Omg I don’t have a porn addiction, so I usually skip these kinds of vids when they drop, but I watched because I do have some other addictive behaviors and I thought there might be some applicable takeaways, and I’m SO glad I clicked! That last two minutes was so, like, cleansing for me! I don’t remember the last time I felt so regulated emotionally. Thank you! You really need to do that for a broader addiction/bad habit video because I think it could be helpful to so many more people.
I’m 4 days clean after a decade of near daily use. I’m not going to lie, even just hearing you speak on the topic of porn was causing urges to surface. The “riding the urge” at the end was particularly rough. But, I appreciate you taking the time and effort to speak on this topic that so many others deem too taboo. I hope anyone else struggling with their own battle who is reading this knows that you’re not in this fight alone. We are all just trying to make our lives better in this very weird world.
Guys, since I dont have anybody in my life to talk about it, I wanna share it with you: im clean since April. No wanking my junk, no porn, nothing. Sometimes was rough, sometimes I wanna give up, but I stayed strong. And to be honest, im less depressed, more focused, motivated, but what most important: disciplined.
@@goodoldgrim Yes. A lot. It probably its only my subjective experience, but i found that there is corelation between my depression episodes and masturbation. When i was doing it 3-4 times a week I was more depressed and angry and unmotivated to the point, that my activites was reduced to sleep, scrolling through yt and working. Now its better. And I know its not good for my prostate, but I reather have problem with this than going back.
@@mrp8171 The prostate thing is unclear whether it's actually helped by ejaculation or healthier men just tend to ejaculate more statistically. If it's making your life better, you're doing fine.
The most painful part of this addiction is that you can feel yourself not enjoying the things you loved once and it feels like you are dying from within. I wish good luck to all my brothers and sisters and hope we can finally make it after countless relapses . Love y'all ❤
Oh absolutely, i actually think the worst part is how it causes you constantly seek out more depraved content so that you can satisfy that addictive itch. Normal porn stops working and you end up a hollow shell that feels nothing but shame and guilt. It eats away at your consciousness until you either numb yourself or you start recognizing that you need to stop. I've been in both camps and i honestly wish i had been born asexual so that i would never have ended up in this situation.
I completely understand what he is referring to about building up negative emotions. I’ve been a functional addict for the majority of my life (12-28), and the second there is some quiet and time for introspection I want to blow my brains out because I am drenched in a wave of all of my greatest mistakes and fears.
A really awesome thing is to feel the feelings and if possible detach from the story about it (a type of meditation which is great because u find out how the "emotions" are ultimately a bunch of feelings in the body plus some thoughts/ stories about your life which you can decide to learn from and move on or throw out as BS/ wrong conclusions entirely)
You will make it through, of this there is no doubt. Be kind to yourself during this time, but also afterward. You may not perform as well in your daily tasks as you feel you aught to have; there’s no shame in that. You will conduct yourself as best you can in every moment and that’s all anyone can reasonably ask of you
I would never in a million years suggest something along the lines of Sudafed 12hr from the local rite aid to get through painful periods when one cannot access their prescribed medication.
Idk how Dr. Ks timing is always so freaking godly. Been a long time fan of HGG and last week I finally admitted to my therapist that I’ve been addicted for over 5. Years…. The shame it bright was enough for me to fucken start doing something about it . Starting reading the easy peasy method , then the freedom method, but with this drop! I know it’ll seal the deal!
Quitting for me decreased my social anxiety significantly. Like with everyone, men, women, I experience results and am more friendly and open, getting better looks from people. I had no idea this would happen but it really did
This is a genius strategy. I think suntzu once said " the best way to defeat your enemy is to become him" gooning to videos telling you how to stop is truly revolutionary
i think yours is the 1st honest definition of porn addition i've ever seen. Normally its loosely defined as "ever" to 'x times a month" with greater than 1 being an addict & from research usually funded by christian groups & also how porn has evolved from some online videos to online communities of onlyfans performers with huge social outreach. for me porn is "keeping me in the game" otherwise my sex drive is in the dumpster when im single. also... 1> reminds me what is out there, 2> stops my mind thinking of previous partners. my worst addictions ive ever had to deal with was the mobile phone, social media & eating rubbish food. mobile phone apps with alerts were the worst sucking me in each time. eating - i cant do just one biscuit - its always the whole packet. so i make a bucket of salad for the week packed full of veg to meal / snack on during the week so i dont relapse.. . my last problem is youtube. youtube is the hardest. its literally fentonyl for adhd'ers. any subject any time for hours.
If you make a new gmail account, you can set youtube settings to never remember your history and never recommend you anything on the homepage. That way you'll only ever get recommendations if you're watching a video. But you'll have to search for a video first. Personally I found it helped cut down my time on TH-cam a lot. I'd open the homepage, nothing would be there, and I'd just as quickly end up closing it again.
Awesome video! The last minutes were nice, too. Although, since I know I'm struggling with my phone usage and attention spans, I know my 'urge' is usually to pick up my phone, but I was already avoiding that since the beginning of the video, so I just stared at you
'to do something you are proud of' could also be finding something you can share with someone else - finding pride in an activity can be hard if you are tripping all over the place at the start.
Dr. K, can you please elaborate a bit more on restricting your usage to specific times of the day (21:15)? In your video "Why You Shouldn't Resist Watching Pr*n," you explained restricting use to specific times of the day to make it easier to resist outside those windows, but what do you do when the window arrives? If you experience a craving during the scheduled time, should you first try to overcome the craving before allowing yourself to engage in usage? For example, if you experience a burst of anxiety (like from failing a class) that sends your emotions spiralling during the scheduled time, should you first try to overcome the craving by regulating your emotions and urge surfing before you give yourself the option to use pornography? Or should you give in immediately and use it because it's during your scheduled time? Does the allocated time mean that if you were to resist your craving and fail, it's okay as long as it occurred during the allocated time? Is the allocated time just a window where you are allowed to fail?
It's more about what happens outside of the allocated time. As long as you are productive outside that time, your brain will reinforce that productive you and will make you less likely to seek relief through porn when you are already fulfilled. That's why you shouldn't do it in the morning because it'll fuck you for the whole day.
tldr; yes if you allocate 1200 to 1300 and 1900 to 2000, you should only done the deed at that designated time, otherwise don't even when the urge really strong if you don't feel any urge at the allocated time, you can choose to still do it or not, but if you must be ready if the urge come outside the time. easier said than done, but I've done it, failed many times for the first 50 days but I can do it after that
I have been browsing through your videos recently and i quite loved this one. I’ve been struggling with gaming end screen addictions over the past years but now i’m trying to restrain myself. These dopamine concepts helped me understand some mechanisms i have been using all this time to shut my emotions down and i’ll try to cover those weaknesses. I’ll stick to your channel since i’m preparing for psychiatry residency so i can see some of mental health views, suscribed 👍🏾
Ive seen the whole ''non-inflammatory' diet'' thing to be a recurrent advice in many videos, even those tackling depression etc. What constitute inflammatory foods and non inflammatory ones? There are lots of contradictions when searching it up online. Dr K, could you make maybe an Ayurvedic style video on diet, especially non inflammatory diets please? Any tips from anyone who've read this are also greatly appreciated.
I had a sex relationship, where the sex was so extrem and the dopamine rush was absolutely gigantic. After 2 years i am still addicted to these memorys because i forgot about everything in life, it covers up EVERY topic. As the doc said. Thx for this video. REALLY !!!
Before I watch this I'm going to say my answer to this "How to..." is to get a woman that actually wants to have sex with you. It's better than any video or picture. but I say that as a lonely man that has been feening for physical affection for over 6 years. I can barely remember how it feels but the hug I can remember the most happened when I turned 14 on my birthday in highschool. I'm now 26 and I hope the girl that hugged me on that day is doing fine. I will never forget that hug. It's gotten me through a lot of shit. If you happen to see this, Thank you Jennifer Perez. There are too many people online with that same name so I can't even find you, but thank you. My only regret is that I didn't reciprocate. I just one armed it like an idiot tryna "be cool". I'm never doing that again. ^that's a warning to whoever hugs me next. 1minute minimum.
Striving for real happiness naturally phases out addictions. If you aim for happiness and become a really really happy healthy person, you don't like the feeling of addictions anymore and they naturally and effortlessly go away because you feel how gross they make you feel. The same with unwanted personality traits like negative thinking and procrastination
Seconded, I have an internal monolgue and im super curious about that as well. I'll ask in the topics section on circles for you if you don't have the hg membership.
You lost me in the first sentence. I do not strive for connection and do not feel lonely. I am enough to feel complete. I'm 50yr old autistic who was married for 20 years. I've dated after marriage and I'll stick to porn, thanks. Connection with my adult children and a dog are all the connection I want.
@@DizGaAlcamHe’s not himself urge surfing, so he has to know when to start talking again. I’m on premium so I get no ads but that is annoying if true I agree but regardless I think it’s a good point
I will admit I have an addiction. Acting upon it makes me physically feel terrible, then the next morning I have a "brain fog" that lasts for awhile. Keeping a notepad and writing in it before bed and after I wake up has resulted in my longest streak of not acting upon the impulse.
Dr. K, I'll have you know that during the urge-surfing exercise my work phone's group chat started blowing the hell up because I had it off all day until just now. I thought you put phone vibrating sounds in the video to fuck with us, lmao.
explains why the fist time a girl asked me about my past i involuntarily just started crying when i thought about it. Then i ended up alone because being sad is unattractive. Im not special in this regard but man that's just kinda heavy to swallow sometimes.
im in withdraw for 34 days, i cannot say how much Dr. K's videos about addiction helped me, this video also helps me stay commited and be happy that this try is my best so far
Ok so: -No eating lays -No goon sessions while eating lays -Eat healthier and maybe eat something green once in a while -Work out for like 15-30 mins once a week -When the urge to goon is there just sit there and think about it for 1 minute then move on Got it thanks doc
These kinda vods and gurus are the problem. This guy has made more than 500 vods about how to quit p0rn and some of them was titles "why you shouldn't quit the p0rn" :D
Does anyone else run into problems with socializing with other people your age once you've learned so much about psychology? How do you handle everyone around you not understanding addiction and dopamine as well as yourself? Or hearing them talk about it with incorrect information?
Hey... what are you doing here? If you're at the end of Dr. K's video, he said you're supposed to not do anything for 1-2 minutes and surf your urges! Get out of the comments section and go back up there! You can do this - I believe in you :)
What about the gateway from porn addiction to sex addiction? what do you do then? when your ability to form true connection is shut down because all you want from a relationship is sex?
I thought the title was "How to quit watching porn FOR 35 minutes" and thought "damn people are SERIOUSLY addicted if they can't even go an hour without it"
Oh and it's also awful if you have a high sex drive. PA is something i've probably struggled with since i was at least 10 or 11. I feel awful for all the stuff i've seen, i genuinely think that it fucked me up mentally. I was exposed to so many horrible fetishes and extreme nsfw content and it's made me miserable.
27:00 I just did a "speedrun" for almost 5 and a half hours and am now eating ice cream and a very sugary pie Thankfully I do also work out somewhat regularly these days and I feel like Ive earned today
I hope anyone who has porn addiction can beat it
Word choice is questionable should be to quit addiction or control to the point where it is not a problem
This is a deliberate attack. Well played.
@@williamspirralafton3143 i watch it once or twice a week and haven't had any problems
@@williamspirralafton3143 idk if I should r/whoosh you or if you are on some next level sarcasm here
As long as we just come together…
Omg I don’t have a porn addiction, so I usually skip these kinds of vids when they drop, but I watched because I do have some other addictive behaviors and I thought there might be some applicable takeaways, and I’m SO glad I clicked! That last two minutes was so, like, cleansing for me! I don’t remember the last time I felt so regulated emotionally. Thank you! You really need to do that for a broader addiction/bad habit video because I think it could be helpful to so many more people.
Same, I got sucked into the Marijuana video and took away so much. I was immediately intrigued when this popped up.
Wow. That part about dopamine reinforcing the activity AND limiting my ability to extract it from a different source changed my perspective completely
Same. I'm now like wtf - nicotine - wtf weed- wtf porn - wtf video games - wtf gambling --
yeah me too
I’m 4 days clean after a decade of near daily use. I’m not going to lie, even just hearing you speak on the topic of porn was causing urges to surface. The “riding the urge” at the end was particularly rough. But, I appreciate you taking the time and effort to speak on this topic that so many others deem too taboo. I hope anyone else struggling with their own battle who is reading this knows that you’re not in this fight alone. We are all just trying to make our lives better in this very weird world.
Go, you bud. May I join?
It only takes five minutes for me doc.
then you can call it a minor issue i think😅
Less than a minute for me 💀
@@rubyciide5542 💀
Rookie numbers, I last a second. Don't even get to the porn
I don't even get through the ad pal
Loved the Dr. K eye contact simulator
Eye contact compilation
Guys, since I dont have anybody in my life to talk about it, I wanna share it with you: im clean since April. No wanking my junk, no porn, nothing. Sometimes was rough, sometimes I wanna give up, but I stayed strong. And to be honest, im less depressed, more focused, motivated, but what most important: disciplined.
Are you happier?
@@goodoldgrim Yes. A lot. It probably its only my subjective experience, but i found that there is corelation between my depression episodes and masturbation. When i was doing it 3-4 times a week I was more depressed and angry and unmotivated to the point, that my activites was reduced to sleep, scrolling through yt and working. Now its better. And I know its not good for my prostate, but I reather have problem with this than going back.
@@mrp8171 The prostate thing is unclear whether it's actually helped by ejaculation or healthier men just tend to ejaculate more statistically.
If it's making your life better, you're doing fine.
I'm 7 days in right now, wish me luck
Let's goo
This is what the opposite of clickbait is. Literally what the title is lol
wouldn’t the opposite be pleasedontclickbait ?
Click repellent @@gottabepablo
100th like!
@@gottabepablo that's just meta clickbait
The most painful part of this addiction is that you can feel yourself not enjoying the things you loved once and it feels like you are dying from within. I wish good luck to all my brothers and sisters and hope we can finally make it after countless relapses . Love y'all ❤
Oh absolutely, i actually think the worst part is how it causes you constantly seek out more depraved content so that you can satisfy that addictive itch. Normal porn stops working and you end up a hollow shell that feels nothing but shame and guilt. It eats away at your consciousness until you either numb yourself or you start recognizing that you need to stop. I've been in both camps and i honestly wish i had been born asexual so that i would never have ended up in this situation.
dr.k is inside me at this point
no not like that like omnipresence like god is inside you 😭
🧐
Cease
huh
You wild af lmao
I completely understand what he is referring to about building up negative emotions. I’ve been a functional addict for the majority of my life (12-28), and the second there is some quiet and time for introspection I want to blow my brains out because I am drenched in a wave of all of my greatest mistakes and fears.
A really awesome thing is to feel the feelings and if possible detach from the story about it (a type of meditation which is great because u find out how the "emotions" are ultimately a bunch of feelings in the body plus some thoughts/ stories about your life which you can decide to learn from and move on or throw out as BS/ wrong conclusions entirely)
watching each video of Dr K is like micro learning how to become concious and the best version of yourself thankyou for that Doc !
I’m about to run out of Aderall tomorrow for 18 days yall. Wish me luck it’ll be my first withdrawal 🍀 😕😕
Good luck, mate. Stay strong! 🫡
Good luck friend! It's okay to feel slower or down. I recommend mindfulness to help a bit. You got this
Go for it dude! It’ll probably take a bit to get used to it but you’ll do great!
You will make it through, of this there is no doubt. Be kind to yourself during this time, but also afterward. You may not perform as well in your daily tasks as you feel you aught to have; there’s no shame in that. You will conduct yourself as best you can in every moment and that’s all anyone can reasonably ask of you
I would never in a million years suggest something along the lines of Sudafed 12hr from the local rite aid to get through painful periods when one cannot access their prescribed medication.
Idk how Dr. Ks timing is always so freaking godly. Been a long time fan of HGG and last week I finally admitted to my therapist that I’ve been addicted for over 5. Years…. The shame it bright was enough for me to fucken start doing something about it . Starting reading the easy peasy method , then the freedom method, but with this drop! I know it’ll seal the deal!
how am i supposed to quit when such a sexy man is talking about it
Quitting for me decreased my social anxiety significantly. Like with everyone, men, women, I experience results and am more friendly and open, getting better looks from people. I had no idea this would happen but it really did
Just gooned to this thanks!
This is a genius strategy. I think suntzu once said " the best way to defeat your enemy is to become him" gooning to videos telling you how to stop is truly revolutionary
Too many sweats
LMAO
18:15 Dr K. with the Tate impression LOL. Never change Dr. K
💲💲💲💲💲💲💲
Dr. K is such a legend. Thank you for everything you're doing
Ive been struggling with this lately, thank you.
i think yours is the 1st honest definition of porn addition i've ever seen. Normally its loosely defined as "ever" to 'x times a month" with greater than 1 being an addict & from research usually funded by christian groups & also how porn has evolved from some online videos to online communities of onlyfans performers with huge social outreach.
for me porn is "keeping me in the game" otherwise my sex drive is in the dumpster when im single. also... 1> reminds me what is out there, 2> stops my mind thinking of previous partners.
my worst addictions ive ever had to deal with was the mobile phone, social media & eating rubbish food. mobile phone apps with alerts were the worst sucking me in each time. eating - i cant do just one biscuit - its always the whole packet. so i make a bucket of salad for the week packed full of veg to meal / snack on during the week so i dont relapse.. . my last problem is youtube. youtube is the hardest. its literally fentonyl for adhd'ers. any subject any time for hours.
If you make a new gmail account, you can set youtube settings to never remember your history and never recommend you anything on the homepage. That way you'll only ever get recommendations if you're watching a video. But you'll have to search for a video first. Personally I found it helped cut down my time on TH-cam a lot. I'd open the homepage, nothing would be there, and I'd just as quickly end up closing it again.
Awesome video! The last minutes were nice, too. Although, since I know I'm struggling with my phone usage and attention spans, I know my 'urge' is usually to pick up my phone, but I was already avoiding that since the beginning of the video, so I just stared at you
'to do something you are proud of' could also be finding something you can share with someone else - finding pride in an activity can be hard if you are tripping all over the place at the start.
"Hey, it's me Goku! I heard your addiction is really strong! Lemme fight it!"
Dr. K, can you please elaborate a bit more on restricting your usage to specific times of the day (21:15)? In your video "Why You Shouldn't Resist Watching Pr*n," you explained restricting use to specific times of the day to make it easier to resist outside those windows, but what do you do when the window arrives?
If you experience a craving during the scheduled time, should you first try to overcome the craving before allowing yourself to engage in usage? For example, if you experience a burst of anxiety (like from failing a class) that sends your emotions spiralling during the scheduled time, should you first try to overcome the craving by regulating your emotions and urge surfing before you give yourself the option to use pornography? Or should you give in immediately and use it because it's during your scheduled time?
Does the allocated time mean that if you were to resist your craving and fail, it's okay as long as it occurred during the allocated time? Is the allocated time just a window where you are allowed to fail?
It's more about what happens outside of the allocated time. As long as you are productive outside that time, your brain will reinforce that productive you and will make you less likely to seek relief through porn when you are already fulfilled. That's why you shouldn't do it in the morning because it'll fuck you for the whole day.
tldr; yes
if you allocate 1200 to 1300 and 1900 to 2000, you should only done the deed at that designated time, otherwise don't even when the urge really strong
if you don't feel any urge at the allocated time, you can choose to still do it or not, but if you must be ready if the urge come outside the time.
easier said than done, but I've done it, failed many times for the first 50 days but I can do it after that
renunciation of stimulus is good advice. mahamudra is also an underrated physiological technique for abstinence
Dr K you are a genius for placing that lower third there, I completely did not resist that urge to check it out. you got me.
I have been browsing through your videos recently and i quite loved this one. I’ve been struggling with gaming end screen addictions over the past years but now i’m trying to restrain myself. These dopamine concepts helped me understand some mechanisms i have been using all this time to shut my emotions down and i’ll try to cover those weaknesses. I’ll stick to your channel since i’m preparing for psychiatry residency so i can see some of mental health views, suscribed 👍🏾
Ive seen the whole ''non-inflammatory' diet'' thing to be a recurrent advice in many videos, even those tackling depression etc. What constitute inflammatory foods and non inflammatory ones? There are lots of contradictions when searching it up online. Dr K, could you make maybe an Ayurvedic style video on diet, especially non inflammatory diets please? Any tips from anyone who've read this are also greatly appreciated.
Ha ez, I usually quit after 30 seconds…..
Then come back 30 minutes later.
especially when bored...
If only the problem could be fully solved in 35 minutes
There's no better time then to start now :3
I don't watch corn but this video is something to listen to and learn
I'm sorry Dr. K I don't think the moment of silent worked as I was playing NASCAR THUNDER 2004 for the Playstation 2 while listening to this video.
I had a sex relationship, where the sex was so extrem and the dopamine rush was absolutely gigantic. After 2 years i am still addicted to these memorys because i forgot about everything in life, it covers up EVERY topic.
As the doc said. Thx for this video. REALLY !!!
A great video; I'm not porn-addicted but this was very informative non-the-less.You're doing god's work, Dr. K. Keep it up.
Better days will come young person do not worry
this video made me realize that i actually dont have a p0rn addiction
people just throw the term around at anything these days. its almost never addiction
@@cnut7383 but it IS an unhealthy and destructive behaviour. we all owe it to ourselves to not use it
Try to stop. If you can't quit you're addicted.
Go one month without it
Maybe the wording is "I dont only have...", because I probably feel the same
i need a hour long video of dr.k just sitting and staring at me. Really started to think about things even after a min.
The incense burning in the background makes the video shockingly cozy.
This is way too real, man. I've been blindly stumbling through this process.
Dr. K is a madlad for dropping this over halfway through No Nut November
Before I watch this I'm going to say my answer to this "How to..." is to get a woman that actually wants to have sex with you. It's better than any video or picture.
but I say that as a lonely man that has been feening for physical affection for over 6 years. I can barely remember how it feels but the hug I can remember the most happened when I turned 14 on my birthday in highschool. I'm now 26 and I hope the girl that hugged me on that day is doing fine. I will never forget that hug. It's gotten me through a lot of shit.
If you happen to see this, Thank you Jennifer Perez. There are too many people online with that same name so I can't even find you, but thank you. My only regret is that I didn't reciprocate. I just one armed it like an idiot tryna "be cool".
I'm never doing that again.
^that's a warning to whoever hugs me next. 1minute minimum.
i can concur as someone who had romantic interactions for the first time very recently (like a month ago) I didn't even want to jerk off anymore.
@@Mr.YasQueen sounds like some wacky generalizations and saying Dr k might not care is pretty wacky
What an honor to be here this early. Topic unrelated.
I have never seen a cheekier smile from Dr K in that silence section 😂, lots of useful tips here
1:19 I understand it now
wow you had my attention the most when we had our staring contest
Striving for real happiness naturally phases out addictions. If you aim for happiness and become a really really happy healthy person, you don't like the feeling of addictions anymore and they naturally and effortlessly go away because you feel how gross they make you feel. The same with unwanted personality traits like negative thinking and procrastination
Dr K knows exactly what's going to happen to us next week. This man has the timing of tutorial hints.
Urge Surfing was amazing, thanks a lot!!! (Dr.K kept making me laff throughout the urge surfing though :P )
Let's fight this addiction lads. Christ is King!
Good luck 🙂
Dr K please make a video on internal monologue. It's annoying & apparently some people don't have it!
Seconded, I have an internal monolgue and im super curious about that as well. I'll ask in the topics section on circles for you if you don't have the hg membership.
Please do, my therapist is trying his best to help me with it but sometimes i confuse that voice with identity and it keeps me stuck bad.@jdatin770
That'd be great! Please do so :)
I talk to myself too hell even have rants or just collect my thoughts as well. you're definitely not alone there
You lost me in the first sentence. I do not strive for connection and do not feel lonely. I am enough to feel complete. I'm 50yr old autistic who was married for 20 years. I've dated after marriage and I'll stick to porn, thanks. Connection with my adult children and a dog are all the connection I want.
Just curious, do you watch this channel for other reasons or did you just stumble on this vid?
@paradise745 I'm subscribed
I was able to reduce my time down to 30 minutes, thanks doc!
18:17 lmfa😂
Seriously didn't expected this out of nowhere
so on point!!
can't believe the instant AD after you said ready, set, go at 32:43
caught u lacking looking at the clock multiple times to see if time's up, should've just been riding the wave right?
@@DizGaAlcamHe’s not himself urge surfing, so he has to know when to start talking again. I’m on premium so I get no ads but that is annoying if true I agree but regardless I think it’s a good point
An ad played right after the start of the urge surfing part. Would've been hell if I was participating
Dr. K is out here saving people from demolishing their wee wee's. This man is a national treasure.
The last part proves that we need a Dr. K ASMR stream one day
Starting today, wish me luck! :)
ahh, the master of unlocking, himself. great video. thanks :)
32:40
thank you dr k. this 2 minutes calmed me down. awesome!
Can we get a 10hours version of "patience training" video, that 2 minutes was a piece of cake, upvote so he sees
I will admit I have an addiction.
Acting upon it makes me physically feel terrible, then the next morning I have a "brain fog" that lasts for awhile.
Keeping a notepad and writing in it before bed and after I wake up has resulted in my longest streak of not acting upon the impulse.
Dr. K, I'll have you know that during the urge-surfing exercise my work phone's group chat started blowing the hell up because I had it off all day until just now.
I thought you put phone vibrating sounds in the video to fuck with us, lmao.
Turn the meditation into a rolling short. Solid 60 seconds of eye contact
What a banger topic! This dude never disappoints.
I got an ad during the 60 seconds of silence part
Urge surfing great for retention
explains why the fist time a girl asked me about my past i involuntarily just started crying when i thought about it. Then i ended up alone because being sad is unattractive. Im not special in this regard but man that's just kinda heavy to swallow sometimes.
The “silence” period doesn’t work when an Ad shows up in between
Maybe that last moment should be marked to not have ads, because it appears TH-cam decided that is the best place to put ads
im in withdraw for 34 days, i cannot say how much Dr. K's videos about addiction helped me, this video also helps me stay commited and be happy that this try is my best so far
Ok so:
-No eating lays
-No goon sessions while eating lays
-Eat healthier and maybe eat something green once in a while
-Work out for like 15-30 mins once a week
-When the urge to goon is there just sit there and think about it for 1 minute then move on
Got it thanks doc
10:23 Wouldn't the opposite be true here? The first would be easier to resist due to no dopaminergic reinforcement prior?
Yes. I was just about to comment this. I think dr k accidentally said the opposite of what he meant to say.
2 mins of doing nothing? My maladaptive daydreaming can survive 1 hour and more
watched it at x2 speed because i am efficient (also dopamine deficient)
Thank you so much Dr. After watching a lot of your videos, my life improves so much better ❤️ ❤️
TH-cam doesnt like that silence at the end. It keeps sending me ads😂😂😂😂
These kinda vods and gurus are the problem. This guy has made more than 500 vods about how to quit p0rn and some of them was titles "why you shouldn't quit the p0rn" :D
Does anyone else run into problems with socializing with other people your age once you've learned so much about psychology? How do you handle everyone around you not understanding addiction and dopamine as well as yourself? Or hearing them talk about it with incorrect information?
Thanks, now i can watch it in just 10 minutes!
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Hey... what are you doing here? If you're at the end of Dr. K's video, he said you're supposed to not do anything for 1-2 minutes and surf your urges! Get out of the comments section and go back up there! You can do this - I believe in you :)
What about the gateway from porn addiction to sex addiction? what do you do then? when your ability to form true connection is shut down because all you want from a relationship is sex?
This give me the idea to make a channel just staring into the camera for 20 minutes.
Dr. K struggled with the urge surfing exercise just as much as I did 😂
32:44 instructions unclear, didn't blink for 2 minutes straight
I have no problem quitting porn in 35 minutes, it's around the second day I start to struggle.
The timing is insane....
We need to refer to the urge surfing term as urging!
lol. Had prawn up on my second monitor when this vid auto played on my primary.
"Ready... set.... go. ... ... ... And I forgot to start the timer."
**finishes video** Okay, 35 minutes starts.... now
Good luck
I dont want to be around men who watch porn because I only ever want to be seen for my personality and feelings
I thought the title was "How to quit watching porn FOR 35 minutes" and thought "damn people are SERIOUSLY addicted if they can't even go an hour without it"
THUS ONE CAME ALOK!!!!!
i feel ashamed that i've never had sex at my age.. i feel like a loser
Find hobbies to take pride in, physical activity is the greatest raiser for self-esteem.
You literally won't care at all if you got 1 and 2 down.
Oh and it's also awful if you have a high sex drive. PA is something i've probably struggled with since i was at least 10 or 11. I feel awful for all the stuff i've seen, i genuinely think that it fucked me up mentally. I was exposed to so many horrible fetishes and extreme nsfw content and it's made me miserable.
27:00 I just did a "speedrun" for almost 5 and a half hours and am now eating ice cream and a very sugary pie
Thankfully I do also work out somewhat regularly these days and I feel like Ive earned today
November timing. Largely impeccable, but definitely raining on parades.