American dad scolds kid in Mandarin, becoming an internet sensation in China
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An American man was filmed shouting at his daughter in Mandarin, exasperated that she was not doing her homework. His Chinese wife said he was mimicking how she usually scolds their child when she procrastinates on her assignments.
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When she gets older, she'll regret not learning mandarin.
why would she? she lives in the u.s., the mother is just forcing it on her for the mother's sake, not the daughter's...she mentioned nothing about how it'd be helpful in the future
Im half chinese half british and im regret not learning chinese :( lost too much great jobs in china dang it
@@R0DSTER lol ignorance at its finest
@@lukchen9403 and why do you need them in china exactly?...i'm obviously ignoring the fact that you're making up stuff 😂
@@MrShadowrizer must be, must be
For those wondering about him shouting at her, he's clearly acting.
Look at her face. She's smiling.
She knows he's not serious.
It's also hard to take him seriously when his pronunciation sounds like that XD
1:58
@@katb607 yeah you've never been in an asian household😭
@@harutodoroki9918 just because its acceptable in some households doesn't mean that its ethical.
@@katb607 well different cultures draw the line differently, just like how religions differ we would have different opinions on what exactly is "ethical". It's not even that deep honestly,
Americans: this is horrible parenting?!
Asians: She got it easy...
So true
She was just laughing. Like you ain't as bad as mom
Wait, they are her parents? I thought they are her grandparents or something
@ThatOneAsianBroChick An ear pull is nothing compared to my mother's tsinelas and bakus😭😭
to be scolded is still easy. glare is second, slap and spanking is third, rod and etc is just devil
Have her watch cartoons in Mandarin. Have her listen to whatever music is popular over there currently. Depending on where you are in the states you may be able to find a Mandarin speaking community close by. If there is a community there will be kids who speak Mandarin. Maybe set up play dates with them.
Yeah, I learn english from youtube videos (any videos, most of it are people playing game, not english learning one) with english language... Its more fun and natural.
Correct. Best way to learn a language is to surround yourself around people who speak that language.
Agreed :) let her be an active part of her maternal culture, and join in on the fun!
On the kids setting, I would hope. She's too young to learn the curse words. LoL 😆
I agree. Rote memorization is not the best way to learn a language, and she would benefit far more from being immersed in it by hearing it and reading it in an everyday context.
How every Asian person knows this wasn't serious:
Girl is smiling
Mom is recording
Dad is saying nonsense
YASS. i mean there's nothing wrong in this video. white parents are just too soft. wait till they enter a black/latinx/asian household XD
Pulkit Garg
What do you mean?
YES SOMEBODY SAID IT
@@pulkitgarg2754. That isn’t all true. Slavic moms are also very strict...
@@ghost.master343 he means white Americans bruh
If my mom was strict like this I would be speaking mandarin by now.
@Shawn Eshwara why not learn both?
Me too!!!
@Shawn Eshwara you could learn mandarin as well. I speak like 3 to 4 languages
@Shawn Eshwara Then learn speak Spanish. No need to learn mandarin
@@miaomiao07 Zen me yang-
Kid, you have NO idea how many novels, manhuas and movies you'll be missing in the future!
Don't be like me! Start to learn early!!
Ikr
Fr like you have to wait forever for the update! And MTL makes my brain go haywire.
preach! i need my update!
Agree, and the wait for update truly a pain
the Chinese novels 😭
She will appreciate her mother’s efforts after she grows up.
For all you ppl out there, the video says that the father was just mimicking the mother disciplining her daughter. You can see that she's really a daddy's girl, like most daughters are.
I know right, people don't even listen
@@aesukiix7705 what do you thinking "mimicking" means? what does that say about the mother's behaviour?...some people don't even think 🤷♂️
@@R0DSTER ya your mother can never discipline you, raise her voice or teach you things that will benefit you later in life.
She is supposed to keep you in a bubble, give you anything you asked for, never teach you life lessons or just teach them to run away from anything they don't like. That sounds like a very enriching life to live for! 🤦♂️
R0DSTER kids can’t always get what they what. sometimes mother or father knows better. asians are very strict with their kids because they want the best for them (not saying that it’s the best way of discipline but it’s better than some/most).
I'm a momy girl😂
As an Asian I’m surprised her mom didn’t scold her for having that attitude when she was reading the words. My mom would’ve scolded me once I read the second word. For all of you saying that the mom is too harsh, this is probably how she was raised and how she will continue to raise her child. I find nothing wrong with how she’s doing it and I actually think that she’s being quite lenient on her daughter as an Asian. Her daughter is obviously just being a child and crying because she doesn’t want to study or learn another language that she is unfamiliar with. The mom probably can’t speak Chinese at home too much either, cos then the dad doesn’t understand.
edit: thank you for all the responses and different perspectives!
I think the biggest problem with Asian parenting is thinking you know best for your child and their interests don't matter. Maybe when they are young this parenting is okay, but if I got this style of parenting around the age of 13 I would rebelled and done some terrible things.
Kate Yeow I agree with you, but we do not know how the mother actually acts when the daughter is being disobedient, since this was filmed, so she was probably being nice for the camera.
Same I thought the mom was going easy on her
i would´ve either gotten slapped or a WoOpInG wih a belt or wire for mines
Green tea Is green is that considered harsh? My parents are old white aussies and I tempered getting spanked by a particular plastic spoon. It only happens a couple times as I recall and not past 6.
Just wondering if corporal punishment is seen as normal as it in some parts here.
Every child should learn at least a second language in my opinion.
Why is that??
@@KirksCORNER-1983 learning a second language helps develop a child's mind even further with multi-tasking, memory and comprehension. Do you disagree?!
@@or1750 Maybe??. But so do other things, not just learning a pointless second language.
@@KirksCORNER-1983 seems you are bothered to Learn. Your ignorance and bitterness is troubling at that. But I don't know what troubles you've had or dealing with that you believe Learning a second language is pointless. Learning doesn't take away from Your identity. Many times I've been in situations where even knowing how to say "HELLO" in a different language(Korean or Vietnamese) can brighten someone's day or A sign of respect.
@@or1750 If you say so..
I'm born to an Australian parents and a Greek parent and they forced me to take Mandarin lessons since I was 8. I would never complain bc I had very strict tiger parents and complaining was a BAD idea. But man did I hate taking Greek school on a Sunday and Mandarin on a Saturday, and then when i hit highschool Korean too. Now I'm grateful bc I speak Mandarin, Greek and Korean and being bilingual is super helpful, I just wish it wasn't at the cost of a well nurtured relationship with my parents.
Stop saying she was "depressed", watch the whole video before you comment. The dad was mimicking her mom for fun and wasn't being serious, if you look closely the child was smiling, and that's not even abuse, and stop calling it abuse, it's not.
Oh and, there's a thing called discipline
@Aesukiix typical boomers always making a fuss over something so small
yes...mimicking the mother's behaviour, what does that tell you? she was smiling cause she knew it wasn't real at that time...1:58 is she smiling here?
@@R0DSTER It's called discipline, you can't just be like "omG!1!1! im going to spoiL you!!!112 i no make you study XD", does it matter if she's smiling when she studies?
Imagine calling that abuse, asian parents are worse
dont forget they in video buddy
@@aesukiix7705 yeah and to be honest it isn't as bad as people thought actually :) Yeah my mom scold me but hey she aren't grumpy all the time XDD
The mother has her priorities set right. If only her daughter was a little more cooperative... Learning a second language is difficult, but the benefits are great.
But the "poor girl" is exhausted. Poor thing 😒
@Christina Reynolds oh yeah by spending her day on her phone
@Christina Reynolds Jeez you lazy parent! That's because of educating the way you do that people go crazy on supermarkets to buy toilet paper in bulk to prevent themselves from coronavirus.
@Christina Reynolds Sorry about my writing, it's because my parents allowed me spend my whole days on my cell phone when I was a child and I got a little dumb.
@Christina Reynolds oh, "that sounds very educated"!
This child may be half Chinese but she is 100% American when she's yelling at her parents. 🤦
My mom is Russian and I lived in Russia for the first 10 years of my life and I yelled even worse sometimes
[Insert chewed out racist cliché about lazy undisciplined Americans here]
It's okay to be smug and racist if you're non white tho
@@MargaritaMagdalena I mean you guys had trump represent you for 4yrs, what else would the world think of you... just kidding but in all honesty we shouldn’t stereotype anyone
I think they were just learning Manderian for fun and not taking it serious and it’s not called Chinese
She will get over the phase of hating Chinese. I hated learning Korean when I was young, but I picked it up naturally because my parents only talked to me in Korean. Now I think it’s a blessing. I can speak Korean fluently! I talk to my friends in Korean, and I can speak to my family when I go to Korea. Also I’m bilingual now. You know how useful that is when gossiping?! 😂
Anyone who is bilingual really has more doors open to them. Keep at it.
@@MargaritaMagdalena Well maybe for you. I know quite a few people that have gotten better jobs due to being bilingual as a matter. Especially if you are trying to work in Federal work. Sorry that you have been crushed by life. My condolences to your family.
@@MargaritaMagdalena Yes, because we all need to know. Everyone works for their government no matter what job it is. In some countries, they would rather go for some one who speaks two to three languages than someone who speaks only one.
@@MargaritaMagdalena And do we need to know that?
@@MargaritaMagdalena Working for the gov doesn't mean you're successful...
Yesss, I'm trilingual ( hindi - almost fluent. telugu , English - fluent)
Trying to learn Korean and Spanish ( left them long ago including French, Japanese but I will resume Korean and Spanish in future but I'll leav Japanese and French)
“Fluency in Mandarin will benefit her a lot in the future.” No lie!
She will never learn it this way! Especially,since she resents it and her Mom! Better ways of teaching than by rote!
Just because she’s pouting doesn’t mean she resents it and her mom. That’s the farthest stretch I’ve ever seen someone take in my life.
when i was in ki.dergarden i was actually fluent in mandarin nit until i went to international sckool and started my primary year and thats when my chinese vocabulary downgraded but i never gave uo and started watching movies and speak to my family a lot in chinese and it slowly improved so i recommed the mother iof this girl to speak to her in mandarin so that she could improve and also let her exoerienced the chinese culture sonce she live in america and have no experienced in her own culture
I was like the girl when my mom was teaching me chinese I was very angry but now I feel very happy, my chinese speaking and writing have improved so much thanks to my mom now I can speak 3 languages spanish english and chinese so if you have the opportunity to learn chinese learn it 👍
It's true... But it defines our culture on who we are🙂
non asian: this is BAD PARENTING, they're way way way too mean, it's abuse
me, asian: this is BAD PARENTING, they're way way way too nice, she needs some proper discipline
🤣🤣🤣 I can confirm as an Asian
Some weak parenting, need more belt, 2/10 can not reccommend
@Pazefic bruh my family use a hanger.
She would get the belt.
@Pazefic 👁💧👄💧👁
To have two of the most spoken languages in the whole world being taught by natives in your own home since birth... I hope she gets to notice one day how blessed she is
Asian parenting starter kit:
*10 pair of slippers*
*2 belts*
*1 whip*
Edit:
*bonus: 100 hangers*
they don't use slippers anymore nor belts
relatable af
@@user-qz2nu7cb7o aw thats nice
it's more of canning ( a long bamboo stick used to hit someone )
@@user-qz2nu7cb7o Dear Lord thats just left the WHIPS 😟😭😭😭
How is this bad parenting? She's even giggling while being reprimanded. Y'all grew up too sensitive to everything and anything
@Blackpink_ Kakumei I̊ h̊åd̊ ẘo̊r̊s̊t̊ m̊ẙs̊e̊l̊f̊ t̊o̊o̊.̊ B̊ůt̊ i̊t̊ ẘås̊ ål̊l̊ ẘo̊r̊t̊h̊ i̊t̊ 🤕😁
Alzeonno Alzeon yeah too solf and they are telling us what is the right way to teach our kid while they cant
@@summertriangle4745 both of you sound racist ngl. Thats stereotyping
That american people for ya. Too sensitive.
Come on guys, stop being racist
Honestly though, that daughter should be happy that she’s learning Mandarin, I’m full Chinese and I don’t even know the language. That’s one of the things I regret in life, because now I have some difficulty communicating with my relatives and I honestly feel that I’m not connected to the culture. 😕
(I’m trying to learn now since it’s quarantine and I have more time)
Edit: Woah this comment grew a lot 😂
I’m happy that I’m not alone, and thank you all for the encouraging words! I’ll try my best to learn as much Chinese as I can!!! Hopefully I can come back here in the future and be able to show you guys that I’ve learned a lot! 🥺
Same here. Though I can speak, I don’t know how to read and write. Feel embarrassed when communicating with other Chinese people.
Watch the drama Go Ahead
Same here 😔
Same my mom speaks two languages but i can only understand one of them not speak it. I wish I was just taught so i could speak to my other family and people within my group.
oh boy mandarin is a must learn
"And today's word is exhausted. Exhausted. Exhausted"
I felt that spiritually
Someday she will appreciate how you’re pushing her. I wish my parents would have done that for me. Now I’ve lost most of my native language.
Mia Pham you can still brush up on it
Mandarin isn't native to most Chinese. Hans have 1500 dialects
@@infallibleblue much harder when not learnt to fluency from young. I guess that's what she means
same
@@warricklow4218 barely if you have motivation
I applaud him for trying to get his daughter to learn Mandarin, despite not being fluent. it shows he loves his wife, culture and his family and that being in biracial family you get the best of both worlds. it would benefit her in the future.
I’m married to Filipino man and I’m learning Tagalog and i embrace his culture and he embraces my Mexican heritage 🙂
Ayy do you know some fil words??
@@carmyne00 sushi
Aayyy mexican filipino gang
With the last name Diaz I assumed you were Filipino :)
Joanna, I applaud you for your common sense and sensitivity. I'm multiracial and so is my boyfriend (but he mostly identifies as Filipino/Asian). I'm finding it very difficult to learn languages, and I admire you. I've managed a bit of French, Spanish and some other languages/words mixed in (I hope ancestors don't truly "roll in their graves", or I'm in trouble. There's too many languages they spoke). The only Tagalog I know so far are words like, "mahal", "sinta", "lumpia"....etc. A meager collection so far. LOL.
My mom and I moved to the US when I was 7. This was 24 years ago. She tried to have me learn Korean until I was about 11 where she gave up due to me complaining and fighting her on it repeatedly. When my grandmother passed away, I wasn't fluent enough to talk to my family. I cannot hold a conversation with my mother now as she is dying. I have so much regret on having been so stubborn about learning Korean when I was younger. I hope she doesn't have to go through what I did.
So you need to read subtitles when you're going to watch korean dramas
@@risangdosena sometimes. I have the vocabulary of a first grader in Korean so I can understand better than I can speak.
自己的母语还是应该学的。
@@pass3d I would love to learn my mother tongue but as I do not live in an area where others speak Korean, I have no real way of learning. I've taken online classes and have attempted to watch Korean shows. I can understand the shows more or less fine and can read the language as well but I cannot write well and I cannot speak it well.
Kinda same story here. I moved the u.s when i was 8 and i became fluent in english (like a native because i learned it at a young age). The problem here is that ive forgotten a lot of my first language. I lack a lot of vocabulary and cant read well in it. actually, i couldnt even read in it until last year when i learned the letters. sometimes i cant communicate information to my mom (she cant speak english) because i have lost so much vocabulary. However, im learning it again. I understood most of what it is said in cartoons and tv shows and am learning new words. Im pretty sure i can become fully fluent in it if i commit myself to mastering it since it is my first language after all
Father looks like grand father
This little girl will be so thankful in the future that her mom never gave up on insisting to teach her Mandarin.
@Oritra Kar there's already a bunch of English speaking people in America. Speaking Mandarin sets you apart.
@Oritra Kar if you hide inside your bubble yeah english is no 1..but if you travel and see the world...you will no..uh uh..it will be replaced..
@Oritra Kar if she ever wants to speak to her Chinese side of the family, travel to China, or get a job in which she needs to be bilingual, it will help her.
@Oritra Kar persian is super easy
I learnt it in a month
She can be the cool bilingual kid lol, it’s always neat to be bilingual and this is like the best opportunity she has to be fluent
How is she yelling at her parents?
If I did that, I would've been slapped in the face, given a lecture, and grounded for a few weeks...
Same
same, plus probably kicked out for a couple days, and say goodbye to my phone for a year
As an asian, my mom would take out the broomstick
Yo if i did that u bet i'd be living on the streets
I wouldn't be alive to leave a comment!
This girl act like she's never seen a flip flop before
Especially the flying ones
And the belt
or a chancla! th-cam.com/video/PSicdnahJ7o/w-d-xo.html
Ah Asians uniting on the flying slipper
and a pipe hose 😌
Maybe let her play or interact with Chinese kids her age? It would be easier for her pick up the language.
Maybe there might not be that many around her age or they don’t live close enough
Non Asians - this is bad parenting
Me, an asian, while glancing at my dad- this is cute
I guess you have daddy issues
It is cute indeed
@M how?
The girl got off easily compare to asian household
@qυιηтεssεηтιαl qυεεη what is caucasian might I ask?
I wish the girl knew how much of a privilege it is to be taught your own language. I’m half Filipino and Fijian and I was never taught my own languages, now I have such a huge interest in linguistics
You can do it, girl!
As of now I'm studying a new language but there are times I lack motivation.
I only can understand Tagalog since I always hear my family talk to each other in tagalog but I talk in english only
You can start with learning tagalog first even though it may or may not be your parent's language, the other 170 are just confusing AF
@@foul3951 me tooo
unfortunately, this interest doesn't kick in when we're that young and don't realize it's value. man, I wish I could go back.
Me: _raising just one tone of my voice_
My Asian parents: get out. You're my child no more
@@lettuce8192 hahaha i agree with you....
@Nigi Yamadeko it's like a Japanese term of the perfect woman. The epitome of pure, feminine beauty
Hahaha! Mine would have been broom on my bottom😂😂😂
"giving birth to chasiu is better than giving birth to you"
@@lettuce8192 Hahahha so true
She will appreciate it later. My son doesn't enjoy learning it as much when he was young, but he loves & appreciates it better as he grows older.
When I watched how she was reading the Chinese Pinyin with an attitude like that, my inner older sibling self just felt my blood b o i l. It was enraging and it felt like watching a spoiled kid screaming they should have gotten the newest iPhone smh. She should have been grateful her mother still wanted to teach her Chinese
I think every asian that was being raised hard gets annoyed by that attitude, but you know she is still a kid
@@faizdz5472 tbh my parents (local taiwanese) are the nicest people ever and they rarely fight or shout at home, and i would never dare to act that way towards them... kids these days get away with having the worst manners...
@@faizdz5472 why do you people keep pointing that out? We're not blind, yknow? Regardless it's still annoying and that behavior should be discouraged... no?
@@kittenmimi5326 what? why are you mad?
I have two brothers that I have to monitor whenever they're doing assignments. I can _seriously_ relate to this comment right here.
I'm half chinese and not learning mandarin was the biggest mistake I've ever made. My parents did put me in formal language classes but I never really paid attention, and honestly if I could go back I would change that. It'd be much easier to learn languages when you're a kid since your brain is still developing (and mandarin is one of the hardest language to learn). If I have time right now I'd take the opportunity in a heart beat
meh
yeah same but im full chinese and I can't speak Mandarin, but I can speak some Fuzhounese though (a dialect)
@@ocpopsmoke Same, I think this happens in multicultural diaspora communities (I can speak a bit of two different dialects and Mandarin... but too little). I don't think people should be harsh on others who can't speak in their mother tongue when the environment wasn't conducive for the kid. Kids often aren't motivated to learn a language that their peers don't speak, and we only regret it once we're older.
Doesn't hurt to try and continue learning though, especially if you already have some of the basics learnt!
@@noonehere_kasut yeah I agree, I remember when I was young like 5 or 7, my mom would take me to like a mandarin learning class and I wouldn't even pay attention at all and I was crying due to under pressure of learning it and now, I kinda regret because all of my cousins and my grandparents knows how to speak Mandarin and Fuzhounese
@@ocpopsmoke lol , were u born in America ?
should've communicated to her in mandarin since she was still a baby
Add O2 Easier said than done. A lot of children will reject it because once they start school, they only hear and speak English most of the day. A couple I know forced their daughter to learn Mandarin by hiring a Mandarin-speaking nanny! Another lady I met said that when she takes her daughter to visit their family in China, she’s forced to learn Mandarin because she has to if she wants to play with other kids there. So basically, it helps if they’re personally motivated.
Poemi10304 it is actually VERY easy. Almost all non-English speaking countries learn ATLEAST two languages, their mother tongue language plus English as a second language. My two chlidren (4 & 5 year olds) speak/read/write in two languages very easily.
That doesnt always lead childeren to learn their language. My parents never spoke english to me as a baby and I never completely understood it because I went to an english speaking school and hung out with english speaking friends. It’s also a lot harder in the U.S to learn a language if you are not influenced every second.
LittleLulubee yes thats how it was for me too because i only had two parents who knew one language; we started the language at birth.
LittleLulubee i dont get why you added that last part as if parents dont bother to learn 2nd languages. lol that’s absolutely important and obvious
I can't speak for everyone, but I'm sure she'll appreciate learning another language when she's older.
I don't think she will appreciate the fact that she was forced to memorize words and phrases instead of being allowed to learn by immersion.
bruh the way she’s screaming while being taught is just straight up disrespectful
natalie c. shes a kid let her be, she'll learn her birth language when she grows.
she's a kid
@@강토끼-w6w being a kid doesn't justify the fact that they are being disrespectful js
@@강토끼-w6w so you'd just.... let her scream that way back to her parents? Not even a lil scolding?
I know right. Having a black mother, before I even got to finish the first word I would've been slapped...she has it easy
It may sound cruel to force your child to do something they don’t want to do, but after learning a second language especially if it’s part of their culture heritage, it’s a benefit. It’s also kind of important to carry on cultural differences in families so that further generations can be influenced
Update: wow thanks for the likes and comments! Also everyone has different viewpoints or opinions so do not provoke any arguments and be accepting and respectful of others
@Wir Klaus That's not the main reason why learning another language is so difficult. You need motivation, something kids will lack if language is not their passion. If you can inspire them to learn another language, they will start memorising a lot better and find other sources to gain knowledge on the language.
At least that was how it was like with me and my friends.
Yes, i wish my family had pushed me to learn Cantonese. Now, it's hard to find any resources to do so...
@Wir Klaus its not, my dear, i used to be struggling with chinese and the scenerio in the video is just like me and my mum. im really thankful for my mum for pushiing me to learn chinese, and i score well in school
It is definitely a benefit. And if you make them learn early, it’s hardly difficult. I was able to become proficient in Cantonese because my grandparents spoke to me as a baby, and started learning characters at 2 years old. I picked up everything easily, and it was the same with Vietnamese and English. The earlier, the better. Learned Mandarin later on and it was harder because I was older.
That pretty much a parents job, many kids, don't like to study at all, they don't like to eat the vegetables, but forcing them to do so is for their own benefit.
I’m 15 years old, my dad can speak Chinese and my mum can speak Thai. Looking back, i wished I was taught at least one of their languages. They tried to but I just walked away, and if I were to try and learn Chinese or Thai now, it would be a lot harder than being taught at a young age. So now whenever we go to a Chinese restaurant or shop etc, people assume I can speak Chinese or Thai and try to talk to me in Chinese only to be told by my dad that I don’t speak Chinese and laughs it off... awkwardly... embarrassing.
This girl is lucky that her mother is actually insisting her to learn the language at a young age because it may be handy too. Opens up other jobs like a translator.
If I learned chinese i’d probably be able to talk to my grandma more. Instead I decided to do the same and didn’t go to chinese school on the weekends. My fault.
You mean you didn't even learn at least one? What kind of parents do you have?
@Wisdom Pine Wow, polyglot! I am sure you can learn Mandarin if you try. All the best to you.
Agreed
It's not your fault you didn't learn. It's your parents. Language acquisition is through exposure. Your parents should have exclusively spoken to you in their languages. This is what bilingual parents need to do. If you speak French, you only speak to your child in French.
I’m seeing this 3 years after posting but I hope she stuck with it and her daughter can be bilingual…. As a uni-lingual person with multilingual parents all I can say is “do it now!!!” 😢
Let her watch more Chinese cartoons and funny shows ... that’ll get some interest
Nah, chinese shows and cartoons aren't that interesting. Instead, watch Japanese cartoons such as Doraemon and Crayon Shin Chan that's translated to Chinese.
lol that's what motivated me
Langdon Alger what Chinese cartoon have you watched, watching some then talk
Yeah, or if she's older give her some chinese manhua and novel that'll gave her some motivation and interest
@Langdon Alger And personally I'm not a fan of American cartoons... Not my kind of humor or content. But... It's all subjective, so don't say it like it's not ;)
i wish my parents forced me to learn their native tongue. i sometimes cry about not knowing how to communicate with my family in the philippines or understand them fully, especially my grandmother. when she's older, i hope she'll be thankful to her mother for insisting on learning how to speak her native language :(
Same gurlll.. whenever we have reunion or somethin, i be like in the very corner of the room coz they understand each other. Like sometimes i have to wait for them to approach me and speak our common Language. ;-;
I feel that philippines overseas really dont teach tagalog to their children, and I dont know why is that? They all speak english to kids but tagalog to their native fellows
@@lilyanna3009 yeah it is really weird. It might have to do with the fact that they want their children to fit into their country of residence as much as possible.
However, I still think it would be okay to make Tagalog the primary language at home. English is taught and spoken in pretty much every other setting here in the US.
@@mypokepop yes. Tagalog should be the language speak at home, english is so dominent in the society already
Same here
After reading some replies/comments, here’s my opinion: Americans/Westerners are too soft on discipline/strictness.
I don’t see a problem with how the girl is being treated, and before you come at me, that’s how I’m treated. I’m also 12.
Lemme explain a few things since I was in the girl’s place before and maybe it’d give you some insight:
As a kid, I would purposely over exaggerate with my crying and stuff to make people feel like they’re being too harsh on me and so that they’d go easier on me. When there was people that I knew would baby me (people who were extremely nice and would go like “aww it’s ok don’t cry”) were present, I purposely acted pathetic and extremely sad so that they’d tell my parent to not be so strict and then they’d sometimes give me candy and save me from studying. Kinda like make them feel hella bad/guilty so that I could get what I want. Didn’t realize it, but basically manipulation.
fr as an Asian I don't see the problem
The mom isn't even that strict she's just teaching her child that it's important to study. It isn't like she's ferociously beating her child or anything the kid is just acting spoiled and the mom needs to discipline her so that she listens lol if a kid learns that crying or whining lets them escape responsibilities then kids will just abuse it lol
Same I literally MANIPULATED people around me. I was a little b**** ngl. I live in America but my parents are immigrated from China and raised me in a Chinese way. Most of them people in my school grew up spoiled an didn't know real discipline. I'm lucky my mom got some sense in me.
That is the difference between Asian and Americans/westerners education lol
So? Deception is always fun my friend
I relate to that kid. I was born in England and grew up learning Tamil and I loved that I am able to speak my mother tongue but I did act the same way as this child and it wasn't because I did not want to learn Tamil but because when I got an answer wrong or when it was confusing I felt like I was really disappointing them and failing so I wanted an easy way out so I tried to reduce the time I had to feel by seeming angry or disinterested. However as soon as I went to Tamil tutor I was more than happy to learn and enjoyed it more and not as afraid n make mistakes. If possible, I hope this kid can have a mandarin tutor.
Soon kid, you'll feel bad missing to learn a second language.
Here in PH spanish language subject was removed. Pretty sad.
I'm not talking about colonialism way back. I am talking about the advantage of being multilingual - that you can use in case you set your foot abroad. (Edit2: you need to pay additional school to study foreign language e.g. german, spanish, portuguese, japanese. The only left is English) Use your thoughts forward. _Naiwanan na sa baul yung_ thinking _ninyo sa_ spanish colonialism. I'm working and aspiring to work abroad. This is truly an advantage.
Should've kept it. When I travelled, a lot of people knew how to speak Spanish.
@Fluffy Thing its because spanish is one of the most popular languages
Why is that sad lol its an effect of colonialism and must be removed. There is already tagalog why learn spanish?
Why do you have to learn Spanish when they colonised the country for 300 years. Go back to Spanish colonial times and let's see then if you think learning a foreign language is better than making an effort to propagate your own native language and dialects.
The reason is we were colonized by the Americans after the Spanish.
Clearly y’all are softies. She got it way easy. Y’all haven’t felt an Asian’s parents wrath until they bring out the belt.
U are speaking the truth😁😂😃
The belt, ahh memories
Tbh it wasn’t just the belt, it was whatever was within reach.
Slippers... broom... rice cooker... lawnmower...
😂
the great stereotype.
@@Bryan-kl5rr yes! People talk about belts and stuff like no my mom will literally generate a hard object out of thin air. Her hand is enough 😭
I find it weird that the child doesn't know the language yet, normally children in a bilingual household would grow up hearing both languages therefore learning both as their native language while speaking to each parent. My guess is that the mother didn't talk to her in mandarin ever since she was little cause she worried her child would start mixing words (which is completely normal and is the process when a bilingual child is learning) so she stop talking to her in mandarin, then after the child grew older the mother started to want to teach her but now it isn't as easy.
Btw if you are wondering the best way for a child to grow up speaking both languages is that one parent/family member always talks to them in one language and the other parent/family member talks to them in the other language, that way the child will aquire vocabulary and gramatics for both languages naturally ad you would with your native language.
This is true. My parents are bilingual, them being born in Mexico and I in America. Keeping the languages alive in children are long and a tedious process'. Once you stop teaching, they will loose words.
This has happened to me and my sibling and now we know more english than Spanish.
I can serve as a bad example here, my family use both Indonesian and Javanese (a traditional language, from Indonesia too) even before i was born........ Sometimes i talk in weird order, i often got confused with my own language (sometimes it is like my family use a weird mix of language and other families can separate Indonesian and Javanese just fine). I sounds funny and out of place when i talk full Javanese (especially the polite form) but i have a thick javanese accent if i talk full Indonesian.
I learned english when i was around 10 y.o and (i think) the result is not bad, because i like learning new language.
The girl in the video may see Chinese as something 'less enjoyable' than English (we know Asian parenting is different from American parenting style) or maybe she is just not enjoyinng learning new language.
I'm one of the bad examples lol.
I grew up in a bi-lingual house, but I can only speak english. I can understand some words of my parents native language, but I can't speak it.
she should've started talking to her in mandarin when the child was born. it helped me to learn mandarin more.
According to my doctor in the past I got confused to language so my speak didn't developed since my parent and at school speak different language (when I was little) so the doctor said my parents should speak only Indonesia
So here I'm now only know Indonesia, a bit knowledge of Kek language that my parents and their relatives talk often with and English that is obtained from school and much time of seeing English thing
Mom is right. Knowing Mandarin would be a major benefit for their daughter. Her angst is hilarious though.
At first I thought such treatment is harsh but I remember when I was a child that how my parents were even stricter than this and tbh I'm kinda grateful for that cause I was stubborn and reluctant to study and learn things when I got enrolled in school but later gradually I became so greedy for knowledge . If they have not forced me I would have not realised my potential and would not have developed interest in learning new stuff everyday . I'm able to type this comment in English cause at first I was forced to learn English 😂 .
You would have been like greta thumberg how dare you who believes " a ecologist who travel with his $50.000 polluted electric boat.
there are many ways to achieve the same outcome (or even a better one), it does not mean that such behaviour is the only way nor the correct way to go about it
@@R0DSTER I didn't say that it's the only way or the correct way , I just stated that it worked fine for me , everything has changed so much since I was a kid and plus every kid is different so obviously it depends .
Same. My parents were quite harsh on me when I was a kid especially when they got angry (all your typical chinese tiger mum stuff) but ironically they leave me alone now. Like I told my mum recently ‘oh I’m sorry in advance I’m going to fail this test’ and she just said ‘oh it doesn’t matter, if you fail you fail, you’ll be fine.’ I don’t quite know how to explain it but whilst in the past they pushed me, I now recognise how important knowledge is in understanding the world around us and I can push myself. When you’re a kid you just don’t have that kind of motivation or understanding, and that can mean you start with one hand tied behind your back when you genuinely start developing your interests in high school.
I came to the U.S and had to learn English.
I did have English classes in Mexico but it didn’t work too well.
In the U.S they placed me in an ESL class and and learned English super fast.
4 years later I was getting perfect scores on my ESL exams so I was amen out of ESL.
I was thought with patience and kindness from most my teachers not just ESL teachers.
Make the lesson fun for her. That's what I did for my kid. This kind of lesson may work and helps in the future, but then again, let's hope she doesn't grow distant from you when she grows up.
Exactly! Learning languages is fun when it is not a burden. I speak 5 languages and I study them all by myself. How do I study? By listening to conversations, speaking to people. It's hard sometimes, but the second I start speaking and the other person understands my words, it feels very rewarding.
People don't seem to understand kids won't want to learn anything if they're being screamed at for it. My parents always botched about pokemon "you can remember that dumb cap but not math" yeah I hate math,didn't understand it and didn't get the help I needed. Pokemon I love and is fun and had a fun song to help memorize all of them big as difference there.
If they had spoken to her in chinese since she was a baby, she'd already know the language
Fr
Since the girl lives in nearly all English environment, only her mom speaks Chinese to her, the girl probably could understand Chinese to some degree, but cannot read/write or speak fluently. Many of my friends their children can only understand and speak limited Chinese, and that was with BOTH parents being Chinese. I imagine with the girl's dad not able to understand Chinese, her mom most likely speaks English at home as well.
I try, but it's hard. Sometimes I double up on what I'm saying. Once in English and again in Viet.
You don't want to exclude the other parent in what is happening, so when you are rushing you just say it in the language everyone knows.
My kids generation speaks very stiff Vietnamese, but it's passable, grandma understands. 👍
I am happy that they have the accent/tone recognition, so when they want to learn it more fluently, they can say the words and it actually sounds like it.
my parents are both Bengali and I can speak Bengali but I can't read or write, and there's some phrases that I absolutely do not understand and some very traditionally Bengali phrases
I can but I am partly korean but my nan just casually speaks spanish so I am really fluent when I was little rnw I cant fcking spell nor make sentences but I can read well lol
But not writing it lol but I can talk korean not write well ahhahahha
Yet
But I can understand japanese and chinese well lol
Edit : No I did not start korean when I was a bby just english then spanish chinese and then korean
Rnw japanese and korean lol
Keep at it! She'll certainly appreciate it when she is in her 20's and 30's that she is bilingual (esp. Mandarin). Learning young while the brain is still 'new' is the best time to learn any language. I wish I had learned another language when I was that age.
I speak both Chinese and English...
believe me, being bilingual is beneficial in your life kiddo you definitely won’t regret it in the future
Best benefit is that I can actually read Japanese packages without problem.
At least I won't buy the wrong curry.
I would do anything to keep my culture alive and pass it on to the next generation, sadly not all kids born in the Western countries value this.
Mhm yea same
Same here, I'm learning Japanese, but then thought, why not also learn my native language of Ibibio?
yeah it helps.
I wish my parents taught me their language. She’s so lucky
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Can't you just learn it yourself elsewhere lol
Kitten Mimi don’t be so negative. I can but it would have been much easier for me if my parents had taught me when I was younger
Both my parents don’t know Chinese but both my sis and I know cuz we were sent to a Chinese school, I kinda regret not being interested in the language back then and now I’m starting to forget some words I’ve learned, and I’m Chinese which is ironic
@@limmy_yy Me 2 😭😭😭 I feel like I'm uncultured and I can't even speak to my own grandma
And today's word is: Exhausted, exhausted, exhausted.
In 2020 we all feel it Breanna.
Oh yeah, I feel the pain. My kids came to America very young, and before going to school they spoke Mandarin at home. After one semester, however, they talked in English ALL THE TIME. I had to force them to speak Mandarin, and it put a dent in our relationship--but I insisted. Now they have grown up and they're more appreciative. One of them at one point even learned Mandarin in reading and writing by himself for a while.
This is absolutely a gift to that little girl. My wife's parents insisted on Mandarin study with her when she was young, even in her country where there has been strong anti-Chinese sentiment. So, in later life, my wife benefitted in business, and in her ability to connect with relatives, and the overseas Chinese and Mainlanders in so many contexts. Now, my wife has done the same with our son.
I honestly don't get kids that yell at their parents. Im half asian half mexican and ik that if i yelled or even some attitude. I'd be dead 😂
apparently your asian parent is dominating the family lol
Can we just acknowledge that mexican-asian is among the best combos in the world?
Tbh, I'm 100% American but if I talked disrespectfully to my parents I'd be slapped in the face and grounded 😅 I think it just depends on the parents.
bro my slavic parents will literally beat and yell at me if I do something wrong 😭😭
@@kiyatanari8630 exactly, it annoys me how people think every parent from a race is the same. i'm fully latina, born and raised in latin america and my mom is suuuuper chill and permissive. we're equal, but i still respect her and wouldn't yell at her out of respect and love
This gives me flashback. Can you imagine growing up with an Asian parents who both worked as teacher?
I’m here teacher mother and a police officer father plus both the grandmothers were teachers and grandfathers were school principals
@@ChathuNishadi my condolences 😂😭
lol both my parents are asian and teachers
Rip
I can
I’m not Asian and I fully understand and support this. That little girl will be so thankful when she grows up and can speak mandarin, it will open so many doors for her.
Actually if you want to get someone interested in Chinese, make them watch Chinese drama
Jackie chan movie
@Mohan Sandal nono, they've got a point, even if the kid seems to not be interested in it, showing them media in a foreign language may peak their interest in learning little by little
Like Princess Returning Pearl, still trying to find a English subtitled version. 😂
True
Or put them in a positive millieu with Chinese in it .
Trust me man, learning other languages will make it easier in life. I was forced to learn Malay, Chinese and English when I was young and being able to communicate with some foreign people is nice
Malaysian?
Yep
Welcome to Singapore
Malay - Malaysia, Indonesia, Singapore (some people). Chinese - China, Hong Kong, Macau. English - UK, Australia, New Zealand, America. Plus all the people around the world who can also speak one of those languages. You're in a great position!!!
In my state the Spanish immersion program is very strong in primary school
She lucky he's pretending a real one would've smacked her head so it hit the table. I'm 26 and my dad still smacks my head when I make him mad.
Ok and
I'm Asian and never heard anything like that
@@JoeyGarcia914009 super Asian, huh?
get a house
You should protest.
How sad… she’s so sad and upset looking at home… but at school she loves it. Your kid will resent you as an adult!!
The husband at the beginning almost said “quickly die” in Fuzhounese.
I see where that's coming XD
Despite not knowing Fu Zhou's dialect, I can see how the sound morphed from “kuai xie a” to “kuai si a” lol
It is 快写
HAHAHAHAHA
Hahah i speak chaozhou’s (teochew) and fujian’s (hokkien) dialect and that was the same exact thing i thought!!! At first, i was like “why is this father asking his daughter to die??? O.O” 🤣
💀 💀
She is only learning Chinese.
A Malaysian you need to learn Chinese/Tamil, English, Malay and ethnic languages like Hokkien/ Cantonese / Hakka etc.
That's excludes the English, Math, Science Tuition, Music & Art Class, Sports and not forgetting religious study. 🤯🙈🤖
as a Malaysian, I can confirm that.
True true especially history.. not to brag but it's freaking hard
U missed out on Bahasa Rojak
All hail malays for being champs ( i am not malay, i just love laksa).
It's kinda the same for indians...we all know a minimum of 3 languages...eng+ hindi(since it's the national language) + our regional language. I am multilingual because i learnt arabic at school and some korean because of kpop and kdrama
Americans: this is worse than devil
Asians: lucky 😢
Wdym I don’t see americans hating on this video
If you hate Americans so much, then stop using TH-cam since it's an American platform 🇺🇸 🙄
@@juliaj7939 r/whoooosh
@@juliaj7939 shut up little girl you do not understand joke
@@juliaj7939 yet the CEO isn't
It’s crazy to me how some ppl make learning so painful for kids with intense structure instead of playfulness. Kids can learn better when they aren’t stressed and have more fun when you create a game of it instead of make it a chore. Of course it takes more loving energy and patience and joy from the teacher but at least the kid won’t abandon the language the second they don’t have to use it anymore. It’s sweet the husband at least tries to learn, and that’s literally the opposite spectrum bc he gets to enjoy learning instead of being forced. I feel like this is common sense? 😅
I had forced education with an intense structure, I realize how dumb it was to complain about it as a child. A lot of us now realize the importance of strict education as adults
What does this have to do with this video?
@@AlbertKimMusicSad. Stockholm complex.
@@baph0met no it depends on the individual. I was probably raised in the most lax environment possible. I hated forceful learning and school with it. My parents weren’t strict with me about it and I am suffering from it now. I have no self control, struggle to hold focus on a task, and I struggle to work in standard job positions and learn in normal education programs. It has made my life so much harder, and I wish my parent were a lot stricter.
Life isn’t all fun, you have to do the stuff you don’t want to do, even as a child. That includes doing the education you ought to do, even if you don’t want to do. It isn’t necessarily because all the information you learn is so valuable, but rather the experience you gain from doing stuff you don’t want to do, and doing stuff in a structured manner, is so valuable and essential for so many people today.
@@oh-noethat kind of lax environment does not bode well for those on the spectrum (myself included). Structure helps tremendously in that you learn to discipline yourself. I’ve actually tried to punish myself for being emotionally insensitive to a classmate who needed a break (he looked tired) by skipping lunch
Oh too bad. The mom should have spoken with her, only in Mandarin, when she was a baby and the father, only in English. As she grows older, she will speak then both language to each of them. You can’t believe how amazing these kids can be. My daughter speaks German to her father and in Kindergarten and to me , only in English. And when I go pick her up in kindergarten and witness the kids all speak with each other only German. And when their parents pick them up, it’s like they have a switch and turned them on to their respective Mother Tongue. Just amazing...
Depends on where you live. My parents live in a very small English-speaking town. They spoke to me a lot in chinese, and I didn't learn English until I was in school... That only led to ESL lessons and now 20+ yrs later I'm kinda bad at both English (as its my second language) and cantonese (as I don't use it enough beyond speaking with my parents). I'm grateful for learning, but I can say I suffered only knowing 50/50 and playing the catch up game rather than excelling 80/20 in one language to the other.
@xhthepikachu Gaming woah! That’s awesome.
My mom would always hit me with a wooden spoon until that one time the spoon broke and we both looked at each other and she asked me "didnt that hurt?" My response: "no I'm used to it" after that she never hit me with the spoon.
Mine broke a wooden ruler 😅 I have the best handwriting 😊
mine hit me with the cane,,, then i broke it
Oh the wooden soon broke, tomorrow I will buy a titanium one.
I didnt broke the cane but my back had a line....
Nah...after she used Wooden Spatula...she started with the Steel One's😗
I'm 13 and if I speak to my parents with that attitude, out comes the metal ruler and the pile of exam papers.
*Asian pressure intensifies*
Yeah same... my parents let me do any extracurriculars I want as long as I’m mostly respectful and do perfectly in school, piano, and opera. If I fail those requirements they double my workload until my grades go up again. Isn’t it great to be an Asian? 😂 (I’m 13 too btw)
She’s a CHILD
@@user-gv5hm8po6b It was still the same system when I was in elementary. I had to study English and French in school from when I was in kindergarten and I studied Chinese officially in addition to those 2 languages starting in grade 3 on weekends. My other subjects were well ahead as well because they continuously bought curriculums for me to complete on my own outside of school. I had piles of homework assigned daily, plus self study and martial arts. Basically, they didn’t care that I was young, because in their minds, and all of their friends minds, it doesn’t matter. I personally find the system helpful, because I can get perfect scores on every test having practiced it before, but I get why it might seem unreasonable for people that haven’t been raised the same way.
@@user-gv5hm8po6b Technically we're considered children too, so what do you mean?
ahaha- as an Asian, the exam papers come out even if I don't raise my voice...
Little girl doesn't realize it now but she will thank her mother for teaching her Chinese. I used to hate having to speak Spanish at home as a kid and being expected to but it has brought me a world of benefit today as an independent adult.
me looking for the "this is bad parenting" comments ..
Same. can't seem to find any.
you can find them in the subcomments
Sort by "newest first". You'll find some
@@yoseftanoto483 Yes, SOME. 98% of the comments is Asian kids trying to outdo each other with stories of how they were beaten and yelled at as children. 1% is white wannabees trying to be edgy and unique by praising Asian parenting and 1% is people actually criticizing it.
Weak. The "outsiders " are too weak compare to asians. 🤣 they should watch Uncle Roger videos more. 🤚
When you get so angry you start talking in another language:
" This is horrible!!!!! CHILD ABUSE!!!!
Child servicesneed toget involved ASAP !!!! "
*Said the softies*
You had me in the first half ngl ://
Boomers thinking abuse is okay, just like flat earthers think the world is flat.
Chill out you were probably spoiled
Phew,, hahaha,, was gonna say something,, not bad
@@typicalartis1536 this isn't abuse. Allowing your kid to do whatever she wants with no discipline is the real abuse. It's basically negligence.
The poor girl may have not liked learning Mandarin at the time, but her parents are absolutely right for making her learn it. She will have much greater opportunities in life being bilingual. And she’s going to grow up being so happy she can speak Mandarin.
I feel Breanna, cz I literally was that kid when I was young too! Being born in a biracial family (mum is Filipino, dad is Malaysian Chinese), my mum has always wanted my brothers & I to pick up Mandarin, my dad's side of the family.
Today, I'm glad & thankful that my mum pushed me & my brothers to learn Mandarin. It's cool to know that we can speak more than one language fluently (I'm trilingual).
Was it hard? As if theres tons of characters in chinese i bet even nationals are also bad at reading rarely used characters
I'm also a trilingual. I'm full Filipino, though. I learned my second language through immersion.
sana all I wanna learn too
@@arlynnecumberbatch1056 Honestly, which language isn't hard to learn? But if you pick up Mandarin, you can learn Japanese and even Korean easier since these languages have similar roots.
since ur half malaysia chinese/peranakan i thought u wouldve learned hokkien but oooo :o
non asians: these parents are terrible !
asians: i want parents more lackluster like that..
Everyone: “If yOu tHinK thEy’rE bEinG sOft, yOu prOBabLy aRe AMeriCaN”
Me: **rapidly scrolls trying to figure out who said that**
Try changing the mode of the comments to newest first or something like that. Its the one that looks like a filter icon
You'll find some immediately
there’s thousands of comments. you’ve probably only scrolled through a hundred. they’re there somewhere but they’ve been covered up
Same but i only found two... gotta scroll more!
just look in the replies of the top comments
It's important to learn your language to your kids. When family visits or calls, they can talk to their family and feel a part of it. Plus, when people become older or homesick, and they want to go back to their homeland, the kids already can communicate in that language.
I love how she didn't say that her daughter complaining to her father didn't stop her, it just makes it more difficult.
people see this as bad parenting??? she was actin nasty to her mom and shes lucky that her mom dont beat her lol...
Bultaoreune she’s not “lucky” to not be beaten. That’s the most messed up thing I’ve ever heard. You should NEVER beat your child, no matter how disrespectful they are. That’s just plain abuse at this point.
@@campcamp_d937 it's not abuse when they decide to talk back and mouth off and disrespect you at a certain point is abuse but it's mostly discipline cause u have kids who don't listen at all and that's what they need
Marie Jones they don’t need abuse. This is NOT discipline. I am not going to argue with someone who thinks abusing your kids because they’re being a little disrespectful is okay.
@YEAP TZE HIN Moe I didn't say it was abuse LOL if u read my comment I was disagreeing
Marie Jones hitting?your children?is bad??
Are people really saying this is abuse?
They wouldn't last a minute with an angry black mother.
Source: Me
Haha funny abuse haha, hope you get help
@@typicalartis1536 sometimes you gotta joke in a situation you're powerless in
Or angry Italian parents.... I really hope you’ll never have to get a wooden spoon to the eye..
Ok how about don't bring the hood here ay
Wish Mexican parents just yelled, it gets quite physical over here xD but they are just trying to do their best. I was rather problematic and I'm kind of a decent adult now.
“Love isn’t violence, and love and violence simply cannot coexist.” ~ One of the most powerful quotes all time by a blunt trauma survivor
This is “going easy” in Asian standard XD😂
can confirm
African too
People: this is bad parenting
hispanics/lantinos: you heard sum??
blacks: u heard sum???
asians: you heard sum??
Sane human being: abusive parenting is wrong no matter which ethnicity is behind it.
I’m black and I saw no wrongdoings in this video😂😂that’s just how parents are...homework was NOT a choice. As soon as we got through the door, we would head straight to the table to do our homework
Agreed! Talk about why some kids don’t understand that effort is part of the process, specially when barely speaking one language is considered to be enough... 🤷🏻♀️ This is called persuasion, not abuse! Also, why for most parents “teaching” anything unrelated to their personal interest is to be delegated to schools, teachers, tutors or tv.
@@liznel1 screaming is not persuasion, it's intimidation and frustration winning out. It's a sign of weakness, of helplessness since there is no other way for you to make yourself heard. It is worrisome that the difference between those can't be easily made out by some people.
@@Coffeebean1985 how is this abusive? They didn't hit her or anything
This daughter would thank her mom later when she grows up. Knowing mandarin can secure a better future for her.
I hope she finds more interest in learning, its really cool to be bilingual and it really does give you opportunities
My best advice to this mom would be for her to try to teach her unknowingly or make her interested in the culture. At her age I'd say a boyband. She will want to learn to communicate with her Idols and it's so much easier tbh. You don't have to teach them. They will learn themselves
Boyband? Mom, I don't want to learn Chinese. I want to learn Korean. (inset sad trombone music)
@426firefly True
Bad parenting is when you dont "parent" at all.
@Kasia u know what? In asian family what mom or dad ask u to do, u have to do it. There is no negotiation like listen to kid's and respect what they dont want to do, there is no such thing in asian family. This is how i grew up, i believe it is the same for many asian too, and i am not complaining, it's normal and i too think it should be the way to do parenting.
Some parents want to be their kids' best friends rather than the disciplinarians
@@peko7446 just because some people want to be their children bestfriend that doesn't mean they can't discipline them. like literally you will discipline your kids no matter you like it or not unless your children are somekind of angels in disguise, but if you still want to raise a kid without discipline. it's gonna be a lot harder than you think.
Amen
I'm a teacher in china and it inspired me to parent my future children the same way. education is very important, I see HUGE differences in American children and Chinese children. for example, my students are around 7/8 and reading and writing in their second language, while my cousins in America that are the same age, can barely read anything... its sad that Americans don't take education as seriously as we should, and pushing their kids to learn skills that will benefit them in the future! no kid wants to learn all the time, same as adults don't won't to work everyday, but its something we have to do to better ourselves.
It's not that Americans don't take education seriously, but that public education has gone down the toilet for decades, restrictions are placed that make it difficult for families to choose private schools, and most importantly broken homes, where the parent is often too busy to help the child(ren) study.
There needs to be a balance, where kids understand the importance of studying but don't feel so pressured that they feel worthless if they're less than "perfect".
that's just wrong. Scandinavian countries are surpassing Asian ones in education and they do it without traumatizing their kids.
My parents try really hard, but my sister can't really read at the age of 9. She can read some, but not a lot. Blame the school system, not the parents.
- Raecat - there is so much a teacher can do with 20+ students. If your sister has a disability, then she definitely needs extra attention or a private tutor to help her. I could read at 4 years old because my dad sat with us every single night and helped us learn. Parents have more of an influence on kids learning Than teachers, unless the teacher can take out extra time or they teach special classes where they are small. I taught an autistic kid in China (China doesn’t really recognize it) and his grandmother would just beat him because he is “bad”. But I took out extra time to help him and although he isn’t verbal (in chinese or English) he can read and write and comprehend. Some kids you have to find a different method of learning and take extra time and not blame the school system or something else.
Amanda Hudson
My sister hasn't been diagnosed with any disabilities, she's just a very slow learner. My parents take time to work with her, but my mom is a teacher and has a illness, and my dad works 8 am to 6 pm. Also, the teachers where I live aren't the best.
They will hate it when they’re young, but i’ll be thankful you stuck with it when they’re adults.
We imigrated to America in 1961 and I was a small child.
Out of the four siblings in my family, I'm the only one that kept up the Dutch language and I speak it fluently.
I'm teaching myself how to write in correspondence with people on TH-cam.
I have two daughters and I always spoke Dutch to them when they were little.
They totally understood what I was saying.
I left it up to them if they wanted to learn "the secret language" and now that they're over 20 they're having a yearning to learn the language fluently.
Girl: **throw tantrums**
mother: **continues teaching**
Me: **tears up due to stress**
My parents: **so you chosen death**
I remember learning ABC when I was 2-3 I cried so much yet my parents still continued
*dad's scold his daughter*
Me: when my dad teach me math😂
😂😂
the kitchen table 😭🙏 we all remember this pain right 😂😂😭
YESS, and you get a question wrong and dad tells you to do two more questions that use the same method. I’m grateful for it now, BUT I hated it as a kid, lol
@@melrocha8229 cuz of all the pressure I sometimes used to forget what's 2+2 when I was a kid 😭😂
well not forget but I'd panic and give a random answer
She may not like it now, but she will really appreciate those lessons later