How To Get a Girl Interested Over Text - Guide To Building Investment
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PlayingWithFire another fire vid, btw I’ve been tryna received the e-book but I never got an email to download it
Kwame Badasu Thanks man. Are you still having this issue
PlayingWithFire do you do one on one coaching?
@@slickcatricky7694 Yep hit us up here playingfire.com/contact
"My date tonight was boring as hell, all we talked about was me." - No Woman Ever
Lol very true
Bro this comment is golden
Not true. If you pick up face to face and date you know that women has to know something about you and feel there is something in common too. Otherwise they flake a lot.
THIS MAN IS A HERO honestly he simplified it so well im a way I can actually apply my own intelligence
Definitely sharing this with the bro's. We're all gonna elevate our game with you 2020!
Thanks man. Much appreciated
Facts or what
Don't keep it to yourself you'll be empowered
@@smeano1287 asshole mentality
stay virgins! this is actually awful advice
bro your videos are THE most helpful resources for text/dating app game. Been following a lot of tweeters in the manosphere but none give as much actionable advice as you do. Thx g. Keep pushing your content. It's definitely helping
Thanks man, glad to hear
Alex, you definitely deserve more recognition as well as John... too many pickup coaches out there giving general advice or bad advice which only gets you so far and asking yourself what to do next. Love the breakdowns and best to get it right the first time. "Practice doesn't make perfect, perfect practice makes perfect" (only good/decent coaches giving great general advice that can be applied to yours or John's system are Coach Kyle or AMS but you two are far more superb than them imo because even Kyle praises John) Thanks lots hope you stick around
Thanks man, I appreciate that!
John who?
Leo John Anthony Lifestyle but it looks like John and Alex are no longer friends... they dont feature each other on their channels anymore
Jonathan Urbano we’re still friends. That was purely for business reasons
@@PlayingWithFireChannel Any vids coming this week bro?
Watched the whole vid, you got some good text game my guy
Roman Gav Thanks man
@@PlayingWithFireChannel I'll definitely have to give back more in some way to your channel. Helping me out a bunch
Roman Gav Help get the word out about this channel. That’ll be thanks enough :)
This is like the adult version of story time and I’m all for it. Super entertaining
Perfect way to put it😂😂😂👍👍
Wow, you made me realize I am actually on the right path. Like with everything, there's always room for improvement, and you definitely helped me make mental connections that I needed to be more successful. Thanks
Glad to hear man
LOL. Quote of the year... "people don't give a shit about you". That sums up what is wrong with dating in this time.
Tell me about it, I got a couple of matches but they still mean and doesn't look interested that much. I think most of them just want to play around and in need of some kind of attention.
No, this is a fact of life. Ppl like to talk about themselves bcuz they have a lot to say. The book "How to win friends and influence people" has been in publication for over 60 years and it teaches that too
@@hammads9045 I fully believe it, but doesn’t this become a paradox though? If I just wanna talk about myself, the person talking to me won’t care, but if they just talk about themselves, I won’t care.
used your tricks 8 months ago and our wedding is about 3 months from now
thanks bro❤️❤️
Still happily married?
My analysis on your texting (with Karla):
- Hola linda (Hi pretty in Spanish)
- bad opener, not funny, doesnt give her much to go off of, feels like a pickup line, wouldnt work on non Spanish speakers
- 2nd opener, also bad, she doesnt respond much to
- It takes him 3 tries (messages) to finally get her to start talking.
- "Haha is that one of your turn ons"
- Her last text was kinda ambiguous on what turned her on, so you kinda went along with it without knowing the implication
- She already said it was hot, there is no need to basically reask again
- That's why her next response was a rejection of your premise
- "I do like me a sexy nerd" - good job of rewarding investment
- Good job of maintaining on the topic (nerds) that got her interested/most investment
- Text about reading harry potter (she cool story bro'ed you, she didnt give a shit)
- DO NOT retext the same day after she doesnt respond to previous text.
- Also DO NOT try to seed something when she didnt give a shit about your previous text.
- "Do you like wine" - dont really like this text
- closed ended question
- kinda expected answer from her
- not very interesting
- She becomes super down when he suggests wine?
- This part doesnt make sense because she at first doesnt show much investment, only showed it when talking about being nerds, and then ignores his Harry potter crap. He then double texts a few hours later by seeding something, and somehow she becomes "super down"?
Either this is a one-in-a-million girl or she is really DTF
- Then she escalates (logistically) by asking "Where do you live"
- This girl must be dtf from the start and her value must be lower than his
- Starts ping ponging about what days they are free (bad texting because it lowers her state, you wanna find out when she's free with the least amount of texts as possible dont want a constant back and forth)
- The constant rehashed compliments about her (You're fucking sexy...)
- not witty
- she's probably heard it a million times
- too much investment from you
- Random as fuck about the wine and massage oil
- "Of course" text sucks
- notice how she reinitiates the conversation
- Doesnt lead on finding the best night that theyre both available. He just passively suggests it and she leads it
- Logistics: He then doesnt get a definitive answer from her, which is bad because it leaves it up in the air and gives her alot of leeway to flake
- Politics: Shits on something that she cares about (thats a no no) obviously if she brings something up like that, she cares somewhat about it. So shitting on it does not help your case
- "getting pretty serious" text sucks because she doesnt get it, thats why she asked for clarification (if you joke/tease and she has to ask what you meant, your joke/tease sucked!)
- the ping ponging (back and forth) on what app/messaging to use is shitty and shows she wasnt as interested because she initially asked for IG
- She completely ignores his first 3 messages on iMessage
- Hows your Monday going? - If this isnt the boringest, most played out question on Earth....
- "Imagining it now..." -implication's not clear, that's why she asked what you meant
- She obviously doesnt really care about the gym stuff, she probably doesnt even go to the gym, which contradicts you talking about keeping topics relevant
- "I can teach you some yoga" -kinda random, can see it a mile away that you are trying to setup some flirty/sexual imagery
- "Is it possible to bend that way?" -She basically threw you a bone and literally set herself up for that
- Do you smoke conversation was pretty boring
- "Fancy" - good response, simple, concise tease, which baited her to qualify herself (mightve been your best text the entire conversation)
Analysis: Your text game is pretty basic. Shitty openers that dont bait for much, took you 3 tries to start the initial conversation. You do a good job of staying on topics she is interested on. Your double texting and seeding date ideas come at the wrong time and she is only interested because she is DTF (and because of your looks). Your own analysis of your texting is also mediocre and you dont pinpoint your own mistakes, like why you had to double text a couple times.
***TLDR: Text game: 5/10. You are getting the girls based on your looks, and also on their level of DTF. You are getting them IN SPITE of your text game, not BECAUSE of your text game.
All you guys that are gassing this dude up and saying he has great text game obviously have never seen great text game. You guys will be sorely disappointed when you use the same kind of texting.
Now playing: Who asked (feat. Nobody)
How about instead of criticizing his text game you upgrade your image and use your "superior text game" to land more chicks. Such a beta male tactic trying to down play another mans success instead of optimizing your own strengths with women
Wtf?
@@Bill-wm8tf I think you forgot to tell everyone to visit your channel where you have videos showing how well your own texting game works
Thanks my belarussian brother! Today after watching your video opened one chick on tinder with one of your favourite lines - "You are just my type", and after a couple of messages got her number and set-up a date. Too bad I don't have my own place where we can split bottle of wine like you doing :)))))
Nice man, glad to hear!
Ammar Barri If you don’t have a place, get a hotel for one night or Airbnb or go to hers. Don’t give up or get a meet atleast ASAP so the lead doesn’t slip away. Remember, the leads slip away in most cases unless you haven’t locked her down. This is generally true in the case of American girls.
Getting a bit more attention! You guys deserve it.
꧁꧂ Thanks ;)
@@PlayingWithFireChannel lol the emoji
I've also had so many interactions that were boring as fuck and I had to make it entertaining. It was rare to have a girl who was also engaging and witty. Those were keepers for sure. But so many others were one word conversationalists. Sure some of it was because they had low interest but some were genuinely that boring and had nothing going on up there because they were definitely interested since they kept texting me after I stopped texting when I got bored.
Wow I just found your channel. This is top level original content
This is pure gold from an experienced player, this guy is a master
I find it's way easier to hook in English speaking countries and South America. Here in Germany it's like training in a 300G gravity chamber and when going to London, everything's so easy, like the gravity is just 10G
Dude, Im a German having lived abroad for ages. I agree, even tho some guys (I know) seem to make it work. But all in all, it is hard here.
The culture might be different there. More direct, hard to say since I’ve never been to Germany
Im german, too. Maaan it‘s such a huge difference. In english its so damn easy compared to german. I got the feeling that the german language has so many words that describe things so fucking detailed which is why you can talk a lot more non sense in english without having too much weight on your words.
pretty good skills u have there. really underrated channel
Thanks man
hahaha
Finally found someone that answers the questions I have in today’s age
I would add that the main thing you need to convey is that you are a busy person and not very available. He did this by saying Monday, which was like 4 days away. Then the girl thinks you have more important things going on than her and becomes curious as to what you are into. It also pulls at her chase instinct. Its much better than all the other desperate guys saying let's go out, lets meet up, watchu doin tonite??
This guy is definitely smart and cultured. I just cant imagine myself extending convos that much. I'd probably try to send memes or some generic questions... like u into sports ? etc...
This guy is a living legend.
for virgins who want to stay virgins
Love that video, good job alex
Thanks man
I haven't f#$ked up a txt situation I cared about since I found your channel. It's a pity I didn't find it a few months earlier, before I blew it with my long-time crush!
Yao, you couldn't have done it worst and you are the guy making this video. Mom, clearly with self confidence issues and AVAILABLE AF ! You shared no interests, no passions, nothing despite the poor girl feeding bunch of information which you wisely ignored and went for the sex stuff way too easy way too keen way to desperate. At this point, you have more chances of selling air than game!
Hey Master Alex
Big thank you for your content, found many things I get to improve.
Another thumb up from UK!
Good content I don’t get all this chat with chicks over tinder personally I aim to get her out in 5 messages. Works well for me
Thanks man
this guy is so good
So the first girl,Karla,not to judge or anything but don't you think saying "nice tats" or "sexy tats" is kinda...meh. Like I have a few as well and when someone tells me "nice tats" im like "yeah ok cool" (maybe im just a dick haha)
What im saying is how is that different to a guy walking up to a girl and saying "hey you're beautiful let me buy you a drink",she heard that many times.
Again,just curious,and for the record when it comes to game so far your tips have gotten me more results than any other pua so keep it up amigo!
Kon Linakis Yea I agree to a point. It is a bit cliche. I basically wanted to direct the convo towards tattoos and that was the path I saw
On all fairness. Guys with extensive tattoos usually won't shut up about them. Why they have them, what they mean, how much it did/n't hurt etc.
Don't get me wrong, I myself have over 104 hours of "needle in skin" time... And having hung around guys who have as much work as I do, it just became one of those "Fucking enough, already, man." When I'm hearing the story about a guy's Reaper tattoo for the 50th time, it's definitely a thing.
yeah, totally shitty chatting, boring as fuck, I would not bother to respond
She called you “yo?” Oof. I hate it when a woman calls me that
Definetly a coloquial thing
How does this channel not have millions of subscribers?
Man this is great content, thanks for sharing.
Good advice bro keep it up on doing more about this topic bro👊
Old school. The best videos. Love the old days
You're a king
Learning a lot!
Glad to hear
Wondering was will have happened if you were my high school friend, would have dated the whole school. I like your texting game man!
Lots of weed smoking, I was a Virgin in high school
It's funny I said this! cause during high school days I was so invested in church and we were not allowed to date. I had to wait till I went to study somewhere else away from where I grew up 🥴
Swag game dude. Your awesome just subscribed.
This video blew my mind. Thank you.
Well gentlemen, use these lines while they’re still original bc this channel is only gonna grow. Pretty soon, Alex gonna have the whole world saying “hey trouble”
Hahaha, exactly what I was thinking
Great content ! How many girl do you text with...there are just too many girls and too few days in a week
Quality problems!!!
I’d say on an average week I’m texting between 10-20 girls. It really doesn’t take much time for me though
@@PlayingWithFireChannel Thx, dunno if counting just new leads or your rotation and not closed girls, but still the biggest bottleneck is that you can have only 5 dates in a week, if you want have at least 2 days just for yourself.
i get the general idea. like you said value and relevance. you wanna keep it equal or you have lil more value but at the same time you wanna be teasy and funny but not overly so
Yes. But that's equivalent to a girl saying "Be yourself. Be interesting". There isn't much to go off of people who're trying to learn this
Love the Always Sunny reference lol.
Great show!
My text game is getting better, thank you
bernie was not a bad apple well done!
Can you please share the link with the screenshot of your chats please.
Any girls out there watching this feeling confused?
Why the confusion?
@@PlayingWithFireChannel as a woman, this makes me feel not at ease. This strategy definitely does not work for all females out there.
@@elliewilliams4197 You must be the only one then
I was having a brain fart talking to this chic on POF, I used a few of yr go to lines......hook, line, and sinker!! Thx bro!!!
This shit actually works. This guy knows what hes doing
Hey man loving your videos! Super informative and I've learned a ton so far. Is there a reason you prefer text/Whatsapp over instagram?
Thanks man. I find WhatsApp is a lot more personal, harder to get lost in the shuffle
@@PlayingWithFireChannel Isnt it better to add them on IG so they get to see your stories/pics and see that you're a valuable guy? And also to confirm she looks like her Tinder pics
WhatsApp is the best, even better than text and Snapchat... I honestly have no idea why so few people use it in America
I just found about your channel and I really like your videos so far but I have 1itching question that i really need help with and its : how do i hook a really really difficult girl ..im talking about a 10/10 dancer girl that works at club and probably meet 10 guys at least a day so any tips on how to catch her ? she is REALLY THE TYPE YOU ONLY FIND ONCE A YEAR OR 2 !!!
have you started lifting mate? Arms looking a bit muscular.
I have yes, glad it’s showing
Man, you are a pro. Just bought your course. Wish me luck because I used to suck at dating.
Good luck man
Was the course worth it?
Man the girl is replying with just answers to my questions and not asking anything back. She’s not ghosting me but also isn’t trying to add anything to the conversation. I don’t get it
Could be a number of things. Maybe she’s just trying to get to know you better or she doesn’t know how to flirt better, you can make a post with the screenshots in the forums and I’ll take a look
PlayingWithFire Hey man I appreciate the help. I’ll post the screenshots now
Hey, first, you are a god at this advice. But how would you respond to the intro text "how are yoi" from the girl. I dont wanna bore them with some shit like "Im chillin" where cluld it go to carry on the initiate the suggestion of meeting up and sex?
You always want to be painting the picture in her head that you're a high-value guy, so you could say something like "Doing fucking amazIng, just had a workout, you?" etc.
Alright bros, I'm going in. Wish me luck. I'll update in a month
solid material, relevant navigating women in 2020 via online BS
Peruvian girl? NICE! Saludos desde Perú, crack
@@unknowninfinium4353 yep
Damn she got me good with that strap on joke. Kinda rare to talk to anyone on the apps who is actually witty.
This was a great video man! Really fucking solid
Thanks!
It all looks like a game and if you wanna just meet someone, it can be fun, but if you want a relationship, forget all that shit. As woman I can tell you, this "high or low or middle investment" isn't accurate at all. You have to make it about yourself sometimes, you have to adjust to the person. I, personally, would be sooo bored after conversation like the first one. And the best you can do? Be funny, but respectful, laid-back but caring
Good shot
Radhakrishnan RamManohar thank you
Good examples☝️🤝
Thanks man
How many days or weeks would you continue texting before you finally just said forget it. Or do you just keep going as long as they keep responding
Bucky Barnes Really depends on the girl and the situation
@@PlayingWithFireChannel give an example?
Life Abroad I guess the first thing is if she is exciting or intriguing him enough for him to want to put the time in to talking to her. If a girl is playing a little hard to get the challenge may excite him but after a while if she keeps playing games it may get boring and therefore he would stop talking to her. But like he said there are many different reasons or situations regarding why he does or doesn’t talk to a girl
Those tinder screenshots, was this from 5 years ago the text speech bubbles format looks old
“talked about Spanish n shit” idk why but that line was gold
5:51 I did this where I was planning our future date with a girl I was chatting to, which is something we'd done before, and she got freaked out by it. Does this mean she's just averse to a proper relationship?
Need more context man. How long have you been seeing her? How many times have you seen here? Have you had sex?
your text game is top-notch brp
Thanks man
Dude you are the man
I like most of what you say and it is very educational which I take onboard however I just don’t agree with the persisting triple texting is over the top you look desperate plus it’s pedestalizing her, why would u even waste your time chasing a girl, no problem with a follow up but with chasing is simpy. Bless from uk 🇬🇧
I love America for these reasons, you can basically be like this guy, do what you like with confidence of course (Congo style) and get PAID lol ;) fucking love it!
63k subscribers, waiting for the 3rd LR
3rd LR?
@@PlayingWithFireChannel in the description!
Now I wanna download Tinder again and try these texting methods. Just gotta put a really good bio and take some amazing pictures
Do it up man
All you need is social media . Dating apps scream that you're hungry. Think about it
@@smeano1287 or thirsty lool
fucking amazing what youre doing bro
Thanks man
Dont say youre sexy for a mom, they take that as a backhanded compliment. her reaction to its kinda awkward so it shows
Actually, backhanded compliments are SUPER effective. They can't get upset, because it was a "compliment". When, it was a diss. Which established that you are high-value and you can be picky, and she needs to measure up.
@@TedNewkirk they know what you're doing though, negging's been around for years. They'll notice that you think the only way to get them is to lower their confidence which will make you seem low value. Just avoid compliments all together.
this guy is smooth
Top notch
Thanks man
Dude did you buy the casting couch couch?
Yoi gave her validation on text 2? I🤨
clever, someone is doing this to me now.
I’m always getting overweight girls and girls that smoke on drugs and has a lot of issues on tinder and other dating apps can you help me with that issue or talk face to face ?
Yea man make a post with your current profile and situation to forums.playingfire.com and I’ll take a look
That is Tinder my friend just go out and approach them .
So i am chatting girls on a dating site litmatch and they are just random girls and you can really see their profiles it's like a blind date online so every text i started is Hi but after that i just went blank. Please help me out.
Never heard of this dating site. Just sign up on tinder, bumble and hinge
@@PlayingWithFireChannel the site is kinda famous in Asia
Is it sexy or not if the girl loves talking about cars?? ..
"saying stupid shit" depends of every girl, what she responds to.
Do you do one on one coaching?
Bottle of vino 😂
Where's that one comment that sums it all up in a one sentence genius?
we need a 2023 update!
Why again should you not go to her neighborhood? Is that bad for the frame?
Lower chance of hooking up
@@XZAceXZ Why lower chance of hooking up?
If she asks about politics she's obviously interested and the absolute last thing you wanna say is I don't give a shit... look at what her response is. That could have been avoided. You could have just side tracked it by saying that's a good question, I'll have to tell you about it when we can chat in person.
It’s so hard to know what’s right and wrong with so many guys making videos like these
Stick to pwf and you’ll be set :)
I have eveluted a lot
Should you only do this with women in your area or can you do this with women in other states
Probably all, but I don’t see the point of doing it with chicks in other states
PlayingWithFire thanks bro
What do you say if she doesn't like wine
Kendall broads I tell ya 🤦🏻♂️
Hey man, I been texting this girl but with the Coronavirus shit she’s stuck in Europe atm (I’m in the UK). Whenever she responds there’s high interest but she’s been taking longer than usual, a day or 2. It’s kinda shit because it’s obvious I’m not gonna see her for at least a while but she’s rly hot, how do I keep it going?
Yea that’s a very tricky situation, personally I only go for chicks in my city. what is your ultimate goal here
PlayingWithFire she’s from my city but she studies abroad and she’s potentially relationship material. We would have seen each other a few times but for this corona stuff. Even then, if t went well she says flights to her place are cheap af
There’s really not much you can do until this whole thing blows over, if you really like this chick you can do video calls for now
If this guy can get chicks with a head like that any of you can!
is the last example available yet?
Ah i see...I need the casting couch to get the girls.