Not sure if this will help but I use Hawaiian shirts. Some of them come in dark colors and if they don’t the patterns are usually random enough to hide stuff
@@taehyunsfairy1843 I used to wear a uniform in romania too It's not that bad Actually helps, if we were allowed to wear our own stuff, I'm sure kids would make fun of people with less expensive or not fashionable clothes. I know I would've been one of the kids to be made fun of. But oh well, I guess your country has more civilized and nice kids. I just hate the fact that girls have to wear dresses or skirts and boys pants, that's still really dumb.
yea,, me too- but just remember!! the binder isnt supposed to make you completely flat- its supposed to make you have a masculine chest for your body type,, some people are really lucky though kjfshdkf
I brought a primark shirt yesterday and I wore a binder and I nearly cried because I was so happy bc it didn't show up and I looked masculine It cost one quid £1. I was happy
I kbow this was posted months ago but I just want to say; I'm happy that your happy, you are a beautiful and amazing person and don't let anyone say otherwise~
I told my dad I wanted my hair cut to look like a boy and his exact words were *”You just want to look like that because you’re too lazy to take care of your own hair.”* and now he keeps asking me why I never talk to him.
That’s a pretty good excuse though. Parents who aren’t supportive (my mom hates when I have a short hair, she doesn’t know I’m trans) so I used the excuse that I’m too lazy to take care of long hair. Sometimes it’s best to drop your pride and do whatever’s necessary to get the job done
My parents won’t let me get my hair cut or buy men/boys clothing and it is so hard for me because they want me to be a girl when I don’t feel comfortable as a girl
Just try talking to them. If you dont feel like a girl then you need to tell people. I wish you luck, I would have more tips but you have a different situation. If your young then your parents might not be very supportive. If you need to then wait until you move out until you come out. Good luck? 🏳️🌈
Caden_ Hardwick I agree with the other commenter. You should definitely talk to them. I’m guessing from what you wrote that you’ve already come out, sure they don’t sound supportive but they didn’t disown you so that’s a good thing. If your parents love you and want the best for you they should be more concerned with how you feel than what they feel. Certainly because this effects you more than it effects them. You being compromised because they can’t let go of their image of having a daughter is not okay. Sure, it’s a huge adjustment to them because they might feel like they lost their daughter when in reality you are still you. You are still that same person but now you are their son. A lot of times parents need an adjustment period to accept that but in the meantime you still need to think about yourself, if you feel uncomfortable presenting as a girl you need to express that to them in a way they understand. Maybe draw parallels to your dad and ask how he’d feel if he had to dress the way they feel like you should. It would feel vary wrong? Well, that’s the way you’ve been feeling
I'm v late but I've had the same issues with my mum - I just do everything with my own money (she's threatened to throw away some of my clothes before but I've hidden them so she can't do that haha). Also doing some other things like working out and voice training, wearing your hair up in a beanie or smth and wearing more unisex clothes perhaps could make you pass better (+ it'd show your commitment and your parents might see that you're happier like that and come around?). I wish you luck man, honestly just be true to yourself and ignore anyone who tries to put you down
i have the same problem my parents want me to be a girl because they say i was born a girl and a girl i should stay. i really hate being a girl and i want to transition into being a boy. i have thought about it many times and i am ready to transition but my parents are religious and believe that i should be a girl.
Cameron, you chiseled out nicely. I'm not Trans, I'm just an old Bisexual and I appreciate you and several other guys helping people of my generation be more accepting and tolerant. I want to be able to pass than on. You touch my heart. Love from Pittsburgh Pa. xoxo
That's where I'm going today! I came out to my mom and right away she said, "I love you, support you, let's go to Old Navy and get you some new clothes!"
@Twitchyboi Oof, you may not want to. Update: They "accept" me, they're ok with me dressing and styling my hair masculine, but when it comes to anything else, they call it a phase and ask me if I'm sure, and they continue to try and help me, but to help me figure out that I'm a girl, not a dude.
My mom hates trans and im a ftm so i have to wait awhile but this did make me happy that i found you and this community...i was always told im the only one out there...but i just wanted to say thank u
If you are gonna wear a t shirt, make sure it has a tight neckline and fitted sleeves if you can get them, this will overall give a broader look to your shoulders. I’ve learned that baggy cloths actually make one look smaller, and as you mentioned clothes that fit make a big difference. As for hoodies that hug the hips I try to stretch out the lower waistband before wearing. When it comes to button downs, they are good to hide a chest, but avoid flannel and I find leaving them completely open with a baseball t underneath works well. Just a few tips I find work :)
This are actually really great tips, all of which I use now! The only one I don't use is the first one but not cuz it's bad, I was lucky enough to be afab but have quite broad shoulders XD
Ok here some things than can you help pass: If you have to wear glasses then wear black nerd glasses (works for some people) If you cut your hair infront of the ear very short it can look like you have the begining of facial hair growing. And the most important thing infront of strangers: Act like you're around the age you look like Sorry for my bad english...
Much love and appreciation to all the ftm youtubers , I am from Greece being trans here is very hard , there are no gender clinics etc, had no hope at all. Can't even describe how difficult it is. Before my transition with hormones ( which I've done myself- I know very dangerous but seriously no hope here doctors have no idea how to handle us) seeing you Cam and other youtubers made me believe that this is possible. It's possible to become what I've always felt. And it saved my life. Love you all ❤️
i did'nt do anything yet, but i know some other people who get treatment. i live in austria and the system for transpeople is seemingly really good here.
@Elly Moon Not quite possible, I'm unemployed, nobody hires me because of my female ID. Can't change it because it needs thousands €. It's a never ending circle. Only one positive thing is since 2017 in Greece I can change my ID without undergoing surgery , sterilisation etc.Thank you for your consideration tho :) ❤️
@Salanda Shampson I really don't want to give any details on how I got into HRT myself. It's dangerous, risky, immature, and it causes so many health issues. Worst thing is no doctor will help me for anything, like allergic shock? "It's because of Testosterone can't help" arrhythmia? "It's because of Testosterone can't help" etc. I want NOBODY to follow my steps , you are all special and precious and please don't risk your health/life by doing shots yourself from unreliable recourses. Be patient and thank God you live in a more trans friendly country.
Welcome to a short episode of my life: I went shopping, the worker called me ma'am, I corrected her, she said "oh sorry I thought you were just a lesbian" cool.. thanks.. so during the whole day I was dysphoric and my confidence was gone
I'm dysphoric about my body. I can't buy binders because my parents are not supportive. I want a shorter haircut but other people (including my family) think it wouldn't fit me and I'd look too boyish. I don't have any clothes to wear without looking like a girl and it's summer so I can't really do layers because it'll get too hot. I'm helpless lmao
2:02 Just remember when your wearing button down shirt's, please do not button the top collar button. Generally speaking the only time you would button this button is when your wearing a tie. I've seen a lot of transgender males make that mistake with this. When it's button, it gives the appearance your over compensating and your nervous about something. Leaving it unbuttoned gives the appearance your relaxed and comfortable.
I'm dysphoric, and I haven't told anybody that I am... So I make jokes about how I look like a boy to make myself feel better, but then my mom is like "Oh no you don't! You have a very feminine shape and face!" Me: *Cries in dysphoria*
Today i bought my first masculine sweater! It was a blue one for winter, and although it's summer i fell in love with it and HAD to buy it ❤ Anyway, thanks for the tips! I'll use them one day...
Happy you! I just have hoodies and jackets but my mom don't say that i need to dress in dress sometimes she say it i like when someone call me Elliott and don't like Lana
I started T today!! I wanted to say thank you for making videos they have helped me a lot and I love your content in general! Have a great holiday hope all is well!
Tip: If you can't cut your hair put it up in a high ponytail, pull it over the top of your head to your forehead and pin it with rather concealed pins or wear a hat! Love you all, keep going you kings and other amazing beans!
I'm actually genderfluid but this video still helped for when I want to dress masculine, I usually look up ftm videos for dressing masculine because those often help the most
my family won't let me even wear anything close to this. it makes me so dysphoric cause i can't be who i really am. but I will keep these facts in mind because I will eventually be able to do this...
hey cam do you have any tips about exercising? i am super dysphoric and i know not to wear a binder when exercising but i can’t stand wearing sports bras...
omg i followed you on tumblr about six years ago. i watched one of your first videos after you posted it there, when i was like 14 haha. there's such a distinct shift in your videos now vs your older ones, i'm so happy that you're happier! you're doing so good cam! ❤️
personal tip, would be to 1) not fill in your eyebrows!!! I never did it in my life but I've ran into my friends being miss gendered a lot and now that they stopped filling in their eyebrows they haven't gotten miss gendered 2) try exercising! I've recently gotten in my schools boys swim team and have noticed how much it has helped me gain muscle ( im on T for 11 months now) and I've just started working out ,my friends who are swimmers invite me to work out with them a lot! just go for it! 3) Pack for sure, it helped me a lot. 4) be confident (which im never but I try) lamo hoped this helps!
Not sure if they have it in the States but in the UK ASOS is fantastic for online shopping. Especially with jeans you can choose waist and length so it's great for shorter guys with bigger waists.
I shop at places like ross and tj maxx because they are really cheap, also i love to get the target pants goodwill gets, along with random tees and flannels/courduroy shirts. I'm 5' 1" and im pretty slim but i buy a size medium because the looser fit helps hide my chest/binder. Also i recommend slim taper pants, especially if you are short!
I just wanted to say that this is the first video I've seen of this man and I can just say that my recommended page was blessed with the existance of this man.
dressing "masculine" always makes me feel good. although some stuff may not be my style, if I really wanna pass I'll try it. it sucks for me tho because even tho I bind I still have a large chest so it'll never be completely flat and plus the hips and I feel all girly looking :-// thanks for the tips man
I'm ftm and my mom doesn't know. It hurts when she calls me my deadname, but that's my fault for not telling her. It took me years to convince her to get really short hair. My dad knows but keeps it from my mom, because he wants me to tell her not him. He calls me Tyler, uses male pronouns for me, he calls me son too. My sister has always known me as her big sister so she calls me Sis. It sucks, but she's also 3, I've said "Brother. " but stopped after a bit because it would confuse my mom. I'm currently only 12, so I do have 6 years until I can move out, or get t, or do anything like that. Hopefully it's worth the wait
I can’t believe how high my voice was when I was younger and it got way deeper even though I was never on testosterone. I sounded like a chipmunk. Now my friend agreed with me that my voice is quite deep so I’m not so dyspeptic about it.
I’m looking forward to when I get my first binder especially because it will be in the colour of my skin tone. I will be able to rock white shirts in that :)
To wear a white shirt, layer an undershirt over your binder, then your white shirt over that. It's not as sus as you might think - a lot of cisguys wear undershirts under everything they wear for any number of reasons (absorb sweat, hide nipples, hide bodyhair - you name it), and the collar of the shirt will sit tighter to your neck than the straps of a binder, so it'll take care of that strap-showing issue as well.
I`m struggling a lot on how I see myself, I am born a girl and I dress like a boy and wear sport bras to make my chest flatter but I still like making myself look good with makeup girly makeup or boy-ish makeup. I hate wearing dresses as I don`t feel good in them but I love wearing suits hhHhhHhHhH
instead of asking yourself "what am i", asking yourself "what would make me happy" may help. gender identity is complicated, so take your time with yourself, and whatever answer you come to is okay, and if you change your mind later that's okay too
That doesnt make you trans.we are born that way and you cant specifically struggle with it,do what you want,if you arent thinking of yourself as a girl but rather as a boy,then transition.
I used to feel the same way. I liked having a flat chest some days, and liked showing off my curves others. Then, sometimes, I felt like neither gender. Then, I happened to discover this thing called being ✨gendeefluid✨ ppl who are genderfluid alter their gender to how they feel that day. If I feel like dressing masc, I consider my pronouns to be he/him/they/them. And just the opposite for days I feel like being feminine. Hope this helps!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
CORRECTION: your binder only shows if you wear a white shirt IF YOU ARE WHITE OR HAVE LIGHTER SKIN. If you are black, like me, a black/dark colored binder will blend in with your skin. If you are white, a white/light colored binder will blend in. Same thing works with bras.
I love your videos so much, they really help me mentally. I'm not a starter so I don't really need the tips but just that someone can pass so we'll and be so happy gives me hope 😊
My family told me I couldn't be trans because of how I dress... I still love dresses and skirts because that became my safe clothes. And because I didn't have a fase were I dressed over extreem masculine they don't believe me. But I had, it was 2 weeks long till I noticed that so extreem masculine was not who I am. Yes I'm a man, but not that masculine as they want me to be. I watched this to look what I can wear to make me at least pass in my family, but you're right, it shouldn't matter how I dress.
Yes! Thankyou omg cam yes. I’m gonna start going to a different school and go stealth so my goal is gonna be to pass, and I’m gonna work for it. Thankyou so much
Thank you so much, bro. Really appreciate the help! 😉 I really havent gotten any testosterone or gotten a deeper voice. I did find out I was trans when I was 11, which kinda helped w/ binding. I always thought I could be 'too late'.
I wanna tell my parents I’m trans but idk. I know my mom would probably support me since her sister is trans (mtf) and she used to let her borrow her clothes to make her happy, but my dad... oof I don’t know about that.
Take your time, don't stress yourself. You should come out when you're ready. Maybe you could only talk with your mother first so you could talk together to your father but that's just a advice, do whats best for you.
clothes that help with my dysphoria: basketball shorts, big sweaters, any kind of sports brand (like Champion, Adidas, Nike), boots (they make you look and feel taller), dark colored clothes in general, team Jerseys, camo... also make sure if you want to wear jeans you try them on first and they're not tight at all
I am ‘blessed’ with hips and thighs for days and I hate them they make me more of a girl. I am trying to go for gender fluid and trying to explore but it’s hard when everything is a dead give away for a girl. I love tights but hate the way they show my hips so I wear hoodies to try to hide them
Omg! I went to Primark today and I obviously searched the woman's section because my MUM was there and they do SO MANY GENDER NEAUTRAL OPRIONS for BOTH SEXES. I'm genderfluid btw x thankyou X your tips helped! X
This helps a lot This year I always said I was like a male and I was just feminine cuz I was gay But next year I’m hoping to look more masculine(hair cuts and clothing)and this totally helps! ❤️
I ordered a binder without my parent permission lol. (With my money) my parents are probably going to be pissed when it comes b/c I am not allowed to buy things even with my money.
There's a gel form of T that has nothing to do with needles. It's applied daily, and it'll keep your hormone levels more consistent than weekly/bi-weekly. ❤️
I rarely comment on videos, but you just popped up in my recommended, and I am flabbergasted by how handsome you are! Great video, love your genuine personality, and (of course) I subscribed
I’ve been trans (f-m) sense 2nd grade and I didn’t know what it was but I’m in 7th grade and my mom won’t let me cut my hair because she thought it was just a phase because I stopped dressing more like a boy after a year or two because I thought it was weird to dress as the opposite gender :\ anyways I don’t know how to come out to my family so do you have any advice?
it’s summer and i’m so sweaty 😢 hawaiian/men’s floral T shirts or button-ups are a life saver when hiding ur chest and binder ! also dark coloured shorts that are a bit above the knee works most of the time (i roll them up to be at the best length)
lol i have 2 american eagle jeans that i found at a tjmaxx kinda place... i'd already figured out everything in this video myself but it was still good :V and im so lucky that i naturally turned out to be an edgy faux goth with regards 2 my style bc then i have a "better" excuse for owning _all black everything_ (...except not my camp uniform, unfortunately)
I wear like a black t shirt . then a flannel and finally a baggy hoodie for pants like a baggy jeans. And full black nike for shoes and ALWAYS were a hat, cause my mum won't let me cut my hair super short so when I have my hat I look like a boy with a little above his shoulders my name is gender neatrul so i don't need change it
This is the first time I've watched one of your videos, I'm less than a minute in and I'm about to subscribe. I think that says something good, I don't know what it is but i says something.
My favorite brands new are Zara and H&M, but if used, I really go for Banana Republic and American Eagle 👀 Also, slim fit and flex material pants are really great because they don't bring out the thighs/hips too much, at least for me (and I have a little extra fat in certain areas.)
What we got: How to pass better
What we need: How to not look like a Lesbian
lol so true
IKR 😂
Yes.
right 😩
AHAHAHAHAHAHAHA
Every FtM dressing tips:
Layers, jackets, dark colours.
Me:
"Let me introduce you to the piece of hell on earth called _Mediterranean summer._ "
Not sure if this will help but I use Hawaiian shirts. Some of them come in dark colors and if they don’t the patterns are usually random enough to hide stuff
get rid of the Mediterranean, it's just _summer_
@@elliot4417 ;-;
let me introduce you to African summer in a country wear winter is also hot af
Me, a FtM living in Australia-
“White shirts are the devil”
UK schools: have fun with that
Ikr I'm always so nervous my binder is showing through 🥲
Oh we have blue shirts so but yeah white shirts are the literal devil
Me: i love u school u dont ask y i wear blue when its white
yeah my school shirts are lie tight fight and veryy see through and white and im just lie ahhh
@@harutobeanintroverttry nude binders! They are skin coloured!
Him: I had the roundest face
Me, an absolute meatball: okeh
I’m sort of fat so my face is round and I look like I’m 8 😔
@@marsearley6682 I mean, hey, if that's the issue then you can solve it by just losing weight. My face is round and I'm not overweight, so rip me.
@@marsearley6682 yeah same
I use makeup, I got a lot of tips from cosplayers, dragkings, and other FTM's
My face is so round just look at it
“Wear a jacket :)”
My school: REEEEE JACKETS AREN’T ALLOWED
Lol my school, they just banned hoodies this year ;w;
How should you survive in the winter? Wtf
Wtaf
Why???
Do they think you're hiding weed or something? Jeez nobody's that dumb, allow kids to wear fucking jackets
That's not that bad. At least u can wear mostly what u want. In England we have to wear uniform.
@@taehyunsfairy1843 I used to wear a uniform in romania too
It's not that bad
Actually helps, if we were allowed to wear our own stuff, I'm sure kids would make fun of people with less expensive or not fashionable clothes. I know I would've been one of the kids to be made fun of.
But oh well, I guess your country has more civilized and nice kids.
I just hate the fact that girls have to wear dresses or skirts and boys pants, that's still really dumb.
I’m not gonna show you my hips cuz I am uh.. disphoric about that but um..
*arent we all*
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Yup
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You’re completely valid bro
First tip : don't go outside
pretty_ str4nge unfortunately I have school 😔
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I am definitely nailing that
Thanks I'll try lmao
best fucking tip ever i swear-❤️
Michael twins
I don't like tight shirts because it would bring out that bump even though I had been binding, and the bump being visible makes me dysphoric.
yea,, me too- but just remember!! the binder isnt supposed to make you completely flat- its supposed to make you have a masculine chest for your body type,, some people are really lucky though kjfshdkf
Same. Happens to very shirt but it's manageable
me too. and I don't even have a binder so it's more messed up. I don't know how to bind without one.
Dont worry bro. We gotcha. 😉
行く 宅度 you could bind with 2 sports bras, put on forward and put one backs. Put the backwards one under the forward one tho
I brought a primark shirt yesterday and I wore a binder and I nearly cried because I was so happy bc it didn't show up and I looked masculine
It cost one quid
£1.
I was happy
SpicyMayonaise_3 primary is fucking superior 😂
Lol lucky. Do your parents know?
I kbow this was posted months ago but I just want to say;
I'm happy that your happy, you are a beautiful and amazing person and don't let anyone say otherwise~
Yay
SpicyMayonaise_3
Be careful when shopping a primark as they miss shape in the wash
In less than two weeks I’m getting my first testosterone shot 💕🏳️🌈
You lucky potato! I am out to my parents and they are accepting, we just can't afford a binder or testosterone😓
Woah Potatoes aw no😟. Do you have medical ?
Congrats bro!
Dante Mira ahh my god so excited for you.
What's the update
I'm not trans, I'm genderfluid so thank you for this. I really feel like nobody outside will see me as masculine on my masculine days.
Same
Same here
Same
Me, too!
Same.
I told my dad I wanted my hair cut to look like a boy and his exact words were *”You just want to look like that because you’re too lazy to take care of your own hair.”* and now he keeps asking me why I never talk to him.
That’s a pretty good excuse though. Parents who aren’t supportive (my mom hates when I have a short hair, she doesn’t know I’m trans) so I used the excuse that I’m too lazy to take care of long hair. Sometimes it’s best to drop your pride and do whatever’s necessary to get the job done
@@jamesthesock1349 fr
My parents won’t let me get my hair cut or buy men/boys clothing and it is so hard for me because they want me to be a girl when I don’t feel comfortable as a girl
Just try talking to them. If you dont feel like a girl then you need to tell people. I wish you luck, I would have more tips but you have a different situation. If your young then your parents might not be very supportive. If you need to then wait until you move out until you come out. Good luck? 🏳️🌈
Caden_ Hardwick I agree with the other commenter. You should definitely talk to them. I’m guessing from what you wrote that you’ve already come out, sure they don’t sound supportive but they didn’t disown you so that’s a good thing. If your parents love you and want the best for you they should be more concerned with how you feel than what they feel. Certainly because this effects you more than it effects them. You being compromised because they can’t let go of their image of having a daughter is not okay. Sure, it’s a huge adjustment to them because they might feel like they lost their daughter when in reality you are still you. You are still that same person but now you are their son. A lot of times parents need an adjustment period to accept that but in the meantime you still need to think about yourself, if you feel uncomfortable presenting as a girl you need to express that to them in a way they understand. Maybe draw parallels to your dad and ask how he’d feel if he had to dress the way they feel like you should. It would feel vary wrong? Well, that’s the way you’ve been feeling
Mine are the same way. I get it
I'm v late but I've had the same issues with my mum - I just do everything with my own money (she's threatened to throw away some of my clothes before but I've hidden them so she can't do that haha). Also doing some other things like working out and voice training, wearing your hair up in a beanie or smth and wearing more unisex clothes perhaps could make you pass better (+ it'd show your commitment and your parents might see that you're happier like that and come around?). I wish you luck man, honestly just be true to yourself and ignore anyone who tries to put you down
i have the same problem my parents want me to be a girl because they say i was born a girl and a girl i should stay. i really hate being a girl and i want to transition into being a boy. i have thought about it many times and i am ready to transition but my parents are religious and believe that i should be a girl.
Cameron, you chiseled out nicely. I'm not Trans, I'm just an old Bisexual and I appreciate you and several other guys helping people of my generation be more accepting and tolerant. I want to be able to pass than on. You touch my heart. Love from Pittsburgh Pa. xoxo
Wait wait I'm a trans kid from pgh yay this is so wholesome I'm smiling
Your comment makes me happy, I love seeing older lgbt+ members they have good stories alot of times
PITTSBURGH GANG WOOO!!
I love the phrase "chiseled out" referring to FtM transition
My voice makes me super dysphoric
I've hated my voice as soon as i could remember so i get it dude
Try singing the low parts of songs and your range should expand. That helped me a bit. Or get a cold lol
I'm glad that I have a natural deep voice. 🙏
blue berry cosplay I usually scream because it makes my voice raspy and deep. Hurts a little after a while tho
I can relate, I sound like a 7 year old girl
Another store that I like: Old Navy is an awesome go-to for trans guys. Everything fits me off the rack and they’re cheap and look nice enough.
That's where I'm going today! I came out to my mom and right away she said, "I love you, support you, let's go to Old Navy and get you some new clothes!"
Kelsi 101 awesome man!
@Twitchyboi Oof, you may not want to. Update: They "accept" me, they're ok with me dressing and styling my hair masculine, but when it comes to anything else, they call it a phase and ask me if I'm sure, and they continue to try and help me, but to help me figure out that I'm a girl, not a dude.
Yee Haw literally my family
@Twitchyboi same dude, ive been trying to come out to them for 4 years
My mom hates trans and im a ftm so i have to wait awhile but this did make me happy that i found you and this community...i was always told im the only one out there...but i just wanted to say thank u
Bruh your parents are dumb
You need new parents.
that’s how my family is i’m so sorry i understand how hard it is bc my entire family is extremely transphobic and im ftm trans soo
Me too! My mom hates trans ALOT and I’m ftm aswell. She won’t even let me get my hair cut.
I need new parents too
If you are gonna wear a t shirt, make sure it has a tight neckline and fitted sleeves if you can get them, this will overall give a broader look to your shoulders.
I’ve learned that baggy cloths actually make one look smaller, and as you mentioned clothes that fit make a big difference.
As for hoodies that hug the hips I try to stretch out the lower waistband before wearing.
When it comes to button downs, they are good to hide a chest, but avoid flannel and I find leaving them completely open with a baseball t underneath works well.
Just a few tips I find work :)
This are actually really great tips, all of which I use now! The only one I don't use is the first one but not cuz it's bad, I was lucky enough to be afab but have quite broad shoulders XD
Ok here some things than can you help pass: If you have to wear glasses then wear black nerd glasses (works for some people)
If you cut your hair infront of the ear very short it can look like you have the begining of facial hair growing.
And the most important thing infront of strangers: Act like you're around the age you look like
Sorry for my bad english...
Much love and appreciation to all the ftm youtubers , I am from Greece being trans here is very hard , there are no gender clinics etc, had no hope at all. Can't even describe how difficult it is. Before my transition with hormones ( which I've done myself- I know very dangerous but seriously no hope here doctors have no idea how to handle us) seeing you Cam and other youtubers made me believe that this is possible. It's possible to become what I've always felt. And it saved my life.
Love you all ❤️
have u ever thought about going to other countries in the eu for Treatment?
How did you do it ?
i did'nt do anything yet, but i know some other people who get treatment. i live in austria and the system for transpeople is seemingly really good here.
@Elly Moon
Not quite possible, I'm unemployed, nobody hires me because of my female ID. Can't change it because it needs thousands €. It's a never ending circle. Only one positive thing is since 2017 in Greece I can change my ID without undergoing surgery , sterilisation etc.Thank you for your consideration tho :) ❤️
@Salanda Shampson
I really don't want to give any details on how I got into HRT myself. It's dangerous, risky, immature, and it causes so many health issues. Worst thing is no doctor will help me for anything, like allergic shock? "It's because of Testosterone can't help" arrhythmia? "It's because of Testosterone can't help" etc. I want NOBODY to follow my steps , you are all special and precious and please don't risk your health/life by doing shots yourself from unreliable recourses. Be patient and thank God you live in a more trans friendly country.
Welcome to a short episode of my life: I went shopping, the worker called me ma'am, I corrected her, she said "oh sorry I thought you were just a lesbian" cool.. thanks.. so during the whole day I was dysphoric and my confidence was gone
wow.. tbh I hate those ppl
@@imoutofhere171 it wasn't like she was rude about it...
@@fourscot yea? ik
I'm dysphoric about my body. I can't buy binders because my parents are not supportive. I want a shorter haircut but other people (including my family) think it wouldn't fit me and I'd look too boyish. I don't have any clothes to wear without looking like a girl and it's summer so I can't really do layers because it'll get too hot.
I'm helpless lmao
You could buy a binder and have it come in discrete packaging. They would probably not even notice you wearing it
ik how u feel.
Same with me, so I bind with sports bras
i know this is like super late but doubling sports bras is safe and makes me feel more confident
You could ask your friends to buy you a binder and give them the money after!
2:02 Just remember when your wearing button down shirt's, please do not button the top collar button. Generally speaking the only time you would button this button is when your wearing a tie. I've seen a lot of transgender males make that mistake with this. When it's button, it gives the appearance your over compensating and your nervous about something. Leaving it unbuttoned gives the appearance your relaxed and comfortable.
He said "ten zero"
And I didnt realize what was wrong until he corrected himself
No one:
Cam: *digs apart his closet just for this video*
I'm dysphoric, and I haven't told anybody that I am... So I make jokes about how I look like a boy to make myself feel better, but then my mom is like "Oh no you don't! You have a very feminine shape and face!"
Me: *Cries in dysphoria*
I usually ask my grandmother "Am I feminine?" My grandmother says "Of course you are!"
Just... *Cries in dysphoria with you*
It's hard to believe you were born a female..you look like a handsome bloke now..this is comming from a straight guy
True!!
Agreed (but coming from a gay man!)
You sure you’re straight?
Karen I. u can call someone good looking and not be attracted to them :pp
@@kristiani.1123 oh damn never compliment anyone or you're attracted to them
Today i bought my first masculine sweater! It was a blue one for winter, and although it's summer i fell in love with it and HAD to buy it ❤
Anyway, thanks for the tips! I'll use them one day...
Happy you! I just have hoodies and jackets but my mom don't say that i need to dress in dress sometimes she say it i like when someone call me Elliott and don't like Lana
Nigga it's a shirt
I started T today!! I wanted to say thank you for making videos they have helped me a lot and I love your content in general! Have a great holiday hope all is well!
Jayden J yo congrats!!
Jayden J dude me too congrats
Capt SkyZ congrats to you to lol
Congratulations!!!!
Congratulations fellow brother 🙂
Tip: If you can't cut your hair put it up in a high ponytail, pull it over the top of your head to your forehead and pin it with rather concealed pins or wear a hat! Love you all, keep going you kings and other amazing beans!
Thank you!! Imma try it-
bro when I do that theres always a lump💀 how do I to hide it 💔
Or guys who have long hair usually put it in a low ponytail. Might not have the desired effect though
I'm genderfluid, but identify more Male than female, this video really helps
My apperence: 🙋♂️
My voice: 🐁
Your voice is deep! I was so surprised when I clicked the video. I'm jealous 😊 I usually find black clothes help me pass cause it hides my "pecks" lol
I'm actually genderfluid but this video still helped for when I want to dress masculine, I usually look up ftm videos for dressing masculine because those often help the most
my family won't let me even wear anything close to this. it makes me so dysphoric cause i can't be who i really am. but I will keep these facts in mind because I will eventually be able to do this...
I chuckled when you mentioned Primark cuz that shop is super common in the UK and you sounded like it was a four leaf clover haha
hey cam do you have any tips about exercising? i am super dysphoric and i know not to wear a binder when exercising but i can’t stand wearing sports bras...
same man none of those compression shirts do anything for me either bc my chest is too large lmk if you ever figure anything out
I do believe they make binders for sports and working out. You'd have to look it up. I do believe they are called sports binders
Hey so some binders can be used for exercise but the websites always suggest one size up from what you normally bind with, hope this helped!
-Milo
Twitchyboi thanks guys! i do marching band and i run frequently so i’ll be sure to check some of these out... i appreciate the help :))
angel Czepczynski no problem, best of luck :)
omg i followed you on tumblr about six years ago. i watched one of your first videos after you posted it there, when i was like 14 haha. there's such a distinct shift in your videos now vs your older ones, i'm so happy that you're happier! you're doing so good cam! ❤️
personal tip, would be to 1) not fill in your eyebrows!!! I never did it in my life but I've ran into my friends being miss gendered a lot and now that they stopped filling in their eyebrows they haven't gotten miss gendered 2) try exercising! I've recently gotten in my schools boys swim team and have noticed how much it has helped me gain muscle ( im on T for 11 months now) and I've just started working out ,my friends who are swimmers invite me to work out with them a lot! just go for it! 3) Pack for sure, it helped me a lot. 4) be confident (which im never but I try) lamo hoped this helps!
I love you dude you helped me in my transition so much
i love you bud! i’m so thankful i’ve helped :) that means a lot to hear that
No matter what you identify as you are valid, no matter what people tell you you are valid and amazing stay strong
Not sure if they have it in the States but in the UK ASOS is fantastic for online shopping. Especially with jeans you can choose waist and length so it's great for shorter guys with bigger waists.
Samuel their shortest leg size is 30 imma 27-28 :(
I shop at places like ross and tj maxx because they are really cheap, also i love to get the target pants goodwill gets, along with random tees and flannels/courduroy shirts. I'm 5' 1" and im pretty slim but i buy a size medium because the looser fit helps hide my chest/binder. Also i recommend slim taper pants, especially if you are short!
I second Ross and TJ Maxx, also Marshalls is good. Those are my favorite places to go.
I love how i was already doing most of this subconsciously before i even knew i was trans lmao. I just dressed like that to hide my chest and hips
Thank you for your help! I'm getting my first binder this weekend, and I can NOT wait!
I just wanted to say that this is the first video I've seen of this man and I can just say that my recommended page was blessed with the existance of this man.
dressing "masculine" always makes me feel good. although some stuff may not be my style, if I really wanna pass I'll try it. it sucks for me tho because even tho I bind I still have a large chest so it'll never be completely flat and plus the hips and I feel all girly looking :-// thanks for the tips man
btw if ur wearing a short sleeve shirt and u wanna show off the design, u can always wear an unzipped zip-up hoodie over it :D i do that a lot lol
So far I have had good luck I get misgendered still but I get called a boy more often which is extremely grateful for that
Same! I mostly get misgendered if im with my boyfriend because we dont pass that well but ive found when i wear beanies i pass way better
Tip: get into fashion where baggy clothes are normal, such as goth and steampunk
Thats kinda my style
( mostly emo lol )
I'm ftm and my mom doesn't know. It hurts when she calls me my deadname, but that's my fault for not telling her. It took me years to convince her to get really short hair. My dad knows but keeps it from my mom, because he wants me to tell her not him. He calls me Tyler, uses male pronouns for me, he calls me son too. My sister has always known me as her big sister so she calls me Sis. It sucks, but she's also 3, I've said "Brother. " but stopped after a bit because it would confuse my mom. I'm currently only 12, so I do have 6 years until I can move out, or get t, or do anything like that. Hopefully it's worth the wait
I can’t believe how high my voice was when I was younger and it got way deeper even though I was never on testosterone. I sounded like a chipmunk. Now my friend agreed with me that my voice is quite deep so I’m not so dyspeptic about it.
Me: *trying to pass *
This video: hEY HEY HEY
I’m looking forward to when I get my first binder especially because it will be in the colour of my skin tone. I will be able to rock white shirts in that :)
“wEe wOo uP mY aSs”
I died
Same
I'm emo so I just shop at Hot Topic 😂
Archer B ooh! same here!
Same 😂
How do you afford their clothes???
Same 😂👍
5:06 "wHaT jUsT fElLlLL" *Continues to talk and ignores that the fact something fell*
My ftm brother said that he wants to get me binder for my birthday :D I’m so grateful to have such a wonderful loving and caring brother like him.
(I’m transitioning from female to male starting now!) :)
Dude that’s awesome! You’re so lucky you have a supportive brother
*WEE WOO UP MY ASS BRO!!!*
im dying xD
XD
To wear a white shirt, layer an undershirt over your binder, then your white shirt over that. It's not as sus as you might think - a lot of cisguys wear undershirts under everything they wear for any number of reasons (absorb sweat, hide nipples, hide bodyhair - you name it), and the collar of the shirt will sit tighter to your neck than the straps of a binder, so it'll take care of that strap-showing issue as well.
thank you !!
I`m struggling a lot on how I see myself, I am born a girl and I dress like a boy and wear sport bras to make my chest flatter but I still like making myself look good with makeup girly makeup or boy-ish makeup. I hate wearing dresses as I don`t feel good in them but I love wearing suits hhHhhHhHhH
We have the same name! :)
instead of asking yourself "what am i", asking yourself "what would make me happy" may help. gender identity is complicated, so take your time with yourself, and whatever answer you come to is okay, and if you change your mind later that's okay too
That doesnt make you trans.we are born that way and you cant specifically struggle with it,do what you want,if you arent thinking of yourself as a girl but rather as a boy,then transition.
I used to feel the same way. I liked having a flat chest some days, and liked showing off my curves others. Then, sometimes, I felt like neither gender. Then, I happened to discover this thing called being ✨gendeefluid✨ ppl who are genderfluid alter their gender to how they feel that day. If I feel like dressing masc, I consider my pronouns to be he/him/they/them. And just the opposite for days I feel like being feminine.
Hope this helps!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜
CORRECTION: your binder only shows if you wear a white shirt IF YOU ARE WHITE OR HAVE LIGHTER SKIN. If you are black, like me, a black/dark colored binder will blend in with your skin. If you are white, a white/light colored binder will blend in. Same thing works with bras.
Thank you!
Problem: how to deal with homophobic parents who won’t let you shop in the boys section bc “you’re a girl” you need to get a dress!
MHM Im not allowed to go to the men's sections eitherrr, they say I'm a girl so i need to dress, talk, sit and act feminine kdkcmdnc
I love your videos so much, they really help me mentally. I'm not a starter so I don't really need the tips but just that someone can pass so we'll and be so happy gives me hope 😊
Omg, I thought H&M only exists in germany (where I live) xD
It is also in England
And it's in the Netherlands too - I used to think it was only in the Netherlands.
Aish.. same with England!!
haha lol. H&M beherrscht die Welt.
@@marleen.nicht.verstehen That's kinda scary, actually 😂😅
0:57 "Wee-woo up my @ss, bro."
Quote of the decade.
My voice can ethier be feminine or masculine, I dont have a "tone" in my voice but since I am FTM I always use my more masculine voice.
My family told me I couldn't be trans because of how I dress... I still love dresses and skirts because that became my safe clothes. And because I didn't have a fase were I dressed over extreem masculine they don't believe me. But I had, it was 2 weeks long till I noticed that so extreem masculine was not who I am. Yes I'm a man, but not that masculine as they want me to be. I watched this to look what I can wear to make me at least pass in my family, but you're right, it shouldn't matter how I dress.
I'm not ftm or mtf im genderfluid but more masculine, this really helped thanks!
Finally! Somebody just like me
For those in the UK, Sports Direct is also pretty cheap for clothing!
You’re such a sweetie ily
Yes! Thankyou omg cam yes. I’m gonna start going to a different school and go stealth so my goal is gonna be to pass, and I’m gonna work for it. Thankyou so much
my hips are pretty wide and I have pretty big thighs so constant dysphoria it is
I'll never look into a mirror again
Thank you so much, bro. Really appreciate the help! 😉 I really havent gotten any testosterone or gotten a deeper voice. I did find out I was trans when I was 11, which kinda helped w/ binding. I always thought I could be 'too late'.
I wanna tell my parents I’m trans but idk. I know my mom would probably support me since her sister is trans (mtf) and she used to let her borrow her clothes to make her happy, but my dad... oof I don’t know about that.
Tell them when you're ready & confident enough 💕
Take your time, don't stress yourself. You should come out when you're ready. Maybe you could only talk with your mother first so you could talk together to your father but that's just a advice, do whats best for you.
you’re literally one of my favorite youtubers. thank you for being such an inspiration. :)
luv you so much!!!
H&M is my placeee
clothes that help with my dysphoria: basketball shorts, big sweaters, any kind of sports brand (like Champion, Adidas, Nike), boots (they make you look and feel taller), dark colored clothes in general, team Jerseys, camo... also make sure if you want to wear jeans you try them on first and they're not tight at all
basketball shorts are a godsend !!
@@abigaildearmon2324 yes they are and now I'm sad cus it's getting to be winter and I can't wear them :(
@@not.alexanderr yeah :( but that's why sweats exist, isn't it?
@@abigaildearmon2324 yeah but anything that isn't basketball shorts make me feel dysphoric cus you can see more of an outline of my body...
I hope you have a awesome Christmas
I only got a haircut and right after that, people who didn’t know me started calling me buddy
I am ‘blessed’ with hips and thighs for days and I hate them they make me more of a girl. I am trying to go for gender fluid and trying to explore but it’s hard when everything is a dead give away for a girl. I love tights but hate the way they show my hips so I wear hoodies to try to hide them
Omg! I went to Primark today and I obviously searched the woman's section because my MUM was there and they do SO MANY GENDER NEAUTRAL OPRIONS for BOTH SEXES. I'm genderfluid btw x thankyou X your tips helped! X
I'm whereing a hat... I'm in bed.....
Dude this guy is actually hilarious 😂
I buy all my clothes from primark I brought a shit it was £1 so I defo recommend primark
"I brought a shit" nice spelling lol
snazzy lizardz XD I didn’t realise that
This helps a lot
This year I always said I was like a male and I was just feminine cuz I was gay
But next year I’m hoping to look more masculine(hair cuts and clothing)and this totally helps! ❤️
I am finally going to change my name!
I ordered a binder without my parent permission lol. (With my money) my parents are probably going to be pissed when it comes b/c I am not allowed to buy things even with my money.
I really wanna take testosterone at some point but I'm terrified as all hell when it comes to needles stabbing me
There's a gel form of T that has nothing to do with needles. It's applied daily, and it'll keep your hormone levels more consistent than weekly/bi-weekly. ❤️
@@snazzylizardz5041 i had no idea about this! This is amazing ty so much
I rarely comment on videos, but you just popped up in my recommended, and I am flabbergasted by how handsome you are! Great video, love your genuine personality, and (of course) I subscribed
I’ve been trans (f-m) sense 2nd grade and I didn’t know what it was but I’m in 7th grade and my mom won’t let me cut my hair because she thought it was just a phase because I stopped dressing more like a boy after a year or two because I thought it was weird to dress as the opposite gender :\ anyways I don’t know how to come out to my family so do you have any advice?
ALSO she thinks I’m going to be bullied thats why she won’t let me cut my hair she isn’t transphobic⚠️
it’s summer and i’m so sweaty 😢 hawaiian/men’s floral T shirts or button-ups are a life saver when hiding ur chest and binder ! also dark coloured shorts that are a bit above the knee works most of the time (i roll them up to be at the best length)
lol i have 2 american eagle jeans that i found at a tjmaxx kinda place... i'd already figured out everything in this video myself but it was still good :V and im so lucky that i naturally turned out to be an edgy faux goth with regards 2 my style bc then i have a "better" excuse for owning _all black everything_ (...except not my camp uniform, unfortunately)
I wear like a black t shirt . then a flannel and finally a baggy hoodie for pants like a baggy jeans. And full black nike for shoes and ALWAYS were a hat, cause my mum won't let me cut my hair super short so when I have my hat I look like a boy with a little above his shoulders my name is gender neatrul so i don't need change it
-laughs nervously in genderfluid-
Why does this help with trying to be more masculine- qwq 👉👉
Moon because that’s what to supposed to do..
Thank you so much! I wish I watched this video sooner. I never really saw myself as female. this is really help full so thank you
there is a wrong way to dress
SOCKS. WITH. SANDLES.
Excuse u, its called high fashion, sweetie
This is the first time I've watched one of your videos, I'm less than a minute in and I'm about to subscribe. I think that says something good, I don't know what it is but i says something.
real talk italian dressing is pretty good though,,
is it ok if i identify as italian dressing now?
My favorite brands new are Zara and H&M, but if used, I really go for Banana Republic and American Eagle 👀
Also, slim fit and flex material pants are really great because they don't bring out the thighs/hips too much, at least for me (and I have a little extra fat in certain areas.)