Why do some people get offended when you stand up for yourself?? It's like they get angry over the fact that they can't treat another human being like garbage.
Because it fucks with their reality. They can't put you down to make themselves feel better anymore, in turn making them feel insecure. Thus, being butt hurt and trying to make you feel bad or stupid for having to balls to not be pushed around.
It's amazing how the family you grow up in affects your behaviour and outlook on life. it's also amazing the power we have within us to change and be who we were meant to be. I was blaming this nice girl, then watch and read Corey's book and realize how weak I was acting unconsciously the whole time. I can literally slap myself in the face lol. Thanks for your work. It's been a great eye opener for growth.
You are right about feeling insecure or that you are not good enough when you grow up without a loving family; I'm living proof of that. But I'm overcoming it now that I know that is not me not being good enough
You are helping me a lot these days Coach Corey!! I had a malignant narcissist, domineering father and a covert narcissist, enabler mother who left me with people pleasing behaviours and a shaky sense of self-worth. So, your videos are helping me greatly in developing healthy communication and actions in my relationships that I was never taught growing up...Thanks a tonne!!
My insecurities are because of learning difficulties growing up. My brain is slow so I often can't think of a response.. Also growing up between disabled people made me care a lot more then I should of..
Fully resonate with the childhood part. Its our base of life and the foolish, arrogant, cold-hearted parents ruins it. People are yet to understand the mental part of growing up... Sometimes With time things change!
My mother was a cold fish to; the day I came home after graduating from Army basic training and AIT, she came to pick me up at the airport and she wouldn't even hug me. That was the first time I ever actually wanted to hug her come to think of it. I remember thinking "dam, that was cold".
Here is what you MUST know about the “S” test: 1. If you agree to it then you have already flunked it. The only “S” test you should agree to is the one you give HER. 2. All answers given MUST be no answer at all. For example, “Really?” or, “Ha, that’s funny” or even, “Well, that's ridiculous” or simply no answer at all. 3. Always SMILE at what ever they say to you no matter how ridiculous or rude they become. This tells them that WHAT they say to you has no bering - they have absolutely no AFFECT on you OR your mood. 4. If at any time they become unentertaining OR too rude, simply walk away. 5. If they flunk YOUR “S” test - do NOT give them another chance. Simply walk away. 6. NEVER lose control of the situation. Never allow them to believe that THEY are in control of you. Everything should be done at your behest with your expressed permission. Anything less and they will lose respect for you AND the relationship will be over. This does NOT mean that you have to be rude or a control freak. Always be nice - even when they are not nice to you. REMEMBER THIS FIRST AND FOREMOST: Never EVER put up with a woman's “S” - Not even her “S” tests. As soon as she finds out that you are willing to put up with her crap, that is all you can ever expect from her. She has to be aware that you are NEVER willing to be complacent about how she treats you. If she treats you poorly - the exit is close by. Use it. Absolutely nothing is worth the price of a female’s “S”. PERIOD. FINALLY: Women do not set the social “standards of etiquette” for our society - but they should abide by them. Moreover, it is inappropriate in today's environment for anyone to cull their own group as MORE SPECIAL or exceptional than any other. In short, they should abide by all of the SAME social rules of engagement as any other group. Never allow the females in any situation to collectively hold males to standards they themselves are unable to act in accordance to. Keep this at the forefront in all dealings with ANY group - especially females in specific and women's groups in general.
I have problems with people using me and taking a advantage of me. It has little to do with women. It's just in general. Both of my parents were normal. But I feel like I don't matter.
Get a conceal and carry license. LOL In all seriousness, knowing you have the ability to kill someone in seconds helps. I was taught how to kill via melee,but also carry a firearm for work. Life is so fragile by my hands :)
I've watched through almost all of your videos, Corey, and this is the one that hits home the most. My mom was very domineering/passive aggressive (still dealing with it at 24 as I try to get back in touch with her after cutting off contact a few months ago), and my dad is very weak. Great lessons here. Keep up the good work man
good video coach. I was easy going and my LTR just started walking all over me and doing really disrespectful stuff. I realized I had to change. I read your book and no Mr nice guy and started standing up for myself. I explained that I was going to express myself when stuff wasn't right. I lovingly called her out on somethings and all hell broke loose. I said I'm not trying to change you, I'm lovingly telling you how your direspectfull behavior makes me feel. (no give me a kiss). She was taken a back and all hell broke loose. She said we are going in different directions and she doesn't want to end up hating me. As long as i was not saying anything and taking it in the arse it was all good. Well we will she what happens. But I had to stand up for my self or get ran over. thx coach
SHit man.. you are describing me. I feel like im waiting for orders and to please women. My parents are like you describe also.. no wonder i got little to no confidence around women. Thank you for sharing. You have helped me alot! :)
Aww, that is sad:( At least you learned from his mistakes so that you know what not to do, and it is awesome and manly of you to try to be a better man than he was. I hope you are happy with your life.
Dude, I wish our dad’s would have sat down and explained woman. Sadly we have to do our own homework.... or LOSE! They didnt and still don’t have a clue! Thx coach
My girlfriend tried doing this to me recently. They,k try to test you by starting fights or arguments to see if you stand up for yourself. The way I see it is you have one choice; leave. Show them that you won’t put up with their shit. Show them that when they try to push you off center, get dramatic and jealous and make a mountain out of a molehill that it simply will not be tolerated. Leave and ignore them and as Corey says “give them the gift of missing you”. Only Allow them back into your life after giving them a clear understanding that drama and unnecessary bullshit won’t be tolerated. And if they do it again, leave for good. It is simply a waste of time to deal with it. For every beautiful girl,there are hundreds if not thousands who are even more beautiful who won’t give you bullshit. Ignore fear of loss and respect yourself. Bean alpha with options and make sure your girl knows that.
Wow that sounds like my upbring , my father was abusive , Mum taught me to stand up for myself He beat her up, she was very strong lady, when i stood up to him , he started bullying me, and beating me up, I grew stronger , Stand up for yoursef be a Man
I went no contact with my ex I’ve now read your book 11 times. She sent me a message on Friday saying hey hope you’re doing well. How do you take my credit card off the ps4? I didn’t text back till the next day. I’ve decided to go against what you said Corey cause I was the type of guy to always say yes or I would help her. I said you don’t need me for that. I don’t have time to look it up for you. Hope you’re doing well. Merry Christmas. She texted back with the emoji annoyed. Didn’t hear anything since and it made me feel good to finally do what I wanted. I think she was testing me to see if I would text back and give her the answer to her problem like I always have. She told me in the beginning you need to stop being there for me 24/7. She’s the only woman that tried helping me and would tell me things I’m doing wrong. If it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have read your book cause i didn’t think I was doing anything wrong. Thanks Corey and I know I shouldn’t have texted her but I needed to finally show her I’m going to stand up for myself and not always be there. She tested me the last time I went no contact. She hit me up 6 days later asking me to stay the night. I did and in the morning she asked if I could take out her dog so she can rest a little bit longer and take a shower. I’ve always said yes and when I left her house that morning I realized she was testing me to see if I changed. She was annoyed and didn’t hug me before I left. She was disappointed in me. Moral of the story, don’t always say yes and start doing things for you.
I’m a humble,loving,caring providing man,for the past to years I met a girl with her two kids,she new most of my friends that I knew long before her,male and female,in the beginning them being my friends and really love me,told me be careful,don’t fall in love,I keep ignoring them,spending all my money where even the kids disrespecting me,bear in mind she’s have sex and come to find out she’s still having with a couple of my hone boys,it came to a point where she was telling them negative shit a pour me and telling me they’re talking shit about me,where they wasn’t talking to me for months,it came to a point where one of my friends that still banging her,today called me and showed me text and shit that they’re still dealing with,she gon learn today that my kindness wasn’t weakness,financially I’ve spent every month like all the bills and more,she got her money on her level and was really taking me like a fool,well it goes like this if I give it another minute Imma feel like imma lose my manhood to a woman who tells me like it is,my first option is to leave,but imma keep it cool and let her know it’s time she pays the bills cause I really ain’t got it,she’s outta town now will be back tomorrow,should I just leave and go do me?or relax be humble and let her come thru financially and free to do it her way,cause I’m ok with that.
I am in a tough spot. I decided to give my ex and ultimatum ...She constantly accused me of being on social media, and talking to other girls. Neither was true yet every morning I would wake up to text of her saying she had a "feeling". Finally I got sick and tired of this and told her to apologize and stop accusing me or I would move on. Her response basically was cursing me off and telling me she knows I am doing her dirty. I instantly went no contact. I know I would be beta to let her talk to me that way and continue to accuse me of behavior I did not participate in. I miss her so much and though it was me who did the breaking up I feel like I had no other options. I had tried to talk to her previously about this, but to no avail. I am in a lot of pain right now. I am hoping she takes me seriously and realizes the error of her ways. I don't even know if I should be in no contact, but enough was enough.
David don't be desparate. If you had problems with her attitude then she needs to change if you go back to her now she will be more disrespectful than before. Stand your ground
I thought this video was going to be about standing up to another man. I've done this, still wouldn't shut up. I could throw hands, but that will then be left on my record. I don't want to be pushed around, but I also can't make someone do something they don't want. I also don't want it effecting my record for future opportunities.
He thinks the problem is with him. His only problem is that he doesn't know all women are like that. But the girl who (respected the fuck out of him until she said she didn't love him anymore) likely had BPD or NPD and its no question why he is hurting. That kind of relationship takes a long time to get over.
Yup. My ex was the same way and our relationship of two years ended the same way a month after I proposed to her - which was what she claimed she wanted. Looking back, it seems obvious... she wanted to break it off and the pressuring for engagement was just another shit test, among a host of others, that I failed. She was cold as fuck after breaking it off and she had a horrible childhood filled with sexual and verbal abuse. In the aftermath, friends of mine pointed out the similarities, and it couldn't have been more obvious in hindsight, that she had BPD
Hey Coach, or fellow people. I have been dating a girl for 2 years and she has been nothing but sweet and kind towards me. However, I do sense a manipulative trait in her.. we were planning on building a company together with a trial run of our product going out this winter, plus we are planning on moving in together and things were looking great. However, today, without even tellin 10:55g me, she bought one of those little brown glamour yappy dogs on the internet, and it's getting shipped to her house tomorrow. The last thing I want is to move in with a girl who has one of those little dogs. I love big dogs, but I can't stand little defenseless dogs. I told her I felt disrespected and disregarded that she would do that without even asking me. Where should I go from here? Should I break up with her over this? I gotta get some answers, thanks to anyone who can help.
biznachos1 Get rid of her. That’s a small thing. But all big things start by small things. Ask yourself the same question... would you just bring home a big dog just because you wanted it? Or would you consult with your partner first? And now that she brought home that small dog, do you find yourself taking care of it? Such as feeding, potty, vet and walks? Or does she completely take care of that dog? If it’s you then leave her ass!
biznachos1 Get rid of her. That’s a small thing. But all big things start by small things. Ask yourself the same question... would you just bring home a big dog just because you wanted it? Or would you consult with your partner first? And now that she brought home that small dog, do you find yourself taking care of it? Such as feeding, potty, vet and walks? Or does she completely take care of that dog? If it’s you then leave her ass!
Good advice but Im a woman and have the belief that non of the parts should be submissive. There should be mutual respect and both parts need to be able to stand up for oneself and set boundaries. I need to learn to stand up for myself and not be walked over both men and wimen. When you have that deep pattern of wanting to please, it doesnt matter if its a female or a male.
+aaron19smith Bro...I'm on your side but you must cease according respect to anyone who hasn't earned it! And cease talking to women so much. Ask em questions and let them talk.
From a male perspective, I personally couldn't care less about how submissive a girlfriend is. Now for a wife I want someone to have their own opinons, like if she just defaults automatically to whatever I say then ok we might have a problem. Everywhere else, I mean even if she literally allows me to walk all over her. I'll at most be a bit annoyed but if she's good at serving me NO WAY IN HELL would I leave a persone cause of that, are you kidding?
Let me tell you when you wake the fuck up and tell her that you're not going to be told how to think, feel and behave the sooner you'll take control of your life in every facet. She's not your mother! She has no business trying to control you! She'll either love you for you or she won't! Either way no compromise! You cannot be the man she needs when she can push you around and the same goes for her. Relationships built on one person controlling the other will never work! Never!! Get it through both your heads or live a miserable life.
I find it hard in work I work with women and sometime she theyre waiting for me to come in so they can give orders, if I say no they could say well are you in the right job?
Thanks a lot lot lot lot Corey. I myself come from a same family where my mother has been a ruler of the roost and I have always found my dad letting her walk all over him. This unconsciously got imbedded in me and I always got attracted to women who could dominate, manipulate and fuck the hell outta me. Coming across your videos has really helped me figure out the pattern in my life. Thanks once again for your sound advice.
Cory has the basic principle correct about setting boundaries with women, but in my opinion he lacks expertise in assertive and empathetic language techniques. Now this video is old so he has probably improved, and I have not read any of his books. In the video CW should have made it clear that setting boundaries with women includes every exchange from the first time you meet until you breakup. You must know how to assertively express yourself to modify a woman's behavior. The meaning behind your words has to be clear to the woman, she either modifies her behavior or relationship over. That's it. Relationships are harsh, they are not for the meek. This is how you earn respect from a woman. Another thing I should mention about coaching men is that social skills (conversation) is a foundational step for men who are already self-aware. The problem with the success of CW coaching, or any coach for that matter, is the fact the student has to be emotionally mature in order to have a foundation to effectively learn (build upon) and use the advice. If you do not understand yourself, you will not be able to understand others. I am not sure CW can do much to help men who are not self-aware. The repeated patterns of student frustration and roadblocks are rooted in mental health. For CW techniques to work students should sort themselves out first. If the past trauma is severe, this will probably mean therapy. 83% to 90% of all men are not self-aware, and are not emotionally prepared for relationships. I am sure with CWs experienced he can recognize men who are emotionally immature, and thus are not ready for relationships. The patterns of behavior will be very repetitive and with experience very predictable. CW must know his coaching challenge for men is mental health and not female behavior when forging successful relationships. Even so there is not much he can do about it.
The presumption is that if you're on here watching this video you're likely self-aware enough to begin to educate yourself...otherwise you wouldn't be here in the first place.
@@iamripoff You are either self-aware or not in regards to learning communication skills. You do not have to be self-aware to watch a dating coach video.
Hello I was chatting on skype text chat with my ex and after an hour or so, all of sudden when it looked like I was expecting a reply from the conversation we were having, there was no reply (and she was online for a long while ). Then she disconnected and there was no reply or farewell or anything.... A few hours later I sent her a message telling her it was not polite to leave a conversation without saying goodbye (plus a wink icon).... She has not replied to this either and she seems to be mad about... I think it's not polite to leave a conversation without saying goodbye... Did I do the right thing in this case or did I look like too uptight? I think if I hadn't said anything she would do that again... Thanks very much for the comments.
I wouldn't have sent the wink if she was rude because that's rewarding bad behavior. if she hung up on you it's rude. But if the conversation just died down it would look needy to complain about it.
6Intuition Youre right I did the whole thing wrong at the time... Now I am learning to manage better the ball when it's on my side... yes it died down ... it was needy on my side... Thanks very much...
You're welcome. No matter what happens you will always have the opportunity to learn something. The more you learn the more experiences and lessons you can apply to your future endeavors. Best of Luck Alberto.
im get in to know this girl and sbe is really really nice and im take in her out this this really really classy restaurant tonight and i been listen to you alot know i think thing's or going so much batter for me know thatnks to you and tonight she might ask me about sex agin but im going to say no lets take things slow know it has been a couple of months thinking i been get in to know her so im trying to get to know her for ayear then take kt to the next level beacuse i been a whole lof of mast up relationships in my pass and i thi k now it is going to be the good is thing in my life this is the frist time im learn in how to take thing's slow sometime i dont wont to but i going to beacuse i really really really really really like her a whole lot
Why do some people get offended when you stand up for yourself?? It's like they get angry over the fact that they can't treat another human being like garbage.
Because it fucks with their reality. They can't put you down to make themselves feel better anymore, in turn making them feel insecure. Thus, being butt hurt and trying to make you feel bad or stupid for having to balls to not be pushed around.
this is so true
Many are narcissists beware my friends
They want to poke you with sticks and call you weird when you react with pain! It's fucked up
@barbatvs8959 Lol! brilliant.
I stand up to women who disrespect me.
Why stop at women?
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It's amazing how the family you grow up in affects your behaviour and outlook on life. it's also amazing the power we have within us to change and be who we were meant to be. I was blaming this nice girl, then watch and read Corey's book and realize how weak I was acting unconsciously the whole time. I can literally slap myself in the face lol. Thanks for your work. It's been a great eye opener for growth.
You are right about feeling insecure or that you are not good enough when you grow up without a loving family; I'm living proof of that. But I'm overcoming it now that I know that is not me not being good enough
You are helping me a lot these days Coach Corey!! I had a malignant narcissist, domineering father and a covert narcissist, enabler mother who left me with people pleasing behaviours and a shaky sense of self-worth. So, your videos are helping me greatly in developing healthy communication and actions in my relationships that I was never taught growing up...Thanks a tonne!!
My insecurities are because of learning difficulties growing up.
My brain is slow so I often can't think of a response.. Also growing up between disabled people made me care a lot more then I should of..
today i got pushed around but i stood up for myself
Fully resonate with the childhood part. Its our base of life and the foolish, arrogant, cold-hearted parents ruins it. People are yet to understand the mental part of growing up... Sometimes With time things change!
Be anybody and stand for yourself.
My mother was a cold fish to; the day I came home after graduating from Army basic training and AIT, she came to pick me up at the airport and she wouldn't even hug me. That was the first time I ever actually wanted to hug her come to think of it. I remember thinking "dam, that was cold".
Here is what you MUST know about the “S” test:
1. If you agree to it then you have already flunked it. The only “S” test you should agree to is the one you give HER.
2. All answers given MUST be no answer at all. For example, “Really?” or, “Ha, that’s funny” or even, “Well, that's ridiculous” or simply no answer at all.
3. Always SMILE at what ever they say to you no matter how ridiculous or rude they become. This tells them that WHAT they say to you has no bering - they have absolutely no AFFECT on you OR your mood.
4. If at any time they become unentertaining OR too rude, simply walk away.
5. If they flunk YOUR “S” test - do NOT give them another chance. Simply walk away.
6. NEVER lose control of the situation. Never allow them to believe that THEY are in control of you. Everything should be done at your behest with your expressed permission. Anything less and they will lose respect for you AND the relationship will be over. This does NOT mean that you have to be rude or a control freak. Always be nice - even when they are not nice to you.
REMEMBER THIS FIRST AND FOREMOST:
Never EVER put up with a woman's “S” - Not even her “S” tests. As soon as she finds out that you are willing to put up with her crap, that is all you can ever expect from her. She has to be aware that you are NEVER willing to be complacent about how she treats you. If she treats you poorly - the exit is close by. Use it. Absolutely nothing is worth the price of a female’s “S”. PERIOD.
FINALLY: Women do not set the social “standards of etiquette” for our society - but they should abide by them. Moreover, it is inappropriate in today's environment for anyone to cull their own group as MORE SPECIAL or exceptional than any other. In short, they should abide by all of the SAME social rules of engagement as any other group. Never allow the females in any situation to collectively hold males to standards they themselves are unable to act in accordance to. Keep this at the forefront in all dealings with ANY group - especially females in specific and women's groups in general.
I have problems with people using me and taking a advantage of me. It has little to do with women. It's just in general. Both of my parents were normal. But I feel like I don't matter.
Get a conceal and carry license. LOL
In all seriousness, knowing you have the ability to kill someone in seconds helps. I was taught how to kill via melee,but also carry a firearm for work. Life is so fragile by my hands :)
I've watched through almost all of your videos, Corey, and this is the one that hits home the most. My mom was very domineering/passive aggressive (still dealing with it at 24 as I try to get back in touch with her after cutting off contact a few months ago), and my dad is very weak. Great lessons here. Keep up the good work man
En tant que coach personnelle et professionnelle je trouve que ton approche est excellente. Thank you for all your support!
good video coach. I was easy going and my LTR just started walking all over me and doing really disrespectful stuff. I realized I had to change. I read your book and no Mr nice guy and started standing up for myself. I explained that I was going to express myself when stuff wasn't right. I lovingly called her out on somethings and all hell broke loose. I said I'm not trying to change you, I'm lovingly telling you how your direspectfull behavior makes me feel. (no give me a kiss). She was taken a back and all hell broke loose. She said we are going in different directions and she doesn't want to end up hating me. As long as i was not saying anything and taking it in the arse it was all good.
Well we will she what happens. But I had to stand up for my self or get ran over.
thx coach
Thank-you for all these videos. I wish I had this kind of information 20years ago. I wouldn't be in the predicament that I'm in now.
Hi! I'm Coach Corey Wayne!
SHit man.. you are describing me. I feel like im waiting for orders and to please women. My parents are like you describe also.. no wonder i got little to no confidence around women. Thank you for sharing. You have helped me alot! :)
I'm sorry you had to grow up like that. I grew up very similar to you. I wish I knw a man like you
+Sarfraz Momin Lmao oh lawd
+vlogmom I grew up in a very dysfunctional family too. My father was an alcoholic loser, I had to become a man by myself and just learn from mistakes.
Aww, that is sad:( At least you learned from his mistakes so that you know what not to do, and it is awesome and manly of you to try to be a better man than he was. I hope you are happy with your life.
vlogmom I am, I hope you are too, take care.
That's good. I am working on it. lol
I will be a woman, and stand for myself.
You should.
Interesting video.You are a well spoken and intelligent gentalman.This was very helpful.
Dude, I wish our dad’s would have sat down and explained woman. Sadly we have to do our own homework.... or LOSE!
They didnt and still don’t have a clue!
Thx coach
My girlfriend tried doing this to me recently. They,k try to test you by starting fights or arguments to see if you stand up for yourself. The way I see it is you have one choice; leave. Show them that you won’t put up with their shit. Show them that when they try to push you off center, get dramatic and jealous and make a mountain out of a molehill that it simply will not be tolerated. Leave and ignore them and as Corey says “give them the gift of missing you”. Only Allow them back into your life after giving them a clear understanding that drama and unnecessary bullshit won’t be tolerated. And if they do it again, leave for good. It is simply a waste of time to deal with it. For every beautiful girl,there are hundreds if not thousands who are even more beautiful who won’t give you bullshit. Ignore fear of loss and respect yourself. Bean alpha with options and make sure your girl knows that.
I feel like I've never met a girl who isn't like this... and the ones I have met, that seem like this, are of course always in relationships
Wow that sounds like my upbring , my father was abusive , Mum taught me to stand up for myself
He beat her up, she was very strong lady, when i stood up to him , he started bullying me, and beating me up, I grew stronger , Stand up for yoursef be a Man
I went no contact with my ex I’ve now read your book 11 times. She sent me a message on Friday saying hey hope you’re doing well. How do you take my credit card off the ps4? I didn’t text back till the next day. I’ve decided to go against what you said Corey cause I was the type of guy to always say yes or I would help her. I said you don’t need me for that. I don’t have time to look it up for you. Hope you’re doing well. Merry Christmas. She texted back with the emoji annoyed. Didn’t hear anything since and it made me feel good to finally do what I wanted. I think she was testing me to see if I would text back and give her the answer to her problem like I always have. She told me in the beginning you need to stop being there for me 24/7. She’s the only woman that tried helping me and would tell me things I’m doing wrong. If it wasn’t for her I wouldn’t have read your book cause i didn’t think I was doing anything wrong. Thanks Corey and I know I shouldn’t have texted her but I needed to finally show her I’m going to stand up for myself and not always be there.
She tested me the last time I went no contact. She hit me up 6 days later asking me to stay the night. I did and in the morning she asked if I could take out her dog so she can rest a little bit longer and take a shower. I’ve always said yes and when I left her house that morning I realized she was testing me to see if I changed. She was annoyed and didn’t hug me before I left. She was disappointed in me. Moral of the story, don’t always say yes and start doing things for you.
dude u are the best for real . your advice is so true
This is exactly how this goes with me
Corey, you the man
I’m a humble,loving,caring providing man,for the past to years I met a girl with her two kids,she new most of my friends that I knew long before her,male and female,in the beginning them being my friends and really love me,told me be careful,don’t fall in love,I keep ignoring them,spending all my money where even the kids disrespecting me,bear in mind she’s have sex and come to find out she’s still having with a couple of my hone boys,it came to a point where she was telling them negative shit a pour me and telling me they’re talking shit about me,where they wasn’t talking to me for months,it came to a point where one of my friends that still banging her,today called me and showed me text and shit that they’re still dealing with,she gon learn today that my kindness wasn’t weakness,financially I’ve spent every month like all the bills and more,she got her money on her level and was really taking me like a fool,well it goes like this if I give it another minute Imma feel like imma lose my manhood to a woman who tells me like it is,my first option is to leave,but imma keep it cool and let her know it’s time she pays the bills cause I really ain’t got it,she’s outta town now will be back tomorrow,should I just leave and go do me?or relax be humble and let her come thru financially and free to do it her way,cause I’m ok with that.
Leave her man
Whats sad is that everyone who grows up in these household have so much untapped potential
DAMN, YOU'RE DA MAN COACH!!!!!
relate to that...passed down the line!
...thank you coach for the great work you do...
I am in a tough spot. I decided to give my ex and ultimatum ...She constantly accused me of being on social media, and talking to other girls. Neither was true yet every morning I would wake up to text of her saying she had a "feeling". Finally I got sick and tired of this and told her to apologize and stop accusing me or I would move on. Her response basically was cursing me off and telling me she knows I am doing her dirty. I instantly went no contact. I know I would be beta to let her talk to me that way and continue to accuse me of behavior I did not participate in. I miss her so much and though it was me who did the breaking up I feel like I had no other options. I had tried to talk to her previously about this, but to no avail. I am in a lot of pain right now. I am hoping she takes me seriously and realizes the error of her ways. I don't even know if I should be in no contact, but enough was enough.
David don't be desparate. If you had problems with her attitude then she needs to change if you go back to her now she will be more disrespectful than before.
Stand your ground
Never change or lower your position and beliefs for Noone.....I know it hurts but the next one will come around.
When haven't I..
Military dad.too ...wows
I thought this video was going to be about standing up to another man. I've done this, still wouldn't shut up. I could throw hands, but that will then be left on my record. I don't want to be pushed around, but I also can't make someone do something they don't want. I also don't want it effecting my record for future opportunities.
9:20 what to say if a woman is not treating you well
I have a friend that is ruled by his wife it's really sad. She controls everything he does and he just goes along with it unable to tell her no
This is so true!
He thinks the problem is with him. His only problem is that he doesn't know all women are like that. But the girl who (respected the fuck out of him until she said she didn't love him anymore) likely had BPD or NPD and its no question why he is hurting. That kind of relationship takes a long time to get over.
Yup. My ex was the same way and our relationship of two years ended the same way a month after I proposed to her - which was what she claimed she wanted. Looking back, it seems obvious... she wanted to break it off and the pressuring for engagement was just another shit test, among a host of others, that I failed. She was cold as fuck after breaking it off and she had a horrible childhood filled with sexual and verbal abuse. In the aftermath, friends of mine pointed out the similarities, and it couldn't have been more obvious in hindsight, that she had BPD
Good stuff
dude the guy writing Corey could be me
Jesus I can relate to all of this
Hey Coach, or fellow people. I have been dating a girl for 2 years and she has been nothing but sweet and kind towards me. However, I do sense a manipulative trait in her.. we were planning on building a company together with a trial run of our product going out this winter, plus we are planning on moving in together and things were looking great. However, today, without even tellin 10:55g me, she bought one of those little brown glamour yappy dogs on the internet, and it's getting shipped to her house tomorrow. The last thing I want is to move in with a girl who has one of those little dogs. I love big dogs, but I can't stand little defenseless dogs. I told her I felt disrespected and disregarded that she would do that without even asking me. Where should I go from here? Should I break up with her over this? I gotta get some answers, thanks to anyone who can help.
biznachos1 Get rid of her. That’s a small thing. But all big things start by small things. Ask yourself the same question... would you just bring home a big dog just because you wanted it? Or would you consult with your partner first? And now that she brought home that small dog, do you find yourself taking care of it? Such as feeding, potty, vet and walks? Or does she completely take care of that dog? If it’s you then leave her ass!
biznachos1 Get rid of her. That’s a small thing. But all big things start by small things. Ask yourself the same question... would you just bring home a big dog just because you wanted it? Or would you consult with your partner first? And now that she brought home that small dog, do you find yourself taking care of it? Such as feeding, potty, vet and walks? Or does she completely take care of that dog? If it’s you then leave her ass!
Is there any books that will help me to stand up for myself
Coach Corey has 2 books
thanks! 👉🙏
Good advice but Im a woman and have the belief that non of the parts should be submissive. There should be mutual respect and both parts need to be able to stand up for oneself and set boundaries. I need to learn to stand up for myself and not be walked over both men and wimen. When you have that deep pattern of wanting to please, it doesnt matter if its a female or a male.
+aaron19smith Bro...I'm on your side but you must cease according respect to anyone who hasn't earned it! And cease talking to women so much. Ask em questions and let them talk.
From a male perspective, I personally couldn't care less about how submissive a girlfriend is. Now for a wife I want someone to have their own opinons, like if she just defaults automatically to whatever I say then ok we might have a problem. Everywhere else, I mean even if she literally allows me to walk all over her. I'll at most be a bit annoyed but if she's good at serving me NO WAY IN HELL would I leave a persone cause of that, are you kidding?
Let me tell you when you wake the fuck up and tell her that you're not going to be told how to think, feel and behave the sooner you'll take control of your life in every facet. She's not your mother! She has no business trying to control you! She'll either love you for you or she won't! Either way no compromise! You cannot be the man she needs when she can push you around and the same goes for her. Relationships built on one person controlling the other will never work! Never!! Get it through both your heads or live a miserable life.
A woman I see weekly likes to order two desserts when I’m paying for dinner. Should I say something?
That's how I'm growing up right now. Hey I have a question for you I'm 16 and I need some help from you where can I email you?
I was raised by the Borg
I find it hard in work
I work with women and sometime she theyre waiting for me to come in so they can give orders, if I say no they could say well are you in the right job?
Read the book dude
Thanks a lot lot lot lot Corey. I myself come from a same family where my mother has been a ruler of the roost and I have always found my dad letting her walk all over him. This unconsciously got imbedded in me and I always got attracted to women who could dominate, manipulate and fuck the hell outta me. Coming across your videos has really helped me figure out the pattern in my life. Thanks once again for your sound advice.
Same in my family, both maternal and paternal. , 😏
Cory has the basic principle correct about setting boundaries with women, but in my opinion he lacks expertise in assertive and empathetic language techniques. Now this video is old so he has probably improved, and I have not read any of his books.
In the video CW should have made it clear that setting boundaries with women includes every exchange from the first time you meet until you breakup. You must know how to assertively express yourself to modify a woman's behavior. The meaning behind your words has to be clear to the woman, she either modifies her behavior or relationship over. That's it. Relationships are harsh, they are not for the meek. This is how you earn respect from a woman.
Another thing I should mention about coaching men is that social skills (conversation) is a foundational step for men who are already self-aware. The problem with the success of CW coaching, or any coach for that matter, is the fact the student has to be emotionally mature in order to have a foundation to effectively learn (build upon) and use the advice. If you do not understand yourself, you will not be able to understand others.
I am not sure CW can do much to help men who are not self-aware. The repeated patterns of student frustration and roadblocks are rooted in mental health. For CW techniques to work students should sort themselves out first. If the past trauma is severe, this will probably mean therapy. 83% to 90% of all men are not self-aware, and are not emotionally prepared for relationships.
I am sure with CWs experienced he can recognize men who are emotionally immature, and thus are not ready for relationships. The patterns of behavior will be very repetitive and with experience very predictable.
CW must know his coaching challenge for men is mental health and not female behavior when forging successful relationships. Even so there is not much he can do about it.
The presumption is that if you're on here watching this video you're likely self-aware enough to begin to educate yourself...otherwise you wouldn't be here in the first place.
@@iamripoff You are either self-aware or not in regards to learning communication skills. You do not have to be self-aware to watch a dating coach video.
Hello I was chatting on skype text chat with my ex and after an hour or so, all of sudden when it looked like I was expecting a reply from the conversation we were having, there was no reply (and she was online for a long while ). Then she disconnected and there was no reply or farewell or anything.... A few hours later I sent her a message telling her it was not polite to leave a conversation without saying goodbye (plus a wink icon)....
She has not replied to this either and she seems to be mad about... I think it's not polite to leave a conversation without saying goodbye...
Did I do the right thing in this case or did I look like too uptight? I think if I hadn't said anything she would do that again...
Thanks very much for the comments.
I wouldn't have sent the wink if she was rude because that's rewarding bad behavior. if she hung up on you it's rude. But if the conversation just died down it would look needy to complain about it.
6Intuition Youre right I did the whole thing wrong at the time... Now I am learning to manage better the ball when it's on my side... yes it died down ... it was needy on my side... Thanks very much...
You're welcome. No matter what happens you will always have the opportunity to learn something. The more you learn the more experiences and lessons you can apply to your future endeavors. Best of Luck Alberto.
im get in to know this girl and sbe is really really nice and im take in her out this this really really classy restaurant tonight and i been listen to you alot know i think thing's or going so much batter for me know thatnks to you and tonight she might ask me about sex agin but im going to say no lets take things slow know it has been a couple of months thinking i been get in to know her so im trying to get to know her for ayear then take kt to the next level beacuse i been a whole lof of mast up relationships in my pass and i thi k now it is going to be the good is thing in my life this is the frist time im learn in how to take thing's slow sometime i dont wont to but i going to beacuse i really really really really really like her a whole lot