"becoming social is easy" - proceeds to a 28 minute straighton masterclass about human psychology and social mechanics absolutely packed with information I myself had no idea about I literally took a pen and notebook for this much appreciate the knowledge! killer work
I am 25. I have delt with severe social anxiety and ADHD since I was around 12 to basically 21. I used to be inside gaming everyday after school, no friends or ambitions. I got scared to just talk with people online. But now I consider myself to be a social butterfly. The thing is to put yourself out there and try. I got into cars and went to car meets alone. The first few times were embarrasing and I did go home crying from a panic attack the first time I went. But eventually, it got less and less scary. I made like minded friends and eventually became comfortable with being uncomfortable. Now at 25, I still have a bit of social anxiety, but not crippling me to be a homebody 24/7. In fact, I can now start and hold conversations myself with random people. Use your interests and get out there! It will get easier, I promise. You will embarrass yourself and make core cringe memories, but that's progress.
Man keep doing what you are and never stop because I feel like you have combined the knowledge of about 100 self help books into a nice accessible video
This is like gold for a person w the tism like me, sometimes it feels like I came without a script and everything is a bit mixed up, but this rlly simplifies things, genuinely thankyou!
I wrote a goodbye letter to my older self and I feel somewhat heartbroken to leave a part of myself behind... but I did it and I feel one step closer to my goal! thank you a lot!
I think I found this channel at a very useful time in my life. As im just starting my first job. And these tips have been invaluable. Incredible content, really. Right now, all the comments are about people starting to change. I truly hope that in a few years we will have comments coming back to these videos with their progress and achievements. Keep up the good work
You’re amazing man, I first felt you were inspired from “easy, actually” but you’re unique and provide excellent content, Thanks this video helped me a lot
I think it’s important to mention that normal social anxiety is very different from having an actual social anxiety disorder. But I just want to say that if you do feel exceptionally disabled by social anxiety, it will get easier! Yes unfortunately the only way to get better at socializing is to practice which might make it feel impossible sometimes. But all you have to do is one baby step at a time. Use your ability to listen and observe, and curiosity about people as strengths. Speaking from personal experience, you got this! Great video thanks :)
Watching this video made me appreciate that despite coming to understand some of the mechanisms you mentioned naturally, there's still so much potential room to grow! To me, these techniques are a way to get my wanting to develop a deeper connection across in a manner that's comfortable for both sides! Thanks for sharing this insight, I'll definitely come back to watch this again in the future!
This guy is new and amazing!!!! Please keep going. I promise you will be able to make a living from these videos. Also if you truly enjoy it even better. I think you found your purpose in life
19:42 ngl i started getting really overwhelmed by group dynamics after taking mushrooms, it’s crazy how much they play into what’s socially acceptable at any given moment
I listened to most of this while driving, then caught a glimpse of the video while stopped at a stop sign. I’m going to have to watch it again just for the visuals. I didn’t know it was possible for stick figures to convey so much emotion! 😁❤
The content breakdown and the practical applicable actions given as examples are so simple. Great video and very well put together. This will help a lot of people understand socializing and break through their walls.
A lot of people in these comments aren't appreciating this video as it is, and I'd really like to combat that. This video is truly a very helpful and informative lesson in how to improve social skills, and I'm very thankful for Productive Peter's advice. It's also reassuring to people like me, who didn't understand that taking breaks from social interactions in the beginning can help a person build their social battery back. Thank you for this video, and keep up the good work!
Contact Spankings 😂- Metaphorically … could be associated with “Context Banking” by way of addressing your anxiety, or assumptions about yourself or others that reinforce anxiety. 🎉
I keep running away from working hard.I don't know what's gotten into me. I was once a very bright student but I can see my potential getting dull. Please make a video about that Peter.
Think of who you were when you were a bright student. What habits did you have? What inspired you? What WEREN'T you doing that you're doing now? Truly think about those things. Then, the hard part (yes it's actually hard to do), is make the change. Flex it. Do it. Over and over. Fail. Then fail again. But keep driving and trying. It's like going to the gym. Be the person you want to be.
As a curious person I really desire to listen to people & their stories yet the constant, uncontrollable spinning thoughts, likely from ADD, make it a constant battle to focus on what others are saying & to stop talking long enough to actually hear them. I end up having to concentrate so hard that I don't retain what they said anyway & then internalize shame & embarrassment because I couldn't control that outcome whatsoever. In the end it makes social interactions draining for both sides & the shame amps up social anxiety therefore leading to less social interactions & ultimately a loss of social skills. The less social interactions mean I end up info dumping when I do have them. Meds don't help me listen but can slow me down noticeably then people react negatively because I'm not my bubbly, talkative self.. it's a lifelong struggle with no end in sight. Anybody out there have a video on that?
I think I can do this well once "I'm in" but for me the "starting things out" part is the sticking point. I have no clue how, when and where can I start a conversation, I go in a coffee shop for example, but I just drink my coffee, and no one seems to talk to anyone they don't know, so nothing interesting ever happens.
You have to make that spark, you are the person who needs to approach, most people are "NPC" they go on their mundane life and are ok with being boring, you are not. Have the mentality that everyone is your friend until they are not.
So, you have to: actively listen, try to be curious about things that you don't really care about, practice regularly and put yourself into certain situations, theorize about every person's alter-egos and public perceptions, notice patterns and pick threads in conversations, memorize and store important facts to use later, align your body language and intonation, keep track of changes of your correspondent's body language/ voice tone, keep track of contexts established in previous conversations, share vulnerabilities strategically, create situations with shared experiences, understand all the social contexts you're in, analyse group dynamics and understand the roles of people involved in a group, moderate the group to ensure everyone's involvement, establish boundaries and respect the others' boundaries, understand the underlying psychological mechanisms... and all of that is supposed to be 'NATURAL'!)
All communication is a form of "manipulation", but that does not mean it is inherently self-centered or harmful to others. I think learning communication methods like these are just a means of expressing yourself in a more intentional way.
My take on the 70-30 rule is that you should not be applying it at all times, you need to sprak too and for building deeper connections, both sides have to open up and speak about themselves at some point
This makes me brain feel cuteness. How do you post this when so many people don't know it (and are you afraid of people saying it's bogus). Posting videos takes courage....
In current society is different situations. Average people have enormous fears before stronger individually who isolated. They are profylacticly neutralized them by psychopharmacs on the level of crazies,like narcodealers who make similarly debilitated people like they are under influence and of neuradelictics.
I’m really good at listening to people, mirroring people talking to people the problem comes whenever I ask and ask but they never ask anything back to me and I don’t know if I should include myself in the conversation who knows maybe they not good at asking questions, or should I just talk about them because maybe they are not interested in my life and that’s why they don’t ask 🤔🤔🤔
Unfortunately you right: they are not interested in your life. If all they do is talk about themselves you may want to find other people to make friends with. Still don't offer up details about yourself, wait for them to ask :)
Being is social is directly proportional to your perceived status as people tend to ostracise low ranking individuals being unattractive physically and low status I e being poor or a junior.
There’s a misconception about the social anxiety part of the video, many brain types don’t experience social anxiety or even anxiety as a whole in some cases. And it was normal before the Information Age that the majority of people weren’t nearly as debilitated by their social anxiety.
As a software developer with trust issues that used to be an exceptional conversationalist but has, in recent years, completely lost his touch, I thank you for this.
That probably means it’s too much for you. You’re goin 100% for 10 minutes but if you build it up 10 to 20 to 30 you’d last longer. Same thing with weights: progressive overload.
@3rdEyeZay I will try that next time. See, i went from Reels (being in solitude,) to actual film. I wasn't used to peopling anymore. Maintaining my public face is much harder than it used to be.
Easier said then done. I don't care that much about other people. I often ask questions because I'm empathetic. As you said, people like to talk about themselves. Caring about what they say is a whole other mountain to climb
I love the tips in this video but they feel more suited for one on one engagements. I recently started talking to people again over the phone through texts but I find it very lacking. You can't really tell if there's a genuine connection, read body language or even know if you have the other persons attention. This is especially true when talking with the opposite sex and planning a date without really getting to know them can be taken as you just lusting over them meanwhile you have pure intentions Maybe I'm just terrrible at it and need to get better but do you have any tips for this?
I think it’s funny how easy it is to comment on TH-cam or any social media platform and say anything without a second thought but when it’s in person a lot of us shut down because of our social anxiety. All the other comments know exactly what I mean😂
I haven't yet watched. But right now I am in love with somebody I barely know and I hope this video helps with becoming more social and maybe even win her over (she's like perfect where I am in my Doomer to Gloomer stage)
Your not in love with HER. Your in love with how she looks and your idea of her. This is low value because you don't even know her and are putting her on a pedestal. You most likely will never date her because of this. Get to know her first and then decide if you "love" her .
@@ladev91 Yes, probably... but the thing is... she even has a Spotify song online. And it's the most beautiful voice ever. And the song itself is the most beautiful. And the feelings this produces ... butterflies in my whole body and beyond and I can't think of anything else and get all emotional and happy and sad and... then call it love.
@@ladev91 Also I had the feeling the kinda likes me or rather... wants me to like her (it's probably her personality) but she is so super cute and the most perfect you could imagine. It's like Aladin and Jasmine. Really comparable.
@@ladev91 sorry to spam you... you're actually the first person I talk about this :D I wanted to add: I recently learned about C.G. Jung Shadowwork stuff ... and it said that if your subconscious is giving you this hint / alarm - and always puts her back into your mind, it means it's something super important. Well, yeah... I'd say so too! :D
Dude just don't. If your aren't good friends with someone it is not worth your time to invest so much emotion into it, and you're definitely not in love. It's just attraction. I know it can seem like a heavy emotion, especially If you're like me and rarely get attracted to people/only get attracted to people you are friends with already, but take a moment to collect yourself and be rational.
After learning a lot about social skills, I think I'd rather not waste so much time trying to connect and "relate" to other people. Having less interaction seems better, just my opinion.
Indeed, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" highlights that to befriend anyone, we should consider listening to what the other person has to say. It has been proven that allowing people to talk about themselves is effective when you're trying to gain their favor. Personally, I find it draining to listen to people when you genuinely don't care. This often leads to fake responses and a lack of authenticity.
It’s not manipulation it’s putting in the effort. I thought it was manipulation at some point too. It’s like any skill it is a skill to learn. Like anything you need to take breaks and take your time. It’s like teaching you how to invest in the stock market lol.
How can I collaborate with you on these videos? I feel like you make videos about all the things I'm already thinking about. The Strategic Thinking video was spot on and I've been having all those thoughts for months. It's as if you read my mind and put it into video form.
I hate when advice is like "Yeah so just like let it happen naturally, just naturally sync with the other person, youknow unless your autistic and this is litturally the most unatural thing ever then just fake I guess"
I truly think your videos are precious and packed with valuable knowledge. I've tried my best to absorb them but have found myself hard to focus and able to retain very little info. I don't know how but I hope that you can somehow deliver your knowledge in an even more captivating way for people like me. (I can only come up with an example of arrange the knowledge into a plot of a coherent story.) Thank you🫡
I like the idea of your vid. I am glad it exists. But there is so much asterisks to be added... First of all, you frame it as advice for normal people. But the thing is, most normal people are normally socialized and don't experience any issues you list. This is like teaching ducks to quack.They know how to quack unless their beak is deformed or something... I have psychopathic tendencies - I just don't have neural circuits tat do empathy and compassion. No matter how well spoken, eloquent and interesting of a person I am - anyone worth actually talking to will notice I am really strange and will either avoid or counter-psychopath with me :D
"becoming social is easy" - proceeds to a 28 minute straighton masterclass about human psychology and social mechanics absolutely packed with information I myself had no idea about
I literally took a pen and notebook for this
much appreciate the knowledge! killer work
I am 25. I have delt with severe social anxiety and ADHD since I was around 12 to basically 21. I used to be inside gaming everyday after school, no friends or ambitions. I got scared to just talk with people online. But now I consider myself to be a social butterfly. The thing is to put yourself out there and try. I got into cars and went to car meets alone. The first few times were embarrasing and I did go home crying from a panic attack the first time I went. But eventually, it got less and less scary. I made like minded friends and eventually became comfortable with being uncomfortable. Now at 25, I still have a bit of social anxiety, but not crippling me to be a homebody 24/7. In fact, I can now start and hold conversations myself with random people. Use your interests and get out there! It will get easier, I promise. You will embarrass yourself and make core cringe memories, but that's progress.
Thank you for giving a one-stop full lesson again. Those who're asking for shorter videos are really missing the value of your condensed insights.
Man keep doing what you are and never stop because I feel like you have combined the knowledge of about 100 self help books into a nice accessible video
This is like gold for a person w the tism like me, sometimes it feels like I came without a script and everything is a bit mixed up, but this rlly simplifies things, genuinely thankyou!
People have told me I'm a great conversationalist. And it's always the ones that speak the most and ask the least amt of questions. ❤
I wrote a goodbye letter to my older self and I feel somewhat heartbroken to leave a part of myself behind... but I did it and I feel one step closer to my goal! thank you a lot!
These videos give me so much food for thought that sometimes I have to pause, think and resume later!! Thank you!
I think I found this channel at a very useful time in my life. As im just starting my first job. And these tips have been invaluable.
Incredible content, really. Right now, all the comments are about people starting to change. I truly hope that in a few years we will have comments coming back to these videos with their progress and achievements. Keep up the good work
You’re amazing man, I first felt you were inspired from “easy, actually” but you’re unique and provide excellent content, Thanks this video helped me a lot
This is really useful, it compiles a lot of good advice into one video. Very comprehensive and simply conveyed! Thank you!
Brooo ... another video that actually helps? Thank you so much!
I think it’s important to mention that normal social anxiety is very different from having an actual social anxiety disorder. But I just want to say that if you do feel exceptionally disabled by social anxiety, it will get easier!
Yes unfortunately the only way to get better at socializing is to practice which might make it feel impossible sometimes. But all you have to do is one baby step at a time. Use your ability to listen and observe, and curiosity about people as strengths. Speaking from personal experience, you got this!
Great video thanks :)
Watching this video made me appreciate that despite coming to understand some of the mechanisms you mentioned naturally, there's still so much potential room to grow! To me, these techniques are a way to get my wanting to develop a deeper connection across in a manner that's comfortable for both sides!
Thanks for sharing this insight, I'll definitely come back to watch this again in the future!
This guy is new and amazing!!!! Please keep going. I promise you will be able to make a living from these videos. Also if you truly enjoy it even better. I think you found your purpose in life
19:42 ngl i started getting really overwhelmed by group dynamics after taking mushrooms, it’s crazy how much they play into what’s socially acceptable at any given moment
I listened to most of this while driving, then caught a glimpse of the video while stopped at a stop sign.
I’m going to have to watch it again just for the visuals.
I didn’t know it was possible for stick figures to convey so much emotion! 😁❤
The content breakdown and the practical applicable actions given as examples are so simple. Great video and very well put together. This will help a lot of people understand socializing and break through their walls.
Another masterclass. Where has this channel been all my life? 😊
Bro your content is fire ,,I have watched all and I can't wait for more .. please upload more often....
love you bro we really need more of you in this digital space
Idk what’s in the video but I needed this video
A lot of people in these comments aren't appreciating this video as it is, and I'd really like to combat that. This video is truly a very helpful and informative lesson in how to improve social skills, and I'm very thankful for Productive Peter's advice. It's also reassuring to people like me, who didn't understand that taking breaks from social interactions in the beginning can help a person build their social battery back. Thank you for this video, and keep up the good work!
“Context banking” becomes “contact spanking” in my head. Now there’s a conversation starter.
Contact Spankings 😂- Metaphorically … could be associated with “Context Banking” by way of addressing your anxiety, or assumptions about yourself or others that reinforce anxiety. 🎉
this was the perfect length for a league game. thx stranger :D
I love this channel so much 😭
I keep running away from working hard.I don't know what's gotten into me. I was once a very bright student but I can see my potential getting dull. Please make a video about that Peter.
I think you already know what you need to do.
I think you're burnt out
Think of who you were when you were a bright student. What habits did you have? What inspired you? What WEREN'T you doing that you're doing now? Truly think about those things. Then, the hard part (yes it's actually hard to do), is make the change. Flex it. Do it. Over and over. Fail. Then fail again. But keep driving and trying. It's like going to the gym. Be the person you want to be.
As a curious person I really desire to listen to people & their stories yet the constant, uncontrollable spinning thoughts, likely from ADD, make it a constant battle to focus on what others are saying & to stop talking long enough to actually hear them. I end up having to concentrate so hard that I don't retain what they said anyway & then internalize shame & embarrassment because I couldn't control that outcome whatsoever. In the end it makes social interactions draining for both sides & the shame amps up social anxiety therefore leading to less social interactions & ultimately a loss of social skills. The less social interactions mean I end up info dumping when I do have them. Meds don't help me listen but can slow me down noticeably then people react negatively because I'm not my bubbly, talkative self.. it's a lifelong struggle with no end in sight. Anybody out there have a video on that?
I think I can do this well once "I'm in" but for me the "starting things out" part is the sticking point. I have no clue how, when and where can I start a conversation, I go in a coffee shop for example, but I just drink my coffee, and no one seems to talk to anyone they don't know, so nothing interesting ever happens.
FACTSS SAME!!!
You have to make that spark, you are the person who needs to approach, most people are "NPC" they go on their mundane life and are ok with being boring, you are not. Have the mentality that everyone is your friend until they are not.
I dont want people to like me.
I just want to like myself.
So, you have to: actively listen, try to be curious about things that you don't really care about, practice regularly and put yourself into certain situations, theorize about every person's alter-egos and public perceptions, notice patterns and pick threads in conversations, memorize and store important facts to use later, align your body language and intonation, keep track of changes of your correspondent's body language/ voice tone, keep track of contexts established in previous conversations, share vulnerabilities strategically, create situations with shared experiences, understand all the social contexts you're in, analyse group dynamics and understand the roles of people involved in a group, moderate the group to ensure everyone's involvement, establish boundaries and respect the others' boundaries, understand the underlying psychological mechanisms... and all of that is supposed to be 'NATURAL'!)
I found the topic and your way of explaining it helpful. Thx
Thank you! I will use this knowledge from now on in my interactions!
"Most importantly it means you're not alone." I'm immune to social anxiety. I haven't touched another human being in 2 months.
So don't be yourself. Be calculating and manipulative. Got it.
Somehow you manage to take the worst interpretation ever
It's called change. It is why you clicked on the video.
“THIS ISNT MANIPULATING ITS Amplifying you natural connection ability”
All communication is a form of "manipulation", but that does not mean it is inherently self-centered or harmful to others. I think learning communication methods like these are just a means of expressing yourself in a more intentional way.
If being yourself isn’t working…
Your words and insights are social gold!
Being this early feels criminal
Just as long as you keep it to TH-cam videos and not in the bed, you’ll be fine
You are actually good sir you don't need to copy someone (easy actually )
You are fantastic narrator speaker thank you for your wonderful job keep it going 🙌🏻
Your videos remind me of Old TH-cam and I’m here for it 🙌🏼
Luv u bud, thanks for all
Incredible video! Keep at it!
Wow, that’s dense! I’ll need to watch it many times 😅Thanks!
No wonder dexter is so good at it
My take on the 70-30 rule is that you should not be applying it at all times, you need to sprak too and for building deeper connections, both sides have to open up and speak about themselves at some point
I don't think this is what you mean but I just seen "i need to talk about myself" when I read your comment.
This makes me brain feel cuteness. How do you post this when so many people don't know it (and are you afraid of people saying it's bogus). Posting videos takes courage....
In current society is different situations. Average people have enormous fears before stronger individually who isolated. They are profylacticly neutralized them by psychopharmacs on the level of crazies,like narcodealers who make similarly debilitated people like they are under influence and of neuradelictics.
So much about this you us
Craft
Care
Help
Beauty
Everybody
Thank you for sharing
Thank you! What a great Video ❤
I fucking love this content thank you for your work!
i wish if you could make a video on how to tame "anxiety/nervousnes" that each time restricts one from reaching full potential
Thank you for the video. It was great.
Amazingly done... ❤❤
This is great! ❤❤❤
I’m really good at listening to people, mirroring people talking to people the problem comes whenever I ask and ask but they never ask anything back to me and I don’t know if I should include myself in the conversation who knows maybe they not good at asking questions, or should I just talk about them because maybe they are not interested in my life and that’s why they don’t ask 🤔🤔🤔
Unfortunately you right: they are not interested in your life. If all they do is talk about themselves you may want to find other people to make friends with.
Still don't offer up details about yourself, wait for them to ask :)
@ thanks for your reply and yes I guess is just about finding the right people to create connections with
Wow i do everything and more already without knowing. I guess i have finally build some social muscles
This page has to blow up
if someone would socialize like this with me, id immediately disdain them
yo thanks for this video its useful
Being is social is directly proportional to your perceived status as people tend to ostracise low ranking individuals being unattractive physically and low status I e being poor or a junior.
There’s a misconception about the social anxiety part of the video, many brain types don’t experience social anxiety or even anxiety as a whole in some cases. And it was normal before the Information Age that the majority of people weren’t nearly as debilitated by their social anxiety.
Man.. Processing from listening isn't to get ready for your return, but to understand meaning
Being social is easy, just don’t be born ugly.
😂
As a software developer with trust issues that used to be an exceptional conversationalist but has, in recent years, completely lost his touch, I thank you for this.
Where do you get the information to make your videos? Are they from books? If so, can you recommend them to me?
I just get burnout very quickly. After about 10 minutes of being charming, I lose all of my energy to be there.
That's normal, I spend that energy periodically cause it feels more natural
Consider me charmed.
That probably means it’s too much for you. You’re goin 100% for 10 minutes but if you build it up 10 to 20 to 30 you’d last longer. Same thing with weights: progressive overload.
@3rdEyeZay I will try that next time.
See, i went from Reels (being in solitude,) to actual film. I wasn't used to peopling anymore. Maintaining my public face is much harder than it used to be.
keep going bro
Easier said then done. I don't care that much about other people. I often ask questions because I'm empathetic. As you said, people like to talk about themselves. Caring about what they say is a whole other mountain to climb
That means you're not listening. Practice that.
You say you're emoathetic but don't care about what they have to say. That's not being empathetic.
@@TitaniusAnglesmith it is tho. I'm just not interested in what people say cause I rarely find anything interesting.
@@MII2o90 Bro this is like saying "I'm a wine lover, just I don't usually love wine."
@@TitaniusAnglesmith how come? I give people a chance but I have peticular interests which rarely align with anyone
Is there a bibliography/references somewhere?
There's clearly lots of things he's read to write this but I can't see them cited anywhere?
This is gold.
I need more reps. Such a rough feeling having your social battery run out less than 20 minutes into an event.
I am greatful to this channel👍👏💗
I love the tips in this video but they feel more suited for one on one engagements. I recently started talking to people again over the phone through texts but I find it very lacking. You can't really tell if there's a genuine connection, read body language or even know if you have the other persons attention. This is especially true when talking with the opposite sex and planning a date without really getting to know them can be taken as you just lusting over them meanwhile you have pure intentions
Maybe I'm just terrrible at it and need to get better but do you have any tips for this?
I think it’s funny how easy it is to comment on TH-cam or any social media platform and say anything without a second thought but when it’s in person a lot of us shut down because of our social anxiety. All the other comments know exactly what I mean😂
I haven't yet watched. But right now I am in love with somebody I barely know and I hope this video helps with becoming more social and maybe even win her over (she's like perfect where I am in my Doomer to Gloomer stage)
Your not in love with HER. Your in love with how she looks and your idea of her. This is low value because you don't even know her and are putting her on a pedestal. You most likely will never date her because of this. Get to know her first and then decide if you "love" her .
@@ladev91 Yes, probably... but the thing is... she even has a Spotify song online. And it's the most beautiful voice ever. And the song itself is the most beautiful. And the feelings this produces ... butterflies in my whole body and beyond and I can't think of anything else and get all emotional and happy and sad and... then call it love.
@@ladev91 Also I had the feeling the kinda likes me or rather... wants me to like her (it's probably her personality) but she is so super cute and the most perfect you could imagine. It's like Aladin and Jasmine. Really comparable.
@@ladev91 sorry to spam you... you're actually the first person I talk about this :D I wanted to add: I recently learned about C.G. Jung Shadowwork stuff ... and it said that if your subconscious is giving you this hint / alarm - and always puts her back into your mind, it means it's something super important. Well, yeah... I'd say so too! :D
Dude just don't. If your aren't good friends with someone it is not worth your time to invest so much emotion into it, and you're definitely not in love. It's just attraction. I know it can seem like a heavy emotion, especially If you're like me and rarely get attracted to people/only get attracted to people you are friends with already, but take a moment to collect yourself and be rational.
LOL. LOVE the animation (and the content)!
After learning a lot about social skills, I think I'd rather not waste so much time trying to connect and "relate" to other people. Having less interaction seems better, just my opinion.
Amazing, thank you!
Love your video, please keep making valuable content like this, you dont know they would accidentally change a person's life
Content so good, made my pants drop
Amazing video....!
"Pacifically"??? 3:07 Is this an AI voice over?
He’s targeting west coasters
@@lkthangin lol
AI isn't advanced enough to do that yet.
My social anxiety stems from me being FORCED to care what the other people are interested in, talking about, feeling. I dont care, thats the problem.
i feel that. it's hard to find meaning in socializing when people you meet don't talk about anything that you value
Indeed, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" highlights that to befriend anyone, we should consider listening to what the other person has to say. It has been proven that allowing people to talk about themselves is effective when you're trying to gain their favor.
Personally, I find it draining to listen to people when you genuinely don't care. This often leads to fake responses and a lack of authenticity.
It’s not manipulation it’s putting in the effort. I thought it was manipulation at some point too. It’s like any skill it is a skill to learn. Like anything you need to take breaks and take your time. It’s like teaching you how to invest in the stock market lol.
Me being in the nursing field and the man woman ratios are beyond unbalanced my professor uses me for a lot of examples i have so much anxiety 😓
This is overpowered
How to get rid of worrying about father and sisters living away from there ? 😔
How can I collaborate with you on these videos? I feel like you make videos about all the things I'm already thinking about. The Strategic Thinking video was spot on and I've been having all those thoughts for months. It's as if you read my mind and put it into video form.
Us bro us
Have you looked into Reality Transurfing as well?
I hate when advice is like "Yeah so just like let it happen naturally, just naturally sync with the other person, youknow unless your autistic and this is litturally the most unatural thing ever then just fake I guess"
what book is this based on
No, thank you, I'm great!
Kids, just go to social interaction high. Have a few shots of vodka.. Or a few pints of beer.
Social anxiety will run away. 😂😂.
But at what cost?
Thank you❤
Thank you 😭
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what if I’m autistic?
Personally I gave up. Too much anxiety and stress. And for nothing. Special interests mean more to me in the end.
I truly think your videos are precious and packed with valuable knowledge. I've tried my best to absorb them but have found myself hard to focus and able to retain very little info. I don't know how but I hope that you can somehow deliver your knowledge in an even more captivating way for people like me. (I can only come up with an example of arrange the knowledge into a plot of a coherent story.) Thank you🫡
does this work neurodivergency aswell
I like the idea of your vid. I am glad it exists. But there is so much asterisks to be added... First of all, you frame it as advice for normal people. But the thing is, most normal people are normally socialized and don't experience any issues you list. This is like teaching ducks to quack.They know how to quack unless their beak is deformed or something...
I have psychopathic tendencies - I just don't have neural circuits tat do empathy and compassion. No matter how well spoken, eloquent and interesting of a person I am - anyone worth actually talking to will notice I am really strange and will either avoid or counter-psychopath with me :D