I will never, ever, ever, ever break nc or unblock anything. Nc has saved me in more ways than you can imagine. I was hoovered relentlessly for a year and a bit, and I stood my ground. It’s been 2 years since I was discarded, and I’m still healing. Thank you Andrew for your great videos.❤
Same here! Stay strong and keep going on this path to becoming healthy and the best version of yourself! My 2 years seems like not too long ago, just now starting to feel some healing thanks to no contact. God bless you on your journey
I reconnected with my narc about 30 years after going no contact. I was disappointed to see that she was still the exact same person. She had not grown or become more self aware at all. I really don't think she realizes she is a narc and is puzzled as to why she loses friends.
She more than likely knows why. She just simply doesn't care. Narcissists do not self reflect at all. All you can do is keep loving yourself & continue to move on from them.
These are exactly the words I used in the last email I sent him before blocking him. (Not that he cares 🙄), but it was for me. I said a few other things and also that I am NOT an option and this is immature and simply feels gross to be triangulated 🤣 Then I said, “I’ve had enough. This is done.” Sent and blocked. Omgosh THE most painful time for the last 3 months of my life but I NEEDED to do it for my dignity
Since January I accepted the hoover twice and broke no contact. Each time my ex-narc got more and more nasty. He was clearly angry about not getting his way. It was his decision to try and remain friends, ultimately we can’t be anything at all. No contact is best. TY Andrew 🙏🏻Namaste
Hey everybody 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 I'm NO contact and it's feels really good to have that nightmare over. He was at his worst when the relationship ended and he thought he was going to control the narrative but I blocked him and went no contact. I'm not in communication with anyone who knows him. I'm just on TH-cam and it is limited. Thanks Andrew ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽
Put a safety plan into place. Things happen whether we hope for the best. I knew both my previous spouses would be meaner if I told them my intentions. I had to see an attorney, get another phone, get my apartment manager notified and pay a deposit:: all before my first spouse found out. I moved when he was out of state. Be absolutely careful. We are here for you!
@@janetroberts5140 That's what I did. Planned in secret for about 3 month and went off from the flat at 2 hours (moving my things with to near friends) to a secret place and my self too. He was at work those hours. It's actyally 9 years today at 6th of April 2014. I was doing my move after about a decade with a covert narc. who has started to bee very dangerous and violent. Well that time for 9 years ago I did not get in NC and I was single (not the narc of course - he went engaged in 2,5 month with his mistress for the moment) but it did not lasted so he hoover me in for another 2 year ... damned! BUT those 4 single year I had started to educate me in what NPD is and of course I got huge knowledge what was going on. So after about 2 years I discarded him - again! This time for good 👍 AND I also get NC to him. That is 2,5 years ago. I have done a Great job with my inner healing etc. and feel very nice nowadays. Then. He died in last february this year. 55 years old and Alone in his flat in total collaps of several organ. Cancer, lievercirrus etc. His kids (the narc and I don't have kids together) asked me for help with his funeral. For the kid I did that. They are very Grateful for my help and Thankfully the kids are very nice personalitys and we know each other very well after all. Now it's just the after math (his flat and stuff) to do. I am relief for now but I feel fine at least 🙏🌹
Narcissists don't and can't change...they don't care about others...yesterday I spent about an hour getting back off the radar of a narcissist who is working incognito to destroy me, because I won't play his game anymore and I THINK I know his true identity...finally. I am definitely going to take action...💣🤚💯💪
@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone took action...I am getting a self taught crash course in technology and removed hovering spies on my chromebook...wow! It is so empowering to have a clearer mind and figure out how to do this...I have made positive changes in my life, and I don't want nor need to be derailed. I deserve better from myself and from others.
@@marybarton5651Mary, can you help Me understand? I've blocked my ex-bf and a couple others in the past. I've kept them blocked and have not unblocked. I'm pretty quick to block when I know that it's over or they did me wrong. Why do I feel "bad" or "guilty" for blocking? Keeping people blocked seems to cause a lot of "guilt." Even though, they put me through so much and ruined everything. Blocking was all I could do after everything. But, I still feel bad for it. It makes me feel confused as to why I feel this way. I know I'm very empathic, emotional and have a lot of feelings from past relationships. But, blocking seems to be the only way to heal. But, I still feel bad for it 😧 help me understand if you can....🙏😔
Once you go no contact stay no contact, it will benefit you greatly, you can breathe in all that Freedom, Keep an eye out for the flying monkeys,.No Contact is the way to go 💙♥️🌺🙏🌼🦋💫
I had a chance encounter with the narcissist at a traffic light. He tried to convince me to follow him to a strip mall to talk. When the light turned green, I went the opposite direction. I felt very empowered. Last year around Christmas, he sends me a text. His excuse was he wanted to talk about my friend who died from cancer years ago. He was definitely desperate for supply. I deleted his text. I never responded. I blocked him. I think it is disgusting that he tried to use my emotions about my friend against me. Narcissist can be persistent. It is important to stay strong. Keep doing no contact. It is better to be alone than stuck in a toxic abusive relationship. Thank you Andrew for a great. God bless you and everyone on the path. 😊👍
My experience as the son of a now-83 year old narcissist is that every single contact with my mother is an opportunity for her -- again -- to communicate to me in some fashion, directly or indirectly, that I am completely unimportant to her, and that she cares absolutely nothing about me. Any 'kind' words are disingenuous; criticisms are made either subtly or to others, behind my back, her specialty. Zero contact is the only healthy option for me, sadly. My mother has never changed. She's always been a judgemental, selfish, manipulative person. I believe she was this way as an only child of two older parents. She seems to have gone through life, insecure in herself, getting meaning and purpose from controlling and manipulating others.
The fundamental reason not to break the no-contact rule is simple; trust was never part of their modus operand with anyone. There is no point in caving into a narcissist, no matter the circumstances or nefarious means to open things up again. Never unblock them.
Played the blocking/unblocking game on social media for months with the narcissist. Last time he said how he changed, broke his addictions, and how well he was doing. I responded "great", to which he began deleting line by line of his conversation. Childlike is an understatement for someone half a century old.🙄 Although, I didn't waver and go back any time of contact, I finally realized that I was just feeding into his ego every time I unblocked him. Now, a couple weeks 💪 with a lot more self respect, healing each day, and being grateful for life's lessons.
@@franceshaggitt3104 I've gone for weeks and then get caught up in their energy and unblock, frustrated and begin again. We have to remain strong and trust the healing process. We got this. ❤️💪
@@franceshaggitt3104Hello Frances, You are a Strong Woman and you definitely know Your Worth!! ❤️ Remember you are Not Alone!! Standing with you- 6 years No Contact, Living My Best Life!!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
Thank you again Andrew for such invaluable information of the danger in breaking the ‘No Contact.’ To break the ‘No Contact’ is in my opinion (though it may sound harsh)…is suicidal for those of us who have been weaponized with knowledge to stand our grounds regarding relationships with narcissists. Why…To knowingly break the No Contact is like purposefully walking into the jaws of an angry lion with the expectation that it will passionately hold us, love and caress us! And as Andrew will often say, “Think about that!” My friends, let us love ourselves enough to make a No Nonsense informed choice to NEVER give a Narcissist a second chance!!🙏❤🙏
@@goldmarie171 That will work too…people will either follow them or fear them and that’s a sickening disposition. T-Rex’s are known to be leaders, however when fear is a part of the dynamic there are some serious issues at stake. 😊
"Suicidal". Truly! Like their father they are liars. They come only to steal, kill, and destroy. Now, Donna Mae, dear, just get on with it! Youre more informed than before all the narcs in your life. You can recognize them now. The future is yours!
Once I went no contact, and I mean, total no contact, my life became the best it had been in years. Yes, it was difficult, but the reward was worth it times a million. Much love ❤
Shivers, I needed a reminder of all the effort. So many games and lies that get back to you. And you're intuition just reminds you that they don't operate like you. Hard lesson. Need reminder daily.
I blasted rage but kept them blocked. I now realize the rage stands in the way of my healing like a huge road block. I'm working through this so I can continue to heal. Beware that regret is not remorse. They will express regret that they can't access our supply anymore. But their brains can't experience remorse. No contact 100%. They aren't worth it.
I'm glad I'm no longer in contact with the ex , I do believe that I learned my toughest lessons in this cycle in my life , I'm thriving now , still in isolation at peace within my environment ❤with my children,to hear laughter and see my children play with one another and do what WE wanna do 💕 This ended with me ,we need to protect our children as they are our future and I'm glad I got my Shine Back !!! Yayah🎉❤❤❤❤❤
When I went no contact a dropped enough bombs to take out the bridge 🔥. For me it was insurance that he would not try to contact me. Nothing about how I got out and recovered from that scary controlling “being kept”relationship is recommended! Quietly prepare your escape and run. Don’t look backwards or you’ll turn to stone. You just want the person to think you’re stone. Courage! Peace and strength, family. Have a beautiful day! 🥰🙏🌸🐞
Ps. I’m still holding a few of the truthbombs… well my lawyer and family in different states (from any possible “favors” from connections. ). Still just a shit shoveler who wants to be the contractor 😅 or more.
Sending love and positive energy to everyone reading this. Breaking no contact is the worst mistake after having been freed from the "cage". Is walking back into the "cage" of abuse willingly. Be strong, stay as far away from the narcissist possible. Hugs!
I was discarded by my covert narcissistic father over three years ago. I went No Contact, lost my father and my whole family who were loyal to him. I’m Angry that not one family member asked what happened they just all believed the lies my father smeared me with. So it’s not just losing the narcissist it goes with losing a whole family too. It was a double whammy as I’m adopted.
Really sorry for Your loss of Family and that they belive the narc 😔 Remember one important thing: Do NOT give up hope that Some Day - they will understand what a narc IS and their lies of You. Do NOT defend or appologize for what happen cause it's NOT Your fault that the narc manipulate Your relative or family. IT's NOT YOUR FAULT or RESPONSIBILITY what the narc did to You. And it's NOT Your responsibility to take that Your relative or family chose to believe the narc either.. BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF and try to heal Your inner. Try to NOT being bitter either (THAT ONE ... is ruff stuff but You CAN make it!) and try to go YOUR PATH further. I BELIEVE IN YOU and I understand ... 🙏👍🌹💕
You are telling my story exactly except that I wasn't adopted. I was the only girl, though, and always marginalized. I learned the concept of the "creative family." Make it a project to build the perfect family.
No contact for months now. I fear the running into him, small town. My son and I talk about this. I say we say nothing, and move on, no matter what he says to us. Thanks...
Separated from covert narcisstic husband of 35 yrs 1 year ago, no contact for 7 months, going to counselling for a year! I know this may be against what you advise, but I was stuck in a place that was not good for me, struggling in the healing process, still seeing him from a distance, going through the anger stage of the grieving process. My counsellor advised that I needed to speak to him to tell him how I felt, that it was not about him, it was about me, giving it back to him, not to expect anything from him! I did it, I felt the fear and anxiety, stepped into it! It was cathartic, and I feel so much better, like something has lifted and this has made me feel empowered, I have taken back my power! I know this is not for everyone, as it may not be safe in certain situations. Thank you Andrew for your insight, you are most definitely helping me and so many other people in this community you have created, ❤
Andrew, you are spot on it, when I had no contact he went very old, when I had to no other choice, he showed up, then my white blood cell went done from 6000 to 2800, I have to do no contact again. He is destroying my health.
I Unblocked my ex on New years. It had been a year since the breakup and I felt great. I still do! Your channel is so educational and shows things that normally would be overlooked. Two months after unblocking her, I received their W-2. I texted them asking what I should do with it. She said to take it back to her employer and that "she forgot that she used my address." She followed up with a "thanks, I hope all is well." The old me would have kept texting. The new me left her on read, where she remains. I move into my house Friday, and she won't have my address anymore. I never thought there would be a hoover. But hoover is crazy because they'll leverage something like legal documents so you have liability in not getting it to them. Only after the hoover did I realize that I really need to not look back. Thank you for your work.
This is how they do it…extremely casual like. Mine texted me 7 months after I left to wish me a happy birthday. He also “hoped I was doing well” lol My ex even upped the ante though by repeating over and over again while we were together how he NEVER texted people first so I should feel special. It’s the long game for them. Didn’t work, I immediately deleted the text and went on with my day. I didn’t block him just because my phone saves blocked numbers. I didn’t want it on my phone ANYWHERE. That was about 2 years ago (almost 3 since we broke up) and I’m happily engaged. He sure did teach me what I DID’T want lol When I started dating again, I deliberately went for someone who was the complete opposite of my past “type”. It worked 😊
For those who have not gone “no contact” as of yet: after i accepted that i was dealing with an actual narcissist, i was able to reframe the situation and observe ALL of the areas and categories of the abuse. So that step, for me, was very important. Once i had some useful perspective i then was able to block her on all modes of communication. And then something “weird” happened: the instant I closed all those doors was literally the instant my head went SILENT. No other effort on my part. Just peace & quiet. I suspect my experience was the product of my taking the step to produce my own closure and move on unilaterally. But i don’t know all of that end it it; i’m no expert. I don’t assume everyone’s experience will be like this but maybe it will so i offer it as a possibility for you!
The KEY for the healing to take hold and be permanent and progressive is to remain and BE "NO CONTACT" period end of story. If we dare to respond to hoovers or any attempt from the narcissist to reconnect is "WILINGLY WALKING BACK INTO THE CAGE". Thanks Andrew! Be strong, disconnect, is the only way for the healing to begin. NAMASTE! 💗
NC is freedom ....he rang me out the blue last week and I thought he was blocked. I didn't answer. It gave me goosebumps . I blocked...five weeks now nc
GREAT advice,Andrew!!!! I made the mistake of once again communicating with a Narcissist family member. He knows too much about me...and that I am struggling SO MUCH to lose weight. After sucking all my energy out of me by going on & on about all his drama and problems....he bragged and bragged and BRAGGED about the tons of weight he has lost😡 Today I feel like total shit. I either need to block or Grey Rock this person, for my own SANITY!!!
It is as if there is a narcissistic playbook of which you are of complete understanding. I have been no contact for almost 5 months after a six year relationship. I did break no contact. The last time I did, I fully believe he completely played his hand. His first honesty which was basically about "using me." For the next couple of days, the ruminating stopped. His ugly truth ( admitting it) finally set me free. ... I have at least 3 or 4 different therapists etc. I have followed and learned from on TH-cam over the last 3 years. Mr. Andrew, you are newest to me. I love your style and succinct presentation. You are a gift, and I remain ever grateful for you and that you showed up on my algorithm. Your timing is perfect. The Universe is Love!
When I first went no contact, the beggar kept trying new #'s to get through to me (I refuse to change my # because of the A-hole), but I never answered the calls. By remaining no contact, it finally gave up. NO Contact does work like a charm, they eventually give up, or at least it did for me. If you keep playing games with them, that's on you! TY Andrew 🥰
Hi Andrew, I’m Craig Scoggin. I am going to contact 13 months into the divorce. The narcissist has my 13-year-old daughter ‘s and it has been 13 months since I have had any contact whatsoever with my daughter due to frivolous accusations of abuse for years to both my wife and my daughter. These allegations were given on the restraining order, and also used against me in a smear campaign with my biological father, and stepmother who will no longer contact me because they believe the narcissist but I’ve come to terms with it, and I believe that time, will reveal all. And I also believe when my daughter is ready, she will come back to me with open arms because there was never any abuse. now we are about to go to trial on July 24 to find out if the house will be forced to be sold and I am going to try my best to remain no contact. I religiously watch your videos every day and you are helping me immensely yes getting through post narcissistic abuse cycle. It seems to just go on and on, and if the narcissist is in capable of closure, no contact and gray rock is the answer children or not. Thank you sir.
I'm in No Contact, and it gives me a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach to even think about breaching No Contact. I think I'm good right here where the narcissist can't reach me.
NOTHING good happens w/you break no contact. Just remember how vicious they are, the smear, you're going to receive AGAIN is just part of having contact with someone that will never, ever change and in reality hates you.
I've been No Contact for about 3 years. The narc is a neighbour who continues to attempt breaking into my life by reporting me to the landlord - having failed when trying to drag police into her manipulations. The narc is a master at playing the poor, frightened victim as they secretly attack you over and over. I've had 4 years of the narcs evil attention. My No Contact utterly infuriated her and I see no end in sight, though I continue to ignore every and all attempts to provoke a reaction from me. It's impossible not to think of them when these attacks are played out again and again.
I was doing no contact ....then broke it. Big mistake. That gave him the opportunity to text me to claim he's still my friend and cares about me. Big lie. I recently went no contact again and intend to stay that way. It's nice not worrying any time my phone makes a sound it may be him sending me a text, not because he really cares about me or how I am...NO, he wants to see if he can come back at some point and use me again. This video and reading all the comments from those of you who have done no contact and are so much happier really inspires me to stay the course and keep NO CONTACT.
So true.... all of it! Your sense of self and empowerment really does begin to return when you stay "no contact"... Thanks Andrew for another great video 😊🙏
Maybe this might help other people who have had to deal with a lot of narcissistic and or toxic behaviors. I prefer to believe that going no contact and staying consistent is creating your own closure. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Earlier this week my Narc sent 17 (blocked) texts and your video came out 10 minutes later. I stuck to my self respect and did not break No Contact. I know it's a ploy to use me again. The thing I get out of this video is the Grey Rock section. Should I encounter my Narc I will be as dull as possible. I don't want to be anyones victim ever again. It almost killed me. I will not forget the damage inflicted on me. Thank you.
Thankfully, I have never been hoovered. I imagine even responding to a hoover would really set you back. If you choose to write your Version 2, it will be there at the ready in the event you feel like you might get sucked in. YOU DESERVE your wise Version 3 self. Blessed Holy Week and Easter, Andrew and tribe. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
I Went through that faze thank god that was yrs ago. And this is what I learned. as long as you allow them to contact you you are giving them the power to control your emotions if they can get in your head the longer the healing process will take place when you say no welcome to the path of healing
I don't ever want to go through that kind of pain and heartbreak ever again! Taking her back? No way! Doing that is setting me up for more drama and heartbreak even more! She did this twice to me it won't be a 3rd I don't want to hear her voice yet see her face again. I've been through my share of failed relationships and could get over them pretty well but with this one it was like climbing a tall mountain 🏔️ to heal and still feeling small effects of the discard a year and 4 months out. But I'm good now still processing and learning. That's how I know for sure I was with a narcissist because it's so tough to get over the relationship.
Thank you, I really needed these words. Ever since I met that person after a year, I wondered, If they wanted to apologise and if it wasn't wrong not to let them speak to me. Now I am sure that I don't want to unblock them and let them get into my head. Never again. It would only bring more pain and unnecessary distraction from healing and learning. Thank you so much, Andrew 💕 I really love and admire your work!
So true. Espes that part about Only will bring you more pain and distract you from healing journey.... Cuz i did that, let him back. Enough was enough. Got sick n tiyerd of being sick n tiyerd. Im way better n much more happy n content with just myself. Just loving it. All my energy is where it needs to be, myself n my kids n fam❤
I was horribly disrespected. We share children but he has zero interest in them. It’s been 3 weeks. There has been tremendous pain for 2 weeks. I found a Ted Talk about betrayal. It’s different from grief. It’s time to make your self right and look inward. Love yourself.
Thank you Andrew for all your wisdom and support over the last year and a half. Thank you to all of you. You have been my peace and safe place. That being said I am sadly leaving this group. My narc has been posting on this site and is no longer a safe place for me to be free and open. I love you all 😢......blessed be🕊🙏❤
Excellent video Andrew. I blocked him so he got someone else to phone me. I've had to ask her not to tell me about him. She is a friend and helped me leave him but he played on her emotions. He asked her to tell me he was in hospital. Said hed had a heart attack. He hadnt. Sooo manipulative.
Thank you Andrew for sharing your wisdom with us. Two years no contact with the ex narc and counting. To the narcissists, "Nama-stay away from me". To all survivors, Namaste.
Good late afternoon Andrew ☀️and to everyone here . I'm ever going back ! When April 22 it would be for me is 1 year & 10months of completely no contact . Thank you Andrew for you being here with all your videos & Thank you everyone with all y'all's comments here . I hoped you Andrew & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 day.
I took several attempts at no contact. It was a friend who took advantage of my health problems. The last time I broke no contact I needed a ride to my aunt's wake. When I called my narc he acted like a junky who just got his fix! Just hearing him on the phone I thought of Jim Carrey in '"The Mask" where he wins an award and Jim Carrey proudly exclaims "you love me, you really love me!' After that humiliating episode I never contacted him again!
NO CONTACT is a necessary part of spiritual growth and good mental health. You're never going to be as good or as healthy as you can be if you stay mixed up in relationships with people who manipulate and drain you. If you are feeling tempted to break NO CONTACT remember two things: 1. These people are NO good, and 2. They do not change. Once you get the courage to cut them off, do it. And after you leave, move on and STAY gone!
The BEST decision I ever made when I went NO CONTACT and Blocked someone who ended up being a Covert Narc. Andrew, and Survivors this was 26 years and counting!!💪💯
💯true, no hi, how ya doings- don't work, gray rock, keep moving forward. If you have to live near one or two, little to no contact- can feel isolating, but you know what they are, you observe, you respond and you don't react, no matter how juvenile the behaviors are. This is exactly what they want, a reaction to their toxic behaviors. Be boring, and silent. They do not set the tone of who you are, and how you live, or anything you do- they would like to, though, or think they do. God sees, and watches us all, he made us to recognize right from the wrong. Thank you ❤🕊Namaste, strength, love and light🤟🙏🛡❤
For anyone who might have doubt, then pray about it first, but i am sure i am not the only one who can TESTIFY that when Andrew speaks, he is 100% accurate and he speaks the ultimate wisdom. He is trying to help people not be crushed AGAIN... based on facts, because he stands for Truth... not lies.
I am grey rockN. Yep he's still in my home after discard. Making my plans, sell MY Home and get moved. Grey RockN that 🖤🕳 Narc! I have no social media and Will absolutely Block and Move on and I'm not looking back anymore, been living in the past while trying to live in the now, it's impossible. Thank you Andrew, Need this. You have a Phenomenal evening ~Big Hugs Peace n Love~ Namaste
Perspective for all i broke no contact 4 times in 20 years i still try to get my belongings back. Im on 7 months no contact and still think i can win. Everything this man says here is Always the way it is for me. I needed to here this today
@@amberlance182 You are 100% right on . These family members sought me out and found me after a childhood of abuse. I was easily done with them . i knew they were dragging me back in only for more insanity. It is needed to deal with and not think anything good coming from them. I am that person who is studying to see if i can win even though im sure that is impossible and in my case life threatening . I 100 agree with you Much Respect amber. Glad you got an lol of this
Just like the church bells n the background (made me smile) once it's rung, it CANT be unrung! Stay the course & 2 thyn ownself B tru. 2 much 2 do, moving 4ward!!! Thank U Andrew 4 always B N there speaking TRUTH & casting light N dark X's... wouldn't hav made it without U. 2 ALL U can & will make it. Hold Fast Stay the Course! Godspeed God bless Shilom & Nomesde ♾️ 1 🌎 1 ❤️
This happened to me just recently turns out my roommate was a narcissist she turned on me like a psychopath her face looked totally insane hateful like a demon. She started acting like a totally different personality. Like multiple personality disorder . She didn't even say good bye or apologize for something evil she did to me. It was like a stranger very creepy.
I blocked my narrissist husband immediately after I told him I wasn’t going back to him… that was 5 months ago… of course he tried to call all my family and friends they had to block him too.. he then had a neighbor (Flying Monkey) calling me for him for a couple of months but since the divorce proceedings started thankfully the calls have stopped too! I knew I had to go No Contact or if not then he would still be trying to control me
We have none of the same friend's anymore. That's what took me 4 years longer. Flying monkeys blocked, family blocked, it wasn't easy. You have got to be come ready to change everything. Your video's are such great content. All stages truly grateful to find your channel. I still need reminders how good my worst day now is compared to are best day's then sadly.
The reason you break no contact is because either you think they have changed or you think you can handle them because you have learned about narcissism. None of this is true 99% of the time. They almost never change and you can't (and should not) learn to handle abuse. Stay away from these people.
You are really good Andrew,. You keep reminding us don't break the no contact Thank you so much for all you do Everything I hear from you sounds like it's from experience Thank you again.. Just great to hear.
I had a pretty bad ordeal on Tuesday. I had the ex wife over to finish signing divorce papers. I had a great plan of standing up to her, oh boy, she was gonna get a foot planted somewhere. Within 18 seconds of her walking in the door, I started shaking. My hands were so bad(nothing against parkinsons)but you would think I had Parkinson’s. I couldn’t turn a page from the Marriage settlement agreement, without having her help me. Filling in the financial disclosure statement, I gave her the pen because I couldn’t write anything down. I got 3 hours of sleep that night, and 4 hours on Wednesday. Don’t. Don’t give them anything. It’s hard, it will always be hard. I know. We got this!!!
Oh. We also went over the tax refund, where she owed 1900 bucks to the state for state owned insurance. She owed it for 4 years, but when the divorce is getting settled, and she’s getting kicked off my insurance, now she feels like a great time to pay it off with my tax refund. She had 4 years to pay it off. When it concerns her, and costs me? That’s when it’s time to take care of her debt. Sorry for the rant…
Hi Andrew. I will, never, ever break this no contact decision. 😮 He doesn’t know where I am, and has no way to contact me. I surely will not contact him. I count that as one of my blessings.
Not to mention death in the family, can break no contact, which is how surviving narc family members can use manipulation as a weapon in reeling victims back in. Narcs take delight in delivering bad news or the passing of family members to their victims, and why, they want a reaction of despair, sadness, and guilt from them. Also, narcs love attending funerals to gain narc supply and watch others grieve. My advice for anyone faced with such a dilemma is to do what's best for you: if you don't feel comfortable attending a loved ones funeral or being around narc family members, or attending the funeral of someone who you loved and cared about because of other narcs, it's okay not to go. On the other hand if you decide to go, make sure you have a backup plan to remove yourself from narc chaos, and "gray Rock" as much as possible to avoid falling prey to narc schemes. Leave immediately after service.
This video literally just saved me from making a huge mistake. A couple months into no contact.. and I’m feeling amazing. Amazing enough that I’ve spent the day pondering if I should unblock her because I’m feeling that strong. Now I feel weak for entertaining that idea. My goodness.. thank you for this video🙏
NO CONTACT was directly tied to my well-being and was key to my freedom. 🦋🦋
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Thank you, MMM. Best wishes to you.
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The worst thing that happens when you break no contact is the hidden message that you give the narcissist that "they were not that bad after all."
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I will never, ever, ever, ever break nc or unblock anything. Nc has saved me in more ways than you can imagine. I was hoovered relentlessly for a year and a bit, and I stood my ground. It’s been 2 years since I was discarded, and I’m still healing. Thank you Andrew for your great videos.❤
Same here! Stay strong and keep going on this path to becoming healthy and the best version of yourself! My 2 years seems like not too long ago, just now starting to feel some healing thanks to no contact. God bless you on your journey
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I reconnected with my narc about 30 years after going no contact. I was disappointed to see that she was still the exact same person. She had not grown or become more self aware at all. I really don't think she realizes she is a narc and is puzzled as to why she loses friends.
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She more than likely knows why. She just simply doesn't care. Narcissists do not self reflect at all. All you can do is keep loving yourself & continue to move on from them.
It's a declaration that you are enough-
and that you've had enough.💪
Thank you for this message, Andrew.❤🌳
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These are exactly the words I used in the last email I sent him before blocking him. (Not that he cares 🙄), but it was for me. I said a few other things and also that I am NOT an option and this is immature and simply feels gross to be triangulated 🤣
Then I said, “I’ve had enough. This is done.” Sent and blocked. Omgosh THE most painful time for the last 3 months of my life but I NEEDED to do it for my dignity
Since January I accepted the hoover twice and broke no contact. Each time my ex-narc got more and more nasty. He was clearly angry about not getting his way. It was his decision to try and remain friends, ultimately we can’t be anything at all. No contact is best. TY Andrew 🙏🏻Namaste
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Hey everybody 🖐🏾 Blessings 💯 I'm NO contact and it's feels really good to have that nightmare over. He was at his worst when the relationship ended and he thought he was going to control the narrative but I blocked him and went no contact. I'm not in communication with anyone who knows him. I'm just on TH-cam and it is limited. Thanks Andrew ❤️✌🏽🙏🏽
Well done, Ruthie. You did yourself proud!
Great for you Ruthie!❤❤❤
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I decided I didn’t deserve the treatment I had. I said I want a divorce
Dawn, may God, be with you in this process. We on the channel are by your side. ❤
Put a safety plan into place. Things happen whether we hope for the best. I knew both my previous spouses would be meaner if I told them my intentions. I had to see an attorney, get another phone, get my apartment manager notified and pay a deposit:: all before my first spouse found out. I moved when he was out of state. Be absolutely careful. We are here for you!
What type of treatment was that?
@@BobSmith-kd4oc verbal and emotional abuse
@@janetroberts5140 That's what I did. Planned in secret for about 3 month and went off from the flat at 2 hours (moving my things with to near friends) to a secret place and my self too. He was at work those hours. It's actyally 9 years today at 6th of April 2014.
I was doing my move after about a decade with a covert narc. who has started to bee very dangerous and violent.
Well that time for 9 years ago I did not get in NC and I was single (not the narc of course - he went engaged in 2,5 month with his mistress for the moment) but it did not lasted so he hoover me in for another 2 year ... damned!
BUT those 4 single year I had started to educate me in what NPD is and of course I got huge knowledge what was going on.
So after about 2 years I discarded him - again! This time for good 👍
AND I also get NC to him. That is 2,5 years ago.
I have done a Great job with my inner healing etc. and feel very nice nowadays.
Then. He died in last february this year. 55 years old and Alone in his flat in total collaps of several organ. Cancer, lievercirrus etc. His kids (the narc and I don't have kids together) asked me for help with his funeral. For the kid I did that. They are very Grateful for my help and Thankfully the kids are very nice personalitys and we know each other very well after all.
Now it's just the after math (his flat and stuff) to do.
I am relief for now but I feel fine at least 🙏🌹
Thanks for the heads up! Almost 4 years no contact! I’m remembering who I am!
Terrific!!
I am not alowed to block him ,court..
Narcissists don't and can't change...they don't care about others...yesterday I spent about an hour getting back off the radar of a narcissist who is working incognito to destroy me, because I won't play his game anymore and I THINK I know his true identity...finally. I am definitely going to take action...💣🤚💯💪
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone took action...I am getting a self taught crash course in technology and removed hovering spies on my chromebook...wow! It is so empowering to have a clearer mind and figure out how to do this...I have made positive changes in my life, and I don't want nor need to be derailed. I deserve better from myself and from others.
@@marybarton5651Mary, can you help Me understand? I've blocked my ex-bf and a couple others in the past. I've kept them blocked and have not unblocked. I'm pretty quick to block when I know that it's over or they did me wrong. Why do I feel "bad" or "guilty" for blocking? Keeping people blocked seems to cause a lot of "guilt." Even though, they put me through so much and ruined everything. Blocking was all I could do after everything. But, I still feel bad for it. It makes me feel confused as to why I feel this way. I know I'm very empathic, emotional and have a lot of feelings from past relationships. But, blocking seems to be the only way to heal. But, I still feel bad for it 😧 help me understand if you can....🙏😔
Once you go no contact stay no contact, it will benefit you greatly, you can breathe in all that Freedom, Keep an eye out for the flying monkeys,.No Contact is the way to go 💙♥️🌺🙏🌼🦋💫
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I had a chance encounter with the narcissist at a traffic light. He tried to convince me to follow him to a strip mall to talk. When the light turned green, I went the opposite direction. I felt very empowered.
Last year around Christmas, he sends me a text. His excuse was he wanted to talk about my friend who died from cancer years ago. He was definitely desperate for supply. I deleted his text. I never responded. I blocked him. I think it is disgusting that he tried to use my emotions about my friend against me.
Narcissist can be persistent. It is important to stay strong. Keep doing no contact. It is better to be alone than stuck in a toxic abusive relationship.
Thank you Andrew for a great. God bless you and everyone on the path. 😊👍
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This is so true
It has been 8 months since No Contact. I’ve learned so much from your channel, and I can’t thank enough.
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My experience as the son of a now-83 year old narcissist is that every single contact with my mother is an opportunity for her -- again -- to communicate to me in some fashion, directly or indirectly, that I am completely unimportant to her, and that she cares absolutely nothing about me. Any 'kind' words are disingenuous; criticisms are made either subtly or to others, behind my back, her specialty. Zero contact is the only healthy option for me, sadly. My mother has never changed. She's always been a judgemental, selfish, manipulative person. I believe she was this way as an only child of two older parents. She seems to have gone through life, insecure in herself, getting meaning and purpose from controlling and manipulating others.
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The fundamental reason not to break the no-contact rule is simple; trust was never part of their modus operand with anyone. There is no point in caving into a narcissist, no matter the circumstances or nefarious means to open things up again. Never unblock them.
No contact is NO ! contact period.I'm where he's NEVER going 2 be❤❤❤❤❤♾️🙌🏽
My mind cannot yet fully grasp the evilness of his. It is beyond comphension of a normal person.. 😮
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Great call. You know when they are evil when they target their innocent children to get back at their ex.
Played the blocking/unblocking game on social media for months with the narcissist. Last time he said how he changed, broke his addictions, and how well he was doing. I responded "great", to which he began deleting line by line of his conversation. Childlike is an understatement for someone half a century old.🙄 Although, I didn't waver and go back any time of contact, I finally realized that I was just feeding into his ego every time I unblocked him. Now, a couple weeks 💪 with a lot more self respect, healing each day, and being grateful for life's lessons.
Me too. It gets better week by week ..... I'm on week five
Standing Strong with you❤
@@deannamartinez7233 ❤️❤️ day by day. As Andrew always states, healing is not linear. We got this. 💪❤️
@@franceshaggitt3104 I've gone for weeks and then get caught up in their energy and unblock, frustrated and begin again.
We have to remain strong and trust the healing process. We got this. ❤️💪
@@franceshaggitt3104Hello Frances, You are a Strong Woman and you definitely know Your Worth!! ❤️ Remember you are Not Alone!! Standing with you- 6 years No Contact, Living My Best Life!!! 🙌❤️✝️🤗
Thank you again Andrew for such invaluable information of the danger in breaking the ‘No Contact.’ To break the ‘No Contact’ is in my opinion (though it may sound harsh)…is suicidal for those of us who have been weaponized with knowledge to stand our grounds regarding relationships with narcissists. Why…To knowingly break the No Contact is like purposefully walking into the jaws of an angry lion with the expectation that it will passionately hold us, love and caress us! And as Andrew will often say, “Think about that!” My friends, let us love ourselves enough to make a No Nonsense informed choice to NEVER give a Narcissist a second chance!!🙏❤🙏
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I don‘t imagine a lion. I have a T-Rex 🦖 in my mind. A predator
@@goldmarie171 That will work too…people will either follow them or fear them and that’s a sickening disposition. T-Rex’s are known to be leaders, however when fear is a part of the dynamic there are some serious issues at stake. 😊
"Suicidal". Truly!
Like their father they are liars.
They come only to steal, kill, and destroy.
Now, Donna Mae, dear, just get on with it!
Youre more informed than before all the narcs in your life. You can recognize them now. The future is yours!
Once I went no contact, and I mean, total no contact, my life became the best it had been in years. Yes, it was difficult, but the reward was worth it times a million. Much love ❤
Shivers, I needed a reminder of all the effort. So many games and lies that get back to you. And you're intuition just reminds you that they don't operate like you. Hard lesson. Need reminder daily.
I blasted rage but kept them blocked. I now realize the rage stands in the way of my healing like a huge road block. I'm working through this so I can continue to heal. Beware that regret is not remorse. They will express regret that they can't access our supply anymore. But their brains can't experience remorse. No contact 100%. They aren't worth it.
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I'm glad I'm no longer in contact with the ex , I do believe that I learned my toughest lessons in this cycle in my life , I'm thriving now , still in isolation at peace within my environment ❤with my children,to hear laughter and see my children play with one another and do what WE wanna do 💕 This ended with me ,we need to protect our children as they are our future and I'm glad I got my Shine Back !!! Yayah🎉❤❤❤❤❤
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When I went no contact a dropped enough bombs to take out the bridge 🔥. For me it was insurance that he would not try to contact me. Nothing about how I got out and recovered from that scary controlling “being kept”relationship is recommended!
Quietly prepare your escape and run. Don’t look backwards or you’ll turn to stone. You just want the person to think you’re stone. Courage! Peace and strength, family. Have a beautiful day! 🥰🙏🌸🐞
Ps. I’m still holding a few of the truthbombs… well my lawyer and family in different states (from any possible “favors” from connections. ). Still just a shit shoveler who wants to be the contractor 😅 or more.
Sending love and positive energy to everyone reading this. Breaking no contact is the worst mistake after having been freed from the "cage". Is walking back into the "cage" of abuse willingly. Be strong, stay as far away from the narcissist possible. Hugs!
Everyone stay strong! Resist the hoover 🙏
💯 and to save your sanity,
Sometimes new videos get posted at what seems to be
the right time one needs to hear them....✝️🙏 🕊️ ♥️
I was discarded by my covert narcissistic father over three years ago. I went No Contact, lost my father and my whole family who were loyal to him. I’m Angry that not one family member asked what happened they just all believed the lies my father smeared me with. So it’s not just losing the narcissist it goes with losing a whole family too. It was a double whammy as I’m adopted.
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Same. Step father.
3.5 years late 2019
Really sorry for Your loss of Family and that they belive the narc 😔
Remember one important thing: Do NOT give up hope that Some Day - they will understand what a narc IS and their lies of You.
Do NOT defend or appologize for what happen cause it's NOT Your fault that the narc manipulate Your relative or family.
IT's NOT YOUR FAULT or RESPONSIBILITY what the narc did to You. And it's NOT Your responsibility to take that Your relative or family chose to believe the narc either..
BELIEVE IN YOUR SELF and try to heal Your inner. Try to NOT being bitter either (THAT ONE ... is ruff stuff but You CAN make it!) and try to go YOUR PATH further.
I BELIEVE IN YOU and I understand ... 🙏👍🌹💕
You are telling my story exactly except that I wasn't adopted. I was the only girl, though, and always marginalized. I learned the concept of the "creative family." Make it a project to build the perfect family.
No contact for months now. I fear the running into him, small town. My son and I talk about this. I say we say nothing, and move on, no matter what he says to us. Thanks...
Separated from covert narcisstic husband of 35 yrs 1 year ago, no contact for 7 months, going to counselling for a year! I know this may be against what you advise, but I was stuck in a place that was not good for me, struggling in the healing process, still seeing him from a distance, going through the anger stage of the grieving process. My counsellor advised that I needed to speak to him to tell him how I felt, that it was not about him, it was about me, giving it back to him, not to expect anything from him! I did it, I felt the fear and anxiety, stepped into it! It was cathartic, and I feel so much better, like something has lifted and this has made me feel empowered, I have taken back my power! I know this is not for everyone, as it may not be safe in certain situations. Thank you Andrew for your insight, you are most definitely helping me and so many other people in this community you have created, ❤
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I’d been no contact for a few weeks. I got tipsy and returned his call…disaster. Don’t do it. I’m no contact again and no alcohol!
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Andrew, you are spot on it, when I had no contact he went very old, when I had to no other choice, he showed up, then my white blood cell went done from 6000 to 2800, I have to do no contact again. He is destroying my health.
I Unblocked my ex on New years. It had been a year since the breakup and I felt great. I still do! Your channel is so educational and shows things that normally would be overlooked. Two months after unblocking her, I received their W-2. I texted them asking what I should do with it. She said to take it back to her employer and that "she forgot that she used my address." She followed up with a "thanks, I hope all is well." The old me would have kept texting. The new me left her on read, where she remains. I move into my house Friday, and she won't have my address anymore. I never thought there would be a hoover. But hoover is crazy because they'll leverage something like legal documents so you have liability in not getting it to them. Only after the hoover did I realize that I really need to not look back. Thank you for your work.
Amber Lance, I’m about to no contact you 😂. Chill.
This is how they do it…extremely casual like.
Mine texted me 7 months after I left to wish me a happy birthday. He also “hoped I was doing well” lol
My ex even upped the ante though by repeating over and over again while we were together how he NEVER texted people first so I should feel special. It’s the long game for them. Didn’t work, I immediately deleted the text and went on with my day.
I didn’t block him just because my phone saves blocked numbers. I didn’t want it on my phone ANYWHERE.
That was about 2 years ago (almost 3 since we broke up) and I’m happily engaged. He sure did teach me what I DID’T want lol
When I started dating again, I deliberately went for someone who was the complete opposite of my past “type”. It worked 😊
It is like an addiction - just today ❤ it just this hour
DO NOT BREAK NO CONTACT
Just don’t
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It is 😁!.... addiction.
He told me I am boring and I used to get upset about that tho now I'm glad I am boring to him. Not as boring as his wash rinse repeat 😴 😮😂
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For those who have not gone “no contact” as of yet: after i accepted that i was dealing with an actual narcissist, i was able to reframe the situation and observe ALL of the areas and categories of the abuse. So that step, for me, was very important. Once i had some useful perspective i then was able to block her on all modes of communication. And then something “weird” happened: the instant I closed all those doors was literally the instant my head went SILENT. No other effort on my part. Just peace & quiet.
I suspect my experience was the product of my taking the step to produce my own closure and move on unilaterally. But i don’t know all of that end it it; i’m no expert.
I don’t assume everyone’s experience will be like this but maybe it will so i offer it as a possibility for you!
The KEY for the healing to take hold and be permanent and progressive is to remain and BE "NO CONTACT" period end of story. If we dare to respond to hoovers or any attempt from the narcissist to reconnect is "WILINGLY WALKING BACK INTO THE CAGE". Thanks Andrew! Be strong, disconnect, is the only way for the healing to begin. NAMASTE! 💗
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Hi Andrew just got back from the dentist my mom has been taking care of me I love my mom thank you Mom
Lord knows do not break the no contact!! The parasite does not deserve a spit if they were on fire.
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Ooo I like that!
NC is freedom
....he rang me out the blue last week and I thought he was blocked. I didn't answer. It gave me goosebumps . I blocked...five weeks now nc
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GREAT advice,Andrew!!!!
I made the mistake of once again communicating with a Narcissist family member. He knows too much about me...and that I am struggling SO MUCH to lose weight.
After sucking all my energy out of me by going on & on about all his drama and problems....he bragged and bragged and BRAGGED about the tons of weight he has lost😡 Today I feel like total shit. I either need to block or Grey Rock this person, for my own SANITY!!!
Thank you 🪨💪💯🙏
It is as if there is a narcissistic playbook of which you are of complete understanding. I have been no contact for almost 5 months after a six year relationship. I did break no contact. The last time I did, I fully believe he completely played his hand. His first honesty which was basically about "using me." For the next couple of days, the ruminating stopped. His ugly truth ( admitting it) finally set me free. ... I have at least 3 or 4 different therapists etc. I have followed and learned from on TH-cam over the last 3 years. Mr. Andrew, you are newest to me. I love your style and succinct presentation. You are a gift, and I remain ever grateful for you and that you showed up on my algorithm. Your timing is perfect. The Universe is Love!
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When I first went no contact, the beggar kept trying new #'s to get through to me (I refuse to change my # because of the A-hole), but I never answered the calls. By remaining no contact, it finally gave up. NO Contact does work like a charm, they eventually give up, or at least it did for me. If you keep playing games with them, that's on you! TY Andrew 🥰
@@ESSIEMARIE1998😊 Hi
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Happy Easter to everyone!
You're right.....guilt is gone.👍🌻 Thank you again, Andrew.
I’m not over it yet… going no contact is th e only way. It takes time but no contact is right
Hi Andrew, I’m Craig Scoggin. I am going to contact 13 months into the divorce. The narcissist has my 13-year-old daughter ‘s and it has been 13 months since I have had any contact whatsoever with my daughter due to frivolous accusations of abuse for years to both my wife and my daughter. These allegations were given on the restraining order, and also used against me in a smear campaign with my biological father, and stepmother who will no longer contact me because they believe the narcissist but I’ve come to terms with it, and I believe that time, will reveal all. And I also believe when my daughter is ready, she will come back to me with open arms because there was never any abuse. now we are about to go to trial on July 24 to find out if the house will be forced to be sold and I am going to try my best to remain no contact. I religiously watch your videos every day and you are helping me immensely yes getting through post narcissistic abuse cycle. It seems to just go on and on, and if the narcissist is in capable of closure, no contact and gray rock is the answer children or not. Thank you sir.
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I'm in No Contact, and it gives me a bad feeling in the pit of my stomach to even think about breaching No Contact. I think I'm good right here where the narcissist can't reach me.
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NOTHING good happens w/you break no contact. Just remember how vicious they are, the smear, you're going to receive AGAIN is just part of having contact with someone that will never, ever change and in reality hates you.
I've been No Contact for about 3 years. The narc is a neighbour who continues to attempt breaking into my life by reporting me to the landlord - having failed when trying to drag police into her manipulations. The narc is a master at playing the poor, frightened victim as they secretly attack you over and over. I've had 4 years of the narcs evil attention. My No Contact utterly infuriated her and I see no end in sight, though I continue to ignore every and all attempts to provoke a reaction from me. It's impossible not to think of them when these attacks are played out again and again.
I was doing no contact ....then broke it. Big mistake. That gave him the opportunity to text me to claim he's still my friend and cares about me. Big lie. I recently went no contact again and intend to stay that way. It's nice not worrying any time my phone makes a sound it may be him sending me a text, not because he really cares about me or how I am...NO, he wants to see if he can come back at some point and use me again. This video and reading all the comments from those of you who have done no contact and are so much happier really inspires me to stay the course and keep NO CONTACT.
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I am 3 years no contact. I remember the male narcissist who lied to me, wasted my time, and used me. You don't get a 2nd chance with me.
Change your phone, get a new number.
Amen to that I don't need any more obstacles still in no contact doing good... Yep it's a journey.
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So true.... all of it! Your sense of self and empowerment really does begin to return when you stay "no contact"...
Thanks Andrew for another great video 😊🙏
I'm not going to find out lol I sent my last message and it is my LAST. I WONT break that one.
Maybe this might help other people who have had to deal with a lot of narcissistic and or toxic behaviors. I prefer to believe that going no contact and staying consistent is creating your own closure. Thank you 🤔❤🇺🇸
Earlier this week my Narc sent 17 (blocked) texts and your video came out 10 minutes later.
I stuck to my self respect and did not break No Contact. I know it's a ploy to use me again. The thing I get out of this video is the Grey Rock section. Should I encounter my Narc I will be as dull as possible. I don't want to be anyones victim ever again. It almost killed me. I will not forget the damage inflicted on me.
Thank you.
You deserve to protect yourself from people who would use you.
Thankfully, I have never been hoovered. I imagine even responding to a hoover would really set you back. If you choose to write your Version 2, it will be there at the ready in the event you feel like you might get sucked in. YOU DESERVE your wise Version 3 self. Blessed Holy Week and Easter, Andrew and tribe. Freedom rocks, and better late than never.❣️
I Went through that faze thank god that was yrs ago. And this is what I learned. as long as you allow them to contact you you are giving them the power to control your emotions if they can get in your head the longer the healing process will take place when you say no welcome to the path of healing
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 hi Martha, how you today
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 good thank you
Exactly, you are so right 👍👍👍💐
I don't ever want to go through that kind of pain and heartbreak ever again! Taking her back? No way! Doing that is setting me up for more drama and heartbreak even more! She did this twice to me it won't be a 3rd I don't want to hear her voice yet see her face again. I've been through my share of failed relationships and could get over them pretty well but with this one it was like climbing a tall mountain 🏔️ to heal and still feeling small effects of the discard a year and 4 months out. But I'm good now still processing and learning. That's how I know for sure I was with a narcissist because it's so tough to get over the relationship.
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Thank you, I really needed these words. Ever since I met that person after a year, I wondered, If they wanted to apologise and if it wasn't wrong not to let them speak to me. Now I am sure that I don't want to unblock them and let them get into my head. Never again. It would only bring more pain and unnecessary distraction from healing and learning.
Thank you so much, Andrew 💕 I really love and admire your work!
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So true. Espes that part about Only will bring you more pain and distract you from healing journey.... Cuz i did that, let him back. Enough was enough. Got sick n tiyerd of being sick n tiyerd. Im way better n much more happy n content with just myself. Just loving it. All my energy is where it needs to be, myself n my kids n fam❤
I was horribly disrespected. We share children but he has zero interest in them. It’s been 3 weeks. There has been tremendous pain for 2 weeks. I found a Ted Talk about betrayal. It’s different from grief. It’s time to make your self right and look inward. Love yourself.
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Thank you Andrew for all your wisdom and support over the last year and a half. Thank you to all of you. You have been my peace and safe place. That being said I am sadly leaving this group. My narc has been posting on this site and is no longer a safe place for me to be free and open. I love you all 😢......blessed be🕊🙏❤
So sorry Blessed Be
So sorry to hear that!
Sorry, but please stay! Create another profile. We are with u
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That has been my fear, I hope you find a way to stay ❤
I'd rather not share my children especially if it means contact. Cos it's so horrible.
Moving to another state has helped me too am with my family now and am ever So Grateful for them❤
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Excellent video Andrew. I blocked him so he got someone else to phone me. I've had to ask her not to tell me about him. She is a friend and helped me leave him but he played on her emotions. He asked her to tell me he was in hospital. Said hed had a heart attack. He hadnt. Sooo manipulative.
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Thank you Andrew for sharing your wisdom with us. Two years no contact with the ex narc and counting. To the narcissists, "Nama-stay away from me". To all survivors, Namaste.
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Thank you for your support ....
Hello Andrew
I used no contact and it absolutely worked it's the only way
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Good late afternoon Andrew ☀️and to everyone here . I'm ever going back ! When April 22 it would be for me is 1 year & 10months of completely no contact . Thank you Andrew for you being here with all your videos & Thank you everyone with all y'all's comments here . I hoped you Andrew & everyone here to have a beautiful wonderful blessed 🙏 day.
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10 months NC for me. I couldn't be happier!
His mommie can take care of him
0:13 (when it comes to narcissists) not just not serving you, but INTENTIONALLY SUBSTRACTING from you with the intention to destroy.
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They will sabotage anything and everything you are working on, and or any
Contacts or future projects. I kid you not!
Never never unblock them
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I took several attempts at no contact. It was a friend who took advantage of my health problems. The last time I broke no contact I needed a ride to my aunt's wake. When I called my narc he acted like a junky who just got his fix! Just hearing him on the phone I thought of Jim Carrey in '"The Mask" where he wins an award and Jim Carrey proudly exclaims "you love me, you really love me!' After that humiliating episode I never contacted him again!
NO CONTACT is a necessary part of spiritual growth and good mental health. You're never going to be as good or as healthy as you can be if you stay mixed up in relationships with people who manipulate and drain you. If you are feeling tempted to break NO CONTACT remember two things:
1. These people are NO good, and
2. They do not change.
Once you get the courage to cut them off, do it. And after you leave, move on and STAY gone!
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The BEST decision I ever made when I went NO CONTACT and Blocked someone who ended up being a Covert Narc. Andrew, and Survivors this was 26 years and counting!!💪💯
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💯true, no hi, how ya doings- don't work, gray rock, keep moving forward. If you have to live near one or two, little to no contact- can feel isolating, but you know what they are, you observe, you respond and you don't react, no matter how juvenile the behaviors are. This is exactly what they want, a reaction to their toxic behaviors. Be boring, and silent. They do not set the tone of who you are, and how you live, or anything you do- they would like to, though, or think they do. God sees, and watches us all, he made us to recognize right from the wrong. Thank you ❤🕊Namaste, strength, love and light🤟🙏🛡❤
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@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Hi Martha❤🕊🌷
@@ESSIEMARIE1998 Ty, made me smile- me being me, sending you hugs❤
For anyone who might have doubt, then pray about it first, but i am sure i am not the only one who can TESTIFY that when Andrew speaks, he is 100% accurate and he speaks the ultimate wisdom. He is trying to help people not be crushed AGAIN... based on facts, because he stands for Truth... not lies.
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I am grey rockN.
Yep he's still in my home after discard.
Making my plans, sell MY Home and get moved. Grey RockN that 🖤🕳 Narc!
I have no social media and Will absolutely
Block and Move on and I'm not looking back anymore, been living in the past while trying to live in the now, it's impossible.
Thank you Andrew, Need this.
You have a Phenomenal evening
~Big Hugs Peace n Love~
Namaste
I'm wishing you all the best .sending you peace and strength and light♥️💙💫💫🌺🌼🦋
@@flowerpower4944 Thank you so very much ya Beautiful Being, I send you the very same ❤🙌🙏✨
Wow jackpot, I tune in to your video @777 views and 77 likes 🎉 that's good mojo, 7 is a divine number of completion 🙌
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Thank you Andrew!! 😌 I needed to hear this right at this moment.... I sure appreciate you! God bless 💐
Perspective for all i broke no contact 4 times in 20 years i still try to get my belongings back. Im on 7 months no contact and still think i can win. Everything this man says here is Always the way it is for me. I needed to here this today
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Forget the belonging move on
@@amberlance182 You are 100% right on . These family members sought me out and found me after a childhood of abuse. I was easily done with them . i knew they were dragging me back in only for more insanity. It is needed to deal with and not think anything good coming from them. I am that person who is studying to see if i can win even though im sure that is impossible and in my case life threatening . I 100 agree with you Much Respect amber. Glad you got an lol of this
Just like the church bells n the background (made me smile) once it's rung, it CANT be unrung! Stay the course & 2 thyn ownself B tru. 2 much 2 do, moving 4ward!!! Thank U Andrew 4 always B N there speaking TRUTH & casting light N dark X's... wouldn't hav made it without U. 2 ALL U can & will make it. Hold Fast Stay the Course! Godspeed God bless Shilom & Nomesde ♾️
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This happened to me just recently turns out my roommate was a narcissist she turned on me like a psychopath her face looked totally insane hateful like a demon. She started acting like a totally different personality. Like multiple personality disorder . She didn't even say good bye or apologize for something evil she did to me. It was like a stranger very creepy.
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I totally know that demonic look. Yes, that’s part of it!!
Yeah if a snake jumps out of a hole and bites you.... So you block that hole..... Would you ever unblock that hole???😂😂😂😂😂😂
I blocked my narrissist husband immediately after I told him I wasn’t going back to him… that was 5 months ago… of course he tried to call all my family and friends they had to block him too.. he then had a neighbor (Flying Monkey) calling me for him for a couple of months but since the divorce proceedings started thankfully the calls have stopped too! I knew I had to go No Contact or if not then he would still be trying to control me
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So true, they only want what you have, its never your heart and waiting for results is really fools gold.
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Andrew that would be the happiest day of my life
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We have none of the same friend's anymore. That's what took me 4 years longer. Flying monkeys blocked, family blocked, it wasn't easy. You have got to be come ready to change everything. Your video's are such great content. All stages truly grateful to find your channel. I still need reminders how good my worst day now is compared to are best day's then sadly.
The reason you break no contact is because either you think they have changed or you think you can handle them because you have learned about narcissism.
None of this is true 99% of the time. They almost never change and you can't (and should not) learn to handle abuse.
Stay away from these people.
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You are really good Andrew,. You keep reminding us don't break the no contact
Thank you so much for all you do
Everything I hear from you sounds like it's from experience
Thank you again..
Just great to hear.
He can LOOK all he want to by law 200 ft but he can’t touch😎😎
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Awesome info & confirmation I'm on the right path \ oath. Thank you
I had a pretty bad ordeal on Tuesday. I had the ex wife over to finish signing divorce papers. I had a great plan of standing up to her, oh boy, she was gonna get a foot planted somewhere. Within 18 seconds of her walking in the door, I started shaking. My hands were so bad(nothing against parkinsons)but you would think I had Parkinson’s. I couldn’t turn a page from the Marriage settlement agreement, without having her help me. Filling in the financial disclosure statement, I gave her the pen because I couldn’t write anything down. I got 3 hours of sleep that night, and 4 hours on Wednesday. Don’t. Don’t give them anything. It’s hard, it will always be hard. I know. We got this!!!
Oh. We also went over the tax refund, where she owed 1900 bucks to the state for state owned insurance. She owed it for 4 years, but when the divorce is getting settled, and she’s getting kicked off my insurance, now she feels like a great time to pay it off with my tax refund. She had 4 years to pay it off. When it concerns her, and costs me? That’s when it’s time to take care of her debt. Sorry for the rant…
Love the background, Andrew!! Albeit, the guy in the foreground is THE REAL FOCUS!! #wisdom #experience #focused #stayinthelight #treeoflife 💟☮️🕉️🌳
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Wish I leaned about narcissism before the 2nd time I went back! It does hurt more, save yourself! 😅 Block, block, block! ❤
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Hi Andrew. I will, never, ever break this no contact decision. 😮 He doesn’t know where I am, and has no way to contact me. I surely will not contact him. I count that as one of my blessings.
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@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone yep! Thank you for your encouragement. 💕
Not to mention death in the family, can break no contact, which is how surviving narc family members can use manipulation as a weapon in reeling victims back in. Narcs take delight in delivering bad news or the passing of family members to their victims, and why, they want a reaction of despair, sadness, and guilt from them.
Also, narcs love attending funerals to gain narc supply and watch others grieve.
My advice for anyone faced with such a dilemma is to do what's best for you: if you don't feel comfortable attending a loved ones funeral or being around narc family members, or attending the funeral of someone who you loved and cared about because of other narcs, it's okay not to go.
On the other hand if you decide to go, make sure you have a backup plan to remove yourself from narc chaos, and "gray Rock" as much as possible to avoid falling prey to narc schemes. Leave immediately after service.
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This video literally just saved me from making a huge mistake. A couple months into no contact.. and I’m feeling amazing. Amazing enough that I’ve spent the day pondering if I should unblock her because I’m feeling that strong. Now I feel weak for entertaining that idea. My goodness.. thank you for this video🙏