Absolutely amazing advice for anyone struggling with waning motivation. I really appreciate your overall candor and refreshingly straightforward, but friendly, delivery.
the terrible feeling that your goals aren't big enough and you're not doing enough to reach them is a fabricated distortion of reality branded into your psyche from birth, against your will
what we were conditioned to see life as is a scam, life itself is an incredible gift, every day is a new opportunity to start changing our life, and it's up to us to make the decision to start being curious about our fears and start questioning them
i really wasnt motivated to go gym today, i was thinking of excuses, and oh day off cant hurt, il go tomorrow. but now im going to be consistent like you say! lets go :D nice vid
Inspiration is the key, motivation is just optional. and what you're saying very true. Good video friend. I just played my flute and felt better and want to play other instruments as well.
Very true. As a perfectionist I would like to add, if you try and make those 18 minutes perfect it WILL burn you out and make it harder to put in the time consistently. Don't think about the outcome. Just try. Only focus on the act of trying. This mentality has changed my life for the better, hope it helps anyone else too. Great video :)
This msg is actually really good motivation 😆 yeah I think after you get through the initial reluctance and have a bit of consistency it becomes something you actually begin to feel like and enjoy doing 🙌🏻
what we were conditioned to see life as is a scam, life itself is an incredible gift, every day is a new opportunity to start changing our life, and it's up to us to make the decision to start being curious about our fears and start questioning them
I am a writer. I am writing poetry atm and I have been writing poetry for twenty years. I am self taught, I only started studying poetry recently. In my opinion, self compassion is crucial in order to archieve consistency because the process is not linear, evolution. I think three movements are key: doing it proper, just doing it and thinking about/planning. So some days I would write like a proper poet (going through as mucho technical aspects I can), other days I would just write whatever, and other days I would think about my processo, about what I did, plans to improve, etc. Now using running as an analogy, I could run proper (like athletes do, searching how they train their muscles, their breathing, how they stretch), I could just run, and I could plan/learn (routes I could try to incorporate running to some errands, research about posture/high impact vs low impact/ blablabla, etc). And then I would dedicate some days to one of the three, and only one. Self compassion is required when we start to feel stuck, when the result fails to meet the expectation. When we casually chat about it with someone else and we start comparing. When we do it wrong somehow and then we start believing "of course we did it wrong we are forever dummy" which is a lie. We push ourselves but then we pull ourselves into a hug, otherwise we burn out.
There's a book called Atomic Habits I finshed it last month and it thought me to chnage certain Habits to be the best version of myself. Life is BS... But we all need to make those days count
I dont want to be an expert in a lot of stuff and i shouldnt . To be average in most things should be enough. To even think that, makes me anxious and block me. To go on with my life and be functional and grateful with what i got is my main goal...
You're right. I want to be a great guitarist but I'm always so inconsistent and thus I don't move far no matter how much time passes. I already started playing everyday, but I will keep it consistent no matter how I feel. I don't have to come up with great melodies every single day, don't have to even sound good while playing every time I play. Just keep playing, just keep training, just keep it going. As a matter of fact, I'll get to playing right now even though I already played today for a few minutes.
"My first mile when I was getting into running, it took me 17 minutes to run it" as a former (well, and present, but working on it) overweight kid who dreaded the one-mile track run in gym class, thanks for making me feel a little better, lol.
Oh thanks for reminding me of that 21-day habit thing, I totally forgot. How could I? It's so useful. I really don't understand how I forgot about that, but I guess it's because I'm focusing mainly on things external to myself at this stage.
This is indeed very heartwarming and very wonderful and very beautiful and very adorable and very helpful and this brings back such great memories of when I use to be a 90s kid and an early 2000s kid and I am a new subscriber as well:).
I never have time limits for my work, instead I always have a target of an amount of stuff I want to do. It depends on my motivation, but I always try to do a little bit every day for my *personal* goals, whether it ranges from studying a few pages to studying 40. Just show up every day. And if I have extra motivation, that's cool, and I will take advantage of that. Besides that, I have my more rigid obligations for work, university, extracurriculars, etc. But it's nice to have a personal project besides all of that to feel like I am actually developing myself. Btw ur gorgeous.
if we do something that we really love doing, motivation comes pretty easily. I feel like a lot of people, are not honest with themselves. a lot of us are working jobs we don't really like doing. they are more interested in the reward, the promotion, the salary, rather than the act, the job itself. a few failures and they lose the momentum and then the excuses come in. when we do what we love, the reward is constant and therefore, the motivation is also constant, the promotion, the salary raise is secondary.
Thanks, very good points. It ironically motivated me. I've got a funny little example for the 'keeping habits' thing. I love hot showers but in April this year I decided to finish the shower with a 20 seconds of cold water. Now I cannot end my every day shower without it. I just can't. :D
Dear Bailey, thank you so much for this great motivational video! It is really inspiring me personally. I was also intending to show it to some of my students to motivate them to learn English. But there is only one thing that is stopping me, coz u use the f word a couple of times... and my students are still schoolers... so now I do not really know if it is worth doing the video demonstration. I was wondering if you could make another video on the same topic, just without those fs? It would be really nice of you!
Why do I relate to everything this girl talks about it feels like she's a mind reader or something..hah I appreciate your videos Bailey, keep it up, you have the knowledge to do it!
Nice to meet you bailey! You seem fantastic & wise. You seem to be doing wonderfully. Really. You deserve to be happy. This year unfortunately has been a extremely tough shakeup, for me. I may likely have cancer. I need several surgeries, or else. I can't afford any of that. Became suicidal. Had 4 major, near tragic incidents. Each day is just, misery. Dragging. Myself outta bed, thinking, this is not living.🤕
I agree with you but take it to the next level and always be wary of the saboteurs and scammers along the way. The variable that you didn’t expect would keep you from your goals. The enemy in the shadows.
I'm reading charts every single day for at least an hour for years now and I'm slowly becoming a better trader, so yes you're right consistency is everything. Btw, you're cute.
I started learning spanish 15mins a day. Was enthusiastic in the beginning. Over time it became a chore. Felt like I didn't progress much. DId it daily for over 1000 days. In the end I just said fuck it and quit. I'm never gonna visit any spanish-speaking countries in my life so why bother?
I’ve heard this philosophy before. But it goes against Wu Wei. I’m wondering how we can push ourselves to do things when our body is telling us no from being exhausted and dopamine depleted, which is a yin state that requires stillness and replenishment. I find when I push through things constantly I get sick, strained, stressed, overwhelmed, irritable, and miserable. So what would you or anyone else who encourages this forceful pushing and straining against feeling like doing things, say to that? It can actually feel damaging. Am I incorrect?
The 18 minute thing, or the 100 hour thing may work for some, and that's AWESOME! More power to You if it works for You! But that just doesn't work for me, because everything I do: writing screenplays, writing journals, playing guitar, playing piano, reading and re-reading my favorite books over and over and over again. Drawing and writing stories for my own cartoons. Taking cold showers. Reading my bible. Going for walks, and long ones. Walk all day at times. But I don't do that stuff because of any "bad habit." I don't do that stuff because I'm breaking one, or that I'm trying to become an expert at it. No. I do these things because it's fun. Doing it to become an expert would bum the fun out for me. If I happen to become an expert and grow albert Einstein hair, Fan-flubby-tastic! But I don't want that. Fun comes first for me. Everything else are just things I stumble upon. :)
Very good video. I think of motivation the same way, based on my experiences. It can be fleeting, whether or not I may 'feel' like working on what I need to. Like for example, I'm supposed to be doing active marketing for my business but I'm doing research on product design.... which is funny because I'm literally typing in the comment section of a video that has nothing to do with either. Well, this just got awkward. 🤣🤣😂😂 But hey! the difference is, I will get it done and most people won't, which is fine for now.
If it has a definition and it defines a parameter then it exists. Your will acts upon your ability to self-motivate. Since everything we are made of is electrical and chemical then motivation is based on the reward your brain receives from satisfaction or disgust therefore the reward is motivation and it is a force that acts upon you So it is real. Movement from an object being stagnant to being in motion is based upon vacuum not gravity. Gravity acts upon us making us slow down and stop and because of burning our energy fighting gravity. Among other things So while I would agree with what you say I'd also have to really disagree. As stupid as crazy as that sounds
Yeah yeah. Yeeah. Wow..ok. my mind has a way of keeping me from doing it..excuse exactly. Guess I'm dealing with trauma. Did a push-up challenge for 14 weeks. But. Yeah lost it.
sweetheart you may be right but you are to logical and being logical in this world is a curse. Partial motivation indeed drives you and fades , but what if you create an extreme motivation that is always on ? Doesnt that negate motivation itself and makes it a zero? It does in another way and thats the "easiest" way that nobody manages because they have partial motivation. It is as if life itself , existance motivates you (which is infinite) there is nothing else , no room at all to be motivated about. So it is completion and nothingness at the same time.. a beautiful girl telling me motivation is useless? Hell ya i am on ! i like that ur smart . At least on that regard you figured out the first step or baby step. And no pain is not power itself i wont watch the video but wrong title ) neither love is overwhelming by itself. But it can be.
Can I point out (not judging, just for fun) the irony of you looking up what percentage 18 minutes is of a day, when you've clearly expressed an interest in math and that you're learning Calculus? It's just 100*18/(24*60) c'mon Bailey you can do it!
At first, it sounded as though you were dropping pearls here and a lot of what you had to say WAS sound but it should be noted that it's hardly fair to flippantly push the narrative that emotions can just be cast aside nor is it anything more than a sanctimonious generalization to call it 'just an excuse' if and when someone is held back. I certainly realize that if a person is truly desirous of something, they WILL make it happen if they haven't already but still - situations are relative. I d'know.... Maybe I'm just being contrarian.
You have to face soul crushing odds and continue. Even when it doesn't pay off, not the first or second time, but the 100th time, and you still want to jump in. That's motivation. The surge of energy to do something because you enjoy doing it. Not because of a dollar sign or what other people think of it.
Absolutely amazing advice for anyone struggling with waning motivation. I really appreciate your overall candor and refreshingly straightforward, but friendly, delivery.
I agree, motivation starts with discipline. Discipline is a muscle. You don't get it without getting started and getting practice.
the terrible feeling that your goals aren't big enough and you're not doing enough to reach them is a fabricated distortion of reality branded into your psyche from birth, against your will
i love when ppl bring this up. reminds me i can go slow and still achieve and be great
The hard part is figuring out what actually is a sensible thing to do. I should be a master at figuring it out by now. 😄
I think I want to remove the voices of demons in my head. Where does one begin?
Brilliant video. Thanks for the pep talk Bailey! You're 100% on point.
I'm really good at finding motivation videos.
And excuses
"Just Do It" -Shia LaBeouf
Life on Earth is a scam
We are meant to be the farmer, not the livestock
LOL
dont be pathetic dude, its not cute.
what we were conditioned to see life as is a scam, life itself is an incredible gift, every day is a new opportunity to start changing our life, and it's up to us to make the decision to start being curious about our fears and start questioning them
a potential gnostic.
Its creepy how smart this chick is.
i really wasnt motivated to go gym today, i was thinking of excuses, and oh day off cant hurt, il go tomorrow. but now im going to be consistent like you say! lets go :D nice vid
Inspiration is the key, motivation is just optional. and what you're saying very true. Good video friend. I just played my flute and felt better and want to play other instruments as well.
I need to internalize this so bad, I love how you expressed this thank you so much.
Take care ⭐
If one wants something bad enough, they just do it no matter what, i cant understand when someone says something like "i want to but i cant"
Maybe if theres something else that u want more or will lose something that u want more than the thing u wanna do? Idk
Very true. As a perfectionist I would like to add, if you try and make those 18 minutes perfect it WILL burn you out and make it harder to put in the time consistently. Don't think about the outcome. Just try. Only focus on the act of trying. This mentality has changed my life for the better, hope it helps anyone else too.
Great video :)
This msg is actually really good motivation 😆 yeah I think after you get through the initial reluctance and have a bit of consistency it becomes something you actually begin to feel like and enjoy doing 🙌🏻
We are always motivated. The brain makes calculations you aren't even aware of constantly. The issue is distractions and the wrong mindset
Anything that is temporary is a scam
Thank you for these points of wisdom.
Said it in another video. Going through some tough times. Thanks for these videos Bailey.
Feels like the whole life is a scam.....
what we were conditioned to see life as is a scam, life itself is an incredible gift, every day is a new opportunity to start changing our life, and it's up to us to make the decision to start being curious about our fears and start questioning them
We came here to suffer, or to suffer a lot.
I am a writer. I am writing poetry atm and I have been writing poetry for twenty years. I am self taught, I only started studying poetry recently.
In my opinion, self compassion is crucial in order to archieve consistency because the process is not linear, evolution. I think three movements are key: doing it proper, just doing it and thinking about/planning.
So some days I would write like a proper poet (going through as mucho technical aspects I can), other days I would just write whatever, and other days I would think about my processo, about what I did, plans to improve, etc.
Now using running as an analogy, I could run proper (like athletes do, searching how they train their muscles, their breathing, how they stretch), I could just run, and I could plan/learn (routes I could try to incorporate running to some errands, research about posture/high impact vs low impact/ blablabla, etc). And then I would dedicate some days to one of the three, and only one.
Self compassion is required when we start to feel stuck, when the result fails to meet the expectation. When we casually chat about it with someone else and we start comparing. When we do it wrong somehow and then we start believing "of course we did it wrong we are forever dummy" which is a lie. We push ourselves but then we pull ourselves into a hug, otherwise we burn out.
food and sleep is what helps me get closer to my goals. without that just mentally is very difficult
@@humansranimals6169 I agree, we need to be healthy to function and to progress
There's a book called Atomic Habits I finshed it last month and it thought me to chnage certain Habits to be the best version of myself. Life is BS... But we all need to make those days count
Baby steps each day and you will walk miles. I personally focus on consistency and perfection, perfection doesn't come without consistency.
i have a feeling these videos are more for yourself than others, which is not a bad thing
I dont want to be an expert in a lot of stuff and i shouldnt . To be average in most things should be enough. To even think that, makes me anxious and block me. To go on with my life and be functional and grateful with what i got is my main goal...
You're right. I want to be a great guitarist but I'm always so inconsistent and thus I don't move far no matter how much time passes. I already started playing everyday, but I will keep it consistent no matter how I feel. I don't have to come up with great melodies every single day, don't have to even sound good while playing every time I play. Just keep playing, just keep training, just keep it going. As a matter of fact, I'll get to playing right now even though I already played today for a few minutes.
very well said. people shouldn't rely on emotions
"My first mile when I was getting into running, it took me 17 minutes to run it" as a former (well, and present, but working on it) overweight kid who dreaded the one-mile track run in gym class, thanks for making me feel a little better, lol.
Oh thanks for reminding me of that 21-day habit thing, I totally forgot. How could I? It's so useful. I really don't understand how I forgot about that, but I guess it's because I'm focusing mainly on things external to myself at this stage.
Why does this girl keep popping up in my recommendations, goddammit
This is indeed very heartwarming and very wonderful and very beautiful and very adorable and very helpful and this brings back such great memories of when I use to be a 90s kid and an early 2000s kid and I am a new subscriber as well:).
I never have time limits for my work, instead I always have a target of an amount of stuff I want to do. It depends on my motivation, but I always try to do a little bit every day for my *personal* goals, whether it ranges from studying a few pages to studying 40. Just show up every day. And if I have extra motivation, that's cool, and I will take advantage of that. Besides that, I have my more rigid obligations for work, university, extracurriculars, etc. But it's nice to have a personal project besides all of that to feel like I am actually developing myself. Btw ur gorgeous.
Motivation is eating that sweet guava nectar and listening to groovy tunes. Great video! 🦎🦎
if we do something that we really love doing, motivation comes pretty easily. I feel like a lot of people, are not honest with themselves. a lot of us are working jobs we don't really like doing. they are more interested in the reward, the promotion, the salary, rather than the act, the job itself. a few failures and they lose the momentum and then the excuses come in. when we do what we love, the reward is constant and therefore, the motivation is also constant, the promotion, the salary raise is secondary.
Great perspectives. Thanks for sharing.
Consistency is a key to success 🎉
Thanks, very good points. It ironically motivated me. I've got a funny little example for the 'keeping habits' thing. I love hot showers but in April this year I decided to finish the shower with a 20 seconds of cold water. Now I cannot end my every day shower without it. I just can't. :D
Life is a scam, system is a scam
What you mean there is no light anywhere , you brighten up the whole apartment :)
I don't want to be much. I just want to chill 🤷. People make me do stupid shit but i just want to exist calmly. Society is a scam. Humanity accualy.
It is a scam, I agree.
Preheating your oven is also a scam, probably put forth by some power company.
Dear Bailey, thank you so much for this great motivational video! It is really inspiring me personally. I was also intending to show it to some of my students to motivate them to learn English. But there is only one thing that is stopping me, coz u use the f word a couple of times... and my students are still schoolers... so now I do not really know if it is worth doing the video demonstration. I was wondering if you could make another video on the same topic, just without those fs? It would be really nice of you!
It cames for some reason, and it ceases without our permission. So, it is an emotion. Better not follow it.
Nice content. Very deep video.
Thank you, just stumbled across this video, needed this, great face and voice you have too
Why do I relate to everything this girl talks about it feels like she's a mind reader or something..hah
I appreciate your videos Bailey, keep it up, you have the knowledge to do it!
Nice to meet you bailey!
You seem fantastic & wise.
You seem to be doing wonderfully. Really. You deserve to be happy. This year unfortunately has been a extremely tough shakeup, for me. I may likely have cancer. I need several surgeries, or else. I can't afford any of that. Became suicidal. Had 4 major, near tragic incidents. Each day is just, misery. Dragging. Myself outta bed, thinking, this is not living.🤕
Thank you. I will use this video as a means to maintain consistency in my workout schedules. Have a nice day 👋
I agree with you but take it to the next level and always be wary of the saboteurs and scammers along the way. The variable that you didn’t expect would keep you from your goals. The enemy in the shadows.
I'm reading charts every single day for at least an hour for years now and I'm slowly becoming a better trader, so yes you're right consistency is everything. Btw, you're cute.
I feel like you are going to be so popular on TH-cam
read William James's essay "Habit" in The Principles of Psychology
Motivation is just to make the rich richer.
if you really wanted to do something you would. You just want the results that's the real problem.
3:49 except David Goggins lmao
Appreciate your message and I am working on the new me through motivation and trust in God purpose 🙏 Again thank you for sharing 🙏
I started learning spanish 15mins a day. Was enthusiastic in the beginning. Over time it became a chore. Felt like I didn't progress much. DId it daily for over 1000 days. In the end I just said fuck it and quit. I'm never gonna visit any spanish-speaking countries in my life so why bother?
hot tea pie
I’ve heard this philosophy before. But it goes against Wu Wei. I’m wondering how we can push ourselves to do things when our body is telling us no from being exhausted and dopamine depleted, which is a yin state that requires stillness and replenishment. I find when I push through things constantly I get sick, strained, stressed, overwhelmed, irritable, and miserable. So what would you or anyone else who encourages this forceful pushing and straining against feeling like doing things, say to that? It can actually feel damaging. Am I incorrect?
wise words
There is nothing better than cream with honey. Sorry for changing the subject
The 18 minute thing, or the 100 hour thing may work for some, and that's AWESOME! More power to You if it works for You! But that just doesn't work for me, because everything I do: writing screenplays, writing journals, playing guitar, playing piano, reading and re-reading my favorite books over and over and over again. Drawing and writing stories for my own cartoons. Taking cold showers. Reading my bible. Going for walks, and long ones. Walk all day at times. But I don't do that stuff because of any "bad habit." I don't do that stuff because I'm breaking one, or that I'm trying to become an expert at it. No. I do these things because it's fun. Doing it to become an expert would bum the fun out for me. If I happen to become an expert and grow albert Einstein hair, Fan-flubby-tastic! But I don't want that. Fun comes first for me. Everything else are just things I stumble upon. :)
Very good video. I think of motivation the same way, based on my experiences. It can be fleeting, whether or not I may 'feel' like working on what I need to. Like for example, I'm supposed to be doing active marketing for my business but I'm doing research on product design.... which is funny because I'm literally typing in the comment section of a video that has nothing to do with either. Well, this just got awkward. 🤣🤣😂😂 But hey! the difference is, I will get it done and most people won't, which is fine for now.
Great video!
I'm completely against the ideas of your last video but I agree with this one
Cleaning my bedroom. Thanks! lol
this chanel is good.
Glad your so smart!
Belgique 🇧🇪 😊😊😊
interesting points
Pray !
Correct except for the every single day. WRONG! Does NOT Have to be every single day.
Cheers 🍺
And what if soul was not taken from my body but from the world itself?
If it has a definition and it defines a parameter then it exists. Your will acts upon your ability to self-motivate. Since everything we are made of is electrical and chemical then motivation is based on the reward your brain receives from satisfaction or disgust therefore the reward is motivation and it is a force that acts upon you So it is real. Movement from an object being stagnant to being in motion is based upon vacuum not gravity. Gravity acts upon us making us slow down and stop and because of burning our energy fighting gravity. Among other things So while I would agree with what you say I'd also have to really disagree. As stupid as crazy as that sounds
Has anyone ever mentioned that this girl looks like amber heard
Honestly she looks a hell of a lot like Captain Marvel aka Brie Larson.
Keyboard tapping asmr. Count down with me now 5…4…3…2…1 Go do the thing you want. Live your best life 🌸
Only your beauty
👍😸👍
I already did, what I like :)
Now your talking
Yeah yeah. Yeeah. Wow..ok. my mind has a way of keeping me from doing it..excuse exactly. Guess I'm dealing with trauma. Did a push-up challenge for 14 weeks. But. Yeah lost it.
sweetheart you may be right but you are to logical and being logical in this world is a curse. Partial motivation indeed drives you and fades , but what if you create an extreme motivation that is always on ? Doesnt that negate motivation itself and makes it a zero? It does in another way and thats the "easiest" way that nobody manages because they have partial motivation. It is as if life itself , existance motivates you (which is infinite) there is nothing else , no room at all to be motivated about. So it is completion and nothingness at the same time.. a beautiful girl telling me motivation is useless? Hell ya i am on ! i like that ur smart . At least on that regard you figured out the first step or baby step. And no pain is not power itself i wont watch the video but wrong title ) neither love is overwhelming by itself. But it can be.
OMG I love you, you're so beautiful
One on one coaching?
Yes maam😅
I misspelled your name ,sorry.
whoever shes talking to better do what she says she probably knows where they live and Im pretty sure she means business
You are so beautiful I love youuuuu❤
I'm curious if that 18 minute figure is taking variance in intelligence/natural ability etc. into account.
18 minutes is too consolidated. Doing one thing is enough to keep you tapped in.
Can I point out (not judging, just for fun) the irony of you looking up what percentage 18 minutes is of a day, when you've clearly expressed an interest in math and that you're learning Calculus? It's just 100*18/(24*60) c'mon Bailey you can do it!
Well, clearly I can’t allow you to be a Canaanite. No eating Ham!
A loop
Thank you ,Bailley.
This helps.Your helping.
This is a cover my band did -
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Hope you like it
Cheers,
David
At first, it sounded as though you were dropping pearls here and a lot of what you had to say WAS sound but it should be noted that it's hardly fair to flippantly push the narrative that emotions can just be cast aside nor is it anything more than a sanctimonious generalization to call it 'just an excuse' if and when someone is held back. I certainly realize that if a person is truly desirous of something, they WILL make it happen if they haven't already but still - situations are relative. I d'know.... Maybe I'm just being contrarian.
good, Andrew Tate is a Model of discipline
joe is a scam
The scam isn't motivation. It's the reward.
You have to face soul crushing odds and continue. Even when it doesn't pay off, not the first or second time, but the 100th time, and you still want to jump in. That's motivation. The surge of energy to do something because you enjoy doing it. Not because of a dollar sign or what other people think of it.
Follow that path. The reward is inconceivable. Something you won't see or think of, until later.
first!