Why They Don't Come Back If You're Waiting For Them
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 4 ต.ค. 2024
- Why Exes Don't Come Back If You're Waiting For Them. There is an energy that is felt between people. Often times when someone knows that you are sitting around waiting and hoping that you will return, they won't. They can feel that presence that you are going to try and manipulate them or lock them down to a relationship.
It's very important that you keep your feelings close to yourself and especially not let friends and family that knows your ex that you are still wanting them back.
You want that person to feel as if you are no longer sitting around and start to wonder what you are doing or if you even care anymore.
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Yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees!!!
Great video. Thank you both of you
Yes!!
Binge watching
No contact isn’t for every one my advise would be to contact you for professional advice sometimes there’s no need to do it even if they only contact you once to get on the right path people think il do no contact they will be back it doesn’t always work like that contact the guy in the video people so you understand what your doing
Yes your the only one that makes sense but people need to contact you at least once to stand any chance of getting
There ex’s back
Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose - Yoda
Margaret taught Yoda that over 800 years ago!
@@CoachCraigKenneth the fact you know roughly how old yoda is/was solidifies your nerdom and puts a big smile on my face, coach.
starkiller😈
Well, Yoda does tell Luke his age in Return Of The Jedi as he was dying; he’s over 900 years old.
Still can't believe Margret is gone.. I literally teared up when she said "goodbye to you over the airwaves" at the end of the video... she was such a beautiful soul and an amazing aura ❤️
Did she pass away? 😢
@Cocobettyy did u find out if she passed
@@antonchirgurh3996yes she did.
Noooooooooo. I love them together. ❤
In short: we are all surrounded by this magical "force" (or universal energy), and by some mystical mechanism, by getting obssessed and thinking constantly about a certain person, we are "feeding" them our energy without realising it, and that very person can feel that energy from us too. And as long as they are aware (unconsciously) that we are still thinking and crying about them, they will never think about getting back with us.
So by moving on and forgetting about them, we stop feeding them this energy, and this sudden cease of "food' supply will (in most cases) urge them to miss us and finally crawl back to us, but the irony is that's also when we have finally got over them.
So, either way, just move on, folks. Your ex's might or might not come back, it doesn't matter, what matters is you have finally improved yourself learning from the breakup to become a better person, not for them, but for yourselves.
CoolClipsable - I wish I could not just like but ‘love’ your comment here a million times over !! Metaphysics or whatever it is called (mystical mechanism) but you hit the nail on the head ten fold ! Sound advice here thank you so much I needed to see this today🙏🏽
Sounds like something straight out of Star Wars.
Great post.... My reasoning is that I had a life before them . A good life too.
@@issimma Very well put.
@@NomadUrpagi than move on. Simple. Stop watching these videos.
There’s no incentive for them to come back when you wait. People want what they can’t have. It’s like what’s easy to have is not valuable in their eyes.
Pink Cashmere scarcity creates value
Lol, that's why I'm difficult, and overcomplicate things
CONTACT! I got contact from my ex at 2 am Saturday morning. She said that she is thinking of me and hopes I’m doing well.
When she broke up with me, I literally wished her the best, told her I loved her and didn’t want this and to call me if she changed her mind. I have not contacted her once since.
It has been 16 weeks of no contact. She reached out on day 114 and to tell the truth, I had stopped counting and I had basically given up on her. She may be just curious what I’m doing, but it is a great sign.
No contact is brutal. I’ve doubted it so many times. Coach Craig and Margeret know what they are talking about. Trust them. NC has made me such a strong person and I know it has made me stronger in her eyes. It benefited me so much.
If you’re in NC, stick to it. I almost broke down a couple of weeks ago, and I’m so glad I didn’t. I just pulled up a coach Craig video to get me through the really tough moments. Thank you so much you two.
This is literally what i did to my ex but im not hoping at all that she will talk to me one day.
@@lianbergancia same total no contact we wished each other all the best,i dumped him but he made me do this
...so no one reaches..2 months passed, no one deleted the other from WhatsApp ..lost hope i will not contact
@@sofiandi6117 yes... Live it that way. Our feelings actually subsided as the time goes by. And eventually you will think one' day, oh he/she is not important at all.. I believe time heals all the broken heart.❣️ Kisses and hugs
@@lianbergancia kisses 😘
Update? :)
God has the last word.. Trust and believe 🙏🌹 Focus on yourself
Amen! Indeed! Nothing happens without his approval.
Amen 🙏
Amen!
Kirie eleison! 🙏😢
The way Miss Margaret pops in is so effortless. Like it could be a TV script. She's so calm and classy
Your videos are the only thing that’s getting me through. I wish I could afford a session.
Same here
Same
I agree with this, when you expect something the least, things happen.
I Think when u let go God steps in. He's either going to fix it or bring u someone better. U have to take your eyes off them and put your faith in God .
This is so true I remember after breaking up with my ex and she seemed completely un phased and ready to leave and then a couple days later I was 100% fully focused in the gym just working out and forgot about her for the first time and just as I was ready to get in the car she send me paragraphs talking about how she felt I was leaving her and she wanted me back the universe really knows
RIP Margaret, what a wonderful lady.
Worse is when an ex is just indifferent...that's when u know its over...
I always believe that the opposite of 'love' is not 'hate', it's 'indifference'. It hurts more because then you know they don't have any emotion left for you, not even hate.
Thats right
My ex that I work with seems indifferent to me so I guess that means he's not coming back 😞
@@peachblossom.phlox3403 ..believe me, you wouldn't want him, her back...I promise you!...been there a few times now
Not always. I act indifferent when I really want them back. Self preservation.
I have made the decision to put my anxiety on the back burner and trust that you guys know what you’re talking about and that I am NOT the only one going through this experience
its not just letting them go, its the life you built and home and the kids you have to let go of too.
Invest in yourself to the point someone else wants to invest in you and then keep going. A broken heart is one of the most painful experiences someone can go through. You can and you will get through it.
it's something that can truly change your life you can let it break you or You and you only can choose to turn your pain into strength improve your life for yourself. We don't need another person to make us happy or feel whole you have the power to get up from the dirt brush yourself off and find happiness within yourself. Be a better you for you!
Powerful love it n thanks for those words.
BREW thank you for this ❤️
Bullcrap
You should be a motivator ..here is where the coach is trying to justify so that we are aware and not have the same pattern again but to go beyond it ..but what you said is easy only to say but I bet if you were in the same situation , u would not apply what you just said ..understanding the layers will make us conscious so we don’t have to keep having the same pattern ..thanks coach for your videos ..I have had relationship of the same pattern and wondering how to catch myself in my unconscious pattern and here I am after 35 years of having failed relationship , I finally understood myself consciously and why I have been done the same thing over and over again ..
my ex just moved into a house with a new woman 9months after our break up. i'm glad it does not hurt anymore. i'm stronger now and i'm glad he is gone.
Similar thing happened to me so your not the only one. My ex moved in with someone new 4 months after our breakup. We were together 11 years. And like you as time has gone by, I'm a lot stronger and happier than I have been in years.
@@lucittashillingford1627 i'm glad you feel happier. the first months for me were really tough, i thought i will not make it and then comes like a 'turning-point' where you feel a little better and so on. I still wonder how they can move on so quickly and start a complete new life with someone else. i worked on myself in that time, but i'm not sure about him since he got a new one so quickly :)
@@catastrophenoise same here. It happened around valentines day and my birthday so those days hit me like a ton of bricks and then yeah woke up on day and it's like it never happened. Strange how our minds work. I thought the same too. How could he move on so fast after all the years spent together? Usually the quicker they get into something new, the quicker it ends as they haven't dealt with the past.
I had my ex girlfriend of 3.5 years leave me in October for my best friend they live together down the road from my house we’re she lived with me a month ago. I have to deal with seeing them every day on my way to town. It absolutely kills me I cry every time. The crazy part is she built up to this she planned it before so she can avoid the grieving process.i ate dinner with her and her family one afternoon everything was great then she said were done and took her clothes that night. I wish i can get her back I miss her so much she meant the world to me. I noticed a pattern in October of every year Wich is the month her father past away. She absolutely turns into another person she has turned cold and it’s like I don’t even know her.
My ex husband is remarried and had a baby. My 10year old likes for her dad to bring the baby so I can see her sister. I've held the baby, she's adorable. I have no emotion for my ex, I'm glad I'm not with him, it was a toxic relationship for me. I was not growing as a person. I wish him well. And I'm working on my work, my schooling, myself to be be ready for that great relationship coming. It feels great to be over him, when in the past I thought I'd die if he dated someone else. Nope still alive! ❤❤❤ my daughter has a sister, I get to to sleep at night! 🤣😊😊☺
One year anniversary 💔
One year ago I got the dreaded “Can you talk?” text. He had sent texts like this before bc I have kids and he was considerate of my time but this time I felt it was different. He waited until 3:00 to reach out with no “Good Morning” text. He had been pulling away for a few weeks and my anxiety was sky high. He stopped hand holding and saying “I love you” first, being generally dismissive and unhappy to see me- at this point I was walking on eggshells and hoping for the best, terrified of losing him.
When I called he asked “How do you think things are going between us?” And I honestly responded that I felt his pulling away and I knew we weren’t getting along the way we used to...he said he didn’t feel the same way anymore and he didn’t know if it was me, him or us. He said I don’t want to go on date nights with you anymore, or go away with you, or spend the day in bed with you. He said I only feel connected during sex and I don’t want us to become that. He said he really wanted things to work out between us and as much as the thought of me being with other guys killed him, he knew it was unfair to ask me to wait for him. He said it was me or no one and he was just going to be alone.
I was devastated and depressed beyond anything I have ever experienced...and I’ve suffered miscarriage and a divorce. This pain was longer lasting and felt like loss of something I never had and wanted my entire life. We briefly spoke at his home that day when I showed up- a couple days later we spent the whole weekend together. He was coming back around and said I had been amazing through all this....then I blew up his cell after he said he was spending Thanksgiving with his parents and not with me. This time he called and said he couldn’t do it anymore. I know it was my drama- he said it started to feel like work. He said our relationship had run its course...and he didn’t respond to me for the next 6 weeks except a few avoidant words.
This break has stuck. I felt dead inside. I went into therapy and listened to Coach Craig 8 hours a day. I researched and studied attachment like it was my job - I had to make sense of how two people who professed to love each other so much can end like this. I gave him some space.
One year later, he’s still shut down, full dismissive avoidant mode, and will see me casually a few times a month. He responds when I reach out, but he’s guarded. He can’t trust me and my emotional stability. I feel it’s important to show up stable and supportive to foster trust. My heart is still tender toward him, but only in rare moments does he reveal his former warmth and affection.
I’ve grown a lot. This break challenged and inspired me to change like no other experience in my life. I lost a guy I felt both tender love and passion due to my anxious attachment- yes, anxious/avoidant is a two person dance but I did nothing to deactivate it. I wasn’t aware and didn’t have the skills. So now, I try to be patient and understanding of his avoidant trust issues as I heal my past attachment trauma and work to be a better person and partner. I take things one day at a time. I have no idea where my future is going at this point but I do believe becoming secure without validation from any man was something I had to do to move to secure. Also, and this was important- I’ve forgiven myself for my anxious mistakes and shortcomings that pushed him away. The last thing I wanted to do was lose him and it’s what my fear of abandonment caused. I forgive myself, I’ve never had anger against him and I discovered that loving myself fully and unconditionally is the key to healing my attachment trauma.
Best wishes to everyone on their journey ❤️
I have to say, that's the most honest beautiful thing I've seen written here in a long time... Part of my latest issues with my ex are written in an above comment, it's been 6 months last Sunday since my breakup . I too am trying to let go and grow. Thanks for sharing your recovery story.
ClassyAndy19 Thank you sincerely for your kind words and for calling it “recovery.” Sometimes this process seems so long and winding I forget to celebrate any success. I’ll read your story ❤️
This... this made me cry a lot. Thanks for sharing.
Alex Ruiz Thanks 💗
Startwithi Thank you ❤️ Wishing you the best as well. Go on with your head up. Hope. There’s always hope. I’m a big believer in you never know what’s around the corner.
This TH-cam channel community is absolutely amazing and literally lives saving. I believe again in Us - People. Isn't it wonderful to get such a tremendous support from a complete strangers. Thank you my temporary TH-cam family, Thank you Coach Craig and Coach Margaret. Love you All
Liudmila Nogovitsyna Yes, it is wonderful!! 🌺🌸❤️🌺🌸
Love this community! So supportive! It has been invaluable to me! It has encouraged me to step up my game!
I totally agree with this. Sometimes I can feel what my ex is going through, it’s hard to explain but I feel him at times, 🙂🤗
@@lesliejohns987 how long were you guys broken up?
U dumped him?
I’ve always felt this and believed in this energy but I’ve never heard someone confirm it out loud till now and it’s so validating!! I want to know more!
it feels strange to have setbacks even after more than a year of not seeing her, but I'm so glad for the changes I'm going through! I'm thankful beyond words for your help😍
We love Margater!she lives in our heart always!we love Craig and Victoria!thank you all so much!
My Ex ghosted me, i started to practice Stoicism to help me with this. just started got a long way to go. Aside from watching these vids, reading about Stoicism helps a lot too. Helps to deal with the no contact rule as well.
I am from India... going through a break up... searching for mental peace... and come to your channel.... u r so incredible coaches... thanks
I do believe we feel each other’s energy if we’ve been together for years on end. There are times when I would start to cry suddenly, but that only happens at night and when I’m in a deep thought.
Working on myself and been in no contact since the breakup a month ago. I loved everything about this video!
I often think how lucky your family members are to have you two around them!
You guys are incredible! I'm currently going through NC. I pulled the trigger and broke up with my bf of 3 yrs. He's a dismissive avoidant and I'm an anxious attached. I've been studying alot about these 2 types of attachment. What I've learned is that all the times he pushed me away, stone walled me, gave me silent treatments, blew me off, had little to no sympathy when I was going thru something and also never once told me where he lived and let me meet his kids, ect. I learned that was all coming from an unhealed trama in his life. He was SCARED. And the kicker of all this was I KNEW he was scared. I'm also an empath. And this whole time I never even knew attachment styles were ever a thing! My soul kept picking up on things and my intuition kept telling me this man is scared of getting closer to me. Even tho I tried countless times to talk to him and I would calmly tell him I have no interest in taking away your freedom and that. He was still his own person. BUT.... when you are in a committed relationship and you love each other, which we did, TREMENDOUSLY.... You have to talk to each other. I have to know what is going on and how your feeling. I was kept in the dark with alot of things. He'd be so vague sometimes. And he knew everything about me. I was exhausted probably 75% of the time from this relationship. My bones felt like they had weights dragging them down. My spirit was beaten down relentlessly by his emotional coldness. It eventually got to the point my soul broke down, enough was enough, I put a stop to it. I broke if off, blocked him on everything and changed my number. I'm 5 days in, doing NC as well like I mentioned above. I found your videos a day after I ended it with him. I truly believe this is God's way of speaking to me. Because, not only am I an empath, which I've already stated, I have a close relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ. And I KNOW.... He's going to come back. I feel it in my being. I do believe he is my twin flame as well. We are on the same wave length spiritually, mentally and while he is open emotionally, emotionally as well. We think the same way, talk the same way, like the same foods and drinks. We both are Republicans, both believe in God/the Bible, we both have strong family values. Our sex was out of this world, best sex of my life. We are insanely attracted to each other. We look completely different tho from the outside, he is everything I've ever wanted. But sadly, out of respect for myself and my emotional and mental health, I had to walk away. It still hasn't hit me fully, I know it's coming. Right now I feel relief. It was like a big heavy weight was lifted off of my holders when I finally made the decision. I want you both to know, you are saving me. And you both are saving others. You guys are worth your weight in diamonds. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you do. I KNOW you are saving people from committing suicide, I feel it in my bones. Mental health is so critically important. Idc how physically healthy you are, socially healthy you are, how rich you are, or your circumstances. If a person is not healthy in the mind, everything else will crumble. We all have to put our emotional/spiritual and mental health above EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE ELSE!!! Everything we do and say comes from the spirit and the mind. I urge everyone to dig into their soul and really think and exam your heart.... And then your mind. HEAL from within. If you are currently going thru a breakup, don't think about the other person, think about yourself. What you guys are saying is so true. Once we heal our minds and traumas, then and only then will we attract the good people into our lives. Each one of us deserves to be happy. So once again, Craig and Marquette, from the bottom of my heart, THANK YOU! Keep doing what your doing, so many people need you guys right now. I wish you both nothing but wonderful things in your lives. God bless you both💖💖💖
this is beautiful. thank you for sharing:) any updates? did he ever come back? would love to hear what happened
Hello, I'd appreciate too if you could share with us updates
@@miehinaharutomi9165 we're still together, will be 6 years next month...I'm miserable, it's like loving a rock, I have zero emotional attachment to him, his idea of "emotional bonding" is him telling me about work (which I give zero shits about) he had an on and off affair the first 3 years of our relationship, he has a 4 year old daughter with her. He still owes me money, that I'll never see. He lives with me and doesn't give me a dime for bills or rent. He cooks only for himself and destroys my kitchen about 3 times a week. I pick up after him on a daily basis, he's ruined all my cookware, several towels, he passed out one night and fell into the bathroom wall and put a huge hole in it. He still doesn't care about my emotional well being. He's still on dating sites, I've seen his phone a few times and he has several dating apps. I don't care anymore..I know love is something I'll never have. I have turned into a cold heartless bitch. I used to be so full of life and love, now I hate everything and every one. I've kicked him out a few times but he won't leave me alone. He is such a snake, he knows precisely what to say. I hate him. I wish I would have never met him. I'm a woman btw, don't let my little picture there confuse ya lol. So yea, idk what else to say. I told him right to his face I will never marry him. He can't even help me lift heavy things, heavy laundry baskets, widow a/c, things of that nature. I tell him often how much I hate him and how out of all the men I've been with he is #1 for treating me the worst. He treats strangers off the street better than me. He is so incredibly dismissive in every way shape and form it still makes my head spin. In 6 years he has taken me on zero dates and I STILL have never met any of his kids. I know I'm a placeholder, I've told him that countless times as well. I honestly don't care tho. This is it for me. I'm done with men. I have lost all desire to be in a relationship/marriage. I'm 44 and I know as a woman all my best years are behind me. I'm just gonna keep riding this out until I have a full nervous breakdown and then I will permanently give him the boot. The idea of being all alone speaks to my soul now. Coming home and nothing is a complete mess, oh God, what peace that will give me. What is really sad tho is that I lost myself years ago, he stomped on my light so many times that My spark has completely gone out. I know there is nothing to save with him, we never had much to begin with. You cannot get close to these people! They are so emotionaly closed off it's impossible to be close and have a healthy relationship. His sister who he is close to came to our state all the way from Boston Massachusetts, which is halfway across America and he went to her and they hung out for 2 days and never once asked me if I wanted to meet her or anything. Anyways, i don't want to talk about him anymore, all it does is add more fuel to my hatred towards him. Have a great night!
I love you Craig and Margaret! You guys are right on about relationships. I don't want my ex back anymore. Because of the things I've learned from your workbooks, I am now dating a woman I could only dream of previously. Thank you so much Margaret and Craig. You guys rock! I am forever in your debt
The universe delivers-I reached out to someone and let it go-3 weeks after-after not talking for 12 yrs-they emailed me-now that's serendipity! let things go-things happen-with everything in life-focus on YOU-cast your cares and be in the moment for yourself-and it all falls into place
Been on no contact for three weeks and she called after I did some overtime, a little after midnight. Did not pick up :)
Let ring and continued watching your video hahaha
Craig and Margaret are awe-inspiring.
I greatly appreciate your content.
Thats awesome great work! Let her chase YOU!
Good for you, I wish my ex would call.
Any update?
Those two literally saved me. I was lost when I found those videos. And it’s helping me tremendously. Thank you very much to both of y’all ❤️🙌🏻. What a beautiful job!!!
I love Margaret. She seems so genuine.
This video is so good. It has reassured me that no contact not only with my ex, but also with people he is connected is the right thing to do.
Thank you Craig and Margaret.
My disturbance in the ether is stumbling across this video! Amazing info.
Let us all raise our vibrations and work on ourselves☝️✌️❤️
I love the caterpillar/butterfly analogy. But I decided to shoot for an eagle! Fierce and beautiful!
❤ Margaret, Craig, you are so kind, intelligent and thoughful. Your videos have been so helpful and informative without losing sight of feelings. I am so grateful to you both.
Continued. I Realize now certain Ex's can come back atleast as " Friend's" even Decades later. And an Ex that Dumped Us we can Still sometimes have feelings for. Or they can get Feelings back for Us to a certain degree.
i message my ex that i still wait for him.
but i message him again after watching this.
i told him that, I am not going to wait for him, I will live my life to the fullest. And wish him that he also.
You guys are great! Im being reminded of all ive learned some time ago. We could easily let anxiety get the best of us and make a mistake. We have to be strong and dont forget to strive and work hard to become the better option everyday for whatever reasons you may have but the most important one of them should be to do it for our own sake and happiness. No one else is responsible of it but ourselves. Thank you Craig and Margaret!
This channel is awsome. I'm going through a separation after 27 years married. Great support from you guys. Thanks.
Coach Craig, i know the majority of your videos was meant to help people with their break up and have their ex back, because its your expertise, i just want you to know the information you gave was so helpful to me in all areas of human relationship. To think I came here because a lousy 3 months relationship, i found out so much about myself i even forgot the main purpose i came her and im not really interested on the break up topic anymore. I would appreciate if more videos of relationships, how to get into healthy relationships and not too many focused on getting the ex back. I believe many people have the pin of the loss for a couple of months and then after no contact and they work on themselves and feel better the majority just want to show them what they are missing and reject them back and its not really healthy. But many of us really struggle on how to get into and maintain a healthy relationships.
Years of experience being shared by Margaret. Thank you mom
I need a little advice too, please: ex-girlfriend broke up after 10 years of INTENSE relationship (lots of people dying around us, we´ve been caring about them, she´s got borderline and "helper syndrome") because I was having my "ass behind the computer" for the last 3 years, trying to improve my company which was not going well anymore. Instead of finally moving to a new flat with her as I had promised several times and finally getting children (we both are 37), I´ve just always said "we will" and never acted. I took her for granted, but always told her how much I love her and we had very very good times too (an extremely deep love I never experienced before, from her side too).
She has been waiting on on me for the last 3 years, hoping I would finally ACT, but I didn´t (or too late by the start of this year when she already said it is too late). She told me she lost the love and respect completely and that it will never come back and met a new guy a few days before moving out that showed her "how normal talking between a man and woman could be", as we had a lot of disputes because of the situation within the last years and both have been very "picky" on each other. Anyhow, she is still dating the guy and told me it´s going well and that there are deeper feelings already by now (3 weeks after she left me, meeting him just a few days before she decided to move out). So she moved out just 3 weeks ago while I was sleeping (said she would not have been able to leave me because I would have been crying again and her "helper syndrome" would have kicked in) and apologized many times in her text message and asked if we could stay friends, as she does not want to lose me after all these extreme rollercoaster ride that we had together. We had just 3 days of no contact after she left, then I stupidly agreed to be friends as I could not take the pressure of losing her completely out of my life.
Since then she is in almost daily contact with me, asking how I am doing and I am always telling her that I am fine, improving and accept her decision (and I actually am, changed a lot of things in my life, finally was able to "fix" my company, moving to a new flat in the next weeks on my own too and understood all the issues we had and worked hard on me psychologically too with my psychologist). We also already had 2x 5 hours phone calls and talked very friendly and even with fun (we always loved to talk to each other for hours in the relationship about just everything, including our problems) about all the issues we had and she was extremely surprised that I understood all of it out of sudden. She always said "wow, is that you??", "your next girl will be happy to have you like this", "if you keep on doing like this, you will even get a girl like me again!". I´ve also met 2 girls in the meantime already and am still dating 1 and going out a lot too, posting nice pictures of me having fun with new friends on my social media (and she always checks those within just minutes!). It´s not really going bad for me to be honest, but I simply still love her and know where my heart really belongs.
Right now (3 weeks after the breakup), she is still reaching out to me almost every day via WhatsApp, asking how I am or what I am doing and sometimes where I am going, as well as for help with some computer issues which I have provided to her - without her thanking me for it, which I didn´t like and told her and then we got into a little discussion that I am on the one who messed up and she has so much "credit" with me for taking all the crap of the last years that I did. She is also always telling me that, "although I don´t like that he is not a big talker and his face is not the sweetest one", it´s going better and better with the new guy (which is completely different than me and likes all the things she does which I never liked) and that they are about to go into a relationship most likely soon. I am not sure how I should act from here on, I have NOT contacted her the last days like I did before (asking how she does), so instead she is contacting me now about every 24 hours with questions she could have answered on her own. I´ve been delaying my answers for hours, telling her I am busy right now, etc., but I really have no plan how to move on from here to get her back. I am already showing confidence and she knows about the girls I am dating, yet always say "I really wish that you will find the right one for you, I am not it.". Please help! :-)
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I already knew that I love Craig, but I thought I only liked Margaret a lot... I was wrong, I love Margaret so much too! so wise and lovely person, love you both ♥
You two are amazing💙 That Applebees girl lost a good one coach 😉
Thanks Daisy! That’s really sweet of u ❤️
@@CoachCraigKenneth ❤
i want to hear the applebees story!! i keep hearing coach talk about it.
@@PaintSociety its a good one. Not sure which video it is.
@@CoachCraigKenneth ..does the apple bee girl ever try n reach out to u again?..just curious...great wrk btw...its helped me alot
WHY WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE WHO DON'T WANT YOU WHEN THEY GOT U!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thats a good question but our hearts and not always as wise as our minds.
That is true , but most times it is also a lesson for us in these times. I know I wasnt the worst person by any means, but i did need to wake up and realize I also wasnt the best person I could be.
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Thats the reason..
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Okay please read this if you’re desperate as i was and crying all the time, thinking and wondering if he will come back and what if he will find someone else better that me and what if i was’t the best girlfriend and the last thing he will do is come back. I know, i was there too. I was so desperate that i stoped eating and i was crying all the time, also i put my school on the side and now i have so much to work to do. I know that you’re hurting but please listen to me. As soon as we came back together with my boyfriend i felt a need to spread this message because when i was where you are now, i was searching for tons of videos on youtube and forums on internet trying to find way to get my ex back. And after i watched every video, i was searching for comments where people wrote their experiences and HOW LONG WILL HE NEED TO COME BACK BECAUSE I CANT LIVE WITHOUT HIM. and all i found was poor souls writing that they never came back and they are still in no contact and it’s already more than 3 months. I was like nooo i can’t wait that long and all of this thing. I want YOU to know that there is enormous possibility that he WILL COME BACK. MY EX CAME BACK AFTER ONE WEEK. AND YES IT’S POSSIBLE AND IM NOT THE ONLY CASE. People who was lucky enough as i was don’t write comments anymore. They are to happy and they leave that behind so that’s why there is 99% of cases that have sad story and their exes haven’t came back. So please stay positive, don’t cry all the time, PLEASE DON’T OVERTHINK. My boyfriend for example did all the thing he knew i didn’t like and that i was scared about just for making me jealous. He didn’t have bad planes, it was just to hurt me and that i will be pissed and start writing him things about that and he already didn’t like that about me(jealousy). Also let me say that he was so sure about break up that i was sure that he meant it. And when he came back he told me that he was angry than and he saw only bad thing about our relationship. THAT IS WHY YOU NEEEEED TO LEAVE HIM ALONE, to find out what is like to not having you and that you don’t react out for him as you did. Leave phone alone, don’t stalk him because you will make scenarios that don’t even exist. You will think for the worst one. PLEASE BE POSITIVE AND HAPPY. If you had healthy relationship he will soon found out what you meant to him and what he had. And do no contact. Its the best you can do because if you don’t let him experience what is like without you he won’t have a need to get you back. Now smile and be the best version about yourself. And work on things that you’re not proud of and are hurting your relationship.❤️❤️❤️
Coach Craig is right. Do not get friends involved.
Hello Craig I am your butterfly!
I was in a long distance with a girl from Spain. I am black British and was flying there every month. The distance got to us and lead to our breakup. Every month I would fly from London to Spain. But she never had a pic of us on social media.
As soon as she broke off from me, she posted a pic of her and her new guy heading to the hotel all whilst still trying to talk to me via WhatsApp.
From that point, I removed her and her friends from my social media and I vowed to explore Spain solo and learn the language.
This time last year was the near of the end of my first solo trip to Spain. A year on, I now live in Spain and have a job that pays more than in London.
I may see her again, I will probably eventually get a message. But honestly, I have come so far that I wouldn't settle for what she wants to likely offer, which is less and me being a second rate man.
I am your butterfly Craig.
I know that we had a powerful connection even in the short time we were with each other. My insecurities, my smothering and my lack of confidence is what killed my relationship with her. I feel so embarrassed. And Ive been working on myself so much that I just wish she would see it. How does she see that im changing if we dont talk?! We work together but we dont speak to one another. And SHE was the one to say “I dont want to make it awkward at work” and I agreed and SHE is the one who keeps making it awkward when all I want to say is hi how are you...this really stinks coach craig. Please help :(
I followed all suggestions in your videos over the last 6 weeks or so. There was a glimmer of hope last week as he wanted to see me and professed he missed me. I acted chill, fun, confident, etc. After that, he ghosted again until last night. He said a few things that broke my heart all over again. Still I remained cool and positive in his presence but was crushed on the inside. How do people change so quickly? I cannot take this level of pain any longer. I need to let go. I feel sick and so very hurt. I truly love him. Please tell me how to let go and move on from this 😢. It sucks because he hugged me twice and told me how amazing I looked and was flirtatious at times. I can’t keep doing this.
Let him be. I have had this same experience. I got angry. I started to look at all the things that I didn't like about him. That's when I was able to be cool and focus on myself. You have to grieve. Like its death. I realized I was feeling the loss more than love. It's the power struggle. You feel like your losing something valuable. But was it really that valuable if they gave up. Show strength and value for yourself. Recreate yourself. You can do it! Good luck!
Cynthia Davison thank you. It does feel like a death. I’m not doing well. I won’t and have never pursued him, so I’m not going to contact him. I just need to figure out how to let go. It’s hard to picture my life without him.
@@Happylilbeaks I got you. I've been there. Try to remember how you were before him. Get back there. It will take time. But be better than your previous self though! Baby steps. Focus and practice discipline on yourself to make yourself better. I know I struggled hard. But I woke up one day and said...this is my life...I am going to be fabulous with or without him or anyone. If he comes back or I find someone else, I still have to be me! Be strong!
Cynthia Davison wise words. Thank you. I want my regular life back but better.
She said I ruined her and us and stop contacting her. I am in the no contact zone. I did not handle the break up well and quite frankly lost myself through out the relationship as I idolized and became a passive puppy dog. I am working on me and rebuilding inner character and healthy habits.
I love her so much but I want the best for her no matter what even if it's with someone else
It's been 5 months since the break up and 4 since our last contact. She uses 0 social media and I don't know where she is or what she's doing. So strange after living together. The only thing I had was her WhatsApp and a picture she kept there that was our mutual joke. A couple of days ago, she changed her number. It hit me hard how a stupid thing like that could re-ignite the pain of day 1 of the break up. Oh well...
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So I kind of broke no contact.. Bad mistake on my part lol. I replied to one of her stories and kind of it hit it off, opened up to me and how she's doing and everything, how I was doing and up to. Felt really nice to go back and forth again. BUT she's with another guy and in"love" in less than a month with him and feel like it's"the real deal" LOL. After seeing this video I'm going back to no contact, just wish her the best and keep doing my thing. I'm not even sad or anything about it, it's just whatever's at this point, kind of just over the whole thing. Thanks coach!
I think the magic key for all successful psychotherapy hinges on two points:
•Dignity, and
•Unconditional love.
If the patient/person is instructed to always strive to do the dignified thing, in their thoughts words & actions, "and" to always strive towards developing a heart of unconditional love, then they will become developed psychologically by dignity and unconditional love, (ie. perfect mind/character and perfect emotions). The more they develop each of these principles psychologically, the more their life will be governed by dignity and unconditional love.
These are based upon Christian principles.
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Watched the whole thing , unfortunately when I met her three months after the breakup I told her much how much I loved her etc... but I did find out that day she was stalking my Facebook so I had a laugh when you mentioned it
.Update?
This is the best break up channel everrrrr
"A watched pot never boils!"
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This is a great video & topic. I'm going through a breakup - he cheated on me & is still seeing her. I found out in March but we were still in contact every day talking about it. On Friday, we spoke and I calmly told him I wouldn't be contacting him again, I was leaving him alone & moving on. He got choked up saying goodbye, I asked why and he said it was because we were ending... I'm heartbroken but I'm working on myself and will be okay. Thanks Craig and Margaret! Your videos have been a lifesaver for me..
Seriously, they are telling the truth. It was a guy that was really interested in me this was 18 years ago. I was not interested in him at all he was a nice friend but the attraction just wasn't quite there. As soon as the guy relocated from Chicago to California I started thinking about him. I started saying man maybe it could have worked out. We want what we can't have. So crazy!!
I initiated the short break with my guy because I couldn’t take the indifferent treatment and low effort from him. I only learned about avoidance attachment style after I called the short break. I love him and never stop thinking of him every day. But my detrimental health has been completely ruined from the relationship. I was at my mental breaking point at that time; it’s painful to me either stay or exit the relationship… not all dumpers are evil and heartless.
This video came at exactly the right time for me! Thank you! I was so tempted to reach out to him today, I’m 5weeks no contact, but this has given me the strength to stay away, regardless of how much I miss him. My situation is a little bit different to most, so I’m not sure how effective the no contact will be, but I’ll carry on anyway. It was an affair between the two of us, we are ex’s from 20yrs ago(see, ex’s do eventually come back!! 😏) both of us unhappily married and strongly connected, but circumstances have caused it to end. So I’m not sure what the future holds for either of us, I’m prepared to leave my situation for him but he has pulled away because he’s scared of the repercussions, which is understandable. But he needs to realise what life without me is like, so that’s why I’ve gone nc. I’m not sure if you’d ever do a video about affairs and no contact but I’d love to see how and if that works in the same way as a normal break up. FYI neither of us wanted to end it, it was forced upon us.
So, if nothing else, the NC is helping me move on and get distance from it all, of it’s not meant to be for us. And your videos are helping immensely. I know the situation is not ideal but the heart wants what the heart wants, we just made wrong choices back in the day and now we are where we are. 😔
S Silini He may be unhappy but heavily invested with his wife. Don’t believe he’ll leave. Move on- work on your marriage or separate. The current situation is unhealthy - you’re doing right by severing ties and no contact. No need to trade one set of problems for another. Stay strong!!
S Silini I can relate to you 3 NC I saw a video that says when you are with a married man it’s a very different situation and that the NC rule doesn’t really work because they have their spouses to fall back on and they really don’t miss you.... it also says that eventually they might come back but only to use you and get whatever they can ! It’s an awful situation
My fiancé left me to be with a married man. He’s her rebound. I’m doing nc. Not sure if it’ll work.
No contact is fine, but if it's been 12 years, he's probaly not coming back
12 Years Lol! Don't tell me you've been waiting all this time
Update? 😂
@@reecewatson2 lol
You two are just the best! Thank you for all your efforts on our behalf. Just love your videos.
That force thing you were talking about.. One day I was in the dumps and ended up finding an old song that reminded me of my childhood and how happy I used to be, it made me so sad that I pretty much yelled and cried myself to sleep that night. I had never had that kind of outbreak before and I thought guys couldn't even get that emotional. Naturally, I suppressed it and told nobody about the experience. Then out of nowhere, like two days after - my ex from 3 years ago calls me and told me she had a bad feeling that something terrible had happened to me. She had been watching videos that document the dangers of smoking which made her think of me, who had been smoking for 10 years at that point.
So we talked about life and reminisced the past and even ended up getting back together. Now 2,5 years later, she broke up with me again and that's pretty much why I'm watching your videos now haha.
Any update ?
We love you so much Coach Margaret ❤
that Friday fire again coaches !! so good, thank you !
I'm moving on! Thank you, you two help me a lots interm of getting stronger and growing myself into such strong mind-set. Please keep the good jobs up, I truly appropriate your advise. From England.
Margaret made me laugh when she said i didn’t mean forever two weeks atleast , you guys are awesome I’m hoping to have a success story for you guys at some point I’ll let you know
Thank you for all the work and love that you both give us this video is right on the mark.
Current situation:
I accepted the break up a month ago and asked my ex for space.
We met at the gym I work at and After a couple of weeks, she changed her schedule and started booking into the classes I coach.
She hasn’t contacted me outside of the gym but it’s almost daily now.
So confused 😕 help! 😂
I believe the energy thing so much. The first night I went out to have fun 7 weeks after the break up, he reached out. Btw, it was the day after his birthday and I held out. I was calm in the response and he went silent for another few days. Then I woke up one morning feeling good and he reached out again to return items. I missed the call and when I returned it he didn’t answer. Silent again for another few days. Then the day I had family over and was having loads of fun 🤩, my phone died and when I turned it on, a missed call again. Needless to say I didn’t return this one because he didn’t leave a message. Vibration, energy, frequency…. It’s real.
I like hearing these types of videos, it gives us, the dumpee some sense of relief. However, we would have to say that mantra about releasing them from our energy many times.
Ive recently just broke up from my girlfriend and im currently trying no contact. Its so hard but with your videos they are getting me through my days and are helping me understand what she must be going through and teaching me the knowledge as to why im feeling this way. Great videos
Whether I wait or not I’m certain he won’t be coming back. I tried too move on. Nothings working.
Could you do a video on emotional dependance on parents? My fiance broke up with me as he was under the influence of his parents and we argued a lot because he never defended me when they attacked me. I had to stand up for myslef. It ended horribly.
He broke up with me saying he cannot do it anymore. We were in no contact for a week and there goes one of my best friend messaging him (despite of me telling her clearly not to do so ) that I can’t live without him and if he can keep me as a friend 🤷🏻♀️ , which he straightaway rejected. I vent out at her to portray myself as a desperate and a needy person in front of him .
Really needed to hear this today , yesterday my ex blocked me on Facebook yesterday because I told her not to contact me anymore , because I wanted romance and not friendship ( I’ve told her this a few times befor ) but she continues to contact me , while she is dating someone else she won’t set dates when I ask her so I back off again
She is such a sweet person 🥺👼🏻
You two are just adorable. I found myself laughing at your interaction. It’s very sweet ether or force you guys are definitely causing a disturbance. Oh keep up the poetry. I like you waxing lyrical.
Coach Craig, this video is soooo good. Hits the nail on the head over and over 💓
OMG!!! I was looking for a video about “can we feel what the ex is feeling”? .. If you are connected wt someone you can feel what they are feeling.. I had a short term relationship wt a guy.. IM ON “NO CONTACT RULE “ for a week.. i think about him all day long .. he is in my mind but I can not feel sadness in my heart..WE DIDNT HAVE A FIGHT WAS JUST A MISUNDERSTANDING BUT WAS ENOUGH FOR ME TO START WT “NO CONTACT RULE”..Im feeling beautiful..confident and keeping doing my things..IM PRETTY SURE HE IS ALREADY THINKING WHY I DIDNT CONTACT HIM.. IF HE WILL CONTACT ME AGAIN I REALLY DONT KNOW BUT IM NOT GOING CRAZY BCZ OF HIM.. OF COURSE I WANT HIM BACK BUT I WILL KEEP DOING “ NO CONTACT RULE” UNTIL THE END..
This is a rollercoaster, been 3 months have good days and all of a sudden like a knife through my heart again. Haven’t heard at all from her and i miss her so much. I just want her back man it shouldn’t have ended like this
Update?
@@johnnycase2905 nope didnt hear back but honestly all i can recommend is let the feelings flow, it’s tough but also try doing new activities, hit the gym, go to meet ups, travel solo! I love being single - got girls chasing me but i just wanna do me for now and loving it!
@@harshjones1688 you still want her back?
@@johnnycase2905 i dno but i’m good with or without tbh
Please do a video on “on again off again” relationships
Its been my experience that when its "off" again,they are seeing somebody new.When it's "on" again its because it didn't work out until the the next one.I would walk away from this person before he/she does more damage to your self esteem.I know its tough but you can do,and deserve,way better than that.
@@hibread1 agreed. You are being used. Plan b.
Hey Coach Graig Kenneth. I am going through the worse pain I have ever experienced my girlfriend of 3.5 years left me a month ago and instantly got into a relationship. The worst part is it was my best friend. I live right up the road from we’re they live together and I get to see them every day together happy. Posting pictures and instantly saying they love each other. I honestly feel like just letting everything go. I’m so freaking devastated. I loved her so much I can’t get over it I have been no contact for about 19 days.every day Is getting worse they are destroying my heart I lost my friends and the love of my life.i don’t think she will ever come back I have been trying to go to the gym and I see counselor 2 times a week but it’s only getting worse with them being so happy.
Thats not a friend.
I agree Robert Scott. I got double whammied. This guy has a history of doing this to people’s relationships it was my mistake to trust him in the first place.i don’t hate either of them but I do hope karma catches up because what they did to me was wrong. I have been friends with this guy and his brother since we were all babies. I felt it coming trust your gut feelings.
Alex Wong M H any luck after all this time ?
Alex Wong M H thanks bro stay strong
She will come back . They are throwing away special people who care and if they don’t come back karma will catch up and we’ll be moved on by then.
Thanks for sharing it does help
I love when you guys go in depth with this stuff!
I really want to Thank You for these strategies that i learned. It really help me. I want to tell people that's going threw this . It really works if you stick to it. You will get a phone call just wait!
I love Margaret she’s such a lovely woman 💙❤️ love you too Craig
Ex texted me today after 5 months of no contact. She just said “you’re hot”. I sent back “ok, are you drunk?” Lol. No reply yet.
Lol. That's funny, probably true too
Your reply was a good one. I would actually have recommended you didn’t respond at all, because after 5 months of NC to send that two word text is flippant and borderline insulting. But you did reply and you did well - you didn’t take it seriously and you didn’t give anything away.
You definitely shouldn’t have replied warmly or asked to meet up.
Tbh they’re your ex for a good reason. Find someone better. Good luck.
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Any updates? What happened after that?
O.m.g I'm watching yere videos Craig and Margaret .Ye are saving me from insanity .I'm loving the identification .❤❤❤
Hi Craig Margaret love this the light bulb moment was ex feeling an absence and wear off! Absolutely got me thank you 🙏
Thanks guys , for this video it’s great! It’s true , when you have moved on it’s and met someone else , men can smell the new man or something . My ex before this one did exactly that , soon as i started to date this last one he was chasing me even to this day .. how funny ! My ex now is suspecting me to still be enjoying life alone and lucky i yet to find someone but let’s see what happens if a new man comes alone and he drives past to see a new car in my driveway ... i bet then he will change his whole persona because I’m no longer waiting on him ...
nicole browne Maybe a friend should park in your driveway occasionally :)
It’s like wireless. We internally wired to feel others we have mutual feelings.
YOU TWO! Are the absolute cutest, the most genuine and intelligent that anyone I have ever listened to! Bless your hearts for saving lives one video at a time! xoxoxoxoxo
Woman have intuitions man do too .everything has energy