OMFG,.. “Obscure and minute _details”._ I never thought I’d hear anyone - even in this realm of narcissism and immaturity, with all its commonalities - speak of this. I have never heard anyone say this and I thought I was the only one. Up til the age of 11, my parents did just this. I remember my mother forcing me to read, reread, and re-reread things again - because she thought: 1. I couldn’t possibly learn as fast as I did. So she thought I lied. 2. I was also quizzed on the most obscure questions which I couldn’t even comprehend the relevance of and of course then never got right - and therefore had to re-re-reread it all again. Both of these things would end up in really horrible fights, scarring me even more. At this point, after a final horrible argument, I just felt that I’d had enough. I stopped asking for “help” and went on to never again ask them for anything related to school (and went on with top grades all throughout). Closely I also stopped accepting money from them, gifts, and so much more, because I wanted to have as little to do with them as humanly possible. It was _Easier._ 😔 For this, I was celebrated by all. My sense of responsibility, maturity, academic achievements and so forth - which of course never was because of, but despite my upbringing. And, my parents loved it. They were so proud,.. This is _Not_ normal. For sure. Thanks for sharing, Casey,.. 🙏❤️🩹🙌
It's also a setup for failure. Narcissistic parents can't allow their children to fail and not become independent adults. So they create these situations that are a bit too difficult for them so they fail, give up, and become insecure. It also means they can feel superior to them, which they need to feel every day just to make it through the day. I compare a narcissistic parent to the way a wild animal is concerned about its own daily survival. They are incomplete people where empathy and selflessness were never built. But since we as a society don't talk about it, it sets up children for a lifetime of doubt and suffering. Did you check out Dr. Ramani's videos?
As someone from an older generation, I'm so grateful that you are taking on these subjects and that you are breaking the stigma and the silence. I think you're spot on.
OMFG,.. “Obscure and minute _details”._ I never thought I’d hear anyone - even in this realm of narcissism and immaturity, with all its commonalities - speak of this. I have never heard anyone say this and I thought I was the only one.
Up til the age of 11, my parents did just this. I remember my mother forcing me to read, reread, and re-reread things again - because she thought: 1. I couldn’t possibly learn as fast as I did. So she thought I lied. 2. I was also quizzed on the most obscure questions which I couldn’t even comprehend the relevance of and of course then never got right - and therefore had to re-re-reread it all again. Both of these things would end up in really horrible fights, scarring me even more.
At this point, after a final horrible argument, I just felt that I’d had enough. I stopped asking for “help” and went on to never again ask them for anything related to school (and went on with top grades all throughout). Closely I also stopped accepting money from them, gifts, and so much more, because I wanted to have as little to do with them as humanly possible. It was _Easier._ 😔 For this, I was celebrated by all. My sense of responsibility, maturity, academic achievements and so forth - which of course never was because of, but despite my upbringing. And, my parents loved it. They were so proud,..
This is _Not_ normal. For sure.
Thanks for sharing, Casey,.. 🙏❤️🩹🙌
It's also a setup for failure. Narcissistic parents can't allow their children to fail and not become independent adults. So they create these situations that are a bit too difficult for them so they fail, give up, and become insecure. It also means they can feel superior to them, which they need to feel every day just to make it through the day. I compare a narcissistic parent to the way a wild animal is concerned about its own daily survival. They are incomplete people where empathy and selflessness were never built. But since we as a society don't talk about it, it sets up children for a lifetime of doubt and suffering. Did you check out Dr. Ramani's videos?
As someone from an older generation, I'm so grateful that you are taking on these subjects and that you are breaking the stigma and the silence. I think you're spot on.
Nice one. Great delivery
This is amazing! Thank you 🙏🏼
I love the softness in your voice. Thank you for creating this podcast ❤️
thank you for sharing, i'm blown away by the parallels in our stories. the way you speak is incredibly clear and informative, and thank you
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