I am 60yrs old n married for 40yrs to a covert narc. I didn't realize i was in an abusive marriage. Finally decided to file for a divorce. I need help emotionally.
I’m facing exactly this right now! The lies, fabrication and false allegations.... It’s been going on for 3 years. He uses his attorney to communicate with me while I represent myself. It’s unbelievable how despicable these Narcs are.
But wait, I've had to do "sneaky things" - save money, spy on him for proof of infidelity (can't afford to hire PI), and telling people that he's a narcissist, and yeah, he is an alcoholic. But it took 20 years of abuse to even admit to myself what he's been doing to me all along. On the other hand, he is really good at manipulating people's perceptions. He has people feeling sorry for him for being married to me... he has destroyed my mind, body, and even social life. I'm a shell of the woman who married him 25 years ago.
Same here, after 23 years of marriage and the last of my good years were given to my narc monster. Currently still married and over 27 years of marriage. Also it is over 4 years (no children) and still waiting for my divorce! 😢
That’s what they specialised in breaking you down completely. 20 years of hell and I’m still afraid to divorce him. We are separated ( bravest thing I did was ask him to leave us) he has been punishing me ever since.
@@jennifergolay2307I finally divorced! I left a year ago. Our divorce was final 2 weeks ago! Yay! Get something on him that he'd be embarrassed to have come out in court. He'll agree to it then. I hope you're working on self-healing.
I knew my spouse retained a lawyer because his text responses became short one or two words where before he freely said his thoughts. Instincts were correct.
My ( narcissist) husband told our grown children we were going to have a friendly divorce and take the high road. Little did I know the so call “high road” meant agreeing with his lead in the entire process. Any time I didn’t cooperate with him I wasn’t “taking the high road”. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
@@sylviaking8866 I’m so sorry! Been there! Was married 30 years…divorced 16 years! Life DOES go on! In fact, you will get your JOY back! Recently I’ve found that Karma does happen! My ex married a narcissist who treated him the same way he treated me….She stole so much money from his retirement and used Vinmo to send it to her relatives, who then deposited to her hidden account (joint with her brother)! His attorney has no idea what he’s dealing with! She and her attorney are fighting dirty, even accusing me of helping to break up the marriage. Amusing, b/c I hadn’t had any contact with him for years…then only at weddings, etc….She simply can’t believe that someone would discard her! She has even entered into the legal docs how much she prays that the marriage will be healed, and that she prays each day b/c she believes marriage is forever! Funny, b/c she left her first husband for the second….and the second for the third!!! Amazing how those vows didn’t count….until now!!! These people are psycho! I’ve seen karma first hand…though it took many years! Good luck with your life! One day you’ll realize that it was worth the divorce pain….just to be away from them! God Bless! 💖💖💖
Exactly Kim & Rebecca my father says all kinds of horrible things about me & my mom especially many things he accuses me & my mom for he does or have done . No parents should put their kids in the middle of their affairs it's not fair to the child .
@@CarolDudeck-bl7kz they don't have any sympathy for anyone. When his mother died... he kept working as if they had told him... a mosquito just died. No nothing.
My narc worked for Microsoft as a tester. He was fired. I think for stealing codes. He is a programmer knows codes. My narc broke into my computer and googles server. I have friends he broke into my texting sent them different messages meant to destroy my friendships. In three cases those people came to my home with their phones to show me what they got. I showed what I sent, the messages were clearly manipulated to ruin important supportive relationships. He put parential controls on my phone before it was easy on an old Sony trio. He tried to stop me from keeping in touch with my support system. He convinced MY attorney he had rights to do what he did. This is all possible. I seemed crazy. I was abused.
Yes! This is what he’s telling me but I am not buying it. I am getting my part together to be ready when the fight comes. I know it’s coming. Thank you for the video. You’re reassuring me I am doing what I need to.
I could join you all on this subject but at the same time YOU ARE teaching me how to deal with this asshole!!! I am so happy to see that there are people out there educating us on this type of EXTREMELY TOXIC PEOPLE!!!
I have been married 38 years just now realizing he is a narcissist had me convinced it was all me but income is mine I am on disability he is on SSI I get much more money I am not sure how to work this financially if we divorce he will receive more but still not as much as me he is my caretaker but I can find ways to get help I just want peace and happiness for the few years I have left
Doris Buckbee, It is not your fault. You need to divorce him pronto. The notion of lapsing back into your comfort zone and remaining with the evil abuser is not a good option. Get to work on getting a good divorce lawyer and get this evil creature outta your life.
I started videoing her in her rage. I have pictures of my abuse. She knows I can turn the tables on her now. I can play the shame game now. 32 years of it and taking control feels great.
I may be having a court date with my narc soon and I just went on a binge watch of your channel. I am so happy I stumbled on your channel. You’ve been so helpful in ways I couldn’t even imagine. I wish I could meet with you in person because I feel like people around me don’t understand. I don’t even know if going through HAWC is going to help my case but I will continue to watch your channel to get insight and understanding of what may come. All I want is for my son to be safe, happy and healthy and I don’t believe his father is any of that.
Before tying the knot,........ Sign a prenuptial agreement clearly stating that if the husband/wife is proven to be a narcissist during the course of the relationship, all expenses of the divorce will be covered in full by the narcissist.
be careful tho. Narcissists are really good at manipulating people, and they can make sure that psychologists see you as the narcissist. So what I'd rather suggest is, make any partner wait for one or two years until the marriage. Narcissists can't wear their mask forever, so they'll leave if they get tired of you.
Thank you so so much for all your videos they have been a spark of hope and validation for the nightmare Ive found myself in. My ex has hacked into two iPhones of mine, two laptops, my boys cell phones adding blocked numbers, sharing location, erasing texts and email and somehow has managed to hack my wifi, router and modem. I obviously must be too emotional when trying to get any one to help me. I feel disappointed and let down by the laws on child custody and the impact of emotional, psychological, financial abuse and the delays/games that the narcissist uses to manipulate the system. Police believe the narcissists lies and are condescending and rude, which makes the victim feel crazy and defenceless. A person really does get broke down and frustrated with the system.
My Divorce was just finalized 4 weeks ago. My Ex Narc basically just didn't do anything from not signing the papers or discussing separating assets nothing. His way of having control. He now is not paying Spousal/Child Support and has every excuse in the book. Found out he'd been hiding money and forging my Signature on Taxes etc. He stole all the paperwork in our home , he's been trying to get in my Google Account. And who knows what else! I'm so exhausted. Just want to move on with my life. He had already moved on and I'm sure was with her for years prior to me leaving. I won full Custody do to the abuse. Our daughter is 15 and was able to tell her side. Also had her in therapy to which the judge was allowed to see all the notes and talk to therapist.
Thank you, both! I have been following both of you separately and it was absolutely excellent to have both of your insights and experiences combined in one presentation.
I want to know why it is easier for Narc to get representation than the person they are targeting? It’s like Narc lawyers help Narcs to continue the abuse and don’t care what the damage is.
People go to God with you all situation it will work pray pray. Leave those demonic people to their ruler he will fix them I mean the devil their father.
Ohmy gosh, I have been in divorce processs for three years, and I have almost lost it so many times, including recently. I have long suspected he is a narcissist, but your specifics about what narcissists do in divorce is so spot on. Painful
The nex I was with has been in my phone and emails. He deleted text messages and emails that had evidence needed before the final divorce hearing. I backed everything up and shared it all via email with friends beforehand. Everything y’all have shared is true...
That just happened to me. He got into my email and my sons laptop while I was trying to send my divorce lawyer an encrypted document. Also took money from my bank acct and sent an email from me to nyseg to turn off our power. So I went to the police again to charge him with grand larceny. I am fighting back but it is draining.
This is good info, and so like we are going thru. They try to wear you down. Your videos are so good to help us stay one step ahead because he is not making any efforts to follow rules, he never has, he never will. His fantasy world never existed and he was never crowned king. Thank you for helping us know how to deal with our Narc.
We have been through two custody evaluations, both requested by my former husband, both claiming I am unfit and mentally ill. When the reports come back showing I am fit he will then try to have to reports not be admitted, with our most recent one he is even refusing to pay the balance he owes to the evaluator because she did side with him.
As an IT guy I can confirm that Android is easier to breach than Apple. Apple keeps pretty tight control on what is in their app store and the devices are more difficult to compromise.
Unfortunately I haven’t get any lucky with the court . Narcissist can prove they are the perfect parent, husband and human being. The court system don’t understand gaslighting and verbal abuse. Good luck to everyone.! Don’t get emotional.
You guys have hit what my wife has been doing sense before we were married she talked me into marriage due to a surgery I had with a 90 percent chance of not recovering and now every little thing is my fault to saying I need to just agree to her wants from the divorce and we won't need a lawyer and now tonight she hit me with wanting to take everything from me
Hi. I lived with an extremely abusive woman because I couldn't leave the child with her lost every thing, she even put me in jail falsifying. Finally the child opened up and told me about years of my God unimaginable abuse behind my back, when I got a lawer and filed for a year tpo which was granted but cost me so much, now she won't just get a divorce and go. She is going to make this very difficult. She openly cheated even committed adultry in front of the child and her friend. I now having to care for the child and covid can't work and don't have the financial resources to fight this. What should I do. I was lucky in the court the lawer was able to expose her lies. My daughter says she assumes her dead and does not ever want to see or talk to her she is very bitter about her. She is doing so much better, has grown so much in the past 8 months, she went from the bottom of the class to all As and Bs, goes cross country 2 days a week and has a great personal life with her beloved friends on weekends.
What percentage do you think Narcissist get away with the their sneaky and manipulative ways in court? Do you think the judges can see thru the Narcissist?
My ex drug me through the courts for 5 years by dropping attorneys and firing attorneys and telling the judge he was struggling financially and needed more time. He was in contempt 6 times for not bringing his financial statements, and he walked every time. My ex has a drug addiction that is blatantly obvious, but he was able to manipulate the judge. He represented himself and made me out to be a literal prostitute. I never even thought about another man during our 18 years of marriage, but he told the judge he had to leave his job all the time because I was out sleeping with men and he would have to come find me. I have never been in jail - he has been to jail many, many times - driving on revoked, no registration, no insurance, dui etc.. because he feels like he is above the law. I have never cheated, I was never allowed to leave our home, I was never allowed to have car keys even though I was raising 3 kids. I was not allowed to have friends, clothes, money or any time to myself, yet he convinced the judge that I was a prostitute!!! During our 18 years together, he accused me of cheating every single day! I would cry and beg and plead for him to stop, but he would say my crocodile tears did nothing for him. He would tell our kids I was a whore and they would say "dad she never leaves the house." I lost myself, I am a shell now. At the end of the day, I lost half the home we bought together. My sons were 13 and 15 when we divorced and they wanted to stay with their dad because he let them do whatever they wanted to do and I had rules. I had no choice because the courts said they were old enough to decide. I used my inheritance to help renovate our home and I lost everything. He came out a winner because he was very cunning and manipulative. I am so worn down emotionally, but I can tell you this, the courts don't care and if you are going to get anywhere with the judge, be ready to spend lots of money which I didn't have.
Wow Rebecca!!! Great job putting information with Dr Ramanie and now Kim Shaheed!!! Every one of you adds such valuable lessons for the good and sanity of this world! Thanks!
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
I can’t afford an attorney. I’m at Alabama. I’m still living in the narcissist home, but I stay in my room. I need to find a job. I believe that before I hire an attorney, I need to be working. I have been in this relationship for over 35 years. I am so….so tired!
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
Am I dealing with a narcissist? I need help . Here are the red flags if you could read through this I appreciate it 2. love bombing me in the beginning and was obsessed with me and showerd me with attention. 3. attention junkie/ energy vampire 4 acting like a child even tho shes 25 5. playing victim alot and saying I did something mean when I didnt. 6. if I didn't contact her straight away she would guilt trip and make me feel bad and stressed 7 .sensitive to criticism 8 .blame shifting and taking her anger and sadness out on me told me to buy her a jacket so I did but then blamed me I brought her the jacket wanted me to play video games with her but we got into a fight and started blaming me for playing video games too much even tho she does to 9 .doing hurtful immature pranks even did a break up prank and thought it was funny. 10. talking down to me constantly and name calling and having a attitude and putting me down. 11.telling me I said or did something when I didnt. she said I was gonna do something with her but I never said i did. one time she wanted space but then called me back and said she never said that and apparently i wasnt listening to her but I was..(gaslighting)? 12. I called her she was playing video games said she she was busy then I said ok I will go and go and play video games then she gets angry for leaving and says go play your stupid video games. 13 .enjoyed me crying and wanted me to cry more so she would get back into a relationship with me. 14. very self centred always talks about her self and never asks anything about me. 15. flirted with other people behind my back and cheated on me 16 .talks down to me and says I'll only get back with you if her new partner comes back and jokes about me going to their wedding if they get married. 17. still wanted sex with me even tho shes with her new partner and tells me it will be our little secret. 18 .wants a open relationship with me and other person because she cant make her mind up between us both and tells me she wont tell the other person that shes with me. 19. asked for my credit card info. 20. tells me I deleted her number but I didnt then acts like a victim ( I think she deleted) 21 .meets up with a blonde girl and a man from the internet tells me shes just gonna have pizza and watch a film with them, she gets back home I confront her If she did anything sexual with them, tells me she did but was raped but doesn't make sense because she was annoyed that they stopped speaking to her when she got back home and still wanted to speak to them, when she was on the way home texting me she tells me she likes being choked as a fetish. we speak about this subject a week later and tells me the guy choked her and she nearly died because he raped her and she couldn't breathe. 22 .was sexually abused in the past and had sex with other people to numb her self and needed drugs. 23. she cheated on a ex and tells me all her ex's abused her and it's all their fault. 24. when I'm not around wants attention from other guys. 25. speaks badly about her family behind their back but is nice to them in person 26 .if I want space or go and do my own thing she gets angry. 27. I am ALWAYS doing something wrong in the relationship 28. takes high dose of antidepressants. 29. talks down to me and nitpicking at me 30. 4 different Facebook profiles 31. she did something one time and completely denied it and blamed me. 32. tells me my family doesnt love me. 33. very push/pull with me, is very loving but then pushes me away constantly.
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
I am divorcing one right now nearly done and he lies like a cheap rug very annoying he even told my lawyer that at times I have beat him up meanwhile I have spent most of the year going through breast cancer he is a real piece of work..
He went to my gp said I’m an alcoholic and suicidal and unfit and got him to call cps and write a letter of support for him which he of course annexed to affidavit. Took me two years to get the complaint against the gp
One sign of being a narcissist, is always talking about them and labeling people as a narcissist! Y’all are just stirring up trouble and love to hear yourself talk. I will pray for you both. Look for the good in others. Mind your own business. Don’t judge other people. That’s advice I was given. I wish for the best for y’all though, because we can all act out sometimes and be selfish, including me.
I can’t even get to mandatory settlement. Its been over two years. I just want a trial and get him away. I don’t know what to do. I’m not n my third attorney in an attempt to get to a trial or something. Can I get to a judge? Something odd is going on. We have no assets. No kids. Two year marriage. No way this is legal to hold me hostage for two years.
That has happened to me, Rebecca..i bought your package for $4 hundred and something at the beginning of the year, all my tube info erased, had spy wear down loaded in porn to my iPad . I couldn't access any info all my codes and passwords would be reset aback to what they were. I contacted the police three times they couldn't do anything because they struggled to get into their own emails? I lost my phone book emails everything. I became very despondent including mourning the lose of my youngest Zoë trying to support my oldest Natasha start the divorce process including still having him not leave the house until he was charged by the police for emotional, and financial abuse. It would be too much to put down all t he things that has stood in my way to be in touch to say I lost everything I payed for. Is there any way we could sort this out? I am so sorry
Theres a programme to hack iphone, the narc would have hacked you at the start. My partner died in front of hi computer where I founhd my bank and social media open. I had no idea
2 years after this initial conversation? About, suprise! An Android phone! I just realized my husband has been mirroring my phone😰 I'm talking exact gps location & real time reading text & fb messenger, I am shocked. Hence, here I am watching these videos on our potential divorce. I am so creeped out.
Yes, he said he wanted things 50/50 and amicable, but it was a nightmare!! It certainly wasn’t 50/50. He’s the runaway husband that filed for divorce but treats me like I left him and is spreading lies. He was unilaterally doing things with the teen he took without including me, like I didn’t exist. We use TalkingParents and I’ve had to weed through and ignore, like Rebecca says, only addressing our teen. He’s vitriolic calling me “Disgusting” and accusing me of being responsible for our kids’ “trauma.” Except he’s alienating two of my three kids, committing financial abuse, all of it. My eldest son was truant last year and had to repeat 11th grade. Even the mediator for visitation schooled my ex on not using the children as pawns!!
I tried to protect my disability income by setting up a personal account. As soon as she found out I had a separate account she demanded that we have a joint account even though she was gone. Eventually she volunteerly removed herself from my financial life after I had to change my debit and credit cards to stop her uncontrolled spending. She denies spending the money. Maybe she handed the credit card to her family and let them have whatever they wanted. The bank allowed the charges to go over the credit limit by about $1000.00
I recently divorced from my ex wife after 15 years. I was awarded soul custody of our children and our home. I found that I had to almost become her to defeat her. At the beginning stages of the divorce it was a whirlwind of drama with her filing false orders of protection going to any extreme to get what she wanted. Locking me out of are bank accounts the usual etc. it wasn’t until I noticed I was paying for two cell phone bills that the tables finally started to turn. I asked her attorney for her iPhone back that was on my family plan in my name only. Or the payment of the remaining balance on the phone. She chose to delete phone and give it back. Hence me becoming her I remembered she had all our apple ids and passwords stored on the desk top computer popped it into the phone and the holy grail of divorced played out. All the affair texts and emails and google history’s and locations she had been. And all the gaslighting going on. Instantly shut her down and she vanished.
Gave all of the information to my attorney and the family court started to listen to me as the man in court. Prior to this the courts believed everything the my ex wife said.
God tells us in the Bible that "what is done in the dark will be brought to light." He reveals what we need when we need it. Faith is a beautiful thing.
Do you have a licensed psychologist that you defer to assess if a person is a true narcissist before you label them as such? Asking because it sounds as if it can be a slippery slope and incorrectly label an individual. A personal friend,, who is a licensed psychologist educated me on how society throws around labels, which do not meet the clinical definition of the condition (e.g. OCD. People say they are OCD when, in reality, they are very particular. ). Thanks in advance for your response.
What if they are adult alienated children completely cut of from you through lies their father has brainwashed them with. I was married for 30 years and thrown out like trash penniless and have lost my beloved son’s. I want to die it’s been five years of pure agony. Please help. I have no money I am trying to get disability as I never worked so am not able to get any help. My ex proved he had no money, he is a genius and played the game. Nothing was in my name I am now physically sick.
My narcissist ex has created this entire false narrative about me, lies TO and ABOUT me, and yes, emails with loaded language, totally baseless accusations. It is so very painful. And I do get too emotional. I try to defend myself, because I feel attacked, but it's impossible.
I find it hilarious that thee MOST emotional time in anyone’s life- you cant get emotional. Not the emails but, if attorneys cant stand a woman being upset, scared, fearful then The attorney NEEDS a different area of Law to practice.
Omg REBECCA YES! My ex husband has for years broken into my email- he has software that stops emails at the server! He k yes APPLE IS WAY HARDER TO HACK!
That's so true that if you do not respond to their emails, for them, that's you agreeing. A little over a week after my spouse and I communicated about divorce where I made myself clear that it will not be an "Uncontested Divorce," I received an e-mail from the divorce lawyer notifying me that she's representing my spouse. I sent my spouse an e-mail and the response about the "uncontested divorce" and "without minor children" was: you did not give me any options and you agreed to it since I didn't hear back from you for over a week - and for years my spouse did that to me when I questioned things and or if I didn't do what I was told to do.
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
Hello there fo you need help to fix all kinds of problems in your relationship including getting your ex husband, girlfriend, boyfriend crush within 3 days ???
I’m fighting for time sharing for my son . She’s a first grade teacher very attractive and acts really sweet and professional and I do believe she is a good mom kinda almost a super mom . Of course that is her image . but there’s another side to her that I feel is impossible to explain . I pray the court will see it . I on the other hand feel overwhelmed even broken . Sometimes I get scared that I’m the narcissistic one but then I remember who I am and how deep I care for pretty much everyone and how much pain that has brought me . I’ve always tried to do the right thing whatever that is . I lost my brother a few years ago and we were very close . It crushed me . I cried like a baby everyday for over a year and then my dad died . I couldn’t be what she wanted I couldn’t snap out of it. I felt alone .she was still tearing into me with her digs and gaslighting . I left but told my son I wasn’t abandoning him . Got him a phone and tried to fix things with him. But I think she is smearing etc... Turns out she’s got this new guy who was always giving me sour looks at little league baseball games. As soon as my son told me I seen what she was up to. She wanted me to over react and get in trouble so I stayed away. And got a lawyer. I haven’t seen or heard from my son since he told me. She immediately moved her new man into the house that we brought our son home from the hospital in. He’s twelve his room is right across from hers. Now she’s real mad that I filed and claims my son doesn’t want to talk to me or see me . The psychological effect on me is not worth talking about but I feel like it’s really hurting my son . I was once him . Now he will deal with this feelings forever. I had to leave I thought I was dying. I don’t know how I’m going to heal him . He thinks his father is a loser but I’m not . I love him very much . I stayed so long for him . God help me ..
@@albertgonzalez9466 thanx bro just got my first visit last weekend.we smashed the weights at the gym. 2 yrs in court . The system is an abomination. Like an oak . Amen !
I got a fake debt during the marriage. When debts get bought and sold, all the paperwork is lost, so it is a name, and amount, and a creditor in a spreadsheet. So fake debts are easy to make. A sneaky lawyer files a motion, and all you have to do is go down and say it is not true. But if you don't, a $500 fake debt gets fees and interest and is now $2000. No show, and the lawyer gets a default judgement, and can now even garnish your wages. There is effectively no remedy at this point. On the day of the hearing, my ex has a crisis. So she used the judgement in court as proof of my irresponsible behavior Before calling me, the collector called her, and gave them my parents number. (debt collectors know how to get info). My parents asked me what the heck is going on, so much for keeping them out of it. (they are totally okay with weird stuff like this now).
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I am 60yrs old n married for 40yrs to a covert narc.
I didn't realize i was in an abusive marriage. Finally decided to file for a divorce.
I need help emotionally.
I do hope you're in a better place now. Run!!! My upstairs neighbour didn't make it... 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞
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Same as me get a therapist 🙏
God bless you and all those that need help.
Jesus Christ loves you very much praying to Jesus along with couseling it will get better. their is no better friend then Jesus
I’m facing exactly this right now! The lies, fabrication and false allegations.... It’s been going on for 3 years. He uses his attorney to communicate with me while I represent myself. It’s unbelievable how despicable these Narcs are.
Rebecca Zung, thank you, I will! God bless you🙏🏼
But wait, I've had to do "sneaky things" - save money, spy on him for proof of infidelity (can't afford to hire PI), and telling people that he's a narcissist, and yeah, he is an alcoholic. But it took 20 years of abuse to even admit to myself what he's been doing to me all along.
On the other hand, he is really good at manipulating people's perceptions. He has people feeling sorry for him for being married to me... he has destroyed my mind, body, and even social life. I'm a shell of the woman who married him 25 years ago.
Thats me after 20 years.
Get this completely....27 years married here to one...
Same here, after 23 years of marriage and the last of my good years were given to my narc monster. Currently still married and over 27 years of marriage. Also it is over 4 years (no children) and still waiting for my divorce! 😢
That’s what they specialised in breaking you down completely. 20 years of hell and I’m still afraid to divorce him. We are separated ( bravest thing I did was ask him to leave us) he has been punishing me ever since.
@@jennifergolay2307I finally divorced! I left a year ago. Our divorce was final 2 weeks ago! Yay!
Get something on him that he'd be embarrassed to have come out in court. He'll agree to it then.
I hope you're working on self-healing.
I knew my spouse retained a lawyer because his text responses became short one or two words where before he freely said his thoughts. Instincts were correct.
My ( narcissist) husband told our grown children we were going to have a friendly divorce and take the high road. Little did I know the so call “high road” meant agreeing with his lead in the entire process. Any time I didn’t cooperate with him I wasn’t “taking the high road”. 🙄🙄🙄🙄
I had the exact same experience. So, I hired a lawyer and forced him to communicate to them and I went no contact. He literally tried to destroy me.
@@sylviaking8866 I’m so sorry! Been there! Was married 30 years…divorced 16 years! Life DOES go on! In fact, you will get your JOY back! Recently I’ve found that Karma does happen! My ex married a narcissist who treated him the same way he treated me….She stole so much money from his retirement and used Vinmo to send it to her relatives, who then deposited to her hidden account (joint with her brother)! His attorney has no idea what he’s dealing with! She and her attorney are fighting dirty, even accusing me of helping to break up the marriage. Amusing, b/c I hadn’t had any contact with him for years…then only at weddings, etc….She simply can’t believe that someone would discard her! She has even entered into the legal docs how much she prays that the marriage will be healed, and that she prays each day b/c she believes marriage is forever! Funny, b/c she left her first husband for the second….and the second for the third!!! Amazing how those vows didn’t count….until now!!! These people are psycho! I’ve seen karma first hand…though it took many years! Good luck with your life! One day you’ll realize that it was worth the divorce pain….just to be away from them! God Bless! 💖💖💖
@@bamanana2922 Thank you so much for your encouragement. I truly appreciate it.
thank you so much. it is people like you that give me hope things will get better ♥
Exactly Kim & Rebecca my father says all kinds of horrible things about me & my mom especially many things he accuses me & my mom for he does or have done . No parents should put their kids in the middle of their affairs it's not fair to the child .
@@RebeccaZungEsq God bless 🙏!
Putting kids between parents ( and to choose a side ) is CHILD ABUSE.
@@jimcole6423 Sounds like something my father would do & aunts & uncles too .
Oh my goodness this is like watching and hearing the last 13 years of my life and the exact words my soon to be ex husband said to me!!!!
Mine too!
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Sounds like u know what I’m going through-
It took me exactly 13 years to leave him too
Its scary. It happened to me too. Im blown away by how accurate this information is
I can't even explain all the evil things my sister's covert narcissistic husband did. Pure evil.
Its horrible.. evil tactics to..
I know exactly my siblings are in “SHOCK” at this sick man, we lost both our mothers this year and not any sympathy shown to either of these women!🥶
@@CarolDudeck-bl7kz they don't have any sympathy for anyone. When his mother died... he kept working as if they had told him... a mosquito just died. No nothing.
what did he do
@@KnicksNYanks84 stole his sons $20,000 and his brand new car and ran away with his mistress.
My ex broke into my emails and erased ALL of my evidence for court-yup! Yes, yes and yes-lie, manipulate, project, harass, etc
My narc worked for Microsoft as a tester. He was fired. I think for stealing codes. He is a programmer knows codes. My narc broke into my computer and googles server. I have friends he broke into my texting sent them different messages meant to destroy my friendships. In three cases those people came to my home with their phones to show me what they got. I showed what I sent, the messages were clearly manipulated to ruin important supportive relationships. He put parential controls on my phone before it was easy on an old Sony trio. He tried to stop me from keeping in touch with my support system. He convinced MY attorney he had rights to do what he did. This is all possible. I seemed crazy. I was abused.
Yes! This is what he’s telling me but I am not buying it. I am getting my part together to be ready when the fight comes. I know it’s coming. Thank you for the video. You’re reassuring me I am doing what I need to.
Me too stay stronger your better than what’s happening to you.
I could join you all on this subject but at the same time YOU ARE teaching me how to deal with this asshole!!! I am so happy to see that there are people out there educating us on this type of EXTREMELY TOXIC PEOPLE!!!
I have been married 38 years just now realizing he is a narcissist had me convinced it was all me but income is mine I am on disability he is on SSI I get much more money I am not sure how to work this financially if we divorce he will receive more but still not as much as me he is my caretaker but I can find ways to get help I just want peace and happiness for the few years I have left
Doris Buckbee I am two years no contact (peace is a reward) good thing locate good people 🌈
Take care of yourself. Eat vegan , have healthy weight, & you'll feel better about yourself. You'll get help elsewhere. Don't settle for such.
Doris Buckbee, It is not your fault. You need to divorce him pronto. The notion of lapsing back into your comfort zone and remaining with the evil abuser is not a good option. Get to work on getting a good divorce lawyer and get this evil creature outta your life.
I started videoing her in her rage. I have pictures of my abuse. She knows I can turn the tables on her now. I can play the shame game now. 32 years of it and taking control feels great.
@Maribella Hiles You are not alone. No matter what they say, we deserve respect.
I may be having a court date with my narc soon and I just went on a binge watch of your channel. I am so happy I stumbled on your channel. You’ve been so helpful in ways I couldn’t even imagine. I wish I could meet with you in person because I feel like people around me don’t understand. I don’t even know if going through HAWC is going to help my case but I will continue to watch your channel to get insight and understanding of what may come. All I want is for my son to be safe, happy and healthy and I don’t believe his father is any of that.
I said that, I don't want to fight, I want this to be amicable....my words exactly.
Wow. Those were the exact words he said when he lied.
Before tying the knot,........ Sign a prenuptial agreement clearly stating that if the husband/wife is proven to be a narcissist during the course of the relationship, all expenses of the divorce will be covered in full by the narcissist.
be careful tho. Narcissists are really good at manipulating people, and they can make sure that psychologists see you as the narcissist. So what I'd rather suggest is, make any partner wait for one or two years until the marriage. Narcissists can't wear their mask forever, so they'll leave if they get tired of you.
@OneOFThese NotLikeTheOther what will you be allowed to do? Will you be allowed to be employed?
Thank you so so much for all your videos they have been a spark of hope and validation for the nightmare Ive found myself in. My ex has hacked into two iPhones of mine, two laptops, my boys cell phones adding blocked numbers, sharing location, erasing texts and email and somehow has managed to hack my wifi, router and modem. I obviously must be too emotional when trying to get any one to help me. I feel disappointed and let down by the laws on child custody and the impact of emotional, psychological, financial abuse and the delays/games that the narcissist uses to manipulate the system. Police believe the narcissists lies and are condescending and rude, which makes the victim feel crazy and defenceless. A person really does get broke down and frustrated with the system.
My Divorce was just finalized 4 weeks ago.
My Ex Narc basically just didn't do anything from not signing the papers or discussing separating assets nothing.
His way of having control. He now is not paying Spousal/Child Support and has every excuse in the book.
Found out he'd been hiding money and forging my Signature on Taxes etc.
He stole all the paperwork in our home , he's been trying to get in my Google Account.
And who knows what else! I'm so exhausted.
Just want to move on with my life.
He had already moved on and I'm sure was with her for years prior to me leaving. I won full Custody do to the abuse. Our daughter is 15 and was able to tell her side. Also had her in therapy to which the judge was allowed to see all the notes and talk to therapist.
Good for you!
Thank you, both! I have been following both of you separately and it was absolutely excellent to have both of your insights and experiences combined in one presentation.
Indeed I have the same thing happening to my email and phone. These action are easy for IT person..Silence is gold.
Hi. Im so grateful that you have this channel up and fore everything you have thaugth me through it. Thank so much. Keep on doing you. I love it 😊
I want to know why it is easier for Narc to get representation than the person they are targeting? It’s like Narc lawyers help Narcs to continue the abuse and don’t care what the damage is.
That's true about them breaking into your online accounts. Really and that's totally true.
People go to God with you all situation it will work pray pray. Leave those demonic people to their ruler he will fix them I mean the devil their father.
Ohmy gosh, I have been in divorce processs for three years, and I have almost lost it so many times, including recently. I have long suspected he is a narcissist, but your specifics about what narcissists do in divorce is so spot on. Painful
The nex I was with has been in my phone and emails. He deleted text messages and emails that had evidence needed before the final divorce hearing. I backed everything up and shared it all via email with friends beforehand. Everything y’all have shared is true...
That just happened to me. He got into my email and my sons laptop while I was trying to send my divorce lawyer an encrypted document. Also took money from my bank acct and sent an email from me to nyseg to turn off our power. So I went to the police again to charge him with grand larceny. I am fighting back but it is draining.
This is good info, and so like we are going thru. They try to wear you down. Your videos are so good to help us stay one step ahead because he is not making any efforts to follow rules, he never has, he never will. His fantasy world never existed and he was never crowned king. Thank you for helping us know how to deal with our Narc.
We have been through two custody evaluations, both requested by my former husband, both claiming I am unfit and mentally ill. When the reports come back showing I am fit he will then try to have to reports not be admitted, with our most recent one he is even refusing to pay the balance he owes to the evaluator because she did side with him.
As an IT guy I can confirm that Android is easier to breach than Apple. Apple keeps pretty tight control on what is in their app store and the devices are more difficult to compromise.
Unfortunately I haven’t get any lucky with the court . Narcissist can prove they are the perfect parent, husband and human being.
The court system don’t understand gaslighting and verbal abuse.
Good luck to everyone.! Don’t get emotional.
"Just sign the papers and don't fight me", that's what mine is saying. You called it within the first 2 x minutes of the video!
You guys have hit what my wife has been doing sense before we were married she talked me into marriage due to a surgery I had with a 90 percent chance of not recovering and now every little thing is my fault to saying I need to just agree to her wants from the divorce and we won't need a lawyer and now tonight she hit me with wanting to take everything from me
Part 1 and Part 2 were fantastic. Definitely going to watch more of your videos.
Ok... so what if I’ve already responded for the past year with emotion and cursing 😥 he’s got so much material on me to make me look crazy.
The accuracy. Thanks for another great video. Keep them coming😄
The emails!!!!! Yes. He has been monitoring emails, phone too.
Two narcs disliked the video. 😂
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Hi. I lived with an extremely abusive woman because I couldn't leave the child with her lost every thing, she even put me in jail falsifying. Finally the child opened up and told me about years of my God unimaginable abuse behind my back, when I got a lawer and filed for a year tpo which was granted but cost me so much, now she won't just get a divorce and go. She is going to make this very difficult. She openly cheated even committed adultry in front of the child and her friend. I now having to care for the child and covid can't work and don't have the financial resources to fight this. What should I do. I was lucky in the court the lawer was able to expose her lies. My daughter says she assumes her dead and does not ever want to see or talk to her she is very bitter about her. She is doing so much better, has grown so much in the past 8 months, she went from the bottom of the class to all As and Bs, goes cross country 2 days a week and has a great personal life with her beloved friends on weekends.
Some of the BEST responses to Narcissist’s emails I have EVER heard or read are by Tina Swithin- one moms battle
Whole. World
Is. Connected.
I lost custody of my daughter to a narcissist. They didn't even look at the text messages and then had the counselor's testimony evoked!!!!!
Thank you for these simple and useful tactics 💜💛💚learning these manipulating maneuvers by them is actually helping us💟
What percentage do you think Narcissist get away with the their sneaky and manipulative ways in court? Do you think the judges can see thru the Narcissist?
My ex drug me through the courts for 5 years by dropping attorneys and firing attorneys and telling the judge he was struggling financially and needed more time. He was in contempt 6 times for not bringing his financial statements, and he walked every time. My ex has a drug addiction that is blatantly obvious, but he was able to manipulate the judge. He represented himself and made me out to be a literal prostitute. I never even thought about another man during our 18 years of marriage, but he told the judge he had to leave his job all the time because I was out sleeping with men and he would have to come find me. I have never been in jail - he has been to jail many, many times - driving on revoked, no registration, no insurance, dui etc.. because he feels like he is above the law. I have never cheated, I was never allowed to leave our home, I was never allowed to have car keys even though I was raising 3 kids. I was not allowed to have friends, clothes, money or any time to myself, yet he convinced the judge that I was a prostitute!!! During our 18 years together, he accused me of cheating every single day! I would cry and beg and plead for him to stop, but he would say my crocodile tears did nothing for him. He would tell our kids I was a whore and they would say "dad she never leaves the house." I lost myself, I am a shell now. At the end of the day, I lost half the home we bought together. My sons were 13 and 15 when we divorced and they wanted to stay with their dad because he let them do whatever they wanted to do and I had rules. I had no choice because the courts said they were old enough to decide. I used my inheritance to help renovate our home and I lost everything. He came out a winner because he was very cunning and manipulative. I am so worn down emotionally, but I can tell you this, the courts don't care and if you are going to get anywhere with the judge, be ready to spend lots of money which I didn't have.
N/A, I am a Widow as of May 27, 2016 at 1PM-Mrs. Ida Diane Warren-Arrington.
Wow Rebecca!!! Great job putting information with Dr Ramanie and now Kim Shaheed!!! Every one of you adds such valuable lessons for the good and sanity of this world! Thanks!
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It’s taken me over a decade to accept the fact that he is un trustworthy.
I can’t afford an attorney. I’m at Alabama. I’m still living in the narcissist home, but I stay in my room. I need to find a job. I believe that before I hire an attorney, I need to be working. I have been in this relationship for over 35 years. I am so….so tired!
Living through this currently. He does all this with a go-pro on. I needed this. Thank you!
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Am I dealing with a narcissist?
I need help .
Here are the red flags if you could read through this I appreciate it
2. love bombing me in the beginning and was obsessed with me and showerd me with attention.
3. attention junkie/ energy vampire
4 acting like a child even tho shes 25
5. playing victim alot and saying I did something mean when I didnt.
6. if I didn't contact her straight away she would guilt trip and make me feel bad and stressed
7 .sensitive to criticism
8 .blame shifting and taking her anger and sadness out on me
told me to buy her a jacket so I did but then blamed me I brought her the jacket
wanted me to play video games with her but we got into a fight and started blaming me for playing video games too much even tho she does to
9 .doing hurtful immature pranks even did a break up prank and thought it was funny.
10. talking down to me constantly and name calling and having a attitude and putting me down.
11.telling me I said or did something when I didnt. she said I was gonna do something with her but I never said i did. one time she wanted space but then called me back and said she never said that and apparently i wasnt listening to her but I was..(gaslighting)?
12. I called her she was playing video games said she she was busy then I said ok I will go and go and play video games then she gets angry for leaving and says go play your stupid video games.
13 .enjoyed me crying and wanted me to cry more so she would get back into a relationship with me.
14. very self centred always talks about her self and never asks anything about me.
15. flirted with other people behind my back and cheated on me
16 .talks down to me and says I'll only get back with you if her new partner comes back and jokes about me going to their wedding if they get married.
17. still wanted sex with me even tho shes with her new partner and tells me it will be our little secret.
18 .wants a open relationship with me and other person because she cant make her mind up between us both and tells me she wont tell the other person that shes with me.
19. asked for my credit card info.
20. tells me I deleted her number but I didnt then acts like a victim ( I think she deleted)
21 .meets up with a blonde girl and a man from the internet tells me shes just gonna have pizza and watch a film with them, she gets back home I confront her If she did anything sexual with them, tells me she did but was raped but doesn't make sense because she was annoyed that they stopped speaking to her when she got back home and still wanted to speak to them, when she was on the way home texting me she tells me she likes being choked as a fetish. we speak about this subject a week later and tells me the guy choked her and she nearly died because he raped her and she couldn't breathe.
22 .was sexually abused in the past and had sex with other people to numb her self and needed drugs.
23. she cheated on a ex and tells me all her ex's abused her and it's all their fault.
24. when I'm not around wants attention from other guys.
25. speaks badly about her family behind their back but is nice to them in person
26 .if I want space or go and do my own thing she gets angry.
27. I am ALWAYS doing something wrong in the relationship
28. takes high dose of antidepressants.
29. talks down to me and nitpicking at me
30. 4 different Facebook profiles
31. she did something one time and completely denied it and blamed me.
32. tells me my family doesnt love me.
33. very push/pull with me, is very loving but then pushes me away constantly.
Sound like it. If you feel cheated out of your emotions and time most likely it’s a narcissist. They are usually habitual cheaters too
Thank you for your awesome work! I’m learning a lot and representing my self against a Narcissist!
Oh Lord. How did that work out for you? Seriously, want to know. Are you out now?
Yes sneaky and worse.lies and they cannot be trusted
Perfect information video!!! Big thank you!!!!!
Thank you for keeping the behaviors disassociated from gender narcissism is an equal opportunist
Yes. Im very familiar with having my phone information accessed by the x. This is a very scary thing. Fraud is so terrible
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My ex broke into my email, almost got me fired, tracked my banking, and those were minor things.
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This isn't a dating website, get real!
I am divorcing one right now nearly done and he lies like a cheap rug very annoying he even told my lawyer that at times I have beat him up meanwhile I have spent most of the year going through breast cancer he is a real piece of work..
Awesome advices!
He went to my gp said I’m an alcoholic and suicidal and unfit and got him to call cps and write a letter of support for him which he of course annexed to affidavit. Took me two years to get the complaint against the gp
One sign of being a narcissist, is always talking about them and labeling people as a narcissist!
Y’all are just stirring up trouble and love to hear yourself talk.
I will pray for you both. Look for the good in others. Mind your own business. Don’t judge other people. That’s advice I was given.
I wish for the best for y’all though, because we can all act out sometimes and be selfish, including me.
I can’t even get to mandatory settlement. Its been over two years. I just want a trial and get him away. I don’t know what to do. I’m not n my third attorney in an attempt to get to a trial or something. Can I get to a judge? Something odd is going on. We have no assets. No kids. Two year marriage. No way this is legal to hold me hostage for two years.
I'm in the same boat. Please contact me or message me back. I am so stressed
That has happened to me, Rebecca..i bought your package for $4 hundred and something at the beginning of the year, all my tube info erased, had spy wear down loaded in porn to my iPad . I couldn't access any info all my codes and passwords would be reset aback to what they were. I contacted the police three times they couldn't do anything because they struggled to get into their own emails? I lost my phone book emails everything. I became very despondent including mourning the lose of my youngest Zoë trying to support my oldest Natasha start the divorce process including still having him not leave the house until he was charged by the police for emotional, and financial abuse. It would be too much to put down all t he things that has stood in my way to be in touch to say I lost everything I payed for. Is there any way we could sort this out? I am so sorry
To make themselves look stellar
Theres a programme to hack iphone, the narc would have hacked you at the start. My partner died in front of hi computer where I founhd my bank and social media open. I had no idea
Why are courts oblivious to narcissist abuse and how can you make them more aware and can you sue your narcissist at the same time as divorcing them?
Thank you so much ladies!
2 years after this initial conversation? About, suprise! An Android phone! I just realized my husband has been mirroring my phone😰 I'm talking exact gps location & real time reading text & fb messenger, I am shocked. Hence, here I am watching these videos on our potential divorce. I am so creeped out.
Thank you
Yes, he said he wanted things 50/50 and amicable, but it was a nightmare!! It certainly wasn’t 50/50. He’s the runaway husband that filed for divorce but treats me like I left him and is spreading lies. He was unilaterally doing things with the teen he took without including me, like I didn’t exist. We use TalkingParents and I’ve had to weed through and ignore, like Rebecca says, only addressing our teen. He’s vitriolic calling me “Disgusting” and accusing me of being responsible for our kids’ “trauma.” Except he’s alienating two of my three kids, committing financial abuse, all of it. My eldest son was truant last year and had to repeat 11th grade. Even the mediator for visitation schooled my ex on not using the children as pawns!!
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I tried to protect my disability income by setting up a personal account. As soon as she found out I had a separate account she demanded that we have a joint account even though she was gone. Eventually she volunteerly removed herself from my financial life after I had to change my debit and credit cards to stop her uncontrolled spending. She denies spending the money. Maybe she handed the credit card to her family and let them have whatever they wanted. The bank allowed the charges to go over the credit limit by about $1000.00
It's insane
Thank you..❤️☘️
My email and phone everything has been hacked. Plz guide what should I do?
Go to the police that is a violation of privacy if you can prove it. Document everything when it come to interaction
@@ericac2420 thanks
I recently divorced from my ex wife after 15 years. I was awarded soul custody of our children and our home. I found that I had to almost become her to defeat her. At the beginning stages of the divorce it was a whirlwind of drama with her filing false orders of protection going to any extreme to get what she wanted. Locking me out of are bank accounts the usual etc. it wasn’t until I noticed I was paying for two cell phone bills that the tables finally started to turn. I asked her attorney for her iPhone back that was on my family plan in my name only. Or the payment of the remaining balance on the phone. She chose to delete phone and give it back. Hence me becoming her I remembered she had all our apple ids and passwords stored on the desk top computer popped it into the phone and the holy grail of divorced played out. All the affair texts and emails and google history’s and locations she had been. And all the gaslighting going on. Instantly shut her down and she vanished.
Gave all of the information to my attorney and the family court started to listen to me as the man in court. Prior to this the courts believed everything the my ex wife said.
God tells us in the Bible that "what is done in the dark will be brought to light." He reveals what we need when we need it. Faith is a beautiful thing.
thank you for great advice!
They can have their lawyers so fooled.
Do you have a licensed psychologist that you defer to assess if a person is a true narcissist before you label them as such? Asking because it sounds as if it can be a slippery slope and incorrectly label an individual. A personal friend,, who is a licensed psychologist educated me on how society throws around labels, which do not meet the clinical definition of the condition (e.g. OCD. People say they are OCD when, in reality, they are very particular. ). Thanks in advance for your response.
What if they are adult alienated children completely cut of from you through lies their father has brainwashed them with.
I was married for 30 years and thrown out like trash penniless and have lost my beloved son’s.
I want to die it’s been five years of pure agony.
Please help.
I have no money I am trying to get disability as I never worked so am not able to get any help.
My ex proved he had no money, he is a genius and played the game.
Nothing was in my name I am now physically sick.
My narcissist ex has created this entire false narrative about me, lies TO and ABOUT me, and yes, emails with loaded language, totally baseless accusations. It is so very painful. And I do get too emotional. I try to defend myself, because I feel attacked, but it's impossible.
I find it hilarious that thee MOST emotional time in anyone’s life- you cant get emotional. Not the emails but, if attorneys cant stand a woman being upset, scared, fearful then The attorney NEEDS a different area of Law to practice.
How do I get your “Crush my Negotiation” worksheet ? I did not see the download link . Thank You !!
Kim Saeed is also wonderful!! 💜
Sounds relatable. Thanks!
Omg REBECCA YES! My ex husband has for years broken into my email- he has software that stops emails at the server! He k yes APPLE IS WAY HARDER TO HACK!
How about changing banking addresses Re doing statements. Lots worse. My family thought I was nuts. Now they know
That's so true that if you do not respond to their emails, for them, that's you agreeing. A little over a week after my spouse and I communicated about divorce where I made myself clear that it will not be an "Uncontested Divorce," I received an e-mail from the divorce lawyer notifying me that she's representing my spouse. I sent my spouse an e-mail and the response about the "uncontested divorce" and "without minor children" was: you did not give me any options and you agreed to it since I didn't hear back from you for over a week - and for years my spouse did that to me when I questioned things and or if I didn't do what I was told to do.
Great information. However, you did not let your guest speak. I’m sure it’s tough to turn off the litigator sometimes but this was remarkable.
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What does going to clubs have to do with the topic at hand?
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My narc filed for divorce 2 hours prior to me!
Mine told me he did
How’s this
My computer was the one not damaged during Sandy yet all my photos from before then just vanished ..
Omg Kim Saeed mine has done all that to my phone and my computer. His P.I did it.
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That’s why I don’t talk on the phone anymore only texts
I’m fighting for time sharing for my son . She’s a first grade teacher very attractive and acts really sweet and professional and I do believe she is a good mom kinda almost a super mom . Of course that is her image . but there’s another side to her that I feel is impossible to explain . I pray the court will see it . I on the other hand feel overwhelmed even broken . Sometimes I get scared that I’m the narcissistic one but then I remember who I am and how deep I care for pretty much everyone and how much pain that has brought me . I’ve always tried to do the right thing whatever that is . I lost my brother a few years ago and we were very close . It crushed me . I cried like a baby everyday for over a year and then my dad died . I couldn’t be what she wanted I couldn’t snap out of it. I felt alone .she was still tearing into me with her digs and gaslighting . I left but told my son I wasn’t abandoning him . Got him a phone and tried to fix things with him. But I think she is smearing etc...
Turns out she’s got this new guy who was always giving me sour looks at little league baseball games. As soon as my son told me I seen what she was up to. She wanted me to over react and get in trouble so I stayed away. And got a lawyer. I haven’t seen or heard from my son since he told me. She immediately moved her new man into the house that we brought our son home from the hospital in. He’s twelve his room is right across from hers. Now she’s real mad that I filed and claims my son doesn’t want to talk to me or see me . The psychological effect on me is not worth talking about but I feel like it’s really hurting my son . I was once him . Now he will deal with this feelings forever. I had to leave I thought I was dying. I don’t know how I’m going to heal him . He thinks his father is a loser but I’m not . I love him very much . I stayed so long for him . God help me ..
God bless you Sean. You will always be his father that truth cannot be erased. Remember that. Stay available to him. Peace buddy, nurture your peace.
@@timothycharleshickman5342 thank you Tim ,that’s my dads name.
God.. I'm in the same position. I feel like I'm at a lost.
You are not alone brother stay strong like an oak.
@@albertgonzalez9466 thanx bro just got my first visit last weekend.we smashed the weights at the gym. 2 yrs in court . The system is an abomination.
Like an oak . Amen !
I got a fake debt during the marriage. When debts get bought and sold, all the paperwork is lost, so it is a name, and amount, and a creditor in a spreadsheet. So fake debts are easy to make. A sneaky lawyer files a motion, and all you have to do is go down and say it is not true. But if you don't, a $500 fake debt gets fees and interest and is now $2000. No show, and the lawyer gets a default judgement, and can now even garnish your wages. There is effectively no remedy at this point. On the day of the hearing, my ex has a crisis. So she used the judgement in court as proof of my irresponsible behavior Before calling me, the collector called her, and gave them my parents number. (debt collectors know how to get info). My parents asked me what the heck is going on, so much for keeping them out of it. (they are totally okay with weird stuff like this now).
you just gaslit android. yes they were initially not so secure. samsung today can be set to have more security than iphone iblv
My Ex Installed Hidden Server He Could Access Remotely As Well
Ex has admitted to Recording everything I do and say because he records every call he's on with our son. Can u dedicate a video based on that?
That happened to me a year ago all night email was empty