Guys please listen Coach Lee. We broke up on the 1st November, firstly I try to change her mind and say I would change and bla bla. After a couple weeks I accepted the breakup and initiated the no contact. 15 days went by and my ex reached out to me. We going on a date next week let’s see how it goes.
Same for me bro, except she's still reserved. I started applying no contact 1.5 weeks ago and she called me to which I couldnt respond so she sent me a message telling me she's worried about me because I didnt show up to work for the same 1.5 weeks where she also works. I of course acted a bit mysterious and direct but didnt get a very detailed response back so I am back to no contact again.
@@brunolopes4759 That gives me hope. I posted my story here in the comments too. It’s still fresh and super scary and I felt like I really messed up following a different coaches idea… I just found coach Lee and he seems more my style and authentic to who I am. I just hope I didn’t ruin my chances.
She reached out after 29 days. Do NOT break no contact, I am BEGGING you, if you want this person, make patience your best friend. I know it’s tough, it is NOT easy. But it is worth it my friends. She left me for another man (rebound) and legitimately recognized her mistake. I’d follow coach to hell. I thank him and God for working together I’m my favor
She reached out after a month, but only for friendship. We had a few positive interaction but.. I messed up by showing her how hurt I was, and she blocked me and told me we're done I don't know what else to do, but I still want her back, can someone please help?
I hear that each and everytime she reached out she said she wanted to come back home but it was lies then I offered to pay for her travel to come home and planned a day together then she ignored me, I havent contacted her in a week before this I went no contact for 5/6 weeks then she reached out again only to give me breadcrumbs and false hope, I dont get it
@@thehavoc6331 I hear your pain my friend. Here’s what I recommend: don’t try to pursue her and give it time. Start working out and finding a new hobby. Think of it like you’re an injured athlete who got carried out on a stretcher. In the meantime, become the best version of yourself. Eventually, she may come around and you can make your triumphant return. Until then, BINGE coach lee. He has all the info. Good luck
@@splitzyentertainment7995 seems like she’s confused rn and doesn’t know what she wants. I recommend that you go into no contact and If she reaches out again, do not LEAD the convo. Let HER set up the meet up. You are the prize my friend. You are the great one that she needs to reach out for. Don’t let anyone disrespect you or your time. In the meantime, binge coach lee. I made sure I watched a vast majority of his vids before appropriately responding to my ex. Now she’s OBSSESSED with me and I barely did anything. Our relationship now is 10x better than it ever was. Why? Because I made her recognize that I’m the G.O.A.T just like you
Since my breakup I have; quit multiple drugs, cut back significantly on alcohol, gained 20lbs(I was severely underweight), stopped biting my fingernails, saved up a good chunck money, got a tan, stopped taking anxiety/depression medication, and discovered a new love for myself. Use your breakup as fuel to become a better person and find new self-worth. Growth also doesn't happen overnight, stay disciplined! I wish everyone here the best!
@ryancollinsoriginal cheers! I am happy to report that I have been continuing down the same path as my original post. I changed my life for the better and I'm not looking back. Thanks for asking :)
When we broke up, I did all the wrong things, begged, cried etc. I found Coach Lee and went into no contact. 28 days later, my ex reached out, I was sooooo happy, but he was only checking to see if I was seeing anyone, I told him that I wasn't seeing anyone but was talking to a few people. I thought he was ready to get back together, but he wasn't. I went back into no contact and he reached out again 12 days later, this time he's ready. It's been 5 days and we agreed to take it slow. I know no contact is hard but it does work. I learned alot about relationships watching these videos. Thanks Coach Lee!
What if YOU broke the no contact?.. Did you ruin all your chances and the slightest possibility your ex had regreted the break up and is still interested in you????...
No contact always works my ex reached out 59 days after she broke up with me. She asked to see me we agreed to meet up for lunch. Stay the course and keep positive good things happen if you have patience! Listen to Coach Lee
This man KNOWS his stuff man. Seriously. I thought my situation was hopeless and I’ve been in a DARK place. A lot of y’all probably understand but a lot of you might not… but it happened. It actually happened man… she reached out and I’ll follow this man’s advice like it’s biblical advice. He’s the best at this and it’s not even close.
What did you do? Mine said Hi to me and I replied like 6 days later because I just didn't want to seem needy but I also cut ties with a mutual friend and she also sent me a message. So Idk if he just said hi to see if I was still alive or dead. And I am on no social media.. or anything. Just off the radar. I only replied with Hi back..
@@OneGirlRecipes mine just reached out like an hour ago. I was the dumper since she was disrespecting me in public at a restaurant were I took her and her daughters out. And finally the straw that broke the camels back was she disrespectfully lashed out at me when she was put in a bad mood by one of her daughters a week later.
No contact works! He came back after two weeks. Prior to no contact I would constantly call him/beg/want to talk etc. just acted absolutely pathetic. I went into NC, restored my dignity and went about living my best life with the intention of moving on if I needed to. When he reached out I was polite but not overly enthusiastic. Now he is chasing. THIS WORKS.
He said he doesnt want to marry me and if we marry there will b a lot of problems. I begged cried chased him. But he said no. He is talking to another girl. Now he seldom texts me and I reply back. He's using me. Idk what to do
I couldn't agree more. Going thru pretty much the exact thing right now. It does work. I didn't think it would at first, but tue more of this guy's videos I watched, the more I trusted it.
she reached out after 7 months ,i never thought that she would ever contact me again but it worked , thank you coach lee for your instructions you are the best!
My ex reached out last week. I did not give her no validation I talked to her like I talked to a friend of mine. Be careful when they reach out. Please do not get over excited. But I think reaching out is a very good sign
It's actually the polar opposite for me. When I see my phone ring and it's her number, I get anxiety. I never know what to expect. Might just be because I'm afraid of what the conversation will be about because we still share bills and she's been extremely cold and unrecognizable throughout this whole process.
IGNORE THEM unless they say something significant! They will contact you again if they were truly interested! This doesn’t work, they are breadcrumbing, a response is still a response
I was doubting NC would work! She left me for another guy!! In exactly 30 days she contacted me and begged me to take her back! She told me everything reminded her of me and just missed me and couldn’t get me out of her mind! She also told me she just couldn’t connect with her rebound! I can’t believe how powerful NC is! Thank you coach Lee!
Coach Ken, Coach Lee, thank you for teaching me so much about break ups and relationship dynamics. My ex came back to me last night, 3 months after the break up, and 2 months of radio silence. He reached out to me twice during this time, and after we spent the whole day with each other yesterday at the sport event, he kissed me, and then he cried and told me he wants us to try again. I've been honest with him and told him I am scared of getting hurt again, and I want to take things slow. He understood and respected my stance, and asked me out on a 'first' date. Thank you again, I wouldn't be able to do it without you!
@@victimized1 Hi, things between us are better than they have been before the breakup. I'm moving back in with him next month. The break up has helped both of us. In hindsight, I regret it had to come to that, but I'm glad it happened.
@@RealCoachLeehi Coach Lee my ex reached out again after 90 days No contact .. But your Emergency Breakup Kit did not talk about should we respond within 24 hours or it is ok to reply her 1st direct message within 3 days ?
My ex reached out today, on day 17 of no contact. Thanks for all the videos Coach Lee, you helped me get through 2 very tough weeks of wanting to text and call her compulsively!! Now the real work begins
@@lestationYT We saw each other for about 3 months after that, but it was just not the same. We didn't end up getting back together, but I did get closure and was able to move on. I'm with a new girl now.
@@alexr.vizcaino903 congrats on your new relationship and wish you the best. Maybe sometimes people arent right for each other, but the point is no contact rule does work
It was three months. And It took like almost three months to get her back u have to be dedicated and you got to believe it's going to work that's the only way it's going to work no content is very hard but u are doing it for yourself patience is the key just listen to coach lee he is right about everything but u most stay strong coach lee is amazing 💯👍💪💪
I have begged for several moths ....have 2 children and i have been in no contact for about a month ....maby a little more ... I really miss her so much but ill do the work if i can get her back ....and like coach said its the matured thing to do ! Also i have some self respect !!
@@QuintinmuggZ just stay strong u have to believe it in order for it to happen no contact is the best way to go and you have to understand some people just don't come back but no contact helps you everything you do you doing it for you not for the other person you must remember. That
65 days. 2 months. That’s how long it took for him to reach out after nc but it worked. It’s so hard and you feel like he’s moving on and forgetting about you but trust it. Don’t break no contact, it will work!
Ex called me 1 day after the breakup and then she called me 4 days later asking how i was and catching up for 40 mins. Do i call her this week? Its been 5 days since she last contacted
Thank you sooooo much Coach Lee. Your message and lessons truly are a god send (and Coach Rex, too!) 58 grueling days of No contact, binging your videos, alot of treadmill, and 2 appointments with coach Rex - today I got an ‘i’ve missed you’ text. Cheers to small wins 🎉
I’m on day 35… i’ve typed 5 messages in 4 days that i’ve almost hit send to but haven’t )): i’m fighting with everything i have but it’s hard. How can I be strong like you?
@@ronnymartinez9614 it was honestly the hardest thing I have ever done to wait it out. I listened to coach lee’s videos on repeat a gazillion times, and i even scheduled a couple of coaching sessions with Coach Rex. He was able to give me some tools to deal with anxiety and patience :)
Coach Lee was absolutely right you can't just forget about a 19.5 year relationship and 18 year marriage without casting doubt on if my ex made the right choice we shall see what happens on the next reach out by my ex
I just had to start again. He reached out after 3 1/2 weeks, made plans to meet up and than I was blocked again. And than I left a voicemail of me being upset. Feel like I ruined everything I did.
Oof did it go weird. Super casual at first, then all of a sudden she sends me all the screenshot of her yelling at the guy she left me for since he literally treats like garbage. Why are you telling me this when I don't ask
Sounds like she’s drama. Who even screenshots that?!? Good luck to you. It’s been a week since my ex reached out, I noticed I’m unblocked again, but I’m not reaching out. Still crying so much every day. It’s been 4 1/2 weeks now since I started no contact.
@@jessicagambichler2017 update haha. Alot of drama happened, on her end. I told her I'm not "just her friend" who can give advice. She actually said as her friend she wants me to be there for her on her best and worst days. I'm like ummm, that's supposed to be your husband and that's not me. Also, I can't even give real advice because you left me for him. So I told her I can't do this anymore and for the first time I said goodbye. She left three months ago and not once have either of us actually said goodbye. It was left open and obviously it kept happening. I'm done. And it's been 10 days since then. She never responded. I wasn't mean and I do hope her the best but I can't be there to help her through it.
She ended things with me on a 6 month relationship. I accepted her desire for the breakup and went strict no contact. 39 days. She reached back out. This stuff works. Commit to the strategy, work on yourself, and things all into place.
I had a relationship exactly like this. I call it my love/hate relationship. He would beg me back, told him I needed a week to consider it, then a week later HE told me he changed HIS mind before I could tell him my decision. After 4 months of this every 30 days, i said enough! Never again
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Thanks for saying that. After about 4x of that I realized he was power trippin. I didnt appreciate how he played with my feelings like that. It was pretty cruel.
Did all begging n pleading for a month and then started no contact religiously.....i had lost all the hopes n last night she called me n begged to come back.....If she came back then everyone's can come back.....Just wait n watch....Bet on your love......All thanks to coach lee❤️
This advice is solid. I’ve gone no contact with everyone ranging from situationships to relationships. Currently going through this with a situationship. Stay grounded and keep your emotions in check when they reach out to you. That’s where I’m at right now, just letting him pace it since he ended things with me and reached back out
I've reached my ex after 2 months of no contact per your advice "that you don't have nothing to lose" and you were right: I've realized that he didn't feel the same way and that I indeed did not lose anything, so now I have almost 3 months of no contact after that, and I know for sure he won't reach out. And it's ok, it is what it is. I'm not going to waste my time waiting for him because now I know that when he said he wanted us to break up, he really meant it and all of that "let me fix my mind and my life and I'll come back to you" was absolute BS. I know he's with someone else now, that he was with her while still being with me, and even though that was hurtful at the beginning, I do feel better now, and now that I know he won't come back, I still like to watch your videos and get an advice from you, since you have helped me a lot during this time. Following your advice was good for me, I'm pretty sure it will be good for another people having the same situation as well. Now I try to be the best just for me, and it's good. Thanks for all, Coach Lee! 🤗 keep going!
Patricia omg this is the same as me! Everything was going great. Beautiful intimate connection that seemed like when we were together we were in a relationship. She freaked out and said I just want to be single and I've got to sort my shit out. I reached out the other night after a month nc. My relationship was less then 3 months. She responded with a cold sentence no emotion. Not the person I was in love with. I'll go straight back into nc and keep improving myself so that I'm ready for someone who will be real and truthful with me. What else do you think I should do?
@@grahamwalton8351 wow, same here because we had such a connection with each other and a lot in common... it was a great relationship and we were together for a year and a half. However he changed. And I didn't notice because we were separated during the pandemic, and when we got to see each other after months, he decided to break up. His answer was cold as well when I reached out after 2 months of no contact, and I guess that was the answer I needed. I would encourage you to keep going, even if everything seems to fall apart, keep working on you, love you and put you in the first place, that's what I do. And I know it hurts but you will get through, I can tell you that you will, because time helps a lot and suddenly you will find peace. I've found peace with him, with the idea that I'm not gonna see him ever again, that everything is over, but mostly I've found peace with myself and with this entire situation. I'm sure you will do this as well, keep going!!
@@patyretanac it sux hey. Yeah I have been doing really well on improving myself but to be honest I get daily flashes of us together and just can't understand why we aren't still seeing each other. The thoughts and memories are what I'm struggling with. Thsnkyou for your reply. You seem like a wonderful woman and I appreciate you talking with me. Never seeing her again well that thought breaks my heart but I guess that is the cold reality. I'm glad I reached out though in a way. Not much time has passed do you never know. I just know that I will not break nc again.
@@grahamwalton8351 I'm not gonna say that it's easy, because it's not. And I do also have flashbacks to the days when we were together and you know, even though it sucks, you have the good memories, and everything good you did for her should remain on your mind as a proof that you really loved her. However, and I will say this, for me it was good to get to this point since my ex was cheating on me and when I asked him about that, it's when he decided to break up adding to that "that it was badly done and that he was a bad man, because I've never failed to him but he did, and that he had mental issues he had to work with". So, after thinking about it, I guess it was good because I was living a fake relationship. I'm not saying you lived the same situation, however, this type of situations can help us to see the reality, the true face of your ex partner and what you expect in the future with another person, what treat you really deserve. It's hard, but you can do it, keep going!! It was really good talking to you. Believe me 😁
@@patyretanac I'm so sorry that he cheated on you. That's terrible. Why people do these things is beyond me. Especially seeing as though how nice you are. I've really enjoyed chatting with you. I'd like to continue taking to you if you want. Do you have instagram?
Well 49 days and no contact... I did pass by him today, kinda hard when he worked down the road from my house and for the first time in weeks I cried...... I pray that he comes back
Thank goodness I didn't listen to other dating coaches who say when your ex reaches out to ignore them. Coach Lee doesn't recommend that, and it never made sense to me anyways. His solid advice of not ignoring, but not getting overly excited is the way that I got my ex to reach out to me. I thought it was key how he says not to chase...I often fall into that mistake. But when I respond in the way he recommends, I always get the best response for my ex. It may take him a little while, sometimes weeks, as long as a couple months another time. But he does end up reaching out and has frequently said he misses me.
I pushed my partner away. I was always angry, upset and mean to her. I realize now that I just wanted to love her. I wanted her and she didn’t because I was always mean. We were in a cycle of push and pull. She called me 5 days later to say she lost all feelings. I knew it was time to move on… I asked if she wanted to get lunch the next day just to hang out one last time. When I walked into the restaurant she began crying. When we said goodbye she teared up and we held each other for a long time. This break has shown me what I’ve lost and that I need to work on myself. All my anger is gone, now I’m just sad and missing her. I hope no contact helps bring us back together. Good luck everyone.
@@nickboettcher4017 I appreciate you asking. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. After 2 months I broke no contact, we talked on the phone for 3 hours where she told me she had no more feelings. Call again 2 months later, making it 4 months breakup and she said she still had no feelings for me and that if they hadn’t come back by now, they probably wouldn’t. She did tell me she thought about me every day but see’s me more like family and not in a romantic type of way. The week that was going to be 6 months, I got a call that she was at a club with some guy and her sister in law told me she never went home that night. I was devastated and I hit rock bottom again. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on many dates and have gone out a lot but I was only my ex’s second bf. We were together 8 years and not once did she sleep over because of her strict parents, there’s a whole bunch to share, but anywho point is, I’ve come to terms that she is not coming back. I’m still healing, in a bit of denial still that she left and never looked back after 8 years. She actually texted me yesterday about cancelling a recurring order from Amazon like it was nothing, she did not ask about me at all. It was a transactional convo. Have self respect gentlemen, don’t beg, lose the hope because it’ll keep you stuck, hit the gym hard and be ok with being alone. I work out about 5-6 days a week and it really does help. Date, go crazy, even if it only takes your mind off off of her for that night, it does get easier, but it is still hard. Good luck gentleman.
I just wanna say, thank you so much Coach Lee!!!! My ex called last night, then today while he was at work!!!! He said he wants to see me sometime this week, I told we'll figure something out according to our schedules. I'm so happy!!! 🙂 I was so surprised he was the one who said he wanted to meet up LOL!! I thought I'd be the one who had to!!! No contact truly works if you work it!!!! Listen to all of Coach Lee's advice everyone!!! This man knows exactly what hes talking about!!!! Much Love Coach Lee. I'm a bit nervous for when we meet up this week, lol, but I'm gunna look my best and play it cool, casual, and upbeat! No contact works!!!! Work on yourself, live your best life, your ex will see that and wanna come back!!! Trust and believe ❤❤❤ sending out good vibes to the universe y'all!!!! Dont give up!!!! 💪🏻
Me personally after a 7 year relationship on & off , if you can avoid your ex forever go ahead. Ex’s are exes for a reason. Also very rarely do people change.
@@axelbriggjern3534 It’s common sense. Why go back to someone over & over again after they never change. Perhaps it’s nice & feeds your pride by going into separation and they contact you . BUT I was just speaking from my experience. Ofc there’s exceptions , some people change , some people actually feel bad or perhaps simply see more value in you after seeing what they lost . Glooks bud
I’m 1 month into no contact, and I’m starting to think that I (and you too) should do it not for recovering your ex, but for improving yourself and becoming a better person while detaching from him/her. If he/she comes back, then we’ll see. Good luck in the process!! Stay strong
@@rubenv.2736 I am similar to you. My GF broke up with me October 15th. I have been going through hell but am slowly pulling myself together and working on myself to improve overall as a person. I agree with you by saying do it for myself and if she comes back it’s a bonus. I hope we both find happiness again good luck to you and stay strong. I began no contact in November 2nd we both need to stay strong
Bought the break up kit, watched all 8 modules at 3am, and felt so much better. Coach Lee, thank you for what you do. You mentioned cheating in the break up kit and that is unfortunately my situation and the reason my wonder girl and I broke up. Please please tell us about your experience and advice when it comes to infidelity. Best wishes to you.
Man…all the games & time wasted playing around with love when ppl could be spending time loving each other. I love Coach Lee because he reminds us to keep our dignity
It's been a day over 2 months since the brakeup, and I've been doing well... Can confi that separation anxiety has kicked in on my side a few days ago, staying strong for her... Even if it fails, I sincerely thank you for all your help, coach... As soon as i get in a better financial position, I'm leaving a big tip, even if I don't succeed
Funny story, my ex was bisexual... Today I had a moment of weaknes and i decided to stalk her facebook a bit. idk if she changed it recently, but it says she is interested in women now... So imma just try and not get too demmoralised by it and just hope it was an impulsive change, plus as coach often says, if something changes from one to the other, it can often change back... either way, thanks for everyone who repied, hope your situation is better than mine
I'm a student rn and going through a break up.. It hurts like hell and even if it doesn't work, thank you Coach Lee for being my therapist.. I make sure to leave you a tip once I start earning my own money soon, your help is very appriciated, please know that. You're an awesome human being for posting these videos.
Here is my advice Don't let your emotions rule your discretions. I always say don't invest based on how much you love them but invest on how much they invest on you. If you honestly just walk away and time I promise you will eventually not want them back but you must delete them from all social media no calls or text nothing to them if they really want you back they will know how to find you even after you block and delete them I'm not a pro or a professional this is just my opinion. It's what has always worked for me
Coach Lee I want to personally thank you my ex just reached out after four days going to continue to follow your advice. You kept me positive in a heart breaking period. UPDATE We are engaged. I couldn’t be happier!! Listen to coach Lee!!!! Trust me!!!!
yall. i really thought he lied to me. it'd been nearly 2 years and i was just thinking early today "i think im completely over him. he's never responding, and that's okay." and that's exactly when he reached out. after 2 years, he apologized for everything he did and all the things that got messed up. thank you so much. no contact was the best idea ever.
I actually didn't believe I would ever write this but: IT WORKED (kind of). He texted me on day 35 of NC. I was polite but kept it super short and then he disappeared again for another 3 days. I thought I blew it, but today he texted again, claiming that he would like to meet and talk. We talked on the phone for a while and we are supposed to meet in a few days. I don't really expect much (I don't think I have progressed enough to make him fall for me again but whatever, there's nothing to lose, is it?), my point is: don't break NC. It DOES work. Even if it hurts as hell. I literally thank God for the encouragement these videos gave me!
@@leahleona9115 Hi! Well, we talked for 4 days or so, but eventually we didn't meet, because I called it off. I was still too fragile, too clingy inside (but I kept up appearances) and he didn't mention to get back together with me so I didn't see the point of talking to him and making myself cry again. I asked him not to text me and I started NC again. And after another 6 weeks he reached out again: this time he apologized to me, he confessed that he missed me, that he was stupid and he regrets losing me and that he would like to continue our relationship. We talked for a while and he seemed truly regretful and quite miserable. It happened almost 2 weeks ago. We've been texting since then, but I have no clue where it is going. I love him desperately and it isn't healthy. I am tired of pretending that I don't care that much, tired of forcing myself not to message him constantly, tired of this game. I would like to jump straight into his arms instead of playing "hard to get". I don't even know if we will finally meet, I'm postponing it out of fear of disappointment. I don't think we're gonna get back together, but this is just because I am the problem. NC works and this is what I encourage all of you to do.
@@siasia483 WOW. This is an amazing success story. As a person in your shoes, I feel as though when my time comes I will feel the same way and totally understand where you are coming from. I will say this, re-read your response to me. What stands out most is that he apologized, took accountability for his actions and understands your worth and value to his life. I grew up with my parents telling me “Walk by faith, not by Sight.” You took a leap of FAITH doing the NC Rule in hopes that your love would return. It hurt like HELL but he is back. Now, you must walk by faith again to heal and mend your relationship. I myself have not been with my ex in a month. Have failed NC twice. Today is day 6 on NC, and when all hope was lost, he texted me yesterday evening. I am at ease that he thought of me. I will continue to take things as slow as possible and I even erased all previous memories of us. You got this. 🙏🏽
I’m on day 14 and I’m watching this video because my ex reached out today… and now I need to know what to do… it has been hard but I will say I am thankful for no contact because I see the relationship in ways I never did before and have grown a lot of self-love for myself being alone and processing the relationship. I don’t even think I want it anymore, which is the beauty of no contact I guess. Ultimately, it served me.
Take it very slow. That's a short no contact time frame. Stay in control and still continue to work on yourself, even if you both get back. Self esteem is a powerful thing, so continue to build that up. Good luck!
@@poedottaviano6924 Thank you for this. It’s been highs and lows. Some days I’m great, some days I’m a mess. I am trying to make it to 30 days no contact. The break up is still feels so fresh and I definitely was confused when they reached out. So, I haven’t responded. I do not think I will re-open the door again. I will continue to work on myself and learn to love myself more each day. Yes to taking things slow. 🙏🏾
@Cmayanja You're very welcome. Can I ask why didn't you respond back? As no response can drive them away for good. You are wise to go through the 30 days on no contact however if you need to get emotions in check. I will say that no contact has worked twice in my case with my ex. Last summer we broke up and after 2 months of no contact we got back together better then ever. Then we broke up again..mutually, this spring, and she reached out after 46 days. I think we both appreciate what we had and we will probably take it slow. We just want each other happy. God bless and trust me the days of you feeling good will increase each week of no contact. It's a great feeling to know you that being independent is the most important thing and having someone is a supplement rather then a need. Good luck...you can do this!
My apologies as I reread that you were confused how to respond back. If you can, maybe a short "I'm not sure and need time" response is best? Just so they don't feel rejected? But if you must continue NC instead to get you'reelf better and emotionally strong, that's more important.
@@poedottaviano6924 @Po'ed Ottaviano I listened to your advice and responded back expressing that trust has been broken and I need time. All hell broke loose. He was VERY angry at me. Proceeded to respond with "Haha" and "This just sounds like a message from somebody who is trying to deal with rejection in a way that makes it easier for herself." I noticed he had blocked me because I sent a response but it didn't go through. I had responded asking if everything was okay (because he is usually a pretty level-headed person, and has never spoken to me unkindly). So, I used another app, and he responded with "This is stalking" and proceeded to block me everywhere -- all social apps. I should have trusted my gut and never reopened that door, but there are no what ifs now. I do not think I understand what happened, but I am thankful it is done now.
I've never heard this explained so well... the importance of a slow approach when an ex reaches out. This is explaining psychology in such an easy to understand way. Thank you!
She reached out today to ask about a power drill that she's never used. She just wanted to make sure I still have it. 🙄. Yesterday she reached out to applogize for being a cheater and that I deserve better.
my ex reached out after 12 days m sooo happy coach lee's videos gave me strenght❤️❤️❤️❤️ i love this channel m so grateful... guys stay strong and listen to coach lee..
Thank you for the great advice Coach Lee!! My ex asked me to meet on day 51 of no contact and 2 months of being broken up. I wasn’t sure he would come back because he said that we would probably not get back together when we broke up. I cried and asked him to give me a chance. When he said no, I wished him the best and we parted ways. So these past couple months, I’ve been applying NC for my sake and the possibility of reconciliation😢We were together for almost 5 years and broke up due to having too many arguments. These are some encouraging results! I’m going to see how it goes.
It’s literally been two weeks since my breakup. I’ve held steadfast with NC completely and today I’ve just got a text for a reason for the breakup. Had to watch this video for guidance. Pray for me Coach Lee that I choose my words Wisely in my response text. Thanks again coach Lee
Did you text back? My ex is texting me too. Hmmm.. I just told him it’s hard but for the best right now. Maybe I did the wrong thing but it’s how I feel.
Omg stay strong ppl afte 3 month and 1/2 reached out by NY , then as coach Lee said I was polite in my response, she just told me she missed me yesterday, and today she asked to have dinner this week. I’m taking it slow though. 🙏🏻
Coach Lee, you're blessed with wisdom and understanding. May the Almighty God continue to bless, protect and multiply your abundance in wisdom prosperity, success, wealth, grace and mercy.
So I did all the begging , crying . Pretty much all coach lee said we shouldn’t do but I realized every single thing coach said was true , in fact it feels like coach was in my relationship. My ex told me she felt pressured and suffocated with all the text I keep texting her . Our break up wasn’t that bad . But I will keep to nc now . And hopefully things become positive because I really love her .
I've been watching your videos for a month coach Lee! Your intro music gives me hope and makes me feel good!! Just today my ex broke no contact by approaching me in a friendly way and we had a conversation about our relationship and it went perfect!! During that entire time I was thinking about your videos and your advice that I collected from several of your videos. We reconciled and I do want her back. She said she hadn't been seeing anyone she broke up with me 3 months ago and said she missed me. Guess I still have work to do! It's not a race is a marathon. I did some begging and pleading on the first day she broke up with me and was pursuing her for a few weeks then I went into no contact! Guess it kind of paid off. I will continue to watch your videos until the work is done and even after I get to what I'm trying to achieve!! Appreciate you so much coach Lee!!!!!
Day 17 and she reached out. She asked “can you just be honest. Why did you take my necklace back?” And I absolutely didn’t take her necklace. She must have misplaced it.
I’m here to tell everyone he reached out asking me “So how is it going so far” I’m shaking right now I never thought he would text me because he was so mad at me
My ex hated me when she broke up with me 2/3 months ago, I begged, pleaded and whined to take me back and made her more mad and she blocked me on everything. I then used the no contact strateg for 2months, & couple nights ago I was getting worried that it wasn’t working, then I watched the video where he explained as we start to get over it, she will get out of that relief stage and then start missing you and feeling how we did at the i goal break up & also watched this video the same night And literally last night my ex called me flirting and asking to come back etc. & I was able to utilize these strategies! Staying reserve and Saying I’m open to her questions. This dude is on point🙌
@@terael5637 she contacted me one more time since then but has been completely cold since. she still keeps me blocked on social media but unblocked my number so i tried breaking the ice the other day but with success, dont know if that was the right move. but im guessing she either got confused, is hesitant because of all the shit talking she did on social media about me after we broke up is in a relationship, or was just trying to get a sense of where I was "am I dating anyone, am I done being a asshole, did I learn anything, etc" which Is why im glad I was reserved. if she reached out once, shell most likely reach out again. so im just going back into no contact that seems to be most effective
She reached out to me after almost two months of no contact. She apologized and she said that she rushed into ending the relationship. She also mentioned that she rushed into a new relationship and she acknowledged it was a mistake. She wants to be friends, and is open to us getting back slowly.
Don't, srry dude, but she's settling with you. She though she could do better, and now she realized grass is not greener, she is coming to the safe bet... you deserve better... also, maybe she broke with you because she wanted to try another dude, he didn't want her for a serious thing and she came back... just consider all into the picture dude. Good luck
@@Orochi550 maybe, but maybe it was someone trying to figure out what they want and we don't know the whole story. The important part is that she came back with a different mindset. Whether or not that lines up with this fella's interests are his business.
Realize there are A LOT of crazies out there and others who are completely emotionally immature. Back and forth they go, often times taking the blame but continuing to do the same thing over. When you fall in love with someone fall in love with who they are and not their potential. Fall in love with them, not the idea of them. Words are cheap. Trust their actions. Value yourself.
After a Year of break up, he contacted me with full on apology. He mustered all his strength to send a text message that he couldnt do every day because he was terrified of my reaction and not forgiving him for what he have done. Yesterday was the day that it happened. I want him to earn me back little by little. I want to take things slow because I have personal goals and things I want to do.
There’s risk in responding to a flimsy reach out like “Hey” “How are you” “What’s up” just like there’s risk in not responding. Risk either way, but the risk in responding is not mentioned in this video.
After 8 months he came back with bad reasons and make me confused more. I couldn’t understand what he wants exactly .. I really don’t want to repeat every thing again! I think he just need to refill his fuel
I can't believe how good you are! Wish I had come here first. My ex reached out during no contact (4 days ago), 3 weeks into the NC period, very casually and I ignored it. I know he's dating someone else and didn't trust myself to respond, afraid of what I might say. After watching several of your videos, I feel much more calm and centered. Getting him back may or may not happen, but I'm starting to feel peace knowing that whatever is meant to be is what will happen if I just allow it to. Who knows...maybe I'll be the one to change my mind. Thank you 🙏 .
No contact works but, it's complicated when she reaches out, I'm dating a new one when she reached out and i think i don't feel the same way for her so i choose the new one co'z she is more sensitive, sweet, clingy and she value more and respect me rather than my ex so that's why...
It's only been 2 weeks since the breakup and 1 week of no contact. She tried to call me twice while I was asleep and texting me she was sorry for calling and that she was feeling down. Gave her a simple answer with no emotions. Let's see what she does next when she wakes up and if she isn't ready to see me or talk, we back to no contact. Simple as that. Thanks Coach Lee. (Will try to update)
She told me that she had a hard time distracting her mind, was thinking about me and was sad. I told her "Thank you for trying to be vulnerable with me, if you need to call or see me, let me know. Have a nice day" which in my opinion was a great balance between being nonchalant, rewarding her messaging me, opening the door by inserting security in discussing and closing the convo. She just responded "have a nice day" but I'll just stick to nc until she reach out again. It'll show her that I'm trying to change (I'm an anxious attachment) and that I respect her space.
My ex reached out yesterday and wish me Merry Christmas I wish him back and leave the conversation right there. I felt good though to know that I am in his thoughts
Guys please listen Coach Lee.
We broke up on the 1st November, firstly I try to change her mind and say I would change and bla bla.
After a couple weeks I accepted the breakup and initiated the no contact.
15 days went by and my ex reached out to me.
We going on a date next week let’s see how it goes.
Should I stop my Snapstreak if it’s a never met girlfriend, we’ve been broken up with for a month trying to talk daily, is it too late for NC
Same for me bro, except she's still reserved. I started applying no contact 1.5 weeks ago and she called me to which I couldnt respond so she sent me a message telling me she's worried about me because I didnt show up to work for the same 1.5 weeks where she also works. I of course acted a bit mysterious and direct but didnt get a very detailed response back so I am back to no contact again.
How did it go ???
@@xSnicolex we are together now.
We took things slow and are again together stronger than before.
Keep calm things will go on your way !!
@@brunolopes4759 That gives me hope. I posted my story here in the comments too. It’s still fresh and super scary and I felt like I really messed up following a different coaches idea… I just found coach Lee and he seems more my style and authentic to who I am. I just hope I didn’t ruin my chances.
She reached out after 29 days. Do NOT break no contact, I am BEGGING you, if you want this person, make patience your best friend. I know it’s tough, it is NOT easy. But it is worth it my friends. She left me for another man (rebound) and legitimately recognized her mistake. I’d follow coach to hell. I thank him and God for working together I’m my favor
She reached out after a month, but only for friendship. We had a few positive interaction but..
I messed up by showing her how hurt I was, and she blocked me and told me we're done
I don't know what else to do, but I still want her back, can someone please help?
I have apologised to her the way that I acted and in NC again
Hopefully it works , please pray for me🙏
I hear that each and everytime she reached out she said she wanted to come back home but it was lies then I offered to pay for her travel to come home and planned a day together then she ignored me, I havent contacted her in a week before this I went no contact for 5/6 weeks then she reached out again only to give me breadcrumbs and false hope, I dont get it
@@thehavoc6331 I hear your pain my friend. Here’s what I recommend: don’t try to pursue her and give it time. Start working out and finding a new hobby. Think of it like you’re an injured athlete who got carried out on a stretcher. In the meantime, become the best version of yourself. Eventually, she may come around and you can make your triumphant return. Until then, BINGE coach lee. He has all the info. Good luck
@@splitzyentertainment7995 seems like she’s confused rn and doesn’t know what she wants. I recommend that you go into no contact and If she reaches out again, do not LEAD the convo. Let HER set up the meet up. You are the prize my friend. You are the great one that she needs to reach out for. Don’t let anyone disrespect you or your time. In the meantime, binge coach lee. I made sure I watched a vast majority of his vids before appropriately responding to my ex. Now she’s OBSSESSED with me and I barely did anything. Our relationship now is 10x better than it ever was. Why? Because I made her recognize that I’m the G.O.A.T just like you
Since my breakup I have; quit multiple drugs, cut back significantly on alcohol, gained 20lbs(I was severely underweight), stopped biting my fingernails, saved up a good chunck money, got a tan, stopped taking anxiety/depression medication, and discovered a new love for myself. Use your breakup as fuel to become a better person and find new self-worth. Growth also doesn't happen overnight, stay disciplined! I wish everyone here the best!
Proud of you bro.
Proud of you!
Holy shit guy. Good job man
@ryancollinsoriginal that's awesome to here man! I'm excited for you!
@ryancollinsoriginal cheers! I am happy to report that I have been continuing down the same path as my original post. I changed my life for the better and I'm not looking back. Thanks for asking :)
When we broke up, I did all the wrong things, begged, cried etc. I found Coach Lee and went into no contact. 28 days later, my ex reached out, I was sooooo happy, but he was only checking to see if I was seeing anyone, I told him that I wasn't seeing anyone but was talking to a few people. I thought he was ready to get back together, but he wasn't. I went back into no contact and he reached out again 12 days later, this time he's ready. It's been 5 days and we agreed to take it slow. I know no contact is hard but it does work. I learned alot about relationships watching these videos. Thanks Coach Lee!
It sounds like you handled things very well.
@@RealCoachLee thank you! And thanks for the videos!
I wish I could to that what you did. Because I miss him so much everyday. Today I texted him and no reply at all. It's been 2weeks no talking.
@@rpfullingim you can, it does get easier, but you have to start no contact and stick to it.
How long were you and your ex together?
Coach Lee's ability as a therapist after a break-up is underestimated. A lifesaver during my darkest time. The best coach on TH-cam by far
What if YOU broke the no contact?.. Did you ruin all your chances and the slightest possibility your ex had regreted the break up and is still interested in you????...
Could not agree more :). He saves lives. Literally. Takes one through the worse time.
I agree 1000%
This man is a guru
One of the best forsure
No contact always works my ex reached out 59 days after she broke up with me. She asked to see me we agreed to meet up for lunch. Stay the course and keep positive good things happen if you have patience! Listen to Coach Lee
I think that you have covered all the bases in your teaching.
But she was just getting validation. She probably had a bad week with her new guy and wanted to make sure you’d be there if needed.
FORGET my ex, I want this guy. ❤️
I know right! He is better than my ex☺️
Why are you gay?
😂 me 2
Is there a girl version of him lol?
Too bad he’s married!
This man KNOWS his stuff man. Seriously. I thought my situation was hopeless and I’ve been in a DARK place. A lot of y’all probably understand but a lot of you might not… but it happened. It actually happened man… she reached out and I’ll follow this man’s advice like it’s biblical advice. He’s the best at this and it’s not even close.
I've only been doing no contact for a short time and she showed interest, last I talked to her I kept it short and didnt respond after.
Any update on your situation? I've been in the dark place on and of now for over a year now myself.
Happy for you
I’m not exactly sure where you’re getting it biblical advice? You need to read Proverbs 31.
Sometimes they just contact you only for validation, nothing more.
@@gracemary7809 No thanks. I'd rather call a real professional, not your Sister 😅
Truth...!!! 👍👍
My ex broke no contact just the other day. I wasn't nervous, I was ready. People, preparation is everything.
update? did you guys get back together?
What did you do? Mine said Hi to me and I replied like 6 days later because I just didn't want to seem needy but I also cut ties with a mutual friend and she also sent me a message. So Idk if he just said hi to see if I was still alive or dead. And I am on no social media.. or anything. Just off the radar. I only replied with Hi back..
@@OneGirlRecipes 6 days for a text back is crazy 😭
@@osvaldolopez6018 right lmao.
@@OneGirlRecipes mine just reached out like an hour ago. I was the dumper since she was disrespecting me in public at a restaurant were I took her and her daughters out. And finally the straw that broke the camels back was she disrespectfully lashed out at me when she was put in a bad mood by one of her daughters a week later.
No contact works! He came back after two weeks. Prior to no contact I would constantly call him/beg/want to talk etc. just acted absolutely pathetic. I went into NC, restored my dignity and went about living my best life with the intention of moving on if I needed to. When he reached out I was polite but not overly enthusiastic. Now he is chasing. THIS WORKS.
He said he doesnt want to marry me and if we marry there will b a lot of problems. I begged cried chased him. But he said no. He is talking to another girl. Now he seldom texts me and I reply back. He's using me. Idk what to do
I couldn't agree more. Going thru pretty much the exact thing right now. It does work. I didn't think it would at first, but tue more of this guy's videos I watched, the more I trusted it.
she reached out after 7 months ,i never thought that she would ever contact me again but it worked , thank you coach lee for your instructions you are the best!
It's so nice to know I am NOT the only one going through this shitty time in my life 💖
❤BE STRONG EVERYONE!❤
How's it going for you?
@@Garmoo5600 I am in the middle of something and I will post updates as soon as I'll be able to understand what's going on 😅
@@jambogb wishing you the best!
@@manthanmodi38 it's all gone now. Need to restart my life mate.
@@jambogb I’m sorry to hear that mate, stay strong out there 💪🏾
My ex reached out last week. I did not give her no validation I talked to her like I talked to a friend of mine. Be careful when they reach out. Please do not get over excited. But I think reaching out is a very good sign
It's actually the polar opposite for me. When I see my phone ring and it's her number, I get anxiety. I never know what to expect. Might just be because I'm afraid of what the conversation will be about because we still share bills and she's been extremely cold and unrecognizable throughout this whole process.
@@dolfanatic1991you got this man. She’s grieving like you
IGNORE THEM unless they say something significant! They will contact you again if they were truly interested! This doesn’t work, they are breadcrumbing, a response is still a response
I was doubting NC would work! She left me for another guy!! In exactly 30 days she contacted me and begged me to take her back! She told me everything reminded her of me and just missed me and couldn’t get me out of her mind! She also told me she just couldn’t connect with her rebound! I can’t believe how powerful NC is! Thank you coach Lee!
That's still an L for you though because she went and screwed another guy and it didn't work out. You're basically a rebound of her rebound
I hope you didnt take that B back.
You are a fool then.
To those who wonder... It works now it took 6 months but it worked. fyi my breakup was easy in I did no begging and zero pursuit just walked. Ty Coach
You’ve done more for people’s healing from a broken heart than you’ll ever know mate. Thank you.
She reached out YESTERDAY after 29 days. We haven't talked about meeting yet since I'm waiting for her to have the initiative. NO CONTACT DOES WORK.
Coach Ken, Coach Lee, thank you for teaching me so much about break ups and relationship dynamics. My ex came back to me last night, 3 months after the break up, and 2 months of radio silence. He reached out to me twice during this time, and after we spent the whole day with each other yesterday at the sport event, he kissed me, and then he cried and told me he wants us to try again. I've been honest with him and told him I am scared of getting hurt again, and I want to take things slow. He understood and respected my stance, and asked me out on a 'first' date. Thank you again, I wouldn't be able to do it without you!
Agata, I’m very happy for you! Would you please email your testimonial to myexbackcoach@gmail.com and we would use it anonymously?
@@RealCoachLee yes of course! Thank you again for all your videos and support once more!
@@victimized1 Hi, things between us are better than they have been before the breakup. I'm moving back in with him next month. The break up has helped both of us. In hindsight, I regret it had to come to that, but I'm glad it happened.
@@RealCoachLeehi Coach Lee my ex reached out again after 90 days No contact ..
But your Emergency Breakup Kit did not talk about should we respond within 24 hours or it is ok to reply her 1st direct message within 3 days ?
My ex reached out today, on day 17 of no contact. Thanks for all the videos Coach Lee, you helped me get through 2 very tough weeks of wanting to text and call her compulsively!! Now the real work begins
Any update
@@lestationYT We saw each other for about 3 months after that, but it was just not the same. We didn't end up getting back together, but I did get closure and was able to move on. I'm with a new girl now.
@@alexr.vizcaino903 congrats on your new relationship and wish you the best. Maybe sometimes people arent right for each other, but the point is no contact rule does work
@@lestationYT Thank you. Yes, it did work.
@@alexr.vizcaino903 update
I got my ex back thanks to coach lee
Tell us more how long did you guys seperated?
Yes please share
It was three months. And It took like almost three months to get her back u have to be dedicated and you got to believe it's going to work that's the only way it's going to work no content is very hard but u are doing it for yourself patience is the key just listen to coach lee he is right about everything but u most stay strong coach lee is amazing 💯👍💪💪
I have begged for several moths ....have 2 children and i have been in no contact for about a month ....maby a little more ... I really miss her so much but ill do the work if i can get her back ....and like coach said its the matured thing to do ! Also i have some self respect !!
@@QuintinmuggZ just stay strong u have to believe it in order for it to happen no contact is the best way to go and you have to understand some people just don't come back but no contact helps you everything you do you doing it for you not for the other person you must remember. That
I didn't answer her calls , to she said "I miss you baby" and it worked PERFECT.
"Asking them if they've come up with anymore names for your future children..." lol
Coach Lee's the absolute BEST 💖
That was hilarious cracked me up.
65 days. 2 months. That’s how long it took for him to reach out after nc but it worked. It’s so hard and you feel like he’s moving on and forgetting about you but trust it. Don’t break no contact, it will work!
Ex called me 1 day after the breakup and then she called me 4 days later asking how i was and catching up for 40 mins. Do i call her this week? Its been 5 days since she last contacted
Thank you sooooo much Coach Lee. Your message and lessons truly are a god send (and Coach Rex, too!) 58 grueling days of No contact, binging your videos, alot of treadmill, and 2 appointments with coach Rex - today I got an ‘i’ve missed you’ text. Cheers to small wins
🎉
I’m on day 35… i’ve typed 5 messages in 4 days that i’ve almost hit send to but haven’t )): i’m fighting with everything i have but it’s hard. How can I be strong like you?
@@ronnymartinez9614 it was honestly the hardest thing I have ever done to wait it out. I listened to coach lee’s videos on repeat a gazillion times, and i even scheduled a couple of coaching sessions with Coach Rex. He was able to give me some tools to deal with anxiety and patience :)
Coach Lee was absolutely right you can't just forget about a 19.5 year relationship and 18 year marriage without casting doubt on if my ex made the right choice we shall see what happens on the next reach out by my ex
Wow. He reached out and I'm freaking out. It worked. Yes, thank you for telling me what to do Coach Lee.
Three weeks today on renewed no contact and she messaged me. I didn't even open it yet, came here to calm down and rewatch before I do anything.
I just had to start again. He reached out after 3 1/2 weeks, made plans to meet up and than I was blocked again. And than I left a voicemail of me being upset. Feel like I ruined everything I did.
Oof did it go weird. Super casual at first, then all of a sudden she sends me all the screenshot of her yelling at the guy she left me for since he literally treats like garbage. Why are you telling me this when I don't ask
Sounds like she’s drama. Who even screenshots that?!? Good luck to you. It’s been a week since my ex reached out, I noticed I’m unblocked again, but I’m not reaching out. Still crying so much every day. It’s been 4 1/2 weeks now since I started no contact.
lol doing the same thing.
@@jessicagambichler2017 update haha. Alot of drama happened, on her end. I told her I'm not "just her friend" who can give advice. She actually said as her friend she wants me to be there for her on her best and worst days. I'm like ummm, that's supposed to be your husband and that's not me. Also, I can't even give real advice because you left me for him. So I told her I can't do this anymore and for the first time I said goodbye. She left three months ago and not once have either of us actually said goodbye. It was left open and obviously it kept happening. I'm done. And it's been 10 days since then. She never responded. I wasn't mean and I do hope her the best but I can't be there to help her through it.
She ended things with me on a 6 month relationship. I accepted her desire for the breakup and went strict no contact. 39 days. She reached back out. This stuff works. Commit to the strategy, work on yourself, and things all into place.
Perfect timing. It happened today after 3 weeks
So happy for you man .stay strong
I had a relationship exactly like this. I call it my love/hate relationship. He would beg me back, told him I needed a week to consider it, then a week later HE told me he changed HIS mind before I could tell him my decision. After 4 months of this every 30 days, i said enough! Never again
@@oscarwilliamson1264 Thanks for saying that. After about 4x of that I realized he was power trippin. I didnt appreciate how he played with my feelings like that. It was pretty cruel.
Did all begging n pleading for a month and then started no contact religiously.....i had lost all the hopes n last night she called me n begged to come back.....If she came back then everyone's can come back.....Just wait n watch....Bet on your love......All thanks to coach lee❤️
This advice is solid. I’ve gone no contact with everyone ranging from situationships to relationships. Currently going through this with a situationship. Stay grounded and keep your emotions in check when they reach out to you. That’s where I’m at right now, just letting him pace it since he ended things with me and reached back out
I've reached my ex after 2 months of no contact per your advice "that you don't have nothing to lose" and you were right: I've realized that he didn't feel the same way and that I indeed did not lose anything, so now I have almost 3 months of no contact after that, and I know for sure he won't reach out. And it's ok, it is what it is. I'm not going to waste my time waiting for him because now I know that when he said he wanted us to break up, he really meant it and all of that "let me fix my mind and my life and I'll come back to you" was absolute BS. I know he's with someone else now, that he was with her while still being with me, and even though that was hurtful at the beginning, I do feel better now, and now that I know he won't come back, I still like to watch your videos and get an advice from you, since you have helped me a lot during this time. Following your advice was good for me, I'm pretty sure it will be good for another people having the same situation as well. Now I try to be the best just for me, and it's good. Thanks for all, Coach Lee! 🤗 keep going!
Patricia omg this is the same as me! Everything was going great. Beautiful intimate connection that seemed like when we were together we were in a relationship. She freaked out and said I just want to be single and I've got to sort my shit out. I reached out the other night after a month nc. My relationship was less then 3 months. She responded with a cold sentence no emotion. Not the person I was in love with. I'll go straight back into nc and keep improving myself so that I'm ready for someone who will be real and truthful with me. What else do you think I should do?
@@grahamwalton8351 wow, same here because we had such a connection with each other and a lot in common... it was a great relationship and we were together for a year and a half. However he changed. And I didn't notice because we were separated during the pandemic, and when we got to see each other after months, he decided to break up. His answer was cold as well when I reached out after 2 months of no contact, and I guess that was the answer I needed. I would encourage you to keep going, even if everything seems to fall apart, keep working on you, love you and put you in the first place, that's what I do. And I know it hurts but you will get through, I can tell you that you will, because time helps a lot and suddenly you will find peace. I've found peace with him, with the idea that I'm not gonna see him ever again, that everything is over, but mostly I've found peace with myself and with this entire situation. I'm sure you will do this as well, keep going!!
@@patyretanac it sux hey. Yeah I have been doing really well on improving myself but to be honest I get daily flashes of us together and just can't understand why we aren't still seeing each other. The thoughts and memories are what I'm struggling with. Thsnkyou for your reply. You seem like a wonderful woman and I appreciate you talking with me. Never seeing her again well that thought breaks my heart but I guess that is the cold reality. I'm glad I reached out though in a way. Not much time has passed do you never know. I just know that I will not break nc again.
@@grahamwalton8351 I'm not gonna say that it's easy, because it's not. And I do also have flashbacks to the days when we were together and you know, even though it sucks, you have the good memories, and everything good you did for her should remain on your mind as a proof that you really loved her. However, and I will say this, for me it was good to get to this point since my ex was cheating on me and when I asked him about that, it's when he decided to break up adding to that "that it was badly done and that he was a bad man, because I've never failed to him but he did, and that he had mental issues he had to work with". So, after thinking about it, I guess it was good because I was living a fake relationship. I'm not saying you lived the same situation, however, this type of situations can help us to see the reality, the true face of your ex partner and what you expect in the future with another person, what treat you really deserve. It's hard, but you can do it, keep going!! It was really good talking to you. Believe me 😁
@@patyretanac I'm so sorry that he cheated on you. That's terrible. Why people do these things is beyond me. Especially seeing as though how nice you are. I've really enjoyed chatting with you. I'd like to continue taking to you if you want. Do you have instagram?
This guy is at the top of his game , straight to the point , understands the human psyche, superb
No contact absolutely works 💯💯
Well 49 days and no contact... I did pass by him today, kinda hard when he worked down the road from my house and for the first time in weeks I cried...... I pray that he comes back
I wish he does. I’m so sorry 😞
You got it be strong and if it’s meant to be it will !!! Let him sink into reality BE PATIENT. Regardless of it all you’re worth it.
I feel your pain. I wonder if girls feel the same pain that guys feel
Thank goodness I didn't listen to other dating coaches who say when your ex reaches out to ignore them. Coach Lee doesn't recommend that, and it never made sense to me anyways. His solid advice of not ignoring, but not getting overly excited is the way that I got my ex to reach out to me. I thought it was key how he says not to chase...I often fall into that mistake. But when I respond in the way he recommends, I always get the best response for my ex. It may take him a little while, sometimes weeks, as long as a couple months another time. But he does end up reaching out and has frequently said he misses me.
I pushed my partner away. I was always angry, upset and mean to her. I realize now that I just wanted to love her. I wanted her and she didn’t because I was always mean. We were in a cycle of push and pull. She called me 5 days later to say she lost all feelings. I knew it was time to move on… I asked if she wanted to get lunch the next day just to hang out one last time. When I walked into the restaurant she began crying. When we said goodbye she teared up and we held each other for a long time. This break has shown me what I’ve lost and that I need to work on myself. All my anger is gone, now I’m just sad and missing her. I hope no contact helps bring us back together. Good luck everyone.
Update?
What happened bro?
@@nickboettcher4017 I appreciate you asking. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions. After 2 months I broke no contact, we talked on the phone for 3 hours where she told me she had no more feelings. Call again 2 months later, making it 4 months breakup and she said she still had no feelings for me and that if they hadn’t come back by now, they probably wouldn’t. She did tell me she thought about me every day but see’s me more like family and not in a romantic type of way. The week that was going to be 6 months, I got a call that she was at a club with some guy and her sister in law told me she never went home that night. I was devastated and I hit rock bottom again. Don’t get me wrong, I’ve been on many dates and have gone out a lot but I was only my ex’s second bf. We were together 8 years and not once did she sleep over because of her strict parents, there’s a whole bunch to share, but anywho point is, I’ve come to terms that she is not coming back. I’m still healing, in a bit of denial still that she left and never looked back after 8 years. She actually texted me yesterday about cancelling a recurring order from Amazon like it was nothing, she did not ask about me at all. It was a transactional convo.
Have self respect gentlemen, don’t beg, lose the hope because it’ll keep you stuck, hit the gym hard and be ok with being alone. I work out about 5-6 days a week and it really does help. Date, go crazy, even if it only takes your mind off off of her for that night, it does get easier, but it is still hard. Good luck gentleman.
I just wanna say, thank you so much Coach Lee!!!! My ex called last night, then today while he was at work!!!! He said he wants to see me sometime this week, I told we'll figure something out according to our schedules. I'm so happy!!! 🙂 I was so surprised he was the one who said he wanted to meet up LOL!! I thought I'd be the one who had to!!! No contact truly works if you work it!!!! Listen to all of Coach Lee's advice everyone!!! This man knows exactly what hes talking about!!!! Much Love Coach Lee. I'm a bit nervous for when we meet up this week, lol, but I'm gunna look my best and play it cool, casual, and upbeat! No contact works!!!! Work on yourself, live your best life, your ex will see that and wanna come back!!! Trust and believe ❤❤❤ sending out good vibes to the universe y'all!!!! Dont give up!!!! 💪🏻
Oh my God it really work.. My ex is fully back with much love you should try writing to this for any help on whatsapp❤️❤️
@@jamesshank5423 reported
Thank you for your words 🙏 how are things going for yall today ?
Me personally after a 7 year relationship on & off , if you can avoid your ex forever go ahead. Ex’s are exes for a reason. Also very rarely do people change.
@@axelbriggjern3534 It’s common sense. Why go back to someone over & over again after they never change. Perhaps it’s nice & feeds your pride by going into separation and they contact you . BUT I was just speaking from my experience. Ofc there’s exceptions , some people change , some people actually feel bad or perhaps simply see more value in you after seeing what they lost . Glooks bud
I haven’t got my ex back yet but reading these comments and doing no contact gives me confidence
I’m 1 month into no contact, and I’m starting to think that I (and you too) should do it not for recovering your ex, but for improving yourself and becoming a better person while detaching from him/her. If he/she comes back, then we’ll see. Good luck in the process!! Stay strong
@@rubenv.2736 I am similar to you. My GF broke up with me October 15th. I have been going through hell but am slowly pulling myself together and working on myself to improve overall as a person. I agree with you by saying do it for myself and if she comes back it’s a bonus. I hope we both find happiness again good luck to you and stay strong. I began no contact in November 2nd we both need to stay strong
Bought the break up kit, watched all 8 modules at 3am, and felt so much better. Coach Lee, thank you for what you do. You mentioned cheating in the break up kit and that is unfortunately my situation and the reason my wonder girl and I broke up. Please please tell us about your experience and advice when it comes to infidelity. Best wishes to you.
Did that help to heel your pain ?
@@MaryGjheal
Did you guys get back together or
Man…all the games & time wasted playing around with love when ppl could be spending time loving each other. I love Coach Lee because he reminds us to keep our dignity
how are you coach, im out of every negative thing after breakup because of you ❤️❤️❤️ now just here to take care of scambots😂😂
It's been a day over 2 months since the brakeup, and I've been doing well... Can confi that separation anxiety has kicked in on my side a few days ago, staying strong for her... Even if it fails, I sincerely thank you for all your help, coach... As soon as i get in a better financial position, I'm leaving a big tip, even if I don't succeed
keep it up dude, all the best ❤️👍🏻 may all ur dreams come true
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Funny story, my ex was bisexual... Today I had a moment of weaknes and i decided to stalk her facebook a bit. idk if she changed it recently, but it says she is interested in women now... So imma just try and not get too demmoralised by it and just hope it was an impulsive change, plus as coach often says, if something changes from one to the other, it can often change back... either way, thanks for everyone who repied, hope your situation is better than mine
@@nejcstepancic8125 Update?
@@nejcstepancic8125 how do you feel? I’m actually curious. Idno if I’d be angry or sad about that.
I'm a student rn and going through a break up.. It hurts like hell and even if it doesn't work, thank you Coach Lee for being my therapist.. I make sure to leave you a tip once I start earning my own money soon, your help is very appriciated, please know that. You're an awesome human being for posting these videos.
U ARE a “good person” 😊 👍 ✅
She finally text back after 25 days of no contact but I haven’t text her back for the past 8 hours now and don’t know what to do
@@oseiisaacakwasi644 / You need to reply to her text now… if you want to try again?
@@oseiisaacakwasi644 so what did you do? And what is the situation now?
@@applesnicolle5144 Yeah i did reply her
She just broke no contact the other day. I was open and warm yet reserved. Threw her off enough to ask if I was drunk. Two weeks clean
Dont ever break no contact if you want them to Chase you back after break up
Here is my advice Don't let your emotions rule your discretions. I always say don't invest based on how much you love them but invest on how much they invest on you. If you honestly just walk away and time I promise you will eventually not want them back but you must delete them from all social media no calls or text nothing to them if they really want you back they will know how to find you even after you block and delete them I'm not a pro or a professional this is just my opinion. It's what has always worked for me
Lol I don't want my ex back but thank you She had her chance this ship has sailed...
Coach Lee I want to personally thank you my ex just reached out after four days going to continue to follow your advice. You kept me positive in a heart breaking period. UPDATE We are engaged. I couldn’t be happier!! Listen to coach Lee!!!! Trust me!!!!
Any update? Are you all still together?
No contact - 10 days. Started from the night of break up. Worked.
yall. i really thought he lied to me. it'd been nearly 2 years and i was just thinking early today "i think im completely over him. he's never responding, and that's okay." and that's exactly when he reached out. after 2 years, he apologized for everything he did and all the things that got messed up. thank you so much. no contact was the best idea ever.
I actually didn't believe I would ever write this but: IT WORKED (kind of). He texted me on day 35 of NC. I was polite but kept it super short and then he disappeared again for another 3 days. I thought I blew it, but today he texted again, claiming that he would like to meet and talk. We talked on the phone for a while and we are supposed to meet in a few days. I don't really expect much (I don't think I have progressed enough to make him fall for me again but whatever, there's nothing to lose, is it?), my point is: don't break NC. It DOES work. Even if it hurts as hell. I literally thank God for the encouragement these videos gave me!
Please give us an update🥺
@@leahleona9115 Hi! Well, we talked for 4 days or so, but eventually we didn't meet, because I called it off. I was still too fragile, too clingy inside (but I kept up appearances) and he didn't mention to get back together with me so I didn't see the point of talking to him and making myself cry again. I asked him not to text me and I started NC again. And after another 6 weeks he reached out again: this time he apologized to me, he confessed that he missed me, that he was stupid and he regrets losing me and that he would like to continue our relationship. We talked for a while and he seemed truly regretful and quite miserable. It happened almost 2 weeks ago. We've been texting since then, but I have no clue where it is going. I love him desperately and it isn't healthy. I am tired of pretending that I don't care that much, tired of forcing myself not to message him constantly, tired of this game. I would like to jump straight into his arms instead of playing "hard to get". I don't even know if we will finally meet, I'm postponing it out of fear of disappointment. I don't think we're gonna get back together, but this is just because I am the problem. NC works and this is what I encourage all of you to do.
@@siasia483 WOW. This is an amazing success story. As a person in your shoes, I feel as though when my time comes I will feel the same way and totally understand where you are coming from. I will say this, re-read your response to me. What stands out most is that he apologized, took accountability for his actions and understands your worth and value to his life. I grew up with my parents telling me “Walk by faith, not by Sight.” You took a leap of FAITH doing the NC Rule in hopes that your love would return. It hurt like HELL but he is back. Now, you must walk by faith again to heal and mend your relationship. I myself have not been with my ex in a month. Have failed NC twice. Today is day 6 on NC, and when all hope was lost, he texted me yesterday evening. I am at ease that he thought of me. I will continue to take things as slow as possible and I even erased all previous memories of us. You got this. 🙏🏽
I’m on day 14 and I’m watching this video because my ex reached out today… and now I need to know what to do… it has been hard but I will say I am thankful for no contact because I see the relationship in ways I never did before and have grown a lot of self-love for myself being alone and processing the relationship. I don’t even think I want it anymore, which is the beauty of no contact I guess. Ultimately, it served me.
Take it very slow. That's a short no contact time frame. Stay in control and still continue to work on yourself, even if you both get back. Self esteem is a powerful thing, so continue to build that up.
Good luck!
@@poedottaviano6924 Thank you for this. It’s been highs and lows. Some days I’m great, some days I’m a mess. I am trying to make it to 30 days no contact. The break up is still feels so fresh and I definitely was confused when they reached out. So, I haven’t responded. I do not think I will re-open the door again. I will continue to work on myself and learn to love myself more each day. Yes to taking things slow. 🙏🏾
@Cmayanja You're very welcome. Can I ask why didn't you respond back? As no response can drive them away for good.
You are wise to go through the 30 days on no contact however if you need to get emotions in check.
I will say that no contact has worked twice in my case with my ex. Last summer we broke up and after 2 months of no contact we got back together better then ever.
Then we broke up again..mutually, this spring, and she reached out after 46 days.
I think we both appreciate what we had and we will probably take it slow. We just want each other happy.
God bless and trust me the days of you feeling good will increase each week of no contact. It's a great feeling to know you that being independent is the most important thing and having someone is a supplement rather then a need.
Good luck...you can do this!
My apologies as I reread that you were confused how to respond back. If you can, maybe a short "I'm not sure and need time" response is best? Just so they don't feel rejected?
But if you must continue NC instead to get you'reelf better and emotionally strong, that's more important.
@@poedottaviano6924 @Po'ed Ottaviano I listened to your advice and responded back expressing that trust has been broken and I need time. All hell broke loose. He was VERY angry at me. Proceeded to respond with "Haha" and "This just sounds like a message from somebody who is trying to deal with rejection in a way that makes it easier for herself." I noticed he had blocked me because I sent a response but it didn't go through. I had responded asking if everything was okay (because he is usually a pretty level-headed person, and has never spoken to me unkindly). So, I used another app, and he responded with "This is stalking" and proceeded to block me everywhere -- all social apps. I should have trusted my gut and never reopened that door, but there are no what ifs now. I do not think I understand what happened, but I am thankful it is done now.
I've never heard this explained so well... the importance of a slow approach when an ex reaches out. This is explaining psychology in such an easy to understand way. Thank you!
Stay no contact. It works !
My ex just texted a month after break up
That point has finally came!! It’s been 5.5 months
6:23 one of the most perfect finger snaps i’ve ever seen in my life! ☺️✝️
Thank you. I have years of preparation ;)
Lol
She reached out today to ask about a power drill that she's never used. She just wanted to make sure I still have it. 🙄. Yesterday she reached out to applogize for being a cheater and that I deserve better.
She just reached out after a month and a half. Cracked sooner than I thought😂 time to watch this video and get the power back
This is one of the most important videos ever.
my ex reached out after 12 days m sooo happy coach lee's videos gave me strenght❤️❤️❤️❤️ i love this channel m so grateful... guys stay strong and listen to coach lee..
yeah when my girl broke no contact I lost it and messed it up, at least coach lee taught me a lesson, thank you coach lee
@@crystalwilson1606 are you referring to me crystal?
No contact WORKS. Stay strong!
this guy is the expert on this subject
Coach Lee is almost play by play. He’s amazing.
Thank you for the great advice Coach Lee!! My ex asked me to meet on day 51 of no contact and 2 months of being broken up. I wasn’t sure he would come back because he said that we would probably not get back together when we broke up. I cried and asked him to give me a chance. When he said no, I wished him the best and we parted ways. So these past couple months, I’ve been applying NC for my sake and the possibility of reconciliation😢We were together for almost 5 years and broke up due to having too many arguments. These are some encouraging results! I’m going to see how it goes.
Updates?
Mine messaged, 2 months later . We aren’t in a relationship yet. But no contact works 🙏
Oh my God it really work.. My ex is fully back with much love you should try writing to this for any help on whatsapp❤️❤️.
No contact is a way to reconnect. Now I have moved on and feel like the shackles of attachment have been released. Thank you for all the help
You’re a G Coach Lee. If anyone has relationships issues I’l def refer you. You help me chill out a lot. Thanks Man
My LDR ex reached out on Wednesday after almost two years of NC wanting to apologize and get back together.
It’s literally been two weeks since my breakup. I’ve held steadfast with NC completely and today I’ve just got a text for a reason for the breakup. Had to watch this video for guidance. Pray for me Coach Lee that I choose my words Wisely in my response text. Thanks again coach Lee
Did you text back? My ex is texting me too. Hmmm.. I just told him it’s hard but for the best right now. Maybe I did the wrong thing but it’s how I feel.
Which video did you watch? Could you link it here?
Omg stay strong ppl afte 3 month and 1/2 reached out by NY , then as coach Lee said I was polite in my response, she just told me she missed me yesterday, and today she asked to have dinner this week. I’m taking it slow though. 🙏🏻
Keep up posted
His videos are more addicting than Breaking Bad episodes
Haha true!
Coach Lee, you're blessed with wisdom and understanding. May the Almighty God continue to bless, protect and multiply your abundance in wisdom prosperity, success, wealth, grace and mercy.
Oh my God it really work.. My ex is fully back with much love you should try writing to this for any help on whatsapp❤️❤️
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So I did all the begging , crying . Pretty much all coach lee said we shouldn’t do but I realized every single thing coach said was true , in fact it feels like coach was in my relationship. My ex told me she felt pressured and suffocated with all the text I keep texting her . Our break up wasn’t that bad . But I will keep to nc now . And hopefully things become positive because I really love her .
How did that go ?
@@Muttey2024 I moved on , she has a bf now
I've been watching your videos for a month coach Lee! Your intro music gives me hope and makes me feel good!! Just today my ex broke no contact by approaching me in a friendly way and we had a conversation about our relationship and it went perfect!! During that entire time I was thinking about your videos and your advice that I collected from several of your videos. We reconciled and I do want her back. She said she hadn't been seeing anyone she broke up with me 3 months ago and said she missed me. Guess I still have work to do! It's not a race is a marathon. I did some begging and pleading on the first day she broke up with me and was pursuing her for a few weeks then I went into no contact! Guess it kind of paid off. I will continue to watch your videos until the work is done and even after I get to what I'm trying to achieve!! Appreciate you so much coach Lee!!!!!
Day 17 and she reached out. She asked “can you just be honest. Why did you take my necklace back?” And I absolutely didn’t take her necklace. She must have misplaced it.
I’m here to tell everyone he reached out asking me “So how is it going so far” I’m shaking right now I never thought he would text me because he was so mad at me
Coach! You’re videos have helped me through 3 different breakups over the past 5 years.. these videos help tremendously. Thank you
I think I bailed him out for like 3 years, cuz pretty much no one discusses this. Thank you for posting this! It so needed its own video!
My ex hated me when she broke up with me 2/3 months ago, I begged, pleaded and whined to take me back and made her more mad and she blocked me on everything. I then used the no contact strateg for 2months, & couple nights ago I was getting worried that it wasn’t working, then I watched the video where he explained as we start to get over it, she will get out of that relief stage and then start missing you and feeling how we did at the i goal break up & also watched this video the same night And literally last night my ex called me flirting and asking to come back etc. & I was able to utilize these strategies! Staying reserve and Saying I’m open to her questions. This dude is on point🙌
Hey dude! How's it going now?
@@terael5637 she contacted me one more time since then but has been completely cold since. she still keeps me blocked on social media but unblocked my number so i tried breaking the ice the other day but with success, dont know if that was the right move. but im guessing she either got confused, is hesitant because of all the shit talking she did on social media about me after we broke up is in a relationship, or was just trying to get a sense of where I was "am I dating anyone, am I done being a asshole, did I learn anything, etc" which Is why im glad I was reserved. if she reached out once, shell most likely reach out again. so im just going back into no contact that seems to be most effective
with *NO success
You can never go back once they ghost you. No contact is for you, NOT THEM!
I was watching this 4 weeks ago right after we broke up and she just added me today
Very odd, I'm kinda speechless and this video came just before my ex reached out to me
She reached out to me after almost two months of no contact. She apologized and she said that she rushed into ending the relationship. She also mentioned that she rushed into a new relationship and she acknowledged it was a mistake. She wants to be friends, and is open to us getting back slowly.
AWESOME
Don't, srry dude, but she's settling with you. She though she could do better, and now she realized grass is not greener, she is coming to the safe bet... you deserve better... also, maybe she broke with you because she wanted to try another dude, he didn't want her for a serious thing and she came back... just consider all into the picture dude. Good luck
@@Orochi550 maybe, but maybe it was someone trying to figure out what they want and we don't know the whole story.
The important part is that she came back with a different mindset. Whether or not that lines up with this fella's interests are his business.
She finally text back after 25 days of no contact but I haven’t text her back for the past 8 hours now and don’t know what to do
Move on,don't get back with that bitch!!Just for your own self respect bruh🤙
Realize there are A LOT of crazies out there and others who are completely emotionally immature. Back and forth they go, often times taking the blame but continuing to do the same thing over. When you fall in love with someone fall in love with who they are and not their potential. Fall in love with them, not the idea of them. Words are cheap. Trust their actions. Value yourself.
All his videos are legit it's been 4 days of me no contacting her and she just said how are you
Coach Lee is handsome, has a very nice hairstyle , beautiful eyes and give a best advice ever
Yes, I agree. He’s Beautiful and Brilliant ….!
After a Year of break up, he contacted me with full on apology. He mustered all his strength to send a text message that he couldnt do every day because he was terrified of my reaction and not forgiving him for what he have done. Yesterday was the day that it happened. I want him to earn me back little by little. I want to take things slow because I have personal goals and things I want to do.
There’s risk in responding to a flimsy reach out like “Hey” “How are you” “What’s up” just like there’s risk in not responding. Risk either way, but the risk in responding is not mentioned in this video.
After 8 months he came back with bad reasons and make me confused more. I couldn’t understand what he wants exactly .. I really don’t want to repeat every thing again! I think he just need to refill his fuel
I can't believe how good you are! Wish I had come here first. My ex reached out during no contact (4 days ago), 3 weeks into the NC period, very casually and I ignored it. I know he's dating someone else and didn't trust myself to respond, afraid of what I might say. After watching several of your videos, I feel much more calm and centered. Getting him back may or may not happen, but I'm starting to feel peace knowing that whatever is meant to be is what will happen if I just allow it to. Who knows...maybe I'll be the one to change my mind. Thank you 🙏 .
Update?
Howd u know he was with someone else?
Thx Coach Lee...my ex broke up with me 3 weeks ago..I did NO Contact & now she's on the chase !!!I trusted my value & it worked like magic
No contact works but, it's complicated when she reaches out,
I'm dating a new one when she reached out and i think i don't feel the same way for her so i choose the new one co'z she is more sensitive, sweet, clingy and she value more and respect me rather than my ex so that's why...
Oh my God it really work.. My ex is fully back with much love you should try writing to this for any help on whatsapp❤️❤️
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This is what all men do Ani..She should not have bothered reaching out.
And then, when they "earned" us back again, consequently no scarcity anymore, then pattern repeating all over again?
Oh my God it really work.. My ex is fully back with much love you should try writing to this for any help on whatsapp❤️❤️.
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It's only been 2 weeks since the breakup and 1 week of no contact. She tried to call me twice while I was asleep and texting me she was sorry for calling and that she was feeling down. Gave her a simple answer with no emotions. Let's see what she does next when she wakes up and if she isn't ready to see me or talk, we back to no contact. Simple as that. Thanks Coach Lee. (Will try to update)
She told me that she had a hard time distracting her mind, was thinking about me and was sad. I told her "Thank you for trying to be vulnerable with me, if you need to call or see me, let me know. Have a nice day" which in my opinion was a great balance between being nonchalant, rewarding her messaging me, opening the door by inserting security in discussing and closing the convo. She just responded "have a nice day" but I'll just stick to nc until she reach out again. It'll show her that I'm trying to change (I'm an anxious attachment) and that I respect her space.
@@p4nd4arkupdate?
@@p4nd4arkterrible response
@@p4nd4ark Update?
My ex reached out yesterday and wish me Merry Christmas I wish him back and leave the conversation right there. I felt good though to know that I am in his thoughts
She reached out after 2 weeks - DONT FOLD!!
And when I tell you she was feeling everything Coach talks about.