This is a great video for women that WANT to communicate. Men, no matter how much you may if they DON'T that is a HUGE 'red flag', expect problems. Takes two to make it flow!
Other thing is she closes down and doesn't want to communicate when she does open up, I catch it but soon as i ask for more why how and try to delve deeper. She goes nvm i forgot its nothing you wouldnt understand i dont remember Or get mad and go i dont have to open up to you at all it should be optional to talk or not
I refuse to argue it doesn’t do any good. I say calmly what I’m concerned about and ask if I misunderstood him or the situation. He shuts down and is quick to say it’s over. I give him space until he calms down.
Hallelujah!!! So many men buy into the misconception that women are somehow intentionally out to get them or “focused on negativity” when we want to talk after an argument.....
I came across this guy one week too late after being dumped one week before by a woman I was crazy about. It is too late now as she made her mind up and gave many warnings before leaving me for good, I punch myself everyday watching his videos because I did everything wrong from the get go. I miss her everyday but I have to move on, I watch his videos and ordered his book to read it. She's not the first woman that dumps me for the same reasons, obviously I have to work on myself before start dating with someone else as she's crazy on tinder and seeing other guys.
Thank you for this Corey. I used to be the strong one and told my ex we could do anything to make the relationship work, but I eventually left her when times got too tough last year. She still begged for me back for months but I didn't think I deserved her so I stayed away. I still loved her but only let her know that once I found out that she had moved on with another guy. That must have fucked her up even worse. It's been hard trying to find advice I can relate to online because most of them are about how the woman leaving the relationship due to the guy being too needy. In my case I was too distant, and hurt her so bad that she wants nothing to do with me anymore. It's been a couple months since finding out, and I've sort of accepted that I'll never get to be with her again, so right now I'm just going to focus on trying to move on. Here's another metaphorical nickel for ya, because this video was posted in the same month before we even started our relationship. I wish I'd found your works sooner so I'd have known how to deal with our problems back then, but it's better late than never.
If you understand women you don't argue with them but communicate with them in an adult manner. A woman closes b/c she's trying to protect her heart. get her to talk and open up. Women resolve problems by talking them out. until she says "I feel better" then you haven't opened her up emotionally. your job as a man is to open her up. Don't just walk away. you have to be the rock/the mountain
I tried to communicate. I was always calm... for hours... for days... but nothing worked. It seemed like I was the only one who wanted to fix problems. It's hard when she is bitchy by default for no reason at all.
NO name Just by reading the abused me part I can already see the victim mentality. Women hate that, you obviously showed some form of weakness. Read the book 10-15 times and watch 1-3 videos every day
I have read your book many times and I didn't understand this topic until now. I grew up watching this very same behavior between my parents. When things got difficult and the arguments grew in intensity, he would just leave, even if only for a few hours, so this is the example I saw. I have done the same thing with my current relationship and somehow I felt it was wrong, now I know how to fix it and hopefully, I will be a better example for my children than my father was. He is a great man and a good father, probably he just didn't know any better. Thanks for your help.
@@poolee77 Exactly. I didn't hear any attitude on the female end. He was the one getting upset. I'm surprised she didn't leave sooner because she gave him tons of chances to get his sh1t together. He kinda did her a favor. It was just a sh1t test and he failed miserably.
I LITERALLY saw this video 22 hours too late....! And need to read his amazing book AT LEAST 9 more times.....I got emotionally hijacked and it went ALLLL out the window.....
i know this is an old video, but i wanted to thank you for this, it really offered me clarity as to where i went wrong in my relationship and how i contributed to it's subsequent ending. i broke no contact and sent her an email accepting accountability for my failure to truly communicate and my failure in being her man. also listening to your audiobook, thank you for everything you do.
What if we have an argument and she leaves without communicating. But i think part of that was me not giving her a place to hide out. I guess i kinda ran her out of here trying to communicate
I get what he's saying and he's right but there are some instances where it is necessary to leave and let things cool down for a bit. I'm not saying for days or weeks but maybe for a few hours or a night to let things settle then talk when your both not pissed off.
Coach what's wrong with leaving if a woman is being difficult and using emotional manipulation to get over on you too me that's toxic but what your opinion
PaceDeliTV i think in this situation this argument seemed like this was the first time, not a repeated occurrence. If it was a repeated occurrence in the manner that you speak i think coach would have a different take on the situation.
Because the only reason it affects you is your lack of frame. All women are manipulative to a degree. “Shit test” learn how to deal with that stuff. Women are different than we are. Learn to appreciate and dance with their differences instead of complaining.
Men don’t argue with women. Corey has stated this in numerous videos. Manage your butt hurt and ask her questions then STFU. Men listen first. You listen so that you can RESPOND appropriately.
So what if you try and she still leabes and stonewalls your communication attempt ? I'm stuck almost got progress done in rekindling and poof because I slipped in communication everything was going well until then wtf..
My ex would always say she wanted to break up whenever a disagreement came up so I would accept and she would come back apologizing days later, the last time this happened I agreed to break up like before then reached out to her 3 weeks later to talk and she said she wanted nothing to do with me, am I expected to still stay there and talk when she keeps threatening me with breakups? If I continue to be threatened with breakups I’m not going to feel comfortable in the relationships and That’s going to effect my ability to effectively communicate
Same thing happened to me. She would threat me then come back. Eventually I took her word and never called her back. Things can be worke on. But if she does not apreciate the commitment she is not worth it.
He broke my heart and instead of talking it out on why, because I didn’t do anything he’s being immature about it by, how you acting like a 5 year old and walking away and avoiding me like if I’m the problem! Like wtf 🤬
Dam I seen this video too late, I just broke up with this girl I liked because of this same reason, smh I need to get this book...To late to workthings out tho😞
My ex would storm off and pout when she got upset and want me to chase and console her. She’d do this at the drop of a hat and without me even knowing what triggered her. The last time she did that, she said “fuck off” as she was storming off. I asked her if she just said that to me and then said, “yes, fuck off if you don’t care about my feelings”. I left the scene - being cussed at isn’t something I’ll tolerate. So question… should I still have stayed and talked with her?
@@befree9579I don’t have children but definitely agree with you. Haven’t spoken with her since and don’t plan to. While I’m no therapist, I’m quite certain a Cluster B personality disorder was present and that she was cheating on me. All in all, a great time… 😅
@@matthewjohnson5168 Ah good riddance with that mess. I don't bother with Western women. Overseas is better value for my time. Long as you can pay the bills and she obeys its better abroad.
If your girlfriend is upset, don’t leave!!! Not until she’s happy. My girlfriend told me to sleep with her (not sex), and I told her I can’t because I was busy. I wasn’t even busy, I just didn’t want to be around her all the time or she’ll walk all over me again. She seemed upset, so I started poking her and tickling her. She told me to stop because she’s tired. Don’t be playful when they are tired, it won’t work. She was tired, but I thought she was just being a bitch. Which made her upset because I wouldn’t stop tickling her. I asked her if she wanted to cuddle and get a massage. She sad she don’t care. She said “do what you want”. So I got up and left without leaving her happy. I did that and she never texted me back at all, so I had to fix things up again by inviting her over. She came over and she was upset still after 2 days. She had that bitch mood, so I told her to cuddle with me. We cuddled, but she was still in a bad mood. I tried changing the mood by joking. I said “So do you like cheese?” As a joke, and she said “what the heck dude.” So we stayed silent for 15min. I started running my fingers through her hair, and I asked her “Let’s go picnicking tomorrow.” Her mood changed and she was in her feminine side again. She started talking more, and I knew it was good again. I told her I need to use the bathroom, but she would let go like 4 times I said it. Then she let me go, and when I went to the bathroom, my shirt was all wet on my shoulder. That means she was crying on me when we were cuddling. It’s all about making them feel comfortable. It’s complicating, but once you understand women, you’ll know how to balance them. It’s freaking difficult and I don’t understand fully yet, but it’s a process of learning. She wasn’t being distance and I ran away, that made her think that I didn’t love her and it will make her doubt things. When she starts to be distant when you’re being a gentleman to her, all you gotta do is back off and be patient. Women needs space, if you’re around them all the time, they get annoyed and they won’t miss you, and it’ll push them to the point where they haven’t missed you in so long that they want the feeling of missing someone again, so they’ll end up leaving you or cheating on you.
what if you were the one who was pissed at her and walked away and she knows and asks you to talk. So you talk over text and decide to take the communication over person and she denies to meet up twice. I told her to let me know when her schedule frees up. is that ok?
I hate it when me and my girlfriend is having an issue and she started to shut all communication (we are on a Long distance relationship) and every time she is shutting the communication and it is causing me to get more angrier and stated calling and send her more and more angry messages and miss calls
Hoping that you stay and work it out? Nobody gotta hear someone who don't wanna talk and understand. Always one sided and we gotta stay and tolerate that shit? FOH
I am trying to get my boyfriend to do this but he refuse He just don't want to talk to me Everything is about how I am nagging him and stressing him But he is not willing to meet me half way with anything He keep telling me that he is not a person who love to talk but he does with his video game friends
What if you showed up to her house and she starts crying saying she wasn't happy and not happy with herself, and that she feels like she needs to be on her own because she has been in back to back relationships? It sounded like what she told her ex, which I mentioned, and she said this is different because I love you and don't know if I will find this again. Also that she doesn't want marriage or kids in the future, which she said she knows I do. I said well "if you change your mind, give me a call." Grab my stuff and headed out. < was this the right thing to do in this circumstance?
If a woman tells me she want's me out of her life for some inane reason that she has created in her head and won't listen to reason, then I will oblige because I am not a mind reader.
What if the 'argument' is that she wants you to ALWAYS fix things and do what she wants while you want both partners to contribute and put in the effort? You feel unappreciated and think she is behaving selfishly. How do you address her bad behaviour and lack of communication? when you ask her what is wrong and try 'opening her up' and she remains stubborn and unhelpful.
***** she literally tells me her problem, usually needing money, and then says "what are you going to do about it?". when I communicate how I am feeling she says I am 'nagging like a girl'. if I joke with her and be playful then she says "i am not taking her seriously". Her actions are ruining her life, my life and our relationship.
I desperately need help. My girlfriend is depressed and stressed out about work and family and bills. I'm trying to understand where she's coming from and I deal with the same stressful situation. I think her main problem is she is so negative about everything and hates her job. She has hobbies but claims it's too expensive, I do my best to be there for her but I'm not great at it. What tools can I use for her to stop being a lone wolf and get her to stop stressing about things she can't control... I love her to death we been together for a year and a half we are both in recovery (me heroin and her alcohol... I've been clean for 4-5 months now and she's been sober for 6years) . And she has trouble sleeping.... SMH lol! Any information or help would be greatly appreciated 🧐👍
so I've been watching your videos and I'm in a situation right now as I stated in the other comment that I left I am the female in the relationship and me and my boyfriend baby's father of two years we have just recently started arguing more than we normally would because I have a mental situation with the death of my mother and I recently in here to her car and so I am able to kind of go as I please and let you know I have a way out we argue about that and he thinks you know that I'm Stuntin on them or I'm trying to shine on them or what have you we got into a argument about 2 weeks ago and it got really bad and I just decided to pack up my things and leave I felt no other choice I feel like he was not trying to understand what I was going through even though he too has a mother who passed about ten years or so ago okay and we don't go anywhere we don't do anything we stay cooped up in the house will drink a little smoke but we stay at the house we might sit outside on the front porch we might ride to the store or something to go get some groceries or maybe we'll go get some Popeyes Wendy's or Taco Bell we haven't gone out if we do it's because I initiated now I've been gone for 2 weeks and I asked him if he wanted to go to breakfast I initiate the conversations he never once called to tell me that he missed me and wanted me to come home he had went out of town while I have been away from the house but it didn't let me know that he went when I text him because I wanted to come over he sent me a very short text and said I'm not in Columbus he was real short with me I didn't even know that he was going we talked about it when he got back and we know he came over to give us he told me a couple of days ago that he was going back today and I was upset about it and I didn't understand why he had to go but it made me feel some kind of way but kind of fishy because you just came back why you have to go again so I didn't have an attitude and I didn't talk to him the whole way he was taking me back to where I was staying I called him and I said I hope you have a happy sweetest day and take care of your whatever you have to take care of them and they and I did start that we started arguing and I have started pointing out about how he talk to females on Facebook talking s*** as he likes to say I just started pointing out things negative things and then he got upset and he said it was over he said I'm done because you not about to sit here and dog me for the last 20 minutes so I'm done if I'm such a bad person why you with me but I wasn't trying to say that he was a bad person I wasn't trying to nag just pointing out some things because he does the same things to me he always says how I'm so unappreciative how I'm so ungrateful he calls me a user a liar and a deceiver because I didn't tell him about my money card that came but I did tell him when my money card came all the money was spoken for so what is the point of me telling you that it even came if there's no money on it so he called me a liar about it and all this arguing during an emotional time in my life where I need him when he said that he understood because the same thing happened to him I will want to come home and I've been here for some in a few days now but I haven't moved all of my things back in he came to get me after we argued though he didn't want to and he said he wasn't going to he said the only reason that he was even coming to get me was because of our daughter I asked him if we could fix this and I began apologizing for the things that I had said to him but I've been apologizing for days now and over and over and over again whereas when he went through the same situation and he flipped the script on me I would forgive him and we would move on he would ask me to sit and talk with him and I would sit and talk with him but now when I ask him to sit and talk with me he wants to say I'll talk to you later he puts me off or he'll say I don't want to talk to you I don't understand I need some help what I don't want to argue anymore I don't want to fight anymore I want to come home and I want to have my family but how do I get him to understand so we don't argue and bump heads because he doesn't want to bump heads either but it seems like after a 20-minute argument or you know Army pointing out his mistakes and flaws that I gave him passes on he doesn't want to continue on in the relationship so what can I do why am I the one apologizing when I'm the one that is going through something can you help me
My love from the beginning told me she can't stand conflict and will flee. I told her if that happens I would be the one to leave so that it can be worked out later. Wrong wrong wrong. Her entire married and single life this is how she acted. We are on a relationship break right now after 2 years plus on and off and I caused the break by telling her I didn't want to get married or move to a new house we planed to go to. It has been almost 4 months I have seen a counselor she even came with me once and she has seen one too a couple times. However she seems incapable to get over the hurt and forgive. I have been as remorseful and regretful as possible helped her at her new house when she moved out and been as kind as I could be. I think she dwells only on the negative aspects of me which to me means we are done. Corey states you get what you are looking for meaning if you watch for only bad things on any person's behavior that is what you see. I am seeing the dark side of the woman I have loved for over two years. She says she sees me in a different light now. Well no shit when all you do is watch someone to fail and on a conversation jump on any small infraction possible. I honestly thought at 66 and she is 66 too that she was more mature than this. Age doesn't guarantee wisdom and I am a pretty smart guy and she is a pretty smart lady....
That's bullshit how men always have to do everything .... what If i feel like shes gonna leave? What if I'm nervous she will dump me what if im full of anxiety and dont trust her? What if I think it's only a.matter of time before she leaves like all the rest? ..... you know men have feelings too ..... sometimes we need reassurance of the relationship.... sometimes we have been hurt so many times we feel like that too... why do we always have to be the rock in a relationship? Why do we always have to be the perfect one? It's supposed to be an equal relationship ... i have anxiety problems even without women .... PTSD and depression.... I'm also a body builder ... so I'm not a weak bitch but I also have serious emotional problems.... I dont think I deserve to die alone because I have emotions and I feel sad or scared sometimes....
Thank u for this vedio, talk and face our own mistake not easy, behind that is fear. Fear of loss fear of thing may not workout. You need to loss that attachment and talk. I loss a weak bitch boy before i always not talk and open new option when problem happen which it ruin all my relationship previous. Trust me talk and communication even it not go out good. U will respect yourself more.
Maybe some of you can help me with this situation. I would email coach but, he no longer has that activated. I was dating a women for about 2 and half weeks. I have now went no contact with her. At the beginning she was very interested. She was doing all the pursuing and texting me a lot. For only being 2 weeks we were together a lot almost everyday I stayed the night at her place. Because she would contact me then I would ask when she was free. By the 2nd date we had sex... After watching the narcissist video today by Corey it made me think she loved bombed me. But at the same time I know I fucked up on a situation of communication. So this is what happened, she contacted me one evening so I asked her when she was free. She said Monday! She said after work on Friday she wanted to go to the gym and she said she had to work both her jobs on Saturday and Sunday. So I said ok sounds good. I know I didn't make a definite date and I need to work on that. Well saturday came around and I went out to a bar I usually go to because I know a DJ there. Right when I walk in I see her with her girlfriend who had a boyfriend and 2 other guys. My first reaction was walk away so I walked out but said to myself you need to go in there so I did. I said hey and talked to her about the situation. Asked her if she was here with this other guy and what happen to going to her other job that night? She told me "no she wasn't here with him they are all friends and that they didn't need her at the other job tonight". I asked her "did you drive here?" She said "her car is here and she came out with her friends right after work." (She works downtown right by the bars). My trust went down hill from there. I just didn't believe her. I stayed center at the time and had drinks with them. I noticed she was touchy with me and sometimes with this other guy as well. Well we all left that bar and walked to a club after that. There I still stayed composed but I was just feeling something isn't right. I did end up kissing her in front of the other guy and what not but, I still felt like something was going on because she lied to me and I just so happen to see her out. Well towards the end of the night she said "we are going to leave" but then right after said "I am going to leave". I was like what the hell in my head. So I chilled for a min and I just couldn't take it anymore. I said I'll talk to you later and just left. I know I should of communicated with her but It just all felt wrong. She text me that night saying "what the hell". I said "I didn't feel right". She said "wow". I said "what do you mean"? She said "you cant be serious". Then I called her and she didn't pick up. So then I text her saying "I'm glade I saw you out tonight. It was just a weird situation for me at the start. Can you understand that? Your dance moves were solid by the way tonight". Then I text her again saying "I felt lied to and disrespected". She text back the next day saying "she honestly felt disrespected and that she was sorry that I felt that way and that it wasn't her intentions". I text her back telling her "I was sorry too and that I could of handled it different". The next day I text her "pick you up at your place at 3 for an adventure"? Because we still had plans on Monday or so I thought. She said "No thank you". So I told her "when she changes her mind to give me a text or call". I haven't heard back from her for 2 days. I know I should of communicated more to her but at the same time she lied to me. What is yalls opinion on this situation?
As the coach says: You haven't read the book 10-15 times. You don't have the fundamentals and because of that you came undone. "For only being 2 weeks we were together a lot almost everyday I stayed the night at her place." - Too much, too soon. Read the book and take it slow. "Asked her if she was here with this other guy and what happen to going to her other job that night?" She is not your girlfriend and not your property. She can go wherever she wants to go. Put yourself in her position, how would you feel having to explain yourself to this person you literally just met? You went to the place to hang out and when you saw her you went into competition mode for no reason. You should've just done your thing. Followed your plans. You let her actions dictate your reactions. "She text me that night saying "what the hell"" Here you ruined everything. Remember: if you dont have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! Specially if you are under an emotional turmoil. Words can't be taken back. You made a lot of assumptions, projected your fears and now you are thinking she disrespected you. If someone is really disrespecting you, then you don't engage them. Demanding respect does not work. At this point it's all over. Delete her number and assume she died. If she is interested she will contact you. Buy the book, read it as prescribed, watch the videos and take notes. Move at a slow pace with women. Time will reveal the truth so be patient. Good luck.
I love ya corey but you always put the blame on us .... why do we always have to be the perfect one ... the rock the mountain .... why arent women on these damn videos studying how to be a better fucking person?... why are we always the ones everyone looks to for comfort and strength? Isnt it supposed to be equal these days ?
You can fix things in the middle of the tension, leave & come back later. Coach Corey Wayne, you blame the man at alllll position ..you a not saying things right.
This is a great video for women that WANT to communicate. Men, no matter how much you may if they DON'T that is a HUGE 'red flag', expect problems. Takes two to make it flow!
Exactly, I feel that should've been mentioned. Too many crazy women out there sometimes it's better to leave
Other thing is she closes down and doesn't want to communicate when she does open up, I catch it but soon as i ask for more why how and try to delve deeper. She goes nvm i forgot its nothing you wouldnt understand i dont remember
Or get mad and go i dont have to open up to you at all it should be optional to talk or not
How are you fairing?@@gdraggon9589
This video will help me communicate with my woman this weekend.
How was it😂
I refuse to argue it doesn’t do any good. I say calmly what I’m concerned about and ask if I misunderstood him or the situation. He shuts down and is quick to say it’s over. I give him space until he calms down.
Hallelujah!!! So many men buy into the misconception that women are somehow intentionally out to get them or “focused on negativity” when we want to talk after an argument.....
When you leave it creates the feelings of abandonment. Just look that up.
I came across this guy one week too late after being dumped one week before by a woman I was crazy about. It is too late now as she made her mind up and gave many warnings before leaving me for good, I punch myself everyday watching his videos because I did everything wrong from the get go. I miss her everyday but I have to move on, I watch his videos and ordered his book to read it. She's not the first woman that dumps me for the same reasons, obviously I have to work on myself before start dating with someone else as she's crazy on tinder and seeing other guys.
Juan Mateus What you started when you wrote this comment, was a journey that would change your life
Lol it's not you dude if she is on tinder and doing weird stuff she was the problem. Focus on better persons next time
Thank you for this Corey. I used to be the strong one and told my ex we could do anything to make the relationship work, but I eventually left her when times got too tough last year. She still begged for me back for months but I didn't think I deserved her so I stayed away. I still loved her but only let her know that once I found out that she had moved on with another guy. That must have fucked her up even worse. It's been hard trying to find advice I can relate to online because most of them are about how the woman leaving the relationship due to the guy being too needy. In my case I was too distant, and hurt her so bad that she wants nothing to do with me anymore. It's been a couple months since finding out, and I've sort of accepted that I'll never get to be with her again, so right now I'm just going to focus on trying to move on. Here's another metaphorical nickel for ya, because this video was posted in the same month before we even started our relationship. I wish I'd found your works sooner so I'd have known how to deal with our problems back then, but it's better late than never.
i been following your work, and wow....i got my girlfriend back...
Jose Quiroz still together?
@@koma7778 good question 😁
Any update?
Me too
If you understand women you don't argue with them but communicate with them in an adult manner.
A woman closes b/c she's trying to protect her heart.
get her to talk and open up.
Women resolve problems by talking them out. until she says "I feel better" then you haven't opened her up emotionally.
your job as a man is to open her up. Don't just walk away.
you have to be the rock/the mountain
I tried to communicate. I was always calm... for hours... for days... but nothing worked. It seemed like I was the only one who wanted to fix problems. It's hard when she is bitchy by default for no reason at all.
@@GIwillo Man she was abusing me. I opend up from the begining, she opened up from begining... then, she started with abuse.
@@GIwillo She abused my soul! I am red pilled but I have some kindness in me. She abused it! Stupid bitch :D
Maaahhh fuck her, trash of a woman
NO name
Just by reading the abused me part I can already see the victim mentality. Women hate that, you obviously showed some form of weakness. Read the book 10-15 times and watch 1-3 videos every day
Walk away but when she reaches out ask
Just found Coach Corey, so far his advise has been spot on! Thanks CW
What if she’s emotionally abusive and you have to leave to put a brief healthy distance between you two?
This is me right now except for leaving I just freak out like a little b****. I needed this video today, thank you coach.
Coach! Thumbs up! Right video at the right time! Keep up the awesome work!
Corey, you've got the game bro!
I have read your book many times and I didn't understand this topic until now. I grew up watching this very same behavior between my parents. When things got difficult and the arguments grew in intensity, he would just leave, even if only for a few hours, so this is the example I saw. I have done the same thing with my current relationship and somehow I felt it was wrong, now I know how to fix it and hopefully, I will be a better example for my children than my father was. He is a great man and a good father, probably he just didn't know any better. Thanks for your help.
This video is exactly what I needed
I thought from previous videos that if a woman doesn't have her act together you need to walk away until she fixes her attitude to you
+danielaung691 but this is a women he's already in a relationship with.
danielaung691 the dude was fucking it up, not her
@@poolee77 Exactly. I didn't hear any attitude on the female end. He was the one getting upset. I'm surprised she didn't leave sooner because she gave him tons of chances to get his sh1t together. He kinda did her a favor. It was just a sh1t test and he failed miserably.
Same here...I am feeling so confused
I LITERALLY saw this video 22 hours too late....! And need to read his amazing book AT LEAST 9 more times.....I got emotionally hijacked and it went ALLLL out the window.....
So did you worked it out? How it went?
I love how this guy drops f-bombs...
i know this is an old video, but i wanted to thank you for this, it really offered me clarity as to where i went wrong in my relationship and how i contributed to it's subsequent ending.
i broke no contact and sent her an email accepting accountability for my failure to truly communicate and my failure in being her man.
also listening to your audiobook, thank you for everything you do.
How’d It go?
C’mon man!
Dude?
What if we have an argument and she leaves without communicating. But i think part of that was me not giving her a place to hide out. I guess i kinda ran her out of here trying to communicate
This video is for if your woman is willing to communicate.
Same problem here brother...I cant decide what to do
Holy shit Corey! That was me and she left me and now because you I understand. Wow I really screwed that up with a great woman.
I get what he's saying and he's right but there are some instances where it is necessary to leave and let things cool down for a bit. I'm not saying for days or weeks but maybe for a few hours or a night to let things settle then talk when your both not pissed off.
Communicating and women just don't seem to be in one line at all
I agree. Corey sounds like hes being a hypocrite right now. I always keep the position of the man
Good call
this advice is so true
Coach what's wrong with leaving if a woman is being difficult and using emotional manipulation to get over on you too me that's toxic but what your opinion
PaceDeliTV i think in this situation this argument seemed like this was the first time, not a repeated occurrence. If it was a repeated occurrence in the manner that you speak i think coach would have a different take on the situation.
Because the only reason it affects you is your lack of frame. All women are manipulative to a degree. “Shit test” learn how to deal with that stuff. Women are different than we are. Learn to appreciate and dance with their differences instead of complaining.
@paceDeliTV excactly my thoughts!
Hey big guy great one
Men don’t argue with women. Corey has stated this in numerous videos. Manage your butt hurt and ask her questions then STFU. Men listen first. You listen so that you can RESPOND appropriately.
What if she doesn't reply in a LDR after getting upset
Question is should I reach after doing the same behavior that led to a break up after I didn’t communicate well and left her place ? It’s been 1 month
Fuck, fuck I just leave to "give her space" instead of communicating
omg you are a legend....
Won't that be over pursuing?
EXACTLY...perfectly said!!!
So what if you try and she still leabes and stonewalls your communication attempt ? I'm stuck almost got progress done in rekindling and poof because I slipped in communication everything was going well until then wtf..
This video is for if the woman is a good communicator. If she isn't, then I'd say dump her and find someone better.
My ex would always say she wanted to break up whenever a disagreement came up so I would accept and she would come back apologizing days later, the last time this happened I agreed to break up like before then reached out to her 3 weeks later to talk and she said she wanted nothing to do with me, am I expected to still stay there and talk when she keeps threatening me with breakups? If I continue to be threatened with breakups I’m not going to feel comfortable in the relationships and That’s going to effect my ability to effectively communicate
Same thing happened to me. She would threat me then come back. Eventually I took her word and never called her back. Things can be worke on. But if she does not apreciate the commitment she is not worth it.
This has happened to me too. Girls like that are the worst
How do you work things out with women that do the silent treatment and won't talk?
He broke my heart and instead of talking it out on why, because I didn’t do anything
he’s being immature about it by, how you acting like a 5 year old and walking away and avoiding me like if I’m the problem!
Like wtf 🤬
Dam I seen this video too late, I just broke up with this girl I liked because of this same reason, smh I need to get this book...To late to workthings out tho😞
Any update? Did you eventually work it out?
My ex would storm off and pout when she got upset and want me to chase and console her. She’d do this at the drop of a hat and without me even knowing what triggered her. The last time she did that, she said “fuck off” as she was storming off. I asked her if she just said that to me and then said, “yes, fuck off if you don’t care about my feelings”. I left the scene - being cussed at isn’t something I’ll tolerate. So question… should I still have stayed and talked with her?
Any woman swearing at her man is a red flag. You want that energy around ur children?
@@befree9579I don’t have children but definitely agree with you. Haven’t spoken with her since and don’t plan to. While I’m no therapist, I’m quite certain a Cluster B personality disorder was present and that she was cheating on me. All in all, a great time… 😅
@@matthewjohnson5168 Ah good riddance with that mess. I don't bother with Western women. Overseas is better value for my time. Long as you can pay the bills and she obeys its better abroad.
Great video
If your girlfriend is upset, don’t leave!!! Not until she’s happy.
My girlfriend told me to sleep with her (not sex), and I told her I can’t because I was busy. I wasn’t even busy, I just didn’t want to be around her all the time or she’ll walk all over me again. She seemed upset, so I started poking her and tickling her. She told me to stop because she’s tired. Don’t be playful when they are tired, it won’t work. She was tired, but I thought she was just being a bitch. Which made her upset because I wouldn’t stop tickling her. I asked her if she wanted to cuddle and get a massage. She sad she don’t care. She said “do what you want”. So I got up and left without leaving her happy.
I did that and she never texted me back at all, so I had to fix things up again by inviting her over. She came over and she was upset still after 2 days. She had that bitch mood, so I told her to cuddle with me. We cuddled, but she was still in a bad mood. I tried changing the mood by joking. I said “So do you like cheese?” As a joke, and she said “what the heck dude.” So we stayed silent for 15min. I started running my fingers through her hair, and I asked her “Let’s go picnicking tomorrow.” Her mood changed and she was in her feminine side again. She started talking more, and I knew it was good again. I told her I need to use the bathroom, but she would let go like 4 times I said it. Then she let me go, and when I went to the bathroom, my shirt was all wet on my shoulder. That means she was crying on me when we were cuddling. It’s all about making them feel comfortable. It’s complicating, but once you understand women, you’ll know how to balance them. It’s freaking difficult and I don’t understand fully yet, but it’s a process of learning. She wasn’t being distance and I ran away, that made her think that I didn’t love her and it will make her doubt things. When she starts to be distant when you’re being a gentleman to her, all you gotta do is back off and be patient. Women needs space, if you’re around them all the time, they get annoyed and they won’t miss you, and it’ll push them to the point where they haven’t missed you in so long that they want the feeling of missing someone again, so they’ll end up leaving you or cheating on you.
bro if they cheat on you then one did the right thing to leave from the beginning.
what if you were the one who was pissed at her and walked away and she knows and asks you to talk. So you talk over text and decide to take the communication over person and she denies to meet up twice. I told her to let me know when her schedule frees up. is that ok?
Orly B any update?
Any updates?
6:50 I thought about things, I should stayed and worked things out with u
8:04
If your women is upset or in a bad mood, order her food 😍😍
except when she wants to "talk" every week. the mountain becomes a glacier that slowly starts to slide away
That means she doesn't feel heard
they want this, but they also wanted changed actions as well
I thought if gf being crazy and outlandish then leave tell her when she calms down or want to be sweet we can talk again
what if i don't give a fuck anymore?
I love her but i don't need her in my life, so the outcome doesn't really matter?
lol If the outcome doesn't matter why ask?
Can anyone help me get a grasp on this it's hard to comprehend
All What this guy coach said is rubbish.
Don’t argue with your girlfriend. Just listen to her and let her open up :)
I hate it when me and my girlfriend is having an issue and she started to shut all communication (we are on a Long distance relationship) and every time she is shutting the communication and it is causing me to get more angrier and stated calling and send her more and more angry messages and miss calls
Well I tried to open here up for 2 days, but she wasn't, then she dumped me
Hoping that you stay and work it out? Nobody gotta hear someone who don't wanna talk and understand. Always one sided and we gotta stay and tolerate that shit? FOH
I am trying to get my boyfriend to do this but he refuse
He just don't want to talk to me
Everything is about how I am nagging him and stressing him
But he is not willing to meet me half way with anything
He keep telling me that he is not a person who love to talk but he does with his video game friends
Love this
Sorry I was ignored after pursuing too much deuces
so we are supposed to just sit there and listen to them go off on us after a argument and not say anything back....... awesome
I hate arguing but my man wants to argue and put me down a lot..it hurts...why do he do this?
K Lawland just show him these videos
TY!
K Lawland no problem
K Lawland what ever happened?
What if you showed up to her house and she starts crying saying she wasn't happy and not happy with herself, and that she feels like she needs to be on her own because she has been in back to back relationships? It sounded like what she told her ex, which I mentioned, and she said this is different because I love you and don't know if I will find this again. Also that she doesn't want marriage or kids in the future, which she said she knows I do. I said well "if you change your mind, give me a call." Grab my stuff and headed out. < was this the right thing to do in this circumstance?
If a woman tells me she want's me out of her life for some inane reason that she has created in her head and won't listen to reason, then I will oblige because I am not a mind reader.
What if the 'argument' is that she wants you to ALWAYS fix things and do what she wants while you want both partners to contribute and put in the effort? You feel unappreciated and think she is behaving selfishly.
How do you address her bad behaviour and lack of communication? when you ask her what is wrong and try 'opening her up' and she remains stubborn and unhelpful.
***** she literally tells me her problem, usually needing money, and then says "what are you going to do about it?". when I communicate how I am feeling she says I am 'nagging like a girl'. if I joke with her and be playful then she says "i am not taking her seriously". Her actions are ruining her life, my life and our relationship.
daz1317 well put her in her place or end it
Ahhh brooooooooo i can sooooooo relate to what’s going with you right now b
I desperately need help.
My girlfriend is depressed and stressed out about work and family and bills. I'm trying to understand where she's coming from and I deal with the same stressful situation. I think her main problem is she is so negative about everything and hates her job. She has hobbies but claims it's too expensive, I do my best to be there for her but I'm not great at it. What tools can I use for her to stop being a lone wolf and get her to stop stressing about things she can't control... I love her to death we been together for a year and a half we are both in recovery (me heroin and her alcohol... I've been clean for 4-5 months now and she's been sober for 6years) . And she has trouble sleeping.... SMH lol!
Any information or help would be greatly appreciated 🧐👍
Seems like some of his advice contradicts itself.
Gus Gambatese be the mountain ⛰ don’t move butttrr in certain contexts you need to respect yourself and not put up with nonsense
You’re cussing is the reason I am not a fan. Best wishes.
@A. Senior
In this case the man was wrong not the woman. That's why he is saying the man should go back to the woman and talk to her .
But you can't resolve problems by talking about them. It doesn't change reality because there's no action. Why don't women get this?
so I've been watching your videos and I'm in a situation right now as I stated in the other comment that I left I am the female in the relationship and me and my boyfriend baby's father of two years we have just recently started arguing more than we normally would because I have a mental situation with the death of my mother and I recently in here to her car and so I am able to kind of go as I please and let you know I have a way out we argue about that and he thinks you know that I'm Stuntin on them or I'm trying to shine on them or what have you we got into a argument about 2 weeks ago and it got really bad and I just decided to pack up my things and leave I felt no other choice I feel like he was not trying to understand what I was going through even though he too has a mother who passed about ten years or so ago okay and we don't go anywhere we don't do anything we stay cooped up in the house will drink a little smoke but we stay at the house we might sit outside on the front porch we might ride to the store or something to go get some groceries or maybe we'll go get some Popeyes Wendy's or Taco Bell we haven't gone out if we do it's because I initiated now I've been gone for 2 weeks and I asked him if he wanted to go to breakfast I initiate the conversations he never once called to tell me that he missed me and wanted me to come home he had went out of town while I have been away from the house but it didn't let me know that he went when I text him because I wanted to come over he sent me a very short text and said I'm not in Columbus he was real short with me I didn't even know that he was going we talked about it when he got back and we know he came over to give us he told me a couple of days ago that he was going back today and I was upset about it and I didn't understand why he had to go but it made me feel some kind of way but kind of fishy because you just came back why you have to go again so I didn't have an attitude and I didn't talk to him the whole way he was taking me back to where I was staying I called him and I said I hope you have a happy sweetest day and take care of your whatever you have to take care of them and they and I did start that we started arguing and I have started pointing out about how he talk to females on Facebook talking s*** as he likes to say I just started pointing out things negative things and then he got upset and he said it was over he said I'm done because you not about to sit here and dog me for the last 20 minutes so I'm done if I'm such a bad person why you with me but I wasn't trying to say that he was a bad person I wasn't trying to nag just pointing out some things because he does the same things to me he always says how I'm so unappreciative how I'm so ungrateful he calls me a user a liar and a deceiver because I didn't tell him about my money card that came but I did tell him when my money card came all the money was spoken for so what is the point of me telling you that it even came if there's no money on it so he called me a liar about it and all this arguing during an emotional time in my life where I need him when he said that he understood because the same thing happened to him I will want to come home and I've been here for some in a few days now but I haven't moved all of my things back in he came to get me after we argued though he didn't want to and he said he wasn't going to he said the only reason that he was even coming to get me was because of our daughter I asked him if we could fix this and I began apologizing for the things that I had said to him but I've been apologizing for days now and over and over and over again whereas when he went through the same situation and he flipped the script on me I would forgive him and we would move on he would ask me to sit and talk with him and I would sit and talk with him but now when I ask him to sit and talk with me he wants to say I'll talk to you later he puts me off or he'll say I don't want to talk to you I don't understand I need some help what I don't want to argue anymore I don't want to fight anymore I want to come home and I want to have my family but how do I get him to understand so we don't argue and bump heads because he doesn't want to bump heads either but it seems like after a 20-minute argument or you know Army pointing out his mistakes and flaws that I gave him passes on he doesn't want to continue on in the relationship so what can I do why am I the one apologizing when I'm the one that is going through something can you help me
Sorry can you say that again?
My love from the beginning told me she can't stand conflict and will flee. I told her if that happens I would be the one to leave so that it can be worked out later. Wrong wrong wrong. Her entire married and single life this is how she acted. We are on a relationship break right now after 2 years plus on and off and I caused the break by telling her I didn't want to get married or move to a new house we planed to go to. It has been almost 4 months I have seen a counselor she even came with me once and she has seen one too a couple times. However she seems incapable to get over the hurt and forgive. I have been as remorseful and regretful as possible helped her at her new house when she moved out and been as kind as I could be. I think she dwells only on the negative aspects of me which to me means we are done. Corey states you get what you are looking for meaning if you watch for only bad things on any person's behavior that is what you see. I am seeing the dark side of the woman I have loved for over two years. She says she sees me in a different light now. Well no shit when all you do is watch someone to fail and on a conversation jump on any small infraction possible. I honestly thought at 66 and she is 66 too that she was more mature than this. Age doesn't guarantee wisdom and I am a pretty smart guy and she is a pretty smart lady....
That's bullshit how men always have to do everything .... what If i feel like shes gonna leave? What if I'm nervous she will dump me what if im full of anxiety and dont trust her? What if I think it's only a.matter of time before she leaves like all the rest? ..... you know men have feelings too ..... sometimes we need reassurance of the relationship.... sometimes we have been hurt so many times we feel like that too... why do we always have to be the rock in a relationship? Why do we always have to be the perfect one? It's supposed to be an equal relationship ... i have anxiety problems even without women .... PTSD and depression.... I'm also a body builder ... so I'm not a weak bitch but I also have serious emotional problems.... I dont think I deserve to die alone because I have emotions and I feel sad or scared sometimes....
Thank u for this vedio, talk and face our own mistake not easy, behind that is fear. Fear of loss fear of thing may not workout. You need to loss that attachment and talk.
I loss a weak bitch boy before i always not talk and open new option when problem happen which it ruin all my relationship previous.
Trust me talk and communication even it not go out good. U will respect yourself more.
Maybe some of you can help me with this situation. I would email coach but, he no longer has that activated.
I was dating a women for about 2 and half weeks. I have now went no contact with her. At the beginning she was very interested. She was doing all the pursuing and texting me a lot. For only being 2 weeks we were together a lot almost everyday I stayed the night at her place. Because she would contact me then I would ask when she was free. By the 2nd date we had sex... After watching the narcissist video today by Corey it made me think she loved bombed me. But at the same time I know I fucked up on a situation of communication.
So this is what happened, she contacted me one evening so I asked her when she was free. She said Monday! She said after work on Friday she wanted to go to the gym and she said she had to work both her jobs on Saturday and Sunday. So I said ok sounds good. I know I didn't make a definite date and I need to work on that.
Well saturday came around and I went out to a bar I usually go to because I know a DJ there. Right when I walk in I see her with her girlfriend who had a boyfriend and 2 other guys. My first reaction was walk away so I walked out but said to myself you need to go in there so I did. I said hey and talked to her about the situation. Asked her if she was here with this other guy and what happen to going to her other job that night? She told me "no she wasn't here with him they are all friends and that they didn't need her at the other job tonight". I asked her "did you drive here?" She said "her car is here and she came out with her friends right after work." (She works downtown right by the bars). My trust went down hill from there. I just didn't believe her. I stayed center at the time and had drinks with them. I noticed she was touchy with me and sometimes with this other guy as well. Well we all left that bar and walked to a club after that.
There I still stayed composed but I was just feeling something isn't right. I did end up kissing her in front of the other guy and what not but, I still felt like something was going on because she lied to me and I just so happen to see her out. Well towards the end of the night she said "we are going to leave" but then right after said "I am going to leave". I was like what the hell in my head. So I chilled for a min and I just couldn't take it anymore. I said I'll talk to you later and just left. I know I should of communicated with her but It just all felt wrong.
She text me that night saying "what the hell". I said "I didn't feel right". She said "wow". I said "what do you mean"? She said "you cant be serious". Then I called her and she didn't pick up. So then I text her saying "I'm glade I saw you out tonight. It was just a weird situation for me at the start. Can you understand that? Your dance moves were solid by the way tonight". Then I text her again saying "I felt lied to and disrespected". She text back the next day saying "she honestly felt disrespected and that she was sorry that I felt that way and that it wasn't her intentions". I text her back telling her "I was sorry too and that I could of handled it different".
The next day I text her "pick you up at your place at 3 for an adventure"? Because we still had plans on Monday or so I thought. She said "No thank you". So I told her "when she changes her mind to give me a text or call". I haven't heard back from her for 2 days. I know I should of communicated more to her but at the same time she lied to me.
What is yalls opinion on this situation?
As the coach says: You haven't read the book 10-15 times. You don't have the fundamentals and because of that you came undone.
"For only being 2 weeks we were together a lot almost everyday I stayed the night at her place." - Too much, too soon. Read the book and take it slow.
"Asked her if she was here with this other guy and what happen to going to her other job that night?" She is not your girlfriend and not your property. She can go wherever she wants to go. Put yourself in her position, how would you feel having to explain yourself to this person you literally just met?
You went to the place to hang out and when you saw her you went into competition mode for no reason. You should've just done your thing. Followed your plans. You let her actions dictate your reactions.
"She text me that night saying "what the hell"" Here you ruined everything. Remember: if you dont have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all! Specially if you are under an emotional turmoil. Words can't be taken back. You made a lot of assumptions, projected your fears and now you are thinking she disrespected you. If someone is really disrespecting you, then you don't engage them. Demanding respect does not work.
At this point it's all over. Delete her number and assume she died. If she is interested she will contact you. Buy the book, read it as prescribed, watch the videos and take notes. Move at a slow pace with women. Time will reveal the truth so be patient.
Good luck.
Thanks man.
Who are these cliché woman you meet?
I love ya corey but you always put the blame on us .... why do we always have to be the perfect one ... the rock the mountain .... why arent women on these damn videos studying how to be a better fucking person?... why are we always the ones everyone looks to for comfort and strength? Isnt it supposed to be equal these days ?
You can fix things in the middle of the tension, leave & come back later. Coach Corey Wayne, you blame the man at alllll position ..you a not saying things right.
I hate arguing but my man wants to argue and put me down a lot..it hurts...why do he do this?
K Lawland just show him these videos...
I hate arguing but my man wants to argue and put me down a lot..it hurts...why do he do this?
K Lawland just show him these videos
Because he’s doesn’t know any better. I use to do the same shit buy him this book if you’re still in the same situation.