I'm 27 and never considered myself autistic, have struggled everyday of my life to be around people and engage with people, I learned quick how to fake it but never felt I fit in anywhere. I always assumed I was just different and everyone was, it got so bad I started abusing drugs, became addicted and just couldn't handle life anymore.i have found great coping mechanisms but to relize I am not alone and this is a thing others experience has forever changed my life.
Coming from someone who has selective mutism since birth and learning disabilities . (Possibly undiagnosed autism) I relate so much, trying to fitt in and wanting to be normal ..just gets you into more trouble than just accepting yourself. There’s still this empty void and loneliness regardless if you manage to pull it off. I’m glad you were able to find others to relate to and overcome addictions..so we feel less alone.
i am a 25 yo black woman & was just diagnosed recently. i was shocked at how much of a spectrum it really is across all types of genders/ages/races/etc and how it can be similar/different for each person. i dropped out of high school & got my GED in a weekend. i am now in college. academics were never the issue…. it was everything else about school that drove me into meltdowns and ended me in the psych ward multiple times labeled “moody” and given 17 different meds from the age of 6-23 and not once did that ever think to test me for autism… they failed me as they do so many other minorities. glad i understands myself now. glad you do too.
@@brharding8888 You missed the point dumb@ss. Shes saying that minorities who have learning disabilities have it harder as they dont think to test for autism and assume its behaviour, to which i can relate to as i have been discriminated against and haven’t had any help when it comes to my autism diagnosis consistently
Hey, I’m 23 I think I may be on the spectrum but I’m not sure how to get diagnosed. I literally been suffering by myself in this. Nobody in my life has a clue, they know I’m different but they just think I’m weird and are very judgmental. I have never told anybody about my internal struggles and it’s super hard. How did you learn to cope?
@@Andy-kj3fp thank you 🙏🏿 It’s so hard but I’m finding a way to cope, this is how I’ve been handling it my whole life so I’m used to it. I just don’t know where or who to go to about this. I’ve tried to seek help from people online but nobody replies and I understand people don’t have to help so I’m just tryna figure it out.
Diagnosed at 34, after failed relationships, failed careers, feeling like a failure my whole life. Being seen as different, weird and funny and then choosing to accept myself and not fit in was the best decision I ever made. I was a triangle trying to fit into a square hole 🕳
I'm so grateful to Doctor Isibor Alternative Herbal supplement which has totally improve my Autistic son with speech delay, these supplement works very well in just 3 weeks .
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
That's good that you can see kindness in an autistic person, thanks. Too many people say we are bad people because of how we interact differently and sometimes have fits and panic attacks. Oh well.
I didn’t even finish school man it was too difficult, I couldn’t even walk past large classrooms, the lunchroom, I would skip school everyday just like you man.. except I never went back or finished I kinda just dropped out & stopped going & without a mother or father I just kinda did my own thing at my aunt Gloria’s house & started making beats.. luckily I started making good money with my beats.. I don’t date or leave the house I just work on my beats day in & day out💪🏾 hope everybody reading this stays positive out there.
appreciate this phil. i’m currently 17 and in college in the UK, no one seems to understand me and i feel out of place in the world. every day is a struggle and i just wish people could hear what we have to go through and try and be a bit more lenient or inclusive.
KyleTVProductions that’s why there needs to be more awareness, so people stop treating us like outsiders because we have this label attached to us. it doesn’t mean we are invalid just because we are disabled, it just means we need help.
@@bradleysims4494 the neurotypical world makes us more disabled we struggle with some things but excel in others. We should be able to live our lives and follow our passions and not be forced to live other people’s expectations
39 yo, diagnosed since childhood. Gotta find your center. Not a day goes by that I'm not from a different planet yet I find a way to communicate and enjoy the local inhabitants.
I skipped school too on the bus. Felt so weird and isolated . Lunch time was horrible. It was the bright lights for me couldn’t focus in class. I’m just upset because now that I look back I can tell my teachers knew something was wrong, but none of them did anything . It really saddens me how I never got the help and support I needed . I basically suffered through teenage years , never graduated dropped out . Today I still struggle a lot , learning to just be myself and let go . I’m getting better it just took a long dreadful time. I’m glad I found these vids
Ooof I'm so freaking sorry. I'm 38 and these past decade's filled with teachers, therapists, doctors...what a mindfuck this existence is, we deserved and deserve help and safety
I feel the same way you do young lady. I am a 39 year old black woman and have just realized how my parents/teachers/other relatives knew something was "off" with me, but never bothered to get me tested. As a result this life has been hell, leading me to contemplate and attempt suicide on multiple occasions. To be honest with you, it's a wonder I've survived this long.
I am 23 years old and I was diagnosed with Autism at age 3. To this day, I am still struggling as an adult with this disability and I get frustrated because I have the hardest time making friends, keep eye contact, and get anxiety socializing with many people. I had to mask my symptoms, especially someone who is currently working at Disney mainly because no one will understand my disability. I am still having a hard time maintaining conversations, keeping eye contact, understanding sarcasms and tones, become sensitive to loud noises, difficulty regulating my emotions, and maintaining friends. It’s a blessing overall to have this disability and I will share my story to those struggling.
Do you think an early diagnosis made a difference to you in comparison to a late diagnosis? I made a video on this topic th-cam.com/video/ELINTZkYsvk/w-d-xo.html would love to hear what you think!
In what being diagnosticed with autism help it? I would be ashamed, all about fking genetics and the way you are born. Self improvement is a scam, you're gonna do it for f nothing, no results.
Ive been embarrassed to have autism so me even clicking on this video is a massive step for me i have really bad anxiety too so relationships and friendships are very hard to maintain i just keep myself to myself ive tried to take my own life too cos ive felt like im not accepted because of having the comdition im in the uk and i just feel so alone cos no one understands me not even my own family do im 22 years old and i struggle everyday my job is the only thing that keeps me going
Something imo would reccommend to do to help process thoughts and feelings is self enquiry - there are vids on yt explaining this, a sage called ramana maharshi explained it well. It's devoting time to questioning the sense of self we define ourselves with. The technique goes like this (how i do it); Be in a comfy position and whenever a thought (the i am-thought) arises, question it. Enquire "To whom are these thoughts occuring to", then ask "who am i?. Challenge thoughts regularly. "I" is who you are, yourself- the observer, and isn't connected to thoughts or sensations because they are temporary. Once you discriminate that you are not thoughts, body; identities we think are the "I- thought" you can better observe your life and actions and won't need to worry/suffer as you're just being yourself no need to be some "thing" or do some "thing", falsely identifying ourselves. I get anxious when i sometimes say something carelessly and offend someone but i try to observe, not react to feeling ,and then act on any problems or situations being stable. I still need to practice this though as i still get anxious, it helps. If i am struggling i don't get angry, i just look at the emotion let it pass, observe - not stressing. Good luck in life.
I deeply appreciate this man. I have been caring for my Autistic son for 24 years. My son is far more severe than this man. I thank ypu for this insight.
Hi I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your son gets better and be a successful man someday. I'm also autistic and just turned 25. I've been unemployed and isolating myself for about 3 years now due to social anxiety and depression. I used to work at a supermarket and I thought I was doing alright for awhile but then one day I got told by the store manager that I was a huge burden and that everyone thinks I'm useless since I was terrible at communicating with my coworkers, and that hurt me so bad that I was kinda traumatized and have been unemployed since then. Being autistic is like a living hell but I think it's much tougher for the parents that have to take care of us aspies because I know how much my mom has been worried about me and I saw her cry so many times back when I was depressed and skipping high school everyday. I've been trying so hard to turn my life around these past few weeks and although I'm still not confident enough to take action and get a job, I think I'm getting there. I don't know the severity of your sons disability but hopefully everything gets better for him and he becomes independent someday so you can be free and have a happy life. Sorry for rambling and my poor English, I've been learning it since I quit my job but it's still not good lol I'm wishing you both the best!
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I am worried about the adults with autism that can’t work. From what I been hearing there are tons of them and homeless people with autism. Please cover this.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
Huh, sometimes I thought I would be homeless because doing work and getting jobs is difficult and seems like it's possible it's going to be a reality 😢
im just 23 years old and i'm so close of being homeless. the bills are acumulating and i live alone, cant pass interviews, my family pretends i dont exist ://
I work with people who have disability, I started off assisting with young children then later adults. A young man asked me how was he different than I. I asked him what was his disability? He said you have to remind me of things a lot. I told him you have to remind me of things a lot to. He smiled! I explained to him, not his difference but our difference is we learn things differently than others, but that's ok.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
As someone who has ADHD autism and dyslexia, nothing is impossible just don't stop believing in yourself I'm 19 I used to work as a personal trainer for about a year but didn't really like it, so I left and tried film I'm currently 4 months into my diploma and plan on continuing into my bachelor's. Everything you think you can't do is just you lying to yourself don't give up.
I feel you. It’s amazing how much we can change as beings. It may not seem possible at first, but you can change you’re entire reality. It’s all mental. The mind can be scary if you let yourself believe you can’t control it, but it’s a beautiful thing realizing you ARE the mind, and you’re in full control.
I have autism and all I can say is don't give into fear mongering (if you want advice, this is what I wish I could've said to my parents). They're just trying to sell you something. Most people with autism end up high functioning. Some end up geniuses like Alan Turing. Either way I don't think it causes any problems with empathy that you wouldn't find in someone in an average family. Many don't even have significant problems with empathy. Also I didn't learn to speak till like 3-4 and now no one can get me to shut up lol ;).
@@0ctoCraft2 is young. A diagnosis can be made and should to get services started, but my kid was non verbal for a bit and then a few years later broke away from the poor diagnosis and is moving along in elementary school. Some struggles with speech, but sharp as a knife. I’m saying don’t fret and freak out about it. Just give it time. 2 is too young to start stressing.
Thanks so much,Phil.My son is 18, finished high school last year and was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome when he was 9.He had bad depression and anxiety at 12, so we homeschooled him(distance education.)He had non-epileptic seizures at 16 due to stress and now has an autoimmune spinal condition.He has had years of therapy, still takes his antidepressant and is involved with a Social Group for young men on the spectrum.He loves it!He is working towards getting his driver’s license but it has been a long, hard road to get him to this point.We are very proud of him and very proud of you⭐️
What a genuinely great and normal guy. Would never guess as with many he had autism. Some people just can't fit into this strange high paced society that developed so fast around us without considering a people first society. Autistic people aren't weird, the modern world is.
I realized this when I nearly died from a drug overdose. Jesus saved my life and I had an encounter with him. He healed my vision and revealed to me how corrupt/fallen this world is. His love has been my only source of peace. Accepting his gift of salvation is the only thing that has brought me true peace/joy in this life. When you become born again, God gives you the Holy Spirit and it makes life SO MUCH easier. He told me that church doesn’t make you a Christian, but you have to encounter him for yourself. Please consider ❤️
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I was diagnosed with Autism at a very young age and my mother has been very supportive about it. She has helped me through a lot of very difficult times. Problems in my life include, being ridiculed and having divorced parents. Now my problems have been solved but they left a permanent scar in my heart. Even if I could choose, I still wish to be autistic. I am proud of my autism.
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 9, I’m 23 now and I still am struggling to figure out my purpose in this world and struggling to find my own self. Growing up as an Asian American in an all white school was difficult as I was one of the only minorities and dealt with verbal racism/bullying that has lead to trauma and depression and anxiety in my early 20s. I would get upset or annoyed when a kid would say something racist to me and would keep my feelings to myself because I didn’t want to be the snitch kid. I vividly remember telling my parents that I hate my life at age 13 and started seeing a psychiatrist which didn’t really do much for me at such a young age. My sister died in a car crash in 2018 and nothing has ever been the same, she was only 16. I get flashblacks often of her funeral and everyone that showed up, it was the saddest day of my life. I didn’t really realize that I had been dealing with depression and anxiety my whole life, and now it’s hitting me like a freight train. Most days I have no motivation and I rarely want to socialize with my friends or do any activities. I’ve been on and off working part-time jobs these last few years and haven’t been able to stick with a job that I feel comfortable with. I feel awkward at times in social situation which definitely made some of the jobs I was working at harder where you have to interact with customers most of the time as well as relationships with co-workers. In 2020 I had a lot of suicidal thoughts and questioned whether I wanted to be alive. I started smoking marijuana a couple years ago and it has helped with my depression and anxiety to a certain extent. Now I want to try to quit and ease off of smoking because I sometimes I get more anxious from being high. I feel like there is a hole inside me that I can’t patch up. My 14 year old cousin recently tried to commit suicide because of her depression partly stemmed to my sisters death. I’ve had so much shit going on in my mind along with trying to figure out adulthood and getting a job/being independent. I’m starting to understand my autism more and am feeling a little better that I know there are other people in similar situations. I just hope I can find my path in life and just be more happy because right now I can’t find my happiness.
Hang in there. Try to find a good therapist that gets you (not all therapists are good so if you don’t feel comfortable find a new one) and who can help you find strategies to cope and thrive that work for you. I’m sending positive vibes your way ❤
Thank you for sharing. Hang in there and just focus of things that make you happy and try to then hyper focus that to a way you can do what you do make a living and be happy.
GREAT testimony bro! Our family just discovered our 17 yr old has Autism and after I read about it my Jaw hit the floor as it sounded like my struggles. I took the self tests and I scored high on every test and I'm 50 yrs old. Wow imagine learning you thought all your struggles and pain over 50 yrs. Wasn't just caused by trauma, abandonment, drug use and imprisonment. Ya time to share my story...
I'm 34 years old and I have always shown the signs of autism but haven't realized what it was until recently when my daughter was diagnosed with autism. I haven't been diagnosed but I'm trying to work up the courage to do so if my anxiety would let me. I've always had struggles with social situations, keeping my attention, anxiety, food anxiety, sensory problems both touching and hearing, how to handle my feelings which i think contributed to my IBS. I, too, suffered in school but managed to get by. It helps knowing what it could be and it helps that my daughter gets the help she needs so she doesn't suffer like I did. I have three daughters and two are twins who are almost 2. One of them is showing the early signs of autism and is already getting early intervention therapy. My wife is also going to college to be a behavior analyst and is currently a RBT who has been encouraging me to get tested so I can be diagnosed. Hearing this story helps me knowing I'm not alone because I've dealt with depression and thinking something was wrong with me.
Same here bro I’m scared to death and fear for my sons future I broke down twice today. It all makes sense now, when my wife’s family comes over I get overwhelmed with sound and interaction and have to hide in our room where it’s dark and quiet.
I’m not diagnosed, but I can relate to some of your experiences man. I dropped out because of my mental health and failing grades. I felt stupid, and I didn’t know what was wrong with me. I’ve learned to interact with people In a way after school which took years of adaptation. I’ve always seen social interactions as a learned behavior that I’ve gotten better with through repetition, I’ve seen this analytically which helped me create friendships after school. I adapt to each person and what I can read from them. I struggled with basic tasks growing up and never fit in. When my girl friend gives me an emotional response, I don’t recognize the emotion at times because I analyze the information it in a different way. I’m always learning. I’ve always excelled in arts and athletics and I get easily obsessed with things. Obsessed to the point it harms my health. I’ve come so far and I’ve finally found balance in my life. The journey is a bit different for every person, but we just have to stay positive through it all.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
Thank you for sharing your story. My daughter was diagnosed at 11. We thought that was late, but after hearing your story it helps me to see how it can be so different for different people. Best wishes!
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
This was beautiful and was definitely needed for me today, it helped me feel a lot better about myself. I love and greatly appreciate the work Phil has done for the autism community and I wish him all the love and happiness he can possibly get.
Forgive my ignorance I'm just curious getting diagnosed when you are older. Didn't you have any symptoms as a child like toddler stage? Did you appear to be normal so your parents didn't suspect anything?
I’m in the process of getting diagnosed as a young adult and my behaviors were just seen as introverted and shy but my mother didn’t think it could be autism because I learned how to fit in by mimicking other people so I seemed normal on the outside. When I had meltdowns she thought it was because of anxiety so I saw a therapist but I didn’t like to talk to them so they didn’t really understand the severity of my anxiety to see that there was more to it.
Thank you Phil. You have given me hope for my 25 yo son who's on the spectrum. Like you, he's on the higher end, works a full-time job, but struggles with establishing relationships. I hope someday he gets married and start a family. You have given me hope ❤
My 3 years old son was diagnosed with Mild Autism and had delay in growth and speech too 😢 I found Doctor isibor on youtube someone recommended his alternative Herbal healing which I tried and cured my son completely and improve his speech 💬😊
I am 27 years old and dropped out of school when I was 19 or something. It was not until I turned 25 I felt I was ready to seek help and now I am doing an internship two days a week, it is kind of like workplace training or something... It is a huge improvement and I feel proud of myself since I have just been at home since leaving school and been feeling down and anxious. I even travel by the bus to the internship which I have not done for 8 years or something since leaving school. I have always hate talking to people and struggled with anxiety but the internship is in a warehouse so you are around people but that is just good I guess even if I don't like talking to customers very much.
I've never been diagnosed, but my daughter has. In her, I see myself and I am so glad she will have someone who understands the weird looks and can help her see that she is wonderful as she is and doesn't have to hide behind a mask all her life.
I'm in my 30s now and was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago. Now I'm being tested for autism a couple years later. My story is very similar to this person's. I just didn't have people around me to care back then to get me the help I needed. I struggle so bad everyday from it.
I graduated in a four year degree and really honestly struggled with jobs after college. The longest jobs I had was one at Tiffany and Company about ten years. That worked for me because I was so close to work, I could walk to it. I found what was making me suicidal for many years. Loud sounds etc you name it. I always got overstimulated and people looking at me like I was weird. I felt like a weirdo because I would shake and move my hands and jump. Got diagnosed and it helped me know, however I am still trying to find the job that works for me. Unfortunately if massage therapy school won't work, I am on my last stance. Which is security or janitorial work. Being a tall dark guy that looks masculine, people sort of roll their eyes if I tell them I am autistic. Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. Peace.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
Your story gives me hope for the future of minority and female autistics but makes me mourn the loss of my high school years. I wasn’t ever seen. I’m ok now, successful and happily married so no current sadness. Just wanted to vocalize my truth. I’m so happy you were able to get help at such a young age and am grateful to you for openly spreading your message. Seeing a “normal appearing” handsome black man such as yourself talk about your autism experience is so incredibly eye opening to those who truly have no clue what autism is. I hope life now is treating you well and I wish you the best! Thank you again with the utmost respect and sincerity!
Thank you for sharing this video, i have high functioning autism and i have gotten worse since lockdown happened. I just started college and listening to this helped me a lot. Knowing someone has the same similarities as me
I am 27, I live in Turkey and I haven’t been diagnosed. But I do believe that I have autism because wherever I have been I had very bad, terrible social relationships, even since the elementary school. I have almost always been bullied or alienated. My parents either refused to see and ignored or were not able relate my situation to autism. Now I realize that I might be autistic. I need help to be diagnosed…. Psychiatrists in Turkey do it only for the children… Please help
I love that he likes trains. That’s so wholesome and cool he found something he loved. I have things like that too. I don’t know if I have autism or not but I have adhd really bad and alooot of symptoms of autism. I always found comfort in my obsessions. One of those is horror and mysteries I get so into strange mysteries and it realm helps me when life is hard.
I grew up in Prince George's County, Maryland from 9 years of age and like Phil, I also attended Eleanor Roosevelt High School in Greenbelt (there is indeed a long history of highly credentialed principals and vice-principals of questionable character at this august public school institution). Since then I've spent all but 5 years of my adult life in the area and I've been living and working in DC for the past 14 years. Very much unlike Phil, the possibility of being on the autism spectrum was not put before me until this year, 2020, just before my 47th birthday. I still don't know very much about it or what I should do next, but it somehow means a lot to me that Phil is doing well. Local boy done good, as they used to say. Thanks, Phil. Good luck to you.
I was recently diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum (high functioning autistic) a few weeks ago, and I am so conflicted. On the one hand I feel as if the fog has been lifted and I no longer need to beat myself up over my failures to maintain long-term employment (I worked in the wrong fields). On the other hand, given my struggles to maintain a relationship with someone, as well as debilitating anxiety, it's like I'm witnessing my own slow and painful death. Like there's no possibility that I can have a regular, fulfilling life at such a late age for diagnosis (mid-40s). This has led to a deep depression. I feel robbed of a life of clarity and fulfillment. I also feel resentment towards "mental health" professionals for ignoring my self-professed concerns dating back roughly a decade, while trying to pump me with anti-depressants and telling me it was just depression and anxiety disorders. The mental health community really doesn't GAF about Black patients/communities, but I digress. Furthermore, I'm starting to feel a palpable anger towards my parents for not seeing or giving a damn about my issues during childhood enough to seek help. I just feel like my life has been such a fucking lie, and now I want to live completely, freely, and unapologetically.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I was overwhelmed in childhood by all the abuse Autistic people are forced to endure so I understand the difficulty. Even in Jr. high and High School people misunderstood my Autism enough to just tease me in several silent ways, until turning 29 I didn't really have a friend who knew how to help me with my basic issues.
I am 53 and just been referred for an Autism assessment, I am an alcoholic in recovery over 2 years now, so I have masking my issues with alcohol for 32 years, now I am sober I am noticing all the issues I have more, The biggest one is interreacting with other people and socialising, I hate socialising to a degree I can not explain, I am always analysing everything and over thinking, and also get it wrong what other people are thinking. the biggest problem is other people not understanding, they think I am just being an unsociable assh**e and just being horrible or awkward. I have been using avoidance tactics for so long now I don't know any other way to live. All I want is a diagnosis so I can tell people this is why I am like I am and nothing personal to any individual , whether that is Autism or another condition. Good video dude. Talking of school, that's when I started having troubles and in high school I would skip school for days than I was there, I hated being at school, its all starting to make sense why now.
Thank you so much phil! I haven't heard someone describe what felt like my experience of school before. It was confusing for me and is so relieving to hear you give words to something I struggled with
i would skip school for days to weeks at a time in high-school due to how severe my anxiety was when I would have to be around others and have to interact and from being bullied . I have a hard time as well going into public settings such as grocery stores /restaraunts etc. Because of how overwhelmed I get. I do feel people tend to believe all people just fit one category or stereotype but don't look at the bigger picture and realize it is a spectrum and every person is different
Wow this is so amazing. My son is 19, and yes it’s been a struggle and so complicated, but there is hope. It can only get better. With God all things are possible. It’s alright to be different, we just keep managing the situation
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That was bad what that woman said. I feel your pain as a mother myself. My child was labeled as " Bad" . Yet, no one addressed he was experiencing bullying . It's frustrating and I hope that we can bridge the gap . This is such a misunderstood disorder that could cause you your life. I'm happy you made it out of school.
I wish I can have a mother like you. My mother would tell everyone I'm 'retarded' after finding out I had asperger but to tell authority I'm a threat to myself or others when I call her out on it.
There is a Dr that you can get in touch with Dr Oyalo on TH-cam. Am excited to share about how his herbs works perfectly in reversing my son autism. now he is herbal with his behavior ok and he can now obey instructions
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 18 after my mental health started to decline. I tried to do it all on my own, I ended up becoming someone I wasn’t and caused a lot of psychological damage to myself in highschool because of it. This man made the right decision to get help. If you can, please get help. We will never be like the neurotypicals we will always have that extra societal pressure to be “normal” . I have lost so much of myself and am struggling to pick up the pieces. I am 22 years old. One of my only passions is videogames and Nature. Music used to be one of my passions too but now it comes and goes. Remember to always be yourself, being yourself may make people uncomfortable but it’s not worth losing yourself over the acceptance of others.
I needed this reminder and appreciate your words so much. They weren’t meant for me, but so you know they helped someone ❤ you’re very right. We won’t be the same, and that’s ok too. I hope you have been enjoying some nature and gaming.
Okay people before you self diagnose yourself anything can be a mental health but you have to get a doctor who goes above and beyond to diagnose you and you have to open up as well. I was victimized as a child and this is the reason why i suffer from mental health but thanks to my doctor my mind has been at ease. When i turned 21 i had a break down and the doctor diagnosed me with something else after 1 hour of talking to like wtf.
I got anxiety since I was young. I was quiet most of the time as a kid, but people just brushed it off as being shy, cute or obedient. But it changed when I got into college. Everyone started thinking I was weird or hard to get along. I had only a few friends so people labelled me as an introvert. Because I got a good grade and had many academic achievements, people often ignored my awkwardness or sometimes I felt like they were trying to like me... It got tough when I went up another level. At work I am always silent during whole meeting. Or I find myself giving a stiff monotone speech when I am asked to answer sth. I sat alone at lunch. I found it hard to laugh at people’s joke. I do sth only when I’m asked to do. I had no common sense in dressing code, the way I speech, and bad at diplomatic talks. I am sometimes too straightforward that often scared people away...etc I never have a proper diagnosed before but I’m pretty sure I’m autistic. I was sad living with all of these traits. I always wonder what it’s like being a normal people just for one day without all those awkwardness or anxiety...
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I've it since birth. But with a impulse control disorder. ICD. I'm 19 now and i watched this video as a recommendation from my Dad. Working on a GED to become a technician.
Survival of the fittest( I’m 26 now). I’ve got autism however have mastered the art of faking it. I’ve learnt how to portray myself as an extrovert.Nothing’s easy in life,it’s few steps harder for people on autistic spectrum…but yes if I’ve achieved - anyone can achieve success. Just need to tune your mind to be the strongest version and everything falls in place.💪🏻🤙🏻😎
Understanding people's emotions and facial/ body language cues is the part which I struggle with the most. I am very anxious and awkward and it upsets me when someone makes it overtly clear that they are angry with me because I don't recognise it leading up to that point. It comes as a shock out of nowhere for me as I don't expect people to treat me this way. Through when I reflect on their words and expressions before the direct outburst I see it and I feel very stupid for not picking up on this and it's this inability to read people which upsets me more than being yelled at
@@Rolando_Cuevasimple job application do not email this person instead leave me a comment n your not in trouble. Missing kids I warned twitch community about this situation and I'm not on twitch and anyone have mapsters
I wonder how it will be for grandson he's just 12 years old. He love cooking shows and he's brilliant. God bless you young man You're very well spoken.
Do you think autism hinders creativity or amplifies it? I feel like with most things regarding autism it's kinda one or the other, like polar opposites, nothing in-between. On the one hand autistic people seem to heavily favor established patterns, repetition, "order" & "structure", they hate change & diversity, are perhaps out of touch with human expression (which is kinda the definition of art...?) etc. But on the other hand they can be almost inhuman within a particular discipline & go beyond most neurotypical peers. Sheer talent & obsession. Sometimes autistic people are "blind" and sometimes they see things we simply can't. A lot of paradoxical anecdotes in my experience
@@TheRedstonePlayerMC Idk what I was thinking but I should have specified that I have no diagnosis. I think it is likely that I have mild autism, but I could be absolutely wrong. I do relate to a lot of 'high functioning traits', but idk. I do agree with you.
@@TheRedstonePlayerMC WATCH IT, not every person with Autism hates change, violence is the big thing I flee from with high fear, however I have Autism but have no real problem with change when it's for the better, I just hate when danger is somehow aggravated I feel it with wildlife not just with people.
@EggTwoLegg Generalizations or "simplifications - as they often are - is perhaps a necessary evil & it's frankly (in my opinion) a prerequisite for intelligence. Patterns, principles, etc. That's how we make sense of the world. Men are strong. That is a generally true statement, but there are obviously exceptions to that rule... Im interested in generalizations & stereotypes because they give an overview, quick insight and they might serve as anecdotal evidence for bigger patterns. I would like to know how autistic people *generally* differ from "neurotypicals" because that gives me a starting point for understanding individuals down the line. Ultimately I'm only interested in the individuals needs, talent & personality when it comes down to it. But I must be able to learn about autism in general too? You tell me then. What is autism? are there no behavioral patterns worth mentioning? Points where autists generally disagree with "normal-minded"? Is autism inherently a disability?
Wow what an inspiration i have an autistic brother and this has helped me understand him better and help me know what to do to use this to his/our benifit 👍❤
My heart breaks for you. Im married to ASD husband and so much of what you say is relatable. My number one piece of advice is always try to grow. Alarms on the phone helps my husband like "Check in on your kids" It works for him. Also, the photography sounds awesome! Both my husband and I are interested on photography. I LOVE YOUR STORY!
I have autism myself in the mild stage I was diagnosed with it when I was about 3 and I feel like sometimes it’s a curse as a kid I was more social I had friends but when I started growing up and into middle and high school it became a challenge and the friends I had in elementary we stopped talking and went our separate ways and it was hard growing up was challenge as I got older and older I was more quiet timid and isolated I would always sit alone eating breakfast and lunch middle school and at times in high school getting messed with it was hard making new friends at that time it’s hard for me to maintain a conversation I never told anyone about it or talked about i would always keep it a secret sometimes i wish I never had autism it feels like a disease if there was a cure I would take the cure it’s sometimes a struggle to be living and coping with it i sometimes don’t see myself as autistic I see myself as a human being
I went through the same thing, had toxic friends and cut them off after we were done with each other, socialable as hell but challenging because wasn’t able to make other friends for a while with bs of rumours about me, but what I’ve found is the more you socialise, the better you’ll get at it (eventually) because I took me till 13 to actually properly get a grasp on emotions, understanding empathy, and reading people, don’t lose hope just try to get yourself out there, if anything you should be proud your inheritance of genius is there it just needs to be brought out, and with telling people make sure it’s a significant other you’ve spent time with and can trust, and with friends who can also be trustworthy
My son 16 years ia on the spectrum. He is not emotional attached to us. He is very childish. Watch cartoon now also. He immature behavior with outsiders.. He is not good in studies as well.. Idk what to do
@@machuzzme3943 for me music has been my thing since so I’ve become a sound engineer, and for my life now, I used all the negative energy I got from other people and invested in myself now I’m in gym with good friends
@@machuzzme3943 it could be his development, it takes time for kids to mature especially with autism and by cartoons? Like anime? And immature behaviour? What specifically
OMG!! I think I'm autistic. I can relate to almost everything Phil has said especially struggling with making friends and maintaining relationships with people. I so desperately want to fit in and have friends and have a romantic relationship but I don't seem to be able to do it
@@sallymun2933 that's my plan, I have an appointment with a psychiatrist booked. I get nervous though because when I've brought it up previously with other dr's they shut me down.
I ate just toast n milk for years. Then mac n cheese for years. Now im a self taught chef. But i remember the unwillingness to try new foods cause i just assumed i wont like it. New foods just wouldnt make sense cause i already like that... I used to love trains. I played gameboy. For years... it was my medicine really... I cant feel happiness. Only moments of joy. I tried to explain n understand everything. At parties. Id be frozen sometimes from analyzing my surroundings. Fearful of saying one wrong thing. One thing i absolutely hate, i cant control. So i avoid human interaction as much as possible. I have an eidetic memory. (Another reason i like sheldon cooper so much). I replay conversations with people. In my head over and over again replaying every variable of conversation. So i keep them short n simple as possible. atleast i know what is wrong with me now. Having a genius iq. I can judge myself well enough to appear normal till a moment idk how to define or overcome shows the gaps in me for what normal people can handle. After watching big bang theory. I have so much in common with sheldon cooper. It starts to feel like a mirror of my life at times. Remembering how to understand sarcasm for instance. I can recall so many struggles to overcome to fit what is supposed to be human. What helped me alot was learning what an algorithm is. Thats when i could look at life like variables that can be mixed together to find a desired outcome. It got me over the anxiety n pressure of unpredictable events. Taught to learn to predict life. . I was also, forced to man up throughout my child hood. Which kept me splitting my personality, into a tolerant version that was on auto pilot. Vs the real me that i had to shut out. So i never was bullied cause id kick the crap out of bullies if i had to. . to learn that im probably in the autistic spectrum. Makes so much sense now. All the tragic moments in my life can be related to my inabilities, that make no sense to other people. Causing them all to put me in what i called a witch hunt. Where everyone feels like im on a salem witch trial. Them vs you. It activates fight or flight in me too. So to know when to respond with violence. I let someone attack me twice. I think its best to not use autism as an excuse. Just to try to overcome it. Its heartbreaking. Cause you cant fix it. Now you know whats wrong n why you lost the love of your life. But im not young anymore. As an adult you get tired of always being the problem. You fight to not let it become an excuse or social diagnosis over oneself. Not a reason for pitty either. . So you have a right to still be human. But... At 32 its getting really tough... having no optimism for the future. Marijuana helped me for a long time. I dont want it anymore. . Alcohol does help too. Allows me to ignore many inhibitions. Even allowing me to feel happiness. Losing my social anxiety. Just cause you have this problem? . I scored 98% on the asvab. Our school record for placements in the 6th grade before i quit caring.Cause of all the twisting logic i endured. Trying to explain everything.... i became a philosopher. Though i have a natural talent for philosophy. Autism makes life fun but painful. Cause you can be utterly unique, though its endlessly lonely.
You blew me away when you said you rode trains for 3 years. I live around DC and there have been many days where I didn't want to get off at my metro stop. I can understand that.
Autism is genetic in my family on my dads side in which I was never. Close with them. And my mom kept me away from them. I essentially was conditioned into masking because how I acted, thought, socialized was all wrong and I had to learn by watching and being told by other people how to socially behave. Which ultimately led me to have social anxiety and get a diagnoses of generalized anxiety disorder when I specifically told my therapist and psychiatrist I had severe social anxiety and would sit and cry in therapy and In front of my psychiatrist because I couldn’t speak and couldn’t figure out how to verbalize what I was feeling. So I cried, and all my life I’ve been sensitive, weird, awkward, hated eye contact. When I give eye contact it’s like a stare down and I make people feel uncomfortable. 😭 trying to go back to therapy and psychiatrist to get a my diagnosis but I have no idea if it’s worth it. I’m 24. But life is getting harder, it’s hard to learn at my job. It’s hard to learn how to give customer service. And idk what to do
My son who is turning 3 next month just got diagnosed with level 2 autism. He's having trouble talking but can point and show us what he wants. He just can't communicate it. He's smart so here I am seeing if he will have a normal life as adult.
Yeah there's not a lot of people with autism my age about 35 years old. I found I was autistic late like in my early 30s. That's because in the 80s-90s nobody knew what autism was. It was very hard to socialize and still is.
Watching this makes me cry 😭. I want to share my story about living with Autism one ☝️ day on camera 📷. I’m 37 going on 38 year old And from another generation and was never diagnosed with autism until I was 15 years old in November 1998. All thanks to Dr Uromi for is herbal medicine.
I wasn't diagnosed officially till recently. My wife left me and I have no friends. Now ik why. I don't blame everyone else. 27 years old. Now ik why I feel so removed and out of place.
I was diagnosed with "Mild" autism when I was little, I was just enough autistic on the scale where I had to go to a special edd room for 1 period, but still smart enough to go to regular classes throughout the rest of the day. In my very last year of high school they just straight up removed me from the special edd room and I attended classes like everyone else. Frankly I thought for maybe most of my life I might have been miss diagnosed, but now 19 and in the adult world I think I might see it now. Specifically my autism is "Slow to learn/pick up on things". I am book smart, but when it comes to physical things, I hesitate and overthink things all the time. When someone is being sarcastic in the workplace I take it to seriously and think I might get in trouble. When I'm given a job I know I've done several times before I seem to forget or not think beyond the surface layer of what they tell me to do. "Move the hose over there!", and I just move it to the obvious wrong place in the direction he pointed. Being an introvert and keeping to myself most of the time. It even gets worse when I have to take charge of a group of youngsters and organize them. I don't know if I'm using my early diagnosis as an excuse for my problems or what, but I know I have to change somehow, but I don't know if I can.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! If you'd like to chat with someone, you can give our Autism Response Team a call. They're also available via live chat if you're not a phone-call type of person. We wish you the best! www.autismspeaks.org/autism-response-team-art
This is an excellent and informative video. A lot of high functioning autistic people say things like other people have told them how they don't appear autistic. Lots of mildly autistic people appear very normal on the surface, look normal, talk normal, live a normal life, etc, which can cause other people to think that they don't have a disability. Autism does affect people differently. No two autistic people are exactly alike. Some autistic people socialize with people better than others. Some autistic people get bothered by flashing lights while others don't. Some autistic people struggle with handwriting while others don't. There are some textures that might bother some autistic people that don't bother other autistic people. Even though autistic people have similar kinds of symptoms, autism affects people differently. It is possible to have both ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome. Even though it's possible to have both ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome, a lot of people with Asperger's Syndrome were misdiagnosed with ADHD before being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. Keep up the great work with your your videos. Congratulations on your accomplishments. I wish you the best.
Just to remind everyone who has autism in the comments, theres nothing wrong with you, you are a beutiful person and you are capable of living a long full happy life
I’m so confused why didn’t your school or parents suggest homeschooling when they realized you were not going? I just can’t fathom allowing a kid to keep repeating a grade when there are other options? Thanks so much for sharing this will help a lot of people!
Autism or none, everybody's forced to do the Teen years of school but Autistic people usually do better in learning if the teacher is next to them so the lesson stays clear enough to at least get started.
I am 23, i wasn't able to connect with anyone since high school, had a few temporary friends but nothing that lasted. I couldn't concentrate in school, would skip all the time, have panic attacks, i dropped out.. no other educational centers, jobs worked out.. here i am alone.. with no prospects, no money to seek therapy.. i am not even sure it's autism or adhd or what.. i just always thought it must be depression.. I don't know. But it's hard to live in a society that wasn't made for you
I was diagnosed with Autism since I was 2 back in '93 now I have Asperger's (high functioned Autism ) Don't have friends nor a girlfriend I Probably never will The years go by quickly, and by the time you know it I'll be old to marry & have kids
It’s possible, the guy I dated recently had autism (I don’t). I genuinely loved him regardless & we learnt to adapt to each other’s quirks. He’s the first person with autism I ever dated & he was the most mature & sweetest -and my first love. We met through a dating app and we were both 24. He ended it with me but it was amicable (he was too stressed with full time work to maintain a relationship aswell). Put yourself out there and I’m 100% sure you will find someone right for you, it may take a while but it will happen eventually (look beyond your usually types & preferences & go for personality because you will be amazed at the wonderful types of people you will meet).
I'm going to be screened for aspergers syndrome in a few months after I had a "psychotic episode" of panic attacks and hallucinations. This was due to lack of sleep over stressing about interacting with people and doing well at school education wise. I often struggle with social anxiety and myself I would say I have agoraphobia as I fear going into supermarkets by myself or trying to use public transport by myself. When I was younger, in primary school I was a very emotional child and when I got into arguments with bullies I would often start crying over little things and my teachers would tell my mum that I don't act my age. Eventually I stopped crying alot when I got to 5th grade. But when i started 6th grade was when I experienced constant anxiety, during that time my mum had breast cancer. Fortunately now she is okay. I'm 16 now and I think I am getting better, still can't go into a supermarket by myself though but I have started going on the bus by myself.
We didn't know my Dad had autism. He liked to isolate, control everything and as a Caucasian male of the 1920's it served to mask his sensitivities. My parent's marriage showed the scars of not knowing it was ASD. My partner has it, and we do relationship different, and it works, but the only role model we had was "not like they did it".
I’m 24 years old I have made many of surface level friends but I usually keep to my self or ghost people cause I’m scared to reach out cause I’m always assuming they don’t like me I never considered I might be autistic until recently and it’s a very huge step. I have no clue how to hold conversations and have been studying people my hole life really
I'm 27 and never considered myself autistic, have struggled everyday of my life to be around people and engage with people, I learned quick how to fake it but never felt I fit in anywhere. I always assumed I was just different and everyone was, it got so bad I started abusing drugs, became addicted and just couldn't handle life anymore.i have found great coping mechanisms but to relize I am not alone and this is a thing others experience has forever changed my life.
Coming from someone who has selective mutism since birth and learning disabilities . (Possibly undiagnosed autism) I relate so much, trying to fitt in and wanting to be normal ..just gets you into more trouble than just accepting yourself. There’s still this empty void and loneliness regardless if you manage to pull it off. I’m glad you were able to find others to relate to and overcome addictions..so we feel less alone.
Same here and I'm just realizing this at 38. My parents and other people have always just thought I'm an asshole and call everything my "drama"
i feel u. im 28.
@@sarahluna4163 I also have selective mustism at 34
You are not alone. ❤❤❤
i am a 25 yo black woman & was just diagnosed recently. i was shocked at how much of a spectrum it really is across all types of genders/ages/races/etc and how it can be similar/different for each person. i dropped out of high school & got my GED in a weekend. i am now in college. academics were never the issue…. it was everything else about school that drove me into meltdowns and ended me in the psych ward multiple times labeled “moody” and given 17 different meds from the age of 6-23 and not once did that ever think to test me for autism… they failed me as they do so many other minorities. glad i understands myself now. glad you do too.
Yeah, You can’t tell someone’s race by the way they speak on the spectrum
@@brharding8888 You missed the point dumb@ss. Shes saying that minorities who have learning disabilities have it harder as they dont think to test for autism and assume its behaviour, to which i can relate to as i have been discriminated against and haven’t had any help when it comes to my autism diagnosis consistently
Hey, I’m 23 I think I may be on the spectrum but I’m not sure how to get diagnosed. I literally been suffering by myself in this. Nobody in my life has a clue, they know I’m different but they just think I’m weird and are very judgmental. I have never told anybody about my internal struggles and it’s super hard. How did you learn to cope?
@@NamarrrI hope you find the right support team to help you understand it better
@@Andy-kj3fp thank you 🙏🏿 It’s so hard but I’m finding a way to cope, this is how I’ve been handling it my whole life so I’m used to it. I just don’t know where or who to go to about this. I’ve tried to seek help from people online but nobody replies and I understand people don’t have to help so I’m just tryna figure it out.
Diagnosed at 34, after failed relationships, failed careers, feeling like a failure my whole life. Being seen as different, weird and funny and then choosing to accept myself and not fit in was the best decision I ever made. I was a triangle trying to fit into a square hole 🕳
I'm so grateful to Doctor Isibor Alternative Herbal supplement which has totally improve my Autistic son with speech delay, these supplement works very well in just 3 weeks .
A triangle can still fit through square hole tho
@@FaradaysDelirium now you tell me, have you measured the dimensions of these particular squares and triangles?
@@FaradaysDelirium they have to have the right measurements to fit.
So how do you get by and make a living now??
Phil is one of the kindest people I know! Happy I got to film his story
Thanks! 😎🕯️💯
Amazing, thank you for this story and life experiences
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
That's good that you can see kindness in an autistic person, thanks. Too many people say we are bad people because of how we interact differently and sometimes have fits and panic attacks. Oh well.
How old is he?
I didn’t even finish school man it was too difficult, I couldn’t even walk past large classrooms, the lunchroom, I would skip school everyday just like you man.. except I never went back or finished I kinda just dropped out & stopped going & without a mother or father I just kinda did my own thing at my aunt Gloria’s house & started making beats.. luckily I started making good money with my beats.. I don’t date or leave the house I just work on my beats day in & day out💪🏾 hope everybody reading this stays positive out there.
Fresco Stevens I hope your doing well too
Man we gotta talk
I was the same bro, I got my GED last year now idk what to do .... I'm 27 lost as fuck
Sounds like you were a little b with a little d. Hope you're doing good.
Im the same way man hope everything is good my brother 😄
appreciate this phil. i’m currently 17 and in college in the UK, no one seems to understand me and i feel out of place in the world. every day is a struggle and i just wish people could hear what we have to go through and try and be a bit more lenient or inclusive.
It feels like im in my own world and everyone else is in a separate world
KyleTVProductions that’s why there needs to be more awareness, so people stop treating us like outsiders because we have this label attached to us. it doesn’t mean we are invalid just because we are disabled, it just means we need help.
@@bradleysims4494 the neurotypical world makes us more disabled we struggle with some things but excel in others. We should be able to live our lives and follow our passions and not be forced to live other people’s expectations
@@Dancestar1981 completely agree with this.
39 yo, diagnosed since childhood. Gotta find your center. Not a day goes by that I'm not from a different planet yet I find a way to communicate and enjoy the local inhabitants.
I skipped school too on the bus. Felt so weird and isolated . Lunch time was horrible. It was the bright lights for me couldn’t focus in class. I’m just upset because now that I look back I can tell my teachers knew something was wrong, but none of them did anything . It really saddens me how I never got the help and support I needed . I basically suffered through teenage years , never graduated dropped out . Today I still struggle a lot , learning to just be myself and let go . I’m getting better it just took a long dreadful time. I’m glad I found these vids
If you don't already come with an IEP and a diagnosis the teachers don't care
@@LucianaIsBoss I hate IEP because instead of helping me they make me feel like I’m a moron who can’t do anything for myself
Ooof I'm so freaking sorry. I'm 38 and these past decade's filled with teachers, therapists, doctors...what a mindfuck this existence is, we deserved and deserve help and safety
I feel the same way you do young lady. I am a 39 year old black woman and have just realized how my parents/teachers/other relatives knew something was "off" with me, but never bothered to get me tested. As a result this life has been hell, leading me to contemplate and attempt suicide on multiple occasions. To be honest with you, it's a wonder I've survived this long.
I am 23 years old and I was diagnosed with Autism at age 3. To this day, I am still struggling as an adult with this disability and I get frustrated because I have the hardest time making friends, keep eye contact, and get anxiety socializing with many people. I had to mask my symptoms, especially someone who is currently working at Disney mainly because no one will understand my disability. I am still having a hard time maintaining conversations, keeping eye contact, understanding sarcasms and tones, become sensitive to loud noises, difficulty regulating my emotions, and maintaining friends. It’s a blessing overall to have this disability and I will share my story to those struggling.
Do you think an early diagnosis made a difference to you in comparison to a late diagnosis? I made a video on this topic th-cam.com/video/ELINTZkYsvk/w-d-xo.html would love to hear what you think!
I was diagnose with autism and ADHD when I was 4 and it helped me a lot.
In what being diagnosticed with autism help it? I would be ashamed, all about fking genetics and the way you are born. Self improvement is a scam, you're gonna do it for f nothing, no results.
It'll get better
Please is there any way I can reach out to you?
Ive been embarrassed to have autism so me even clicking on this video is a massive step for me i have really bad anxiety too so relationships and friendships are very hard to maintain i just keep myself to myself ive tried to take my own life too cos ive felt like im not accepted because of having the comdition im in the uk and i just feel so alone cos no one understands me not even my own family do im 22 years old and i struggle everyday my job is the only thing that keeps me going
@@enchanteddryad6500 ive been diagnosed as a child the diagnosis was accurate 😂
Something imo would reccommend to do to help process thoughts and feelings is self enquiry - there are vids on yt explaining this, a sage called ramana maharshi explained it well.
It's devoting time to questioning the sense of self we define ourselves with.
The technique goes like this (how i do it); Be in a comfy position and whenever a thought (the i am-thought) arises, question it.
Enquire "To whom are these thoughts occuring to", then ask "who am i?.
Challenge thoughts regularly.
"I" is who you are, yourself- the observer, and isn't connected to thoughts or sensations because they are temporary.
Once you discriminate that you are not thoughts, body; identities we think are the "I- thought" you can better observe your life and actions and won't need to worry/suffer as you're just being yourself no need to be some "thing" or do some "thing", falsely identifying ourselves.
I get anxious when i sometimes say something carelessly and offend someone but i try to observe, not react to feeling ,and then act on any problems or situations being stable. I still need to practice this though as i still get anxious, it helps. If i am struggling i don't get angry, i just look at the emotion let it pass, observe - not stressing. Good luck in life.
Was posting this comment a massive step too?
@@andrewjackson414 yes it was i keep my autism to myself due to peoples reactions being not what i hoped
@@morgzlavy5589 glad to hear it. Baby steps like Bill Murray
I feel love for this man. Such a genuine good guy. He loves his son so much and I know he’s a great father.
I deeply appreciate this man. I have been caring for my Autistic son for 24 years. My son is far more severe than this man. I thank ypu for this insight.
Hi I'm sorry to hear that. I hope your son gets better and be a successful man someday. I'm also autistic and just turned 25. I've been unemployed and isolating myself for about 3 years now due to social anxiety and depression. I used to work at a supermarket and I thought I was doing alright for awhile but then one day I got told by the store manager that I was a huge burden and that everyone thinks I'm useless since I was terrible at communicating with my coworkers, and that hurt me so bad that I was kinda traumatized and have been unemployed since then. Being autistic is like a living hell but I think it's much tougher for the parents that have to take care of us aspies because I know how much my mom has been worried about me and I saw her cry so many times back when I was depressed and skipping high school everyday.
I've been trying so hard to turn my life around these past few weeks and although I'm still not confident enough to take action and get a job, I think I'm getting there.
I don't know the severity of your sons disability but hopefully everything gets better for him and he becomes independent someday so you can be free and have a happy life.
Sorry for rambling and my poor English, I've been learning it since I quit my job but it's still not good lol
I'm wishing you both the best!
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I am worried about the adults with autism that can’t work. From what I been hearing there are tons of them and homeless people with autism. Please cover this.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
So sad! 😢
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Huh, sometimes I thought I would be homeless because doing work and getting jobs is difficult and seems like it's possible it's going to be a reality 😢
im just 23 years old and i'm so close of being homeless. the bills are acumulating and i live alone, cant pass interviews, my family pretends i dont exist ://
I work with people who have disability, I started off assisting with young children then later adults. A young man asked me how was he different than I. I asked him what was his disability? He said you have to remind me of things a lot. I told him you have to remind me of things a lot to. He smiled! I explained to him, not his difference but our difference is we learn things differently than others, but that's ok.
Love this!
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
As someone who has ADHD autism and dyslexia, nothing is impossible just don't stop believing in yourself I'm 19 I used to work as a personal trainer for about a year but didn't really like it, so I left and tried film I'm currently 4 months into my diploma and plan on continuing into my bachelor's.
Everything you think you can't do is just you lying to yourself don't give up.
Wow you listed all the disorders that I have
Social Anxiety was a struggle when I was young. I do feel like over the yrs I've improved
same
Great to hear it improves
What improvements have you noticed?
That’s amazing
I feel you. It’s amazing how much we can change as beings. It may not seem possible at first, but you can change you’re entire reality. It’s all mental. The mind can be scary if you let yourself believe you can’t control it, but it’s a beautiful thing realizing you ARE the mind, and you’re in full control.
My 2 year old got autism diagnosis she’s non verbal and watching this make me hopeful because I believe she’s going to be great person
I have autism and all I can say is don't give into fear mongering (if you want advice, this is what I wish I could've said to my parents). They're just trying to sell you something. Most people with autism end up high functioning. Some end up geniuses like Alan Turing. Either way I don't think it causes any problems with empathy that you wouldn't find in someone in an average family. Many don't even have significant problems with empathy. Also I didn't learn to speak till like 3-4 and now no one can get me to shut up lol ;).
Don’t sweat it. She is still very young.
@@schenkkohain what do you mean ''don't sweat it''?
@@0ctoCraft2 is young. A diagnosis can be made and should to get services started, but my kid was non verbal for a bit and then a few years later broke away from the poor diagnosis and is moving along in elementary school. Some struggles with speech, but sharp as a knife. I’m saying don’t fret and freak out about it. Just give it time. 2 is too young to start stressing.
@@schenkkohain ok
Being properly socialised at a young age is crucial.
@Miloh this is a good question. A lot of our growth and development happens as adolescents. Hoping to find a case study on this.
What's your point? People are born with autism, has very little to do with socialization
I was and it made things like 110% worse for me because I am a master at masking being "normal" but it just ostracizes me more in the end.
Thanks so much,Phil.My son is 18, finished high school last year and was diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome when he was 9.He had bad depression and anxiety at 12, so we homeschooled him(distance education.)He had non-epileptic seizures at 16 due to stress and now has an autoimmune spinal condition.He has had years of therapy, still takes his antidepressant and is involved with a Social Group for young men on the spectrum.He loves it!He is working towards getting his driver’s license but it has been a long, hard road to get him to this point.We are very proud of him and very proud of you⭐️
What a genuinely great and normal guy. Would never guess as with many he had autism.
Some people just can't fit into this strange high paced society that developed so fast around us without considering a people first society.
Autistic people aren't weird, the modern world is.
I realized this when I nearly died from a drug overdose. Jesus saved my life and I had an encounter with him. He healed my vision and revealed to me how corrupt/fallen this world is. His love has been my only source of peace. Accepting his gift of salvation is the only thing that has brought me true peace/joy in this life. When you become born again, God gives you the Holy Spirit and it makes life SO MUCH easier. He told me that church doesn’t make you a Christian, but you have to encounter him for yourself. Please consider ❤️
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
@@mj6598 Religion is the opium of the people.
@@mj6598 AMEN!!!! ❤
I was diagnosed with Autism at a very young age and my mother has been very supportive about it. She has helped me through a lot of very difficult times.
Problems in my life include, being ridiculed and having divorced parents. Now my problems have been solved but they left a permanent scar in my heart.
Even if I could choose, I still wish to be autistic. I am proud of my autism.
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 9, I’m 23 now and I still am struggling to figure out my purpose in this world and struggling to find my own self. Growing up as an Asian American in an all white school was difficult as I was one of the only minorities and dealt with verbal racism/bullying that has lead to trauma and depression and anxiety in my early 20s. I would get upset or annoyed when a kid would say something racist to me and would keep my feelings to myself because I didn’t want to be the snitch kid. I vividly remember telling my parents that I hate my life at age 13 and started seeing a psychiatrist which didn’t really do much for me at such a young age. My sister died in a car crash in 2018 and nothing has ever been the same, she was only 16. I get flashblacks often of her funeral and everyone that showed up, it was the saddest day of my life. I didn’t really realize that I had been dealing with depression and anxiety my whole life, and now it’s hitting me like a freight train. Most days I have no motivation and I rarely want to socialize with my friends or do any activities. I’ve been on and off working part-time jobs these last few years and haven’t been able to stick with a job that I feel comfortable with. I feel awkward at times in social situation which definitely made some of the jobs I was working at harder where you have to interact with customers most of the time as well as relationships with co-workers. In 2020 I had a lot of suicidal thoughts and questioned whether I wanted to be alive. I started smoking marijuana a couple years ago and it has helped with my depression and anxiety to a certain extent. Now I want to try to quit and ease off of smoking because I sometimes I get more anxious from being high. I feel like there is a hole inside me that I can’t patch up. My 14 year old cousin recently tried to commit suicide because of her depression partly stemmed to my sisters death. I’ve had so much shit going on in my mind along with trying to figure out adulthood and getting a job/being independent. I’m starting to understand my autism more and am feeling a little better that I know there are other people in similar situations. I just hope I can find my path in life and just be more happy because right now I can’t find my happiness.
You’re really strong man
Hi
You are doing the best you can 👏🏼
Try meditation and walks in nature. 💚
Hang in there. Try to find a good therapist that gets you (not all therapists are good so if you don’t feel comfortable find a new one) and who can help you find strategies to cope and thrive that work for you. I’m sending positive vibes your way ❤
Thank you for sharing. Hang in there and just focus of things that make you happy and try to then hyper focus that to a way you can do what you do make a living and be happy.
I would recommend you looking and reading into Islam
GREAT testimony bro! Our family just discovered our 17 yr old has Autism and after I read about it my Jaw hit the floor as it sounded like my struggles. I took the self tests and I scored high on every test and I'm 50 yrs old. Wow imagine learning you thought all your struggles and pain over 50 yrs. Wasn't just caused by trauma, abandonment, drug use and imprisonment. Ya time to share my story...
I'm 34 years old and I have always shown the signs of autism but haven't realized what it was until recently when my daughter was diagnosed with autism. I haven't been diagnosed but I'm trying to work up the courage to do so if my anxiety would let me. I've always had struggles with social situations, keeping my attention, anxiety, food anxiety, sensory problems both touching and hearing, how to handle my feelings which i think contributed to my IBS. I, too, suffered in school but managed to get by. It helps knowing what it could be and it helps that my daughter gets the help she needs so she doesn't suffer like I did. I have three daughters and two are twins who are almost 2. One of them is showing the early signs of autism and is already getting early intervention therapy. My wife is also going to college to be a behavior analyst and is currently a RBT who has been encouraging me to get tested so I can be diagnosed. Hearing this story helps me knowing I'm not alone because I've dealt with depression and thinking something was wrong with me.
Other than that are you daughters healthy and happy?
@@Bull427 yeah they are happy especially since we put my oldest in head start. My twins will be two in December and we're trying to get them in.
@@Chris-jo9sv thank God I'm happy to know that
Same here bro I’m scared to death and fear for my sons future I broke down twice today. It all makes sense now, when my wife’s family comes over I get overwhelmed with sound and interaction and have to hide in our room where it’s dark and quiet.
I’m not diagnosed, but I can relate to some of your experiences man. I dropped out because of my mental health and failing grades. I felt stupid, and I didn’t know what was wrong with me. I’ve learned to interact with people In a way after school which took years of adaptation. I’ve always seen social interactions as a learned behavior that I’ve gotten better with through repetition, I’ve seen this analytically which helped me create friendships after school. I adapt to each person and what I can read from them. I struggled with basic tasks growing up and never fit in. When my girl friend gives me an emotional response, I don’t recognize the emotion at times because I analyze the information it in a different way. I’m always learning. I’ve always excelled in arts and athletics and I get easily obsessed with things. Obsessed to the point it harms my health. I’ve come so far and I’ve finally found balance in my life. The journey is a bit different for every person, but we just have to stay positive through it all.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
Thank you for sharing your story. My daughter was diagnosed at 11. We thought that was late, but after hearing your story it helps me to see how it can be so different for different people. Best wishes!
I was diagnosed at 23 now 39 female Aspie
@@Dancestar1981 have you heard of Dr alao matiluko a great herbalist dr...
@@nicolecheyn1337 what in the actual fuck
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I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
This was beautiful and was definitely needed for me today, it helped me feel a lot better about myself. I love and greatly appreciate the work Phil has done for the autism community and I wish him all the love and happiness he can possibly get.
Forgive my ignorance I'm just curious getting diagnosed when you are older. Didn't you have any symptoms as a child like toddler stage? Did you appear to be normal so your parents didn't suspect anything?
I’m in the process of getting diagnosed as a young adult and my behaviors were just seen as introverted and shy but my mother didn’t think it could be autism because I learned how to fit in by mimicking other people so I seemed normal on the outside. When I had meltdowns she thought it was because of anxiety so I saw a therapist but I didn’t like to talk to them so they didn’t really understand the severity of my anxiety to see that there was more to it.
@@lunaas1029 ok got you. Thanks
Thank you Phil. You have given me hope for my 25 yo son who's on the spectrum. Like you, he's on the higher end, works a full-time job, but struggles with establishing relationships. I hope someday he gets married and start a family. You have given me hope ❤
My son was just diagnosed
He has been struggling a lot. Your story touched my heart! It gives me hope for a successful future 😊
My 3 years old son was diagnosed with Mild Autism and had delay in growth and speech too 😢 I found Doctor isibor on youtube someone recommended his alternative Herbal healing which I tried and cured my son completely and improve his speech 💬😊
I am happy for you. You still had consistency going through difficult times. You rock and I wish you and your family are well.
So proud of this man. He did everything he could as best as he could. Much respect. ❤
I am 27 years old and dropped out of school when I was 19 or something. It was not until I turned 25 I felt I was ready to seek help and now I am doing an internship two days a week, it is kind of like workplace training or something... It is a huge improvement and I feel proud of myself since I have just been at home since leaving school and been feeling down and anxious. I even travel by the bus to the internship which I have not done for 8 years or something since leaving school. I have always hate talking to people and struggled with anxiety but the internship is in a warehouse so you are around people but that is just good I guess even if I don't like talking to customers very much.
I've never been diagnosed, but my daughter has. In her, I see myself and I am so glad she will have someone who understands the weird looks and can help her see that she is wonderful as she is and doesn't have to hide behind a mask all her life.
I'm in my 30s now and was diagnosed with ADHD 2 years ago. Now I'm being tested for autism a couple years later. My story is very similar to this person's. I just didn't have people around me to care back then to get me the help I needed. I struggle so bad everyday from it.
I graduated in a four year degree and really honestly struggled with jobs after college. The longest jobs I had was one at Tiffany and Company about ten years. That worked for me because I was so close to work, I could walk to it. I found what was making me suicidal for many years. Loud sounds etc you name it. I always got overstimulated and people looking at me like I was weird. I felt like a weirdo because I would shake and move my hands and jump. Got diagnosed and it helped me know, however I am still trying to find the job that works for me. Unfortunately if massage therapy school won't work, I am on my last stance. Which is security or janitorial work. Being a tall dark guy that looks masculine, people sort of roll their eyes if I tell them I am autistic. Anyway, thanks for sharing your story. Peace.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
Hello
@@tamerajefferson7248 hi
Same here my man
Your story gives me hope for the future of minority and female autistics but makes me mourn the loss of my high school years. I wasn’t ever seen. I’m ok now, successful and happily married so no current sadness. Just wanted to vocalize my truth. I’m so happy you were able to get help at such a young age and am grateful to you for openly spreading your message. Seeing a “normal appearing” handsome black man such as yourself talk about your autism experience is so incredibly eye opening to those who truly have no clue what autism is. I hope life now is treating you well and I wish you the best! Thank you again with the utmost respect and sincerity!
Thank you for sharing this video, i have high functioning autism and i have gotten worse since lockdown happened. I just started college and listening to this helped me a lot. Knowing someone has the same similarities as me
I am 27, I live in Turkey and I haven’t been diagnosed. But I do believe that I have autism because wherever I have been I had very bad, terrible social relationships, even since the elementary school. I have almost always been bullied or alienated. My parents either refused to see and ignored or were not able relate my situation to autism. Now I realize that I might be autistic. I need help to be diagnosed…. Psychiatrists in Turkey do it only for the children… Please help
Amazing well centered high functioning human being. ❤
I love that he likes trains. That’s so wholesome and cool he found something he loved. I have things like that too. I don’t know if I have autism or not but I have adhd really bad and alooot of symptoms of autism. I always found comfort in my obsessions. One of those is horror and mysteries I get so into strange mysteries and it realm helps me when life is hard.
I grew up in Prince George's County, Maryland from 9 years of age and like Phil, I also attended Eleanor Roosevelt High School in Greenbelt (there is indeed a long history of highly credentialed principals and vice-principals of questionable character at this august public school institution). Since then I've spent all but 5 years of my adult life in the area and I've been living and working in DC for the past 14 years.
Very much unlike Phil, the possibility of being on the autism spectrum was not put before me until this year, 2020, just before my 47th birthday. I still don't know very much about it or what I should do next, but it somehow means a lot to me that Phil is doing well. Local boy done good, as they used to say. Thanks, Phil. Good luck to you.
The Maryland school system is complete ass
I was recently diagnosed as being on the autism spectrum (high functioning autistic) a few weeks ago, and I am so conflicted. On the one hand I feel as if the fog has been lifted and I no longer need to beat myself up over my failures to maintain long-term employment (I worked in the wrong fields). On the other hand, given my struggles to maintain a relationship with someone, as well as debilitating anxiety, it's like I'm witnessing my own slow and painful death. Like there's no possibility that I can have a regular, fulfilling life at such a late age for diagnosis (mid-40s). This has led to a deep depression. I feel robbed of a life of clarity and fulfillment. I also feel resentment towards "mental health" professionals for ignoring my self-professed concerns dating back roughly a decade, while trying to pump me with anti-depressants and telling me it was just depression and anxiety disorders. The mental health community really doesn't GAF about Black patients/communities, but I digress. Furthermore, I'm starting to feel a palpable anger towards my parents for not seeing or giving a damn about my issues during childhood enough to seek help. I just feel like my life has been such a fucking lie, and now I want to live completely, freely, and unapologetically.
I have autism too and wow this example of riding the metro bus the whole time you're supposed to be in school... so relatable😅
Such a heart warming story, I'm so happy that things in life have worked out so well for him and his young family.
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I was overwhelmed in childhood by all the abuse Autistic people are forced to endure so I understand the difficulty. Even in Jr. high and High School people misunderstood my Autism enough to just tease me in several silent ways, until turning 29 I didn't really have a friend who knew how to help me with my basic issues.
I am 53 and just been referred for an Autism assessment, I am an alcoholic in recovery over 2 years now, so I have masking my issues with alcohol for 32 years, now I am sober I am noticing all the issues I have more, The biggest one is interreacting with other people and socialising, I hate socialising to a degree I can not explain, I am always analysing everything and over thinking, and also get it wrong what other people are thinking. the biggest problem is other people not understanding, they think I am just being an unsociable assh**e and just being horrible or awkward. I have been using avoidance tactics for so long now I don't know any other way to live. All I want is a diagnosis so I can tell people this is why I am like I am and nothing personal to any individual , whether that is Autism or another condition. Good video dude.
Talking of school, that's when I started having troubles and in high school I would skip school for days than I was there, I hated being at school, its all starting to make sense why now.
This video means so much to me I feel so understood this is how I feel but I couldn’t put it into words.
It’s good to know ppl with Asperger’s can live really well lifes, hopefully I’ll get there one day
as someone who is 26 and suffered with autism for life, being autistic doesnt make someone any less human ❤
Thank you so much phil! I haven't heard someone describe what felt like my experience of school before. It was confusing for me and is so relieving to hear you give words to something I struggled with
i would skip school for days to weeks at a time in high-school due to how severe my anxiety was when I would have to be around others and have to interact and from being bullied . I have a hard time as well going into public settings such as grocery stores /restaraunts etc. Because of how overwhelmed I get. I do feel people tend to believe all people just fit one category or stereotype but don't look at the bigger picture and realize it is a spectrum and every person is different
Wow this is so amazing. My son is 19, and yes it’s been a struggle and so complicated, but there is hope. It can only get better. With God all things are possible. It’s alright to be different, we just keep managing the situation
@@juniormako6184 oh, thanks a lot for this I will go and check him out, although my son is verbal. We just need to work on social skills and behaviour
@@juniormako6184 this account appears fake though……
@@essierewane8405 how?
@@essierewane8405 try dr Oyalo herbs and see
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That was bad what that woman said. I feel your pain as a mother myself. My child was labeled as " Bad" . Yet, no one addressed he was experiencing bullying . It's frustrating and I hope that we can bridge the gap . This is such a misunderstood disorder that could cause you your life. I'm happy you made it out of school.
I wish I can have a mother like you. My mother would tell everyone I'm 'retarded' after finding out I had asperger but to tell authority I'm a threat to myself or others when I call her out on it.
We experience bullying throughout our entire lives because some NTs refuse to understand and accommodate us
@@Dancestar1981 I understand .
@@dubbyu4286 I'm so sorry .
There is a Dr that you can get in touch with Dr Oyalo on TH-cam. Am excited to share about how his herbs works perfectly in reversing my son autism. now he is herbal with his behavior ok and he can now obey instructions
Thank you for sharing your story. It’s so sad but it gives us hope….
I am 32-year-old autism and I struggle all my life but she at school and I'm happy to hear somebody else like me so it's only me feel better now thank
brought me to tears/chills. i feel i relate to your story immensely. I appreciate you brother.
I was diagnosed with Asperger’s at 18 after my mental health started to decline. I tried to do it all on my own, I ended up becoming someone I wasn’t and caused a lot of psychological damage to myself in highschool because of it. This man made the right decision to get help. If you can, please get help. We will never be like the neurotypicals we will always have that extra societal pressure to be “normal” . I have lost so much of myself and am struggling to pick up the pieces. I am 22 years old. One of my only passions is videogames and Nature. Music used to be one of my passions too but now it comes and goes. Remember to always be yourself, being yourself may make people uncomfortable but it’s not worth losing yourself over the acceptance of others.
I needed this reminder and appreciate your words so much. They weren’t meant for me, but so you know they helped someone ❤ you’re very right. We won’t be the same, and that’s ok too. I hope you have been enjoying some nature and gaming.
I don't know if I have autism or I'm just severely traumatized by my childhood but I can tell you I'm 25 and still having trouble socializing.
Okay people before you self diagnose yourself anything can be a mental health but you have to get a doctor who goes above and beyond to diagnose you and you have to open up as well. I was victimized as a child and this is the reason why i suffer from mental health but thanks to my doctor my mind has been at ease. When i turned 21 i had a break down and the doctor diagnosed me with something else after 1 hour of talking to like wtf.
I got anxiety since I was young. I was quiet most of the time as a kid, but people just brushed it off as being shy, cute or obedient.
But it changed when I got into college. Everyone started thinking I was weird or hard to get along. I had only a few friends so people labelled me as an introvert. Because I got a good grade and had many academic achievements, people often ignored my awkwardness or sometimes I felt like they were trying to like me...
It got tough when I went up another level. At work I am always silent during whole meeting. Or I find myself giving a stiff monotone speech when I am asked to answer sth. I sat alone at lunch. I found it hard to laugh at people’s joke. I do sth only when I’m asked to do. I had no common sense in dressing code, the way I speech, and bad at diplomatic talks. I am sometimes too straightforward that often scared people away...etc
I never have a proper diagnosed before but I’m pretty sure I’m autistic. I was sad living with all of these traits. I always wonder what it’s like being a normal people just for one day without all those awkwardness or anxiety...
I got this herbal supplement from Dr Oyalo channel and used it on my son for 4week and within the period of using it there was positive changes which really urge me to continue and I can say my son is free from autism now.
I've it since birth. But with a impulse control disorder. ICD. I'm 19 now and i watched this video as a recommendation from my Dad. Working on a GED to become a technician.
I got diagnosed at 7 with high functioning autism.
I can relate so well to this dude wow
Survival of the fittest( I’m 26 now). I’ve got autism however have mastered the art of faking it. I’ve learnt how to portray myself as an extrovert.Nothing’s easy in life,it’s few steps harder for people on autistic spectrum…but yes if I’ve achieved - anyone can achieve success. Just need to tune your mind to be the strongest version and everything falls in place.💪🏻🤙🏻😎
Understanding people's emotions and facial/ body language cues is the part which I struggle with the most. I am very anxious and awkward and it upsets me when someone makes it overtly clear that they are angry with me because I don't recognise it leading up to that point. It comes as a shock out of nowhere for me as I don't expect people to treat me this way. Through when I reflect on their words and expressions before the direct outburst I see it and I feel very stupid for not picking up on this and it's this inability to read people which upsets me more than being yelled at
Look into The Arrowsmith School . The Non -Verbal Thinking really works, just take patience and time******
I feel the same way . .I cry .. I was married...I love children
The school sounds amazing apart from its inability to teach students how to cope in a real world setting
Basically describing all schools...
@@VariantAEC if only they taught kids how to do taxes, among other useful things.
Simple autistic menu planning . Simple autistic app store
@@Rolando_Cuevasimple job application do not email this person instead leave me a comment n your not in trouble. Missing kids I warned twitch community about this situation and I'm not on twitch and anyone have mapsters
This guy is real. Great interview brother🙌
First couple seconds of the video I was already relieved, I pray to god that my son is like this
I wonder how it will be for grandson he's just 12 years old. He love cooking shows and he's brilliant. God bless you young man You're very well spoken.
Thanks so much for this, interesting to see what others have been through, how they coped and what they learnt.
I feel like the increased sensitivity of autism helps to notice the nuances that make art.
Do you think autism hinders creativity or amplifies it? I feel like with most things regarding autism it's kinda one or the other, like polar opposites, nothing in-between. On the one hand autistic people seem to heavily favor established patterns, repetition, "order" & "structure", they hate change & diversity, are perhaps out of touch with human expression (which is kinda the definition of art...?) etc. But on the other hand they can be almost inhuman within a particular discipline & go beyond most neurotypical peers. Sheer talent & obsession. Sometimes autistic people are "blind" and sometimes they see things we simply can't. A lot of paradoxical anecdotes in my experience
@@TheRedstonePlayerMC Idk what I was thinking but I should have specified that I have no diagnosis. I think it is likely that I have mild autism, but I could be absolutely wrong. I do relate to a lot of 'high functioning traits', but idk.
I do agree with you.
@@TheRedstonePlayerMC WATCH IT, not every person with Autism hates change, violence is the big thing I flee from with high fear, however I have Autism but have no real problem with change when it's for the better, I just hate when danger is somehow aggravated I feel it with wildlife not just with people.
@EggTwoLegg Generalizations or "simplifications - as they often are - is perhaps a necessary evil & it's frankly (in my opinion) a prerequisite for intelligence. Patterns, principles, etc. That's how we make sense of the world. Men are strong. That is a generally true statement, but there are obviously exceptions to that rule...
Im interested in generalizations & stereotypes because they give an overview, quick insight and they might serve as anecdotal evidence for bigger patterns. I would like to know how autistic people *generally* differ from "neurotypicals" because that gives me a starting point for understanding individuals down the line. Ultimately I'm only interested in the individuals needs, talent & personality when it comes down to it. But I must be able to learn about autism in general too?
You tell me then. What is autism? are there no behavioral patterns worth mentioning? Points where autists generally disagree with "normal-minded"? Is autism inherently a disability?
My problems got bad in Middle School I didn't have a lot friends. Had trouble connecting with others. I was socially awkward
My 3 year old his got autism, do you think I should take him to special school or main stream school
Same here!
When I was coordinating an after school project in FCS my students on the autism spectrum showed terrific photography skills
Thank you so much. Congratulations!
Wow what an inspiration i have an autistic brother and this has helped me understand him better and help me know what to do to use this to his/our benifit 👍❤
My heart breaks for you. Im married to ASD husband and so much of what you say is relatable. My number one piece of advice is always try to grow. Alarms on the phone helps my husband like "Check in on your kids" It works for him. Also, the photography sounds awesome! Both my husband and I are interested on photography. I LOVE YOUR STORY!
I have autism myself in the mild stage I was diagnosed with it when I was about 3 and I feel like sometimes it’s a curse as a kid I was more social I had friends but when I started growing up and into middle and high school it became a challenge and the friends I had in elementary we stopped talking and went our separate ways and it was hard growing up was challenge as I got older and older I was more quiet timid and isolated I would always sit alone eating breakfast and lunch middle school and at times in high school getting messed with it was hard making new friends at that time it’s hard for me to maintain a conversation I never told anyone about it or talked about i would always keep it a secret sometimes i wish I never had autism it feels like a disease if there was a cure I would take the cure it’s sometimes a struggle to be living and coping with it i sometimes don’t see myself as autistic I see myself as a human being
I went through the same thing, had toxic friends and cut them off after we were done with each other, socialable as hell but challenging because wasn’t able to make other friends for a while with bs of rumours about me, but what I’ve found is the more you socialise, the better you’ll get at it (eventually) because I took me till 13 to actually properly get a grasp on emotions, understanding empathy, and reading people, don’t lose hope just try to get yourself out there, if anything you should be proud your inheritance of genius is there it just needs to be brought out, and with telling people make sure it’s a significant other you’ve spent time with and can trust, and with friends who can also be trustworthy
What you doing now? How were you in studies?
My son 16 years ia on the spectrum. He is not emotional attached to us. He is very childish. Watch cartoon now also. He immature behavior with outsiders.. He is not good in studies as well.. Idk what to do
@@machuzzme3943 for me music has been my thing since so I’ve become a sound engineer, and for my life now, I used all the negative energy I got from other people and invested in myself now I’m in gym with good friends
@@machuzzme3943 it could be his development, it takes time for kids to mature especially with autism and by cartoons? Like anime? And immature behaviour? What specifically
OMG!! I think I'm autistic. I can relate to almost everything Phil has said especially struggling with making friends and maintaining relationships with people. I so desperately want to fit in and have friends and have a romantic relationship but I don't seem to be able to do it
Get checked
@@sallymun2933 that's my plan, I have an appointment with a psychiatrist booked. I get nervous though because when I've brought it up previously with other dr's they shut me down.
@@Nebroc420 how’d it go
@@SirGuidemere91 it wasn't autism... he's with the angels now 😥
@@javii5326 ? What happened to him
I ate just toast n milk for years. Then mac n cheese for years. Now im a self taught chef. But i remember the unwillingness to try new foods cause i just assumed i wont like it. New foods just wouldnt make sense cause i already like that...
I used to love trains.
I played gameboy. For years... it was my medicine really...
I cant feel happiness. Only moments of joy.
I tried to explain n understand everything. At parties. Id be frozen sometimes from analyzing my surroundings. Fearful of saying one wrong thing.
One thing i absolutely hate, i cant control. So i avoid human interaction as much as possible. I have an eidetic memory. (Another reason i like sheldon cooper so much). I replay conversations with people. In my head over and over again replaying every variable of conversation. So i keep them short n simple as possible.
atleast i know what is wrong with me now. Having a genius iq. I can judge myself well enough to appear normal till a moment idk how to define or overcome shows the gaps in me for what normal people can handle.
After watching big bang theory. I have so much in common with sheldon cooper. It starts to feel like a mirror of my life at times. Remembering how to understand sarcasm for instance. I can recall so many struggles to overcome to fit what is supposed to be human.
What helped me alot was learning what an algorithm is. Thats when i could look at life like variables that can be mixed together to find a desired outcome. It got me over the anxiety n pressure of unpredictable events. Taught to learn to predict life. . I was also, forced to man up throughout my child hood. Which kept me splitting my personality, into a tolerant version that was on auto pilot. Vs the real me that i had to shut out. So i never was bullied cause id kick the crap out of bullies if i had to. .
to learn that im probably in the autistic spectrum. Makes so much sense now. All the tragic moments in my life can be related to my inabilities, that make no sense to other people. Causing them all to put me in what i called a witch hunt. Where everyone feels like im on a salem witch trial. Them vs you. It activates fight or flight in me too. So to know when to respond with violence. I let someone attack me twice.
I think its best to not use autism as an excuse. Just to try to overcome it. Its heartbreaking. Cause you cant fix it. Now you know whats wrong n why you lost the love of your life.
But im not young anymore. As an adult you get tired of always being the problem. You fight to not let it become an excuse or social diagnosis over oneself. Not a reason for pitty either. . So you have a right to still be human. But... At 32 its getting really tough... having no optimism for the future.
Marijuana helped me for a long time. I dont want it anymore. . Alcohol does help too. Allows me to ignore many inhibitions. Even allowing me to feel happiness. Losing my social anxiety.
Just cause you have this problem? . I scored 98% on the asvab. Our school record for placements in the 6th grade before i quit caring.Cause of all the twisting logic i endured. Trying to explain everything.... i became a philosopher. Though i have a natural talent for philosophy.
Autism makes life fun but painful. Cause you can be utterly unique, though its endlessly lonely.
Phil, Im a 38 year old woman with Autism, where are you based? Our stories are so similar, as if we'd been friends for years! Bless you.
You blew me away when you said you rode trains for 3 years. I live around DC and there have been many days where I didn't want to get off at my metro stop. I can understand that.
Autism is genetic in my family on my dads side in which I was never. Close with them. And my mom kept me away from them. I essentially was conditioned into masking because how I acted, thought, socialized was all wrong and I had to learn by watching and being told by other people how to socially behave. Which ultimately led me to have social anxiety and get a diagnoses of generalized anxiety disorder when I specifically told my therapist and psychiatrist I had severe social anxiety and would sit and cry in therapy and In front of my psychiatrist because I couldn’t speak and couldn’t figure out how to verbalize what I was feeling. So I cried, and all my life I’ve been sensitive, weird, awkward, hated eye contact. When I give eye contact it’s like a stare down and I make people feel uncomfortable. 😭 trying to go back to therapy and psychiatrist to get a my diagnosis but I have no idea if it’s worth it. I’m 24. But life is getting harder, it’s hard to learn at my job. It’s hard to learn how to give customer service. And idk what to do
Very similar situation myself, maybe if you get a diagnosis things can improve
Who is Russo? Why does he got video
Dude all the best on your life
Awesome. Thanks for sharing your story.
Just diagnosed with being on the spectrum. 🕯️💯
There are cure out there...
@@nicolecheyn1337 no there is not
@@someperson4281 what’s the cure??
@@Oulaya96 there is no cure for autism
@@Oulaya96 say if you were to magically cure someone from autism, they wouldn’t have a working mind
My son who is turning 3 next month just got diagnosed with level 2 autism. He's having trouble talking but can point and show us what he wants. He just can't communicate it. He's smart so here I am seeing if he will have a normal life as adult.
Yeah there's not a lot of people with autism my age about 35 years old. I found I was autistic late like in my early 30s. That's because in the 80s-90s nobody knew what autism was. It was very hard to socialize and still is.
Watching this makes me cry 😭. I want to share my story about living with Autism one ☝️ day on camera 📷. I’m 37 going on 38 year old And from another generation and was never diagnosed with autism until I was 15 years old in November 1998. All thanks to Dr Uromi for is herbal medicine.
His TH-cam channel
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@@lisaoney1973 I don't know if it's my autism but I don't know how to cry anymore
@@bizznick444joe7 You can be free from this Autism, i no is hard to believe but give it a try. This is how I was save for Autism
@@lisaoney1973 How?
I was diagnosed aged 32...I missed A LOT of high school. Was expelled from one as well. As life gets more complex, it becomes tough.
How do u see life as old?
I wasn't diagnosed officially till recently. My wife left me and I have no friends. Now ik why. I don't blame everyone else. 27 years old. Now ik why I feel so removed and out of place.
things will get better mate, hang in there!
I was diagnosed with "Mild" autism when I was little, I was just enough autistic on the scale where I had to go to a special edd room for 1 period, but still smart enough to go to regular classes throughout the rest of the day. In my very last year of high school they just straight up removed me from the special edd room and I attended classes like everyone else.
Frankly I thought for maybe most of my life I might have been miss diagnosed, but now 19 and in the adult world I think I might see it now.
Specifically my autism is "Slow to learn/pick up on things". I am book smart, but when it comes to physical things, I hesitate and overthink things all the time. When someone is being sarcastic in the workplace I take it to seriously and think I might get in trouble. When I'm given a job I know I've done several times before I seem to forget or not think beyond the surface layer of what they tell me to do. "Move the hose over there!", and I just move it to the obvious wrong place in the direction he pointed. Being an introvert and keeping to myself most of the time. It even gets worse when I have to take charge of a group of youngsters and organize them.
I don't know if I'm using my early diagnosis as an excuse for my problems or what, but I know I have to change somehow, but I don't know if I can.
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! If you'd like to chat with someone, you can give our Autism Response Team a call. They're also available via live chat if you're not a phone-call type of person. We wish you the best! www.autismspeaks.org/autism-response-team-art
This is an excellent and informative video. A lot of high functioning autistic people say things like other people have told them how they don't appear autistic. Lots of mildly autistic people appear very normal on the surface, look normal, talk normal, live a normal life, etc, which can cause other people to think that they don't have a disability.
Autism does affect people differently. No two autistic people are exactly alike. Some autistic people socialize with people better than others. Some autistic people get bothered by flashing lights while others don't. Some autistic people struggle with handwriting while others don't. There are some textures that might bother some autistic people that don't bother other autistic people. Even though autistic people have similar kinds of symptoms, autism affects people differently.
It is possible to have both ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome. Even though it's possible to have both ADHD and Asperger's Syndrome, a lot of people with Asperger's Syndrome were misdiagnosed with ADHD before being diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome.
Keep up the great work with your your videos. Congratulations on your accomplishments. I wish you the best.
Thank you so much for sharing Phil, this is so insightful ♥️
Just to remind everyone who has autism in the comments, theres nothing wrong with you, you are a beutiful person and you are capable of living a long full happy life
I’m so confused why didn’t your school or parents suggest homeschooling when they realized you were not going? I just can’t fathom allowing a kid to keep repeating a grade when there are other options? Thanks so much for sharing this will help a lot of people!
Autism or none, everybody's forced to do the Teen years of school but Autistic people usually do better in learning if the teacher is next to them so the lesson stays clear enough to at least get started.
There are apps that have a Johnny in them and it's not a good thing
I am 23, i wasn't able to connect with anyone since high school, had a few temporary friends but nothing that lasted. I couldn't concentrate in school, would skip all the time, have panic attacks, i dropped out.. no other educational centers, jobs worked out.. here i am alone.. with no prospects, no money to seek therapy.. i am not even sure it's autism or adhd or what.. i just always thought it must be depression.. I don't know. But it's hard to live in a society that wasn't made for you
Did you dropout of highschool or college?
@@valleypanda both. there are profession centered colleges that accept you without full school education where i live
I was diagnosed with Autism since I was 2 back in '93 now I have Asperger's (high functioned Autism )
Don't have friends nor a girlfriend
I Probably never will
The years go by quickly, and by the time you know it I'll be old to marry & have kids
It’s possible, the guy I dated recently had autism (I don’t). I genuinely loved him regardless & we learnt to adapt to each other’s quirks. He’s the first person with autism I ever dated & he was the most mature & sweetest -and my first love. We met through a dating app and we were both 24. He ended it with me but it was amicable (he was too stressed with full time work to maintain a relationship aswell). Put yourself out there and I’m 100% sure you will find someone right for you, it may take a while but it will happen eventually (look beyond your usually types & preferences & go for personality because you will be amazed at the wonderful types of people you will meet).
I'm going to be screened for aspergers syndrome in a few months after I had a "psychotic episode" of panic attacks and hallucinations. This was due to lack of sleep over stressing about interacting with people and doing well at school education wise. I often struggle with social anxiety and myself I would say I have agoraphobia as I fear going into supermarkets by myself or trying to use public transport by myself. When I was younger, in primary school I was a very emotional child and when I got into arguments with bullies I would often start crying over little things and my teachers would tell my mum that I don't act my age. Eventually I stopped crying alot when I got to 5th grade. But when i started 6th grade was when I experienced constant anxiety, during that time my mum had breast cancer. Fortunately now she is okay. I'm 16 now and I think I am getting better, still can't go into a supermarket by myself though but I have started going on the bus by myself.
You should try boxing. Helped my anxiety tremendously.
29 Not diagnosed, but I can definitely relate to this.
We didn't know my Dad had autism. He liked to isolate, control everything and as a Caucasian male of the 1920's it served to mask his sensitivities. My parent's marriage showed the scars of not knowing it was ASD. My partner has it, and we do relationship different, and it works, but the only role model we had was "not like they did it".
aww he seems like a big sweet heart :)
I’m 24 years old I have made many of surface level friends but I usually keep to my self or ghost people cause I’m scared to reach out cause I’m always assuming they don’t like me I never considered I might be autistic until recently and it’s a very huge step. I have no clue how to hold conversations and have been studying people my hole life really
Damn hit home especially being black male