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  • i'm that happy kid again
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    Music: The Village by Wrabel
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ความคิดเห็น • 189

  • @honeydew4800
    @honeydew4800 6 ปีที่แล้ว +197

    I wish I could be strong like you! I figured out I was trans at 11 (I'm almost 13 right now)
    Edit: hi everyone, I'm 14 now and getting closer and closer to be able to transition someday :)

    • @aidenoliver1681
      @aidenoliver1681 6 ปีที่แล้ว +11

      I'm more gay than you I figured I was trans at age 12, I’m almost 14

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +18

      Every day you become stronger. Living your truth brings strength and prosperity. I believe in you!!!

    • @lucasmaher1566
      @lucasmaher1566 5 ปีที่แล้ว +8

      Hey me too! I’m 13 now, and my first appointment for t is in a week. I’m happier than I’ve ever been.

    • @shorttbish9565
      @shorttbish9565 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      im more gay than you me when I was in 5 grade and I didn’t know but I think a phase is about a year idk how long but I wear boy close and a home made binder and I want short hair and finely my mom will let me get short hair so I can be how want to be and so I can be called my name I want to be call about it max yea and I trans and pan I ask a guy out and she a girl and hers name is daisy but goss by mark

    • @someguy9344
      @someguy9344 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Lucas Maher you lucky!!

  • @snowpiercer9111
    @snowpiercer9111 6 ปีที่แล้ว +104

    It's so relatable :/ Though I only found out a few months ago and I'm too fucking scared to come out to anyone :( But I'm quite happy anyway because the day before yesterday was the first time I was allowed to go shopping in the boys' section! (I have only been shopping clothes a total of three times, and I now understand why it was always such a struggle for me, or why I felt bad in the clothes I chose)

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Hang in there dude, everything takes time. Don't push yourself too much, it's okay to give yourself time to breathe and discover what you need/want. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself. Discovering who you are, coming out to yourself, is the hardest part for many people. You've already taken one of the hardest steps!

  • @spiderpunk1265
    @spiderpunk1265 6 ปีที่แล้ว +77

    One day im gonna love who i am. One day im gonna have confidence. One day im gonna talk and smile and have friends. But that one day requires a lot of money and time...

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Keep working towards that goal! Find something about yourself everyday that makes you smile, and one day you'll be where you know in your heart you are meant to

    • @spiderpunk1265
      @spiderpunk1265 6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Zander Foster thanks man. Videos like these really help me. I appreciate u dude

  • @lemonlikethefruit
    @lemonlikethefruit 5 ปีที่แล้ว +29

    The song hits hard

  • @soup927
    @soup927 5 ปีที่แล้ว +22

    i started crying at the end

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      VSCO Leprechaun :’) 💗

    • @colinernest8430
      @colinernest8430 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Sksksks and I oop- I cried the whole way though 😖

  • @arsonistwolfe7567
    @arsonistwolfe7567 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Wow your transition is amazing, one day I hope to do the same and be as authentic as you are. Congrats and sad I'm just now seeing this video, I've constantly tried finding ftm videos but I'm also glad I found this now rather then later.

  • @aflashin-time2260
    @aflashin-time2260 6 ปีที่แล้ว +34

    Congrats! You look amazing. Made me want to tear up a bit.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  6 ปีที่แล้ว

      Thanks! And thanks for watching :)

  • @livc9182
    @livc9182 6 ปีที่แล้ว +63

    Im 12 too and im transgender, ftm, i told my mom and she told me im lying and i just think im gay, when i know im transgender 100% i want to wear guys clothes and cut my hair shorter than it already is but im scared to tell my mom
    i even told my mom 2 times that i was transgender but she still didnt listen and went on about what other people thought, meaning the people who dont believe in transgender
    im happy for you, i hope no one hates on you or else i will attack them

    • @jiminssugakookie5001
      @jiminssugakookie5001 6 ปีที่แล้ว +9

      Just read your comment and I feel really sorry for you. Don't worry about it too much though. It's just because your young, once you get older your mum will realise that you are being serious. One day she'll understand better 🙂

    • @livc9182
      @livc9182 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      @@jiminssugakookie5001 thank you, and yeah i guess, i have a while to wait until im older

    • @thatoneplantyoufindinthese9848
      @thatoneplantyoufindinthese9848 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

      I'm 12 and my mom is consistent on it being a phase and that every girl does it but in my group of friends no girl is like this. I'm waiting for the day I'm happy with myself too.

    • @aidenoliver1681
      @aidenoliver1681 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      SAME!!!!! I told my mom I was non binary she said I was a masculine lesbian, at the time I knew I was ftm but I didn’t want to tell her that, she says it’s a faze while I’m crying in the corner planning my death
      Ya it’s totally a faze mom

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Not everyone will understand right away. What matters is that YOU know who you are, or at least you have the Truth inside of you. Do what makes you happy. All you can expect from others is the space to do what makes you happy. I pray for you and all the kids struggling, I affirm that one day you will live your most authentic life surrounded by those who love and accept you.

  • @mirabellecain6728
    @mirabellecain6728 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I don’t know why but I cried 😭😭😭😢

    • @RS-sc3gl
      @RS-sc3gl 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      The song always makes me cry too.

    • @torrinashley6076
      @torrinashley6076 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@RS-sc3gl I don't think it was the song

    • @leerush101
      @leerush101 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Rosies games I balled. Probably because the song, or because of self sympathy

  • @timshepard9181
    @timshepard9181 6 ปีที่แล้ว +41

    This makes me sad I can't get a binder start T change my name or do anything like that

    • @honeydew4800
      @honeydew4800 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

      Frickin same

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +13

      For so many of us transition includes a lot of waiting. It’s okay to wait and find things in the moment that bring you joy. Keep being authentic. Keep being you because who you are is beautiful and unique. Your time of pure authenticity will come!!

    • @ghostthief8130
      @ghostthief8130 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Same

  • @georgiaskye1947
    @georgiaskye1947 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Honestly it made me so happy to see you smiling and to see you proud of who you are x

  • @erikhicks8721
    @erikhicks8721 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    This literally made me cry. ❤️

  • @susieklement
    @susieklement 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    This is absolutely amazing

  • @devinarmstrong1406
    @devinarmstrong1406 6 ปีที่แล้ว +47

    I might be getting my t date of when I start t tmr

  • @spliffin.stryker
    @spliffin.stryker 5 ปีที่แล้ว +7

    The Village always makes me cry

  • @SoopahG
    @SoopahG 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    You are such a gift to the world, Xander. ❤️❤️❤️

  • @izzyb7007
    @izzyb7007 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    its so good to see you change and have a real smile now. So happy for you buddy!!

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      izzy b700 thank you for the support 💙

  • @ellavonbuskirk2928
    @ellavonbuskirk2928 6 ปีที่แล้ว +6

    this is so amazing im so happy for you!

  • @semiautotaxicab
    @semiautotaxicab 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    in all seriousness im happy for you tho

  • @hannahstumpf8375
    @hannahstumpf8375 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This song always gets to me

  • @MsPotterhead123
    @MsPotterhead123 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    wow that made me cry, that song gets me every time. beautiful vid

  • @adelaiideAngel
    @adelaiideAngel 6 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Damn.. we’re the same age (october ‘98). I’m so proud you managed to become who you truly are, with caring parents as well.
    albeit slightly jealous lol.

  • @LeviAckerman-vz6ls
    @LeviAckerman-vz6ls 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Right as I heard the piano, the tears started coming..

  • @Xx_zealand_xX
    @Xx_zealand_xX 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    I've known since I was in 6th grade, came out to my mom my freshman year and told her not to tell anyone. Still haven't told my dad and I'm a sophomore

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      My Names Something everyone is on their own timeline of coming out. That’s great that you are out to your mom! You are in charge of deciding who you come out to and when. Do it when it feels right.

  • @semiautotaxicab
    @semiautotaxicab 6 ปีที่แล้ว +18

    nice eyebrows

  • @crismonteiro1759
    @crismonteiro1759 6 ปีที่แล้ว +14

    best video ever

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Thanks :')

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster Wow, I was going to say that's a big statement to hold but they are right. But more importantly, you are the best ever. Its awesome to see that when you were young, your personality was truly you just not the body you were in. You are amazing! I love your name btw, it so fits you 😀 I'm happy to be a new Subscriber, I'm sorry it took TH-cam so long to suggest you to me. I'm so happy they finally did 😊 You smile is infectious hehe and You are so Handsome (I wanted to say another word but wanted to keep it classy hehe). Hope all is well with you

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Red Hood why thank you for those kind words. I am grateful to have a platform to reach people who are helped or entertained by my content. Sometimes I struggle to put things out there, and then comments like yours push me to do my best. 💗 welcome to the fam

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster I'm so happy to be a part of your Fam 😊

    • @redhood8141
      @redhood8141 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster Hows your week going so far?

  • @zitomilgrau
    @zitomilgrau 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    "I'm that happy kid again"
    That part was a shock for me. I'm feeling so distant from myself when I was a child, and this started when I was 11

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nosso Mundo It took me years to be happy with my life and transition. It’s hard work to love yourself sometimes, but I promise if it work at it you’ll be better for it

  • @rodrigopisco7602
    @rodrigopisco7602 6 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    OMG I JUST LOVED IT!!!♥♥♥

  • @Oricato
    @Oricato 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm 15 and I'm ftm. I've already come out to my friends and I'm planning on telling my mum this summer. I have 3 binders (2 which I bought myself and 1 that my friend gave me)

  • @Eli-ou8sq
    @Eli-ou8sq 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i’m SO PROUD OF U ILY

  • @AidenExists
    @AidenExists 6 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    i figured out i was trans a short time before i turned 13, now i'm 14. i find your story inspiring.

  • @spearminttss
    @spearminttss 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Omg you put this song for the background! I luv youuu. Btw you look so goood! ♥️

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Tyler Hope thank you 🙊 I love this song haha

  • @thestarkid5449
    @thestarkid5449 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m 11 and I’m trans and pansexual ❤️❤️❤️
    Have a great day person reading this comment

  • @bobaaa638
    @bobaaa638 5 ปีที่แล้ว +5

    I’m a cis lesbian but I can still very much relate to this with the coming out and never really feeling normal ya know

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Livi Kremer I appreciate you sharing that! I bet there’s tons we can both relate to and even more that we can learn from one another. 💜

  • @gchpeach
    @gchpeach 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    amazed at your authenticity, love you ❤

  • @Wrestlenutz
    @Wrestlenutz 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Zander I know nothing of what you have been through. I want you to know I understand a little more and I’m happy to be here on this journey with you so I can understand more. I applaud you for your strength. You were a beautiful young girl and you are also a handsome young man. Not being trans I don’t know what you go through but I know it’s difficult. It’s something I want to understand, only so I understand my fellow humans more. I wish you happiness and continued strength, I’m glad our paths crossed today. Be well and God Bless. 😎🐿

    • @Wrestlenutz
      @Wrestlenutz 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Oh and that song is amazing.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      If you have any questions or want to hear me talk about anything specific lmk
      Thanks for watching!

  • @Han-zy8bn
    @Han-zy8bn 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Your a big inspiration to me ilysm zander

  • @kirstyxxxxx9900
    @kirstyxxxxx9900 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    What a song. There’s definitely something wrong with the village I ‘grew up’ in. I was shamed for who I was; always looked down on or laughed at. It happens to this day. I’m gone from there now and doing better.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Kirsty xXxXx So happy for you that you are in a better environment now. 💗

  • @fggyleafexist1753
    @fggyleafexist1753 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    There's something with the age 12. That's the age we start figuring out who we are

    • @keegan2207
      @keegan2207 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Foggyleaf Exist Puberty

  • @somebodyoncetoldme4428
    @somebodyoncetoldme4428 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Seeing these transition videos gives me so so much hope that I can also someday achieve a body I can feel more comfortable with. I've known I was trans since 12 when I discovered trans was a thing. My mom always denied it and never let me live the way I felt was right. She still is that way but I'm 18 now and I'm going to finally start living the way I want to without anything holding me back.

  • @rajeshp4595
    @rajeshp4595 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    How much cost it's surgery . please reply me

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      rajesh p if you are referring to top surgery, before insurance it is upwards of $6k most places in the states, insurance can cover a lot of that though. My cost was a bit higher than that, but insurance covered most of it. Usually a down payment is required to get a surgery date, these fees range from $500-$2000 in my experience. Hope this helps!

  • @Leo-le7jx
    @Leo-le7jx 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I've known I'm not cis for two years now, and just a month or two ago did I really start putting myself out there at school and having people call me by my name and pronouns. no idea how I'll come out at home, but for now I'll survive. thank you so much for making this video, it's making me cry sdfdasd

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      That’s great that you are living authentically at school Leo! Coming out can be incredibly difficult and scary, but I promise the more you do it the easier it is. Do it when it feels right, and know that you cannot control how someone else takes it.

    • @Leo-le7jx
      @Leo-le7jx 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster thank you so much for the advice man, I'll be sure to take my time 😊

  • @DarkWolf-yp8ix
    @DarkWolf-yp8ix 5 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    This is just a question but what is the song called and im so happy for u mate but im only 12 and all i wish i could do is cut my hair but my family don’t except me and they wont let me cut my hair. The only place and ppl i feel safe is with my friends and being in youtube in my room. All my friends except me and i often get asked if im a girl or a boy by strangers and my friends will always step in and say he is a boy and i couldnt be more thankful to them. They helped me through a stage im still going though now but if im ever down in the dark my friends are always the light and help me get back to them. I go by the name Camdyn and only around one person from my family fully excepts me and thats my mum. I love her so much and i love all of my family but i wished that they could just see im the same old person i still am and i will always be that same person its not like my personality is gonna change or anything like that maybe just the way i look but nothing else really. I wear boys cloths all the time and my family dont mind that but they just dont like the fact that im trans... i hope if anyone is reading this you are ok and you have a wonderful supportive family and friends and never give up. You and only u will make you who you want to be and only u can make it happen 💓

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Dark Wolf1234 hey Camdyn! Thanks for watching and sharing that with me. I’m so happy to hear that you have a support system with your friends. It can often take people time to adjust to new things that they don’t understand. I have faith that you will find even more people that love you to surround yourself with. You are worth it! Bless you dude

    • @DarkWolf-yp8ix
      @DarkWolf-yp8ix 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Zander Foster thank you so much 💓

    • @alexbutfine2806
      @alexbutfine2806 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dark Wolf1234 the song is called the village

    • @DarkWolf-yp8ix
      @DarkWolf-yp8ix 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Swan Avril thanks

    • @alexbutfine2806
      @alexbutfine2806 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Dark Wolf1234 aww your story is really sad but it’s amazing that your mom accepts you and your friends are really supportive ❤️

  • @cheyennejulian8819
    @cheyennejulian8819 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    i recently came out as trans to my parents and i wasnt excepted and they often make hurtful remarks to me but i was excepted by my friends and my boyfriend and am proudly known as oliver the only excepting family member is my cousin he has always been there for me i know things will get better so i try to hold my head up high and smile enjoying my life as much as i can even though i suffer from deppression and anxiety.ive known i was trans for about a year and a half now but came out a month ago i asked if i could buy a binder and my dad refused to let me own one but i have friends who r helping me get one.

  • @ashmerenbloom3626
    @ashmerenbloom3626 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    love this song...............just...yep that's it. I wish I could tell my parents I'm trans but I can't, so happy you could be able to do this and be yourself

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Hannah M I pray that one day you are able to tell your truth. For now, I hope you enjoy the content. Thank you for watching 💕

  • @skeis7533
    @skeis7533 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    4-5th grade were my “trying to REALLY fit in years” I’m in 7th grade now. I still haven’t come out but since 6th grade, when I realized I’m transgender, all I have worn are sweatshirts.
    Also, love this song. Have you heard of Daughter by Ryan Cassata?

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Hey Dewkota 🌊 I can relate to the “trying to fit in years.” Although I think mine lasted a bit longer 😂 I felt liberated when I shed that. I hope you are able to come out when you feel ready, you deserve nothing less of the absolute best and most authentic life for YOU. BLESS YOU and thanks for watching

    • @skeis7533
      @skeis7533 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I also had kindergarten buts that’s a different thing, when my mom still dressed me mainly

    • @skeis7533
      @skeis7533 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Also thank you for your support❤️

  • @shorttbish9565
    @shorttbish9565 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Guess what
    I gay and Bii and trans and I haven’t swich and I haven’t told my parents plz like if I get 1k like I will come out I want testosterone

  • @charlotte_6057
    @charlotte_6057 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Let us make this viral

  • @ace7783
    @ace7783 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I absolutely love this video 🥺😤 lowkey almost cried when I read “I’m that happy kid again”
    I scheduled my first appointment with a gender therapist
    It’s set for August 2nd
    Absolutely nervous lmao but I’m sure things will go well:)

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      🌊 I’m glad you liked it, thanks for watching :) congrats on getting that appointment. Sending you good vibes!

  • @KarskaMusic
    @KarskaMusic 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    "The Village" ❤️

  • @cowchips1191
    @cowchips1191 6 ปีที่แล้ว +3

    Congrats you look amazing and lowkey you look like my crush 👌💜

  • @yeonblue6634
    @yeonblue6634 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    it’s so powerful

  • @toasterty3355
    @toasterty3355 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You looked like a boy from day one tbh congratulations on making it 😊

  • @miles4367
    @miles4367 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    i can't be the only one that thinks pre t u sounds like pre t miles mckenna

  • @princepatrick5955
    @princepatrick5955 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    You're so cool!

  • @kbderek610
    @kbderek610 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just a random question. I'm a bodybuilder and I'm currently only 1000g of test cyp a week
    When you got started? How much did they prescribe you to transaction?

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Taco Platter I started at .2 ml and now I’m at .4

  • @Han-zy8bn
    @Han-zy8bn 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I cried at this

  • @bluecornmoon3665
    @bluecornmoon3665 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Damn I wish I figured it out as early as you :/ Puperty hit me pretty late and as a kid I was never forced into gender roles so it took me until 17

  • @aguy01
    @aguy01 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are so beautiful! 🏳️‍🌈🙏

  • @kaimartinez818
    @kaimartinez818 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Just found this, very wholesome.♥️ (English really bad)
    Every since I was little I knew something was wrong or missing, everyone in my family calls me she/her. Another minus is being born Hispanic knowing Spanish is really gendered made me want to learn English. I satisfied everyone in my family. My mother side is iffy my dad side say it’s a sin except for my aunt. I taught I was bi so I came out my mom kinda accepted it my dad at the time did but then now he doesn’t my dad mom thought I was on a phase. Years later I finally know what it is I’m trans and I just found out my self

    • @kaimartinez818
      @kaimartinez818 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      But still hard for me I have only come out to the internet and 13 I know

  • @pcm.5409
    @pcm.5409 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    We're the same age and I'm just starting to figure out now who I am, but I try not to invalidate myself for being later than the average trans people. You look soo much happier in your own skin (and very handsome too), I wish you nothing but the best!

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Piuqué M. Why thank you for your kind words. 🥰 ever since I came out I’ve struggled with comparing my transition to others. Remember that we are all on our own journey. Life does not start when you look how you feel. I pray that you are able to live fully authentically. All that matters besides that, is how you treat people, and how you show up in the world. Just by your kind words, I can tell you have a good heart. I know people who came out as trans in their 60s! Stay strong, and remember that the ONLY person who can tell you who you are, is you! 💕

  • @SaintJamesTheConfused
    @SaintJamesTheConfused 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Yay!

  • @Finn-rm8sg
    @Finn-rm8sg 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    This is why I am happy to live in Germany. We don't have to pay for top surgery or testosterone ourselves if we have a diagnosis

  • @Anonymous-lo6rh
    @Anonymous-lo6rh 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Aw I’m crying 😭

  • @firewolfcaves
    @firewolfcaves 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I knew I was trans since i was about 12, im 14 atm and my mom doesn't want to use my pronouns or my name. Won't even let the school know(It's non discriminatory so idk why she cares). My sister is okay with it now tho. I hope one day I can have a successful transition like you, this video brightened my day a whole lot!

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Firewolfcaves well you will always have my support. I support your authentic heart and I hope you find where to express it in this world. It helped me a lot to express myself online and in small queer spaces when I first came out.

    • @firewolfcaves
      @firewolfcaves 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster Tysm! This really brightened my day! :,D

  • @puppetbeebo1223
    @puppetbeebo1223 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I'm 12 and I'm transgender! but I'm not ashamed of it. I accept me being Trans. I'm not sad. my family are supportive. my friends know me is Tyler. I love that name that's why I chose it. So. if your young and trans. hang on until your about 13. then take it. accept it. it's not a phase for me, and for most people. Stay strong, stay Positive and stay Happy. 😘😂😅 Xxxxxx

  • @indigofox610
    @indigofox610 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    You started T on my birthday lol!

  • @Mara-yf1se
    @Mara-yf1se 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    The 15 people who disliked are evil😡

  • @katespaulding4563
    @katespaulding4563 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    yesss i

  • @User-hv9jj
    @User-hv9jj 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish I could come out to my parents so I can be as happy as u

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Be Gone That We all have our own path. I hope you find your happiness and express that to the world because your heart is beautiful and deserves to be heard.

  • @goofygrump
    @goofygrump 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    this is so relatable, but heres my problem
    basically i’m 12 and i think i’m trans m
    but idk if its just gonna actually be a faze. i cant tell my family because my cousin is trans and my parents don’t agree and i hear all about how its so dumb. it makes me feel stupid and scared.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Panda Bearington I’ve struggled with coming out to people who have expressed their discomfort with other trans people. My best piece of advice is this: talk to your fam about trans people like your cousin. If they say “it’s weird” maybe ask “what’s weird about it?” Asking questions may help you to understand where their values truly lie. It’s okay to hold an identity that the people around you don’t understand, just remember that they love YOU and not your gender, and hopefully in time they will come to understand that this lovely person in their family really isn’t that different than the rest of the fam.

  • @justincase9542
    @justincase9542 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I need some advice, I'm sure I'm trans but I'm eleven. I've known since I was like 7, but should I come out and if so how?

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Justin Case 👋🏻 thanks for watching and asking. If you feel safe and comfortable then I say come out! Coming out early (I was 12) relieved a burden. It was empowering and it made me so much happier. I felt like I was living in the shadows. Maybe you could make your parent(s) dinner or something nice and then ask them what they think of trans people and jump off the conversation into your own identity. If you know they are not accepting it might help to come out w an ally (I.e. a friend) by your side. Hope this helps!

    • @justincase9542
      @justincase9542 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster thank you! This helped me a lot, subscribing by the way👍

  • @bettysbuecherwelt
    @bettysbuecherwelt 5 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    I have the same thingy on my wall like u in 5:11 :))

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Betty that’s my girlfriend’s childhood bedroom 💓

    • @bettysbuecherwelt
      @bettysbuecherwelt 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster cool :D

  • @XD-wu9yu
    @XD-wu9yu 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I now that I'm trans like when I was 12 now I'm 13. my disforia if it continues to grow like this I'm going to be very deprest in a year .Just my best friend now's and I feel that she don't take it seriously and don't believes in me.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      XD ʕ•ᴥ•ʔ dysphoria is hard. Connecting w ppl online has helped me a lot. And doing things for myself like planning outfits that make me feel fresh or surrounding myself w ppl who lift me up help me a lot too. You are bigger than your dysphoria! Remember that your identity is valid no matter what anyone else’s opinion is.

  • @anitamarina9181
    @anitamarina9181 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    👏👏👏👏👏👏

  • @hannahstumpf8375
    @hannahstumpf8375 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    One page of the Bible isn’t worth a life

  • @dothedo3667
    @dothedo3667 6 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Lucky you got to start relatively young

  • @halieuwu9148
    @halieuwu9148 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    I wish I was as brave as you have been. I want to come out to my parents but I know they will not except me. I told them a few years ago when I was 11 and they never exepted it, so I just lied and said that I'm "better" and I didn't want to be trans. But I'm 15 now and these days I wish that I looked like a boy but I just can't bring myself to tell them
    Sorry I'm rambling lol.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Halie Franks we all come into ourselves and our authenticity at different times. You are living the best way you can right now, and although you may look different in the future, that does not take away from the beauty in your life rn. Be true to who you are, and follow your heart. If it feels like the right time to tell someone something than it probably is, but you don’t have to rush it to be happy. Do things for YOU, this is your life.

    • @halieuwu9148
      @halieuwu9148 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster thank you so much you have no idea how much You're helping me

  • @daddypope3510
    @daddypope3510 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m 11 mad I’m ether Demi boy or trans but I don’t know pls help cuz I want to be a mother but I don’t feel female

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Holly Lear 👋🏻 nice to meet you. First of all, thanks for watching and reaching out. The fact that you are trying to learn who you are this young is astounding. My best piece of advice to you is don’t rush to label yourself. “Demiboy,” “trans,” “mother,” they are all just words. To truly find yourself, I believe you must let go of all labels and just do what feels right for you in each moment. If you want to wear something, wear it! If you want to go by different pronouns, do! And if you want to call yourself a boy today and a mother some day in the future, that’s okay. It’s okay to find community in words, but don’t let the words consume you. You are bigger than a label, and your identity is unique to you. Being comfortable with any label takes time, give that to yourself if nothing else. I have faith that you will find who you are if you listen to your heart when it is bright and when it hurts. 💜 stay sweet!

  • @yourlocalnohomopass7236
    @yourlocalnohomopass7236 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I’m unsure mostly so I just go by they them because I’m born a girl but some days I want to be a boy s t r o n g l y and I’ve spent so much time trying to figure it out and I couldn’t so I’m like “aight let’s just settle for this” so here we are. But you are so strong and I wish I had the courage you do

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Your local No homo pass Don’t think about it too much, it’s okay to not have the perfect pronoun or label in your head. Let yourself express authenticity YOUR way. If you feel like a boy that’s cool, or if you feel like a girl that’s cool too. If you want to try out new pronouns go for it!

    • @yourlocalnohomopass7236
      @yourlocalnohomopass7236 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Zander Foster thanks for the advice 😌☺️

  • @aWERFRGT6545BGFG
    @aWERFRGT6545BGFG 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    all these people stressing about puberty..and meanwhile me at 6 watching southpark so was aware of puberty so when puberty hit at 13 nothing really happened at all to me

  • @javiiquintanaa9203
    @javiiquintanaa9203 6 ปีที่แล้ว

    Te amo.
    You look so cute and happy. 😊💝

  • @perc7271
    @perc7271 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    My brother is trans and I'm nb, but I want top surgery. My mom wont even let me get a binder and she doesnt like that I dress more androgynous. But she'll let my brother transition in anyway he wants and it kind of hurts. We confided and came out to each other, and he came out to my mom first and I followed a week later. She thinks I'm copying him because "I want the attention" and "there's no way two of her kids are fucked up, so I must be lying." My brother is my only support and it kind of sucks. When hes misgendred she goes on a tangent and threatens the person, but when I'm misgendred she laughs it off and doesnt let me say anything bc "it's too confusing." And I get that it can be, but I should at least be allowed to try to explain. It sucks most of the time, but I've got nice friends and I have my brother. Even though my friends favour him, I love them. (We have the same friends, my brother and I.) -Anyways, that's my rant/tangent. I'm a year late to this video but, it was really nice. Cant wait until I'm 18 and I can start doing things for me instead of doing things to please her.

    • @RS-sc3gl
      @RS-sc3gl 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Stay strong, and you have my support. You're going to be able to decide for yourself.

  • @colleenmorris9151
    @colleenmorris9151 5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    🥺🥺❤🙏

  • @animeotakuclips7888
    @animeotakuclips7888 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    actually why do i feel sometimes a boy and sometimes a girl...idk how to explain...

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Nubtastic don’t worry to much about labels. If you feel masculine, express it! And if you feel feminine express that! You don’t have to be rigid in your gender expression or identity. Do what makes you happy in each moment, day to day, and try not to get all caught up in what it all means.

  • @marfa2785
    @marfa2785 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I wish my parents will understand, i realised that i was trans two years ago, but came Out to some friends already.

  • @dieieieiiesjjsej
    @dieieieiiesjjsej 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    So did you get the “big surgery” yet?

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      Postive Dinos if you are asking trans people this in 2020 I encourage you to watch my vid Sh*t Trans Guys Say or one of my other dozens of videos that help explain why that question is creepy and unacceptable.

  • @unscrupulous_shrimp3266
    @unscrupulous_shrimp3266 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    Am I still legitimately trans if I found out I’m trans at 13?

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว

      Jeiji ! I’m not sure why 13 would be an illegitimate age..? People come to their truth at young and old ages

  • @mevordinario9218
    @mevordinario9218 5 ปีที่แล้ว

    I hope I'm like you

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  5 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      Mev Ordinario I hope you are the best version of YOU. I remember looking up to guys on TH-cam in like 2010 and now 9 years later, I feel like I am exactly where I dreamed of being. I want that for you. Stay strong because YOU are amazing and deserve to be heard.

    • @mevordinario9218
      @mevordinario9218 5 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster thank you so much...but guess I think I need to get out from this country of mine...it's like a living hell here...you know...but I'm glad that you message me...thank you so much...

  • @gabeweiks9668
    @gabeweiks9668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Bruh. Just watching this video make me angry. I aint hating but I'm a male who out of nowhere was diagnosed with estrogen dominance and hypogonadism. I got denied testosterone cause my blood showed my body having a bad reaction. My body produce large amounts of estrogen doctors can't explain why. My testosterone starts converting to estrogen once it levels around 80. Estrogen stopper does little to help. I've been waiting around 2 years and still gets denied. I have difficulty gaining muscle. Ive been waiting so long I'm developing breast. And they hand out testosterone to all these people.

  • @willywonka00
    @willywonka00 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    Thanks to you tube you figured it out. More like you felt alone and not special and you saw all the attention trans people get so you thought this is where you belong. I guarantee you will detransition later in life.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dont like TH-cam Actually, when I came out trans people weren’t receiving really any positive attention. There were a few guys on TH-cam sharing their stories, and if you go to those old videos you’ll see the comments were mainly negative. I didn’t come out and transition because I thought people would pay me more attention, but rather I thought I’d be at peace. I’d rather live a life alone as a man than a life full of love as a woman.

    • @willywonka00
      @willywonka00 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster Nah it's a trend that's spreading to young kids. Its fashionable to be trans. You felt you needed a group to belong to because you felt like an outcast. You chose to be trans. It's basically a cult mentality.

    • @ZanderFoster
      @ZanderFoster  4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I dont like TH-cam dude I wish. If I could choose to be cis tomorrow? Sis. I understand empathizing with this feeling may be hard since it is foreign to you, but for years and years I woke up every day dreading the day to come because I didn’t want to be trans. I hated myself that much, that I couldn’t stand to see myself happy. But ya know what? Hatred just gets old after a while. I hope you don’t spread hate like this irl, I hope you spread love and support those who care about you and those whom you love.

    • @willywonka00
      @willywonka00 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@ZanderFoster Its all made up. It's no where near hate. You need to become more enlightened.
      th-cam.com/video/CEt-wrfmyj0/w-d-xo.html

  • @gabeweiks9668
    @gabeweiks9668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

    I have feminine features cause of my condition. It kills me seeing females qualify and become more manly than I. And I'm a male.

    • @peridaniel8265
      @peridaniel8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      I've seen you comment on other channels and I sincerely hope the medical system gets its shit together and gets you testosterone soon, dude. Cis men like you with hormonal issues deserve that T just as much as we do.

    • @gabeweiks9668
      @gabeweiks9668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@peridaniel8265 I've gone to a specialist and found the reason why my body has been producing so much estrogen. I did a scan with my new doctor and found out I actually hermaphroditism. He dont understand how ny last doctors didn't see it. Sorry I was mean. I was so jealous. I was so mad at everyone who received hrt and the fact I couldn't. They thought i had puberty delay. But my body was goin to puberty as a female. The news just keeper getting worse.

    • @peridaniel8265
      @peridaniel8265 4 ปีที่แล้ว +1

      @@gabeweiks9668 Jealousy is very understandable in situations like these. There are a lot of times when us trans people feel it for each other. The medical system unfortunately fails a lot of people and the people it fails have every right to be angry. Hopefully, though, now that it's actually known whats going on, you can move along with proper treatment.

    • @gabeweiks9668
      @gabeweiks9668 4 ปีที่แล้ว

      @@peridaniel8265 the crazy thing is all this time I was mad cause I didn't want to be what I wasnt. Just to find out I'm a female. I know I was born with two different genders but wha t are the odds.