If you daydream or you imagine you’re in a beautiful place where you’re safe and loved, that’s fine. If you allow that to take over your life, you have serious issues to address. There’s a fine line between wanting to get away from things for awhile and avoiding reality altogether.
Yeah that's why social media and pornography are the two worst factors that play a role in all this. Social media you only ever upload the positive things about your life, well I thought that until people are now apparently flaunting their ailments and afflictions. And pornography is a way to tap into any and every little sexual fantasy you may or may have had. So easily and readily available that it's become something to discuss with groups of people instead of something you do in private and keep to yourself. I guess that's why we have a whole generation focused entirely on sexuality.
I used to daydream a whole lot, i still day dream quite a bit, its not an escapism thing for me, i just have an over active imagination so when im bored I imagine a little tv show in my head with characters i created when i was like 8
I agree. Daydreaming has values most art and fictional stories begin with daydreaming. CS Lewis was a notorious daydreamer. Pretty sure all the Inklings were. Pretty sure Van Gogh and Monet were. My favorite contemporary author has admitted that his stories manifested out of these two characters that “showed up” in his head one day and have been constantly ribbing or arguing with each other for decades. But these artists were constructive with these daydreams. They were self-aware that their imaginations were separate from reality and instead controlled those fantasies to create great stories and works of art to share. It’s weird to think that if my favorite author were a teen today, social media would be convincing him that those characters in his head are alters. I suffer Tru maladaptive daydreaming and work to control it. My outlet is turning them into fanfics to explore ideas. Now I can either dismiss the daydream if it supports the story, or jot the idea down to return to when my tasks are done.
These people need to watch The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, one of my favorite films- about a guy who lives a very boring life that he spices up through daydreams-- but then he starts actually doing things, and the frequency of those daydreams diminishes dramatically until they cease altogether because at the end of the film he doesn't have TIME to daydream- he's too busy LIVING HIS DREAMS.
I'm a big daydreamer and do it nearly every day, but I usually stay grounded in reality and don't forget my standing or situation that I'm in. I love fairytales and reading stories and while they comfort me in my everyday life and make me happy, I don't dictate my life around it or pretend that reality doesn't exist or that I secretly disconnect from real life and go to a fantasy world. That's how it should be
Same, some people just daydream more than others, or are more creative than others. Roleplaying and daydreaming isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as long as you can still live in real life and know your imagination is not reality. That’s where it gets dangerous.
Same, I daydream everyday and it just makes me happy. And even though I know when to stop sometimes it's difficult to concentrate when I'm in class. For me personally daydreaming is just so good and most of the time I wish to live in my created world cause it's just so much better than reality.
I was always under the impression that self-care meant going to therapy, fixing your sleep schedule, lessening caffeine, etc, aka adopting responsibility. Holy cow how things have changed in 10 years
@@woobiefuntime Well true but to be fair they did say lessening caffeine not quitting it 😂 Some people do drink too much and that can have health issues.
I’ve been maladaptive daydreaming for around 30 years. Yes, it started as a coping mechanism because I had a very lonely childhood, I was bullied and had no friends so I created a parallel universe inside my head where I was actually happy. I have never known a life without maladaptive daydreaming so I have accepted it as a part of who I am. I’ve been to a psychiatrist and nothing has helped. It’s just something that will always be with me
I'm 42 and continue to live with it, though I'm not depressed right now so it isn't takingniver my life like it did in my 20s. I think I may have been born with social phobias because I was terrified of people since toddlerhood. And the trauma of being molested didn't help. But yes, I agree about the loneliness we feel as children. Best wishes❤
Hi! I commented this on another comment thread but because maladaptive daydreaming affected me a lot I have to try and cope with it which is ironic. Anyway so I realized I used it as a coping mechanism because I’m a creative so I used it to propel my creativity forward. Still not gone but I might as well use it to benefit me right? Anyway have the greatest of days!
No idea what may help you but for me it got better after I moved to a safer school, then it got better when I moved away from my abusive family and it went away completely when I moved to a safer country. It's all about fixing the core issue.
I'm in your same shoes Be the person you fantasize yourself as Your daydreams are likely a gold pot of energy Use them to motivate to learn 1 new thing every day: New fighting technique, recipe, computer skill, whatever Just don't completely give in to the day dreams Endless fantasy is a slow poison It's good you accepted it Now it's time to make it work for you P.S. you know a lot of writers had this issue, right?
i had a shift last night to an alternate reality where critical thinking/intellectual skills were greatly appreciated. grass was green and richer than ever and basements were no more, then i woke up
Okay idk how helpful this is going to be but little nerdy 8 year old me was really stressed so as a coping mechanism I got into maladaptive day dreaming. In essence it was: scientists are celebrities and education is celebrated. A person is a celebrity for their efforts in furthering knowledge. Let me just tell you once I managed to speak to people I got really disappointed 😂
Same here. I really thought seeing my fellow millennials dying off in droves from ODs, including my childhood best friend and my older brother, would be the rock bottom and wake up call for a lot of people.
I've been saying this! It's crazy when a drug PANDEMIC may not be the worst problem facing a community. Not a drug PROBLEM, but a F*****G PANDEMIC! Just using that word means it's too late really...you guys get what I'm saying tho
@@madalyn_2091 this, many people dont even use/get influenced by tiktok, its just people on tiktok too much who get this stuff on the algorithm, if people went outside and talked to young people theyd realise its a very small portion of people who fake illnesses.
It's so much more comforting to say "I'm damaged" than to admit "I'm boring." None of these people are really engaged in self-reflection; self-reflection is not something you do in front of a camera. It's just pathetic attention-seeking without doing something worthy of attention because that's "too hard."
Self-reflection has never been easy even before the advent of social media. It is something humans have had to struggle with as long as there has been, society, other groups of people that are not our family.
The sad thing is that the culture reinforces people's drive to identify as damaged, rather than deal with his/her problems. This can and will lead to an actually damaged, disrupted life. You spend 5 of your teen years doing this rather than socializing and cultivating hobbies, and you're going to fall behind. You keep going past graduation, you're fked. Wake up at 25 and it's awful.
thats actually so true, and I see this with myself and others, I have a lot of issues that I am trying to figure out with professionals but in the meantime I am trying to entertain myself away from social media. when I am not going to school or doing work for school, I am at the ice rink, or I am resting my body (also have physical issues) but learning a language or doing art or journaling. I know I am pretty damaged and when I am waiting for answers (trying to find a doctor currently) I am trying to do something to better other aspects of my life rather than just sit around in fantasy land. and honestly these kids would do better pouring their struggles into some form of expression (for me I journal) but maybe they could write a story or paint a painting to express themselves rather than just bottle it all up waiting for the explosion.
I mean I daydream too. I pretend to be in different worlds and with my hyperactive imagination it definitely is a method of escapism and inspiration for writing my stories. However, I'm very aware that it is fantasy and imagination and should stay that way. Once you're at the point where you cannot differentiate between reality and fantasy, that's a mental illness
I love your videos from Indonesia ❤ I am gay and used to have online leftist friends and they were very horrible racist people that hated on white and cis people. They also faked some disorders like DID and I used to be genderfluid myself. You have showed me the Light.
@@IaconDawnshire Lmao yeah. They would always blame white, straight and cisgender people for everything that has gone wrong on this earth. They literally said that homophobia didn't exist before colonialism
I'm an older millennial and never heard of this reality shifting thing. It sounds delusional and disconcerting. It's sad how we're trying to normalize or even celebrate such delusional thinking instead of trying to overcome them.
@billybobal-hashim7884 Observing from personal experience I can assure you it's a lot more common than that. So many times I had people vehemently fight me and try to make me concede on being wrong only for then some time later say "oh yeah my doctor said the same advice on x you said" or nodding along without second thought to what a teacher said, whilst completely having forgotten they were fighting me in class when I tried to explain the exact same thing about that topic to them a few weeks prior (it was a different teacher in the first instance)
I have maladaptive daydreaming, “diagnosed” (it’s not really a disorder) by a professional. It’s not fun at all, my relationships with my family and friends suffer from it. The rage I feel when someone interrupts me is really damaging. My maladaptive daydreaming gets worse during stressful times, and it’s a consequence of disorders like PTSD and depression. It’s not “cute” or “cool”, and it doesn’t make me “unique”; it just makes me miserable.
Oh my Lord, the rage! Yes. This is where my toxic relationship with food and my boy-- my existence-- really shone through! I used to get so enraged with my body whenever I felt hunger. As in, I have better things to do like be in my daydream than eat, ffs!
I have never heard of “maladaptive daydreaming,” but I am intrigued. The symptoms sound like me but I’ve never heard the term. I’ll have to do a little research.
I have maladaptive daydreaming, (not diagnosed though), for me it is most certainly a coping mechanism from the toxicity of my family. At times it is problematic like when im trying to get school and other stuff done. However it is not an anti-social behavior for me. I am a huge extrovert, anyone who knows me would say so. I definitely have a much healthier version of it, but it's not normal and -probably- shouldn't be. (I say that because I do also use it as a way to write stories, it really helps me with that. ^-^)
I have maladaptive daydreaming undiagnosed and I think it started back when i was very small. I had some traumatic experiences that led me to become almost addicted to daydreaming because as a child, without proper emotional and mental guidance you really left to figure it out and I did… in a way that am now trying to remedy as an adult because maladaptive daydreaming is not truly living. Like anything, too much of something can become harmful. I wish everyone who suffers from it the best so that we can all live life as its meant to be. Fully. We can do it!
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Maladaptive daydreaming is something I have endorsed for about 20 years now. At the beginning I never even knew what this process was, I was just an overweight kid with no friends and these daydreaming periods felt comforting. They never lasted hours nor had they any significant impact on my normal, day to day life, they just happened during commuting from home to school and back, before going to sleep, etc. After I grew up and learnt about it, I kinda understood that this indeed was some sort of coping mechanism for my lack of social life, but I also tried to use it to my advantade to improve my writing and using my imagination like this to write different shorter or longer stories. It was an exciting and creative process, and I humbly admit I still daydream nowadays, but I understand that it has to be done in moderation and we should never loose the connection to reality. This video is another spot on one, Misha, greetings from Hungary!
If it didn’t last hours and it didn’t disrupt your daily life, then it wasn’t maladaptive daydreaming. It’s just daydreaming. People need to stop moving the goal post on conditions and syndromes. It’s like saying “I endorse narcolepsy it has helped me a lot! I feel rested after, I just don’t do it during the day or inappropriate times!” In other words, you’re just endorsing regular sleep.
Even though I'm Gen Z myself, I'm not aware of these "trends", probably because I don't use tiktok, so this is shocking to me. Actually terrifying. What happened to reading a book if you want to explore a different world for a little while or, hell, writing a fanfic? The most daydreaming I do is in bed while trying to fall asleep, so I'll try to come up with a story (and be asleep approximately three minutes into it, lol). What you've shown in the video is so beyond these forms of escapism, it's actually insane.
@@xleepy221 I still find it weird. What’s the point of lucid dreaming? If you’re feeling the need to do that, you’re probably trying to avoid something irl that needs taken care of, which is worrying. I say this because I truly don’t know anybody who does any lucid dreaming at all. So maybe I’m coming from a biased perspective but in my circle this isn’t normal.
Tik Tok is rotting people's (predominately Gen Z and younger) brains. I wouldn't be surprised if China programmed the algorithms to confuse and divide us for their gain. I tried to give Tik Tok a fair try, but got bored of it and thought most of the content was brain dead stuff of little substance.
Idk, the last year I was feeling great daydreaming for hours. I've wrote a fanfic that warms my heart. I'm not a great writer, still I know my hyperfixation helped me to improve my skills, to study lots of interesting stuff and to find new friends among my readers. Of course, there are people that suffer badly from the maladaptive daydreaming, but I'm not sure if your argument about books is valid. Most recently, people get these daydreams from books or from creating their own content.
@@Ray-xc5im Obviously what I’m talking about is using books as a form of escapism in the way it was intended. I wasn’t talking about misusing books in order to daydream. Fanfic writing is also okay. If you’re saying you “daydreamed” to create a fanfic, that’s called brainstorming. I’m talking about daydreaming in the sense that you’ll basically stop living in the real world for hours, which is what the people on the TikToks seem to be doing. That doesn’t seem healthy to me. There’s a very big difference between reflecting on your life for a moment and spending hours pretending you’re in a made up world while doing nothing else. We’re right here in the now.
As Dumbledore so rightly says: "It does not do to dwell on dreams, and forget to live." Now, sure, I'm not trying to disparage someone's painful lived reality and tell them to stop dreaming, or imagining... if it helps the pain temporarily, sure. But...just not to lose themselves inside it.
Hi Misha love your videos ❤ As someone who's in treatment for bipolar disorder and other mental problems that I have internelized for so long, I am disgusted by my generation. I am disgusted by the romanticization of mental illnesses. I can speak from experience, it is hell, it's making it very hard for me to make my dreams come true. There's so much I want to do in life, but now I'm just focusing on getting better. And all they care about is being special and oppressed, while I would do anything to be like everyone else. Thank you so much for bringing awareness to those issues and may God help us ❤
I also have bipolar disorder and i can agree that its absolutely awful and NOT something to be romanticized. I hate it that so many people in my generation think mental illness is "cool" and "trendy." Its total bs.
Glad the both of you see the truth and are actively working on improving yourself. Social media really is going to be the downfall of society, mixed with this push to make hurting someone's feelings basically a literal crime.
Thank you for saying it. I do have asperger syndrome (a form of autism) and probably social anxiety. And none of this is fun. I hate being so nervous every time I leave my house, I hate not being able to manage eye contact, I hate having intrusive thoughts about how could I embarrass myself, I hate feeling shitty after social interaction, because I fear what others think abou me, I hate that I didn't hang out with friends for almost 6 months, I hate that I can't make new friends and I hate not being able to enjoy my time in church or gym. This is why I'm getting help. Because I want my social life and the joy of it back.
As someone with high functioning autism (professionally diagnosed at 8), it is easy to get lost in my own head. I often have family members snap me out of it because my blank staring can get creepy. It even affects my dreams. I have very vivid dreams. There are times I wake up, relieved, because some of the dreams were very disturbing. I have no doubt in my mind people are “self-diagnosing” themselves for attention. To them, it’s better to say “I’m damaged” rather than “I’m boring”. They wouldn’t survive one day with real autism. They would need their little safe spaces.
MISHA, YOU SHOULD TOTALLY START A PODCAST!!!!! I love listening to you 'cause you're so good at articulating your thoughts and you're so logical and practical, and because I agree with most of what you have to say, and you address issues which people keep denying or are too scared to share their honest opinions about due to the fear of backlash. Your podcast would be the best thing ever.
Gen X here. We “knew everything” at that age, too. The difference is that we didn’t have a way to broadcast our weird inner thoughts to the world in a form which is effectively a permanent record of our stupidity. Social contagions were contained to schools or friend-groups, instead of travelling around the world at the speed of broadband.
We were also locked out of the house all summer long, or at the very least expected to interact with the neighborhood kids, even the jerks. Introvert me hated it. By forcing us to expand past our usual comfort zones, we learned how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
I think I've heard Jordan Peterson speak of his theory that this type of thing happens because people of this generation never developed their imagination because they grew up watching screens...and never were able to be bored. To me, this "reality shifting" is just the delayed development of imagination that is so needed for us as humans. It's so sad. Many kids don't know how to play and fantasize anymore, and all of this "reality shifting" seems to be their natural, suppressed childhood playtime exploding out of them...albeit in a harmful way.
Exactly why parents need to be enforcing regular down time from any screens and making them go outside, reading, socializing and getting into some sort of physical activity.
But why is this only happening now? Haven't kids been regularly "watching screens" since the 1950s? My parents are '50s kids and they watch TV a lot, but they aren't divorced from reality.
@@SeasideDetective2 I highly doubt that toddlers were handed iPads during the 1950s. There is a whole generation of parents who either couldn’t be bothered or just did not have the time (cause of work) to actually play and interact with their kids, so they handed their toddlers iPads to distract them. Those devices practically raised some kids. Of course they have no imagination. I also think that’s why so many kids are so rowdy and disruptive nowadays. I look at the younger grades in my high school and they’re actually feral. They start fights every week, their attention spans are shot. It’s all probably repressed energy from their childhoods that they were never able to express as toddlers, so they’re letting it all out as teens
@@kawansiesquad6659 It's hard for me to be very alarmed, though. The "TV-rots-your-brains" argument has been around for several decades now, and I also remember the panics over video games and Internet porn. It's been pointed out, though, that before television and video games came along, society was actually MORE violent. The nineteenth century was nowhere near as civilized as it's often portrayed.
Hey Misha! Indeed, i believe we have gone too far. Logic is somehow no longer the norm, and madness and mental illness is rampant. We must help them overcome these problems and return them to reality. Thank you for being a voice of reason in the darkness...
As someone who only has lucid dreams, it does feel like another reality. I've also fainted and hallucinated and felt that I was in another timeline. I know it's not real but it is very trippy and has led to me having a lot of false memories
Hey Katt yes I have quite often had very lucid dreams, that seamed so real it takes time to orientate back to your actual situation. The one that has stuck with me for decades was when I was apparently in hospital and about to die of something, I remember being in tears with my mother telling her I didn’t want to die there and then , not long after I woke up and it felt so real it affected me for quite a while , I actually thought it was a premonition , but my mother passed back in 2017 so clearly it’s not ! However that was the most vivid dream, I do have vivid ones quite often and are more used to them so distinguish them apart a lot better.
It’s definitely maladaptive daydreaming. I dealt with it as a kid/teen (I wasn’t the happiest growing up), but I never actually believed that what I was imagining was real. Some of the steps that pulled me out of it as a young adult included getting outside (preferably in nature), putting away my phone, and just enjoying the moment.
I used to play roleplays online by writing a character and make it act in the Hogwarts universe for example. It was a way of escape reality and expressing emotions. I left when I realized how much people get invested in it and put themselves in the character. So that whatever happens to him is kinda personal and it creates so many issues with other players. It's crazy. Many of these people are problematic. It's cathartic in a way but I dunno it's weird. During the pandemic this kind of game gained its old popularity, a way to make connections and live adventures while at home. I also know people who lose themselves in videogames and books, they think they live through the characters but on reality the do nothing and suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's really sad, it shouldn't be promoted.
this. i’ve been roleplaying/collaborative writing on and off for more than a decade now and i watched how the tumblr rpc (roleplay community) seemed to have boomed during covid. it’s way too easy to retreat into a comfort world, especially considering the state of the world as it is right now. i don’t blame anyone for wanting to mentally space out.
To clarify, playing video games doesn’t automatically mean you are fantasizing that you ARE the character you’re playing. But if you are unable to differentiate between game and real life, it’s time to stop playing video games
me too sometimes i disconnect my self from reality put my headphones and i create stories in my head and it get so complicated like i feel emotionally invested in them and when something sad happen to my character in my head i'll cry in real life and actually feel hurt which is kinda crazy since i do this to myself i created this story which i realized last year that it was a problem since i'm socially awkward and have barely any friends i used daydreaming to escape my boring reality but it really is coping mechanism and it really is easy to loose yourself and it even until this day i have to control my daydreaming and have trouble staying focus even when it's important
Fun fact: I'm writing a master dissertation about the paradoxes of the actor and theatre representation, so I'm investigating these topics. It's really intriguing. (Cause I studied both acting and philosophy btw)
I've been role-playing for just under two decades. I've seen it change from simple escapism(everyone admitted it being that when I first got into it) but fun, to nowadays some people being so into it, that it's dangerous mentally. I've gotten attached to a character I've had since I began, and often put my actual traits and self into him in some ways, but at the end of the day he isn't me. It's, to me, also partially why D&D is becoming so bad. True creativity is being lost by people who, instead of having to think, simply want to be able to tell you why X character is different from the others of their race from birth, instead of having to actually find ways during their adventure to get around their racial weaknesses.
When I was younger, I had big problems when it came to maladaptive daydreaming. Nowadays, when I'm adult, I'm mostly out of it, but I still have huge problems with paying attention, not only in school, but almost everywhere. And now to think that these people are PURPOSEFULLY doing this to themselves... it's really sad.
I remember when I was in my mid teens I had a dream about a girl by a lake. There was nothing sexual about the dream, her and I simply sat and talked. When I woke up, I was really disoriented, as I thought that was my reality. I do remember longing to go back and see her. Obviously I got over it, but I never forgot it.
Yeah I’ve fallen in love a few times in dreams. It’s very sad when you wake up and realize it was all a dream (I used to read word up magazine…), there’s a feeling of loss and heartbreak for someone that never existed.
I don't like how people fake mental illness. As someone who was diagnosed with a couple of mental illnesses, it's not a cute and quirky thing. I wish people would stop faking this stuff. You said it perfectly, Misha!
@@KoRn0gr4phyy_2ndshe is talking about people who glorify their mental illnesses or make up one, getting headpats and acceptance. Meanwhile, she was probably bullied instead of getting help.
Millennial here with depression and OCD (actually diagnosed) Just really appreciate this video you did. I really think you hit it on the nail what’s happening. Without trying to better yourself you lose all motivation in life. Thanks for standing up for us who actually struggle with mental illness. I see so much misinformation and childishness in the world. Giving me hope for the future! ❤
When I was a kid in the 70s and 80s, a lot of us would spin wild tales and write crazy stories and read lots of books, all of which are normal coping mechanisms to escape from reality. This one feels a little different, mainly because it seems to be a way of getting social clout.
And we KNEW it was make-believe! And it didn’t last way into the teenage and adult years! 🙈 I am a 90‘s kid and honestly those were better times. This world now scares me. There were always crazy things happening, but it was an EXCEPTION!! Now the MAJORITY seems to live in a phantasy world…
Most Of the therapists are completely woke. They try to make You believe that being the way You are its ok and You should accept your (highly traumatised) self...
This is really important. I've self-diagnosed as daydreaming addict because I'm actually afraid of not finding a safe and healthy therapist. And it's not as if I can afford it, either, which means I might end up with a skeezy woke one that the govt provides😬
then I will start with “women are only ‘adult human females’ and if you try to convince me otherwise, this is not a good fit and this will go nowhere” so they know I am serious. I am serious about getting better, but I will not trust someone who doesn’t believe biological reality. If they don’t believe biological reality there is no way I would let them prescribe pills that work with human biology.
I once googled “mental help for the issues caused by cancel-culture in society,” because I felt traumatized by it (I think all are), and the first result was a Woke Therapist who gave an article on that topic, with sjw’s/wokes/me-too’s/trigger tribe as her target audience. She literally wrote, “I know getting out there, protesting, rioting, making a difference in the world is draining. But you need to take time for yourself once in a while. Relax. Take a bath.” Or some horseshit like that. My jaw dropped. I didn’t realize kids felt that they had to be constantly protesting (ANYTHING) in order to love and accept themselves, and be worthy of rest and peace. I checked the therapists’s bio. She proclaimed proudly that she was, and was a therapist for, wokies. I have screenshots somewhere. It made me furious they would give me that article first. What a load of targeted gaslighting and fantasyland manure.
@@Ruby_Villain this "Therapist" is what we would call a subverter, they are the marxist leaders who are usung this wokes as her cultists. Basically, she's a cult leader. This is what these kids all are affected by: "Woke /wōk/ noun The colloquial term for intersectional ideology. Intersectional ideology is characterized as an ideology routed in Marxist, socialist propaganda integrated into a number of different western social movements based in class, race, sexual preference, identity, religious and political preferences most pronounced in Critical Race Theory, Intersectional feminism and the LGBTQ+ (Not to be confused with the early 2000s LGBT movement) and DEI (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion). The goals and actions of the woke movement can be characterized by a belief that all people belong to either a victim or an oppressor class. There is a hierarchy that assigns virtue or privilege based on perceived group identity and members of the woke movements will form angry mobs to attack others inside or out of the group to destabilize systems, reroute resources to perceived oppressed groups and attack outgroups. Victim status will be used to pressure and control it's believers and outside groups into submission under the guise of being tolerant and empathetic. Activists will use it as a shield to defend against any form of retaliation. The woke activists will lie, manipulate, bully and propagandize others by claiming any opposition is a form of hatred or bigotry. The woke ideology do not recognize any form of objective truths and only aspire to power and 'their truths.' Synonyms: Intersectionality, Social Justice. Marxism. Communism." Because Marxists designed the ideology to control them I understant if it's too complicated, but to put it simply, these kids are mentally indoctrinated to believe the world is against them, and they give them identities to feel comradeship with others, making them easier to control.
They really are. I had the same therapist for many years and she was super woke. She got really excited when I told her I was so lonely that I was considering dating women (I’m a straight woman). When I look back at it now it’s obvious she hated that I was straight and tried so hard to discourage me every time I was interested in a guy. She eventually convinced me I was trans when I clearly just had trauma. I was on hormones for years and I had surgeries scheduled and everything. But I detransitioned rapidly after I met the perfect guy and fell in love with him. When I told my therapist about him she told me I shouldn’t bother with him because he wasn’t going to like me back. So I stopped seeing her and now I’m so much happier with my boyfriend. Woke therapists are cancer.
I am professionally diagnosed with autism and I get overwhelmed easily. Which is why I adapt certain things in my life and go to therapy to deal with my feelings. I hate when this diagnosis gets used in the oppression olympics cos people don't wanna do the hatd work.
I feel similarly as someone with a few officially diagnosed mental disorders. I don't celebrate them. I don't make it my identity. I try not to wallow in them or use them as an excuse for sh!tty behaviors. I just do all I can to overcome it, use it to my advantage whenever possible, and adapt as best as I can. I'm not special. I don't need pity or a high five.
Especially with the Reality shifting thing, that was so popular in 2021 and a lot of people were posting on it on tiktok and talking about the many methods on how to reality shift, but really its just Lucid dreaming. You're lucid dreaming, not shifting. Especially the starfish method where you have to lie down still, counting until 100 and repeating "im shifting" that sounds like a lucid dreaming technique. Just lucid dream instead of "reality shifting".
It's actually regular dreams. It's too much to explain here but to put it simply it's dream incubation, choosing what to dream about before going to sleep. The difference is during a lucid dream you know you're dreaming. It is possible to lose lucidity however and that's what the so called "lucid dream method" is and it's literall just going through a portal in your dream. That's literally all that technique is and they really believe it somehow takes them to a real place
I've done this since I was a little kid, didn't realize there was a name for it lol. I'm a filmmaker now and it helps me with screenwriting. Having this ability can absolutely be channeled into productive activities, I didn't realize people were using it to roleplay mental illness and neglect their lives though. Society does a piss poor job of teaching creative people how to channel their talents and use them to contribute to the world somehow. Edit: Point being, having a powerful and vivid imagination is a gift, not a curse, but (like anything else) it has to be utilized in an appropriate context.
As a teen and young adult I spent a excessive amounts of time daydreaming, and it did not improve my life at all. Finally when I was 21, 22 I met my husband and noticed that my daydreaming tendency faded. You know why? It’s because I started living in reality and making my life something to enjoy and love. I feel so sorry for these kids. If only they stepped outside of their heads and took steps to live a happy, healthy life - they wouldn’t need to always live in their heads
I have aspergers, it's a high functioning form of autism and I was diagnosed when I was 3 years old back in 2000. I can't stress enough how there are those out there who self diagnose for attention and it really makes me so mad and I find it so insulting. It results to people like me being taken less seriously and then ignored.
Self diagnosis is valid if properly done it can often lead to official diagnosis Like i was self diagnosed autistic between 14-15 and at 16 i got professionally dx. If it wasn’t for self diagnosis i would’ve not discovered it
I was diagnosed in 2008, but I've worked hard to over come it and 15 years later you wouldn't even know. Many of these kids are nobodies that want to be somebody. They want to be special and need validation for it. And the thing is they can be someone special if they actually worked for it but that's too hard for them and so the cycle repeats.
I totally agree with you I was diagnosed with Autism in 2005 at age 2 and these self-diagnosing people who claim they have it infuriate me. They're mocking actual autistics as a form of bullying that degrades the seriousness of the disability. The only positive I see is with Autism getting so much attention a lot more people are educated so I am able to act a bit more freely autistic at my college without judgement for example I have trouble completely suppressing arm flapping and now people call it quirky instead of coming up with names for me.
@@maria_s3731 No it's not ok. I suspected I had ADHD since 2018 and even back in 2011 a teacher told my parents to get me evaluated but I didn't self-diagnose if you think you have something you go to the dr. Now I do have ADHD it turns out but when people are wrong and the diagnosis turns out to be something else it's degrading to the community as they've now made a mockery of an actual disability. It's ok to have suspicion and seek help but not to go around saying you have something prior to confirmation.
I have acquaintances who pretty much do this. granted, a few do have diagnosed issues (mostly autism with them), but it’s the same deal: they make that, and their other disorders, they’re entire personality. The’ve even tried to project that onto me, telling me I’ve got depression when I say I had a rough day, or that I have OCD when I mention how I should probably go clean my room, and the number of times they’ve told me autistic just because I’ve gotten really into something is insane. I’ve got diagnosed ADHD, and that’s it. I don’t need any other disorders, cause I know that I’m more than just my problems, and they don’t seem to realize that. Honestly, I’m considering sharing this video with them, just to see their reactions (though I’ll probably wait until I cut them off, since associating with them has been really difficult).
I also have acquaintances who project their mental issues onto me. Just the other day my-corker said "that's because you have OCD" after I relabled something instead of just crossing the word out and rewriting it. I also know people whose identifies are tied into their mental disorders, and it often holds them back from overcoming their issues, as they use their disorders as crutches for sh!tty behaviors.
Asperger syndrom here. I got diagnosed when i was 5 and it cost me a lot of time to live with my asperger and i live a good fulfilling life. It sad to see these starved for fame people faking it to fill that addiction 😢. I don't know anymore if i should just ignore it cause it is dang exhausting to listen to those nuts.Great video as always❤
I’m a Professionally diagnosed Autistic and your points are incredibly spot on about the romanticizing of mental illnesses. I’ve seen so many posts about people who want to base their entire identity around their disability but I don’t like that I stumble over my words and have trouble understanding social cues. I would much rather celebrate the progress I’ve made in getting better with these challenges rather than celebrate the thing that hinders me to begin with. This was an excellent video, Misha. I really appreciate your wisdom and insight as well as your humor. That usage of the SpongeBob clip was great.
I used to pretend I was a character or in a different universe as a kid. It’s normal for children to play fantasy games, but for adults who actually believe that’s real…it’s weird. If you want to escape, just go read a good book.
As someone who has a bad daydreaming problem this video kind of hits hard. I remember I would procrastinate doing everyday things like chores, eating, or moving around because I just wanted to escape my boring life and daydream. it was a little difficult to stop once I realized what I was doing and I've toned it down a lot. I still want to escape reality but the only time I'll let myself daydream is when I'm going to sleep or on a road trip.
6:52 thank you. thank you so much. it’s heart wrenching to see people WANT to have OCD. i was diagnosed at age 9, almost a decade ago. i will always remember the look on my mothers face, when the doctor told her “i’m afraid she has the worst case of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder we have seen in a child yet.” I had no clue what it was, but it made my mom cry the whole drive home. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. Almost 10 yrs later, kids on tiktok are pretending to have OCD as if it’s quirky, while I spent 6 months in a mental facility doing ERP, DBT, CBT, exposures, losing all relationships, sleeping alone… It’s not quirky. It’s not fun, you cant turn it on and off. Thank you for saying this Misha ❤️
I'm a 31yo Millennial and I was a Progressive Democrat since the first time Obama ran for president, I made the decision two years ago to leave the left because the left is marching down a very destructive path that is up-ending every foundation that keeps a society stable. The tranz issue was the final straw for me, I'm not going to allow these people to tell me my own eyes are lying to me (figuratively speaking). They think that all "progress" is good "progress" when that couldn't be further from the truth, the changes these people are pushing are destabilizing society and encouraging people to indulge in self-destructive behavior. I could no longer tolerate this nonsense and it led me to becoming socially conservative on most cultural issues at this point, social conservatism is the only side that's still grounded in objective reality at this point. I never thought I would become a social conservative, but these far left extremists pushed me here.
The same thing happened to me during Obama's first run in 2008. I saw the media literally taking John McCain videos and cutting them up and lying about what he said. I couldn't believe what i was seeing. My reality was shattered. And I thank God it was.
I'm a liberal too and feel politically homeless. I'm not a fan of the democratic party having been infected with the co-dependent people-pleasing woke disease. However, I'm not a fan of the religious right (that make up a large chunk of the republican party) who believe in legislating with the bible and oppressing people.
Well, I am not from the US but before I used to associate myself with democratic and liberal agendas, but the ideas called now with these words have drifted somewhere so left that I am now a centrist or even conservative on the present day political spectrum. Jusrt like you, I guess.
Wow, when I was a teen, my escape was reading a book, taking a walk or turning up my music and dancing around my room. Those type of escapes are healthy, what they're doing now is completely toxic.
Same here! And I still do those things, sure I love a good daydream while listening to music but this generation is insane, Honestly embarrassing to say “Yeah I’m Gen Z.”
Ive been a maladaptive daydreamer for almost 10 years now. On one hand I know it’s bad and it wasted likely several months in total time now but on the other hand it’s the place that gives me comfort and I’m telling myself that I’ll write a book out of that year long daydreaming narrative one day. So I kinda understand the woke people that don’t want to accept it as something bad. I just had luck that I don’t put myself into those stories so I have a clear border between reality and fiction that’s why I didn’t fall into the woke trap and see it as something entirely positive… it’s a coping mechanism of course
Daydreaming addict, here! Omg, the novel we all have in ourselves-- I used writing as a way to cope out of the daydreaming. I think it sort of worked. I recall the first time I forced myself to write the daydream down-- it took ages to get anything on paper and what a mental workout when I finally achieved something. So for me, I think the draw to daydreaming is mental laziness, lol Good luck!
3:01 My God. I have never used TikTok but that's me, honestly. Since I was a kid, every day before I sleep, I listen to music and just walk around, thinking about a lot of different things.
Misha, It's good to see someone of your age group speaking out. Some of the behavior we have been seeing on social media is actually referred to as abnormal psychology.
As a Gen-Z Artist, I'm actually working my art series called "Escaping from reality" as it's all about using our imagination as It can tint memories of the past, shade perceptions of the present, or paint a future so vivid that it can entice or terrify, all depending upon how we conduct ourselves today. But i never thought people on tiktok would suggest such weird things? I do think escaping reality can be a good thing sometimes like if we allow ourselves to see our future self and work hard towards those goals and i completely agree with what you said....all of this shifting stuff is just weird, rather than looking for a shortcut we should work hard towards our goals and be the best versions of ourselves that way and imagination can help us get there....at least for me as an artist. Great video to be honest
This is the first video of yours I have seen. If you are also the writer, wow, you sound JUST like me and I'm 51......how are you this wise this young?? Keep it up young lady!!
Hi Misha, I think it would be really interesting for you to talk about the "DID" community on Tiktok, which is (mostly teenage) young people pretending to have multiple personalities which they call "alters", often based on fictional characters. I find it fascinating and frightening in different measures. In some ways I think it's a natural progression from saying you're multiple genders at once -- saying you're multiple people.
There’s a big difference between actual DID caused by trauma and repressed trauma, and then there’s kids who do it for attention or inclusion😭😭😔 There are undoubtedly some kids in that community who genuinely have DID, because abuse in families is rampant now, so that’s bound to cause trauma in many young teens. But there are also definitely some fakers who are doing it for validation and attention. I do believe that many of the kids on tiktok may have some complicated home lives, which is why they use tiktok as a form of escapism. It’s still very sad tho
Retired Science teacher here. Genuine, authentic dinosaur. You mentioned 'Lucid Dreaming'. That is a fascinating state of consciousness I looked into in my undergrad studies. Often also referred to as the 'hypnogogic state', it CAN be a VERY effective tool for therapy, using goal visualization, or (what I've always called ) PPEs (past positive experiences), and a series of gently positive reinforcement suggestions for 'adjusting' problematic behaviors and/or attitudes. But yes, if folks (especially teens) forget the methods (time/cognition management and SUPERVISION) and just abandon themselves in this practice, it can be VERY de-motivational, and I wouldn't hesitate to say that it could lead to a habitual cognitive state similar to paranoia.
This is what happens when successive generations are pampered and shielded from responsibility. All narcissism, feelings instead of reality. and regression to childhood.
I am 31 and an avid gamer. While I tend to spend more time on gaming than I probably should, I at least know the difference between the game worlds and reality.
Hey guys! This is a really important topic that I think should be discussed more, I remember back in 2017-2019 when faking disorders were super common. Not as common as they are now though, but I remember everyone would call out those assholes that would fake those illnesses. I thought we all moved passed this horrible phase of pretending to be mentally ill. But I guess we haven't, which is very, very sad. I'd also like to point out how much of an issue this is on Pinterest, Pinterest has so many "whispers" people make (whispers being text you add to a "aesthetic" background) about suicide, depression, hating their parents, etc. Its absolutely revolting to go on Pinterest for inspiration only to be met with "star gender" people wishing their parents were in a fucking coma. It's awful, and I wish more people would talk about how much this is on every social media platform, and not just on Tiktok, Tumblr, and Twitter. It's nearly everywhere, and it's really really revolting. Also by "star" gender I mean how these teenagers on Pinterest always have those weird ass pronouns on their profiles. I also almost always see the biological girls that say they're boys do the fucked up whispers. We need to address this now! Thank you for the video, Misha, and you're so right about everything in this video! If you want to fake a disorder, just by default, you're not an okay person. Seriously, get some fucking help or something, don't just sit around or it'll be too late.
If you call out fake disorders, you're demonized as a ______ist or ______-phobe. We're just enabling a culture of cringe sad behaviors that will eventually lead to people being worse off, single, and childless. But hey they'll have fur babies whom they'll claim are better than humans to comfort them.
I feel like this was Tumblr getting revenge on the rest of us, because I've been around since the early days of Tumblr and this trash used to be contained to there. Suddenly Tumblr banned s*xual content and the flood gates opened. Stuff I'd only ever seen on Tumblr (your whispers being one of them) were all over everywhere that allowed image posting. Twitter, multiple art hosting sites, Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat, the list goes on and on.
You, my dear are definitely one of the most bravest people of your generation. You actually took a huge risk by speaking your mind against all this woke garbage and questioned them. A lot of people your age in gen Z(and my age too, other Millennials as a matter of fact) would have been canceled out being called 'bigots' and 'nazis.'
I was born in 91 and the glorification as well as self diagnosis of mental illness was already a trend back when I was in high school. Sad to see its still going strong.
If these people want escapism go find a group of nerds and play D&D, it’s honestly really fun and good escapism and a fun social excuse to get together with friends for 3-4 hours each weekend
As someone with maladaptive daydream syndrome, it isn't something you can 100% control, it can happen randomly without realizing it, but it also happens alot if you allow it. Excessive amount like hours on end is definitely a cope, something I did when I was a teenager to make up for my lack of friends, happened alot less when I got friends.
I'm glad someone addressed the self love bullcrap. I've been saying it for a decade that it's a stupid concept? Why should I love my self so much? For being born? How is that unique, I don't love myself even if I accomplish something tbh I love what I accomplished. Self love doesn't actually mean anything to me "its about putting yourself first" ok well I got selfishness in spades already I don't think I need anymore of that
I have manipulative daydreaming disorder and I say it should not to be normalized but seek help by a professional. It's not a blessing, It's a curse.💔😞
I have OCD and it is awful. I hate how people try to fake mental ilnesses just so they can be "special" and "trendy". People go to therapy for a reason, to change their problems, but now people use their "disorders" so other people can change for them. That's backwards.
As someone with CPTSD and social anxiety, it's very disturbing to hear people trying to maladaptive daydream. I've struggled with it as a symptom/coping mechanism from trauma and anxiety and need to work very hard to keep myself present.
I practice this thing a lot and i have no fu*king idea this was a metal illness, this video is best recommended video i ever had this video is completely out of content i watch daily and i love it
As someone with actually diagnosed ADD and Tourettes, I just want to say say that all of these Tiktok videos are so fake, it is not what it looks like in reality. Keep up the great work Misha! 😄
You just said everything that's been on my mind for the last year. I thought I was weird or not accepting or something, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who sees this!
I remember developing maladaptive daydreaming at the age of 15 after being alone for like 2 years. Now with 19 I'm still alone and got worse, to the point of spending hours in that fantasy laughing straight alone in my room. I'm in therapy now and honestly it helped, I managed to talk with a few people and tomorrow I'm going for a walk with them.
I’ve daydreamed a lot as a kid in school. So much so that I don’t remember what exactly I was staring at and that it was black all around me, in a way. I wasn’t “shifting” and neither are these stupid kids in my generation. They want to look cool and unique so bad.
The reason people actually believe in such things is because they don't understand how dreams work. I think dreaming/oneirology should be taught in schools
@@shadw4701 shifting is a culture practice? beffore you go hating on others you should prob do some research. There was a whole document talking about the differences of shifting and its not us trying to be unique.
@sofielynASMR There's a huge difference between debunking myths and hating someone. Shifting isn't part of any cultures or religions, it's actually less then a decade old. Before tiktok Shifting basically meant law of attraction or manifestation. And yes, I've done the research. Almost everything related to shifting is something that's already known in the lucid dreaming community. For example, symptoms you get are just your body fallout asleep. And yes I've read the document, the gateway process is about astral projection, not shifting and there's zero scientific data in it
Because we're slaves to social media algorithms that have led to the hive mind to believe that women like Misha are sexist, mysogynisitic, hateful, ableist, transphobic, homophobic, etc.
I'll admit this one hits closer to home, given I was previously a part of this community (albeit before it become popular on Tiktok) and saw it as a solution for personal issues. I can't help but cringe whenever I hear the terminology they used like "shifting" or whatever
If you haven't already I highly suggest dream incubation or lucid dreaming, all the positive promises of shifting (aside from actually traveling the multiverse in real life) without any of the negative mental health effects. Plus there's more benefits and it still feels exactly like real life, sometimes even more real
i’m an autistic who found out at 19. for that i couldn’t eat MANY things which actually caused me health problems. as i knew about being autistic (not self diagnosed lmao) i took it as a restart for my eating habits and i’m slowly eating better and better because being autistic does NOT make me free to mess my body. it annoys me how tiktok uwus take it as an excuse to eat like a child at 42
Mental health is encouraged nowadays, when I was growing up i didn't know any of my friends with Mental illness, we went out every day and met up and had loads of fun, came home rushed my homework and went to bed. We had no time for Mental health issues, not that there wasn't Mental health around, but it certainly wasn't popular to have it
I learned a lot. The part that stood out the most when you said that people want something to complain about because some of them are so rich and spoiled. So they make up special words for themselves, all they want is a dopamine rush etc. Social media is like a drug.
Misha, one caveat about mental health. I have a medically diagnosed ASD. If I could stop being autistic, I wouldn’t. It would erase my identity and everything that makes me unique and has some benefits too. I’m a functional person who’s in law school. Who has a normal social life and has worked full time before he was in law school. I do have other issues, like anxiety though, that having kind of sucks.
About this whole imaginary gender controversy, ChatGPT once answered to me(a center-leftist South Korean) "...It's important to remember that language is constantly evolving and changing, and the use of neopronouns and xenopronouns is one way that language is adapting to better represent and recognize the diversity of gender identities. While it may take some time for some people to become accustomed to using these pronouns, it is important to respect individuals' choices and use the pronouns they have specified." I had this to say... "Evolving and adapting? Well I'm not very certain about that, but I sure think the entire idea of neopronouns overcomplicated and frankly, more regressive. Heck some could go as far as saying it's even narcissistic and hypersensitive in a way. So yes, I argue the so-called language *is* changing, for all but better. A slope towards chaos and dissociation if you will. People who unironically want to identify as a microbe or whatever are literally asking for oppression. Sadly enough, those trapped in their make believe worlds won't find it unless they experience Soviet/North Korean labor camps or Nazi concentration facilities."
language does evolve but this is just changing language to fit a certain agenda. its not evolution, it's literal 1984 Also ChatGPT seems to be biased, you can ask it to make a joke about Jesus but not Muhammad
@@WannzKaswan 😅 Right? As I already stated, just the opposite of progressive. Like I can stand a trans-man who wants to be labeled 'him,' but I won't call someone a f*cking tree. Though I'm interested in poetry-inclusion is one thing; delusion is another. That bit about religion jokes is intriguing by the way.
@@PepperPlay5 It certainly is. I'm Muslim though and we recognise Jesus also so I wouldn't want someone making jokes about both but if you're going to be offensive don't pick sides smh
I can say that chatGPT is not a good source for info, it's programmed with biases towards the politics of it's creators, which happens to be marxism, which this whole identity stuff is a part of. Neo-pronouns and Xenopronouns are not natural evolutions or adaptations of the English language, these are marxist subversions of the English language, as this explains. It's really called Demoralization: “What it basically means is: to change the perception of reality of every American to such an extent that despite of the abundance of information no one is able to come to sensible conclusions in the interest of defending themselves, their families, their community, and their country.” "“They are programmed to think and react to certain stimuli in a certain pattern [alluding to Pavlov]. You can not change their mind even if you expose them to authentic information. Even if you prove that white is white and black is black, you still can not change the basic perception and the logic of behavior.” "“As I mentioned before, exposure to true information does not matter anymore,” said Bezmenov. “A person who was demoralized is unable to assess true information. The facts tell nothing to him. Even if I shower him with information, with authentic proof, with documents, with pictures; even if I take him by force to the Soviet Union and show him [a] concentration camp, he will refuse to believe it, until he [receives] a kick in his fat-bottom. When a military boot crashes his balls then he will understand. But not before that. That’s the [tragedy] of the situation of demoralization.” - Yuri Bezmenov. "“[T]he useful idiots...when they get disillusioned, they become the worst enemies...obviously they get offended-they think that they will come to power. That will never happen, of course. They will be lined up against the wall and shot.” - Yuri Bezmenov. Yuri Bezmenov was a Soviet KGB propaganda officer in 1983 who defwcted to the west. It revolves around this concept of identity and Marxists (Socialist, so far left)change language to create identity groups so they can control people.
You are right. Not every change is progress. Koalas became dumb to save energy from their scarce food sources (eucalyptus). By evolution. Idk if it is a progress :)
I’m a HUGE bookworm. I read fantasy all the time because it’s a way for me to escape. I will not lie, once I’m really into the book, it seems I’m actually there. It’s the way I can get out of the struggles I deal with, but once I’m back into reality, it definitely stinks. Books help me cope. I work overnights, so I listen to books too. I’m partially aware… i listen for announcements, emergencies etc. I zone out and bust my butt every night. I know that I shouldn’t be that way, but it makes my life so much easier to live.
If you daydream or you imagine you’re in a beautiful place where you’re safe and loved, that’s fine. If you allow that to take over your life, you have serious issues to address. There’s a fine line between wanting to get away from things for awhile and avoiding reality altogether.
Yeah that's why social media and pornography are the two worst factors that play a role in all this. Social media you only ever upload the positive things about your life, well I thought that until people are now apparently flaunting their ailments and afflictions. And pornography is a way to tap into any and every little sexual fantasy you may or may have had. So easily and readily available that it's become something to discuss with groups of people instead of something you do in private and keep to yourself. I guess that's why we have a whole generation focused entirely on sexuality.
I used to daydream a whole lot, i still day dream quite a bit, its not an escapism thing for me, i just have an over active imagination so when im bored I imagine a little tv show in my head with characters i created when i was like 8
Are we creating "social schizophrenia"? 🥴🥴
I agree. Daydreaming has values most art and fictional stories begin with daydreaming. CS Lewis was a notorious daydreamer. Pretty sure all the Inklings were. Pretty sure Van Gogh and Monet were. My favorite contemporary author has admitted that his stories manifested out of these two characters that “showed up” in his head one day and have been constantly ribbing or arguing with each other for decades.
But these artists were constructive with these daydreams. They were self-aware that their imaginations were separate from reality and instead controlled those fantasies to create great stories and works of art to share. It’s weird to think that if my favorite author were a teen today, social media would be convincing him that those characters in his head are alters.
I suffer Tru maladaptive daydreaming and work to control it. My outlet is turning them into fanfics to explore ideas. Now I can either dismiss the daydream if it supports the story, or jot the idea down to return to when my tasks are done.
These people need to watch The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, one of my favorite films- about a guy who lives a very boring life that he spices up through daydreams-- but then he starts actually doing things, and the frequency of those daydreams diminishes dramatically until they cease altogether because at the end of the film he doesn't have TIME to daydream- he's too busy LIVING HIS DREAMS.
I'm a big daydreamer and do it nearly every day, but I usually stay grounded in reality and don't forget my standing or situation that I'm in. I love fairytales and reading stories and while they comfort me in my everyday life and make me happy, I don't dictate my life around it or pretend that reality doesn't exist or that I secretly disconnect from real life and go to a fantasy world. That's how it should be
Same, some people just daydream more than others, or are more creative than others. Roleplaying and daydreaming isn’t necessarily a bad thing, as long as you can still live in real life and know your imagination is not reality. That’s where it gets dangerous.
100% agree its normal to daydream i do it too since i was little but not like this trend. Everything is at 1,000 today no middle ground
@@outlawsyl What do you mean exactly?
Same, I daydream everyday and it just makes me happy. And even though I know when to stop sometimes it's difficult to concentrate when I'm in class. For me personally daydreaming is just so good and most of the time I wish to live in my created world cause it's just so much better than reality.
@@TheGlory16 Uh, my mate, I hope that was sarcastic cause that’s exactly the problem we were talking about
I was always under the impression that self-care meant going to therapy, fixing your sleep schedule, lessening caffeine, etc, aka adopting responsibility. Holy cow how things have changed in 10 years
Caffeine is part of my self care . It keeps me from wanting to nap all day
@@woobiefuntimecaffeine is part of my self care it helps keep my brain calm and get good sleep.
@@woobiefuntime Well true but to be fair they did say lessening caffeine not quitting it 😂
Some people do drink too much and that can have health issues.
I think your impressions now make you a 1930s German, so yeah things have gotten extremely bizarre.
@@robertpembroke8902 I'm going to take your life as none of my business, and ignore the link.
I’ve been maladaptive daydreaming for around 30 years. Yes, it started as a coping mechanism because I had a very lonely childhood, I was bullied and had no friends so I created a parallel universe inside my head where I was actually happy.
I have never known a life without maladaptive daydreaming so I have accepted it as a part of who I am.
I’ve been to a psychiatrist and nothing has helped. It’s just something that will always be with me
I'm 42 and continue to live with it, though I'm not depressed right now so it isn't takingniver my life like it did in my 20s.
I think I may have been born with social phobias because I was terrified of people since toddlerhood. And the trauma of being molested didn't help. But yes, I agree about the loneliness we feel as children.
Best wishes❤
Hi! I commented this on another comment thread but because maladaptive daydreaming affected me a lot I have to try and cope with it which is ironic.
Anyway so I realized I used it as a coping mechanism because I’m a creative so I used it to propel my creativity forward.
Still not gone but I might as well use it to benefit me right?
Anyway have the greatest of days!
No idea what may help you but for me it got better after I moved to a safer school, then it got better when I moved away from my abusive family and it went away completely when I moved to a safer country. It's all about fixing the core issue.
lol same
I'm in your same shoes
Be the person you fantasize yourself as
Your daydreams are likely a gold pot of energy
Use them to motivate to learn 1 new thing every day:
New fighting technique, recipe, computer skill, whatever
Just don't completely give in to the day dreams
Endless fantasy is a slow poison
It's good you accepted it
Now it's time to make it work for you
P.S. you know a lot of writers had this issue, right?
i had a shift last night to an alternate reality where critical thinking/intellectual skills were greatly appreciated. grass was green and richer than ever and basements were no more, then i woke up
I like basements though. Nice and dark and far cooler in the humidity of summer
My basement is literally the only properly air conditioned area in my house, can we keep those
This is called adulting and actually going outside for more than 5 minutes without your phone.
@@mrmacguff1n Basements are great, fantastic places for thinking (about real, productive things)
Okay idk how helpful this is going to be but little nerdy 8 year old me was really stressed so as a coping mechanism I got into maladaptive day dreaming.
In essence it was: scientists are celebrities and education is celebrated. A person is a celebrity for their efforts in furthering knowledge.
Let me just tell you once I managed to speak to people I got really disappointed 😂
As a millennial i thought the opioid epidemic and use of other drugs was escapism at it's max but this is a whole new level of insanity
Same here. I really thought seeing my fellow millennials dying off in droves from ODs, including my childhood best friend and my older brother, would be the rock bottom and wake up call for a lot of people.
I've been saying this! It's crazy when a drug PANDEMIC may not be the worst problem facing a community. Not a drug PROBLEM, but a F*****G PANDEMIC! Just using that word means it's too late really...you guys get what I'm saying tho
Right? lol!
You’re chronically online if you think this “shifting” trend is a bigger threat to society than the opioid epidemic
@@madalyn_2091 this, many people dont even use/get influenced by tiktok, its just people on tiktok too much who get this stuff on the algorithm, if people went outside and talked to young people theyd realise its a very small portion of people who fake illnesses.
It's so much more comforting to say "I'm damaged" than to admit "I'm boring." None of these people are really engaged in self-reflection; self-reflection is not something you do in front of a camera. It's just pathetic attention-seeking without doing something worthy of attention because that's "too hard."
Wooow... that was strangely deep and wise
Self-reflection has never been easy even before the advent of social media. It is something humans have had to struggle with as long as there has been, society, other groups of people that are not our family.
The sad thing is that the culture reinforces people's drive to identify as damaged, rather than deal with his/her problems. This can and will lead to an actually damaged, disrupted life. You spend 5 of your teen years doing this rather than socializing and cultivating hobbies, and you're going to fall behind. You keep going past graduation, you're fked. Wake up at 25 and it's awful.
thats actually so true, and I see this with myself and others, I have a lot of issues that I am trying to figure out with professionals but in the meantime I am trying to entertain myself away from social media. when I am not going to school or doing work for school, I am at the ice rink, or I am resting my body (also have physical issues) but learning a language or doing art or journaling. I know I am pretty damaged and when I am waiting for answers (trying to find a doctor currently) I am trying to do something to better other aspects of my life rather than just sit around in fantasy land. and honestly these kids would do better pouring their struggles into some form of expression (for me I journal) but maybe they could write a story or paint a painting to express themselves rather than just bottle it all up waiting for the explosion.
@@BartdeBoisblanc ''pride is the greatest sin for a reason'
I mean I daydream too. I pretend to be in different worlds and with my hyperactive imagination it definitely is a method of escapism and inspiration for writing my stories.
However, I'm very aware that it is fantasy and imagination and should stay that way.
Once you're at the point where you cannot differentiate between reality and fantasy, that's a mental illness
I love your videos from Indonesia ❤
I am gay and used to have online leftist friends and they were very horrible racist people that hated on white and cis people. They also faked some disorders like DID and I used to be genderfluid myself. You have showed me the Light.
Your ex friends: "Heterophibia isn't real!"
Also your ex friends:"hates straight people"
@@IaconDawnshire Lmao yeah. They would always blame white, straight and cisgender people for everything that has gone wrong on this earth. They literally said that homophobia didn't exist before colonialism
welcome to the world of free thought.
Thank you! So glad to hear that.❤️
@@realmishapetrov you're making the world a better place Misha. Keep doing what you do!
As a Gen Z, I used to use escapism instead of facing my issues. I stopped around a year ago, and my life has been so much better since
I'm an older millennial and never heard of this reality shifting thing. It sounds delusional and disconcerting. It's sad how we're trying to normalize or even celebrate such delusional thinking instead of trying to overcome them.
Same here older millennial and never heard of this before, it's sounds scary
@billybobal-hashim7884 Observing from personal experience I can assure you it's a lot more common than that. So many times I had people vehemently fight me and try to make me concede on being wrong only for then some time later say "oh yeah my doctor said the same advice on x you said" or nodding along without second thought to what a teacher said, whilst completely having forgotten they were fighting me in class when I tried to explain the exact same thing about that topic to them a few weeks prior (it was a different teacher in the first instance)
@Billy Bob Al-Hashim Idiocracy is becoming a reality... help us all.
@Billy Bob Al-Hashim Also something that's frighteningly top close to reality, yeah. Just replace headphones with TikTok here in the west.
Whatever happened to normal stuff like learning how to lucid dream? 😂
I have maladaptive daydreaming, “diagnosed” (it’s not really a disorder) by a professional. It’s not fun at all, my relationships with my family and friends suffer from it. The rage I feel when someone interrupts me is really damaging. My maladaptive daydreaming gets worse during stressful times, and it’s a consequence of disorders like PTSD and depression. It’s not “cute” or “cool”, and it doesn’t make me “unique”; it just makes me miserable.
Oh my Lord, the rage! Yes. This is where my toxic relationship with food and my boy-- my existence-- really shone through!
I used to get so enraged with my body whenever I felt hunger. As in, I have better things to do like be in my daydream than eat, ffs!
I have never heard of “maladaptive daydreaming,” but I am intrigued. The symptoms sound like me but I’ve never heard the term. I’ll have to do a little research.
I have maladaptive daydreaming, (not diagnosed though), for me it is most certainly a coping mechanism from the toxicity of my family. At times it is problematic like when im trying to get school and other stuff done. However it is not an anti-social behavior for me. I am a huge extrovert, anyone who knows me would say so. I definitely have a much healthier version of it, but it's not normal and -probably- shouldn't be. (I say that because I do also use it as a way to write stories, it really helps me with that. ^-^)
I have maladaptive daydreaming (undiagnosed) and certain types of music can trigger it especially whenever I use headphones.
I have maladaptive daydreaming undiagnosed and I think it started back when i was very small. I had some traumatic experiences that led me to become almost addicted to daydreaming because as a child, without proper emotional and mental guidance you really left to figure it out and I did… in a way that am now trying to remedy as an adult because maladaptive daydreaming is not truly living. Like anything, too much of something can become harmful. I wish everyone who suffers from it the best so that we can all live life as its meant to be. Fully. We can do it!
I'm 18, but because of my generation, some days i feel 81 at heart.
I am 45 but just because of some things some days I feel like I am 6000 yo
!'m 42, and I've found that there are a lot of people who are 40 going on 14.
I can only control my own hands, and try to just worry about that.
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Maladaptive daydreaming is something I have endorsed for about 20 years now. At the beginning I never even knew what this process was, I was just an overweight kid with no friends and these daydreaming periods felt comforting. They never lasted hours nor had they any significant impact on my normal, day to day life, they just happened during commuting from home to school and back, before going to sleep, etc. After I grew up and learnt about it, I kinda understood that this indeed was some sort of coping mechanism for my lack of social life, but I also tried to use it to my advantade to improve my writing and using my imagination like this to write different shorter or longer stories. It was an exciting and creative process, and I humbly admit I still daydream nowadays, but I understand that it has to be done in moderation and we should never loose the connection to reality. This video is another spot on one, Misha, greetings from Hungary!
If it didn’t last hours and it didn’t disrupt your daily life, then it wasn’t maladaptive daydreaming. It’s just daydreaming. People need to stop moving the goal post on conditions and syndromes. It’s like saying “I endorse narcolepsy it has helped me a lot! I feel rested after, I just don’t do it during the day or inappropriate times!” In other words, you’re just endorsing regular sleep.
Even though I'm Gen Z myself, I'm not aware of these "trends", probably because I don't use tiktok, so this is shocking to me. Actually terrifying. What happened to reading a book if you want to explore a different world for a little while or, hell, writing a fanfic? The most daydreaming I do is in bed while trying to fall asleep, so I'll try to come up with a story (and be asleep approximately three minutes into it, lol). What you've shown in the video is so beyond these forms of escapism, it's actually insane.
Same here. Also Gen Z.
@@xleepy221 I still find it weird. What’s the point of lucid dreaming? If you’re feeling the need to do that, you’re probably trying to avoid something irl that needs taken care of, which is worrying. I say this because I truly don’t know anybody who does any lucid dreaming at all. So maybe I’m coming from a biased perspective but in my circle this isn’t normal.
Tik Tok is rotting people's (predominately Gen Z and younger) brains. I wouldn't be surprised if China programmed the algorithms to confuse and divide us for their gain. I tried to give Tik Tok a fair try, but got bored of it and thought most of the content was brain dead stuff of little substance.
Idk, the last year I was feeling great daydreaming for hours. I've wrote a fanfic that warms my heart. I'm not a great writer, still I know my hyperfixation helped me to improve my skills, to study lots of interesting stuff and to find new friends among my readers.
Of course, there are people that suffer badly from the maladaptive daydreaming, but I'm not sure if your argument about books is valid. Most recently, people get these daydreams from books or from creating their own content.
@@Ray-xc5im Obviously what I’m talking about is using books as a form of escapism in the way it was intended. I wasn’t talking about misusing books in order to daydream. Fanfic writing is also okay. If you’re saying you “daydreamed” to create a fanfic, that’s called brainstorming. I’m talking about daydreaming in the sense that you’ll basically stop living in the real world for hours, which is what the people on the TikToks seem to be doing. That doesn’t seem healthy to me. There’s a very big difference between reflecting on your life for a moment and spending hours pretending you’re in a made up world while doing nothing else. We’re right here in the now.
As Dumbledore so rightly says: "It does not do to dwell on dreams, and forget to live."
Now, sure, I'm not trying to disparage someone's painful lived reality and tell them to stop dreaming, or imagining... if it helps the pain temporarily, sure. But...just not to lose themselves inside it.
Hi Misha love your videos ❤ As someone who's in treatment for bipolar disorder and other mental problems that I have internelized for so long, I am disgusted by my generation. I am disgusted by the romanticization of mental illnesses. I can speak from experience, it is hell, it's making it very hard for me to make my dreams come true. There's so much I want to do in life, but now I'm just focusing on getting better. And all they care about is being special and oppressed, while I would do anything to be like everyone else. Thank you so much for bringing awareness to those issues and may God help us ❤
I also have bipolar disorder and i can agree that its absolutely awful and NOT something to be romanticized. I hate it that so many people in my generation think mental illness is "cool" and "trendy." Its total bs.
Glad the both of you see the truth and are actively working on improving yourself.
Social media really is going to be the downfall of society, mixed with this push to make hurting someone's feelings basically a literal crime.
@@CommanderRedEXE I knew his was coming in 2010. But it's worse than I expected.
@@ArgentWolf95 That makes two of us. I mever thought it would get this bad.
@@CommanderRedEXE I have been trying to find out why, ever since I lost control of my Worldbuilding project to cancel culture.
Thank you for saying it. I do have asperger syndrome (a form of autism) and probably social anxiety. And none of this is fun. I hate being so nervous every time I leave my house, I hate not being able to manage eye contact, I hate having intrusive thoughts about how could I embarrass myself, I hate feeling shitty after social interaction, because I fear what others think abou me, I hate that I didn't hang out with friends for almost 6 months, I hate that I can't make new friends and I hate not being able to enjoy my time in church or gym. This is why I'm getting help. Because I want my social life and the joy of it back.
As someone with high functioning autism (professionally diagnosed at 8), it is easy to get lost in my own head. I often have family members snap me out of it because my blank staring can get creepy. It even affects my dreams. I have very vivid dreams. There are times I wake up, relieved, because some of the dreams were very disturbing. I have no doubt in my mind people are “self-diagnosing” themselves for attention. To them, it’s better to say “I’m damaged” rather than “I’m boring”. They wouldn’t survive one day with real autism. They would need their little safe spaces.
MISHA, YOU SHOULD TOTALLY START A PODCAST!!!!!
I love listening to you 'cause you're so good at articulating your thoughts and you're so logical and practical, and because I agree with most of what you have to say, and you address issues which people keep denying or are too scared to share their honest opinions about due to the fear of backlash. Your podcast would be the best thing ever.
We already act like body dysmorphia is ok or normal so I’m not surprised.
Gen X here. We “knew everything” at that age, too. The difference is that we didn’t have a way to broadcast our weird inner thoughts to the world in a form which is effectively a permanent record of our stupidity. Social contagions were contained to schools or friend-groups, instead of travelling around the world at the speed of broadband.
This is exactly it. The internet turned every mental illness into a globally communicable disease
And many fringe opinions were kept fringe. But now, formerly fringe opinions can gain traction very fast and normalized and celebrated.
We were also locked out of the house all summer long, or at the very least expected to interact with the neighborhood kids, even the jerks. Introvert me hated it. By forcing us to expand past our usual comfort zones, we learned how to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
I think I've heard Jordan Peterson speak of his theory that this type of thing happens because people of this generation never developed their imagination because they grew up watching screens...and never were able to be bored. To me, this "reality shifting" is just the delayed development of imagination that is so needed for us as humans. It's so sad. Many kids don't know how to play and fantasize anymore, and all of this "reality shifting" seems to be their natural, suppressed childhood playtime exploding out of them...albeit in a harmful way.
This does seem like an accurate way to describe it. Natural but not natural because it’s delayed developmental stage
Exactly why parents need to be enforcing regular down time from any screens and making them go outside, reading, socializing and getting into some sort of physical activity.
But why is this only happening now? Haven't kids been regularly "watching screens" since the 1950s? My parents are '50s kids and they watch TV a lot, but they aren't divorced from reality.
@@SeasideDetective2 I highly doubt that toddlers were handed iPads during the 1950s. There is a whole generation of parents who either couldn’t be bothered or just did not have the time (cause of work) to actually play and interact with their kids, so they handed their toddlers iPads to distract them. Those devices practically raised some kids. Of course they have no imagination.
I also think that’s why so many kids are so rowdy and disruptive nowadays. I look at the younger grades in my high school and they’re actually feral. They start fights every week, their attention spans are shot. It’s all probably repressed energy from their childhoods that they were never able to express as toddlers, so they’re letting it all out as teens
@@kawansiesquad6659 It's hard for me to be very alarmed, though. The "TV-rots-your-brains" argument has been around for several decades now, and I also remember the panics over video games and Internet porn. It's been pointed out, though, that before television and video games came along, society was actually MORE violent. The nineteenth century was nowhere near as civilized as it's often portrayed.
Hey Misha! Indeed, i believe we have gone too far. Logic is somehow no longer the norm, and madness and mental illness is rampant. We must help them overcome these problems and return them to reality. Thank you for being a voice of reason in the darkness...
As someone who only has lucid dreams, it does feel like another reality. I've also fainted and hallucinated and felt that I was in another timeline. I know it's not real but it is very trippy and has led to me having a lot of false memories
Hey Katt yes I have quite often had very lucid dreams, that seamed so real it takes time to orientate back to your actual situation. The one that has stuck with me for decades was when I was apparently in hospital and about to die of something, I remember being in tears with my mother telling her I didn’t want to die there and then , not long after I woke up and it felt so real it affected me for quite a while , I actually thought it was a premonition , but my mother passed back in 2017 so clearly it’s not ! However that was the most vivid dream, I do have vivid ones quite often and are more used to them so distinguish them apart a lot better.
I would say, you are lucky, 🙂 I try to learn lucid dreaming very long time.
It’s definitely maladaptive daydreaming. I dealt with it as a kid/teen (I wasn’t the happiest growing up), but I never actually believed that what I was imagining was real. Some of the steps that pulled me out of it as a young adult included getting outside (preferably in nature), putting away my phone, and just enjoying the moment.
I used to play roleplays online by writing a character and make it act in the Hogwarts universe for example. It was a way of escape reality and expressing emotions. I left when I realized how much people get invested in it and put themselves in the character. So that whatever happens to him is kinda personal and it creates so many issues with other players. It's crazy. Many of these people are problematic. It's cathartic in a way but I dunno it's weird. During the pandemic this kind of game gained its old popularity, a way to make connections and live adventures while at home. I also know people who lose themselves in videogames and books, they think they live through the characters but on reality the do nothing and suffer from severe anxiety and depression. It's really sad, it shouldn't be promoted.
this. i’ve been roleplaying/collaborative writing on and off for more than a decade now and i watched how the tumblr rpc (roleplay community) seemed to have boomed during covid. it’s way too easy to retreat into a comfort world, especially considering the state of the world as it is right now. i don’t blame anyone for wanting to mentally space out.
To clarify, playing video games doesn’t automatically mean you are fantasizing that you ARE the character you’re playing. But if you are unable to differentiate between game and real life, it’s time to stop playing video games
me too sometimes i disconnect my self from reality put my headphones and i create stories in my head and it get so complicated like i feel emotionally invested in them and when something sad happen to my character in my head i'll cry in real life and actually feel hurt which is kinda crazy since i do this to myself i created this story which i realized last year that it was a problem since i'm socially awkward and have barely any friends i used daydreaming to escape my boring reality but it really is coping mechanism and it really is easy to loose yourself and it even until this day i have to control my daydreaming and have trouble staying focus even when it's important
Fun fact: I'm writing a master dissertation about the paradoxes of the actor and theatre representation, so I'm investigating these topics. It's really intriguing. (Cause I studied both acting and philosophy btw)
I've been role-playing for just under two decades. I've seen it change from simple escapism(everyone admitted it being that when I first got into it) but fun, to nowadays some people being so into it, that it's dangerous mentally.
I've gotten attached to a character I've had since I began, and often put my actual traits and self into him in some ways, but at the end of the day he isn't me.
It's, to me, also partially why D&D is becoming so bad. True creativity is being lost by people who, instead of having to think, simply want to be able to tell you why X character is different from the others of their race from birth, instead of having to actually find ways during their adventure to get around their racial weaknesses.
When I was younger, I had big problems when it came to maladaptive daydreaming. Nowadays, when I'm adult, I'm mostly out of it, but I still have huge problems with paying attention, not only in school, but almost everywhere. And now to think that these people are PURPOSEFULLY doing this to themselves... it's really sad.
I remember when I was in my mid teens I had a dream about a girl by a lake. There was nothing sexual about the dream, her and I simply sat and talked. When I woke up, I was really disoriented, as I thought that was my reality. I do remember longing to go back and see her. Obviously I got over it, but I never forgot it.
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I've had a handful of dreams similar to yours I think, it's okay, normal I think :) I never really knew why though
Yeah I’ve fallen in love a few times in dreams. It’s very sad when you wake up and realize it was all a dream (I used to read word up magazine…), there’s a feeling of loss and heartbreak for someone that never existed.
I don't like how people fake mental illness. As someone who was diagnosed with a couple of mental illnesses, it's not a cute and quirky thing. I wish people would stop faking this stuff. You said it perfectly, Misha!
As someone with ADHD, anxiety, a depressive disorder, b/c of the sheer childhood abuse I went through, this makes my blood boil.
I think you have every right to be! It's just mimicry...like their mocking and don't realize it. I don't think it's malicious, just misguided
The video or what she's talking abt?
@@KoRn0gr4phyy_2ndshe is talking about people who glorify their mental illnesses or make up one, getting headpats and acceptance. Meanwhile, she was probably bullied instead of getting help.
Same here
@@Strawberry_Moo reality shifting? That's a weird way to spell psychosis.
Millennial here with depression and OCD (actually diagnosed)
Just really appreciate this video you did.
I really think you hit it on the nail what’s happening. Without trying to better yourself you lose all motivation in life.
Thanks for standing up for us who actually struggle with mental illness. I see so much misinformation and childishness in the world.
Giving me hope for the future! ❤
When I was a kid in the 70s and 80s, a lot of us would spin wild tales and write crazy stories and read lots of books, all of which are normal coping mechanisms to escape from reality. This one feels a little different, mainly because it seems to be a way of getting social clout.
And we KNEW it was make-believe! And it didn’t last way into the teenage and adult years! 🙈 I am a 90‘s kid and honestly those were better times. This world now scares me. There were always crazy things happening, but it was an EXCEPTION!! Now the MAJORITY seems to live in a phantasy world…
Most Of the therapists are completely woke. They try to make You believe that being the way You are its ok and You should accept your (highly traumatised) self...
This is really important. I've self-diagnosed as daydreaming addict because I'm actually afraid of not finding a safe and healthy therapist. And it's not as if I can afford it, either, which means I might end up with a skeezy woke one that the govt provides😬
then I will start with “women are only ‘adult human females’ and if you try to convince me otherwise, this is not a good fit and this will go nowhere” so they know I am serious. I am serious about getting better, but I will not trust someone who doesn’t believe biological reality. If they don’t believe biological reality there is no way I would let them prescribe pills that work with human biology.
I once googled “mental help for the issues caused by cancel-culture in society,” because I felt traumatized by it (I think all are), and the first result was a Woke Therapist who gave an article on that topic, with sjw’s/wokes/me-too’s/trigger tribe as her target audience. She literally wrote, “I know getting out there, protesting, rioting, making a difference in the world is draining. But you need to take time for yourself once in a while. Relax. Take a bath.” Or some horseshit like that.
My jaw dropped. I didn’t realize kids felt that they had to be constantly protesting (ANYTHING) in order to love and accept themselves, and be worthy of rest and peace.
I checked the therapists’s bio. She proclaimed proudly that she was, and was a therapist for, wokies. I have screenshots somewhere. It made me furious they would give me that article first. What a load of targeted gaslighting and fantasyland manure.
@@Ruby_Villain this "Therapist" is what we would call a subverter, they are the marxist leaders who are usung this wokes as her cultists.
Basically, she's a cult leader.
This is what these kids all are affected by:
"Woke
/wōk/
noun
The colloquial term for intersectional ideology. Intersectional ideology is characterized as an ideology routed in Marxist, socialist propaganda integrated into a number of different western social movements based in class, race, sexual preference, identity, religious and political preferences most pronounced in Critical Race Theory, Intersectional feminism and the LGBTQ+ (Not to be confused with the early 2000s LGBT movement) and DEI (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion). The goals and actions of the woke movement can be characterized by a belief that all people belong to either a victim or an oppressor class. There is a hierarchy that assigns virtue or privilege based on perceived group identity and members of the woke movements will form angry mobs to attack others inside or out of the group to destabilize systems, reroute resources to perceived oppressed groups and attack outgroups. Victim status will be used to pressure and control it's believers and outside groups into submission under the guise of being tolerant and empathetic. Activists will use it as a shield to defend against any form of retaliation. The woke activists will lie, manipulate, bully and propagandize others by claiming any opposition is a form of hatred or bigotry. The woke ideology do not recognize any form of objective truths and only aspire to power and 'their truths.'
Synonyms: Intersectionality, Social Justice. Marxism. Communism."
Because Marxists designed the ideology to control them
I understant if it's too complicated, but to put it simply, these kids are mentally indoctrinated to believe the world is against them, and they give them identities to feel comradeship with others, making them easier to control.
They really are. I had the same therapist for many years and she was super woke. She got really excited when I told her I was so lonely that I was considering dating women (I’m a straight woman). When I look back at it now it’s obvious she hated that I was straight and tried so hard to discourage me every time I was interested in a guy. She eventually convinced me I was trans when I clearly just had trauma. I was on hormones for years and I had surgeries scheduled and everything. But I detransitioned rapidly after I met the perfect guy and fell in love with him. When I told my therapist about him she told me I shouldn’t bother with him because he wasn’t going to like me back. So I stopped seeing her and now I’m so much happier with my boyfriend. Woke therapists are cancer.
I suffer from OCD. It’s very distressing and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I have it too. It can be a nightmare. I wish there was better awareness about what OCD actually is
Same here, it’s very difficult. And no one else’s responsibility to cope with but our own
I agree.
True
I am professionally diagnosed with autism and I get overwhelmed easily. Which is why I adapt certain things in my life and go to therapy to deal with my feelings. I hate when this diagnosis gets used in the oppression olympics cos people don't wanna do the hatd work.
Well said, respect to you 😊
@@kevincurr4641 thank you ♥️
I feel similarly as someone with a few officially diagnosed mental disorders. I don't celebrate them. I don't make it my identity. I try not to wallow in them or use them as an excuse for sh!tty behaviors. I just do all I can to overcome it, use it to my advantage whenever possible, and adapt as best as I can. I'm not special. I don't need pity or a high five.
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@@jzen1455 you said that perfectly!!!
Especially with the Reality shifting thing, that was so popular in 2021 and a lot of people were posting on it on tiktok and talking about the many methods on how to reality shift, but really its just Lucid dreaming. You're lucid dreaming, not shifting. Especially the starfish method where you have to lie down still, counting until 100 and repeating "im shifting" that sounds like a lucid dreaming technique. Just lucid dream instead of "reality shifting".
It's actually regular dreams.
It's too much to explain here but to put it simply it's dream incubation, choosing what to dream about before going to sleep.
The difference is during a lucid dream you know you're dreaming. It is possible to lose lucidity however and that's what the so called "lucid dream method" is and it's literall just going through a portal in your dream. That's literally all that technique is and they really believe it somehow takes them to a real place
For a more in depth explanation I highly recommend researching these topics: time dilation in dreams, persistent realms, vivid dreams, euneirophrenia
I've done this since I was a little kid, didn't realize there was a name for it lol. I'm a filmmaker now and it helps me with screenwriting. Having this ability can absolutely be channeled into productive activities, I didn't realize people were using it to roleplay mental illness and neglect their lives though. Society does a piss poor job of teaching creative people how to channel their talents and use them to contribute to the world somehow.
Edit: Point being, having a powerful and vivid imagination is a gift, not a curse, but (like anything else) it has to be utilized in an appropriate context.
As a teen and young adult I spent a excessive amounts of time daydreaming, and it did not improve my life at all. Finally when I was 21, 22 I met my husband and noticed that my daydreaming tendency faded. You know why? It’s because I started living in reality and making my life something to enjoy and love. I feel so sorry for these kids. If only they stepped outside of their heads and took steps to live a happy, healthy life - they wouldn’t need to always live in their heads
I have aspergers, it's a high functioning form of autism and I was diagnosed when I was 3 years old back in 2000. I can't stress enough how there are those out there who self diagnose for attention and it really makes me so mad and I find it so insulting. It results to people like me being taken less seriously and then ignored.
Self diagnosis is valid if properly done it can often lead to official diagnosis Like i was self diagnosed autistic between 14-15 and at 16 i got professionally dx. If it wasn’t for self diagnosis i would’ve not discovered it
I was diagnosed in 2008, but I've worked hard to over come it and 15 years later you wouldn't even know. Many of these kids are nobodies that want to be somebody. They want to be special and need validation for it. And the thing is they can be someone special if they actually worked for it but that's too hard for them and so the cycle repeats.
I totally agree with you I was diagnosed with Autism in 2005 at age 2 and these self-diagnosing people who claim they have it infuriate me. They're mocking actual autistics as a form of bullying that degrades the seriousness of the disability. The only positive I see is with Autism getting so much attention a lot more people are educated so I am able to act a bit more freely autistic at my college without judgement for example I have trouble completely suppressing arm flapping and now people call it quirky instead of coming up with names for me.
@@maria_s3731 No it's not ok. I suspected I had ADHD since 2018 and even back in 2011 a teacher told my parents to get me evaluated but I didn't self-diagnose if you think you have something you go to the dr. Now I do have ADHD it turns out but when people are wrong and the diagnosis turns out to be something else it's degrading to the community as they've now made a mockery of an actual disability. It's ok to have suspicion and seek help but not to go around saying you have something prior to confirmation.
@@セラフィナ getting it done by a professional is no longer self-diagnosis it's what you're supposed to do.
Chris Rock hit the nail on the head this saying people are now attention addicts.
I have acquaintances who pretty much do this. granted, a few do have diagnosed issues (mostly autism with them), but it’s the same deal: they make that, and their other disorders, they’re entire personality. The’ve even tried to project that onto me, telling me I’ve got depression when I say I had a rough day, or that I have OCD when I mention how I should probably go clean my room, and the number of times they’ve told me autistic just because I’ve gotten really into something is insane. I’ve got diagnosed ADHD, and that’s it. I don’t need any other disorders, cause I know that I’m more than just my problems, and they don’t seem to realize that. Honestly, I’m considering sharing this video with them, just to see their reactions (though I’ll probably wait until I cut them off, since associating with them has been really difficult).
I also have acquaintances who project their mental issues onto me. Just the other day my-corker said "that's because you have OCD" after I relabled something instead of just crossing the word out and rewriting it. I also know people whose identifies are tied into their mental disorders, and it often holds them back from overcoming their issues, as they use their disorders as crutches for sh!tty behaviors.
Asperger syndrom here. I got diagnosed when i was 5 and it cost me a lot of time to live with my asperger and i live a good fulfilling life. It sad to see these starved for fame people faking it to fill that addiction 😢. I don't know anymore if i should just ignore it cause it is dang exhausting to listen to those nuts.Great video as always❤
I’m a Professionally diagnosed Autistic and your points are incredibly spot on about the romanticizing of mental illnesses. I’ve seen so many posts about people who want to base their entire identity around their disability but I don’t like that I stumble over my words and have trouble understanding social cues. I would much rather celebrate the progress I’ve made in getting better with these challenges rather than celebrate the thing that hinders me to begin with.
This was an excellent video, Misha. I really appreciate your wisdom and insight as well as your humor. That usage of the SpongeBob clip was great.
I used to pretend I was a character or in a different universe as a kid. It’s normal for children to play fantasy games, but for adults who actually believe that’s real…it’s weird. If you want to escape, just go read a good book.
Another commenter described it very well like a delayed childhood stage they never got due to growing up with screens
dangerous coping mechanism
As someone who has a bad daydreaming problem this video kind of hits hard. I remember I would procrastinate doing everyday things like chores, eating, or moving around because I just wanted to escape my boring life and daydream. it was a little difficult to stop once I realized what I was doing and I've toned it down a lot. I still want to escape reality but the only time I'll let myself daydream is when I'm going to sleep or on a road trip.
Misha’s videos should be required viewing!
6:52 thank you. thank you so much. it’s heart wrenching to see people WANT to have OCD. i was diagnosed at age 9, almost a decade ago. i will always remember the look on my mothers face, when the doctor told her “i’m afraid she has the worst case of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder we have seen in a child yet.” I had no clue what it was, but it made my mom cry the whole drive home. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone.
Almost 10 yrs later, kids on tiktok are pretending to have OCD as if it’s quirky, while I spent 6 months in a mental facility doing ERP, DBT, CBT, exposures, losing all relationships, sleeping alone… It’s not quirky. It’s not fun, you cant turn it on and off. Thank you for saying this Misha ❤️
I'm a 31yo Millennial and I was a Progressive Democrat since the first time Obama ran for president, I made the decision two years ago to leave the left because the left is marching down a very destructive path that is up-ending every foundation that keeps a society stable.
The tranz issue was the final straw for me, I'm not going to allow these people to tell me my own eyes are lying to me (figuratively speaking).
They think that all "progress" is good "progress" when that couldn't be further from the truth, the changes these people are pushing are destabilizing society and encouraging people to indulge in self-destructive behavior.
I could no longer tolerate this nonsense and it led me to becoming socially conservative on most cultural issues at this point, social conservatism is the only side that's still grounded in objective reality at this point. I never thought I would become a social conservative, but these far left extremists pushed me here.
The same thing happened to me during Obama's first run in 2008. I saw the media literally taking John McCain videos and cutting them up and lying about what he said. I couldn't believe what i was seeing. My reality was shattered. And I thank God it was.
I'm a liberal too and feel politically homeless. I'm not a fan of the democratic party having been infected with the co-dependent people-pleasing woke disease. However, I'm not a fan of the religious right (that make up a large chunk of the republican party) who believe in legislating with the bible and oppressing people.
Well, I am not from the US but before I used to associate myself with democratic and liberal agendas, but the ideas called now with these words have drifted somewhere so left that I am now a centrist or even conservative on the present day political spectrum. Jusrt like you, I guess.
Wow, when I was a teen, my escape was reading a book, taking a walk or turning up my music and dancing around my room. Those type of escapes are healthy, what they're doing now is completely toxic.
Same here! And I still do those things, sure I love a good daydream while listening to music but this generation is insane, Honestly embarrassing to say “Yeah I’m Gen Z.”
Recently started getting help for my anxiety and it's been life changing. Really has shifted my perspective and I've been getting a lot more done.
Ive been a maladaptive daydreamer for almost 10 years now. On one hand I know it’s bad and it wasted likely several months in total time now but on the other hand it’s the place that gives me comfort and I’m telling myself that I’ll write a book out of that year long daydreaming narrative one day. So I kinda understand the woke people that don’t want to accept it as something bad. I just had luck that I don’t put myself into those stories so I have a clear border between reality and fiction that’s why I didn’t fall into the woke trap and see it as something entirely positive… it’s a coping mechanism of course
Definitely feel this!!
Grow up. Face your fears.
Daydreaming addict, here!
Omg, the novel we all have in ourselves-- I used writing as a way to cope out of the daydreaming.
I think it sort of worked. I recall the first time I forced myself to write the daydream down-- it took ages to get anything on paper and what a mental workout when I finally achieved something. So for me, I think the draw to daydreaming is mental laziness, lol
Good luck!
3:01 My God. I have never used TikTok but that's me, honestly. Since I was a kid, every day before I sleep, I listen to music and just walk around, thinking about a lot of different things.
I can’t describe how spot on this girl is. The whole planet needs to see this.
Absolutely love HP, and imagination is fun, but shifting is so weird. Like genuinely I don't understand it.
100% agreed
Misha, It's good to see someone of your age group speaking out. Some of the behavior we have been seeing on social media is actually referred to as abnormal psychology.
As a Gen-Z Artist, I'm actually working my art series called "Escaping from reality" as it's all about using our imagination as It can tint memories of the past, shade perceptions of the present, or paint a future so vivid that it can entice or terrify, all depending upon how we conduct ourselves today. But i never thought people on tiktok would suggest such weird things? I do think escaping reality can be a good thing sometimes like if we allow ourselves to see our future self and work hard towards those goals and i completely agree with what you said....all of this shifting stuff is just weird, rather than looking for a shortcut we should work hard towards our goals and be the best versions of ourselves that way and imagination can help us get there....at least for me as an artist. Great video to be honest
This is the first video of yours I have seen. If you are also the writer, wow, you sound JUST like me and I'm 51......how are you this wise this young?? Keep it up young lady!!
Hi Misha, I think it would be really interesting for you to talk about the "DID" community on Tiktok, which is (mostly teenage) young people pretending to have multiple personalities which they call "alters", often based on fictional characters. I find it fascinating and frightening in different measures. In some ways I think it's a natural progression from saying you're multiple genders at once -- saying you're multiple people.
I know someone like this unfortunately.
There’s a big difference between actual DID caused by trauma and repressed trauma, and then there’s kids who do it for attention or inclusion😭😭😔
There are undoubtedly some kids in that community who genuinely have DID, because abuse in families is rampant now, so that’s bound to cause trauma in many young teens.
But there are also definitely some fakers who are doing it for validation and attention.
I do believe that many of the kids on tiktok may have some complicated home lives, which is why they use tiktok as a form of escapism. It’s still very sad tho
Retired Science teacher here. Genuine, authentic dinosaur. You mentioned 'Lucid Dreaming'. That is a fascinating state of consciousness I looked into in my undergrad studies. Often also referred to as the 'hypnogogic state', it CAN be a VERY effective tool for therapy, using goal visualization, or (what I've always called ) PPEs (past positive experiences), and a series of gently positive reinforcement suggestions for 'adjusting' problematic behaviors and/or attitudes. But yes, if folks (especially teens) forget the methods (time/cognition management and SUPERVISION) and just abandon themselves in this practice, it can be VERY de-motivational, and I wouldn't hesitate to say that it could lead to a habitual cognitive state similar to paranoia.
This is what happens when successive generations are pampered and shielded from responsibility. All narcissism, feelings instead of reality. and regression to childhood.
Protect this young lady at all costs!
In other words, Malfoy went out with thousands of girls.
Simultaneously.
Jealous, POTTAH!?
I'm so glad you talked about this, nobody else has talked about reality shifting tiktok.
I am 31 and an avid gamer. While I tend to spend more time on gaming than I probably should, I at least know the difference between the game worlds and reality.
One of your best videos!
I’m really glad I haven’t used TikTok for a few years now except a one time.
You have this very subtle sense of humor that I adore lol🖤
Hey guys! This is a really important topic that I think should be discussed more, I remember back in 2017-2019 when faking disorders were super common. Not as common as they are now though, but I remember everyone would call out those assholes that would fake those illnesses. I thought we all moved passed this horrible phase of pretending to be mentally ill. But I guess we haven't, which is very, very sad. I'd also like to point out how much of an issue this is on Pinterest, Pinterest has so many "whispers" people make (whispers being text you add to a "aesthetic" background) about suicide, depression, hating their parents, etc. Its absolutely revolting to go on Pinterest for inspiration only to be met with "star gender" people wishing their parents were in a fucking coma. It's awful, and I wish more people would talk about how much this is on every social media platform, and not just on Tiktok, Tumblr, and Twitter. It's nearly everywhere, and it's really really revolting. Also by "star" gender I mean how these teenagers on Pinterest always have those weird ass pronouns on their profiles. I also almost always see the biological girls that say they're boys do the fucked up whispers. We need to address this now! Thank you for the video, Misha, and you're so right about everything in this video! If you want to fake a disorder, just by default, you're not an okay person. Seriously, get some fucking help or something, don't just sit around or it'll be too late.
If you call out fake disorders, you're demonized as a ______ist or ______-phobe. We're just enabling a culture of cringe sad behaviors that will eventually lead to people being worse off, single, and childless. But hey they'll have fur babies whom they'll claim are better than humans to comfort them.
I feel like this was Tumblr getting revenge on the rest of us, because I've been around since the early days of Tumblr and this trash used to be contained to there. Suddenly Tumblr banned s*xual content and the flood gates opened. Stuff I'd only ever seen on Tumblr (your whispers being one of them) were all over everywhere that allowed image posting. Twitter, multiple art hosting sites, Pinterest, Instagram, Snapchat, the list goes on and on.
You, my dear are definitely one of the most bravest people of your generation. You actually took a huge risk by speaking your mind against all this woke garbage and questioned them.
A lot of people your age in gen Z(and my age too, other Millennials as a matter of fact) would have been canceled out being called 'bigots' and 'nazis.'
Whether you are Liberal, Conservative or Independent, Change is forever an inevitable thing
- John F. Kennedy
I was born in 91 and the glorification as well as self diagnosis of mental illness was already a trend back when I was in high school. Sad to see its still going strong.
If these people want escapism go find a group of nerds and play D&D, it’s honestly really fun and good escapism and a fun social excuse to get together with friends for 3-4 hours each weekend
I play D&D and can confirm that it's fun. Especially, if I had a bad day at work. Shenanigans with friends just makes you feel better. 🙂
I'm glad you're highlighting things like the desire to be special, because of a lack of passions, hobbies and interests.
As someone with maladaptive daydream syndrome, it isn't something you can 100% control, it can happen randomly without realizing it, but it also happens alot if you allow it. Excessive amount like hours on end is definitely a cope, something I did when I was a teenager to make up for my lack of friends, happened alot less when I got friends.
the "syndrome" you just described doesnt exist. you just had an overactive imagination with no outlet for it. "reality shifting" is the result.
I'm glad someone addressed the self love bullcrap. I've been saying it for a decade that it's a stupid concept? Why should I love my self so much? For being born? How is that unique, I don't love myself even if I accomplish something tbh I love what I accomplished. Self love doesn't actually mean anything to me "its about putting yourself first" ok well I got selfishness in spades already I don't think I need anymore of that
I have manipulative daydreaming disorder and I say it should not to be normalized but seek help by a professional. It's not a blessing, It's a curse.💔😞
I have OCD and it is awful. I hate how people try to fake mental ilnesses just so they can be "special" and "trendy". People go to therapy for a reason, to change their problems, but now people use their "disorders" so other people can change for them. That's backwards.
As someone with CPTSD and social anxiety, it's very disturbing to hear people trying to maladaptive daydream. I've struggled with it as a symptom/coping mechanism from trauma and anxiety and need to work very hard to keep myself present.
I practice this thing a lot and i have no fu*king idea this was a metal illness, this video is best recommended video i ever had this video is completely out of content i watch daily and i love it
As someone with actually diagnosed ADD and Tourettes, I just want to say say that all of these Tiktok videos are so fake, it is not what it looks like in reality. Keep up the great work Misha! 😄
You just said everything that's been on my mind for the last year. I thought I was weird or not accepting or something, I'm so glad I'm not the only one who sees this!
That’s not what lucid dreaming is, lucid dreaming is when you’re in a dream and you become aware you’re in a dream.
Exactly!
I remember developing maladaptive daydreaming at the age of 15 after being alone for like 2 years. Now with 19 I'm still alone and got worse, to the point of spending hours in that fantasy laughing straight alone in my room.
I'm in therapy now and honestly it helped, I managed to talk with a few people and tomorrow I'm going for a walk with them.
I’ve daydreamed a lot as a kid in school. So much so that I don’t remember what exactly I was staring at and that it was black all around me, in a way. I wasn’t “shifting” and neither are these stupid kids in my generation. They want to look cool and unique so bad.
The reason people actually believe in such things is because they don't understand how dreams work. I think dreaming/oneirology should be taught in schools
@@shadw4701 shifting is a culture practice? beffore you go hating on others you should prob do some research. There was a whole document talking about the differences of shifting and its not us trying to be unique.
@sofielynASMR There's a huge difference between debunking myths and hating someone. Shifting isn't part of any cultures or religions, it's actually less then a decade old. Before tiktok Shifting basically meant law of attraction or manifestation. And yes, I've done the research. Almost everything related to shifting is something that's already known in the lucid dreaming community. For example, symptoms you get are just your body fallout asleep. And yes I've read the document, the gateway process is about astral projection, not shifting and there's zero scientific data in it
Thank you for being grounded in reality and having the courage to talk about it.
Why aren't there more women like you? The world needs great women like you. Thank you for standing for the truth.
Because we're slaves to social media algorithms that have led to the hive mind to believe that women like Misha are sexist, mysogynisitic, hateful, ableist, transphobic, homophobic, etc.
True mental illness is hell. It should never be romanticized. I wouldn’t wish any of what I’ve been through on my worst enemy.
I'll admit this one hits closer to home, given I was previously a part of this community (albeit before it become popular on Tiktok) and saw it as a solution for personal issues. I can't help but cringe whenever I hear the terminology they used like "shifting" or whatever
If you haven't already I highly suggest dream incubation or lucid dreaming, all the positive promises of shifting (aside from actually traveling the multiverse in real life) without any of the negative mental health effects. Plus there's more benefits and it still feels exactly like real life, sometimes even more real
i’m an autistic who found out at 19. for that i couldn’t eat MANY things which actually caused me health problems. as i knew about being autistic (not self diagnosed lmao) i took it as a restart for my eating habits and i’m slowly eating better and better because being autistic does NOT make me free to mess my body. it annoys me how tiktok uwus take it as an excuse to eat like a child at 42
Mental health is encouraged nowadays, when I was growing up i didn't know any of my friends with Mental illness, we went out every day and met up and had loads of fun, came home rushed my homework and went to bed. We had no time for Mental health issues, not that there wasn't Mental health around, but it certainly wasn't popular to have it
Your youth sounds idyllic, when in fact it was just healthy! Victimhood is what all the cool kids are doing today🤷♀️
Amen.
I learned a lot. The part that stood out the most when you said that people want something to complain about because some of them are so rich and spoiled. So they make up special words for themselves, all they want is a dopamine rush etc. Social media is like a drug.
"You can ignore reality, but you cannot ignore the consequences of reality."
Gen Z should have this tattooed on their foreheads.
Misha, one caveat about mental health. I have a medically diagnosed ASD.
If I could stop being autistic, I wouldn’t. It would erase my identity and everything that makes me unique and has some benefits too. I’m a functional person who’s in law school. Who has a normal social life and has worked full time before he was in law school.
I do have other issues, like anxiety though, that having kind of sucks.
About this whole imaginary gender controversy, ChatGPT once answered to me(a center-leftist South Korean) "...It's important to remember that language is constantly evolving and changing, and the use of neopronouns and xenopronouns is one way that language is adapting to better represent and recognize the diversity of gender identities. While it may take some time for some people to become accustomed to using these pronouns, it is important to respect individuals' choices and use the pronouns they have specified."
I had this to say... "Evolving and adapting? Well I'm not very certain about that, but I sure think the entire idea of neopronouns overcomplicated and frankly, more regressive. Heck some could go as far as saying it's even narcissistic and hypersensitive in a way. So yes, I argue the so-called language *is* changing, for all but better. A slope towards chaos and dissociation if you will.
People who unironically want to identify as a microbe or whatever are literally asking for oppression. Sadly enough, those trapped in their make believe worlds won't find it unless they experience Soviet/North Korean labor camps or Nazi concentration facilities."
language does evolve but this is just changing language to fit a certain agenda. its not evolution, it's literal 1984
Also ChatGPT seems to be biased, you can ask it to make a joke about Jesus but not Muhammad
@@WannzKaswan 😅 Right? As I already stated, just the opposite of progressive. Like I can stand a trans-man who wants to be labeled 'him,' but I won't call someone a f*cking tree. Though I'm interested in poetry-inclusion is one thing; delusion is another.
That bit about religion jokes is intriguing by the way.
@@PepperPlay5 It certainly is. I'm Muslim though and we recognise Jesus also so I wouldn't want someone making jokes about both but if you're going to be offensive don't pick sides smh
I can say that chatGPT is not a good source for info, it's programmed with biases towards the politics of it's creators, which happens to be marxism, which this whole identity stuff is a part of.
Neo-pronouns and Xenopronouns are not natural evolutions or adaptations of the English language, these are marxist subversions of the English language, as this explains. It's really called Demoralization:
“What it basically means is: to change the perception of reality of every American to such an extent that despite of the abundance of information no one is able to come to sensible conclusions in the interest of defending themselves, their families, their community, and their country.”
"“They are programmed to think and react to certain stimuli in a certain pattern [alluding to Pavlov]. You can not change their mind even if you expose them to authentic information. Even if you prove that white is white and black is black, you still can not change the basic perception and the logic of behavior.”
"“As I mentioned before, exposure to true information does not matter anymore,” said Bezmenov. “A person who was demoralized is unable to assess true information. The facts tell nothing to him. Even if I shower him with information, with authentic proof, with documents, with pictures; even if I take him by force to the Soviet Union and show him [a] concentration camp, he will refuse to believe it, until he [receives] a kick in his fat-bottom. When a military boot crashes his balls then he will understand. But not before that. That’s the [tragedy] of the situation of demoralization.” - Yuri Bezmenov.
"“[T]he useful idiots...when they get disillusioned, they become the worst enemies...obviously they get offended-they think that they will come to power. That will never happen, of course. They will be lined up against the wall and shot.” - Yuri Bezmenov.
Yuri Bezmenov was a Soviet KGB propaganda officer in 1983 who defwcted to the west.
It revolves around this concept of identity and Marxists (Socialist, so far left)change language to create identity groups so they can control people.
You are right. Not every change is progress. Koalas became dumb to save energy from their scarce food sources (eucalyptus). By evolution. Idk if it is a progress :)
I’m a HUGE bookworm. I read fantasy all the time because it’s a way for me to escape. I will not lie, once I’m really into the book, it seems I’m actually there. It’s the way I can get out of the struggles I deal with, but once I’m back into reality, it definitely stinks. Books help me cope. I work overnights, so I listen to books too. I’m partially aware… i listen for announcements, emergencies etc. I zone out and bust my butt every night. I know that I shouldn’t be that way, but it makes my life so much easier to live.
I hope everyone who is depressed finds hope in their life and can be happy again ❤❤
1:23 sounds like this thing I’ve heard of called “using your imagination”.
the whole trans thing is the ultimate escapism.
Good insights! It's very sad the kids are not alright. Be careful you don't get hurt by social media too!