NoFap 45 day Update | Accidental RELAPSE
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 17 ต.ค. 2024
- 45 day NoFap Update. I relapsed after 45 days of NoFap, but it was an accident I swear!
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I noticed some think this vid may not be spiritual. But he is raw...just like he says. From where I see it, spirituality is more than inspiring abstract concepts delivered by a highly well spoken individual or intricate "documentaryesque" (exceptionally executed I must say) presentations. In my humble opinion he is getting to the heart of the day to day struggle that IS dealing with something as deeply rooted as rebooting from sexual energy. He is establishing soverignty and the process is f*@$ing messy (yes it includes working through shame) and he gives no 💩s about sharing the details, as "mundane" as they seem. In my eyes...he's a badass. Well done, sir. Thanks for sharing it.
And as much as people ( I myself used to included ) bash "religion" .. That's what real religion is and when it is useful and working .. checking yourself.. doing for others as you would do for yourself ... connecting with the source, which is God.
Day 45! Ha I’m doing great
Wait... is that a f-female girl
IM COOMINGGG... AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
45 days?? That's a fuckin win in my book mate. Can't wait 3 days 😂. Good effort man, good effort
mate 45 days is proof you can go another 45. give it another go, then another, then another. we'll be about to watch your videos.
You already fudged up the moment you started edging.
True
I am crying bro!! LOL . I can relate for sure LOL . Much Gratitude! "The Four agreements" "Think and grow rich"
I'm lowkey glad you relapsed right around the same time as me... I'm with you from now on mate! This helped me a lot.
Tom you got balls mate, I'm on the journey with you. Will do the best that I can to be aware of all subtle deception 🙏🔥
Jesus christ Tom, I can barely get past 3 days, most ive gone is a week. Its really tough 😔
I managed 2 and a half weeks and I thought I was gonna lose my mind lol
Just checked this channel after watching the other for years. I LOLed at seeing this 😂 (don't take that the wrong way) You're incredible dude, your honesty is so great and opens up the door to so many people. Keep it going homie!
Thanks for sharing this dude, I'm going to get back on that train as well. Much love
Bro it's all good! It happens my guy!! If you know in your mind that PMO is something you don't want to do, then you're all good :)
I forgot the original goal date but I think that it’s awesome you have identified something in your life you wanted to change and went all in!
Just yesterday I relapsed too... i was at a bad spot mentally and didn't really care about what I was about to do. So this is my promise to take better care of my mental health. I'm in this with you Tom and I'm not gonna fuck up this time!
Tom! I'm a 26 yr old Aussie psychonaut running No Fap- I feel like our circumstances are fairly similar! However I'm actually doing 'easy mode' with intention to remove porn and fapping forever as a lifestyle change rather than a 90 day 'challenge'. It means a slower reboot but is more sustainable so in my mind is the better option long term. I'll also say that doing an intensive meditation retreat was useful both as a dopamine detox and in developing the mental skills needed to crush PMO. Also, UniversalMan is the best No Fap channel I've found, would recommend. Good luck brother!
well done 45 days but don't be hard on yourself!
Good to see your honesty man, keep up the good work man ❤️
Good on you mate! It's great to have this update and I cant wait for the Peru stuff later this year
I respect your openess and willingness to share your journey, especially given that a more prude person would call this perverse (lol).
This is what Sun Tzu was taking about when he said that if you cannot win you should loose well. In every failure, the progress made within it serves as a jumping-off point for your next attempt . Provided you integrate it, of course.
Good luck with your current journey.
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keep ur head up. No pun intended lol. no point edging, u will not win!
I'm on day 50
What about now?
Day 5 here
Respect bro! You're such an inspiration! I've made it for 30 days, but with one unintentional relapse during sleep. Have you had problems with "wet dreams"?
I have, wet dreams suck. I've gone like 3 weeks before without even thinking about ejaculation, only to have it happen randomly in my sleep, i hate that.
I do it now for a bit more than a half year. In the first 3-4 months i had "wet dreams" once in a month. Now I didn´t had it for about 3 months.
Our body is used to consume the sexual energy with the ejaculation. Our body must first become accustomed to use the sexual energy in another way.
I can´t give you a tip how to avoid wet dreams, but i think it will stop after a few months when you don´t have sex or masturbate.
A wet dream is totally natural and normal since it’s your body’s only way of getting rid of old semen if you’re abstaining from sex and masturbation. Wet dreams will occur indefinitely for most people who are not sexually active. An “unintentional relapse” is not a relapse at all because you had no control over it. It’s just your body doing its thing. We are sexual creatures with sexual needs after all... although I do agree that semen retention does have benefits and I’ve been on this journey for about a year and a half and I get a wet dream like once every month, sometimes once every 3-4 weeks.
Kiliab Gonzalez is really annoying
Based stay strong we got this
Would love to see an update video!
Thanks for this honest video Tom! It just came to me in time, after this intense super FullMoon time when I reflect a lot about my life. Funny that my bf doesnt watch porn, but I do, sometimes. Time to finish that for sure
I just went through Da Same SHiet today ! God damn .. Da same shiet around afternoon ! Fuck mirrors!*
Thumbnail is hilarious.
Day 47!! Keep going Gentlemen!!
Denial always leads to deviance. God does not want His seed of creation wasted. The road to real spirituality is paved with love. I think you may have realized this truth.
Well done mate I wish I had as much self control as you I've never gone 45 days before the longest I've gone without porn is around 30 days (I still fapped like twice though) I want to do a whole month without fapping or porn eventually but for now I just go for as long as I can because I feel like resisting the urges actually feels worse than slight loss of motivation from a relapse hahaha
Be careful with no fap, as it can mess with hormone levels. Impotency or sexual troubles may result from abstaining too long from ejaculation. Instead, I would suggest to gradually quit. Be more mindful of the body's needs. One time you may not resist the temptation and fap, that's fine. Do it and don't be guilty about it, just go for it and enjoy ! Another time you might resist the temptation, that's great ! You are one step closer to your goal. Do this enough times and it will be easier and easier as time goes.
As I see it, it's not about how long you abstain from something (tobacco, weed, sugar, porn...), but rather how well you manage your pulsions the moment they arise. This is how to master yourself in every area. Each battle you resist makes you stronger. And one "relapse" doesn't need to be seen as a failure, but a step towards success. Don't be too focused on abstaining for a long period, as the body may build a "trauma" and you will never be at peace with the issue you're working on. And it will also be easier to relapse if the body still needs something.
I am celebrating 50 days today. 25 december 2019 - 13 february 2020. No edging i am not even interested in that. Only 1 wet dream so far. Not a dream but just wet morning.
I did it for 6 months guys. I'm sure you can do it. Although it wasn't really my decision.
Explain how it wasnt ur decision? 😆
@@zipel ikr wtf
When you Get too a Year spay chrome on ya face and say WITNESS ME... where you up at Mt D in ya mushroom vid Tommy??.. if i find out your a hills boy you gona be in trouble =P..
im on day 365 been celibate for a year you should consider celibacy Tom
Update?
I'm glad to hear your progress. However, I find specific diets and whether or not someone's having sex has very little to do with higher consciousness. Certain books (like the bible) may make us think that we should be "shameful" for having sex or masturbating, but at the end of the day its harmless to others, and ourselves (unless we have some strange harmful fetish). But I give you props for being able to go that long without sex personally. Its a cool thing to do as a challenge and self discipline, but I don't think it has very much to do with spiritual growth at the end of the day. I'm just speaking my thoughts. I may be wrong.
Well you are wrong nofap or celibacy is one of the most important parts of spirituality and it's in buddhism Hinduism etc even Christianity
It's also helpful in meditation to have a clear mind and to have stable energy
@@dotaboy888 I think you misread my comment. We can't rely on everything we read in religious books. That's the point of spirituality. Breaking away from the old religious practices that no longer serve our highest good.
@@dotaboy888 And the Bible also says the men should have short hair, and women should keep their mouth shut when men are speaking. Now obviously this is completely ludicrous. But these books were written by PEOPLE. And Hinduism and Christianity are RELIGIONS! Read something from paganism and they have a COMPLETELY different view on sex. They see it as sacred. So who are we supposed to believe if all these books are saying different things? I just say we look within.
@@howardalbertsen5870 it has nothing to do with whether someone wrote it or not because I am celibate and I'm much happier than when I was jacking off to porn, those who chase pleasure will never be happy, and it doesn't matter if pagans use it in their rituals to achieve something,
my spiritual goal is to not have any desire so performing any ritual doesn't really align with what I want to achieve if you get what I mean
😂😂😂
What s the plan after 90 days?
Do you do kundalni yoga to strengthen your pc muscles and raise your sexual energy out of the lower chakras to the higher
But at what cost?
what a waste : I would lick it off. fake is.rael & love is not pretending.
Cita Previa Honestly the way he thinks about it seems harmful. We are humans designed to reproduce. If you are having sex with you girlfriend you are fulfilling that roll. I can understand not wanting to desensitize your brain to porn, that makes total sense and nofap up to one month has had benefits (because of the sperm generation cycle) but after that is just a exercise in willpower which is fine but you can use that willpower elsewhere for more benefit. Shaming yourself for failing is harmful to your mental state especially when it’s something as pointless as nofap
Every sperm is sacred
Every sperm is great
If a sperm is wasted,
God gets quite irate
Let the heathen spill theirs
On the dusty ground
God shall make them pay for
Each sperm that can't be found
Not watching porn and not masturbating are two different things. Why not start by just giving up porn?
Good for you, cause not only for you, but! A little advice. Strong will in matters of low lust should be affirmatively strengthened within the Gospel. So you don't subconsciously see even greater benefit from even better sex and potency thanks to less frequent masturbation, and you set yourself completely different, you really don't think about it. Otherwise it is like the "strong will" shown in one of our old Polish cabarets. There is a guy whose wife went on vacation with the children. He was alone. His wife said "don't drink," but he says the road "accidentally led him to a liquor store." He tells himself that strong will tells him that he doesn't care at all. Well, what a strong will untested: I will go to the glass, look at alcohol ... yes, I'm not interested at all! The guy turns around ... but wait. What a strong will, so look through the glass. I will prove to be a "real man" only when I enter the store. And yes, testing strong will led the guy down to the fact that he wandered with a bottle of vodka, put it on the table. Let his senses work on everything and he has a strong will and is gloating at his strong will! Ha! It doesn't touch him. He puts the vodka in the fridge, takes it out again, pours it. A strong will is terrible, but he is fighting it. After a while, the guy finally DRINKS the vodka poured, saying "I deserve something for this strong will!" :)
Pointless.
I've actually done pretty well at not watching porn, it used to be a big part of my life and then i realized it was silly and i stopped focusing so much on it, Aya really helped me get a grip on that. Then a year ago i got into a relationship and that's made it much easier to not watch porn, obviously lol, but still i find myself not really "in the mood" nearly as much as i used to be and can go days or even a couple weeks without really thinking about ejaculation. The worst part imo/ime, is when you're doing good and haven't ejaculated for awhile, and you're sleeping and cum in your sleep, i hate that lol, it's happened quite a few times and i always wake up like "dammit!" lol. But eh, not a big deal, so long as you can correct your mindset surrounding sex, porn, women and all that, that's really all that matters imo.
No doubt, society is overly sexualized, and my gf hates that, like seriously, i can't even scroll through facebook or watch a movie or tv show without the fear/anxiety of seeing some woman, whether naked, half naked or fully clothed but is attractive because my gf flips her shit because of her own insecurities about how she looks and sees herself, which she's very attractive and i wish she would see that, but it's a work in progress i guess, i just wish she wouldn't get mad at me because an otherwise good movie or show has some naked woman or sex scene or if i'm scrolling through facebook and something sexual happens to pop up. She's even unfollowed several people and groups because she didn't like what someone posts, so i've had to change my password and then she got mad about that lol. Anyone got any advice on what to do about that though? I've told her, i can't control what people post, and i can't help it that there's some good movies and shows that contain unnecessary sexual content, but i'm a grown ass man and i'm going to watch what i wanna watch because i'm not going to let something stupid/silly like that prevent me from watching something that's otherwise good. It's never been an issue for me personally, but she's convinced that because of her own insecurities, i'm going to find someone more attractive than her and like leave her or something, but i've tried to comfort her and re-assure her and i've done what i can but i told her ultimately it's her issue and she shouldn't let what others do affect her, it's an issue she's going to have to work through and that she shouldn't let the weight of the world get her down, i've even told her if she wants me to i'll gladly fast forward through sex scenes or nudity or hide posts on facebook but i feel like she expects me to do all the compromising while she is just rooted in her ways. Even if she's scrolling through her facebook or she's watching something herself and sees something, then she gets all upset and depressed, so idk what else to do really.
Also, imo, if one can be on top of themselves and control themselves, i don't see it as a bad thing if one is doing this kinda thing to still offer pleasure to one's significant other, as in going down on them or what not, i mean you personally don't have to have sex or cum or what not in order to give pleasure to someone else, so sometimes i won't feel in the mood personally but my gf does so i'll go down on her to satisfy her but not really be concerned about myself because so long as i'm in the right mindset, if i don't wanna cum then i'm happy regardless. So to those who follow nofap, just know, if you can control yourselves, and stick to your routine and mindset, it's perfectly acceptable imo to satisfy your partner, satisfying doesn't require penetration or for the favor to be returned.
Also i think for some people it may be worth checking out consuming Caapi vine tea or Syrian Rue seed tea/capsules (the Harmalas found in Ayahuasca), as at least for me personally it's helped me to abstain from ejaculation. Another thing that may be worth trying, is pure Limonene (a terpene found in Cannabis and a variety of other plants), you can find Limonene in a variety of essential oils or even the pure isolated Limonene on like amazon or ebay. For example, if i take 10 drops of Limonene, or 10 drops twice a day of Lemon essential oil, i find that it helps me get a grip on my usually overactive libido, and puts me into a good mindset, it has some anti-depressant activity through the Serotonin 1A receptor which while it offers pretty good anti-depressant and anti-anxiety properties, the pure Limonene anyways does unfortunately seem to share a common side-effect with pharmaceutical anti-depressants like SSRI's in that it can reduce libido and lustiness, which depending on who you are, can either be a good thing or something undesirable. Lemon essential oil though, seems to not get in the way as much as using pure Limonene.
But the Harmalas, and Limonene, i've found to be pretty useful for aiding in getting a grip on your libido.
Sabnock1990 I think it’s not fair for you to have to fast forward parts or unfollow groups because your GF is insecure. If you really like her and think there’s a future with her she definitely needs counseling.
It’s gonna be hard to just say hey, you need to get some therapy....but if you suggest couples counseling I think the outside third party can start to help her with things and maybe help you to understand the underlying cause.
@@litgirlablaze3432 - Yeah she knows she needs therapy, she's got a few issues, particularly with insecurities and moodiness/ragey outbursts, she apparently thinks she has borderline personality disorder, and has a history of such issues. I'm trying to work with her on her issues, but ultimately i think either some sort of actual therapy, or psychedelic psychotherapy, will help her. Personally, i'm wanting her to dive into the Ayahuasca, i'm very experienced with it and i know it'd help her overcome a lot, even though it'd take time and integration and i've told her that it's okay if she relapses with her issues because it's bound to happen, it's happened with me and some of my issues, but so long as she seriously works on improving herself, that's all that matters. I know she has the potential to be a better person for herself, we just gotta get her there somehow.
She's had some psychedelic experiences, but apparently hasn't entered full on territory and hasn't had like mystical experiences and all that, there's so much that i think she could learn from Aya but she's not yet ready for psychedelic work, so i'm trying not to shove it down her throat but i do tell her now and then that imo it could help her out a lot. I personally wouldn't be where i am today if it had not been for Aya, i mean i no doubt still have things to work on myself, but i've come a long way from where i used to be.
She also complains a lot about her mom, her dad isn't bad but he certainly doesn't help as much as he could imo, her dad basically just tries to not get into arguments with her mom and doesn't really do or say anything unless her mom jumps on his ass about something and then he gets pissed off and goes off on her. I've just been trying to get everyone to calm down and try to communicate but as we know, when things are heated it's hard for common sense to get through people's heads lol. She blames her mom for a lot and says she has childhood trauma (which i think a lot of us do), and plus she was bullied or made fun of in school sometimes (i was too), and so she thinks she's not good enough for whatever reason. She also has a history of self-harm like cutting, or hitting herself, bashing her head into the wall (i've done that too, though, i have Aspergers/Autism, and while i've had my ragey moments, ive actually done very well these last few years getting a grip on my patience, tolerance, and remaining level-headed when irritated). She also has 2 kids, and her second born is 3 and is quite the whiner/complainer and it drives her up the wall lol, but she's been doing a good bit better lately so i'll give her some credit where credit is due, i know it's not easy being a mother, but ultimately she needs to get a grip on herself and her life because she's much stronger and more powerful than she knows, she's sexier than she thinks, she's so much more than she sees herself to be or is capable of, and really i mean there's only a few issues of hers that i don't like, but i know she can overcome them and change for the better, for herself, if she really put in the effort to make the changes she needs to make.
But yeah, i agree that i shouldn't need to fast forward things or unfollow people or groups, or overall avoid even looking at another woman whether in person or on a screen, it's silly and she should trust me more and listen to me when i tell her i know right from wrong and i'm not going to leave her for someone else, i would never ever cheat (i'm not that kind of person), and i even agree with her that society is overly sexualized, i've been saying that myself for years lol, but i've got a good control over myself and i'm not retarded, if i see something i don't put any thought into it at all, i just look past it, which imo isn't hard to do, but for her, for whatever reason, she just gets so upset. But i'm hoping over time she will be able to not let that kind of stuff affect her and ruin her day/night or mood or make her feel depressed about herself, it's not worth it and it's silly, and she should be a bit more mature than that imo.
Sabnock1990 duuuuude! I relate so much to what you’re saying about your GF. I haven’t been diagnosed but I have looked into it and I believe that I may have BPD as well. I have easy mood changes and outbursts of anger and when I get mad it’s hard to talk me down. I also have this weird thing where I can totally think this person I’m with can be the best person ever and I wanna be with them my whole life then they’ll say something or do something and in my mind all of a sudden it’s “there’s no way I can be with this person”. Even with friends or family it seems to be like your fucking everything or you’re fucking nothing. 😬And even writing that makes me ashamed. But that’s my mind... 🤦🏽♀️
I feel like my opinions on things change a lot too. I too have issues from childhood and think it stems from that a lot. But have been doing counseling and think that has helped a lot throughout the years of it. I have recently lost a ton of weight being sick and am uncomfortable with my body naked because I feel too skinny. So I can totally understand where she’s coming from. I really don’t want it to seem like I’m talkin bad about your girl. I mean, throwing in kids, toddlers at that, she probably doesn’t even feel like she can work on herself cause she has lil minis to raise and I’m sure she puts them first.
I have been looking into Aya as well. I even applied to the Kentucky Ayahuasca retreat that VICE has been playing 😂🤦🏽♀️🤞🏽 And been researching places you can have the experience legally. I mean, if I knew what I was doing and could find it at home I would, but that’s not one you come across normally. 😜
But ya I am pretty experienced with psilocybin and have tried LSD back when I was in my late teens early 20s. I think I am in desperate need of a reset psilocybin experience but am a bit scared with the way my mindset has been, that it could go bad. 🤷🏽♀️ You know the whole set and setting thing and having a good headspace?
It sounds like you love her and you are willing to put the time in and work together to grow from this. I think it’s awesome she’s even open to communication about this stuff which is the first step.
Didn’t knew you doing it wtf. Seems like a waste of time tbh.
You cant take all steps at once to "heaven", or your goals, its always one step at a time. Reaching 45 days is super amazing, like you always tell us, you can always see reality in different perspetives and its easy to blame ourselfs for messing up because of our Brains and how we are constructed by nature and men, but positivity and love is the other side never to forget.
Thats my number 1 rule for life. Keep going 45 days now, next time maybe 54 and who know if you really want it you WILL overcome this easily in time.
I know exactly your problem and was there too, but life helped me out and it became much more easy to stop for me but i am lucky i guess, however,
keep going brother
I went 29 days I’m so ashamed of myself
@@emi6247 Well im proud of you anyway, keep going brother