Hometown Heartbreak - The Bachelorette Breakdown Tayshia's Season Week 11 + Hometowns RECAP
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 15 ธ.ค. 2020
- It's Hometowns for week 11 of The Bachelorette where we get to meet the final 4 men's families. Like Brendan's niece and brother, Zac's mom and dad, Ivan's parents and brother Gabe, and Ben's sister and famous chef friend or something. So what went down during the La Quinta Bachelorette hometowns and who made it to the final 3? Check it out in this recap for The Bachelorette Season 16 Episode 11!
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If you missed yesterday's recap be sure to check that out too! ---> th-cam.com/video/1M1G0Zat6q4/w-d-xo.html
Fantake, please read: Sleuthing/theory:
In the last preview, we see Tayshia in a silver dress sending someone home. Notice how she’s wearing that same dress when her and Brendan are about to sit down for dinner during fantasy suites. On Monday’s preview, we also see Ivan in a beige suit in the middle of the day (usually final 2 clip). So my theory is that Brendan goes home on fantasy suite week and that Ivan and Zac are the final two. (Plus I agree with you that she picks Zac. He’s the best fit for her).
Sending love to your dad.
Best wishes for your dad.
@@paulojrneto thanks Paul!
@@skater5696 thanks skater 😁
Ben was telling everybody BUT TAYSHIA that he’s in love with her 😒😒😒
That pissed me off
Also where did that clip of him saying 'I'm falling in love you' in the teaser come from?
@@Jobother I think that came from earlier, I thought? Or maybe he pulls a Bennet? (hope this isn't some kind of spoiler, the Bennet part I mean)
This is sleuthing, not spoilers, but I think ben comes back and Tayshia has to make another choice. Hes done it once already where he comes back to her room and opens up more and saves his spot. Why wouldnt he try it again?
@@BreeQuinn I think if someone's in the comments section of this video they know what happened a week ago, you're fine.
I just rewatched the teaser and it was a different shirt than he was wearing in last nights episode.
It is pretty sad how this is honestly one of the best group of men and it's not even a full season. 😢
And one of the best bachelorettes on my opinion
RIGHT?? I wanted NONE of them to go home because these 4 were just top notch guys
Right?!?!?!?! It’s so sad - I wish they would’ve given them 2 more weeks
@ Completely! 🙌 Tayshia is a 👸 for sure - in my Top 3 Bachelorettes now
I mean I think it’s the best group of men BECAUSE it’s the best bachelorette
Tayshia's hand gently lifting Ivan's face up to see his brother was all I needed to complete my life
🥰
that was literally the sweetest thing i've ever seen
😍😭
I replayed it when I first saw it bc it was so gosh dang precious 🥺
Something tells me he is in final two...
Ben's exit was heartbreaking. You deserve the best, darling.
I cried when he was sent home I hope Ben does a Bennett n comeback
I know I love Ben!
I really hope he becomes the Bachelor. I feel like he would be the best one from this season to watch!
I hope more than anything he's grown from this situation. As sad as it may be I think he learned a lot when it comes to relationships and needed this heartbreak so he can truly express how he feels to the right woman when she comes along.
Ben if full of shit!!! He’s a grown man who signed up for a dating show knowing exactly what he’s getting himself into. He “played” the character well with the naked confession he pulled at one of the group dates and even talking about his struggles with eating disorder and the S word. But he couldn’t tell the girl he loves her? Huh?
Do you know why that is? It’s because he didn’t love her, her wasn’t ready to commit and just wanted to go home!!! And I genuinely don’t believe he was there for the right reasons. I see through men like that, Ben Is a cool guy but he wasn’t there for taysha.
Legends say Barb is still out there crying...
"dont let her go.. "
@@Jess-eo4xf 🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂😂
Barb will forever be an ICON to the franchise. Best heel turn in the history of the company lmao
I love how everyone was saying “They’re giving Tayshia leftovers” but imagine getting leftovers from Gordon Ramseys restaurant that were barely touched FOR FREE, that’s what tayshia got and I’m jealous.
Hahahah i love this!
Seriously! She got the cream of the damn crop
Yasssss
What a beautiful metaphor!
I can't believe this is the same season as Clare's
Right?!
The problem was Clare not the men lol
THAT 10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU REFERENCE WAS IMPECCABLE
YUP... Was already a fan... but that solidified this channel as my favorite Bachelor recap.
💯🎉💃🙌
This channel is so good, I can’t deal.
My boyfriend: Didn't you just watch the actual episode last night?
Me: Yeah but this is the recap.........and it's got funny jokes
I had the same conversation with my boyfriend lol
Me with my husband: you gotta watch it, he tells funny jokes!
@@Corbi310 my husband saw me watching Whit and Ry, and then I had to tell him about this guy. Theyre the best recaps, of course with Lauren Zima haha but my husband knew about her LOLOL (she will like some of my stuff on IG and i fangirl every time hahaha)
Don't worry, us mere mortals just don't have the sleuthing power that @bachelorfantake has hahahahaha
I think the producers gave us such treasures in the top four to make up for the dumpster fire that was Peter's season... almost makes it all worth it
To think Clare pretty much threw all of this away. We were almost robbed of like 6 awesome dudes.
Almost... 😂
I’m a bit concerned about Peter’s women messing with Tayshia’s men’s minds in BIP, though 😳
@@goosebump801 no doubt they will 🤣🤣
Zac ?what is so exciting about this guy has his baggage she doesn't need it beside why is he showing NY when he is from NJ little town.
@@goosebump801 OH NO! I didn't think of that!! How terrible! We must protect them at all costs... maybe all the women have to be at least 26 and, as Bennett would say, "be proficient in all four areas of emotional intelligence"
THE POEM!!!! oh lord. You're absolutely amazing.
Right! I went back to listen to it a second time! Also I love your videos Kim! The fact that you watch this channel makes me like you even more haha
Who never watches the full episodes but always watches bachelor fantake recaps? 😂
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Meeeee this season lol
Me but only because I can’t switch the episodes as I’m not in the U.S. haha
I used to watch them but because of school I stopped so I am VERY thankful for Chris (fantake not Harrison)
Lol i watch it (bachelor/bachelorette) here to watch bip its more drama and fun
I just wanted to say that I'm sorry to hear about your dad, I hope he is doing okay during all of this. That must be pretty stressful on your family.
Thanks for the great content, too!
I second this! Stay well, Mr. Fantake Sr. 💐
I third (?) this! Please reach out if you need someone to talk to! I hope you and your family are doing well and keeping spirits up! I'm HOPING we're finally able to see the light...as long as the vaccine works out (please don't come for me in the comments about the vaccine, I very much respect everyone's decision regarding their own health! I'm just optimistically hopeful!!!)
Right. You never know whats up behind the scene. Wish your family well
Agreed! Thank you for sharing @bachelorfantake wishing him and your family well!
being team ben has been so stressful but i’ve decided if he ever becomes the bachelor i’m going to actually apply for the show
I’ve been team Ben since day one, I hope he comes back, they just seem so perfect
Good luck! I hope you get there!
Charlotte L just hop in his DMs 😂
Same, honestly. My current boyfriend can wait
Have you seen that contract? Save yourself
Never have I ever liked all the final four before. They are all great. It’s hard not to like them. I actually like Zach the least and I think he’s going to win. Ben going home was gut wrenching...absolutely HEARTBREAKING!!! 💔💔💔 I really hope it doesn’t close him off for future relationships. I think he’s an amazing guy and I hope he’s in paradise and finds an equally amazing woman.
I also loved all these families. Just a lovely group of people.
I actually agree, i think she likes the idea of a life in NY with Zach but i dont think she looks at him the way she looks at the other 3
I think she has the most chemistry with Zach which is why she will pick him but I think Ivan compliments her the best and is a better fit. Brendan is my favorite but I just don’t think they’ll end up together
@@imfearless14 in one of the previews her dad says "why him?!" Im expecting that to be about Brendan i think her family will think hes to goofy, i do think ivan would be the best fit but i think he will be next to go
@@rebeccamcqueen1948
Really? I disagree. After their one on one, she was GUSHING and talking about how she couldn’t stop smiling.
I love all three of the final three though
@@SavvyMuhonmaybe im just biast because i dont love them as a match lol
Was anyone else shook that Ben just casually knows a Food Network star???
I kept looking at her like where do I know her from? I figured someone here would know 🙂
I know her best from Top Chef on Bravo. I looked it up and apparently Ben is her trainer, but they are clearly really good friends. Since Tayshia loves to cook, I would have loved to see them at least acknowledge that Antonia is not only a chef, but is kind of a celebrity chef.
@@shannoncopeland4506 i agree! It was honestly kinda weird that they didn’t even mention it at all
@@shannoncopeland4506 Thank you for clearing that up. OMG, I thought I was going crazy wondering "Where do I know her from." I actually thought she was a friend of mine I must have worked with or something like that. Never occurred to me she was someone I've watched on TV.
I was like omg I know her 🤗
"Brendan, the man with supermodel looks." I agree! Anyone else think he looks amazing in turtlenecks and polo shirts? Most guys on this and past seasons wear t-shirts and button ups, but I totally think he could model turtlenecks and polo shirts. That's my random thought this season. Also that two-handed wave was cute. He's so pure.
Brendan is absolutely my type 👍
Fantake: How am I supposed to release a video when everything is so good!?
Also Fantake: *makes 14 minute long video*
I know you’re the same person, Think Story Fantake. I’m on to you 👀👀
I don’t think Tayshia felt like he “owed” her anything. I think she was disappointed she felt a lot for him and he didn’t seem like he cared (to her). Obviously their communication styles are just different and they express emotions differently. Just a really sad misunderstanding 😢
Yup his whole demeanor in that last convo just seemed like he didn’t care. Yes he was in shock but he still fails at just basic communication. She probably wasn’t asking for tears or hysterics but just some sort of verbalization that their time together held some meaning. Then he gets in the car and tells the crew everything he didn’t tell her.
@@c-bee2904 exactly! Ben is stunted emotionally or at least being able to express it. That's not good at this point.
I agree. Tbh i think people are being unfair to tayshia. Of course she's frustrated that ben hasnt opened up to her naturally! That's a reasonable thing to want in a relationship. I think, honestly, that he answered her questions and then just wanted to make out. I'm sure he's a nice guy but he wasn't opening himself up to her, and she couldnt open herself up to him
exactly, he acted like none of this mattered which is what was upsetting. Shows he's still so guarded sadly
And I’m glad she’s smart enough to understand that it wouldn’t work in the long run... imagine trying to pull teeth for the rest of your life
Tayshia has the best final four. Everyone of them seems like a good person. All of them are husband material
Tayshia moving Ivan’s face at @9:55 is adorable!!
I’m trying to take this seriously but they’re sweating like crazy. 😂😂
I’d be sweating like that too, not only is Palm Springs hot as hell but it’s humid also. And the humor is what gets you.
Did you notice Tayshia apparently doesn't sweat? LOL The guys are dripping in sweat and she's standing there as perfect as always.
@@shannoncopeland4506 I’ve been envious of her lack of sweating lol I was wondering if maybe they stay touching her up.
I think the lights make them sweat, too. Plus the heat of the day. I don't think they'd touch her up and not the guys.
Like hookers in church. They need to supply them with towels or fans or something🥵🥵🥵🥵😅😅
Just a side note, hope your dad is doing well during these horrible times ♥️
Yes. Everyone please send super healing vibes to Chris's dad!!!
I thought it was so sweet that Tayshia cried when she met Ivan’s brother.
I just have to shout out Zacs mom was so adorable, and Ivan’s dad melted my heart. I really think her best fit is with Brendan, but it seems like he might leave because he’s not ready. I don’t want her to end up with Zac, personally I just don’t see it with them. But obviously that is not for me to decide, but that’s my two cents. I also adore Ivan but I don’t know if I see Tayshia being as in love with him as he is with her in the end.
Yeah Zac comes across as so serious and she's so playful
@@Aaron-kj8dv agreed, I think Brendan is the perfect mesh of calm and collected and fun and playful, I just feel like he matches up with her so well. From what I’ve seen they bring out the best in each other.
@@spideysim3892 yeah brendan has been my frontrunner since their first one on one. I dont think she'll choose him but his DMs will be blowing up when he gets home.
I feel the complete opposite about her and Zac!!! I’ve said the whole time I think they’re soulmates. I can’t say why on paper, but you can see their connection
I think her and brendan fit together in the real world too. That's where I have hangups about zac. They seem to live very different lifestyles.
Ivan and Tayshia are so cute 🥺 i was so shook when Ben got sent home tho
Ivan is so freaking pure. If he gets his heartbroken I will be heartbroken too.
Man, I wonder if Tayshia is seeing the episodes now with the content that happened when she wasn't around...I'd be feeling pretty sad if I found out that a guy I'd really cared for was in love with me too but just hadn't told me. Hopefully this teaches him to be more open about expressing how he feels to potential SOs; he struggled with this all season.
In his defense this situation isn’t the norm. It’s been such a short amount of time and it’s easy to forget that because we watch it spread out.
@@DottieMinerva i totally understand why this was hard for him, but i think we’re saying “hopefully this teaches him to open up” more out of wishing him the best and not out of criticism. i hope he takes this experience and learns that it’s good to open up to the people that care for you, you know?
He isn’t the one if he can’t express how he feels
The best final 4 ever... all these break ups are gonna suck.
All 4 men are the best group of men in a long time. Proving that when they put their mind to it this show can get a great group of genuine people for the lead.
And even though I like all of these men. I can't get over how sad I am that Ben isn't in the fine two😭 I can't help but think he was the one for her. Even now, I'm still in shock he was sent home
I think he’s the one for her too girl
Right?! Like I literally pegged it for it being Brendan and Ben as the final two and then I could see her picking Brendan, kinda like how Hannah B. picked Jed instead of Tyler (bc Jed was always a frontrunner and Tyler was a slow burn)... still I thought we would get 2 more entire episodes with him, I thought we'd lose Ivan on this one.
@@colette2907 I was thinking it would be Ben and zac as the final two and she would have picked zac. But I don't know, I still think Ben is just for her. But now you right, brendon is gonna be top two now. He was too good on that home town. The only thing making me think she won't pick brendon is cause he is sure that he will purpose. I think zsc is more ready to go down on one knee ( kinda just like I think Ben was getting there too)... I'm still so upset. I have never been this invested since Kaitlyn Bristowe's season! I was like she has to pick Shawn! What was it about nick???? Shawn is the one!
I don't know if it's just a good group of guys or because the pandemic is stressing the importance of family for everyone but I loved the drama free "hometowns." And the fake cities were adorable. I'm loving Tayshia's character too, how she just rolls with it and seems to genuinely enjoy any little activity with the guys
I have never loved a top 4 and all of their families as much as I have with this season. I really had no clue who was going home and my heart would break no matter who because this episode made me fall in love with them and their families.
the hometowns preview showed a clip of Ben confessing his love in what looks like tayshias cabin. perhaps the messy producers might push him to pay her a visit?
I thought I remembered this!! I just checked again and I think he's definitely not done on the show
kinda makes me wish they hadn't done the exact same thing with Bennett because it was so much less genuine
@@hillakatz5855 Bennetts happened before.. they could have edited out the I love you... BUT Maybe it is there to show how genuine Ben is.
@@srz6246 it will be interesting to see how tayshia responds to that if it comes to it. idek know how she manages all these things I'd be a wreck 😣
@@hillakatz5855 it was completely unwarranted for bennett but I hope ben gets to overcome his fears of sharing his true feelings. even if they don't end up together it would probably mean a lot to get this huge thing off of his chest.
The "10 Things I hate about you" reference is golden😂😂😂
I have this big feeling...that Ben comes back. Idk why...but My gut is telling me he comes back to tell her. 🥺
I think so too.
Yah and in the previews when Tasha is freaking out about “what to do that” before the rose ceremony I think it has to be ben
I'm refusing to believe Ben is truly gone so if you're right, I won't be mad
@@lizziehalkyard7712 see I originally thought something happened with Zac but now that we know Ben is gone...I have a feeling you are right.
we've done some sleuthing on the fantake discord server and now I'm 99% sure that he's coming back and the previews show it. at about 1:05 mins you can see him saying "I'm in love with you" 👀 th-cam.com/video/YI1Cj1qn5ds/w-d-xo.html
I think when Tayshia was referring to wanting some type of emotion from Ben she was meaning in general and that even in breakup he still couldn’t open up.
I agree
Antonia: professional chef and expert on love. Disappointed that we didn't have a cutthroat kitchen date for hometowns tho
I was so shocked to see Ben go, but honestly think it’s the best for both of them. Ben has a lot to work through still, Tayshia couldn’t have kept trying to pull some kind of emotion out of him. Ben is incredible, I wish him the absolute best. Him and Tayshia were honestly just in different places in their lives.
Yes, definitely agree! Well said!
I completely agree.
I agree
Yup, that’s exactly it.
I think so too, and the fact that he had two suicide attempts in just the last year, and his demeanor and the way he’s shut off to his emotions, from my perspective he still has more soul searching to do and I can relate to that. I’m in a similar spot in my life and it’s better to understand where you’re at and not rush into something if you’re not ready.
Ben’s comments in the car at the end tore my heart out, shattered it into a billion pieces, and then Iit them all on fire 🤠🤠🤠
IM SO SAD BEN IS GONE
this season has been nothing but heartbreaking. i’m always left heartbroken when an episodes over bc a great guy leaves😭tayshia is the perfect bachelorette
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I think tayshia was just looking for some indication that Ben cared for her even if it was sadness after being eliminated. For her I think the other guys openness compared to her having to force bens feelings out came to be too much towards the end. It’s sad cause they definitely had something real🥺
I really think that when Tayshia was expressing her disappointment at Ben, it was NOT about him being speechless after the rose ceremony. My original take on it, was that she was talking about him not showing "an ounce of emotion" regarding his feelings for her, after seeing his family on the date. I've watched that part back, and realised that maybe the editing made this seem about his exit. So... all in all I don't think Tayshia needs to be called out for what she said. She didn't feel Ben owed her something as she walked him out.
Yea the call out wasn't really fair and at that point, Ben should have expressed how he felt and he not so he went home
Now can we just get a group of men like this every year please?? You had a couple rotten eggs for drama purposes but overall just a really awesome season. So glad tayshia was our bachelorette.
Ivan is the Mike Johnson of this season please make him Bachelor
I agree with you except I'm afraid it would end up giving Ivan a big head and ruining the innocence we love about him. Mike seemed to have enough life experience to know how to reign in his own ego if it got out of control.
Ivan would be a great bachelor
@@christianone6611 mike became cocky too
@@TheMusicalFeeling True, but I think he has the emotional skill sets available to let the hot air out of his head and move on when he's ready to rejoin humanity again. Lol.
Okay but the fact that this rose ceremony hurt, means that guys really are great. I’m so jealous of Tayshia and hope that whoever doesn’t end up with her finds someone just as amazing as they are
Watching Ben's final conversation with Taysha and hearing her reaction was so heartbreaking. Ben was clearly disassociating and unable to process his emotions in that moment. I know not everyone knows what disassociation looks like, but it's not someone intentionally being guarded or not caring, their body literally disconnecting from being able to process emotion. Being a partner to someone with a history of severe mental health issues takes education! I totally believe that Taysha would be open to learning, this is just not a good format for that. As much as I hope Ben does turn that car around to go tell Taysha he loves her, I hope there's a mental health conversation that happens again too!
A relationship with Ben as he is now, would be absolutely exhausting. I don’t blame her for moving on. He has a lot of work to do on himself before he can be in a healthy relationship
EXACTLY!!!!!🙌🏾
Yes he is emotionally stunted
Has there ever been a top 4 this wonderful?! I can’t remember ever really liking everyone in a top 4 this much
Ugh, THANK YOU for calling Tayshia out about what she said about Ben after the breakup!! It was so obvious that he was in shock and was completely shutting down, I don't know what else she wanted from him. The way he kept saying, "I'm fine. I'll be fine," broke my heart because it was clear he did not feel that way at all.
Yeah, but she’s always having to pull the emotion out of him and she was just hoping he just would give it to her but i get that he was in shock. they just obviously wouldn’t have probably mesh will on the outside.
He was definitely somewhat disassociated in the moment. The "I will be fine. I always am," comment felt like a double-edged sword, knowing his history. On the one hand, he recognized that this was another hard thing he'd have to trudge through, and he that he *could*. Great! On the other hand, there was a very melancholic and self-loathing note to it. I hope this will be a time for him to grow his support network, and he can be more than fine.
@@oliviaisnicole1835 everyone forgets they’ve only been filing for 2-3 weeks, and emotions take time to come out when you are as guarded as Ben
People need to stop blaming Ben for tayshia having to rip things out of him, a lot of men are like that, and he’s had past struggle, but he’s given her so, so much, stuff he’s never told anyone and she sent him home for not giving her enough and that drives me bonkers
@@makennayork6047 I agree it’s not good to blame Ben, as he was clearly in shock, just surviving moment to moment.
I do think it’s better to send him home because they’re mismatched in this important way. Free Ben up to find a better fit for him 🌹
Literally seeing any of these guys leave is hard to watch because they're all such great guys
I swear there is something go about tayshia that’s just so likable. She radiates good energy and love. It’s like everyone who meets her falls in love with her. All the families adored her and I think that speaks volumes of her as a person.
The man's intros never miss.
Ben is definitely coming back just from the way they sent up the end of the episode and just from the way Ben acts he is coming back. My bf and Ben are really similar and I know he is coming back
Lol @my bf and Ben are really similar and I know he's coming back...lolol
watch the hometown preview again. it shows him saying “i’m in love with you” he comes back. lol.
I am like Ben so yeah he’s coming back
I think for Tayshia it was more than Ben’s lack of reaction to being dumped. Almost everything that we saw of Ben opening up was like pulling teeth. The Bachelorette/Bachelor is not the place for guarded people who need time to open up.
Thank you!! that’s exactly what I’m saying , I’ve been in a relationship where i could barely get much emotion from them and it was really annoying, so I get why tayshia said that.
Nail on the head 👌
Yes!
I’m surprised tayshia didn’t say anything to him about why he was being dumped. Up until now she’s been pretty upfront and honest with the men and I get where she’s coming from but I didn’t expect her to act so cold
@@noorjehan86 I think she wanted something out of him when she left from there one on one so she was confused because he didn’t say much. She was giving him the chance to say something and he still froze.
I do get why Tayshia was upset after dumping him though because her reason was that he couldn’t be as open as the others, and I think she just wanted him to try at the last minute before leaving and be proven wrong
Exactly
Agree. In one of the previous episodes, she told him to be himself, not trying to be perfect in front of her.
Zacs family gave off some weird vibes. Also, I didn’t expect them to be so white😅😂 I always assumed he was like New Jersey Italian 😂
I thought his brother was his dad at first idk why 😳
@@clalyrics441 Same...but to be fair Zach is one of the older/oldest? contestant and I guess it's probably his older brother. So maybe his brother is in his 40's?
@@clalyrics441 omg same! I was like damn his dad looks about the same age as he does.
@@rebekahbutler3120 Yeah I think we were expecting a 50ish dad for the contestants since we're so used to them being in their early 20s 😭 and I think they showed him talking right away which made me assume he was a parental figure lol
@@oliviaisnicole1835 right 🥲
Thank you, fantake Chris, for blessing us with immaculate content during these dark days 🥺❤️🌹
Chris I hope your dad is doing well and gets healthier and does not have any future health problems❤️
When she yelled for a taxi that was so funny lol I live in NYC & we just wave our hands & walk towards moving cars 😂
Yeah - his wave was NJ- not NY Manhattan
Also who takes the taxi when the MTA is 2.75
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I think it’s gonna be between Ivan and Zac. But I feel that her and Zac have a really crazy connection and the way she acts with him is a lot different then the other guys like you can tell she’s in love and they have passion
Ivan for bachelor if he doesn’t end up with Tayshia!!!!
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so sad about ben leaving :( also my fave is brendan and i’m trying really hard to like zac but there’s something off about him
Brendan is my favorite too 🌹
Zac seems the most realistic to me
I loved seeing how excited Tayshia was to meet Ivan’s Brother and Ben’s sister. These guys are all amazing I hope they find love and happiness.
So sorry about your dad too. Many blessings to him and your family.
Tayshia is such a good bachelorette and the guys are so good that the coming breakups are gonna hurt like hell. Damn.
When Ben siad that he was heartbroken but hes alright, idk why tayshia looked upset. Some people have no emotion when they get heartbroken. They feel numb . But he should had shared his feelings
Knowing he has a history of suicidal ideations, it was also something of a mantra to just help him move forward, out of the situation: "I'll be alright. I always am." She really took his reaction personally, when in fact, he was even in that moment, making some personal progress. Being able to tell himself aloud that he *would* be alright was a surreal, if not melancholic, self-affirmation.
@@AnimaKinz Honestly! If you haven't had issues with suicidal ideation and depression/anxiety then you just can't understand the way we process big emotions. He reacted exactly as I would have in the situation.
@@sarahaviles5679 Me too
Don’t forget Ben is a veteran. As a military wife I can tell you they are trained to not have emotions and just act.
@@sandraplazola Yep. I have personal experience with veterans who have felt punished for doing the right thing and asking for help, or admitting that they are having troubles with their mental health. It can be a terribly unhealthy cycle, honestly. Add onto that the fact that he's also mentioned perfectionism in his family and we've got a recipe for someone who simply *cannot* immediately and eloquently articulate their feelings. Should he work on that? Of course- as most of us probably could. But it's not fair to expect it of him.
My guess is that Ben comes back and tells Tayshia how he feels and that is what she is emotional over at the final rose ceremony.
There’s a preview clip of him saying “I’m in love with you” when he’s in a cabin though, so I think he comes back next episode and that’s why Tayshia says “there’s a rose ceremony tonight, what am I supposed to do about that” or something along those lines
I think you may be right.
i'm sad about ben leaving but i also didn't want anyone else going home :'( i'm so so sad
Same :( it break my heart that she still has two more hearts to break. They're all such great amazing guys. Like I don't even know them but I care about them and their families 💛
OBSESSED with the 10 things poem at the beginning!!!
Did Ben’s wide-necked shirts annoy anyone else lol
😂😂😂 he has a thicker neck than most
YES
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I was too invested in ben winning, seeing him go home actually felt like a heartbreak
Just keep Ivan's dad in the La Quinta bubble for the rest of the pandemic. Protect him. Let's do a go fund me if we need to!
Ivan's dad is so nice🙂
Tayshia being mad at Ben about "not giving her emotion" bugged me a lot too! I'm almost positive that a billion thoughts were running through his head, including regret of not expressing his feelings to her, and the painful reality that he'd never get to tell her those feelings. I'm sure he also thought about getting those thoughts out there, but they wouldn't change anything, so what's the point? I would be sitting there in stunned silence too. People react to heartbreak differently. Not everyone needs to ask "why" or break down into tears during the breakup. Some of us just solemnly accept it and wait to mourn in private.
he was probably in complete shock too, plus I remember him saying that he doesn’t cry so that’s probably why he wasn’t super emotional
I personally thought she was talking about Ben not giving emotion on the DATE, and not after the rose ceremony. I could be wrong, but it does make more sense. She sent him home because he didn't express to her any feelings on the home town date.
Yess! Ben’s reaction is exactly what mine would be I would just be in shock and I’m not much of a crier
I feel like zac is the favorite to win based on tayshias outfit on their date alone
Well, she was bound for NYC after all 😂
I said the same thing!! 😂
I think the competition aspect of this can play with the guys emotions. Ben’s initial response to Antonia was immediate, “I don’t know” and his body language matched (so-so hand gesture, leaned away, unsure facial expression).
I think it proved he wasn’t ready to be at that place with someone yet, and I felt like Antonia was trying to force it when he wasn’t ready ultimately.
@@spideysim3892 I think he just wasn’t ready to say it. It’s one thing to be in love with someone (and to realise it), it’s a whole other thing to say it to the person you’re in love with/other people in your life
@@jadethirlwall1573 right, which I think it’s been proven this is not the show/environment for someone who has trouble expressing their feelings. This is a microwave relationship like Tayshia’s dad would say lol
@@spideysim3892 I agree with that, I think if they had more time, things would have turned out differently between them :(
@@jadethirlwall1573 he’s a gorgeous man, and he has a lot to offer but I think it’s clear he has a lot of soul searching to do still before he can be there for someone else. He’s still figuring out how to be there for himself.
Ben!!!!! Whyyyyy whyyy did you not tell her you loved her!!! I am willing to bet money he would have stayed if Ben would have told Tayshia how she felt 😢😫
I AM HERE FOR IVAN
ME TOO!
This episode turned Ivan into my number one. He is so sweet and Tayshia's dynamic with his family was amazing
i really hope we get one of the men from the final four as the next bachelor, them, riley, or joe
JOEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE
Joe!!
I really like Ivan too.
Riley!!!
That intro was GOLD.
Ben comes back to profess his love. That’s what she’s referring to in a preview when she says “I have a rose ceremony, what do I do with that?” I really feel they should be together so I hope I’m right😅
Feel this so hard, I hope they’re trying to juke us into thinking he’s gonna cause there is no more footage but he comes back and gets the final rose
@@makennayork6047 if this doesn’t happen, she better choose Ivan. That man is truly one of a kind.
that 10 Things That I Hate About You reference was EVERYTHING
" I did not know it was love until Antonia called me out on it".... when you're truly in love you don't need someone else to tell you that you are in my opinion.
Bingo!
He’s never been in love before and seems very guarded so I think that makes sense. I also think he maybe didn’t have the best childhood and that is why he is the way he is. The first time you’re ever in love or have to say it is so scary, you sometimes can barely admit it to yourself. Some people take longer to open and I feel those are usually the real gems.
At this point, Tayshia could end up with any of three and i will be happy!
Honestly, a Bachelor-themed poetry book is not the worst merch idea....
Love it.
Let’s start a petition to have Bachelor Fantake write poems every episode. Because that was just *chef’s kiss*
Anyone can be bachelor expect brendan he's too wholesome
Brendan is my favorite ❤️
Zac's dad gets my final rose.
it’s not that Ben “owed” her emotion, but if he can’t show that and that’s what she wants in a relationship, then she can’t sacrifice that. she was doing what was best for her, although it is heartbreaking
Fantake was talking about their breakup: once she’s split with him, Ben doesn’t owe her any emotion over their breakup, especially if he’s stunned and working through what just happened
@@jadethirlwall1573 that’s true! i just saw that scene outside as her giving him another chance, so that’s why she was acting in a way where she might be seen as acting entitled to a more emotional breakdown over the “breakup”
@@abigail9726 I agree! I definitely see how she was basically giving him an opportunity to fight for her and she was disappointed he didn’t take it; but from his perspective, he probably didn’t realise there was still a chance and was trying to process her sending him home. At that point, he probably thought there was no point in being emotional when she was breaking up with him. I just don’t think they were on the same page with that 🥺
@@jadethirlwall1573 i totally agree. so sad :((
Usually I don't give videos a like on TH-cam but when a man writes a whole dang poem/parody of a 90s classic, you gotta give it the respect it deserves
👍 You keeping doing you, Fantake. We appreciate it
1. That 10 Things I Hate About You reference...chef's kiss
2. With such an exquisite final 4, I wonder if a brother-husbands scenario has crossed Tayshia's mind.
3. 8:49 Oh my God! Sending love to Chris's dad!
4. All the hometowns were great and drama-free. Can we please have it like that from now on?
5. Oh no, Ben's gone. :-( But I would be just as sad if any other three were gone.
6. God the heat in Palm Spring then must have been atrocious.
I agree with everything you said!
And just to emphasize one point for any Bachelor Nation producers who might see this: Great quality contestants = low drama/high romance = happy viewers 😁
I feel like we really needed to talk about that sweat more. It was DRIPPING off of Zac. DRIPPING.
I really love Ben, I love how open he was about struggling.
So Bennett and Noah’s family were quarantining just in case I would love to have seen that
Yes!
The only relationship that feels real to watch is with Zac
✨❤️Zac‘s Mom❤️✨
That’s it, that’s the comment.
🥺🥺
I love her
"He's smiling"..🥺🥺😭🤧
I hope Ivan will be the next bachelor after Matt James
I can honestly say that I have no idea who I want her to end up with. Like I can’t even pick a front runner. They’re all just so amazing!!!!😍😭