? But this came up in my for you page, so looking forward to learning more, your home is totally amazing
Thank you, Dotty!
The most helpful mom video I’ve seen on TH-cam. Thank you!! ❤️🤗 I’m a mom of two littles and I’ve felt so defeated watching these younger than me you tube moms…
I'm so glad this helped you! Thank you for telling me!
I am 55 years old widow 26 year old twins at home with heart arythmia their limited I feel were so blessed to have each other but the mental load a times is but much I need to start self care bit by but
Thank you so much, this video is so very helpful, and plus calming to watch you clean and organize. 🙂 The part about making marriage a priority resonates with me so much, because well, this has been a very difficult marriage season for us and it's so true, we become like shells in all that we have to do. We live in an area where we're kind of far from things to do, and what is available in our small town is expensive as far as dates go. Do you have any tips for ways to keep marriage strong on a budget?
Hello Erin, I'm sorry I somehow missed this comment. I will answer your question in an upcoming video! It's a very important question and topic.
I love your content. It’s so helpful. Can you give me more information about out the my flow app. I seem to can’t find it. I would love more info. Thank you for sharing all you do!!
Yes, here are a couple that are good that I've used.
play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.flolivingalisavitti.myfloapp&hl=en
play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=org.iggymedia.periodtracker&hl=en
Always a beautiful video from you! Uplifting and inspiring. Thank you!
What kind of oil did you say to condition the cutting boards with again?
Thank you! My husband is a woodworker and researched it in depth, he said only mineral oil should be used, all others go rancid after being exposed to air and can become toxic.
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily Can you link which you use?
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily thanks so much!
I loved this video! I am finally finding my footing in this home making/stay at home mom business after 6 months. I have been working since I was 17 and I’m 41, so this shift was a rough transition until I learned to surrender to the Lord & His plan. This was very encouraging! Thank you!
You are so welcome!
The first video I watched on your channel was The Art of Godly Homemaking and this is the second video that I've watched of yours and I'm so impressed and amazed. My boyfriend and I have been growing our faith so I was intrigued by how Godly Homemaking worked. I love your insight on the topics you talked about in your video and you are highly intelligent. I know you had to learn from trial and error and over years of experience which I know is a lot of hard work and I'm happy you can share your experiences and what you've learned. Your tips are definitely helping me out.
Awe, this is so sweet of you to say, thank you, Tyela!💛
I’d love to see how you prep after a big grocery haul.. I’m young and still learning. I’m pregnant with our third and would love to learn how to make cooking easier 😊
I'll do a video with this for you, it's a great question!!!
Thank you so much!
You thinking they just didn't know how to clean their floors 😂 How funny! ❤
This is great inspiration! I'm curious, how do you wash the Turkish rugs?
The smaller ones are ruggables and so they go in the washer, but the big ones I use a carpet cleaner on! I have a large carpet/upholstery cleaner. It's a must when you have little kids!
How crazy, I was just telling my husband that the kids start to get needy or fussy starting at 5pm! It makes it so hard to get dinner on the table and pick up the house.
Thank you for this.
You're so welcome!
Being the church, is more important than going to church. Church is just a community that will always be there to welcome you
Shayla, you're quite inspiring, thank you. Have you found any way to clean wood cabinets layered with grime and grease and dust. The sticky surfaces are very annoying and unclean. Thx!
Hello Tisa, thank you too! Yes, I have used this stuff before to clean mine. It's been a long time, I don't know if they changed it or if it will work on yours. It might strip the paint off too though. I found that if wood cabinets have that grime that won't clean off the finish is usually already destroyed though. You might test it on a small area first! Hope this helps!
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I can feel for sweet Emma. Raising a son with adhd. Trying to raise a good man a future husband and father/daddy. What a sweet momma reaching out for advice. Thanks for sharing pretty lady this video was beautiful and so great! Loved the opening song too what a sweet beginning! Your kitchen is my dream kitchen literally how i in-vision! I wanted to see if it’s possible to add to questions. I have always struggled with having friends nearby. I have three really close and dear friends but they are all out of state. How do you fill this gap? I usually lean more on my husband as my bestie than anyone else. Sometimes I really want that in person friendship but finding it so hard to have the same values and priorities 😢. Or when I do make a connection friend something just is not right and led to end the friendship after a few red flags that God points out that is a deal breaker. Like having friends that choose to go out to bars without spouses. Being a bit more sneaky etc. they don’t line up but after time invested it becomes a little heart break. I have up making friends here after we moved two years ago. Was thinking this was just the season I am in and I am ok with that. Then I see how others are and yearn to have the in person girlfriend (friendship)
Hello Mzfit Mama, thank you for commenting! So nice to hear from you again! The friend's situation is difficult. I had a very small handful of good friends when we lived in the Midwest, but I rarely got to see them, and overall, my experience there for many, many years was like yours. It was hard. Eventually I started praying for God to bring me true, good friends and He did!
But now I'm in my hometown and state, and have reconnected with friends that I've had for over 30 and 40 years, plus some and my friends basket is overflowing! So He truly did hear my prayers and grant them! I have the good best friends from the Midwest still too.
Something I want to tell you though, is that it might not look like it now, but your very best tribe is actually in a place right now you might not expect. It's hard to see because it's small right now, just budding. It's your family! As my kids get older all the prayers, the hard work, the lessons, everything starts bearing fruit, and my husband and kids are now my best friends and who I cannot get enough fun times with! I have some older friends who are a few years ahead of me and the same goes for them! Although us women have such a wonderful time and COULD get together more, we are having such a wonderful time with our kids and family and all the wonderful fruits that homeschooling and raising them in Christ has produced that we pick to hang out with them more often than not.
I hope this encourages you! Blessings to you, and don't forget, PRAY for your heart's desires, be it faithful, Godly friends, Godly children, and whatever good and Godly thing God places on your heart He will fulfill!
Hi! This was a wonderful video. Thank you so much for all you are sharing. What is the big knit cover you have over your water it looks like? I'm so curious.
Tomorrow for me is Monday. I'm going to begin putting into use most of your advice.
Have a beautiful week.
Your friend Kristine
Hello Kristine! I made that, I crochet it. You can look up water tank covers on amazon tho, they do make some (although not like mine). Best wishes to you this week, just remember it takes time so start slow! Blessings to you!
@@homesteadhomeschoolfamily Thank you! 😊
What devotion do you like? Love your channel!!
Hello Jamie! Thank you so much! I love Jesus Calling books and this Mom's Devotional Bible a lot!
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Church is not a building but the body of Christ. You are 100% correct do church at home with your husband. Some people get so busy going to church they no longer have relationship with God...just an outside check in the box kind of thing. Gather with other families who believe the similar to what you believe and there's your fellowship. Shalom ❤
I feel you. "church" is not a restful item for me right now, it eats up my entire morning with hustling, busy, tasks and fuss. That's not Sabbath. I don't mind engaging with the church body at other times during the week, but not on our rest day, it's not serving us as a practice of rest right now.
WOWW.
I didnt know majority of men do these things with being messy and the food ...not eating or eating junk or spending a bunch of money to buy FAST food.
I learned so much today.
Ill be searching your videos but i wonder if u share your homestead food recipes. I grow a nice size garden but we dont have animals...yet 😏
Hello Lisa! I usually try to include recipes in a leach video, but I'm starting memberships where I'll do recipe videos by request! You can learn more by clicking the "JOIN" button under each video.
I will personally never understand how a person can just not go and find stuff in the kitchen to eat. Seriously. If I am hungry I stop whatever I am doing and go find something to eat. My husband is like yours too, I just don't get it. But I try to make food for him as often as I can, I am trying to manage my time better too. I am not a touchy person, I don't care for hugging and snuggling, but it is important for him to do this, so I have to manage my time to spend time "doing nothing" with him sometimes. :/