The first comment you read really resonated with me. I'm native American and have lived in the UK since I was a young child. I live almost the entierity of my life never thinking about the colour of my skin, when people asked "where are you from originally?" I was happy to tell them. Then I fell in with a group of woke students from Oxford University, I was taught to see racism everywhere. Suddenly when people were showing an interest and wanting to know more about me it was racism. When I went into a pub, I'd notice that I was the only non-white person in the room. If someone didn't like me, whereas before I'd think "well you can't win everyone" now it was because of my skin colour. THAT takes a toll on your mental health. My white wife was accused of "fetishising" my brown skin, when I questioned the dogma I was accused of having "internaslised colonial mindset". I had to get the hell away from those people and get back to living my life not obsessed with the colour of my fucking skin. It's nice to be back to normal.
Mate I'm sorry they put you through that, I genuinely am. Just know that Oxford University Students are all toff cnuts who's mummah's and papaah's pay millions to send them here just so they can get -the finest education money can buy- their heads kicked in worse than moonrakers by actual Oxford people _(by which I mean OX4 lads)_
as a white person who is fascinated with native American culture-THANK YOU When I was like 15 or something I played Assasins Creed III for the first time and that's how I fell in love with native culture. You put a big emphasis on healing (I don't know how to describe what I want to say since English isn't my first language so pardon me) and I feel better when I'm exploring your culture. It's so beautiful! I obviously don't know every single tribe and nation but still. I really like the hoop dance-I like how various figures resemble actual animals I also love Japanese culture-but turns out that online I can't express my love for other cultures. Everything is racist, everything is xenophobic etc etc. Few years ago I was brainwashed into thinking that wearing kimono is a cultural appropration. Turns out many people in Japan think it's totally okay for foreigners to own and wear traditional Japanese clothing I want to explore the world, make friends but I don't want to be seen as a monster just because I'm white. I have a dream of attending powwow in the future, but I'm afraid people won't like my presence there. But everything I want is to watch people dance and sing. I just want to experience beautiful things, not to any harm ._.
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm the bullshit that people told me is that it was a "micro aggression" that by asking me where I was from they wanted to make me feel "other". Ofcourse not, they were just making conversation. All that is achieved by that mentality is to create an "us and them" mentality and exacerbate social divides. These people are insidious, they don't want people to get on. I genuinely belive that they want to divide society and create divisions in order to use minorities as pawns to further their political agendas.
@_trash_possum_ oh I'm south rather than North. My grandparents were Quechua. They lived in the Andes herding animals in the mountains. Unfortunately, so much of the culture of their ancestors has been lost to history after the Spanish Inquisition. I remember my grandmother telling me that she would look at the ruins left by Inca and wonder who built them. But there is still a lot of fascinating culture and the nice thing is I find that it's a lot less corrupted by North American identity politics. People are more than happy to share their culture (although probably for a price). Peru has it's problems with racism, the Spanish descendants generally live in the city's and the native descendants live in the mountains and jungles. The people in cities see them as backward peasants. But under a unified Peruvian identity things are slowly getting better. And they achive that by unified identity not by obsessing over differences. People care very little about the things that wokeists say they should.
I’m a white man in my 30s. Have always had to insist that doctors take another look or run more tests. Health industry isn’t so much racist as it is incompetent.
Yep, these are definitely issues, still. Female anatomy isn't sufficiently taught like male anatomy is, we never even got to get to that point in medicine before the establishment decided to go back to pretending women don't actually exist apart from men (as was believed in ancient times, basically women were just mutated, malformed males. Ironically, from a biological point of view, the opposite is the case). @CheesusChrist-xv5bm
Honestly. I cut off so many people because of it. I don’t mind people wanting to vent occasionally, but when every moment of thought for them is “I’m a victim,” it’s fucking exhausting. The funniest, most ironic thing is they almost always get annoyed when someone else brings up their own issues.
@@beckee6282thats so true. just changed my friendcircle a few months ago. they were always joking about trauma, trauma dumping and everything...you always had to be scared about something you say. thats so exhausting. they are doing horrible btw. no job, crying about that, dreams about becoming influencers😐 im so happy rn:)
YES! Because everything is a constant trauma competition - who is more oppressed, who has more trauma, who has the more trendy mental health diagnosis. They can’t talk about anything normally without turning it into a trauma pissing match. This is what makes them feel special where as the rest of us understand it’s ok to not be special and just be ~normal~ and if we want to feel special we need to contribute to community in a way that warrants it.
I feel that. Had to walk away from my "best friend" because everything was about her, the world was against her, every day was an emotional battle, crying was as common as breathing, and more... I genuinely hope she is doing better, but I had to refuse to be her crutch/therapist anymore
Reading this really made me lol. I instantly thought of channeling my inner redneck and hitting doc with the "Hooowdee Paartneeer" of a life time. maybe not the best idea but probably still would have been my exact response in this situation. Like F you doc stay in your lane. What else did you want me to say. I only came for your medical opionion leave the rest at home please
Or a fucking "birthing body". It's hilarious how these same people get up in arms screaming about the Handmaiden's Tale when abortion gets regulated, but then pull this shit. As if calling a woman a "birthing body" isn't far, far more dehumanizing.
I love the pain comments, I'm white and a woman, I've spent 7 years just to get 1 doctor to believe my pain was not normal and I wasn't overreacting. I am now getting a full diagnosis for endometriosis and started a course of medications. I was always told my pain was 'normal' but to spin it on that is crazy.
fellow endo gal here 💛. So sorry you’re also suffering from this horrible disease. I have severe stage 4 endo and have had 3 surgeries in 18 months, including 2 x excisions & a hysterectomy. My pain never stops and I’m on heavy pain killers daily 😟. It infuriates me so much when trans woman makes a ‘I’m getting my period’ video and makes jokes about ‘cramps’. Our suffering isn’t a joke, it’s not quirky or cute. Us women with endometriosis & other gynae conditions fight so hard to get our pain to be taken seriously. If they want to be women they need to educate themselves on the serious health issues (like endo) that we go through
I went to countless doctors because I couldn't walk due to extreme pain and discomfort on feet. They called me crazy, dellusional and kicked me out. One even wrote "imaginary pain" on my online medical history. They said that my actual problem was so rare and only found on athletes and dancers that they didn't bother checking for that option
@@MandiaM27Jebus Chrisp! How the hell do people like that have licenses to practice medicine???? I developed serious chronic back in 2008 that came on so suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, I can literally name the exact MINUTE it began, and I spent half a year going through a bunch of different doctors before finally finding one able to diagnose it as fibromyalgia. But I've never had a doctor claim that I was just making my problems up.
The day I finally broke free and realized I’m not a victim because I’m gay was the day my mental health took a stark 180 turn for the better. Have I experienced actual homophobia? For sure. I’ve been called every gay slur you can imagine back in the day. I’ve even been called “it” which apparently some people use as a pronoun today 🙄. However, as an adult that doesn’t happen anymore. In my adult life I’ve not had one door that hasn’t opened for me because I’m gay. When Trump, who is supposedly very homophobic (he’s not btw) was president, my life as an openly gay man did not change like everyone said it would. Oddly enough, the most homophobic thing that has been said to me in over a decade came from a trans activist on a dating app that called me a transphobe for not wanting to be with a trans man with a vagina and was using terms like “genital preference” to shame the fact that I’m a biological man attracted to other biological men. It’s insanity out there y’all.
Your gay for a reason!! My gay uncle was also told he was transphobic for not wanting a trans man!!! You and him are gay for a reason!! Unbelievable!!! It’s rebranded homophobia in the name of “social justice” 🙄
I feel bad for gay people that are lumped in with every "LGBTQIA+" variant, even though those are all very different thing with different causes, effects, variations, peoples, and cultures. Lumping every non-cishet person together is starting to sound more like a disservice and a dismissal than allyship.
@@via-anghelmagahum2586 I think it's absolutely absurd that gay and bi people are expected to encourage and support every 14 year old who chooses to call themselves nonbinary, genderfluid, genderqueer, or some neo-gender variant just because you are all thoughtlessly lumped together. I'm a straight man myself, but I feel terrible seeing the greater queer community tear themselves apart by trying to embrace fallacies and unscientific positions.
As a bipolar haver, when im having an episode, the last thing on my mind is setting up my tripod to record it. If youre enjoying your mental illness, you dont have a mental illness. I said what i said
I agree. last thing I wanna do when I have panic attacks is film them. I want to hide and wait till they pass. Because when they are witnessed by others, like when it sometimes happens in public, they just think I'm faking..
It's like: *starts to have a crippling episode* "Oh wait let me set up my camera, make sure I look good and now I can have my episode" *gets likes and people calling them brave and survivors* *does it over and over again for attention*
I was diagnosed with ADD in 1985…. And sadly, two of my 4 sons also have adhd… I hate it. They hate it. We struggled so much in school. And they never run around TELLING PEOPLE!!
Same, it's been years of trying to recognize my active behavior so i can manage it and not effect others. And all the 'adhd' kids comings into my work that are either faking 'lol so quirky' behaviors, or just not managing their own symptoms cause asking someone to manage their own behavior is mean and victim blaming.
That’s because ADHD is a learning disability and not a mental disorder. A child in school is not going to readily admit they have a learning disability as it has a stigma for being slow or will result in special education classes. Mental illness is not the same as a learning disability.
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm I doubt they'd even care enough to look up things on their phone to be honest. A lot of nurses and PAs often end up doing the job of doctors now and the doctors just agree with whatever they think is going on, not all doctors but it is pretty common.
honestly its going to be scary in 10-15 years when we can do better studies on the long term effects of people taking hormone therapy. if just the short term effects are so drastic, imagine what the long term effects will be. in 50 years they will look back at hormone therapy being allowed in the same way we view lead pipes or asbestos walls now
The autism one hits me hard. I am high functioning autism and pursuing a PhD. I told a professor that it can be hard because people don't see that I am on the spectrum. She goes "well if you identify as autistic then who are we to judge" UM I do not identify as autistic. I am diagnosed
I’m also high functioning autistic, that is super disrespectful, I’m tired of people making our struggles their whole personality or use autism as an excuse to not pursue their dreams or actually do something with their life! We worked hard to push away the setbacks in our life, but I give most of my credit to my dad that actually cares about me and helped my autism!
One of the inate fears of having a panic attack within panic disorder is having one in public-- it's actually part of the disorder to extremely fear having it happen in front of other people, and it's absolutely crippling.. It blows my mind when people record their "panic attacks" as if genuine panic attacks aren't mostly invisible/90% in your head. I worked so hard throughout my whole life, to be mentally stable and normal, that I genuinely find this whole "mental illness is cool" thing incredibly insulting.
To be fair, I can feel a panic attack coming on and if I wanted to I could definitely set up a tripod to film myself. I also have a flight reaction 9/10 times so my panic attacks are very visible. I would be very careful drawing generalisations about other people's mental health presentations based on personal experience.
Yup. Have had to leave the grocery store on more than one occasion because of this. I do not want to have an episode in public, let alone film it for the internet.
Yeah, I've had ptsd and panic disorder for 25 years. You're absolutely wrong anxiety can be visible some people can escape or hold back before anyone notices in time to get away, but they absolutely do have physical symptoms and can be obviously visible. Mine I can typically hide so people actually think I look calm. Other times I can shake visibly like a leaf even my head while trying to appear normal. My whole body will also go numb or tingling down my limbs while my vision starts to black out which i never used to have that one in particular. I now have syncope. I've cried hysterically when younger in an unable to sit still type of attack. The urge to escape and without escape it turns worse. It develops, changes, creates different ssymptoms, it can even go away for several months before coming back. Don't speak on others experiences. I have no idea about people recording them but your experience is different from others. I can also feel mine building up an hour ahead as i try keeping it in control.
i was just about to ask how old she is. She looks a bit younger, like stil in high school. Glad someone who got bombarded with this crap in school came out normal....
I don't think it's a mental illness. I think it's mental cowardice, an inability to accept the world is infinitely more complex than we could ever imagine and an attempt to streamline justice and fairness (they are not the same thing)
So according to you schizophrenia is not a thing? Do you not see the similarities in these 2 conditions. Faking having illness is mental illness. Think about that for a moment.
@@Intruder74it depends. Kids go around thinking they are mermaids and vampires, so a lot of it can just be imagination. Once you’re an adult though and you’re doing all this then yes, I’d say it’s a sign of mental illness
@@Intruder74 There's a big entry for anti-psychiatry on wikipedia. The church of Scientology also oppose psychiatry. I watched "Abigail Shrier on Gen Z's Anxiety Problem and Why Therapy May Not Be the Solution" and I see similarities with treatment of personality disorder, ptsd, mood disorder etc. _"In the culture of his Dagara people, schizophrenics are not viewed pathologically, but often as mediums bringing messages to the community from the spirit world."_ If someone were repeating psychotic episodes, that's severely mentally ill. Hallucination, paranoia, delusions, word salad, can be indicative of a disease called schizophrenia but neurologist may think twice depending on what the patient tells them. Be it a Schizophrenia, Schizo-affective, bipolar-nos, complex ptsd, if you're seeing a incompetent psychiatrist, you'll receive differential diagnosis. Is prolonged grief disorder a thing? You sound a little biased. Learning about Philosophy of Psychiatry entry on Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy may help you understand more.
Being referred to as birthing person or person who menstruates feels so degrading. Like is that all I am to you? I also don't want people knowing I have mental health problems because I've been treated differently. Being laughed at and called stupid by your friends because you easily forget things isn't fun.
Although it's understandable, the debate is about "inclusivity". The word women is no longer exclusive to cisgender menstruators. What you call degrading or dehumanizing is neutral language to them.
Currently in medical school, and I can confirm that we are being taught to think like this about this. On top of lectures on “social determinants of health,” we have had community diversity panels in which people of different races, sexual orientations, gender identities, and physical disabilities would come in and discuss their negative experiences with healthcare. The panels were simultaneously attempting to say “assume that because of these characteristics, your patient has had a rough life,” as well as “make no assumptions about your patients.” Altogether, between the lectures, panels, and videos from the Diversity Health Series I had to watch, it probably ended up being 50 hours of my “medical training.”
Hello from med school in Eastern Europe. Here it's the exact opposite, it said at one point on one slide to not discriminate based on sexuality and that's been it for the past year.
I got professionally diagnosed with high functioning asperger's when I was three. I'm 29 now and the amount of young women who run around bragging about being "neurodivergent" or "having the 'tism" whether they be professionally diagnosed or not make my blood boil. Imagine making a tiny, insignificant word your entire personality and claiming it's what you are rather than just a normal quirk.
They frustrate me so much!! I wasn't diagnosed until i was 30, but it was such a relief to understand WHY I had the struggles I've had. I can't read people for nothing, and apparently my facial expressions don't match what i'm actually feeling, so I get misread in return. It's led to a TON of miscommunication issues. My husband is the only person I know that can bridge the communication gap. But I don't use it as an excuse now that i know. I keep trying to improve instead of these fakers using it to be a**holes with impunity.
It really bothers me as well. My cousin has Asperger’s, diagnosed as a toddler as most who actually have autism are when they don’t meet development markers. He struggles to live a normal life and it’s very apparent the lack of social ability. These girls that think liking small spoons means they’re autistic and forcing a diagnosis as an adult is so disgusting and diminishes the seriousness of the diagnosis. My cousin suffered, still does. It’s not something to be idolized.
I’m a white woman whose pain was not believed after multiple doctors visits and 2 hospitals visits. Turned out I had blood clots in my lungs (pulmonary embolisms). I was told over and over that I just had heartburn. Pretty sure race wasn’t a factor as we were all white. But I know my pain doesn’t matter to the people featured in this video because of my race, right?
It was probably because you’re a woman. We still aren’t taken as seriously as men a lot of the time. We are under prescribed pain meds even when dealing with the same condition, such as surgery, as men.
Pain is being widely undertreated now because of the oxycontin epidemic, and now they've gone too far in the other direction. Doctors are afraid of losing their license because some jackwaggon at the DEA thinks they know better. So unless they have a very clear and documented need for pain, people will suffer.
@@alemswazzuThey increased heroin importation and cracked down on pain meds as if it was a coordinated plan to get everyone hooked on street drugs. Nearly everyone's story is how they were cut off by a Dr so they went to the street for a cheaper, stronger more reliable source.
I have a relative whom went to the doctor 3 times due to having severe abdominal pain and was sent home with painkillers every time. 4 months later died of Pancreatic cancer. They were white. Do we get an advert (Commercial) now about "White pain" ? Honestly, the 83% of people said they had a negative experience with a healthcare provider when seeking help with pain is not a "black people" thing just a people thing . That aside I sincerely hope you are getting better.
I was sexually abused by multiple men as an infant and young girl, with other abuse continuing into young adulthood. I have mental health issues. You know what I don’t do? Cry about it all over the internet! Why not? 1) I’m too busy actually dealing with the trauma to worry about whining about it and 2) Trauma and mental health issues are awful, and all I want is to be NORMAL! I’m tired of seeing these people making those of us with real issues look terrible!
I was diagnosed with OCD and it felt like it was destroying my life. Imagine living with the constant feeling like you are always restless unless you did something to "fix" the thing you are worrying about, even if you already did something about it. OCD isn't something that makes you "cool", its a condition that can take over your life and it takes a lot of time and work to overcome it.
3:31 well i was born without a uterus so im technically not a menstruator or a birthing person. does that make mr no longer a women? i guess according to these people, if you can’t give birth or menstruate, you’re not a woman even though i was literally born female and i have all the other bodily components that women have. discrimination, perhaps? it’s funny how they think they’re being less discriminatory by calling us these things yet they are actually making it worse. it actually offends me.
Oh but didn't you know? Intersex traits like that mean you're part of the trans 'community' lol Joking, I've seen so many people using it as a justification for all this insanity and I'll bet that absolutely sucks. Hope your doing alright
I saw a video of a real male doctor claiming that women are discriminated against when prescribed painkillers because they’re given lesser doses than men on average. The dosage of painkillers, antibiotics, etc. are prescribed based on body weight/size. Women are smaller and weigh less than men on average meaning that they’re given smaller doses for the same reason we give smaller doses to children. It was professionally embarrassing.
Thank you. I was a bit skeptical about this oft quoted ‘fact’, especially now that in the U.K. female practicing physicians are nearly half of the total. I know a few crap doctors but fewer who are genuinely stupid, or genuinely misogynist.
@@celiacresswell6909 It especially didn’t make sense when you think about it from the pov of an actual misogynist. A misogynist would think that women are too weak to handle the pain, so they would end up prescribing high dosages to women.
I actually have autism. Whenever I hear anyone say they have it, my first question is "are you diagnosed?" The answer is always no. If you're not diagnosed by a doctor, you don't have it...
I would encourage people to get a diagnosis, but I can’t just assume they’re telling the truth until a professional assess them due to the current situation with faking disorders
That's not true. I had ADHD my whole life before I finally got a diagnosis. I just didn't even think I had it until someone mentioned to me they thought I had it. Then I read up on it and kinda agreed. People don't have a diagnosis for multiple real reasons. Not having insurance is a huge one. But I get it, people do like to say they have stuff as if they know for sure when they don't know for sure yet.
Aaaand just like that, my autism is cured. Thank you, internet stranger, for alerting me to the fact that a piece of paper is what makes people neurodivergent *and not* how one's brain has been wired since before they were born. Very cool
I'm afraid that I will be discriminated against for promotions at work if people find out that I had to be diagnosed with actual and real Dyslexia. It's not what most people think it is. It is an issue with brain structure that affects language processing: written, audible, and even affects speaking. I had to work so hard just to keep up with everyone else in school that I had no life outside school and homework. It hurts a little when I hear people joke about being a little dyslexic or thinking that you can just grow out of it.
I have dyscalculia, I was worried about it at work too but my boss' wife has dyslexia so he understood. And I work in a very small company that doesn't have to follow the ADA either. It's like if your company has less than 10 or 15 employees (I can't remember which) you don't have to accommodate anything because the expense is considered unreasonable for a small business.
I have actual mental health issues, having had Clinical Depression for over 30 years. One thing I refuse to do is let it run my life. I insist on having a normal life in spite of these handicaps. I hold down a full time job, have a loving family, and take my medications on time. I am not my diagnosis, my diagnosis is merely an obstacle I have to overcome to live a normal life.
You're doing great. No, no, you're doing amazing. I don't know how often you hear these words, but I hope they help you the way they helped me. Depression is one horrible son of a bitch. Even when you think you've slain it it finds a way to creep back in and try to ruin life. Don't let it win. You're doing amazing ❤
Telling a severely mentally ill fellow human being that they are privileged after they have attempted to end their own existence because they are so desperately bereft and without hope. That's so despicable. That really could push that person over the edge in to another attempt. The fact that the mental health worker knows this, actually qualifies as evil in my book.
I had one tell me my CPTSD from military service and other trauma I've experienced in my life isn't something to be sad over Because it makes me fun and quirky.
@@christracy2144 Technically? He meant gncdl, so "deadly" would be technically correct. Second question; since they were ewhit, would that be classed as a sucde attempt from a clnzr, or a dclnzr?
Everyone with pain has bad experiences with healthcare. This is quite simply because being in constant pain is awful, so it always feels like doctors don't do enough.
This is true. And I know that they don’t want to give me pain killers because so many people are addicts coming in with a fake illness. My brother is one. I still had to go with him to the ER because my dad insisted. (I blame big pharma in this case for starting this cluster--)
I'm not sure the reason. Doctor's don't seem to trust medicine in general: they don't trust naturopathic medicine because of insufficient evidence and they don't trust pharmaceuticals or at least don't want to overperscribe not just because they're scared the patient will get addicted but because they're scared of the side effects. They also don't like to feel helpless. Also, pregnant women and cancer patients need to be very careful with what medicine they take, and if the doctor suspects either of those, they won't perscribe, but they can't diagnose you for cancer without imagining and in Canada that takes a while to get. That being said, oftentimes it can be fixed with exercises or supplements, sometimes dietary changes if allergies are the cause, so no need not to try mild "natural" interventions as they look into it further.
@@dearthditch As much as I hate big pharma, in this case I can't blame them. This began with junkies "busting scrips" and a few doctors over-prescribing pain meds (not for cash, of course) then fed bean-counters started keeping a *very* close eye on it. Now doctors are terrified to give patients enough meds to actually help (my daughter is dealing with this now). To make matters worse *someone* opened the borders and flooded our country with fentanyl, but that's a matter for another day.
yea and they always seem to immediately think you want pain killers. the pain thing isn't just black women, women in general are ignored for their pain. C-section? take some Tylenol. Lower abdominal pain? its probably cramps. I've gone through this round and round my whole life.
@@aubreymorgan9763 The thing is that there often isn't anything else they can do. And painkillers, apart from the addiction problem, often don't even really work that well. It'll take the edge of, but it won't solve it. Unfortunately, pain is still to quite a large extent actually a mystery. We can't even do the most basic thing, which would be to measure it. In other words, nobody actually knows how much pain someone is in, including doctors. We know people experience pain differently, but despite all our medical knowledge, the best we can do is ask the patient to rate it on a scale - which doesn't really mean anything because a 10 for one person might mean something completely different to another person.
Having ADHD is no joke and it is NOT ‘glamorous’. It has impacted almost every part of my life (I am 68) Constant financial problems and debt, lack of motivation, procrastination, being overwhelmed with things other people breeze through. Not feeling as though you can ‘adult’. Nearly becoming homeless because of rent arrears. The list goes on. Now, I have taken steps to make things easier for myself through research and reading many books on the subject. And I do not blame every mistake I make on the ADHD. I am accountable for my actions and this condition does not define me.
That Advil sign is actually very interesting. The study didn’t actually find bias, it found that 75% of Black people *believe* there is bias. This is not at all the same thing, but Advil is of course treating it like it’s the same thing. Also, this ad is seemingly recommending that Black people combat medical bias by… self medicating with pain pills that everyone knows are dangerous in large quantities/over long term use? YIKES.
My brain screams "opioid epidemic" when I see this. That's a big pharma company, they want to sell their product and I guarantee, they wouldn't mind getting people addicted
My youngest brother is autistic, ADHD, OCD, dyslexic, and dysgraphic - all from having open heart surgery at 3 days old for a birth defect caused by a Pfizer-manufactured medication. Watching him suffer from the OCD has been especially hard. It’s like he’s a fighting an actual demon to just have a normal day. Every. Day. It disgusts me that people will claim to have these disorders just to get attention and make excuses for their laziness or lack of self control. And now we have a system that enables it.
Stopped speaking to all of my high school friends after realizing those on the far left are constantly miserable and I couldnt stand it anymore. A few years later and realize I’m so much happier being in the middle and thinking for myself and surrounding myself with people similar.
I’m 20 now; I was friends with a lot of obviously neurodivergent girls in middle school. They are all either they/them or tranž now. I also had to cut them off- because the negativity they constantly bring. Despite me trying my hardest to be helpful and caring- they continued to suck any energy out of me. I was constantly trying to make them feel better or show them the world is worth so much more- that they were worth so much more. Instead I was always greeted with awful behavior and they would constantly be comfortable in their chaos, and they simply didn’t want to change.
The pain one in particular really grates on me. I a 32 yo biological female (white), was in a massive car wreck broke every bone in the right side of my face, broke several vertebrae in my neck and back, jaw wired shut for 4 months. They refused to give me pain meds. They discharged me from the hospital 3 weeks after the accident with NO PAIN MEDS. When I tried to get a script they couldn't find my doc. Two days W/O anything for pain, my husband got his dentist to give him a script for viocoden for a tooth filling before I was ever even able to get my doc on the phone!
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm really that would make sense with what happened in hospital last week for me.. I really want to take it further but don’t know how and am currently looking for a new doctor
That's kind of hard to believe. I was prescribed 60 5mg roxicodone when I got 2 screws put in my ankle even though they already injected a nerve blocker and the doctor even knew I was an opiate addict. He's lucky they gave it for just a filling, usually local anesthetic does the job. They usually only bust out the Tylenol 3 for tooth extraction or other oral surgery.
@@ChiTownGuerrilla I'm so glad for you that your medical experience was better than mine. Perhaps your care team was more willing to prescribe you heavy medications because you are already a waste of an addict. Whereas my care team didn't want to risk the prescription because they didn't want to see me turn into someone like you. The tone of your reply is quite cunty.
i once got into a horrible argument with my boyfriend over the "birthing person" argument. he's genderfluid. i have no problem with that, i just wish he wouldn't put that on me. i was driving when it happened. i brought up that it upsets me that people refer to women as birthing people, people who have periods, and worst of all (more or less), chest feeders. he argued that it was inclusive. i argued that it was disgustingly exclusive and promotes the erasure of women's roles in the world. he got so mad and said, "what makes a woman a woman?" and i had to pull over because i was so heated. why do i have to be referred to as cisgender? why do i have to be reduced to my body? i am a WOMAN. the world wouldn't be able to go 'round without women. i considered breaking up with him that day. another example: this didn't happen to me but my friend. her obgyn asked if she was attracted to people with vaginas or penises. she feels like she can't even say "i'm straight" without getting schooled about pronouns and inclusivity. it's so irritating.
I honestly have to say that in general, based on the limited info here, I'd advise you to either get him out of the cult or break up. Jonathan Haidt is a good start to get people back to normalcy in my opinion. Hope you're doing well!
15:16 I'm so glad you brought up adhd. So many SO many people don't understand that adhd can be VERY debilitating to some people. While some people with adhd find their systems and what works for them just fine, a lot don't. And lot of people completely dismiss adhd as something that can be debilitating, even some people with adhd do this because it isn't debilitating to THEM. So thank you, a lot Misha. From those of us who ACTUALLY struggle with adhd.
Growing up, I learned about the horrors of slavery and Jim Crow; I learned about the civil rights movement and the bravery of MLK and his followers, and how they transformed our society for the better; I could be happy and contented that racism, while still around, seemed to be gradually fading into the dustbin of history and that soon racial divisions would also fade away. But I never thought that as I turned into an adult, that I would have to be facing down racists, sexists, and anti-semites reincarnated into a new form in this socio-historical era. It's time sensible people concerned with decency and universal love for one's fellow person, stop letting these woke neo-racists get away with their racial hatred that hides behind their word salad.
its so crazy to me how the left tried to hard for so long to actually stop injustice, that once the major injustices were gone it seems they invented new ones up just to have something to fight for. thats literally what "micro agressions" are, imagined slights that are supposed to be racist in some way but aren't.
I've had severe crippling OCD my whole life. Anyone pretending to have it should be shamed. It's not something that's fun, and it's not something that should be used as an excuse. It's something I'm deeply ashamed of and something I have to struggle with every day.
Exactly. I have OCD too (diagnosed) and it's excruciating to deal with. The intrusive thoughts that keep you from leaving a goddamn room because everything is dangerous and might set on fire so I have to check a million times and I'm late to everything for it. The horrifying graphic images that come to my mind and make me feel like a horrible person and how I just can't do a simple thing like listening to a specific song because if I do my family will fucking die. I hate people who pretend to have it
Currently going through ocd treatment and I agree. It's something I hate talking about as it's extremely embarassing and debilitating. It's a true hell. Sending love out to you all ❤
I was never diagnosed with OCD but definitely had some tendencies. I couldn’t pass an American flag in 1st grade without saying the pledge of allegiance 3x in my head and saluting. It was exhausting. I also had a 2 week long panic attack at only 7 thinking I would sleepwalk and stab my family (intrusive thoughts). I still struggle with hand washing but not for myself, I’m scared I will give germs to my loved ones. It’s absolutely terrifying and not quirky.
I've also had severe OCD my whole life, but my parents treated it like a joke (literally, they would watch me having compulsions and laugh it off with, "Oh you're so OCD," but never had the thought to actually get it evaluated), so I didn't actually get diagnosed or treated at all in any capacity until I was in my 20s. The worst part for sure is the obsessions, which for me is highly perfectionistic, which leads to physically and mentally harmful compulsions because if I "mess up," my life, and everyone's lives I'm responsible for, is surely going to end (obviously, logically not true, but that's the obsessive part talking). I would KILL to be "normal." Being diagnosed was both the best and worst thing to happen to me. The best because I finally had an explanation for all the thinking errors and compulsive responses, but also the worst because nobody wants to have a mental illness. It's a battle every single day. Also the whole "I'm organized so I must have OCD" thing bothers me. Because I'm NOT physically organized most of the time, mostly because I'm usually using up most of my energy trying to keep myself afloat and not to get my whole body to not be one giant decomposing, infectious mess from the compulsion to pick.
Jfc. I'm white. I've had doctors shove me off and ignore what's going on with me, I've had to fight to get help, and had doctors still ignore me and lie about me and what I'm experiencing, so I had to fight harder and set the record straight on numerous occasions with actually good doctors, who then helped me.
Same here. On top of being a woman so I get written off twice. I’m not even fully white, I’m mixed, but I guess I look more white. They take one look at me and think I’m a drama queen because I’m not screaming in pain or bleeding out. I know when something is wrong with me, I’ve been in this body since the day I was born. I’m not wasting my time to go to the doctor for fun. They honestly think I must be bored or something.
Tbh I think that’s just how the business is built because it seems to happen to everyone regardless of race or gender. I have read articles about gender bias that, if anything, should be helping you lmao. Did you know that (in the USA) even though women are a lot less likely to have a heart attack than men, a woman is more likely to die because of one that a man. Women are apparently way less likely to get treatment, funny how that works huh? I’ve tried to look for it but I haven’t read that much about medical bias based on race. I’ve read a couple of articles (not in well known science magazines) that said something about around 10 to 18% of doctors believing black people have a higher tolerance to pain, which would understandably be an issue but it just doesn’t seem legit. Has anyone found anything on that?
I have one friend or this girl who im forced to be friends with who has this kind of victim mindset, a few months back i had a seizure in school along with absentmindedness, this friend of mine who claims to have every mental disorder in the world, first told everyone i have epilepsy (i even tested and i dont have it, it was just stress) and then told everyone it was a stroke... she pretended to care about me but lied to everyone for attention. My old ex-best friend also did this, she lied about having every mental disorder and anything that would happen she would blame it on her adhd. Also worth noting she was in the highest set in my school. She would tell me the saddest things (for example her friend committing suicide) and she would have the audacity to smile about it, when i asked her about it, she said you have to "live laugh love through it" As a member of late gen Z i am concerned for what the media and what will happen in the future, great vid btw
Being surrounded by the us vs. them mentality is exhausting. Thank you for being a light in a world of drama and chaos 💗 The trauma part reallreally resonated with me as someone who was abused. Truly the only way to heal is to move on. Stewing in your pain will not help you and that goes for everything. Getting out of your house and breathing fresh air goes a really long way!
😂 it's REALLY surprising how you can maintain your cheerfulness while dealing with the insane content and issues you do. As bad as (or worse) the world is everyday when I start a new day, if there's one of your videos to start my day at least I can laugh about the insanity for a while. Keep doing what you're doing 👍👍
Psychology doesn’t have a fantastic record with diagnosis, historically: I think we might want to be somewhat doubtful even of formal labels. If you’re using poop to write on walls or spinning plates, no doubt. Object rather than relationship focussed? Meh!
Watching a Misha Petrov video for 32 minutes and 48 seconds is a pretty good way to pass the time for 32 minutes and 48 seconds, wouldn't ya'll agree? 🙂
I think the US should provide many mental health clinics… but they can’t be staffed by people pushing their agenda or illness on others. Which probably makes this idea pointless
nowadays you can't even have a proper skilled staff, first they have to have diversity then add lgbt+ people then if vacancies are left they look for skilled ones.
I had no idea my cousin had depression. Never mentioned it to his extended family at least, never made it a personality trait. How did we know he had it? My uncle finding him and then us getting a call explaining what happened. Sadly people who truly suffer end up doing it silently.
I lost a good friend after she went down the mental illness rabbit hole and began using a self diagnosed anxiety disorder as an excuse to be a terrible person. Anytime she was called out she would start bouncing her foot and slapping her knee, telling us that she was just having an anxiety attack and she was trying to redirect her feelings. I finally cut her out of my life when I asked her to watch my puppy while I went out of town for a trip. (The puppy was too young to go to be bordered and she was experienced with dogs.) The day I came back from my trip I called her and asked what time would be good to pick up my dog. She then told me that she couldn’t talk to me about that right now because she had been having a multi-day anxiety episode and she had bonded to the puppy as a grounding tool. That maybe I could have my dog in a week but we should talk about me just giving her the dog. I screamed at her, drove to her house with my husband, forced her to answer the door, and took back my dog. Never spoke to her again.
I’m white, and I’ve had horrible experiences with doctors and getting diagnosed. I was always told I just had IBS or it was in my head, or I should just have a baby and it would go away. I didn’t get diagnosed with Endometriosis until I was 36. This is very common with women. It has nothing to do with skin colour. Especially where women’s health is concerned. Endometriosis is a women’s disease, and I noticed the inclusive language and it angers me so much.
I have a famjly member, who went through cancer. She was JUST starting to get her hair back and being GLAD about it, be told by a black woman, with a child may I add, that she is racist for stating her hair is like her's (she has naturally thick curly hair). Absolute Madness! Also she told this person that she had gone through cancer.
Never heard about that. I have a very light skinned and red headed friend who is immune to pain. She had a kid without anesthesia. Probably something else wrong with this woman then
Redheads are less receptive to pain medications due to the genetic variant they carry in the melanocortin-1 receptor (MC1R) gene. Most physicians and every respectable anesthesiologist knows this and takes it into consideration when providing care.
27:39 ocd is horrible to Live with, the obsessive part is what really gets ya. Imagine not being able to not think about doing something to the point you have anxiety attacks and fall part. I have a good friend wirh it and it's so hard to see him struggle some days.. (The anxiety thing is how he described it to me, i think it's the easiest way for normal people to understand it)
ive had depression since i was a kid and 3 attempts in my life. And it sad cause my last try left me with permanent brain damage. And whats even sadder it feels hopeless finding the right help!
I’m so sorry about that…and all I can say is pray to Jesus atleast one time to help out, and if you don’t wanna do that I hope that you still get help! Oh what am I saying of course! I’ll pray for you :)
Mamy people have conditions such as ADHD which is commonly misdiagnosed as depression. When you get to the root of you're depression you will be able to tackle it. Good luck with it, talking is key.l mate I've been in you're position and it does and will disappear from you.
@@kirahhdrop Yup i got to the point in my life where i said f everything i just want the truth no matter how bad t hurts. Im finally putting my best foot forward, making the effort, and getting the help i need. although it seems very difficult to find. Christ is King
My mother that has been a midwife for 30 has been strong armed into saying chest feeding. Several senior nurses have been pushed out to retire cause they fought the change and the younger newly graduated nurses are half untrained
My ex's son's mother is a nurse, and she's a full-blown, empty-headed cow. 😂😂 She failed half her classes and had to retake them. Retook whatever that major test is called literally 4 times before she passed it. She would offer medical advice just randomly and it'd be incredibly incorrect. Like that time she insisted my ex's house had bedbugs because her son had a rash from our new laundry detergent. She kept insisting they were bedbug bites even after we paid an exterminator come check. 😂😂😂 Just confidently wrong and saying "I'm a nurse" to justify it.
I finally had to bring it to her attention "Girl, you're BARELY a nurse. You failed the test 3 times and half your classes. You still have no real employment experience yet, either."😬
The story about the autism and BPD etc. is very true as well. Some people really suffer with all that and doctors don't believe them anymore, because it's a trend online. These people don't want to have it. They just want to know if they have it. Some go through years of suffering and doctors visits just to get an answer and people abuse the illness for online clout without even having a diagnosis.
exactly. for me its not to glorify, glamourize, or excuse myself, but to find the reasons why I am the way I am and to find ways to work with myself rather than against myself. Unfortunately with the glamourizers and fakers, it makes it harder for those who have legitimate concern to be considered unless its presenting in such a profound manner.
"...doctors don't believe them anymore, because it's a trend online." How true is this? I think it's opposite. Doctors are overdiagnosing because anyone can read the list of symptoms online.
People are always shocked that I don’t care about labeling myself and that i instead focus on hobbies and things that will make me happy. I am diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, but it doesn’t have to define me, and that really shocks some people.
I used to cry and feel awful because I was hateful against trans people back when I was trying to be liberal. I didn't understand why I felt so angry. I thought I was sick and wanted to die. The truth was I was right about everything, and when I realized that I felt a whole lot better. I'm not crazy, they are.
3:16 My daughter has tourettes like symptoms. However, her's are due to several concussions causing some neurological issues. I can't tell you how many people were like, "are you sure she isn't faking it because of social media?" Yes, I am sure. My daughter hates being the center of attention. I also understand why people have that thought, but it is so annoying having to deal with it.
Yes, we are the scapegoats for the opioid crisis because we're easier to target than the cartels. Docs arbitrarily reduce our meds just because the government says to, NOT based on what the doctor actually thinks the patient needs.
Yes, we swing back and forth between under/over prescribing. It's very sad. The lawyers have made it dangerous for some doctors to treat as they see fit.
Ocd is definitely a form of anxiety. But honestly, people who say they have it bother me because they’ve likely never experienced being a child having a persistent thought that if I didn’t go and shut a light off or if I didn’t shut a door, or did something a certain way when it popped up in my head, my parents would end up dying. Like it was CONSTANT. My anxiety like this was bad as a kid. I still vividly remember lying in my bed, feeling too lazy to shut off the light to sleep, and then a thought popped up in my head that if I didn’t shut off that light, my parents could die. And I would try to ignore it, but it would just get stronger. Thankfully it’s gotten so much better when medicine but I really don’t wanna be on that all my life.
Yeah, my mom and I don't have have that. We just feel the need to straighten stuff out or reorganize a lot. I think that's a "tendency", but maybe you can fact check me on that Can definitely relate not wanting to take medicine for the rest of your life I have to take two pills everyday so I don't have seizures. I hate it, but I hated having seizures way more Maybe one day they can find a cure for us, but for now, medicine is all we got : (
Are you joking? If you are in Appalachia, you automatically get treated like you are trying to get dope if you say you are in pain. That's because we've had a major abuse problem here.
I honestly hate it when people invalidate people who have actual struggles. Like, pretending to have issues doesn’t make you cool. The people with issues don’t think it makes you cool. It just makes you an ignorant asshole.
I'm not sure if their behaviors invalidate others' struggle or not. People who medicate their mental issues seem a little defensive about the treatment and maybe less so on the condition itself. Having an food allergy or auto-immune condition is no joke. I think calling them "ignorant" asshole is pointless. Because from their point of view, you're inherently ignorant... The condition of mental kind is a whole other problem. People get upset when politicians talk about mentally ill people after mass shootings. No one can quite tell when someone crossing the line if it's because of either ineffective treatment, side-effects or if it's the underlying condition. What's fakeable is fakeable. The foundation of biomedical model is questionable without finding the cause. And this minimal interpretation of medical model can be harmful too. In any case, they could be at risk. And sometimes they weaponize it.
As someone with BPD it’s very embarrassing to speak about or even seek help for, I never wanted to tell my parents or even my ex who was the main cause because I just KNEW that they would think I was faking it like everyone else, of course online people “record” their mental breakdowns like that’s something normal or the first thing on someone’s mind when that feeling comes up. I hate it here, I love ur content Misha! You and Amala Ekonobi are my absolute favorites, just a breath of fresh air that reaffirms that we aren’t all insane out there.
@@Stuck.in.prugatory I believe you (now) it is just such a saturated place online and in digital spaces currently which I find so disrespectful towards true DID sufferers. There is a video I watched once in which a patient graciously allowed an interview with one of her alters, her little I believe. In describing, it sounds cringey because of these fakers online, but that video instantly made me a believer that DD is truly a real disorder, because there is no faking what I watched. I’m sorry you have to deal with such a confusing and medically obscure disorder. I wish I could remember the video name & the creator because it really is powerful.
@@Stuck.in.prugatory LOL thank you, it’s actually not TS though, it’s an AI generated image based on my own photos of myself - what a compliment you never even knew you were paying!
As someone with schizophrenia, I consider it a win if nobody notices I'm struggling with it. I can't even imagine prancing around online showing the worst parts of myself
Misha, I have diagnosed asperger's syndrome and hearing what you said about people glorifying it is so true. I have this condition and I wish every day I could just be normal. at least People with down syndrome get to be blissful and happy but I'm different and I know that I'm different and I know how it effects me in everyday life. Thank you for discussing this.
Have you noticed people like us who have asperger's act different from people with regular autism? Two of my dearest friends as well as myself are professionally diagnosed with the syndrome and realized this ourselves. It feels like we're just socially awkward and smart (with plenty of stupid moments too), but it's unnoticeable for the most part.
Misha I love how straight forward you are, you dont stand to this bs. I would love to have more people like you in society, your soul is what people need, not some woke ass crying about opression. You seem to be a great woman, great channel love from Spain
7:51 there actually IS a biased, but it has NOTHING to do wirh race. The pushback against rhe opioid epidemic was so intense in the medical field that doctors and nurses have been trained to avoid treating pain as much as they can unless it's absolutely NECESSARY. This leads them to ignore patients, despite the fact that they could still run test and identify the source of rhe pain. I've literally been trying to figure out what is causing my shoulder pain for over a year, they still won't run any exrays or anything. I 100% know something Is wrong, my shoulder blade and back feel all fucked up. I JUST want to know what's causing my pain so I can look to steps to solve it like physical therapy. So yea, there is a legit pain issue going on wirh doctors not helping or addressing snd taking pain seriously...but it's not a discrimination thing, EVERYONE is having problems wirh it right now and it only started after the huge internal pushback against opiods in the medical field. But a BIG problem with all of this is rhe nurses and docs assume "they complain about pain" = "I want pain meds" when it isn't. Modt people just want to know what's causing the pain and if there's a way to fix it, there's SO MANY ways to fix it without pain meds, but because docs have been trained to be extremely wary of people seeking pain meds they profile and luml people into that group when they're not. Especially if you look fine externally they don't GAF. You knkw, despite me nor being able to feel half my back for 6 months due to (what's probably now permenant) nerve damage, I look fine. I'm always in fucking pain, and can barley lay down on my back AT ALL. But I'm 26 and look young so they just ignore me every time I go in asking if they could PLEASE CHECK OUT MY BACK
Find a good chiropractor. I have severe scoliosis abd a good chiropractor will order x-rays before touching you. That way you might find out what's going on and they may even be able to help by doing spinal adjustments. (It's usually the only way I get a modicum of relief). If not you then have x-rays to show an orthopedic doctor. If they don't examine your back and/or order x-rays they are *not* a good chiropractor.
@@toodlescae I've gone to 10 seperate chiropractors already, and asked for trays each time. Each one said "we don't usually do x rays until we've tried every other option" a few of them I stormed out of cause them saying "I don't think so" and refusing exrays is so infuriating. A few I let still adjust me, and it helped a little bit; but the pain has ALWAYS come back in the exact same area and worsens. Sometimes it'd numb for months, sometimes the muscles are twitching weird. It all started after a snowboarding accident to, I'm just exhausted of trying. I just want to know I'm not crazy for feeling my back fuckign twitch and spasm and go numb and feel like it's trying to stab through my skin some times, and I just consistently get pretty much no help. There's literally no more chiropractors in my area
@@whenimmanicimgodly4228 Dang. I'm sorry to hear that. Wish I could get you to one of the 2 chiropractors I've used over the years. Which one I go to depends on my insurance but both are fantastic. One of them helped me get my disability approved.
Loving your work Misha. I believe mental illness is not caused by wokeness, but wokeness is attracted to mental illness. In my experience almost everybody that claims mental illness is lying. I was diagnosed with bipolar, schizophrenia and just to shame me a little more, anorexia back in the early 90's. I mention these diagnosis only with my doctor, but I realize the irony of me mentioning it now. My point is this, people that have real mental illnesses never mention it, ever. We are ashamed of our failures. We don't like acknowledging them.
My son has Tourettes and had struggled all his life. He doesn't like talking about it and always tried to step away to bathroom when his tics have gotten really bad. These fakers are disgusting. His school experience was horrendous.
When I was about 4 my kindergarten teacher suggested I might have autism, so my parents got me tested. Result: no autism 👍 except when the doctor said "he does have some traits that overlap with autism, but so do a lot of people", my mom heard that I have "autistic traits" and for a long time she insisted I was on the spectrum. She sounded almost gleeful sometimes.
the thing about the autism thing is so real 😢. I got diagnosed at 25yo; n i cant really explain what i have so well or why i get randomly overwhelmed at times and i doesn't help all these ppl making something edgy out of it. Like I get im able to get myself up and go to work and all but I also wish ppl knew how much that takes out of me everyday.
So thankful to the viewers who wrote in about PCOS and late-diagnosed neurodivergence/emotion regulation. Absolutely correct. It’s not a trend, it’s not temporary, it can be a grave reality for some people who now have to learn to live there lives in a way they don’t know how Grateful to feel seen and heard today, thank you Misha
I stand by, feel the emotion then let it go ❤ as someone who just disregards all of their feelings but also being lost in marinating in bad memories, this has helped me. I dont let myself feel a negative emotion for no longer than it needs to be felt. I do have ADD, anxiety, depression & Borderline so at times it is harder but training the brain is so helpful. People forget how powerful the brain is. Thoughts & feelings come in go in waves, its figuring out which ones help you grow into a better person and overcoming anything that would disrupt your peace
‘I shouldn’t have to beg for tests at the drs’ “My toe hurts, and ibuprofen and Tylenol dont work! What? Tramadol? No that wont work either, i need ..what’s it called ox- - OxyCo- -“
i was diagnosed with PCOS around three years ago, so the thought of that being diminished into something as "a person with a uterus" or "menstruating person" is saddening. i am a woman. only fellow women can truly understand what it's like (even those with other uterine conditions). i also have diagnosed autism and depression. while i do talk about them a decent amount, i do not like to "flex" these diagnoses or "show them off." living with these conditions affects my life in more ways than i have ever shared online and that may be hard for many people on the left to understand.
I can confirm the Ontario Canada comment. I had gone in a few years ago when I was looking for a new doctor (because the one I was seeing was just glossing me over like everything I was struggling with was in my head and not a real thing..) but the one I went to see, she immediately wanted to put me on antidepressants. I didn't take them because I felt her assessment was way to short and she was way too eager to get me on them... I have found alternative ways of managing my stress without medication since then, but I was definitely unnerved at the readiness to get me on them...
Same. I have been dealing with chronic pain and every doctor I have seen reverts to antidepressants. My own family doctor basically told me to come back to her when I’m “ready” for them, after I told her I’m not comfortable with taking them for pain when she didn’t even assess me for any mental disorders…
Also, in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy one of the first things you need to understand in order to succeed in the sessions, is that no matter who caused your problems or your trauma (because truly many of us didn’t cause it ourselves), it’s yours to deal with/fix/improve/work on. You need to accept that working on it, is your responsibility. It can be anyone’s fault, but the solution is only yours.
Thank God for you Misha. A voice of reason sorely needed in your generation. Everyone that criticizes my worldview and tells me that I’m “doing life wrong” when you examine THEIR lives they are absolute train wrecks. I’ll happily continue to live and believe just as I am. 😎
im a man who grew up in the 90s with undiagnosed aspergers, anxiety, and ptsd from my mom being psycho. I left the left completely as soon as this whole "mental illness means you give up because nothing can be done" crowd started up in the mid 2010s it took me a decade of being ignored, alone, and looked down on before i got off me ass and figured it out. I didnt do it alone but it started with me saying "nope not going to let myself get away with that shit" and doing the work first, then i got well enough other people in my life could actually help me
I've suffered depression for almost twenty years now, although not all the time, just for a period every now and then. It's like getting tired of managing life, everything loses it's colour and flavour, and you just want to wait and heal. But instead of embracing it, I've been fighting it every single time, getting better at recovering at first, and the last few years, getting better at not falling into it, too. Resilience is a great human superpower, and resistance is that as well. Keep fighting, keep loving your close ones, keep building yourselves and your environment 💪 PS: when you are in a negative or anxious state, it really helps to tell your brain to stop. I do it via mindfulness, it gets easier to do the more you use it.
I hate when people go "I am disassociating!" I've been dealing with CPTSD. The first time I did disassociate, I had to lock myself in the bathroom - maybe not my brightest move - because it didnt feel as if I was alive. I survived a deadly car accident that took my parents and for that event, I was convinced I was dead and this was hell. I couldnt see anything - thank God - but I had this inmense feeling of dread and like my body wasn't real. Oh and I actually had menory loss after the accident so there are things, entire conversations with family members, or even them just visitong me at the hoapital, I just don't remember. People don't want to actually dissociate. It's a terrifying experience.
I remember during the overturning of Row V Wade, Vice Media did a show on it. The presenter when speaking to Planned Parenthood, referred to women as “birthing people”. Of all things to say that affect women only, and she says that! It was just something else.
You know what one of the biggest common denominators is with all these? TIKTOK. It's literally a mental illness factory. All therapists who see child patients, at the very first appointment, should be required to ask if the child uses TikTok, and if yes, tell the child to delete the app.
Misha, love your videos. I completely adore you and i feel like I finally found my tribe lol and I can’t wait to see more! I just want to say about the “Black Advil” ad, black people have a history of medical malpractices. We have been lab rats, black women having the highest maternal mortality rate in the us, we have lack of access to quality heath facilities, even them simply downplaying real diseases as you can see with the case of Diddy’s ex wife Kim Porter. And although it’s different for me (I’m a black girl from Chicago whose middle to upper class family moved from the south & made it a point to prioritize our health & education), the ad was meant to shed light that there are a lot of doctors dropping the ball. I think we have to consider BW who might live in Buttfuck, Alabama where doctors are not equipped to handle these new diseases or even the money hungry ones in LA writing oxy scripts for a hang nail. And yes, you are completely correct about there being a problem with big pharma, but there is also a problem with physicians not prioritizing black health nor repairing trust within the medical field. I think 2 things can work in tandem. That’s just my two cents, love you k bye lol
The first comment you read really resonated with me. I'm native American and have lived in the UK since I was a young child. I live almost the entierity of my life never thinking about the colour of my skin, when people asked "where are you from originally?" I was happy to tell them. Then I fell in with a group of woke students from Oxford University, I was taught to see racism everywhere. Suddenly when people were showing an interest and wanting to know more about me it was racism. When I went into a pub, I'd notice that I was the only non-white person in the room. If someone didn't like me, whereas before I'd think "well you can't win everyone" now it was because of my skin colour. THAT takes a toll on your mental health. My white wife was accused of "fetishising" my brown skin, when I questioned the dogma I was accused of having "internaslised colonial mindset". I had to get the hell away from those people and get back to living my life not obsessed with the colour of my fucking skin. It's nice to be back to normal.
Mate I'm sorry they put you through that, I genuinely am. Just know that Oxford University Students are all toff cnuts who's mummah's and papaah's pay millions to send them here just so they can get -the finest education money can buy- their heads kicked in worse than moonrakers by actual Oxford people _(by which I mean OX4 lads)_
as a white person who is fascinated with native American culture-THANK YOU
When I was like 15 or something I played Assasins Creed III for the first time and that's how I fell in love with native culture. You put a big emphasis on healing (I don't know how to describe what I want to say since English isn't my first language so pardon me) and I feel better when I'm exploring your culture. It's so beautiful!
I obviously don't know every single tribe and nation but still. I really like the hoop dance-I like how various figures resemble actual animals
I also love Japanese culture-but turns out that online I can't express my love for other cultures. Everything is racist, everything is xenophobic etc etc. Few years ago I was brainwashed into thinking that wearing kimono is a cultural appropration. Turns out many people in Japan think it's totally okay for foreigners to own and wear traditional Japanese clothing
I want to explore the world, make friends but I don't want to be seen as a monster just because I'm white. I have a dream of attending powwow in the future, but I'm afraid people won't like my presence there. But everything I want is to watch people dance and sing. I just want to experience beautiful things, not to any harm ._.
That's what Marxist cults do. Glad you feel better.
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm the bullshit that people told me is that it was a "micro aggression" that by asking me where I was from they wanted to make me feel "other". Ofcourse not, they were just making conversation. All that is achieved by that mentality is to create an "us and them" mentality and exacerbate social divides. These people are insidious, they don't want people to get on. I genuinely belive that they want to divide society and create divisions in order to use minorities as pawns to further their political agendas.
@_trash_possum_ oh I'm south rather than North. My grandparents were Quechua. They lived in the Andes herding animals in the mountains. Unfortunately, so much of the culture of their ancestors has been lost to history after the Spanish Inquisition. I remember my grandmother telling me that she would look at the ruins left by Inca and wonder who built them. But there is still a lot of fascinating culture and the nice thing is I find that it's a lot less corrupted by North American identity politics. People are more than happy to share their culture (although probably for a price). Peru has it's problems with racism, the Spanish descendants generally live in the city's and the native descendants live in the mountains and jungles. The people in cities see them as backward peasants. But under a unified Peruvian identity things are slowly getting better. And they achive that by unified identity not by obsessing over differences. People care very little about the things that wokeists say they should.
I’m a white man in my 30s. Have always had to insist that doctors take another look or run more tests. Health industry isn’t so much racist as it is incompetent.
Yep, these are definitely issues, still. Female anatomy isn't sufficiently taught like male anatomy is, we never even got to get to that point in medicine before the establishment decided to go back to pretending women don't actually exist apart from men (as was believed in ancient times, basically women were just mutated, malformed males. Ironically, from a biological point of view, the opposite is the case). @CheesusChrist-xv5bm
Medical deaths are a real thing.
It is worse for non white people
Being around people with victim mentalities is exhausting as hell. I'm only recently starting to realize that's why I've been feeling so drained.
You're describing symptoms of being the victim of narcissistic abuse. That's the modus operandi of the woke mob.
Honestly. I cut off so many people because of it. I don’t mind people wanting to vent occasionally, but when every moment of thought for them is “I’m a victim,” it’s fucking exhausting. The funniest, most ironic thing is they almost always get annoyed when someone else brings up their own issues.
@@beckee6282thats so true. just changed my friendcircle a few months ago. they were always joking about trauma, trauma dumping and everything...you always had to be scared about something you say. thats so exhausting. they are doing horrible btw. no job, crying about that, dreams about becoming influencers😐
im so happy rn:)
YES! Because everything is a constant trauma competition - who is more oppressed, who has more trauma, who has the more trendy mental health diagnosis. They can’t talk about anything normally without turning it into a trauma pissing match. This is what makes them feel special where as the rest of us understand it’s ok to not be special and just be ~normal~ and if we want to feel special we need to contribute to community in a way that warrants it.
I feel that. Had to walk away from my "best friend" because everything was about her, the world was against her, every day was an emotional battle, crying was as common as breathing, and more... I genuinely hope she is doing better, but I had to refuse to be her crutch/therapist anymore
I was told by my doctor that I can't call my boyfriend "boyfriend", I have to say "partner". Like?? Shut up??
Reading this really made me lol. I instantly thought of channeling my inner redneck and hitting doc with the "Hooowdee Paartneeer" of a life time. maybe not the best idea but probably still would have been my exact response in this situation. Like F you doc stay in your lane. What else did you want me to say. I only came for your medical opionion leave the rest at home please
HELLO? ☠️
Lmaoooooo what 😭😭😭😭
Identify as a male and call him a bigot.
Ummmm huh? 😂 How about don’t fucking tell me what to call someone you don’t know?
I’m a mother. Women give birth. I’m not a womb owner or chest feeder! 🤬
YESS🗣️FACTS🗣️🗣️
Or a fucking "birthing body". It's hilarious how these same people get up in arms screaming about the Handmaiden's Tale when abortion gets regulated, but then pull this shit. As if calling a woman a "birthing body" isn't far, far more dehumanizing.
As a man I am just as frustrated with this wokeness bs it’s so wrong on many levels and is affecting the children most of all!
My teen just called me a person with a uterus the other day
@@Sillybillyilly I take it your teen is still crying in a corner after being slapped into kingdom come?
I love the pain comments, I'm white and a woman, I've spent 7 years just to get 1 doctor to believe my pain was not normal and I wasn't overreacting. I am now getting a full diagnosis for endometriosis and started a course of medications. I was always told my pain was 'normal' but to spin it on that is crazy.
I have experienced this and also heard it from SO many women. Mostly white women.
cool
fellow endo gal here 💛. So sorry you’re also suffering from this horrible disease.
I have severe stage 4 endo and have had 3 surgeries in 18 months, including 2 x excisions & a hysterectomy. My pain never stops and I’m on heavy pain killers daily 😟. It infuriates me so much when trans woman makes a ‘I’m getting my period’ video and makes jokes about ‘cramps’.
Our suffering isn’t a joke, it’s not quirky or cute. Us women with endometriosis & other gynae conditions fight so hard to get our pain to be taken seriously. If they want to be women they need to educate themselves on the serious health issues (like endo) that we go through
I went to countless doctors because I couldn't walk due to extreme pain and discomfort on feet. They called me crazy, dellusional and kicked me out. One even wrote "imaginary pain" on my online medical history. They said that my actual problem was so rare and only found on athletes and dancers that they didn't bother checking for that option
@@MandiaM27Jebus Chrisp! How the hell do people like that have licenses to practice medicine???? I developed serious chronic back in 2008 that came on so suddenly, seemingly out of nowhere, I can literally name the exact MINUTE it began, and I spent half a year going through a bunch of different doctors before finally finding one able to diagnose it as fibromyalgia. But I've never had a doctor claim that I was just making my problems up.
The day I finally broke free and realized I’m not a victim because I’m gay was the day my mental health took a stark 180 turn for the better. Have I experienced actual homophobia? For sure. I’ve been called every gay slur you can imagine back in the day. I’ve even been called “it” which apparently some people use as a pronoun today 🙄. However, as an adult that doesn’t happen anymore. In my adult life I’ve not had one door that hasn’t opened for me because I’m gay. When Trump, who is supposedly very homophobic (he’s not btw) was president, my life as an openly gay man did not change like everyone said it would.
Oddly enough, the most homophobic thing that has been said to me in over a decade came from a trans activist on a dating app that called me a transphobe for not wanting to be with a trans man with a vagina and was using terms like “genital preference” to shame the fact that I’m a biological man attracted to other biological men. It’s insanity out there y’all.
Your gay for a reason!! My gay uncle was also told he was transphobic for not wanting a trans man!!!
You and him are gay for a reason!! Unbelievable!!! It’s rebranded homophobia in the name of “social justice” 🙄
I feel bad for gay people that are lumped in with every "LGBTQIA+" variant, even though those are all very different thing with different causes, effects, variations, peoples, and cultures. Lumping every non-cishet person together is starting to sound more like a disservice and a dismissal than allyship.
@@austins.6805 I’m bisexual and 90% of the community now is unrecognizable and I I don’t want to be associated with it anymore
@@via-anghelmagahum2586 I think it's absolutely absurd that gay and bi people are expected to encourage and support every 14 year old who chooses to call themselves nonbinary, genderfluid, genderqueer, or some neo-gender variant just because you are all thoughtlessly lumped together. I'm a straight man myself, but I feel terrible seeing the greater queer community tear themselves apart by trying to embrace fallacies and unscientific positions.
Excuse me, but what slur are they using as a pronoun now? F##ot?
As a bipolar haver, when im having an episode, the last thing on my mind is setting up my tripod to record it. If youre enjoying your mental illness, you dont have a mental illness. I said what i said
Absolutely agree!!
100% agree
I agree. last thing I wanna do when I have panic attacks is film them. I want to hide and wait till they pass. Because when they are witnessed by others, like when it sometimes happens in public, they just think I'm faking..
Right, when my depression is bad I hardly have the energy to get up and go to the bathroom.
It's like: *starts to have a crippling episode*
"Oh wait let me set up my camera, make sure I look good and now I can have my episode"
*gets likes and people calling them brave and survivors*
*does it over and over again for attention*
I was diagnosed with ADD in 1985…. And sadly, two of my 4 sons also have adhd… I hate it. They hate it. We struggled so much in school. And they never run around TELLING PEOPLE!!
Same, it's been years of trying to recognize my active behavior so i can manage it and not effect others. And all the 'adhd' kids comings into my work that are either faking 'lol so quirky' behaviors, or just not managing their own symptoms cause asking someone to manage their own behavior is mean and victim blaming.
That’s because ADHD is a learning disability and not a mental disorder. A child in school is not going to readily admit they have a learning disability as it has a stigma for being slow or will result in special education classes. Mental illness is not the same as a learning disability.
ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder @@oversoul7
@@oversoul7adhd is a neurodevelopmental disorder
@@oversoul7 it's a neurodevelopmental disorder
The denying of reality in a field like the medical field is not going to end well...
malevolence, deliberate harm, exploitation, human rights violations with atrocity already been happening
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm I doubt they'd even care enough to look up things on their phone to be honest. A lot of nurses and PAs often end up doing the job of doctors now and the doctors just agree with whatever they think is going on, not all doctors but it is pretty common.
honestly its going to be scary in 10-15 years when we can do better studies on the long term effects of people taking hormone therapy. if just the short term effects are so drastic, imagine what the long term effects will be. in 50 years they will look back at hormone therapy being allowed in the same way we view lead pipes or asbestos walls now
I forsee detransitioners sueing their obgyns because their womb is too rotten from testosterone and they're unable to get pregnant.
@@sovietunion7643 I'm thinking the surgery will be treated like lobotomy.
The autism one hits me hard. I am high functioning autism and pursuing a PhD. I told a professor that it can be hard because people don't see that I am on the spectrum. She goes "well if you identify as autistic then who are we to judge"
UM I do not identify as autistic. I am diagnosed
I’m also high functioning autistic, that is super disrespectful, I’m tired of people making our struggles their whole personality or use autism as an excuse to not pursue their dreams or actually do something with their life! We worked hard to push away the setbacks in our life, but I give most of my credit to my dad that actually cares about me and helped my autism!
One of the inate fears of having a panic attack within panic disorder is having one in public-- it's actually part of the disorder to extremely fear having it happen in front of other people, and it's absolutely crippling..
It blows my mind when people record their "panic attacks" as if genuine panic attacks aren't mostly invisible/90% in your head.
I worked so hard throughout my whole life, to be mentally stable and normal, that I genuinely find this whole "mental illness is cool" thing incredibly insulting.
If it looks like the recording is set up, no way it's a real panic attack. I have had real panic attacks, and they are truly scary.
To be fair, I can feel a panic attack coming on and if I wanted to I could definitely set up a tripod to film myself. I also have a flight reaction 9/10 times so my panic attacks are very visible. I would be very careful drawing generalisations about other people's mental health presentations based on personal experience.
Yup. Have had to leave the grocery store on more than one occasion because of this. I do not want to have an episode in public, let alone film it for the internet.
Yeah, I've had ptsd and panic disorder for 25 years. You're absolutely wrong anxiety can be visible some people can escape or hold back before anyone notices in time to get away, but they absolutely do have physical symptoms and can be obviously visible.
Mine I can typically hide so people actually think I look calm.
Other times I can shake visibly like a leaf even my head while trying to appear normal.
My whole body will also go numb or tingling down my limbs while my vision starts to black out which i never used to have that one in particular. I now have syncope.
I've cried hysterically when younger in an unable to sit still type of attack. The urge to escape and without escape it turns worse.
It develops, changes, creates different ssymptoms, it can even go away for several months before coming back.
Don't speak on others experiences. I have no idea about people recording them but your experience is different from others.
I can also feel mine building up an hour ahead as i try keeping it in control.
I'm white, and I also have had symptoms ignored by doctors several times. Not everything is about race, kids
Feminism activists have been complaining about it. They're using the term 'that's racist' in broader sense. For them, it's more about power dynamics.
Just being a white person in today's world is racist. They've remade the culture that way.
I am blown away at how intelligent, wise, insightful, and articulate this young woman is at just 22 years old. We need more like her.
i was just about to ask how old she is. She looks a bit younger, like stil in high school. Glad someone who got bombarded with this crap in school came out normal....
Nah. Just in the woke world of clownery, common sense and mild intelligence looks stellar in comparison.
After hearing so much of these wokies speak and how chronically online people speak, any normal rational person appears prolific. Crazy.
gives one hope, doesn't it?
this is not intelligent talk. This is just common sense.
I don't think it's a mental illness. I think it's mental cowardice, an inability to accept the world is infinitely more complex than we could ever imagine and an attempt to streamline justice and fairness (they are not the same thing)
Yes!! Very much cowardice and a need for approval
So according to you schizophrenia is not a thing?
Do you not see the similarities in these 2 conditions.
Faking having illness is mental illness.
Think about that for a moment.
@@Intruder74it depends. Kids go around thinking they are mermaids and vampires, so a lot of it can just be imagination. Once you’re an adult though and you’re doing all this then yes, I’d say it’s a sign of mental illness
@@Intruder74
There's a big entry for anti-psychiatry on wikipedia. The church of Scientology also oppose psychiatry. I watched "Abigail Shrier on Gen Z's Anxiety Problem and Why Therapy May Not Be the Solution" and I see similarities with treatment of personality disorder, ptsd, mood disorder etc.
_"In the culture of his Dagara people, schizophrenics are not viewed pathologically, but often as mediums bringing messages to the community from the spirit world."_
If someone were repeating psychotic episodes, that's severely mentally ill. Hallucination, paranoia, delusions, word salad, can be indicative of a disease called schizophrenia but neurologist may think twice depending on what the patient tells them.
Be it a Schizophrenia, Schizo-affective, bipolar-nos, complex ptsd, if you're seeing a incompetent psychiatrist, you'll receive differential diagnosis.
Is prolonged grief disorder a thing?
You sound a little biased. Learning about Philosophy of Psychiatry entry on Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy may help you understand more.
Being referred to as birthing person or person who menstruates feels so degrading. Like is that all I am to you?
I also don't want people knowing I have mental health problems because I've been treated differently. Being laughed at and called stupid by your friends because you easily forget things isn't fun.
Although it's understandable, the debate is about "inclusivity". The word women is no longer exclusive to cisgender menstruators. What you call degrading or dehumanizing is neutral language to them.
My ex-husband said I was just an incubator
@@mariacurtis9247 That's horrible :(
I'm so sorry
You are a woman, and me and you are intelligent enough to know what a woman is and isn't.
It’s literally dehumanizing, all they see is an incubator and not an actual human with feelings and thoughts.
Currently in medical school, and I can confirm that we are being taught to think like this about this. On top of lectures on “social determinants of health,” we have had community diversity panels in which people of different races, sexual orientations, gender identities, and physical disabilities would come in and discuss their negative experiences with healthcare. The panels were simultaneously attempting to say “assume that because of these characteristics, your patient has had a rough life,” as well as “make no assumptions about your patients.” Altogether, between the lectures, panels, and videos from the Diversity Health Series I had to watch, it probably ended up being 50 hours of my “medical training.”
Hello from med school in Eastern Europe. Here it's the exact opposite, it said at one point on one slide to not discriminate based on sexuality and that's been it for the past year.
Hi, curious question can you please explain how doctors think Tylenol gets rid of grade 3 sprained ankle and also a calf tear while I'm at it 🤔
I got professionally diagnosed with high functioning asperger's when I was three. I'm 29 now and the amount of young women who run around bragging about being "neurodivergent" or "having the 'tism" whether they be professionally diagnosed or not make my blood boil. Imagine making a tiny, insignificant word your entire personality and claiming it's what you are rather than just a normal quirk.
They frustrate me so much!! I wasn't diagnosed until i was 30, but it was such a relief to understand WHY I had the struggles I've had. I can't read people for nothing, and apparently my facial expressions don't match what i'm actually feeling, so I get misread in return. It's led to a TON of miscommunication issues. My husband is the only person I know that can bridge the communication gap. But I don't use it as an excuse now that i know. I keep trying to improve instead of these fakers using it to be a**holes with impunity.
It really bothers me as well. My cousin has Asperger’s, diagnosed as a toddler as most who actually have autism are when they don’t meet development markers. He struggles to live a normal life and it’s very apparent the lack of social ability. These girls that think liking small spoons means they’re autistic and forcing a diagnosis as an adult is so disgusting and diminishes the seriousness of the diagnosis. My cousin suffered, still does. It’s not something to be idolized.
You are aware high functioning and Asperger’s are harmful terms, right?
@@almondthefurret6818 You are aware they are diagnosed and used those terms to describe themself, right?
@@byabbs Asperger’s was a nazi who killed HSN autistics. Functioning labels assume we can or cannot function all the time. They are also dehumanizing.
I’m a white woman whose pain was not believed after multiple doctors visits and 2 hospitals visits. Turned out I had blood clots in my lungs (pulmonary embolisms). I was told over and over that I just had heartburn. Pretty sure race wasn’t a factor as we were all white. But I know my pain doesn’t matter to the people featured in this video because of my race, right?
It was probably because you’re a woman. We still aren’t taken as seriously as men a lot of the time. We are under prescribed pain meds even when dealing with the same condition, such as surgery, as men.
Race is a factor. My mother who is also white was ignored for years and told she had heart burn.
She has a bone spur growing into her throat.
Pain is being widely undertreated now because of the oxycontin epidemic, and now they've gone too far in the other direction. Doctors are afraid of losing their license because some jackwaggon at the DEA thinks they know better.
So unless they have a very clear and documented need for pain, people will suffer.
@@alemswazzuThey increased heroin importation and cracked down on pain meds as if it was a coordinated plan to get everyone hooked on street drugs. Nearly everyone's story is how they were cut off by a Dr so they went to the street for a cheaper, stronger more reliable source.
I have a relative whom went to the doctor 3 times due to having severe abdominal pain and was sent home with painkillers every time. 4 months later died of Pancreatic cancer. They were white. Do we get an advert (Commercial) now about "White pain" ?
Honestly, the 83% of people said they had a negative experience with a healthcare provider when seeking help with pain is not a "black people" thing just a people thing . That aside I sincerely hope you are getting better.
I was sexually abused by multiple men as an infant and young girl, with other abuse continuing into young adulthood. I have mental health issues. You know what I don’t do? Cry about it all over the internet! Why not? 1) I’m too busy actually dealing with the trauma to worry about whining about it and 2) Trauma and mental health issues are awful, and all I want is to be NORMAL! I’m tired of seeing these people making those of us with real issues look terrible!
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I was diagnosed with OCD and it felt like it was destroying my life. Imagine living with the constant feeling like you are always restless unless you did something to "fix" the thing you are worrying about, even if you already did something about it. OCD isn't something that makes you "cool", its a condition that can take over your life and it takes a lot of time and work to overcome it.
3:31 well i was born without a uterus so im technically not a menstruator or a birthing person. does that make mr no longer a women? i guess according to these people, if you can’t give birth or menstruate, you’re not a woman even though i was literally born female and i have all the other bodily components that women have. discrimination, perhaps? it’s funny how they think they’re being less discriminatory by calling us these things yet they are actually making it worse. it actually offends me.
Oh but didn't you know? Intersex traits like that mean you're part of the trans 'community' lol
Joking, I've seen so many people using it as a justification for all this insanity and I'll bet that absolutely sucks. Hope your doing alright
So you where born with deformities.
I'm right there with you love. WE are women, those saying different are the ones who are wrong ❤❤❤
I saw a video of a real male doctor claiming that women are discriminated against when prescribed painkillers because they’re given lesser doses than men on average. The dosage of painkillers, antibiotics, etc. are prescribed based on body weight/size. Women are smaller and weigh less than men on average meaning that they’re given smaller doses for the same reason we give smaller doses to children. It was professionally embarrassing.
Thank you. I was a bit skeptical about this oft quoted ‘fact’, especially now that in the U.K. female practicing physicians are nearly half of the total. I know a few crap doctors but fewer who are genuinely stupid, or genuinely misogynist.
@@celiacresswell6909 It especially didn’t make sense when you think about it from the pov of an actual misogynist. A misogynist would think that women are too weak to handle the pain, so they would end up prescribing high dosages to women.
@@E_Reich that is also a good point!
We've gone so far into "just be your true self" that no one wants to be normal
I actually have autism. Whenever I hear anyone say they have it, my first question is "are you diagnosed?" The answer is always no. If you're not diagnosed by a doctor, you don't have it...
I get what you are saying but I'm guessing you had autism before your Dr diagnosed it?
I would encourage people to get a diagnosis, but I can’t just assume they’re telling the truth until a professional assess them due to the current situation with faking disorders
That’s the same with mental illness, you can’t diagnose your self because you might be wrong.
That's not true. I had ADHD my whole life before I finally got a diagnosis. I just didn't even think I had it until someone mentioned to me they thought I had it. Then I read up on it and kinda agreed.
People don't have a diagnosis for multiple real reasons. Not having insurance is a huge one.
But I get it, people do like to say they have stuff as if they know for sure when they don't know for sure yet.
Aaaand just like that, my autism is cured. Thank you, internet stranger, for alerting me to the fact that a piece of paper is what makes people neurodivergent *and not* how one's brain has been wired since before they were born. Very cool
I'm afraid that I will be discriminated against for promotions at work if people find out that I had to be diagnosed with actual and real Dyslexia. It's not what most people think it is. It is an issue with brain structure that affects language processing: written, audible, and even affects speaking. I had to work so hard just to keep up with everyone else in school that I had no life outside school and homework. It hurts a little when I hear people joke about being a little dyslexic or thinking that you can just grow out of it.
I have dyscalculia, I was worried about it at work too but my boss' wife has dyslexia so he understood. And I work in a very small company that doesn't have to follow the ADA either. It's like if your company has less than 10 or 15 employees (I can't remember which) you don't have to accommodate anything because the expense is considered unreasonable for a small business.
I have actual mental health issues, having had Clinical Depression for over 30 years. One thing I refuse to do is let it run my life. I insist on having a normal life in spite of these handicaps. I hold down a full time job, have a loving family, and take my medications on time. I am not my diagnosis, my diagnosis is merely an obstacle I have to overcome to live a normal life.
You're doing great. No, no, you're doing amazing.
I don't know how often you hear these words, but I hope they help you the way they helped me. Depression is one horrible son of a bitch. Even when you think you've slain it it finds a way to creep back in and try to ruin life. Don't let it win. You're doing amazing ❤
Telling a severely mentally ill fellow human being that they are privileged after they have attempted to end their own existence because they are so desperately bereft and without hope. That's so despicable. That really could push that person over the edge in to another attempt. The fact that the mental health worker knows this, actually qualifies as evil in my book.
I had one tell me my CPTSD from military service and other trauma I've experienced in my life isn't something to be sad over Because it makes me fun and quirky.
Pop quiz: "Decolonization" (from the author of the political term) means what type of vlnce against the clnzr?
@black-redpill3 Don't know this person so as a guess, deadly?
@@christracy2144
Technically?
He meant gncdl, so "deadly" would be technically correct.
Second question; since they were ewhit, would that be classed as a sucde attempt from a clnzr, or a dclnzr?
I understand and I get what u trying to say but c'mon ,attempting
How hard can it be?
Everyone with pain has bad experiences with healthcare. This is quite simply because being in constant pain is awful, so it always feels like doctors don't do enough.
This is true. And I know that they don’t want to give me pain killers because so many people are addicts coming in with a fake illness. My brother is one. I still had to go with him to the ER because my dad insisted. (I blame big pharma in this case for starting this cluster--)
I'm not sure the reason. Doctor's don't seem to trust medicine in general: they don't trust naturopathic medicine because of insufficient evidence and they don't trust pharmaceuticals or at least don't want to overperscribe not just because they're scared the patient will get addicted but because they're scared of the side effects. They also don't like to feel helpless. Also, pregnant women and cancer patients need to be very careful with what medicine they take, and if the doctor suspects either of those, they won't perscribe, but they can't diagnose you for cancer without imagining and in Canada that takes a while to get. That being said, oftentimes it can be fixed with exercises or supplements, sometimes dietary changes if allergies are the cause, so no need not to try mild "natural" interventions as they look into it further.
@@dearthditch As much as I hate big pharma, in this case I can't blame them. This began with junkies "busting scrips" and a few doctors over-prescribing pain meds (not for cash, of course) then fed bean-counters started keeping a *very* close eye on it. Now doctors are terrified to give patients enough meds to actually help (my daughter is dealing with this now). To make matters worse *someone* opened the borders and flooded our country with fentanyl, but that's a matter for another day.
yea and they always seem to immediately think you want pain killers. the pain thing isn't just black women, women in general are ignored for their pain. C-section? take some Tylenol. Lower abdominal pain? its probably cramps. I've gone through this round and round my whole life.
@@aubreymorgan9763 The thing is that there often isn't anything else they can do. And painkillers, apart from the addiction problem, often don't even really work that well. It'll take the edge of, but it won't solve it. Unfortunately, pain is still to quite a large extent actually a mystery. We can't even do the most basic thing, which would be to measure it. In other words, nobody actually knows how much pain someone is in, including doctors. We know people experience pain differently, but despite all our medical knowledge, the best we can do is ask the patient to rate it on a scale - which doesn't really mean anything because a 10 for one person might mean something completely different to another person.
Having ADHD is no joke and it is NOT ‘glamorous’. It has impacted almost every part of my life (I am 68) Constant financial problems and debt, lack of motivation, procrastination, being overwhelmed with things other people breeze through. Not feeling as though you can ‘adult’. Nearly becoming homeless because of rent arrears. The list goes on.
Now, I have taken steps to make things easier for myself through research and reading many books on the subject. And I do not blame every mistake I make on the ADHD. I am accountable for my actions and this condition does not define me.
That Advil sign is actually very interesting. The study didn’t actually find bias, it found that 75% of Black people *believe* there is bias. This is not at all the same thing, but Advil is of course treating it like it’s the same thing.
Also, this ad is seemingly recommending that Black people combat medical bias by… self medicating with pain pills that everyone knows are dangerous in large quantities/over long term use? YIKES.
My brain screams "opioid epidemic" when I see this. That's a big pharma company, they want to sell their product and I guarantee, they wouldn't mind getting people addicted
My youngest brother is autistic, ADHD, OCD, dyslexic, and dysgraphic - all from having open heart surgery at 3 days old for a birth defect caused by a Pfizer-manufactured medication.
Watching him suffer from the OCD has been especially hard. It’s like he’s a fighting an actual demon to just have a normal day. Every. Day. It disgusts me that people will claim to have these disorders just to get attention and make excuses for their laziness or lack of self control. And now we have a system that enables it.
eww an antivaxxer
aww poor you
I have autism and adhd as well as other disorders. I understand, it’s upsetting seeing people fake disability’s
I hope he’s doing well. I have ADHD as well and I HATE people who are like “Im so ADHD!!”.
I watched a clip of a cat that has learned to fake a limp to get pity/food. These fools are just like that cat 🐱 They should know better however.
Stopped speaking to all of my high school friends after realizing those on the far left are constantly miserable and I couldnt stand it anymore. A few years later and realize I’m so much happier being in the middle and thinking for myself and surrounding myself with people similar.
I’m 20 now; I was friends with a lot of obviously neurodivergent girls in middle school.
They are all either they/them or tranž now.
I also had to cut them off- because the negativity they constantly bring. Despite me trying my hardest to be helpful and caring- they continued to suck any energy out of me. I was constantly trying to make them feel better or show them the world is worth so much more- that they were worth so much more.
Instead I was always greeted with awful behavior and they would constantly be comfortable in their chaos, and they simply didn’t want to change.
The pain one in particular really grates on me. I a 32 yo biological female (white), was in a massive car wreck broke every bone in the right side of my face, broke several vertebrae in my neck and back, jaw wired shut for 4 months. They refused to give me pain meds. They discharged me from the hospital 3 weeks after the accident with NO PAIN MEDS. When I tried to get a script they couldn't find my doc. Two days W/O anything for pain, my husband got his dentist to give him a script for viocoden for a tooth filling before I was ever even able to get my doc on the phone!
I’m sorry, it’s getting worse even in Australia!
@CheesusChrist-xv5bm really that would make sense with what happened in hospital last week for me.. I really want to take it further but don’t know how and am currently looking for a new doctor
That's kind of hard to believe. I was prescribed 60 5mg roxicodone when I got 2 screws put in my ankle even though they already injected a nerve blocker and the doctor even knew I was an opiate addict. He's lucky they gave it for just a filling, usually local anesthetic does the job. They usually only bust out the Tylenol 3 for tooth extraction or other oral surgery.
@@ChiTownGuerrilla I'm so glad for you that your medical experience was better than mine. Perhaps your care team was more willing to prescribe you heavy medications because you are already a waste of an addict. Whereas my care team didn't want to risk the prescription because they didn't want to see me turn into someone like you. The tone of your reply is quite cunty.
i once got into a horrible argument with my boyfriend over the "birthing person" argument. he's genderfluid. i have no problem with that, i just wish he wouldn't put that on me. i was driving when it happened. i brought up that it upsets me that people refer to women as birthing people, people who have periods, and worst of all (more or less), chest feeders. he argued that it was inclusive. i argued that it was disgustingly exclusive and promotes the erasure of women's roles in the world. he got so mad and said, "what makes a woman a woman?" and i had to pull over because i was so heated. why do i have to be referred to as cisgender? why do i have to be reduced to my body? i am a WOMAN. the world wouldn't be able to go 'round without women. i considered breaking up with him that day.
another example: this didn't happen to me but my friend. her obgyn asked if she was attracted to people with vaginas or penises. she feels like she can't even say "i'm straight" without getting schooled about pronouns and inclusivity. it's so irritating.
Consider it again
@@danaso2567 HELP OMG 😭
I honestly have to say that in general, based on the limited info here, I'd advise you to either get him out of the cult or break up.
Jonathan Haidt is a good start to get people back to normalcy in my opinion.
Hope you're doing well!
15:16 I'm so glad you brought up adhd. So many SO many people don't understand that adhd can be VERY debilitating to some people. While some people with adhd find their systems and what works for them just fine, a lot don't. And lot of people completely dismiss adhd as something that can be debilitating, even some people with adhd do this because it isn't debilitating to THEM.
So thank you, a lot Misha. From those of us who ACTUALLY struggle with adhd.
Growing up, I learned about the horrors of slavery and Jim Crow; I learned about the civil rights movement and the bravery of MLK and his followers, and how they transformed our society for the better; I could be happy and contented that racism, while still around, seemed to be gradually fading into the dustbin of history and that soon racial divisions would also fade away. But I never thought that as I turned into an adult, that I would have to be facing down racists, sexists, and anti-semites reincarnated into a new form in this socio-historical era.
It's time sensible people concerned with decency and universal love for one's fellow person, stop letting these woke neo-racists get away with their racial hatred that hides behind their word salad.
Funny thing is they never teach us about the horrors of the barbary slaves.. That is white slaves very recent in history
@@aaronrodgers9202I learned about that in school in the 70's.
@@toodlescae That's unusual probably, I never did
@@toodlescae yeah that was a long time ago lol. I'm talking about current times
its so crazy to me how the left tried to hard for so long to actually stop injustice, that once the major injustices were gone it seems they invented new ones up just to have something to fight for. thats literally what "micro agressions" are, imagined slights that are supposed to be racist in some way but aren't.
I've had severe crippling OCD my whole life. Anyone pretending to have it should be shamed. It's not something that's fun, and it's not something that should be used as an excuse. It's something I'm deeply ashamed of and something I have to struggle with every day.
Exactly. I have OCD too (diagnosed) and it's excruciating to deal with. The intrusive thoughts that keep you from leaving a goddamn room because everything is dangerous and might set on fire so I have to check a million times and I'm late to everything for it. The horrifying graphic images that come to my mind and make me feel like a horrible person and how I just can't do a simple thing like listening to a specific song because if I do my family will fucking die. I hate people who pretend to have it
Currently going through ocd treatment and I agree. It's something I hate talking about as it's extremely embarassing and debilitating. It's a true hell. Sending love out to you all ❤
Please don't be ashamed. Most of us do compulsions in an effort (though futile) to protect ourselves or our families.
I was never diagnosed with OCD but definitely had some tendencies. I couldn’t pass an American flag in 1st grade without saying the pledge of allegiance 3x in my head and saluting. It was exhausting. I also had a 2 week long panic attack at only 7 thinking I would sleepwalk and stab my family (intrusive thoughts). I still struggle with hand washing but not for myself, I’m scared I will give germs to my loved ones. It’s absolutely terrifying and not quirky.
I've also had severe OCD my whole life, but my parents treated it like a joke (literally, they would watch me having compulsions and laugh it off with, "Oh you're so OCD," but never had the thought to actually get it evaluated), so I didn't actually get diagnosed or treated at all in any capacity until I was in my 20s. The worst part for sure is the obsessions, which for me is highly perfectionistic, which leads to physically and mentally harmful compulsions because if I "mess up," my life, and everyone's lives I'm responsible for, is surely going to end (obviously, logically not true, but that's the obsessive part talking). I would KILL to be "normal." Being diagnosed was both the best and worst thing to happen to me. The best because I finally had an explanation for all the thinking errors and compulsive responses, but also the worst because nobody wants to have a mental illness. It's a battle every single day.
Also the whole "I'm organized so I must have OCD" thing bothers me. Because I'm NOT physically organized most of the time, mostly because I'm usually using up most of my energy trying to keep myself afloat and not to get my whole body to not be one giant decomposing, infectious mess from the compulsion to pick.
As a man, my PCOS and cewchi ph level is off the charts, honey, yasssss 👰🏻♂️
Slayyyyyy kweeeen 💅🏻
I don't understand english anymore 😭
@@Whysoserious648 most dialect isn't even English anymore most of it is just word garbage aka slang
Jfc. I'm white. I've had doctors shove me off and ignore what's going on with me, I've had to fight to get help, and had doctors still ignore me and lie about me and what I'm experiencing, so I had to fight harder and set the record straight on numerous occasions with actually good doctors, who then helped me.
Same EXACT experience here in NYC, I don't matter at all to doctors no respect whatsoever..
Same here. On top of being a woman so I get written off twice. I’m not even fully white, I’m mixed, but I guess I look more white. They take one look at me and think I’m a drama queen because I’m not screaming in pain or bleeding out. I know when something is wrong with me, I’ve been in this body since the day I was born. I’m not wasting my time to go to the doctor for fun. They honestly think I must be bored or something.
Tbh I think that’s just how the business is built because it seems to happen to everyone regardless of race or gender. I have read articles about gender bias that, if anything, should be helping you lmao. Did you know that (in the USA) even though women are a lot less likely to have a heart attack than men, a woman is more likely to die because of one that a man. Women are apparently way less likely to get treatment, funny how that works huh? I’ve tried to look for it but I haven’t read that much about medical bias based on race. I’ve read a couple of articles (not in well known science magazines) that said something about around 10 to 18% of doctors believing black people have a higher tolerance to pain, which would understandably be an issue but it just doesn’t seem legit. Has anyone found anything on that?
I have one friend or this girl who im forced to be friends with who has this kind of victim mindset, a few months back i had a seizure in school along with absentmindedness, this friend of mine who claims to have every mental disorder in the world, first told everyone i have epilepsy (i even tested and i dont have it, it was just stress) and then told everyone it was a stroke... she pretended to care about me but lied to everyone for attention. My old ex-best friend also did this, she lied about having every mental disorder and anything that would happen she would blame it on her adhd. Also worth noting she was in the highest set in my school. She would tell me the saddest things (for example her friend committing suicide) and she would have the audacity to smile about it, when i asked her about it, she said you have to "live laugh love through it" As a member of late gen Z i am concerned for what the media and what will happen in the future, great vid btw
Being surrounded by the us vs. them mentality is exhausting. Thank you for being a light in a world of drama and chaos 💗 The trauma part reallreally resonated with me as someone who was abused. Truly the only way to heal is to move on. Stewing in your pain will not help you and that goes for everything. Getting out of your house and breathing fresh air goes a really long way!
I stumbled on this channel, and kept watching because it’s nice to see young people who seem sane. It’s so rare these days.
😂 it's REALLY surprising how you can maintain your cheerfulness while dealing with the insane content and issues you do. As bad as (or worse) the world is everyday when I start a new day, if there's one of your videos to start my day at least I can laugh about the insanity for a while. Keep doing what you're doing 👍👍
Doctor: no, i can't diagnose you with autism, because there is nothing wrong with you.
Teenager: Fine! I'll do it myself 😤
Psychology doesn’t have a fantastic record with diagnosis, historically: I think we might want to be somewhat doubtful even of formal labels. If you’re using poop to write on walls or spinning plates, no doubt. Object rather than relationship focussed? Meh!
30:35 it's like the :"sorry I k!lled your family im a Capricorn" girls
@JustinaSadikovaidk what each one mean😳
Watching a Misha Petrov video for 32 minutes and 48 seconds is a pretty good way to pass the time for 32 minutes and 48 seconds, wouldn't ya'll agree? 🙂
I think the US should provide many mental health clinics… but they can’t be staffed by people pushing their agenda or illness on others. Which probably makes this idea pointless
nowadays you can't even have a proper skilled staff, first they have to have diversity then add lgbt+ people then if vacancies are left they look for skilled ones.
I had no idea my cousin had depression. Never mentioned it to his extended family at least, never made it a personality trait. How did we know he had it? My uncle finding him and then us getting a call explaining what happened. Sadly people who truly suffer end up doing it silently.
I lost a good friend after she went down the mental illness rabbit hole and began using a self diagnosed anxiety disorder as an excuse to be a terrible person. Anytime she was called out she would start bouncing her foot and slapping her knee, telling us that she was just having an anxiety attack and she was trying to redirect her feelings. I finally cut her out of my life when I asked her to watch my puppy while I went out of town for a trip. (The puppy was too young to go to be bordered and she was experienced with dogs.) The day I came back from my trip I called her and asked what time would be good to pick up my dog. She then told me that she couldn’t talk to me about that right now because she had been having a multi-day anxiety episode and she had bonded to the puppy as a grounding tool. That maybe I could have my dog in a week but we should talk about me just giving her the dog. I screamed at her, drove to her house with my husband, forced her to answer the door, and took back my dog. Never spoke to her again.
I’m white, and I’ve had horrible experiences with doctors and getting diagnosed. I was always told I just had IBS or it was in my head, or I should just have a baby and it would go away. I didn’t get diagnosed with Endometriosis until I was 36. This is very common with women. It has nothing to do with skin colour. Especially where women’s health is concerned. Endometriosis is a women’s disease, and I noticed the inclusive language and it angers me so much.
I have a famjly member, who went through cancer.
She was JUST starting to get her hair back and being GLAD about it, be told by a black woman, with a child may I add, that she is racist for stating her hair is like her's (she has naturally thick curly hair).
Absolute Madness!
Also she told this person that she had gone through cancer.
It's an evil ideology, pushed by evil people onto others who are already sick, for political power.
I’m a redhead…. We definitely need more anesthesia and our pain is rarely taken seriously…. But *racism* 🙄
Never heard about that. I have a very light skinned and red headed friend who is immune to pain. She had a kid without anesthesia. Probably something else wrong with this woman then
Please take care of yourself 🙏🏻, I’m afraid Disney will find you and recast you as a black diverse trans person
@@TcMauricio🤭
Redheads are less receptive to pain medications due to the genetic variant they carry in the melanocortin-1 receptor (MC1R) gene. Most physicians and every respectable anesthesiologist knows this and takes it into consideration when providing care.
There are studies that comfirm higher pain treshold in redhaired people @@rebel4466
At this point, they would call you a speciest for calling someone a human. Instead, you have to call humans "animals that walk on two legs"
27:39 ocd is horrible to Live with, the obsessive part is what really gets ya. Imagine not being able to not think about doing something to the point you have anxiety attacks and fall part. I have a good friend wirh it and it's so hard to see him struggle some days..
(The anxiety thing is how he described it to me, i think it's the easiest way for normal people to understand it)
ive had depression since i was a kid and 3 attempts in my life. And it sad cause my last try left me with permanent brain damage. And whats even sadder it feels hopeless finding the right help!
I’m so sorry about that…and all I can say is pray to Jesus atleast one time to help out, and if you don’t wanna do that I hope that you still get help!
Oh what am I saying of course! I’ll pray for you :)
Mamy people have conditions such as ADHD which is commonly misdiagnosed as depression. When you get to the root of you're depression you will be able to tackle it. Good luck with it, talking is key.l mate I've been in you're position and it does and will disappear from you.
@@kirahhdrop Yup i got to the point in my life where i said f everything i just want the truth no matter how bad t hurts. Im finally putting my best foot forward, making the effort, and getting the help i need. although it seems very difficult to find.
Christ is King
My mother that has been a midwife for 30 has been strong armed into saying chest feeding. Several senior nurses have been pushed out to retire cause they fought the change and the younger newly graduated nurses are half untrained
My ex's son's mother is a nurse, and she's a full-blown, empty-headed cow. 😂😂 She failed half her classes and had to retake them. Retook whatever that major test is called literally 4 times before she passed it. She would offer medical advice just randomly and it'd be incredibly incorrect. Like that time she insisted my ex's house had bedbugs because her son had a rash from our new laundry detergent. She kept insisting they were bedbug bites even after we paid an exterminator come check. 😂😂😂 Just confidently wrong and saying "I'm a nurse" to justify it.
I finally had to bring it to her attention "Girl, you're BARELY a nurse. You failed the test 3 times and half your classes. You still have no real employment experience yet, either."😬
@@jennastewart7290😂
The story about the autism and BPD etc. is very true as well. Some people really suffer with all that and doctors don't believe them anymore, because it's a trend online. These people don't want to have it. They just want to know if they have it. Some go through years of suffering and doctors visits just to get an answer and people abuse the illness for online clout without even having a diagnosis.
exactly. for me its not to glorify, glamourize, or excuse myself, but to find the reasons why I am the way I am and to find ways to work with myself rather than against myself. Unfortunately with the glamourizers and fakers, it makes it harder for those who have legitimate concern to be considered unless its presenting in such a profound manner.
"...doctors don't believe them anymore, because it's a trend online."
How true is this? I think it's opposite. Doctors are overdiagnosing because anyone can read the list of symptoms online.
People are always shocked that I don’t care about labeling myself and that i instead focus on hobbies and things that will make me happy. I am diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety, but it doesn’t have to define me, and that really shocks some people.
I used to cry and feel awful because I was hateful against trans people back when I was trying to be liberal. I didn't understand why I felt so angry. I thought I was sick and wanted to die. The truth was I was right about everything, and when I realized that I felt a whole lot better. I'm not crazy, they are.
Good for you, glad you feel better. I can't wait for the trans madness to end.
Thank you for recognizing this wave of insanity coming over our world it's spreading and it's scary..
3:16 My daughter has tourettes like symptoms. However, her's are due to several concussions causing some neurological issues. I can't tell you how many people were like, "are you sure she isn't faking it because of social media?" Yes, I am sure. My daughter hates being the center of attention. I also understand why people have that thought, but it is so annoying having to deal with it.
The whole pain issue, is across the board, regardless of race have issues with doctors and health care. I am a health care worker and see this daily.
Yes, we are the scapegoats for the opioid crisis because we're easier to target than the cartels. Docs arbitrarily reduce our meds just because the government says to, NOT based on what the doctor actually thinks the patient needs.
Yes, we swing back and forth between under/over prescribing. It's very sad. The lawyers have made it dangerous for some doctors to treat as they see fit.
Ocd is definitely a form of anxiety. But honestly, people who say they have it bother me because they’ve likely never experienced being a child having a persistent thought that if I didn’t go and shut a light off or if I didn’t shut a door, or did something a certain way when it popped up in my head, my parents would end up dying. Like it was CONSTANT. My anxiety like this was bad as a kid. I still vividly remember lying in my bed, feeling too lazy to shut off the light to sleep, and then a thought popped up in my head that if I didn’t shut off that light, my parents could die. And I would try to ignore it, but it would just get stronger.
Thankfully it’s gotten so much better when medicine but I really don’t wanna be on that all my life.
Yeah, my mom and I don't have have that. We just feel the need to straighten stuff out or reorganize a lot. I think that's a "tendency", but maybe you can fact check me on that
Can definitely relate not wanting to take medicine for the rest of your life
I have to take two pills everyday so I don't have seizures. I hate it, but I hated having seizures way more
Maybe one day they can find a cure for us, but for now, medicine is all we got : (
Are you joking? If you are in Appalachia, you automatically get treated like you are trying to get dope if you say you are in pain.
That's because we've had a major abuse problem here.
I honestly hate it when people invalidate people who have actual struggles. Like, pretending to have issues doesn’t make you cool. The people with issues don’t think it makes you cool. It just makes you an ignorant asshole.
I'm not sure if their behaviors invalidate others' struggle or not. People who medicate their mental issues seem a little defensive about the treatment and maybe less so on the condition itself. Having an food allergy or auto-immune condition is no joke. I think calling them "ignorant" asshole is pointless. Because from their point of view, you're inherently ignorant...
The condition of mental kind is a whole other problem. People get upset when politicians talk about mentally ill people after mass shootings. No one can quite tell when someone crossing the line if it's because of either ineffective treatment, side-effects or if it's the underlying condition.
What's fakeable is fakeable. The foundation of biomedical model is questionable without finding the cause. And this minimal interpretation of medical model can be harmful too. In any case, they could be at risk. And sometimes they weaponize it.
As someone with BPD it’s very embarrassing to speak about or even seek help for, I never wanted to tell my parents or even my ex who was the main cause because I just KNEW that they would think I was faking it like everyone else, of course online people “record” their mental breakdowns like that’s something normal or the first thing on someone’s mind when that feeling comes up.
I hate it here, I love ur content Misha! You and Amala Ekonobi are my absolute favorites, just a breath of fresh air that reaffirms that we aren’t all insane out there.
That girl vid with the "trauma holder" good god.
@@Stuck.in.prugatoryyou just did though
@@Stuck.in.prugatory I believe you (now) it is just such a saturated place online and in digital spaces currently which I find so disrespectful towards true DID sufferers. There is a video I watched once in which a patient graciously allowed an interview with one of her alters, her little I believe. In describing, it sounds cringey because of these fakers online, but that video instantly made me a believer that DD is truly a real disorder, because there is no faking what I watched. I’m sorry you have to deal with such a confusing and medically obscure disorder. I wish I could remember the video name & the creator because it really is powerful.
@@Stuck.in.prugatory LOL thank you, it’s actually not TS though, it’s an AI generated image based on my own photos of myself - what a compliment you never even knew you were paying!
As someone with schizophrenia, I consider it a win if nobody notices I'm struggling with it. I can't even imagine prancing around online showing the worst parts of myself
Misha, I have diagnosed asperger's syndrome and hearing what you said about people glorifying it is so true. I have this condition and I wish every day I could just be normal. at least People with down syndrome get to be blissful and happy but I'm different and I know that I'm different and I know how it effects me in everyday life. Thank you for discussing this.
Have you noticed people like us who have asperger's act different from people with regular autism? Two of my dearest friends as well as myself are professionally diagnosed with the syndrome and realized this ourselves. It feels like we're just socially awkward and smart (with plenty of stupid moments too), but it's unnoticeable for the most part.
Misha I love how straight forward you are, you dont stand to this bs. I would love to have more people like you in society, your soul is what people need, not some woke ass crying about opression. You seem to be a great woman, great channel love from Spain
7:51 there actually IS a biased, but it has NOTHING to do wirh race. The pushback against rhe opioid epidemic was so intense in the medical field that doctors and nurses have been trained to avoid treating pain as much as they can unless it's absolutely NECESSARY. This leads them to ignore patients, despite the fact that they could still run test and identify the source of rhe pain.
I've literally been trying to figure out what is causing my shoulder pain for over a year, they still won't run any exrays or anything. I 100% know something Is wrong, my shoulder blade and back feel all fucked up. I JUST want to know what's causing my pain so I can look to steps to solve it like physical therapy.
So yea, there is a legit pain issue going on wirh doctors not helping or addressing snd taking pain seriously...but it's not a discrimination thing, EVERYONE is having problems wirh it right now and it only started after the huge internal pushback against opiods in the medical field.
But a BIG problem with all of this is rhe nurses and docs assume "they complain about pain" = "I want pain meds" when it isn't. Modt people just want to know what's causing the pain and if there's a way to fix it, there's SO MANY ways to fix it without pain meds, but because docs have been trained to be extremely wary of people seeking pain meds they profile and luml people into that group when they're not. Especially if you look fine externally they don't GAF. You knkw, despite me nor being able to feel half my back for 6 months due to (what's probably now permenant) nerve damage, I look fine. I'm always in fucking pain, and can barley lay down on my back AT ALL. But I'm 26 and look young so they just ignore me every time I go in asking if they could PLEASE CHECK OUT MY BACK
Find a good chiropractor. I have severe scoliosis abd a good chiropractor will order x-rays before touching you. That way you might find out what's going on and they may even be able to help by doing spinal adjustments. (It's usually the only way I get a modicum of relief). If not you then have x-rays to show an orthopedic doctor.
If they don't examine your back and/or order x-rays they are *not* a good chiropractor.
@@toodlescae I've gone to 10 seperate chiropractors already, and asked for trays each time. Each one said "we don't usually do x rays until we've tried every other option" a few of them I stormed out of cause them saying "I don't think so" and refusing exrays is so infuriating. A few I let still adjust me, and it helped a little bit; but the pain has ALWAYS come back in the exact same area and worsens. Sometimes it'd numb for months, sometimes the muscles are twitching weird. It all started after a snowboarding accident to, I'm just exhausted of trying. I just want to know I'm not crazy for feeling my back fuckign twitch and spasm and go numb and feel like it's trying to stab through my skin some times, and I just consistently get pretty much no help.
There's literally no more chiropractors in my area
@@whenimmanicimgodly4228 Dang. I'm sorry to hear that. Wish I could get you to one of the 2 chiropractors I've used over the years. Which one I go to depends on my insurance but both are fantastic. One of them helped me get my disability approved.
Loving your work Misha. I believe mental illness is not caused by wokeness, but wokeness is attracted to mental illness. In my experience almost everybody that claims mental illness is lying. I was diagnosed with bipolar, schizophrenia and just to shame me a little more, anorexia back in the early 90's. I mention these diagnosis only with my doctor, but I realize the irony of me mentioning it now. My point is this, people that have real mental illnesses never mention it, ever. We are ashamed of our failures. We don't like acknowledging them.
You tell them Misha 👏. Keep up the good work.
My son has Tourettes and had struggled all his life. He doesn't like talking about it and always tried to step away to bathroom when his tics have gotten really bad. These fakers are disgusting. His school experience was horrendous.
When I was about 4 my kindergarten teacher suggested I might have autism, so my parents got me tested. Result: no autism 👍 except when the doctor said "he does have some traits that overlap with autism, but so do a lot of people", my mom heard that I have "autistic traits" and for a long time she insisted I was on the spectrum. She sounded almost gleeful sometimes.
She would've been one of those autism moms and you would've been her entire personality
the thing about the autism thing is so real 😢. I got diagnosed at 25yo; n i cant really explain what i have so well or why i get randomly overwhelmed at times and i doesn't help all these ppl making something edgy out of it. Like I get im able to get myself up and go to work and all but I also wish ppl knew how much that takes out of me everyday.
So thankful to the viewers who wrote in about PCOS and late-diagnosed neurodivergence/emotion regulation. Absolutely correct. It’s not a trend, it’s not temporary, it can be a grave reality for some people who now have to learn to live there lives in a way they don’t know how
Grateful to feel seen and heard today, thank you Misha
I stand by, feel the emotion then let it go ❤ as someone who just disregards all of their feelings but also being lost in marinating in bad memories, this has helped me. I dont let myself feel a negative emotion for no longer than it needs to be felt.
I do have ADD, anxiety, depression & Borderline so at times it is harder but training the brain is so helpful.
People forget how powerful the brain is. Thoughts & feelings come in go in waves, its figuring out which ones help you grow into a better person and overcoming anything that would disrupt your peace
‘I shouldn’t have to beg for tests at the drs’
“My toe hurts, and ibuprofen and Tylenol dont work! What? Tramadol? No that wont work either, i need ..what’s it called ox- - OxyCo- -“
Ooof that's dark. Would go a long way to explain the brainrot though. Thx for the laugh
Lol the oxyheads
i was diagnosed with PCOS around three years ago, so the thought of that being diminished into something as "a person with a uterus" or "menstruating person" is saddening. i am a woman. only fellow women can truly understand what it's like (even those with other uterine conditions).
i also have diagnosed autism and depression. while i do talk about them a decent amount, i do not like to "flex" these diagnoses or "show them off." living with these conditions affects my life in more ways than i have ever shared online and that may be hard for many people on the left to understand.
I can confirm the Ontario Canada comment. I had gone in a few years ago when I was looking for a new doctor (because the one I was seeing was just glossing me over like everything I was struggling with was in my head and not a real thing..) but the one I went to see, she immediately wanted to put me on antidepressants. I didn't take them because I felt her assessment was way to short and she was way too eager to get me on them...
I have found alternative ways of managing my stress without medication since then, but I was definitely unnerved at the readiness to get me on them...
Ontario sucks
Same. I have been dealing with chronic pain and every doctor I have seen reverts to antidepressants. My own family doctor basically told me to come back to her when I’m “ready” for them, after I told her I’m not comfortable with taking them for pain when she didn’t even assess me for any mental disorders…
Yeah they get a kick back from the government and want that money.
I made it to a video via comment. This hasn’t happened before, it’s pretty cool. Love your videos! Keep going 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
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Planned Parenthood literally says "People with a penis" 😂
Also, in Dialectical Behavioural Therapy one of the first things you need to understand in order to succeed in the sessions, is that no matter who caused your problems or your trauma (because truly many of us didn’t cause it ourselves), it’s yours to deal with/fix/improve/work on. You need to accept that working on it, is your responsibility. It can be anyone’s fault, but the solution is only yours.
Man I love seeing Misha speak straight facts!
Thank God for you Misha. A voice of reason sorely needed in your generation.
Everyone that criticizes my worldview and tells me that I’m “doing life wrong” when you examine THEIR lives they are absolute train wrecks. I’ll happily continue to live and believe just as I am. 😎
Well, the black people in THAT AD don't have thicker skin.🙄
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@@gr-os4gd 😂, are you mad, this isn't tiktok
im a man who grew up in the 90s with undiagnosed aspergers, anxiety, and ptsd from my mom being psycho.
I left the left completely as soon as this whole "mental illness means you give up because nothing can be done" crowd started up in the mid 2010s
it took me a decade of being ignored, alone, and looked down on before i got off me ass and figured it out. I didnt do it alone but it started with me saying "nope not going to let myself get away with that shit" and doing the work first, then i got well enough other people in my life could actually help me
As a nurse a call BS on this 74% advil advert
I've suffered depression for almost twenty years now, although not all the time, just for a period every now and then. It's like getting tired of managing life, everything loses it's colour and flavour, and you just want to wait and heal. But instead of embracing it, I've been fighting it every single time, getting better at recovering at first, and the last few years, getting better at not falling into it, too. Resilience is a great human superpower, and resistance is that as well. Keep fighting, keep loving your close ones, keep building yourselves and your environment 💪
PS: when you are in a negative or anxious state, it really helps to tell your brain to stop. I do it via mindfulness, it gets easier to do the more you use it.
"I can feel the wokeness coming inside of me" chain
Somethins coming alright
Same
This must be a good video
That ain't wokeness coming inside you 😂
I can feel your wokeness
Let the wokeness flow through you
I hate when people go "I am disassociating!" I've been dealing with CPTSD. The first time I did disassociate, I had to lock myself in the bathroom - maybe not my brightest move - because it didnt feel as if I was alive. I survived a deadly car accident that took my parents and for that event, I was convinced I was dead and this was hell. I couldnt see anything - thank God - but I had this inmense feeling of dread and like my body wasn't real. Oh and I actually had menory loss after the accident so there are things, entire conversations with family members, or even them just visitong me at the hoapital, I just don't remember.
People don't want to actually dissociate. It's a terrifying experience.
I remember during the overturning of Row V Wade, Vice Media did a show on it. The presenter when speaking to Planned Parenthood, referred to women as “birthing people”. Of all things to say that affect women only, and she says that! It was just something else.
It’s stupid and degrading to refer to women as that just refer them as women
and no I don’t support that “what is a woman” nonsense
I LOVE your courage in making this video! You are saying EVERYTHING that us, the silent majority, are thinking.
I'm sure the DEA's crackdown on pain perscriptions has nothing to do with it. 🤔
Exactly. Fent overdoses left and right. Sorry guys can't go to your local Dr thinking he will fill the role of your drug dealer anymore
You know what one of the biggest common denominators is with all these?
TIKTOK. It's literally a mental illness factory. All therapists who see child patients, at the very first appointment, should be required to ask if the child uses TikTok, and if yes, tell the child to delete the app.
8:41 I've had bad experiences in the medical world where my symptoms are not taken seriously or really investigated... I'm a white woman.
Misha, love your videos. I completely adore you and i feel like I finally found my tribe lol and I can’t wait to see more!
I just want to say about the “Black Advil” ad, black people have a history of medical malpractices. We have been lab rats, black women having the highest maternal mortality rate in the us, we have lack of access to quality heath facilities, even them simply downplaying real diseases as you can see with the case of Diddy’s ex wife Kim Porter.
And although it’s different for me (I’m a black girl from Chicago whose middle to upper class family moved from the south & made it a point to prioritize our health & education), the ad was meant to shed light that there are a lot of doctors dropping the ball. I think we have to consider BW who might live in Buttfuck, Alabama where doctors are not equipped to handle these new diseases or even the money hungry ones in LA writing oxy scripts for a hang nail.
And yes, you are completely correct about there being a problem with big pharma, but there is also a problem with physicians not prioritizing black health nor repairing trust within the medical field. I think 2 things can work in tandem.
That’s just my two cents, love you k bye lol