+Charlotte Maison I am sorry you are hurt, it's been a few months and I have moved on to a much better person, I look back to this comments I made and I am happy to know that it wasn't the end of the world. Give it time
How do you learn to love and value yourself? After the person who made you feel loved and valued leaves you and you are all alone and no longer feel good about yourself.
Dont do it. I feel the same though. We dated for a few times and he was so fascinating and hot and perfect. Too perfect for me I guess. After our last date he said he will let me know when he has time but he didn't Text me until now. It hurts so much. I truly fell for him. U just have to let your self love win in the end and see the end of a releationship as a beginning of sth new. I take walks, go for jogs ,sometimes start crying but I keep on keeping on because I love myself (at least I try to)
+Tommy Marus "too perfect for me i guess". you take that back right away...if someone tells you he will text you and then leaves you hanging, he is far from being perfect and you're probably too good for him!:)
That's how I feel. Wish almost I had not met her, but that is the easy way out my friend. I also feel blessed and privileged to have had time with her. I hope she is doing well...that's all we can do is send love and light and move on.
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+2NDSIDE lol. this is the case for everyone who is "heart broken" at least in the beginning. Its really about wanting what you lost - otherwise when it comes to "love" and "attention" you can get that - if anything fairly easy. Best thing to do is pace yourself and dont fall in the disappointment phase. When the right time comes (right person) you know you're ready.
One thing I beg all of you not to do, please do not jump right into another relationship, do not use that as a means of getting over your ex, it is probably the worst thing you can do. After a breakup you are much more vulnerable and low, and if you go right into another relationship it is likely just a subconscious way to make yourself feel wanted, loved, because you were so used to having that kind of reassurance from someone else. Be by yourself for a while! Wait until you are comfortable and happy by yourself again first!
I usually don't comment on these type of topics but speaking as a man who just broke up with the so called love of his life I must say that it does and will get better, I'm not quite at that stage yet but I know it will because it's happened before but not at this particular level. Please people, don't think, just know that everything happens for a reason even if we aren't aware of why at the moment, heartbreak is horrible to deal with but it is manageable and either you will find true love again or true love will find you, I respect you all for being vulnerable and putting your feelings on display, I wish you nothing but the best!!!!
Freshly dumped 9 hours ago... my heart hurts..i am a guy and i admit that i have been crying now for the last 9 hours. Im shaking and I feel so lost and hurt. :(
You're probaly a young guy.What you haven't learned yet--and it takes a few times before you get this--is that there are things a guy can do to dramatically increase his chances things like this don't happen. The other thing you'lllearn is that almost always someone comes along who, although you can't believe it now, you will like much, much more. I've been through this twice. But what you cannot do is contact this girl in any way. Go to Corey Wayne's you tube site. There are 1,500 videos. I guarantee you'll find some that will stop the pain a bit.
this is why im scared to fall in love again man that pain is no joke! i started drinking alot sometimes i wish i wasn't alive,but you have to train ur mind to stop thinking about her, and stay away from anything that remind you of her like music and romantic movies if you practice that trust me getting over her is the best Revenge!
heartbreak from true love is without a doubt the worst kind of pain, no getting rid of it, no erasing memories and trying to live with the pain. its crazy how someone can bring you the most joy and/or the most pain.
I broke up with my girlfriend today, and experiencing intense frustration and anger and sadness, and being broken. . .Jesus there's nothing worse. I'll survive this though, I am certain of this. I was ready to break it off, then I ran back because I was scared of losing her. Her cold demeanor showed me she wasn't the one I was meant for. Whatever is out there in the universe, keep fucking me over. It truly, most definitely really hurts, but it's not gonna kill me. . .
Feeling better man, but still healing. It's a slow process. I was ready to commit to this woman for life. I still miss her, and think about her every day still. But life is what it is I suppose. No point in crying about her forever. Slow and steady wins the race. Break through, not down :)
friend, I'm going thru it now . My girl called me yesterday and told we already broke up, I'm no longer into your or your relationship. I don't seem to be her worth Itseems. But I still see her as my angel only. Not able to sleep, not able to talk with anyone. Feel like being around her. Actually I'm an Indian she's too an Indian. I have come Philippines for my studies and she's their India.it's a sort of distance relationship.It might take another 4 months for me to visit India again. Her thoughts, her voice.. Everything is killing me Bro. Wanted to get to her She blocked me in all sources, not able to move on any way. Changed her number. Its going more than worse in me. Though it's hell Hoping for something good to happen. Why don't she understand me and come back to me. Feels better that you...my friend is feeling better. Hugs .tc Brother.!
take heart brother, im going through a rough breakup as well man... deep down we know we'll get better but we just don't want to leave the person behind because we love them so much, we just have to brace it.. take up something active, i forced myself to a gym and it really is helping me... "this too shall pass"
I wish I could get over my boyfriend dying of cancer. We were looking forward to being together a long, long time. This is our anniversary month (May). There are times when I don't cry as much, and times (like now) when I just can't stop crying. He went home to heaven September 2012, three days after his 65 birthday. I still love him, deeply. Very deeply.
It's crazy that you could go from loving that person to not even talking to them like it never existed. Mine just happened to happen 3 hours ago and it feels like garbage. Everything is fine but it just hits that person that they don't want you anymore. You never wanna let go especially when that person had made you the happiest you have ever been.
I feel horrible , we bein together for 4 years . After being together everyday , having great communication . Now im living in hell of pain, While im in pain loving her ... She is happy being single talking to guys , (Flirting) While im here trying to fix things . its just so much pain ... and then she text me to tell me " she loves me " nd couple hours later she is flirting again with someone else . Icant even eat , sleep , or live my life happy anymore !
+Khid Fer hey man. you are a man. fuck that bitch. i'm sorry but she is not worth your love. tell her: if you love me, then come back to me. if you don't, then leave me alone and keep that bullshit to yourself. you are not a puppet, do you think someone will fall in love with a whiny bitch who lets his ex walk all over him? best of luck bro
+Semper Fidelis i am speaking from experience. you need to break the bonds. no staying friends bullshit or whatever... how do you think this is going to end up in the long run? you will stay friends with her, definitely ending up in the friend zone because you do not have the traits a woman is looking for when you are at her disposal any time she feels like going back to you and then she'll start seeing another guy and you'll hurt even more. end it now and for good after you've asked her if she still loves you and wants to go back with together with you. if she doesn't, break it off now, yes it will hurt, tears are coming to my eyes as i am typing this but it will not hurt as much as still being involved with her on a friendship basis, still hoping and seeing her with the next guy. let go my friend
Carlos Rivera I Did It , I Left Everything . So Far Im Doing Way Better Wuthout Her ... She Was Acting All Bad Nd Destroying All Are Stuff . But Now She Feeling Guilty Nd Im Not About To Take Her Back , Im Enjoying Life Rn !
Semper Fidelis Thank You Bro , I Left Her No Contact Stoped Talking To Her Nd I Guess She Feeling Guilty She Unblocked Me From Stuff , But Im Still Not Gonna TalkTo Her , I Put Thru The Rough Part Nd I Found Happiness Now Its Her Turn ! Thank You Semper 👌
Yup heartbreak sucks.. The worst pain there is.. You can't eat.. You can't sleep.. You can smile or laugh all you can do is think of her/him and it drives you stir bar shit crazy.. But tell yourself this.. You are in this position now.. Why.. I tell myself no matter how much I loved her.. And i thought she was the ONE.. If we were meant to be I wouldn't be in this position now.. 5 years all gone.. Done n dusted.. She has now moved on and is finally happy so I am happy for her.. The hardest part... The VERY hardest part is the no more contact.. She may as well be dead. So in a sense I am grieving for her.. I built up a strong friendship with her children but now I have to kiss that goodbye.. It's the hardest thing I have ever experienced.. But I am truly happy for her... I still love her and always will.. But I tell you what it does not help when she lives 10 minutes down the road from me.. Love can be beautiful.. Love can be amazing.. But on the flip side live can rear you apart.. But as the old saying goes... One door closes another one opens.. Damn I miss her......
My boyfriend of 4 years broke up and moved out. I am so broken. I have to move my whole life. I have to get out of the apartment we shared for 2 years because the pain being in the bed without him is too hard. We both know it's for the best but we both love each other very very much. I'm scared and sad and can't do anything. I hope everyone else is ok, and thank you for reading
Hi Olivia.. i feel you.. I am going thru the same thing right now.. and what I do, is just go to the gym almost everyday, take deep breathes, and try to keep yourself busy, and not think about him.. it's not goin to be an easy journey, but you need to fight, and first u need to cry it all out.. because as long as d pain is inside u, u can not move on... so be alone, listen to love songs, and cry.... as much as u want.. and im telling u, after it's out, you will be able to focus more, and start step by step moving on.. I'm with u.. will pray for ur emotional healing... Godbless....hope i helped a little...
i have lost my true love, due to my own childish and stupid mistakes, but each time we talk i want to tell her i still love her and im sorry for everything, even though the break up was both of our faults i miss her so much, she meant the world to me and i messed everything up, im well and truly heartbroken, but my friends are there for me and helping me, whenever im off work my friends get me out of the house and jus take my mind off her and my feelings towards her, i jus want to thank them and i want to tell that special girl that i still love her.
Webheadgamer I'm going through the same thing with my ex. So I'd like to understand why you can't tell your ex how much you miss her and that you still love her? I'm asking because my ex calls me every now and then but doesn't tell me he misses me or loves me so I went no contact and stopped answering his calls.
I had a breakup after being in a relationship for almost 3 years. She said she'll be with me forever and would marry me in the future. We even started to think about the future, kids, a house and everything. But, I lost her because of my own doings. Now, she hates me and says that i broke her heart and trust. There's this another guy whom I've been knowing since childhood. He likes her now. They go to the same university so they meet everyday. Me? I live in the UK now and will be going back home for a month but, she says she does not want me to meet her.I AM SO HEART BROKEN. I feel like ending myself and getting rid of the pain.
NO ONE... is worth your life. Life is like being on a roller coaster on a foggy day. Just because you have a down does not mean there wont be any more ups. Also you need to think about that person. If you really love them, killing yourself will only hurt them and for the rest of their life they will be afraid to ever trust or love again. In a sense, by killing yourself you have killed them... That's murder my friend. Its not worth it. Hang in there buddy.
As soon as you read this, go to Corey Wayne's website. This sounds like a long-sidtant-relationship and they are notoriously difficult to make work. The failure rate is very, very high. But go to Corey's site. You may find a key to turning this around.
zigzack54 Man, thank you so much for that comment. Like, it's been long. I did eventually go back home just to be shooed by her. But, in the process, I learnt to let go. Even though I had so many memories with her. Eventually, I fell in love again with someone else. Like, She's my best friend and what I feel for this girl has superseded every feeling I had for my ex. I feel happy now. Even though, I haven't expressed my feelings for this girl, I feel like my old happy self again. So, for everyone who's out there in a world of pain. Let go! It's the best thing you can do. Yes, the first few months will be the toughest months of your lifetime. But, keep this is mind. When a heart broken chap like me can fall in love again...why can't you? Think about it..cheers. :)
AMAN1640 I am really glad to hear that my friend. I also was on the down side of the roller coaster when I left that comment. It sounds like I also need to find my best friend somewhere out there and let go of those old feelings. Thank you.
Well here I am again, heartbroken. Remember everyone; you are beautiful people with lovely personalities. Right now if you want to move on you must confirm you have broken up with your ex, and make a massive mental effort to completely block them out. You must block them on: Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Snapchat/iMessage/WhatsApp/anything. Unfollow (but you don't have to unfriend) her/his friends on Facebook who frequently post pictures up with her, this means you won't see anything they post, but you're still friends on Facebook. You don't want to see these things. Block them if you have to. This will stop you from stalking them because you're convinced they are with somebody else. In most cases they probably are not, but sadly we develop irrational fears when we hurt. Eventually you'll meet someone new and start texting them, and meeting up. This person will soon replace your ex in your mind. You'll be waiting for the text messages from this new person. You'll become attracted to them instead. Perhaps you don't know what you want yet, but if you want to move on then please follow these steps. These helped me 4 years ago in a previous relationship, and I'm sure they will help me this time around.
I did all the steps and i just decide to quit my job too. But i still remember his phone number. I still dream about his smile, his face. Hope that i can get over this feeling when i have a new job. Please help me if you have any other effective ways to forget
Michael's program is worth every penny... The audio has helped me tremendously, it's like having personal guidance anytime of the day...You can listen to it first thing in the morning or before you go to bed, he'll guide you through the heartbreak and motivate you to get going on with your life...Thx Michael
It's been 10 years, and still can't move on. Then again, he keeps poppin' in and out of my life and I keep letting him back in. Will I ever have the strength to tell him no? Probably not. I miss his laughter, the spark, his love-filled blue eyes, calloused hands and his hungry stare at me from across a room...among other non-mentionable things. No other guy has ever compared. Often I feel that love with another is possible, yet I'm reminded of my brokenness time and time again.
You are very much like the women I hear from, every single day. I'm a relationship coach (AskNow.) Here's the thing: you have been in a pattern -with him. And you have invested 10 years of your life. What are you receiving in return? Relationships are supposed to be uplifting & enlightening. My guess is that this one is, but only when it suits him. Because it's clear in the way you wrote your post. Whatever the issue, you are clearly stuck in a cycle, a pattern. If you really want the relationship you deserve (with him) you're going to have to break that pattern. Decide exactly what it is you want/need. They're rarely the same thing. Make clear to him what it is you want. Let him respond. By staying in the cycle, you're holding yourself (and him) in a holding pattern forever. And you're keeping potentially wonderful guys from making you happy because you are comparing them to him. No guy wants to be compared, and comparing also blocks yourself from being able to feel good feelings or feel safe with anyone new. Good luck :)
Don't want all the internet people to feel sorry for me. After Maggie's response, I decided to finally move on. I met a really awesome guy this weekend!!!! :)
NICE. MAY LOVE BE WITH YOU. CAUSE WE ALL NEED LOVE. HOPEFULLY HE IS THE ONE AND IF NOT I AM HERE. CAUSE IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO PLAY FOR YOUR OWN TEAM. GODSPEED.
Only problem? We broke up because we couldn't see each other anymore. I don't have a bad memory of her. I can't do that because the heartbreak didn't hurt when it happened, but spread out for the next 6 months of my life
Thank you for this video. I'm currently going through a really hard break up but I do have faith and understand that God has something better for my life. Finding a new routine and fresh outlook will help me tremendously during this time. I appreciate you video instruction so much.
so my ex of 8 years, just recently broke it off with me 3 weeks ago! we were giving ourselves a 2nd chance after being off for 3 years straight. 8 MONTHS ago, we decided to give it another try, because we still loved one another. we were doing SO good, talked about moving in together, starting a family, being committed, marriage, etc. mind you, he's the one that came up with these ideas, he issued them out to me, of course i was happy about it! but for the past couple weeks, we were a little distant, and fighting a lot. i've been going through it msyelf, because i just lost a friend in a horrible accident, so i kinda just wanted to distant myself away from everything. we had been arguing over petty stuff lately, and a petty ass fight led to him telling me he's done with us. he's done with me, with us, him giving up is what he claims. he tells me he loves me more than ever, but he just doesn't have any hope for us any longer. but this came from one day to the next, that's what i don't get! if we hadn't gotten into that little ass fight, this would've never happened! the thing that keeps going through my mind over & over again is... WHY DOESN'T HE FIGHT FOR ME, FOR US? WHY GIVE UP NOW...? AM I NOT WORTH FIGHTING FOR? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH? the thing is, when i felt like giving up, he would beg for me to stay, he would look me in the eye & ask me "alex, after all we've been through you're ready to let our dreams go.." & i would just fall weak & remember why i love this man & i would continue fighting for us, so i would take him back! & the same night he broke it off with me, i asked him THE SAME THING and he said "i don't want us anymore, i'm done, i don't see myself with you" it hit me to the CORE, never been so hurt before in my life. this happened 3weeks ago, and i've cried myself to sleep ever since. i do text him, and he still replies, i still call, and he still answers, but he acts like a "friend" & once i start talking about US, he gets mad & hangs up on me. he says he wants to remain "cool" & hold no grudges, and at some point i was ok with that because he was still there. but it's really just HARDER, because i'm just holding on to hope now. & i know he will never come back, he's made that clear to me. so last night, i ended everything. i said i couldn't be friends with him, and he was perfectly cool with it! he said he would be ok without me in his life! (i broke down crying) :( how could i put myself out there & get nothing in return from someone i want EVERYTHING with. it hurts me DEEPLY to know it's over & done with. i don't wanna text/call but it's soooo hard, i think about him all the time, so many questions come to my mind! WHY WHY WHY!
Hi alexxamore . I'm going through the same thing this was three weeks ago and ever since he broke up with me I've been crying every night before going to bed I keep asking myself a lot of those questions that you mentioned if I was good enough or if there was something wrong with me but as you know it's not healthy to think like that about our selves unfortunately LAX chill someone else instead of me and it was hard because we were together for 2 years and he told me he loved me but the minute he met her he was capable of just throwing it all away our love our friendship we decided to stay friends but I couldn't handle it either I just talked to him yesterday and he said that we couldn't be friends anymore because the way I felt about him he was a completely different person it's hard to imagine him with another girl laughing and smiling because once I was a girl with him how can he replace me lights on so fast I know I would never do that ..I planned my whole life with him I know I have no hope I'm afraid that I'll never get through this I'm afraid I'm too weak
girl, trust me, i feel the exact same way! i decided to be friends with him, then last week we spoke on the phone & he told me he was dating someone, i broke down crying & he said he didn't want to lose me as a friend, because he still cared. but girl, NO! i cannot give him that satisfaction of still giving my "half" to him knowing how i feel about him. i don't wanna be left on the back burner for anyone! so that same day, i cut off all communication. i told him, i was done being friends, since he clearly moved on with his life... it's time for me to live mine! so we didn't speak for whole week until last night that he called me. Him: hey what's up, what you up too? ME: just got home from dinner, what's up? Him: just calling to see how you doing... ME: i'm great thank you, but i can't talk right now, i'll call you another time *hung up* LIKE REALLY how is he calling me like everything is OK when he JUST broke me into pieces? i'm so over the friend thing girl, it's impossible. we just gotta let them go, it hurts, yes, but we deserve so much better. if they can't see that we are worth fighting for, then they sure as hell don't deserve us mama. we cannot be friend with them, they broke our hearts!
OMG I did the same thing, I deleted all my photos of him and will soon block him from my FB and will cut all communication, Apparently he loves her and he told me hes starting a new chapter in his life and he has no room for me :-(. but u know i cant undestand it , i mean he cried when we said your final goodbye, he promised me we'll be friends but thats not gonna happen. How is it that they can move on so fast? How can guys just date another woman and leave us high and dry? i dotn think I did nothing wrong :(. i want the pain to go away, is it possible tolove again? its hard to picture myself with anybody else. I was so use to the routine , seeing him after work and falling asleep next to him..gosh i hope in the future someone rescues me from this dark place. :-( alexxamore
Sheyla Mallma GIRL WE ARE IN THE SAME BOAT. my routine had to change from one day to the next! literally. it was awful, I still miss him every second of the day. but realize that they're moving on now, and WE GOT TO DO THE SAME. we cannot wait on nobody to do us right, we are beautiful! (look at you!) we cannot make one person responsible for our misery. we cannot stop living our life for ONE PERSON. it took me a lot to realize this, but at this point, I thank God for rescuing me from that relationship. hard to understand, but I am content now, later on they will miss us. but we got to make them miss us. they need to realize that they lost us. & look at it this way... we didn't lose anybody, THEY lost a woman who loved them unconditionally, and that, only comes once in life.. they lost us, we didn't lose them.
I'm a single mum. I let in a man into my life for 5 months and I completely fell for him. I thought he fell for me too.. he started to become part of the family. And out of nowhere he left. He's from Ecuador, so beautiful and I feel like I'm never going to move on
+Renato Thorne Wanna know the funny thing? She broke up with her ex bcuz she fell in love with me(SHE SAID) about a week ago she broke up with me and is now back with her ex. Fucking chicks man.. hope you get better bro
+Wille Hede thanks man, same for you. but u know what, first love doesn't mean best love so fuck her, if she did that shit to you she doesn't even deserve to be in your thoughts. btw check out fuck you vy ceelo green
Yeah i've actually been listening to it quite alot lately. But you know im still in love with her so I keep thinking I will never find any better as stupid as it sounds. But my feelings are going away more and more everyday and hatred is now growing. she played me real hard. Bitches like that turns nice guys into bad guys. But I will not give up on love yet, Im still young
a- It's going to be ok b- Everyone keeps telling me that. I keep telling me that. I'm sick of always being on my way to being ok. a- The journey.. b- What about it!? a- It's not that your always on your way towards being ok. It's that life is a journey, and you need to live it. You don't get to just be "ok". You're going to be great. Do you understand what I'm saying? b- ...not entirely... a- If the universe just gave up and gave you what you wanted today, you would be "ok". Does that sound like what you really want? This is your life. There's nothing you wouldn't do for the life you have. Now do everything for the life you want.
The same thing happened to me and this girl was crazy about me, it just felt so right. She just ended it two days ago and I can't eat, sleep, and I feel sick. I hope to God for both of us that things will change for the better, and we can enjoy love and life again.
I feel so broken and I feel like I will never get over him. It's impossible to eat, to do anything without him being in my mind. He was part of my soul. I've hoped so long that things would work out but he left anyway. I've lost my identity, my mind, and my pride. I'd do anything to make this pain go away.
If I were you just go out and start working out and go out with your friends have fun try not to think about her and I tell you the truth she gonna get tired of that guy and she gonna start thinking about you again. she gonna go nut because she new she made a big mistake by letting you go. she will come back crying for you to come back. and that's gonna be up to you brother. but the main thing is you already feeling better. it happen to me and that's what I do. trust me she going to miss you so much. if she calls you don't answer the phone trust me let her leave a message but first you have to be strong. show her that you are a real men. not in a bad way but a polite way. brother im telling you the truth she will knocking on your door looking for you. the next move is all up to you. (plenty fish in the sea im just saying)
i am broken hearted now from a 7 years relationship his family arranged his marriage and he lied to me about it telling me he is going vacation for his brother's wedding... its as if like my heart is literally crushed from inside...and even im at work suddenly im in tears... this video somehow makes me sleep at night by playing it again and again...
i was cheated on by my boyfriend after 5 years of relationship. i am recovering from the heartbreak and now looking for a loyal partner. Is there anyone who is intrested in knowing me better? :) i wouldn't mind if we end up as good friends either
Barcilina Das I lost my love , She married someone else yesterday. 5 years and 6 months of true love. surviving and trying to grow and learn from it. I give you my best wishes.
eng1986eng1986 Yeah! it does, but not anymore. I have became a better man. I found out what i really want from life and now i have dedicated my life to help others. I learned a lot , not only i am emotionally strong right now but also i am feeling better than ever. I did many things , one of which is I was saying this "No one can heart me without my permission". I can't remember how many time i said it. I hard wired my mind . If you are facing this situation let me know , i know how does it feels like . I will help and trust me you will come out a better person. Feel free to contact me .
I am with you. Let me tell you , if his love true , then he would have accepted you . He didn't deserve you . Its part of life, someone better will come into your life and he will never leave you no matter what you do . True love never dies.
Brenda Snoddy I can't absolutely tell you with all honesty that I feel pain like a woman does. And I'm a man. It's a terrible and very sad feeling being heartbroken. I feel lost and empty, even 9 months after.
Thanks mate, I watch this video once in a while just to remember to stay on track and to stop romanticizing the past with my ex. Gotta keep moving forward, even though it's effing hard at times.
My GF was together 7 years with me. And after telling me that she loves me deeply and wants to grow old with me for seven years she just dumped me from one day to the next and didnt even care to try save the relationship. And she doesnt even care much about the break up. So much for "love" and honesty. And she was the woman i would've bet my soul and life that she's honest and will stay on my side no matter what. I dream of her every night and wake up and start crying since 2 months.
This guy make sense. This guy is talking about the willpower in a nutshell. Take over your feeling with your willpower. Strengthen yourselves and listen to this guy on the video. He has the same thoughts as I do, and I know from experience that he is telling the truth about movin' ahead broken hearted. xoxoxo love you all :)
This guy is spot on.... after over 3 years of bullshit, I am fine within a couple days. I kept going back and things went back to crap, rinse and repeat to the point now that I am so much better off being gone, maybe not happy yet but relieved. All I do to cure myself is look at her picture and how beautiful she is and remember the bullshit she caused in my life, I look into those eyes and wonder, what kind of fucking mess is behind them? It makes me want to delete the memories, so I do... I focus on the bad and know it outweighed the good and always would. Someone will come along just like she did, but now being a bit wiser, I will be better prepared for the warning signs.... Every person who says "just move on" and shit like that is an asshole who probably never loved anyone but themself and selfish people are best to avoid in any respect..
+Joshua Goodstein most stupid advice ever. if you have truly loved, it will only remind you what you were missing even more, i am speaking from experience(although i'm a guy who did it with a girl but still)... for me it just reminded me of what i am missing
I posted a comment ages ago .. so I thought I'd let you know your tips have also helped another mate of mine after a very bad brake up (not being overly dramatic .. but it was a bad break up.. like finding out he had a whole other life.. and had somehow made her into the other women...over time etc) .. she made amazing list... tor it up.. and shouted rather loudly ...all the names she could call him..! So your tips are still helping alot of people. thanks
this pain is just so much to bear she texted me now and after a month of not talking to me and treating me like shit,its over but i loved her so much,i literally gave my heart to her on a silver plate
As always when I read these comments I'm touched by how raw so many of them are. Heartbreak can kill, it really is that painful and I'm sorry you're up against it right now. I work a lot with people dealing with Heartbreak and my biggest recommendation is you get hold of the free chapter on my website. Even that will make a huge difference to how you feel. Sorry I can't respond to comments here so much as I get a ridiculous amount of email.
it's been 4 days and I feel like the world is moving on without me. I feel like the tears will never stop and since I don't like anyone else at my school I wonder if I'll ever find a love again. I miss my ex so much.
This message is for everyone who is going through a break up. The key to getting over someone, at the same time the best revenge is happiness. When your ex sees you happy without him/her, better yet happy with someone else, it will spark something inside him/her. So get up, go out, and be happy!!!
I do stop by and read these comments on a regular basis. It's totally normal to feel large amounts of grief when you separate from a loved one. It's the risk you take when you dare to love. Dealing with the pain is often harder when you feel alone. Go to my website and download the chapter I give away. That's all a lot of people seem to need. I'm sorry it's painful right now, it will pass and you will be OK.
I can relate sooo much to this video....I tried focusing on the pain like you said but it still didnt work....i just cant forget how happy i was with him and how happy he made me.... I know i wont be able to get over him....but I know that hes happier without me so i dont wanna be selfish and try get him back...he deserves soo much better then me
I was with my gf for two years and out of the blue she tells me she doesn't want to be with me . She leaves me starts going out with her friends a week later she tells me she's ready to see other guys. She was my first love and she broke my heart . Only the strong survive. Be strong everybody!
Okay this was way over the top. Just live on, I'm doing it and shit is getting way better for me, trust me, distract yourself with hobbies and make new friends to excite your life with. Life is too short to dwell on negatives, there is someone out there for you. You just need to go look.
you made me feel way better Mr Michael, I just broke up with my gf today after a trip, it was for good. And its so true especially the part where you have to forget about the good times coz it will hurt you, also there was a reason for the break up... thx for this video.
After the ridiculously blazay comment I left or was leaving I have to say THANK YOU. You just re-itterated what I knew BUT I needed to hear it. so from kinda watching this vid half assed, I have gone to appreciation. Cheers!
hey djany welcome we have all been there , but dont be sad and dont forget God is there for you / he delete's sm ppl from our life before those ppl become the reason for our constant depression because God loves us
man if everyone got payed for being human this man would be one of the most richest among us. this one helped me for free he probably knows that a better world starts in your own backyard and he shows it to us . your relationship is blessed in return from my side just to give something back . thanks man,peace to you and your wife ofcourse see ya
Thanks for all the advice Michael. My girlfriend just broke up with me. Because she still had feelings for her ex. She had told me she loved me, and she didn't. Lied to me about every thing. Now her best friend told her I was saying stuff about her, which I did not say anything. And she has told me to never to speak to her again. She attacked me verbally last night, telling me to grow up and that I don't know the first thing about her. I just feel lost, and I'm hurting,
Yea I can. My gf of 3 years just broke up with me 1 week ago for another guy. Nothing much you can do bro. Just move on. If you want her back, you can. But probably not anytime soon. Just keep in touch with her and once in a long while ask her out. When shes ready you will know from the way she speak to you. If its cold, wait longer. Meanwhile, focus on improving yourself. Career, physique, appearance. All this help builds your confidence. You might even attract a better girl! Cheers bro!
can i just say i just had an argument with my ex who has been my ex for about 2 weeks now and i couldnt stop thinking about her, couldnt sleep and i just felt like commiting suicide. i took one of your tests and i had 18. but i read the articles and watched your videos and im getting better already. just after 3 hours of your videos and articles. thank you for your kindness of helping others i wish i could do the same one day :)
If you love someone very deeply it will take time.....BUT......you do move on and you can be happy again. However it must be said that deep love never completely goes away.....if the person was the love of your life then a part of you will always love him/her. A broken heart can mend, but it's a bit like when you smash a plate.....you can glue it back together again but it will never be the same as it was before.
my girlfriend for 4 years just dumped me 2 weeks ago after she found out that a friend of mine since childhood likes her.she said all these while she really loved me and didnt realize that she liked that guy before, only after he confessed to her that she suddenly lost any feelings towards me and went for that guy. 4 years of great relationship was destroyed in just a week after that guy confessed.unbelievable.we were planning on getting married at the end of this year.
the thing was that he lied about how they broke up, he said that they talked together and agreed that breaking up was the best thing. the truth was she broke up with him and he started to beg and cry, so really he was really heartbroken, but i didn't know that so when she asked me out to go to the movies with she and her friend, i said yes. at the movie she grabbed my hand and since she was single i did not refuse, it happened nothing more than holding hands...
Well we spent 3 years together.that time is the most valuable time in my life.i was so worried when she was moving another country for her further studies because there was not any chance to see her for 5 years.but at the same time she broke up with me with no reason.it was the most difficult time for me.i was dying inside.but i still love her lot.i can do anything to achieve her.but it hurts a lot
my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and at first i felt fine, which was strange because i really do love him; he was my first love! yesterday we were texting and everything was fine and i started going through our old text message and my heart instantly broke.. i started crying my eyes out and asking my friends to help me get through this! i feel so much better although it hurt i am so glad i can start over with someone new and better!
Well, I was with her for 2 years, took her on holiday, left the British Army for her, and in the middle of all the plans with her she upped sticks and left, she broke up with me over Facebook and then I tried contacting her (just by texts) and she called the police!! I'm in court next week over harassment and I can't get in the Army for atleast 18 months now!! Emotions are a horrible thing!
Sounds as tho you accidentally chose a crazy woman. First of all, normal people don't breakup that way, so that's an indicator right there. She called the police? She invites drama. Did she also create drama in your relationship? You are likely better off without that in your life. She basically stole your life from you.
Maggie Maggamuff Well, the British Magistrates decided to remand me in Custody for a week to basically teach me a lesson. I can now safely say without doubt I am 100% over her, I've even tried testing myself i.e. thinking of our best times, but it just doesn't do it for me, my heart just does not skip a beat anymore! It's taken 6 weeks and 1 week in prison (and of course the sentence actually at court, 140 hours community service and £250 fine) so I can move on now! Hopefully to Her Majesty's Armed Forces next year!
Jack Kelly Unfortunately, it sometimes takes "drastic measures" aka ...prison, to stop us from the emotional/mental "addiction" to an ex. You've learned a lesson. You'll make better decisions in the future. I'm proud of you. There will be some times in the future when you feel a bit down. When those times happen, you can remind yourself of what happened. Good for you!
Progressive I'm very sorry! I misread your comment, I thought you were directing the insult towards me because it wasn't clear, I should of asked tbh! But thankyou for your concern, I've gotten over her now thankfully! And I've got a new girlfriend! Again, apologies for my last comment, I thought you were attacking me for posting that comment online :l
It gets better. Seems like it won't, but you're gonna be ok. It hurts, but if you trust in yourself, and if you are nice and try hard to be a better person, the pain will go away. You are not alone :)
The morning times hurt the worst for some reason, like its the hardest part of my day. I wake up with hope and end up in tears. i miss him so much, and im trying to move on and avoid contacting him and its killing me. This is my second heartbreak and i can tell you that it never gets easier.. i just pray that time will heal my many woundss, i dont know how ill ever love again...
if they have gone, they did not care about us enough. do we want them back? straigth away? not a chance! we BOTH have to grow up regardless of the relationship and not depend on them, or them on us. let's be free, independent, strong and absolutely wonderful!
I'll take this advice eventually. Soon. It's too fresh right now not to spend some time on the good while also thinking about the bad. It feels like part of the grieving process.
Bro reading your posting hit home. I am dealing with it now after 16 years of decidated love to her. I was the true money maker, now she is making 100K and my real estate deals are dead. She filed for divorce, dating a man that came to our wedding and just totally broke my heart. I have my moments of sad times but stay positive force yourself to talk to people and it will help. This is not a quick fix deal, this is worse than anything else you would face in life. I moved out 3 days ago. Love=lie
this was reallly helpful! I'm only 16 years old but me and my exboyfriend just broke up after a year. We've been through everything today and i can honestly say he's changed me as a person in so many ways. He is perfect and of course i still love him but his parents made our relationship so hard. So i just realized being in a relationship like that is just hurting me more. I know i could have him back if i wanted too...but i'm so unsure :\
Start by reading the last line to save time :) I had a 2 year relationship which was really amazing. Until the last day where on thing led to another and she told me that she needs space which first was frustrating but I managed to understand. I gave her space and a couple of days after wrote a message saying that I want to do my life with her and if this is what it takes I will gladly do it. I also wrote her that even if she decides to end things I will also accept that because I just want her to be happy. She never replied to my message and a couple of hours later blocked me on social media. All I ever tried to do is love her and now I'm just broken. I keep telling myself to move on and accept that but some memories of small details and emotions are constantly coming back preventing me to do so. I know that eventually I will get better, just don't know how long is going to take and this is what scares me... I just needed to write my thoughts, don't feel the need to read it. Good luck to everyone out there that are in similar situations I hope you all find joy and peace in this life.
Very briefly, what you're feeling is totally normal. There just isn't enough space here to go into it in any depth. Right now though it isn't about working out how to deal with the future, you need to take a little time to just feel sad and know it's OK. I cover all of this in the FREE chapter you can download from the heartbreak page on my site. It costs me nothing and I like the idea that I'm easing suffering in the world. Don't tough this out on your own!
I basically just broke up with my ex just now. We were each other's first of everything. We got through so many fights and arguments and we also went through a lot of romantic and beautiful moments. I loved him so much but he controlled every part of me. I couldnt do anything without him, nothing seemed fun without him. Everyone told me to leave him but i couldnt, even he himself told me i had to leave him. I knew i had to. But the hardest part is picturing him moving on without me. It's tough..
Long distance relationships do bring their own special kind of pain. Assuming you made the right decision it's going to be about sitting tight for a while and doing whatever it takes to distract yourself from the worse feelings until they pass. The grief is entirely normal even if you broke it off.
my gf told me she just needed some space.she said that she needs a few months to think about if she really loves me.i was devastated,i cryed and begged her not to leave me,i asked her if she is seeing another man and she said no!she said maybe in a few months,if i feel that i made a mistake,i will get back to you...she wanted me to wait a few months for her.a few minutes later i found text messages from her lover in her phone,telling him that they can go out now because she left me!i feel sick
The girl I have loved with all my heart and soul for two years is moving away. And I will never see her again. I will never love again, because everyone you love will eventually leave you. The pain is too much to bear. Spare yourself the unbearable heartache. Stop loving people. Stop caring about them. Stop letting people into your life that will eventually leave it. It is the only way to never get hurt again.
@JFuzzman I just watched another video on trying to stay friends, you have to let go. 8 to 12 weeks of not contacting the person will help you out and in the long run if you are better after those weeks you can be friends with them =] I'm going through a tough breakup where she was LITERALLY the ONLY person I would talk to about anything. Let go, say no. You broke up for a reason and staying in the past will bring nothing but pain. You will be okay, I promise.
This heartbreak really taught me not to give my heart so quick again, no matter what kind of shit they promise you.
Amen women r betrayers
+Clover Jetz huh? Not just women, men too.
+CamiloSanchez1979 So true OMG I learned the same thing I feel like an idiot....
+Charlotte Maison I am sorry you are hurt, it's been a few months and I have moved on to a much better person, I look back to this comments I made and I am happy to know that it wasn't the end of the world. Give it time
I agree with u.
When you truly love & value yourself you will never feel lonely again. When you master it you are untouchable.
+Ross Wright Wise words my friend! This is so true and simple which so many seem to have a hard time understanding!
How do you learn to love and value yourself? After the person who made you feel loved and valued leaves you and you are all alone and no longer feel good about yourself.
best relationship advice ever!
I want to take a pill and forget everything the past 3 years
Dont do it. I feel the same though. We dated for a few times and he was so fascinating and hot and perfect. Too perfect for me I guess. After our last date he said he will let me know when he has time but he didn't Text me until now. It hurts so much. I truly fell for him. U just have to let your self love win in the end and see the end of a releationship as a beginning of sth new. I take walks, go for jogs ,sometimes start crying but I keep on keeping on because I love myself (at least I try to)
let me know when u find that pill
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Become a wise man to!!!
+Tommy Marus "too perfect for me i guess". you take that back right away...if someone tells you he will text you and then leaves you hanging, he is far from being perfect and you're probably too good for him!:)
That's how I feel. Wish almost I had not met her, but that is the easy way out my friend. I also feel blessed and privileged to have had time with her. I hope she is doing well...that's all we can do is send love and light and move on.
I feel like I want someone to love in my life... But I also want to be alone for now. This is horrible...
+2NDSIDE get a dog, the love you no matter what and can easily fill your time as well as a void in your soul..
***** lol Fuck my ex!!
+2NDSIDE same feels
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+2NDSIDE lol. this is the case for everyone who is "heart broken" at least in the beginning. Its really about wanting what you lost - otherwise when it comes to "love" and "attention" you can get that - if anything fairly easy. Best thing to do is pace yourself and dont fall in the disappointment phase. When the right time comes (right person) you know you're ready.
One thing I beg all of you not to do, please do not jump right into another relationship, do not use that as a means of getting over your ex, it is probably the worst thing you can do. After a breakup you are much more vulnerable and low, and if you go right into another relationship it is likely just a subconscious way to make yourself feel wanted, loved, because you were so used to having that kind of reassurance from someone else. Be by yourself for a while! Wait until you are comfortable and happy by yourself again first!
I usually don't comment on these type of topics but speaking as a man who just broke up with the so called love of his life I must say that it does and will get better, I'm not quite at that stage yet but I know it will because it's happened before but not at this particular level. Please people, don't think, just know that everything happens for a reason even if we aren't aware of why at the moment, heartbreak is horrible to deal with but it is manageable and either you will find true love again or true love will find you, I respect you all for being vulnerable and putting your feelings on display, I wish you nothing but the best!!!!
Jason Tisdale hi
Freshly dumped 9 hours ago... my heart hurts..i am a guy and i admit that i have been crying now for the last 9 hours. Im shaking and I feel so lost and hurt. :(
I know how you feel , I couldn't stop crying for 3 days straight after a 14 month relationship that ended on monday, and i still feel rotten.
You'll be fine. I promise.
Hang in there buddy.
You're probaly a young guy.What you haven't learned yet--and it takes a few times before you get this--is that there are things a guy can do to dramatically increase his chances things like this don't happen. The other thing you'lllearn is that almost always someone comes along who, although you can't believe it now, you will like much, much more. I've been through this twice. But what you cannot do is contact this girl in any way. Go to Corey Wayne's you tube site. There are 1,500 videos. I guarantee you'll find some that will stop the pain a bit.
how are you now?
this is why im scared to fall in love again man that pain is no joke! i started drinking alot sometimes i wish i wasn't alive,but you have to train ur mind to stop thinking about her, and stay away from anything that remind you of her like music and romantic movies if you practice that trust me getting over her is the best Revenge!
heartbreak from true love is without a doubt the worst kind of pain, no getting rid of it, no erasing memories and trying to live with the pain. its crazy how someone can bring you the most joy and/or the most pain.
I broke up with my girlfriend today, and experiencing intense frustration and anger and sadness, and being broken. . .Jesus there's nothing worse. I'll survive this though, I am certain of this. I was ready to break it off, then I ran back because I was scared of losing her. Her cold demeanor showed me she wasn't the one I was meant for. Whatever is out there in the universe, keep fucking me over. It truly, most definitely really hurts, but it's not gonna kill me. . .
hugs
How do you feel Now my friend ? Better ? I would like to hear it from you.
thanks !
Feeling better man, but still healing. It's a slow process. I was ready to commit to this woman for life. I still miss her, and think about her every day still. But life is what it is I suppose. No point in crying about her forever. Slow and steady wins the race. Break through, not down :)
friend, I'm going thru it now . My girl called me yesterday and told we already broke up, I'm no longer into your or your relationship. I don't seem to be her worth Itseems. But I still see her as my angel only. Not able to sleep, not able to talk with anyone. Feel like being around her. Actually I'm an Indian she's too an Indian. I have come Philippines for my studies and she's their India.it's a sort of distance relationship.It might take another 4 months for me to visit India again. Her thoughts, her voice.. Everything is killing me Bro. Wanted to get to her
She blocked me in all sources, not able to move on any way. Changed her number. Its going more than worse in me. Though it's hell Hoping for something good to happen. Why don't she understand me and come back to me.
Feels better that you...my friend is feeling better. Hugs .tc Brother.!
take heart brother, im going through a rough breakup as well man... deep down we know we'll get better but we just don't want to leave the person behind because we love them so much, we just have to brace it.. take up something active, i forced myself to a gym and it really is helping me... "this too shall pass"
I wish I could get over my boyfriend dying of cancer. We were looking forward to being together a long, long time. This is our anniversary month (May). There are times when I don't cry as much, and times (like now) when I just can't stop crying. He went home to heaven September 2012, three days after his 65 birthday. I still love him, deeply. Very deeply.
you will see him again everlasting life enternal life God promises us everlasting life and he will keep his promise 100%
It's crazy that you could go from loving that person to not even talking to them like it never existed. Mine just happened to happen 3 hours ago and it feels like garbage. Everything is fine but it just hits that person that they don't want you anymore. You never wanna let go especially when that person had made you the happiest you have ever been.
That's exactly what I'm going through now. She loved me more than I loved myself.
I feel horrible , we bein together for 4 years .
After being together everyday , having great communication . Now im living in hell of pain, While im in pain loving her ... She is happy being single talking to guys , (Flirting) While im here trying to fix things .
its just so much pain ... and then she text me to tell me " she loves me " nd couple hours later she is flirting again with someone else .
Icant even eat , sleep , or live my life happy anymore !
+Khid Fer hey man. you are a man. fuck that bitch. i'm sorry but she is not worth your love. tell her: if you love me, then come back to me. if you don't, then leave me alone and keep that bullshit to yourself. you are not a puppet, do you think someone will fall in love with a whiny bitch who lets his ex walk all over him? best of luck bro
+Semper Fidelis i am speaking from experience. you need to break the bonds. no staying friends bullshit or whatever... how do you think this is going to end up in the long run? you will stay friends with her, definitely ending up in the friend zone because you do not have the traits a woman is looking for when you are at her disposal any time she feels like going back to you and then she'll start seeing another guy and you'll hurt even more. end it now and for good after you've asked her if she still loves you and wants to go back with together with you. if she doesn't, break it off now, yes it will hurt, tears are coming to my eyes as i am typing this but it will not hurt as much as still being involved with her on a friendship basis, still hoping and seeing her with the next guy. let go my friend
Dude trust me walk away . Have no contact with her
Carlos Rivera I Did It , I Left Everything . So Far Im Doing Way Better Wuthout Her ...
She Was Acting All Bad Nd Destroying All Are Stuff . But Now She Feeling Guilty Nd Im Not About To Take Her Back , Im Enjoying Life Rn !
Semper Fidelis Thank You Bro , I Left Her No Contact Stoped Talking To Her Nd I Guess She Feeling Guilty She Unblocked Me From Stuff , But Im Still Not Gonna TalkTo Her , I Put Thru The Rough Part Nd I Found Happiness Now Its Her Turn ! Thank You Semper 👌
Yup heartbreak sucks.. The worst pain there is.. You can't eat.. You can't sleep.. You can smile or laugh all you can do is think of her/him and it drives you stir bar shit crazy.. But tell yourself this.. You are in this position now.. Why.. I tell myself no matter how much I loved her.. And i thought she was the ONE.. If we were meant to be I wouldn't be in this position now.. 5 years all gone.. Done n dusted.. She has now moved on and is finally happy so I am happy for her.. The hardest part... The VERY hardest part is the no more contact.. She may as well be dead. So in a sense I am grieving for her.. I built up a strong friendship with her children but now I have to kiss that goodbye.. It's the hardest thing I have ever experienced.. But I am truly happy for her... I still love her and always will.. But I tell you what it does not help when she lives 10 minutes down the road from me.. Love can be beautiful.. Love can be amazing.. But on the flip side live can rear you apart.. But as the old saying goes... One door closes another one opens.. Damn I miss her......
I hear ya! Going through the same pain myself right now. Sorry for your loss
Adam Bryant I feel you bro I'm going through something similar and I feel so empty
Same exact situation here. How are u doing now?
My boyfriend of 4 years broke up and moved out. I am so broken. I have to move my whole life. I have to get out of the apartment we shared for 2 years because the pain being in the bed without him is too hard. We both know it's for the best but we both love each other very very much. I'm scared and sad and can't do anything. I hope everyone else is ok, and thank you for reading
Hi Olivia.. i feel you.. I am going thru the same thing right now.. and what I do, is just go to the gym almost everyday, take deep breathes, and try to keep yourself busy, and not think about him.. it's not goin to be an easy journey, but you need to fight, and first u need to cry it all out.. because as long as d pain is inside u, u can not move on... so be alone, listen to love songs, and cry.... as much as u want.. and im telling u, after it's out, you will be able to focus more, and start step by step moving on.. I'm with u.. will pray for ur emotional healing... Godbless....hope i helped a little...
Six months passed. Are you feeling better? Hope my question do not disturb you
i have lost my true love, due to my own childish and stupid mistakes, but each time we talk i want to tell her i still love her and im sorry for everything, even though the break up was both of our faults i miss her so much, she meant the world to me and i messed everything up, im well and truly heartbroken, but my friends are there for me and helping me, whenever im off work my friends get me out of the house and jus take my mind off her and my feelings towards her, i jus want to thank them and i want to tell that special girl that i still love her.
Webheadgamer I'm going through the same thing with my ex. So I'd like to understand why you can't tell your ex how much you miss her and that you still love her? I'm asking because my ex calls me every now and then but doesn't tell me he misses me or loves me so I went no contact and stopped answering his calls.
I had a breakup after being in a relationship for almost 3 years. She said she'll be with me forever and would marry me in the future. We even started to think about the future, kids, a house and everything. But, I lost her because of my own doings. Now, she hates me and says that i broke her heart and trust. There's this another guy whom I've been knowing since childhood. He likes her now. They go to the same university so they meet everyday. Me? I live in the UK now and will be going back home for a month but, she says she does not want me to meet her.I AM SO HEART BROKEN. I feel like ending myself and getting rid of the pain.
NO ONE... is worth your life. Life is like being on a roller coaster on a foggy day. Just because you have a down does not mean there wont be any more ups. Also you need to think about that person. If you really love them, killing yourself will only hurt them and for the rest of their life they will be afraid to ever trust or love again. In a sense, by killing yourself you have killed them... That's murder my friend. Its not worth it. Hang in there buddy.
As soon as you read this, go to Corey Wayne's website. This sounds like a long-sidtant-relationship and they are notoriously difficult to make work. The failure rate is very, very high. But go to Corey's site. You may find a key to turning this around.
zigzack54 Man, thank you so much for that comment. Like, it's been long. I did eventually go back home just to be shooed by her. But, in the process, I learnt to let go. Even though I had so many memories with her. Eventually, I fell in love again with someone else. Like, She's my best friend and what I feel for this girl has superseded every feeling I had for my ex. I feel happy now. Even though, I haven't expressed my feelings for this girl, I feel like my old happy self again. So, for everyone who's out there in a world of pain. Let go! It's the best thing you can do. Yes, the first few months will be the toughest months of your lifetime. But, keep this is mind. When a heart broken chap like me can fall in love again...why can't you? Think about it..cheers. :)
AMAN1640 I am really glad to hear that my friend. I also was on the down side of the roller coaster when I left that comment. It sounds like I also need to find my best friend somewhere out there and let go of those old feelings. Thank you.
All I need a job and 2 dogs and a cat
Charlotte Maison no cats
Well here I am again, heartbroken. Remember everyone; you are beautiful people with lovely personalities.
Right now if you want to move on you must confirm you have broken up with your ex, and make a massive mental effort to completely block them out.
You must block them on: Facebook/Twitter/Instagram/Snapchat/iMessage/WhatsApp/anything. Unfollow (but you don't have to unfriend) her/his friends on Facebook who frequently post pictures up with her, this means you won't see anything they post, but you're still friends on Facebook. You don't want to see these things. Block them if you have to.
This will stop you from stalking them because you're convinced they are with somebody else. In most cases they probably are not, but sadly we develop irrational fears when we hurt.
Eventually you'll meet someone new and start texting them, and meeting up. This person will soon replace your ex in your mind. You'll be waiting for the text messages from this new person. You'll become attracted to them instead.
Perhaps you don't know what you want yet, but if you want to move on then please follow these steps. These helped me 4 years ago in a previous relationship, and I'm sure they will help me this time around.
I did all the steps and i just decide to quit my job too. But i still remember his phone number. I still dream about his smile, his face. Hope that i can get over this feeling when i have a new job. Please help me if you have any other effective ways to forget
Michael's program is worth every penny... The audio has helped me tremendously, it's like having personal guidance anytime of the day...You can listen to it first thing in the morning or before you go to bed, he'll guide you through the heartbreak and motivate you to get going on with your life...Thx Michael
It's been 10 years, and still can't move on. Then again, he keeps poppin' in and out of my life and I keep letting him back in. Will I ever have the strength to tell him no? Probably not. I miss his laughter, the spark, his love-filled blue eyes, calloused hands and his hungry stare at me from across a room...among other non-mentionable things. No other guy has ever compared. Often I feel that love with another is possible, yet I'm reminded of my brokenness time and time again.
You are very much like the women I hear from, every single day. I'm a relationship coach (AskNow.) Here's the thing: you have been in a pattern -with him. And you have invested 10 years of your life. What are you receiving in return? Relationships are supposed to be uplifting & enlightening. My guess is that this one is, but only when it suits him. Because it's clear in the way you wrote your post.
Whatever the issue, you are clearly stuck in a cycle, a pattern. If you really want the relationship you deserve (with him) you're going to have to break that pattern. Decide exactly what it is you want/need. They're rarely the same thing. Make clear to him what it is you want. Let him respond.
By staying in the cycle, you're holding yourself (and him) in a holding pattern forever. And you're keeping potentially wonderful guys from making you happy because you are comparing them to him. No guy wants to be compared, and comparing also blocks yourself from being able to feel good feelings or feel safe with anyone new. Good luck :)
TRY ME. I WILL REPLACE HIM. 3472839389
Don't want all the internet people to feel sorry for me. After Maggie's response, I decided to finally move on. I met a really awesome guy this weekend!!!! :)
NICE. MAY LOVE BE WITH YOU. CAUSE WE ALL NEED LOVE. HOPEFULLY HE IS THE ONE AND IF NOT I AM HERE. CAUSE IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO PLAY FOR YOUR OWN TEAM. GODSPEED.
If only my ex loved me like you :(
I'm 4 months in and I feel like it's day one...It's an unforgivable feeling inside.
Only problem? We broke up because we couldn't see each other anymore. I don't have a bad memory of her. I can't do that because the heartbreak didn't hurt when it happened, but spread out for the next 6 months of my life
its good to see other people are going through what im going through...that sounds bad but it feels like im not alone. hope things got better for you!
I just feel numb..
but my heart is hurting .. I feel.like my heart will never be whole.. I even feel broken
Thank you for this video. I'm currently going through a really hard break up but I do have faith and understand that God has something better for my life. Finding a new routine and fresh outlook will help me tremendously during this time. I appreciate you video instruction so much.
Know the worst part? The thought of her with someone else. That one pisses me off.
Thank you, I just broke up with her tonight and your words are already beginning to help...subscribed
so my ex of 8 years, just recently broke it off with me 3 weeks ago! we were giving ourselves a 2nd chance after being off for 3 years straight. 8 MONTHS ago, we decided to give it another try, because we still loved one another. we were doing SO good, talked about moving in together, starting a family, being committed, marriage, etc. mind you, he's the one that came up with these ideas, he issued them out to me, of course i was happy about it! but for the past couple weeks, we were a little distant, and fighting a lot. i've been going through it msyelf, because i just lost a friend in a horrible accident, so i kinda just wanted to distant myself away from everything. we had been arguing over petty stuff lately, and a petty ass fight led to him telling me he's done with us. he's done with me, with us, him giving up is what he claims. he tells me he loves me more than ever, but he just doesn't have any hope for us any longer. but this came from one day to the next, that's what i don't get! if we hadn't gotten into that little ass fight, this would've never happened! the thing that keeps going through my mind over & over again is... WHY DOESN'T HE FIGHT FOR ME, FOR US? WHY GIVE UP NOW...? AM I NOT WORTH FIGHTING FOR? AM I NOT GOOD ENOUGH? the thing is, when i felt like giving up, he would beg for me to stay, he would look me in the eye & ask me "alex, after all we've been through you're ready to let our dreams go.." & i would just fall weak & remember why i love this man & i would continue fighting for us, so i would take him back! & the same night he broke it off with me, i asked him THE SAME THING and he said "i don't want us anymore, i'm done, i don't see myself with you" it hit me to the CORE, never been so hurt before in my life.
this happened 3weeks ago, and i've cried myself to sleep ever since. i do text him, and he still replies, i still call, and he still answers, but he acts like a "friend" & once i start talking about US, he gets mad & hangs up on me. he says he wants to remain "cool" & hold no grudges, and at some point i was ok with that because he was still there. but it's really just HARDER, because i'm just holding on to hope now. & i know he will never come back, he's made that clear to me. so last night, i ended everything. i said i couldn't be friends with him, and he was perfectly cool with it! he said he would be ok without me in his life! (i broke down crying) :(
how could i put myself out there & get nothing in return from someone i want EVERYTHING with. it hurts me DEEPLY to know it's over & done with. i don't wanna text/call but it's soooo hard, i think about him all the time, so many questions come to my mind! WHY WHY WHY!
Hi alexxamore . I'm going through the same thing this was three weeks ago and ever since he broke up with me I've been crying every night before going to bed I keep asking myself a lot of those questions that you mentioned if I was good enough or if there was something wrong with me but as you know it's not healthy to think like that about our selves unfortunately LAX chill someone else instead of me and it was hard because we were together for 2 years and he told me he loved me but the minute he met her he was capable of just throwing it all away our love our friendship we decided to stay friends but I couldn't handle it either I just talked to him yesterday and he said that we couldn't be friends anymore because the way I felt about him he was a completely different person it's hard to imagine him with another girl laughing and smiling because once I was a girl with him how can he replace me lights on so fast I know I would never do that ..I planned my whole life with him I know I have no hope I'm afraid that I'll never get through this I'm afraid I'm too weak
girl, trust me, i feel the exact same way! i decided to be friends with him, then last week we spoke on the phone & he told me he was dating someone, i broke down crying & he said he didn't want to lose me as a friend, because he still cared. but girl, NO! i cannot give him that satisfaction of still giving my "half" to him knowing how i feel about him. i don't wanna be left on the back burner for anyone! so that same day, i cut off all communication. i told him, i was done being friends, since he clearly moved on with his life... it's time for me to live mine! so we didn't speak for whole week until last night that he called me. Him: hey what's up, what you up too? ME: just got home from dinner, what's up? Him: just calling to see how you doing... ME: i'm great thank you, but i can't talk right now, i'll call you another time *hung up* LIKE REALLY how is he calling me like everything is OK when he JUST broke me into pieces? i'm so over the friend thing girl, it's impossible. we just gotta let them go, it hurts, yes, but we deserve so much better. if they can't see that we are worth fighting for, then they sure as hell don't deserve us mama. we cannot be friend with them, they broke our hearts!
Sheyla Mallma
OMG I did the same thing, I deleted all my photos of him and will soon block him from my FB and will cut all communication, Apparently he loves her and he told me hes starting a new chapter in his life and he has no room for me :-(. but u know i cant undestand it , i mean he cried when we said your final goodbye, he promised me we'll be friends but thats not gonna happen. How is it that they can move on so fast? How can guys just date another woman and leave us high and dry? i dotn think I did nothing wrong :(. i want the pain to go away, is it possible tolove again? its hard to picture myself with anybody else. I was so use to the routine , seeing him after work and falling asleep next to him..gosh i hope in the future someone rescues me from this dark place. :-( alexxamore
Sheyla Mallma GIRL WE ARE IN THE SAME BOAT. my routine had to change from one day to the next! literally. it was awful, I still miss him every second of the day. but realize that they're moving on now, and WE GOT TO DO THE SAME. we cannot wait on nobody to do us right, we are beautiful! (look at you!) we cannot make one person responsible for our misery. we cannot stop living our life for ONE PERSON. it took me a lot to realize this, but at this point, I thank God for rescuing me from that relationship. hard to understand, but I am content now, later on they will miss us. but we got to make them miss us. they need to realize that they lost us. & look at it this way... we didn't lose anybody, THEY lost a woman who loved them unconditionally, and that, only comes once in life.. they lost us, we didn't lose them.
I'm a single mum. I let in a man into my life for 5 months and I completely fell for him. I thought he fell for me too.. he started to become part of the family. And out of nowhere he left. He's from Ecuador, so beautiful and I feel like I'm never going to move on
my ex girlfriend just broke up with me, she was the first love of my life. I am utterly heartbroken, how do I survive this?
+Wille Hede dunno bro, going through the same bullshit
+Renato Thorne Wanna know the funny thing? She broke up with her ex bcuz she fell in love with me(SHE SAID) about a week ago she broke up with me and is now back with her ex. Fucking chicks man.. hope you get better bro
+Wille Hede thanks man, same for you. but u know what, first love doesn't mean best love so fuck her, if she did that shit to you she doesn't even deserve to be in your thoughts.
btw check out fuck you vy ceelo green
Yeah i've actually been listening to it quite alot lately. But you know im still in love with her so I keep thinking I will never find any better as stupid as it sounds. But my feelings are going away more and more everyday and hatred is now growing. she played me real hard. Bitches like that turns nice guys into bad guys. But I will not give up on love yet, Im still young
same. my first true love (bf) broke up with me yesterday
a- It's going to be ok
b- Everyone keeps telling me that. I keep telling me that. I'm sick of always being on my way to being ok.
a- The journey..
b- What about it!?
a- It's not that your always on your way towards being ok. It's that life is a journey, and you need to live it. You don't get to just be "ok". You're going to be great. Do you understand what I'm saying?
b- ...not entirely...
a- If the universe just gave up and gave you what you wanted today, you would be "ok". Does that sound like what you really want? This is your life. There's nothing you wouldn't do for the life you have. Now do everything for the life you want.
stop karate chopping me! :/
The same thing happened to me and this girl was crazy about me, it just felt so right. She just ended it two days ago and I can't eat, sleep, and I feel sick. I hope to God for both of us that things will change for the better, and we can enjoy love and life again.
All those memories with them...ugh I can't forget and stop thinking!! I wish the a memory of him was gone completely ):
To all of those who are still mourning over their break ups,
Here is a quote I live by "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger"
more than 400 000 people are heartbreakers
Hicham Dini nice
Watching this already makes me feel better. Thank you. :)
Your words of wisdom helped :)
I feel so broken and I feel like I will never get over him. It's impossible to eat, to do anything without him being in my mind. He was part of my soul. I've hoped so long that things would work out but he left anyway. I've lost my identity, my mind, and my pride.
I'd do anything to make this pain go away.
If I were you just go out and start working out and go out with your friends have fun try not to think about her and I tell you the truth she gonna get tired of that guy and she gonna start thinking about you again. she gonna go nut because she new she made a big mistake by letting you go. she will come back crying for you to come back. and that's gonna be up to you brother. but the main thing is you already feeling better. it happen to me and that's what I do. trust me she going to miss you so much. if she calls you don't answer the phone trust me let her leave a message but first you have to be strong. show her that you are a real men. not in a bad way but a polite way. brother im telling you the truth she will knocking on your door looking for you. the next move is all up to you. (plenty fish in the sea im just saying)
i am broken hearted now from a 7 years relationship his family arranged his marriage and he lied to me about it telling me he is going vacation for his brother's wedding... its as if like my heart is literally crushed from inside...and even im at work suddenly im in tears... this video somehow makes me sleep at night by playing it again and again...
i was cheated on by my boyfriend after 5 years of relationship. i am recovering from the heartbreak and now looking for a loyal partner. Is there anyone who is intrested in knowing me better? :) i wouldn't mind if we end up as good friends either
i dono how im living right now
Barcilina Das I lost my love , She married someone else yesterday. 5 years and 6 months of true love. surviving and trying to grow and learn from it. I give you my best wishes.
eng1986eng1986 Yeah! it does, but not anymore. I have became a better man. I found out what i really want from life and now i have dedicated my life to help others. I learned a lot , not only i am emotionally strong right now but also i am feeling better than ever.
I did many things , one of which is I was saying this "No one can heart me without my permission". I can't remember how many time i said it. I hard wired my mind .
If you are facing this situation let me know , i know how does it feels like . I will help and trust me you will come out a better person. Feel free to contact me .
I am with you. Let me tell you , if his love true , then he would have accepted you . He didn't deserve you . Its part of life, someone better will come into your life and he will never leave you no matter what you do .
True love never dies.
Suraj Sharma . im glad .thank you
Break Up is my hobby, i enjoy it more than anything :)
it gives me freedom from responsibilities and burdens!
Do men feel pain like women...because they act like they dont
Brenda Snoddy I can't absolutely tell you with all honesty that I feel pain like a woman does. And I'm a man. It's a terrible and very sad feeling being heartbroken. I feel lost and empty, even 9 months after.
Thanks mate, I watch this video once in a while just to remember to stay on track and to stop romanticizing the past with my ex. Gotta keep moving forward, even though it's effing hard at times.
I just got dumped so I came here
My GF was together 7 years with me. And after telling me that she loves me deeply and wants to grow old with me for seven years she just dumped me from one day to the next and didnt even care to try save the relationship. And she doesnt even care much about the break up. So much for "love" and honesty. And she was the woman i would've bet my soul and life that she's honest and will stay on my side no matter what. I dream of her every night and wake up and start crying since 2 months.
True but dnt wana feel hate n greif in my heart either
This guy make sense. This guy is talking about the willpower in a nutshell. Take over your feeling with your willpower. Strengthen yourselves and listen to this guy on the video. He has the same thoughts as I do, and I know from experience that he is telling the truth about movin' ahead broken hearted. xoxoxo love you all :)
this video did not help
Remembering the good times makes me feel good. At least I know I experienced them. Its bitter-sweet.
His head is shaped like a triangle
you are too funny! thanks for the laugh
Lol
so many brokenhearted ppl laugh just because of you. thankyou. God bless. 💞
This guy is spot on.... after over 3 years of bullshit, I am fine within a couple days. I kept going back and things went back to crap, rinse and repeat to the point now that I am so much better off being gone, maybe not happy yet but relieved. All I do to cure myself is look at her picture and how beautiful she is and remember the bullshit she caused in my life, I look into those eyes and wonder, what kind of fucking mess is behind them? It makes me want to delete the memories, so I do... I focus on the bad and know it outweighed the good and always would. Someone will come along just like she did, but now being a bit wiser, I will be better prepared for the warning signs.... Every person who says "just move on" and shit like that is an asshole who probably never loved anyone but themself and selfish people are best to avoid in any respect..
Get under a man to get over another!!!
+Joshua Goodstein How possible to get over if you really love . it takes time to get over or even have new date.
+Joshua Goodstein most stupid advice ever. if you have truly loved, it will only remind you what you were missing even more, i am speaking from experience(although i'm a guy who did it with a girl but still)... for me it just reminded me of what i am missing
I posted a comment ages ago .. so I thought I'd let you know your tips have also helped another mate of mine after a very bad brake up (not being overly dramatic .. but it was a bad break up.. like finding out he had a whole other life.. and had somehow made her into the other women...over time etc) .. she made amazing list... tor it up.. and shouted rather loudly ...all the names she could call him..! So your tips are still helping alot of people. thanks
this pain is just so much to bear
she texted me now and after a month of not talking to me and treating me like shit,its over
but i loved her so much,i literally gave my heart to her on a silver plate
As always when I read these comments I'm touched by how raw so many of them are. Heartbreak can kill, it really is that painful and I'm sorry you're up against it right now. I work a lot with people dealing with Heartbreak and my biggest recommendation is you get hold of the free chapter on my website. Even that will make a huge difference to how you feel. Sorry I can't respond to comments here so much as I get a ridiculous amount of email.
it's been 4 days and I feel like the world is moving on without me. I feel like the tears will never stop and since I don't like anyone else at my school I wonder if I'll ever find a love again. I miss my ex so much.
This message is for everyone who is going through a break up. The key to getting over someone, at the same time the best revenge is happiness. When your ex sees you happy without him/her, better yet happy with someone else, it will spark something inside him/her. So get up, go out, and be happy!!!
I know how You feel. It's happened to me & in time, you'll come out better for it. You'll find someone else. Just "Don't Give Up!"
I do stop by and read these comments on a regular basis. It's totally normal to feel large amounts of grief when you separate from a loved one. It's the risk you take when you dare to love. Dealing with the pain is often harder when you feel alone. Go to my website and download the chapter I give away. That's all a lot of people seem to need. I'm sorry it's painful right now, it will pass and you will be OK.
I can relate sooo much to this video....I tried focusing on the pain like you said but it still didnt work....i just cant forget how happy i was with him and how happy he made me.... I know i wont be able to get over him....but I know that hes happier without me so i dont wanna be selfish and try get him back...he deserves soo much better then me
I was with my gf for two years and out of the blue she tells me she doesn't want to be with me . She leaves me starts going out with her friends a week later she tells me she's ready to see other guys. She was my first love and she broke my heart . Only the strong survive. Be strong everybody!
excruciating pain - the best word to describe the hearbreak pain
Okay this was way over the top. Just live on, I'm doing it and shit is getting way better for me, trust me, distract yourself with hobbies and make new friends to excite your life with. Life is too short to dwell on negatives, there is someone out there for you. You just need to go look.
you made me feel way better Mr Michael, I just broke up with my gf today after a trip, it was for good. And its so true especially the part where you have to forget about the good times coz it will hurt you, also there was a reason for the break up...
thx for this video.
After the ridiculously blazay comment I left or was leaving I have to say THANK YOU. You just re-itterated what I knew BUT I needed to hear it. so from kinda watching this vid half assed, I have gone to appreciation. Cheers!
I've replayed the part when you say "you gonna be okey" 10 times or more now. It actually feels abit better
hey djany welcome we have all been there , but dont be sad and dont forget God is there for you / he delete's sm ppl from our life before those ppl become the reason for our constant depression because God loves us
man if everyone got payed for being human this man would be one of the most richest among us.
this one helped me for free he probably knows that a better world starts in your own backyard and he shows it to us .
your relationship is blessed in return from my side just to give something back .
thanks man,peace to you and your wife ofcourse see ya
Thanks for all the advice Michael. My girlfriend just broke up with me. Because she still had feelings for her ex. She had told me she loved me, and she didn't. Lied to me about every thing. Now her best friend told her I was saying stuff about her, which I did not say anything. And she has told me to never to speak to her again. She attacked me verbally last night, telling me to grow up and that I don't know the first thing about her. I just feel lost, and I'm hurting,
Thank you for this. 6yrs wasted but i still believe it will get better.
i feel your pain man just know you arent the only one going through this
Yea I can. My gf of 3 years just broke up with me 1 week ago for another guy. Nothing much you can do bro. Just move on. If you want her back, you can. But probably not anytime soon. Just keep in touch with her and once in a long while ask her out. When shes ready you will know from the way she speak to you. If its cold, wait longer. Meanwhile, focus on improving yourself. Career, physique, appearance. All this help builds your confidence. You might even attract a better girl! Cheers bro!
can i just say i just had an argument with my ex who has been my ex for about 2 weeks now and i couldnt stop thinking about her, couldnt sleep and i just felt like commiting suicide. i took one of your tests and i had 18. but i read the articles and watched your videos and im getting better already. just after 3 hours of your videos and articles. thank you for your kindness of helping others i wish i could do the same one day :)
If you love someone very deeply it will take time.....BUT......you do move on and you can be happy again. However it must be said that deep love never completely goes away.....if the person was the love of your life then a part of you will always love him/her. A broken heart can mend, but it's a bit like when you smash a plate.....you can glue it back together again but it will never be the same as it was before.
13+ years and I am about to end it. Heart-broken.
Sorry for all of yours' pain.
It can be hard getting stuck on someone but keep your head up !!!
my girlfriend for 4 years just dumped me 2 weeks ago after she found out that a friend of mine since childhood likes her.she said all these while she really loved me and didnt realize that she liked that guy before, only after he confessed to her that she suddenly lost any feelings towards me and went for that guy. 4 years of great relationship was destroyed in just a week after that guy confessed.unbelievable.we were planning on getting married at the end of this year.
2 years & 6 months just ended 2 weeks ago, feels like it was 5 minutes ago. I'm only 21 and I already feel like I'll never be happy again.
the thing was that he lied about how they broke up, he said that they talked together and agreed that breaking up was the best thing. the truth was she broke up with him and he started to beg and cry, so really he was really heartbroken, but i didn't know that so when she asked me out to go to the movies with she and her friend, i said yes. at the movie she grabbed my hand and since she was single i did not refuse, it happened nothing more than holding hands...
Well we spent 3 years together.that time is the most valuable time in my life.i was so worried when she was moving another country for her further studies because there was not any chance to see her for 5 years.but at the same time she broke up with me with no reason.it was the most difficult time for me.i was dying inside.but i still love her lot.i can do anything to achieve her.but it hurts a lot
my boyfriend broke up with me 2 days ago and at first i felt fine, which was strange because i really do love him; he was my first love!
yesterday we were texting and everything was fine and i started going through our old text message and my heart instantly broke.. i started crying my eyes out and asking my friends to help me get through this!
i feel so much better although it hurt i am so glad i can start over with someone new and better!
Well, I was with her for 2 years, took her on holiday, left the British Army for her, and in the middle of all the plans with her she upped sticks and left, she broke up with me over Facebook and then I tried contacting her (just by texts) and she called the police!! I'm in court next week over harassment and I can't get in the Army for atleast 18 months now!! Emotions are a horrible thing!
Sounds as tho you accidentally chose a crazy woman. First of all, normal people don't breakup that way, so that's an indicator right there. She called the police? She invites drama. Did she also create drama in your relationship? You are likely better off without that in your life. She basically stole your life from you.
Maggie Maggamuff Well, the British Magistrates decided to remand me in Custody for a week to basically teach me a lesson. I can now safely say without doubt I am 100% over her, I've even tried testing myself i.e. thinking of our best times, but it just doesn't do it for me, my heart just does not skip a beat anymore! It's taken 6 weeks and 1 week in prison (and of course the sentence actually at court, 140 hours community service and £250 fine) so I can move on now! Hopefully to Her Majesty's Armed Forces next year!
Jack Kelly Unfortunately, it sometimes takes "drastic measures" aka ...prison, to stop us from the emotional/mental "addiction" to an ex. You've learned a lesson. You'll make better decisions in the future. I'm proud of you. There will be some times in the future when you feel a bit down. When those times happen, you can remind yourself of what happened. Good for you!
Progressive I'm very sorry! I misread your comment, I thought you were directing the insult towards me because it wasn't clear, I should of asked tbh! But thankyou for your concern, I've gotten over her now thankfully! And I've got a new girlfriend! Again, apologies for my last comment, I thought you were attacking me for posting that comment online :l
Jack Kelly nice pic
It gets better. Seems like it won't, but you're gonna be ok.
It hurts, but if you trust in yourself, and if you are nice and try hard to be a better person, the pain will go away.
You are not alone :)
The morning times hurt the worst for some reason, like its the hardest part of my day. I wake up with hope and end up in tears. i miss him so much, and im trying to move on and avoid contacting him and its killing me. This is my second heartbreak and i can tell you that it never gets easier.. i just pray that time will heal my many woundss, i dont know how ill ever love again...
if they have gone, they did not care about us enough.
do we want them back? straigth away?
not a chance! we BOTH have to grow up regardless of the relationship
and not depend on them, or them on us.
let's be free, independent, strong and absolutely wonderful!
I'll take this advice eventually. Soon. It's too fresh right now not to spend some time on the good while also thinking about the bad. It feels like part of the grieving process.
Bro reading your posting hit home. I am dealing with it now after 16 years of decidated love to her. I was the true money maker, now she is making 100K and my real estate deals are dead. She filed for divorce, dating a man that came to our wedding and just totally broke my heart. I have my moments of sad times but stay positive force yourself to talk to people and it will help. This is not a quick fix deal, this is worse than anything else you would face in life. I moved out 3 days ago. Love=lie
this was reallly helpful! I'm only 16 years old but me and my exboyfriend just broke up after a year. We've been through everything today and i can honestly say he's changed me as a person in so many ways. He is perfect and of course i still love him but his parents made our relationship so hard. So i just realized being in a relationship like that is just hurting me more. I know i could have him back if i wanted too...but i'm so unsure :\
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I had a 2 year relationship which was really amazing. Until the last day where on thing led to another and she told me that she needs space which first was frustrating but I managed to understand. I gave her space and a couple of days after wrote a message saying that I want to do my life with her and if this is what it takes I will gladly do it. I also wrote her that even if she decides to end things I will also accept that because I just want her to be happy. She never replied to my message and a couple of hours later blocked me on social media. All I ever tried to do is love her and now I'm just broken. I keep telling myself to move on and accept that but some memories of small details and emotions are constantly coming back preventing me to do so. I know that eventually I will get better, just don't know how long is going to take and this is what scares me...
I just needed to write my thoughts, don't feel the need to read it. Good luck to everyone out there that are in similar situations I hope you all find joy and peace in this life.
Very briefly, what you're feeling is totally normal. There just isn't enough space here to go into it in any depth. Right now though it isn't about working out how to deal with the future, you need to take a little time to just feel sad and know it's OK. I cover all of this in the FREE chapter you can download from the heartbreak page on my site. It costs me nothing and I like the idea that I'm easing suffering in the world. Don't tough this out on your own!
He's right,,,don't drwell on the good,,,remember the bad,and focus on it,,,
I basically just broke up with my ex just now. We were each other's first of everything. We got through so many fights and arguments and we also went through a lot of romantic and beautiful moments. I loved him so much but he controlled every part of me. I couldnt do anything without him, nothing seemed fun without him. Everyone told me to leave him but i couldnt, even he himself told me i had to leave him. I knew i had to. But the hardest part is picturing him moving on without me. It's tough..
Long distance relationships do bring their own special kind of pain. Assuming you made the right decision it's going to be about sitting tight for a while and doing whatever it takes to distract yourself from the worse feelings until they pass. The grief is entirely normal even if you broke it off.
my gf told me she just needed some space.she said that she needs a few months to think about if she really loves me.i was devastated,i cryed and begged her not to leave me,i asked her if she is seeing another man and she said no!she said maybe in a few months,if i feel that i made a mistake,i will get back to you...she wanted me to wait a few months for her.a few minutes later i found text messages from her lover in her phone,telling him that they can go out now because she left me!i feel sick
The girl I have loved with all my heart and soul for two years is moving away. And I will never see her again. I will never love again, because everyone you love will eventually leave you. The pain is too much to bear.
Spare yourself the unbearable heartache. Stop loving people. Stop caring about them. Stop letting people into your life that will eventually leave it. It is the only way to never get hurt again.
it's being 12 years now and it still feels like hell. I will never be happy again
@JFuzzman I just watched another video on trying to stay friends, you have to let go. 8 to 12 weeks of not contacting the person will help you out and in the long run if you are better after those weeks you can be friends with them =] I'm going through a tough breakup where she was LITERALLY the ONLY person I would talk to about anything. Let go, say no. You broke up for a reason and staying in the past will bring nothing but pain. You will be okay, I promise.