Oh my gosh. Your comment about finding yourself funny because you react with words that are funny without processing them, and then when you've processed them and it hits you that what you said was truly hilarious. I think I'm my own biggest fan and would CERTAINLY pay money to hear my unfiltered thoughts in a social setting. Love your channel by the way. Im a 39 year old male-bodied (agender) AuDHD-pending-diagnosis person who just found out 3 months ago about the possibility of being either autistic or ADHD. I always knew I was weird though, even as a child. I really enjoy hearing you speak your thoughts and I find that your words often mirror my experience as well. Thank you for the validation and the food for thought.
Thanks for being here and for sharing your experiences too. I wish you well on your journey of self discovery & glad to hear you also take comfort and joy in your unfiltered thoughs
I just got my late autism diagnosis on the 22nd of may 2024. Just 8 days ago. I'm 43 years old. I'm forever grateful for autistic youtubers like you. It means the world to me. Thank you. 🏆❤
Yes, for sure, and I've had a deep constant abiding feeling of being seen as the freak as I am, but at the se time Invisible to other, total self conscious, and invisibility, but also like you say.. I felt I had more capacity some how than others to see things, but then blind and dumb at the same time, aaah the living paradox of autism, omg this is quite the experience lol, if people only knew
uuuuuh, LOVED that comment on feeling "better", totally recognisable, happy you owned it and opened up about it, i feel the same and feel bad about it, because i don't want to be (nor do i think i am) narcissistic. Nice to know i am not alone. But honestly, there is something weirdly "not-better" about how neurotypicals are governed by their emotions and their incessant need to be "social" all.the.time. :-D Also: autistic humour is the best!
Thanks for the comment and yes, I too worried for a while that I was narcissistic but having learned more about that I'm definitely not. I think therapists do take what we say very literally also and are often hyper fixated on the words we use, interpreting them absolute ways. I do love how my brain works sometimes and absolutely love the humour part.
Men probably don't talk as much about it, we have communication self esteem issues, women are un doubtably better at it. Yes, yes yes, thus is one of your best videos.
Thank you for this Amanda, this resonates very well. At "obvious and invisible" - the paradox isn't of our making. It's true that we'll be accused of having nothing wrong with us because there's nothing visibly wrong with us, but at the same time we're _universally_ misunderstood and seen as different. Now, obviously, once we know where we are and what's going on, this needn't be as much of a drama as before, because we can do what _you did_ : just tell people what's going on. We're not bad or 'deficited' or deficient........ we're just quite radically different and this can be a good thing. There are things we do, and think, and know, that won't be part of the assumed experience of most people, and at the same time there will be times when they need to know they need to cut us some slack. The 'spider model' is where it's at: there are many variables in the mind that are roughly the same for most people, but we're *spiky* - some are better, some not so great, but overall we average out about as 'good' as anyone else, and if we don't, well there's plenty of people who are slow, lazy, whatever, and we don't have a major problem with it. Half the population, for example, is below average IQ. That isn't a problem and neither should it be.... so if I'm pretty rubbish at doing my shoes up correctly, noticing if socks are inside out, noticing if my collar's tucked in, or being adept at feigning interest in banalities, that's no big deal either. Right? lol Yeah we have a ways to go yet. But things are better than they were when _we_ were kids.
I honestly thought you said "Hitler Therapy" just then lol I do the arm-raise sometimes but unlike most of his fans, I hand-flap on the way back down! I suspect Hitler Therapy is more valid overall than Hypno-therapy though. You're absolutely right about 'uncanny valley' - whenever I hear people talk about being 'high masking', my eyebrows raise........ the truth is, _nobody_ is 'undetected autistic'. They _all_ see us differently. Some of them are *nice* and some of them don't so much 'make adjustments' as just accept us as we are.... but even so they _perceive us_ no matter what 'masking/scripting strategy' we have. I like this video. Thank you very much. This definitely resonates. lol @ "tickets on herself".... not heard that expression for ages, love it.
You _are_ very funny lol honestly feel very free to share 'randomnity' even if it doesn't seem important lol Little story for you.......... my brain did this to me today on a park bench........... Some fool told a blackbird what his Latin Name was.......... "yeah, they call you Turdus..... Turdus Merula" "What?!!!! Have you _seen_ a pigeon? I am *not* 'turdus' fFs" lol "Oh no, no, wait, it doesn't mean _that_ - nothing to do with turds" "OK I'm listening, I guess" "Yeah it means 'true thrush'" Blackbird freaks out and turns his head as he flies off: "DUDE!!!! In what universe am I a *thrush* and yes I get the pun........ WOW, just WOW" - yeah my brain inflicted that on me today, so I'm inflicting it on you. That's 'autistic love language' lol
you are 10 years older than me and i've been watching many yonguer autistics, i loved to hear from you, so relatable!
Oh my gosh. Your comment about finding yourself funny because you react with words that are funny without processing them, and then when you've processed them and it hits you that what you said was truly hilarious. I think I'm my own biggest fan and would CERTAINLY pay money to hear my unfiltered thoughts in a social setting. Love your channel by the way. Im a 39 year old male-bodied (agender) AuDHD-pending-diagnosis person who just found out 3 months ago about the possibility of being either autistic or ADHD. I always knew I was weird though, even as a child. I really enjoy hearing you speak your thoughts and I find that your words often mirror my experience as well. Thank you for the validation and the food for thought.
Thanks for being here and for sharing your experiences too. I wish you well on your journey of self discovery & glad to hear you also take comfort and joy in your unfiltered thoughs
I just got my late autism diagnosis on the 22nd of may 2024. Just 8 days ago. I'm 43 years old. I'm forever grateful for autistic youtubers like you. It means the world to me. Thank you. 🏆❤
Thank you. Glad it helps and best of luck on your journey
Thank you @@suddenlyautistic
Yes, for sure, and I've had a deep constant abiding feeling of being seen as the freak as I am, but at the se time Invisible to other, total self conscious, and invisibility, but also like you say.. I felt I had more capacity some how than others to see things, but then blind and dumb at the same time, aaah the living paradox of autism, omg this is quite the experience lol, if people only knew
That's what i was wondering. They found ADHD and now it's looking like I'm austistic, I'm 57. It explains so much.
uuuuuh, LOVED that comment on feeling "better", totally recognisable, happy you owned it and opened up about it, i feel the same and feel bad about it, because i don't want to be (nor do i think i am) narcissistic. Nice to know i am not alone. But honestly, there is something weirdly "not-better" about how neurotypicals are governed by their emotions and their incessant need to be "social" all.the.time. :-D
Also: autistic humour is the best!
Thanks for the comment and yes, I too worried for a while that I was narcissistic but having learned more about that I'm definitely not. I think therapists do take what we say very literally also and are often hyper fixated on the words we use, interpreting them absolute ways. I do love how my brain works sometimes and absolutely love the humour part.
That uncanny valley of autism, when you haven't had an explanation, or diagnosis is a Crippling thing, can drive you Mad
Men probably don't talk as much about it, we have communication self esteem issues, women are un doubtably better at it. Yes, yes yes, thus is one of your best videos.
Thanks for the comments. I appreciate your feedback and you taking the time to watch.
Thank you for this Amanda, this resonates very well.
At "obvious and invisible" - the paradox isn't of our making. It's true that we'll be accused of having nothing wrong with us because there's nothing visibly wrong with us, but at the same time we're _universally_ misunderstood and seen as different.
Now, obviously, once we know where we are and what's going on, this needn't be as much of a drama as before, because we can do what _you did_ : just tell people what's going on.
We're not bad or 'deficited' or deficient........ we're just quite radically different and this can be a good thing. There are things we do, and think, and know, that won't be part of the assumed experience of most people, and at the same time there will be times when they need to know they need to cut us some slack.
The 'spider model' is where it's at: there are many variables in the mind that are roughly the same for most people, but we're *spiky* - some are better, some not so great, but overall we average out about as 'good' as anyone else, and if we don't, well there's plenty of people who are slow, lazy, whatever, and we don't have a major problem with it. Half the population, for example, is below average IQ. That isn't a problem and neither should it be.... so if I'm pretty rubbish at doing my shoes up correctly, noticing if socks are inside out, noticing if my collar's tucked in, or being adept at feigning interest in banalities, that's no big deal either. Right? lol
Yeah we have a ways to go yet. But things are better than they were when _we_ were kids.
I honestly thought you said "Hitler Therapy" just then lol I do the arm-raise sometimes but unlike most of his fans, I hand-flap on the way back down!
I suspect Hitler Therapy is more valid overall than Hypno-therapy though.
You're absolutely right about 'uncanny valley' - whenever I hear people talk about being 'high masking', my eyebrows raise........ the truth is, _nobody_ is 'undetected autistic'. They _all_ see us differently. Some of them are *nice* and some of them don't so much 'make adjustments' as just accept us as we are.... but even so they _perceive us_ no matter what 'masking/scripting strategy' we have.
I like this video. Thank you very much. This definitely resonates.
lol @ "tickets on herself".... not heard that expression for ages, love it.
You _are_ very funny lol honestly feel very free to share 'randomnity' even if it doesn't seem important lol
Little story for you.......... my brain did this to me today on a park bench...........
Some fool told a blackbird what his Latin Name was.......... "yeah, they call you Turdus..... Turdus Merula"
"What?!!!! Have you _seen_ a pigeon? I am *not* 'turdus' fFs" lol
"Oh no, no, wait, it doesn't mean _that_ - nothing to do with turds"
"OK I'm listening, I guess"
"Yeah it means 'true thrush'"
Blackbird freaks out and turns his head as he flies off: "DUDE!!!! In what universe am I a *thrush* and yes I get the pun........ WOW, just WOW"
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yeah my brain inflicted that on me today, so I'm inflicting it on you. That's 'autistic love language' lol
Hahahahahaha 'Hitler therapy' - very Monte python. Thanks for the comments, very much appreciated and enjoyable to read
Awesome video!
I have autism too- I was diagnosed late though, around 2014.
Dear, stating the year you were diagnosed does not tell us your age.
im a woman shaped being as well