Social Anxiety - 6 Tips from a Navy SEAL
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- 6 Tips to help get over Social Anxiety from a former Navy SEAL and CIA Contractor.
Find ways to boost your confidence and do not put yourself into a situation that you can not get yourself out of. These 2 categories will help you overcome social anxiety.
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Mental health is becoming mainstream and I LOVE it, especially critical for men to talk about this!
Thank you 🙏🏻
Anxiety since 1972.. Just remember there is always an exit sign in your mind , you need not explain ANYTHING to others , Money I have had and not had . It Does not define you , just be you .. people that are more like minded always help whatever hobby you may find . We live in this competitive environment . Shrug it off , no one said you had to be part of the rat race . Drinking is not even good for you .. I am glad you walked from it . You sound like you are a nice person and doing great ! God bless .
We ALL have it to a degree. We are all on “the spectrum”
Yeah, my friend ended up being a statistic. It sucks.
@@ronalexander4955 I came just a day away from it. My brother approached me and opened my eyes to the fact that I had been avoiding it out of fear for many many years and that it was time to accept help. He didn't know it at the time but in that moment he had just saved my life.
The fact that him and his Fiance have a safe word/sentence for his social anxiety in certain settings and events...is fucking awesome. She sounds like a keeper
My husband and I have safe words too, for my PTSD
I’ve never heard of safe words for anxiety & PTSD.. that’s a good idea.
@@MrBigChops the safe words are colors red - I need to leave and stop the current activity now, yellow- this bothers me I need coping mechanisms, blue- I'm going to switch to an alter to handle the situation, green - I'm ok
Jmom Rodgers • Thank you 🙏🏼
Jmom Rodgers • What do you mean by “ switch to an alter” and what are some of the coping methods?
I feel like such a coward because of my anxiety sometimes. You're a living example of why that isn't true. Thanks for the video man.
Brandon Read me too but your not a coward you just have a over stimulated nervous system be easy on yourself it’s okay not to be okay sometimes
First Last this is a great TH-cam comment section. I needed this too 😓
Me too man it made me feel like a weak pussy. On the other side if things when you finally start to understand the beast it does give you confidence knowing you overcame something so challenging. When you think about it we defy the odds just getting out of bed in the morning. That has to make us tough in some aspects. We got this man, Props to you and anybody reading this! I can't imagine the courage it takes to actually speak about this in front of a camera. As soon as I seen this it was like a 1 000 000 pound weight had been lifted. A lot of guys never talk about this shit. Dont ignore it lets just do something about it one day at a time.
@Zac Lodro i completely know the feeling. That was my worst nightmare! But you know what the sad fact about what you just said is? You are actually the only one that thinks that way about yourself. Its pretty sad when we doubt ourselves more than a complete stranger. Even if they did have something to say their opinion of you means absolutely fuck all in the long run. Be confident man you are working on your future in college not theirs. You worked hard to be where you're at and they certainly aren't paying your fucking tuition. Imagine an empty room and sell yourself. You know you have this, its nothing man! You got this brother!
@Zac Lodro hey I mean it buddy. I know the struggle. One day at a time, and stop being so damn hard on yourself!
“Be anxious over nothing, but in everything, through prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God.”
Philippians 4.
Amen ! 🙏✝️
Wow. I stumbled across this video via TH-cam’s algorithm and just want to say - thank you. Thank you for making this. Thank you for helping so many others by sharing your difficult experience. Thank you for being so brave. This is tremendous. It takes tremendous character to be open and vulnerable in order to help other. Thank you.
I hate crowded bars, cinemas and restaurants, I feel identified with you.
Especially in restaurants/bars when people look at you all at the same time, and then don't stop. So you have to then look at them thinking to yourself "what!?" until they stop.
This one time I ordered a pizza in wetherspoons and people around me seemed fascinated.
I'm fine with movie theaters since it's dark
Not for me. Just parties alone I hate. Movies and restaurants are fine for me
lol
I never liked crowded movie theaters, I like when I'm with five people there, haha. And I'm a cinema nut. Restaurants, I prefer less packed and not loud.
Perversely, I love concerts and I don't mind the noise and crowds of a good rock concert or whatever, though I prefer small venues.
I'm just a woman living in the Midwest getting older and feeling lost and I can relate to what you just said. Thanks!
Hey
I'll pray for you, and you're not "just" anything
Checkout Wonderbro on utube
You probably just related that to thousands of sufferers with 100% accuracy 👍👍 respect to you brother.. all the best
I've seen this video a dozen times over the years and it still helps me stay grounded in social settings.
real good down to earth tips there
The best walk I ever take is walking out of a situation where I know I don't need to be in.
Thank you for this Shawn. I’ve dealt with social anxiety for a long time. I used to work in law enforcement, now I’m in the law firm side of the law. My husband was a Marine in the FAST unit. He got hurt and ended up becoming a lawyer (25 years in practice now). Believe me, even the lawyers deal with anxiety, social anxiety and all the pressure, especially those lawyer vets still dealing with PTSD. Your tips are invaluable. Thank you….Thank you for being open and sharing this with us. I feel ya man.
Wow. I relate to this so much. The whole 'What Do You Do' question is daunting and ruins my mood whenever I am in a social setting because of the constant judgement. Social anxiety is fucking tough but it gets better and I'm getting through it.
I suffer really badly from this.. sometimes I stay home all day. Drive thru gives me anxiety. Anything really. Sucks. Thanks for the vid
me too I stay irritated
Check out Wonderbro on utube and stick what he says your life will change it's free. But learn the information then dedicate to. Thank me later....
Don't stay home for too long, it makes it even harder when you finally need to get out. Sometimes I just get out of the house simply to get out. Granted, I live in a pretty secluded place, so your mileage may vary.
Thank y’all for the encouragement. Will check out what you all have recommended.
Does anybody want to talk with me because I'm lonely and trying to get back up. I would really appreciate it.
Love the "code-word", thing!
For any inadequacies you may have felt in the past, what you have going on now is absolutely stellar. Be proud.
The fact it’s my recommendations is crazy ppl with social anxiety know how much it’s sucks
Super important topic.
God only knows all the details for those affected…
Peer groups are vital for adapting.
Shawn and guests are helping countless people; military and otherwise. Hear hear!
Hey man, I got a lot out of this. I'm a former gang member but once I got out and everything I didn't know how to act. My life had all this action and purpose happening before, and then I had nothing going on. And my friends who were always there for me and I'd been thru everything with, were gone. Just hearing that a navy seal had some of the same issues I did, makes me feel better. I didn't know what to talk about, nobody wants to hear about all my fucked up memories. I'm still kinda in this boat, I've made some regular friends, but I also do the same w/my truck and never rely on anyone else.
My situation and past is my fault, and not positive like being a SEAL, so this was cool for me. makes me feel way less insane.
Trav Dawg I’m glad you got s lot out of the video man. Keep pushing forward, it sounds like you’ve made a lot of positive improvement. Cheers
Same here this guy made a lot of sense to this day drinking is my hobby but I'm planning on changing drinking to the gym
do your regular friends know about your past as a gang member? How did they react when they found out?
Be strong and stay out of trouble situations and troubled people. cheers.
@@jose_s_bam7938 not about reactions more of a quiet
@@sadflute8639 breed dogs, cats, birds (canaries, pigeons, whatever you prefer), do scale modeling, workout, go birdwatching, whatever, but don't drink as a hobby. That will fuck you up and worsen your condition.
thank you for your service
Cheers
Vigilance Elite cheers
Out of all your videos this one, in my opinion, is the best.
Day to day struggle thnx Shawn for this video
TRUE ! My pleasure
🇺🇸❤️🤍💙Wow thx Shawn for sharing this. I will send it to my son. He's has Asperger's with high anxiety and depression. He's in his 20's and deals with this on a daily. I just stumbled on your video from a year ago which is awesome 😎 👏🏼 It takes a lot of energy to share and we are very thankful. So many plp are dealing with anxiety and depression and it helps that someone real is talking about it. My son doesn't want to listen to doctors or psychiatrists about it, he can't relate to them at all so thank you for sharing your stories. We REALLY appreciate You. Thank you SO much for your continued Service to our Country and Humanity 🙏🏼❤️🤍💙🇺🇸
Can't wait Shawn! Judging by the comments there's quite a few of us dealing with this....
Phil Morin I definitely appears that way.
Amen!
yep
I'm glad this came up in my recommendations.
You keep it real, and that's dope, keep it up.
Me too
Thank you for this video my wife and I have key words to when we are out and yes the drinking will cause alot of problems Thank you for your service Brother .
Corona has been a great friend to me. No face to face meetings, no conferences and no business trips 😇
Late to the party man. Evolved in lots of combat within the cities in the UK. Private security/guarding etc. Been stabbed, shot, glassed and bottled. Security at clubs of 2,000 capacity. I'm 62 this year. Don't visit bars or go to functions. Restaurant I sit facing the door. Managed to live in a small village which helps. Although in the UK I carry certain things in the car. No taxis. I drive my truck. Never drink whilst outside. I've a place in the canary Islands. Quiet. Like I've left the past behind. Only comfortable there. I've a great woman who understands EVERYTHING. Regarding gotta go. We've a code. When we make eye contact, if needed I look at her and blink alternative eyes fast. Meaning let's chip ASAP. Love my woman so much. Surround yourself with like minded people and don't be frightened to say no and don't worry about what people think.
I laughed most of the way through this. You're such a relatable guy, Shawn. I suffer from it too.
thank you Shawn for your input it really helps great points i feel sometimes people don't understand or don't care when my social anxiety goes from 0-100 . I do a lot of things you talk about. now its harder now that I have Parkinson and brain trauma. I always think about what I need to do before I go out if or when my anxiety amps up . code words or phrases like you just talked about work. I trust one or two people that will take me home no question s asked so shit doesn't go south . I'm truly grateful for what you do and say keep up the great work you're doing. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
Bro..you got me dying with these bloopers at the end..we need more! Lol
i'm back after years to remind myself
Expert advice. Each person is unique and different. The more we can get input and hear others views, the better we can equip ourselves. Overall difficult to do, but much appreciated.
That really hit some bells for me TKS !! You are only as sick from the deep dark secrets you keep .
“I don’t have a clue wtf you’re talking about” 😭😭 I’m taking that lol
Thank you for the video my man, very well spoken, I can relate to a lot of what you have been through, as I have been through much of the same, particularly the drinking part and the bubbly water.
Thanks for your advice and grateful for your service. Glad you are doing better. Best wishes to you and your family. Stay safe and keep on keeping on .
The hardest thing for me is feeling like I'm living in the shadow of better days. Where else could a person become so many things at once, like a vessel firefighter, a landing signalman, a mechanic, a security guard, and all while traveling the world. Cut then to the civilian sector where employers don't follow up with you in spite of them needing new qualified employees, and your stuck in a rut having to take increasingly shittier jobs just to make ends meet, and so on in a world that doesn't have the same backbone that's required of people in the service. You're living on a whole world of different standards and it makes problems.
Thought I had to be a combat vet to relate to some of the things your talking about. Never been in the service, but I feel the same way about shit. Thanks
I just like the sound of the waterstream
We are retiring to lake Cumberland Tennessee can't wate fish all morning eat fish for lunch then fish all afternoon repeat .when I got out I lived in a tent for 8 months till I met a girl she talked me into moving Inside glad she did it was getting cold pretty good now still have to face the door .take care Thank you much for your videos
Wow I remember this video 2 years ago I watched nino interview thought you were familiar big step awesome good luuck
You are our freedom provider. Let those asshole's talk all about themselves. Thank you for everything you have done for us. You are awesome!
Combat vet here thanks for taking the time to make this video. Bro listen your story is mine exactly, you are not alone in going through this. I had to do all the same things with people around me. I had to basically tell them I am crazy and although Im not a bad guy I am just not the same person I once was before the wars. Some get it others will distance themselves out of fear of the unknown and place judgements. Sounds like you have a good woman on your hands as well. I will tell you what my psychiatrist told me about drinking. He said me drinking is like taking jet fuel and pouring it on a raging bon fire. I quit now not easy.
dude honestly as much as I see myself in u... youre honestly so cool and funny I feel you just have to loosen up and you'll be alright
Social anxiety makes dating nearly impossible 🙃
This guy is an international hero to all introverts
Having social anxiety isn’t synonymous with being introverted
@Player Hater I'm Aware of things that were done. I Fully support the actions! You're way off track!
@Player Hater why do you think they've done wrong to Americans? There's nothing to substantiate that.
@Player Hater if that were true nobody would be working for the cia and definitely wouldn't care about non disclosure agreements. at the very top yah maybe there is people that are in the elite who do those things all I know is if I was ever asked to do those things I would refuse and most likely kill them as 99% would too. don't believe in all the qanon stuff its a psy op. if trump was fighting against these people and it was indeed the cia he could disband the cia but he hasn't. why is that?
I'm introverted.
Vid came in clutch
Person: "Hi"
Me: "I don't have a f*cking clue what you are talking about"
hhahahahahahahah
Lmao this is so true from my personal experience because I’m kinda retarded
Person: Hi
Me: what do you want from me?!?
Person: "Hey, want a beer?"
Me: "I don't have a clue what the f*ck you're talking about."
😂😆😂🎖
Your tip on not always having to talk hit me really hard man. Nothing wrong with being silent in a world that doesn't stop talking. Much love.
I work with a lot of people who like to talk ALL the time... does my head in. They think I don’t have anything to say because I don’t feel the need to talk all the time.
I’ve found a lot of people respect you for it.
@Harry Munker it's definitely easier to listen THAN* talk.
Hear much, say little....
Harry Munker learn to spell dumbass, than*. Simple English buddy
A lot of men suffer silently. This video was a big help for me.
So glad you got some help from this!
I've been getting nausea and lots of really strong adrenaline feelings in my stomache. I don't like taking meds but I just took one. I've had before where I would feel anxiety in public for no apparent reason and then something bad would happen like a sixth sense also
I agree. I was never in the military though. I grew up in a rough place. So I'm used to sad mad and crooked people. I try to stay silent until I can't.
@@derekstaroba I know the feeling. It is almost debilitating. The surge of adrenaline in almost any social encounter makes me say the dumbest shit. I then think about what I said for the rest of the day or week. That's what I hate the most about it all.
Can your local doctor help you?
Ive found myself becoming more isolated, not because I’m anti-social. I just want to be left alone because my bullshit meter is getting smaller with age.
I know what you're saying, as I've listened to people like him I have dropped 90% of my 'friends' because of how full of bullshit he helped me realized they are. I'd much rather have 3 friends I can trust, than 100 friends I can't trust.
I’m glad he’s using his platform to do this, though. Y’all stay safe.
@Solid Snake just don’t let it run your life bro. Adjustments. Leverage it and use it to your advantage. I’m perfectly ok not wanting to socialize with most people. Keep your circle small and tight. There’s a reason 4 people make a fire team 😂 My buddy killed himself a few years back. Sad thing is he didn’t reach out to anyone. He was just done, his wife and kids will never be the same. Never quit. Ever.
💯 I’m the same way. Can’t deal with all the bs and listening to all the backstabbing. I just don’t wanna hear it. My circle is small and just keeps getting smaller.
Amen man. Feel exactly the same
Idk man. I think "I'm a Navy SEAL" is enough to win the What Do You Do game
Thats the thing these guys think that people have a million different opinions. You walk into a room and suddenly everyone thinks you are something you might not be. Imagine that at the level of : Ive killed people with my bare hands in situations that are so classified and privileged that only 20 people on the planet knew you were there. This shit cant be oversimplified. I feel for these folks.
@@terrypeterson5707 true
As a doctor a guarantee he would be the most interesting person at any of our 'parties'. I would love to hear an anesthesiologist bitching about getting 5% less from medicare this year, only to have this guy interrupt with an anecdote about his service - a time when he was in acute danger. Now I'm going to fantasize about this scenario for years.
@@Theiliteritesbian I can somewhat relate to that. People complain so much for nothing. But I guess that everyone has their own problems
How
Dude you probably helped thousands of people with this video.
Common Sence he definitely did!
I believe that.
Common Sence / l have too much respect for you to say Dude you helped so many through making this video . I will say thanks for the shout out
Common Sence I love the long neck npc from tucker Carlson lol
I hope you’re right.
I find it kind of fascinating and a little comforting that someone as highly trained and peak human as a navy SEAL goes through a lot of the same things that I go through in social situations. Thank you for sharing this.
It makes it more comfortable for regular people like us that people in higher levels of life suffer similar issues
People forget we are all people. Our careers, futures, past, is just what makes us and sometimes we all forget that. Status is just what society says about us. Our hearts, bodies, brains and souls all work the same regardless if someone has no money or all the fame, we are all the same.
@@jonathancristobal4724 agree we all have same issues how we got there may be different the end is the same ,like the point of not needing to talk ,but listen see what happens ,yes keeping hands busy ,I use to drink really heavy in my early years ,I will have a beer only at special events other then that no booze .
I was thinking the same thing, makes me feel better about myself knowing someone of this caliper feels intimidated by anyone. Thank you for sharing.
That’s just your insecurities. Seals are just people. You too, could be a seal, assuming you don’t have physical problems, if that’s what you wanted to do.
Dead silent at a dinner party:
Me: this is my favorite song.
Nathan Summers I died laughing, I have major social anxiety but this actually made feel a little better. Thank you.
Lol absolutely my friend. Too close to home that i couldn’t help but laugh
IT ME.
😂😂😂
Lol I don’t get it
I never thought I would hear a SEAL say he had social anxiety disorder like I do. It looks like we actually are all in this boat together.
Gary W-l-o-t navy seals are people to
good pun there
You are fucking dumb
AngryBoy ok angry boy
I was, hopefully you can over come it
The water running in the background is so damn relaxing.
echotherapy
I had to piss twice just watching this
The only time I don’t have social anxiety is around the boys. Even around my relatives I have social anxiety
Same, I thought I was just loosing my shit for no reason.
My relatives are expecting me to get a wife and make children. How the fuuck am I suppose to do all that shiit when I can't even speak to people? I'm a disappointment...
I feel you bro
My social anxiety is so fuckin bad that I can barely even speak to friends I’ve known for years the only reason they’re still cool with me is because they are dealing with the same shit
Yo felt this so much same exact situation.
I’d be 100x more impressed if someone told me they were a Navy SEAL rather than a doctor, lawyer or stockbroker
@John P There is plenty of things he can talk about being a Seal. Granted it can't be about specific missions, but there is plenty to talk about.
1000x more*
No doubt
Why u need those other people to work i hate when people constantly talk out if there ass about SEALS yes u need them in parts but there not fucking Martyr’s there just people and becoming a doctor is still impressive just because u fight in wars for your country doesn’t make u any more impressive than other professional people
No shit.
I wanna be friends with this guy, he seems so blatantly honest and genuine. Not to mention the navy seal background which proves he's worthy of respect even if he isn't racking in millions of dollars. Super cool dude
Matt L'Ecuyer Follow him on IG-and grab some VE gummy bears. You won't be sorry-my friends are getting addicted to them.
Isn't it crazy how all we want from our friends/fam/a partner is for them to be honest, genuine, n respect?
Agree. But man, being a millionaire doesn´t mean you are worthy of respect. People tend to look up to millionaires as if they were gods, but no, they are just ordinary people, some are good some are bad.
Yea that's great that I can hear someone else that copes with same shit
“Which is why I bought a place right in the middle of fucking nowhere” -Every Introverts Dream
Yes. I want at least 20 acres of "get off my property"
Lifelong dream of mine to live out in isolated but nice looking areas. Have a bunch of land to ride my dirtbike, go hunting, go for trail runs, etc.
Maybe one day. . .
@@johnsoapmactavish9921 I'm not on a maybe, just working for it
@@johnsoapmactavish9921 one day you will get your dream. I finally got the land/dirt bike thing solved so far. Just need a bitch or nice woman to complete it. Stay strong 💪 I am still too.
I have the land now - for 8yrs & some issues still remain. The way our Brother just opened up his chest cavity is … a hella Lot Better than the “suck it up buttercup” - or “have you gone soft?!”. Just stab me in the jugular if you saying something…. So hardcore cliche’
I got my Dogs. Wish I had a Vern. No decent “therapy” when you’re near off grid.
So I try to turn to God & occasionally…. Alikes online.
Hell yeah I’ve left a cart of groceries behind before. Ok Nuff about me. 🇺🇸
joe rogan needs this man on
This man just made a whole video of not liking social interaction. Joe rogan is like 4 human interactions in one person.
Nah
Not everything in the world needs to be on joe rogan.....
cool Moe did i say that? lmfao
Kino Dizzle yeah he dislikes social gatherings and day to day interactions, but he literally said that doesnt mean he avoids them. and if you are going to make the argument that it would be broadcast to too many people, hes literally POSTING TH-cam VIDEOS
Imagine being a stud SF operator and CIA agent, and being intimidated by Docs and Lawyers. :(
We got you bro. You're a stud in our eyes.
Mike Hale Dude, he spent many years learning a totally different skillset and anytime you are not in your element it is natural to be a bit intimidated. Your assumption that an operator wouldn’t suffer from anxiety is the type of shit that makes people feel embarrassed to talk about it. Because those Boca Raton types are so insecure themselves they spent a lifetime learning to stroke their own ego in social situations and figured out that making other people uncomfortable masks their own anxiety. Imagine how much more intimidated they would be than a SF operator if they saw someone’s head get blown off in a war zone.
@Stephen S. Thank you sir. Inartfuly said on my part, but I meant it with nothing but the utmost respect.
I have zero military background (just a normal shmuck) and this helped me so much. Social anxiety is social anxiety, plain and simple. This dude is legit
Nick I’m glad it helped.
With you Nick. No military experience. Work in EMS. Stumbled on this video by accident and damn. Shawn, Thank you.Respect, Sir....
Military or not we are all Americans and we need to help each other out. No such thing as a normal shmuck. Anxiety is a hard mofo to deal with.
I was about to make the same comment. I’ve had social anxiety all my life and I don’t even think it’s really social anxiety I just hate being around people these days.
I turned 45 this past August; ten years later after being finally diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. My life before that was a losing battle trying to become a normal college graduate and gaining secure employment. My anxiety was not the only problem which had got only worse with shit state of our state job market, the substandard stone aged resources a community college that during the time my attendance was terrible. TERRIBLE.
NOW after learning what monkey was on my back was, things have slowly gotten better. Thank you Shawn for this video! My best to you and your fiance. Be well.
He talks about these “badass” lawyers, doctors, and stock brokers. Dude you were a navy SEAL who worked for the CIA. You are infinitely more badass than them.
It's a different kind of bad ass he's referring to.
Apparently not.
It's because a lot of people don't, A. Respect military anymore. Therefore having zero concept of what he went through and did. B. Only focus on money and civilian accreditation aka colleges to determine openness to establish a relationship on a deeper level. C. Civilians take offense easily, especially successful ones because to become successful for them, they kissed alot of ass. So finding a mutual expression/understanding in conversion is paramount to creating bonds to civilians. This is my opinion and personal experience. And the sad part is, I'm not even a combat veteran. Im a maintenance guy who still sees and deals with the disconnect between civilians and veterans. I have found strength and self confidence in being drawn to combat veterans in a random crowd. I throughly gain happiness and fulfillment uplifting struggling individuals and making them not feel so alone. While also not feeling alone myself. Veterans seeking out veterans in a civilian crowd is the best source of support and healing
@@rayman1230 "Civilians", makes military guys sound like cock suckers who kissed their leaders and higher-ups asses.
@@MoarteaLunii Maybe its because "they" are the ones who kill anything thqat moved, when given orders to do so. Clearly you have no experience.
“You dont always have to talk”
That fits into so many aspects of life, wish more people utilized that kind of thinking.
@islanti and your probably that guy that constantly talks and doesnt know when to shut the fuck up either.
Aaron I can relate to this so much. I learned that people will not always remember your stories but will always remember your personality. How you’re put together and so on. Rather than the words you necessarily say!
@islanti The world's boring and lonely when everyone talks for the sake of talking not when they have something to say.
islanti more boring if everyone was the same....chatty, quiet, etc. I like different and interesting with depth. What I hate most about social functions? Mindless talk, small talk, and boasters.....it’s so shallow it pisses me off. Then again, ignorant comments like yours piss me off even more than that.
I am very social. Two of my children are not, and I can tell they recent it! So, to improve their comfort zone, while their around, I dial it way back! Their favorite saying is, “Mom nobody cares”, lol. I’ve come to realize, they are right! People are so consumed in their own problems and daily life they really don’t have much left over to care about anyone else! So my kids are right! Lesson learned from my children! One of the many!💞
I see a lot of people saying they don't like talking to people, is there anyone else who doesn't even like to be seen?
Sometimes it is nice just to feel invisible.
After my accident that left me paralyzed from the neck down I didn't like be in public. I was never like that before my accident
I'm sure a lot of people don't but never think of it that way. Being in view of others starts your brain up, because you know they may be judging, making decisions up about who you are and your worth or whatever you don't want them to be thinking. Maybe a lot of people don't want to be seen, but they don't even know it.
@@juniormendoza657 🙏🏼 for ya. I know 2 guys both surfers both now in the same boat. I don't now how but they both found a way. Both smile a lot more than me both talk about being blessed. I honestly have no answers but it looks like people can find them. Like I said I'm 🙏🏼 for you junior ✊🏼
- Vee - I’m one of those people, I’m most comfortable when I just blend into the surroundings
If someone told me at a party “I was in the CIA and SEALS but can’t talk about it” I’d spend the rest of the night speculating on what they did. That’s the coolest shit ever.
international man of mystery
Killing mostly, they do alot of killing usually in Areas of the world we aren't supposed to be in.
The majority of people I have met who talk about it didn’t do it . Real bad asses don’t blab on generally , a few do but most don’t . I DESPISE talking to people who talk about military or certain experiences when it’s so obvious they haven’t been part of it .
No not really. There are many things we are not supposed to see. There is complete evil. Unfortunately I have seen it. And it can't be unseen.
Since when was the CIA cool? They're involved in the deaths of countless innocents.
I can't believe all of these comments. So many people feel like i do. It makes me wonder how many people feel this way, who are in the same room with me, when i feel this way. Peace you all of you
Yea, what we all have to realize is we are more similar then different. Everyone has emotion and everyone at some will feel anxiety. I was watching a video on a football player(hillis i think) use to trunk people when running with the ball. One he did just thaf and the other player said that hurt alot. So he come to the conclusions that its not just him or me, but most likely everyone feels pain. Know this is different context be go well.
love u!!! you are not alone in this
@@skrwdUNi and i love you. I'm at my monthly doctors appointment, where i receive some counseling on brain maintenance. He teaches me how the brain works, and why it does what it does. Thank you for your kind comment
@@jimmyp9105 Yessir. My Dr teaches me that we are all connected. When i hurt you, i hurt me. That's mostly true, i suppose. Idk.
A hero and CIA operative gave me a ❤️! Holy shit! My day is made!
My code phrase is “I want to leave because I hate everyone here.”
hahahah same mate!
Same! Id rather be at home by myself than be surrounded by prententious crowd i don’t like
SlayCityUSA exactly for me it’s more like “how are people this interested in this crap😂, Im out this piece”
C lmfao people nowadays just care about their image on social media lmfao
Damn fuckn straight. 99.9% of the time is a family gettogether.
I find it weird how he’s intimidated by doctors, lawyers, stockbrokers, and so on, but he’s a Navy seal. Navy Seals are the most badass and respected profession I can think of
There's probably an "I can kill everyone in this fucking room" component to it.
That's ironically how my normie ass deals with social anxiety. "Go ahead, make my day". I haven't had a proper knock-down-drag-out fight since the fourth grade. Fuckin' shameful.
@@scowler7200 it's not shameful dude do what you gotta bro to be happy. I haven't got into a serious fight since 11th grade and in the over 30 fights I got into I only won a small number of them. Lmao don't be afraid of these people do you. I'm not afraid bro lose a fight or even die for that matter so I say what I want because I accept the consequences
@@devinwatkins8953
I just wanna kick someone's ass, clap someone else's cheeks.
It's just fish out of water and not being able to relate. If it was a super rich stockbroker in a room of Navy Seals the stockbroker would prob feel intimidated too just cuz he wouldn't know what to talk about or how to act
Unfortunately, not everyone really knows what they do, or respects their service.
Man, your honesty is powerful and refreshing. I've never heard a combat vet be so vulnerable. I have so much respect for this work. I think your message is gonna have legs.
I hope you're right. Thank you
@Mr. X I guarentee you are too pussy to serve, you know it, and that's where your anger comes from.
i think combat veteran sharing a "vulnerable" side says alot about our society's expectation on male gender role and violence.
being a soldier who deals with Death requires you to be a violent sheepdog, of course, you need to keep your wolf side under control or you will just turn into a wolf/war criminal. But often the society doesn't like to have a sheepdog around
Like Shawn said in the video, don't put you in a situation where you will get overwhelmed and can't get out in 3 seconds. Especially when you got trapped in an argument where the other side is just better at getting a ride of you or attacking your weak points. As the social condition makes you feel ashamed about your violent side, the trait you are proud of becomes your weak point in an argument. they be like "you like hitting women? come on, fight me like a real man!"
so the best bet really is...........just shut the fuck up and ignore them. "whatever man, its just my opinion"
@@rawx485 man, ppl don't respect each other anymore. pop culture really fucked it up
@@Spider-Too-Too and then social media compounded the problem
This guys is a total badass and he has social anxiety, makes me feel a little better about my social anxiety. thank you for talking about this.
Same here. My doc recently told me she has anxiety on airplanes. I was like really me too! If she has this fear as a doctor then I don’t feel crazy anymore.
took the words right out of my mouth
Only through the mouths of people like him and you, will every day people be willing to discuss the issues that they are having with mental health. I think for a long time, it was considered taboo and crazy for people to discuss in public. But, I think the past few years and definitely the pandemic has forced people to reevaluate themselves and their circumstances and allow them to set themselves free by openly discussing what they are feeling with people. Which is one of the ways that they can heal. The more you keep locked up inside, the more anxious one can get. So God bless all these people for having the foresight and ability to share their experiences and especially what works for them to help relieve the symptoms. As it helps so many people who so desperately need it.
I’ve been an entertainer all of my life and you wouldn’t think that somebody who is used to being on the stage in front of thousands and sometimes tens of thousands of people would have an issue with anxiety. But the second I step off that stage and especially in a one on one or smaller room, I am a totally different person. I can talk to people, but I am less comfortable. Maybe the old trope safety in numbers is in play, I don’t know. But whatever the case, I have, especially over The past year have brought my inner child back out. Someone who was never afraid to talk to anyone or never let anything get to him. When I realized in doing so is that it was the people who kept trying to tell me too change into whatever they wanted me to be, that was causing the most of the anxiety. The second that you can for yourself from the prison cell of caring what other people think, The sooner you can live your life for you and realize that the time you spent trying to impress or please others in your life, could’ve been better spent just enjoying that life around you.
For whatever reasons, as adults we feel the need… Which I think is actually brought on by social pressure, to be an act a certain way. To dress a certain way as you age. To essentially be the clone of the perfect parent or adult. The thing is, you can be whenever you want to be throughout your life. There is no need to let others point you in any one direction as to who you need to be to essentially fit in. Because, if those people don’t like you for the person you are… You need to find new people to associate with. Because the you that you are, should be good enough for anybody. I always tell people, be you for you and nobody else. Because the second you let go of, what is essentially social pressure to act and be like everybody else, the second you are free of the anxiety. This may not be true for everybody, but for me it was a major steppingstone in getting back the person I used to be. Because the wife who supposedly pledged to love me for better or worse, decided that I needed to be this or that so that her friends would be impressed. Her entire life has been spent trying to live through the eyes of other people. And unfortunately that was talk to her by her mom. So it is hard encoded in her DNA. The second that I found out she was cheating, was actually more of a relief. Because it allowed me to get back to the basics that kept me happy for so many years before her. And I realized that she was the cause of most of my anxiety and depression. After a year of being away from her, I started to feel like my old self.
So, what you can take away from my story is that people around you can have an extreme effect on the person you are. Surround yourself with good people who love you for you and you will find a extremely happy life will follow. Learn the signs of narcissism and the people who have it and what they do and make sure you stay as far away from them as possible. Life, every day, is a learning experience for everybody. Learn to love yourself and the person you are, as opposed to trying to be the person and everybody else wants you to be. Enjoy every moment like it is your last, because you never know when it will be. Do away with all of the people in your life who is seemingly drag you down and replace them with people that have incredible happy spirits. Make every day and everything you do count and let those around you know how much you care. Because on your dying day, you don’t want regrets… You want to feel the love of those great people around you. That way you know you really succeeded in life.
I don't think Alex Jones has social anxiety. lol
just what i was thinking
"What do you do for a living?" I always found this to be a rude question... cause I know it's people's way of trying to find what "box" to put you in.
It’s the height of conversational laziness.
Usually it's women who ask me that, at parties, and I always think they want to know how much money I make.
@@jeffiekrugermann5501 That’s because they are asking that.
@@fcarjule there’s a reason people think MJ is attractive. When you get 400, 500 million it makes you handsome
I tell people ‘as little as possible.’
the average person would think SEALs are all super confident no matter what. Thanks for a new perspective
Jesse Rose the average human is fucking stupid then. Seals are humans, they might be stronger physically or even mentally at a certain aspect but in the end we are all the same
@@ayda2876 You flatter yourself, I would love to see how you're doing after 47 seconds in a haji torture chamber (enough time for them to get a couple nails off). That should give us all the info we need to debunk your theory on all humans being the same, apart from our basic biological composition.
@@bdf2660 LMFAO STFU there is no way u're more than 15 years old
@@ayda2876 Yes yes resort to insults... I guarantee that seal wouldn't have reacted the silly way you just did when proven incorrect. So again, apart from basic biological composition we are not all the same, but be my guest, keep proving my point.
@@bdf2660 get help.
This is a strong man, admitting you have something like social anxiety is a sign of real strength instead of what a lot of people do which is pretending to be manly and fearless.
So true. He obviously really did "shit can" his ego.
@Mr. X Wayy to completely miss the damn point dude
@Mr. X No, he is saying that a man that admits his fear is brave.
@Mr. X 🤦♂️🤦♂️🤦♂️
Mr. X So in your view straw-manning is a sign of emotional stability. Gotcha.
Vietnam combat vet here...ptsd , social anxiety...work through it, thanks brother! Excellent advice!
Let go of what was.................appreciate the here and now .................. adopt a few kittens ...............life if good and fun if you'll believe it ..
Dennis Sutton thank you for your service
Welcome home brother.
Dealt with Social Anxiety all my life. He's right. You don't have to talk. Stay away from the Alcohol. Always keep an escape route.
👍
Mister006 yea I have an alcohol problem myself. I THINK I’m outgrowing it and enlightening myself but Idk it’s always up in the air
@@evansaber7642 it's no laughing matter but it is comical how much I relate to that buddy. Just when you think you have things figured out you get a real good kick in the nuts. I'm just at the point where I do the best I can and try not to be a complete fuck up. That works for me at this point haha. Alcohol could be my demise but it's also the only lifeline I have left. I have to keep a very close eye on myself. Like Shawn was saying I also dont do hard alcohol. Maby a couple beers or a glass of wine to take the edge off. It can get out of hand so fast. Im in your corner man we are all in this thing together. I wish you the best in life. You got this!
Alcohol is only a bandaid, and usually makes things worse long run
Meth used to help me but noo it’s not socially acceptable. Bullshit.
Shawn is as real as they come. His honesty and transparency is rare in today's society. I've got 100% more respect for him than any plastic surgeon, lawyer, or money manger, most of whom are full of their own shit.
Indeed
Because you met MOST people with those professions?
You can respect this guy without making yourself look stupid.
@@YouReallyDontKnow I've met a lot of lawyers and money managers and many of them are indeed full of their own shit... especially the lawyers. Still, everyone can respect and like someone who is straightforward down to earth regardless of what he does for a living. No one likes a pretentious jackass; these types can even be found in the armed forces.
"Nothing bad will happen if you lay off the booze." TRUTH! It took me a lot of years to figure that one out.
@Hammer_of_creation Cheers! ha ha
"Nothing bad will happen if you lay off the booze." a very simple statement, thanks for that, I have heard alot of advice and stuff to help with a drinking problem. That one kinds sticks, Thanks again!!!!!!!!
Here here. Fuck alcohol and drugs. Life is so much more fulfilling without.
robert f Thats true ! I dont mess with spirits anymore ...
Measure this 'nothing' so it can have a rationale here please.
this is a real man no bullshit just straight talk
Facts!
My life got much easier when I stopped thinking there was something wrong with me for being introverted and preferring solitude. I stopped trying to fight it and make excuses for my actions and just accepted who I was. If others don't I really dont care anymore its too exhausting.
absolutely.. silence is golden.
Same. I just stay mindful of not being the asshole unless I must. Works great.
Cant even stand in line at Walmart sometimes. Hang in there yall!!
Standing in line sweating, heart thumping, eyes darting at every movement, scared I'm going scare people by being so weird.
brandon cohen OMG there is never a reason to go to Walmart. The Walking Dead helps me
@@jumbo4billion damn sorry you go through this but nice to know I'm not alone
@@johnherring9633 Cheers John. I wouldn't have thought to comment if Brandon hadn't done so first. We have to share this stuff so we all understand that it's normal and we're not alone with it. Keep on keeping on mate.
@@jumbo4billion stay safe brother
I happen to be a psychologist/psychonalyst who specializes in working with veterans/first responders. THANK YOU FOR ADVOCATING THERAPY!!!
Andrew Berry my pleasure. Thank you for what you do.
@@ShawnRyanShow I just emailed you. I hope that's OK.
Thanks for what you do I was a first responder years ago iam getting help now it's working
From a Canadian professional firefighter.... Thank you Andrew, keep up the important work.
Ive been to one, made it 10x worse but im glad it helps some
I’m almost entirely crippled from anxiety. It’s just shear will power that gets me to my car to go to work, let alone walk into work. I work at an airport.. I avoid people as much as possible. I almost never go out outside of work unless it’s a park with my girlfriend. When someone so much as even looks at me, particularly people I know nothing about, my body goes cold, anxiety turns to fear and fear to some anger. My head goes down. I think about how much they hate me and what I’m insecure about. Honestly, By the end of the work day, I get home (I live alone) and sit in bed and breathe. I think to myself that I’m genuinely surprised I even made it through the day.
One day I’ll have a small cabin in the woods with a creek going through my property. I’ll do nothing but paint, build things, draw and play my guitar. Those are the things that make me happy and feel good most of the time. Especially my guitar.
sounds like you need some weed in your life lmao, but i agree i have a little social anxiety and hate it. almost everybody struggles with some form of it but in this day and age, damn near everybody is fake and tries to act like someone there not. you just gotta see through it
*sheer will power
Do you like to write your own songs?
You’re not by yourself brother. Praying for you 🙏. It’s a battle everyday but stay strong don’t give up.
You sound like a bitch tbh lol someone looks at you and get scared? I understand wanting to avoid ppl but still lol
"I had no hobbies other than drinking". It takes alot to talk about this. Respect.
There was a time I would drink a whole bottle of Rum in one evening...
This resonates with me so much. Always feel like I gotta be doing some shit (hobby-wise) just to prove my existence.
Potential alcoholic behavior
@@dbix11 no no no. absolute alcoholic behavior.
That's me
What a legend. Would love to have a beer with this fella, although we would probably just sit there and say nothing.
Completely wrong :D Introverts are best companions when it comes to 1 to 1 meaningful no bullshit conversation.
XDDDDDDD
Adam Schofield lmaooo
Jack Didley I’ve had social anxiety pretty bad straight out of high school. Haven’t stepped out of the house in 2 years, I’m afraid this will never change :/
Alexander Sapia I had to drop out of high school due my anxiety, and like you didn’t leave the house for over a year. What is helping me is realising the feeling( as bad as it is) won’t kill you and can’t actually stop you.
Ive managed to get a job now in a customer facing role. I believe you can get through this.
Therapy and certain medications may also help, however didn’t for me. But its worth a try.
“Don’t put yourself in a situation you can’t get out of,” said guy getting married.
Kidding bruh great video.
😂
And by kidding he means not kidding
jackderaway I wholly subscribe to Shawn’s philosophy on not putting yourself in said situation, but can’t speak to marriage personally for I think that same reason. Nothing against it tho...wish all you married guys a happy life.
Davo Rebo
85% of affairs happen at the work place. Financial freedom can play a major role in a strong marriage. I know my parents divorced over the dollar bill..
Davo Rebo well if you go into marriage with that kind of mindset, you probably won’t make it very long. What kind of dork starts running through the divorce percentages in his head before making the decision to legally bind himself to someone he truly loves? If you think you found the right guy/girl, and you’re really sure you want to marry, why not go for it? Of course you gotta marry for the right reasons, because in the end, it is a legal contract between two people with many strings attatched
Every now and then i come back to this video. To an introverted big guy this is so relatable. Thanks brother.
Yeah I would luv to hear Shawn speak on this in a couple months after his psychedelic & Dmt experience really works on him & his ego..it changes lives..but sometimes not forever...
Young men need guys like this. He's genuine, doesn't hold back and is a reflection of ourselves... just wiser.
Yup
Even this 43yr old can learn something here
Hell yea
righttt, wish i caould hangout with him. i have horrible anxiety, even around my siblings and parents. sucks
Brother, couldn't agree more, it cost me everything and then some, 3 Failed suicide attempts. Talk about feeling bad, try not being able to off yourself..I got help from the VA..years of therapy..
Semper Fi
U.S.M C. 0331
Dave, I hope your feeling better man. Thanks for your service!
Thank you, that’s awesome to hear brother.
Praying for you brother. Thank you for your service 🇺🇸
@@Workin247 thank you very much.
@@CS_Concepts. I appreciate it, thank you very much
I dont even like getting my haircut because of anxiety
Same man it sucks
You're taking yourself too serious
Austin it’s hard when you have it, nothing you say in your head can make it stop, it’s weird and annoying
spookypunky Yep. My wife wears ear plugs 24/7. That, and Lorazapam, are the only things that help. Sucks.
I feel your pain. Just simple tasks , things that folks that don’t suffer from it take for granted. A lot of the times I don’t even want to leave my house to go to a gas station for an example.
A real man is able to talk about his fears and discomforts. Respect VE.
Real Tlk👌
A man has two lives. The second one starts when he realizes he only has one.
Confucius says
🤔🤔🤔 I read that in the back of Playboy once
Wes K helps me with my anxiety... whenever I find myself overthinking a situation I think of that quote and try to look at my life from a 30,000’ view... that’s why I love flying in planes. Puts everything into perspective. How irrelevant we really are. You can block out the sun with a dime if you stare at it close enough.
The Kids Nice hey that’s an awesome quote! Who is it? You?
Momma Llama I’m not sure where I heard it... certainly not my wisdom
I am 19 years old and i have autism, i can relate to what hes saying cause i have social anxiety,my stepdad and my mom been helping me with it and i have been getting better at socializing with people,i ain't as quiet around people as i used to be, this video was really helpful,thank you for sharing your tips.
@theo dorou thank u.
@Kevin Most People that you will encounter on a daily basis have just as much anxiety as you will. They usually just try to hide it in various ways and may even be mean or angry in order to distract you from their own insecurity. The more times they are genuinely mean, the more they reveal themselves as being more insecure than you are. Once you realize this a lot of your own anxiety will beging to go away.
I’m 41 and learned very late I’m in a similar boat. It’s a terribly unfair and invisible disadvantage we face- judgement, and/or the fear of it. I am lucky that I have a wife and two boys that love me for who I am, help extract the best of me, and help me see where I need to change my expectations of myself and others.
Nobody will ever tell you that you’re special...but know you are special to those that love you. Embrace what makes you unique, do things that you believe to be right, and never stop learning. You will be on higher ground in the end. Take care.
@@snail415 i will
I couldn’t even order at McDonald’s when I was younger I used to have my little sister talk to people for me. I tried to change my mentality to sort of “practice” talking to people cuz practice makes perfect
If you have social anxiety, you understand wearing sunglasses in interviews.
I once wore sunglasses to a carnival at night because of anxiety. Well it was day when I got there but I was the only one wearing them when the sun set.
@@HalfinchLonomia I'm exactly the same way, i don't feel like myself without my sunnies on the rare ocassion i go out
why sunglasses? I have social anxiety but what does sunglasses do
@@erlend6338 For me having social anxiety my fear is people noticing that I'm anxious so by hiding my eyes I feel it's a little less noticeable that I'm getting anxious because they can't see that my eyes are constantly looking for an exit.
cant even wear sunglasses bc i start to think i look weird and everyone is looking at me bc i have sunglasses lmao
I relate to this video on so many different levels it's unreal.
Do your Hands now have things to do now!!!??? 🤲🏽 🤣
Same bro
Drunk people make my anxiety raise the roof. Clubs & Bars are definitely a No-Go at this station.
Just thinking of a drunk person in my personal space spitting all over me when they try to talk above the music makes my anxiety spike
@C Man pretty much lol
Banksy 💯 % dude I can’t go anywhere! I’m an avid pool player, I don’t drink or smoke cigarettes! Pool tables are only usually where there’s bars/ heavy drinkers! It’s my happy place! My stress reliever! But... it’s full of stress! People yelling, music way to loud! Cigarette smoke galore! Because people stand at the doors with them open, smoking cigarettes! I always feel people are watching me! Yet I also feel like a ghost that no one can see! I space out! I fight or flight! Luckily i flight before the fight! How do I deal with this shit? I just want to have peace in my mind
Ya who wants jail time or prison for a buzz? Full tard
bars & clubs are shitty places in general, not only for people who suffer from social anxiety.
“Wtf do I do with my hands when there isn’t not drink in my hand” my biggest social anxiety
I like to slowly flap my arms like a bird of prey. It's a sign of dominance.
@@SolarJakee I start jelqing
Wtf
Shadow puppetry
@@SolarJakee 😂😂😂
Just my 2 cents - Someone making it to the NAVY SEALs impresses me miles more than someone having a Lamborghini or being a good doctor.
I wouldn't agree about the doctor..
2 are occupations 1 is an object. A doctor or seal could buy or lease a possession. Or some one could and probley has been a seal then a PhD in something then bought a real nice car.. " that don't impress me much"
What about a Seal that becomes a doctor and then buys a lambo?
I’ve met Navy SEALS who are complete douches and I’ve met doctors who are complete douche bags. I’ve also met SEALs who are chill as fuck and same with doctors. I judge people individually and how they treat me. It’s that simple.
What it really comes down to is the maturity of an individual and how they treat others.