As a 16 year old, living in a world where everything and everyone is just so stupid, brain rotting and even down right irritating, this is refreshing to watch. I am happy that persons like you still exist that values the truly valuable and polite ways of living. Thank you for uploading these videos and i pray that you can keep making these videos and maybe, just maybe, create the generation of gentlemen that you are seeking to create.
As a guy in my 40s, I’ve learned a few things over the years, and given some of the comments from the younger fellas on these types of channels, I see another pitfall - trying too hard to fit the gentleman mold or do whatever you think will attract women. Self-confidence and authenticity are more attractive than any clothing money could buy, so yes - take these tips as far as elevating your style, manners and etiquette - but incorporate them into your personality. Your primary goal shouldn’t be fitting whatever mold you think will win you attention from the ladies; it should be finding your authentic style that makes you feel great when you step out of the house. That will radiate so much more attractiveness than transparently trying too hard and likely failing
I absolutely agree with you. I do not intend for my channel to be 100% prescriptive or to insist that my way is the only way. I simply hope that my audience can use the ideal of being a 'gentleman' and being an attractive man as a way to improve their lives.
@@Gent.Z oh for sure, James. You do a great job. I also think it’s somewhat natural when guys are younger or just dipping their toes in a new lifestyle or approach to fashion. Kind of like when you’re first playing guitar you follow the tab books or lessons exactly, but as you gain confidence you start learning how to break the rules and incorporate the instruction into your own style
I particularly like the point of “a gentleman never misses an opportunity to brighten someone’s life with sincere and well meaning compliments “. I’ve been practicing it, but need to practice more.
I had recently given someone a compliment on their style of hat they wore that day. It was random and out of no where. I'm not sure how he felt, he thanked me with a smile but i felt great because it was a genuine compliment that i meant
I'm at 72 year old man, and I think my mother for teaching me manners when I was a young child. It's just natural to me now. I appreciate your channel, and your challenge to help young man around the world. thank you
Or allowing weights on a resistance trainer to slam down. Defies simple logic and ironically is confirmation to others in the vicinity you have an inability to control the weight you’re working with so lighten up !
@@jackprarherjr7743 There has always been enormous pressure on and expectation of woman to be more attractive and to display better manners for males. The reverse has never been true for men.
I never understood what the problem is with yawning. I was taught so as well but now i wonder why. Yes sneezing and coughing are infectious and disgusting but what the fuck is the problem with yawning
James, I'm almost 20 years older than you but I absolutely appreciate the work you do. Needless to say, I still learn something from every video of yours.
Never ask anyone "what are you doing tonight?" or "do you have plans tonight?" If they aren't busy then they feel obliged to accept or invent an excuse. Say "Would you like to do xyz tonight?" Then they can decide if they would like to join you or not.
Good idea. Don't be indecisive or wishy washy especially when asking a girl out on a date. She'll have the impression that you aren't confident or are uncertain.
I would not say that too many "men" are wearing open towed footwear in the wrong settings. I would say that immature, socially inept males and various slobs are doing this. Zero class. Let the attractive females with pretty feet wear the open towed footwear.
Hello, Gent Z!! I am a Gentle Woman and I enjoy your podcasts. So many things that you mention also apply to women. :) Please do a podcast giving ideas on where a Gentle Woman might meet Gentlemen. Thanks so much and keep up the glorious work! All the Best, Jo in Flagstaff, AZ
Man I love this guy, even though I’m only 14 years old, I still try to follow the things he says, but it is so great how he legitimately is trying to help people out and doesn’t beg for subs or likes or donations
Yes! Always lower the seat, close the lid and wash your hands after using the restroom. I've had to teach this to many younger people and I inform anyone who enters my home of these rules. If they do not show me and my home respect by following these simple rules, they are not welcome back. Thank you for teaching this etiquette, it should be common sense.
These nine points are a starting point! They are the minimum that a gentleman would never do. I am thankful for a great Mom and Dad who taught e all these things while young! I am also very thankful for my training in the Boy Scouts which also built my character.
I'm onboard with your recommendations. The one that really irritates me is the loud playing of content over your phone in public areas. And loud conversations over the speakerphone feature as well!
The best suggestion, in my opinion, is the one about giving sincere compliments. Spreading positivity is making it more likely to come back to us. Thank you for having the courage of teaching what too many people believe is outdated, or even sign of weakness.
One thing young men used to do is always walk with a woman on the traffic side of the sidewalk so u can protect her if a car jumps the curb. Of course it is to protect her but also couples didn't know if she was with child as soon as they do today so u r probably protecting her and a baby
I love these videos. It is about common sense, it is about being well behaved, it is about being thoughtfull and respectfull in the small, everyday things. It is so basic and yet so important.
Thank you. You're right, almost everything I say in my videos is common sense. But in today's world, it's necessary. The small gestures make a big difference.
A rude behaviour a lot of people do in my area, but shouldn't be done by a gentleman is hurrying to grab a seat on public transport as soon as the doors open. For instance, almost everytime I am at the subway and I want to exit the train, as soon as the doors open and people from the inside want to get out, a lot of people from the outside hurry to grab a seat, without letting the other people exit. When travelling with any form of public transport, a gentleman always sits on any side of the doors, waits till everyone gets out, and then he enters. ~Tudor.
After watching your vids for many months because I’m interested to hear what a younger guy will say on these topics, I must say that your channel is a pre-req for young men or anyone with gaps to fill. Keep doing this good and important work. -Chris
Great thoughts James. On the dining out, I do the two napkin routine. One for my lap and one to dab at my mouth as needed. The establishments that I frequent now supply this automatically for me.
Regarding thing 2: It's a good idea to carry a small pocket knife. I remember when my grandfather encountered a "frustration sealed package". Without any reaction he simply took out his pocket knife and made short work of it. Not only did it do the job but it looked suave. I've carried a pocket knife ever since. It also impresses the ladies when you can come to their aid opening a package or removing a tag.
Napkins! I certainly put them on my lap, however I very often catch a drip of something of other midway down on my chest. DOH! I’m aware as to how some people tuck napkins in at their neck, but that always looks rather childish, albeit much more efficient. Always replace both seat and lid down at the end.
In regards to your tip on dinning. It's also a gentlemanly gesture to wait until everyone or the one you are dining with is ready to eat before you begin eating. In other words, do not touch any part of your meal unless your guest(s) also have the opportunity to indulge as well.
1) Vapes 2) Opens something with his teeth 3) Eats on public transport 4) Wears open toe footwear anywhere except the beach or pool 5) Eats a meal without a napkin on his lap 6) Gives his unsolicited opinions on contentious topics 7) Leaves the toilet seat up 8) Ghosts 9) Never pays compliments
I enjoyed this video, but it occured to me how many of the behaviours on this list are simply a matter of good manners. Obviously, there is a close alignment between gentlemanly behaviour and good manners, but it is striking, and regrettable, how many people seem to regard good manners as optional today. Keep up the good work, James.
No elbows on the table while eating and covering your mouth when yawning. Two things I've learned as a child, but aren't considered a matter of course.
Same here, and I get mocked for it. Apparently being a semi-polished Nigerian Gentleman is considered "bougie" and a reason to be outcast. I guess my parents and school wasted their time 🤷🏾♂️🫤
The one about religion and politics rings true to me. I used to always discuss religion and politics at work. It became a common thing with me. I’ve since stopped that almost entirely, unless asked by a close friend. I read in a post years ago about a group of friends who got together and the topic of a common friend came up among them. They all agreed he was such a likable person but they couldn’t pinpoint why. Why did everyone unanimously like him? Well, they realized it was because he was never opinionated about things. He never got angry with people and people never got angry toward him pushing his beliefs unto others. That story resonated with me and since, I’ve not gotten political with people at work. It’s given me a lot of peace of mind and over the years, I’ve gotten along with more people.
I will always remember having instruction from my mother about leaving the toilet seat down. She was a stickler for it! There was however one exception, when bleach was put in the bowl. Seeing the lid up always meant that you needed to flush before use!
I tried vaping last year, but quickly realised it's not for me. Religion and politics can be hot topics, and I personally have no interest in politics as it is.
On top of wiping after missing the target, I once learned that it was a good idea to wipe the “tip” after urinating. It is so basic and yet so hygienic. I don’t know if anyone cares but yeah, highly recommend it.
When it comes to vaping, a gentleman recognizes his vices and works to rid himself of them. If you're an ex-smoker, keep going, you can quit. But it's also gentlemanly to not expose others to your vices. If you have to vape, maybe keep it at home until you can quit
@@Gent.Z yeah I don’t think most people under 30 these days are starting out with regular cigarettes. They start out vaping, but I’ve actually read that the opposite can happen - this can actually lead to smoking cigarettes and developing a dependency. Bad stuff, kids! Don’t do it lol
Given the wide aerosol spray which occurs when flushing the toilet, putting the lid down before flushing, is not simply being gentlemanly but decent in every respect.
Question: does it count in a culture where it seems like everyone is wearing open-toed sandals like South and Southeast Asia? I'm being serious here, not a joke!
@@aldenhaverfield655 it makes more sense in warmer climates, but for the most part, it is not very sophisticated, it just looks like you're not putting an effort into being presentable. I also see it more as a "feminine" footwear, not very "manly". I've only worn them in the vicinity of a swimming pool.
Ghosting is permissible in my opinion when the girl is giving out dangerous cues that go way past simple incompatibility. If she is throwing out hints or acting like she is going to hurt herself, others, or even you...remove yourself forthwith.
A gentleman ALWAYS walks on outside of a sidewalk. NEVER steals or borrows a joke without acknowledging the source. (Oh, aren't I clever?) You say, " I stole that one... ."
I don't carry sissors to open ketchup packs. I have used teeth for many years. It works very well. Regular restaurants will use bottles. Fast food always ketchup packs. I don't care whether someone thinks I'm a gentleman. I'm at a restaurant to eat and leave.
I have cats, in the past I have had dogs. With either pets, leaving the toilet open can lead to a mess one must clean up later. Dogs, because drinking from the toilet is usually very messy, splashing water everywhere, with cats, well, the same actually, they however don’t so much drink from the toilet but rather may jump up on the toilet, fall in, and be surprised then run around and hide. So even when you’ve no female visitors, it’s simply good practice to get in the habit of closing the lid.
I enjoy the channel, James, and as a reference I would recommend those books sold in Brooks Brothers, such as ‘ A Gentleman Gets Dressed Up,’ and “How to be a Gentlemen.” Great stuff!
Great video, thank you for the positive, helpful message. In my small office, colleagues will cook heavens-knows what for lunch, then bring it into the office for the rest of us to smell the stench of overcooked broccoli, brussel sprouts, burnt popcorn, or whatever bitter foulness. My favourite part was saying a gentleman never opens a package with their teeth while opening a package with your teeth. I always wear socks with my sandals, so no worries there. Open-crotch trousers sounds interesting, I'll have to look into that. Additionally, men, be sure to sweep up all hairs after shaving or trimming, huge turn-off for a lady to encounter clippings of any sort. All the best & God bless from the east coast U.S.A.
Thank you for another excellent video. One of the many things I learned from my Mentor was to wipe off the basin and faucet after washing my hands . He said not doing this is like leaving the toilet unflushed. Another was to say to someone, after a sneeze and he/she says God bless you, thank you and you as well. Both of these usually gets a second look.
I was recently 'ghosted' for the first time ever and it was a horrible and sickening feeling, someone I'd known for a few years then suddenly vanished. She never gave me a reason and I didn't even do anything wrong or differently. Absolutely disgusting thing to do to anyone man or woman.
I live in Arizona and in the summer it’s sometimes over 110 degree’s outside. I’ve been known to wear from time to time my sperry flip flops to the grocery store and have had women actually approach me and compliment me on my impeccably pedicured feet.
I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing sandals, flip flops in the summer, especially during the day. I wouldn't do it in Manhattan, but somewhere in a tourist destination by the sea why not to wear it also in the city center, especially if the nails and heels are in order. It's different to go out like that to dinner or travel by plane.
Well, I am 54 years old and this good man has not told me anything new yet. But he sure is totally 110% Correct and doing good. Very good. This is the content the world needs today !!! as we are in a freefall to be like the Oger society....
James, good restaurants - where I live anyway - offer black napkins to diners to avoid the off-putting white lint on dark trousers from those white napkins.
Priceless. Love the 'unsolicited opinion': Note to self :) Always wondered.....why my 'incredibly knowledgeable' opinion 'offends' so often....😄 Now I understand, (and AGREE), conclusively. Thank you
Guilty on eating on the train. I have about an hour train commute to work, and I will usually eat something handheld for breakfast, like a sandwich. I am conscious of making the sandwich neat and non-smelly and avoiding a mess. This is also a full-size train car with forward-facing seats, where riders have some degree of separation and privacy. I would not eat on something like a subway or light rail. I am open to criticism. If you gents think I am being rude, let me know.
On Amtrak in Coach, you do not have anywhere to eat. Only people in the sleeper cars get to use the dining car. You should not be a slob. If you are on a 20 hour trip, you eat at your seat.
I have seen many ways for men to wear sandals with very nice clothing. Linen suits or dressy shirt and pants worn with a pair of Italian leather sandals looks very nice on a man who takes good care of his feet, which all gentlemen should do. Men have worn sandals for centuries. They can certainly still do so in a stylish manner on a night out. It just takes confidence.
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As a 16 year old, living in a world where everything and everyone is just so stupid, brain rotting and even down right irritating, this is refreshing to watch. I am happy that persons like you still exist that values the truly valuable and polite ways of living. Thank you for uploading these videos and i pray that you can keep making these videos and maybe, just maybe, create the generation of gentlemen that you are seeking to create.
Where are the gentlewomen?
@@Michael-td3gz Once upon a time, they were plentiful. In 2024, they are an endangered species.
Keep your chin up sir and do not let the Dolts
get you down, for they are aplenty!
Live your best Life, by doing your Best... Always!
As a guy in my 40s, I’ve learned a few things over the years, and given some of the comments from the younger fellas on these types of channels, I see another pitfall - trying too hard to fit the gentleman mold or do whatever you think will attract women. Self-confidence and authenticity are more attractive than any clothing money could buy, so yes - take these tips as far as elevating your style, manners and etiquette - but incorporate them into your personality. Your primary goal shouldn’t be fitting whatever mold you think will win you attention from the ladies; it should be finding your authentic style that makes you feel great when you step out of the house. That will radiate so much more attractiveness than transparently trying too hard and likely failing
Bang on the money
Like so many things in life, do it first and foremost for yourself.
Great advice sir, I noted it
I absolutely agree with you. I do not intend for my channel to be 100% prescriptive or to insist that my way is the only way. I simply hope that my audience can use the ideal of being a 'gentleman' and being an attractive man as a way to improve their lives.
@@Gent.Z oh for sure, James. You do a great job. I also think it’s somewhat natural when guys are younger or just dipping their toes in a new lifestyle or approach to fashion. Kind of like when you’re first playing guitar you follow the tab books or lessons exactly, but as you gain confidence you start learning how to break the rules and incorporate the instruction into your own style
I particularly like the point of “a gentleman never misses an opportunity to brighten someone’s life with sincere and well meaning compliments “. I’ve been practicing it, but need to practice more.
Good luck out there. Once you begin sharing more compliments, it gives you a high that you'll just want more of.
I had recently given someone a compliment on their style of hat they wore that day. It was random and out of no where. I'm not sure how he felt, he thanked me with a smile but i felt great because it was a genuine compliment that i meant
...right you are mate, I'm in the same boat, except I keep gettin' slapped 🤔
It comes with being articulate, read and talk more, and you'll eventually be able to make a compliment on the spot right away.
It's most important to be authentic about it.
I'm at 72 year old man, and I think my mother for teaching me manners when I was a young child. It's just natural to me now. I appreciate your channel, and your challenge to help young man around the world. thank you
No loud phone calls in public!
And for fitness guys: putting the weights back after use!
And cleaning sweaty equipment.
Or allowing weights on a resistance trainer to slam down. Defies simple logic and ironically is confirmation to others in the vicinity you have an inability to control the weight you’re working with so lighten up !
Using a damn towel so not to leave your damn ass sweat stains all over the equipment
If you are strong enough to lift the weight. You are strong enough to put it away. Even if it's a leg press.
This is the first video I’ve seen with advice for men on etiquette and good manners. It’s really good to see.
Absolutely!
@@jackprarherjr7743 There has always been enormous pressure on and expectation of woman to be more attractive and to display better manners for males. The reverse has never been true for men.
I was taught to cover my mouth when I yawn. I see many people yawning without covering their mouth and it does not look nice.
Sneezing and coughing without covering the mouth is also horrible.
Seconded.
Look like hippos
I never understood what the problem is with yawning. I was taught so as well but now i wonder why. Yes sneezing and coughing are infectious and disgusting but what the fuck is the problem with yawning
@@ruv3n406I think it’s because people don’t like the look of inside your mouth
The toilet seat issue once started a civil war at my house so glad u mentioned it!
James, I'm almost 20 years older than you but I absolutely appreciate the work you do. Needless to say, I still learn something from every video of yours.
Never ask anyone "what are you doing tonight?" or "do you have plans tonight?" If they aren't busy then they feel obliged to accept or invent an excuse. Say "Would you like to do xyz tonight?" Then they can decide if they would like to join you or not.
So true.
Good idea. Don't be indecisive or wishy washy especially when asking a girl out on a date. She'll have the impression that you aren't confident or are uncertain.
That's usually more true when asking that of women
@@Chernochegger If you and they are straight I guess, but it does apply to anyone really
I would not say that too many "men" are wearing open towed footwear in the wrong settings. I would say that immature, socially inept males and various slobs are doing this. Zero class.
Let the attractive females with pretty feet wear the open towed footwear.
Hello, Gent Z!! I am a Gentle Woman and I enjoy your podcasts. So many things that you mention also apply to women. :) Please do a podcast giving ideas on where a Gentle Woman might meet Gentlemen. Thanks so much and keep up the glorious work! All the Best, Jo in Flagstaff, AZ
Young Sir. I like Your mission statement. Being a considerate Person is the first step to becoming a Gentleman. jimmy
@@jamestjomsland948 thank you
Man I love this guy, even though I’m only 14 years old, I still try to follow the things he says, but it is so great how he legitimately is trying to help people out and doesn’t beg for subs or likes or donations
Yes! Always lower the seat, close the lid and wash your hands after using the restroom. I've had to teach this to many younger people and I inform anyone who enters my home of these rules. If they do not show me and my home respect by following these simple rules, they are not welcome back. Thank you for teaching this etiquette, it should be common sense.
Please address men wearing baseball caps in an eating establishment or restaurant.
@jimflammer9370 I will NEVER wear a baseball cap. If I wear a hat, it is going to have a brim or be a flat hat.
Especially wearing it backwards.
Men don't seem to understand when it is appropriate to wear or take off their hats.
Djoo got a bee on your hat!
ANY hat. Take your hat off at the table!
I'm far too old to need reminding on some of these lessons, but I must admit I do. Thank you. I will try to do better.
These nine points are a starting point! They are the minimum that a gentleman would never do. I am thankful for a great Mom and Dad who taught e all these things while young! I am also very thankful for my training in the Boy Scouts which also built my character.
I'm onboard with your recommendations. The one that really irritates me is the loud playing of content over your phone in public areas. And loud conversations over the speakerphone feature as well!
The best suggestion, in my opinion, is the one about giving sincere compliments. Spreading positivity is making it more likely to come back to us. Thank you for having the courage of teaching what too many people believe is outdated, or even sign of weakness.
One thing young men used to do is always walk with a woman on the traffic side of the sidewalk so u can protect her if a car jumps the curb. Of course it is to protect her but also couples didn't know if she was with child as soon as they do today so u r probably protecting her and a baby
That’s a great point and very necessary. I always did this in my youth and even now in crowded and/or high traffic areas. My wife appreciates it!
Very good examples. I agree to everything.
I love these videos. It is about common sense, it is about being well behaved, it is about being thoughtfull and respectfull in the small, everyday things. It is so basic and yet so important.
Thank you. You're right, almost everything I say in my videos is common sense. But in today's world, it's necessary. The small gestures make a big difference.
I’m in my 70s, and I’m still learning.
A rude behaviour a lot of people do in my area, but shouldn't be done by a gentleman is hurrying to grab a seat on public transport as soon as the doors open. For instance, almost everytime I am at the subway and I want to exit the train, as soon as the doors open and people from the inside want to get out, a lot of people from the outside hurry to grab a seat, without letting the other people exit. When travelling with any form of public transport, a gentleman always sits on any side of the doors, waits till everyone gets out, and then he enters.
~Tudor.
Good advice man, but I would like you to tell me what elegant wallet you could recommend me.
Bro, almost nobody talks about that and that elevates your outfit, my Vionentus smart400 I think could be a good option
I feel like you are forgetting how important accessories are for a man, thanks, I'll check it out.
I hope it helps you
thank you
A Gentleman carries a Classy Monely clip, with notes. Never change :)
Napkin rule can be difficult. My rule is that I always put a napkin made of cloth on my lap, but not paper napkins.
Thanks James, you are making better men of us!
After watching your vids for many months because I’m interested to hear what a younger guy will say on these topics, I must say that your channel is a pre-req for young men or anyone with gaps to fill. Keep doing this good and important work. -Chris
Thank you very much, Chris
Great thoughts James. On the dining out, I do the two napkin routine. One for my lap and one to dab at my mouth as needed. The establishments that I frequent now supply this automatically for me.
Regarding thing 2: It's a good idea to carry a small pocket knife. I remember when my grandfather encountered a "frustration sealed package". Without any reaction he simply took out his pocket knife and made short work of it. Not only did it do the job but it looked suave. I've carried a pocket knife ever since. It also impresses the ladies when you can come to their aid opening a package or removing a tag.
It's cool, my friend. There's no shame in being a former Scout.
I would love to.see an army of men like yourself...your probably the last of the best
Very nice jacket, James. Nice fit and color.
Napkins!
I certainly put them on my lap, however I very often catch a drip of something of other midway down on my chest. DOH!
I’m aware as to how some people tuck napkins in at their neck, but that always looks rather childish, albeit much more efficient.
Always replace both seat and lid down at the end.
In regards to your tip on dinning. It's also a gentlemanly gesture to wait until everyone or the one you are dining with is ready to eat before you begin eating. In other words, do not touch any part of your meal unless your guest(s) also have the opportunity to indulge as well.
A gentleman also doesn’t beg his viewers to give a like or subscribe unlike many other TH-camrs 😉
A gentleman also doesn't beg for likes in the comments
(The, if you agree
👇 types of comments)
@@Speedster428 A gentleman doesn't comment on another gentleman's comment
@@BreaktimeBrian huh?
Or uses an very affected, pretentious phony accent!
1) Vapes
2) Opens something with his teeth
3) Eats on public transport
4) Wears open toe footwear anywhere except the beach or pool
5) Eats a meal without a napkin on his lap
6) Gives his unsolicited opinions on contentious topics
7) Leaves the toilet seat up
8) Ghosts
9) Never pays compliments
If ghosting is ungentlemanly, I know no men.
10) Making shortcut lists of video content in the comments.
the napkin on the lap never made any sense to me. Fk that
Honestly the only way I can open Aquafina canned bottles are my teeth
Thank you gentlemen
I enjoyed this video, but it occured to me how many of the behaviours on this list are simply a matter of good manners. Obviously, there is a close alignment between gentlemanly behaviour and good manners, but it is striking, and regrettable, how many people seem to regard good manners as optional today. Keep up the good work, James.
I think part of the problem is that social media is cancelling social skills
Great content bro, Love and appreciation from Australia 🇦🇺 ❤
Quite right about eating on public transport!
I like this channel
Please button the second button of the dress shirt😊
A gentleman never asks for help opening a packet of ketchup.
Yup, in fact a gentleman does not eat ketchup at all !
A gentleman carries a fancy pocket knife.
A big sign of a true gentleman is one who's alone in a room, Farts, and says "Excuse Me".
@@cpellercpeller5463 Actually, a true gentleman would sit on the toilet just to fart and then wipe.
@@sirslime1687 Except on hot dogs. But never mustard.
No elbows on the table while eating and covering your mouth when yawning.
Two things I've learned as a child, but aren't considered a matter of course.
Same here, and I get mocked for it. Apparently being a semi-polished Nigerian Gentleman is considered "bougie" and a reason to be outcast. I guess my parents and school wasted their time 🤷🏾♂️🫤
👍🏽 That's a well fitted Jacket
The one about religion and politics rings true to me. I used to always discuss religion and politics at work. It became a common thing with me. I’ve since stopped that almost entirely, unless asked by a close friend.
I read in a post years ago about a group of friends who got together and the topic of a common friend came up among them. They all agreed he was such a likable person but they couldn’t pinpoint why. Why did everyone unanimously like him?
Well, they realized it was because he was never opinionated about things. He never got angry with people and people never got angry toward him pushing his beliefs unto others.
That story resonated with me and since, I’ve not gotten political with people at work. It’s given me a lot of peace of mind and over the years, I’ve gotten along with more people.
Thank you for the toilet 🚽 seat lesson, from all the ladies ❤😊
THANK. YOU.
I will always remember having instruction from my mother about leaving the toilet seat down. She was a stickler for it!
There was however one exception, when bleach was put in the bowl. Seeing the lid up always meant that you needed to flush before use!
I tried vaping last year, but quickly realised it's not for me. Religion and politics can be hot topics, and I personally have no interest in politics as it is.
On top of wiping after missing the target, I once learned that it was a good idea to wipe the “tip” after urinating. It is so basic and yet so hygienic. I don’t know if anyone cares but yeah, highly recommend it.
When it comes to vaping, a gentleman recognizes his vices and works to rid himself of them. If you're an ex-smoker, keep going, you can quit. But it's also gentlemanly to not expose others to your vices. If you have to vape, maybe keep it at home until you can quit
I agree, some men can have a hard time quitting smoking, vaping in this case is better than the cold smell of cigarettes
If used to quit smoking I have less of a problem with it. But I see that most young men these days just vape as a vice itself.
@@Gent.Z yeah I don’t think most people under 30 these days are starting out with regular cigarettes. They start out vaping, but I’ve actually read that the opposite can happen - this can actually lead to smoking cigarettes and developing a dependency. Bad stuff, kids! Don’t do it lol
Vaping! How about drinking, using drugs, weed, mushrooms, vaping smells waaaay better than sig.sticks. come on, your off track.
Gentlemen should minimize cursing
Absolutely wonderful! thank you
Placing the napkin in one's lap has become so uncommon, I've had people ask me where my napkin went , and if I need another one.
We call a vaping device a *'Douche pipe'*
hahaha its like a lollipop for grown ups
We use ‘douche flute’, same ballpark😄
"Fruit flute" in my area..
Excellent video!! Thank you!
I was taught that a gentleman does not ask if something is “free”, but rather it is gentlemanly to ask if it is “complimentary “.
Given the wide aerosol spray which occurs when flushing the toilet, putting the lid down before flushing, is not simply being gentlemanly but decent in every respect.
Very well done, James! ✨
Men who wear flip-flops in the middle of the city just comes across as slobs.
@a.c.f.2423 Any sandals I wear have to have a strap across the heel. I can't stand the fwap fwap fwap of flip-flops.
@@johnhudelson2652 ME too! Put a few people together walking in flip-flops and it sounds like a flock of birds.
Question: does it count in a culture where it seems like everyone is wearing open-toed sandals like South and Southeast Asia? I'm being serious here, not a joke!
@@aldenhaverfield655 it makes more sense in warmer climates, but for the most part, it is not very sophisticated, it just looks like you're not putting an effort into being presentable.
I also see it more as a "feminine" footwear, not very "manly". I've only worn them in the vicinity of a swimming pool.
@@marks.7593 very sexy when girls do it, though.
Ghosting is permissible in my opinion when the girl is giving out dangerous cues that go way past simple incompatibility. If she is throwing out hints or acting like she is going to hurt herself, others, or even you...remove yourself forthwith.
A Gentleman should never pick his teeth with a bayonet in the middle of a firefight
A true Gent also polishes his ammunition
@@sputnikone6281 at least take the bayonet of the gun first....
@@KlausKokholmPetersen that is an excellent idea!
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@@sputnikone6281Real Men pick their teeth with bayonets attached to their guns
No visual example of the napkin thing but a full display of the bathroom lid mannerism 😂
A gentleman ALWAYS walks on outside of a sidewalk. NEVER steals or borrows a joke without acknowledging the source. (Oh, aren't I clever?) You say, " I stole that one... ."
I don't carry sissors to open ketchup packs. I have used teeth for many years. It works very well. Regular restaurants will use bottles. Fast food always ketchup packs. I don't care whether someone thinks I'm a gentleman. I'm at a restaurant to eat and leave.
Can I call you Dracula?
You sound like the kind of man I warn my daughter about. Classless.
@@lucwolf1 Pardon me sir, Do you have any Grey Poupon?
7:22 Hahahaha, I wasn't expecting comedy but it's brilliant.
I have cats, in the past I have had dogs. With either pets, leaving the toilet open can lead to a mess one must clean up later. Dogs, because drinking from the toilet is usually very messy, splashing water everywhere, with cats, well, the same actually, they however don’t so much drink from the toilet but rather may jump up on the toilet, fall in, and be surprised then run around and hide.
So even when you’ve no female visitors, it’s simply good practice to get in the habit of closing the lid.
Fantastic video. I especially appreciate #9.
I enjoy the channel, James, and as a reference I would recommend those books sold in Brooks Brothers, such as ‘ A Gentleman Gets Dressed Up,’ and “How to be a Gentlemen.” Great stuff!
Yes! Those books helped smooth some of my rougher edges.
Great video, thank you for the positive, helpful message. In my small office, colleagues will cook heavens-knows what for lunch, then bring it into the office for the rest of us to smell the stench of overcooked broccoli, brussel sprouts, burnt popcorn, or whatever bitter foulness.
My favourite part was saying a gentleman never opens a package with their teeth while opening a package with your teeth.
I always wear socks with my sandals, so no worries there. Open-crotch trousers sounds interesting, I'll have to look into that.
Additionally, men, be sure to sweep up all hairs after shaving or trimming, huge turn-off for a lady to encounter clippings of any sort. All the best & God bless from the east coast U.S.A.
Thank you for another excellent video. One of the many things I learned from my Mentor was to wipe off the basin and faucet after washing my hands . He said not doing this is like leaving the toilet unflushed. Another was to say to someone, after a sneeze and he/she says God bless you, thank you and you as well. Both of these usually gets a second look.
Amen to that… Gentlemen clean up after themselves not to mention it’s simple courtesy
I was recently 'ghosted' for the first time ever and it was a horrible and sickening feeling, someone I'd known for a few years then suddenly vanished. She never gave me a reason and I didn't even do anything wrong or differently. Absolutely disgusting thing to do to anyone man or woman.
My friend this is a really informative video but I can’t help myself from laughing on 7:24 that reaction was priceless 😂, keep up the good work
Thank you kindly. Have a good one eh!
I live in Arizona and in the summer it’s sometimes over 110 degree’s outside. I’ve been known to wear from time to time my sperry flip flops to the grocery store and have had women actually approach me and compliment me on my impeccably pedicured feet.
I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing sandals, flip flops in the summer, especially during the day. I wouldn't do it in Manhattan, but somewhere in a tourist destination by the sea why not to wear it also in the city center, especially if the nails and heels are in order. It's different to go out like that to dinner or travel by plane.
Spot on James
Well, I am 54 years old and this good man has not told me anything new yet. But he sure is totally 110% Correct and doing good. Very good. This is the content the world needs today !!! as we are in a freefall to be like the Oger society....
James, good restaurants - where I live anyway - offer black napkins to diners to avoid the off-putting white lint on dark trousers from those white napkins.
Interesting point about napkins. I always use them when dining out and disposable napkins when eating at home.
I'm very impressed 👏
I love these videos. Even in my 40's I am still growing in gentlemanly behavior and I want to get my teenage son started off on the right foot.
I get a kick out of your vids; still relevant for men 4-5 generations removed from GenZ. Keep it up
Priceless. Love the 'unsolicited opinion': Note to self :) Always wondered.....why my 'incredibly knowledgeable' opinion 'offends' so often....😄 Now I understand, (and AGREE), conclusively. Thank you
Regarding to correct use of a toilet: Is it gentlemanlike to simply sit instead of stand when urinating?
In polite conversation it's often concidered crass to talk about personal money outside of necessity.
Thank you so much, as a 15 year old man. I have been in a dire need for more refinement
Would mean a lot of you could make a video about " how to reiterate what's going on in your mind " ... Love your content ❤
the suit is impeccable...who is the tailor if you dont mind my asking?
Dont eat your food until everyone has been brought their meal
Great video, very good points
Do you have any suggestion for gentleman book?
Thank you for your video. Take care!
When are you writing your first book? I'd like to have a signed one if possible!
Guilty on eating on the train. I have about an hour train commute to work, and I will usually eat something handheld for breakfast, like a sandwich. I am conscious of making the sandwich neat and non-smelly and avoiding a mess. This is also a full-size train car with forward-facing seats, where riders have some degree of separation and privacy. I would not eat on something like a subway or light rail. I am open to criticism. If you gents think I am being rude, let me know.
On Amtrak in Coach, you do not have anywhere to eat. Only people in the sleeper cars get to use the dining car.
You should not be a slob. If you are on a 20 hour trip, you eat at your seat.
Hye dude im 12 and i watchthese videos to hell me improve my self as i get older (im still living my childhood to its fullest
A lesson I have learned is never to upstage the Grand Master. If someone shows you his Fiat, do not tell him about your neighbor's Ferrari.
I have seen many ways for men to wear sandals with very nice clothing. Linen suits or dressy shirt and pants worn with a pair of Italian leather sandals looks very nice on a man who takes good care of his feet, which all gentlemen should do. Men have worn sandals for centuries. They can certainly still do so in a stylish manner on a night out. It just takes confidence.
Neither lady nor gentleman drinks straight from the bottle when in a restaurant or in polite company.
A gentleman never puts on speakers in public (music or phone)