Makes me think that op might be the product of an affair of either parent or really the son of a dead sibling of one of the parents and that is why op gets treated like crap.
story 1 OP should have told his dad that video is never coming down and he should consider it a farewell gift since all 3 of them would be cut out of his life.
Chances are Op and wife will have the first grandchild. Sorry you can’t see your grandchild today, they’re crabby, Sorry you can’t see your grandchild today, he cried while watching cartoons
With the second story it is insane that an aunt be asked to be called mommy when the actual mother is still alive, still a legal guardian of the kids, and the aunt isn’t in a step parent situation. She is overstepping boundaries that should be clear. I’d be worried about what other boundaries she’d be ok crossing.
Been through this myself,there was nothing wrong with the dog. They didn’t want to go and that was all they could come up with. Go no contact,it will only get worse.
--- Leave video up, parents and sister got called out and had their rear ends handed back to them. It is now out in the open how messed up your parents and sister are. --- Hannah needs some mental health help and her own apartment. --- Everyone sucks here. --- Stop pushing Lucy, let her enjoy her teen years.
To the guy who’s wife seems super controlling over having your mom over you’re right to take your mother’s side bc your wife is wrong she doesn’t get to make all the rules and o know women will give me heat for this but if a woman can’t act like her man’s equal instead of his superior just bc you can bare children then the man should have all the day bc your wife is horrible I mean she made your mother cry while being her hostess at YOUR house be a damn man put your foot down and tell your wife if she don’t like it kick rocks bc your mother will be there when your wife is long gone
Story 3: OP and his mother are 100% NTA. Imagine inviting someone to come visit you, only to spend no time with them. Not only that, but when they express frustration at the situation and say they won’t visit again (while telling you they’re still open to having you visit them), you somehow turn it around on them and get angry at them. They invited her, of course they should take some time off to spend with her. If the problem was the frequency of visits then just invite mom less, not tell her “we’re going to act like you’re not even here”
I would also add that if mom wants to keep visiting frequently, at least let her know that they won't be able to host her properly all the time because of their schedule. Don't just go and pretend she doesn't exist half the time, if not most.
Everyone is TA. The mom for expecting son & daughter in law to drop everything to host her, the wife for calling the mom in law, and the son for committing to picking a side in public, when he should be less committal because both are important women in his life.
@@andrews960 Nah, I don't think the mom expected them to drop everything, but if you are going to take an 8 hour flight to visit, it'd be kinda nice to at least do something together... I feel bad for the mother, going across the country with the intent to visit her family just to end up sitting alone "forgotten" by said family is just sad imo
The third story is a bit fuzzy as far as AH or not for being bad hosts. They were bad hosts but they were also clearly setting expectations that they would not be a traditional type host. OP’s mother should have found something to do with herself. Visit family/friends in the area, go explore town, take kids out to lunch (this might require some calls to school and strict timing), really there were many things she could have done. The OP should have pointed this out rather than just plainly siding with his mom. It might also be good to at least once in a while take a day off to hang with the mother. I understand PTO should be used wisely but to keep a relationship with the mom it might be wise. Some companies might also allow people to take sick days for going to doctors appointments which would mean he could take a sick day and spend most of it with his mom if he plans well.
My sister often calls my mom by her first name; it ticks me off. My sister doesn't see the big deal, but if my kids called me by my first name, I would be hurt. "Mom" and "Dad" are titles given at a child's birth, and earned by continued diligence in loving parenting. Those titles are important and are to be respected. Something like this is not casual, we use the titles so often we may forget how important they are, but they are the titles given to the most important people in a child's life.
Story 3. I don't usually make comments, but... About the comments saying Mother us entitled. ARE YOU ALL FUCKING INSANE. She lives an 8 hour flight away and you don't bother to take any time off?!?! She doesn't ask them to "drop everything" but taking no time off at all? This is your mother, the grandmother to your kids!!! Yes, PTO is precious and should be used to see family. You know, family, like your Mother. All those saying OP shouldn't have spoken against his wife. Their agreement was they present a united fromt. The wife went against that agreement first by calling the mother. The wife was the one to give the ultimatum while talking to the mother To those saying the Mother can entertain herself. That's not wharf she came there for. She came to see family. Someone in the YT comment sevtion said she was "being extra" for crying. She didn't cry in front of the couple. She didn't even tell them she did that until 3 years later while trying to explain why she didn't want to come visit. I - somewhat - understand not wanting to go see her. It is more cost effective for 1 person to travel than 4, and wrangling kids can be hard. Some of you don't have close family that live far away and it shows. (Note: when I was younger my family moved to the Middle East. My Grandmother was in Finland. My Dad's brother's family in England. My Dad's sister's family in Canada. Every summer we went back to Sweden. My mother wrangled 2 kids through 2 differnt vonnecting flights by herself, every year for 8 years. Starting when i was 3.5 years and my brother 7. It can be done)
The parents and sister should find a cave and hide for a year. Then, divorce all three. 2, Hannah was out of bounds. Cut out contact with the kids. She's going wackadoodles.
Oooops it sucks to be mom , dad and sister. They don’t like that people see their true selves. Leave the video up the truth bout your families behaviour towards you , shows how they mistreated you all your life.
Story about mom/ MIL moving wife is the a hole based on the info it seems like she's being spiteful and punishing her mil for wanting to live elsewhere. And why can't they ever visit her and make a short vacation of it but its off the table because why? She doesn't like or mad at her mil maybe idk the reason but it seems thats whats behind the vail
About the sister and mother feelings and the video ill reply -Yeah, I'll get to it when I get to it, but you are forgetting the real important thing, HOW IS THE DOG DOING?
On story 1: "On the other hand, it had unintentionally caused a lot of pain and drama back home, affecting my sister and my mom deeply" My first reaction was an instant: _Good_ On story 3, tbh, if my mom lived an 8 hour flight away, and came to visit, I'd accommodate her more than what they did _at least,_ 8 hours flight is a long darn time and often really difficult to do all "willy nilly" The fact that the wife basically said "we don't care if you come, we'll ignore you most of the day, and when we do interact, we won't do _anything special_ with you" is kinda sad, I feel bad for the mother tbh. I do also think OP should have done more as well when the mom did come over
Story 4, the comment made by the guy calling OP an ahole for siding with his mother in front of his wife is a jackass. He would have been an ahole in either situation. The wife put him in a lose/lose situation and he was in the right for siding with his mother in that moment for that very reason.
If I was that son I just tell them since you really don’t give a shit about me I’ll just disown you guys as my family and take my wife’s last name since you care more about your daughter than your own son and you don’t wanna hold your actions accountable then you can just forget that I was part of your family
I mean the mother was being extra with the crying for being bored but all she did was decide she would've visit anymore she didn't push anything she didn't complain she didn't demand they accommodate her the wife decided it wasn't ok to have he not come back yes she is the ah
A Real mom & dad don't miss a wedding over a dog. They don't love you.
They live in the Bay Area. Lucy won't be interested in Harvard when she has a superior university, Stanford, right in her back yard.
Makes me think that op might be the product of an affair of either parent or really the son of a dead sibling of one of the parents and that is why op gets treated like crap.
Exactly this, real parents would love their kid more than a dog. The dog will be fine especially when OP said that something like this would happen.
story 1 OP should have told his dad that video is never coming down and he should consider it a farewell gift since all 3 of them would be cut out of his life.
I'd be like I would but I can't because my best friends next door neighbor's former roommate's dog was sick and he was upset.
Why would he talk to a bunch of tombstones
Chances are Op and wife will have the first grandchild. Sorry you can’t see your grandchild today, they’re crabby, Sorry you can’t see your grandchild today, he cried while watching cartoons
THIS THIS THIS
props to the parkour dude for not missing a single block for the whole 25 minutes
With the second story it is insane that an aunt be asked to be called mommy when the actual mother is still alive, still a legal guardian of the kids, and the aunt isn’t in a step parent situation. She is overstepping boundaries that should be clear. I’d be worried about what other boundaries she’d be ok crossing.
Been through this myself,there was nothing wrong with the dog. They didn’t want to go and that was all they could come up with. Go no contact,it will only get worse.
Never let them see the grandkids. Sorry you can't see them because they cried and needed a diaper change.
--- Leave video up, parents and sister got called out and had their rear ends handed back to them. It is now out in the open how messed up your parents and sister are.
--- Hannah needs some mental health help and her own apartment.
--- Everyone sucks here.
--- Stop pushing Lucy, let her enjoy her teen years.
I have listened to this numerous times but I STILL cackle with absolute glee when the friend 's revenge is revealed! Good onya,boy!
No way would I take that down. If your parents actually cared they would have been there.
"It's more than about the video."
Me: "yes, it's more about the humor"
To the guy who’s wife seems super controlling over having your mom over you’re right to take your mother’s side bc your wife is wrong she doesn’t get to make all the rules and o know women will give me heat for this but if a woman can’t act like her man’s equal instead of his superior just bc you can bare children then the man should have all the day bc your wife is horrible I mean she made your mother cry while being her hostess at YOUR house be a damn man put your foot down and tell your wife if she don’t like it kick rocks bc your mother will be there when your wife is long gone
AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD NEVER LET THEM NEAR YOUR FUTURE KIDS.
Story 3: OP and his mother are 100% NTA. Imagine inviting someone to come visit you, only to spend no time with them. Not only that, but when they express frustration at the situation and say they won’t visit again (while telling you they’re still open to having you visit them), you somehow turn it around on them and get angry at them.
They invited her, of course they should take some time off to spend with her. If the problem was the frequency of visits then just invite mom less, not tell her “we’re going to act like you’re not even here”
I would also add that if mom wants to keep visiting frequently, at least let her know that they won't be able to host her properly all the time because of their schedule. Don't just go and pretend she doesn't exist half the time, if not most.
Everyone is TA. The mom for expecting son & daughter in law to drop everything to host her, the wife for calling the mom in law, and the son for committing to picking a side in public, when he should be less committal because both are important women in his life.
@@andrews960 Nah, I don't think the mom expected them to drop everything, but if you are going to take an 8 hour flight to visit, it'd be kinda nice to at least do something together... I feel bad for the mother, going across the country with the intent to visit her family just to end up sitting alone "forgotten" by said family is just sad imo
Homie really came through. 🤣🤣🤣
The third story is a bit fuzzy as far as AH or not for being bad hosts. They were bad hosts but they were also clearly setting expectations that they would not be a traditional type host. OP’s mother should have found something to do with herself. Visit family/friends in the area, go explore town, take kids out to lunch (this might require some calls to school and strict timing), really there were many things she could have done. The OP should have pointed this out rather than just plainly siding with his mom. It might also be good to at least once in a while take a day off to hang with the mother. I understand PTO should be used wisely but to keep a relationship with the mom it might be wise. Some companies might also allow people to take sick days for going to doctors appointments which would mean he could take a sick day and spend most of it with his mom if he plans well.
Pettiness in wouldn't bother telling them when 1st grandchild is born
I would tell them, they can make it up by going to his graduation... That they also missed for asinine reasons.
My sister often calls my mom by her first name; it ticks me off. My sister doesn't see the big deal, but if my kids called me by my first name, I would be hurt. "Mom" and "Dad" are titles given at a child's birth, and earned by continued diligence in loving parenting. Those titles are important and are to be respected. Something like this is not casual, we use the titles so often we may forget how important they are, but they are the titles given to the most important people in a child's life.
Story 3. I don't usually make comments, but...
About the comments saying Mother us entitled. ARE YOU ALL FUCKING INSANE. She lives an 8 hour flight away and you don't bother to take any time off?!?! She doesn't ask them to "drop everything" but taking no time off at all? This is your mother, the grandmother to your kids!!! Yes, PTO is precious and should be used to see family. You know, family, like your Mother.
All those saying OP shouldn't have spoken against his wife. Their agreement was they present a united fromt. The wife went against that agreement first by calling the mother. The wife was the one to give the ultimatum while talking to the mother
To those saying the Mother can entertain herself. That's not wharf she came there for. She came to see family. Someone in the YT comment sevtion said she was "being extra" for crying. She didn't cry in front of the couple. She didn't even tell them she did that until 3 years later while trying to explain why she didn't want to come visit.
I - somewhat - understand not wanting to go see her. It is more cost effective for 1 person to travel than 4, and wrangling kids can be hard.
Some of you don't have close family that live far away and it shows.
(Note: when I was younger my family moved to the Middle East. My Grandmother was in Finland. My Dad's brother's family in England. My Dad's sister's family in Canada. Every summer we went back to Sweden. My mother wrangled 2 kids through 2 differnt vonnecting flights by herself, every year for 8 years. Starting when i was 3.5 years and my brother 7. It can be done)
To this day, I am still trying to look for that "viral" video.
The parents and sister should find a cave and hide for a year. Then, divorce all three. 2, Hannah was out of bounds. Cut out contact with the kids. She's going wackadoodles.
Story 3 your wife is kind bossy
Bro said tricky from fnf
Oooops it sucks to be mom , dad and sister. They don’t like that people see their true selves. Leave the video up the truth bout your families behaviour towards you , shows how they mistreated you all your life.
This sounds ai generated
story3 a hole
Lier 🤥 last story is terrible 😰 😅 parents
Story about mom/ MIL moving wife is the a hole based on the info it seems like she's being spiteful and punishing her mil for wanting to live elsewhere. And why can't they ever visit her and make a short vacation of it but its off the table because why? She doesn't like or mad at her mil maybe idk the reason but it seems thats whats behind the vail
Hannah is trying to steal her kids. It's weird. She needs counseling. She needs to go. The family needs to back off OP.
*Where's The Video With The Updates!*
About the sister and mother feelings and the video ill reply
-Yeah, I'll get to it when I get to it, but you are forgetting the real important thing, HOW IS THE DOG DOING?
Why can Hannah just be the fun caring aunt?
Do NOT DELETE THAT VIDEO!
On story 1: "On the other hand, it had unintentionally caused a lot of pain and drama back home, affecting my sister and my mom deeply"
My first reaction was an instant: _Good_
On story 3, tbh, if my mom lived an 8 hour flight away, and came to visit, I'd accommodate her more than what they did _at least,_ 8 hours flight is a long darn time and often really difficult to do all "willy nilly"
The fact that the wife basically said "we don't care if you come, we'll ignore you most of the day, and when we do interact, we won't do _anything special_ with you" is kinda sad, I feel bad for the mother tbh. I do also think OP should have done more as well when the mom did come over
Story 4, the comment made by the guy calling OP an ahole for siding with his mother in front of his wife is a jackass. He would have been an ahole in either situation. The wife put him in a lose/lose situation and he was in the right for siding with his mother in that moment for that very reason.
If I was that son I just tell them since you really don’t give a shit about me I’ll just disown you guys as my family and take my wife’s last name since you care more about your daughter than your own son and you don’t wanna hold your actions accountable then you can just forget that I was part of your family
"Family drama" requires a family.
The people calling them your parents dont qualify.
Cut that posin out of your life.
I mean the mother was being extra with the crying for being bored but all she did was decide she would've visit anymore she didn't push anything she didn't complain she didn't demand they accommodate her the wife decided it wasn't ok to have he not come back yes she is the ah
Do u have the TH-cam link for the video
waiting for the " its fake" comments
I'm fake. 😂
@@lillia2479 😂
This tea is hot! 😂😂
Story 2 are you jealous on sister hanna ?
Are blaming hanna.? Closer your children
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