I asked him for birthday party,he wrote will do something,and this smiley 😅. I was watching this video and I wrote leave it and immediately he texted no,will arrange something....god,m in love with a guy who has not propsed me and younger to me.....god knows if he will love me with my son or not..
Insecure men want to compete for women out of their reach to have a trophy to show to validate their insecurities. Dont fall for that kind of people, because they never get tired of the chase. If the man is healthy and confident, if you look for him, you will find him and he wont retract because you are showing him interest and love, he will show the same to you. But if you want insecure men that you are just a trophy to fill their ego, then look for guys like that. Stable people are looking for love, not playing games.
Your point does apply to certain men, but not all. If you compete for the best job you can get because you know it will make your life better, you don't call that man insecure and that he wants to show it off as a trophy.
@@SaveTheMessenger A woman is not an object nor a "job" and what says that a more difficult woman will make your life better? If a woman is really interested in you, she doesnt have to play hard to get, those are childish games. She just have to show she is interested, that doesnt mean you will take her to bed in 2 days, but at least you know she is interested.
@@raymondcampusano2991 Not all women are trophies either just because they're either young and beautiful or simply take care of themselves.. There's good and bad in everything...then there's e v i l and they're the one's we need to be educated about..
Wow! This is so true!👏👏👏👍👍👍 Every word is precious! Exactly! F*** them insecure motherf******! I'm going for a real man who loves me and knows what he wants, who's honest and adores me! Enough with games and waiting for the narcissist to have mercy on me and give me the crumb of his attention! Enough! Mister professor's gonna have to seduce another one of his students, until they fire him for seducing students.😂 I'm not playing this game anymore. 👍
I remember a man telling me that if I wanted to have a man attracted to me, then I should stay out of his sight. He said not to let the man that I wanted to see me. Be "unavailable". Let him guess what I am doing. I've used this strategy and this has been very good advice.
@jsthankfultoeat I think that it goes along with the idea of not allowing a man to believe that you will always be there. Like someone he can fall back on and take for granted. Not seeing you or talking to you, will make him wonder about what is going on in your life. It may make him think that he isn't the center of your life anymore and how he treated you. He may think of your positive attributes and how you would have been a good partner for him.
I'm sorry ladies but this only attracts players and only for a short time. So you want to live a life forever like this?! I'm happy married in a committed relationship since 5,5 years and my husband and me are together almost all the time and he can't stop pursuing me with affection. So please work on your standards and boundaries. That's what attracts the good and pulls off the bad guys. Back in the day I thought I had to be the perfect girlfriend and played also these mind games. As mentioned you'll only attract the players. It's a small amount of the deal that a men should think you're the prize (yes that should be the case) but not by playing games but instead of being who you are. Completely being yourself and loving yourself. I wouldn't allow any misbehaving by my husband or anybody else. I was the biggest people pleaser only because I graved love from outside. Today I have both. I finally love myself and have love of a man... Wish you all the best ❤️
You have inspired me to the point of finding my self respect. After watching your last video I completely felt so free and happy to break out of the cacoon I built for myself. I have been waiting for a guy for over two years and now I feel completely healed. i have deep feelings for him living for day he comes back. Now I don’t care. Your style of coaching really resonates with me. Thank you
Its so true... When i keep myself in my mind... Ignoring guys they chase me... When i reciprocate to their feelings caring or showing my feelings for them... The attraction get lost
In my opinion , people should be attached to themselves and no body else. It is great to love and be loved, but, Wise women want wise men , happy women want happy men !! Happiness is within ourselves do not look for it in somebody else ❤
Still need to ask ourselves how we feel around them, & do we like who we are in their company. If the union is confusing, frustrating, or hurtful more often than not, it's not the right fit. How long do we last in a pair of shoes that don't fit us properly ??? There's no difference between an ill fitting pair of shoe's and a relationship that hurts, because neither are sustainable!
The way I see it, if he loves you he’ll stay committed to you. Simple. No games involved,no bullshit. And the same goes for a woman if you love him you’ll stay committed no games,no bullshit. Simple
@@mariepetterson7281 why not simple? People shouldn’t have to play games or always having to prove themselves. Being with someone shouldn’t be difficult especially if she/he is the one. There should be a natural understanding between two people.
😂you are right man when i am focusing on my life,when i didnt care about him ,he chased me but then i started giving him attention now he is doest giving me any attention 😂😂 now he is dating another women
When on a date, a man says, "you must have a million guys after you, do you get a ton of dm's all the time?" Reply with a smile and say, "Ya you can get a lot of interest all the time but it's only once in awhile someone just stands out from the rest." Don't brag about messages, don't downplay the interest you get and never admit to not getting many date invites messages etc if that is the case. I have found men ask this ALL the time and it's only to get an understabding of their competition. Like he says, men need to feel this competition. Also, don't say only loosers contact you. That is a direct insult if he initiated the date.
The person who cares less will always have the most power. If you have to ask for love, it's not coming from the person it should. Always have your own bank account, and shut up about it, even when married. You may need a run fund. Don't move in with him. When he cheats, you'll be homeless. Don't be with a man who's looking for a servant/mommy he can sleep with. Don't get tied down by a baby unless you can support it alone.
Agree but you still sound a little bit harsh to be honest. My husband and me have a share account for household and both have our own accounts. He even helped me with etfs to have enough money when we retire one day (I'm 39 and he's 34). I was single most time of my life (started dating at 33). So I didn't trust anybody, especially not men due to my childhood. My parents had some demons like alcohol. My first attempts I failed big. But still don't think that all men are bad but yes secure yourself in case the partner goes banana... Also work on yourself. No other person will give you fulfillment. It's your job to be happy.
When I was in my twenties going out to parties I observed that most men noticed me and kept staring at me for a while, then they decided that they are not playing in my league and went for some "easy" chicks. It is pretty hard for intelligent, good looking and spiritual women to choose and pick a guy. No large selection there. 😬🐒
@@SaveTheMessenger The biggest surprise? Maybe that most women nowadays are more masculine than most men? I observe that women chase men, they just do everything to get noticed by men and they do everything for them. Men just lean back and enjoy their state of being chased low testosterone beta-males.😅 Why should they even work hard when everything is served on a silver plate to them? It all happened so quick, within one or two centuries.
Y'all don't get it. It's simply "if you love yourself, he'll love you" it's literally never the unhealthy games because everyone is obsessed with a person who's obsessed with herself/himself
@Nash_Aurora everyone has their own way to what healthy is. To me, is both wanting to invest and creating together. Not one healed and one not and the one who's not healed is a mess and can really damage emotions and it adds more pain to the other persons life. So if ppl are just hurting ppl it's not love. Love isn't hurting.
@uniquemay08 To be honest you're completely right yes. But everyone has their way of choosing someone. And some people maybe healthy but they still want to test some stuff before knowing who they're going to invest their time on
If he's able to take a person for granted, then he's not a good person to begin with is my opinion! Is he not aware that people are special in their own unique way?! That if worse comes to worse and the relationship DOES end up breaking apart, then eventually they'd be able to give their love and affection onto someone else who DOES appreciate that. ..In a way, a person who is not capable of loving someone or giving/sharing that love, is not someone who will ever understand their role in giving it! Sad but true. You can't force someone to love a beautiful sunset if they don't want to appreciate that.
I agree. The sad thing is while you guys are competing, so are we. We want the handsome guy that makes money because in the end, no matter who the guy is and what he looks like, or how much money he has, they are all the same. Ladies, do not settle. Let that sink in...
Is this why the men I'm not interested in won't leave me alone? Yet the ones who show interest and I show interest back basically make a u-turn. This is basically the same as men thinking we're just playing hard to get and that if we say we don't want them it means try harder... But my question is, does this mean chances of a woman getting a man she actually wants is slim because we would immediately reciprocate the interest? Because I recently had this happen to me. Met a guy, he showed interest, I was 'feeling' him out first because he was a total stranger to me, but the more I got to know him, the more interested I was and I showed it, only to then be told "I'm not looking for something serious at the moment", we stop talking as I respect his decision, only for him to try and chat me up a couple months later. Make it make sense, please.
They all say that because they want the benefits without having to sacrifice.. it’s like they have men’s summits and they all decide how they’re going to play and say to women.
i was in relationship with a man who left me for months ..reason not known...later came back into my life saying he knows my worth n that he needed by money (like an AH)...that moment i broke up with him....came home a cried a lot...but looking back that was the best decision I took...came become so much tough n can really see thru AH n good men ..I now just keep friendship with men...as men around me are good people as friend n they respect my space !
What if a man chased me for a while but when I choose MY professional goals instead of staying with him in this town with no perspective, he offended and falled back? Does that mean he was never that into me and all he wanted was not me but just any girl which would be “comfortable” for him?
New subscriber here. I'm surprised you don't have a million plus followers. Your videos are so thought provoking and insightful. Im really enjoying your content. Top quality. 👌
This is so interesting! I never heard another person talk about these things before, but it can explain a lot of my experiences with men... I'm going to try your tips!
All your videos have clarified the error of my ways. I have become a lot more excited at the idea of dating than before. I dreaded meeting men, now I feel your advice has me seeing clear and thrilled to see what is out there. Muchisimas gracias ❤
I learned to always keep him on his toes...sometimes he think he got me figured out (that I love him) other times he is confused that I don't love him as he thought. Keep it hot and cold. Love is a game to men...the moment he knows how much you love him he will take you for granted. Always show you are willing to walk away and show him you have other options as well every once in a while. How to do that? take care of yourself and enhance your face with makeup and wear clothes that compliment your body type. Do it for yourself though but with that he knows you look good and other men find you attractive too. Continue working on yourself for you.
These are ways of attracting a man I didn't even know about. I want to start dating but I keep holding myself back and I haven't figured out why. Your video about the 9 things to never do for your man was an eye opener I had no idea. I think I lost the the respect of my ex. I just am not sure how I did that.
I was married to a doctor and didn’t understand why about 3 men pursued me, aggressively and it was more about my successful husband challenge… ? Thanks I get it now!😮
Hello Ismail, I am watching your channel for a specific video clip. It shows you know, not without limiting a culture but the truth. Thats why i wanted to subscribe. Thank you for your great ideas! Personally I want to be single forever..this is only for him. If he an go away from me anytime. But this is ending to me. I will focus to another thing rather than thinking a person.
This is so weird. Ismael you are right about not beeing available to him… i have this colleague that is very mr nice around the office with every lady he chats with but some time ago we started to have great conversations about difficult things and he asks me many things to advice him on. Then i went back to do what i do but now he is every where all the time, constantly around , giving me hugs, gifts ,support and he totally ignores other women and now im like oh oh cause i think now he is on a hunt … i feel attraction there but feels akward also. Not good in the workplace so to speak and i have a boyfriend and dont fall easilybto temptation. What to do
@@SaveTheMessenger I think all woman should know about this video, we have to put our pride down and learn how to understand a Man, it took many years and marriages and dating to start to realize Men have to be recognized and respected also, thankyou for teaching
Omg and this is why complaoning but why we are always said to Play games ? Lean back , dont follow him, be unavaibale , make him happy but dont realu on him, give him thungs because this is feminine energy but dont expect anything and wait , wait, wait because its feminine to wait and masculine to initiate . Give him but not try to much , answer emails and sms but don’t initiate it. 😮😢 plus be mindful he may pursue you, like you, love you, have segs, children … but still not considered wife ever … and we are superseded why women don’t have children earlier , Mary earlier and end up as single moms 😢
Why is it a constant game? Sheesh! Even when men do compete for you and chase you forever once they get a sliver of attention from you they start to retract. Lol Bizarre!
Hey Ismael 👋, Your videos are So amazing. All the tips and advice that you give are worthy 🙌. Please make a video on "How to make a Man committed to you" ❤️ This will help lots of women. Love from India 🙏❤️
Why someone whom i respect and love ignore,pull away and need distance that i cannot..may be he is on job and busy schedule but before he talk and i didn't attached but when i attached and deep in emotional feelings he is creating space and saying no call no msg conversation 😢
I like your thinking. When you've both-me and him- interacted and went out once or twice, what is the next part of the courtship?I like him and he likes me and yet I hope it is to not rush the process?
I’m in a healthy relationship what should i do to make him obsessed with me more and attract him more ever than before so that he doesn’t lose interest in me
Hey love from india ❤ in a video you gave an example that if a man have 5 girlfriends and one walked away then he will focus on that one girl instead of other 4 girls who are chasing him but what if 4 girls walked away and 1 girls stayed with him then what will be the psychology of that man for that 1 girl who stayed with him?
If a woman chases, first she’s desperate and second she’s operating in low self worth and third, she’s in a masculine energy. She doesn’t have feminine energies or qualities that’s why she needs to chase. Women need to know the differences between masculine and feminine energy in this dating game. Men are attracted to feminine energy. The more you can embody the positive, high quality (non-toxic) feminine qualities and energies, you don’t need to chase no one. They will flock to you Iike a moth to a flame.
Back in the day there wasn't this modern nonsense of masculine and feminine energies. Women chased after men and got what they wanted and many were in long happy marriages where partners treated each other equal. All this talk about different energies is modern mumbo jumbo. How do you expect a woman, who has had to fend for herself for many years after a relationship broke up, to be in her feminine energy because a man won't take the lead? People either accept you for who you are, or they're not for you. Simple as.
@@SaveTheMessenger they don’t leave I have to withdraw from them. I am personally not interested in a man with that character so there is no need to entertain
I just another video of yours where you said quite the opposite where you said that women shouldn’t try to make a man chase /compete for them coz a secure man would never chase
How do you keep and maintain your mystery alive? Like let's say that you and the man actually get closer to each other , and ofcouse, overtime, the more you guys spend time and understand about each other, then that mystery will fade away because of it? Like what else is there for me to do? To be able to keep that mystery? That value, because eventually, the man will find out more intimately and personally about you and your things, so what would be next? What would be the key to uphold that mystery and value, even as you guys get very very close to each other, like in a real and true relationship.
"You become a lot attractive to a man when he sees you have a lot going on for yourself and if he were to walk away you would just go back to your amazing life." Does this mean a man married to a stay-at-home-wife/mum (SAHW/M) will increasingly find her less attractive overtime because she's literally made her entire life about focusing solely on him and the kids? Genuinely curious.
@@SaveTheMessenger Totally agree. It's just you see a lot of men on social media especially twitter trying to convince women that some of the things you speak against in this video is what men want. i.e making your life entirely about husband and kids with no room for anything else. Thanks for taking the time to reply. Found your channel today and binge watching with my sister. Thoroughly enjoy your videos. I just subscribed. 😁
All right, fair enough you say that men wants to compete but if there’s no man, in a girl’s life and she wants to attract a specific man how she can surround herself with some man so she can be popular in the first place? I don’t know if you could understood my question Because English is not my first language
Haha im an intovert Id take the left side lol, but as always thank you kindly Im tryimg to follow your advise so I will let you know as time goes forward if it worked, if not as you say its not meant to be but I will now love me ❤
May u please make a video on men that cheat and still marry a woman. Stop for a few months than go back to the same side chicken. How 1 to avoid and 2 talk about divorcing bc I don't feel like the marriage was real when he continues to cheat again
I don't exactly agree with that story of the movie, though...If so many people are in the queue it might also mean that the offer is very popular among the average, ordinary, "nothing special" people 😉
When im focused on my work as single mom ( i dont care about these guys asking for me to m meet up call text and when i show some care or feelinh they just give silent treatment or ego i dont like them too much mind games they playing i lose interest and block them all then they keep calling me like mad men
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I asked him for birthday party,he wrote will do something,and this smiley 😅. I was watching this video and I wrote leave it and immediately he texted no,will arrange something....god,m in love with a guy who has not propsed me and younger to me.....god knows if he will love me with my son or not..
Insecure men want to compete for women out of their reach to have a trophy to show to validate their insecurities. Dont fall for that kind of people, because they never get tired of the chase. If the man is healthy and confident, if you look for him, you will find him and he wont retract because you are showing him interest and love, he will show the same to you. But if you want insecure men that you are just a trophy to fill their ego, then look for guys like that. Stable people are looking for love, not playing games.
Your point does apply to certain men, but not all. If you compete for the best job you can get because you know it will make your life better, you don't call that man insecure and that he wants to show it off as a trophy.
@@SaveTheMessenger A woman is not an object nor a "job" and what says that a more difficult woman will make your life better? If a woman is really interested in you, she doesnt have to play hard to get, those are childish games. She just have to show she is interested, that doesnt mean you will take her to bed in 2 days, but at least you know she is interested.
@@raymondcampusano2991 Not all women are trophies either just because they're either young and beautiful or simply take care of themselves..
There's good and bad in everything...then there's e v i l and they're the one's we need to be educated about..
I think you're missing the point. Someone can show they're interested in you and you still think she's out of your league.
Wow! This is so true!👏👏👏👍👍👍 Every word is precious! Exactly! F*** them insecure motherf******! I'm going for a real man who loves me and knows what he wants, who's honest and adores me! Enough with games and waiting for the narcissist to have mercy on me and give me the crumb of his attention! Enough! Mister professor's gonna have to seduce another one of his students, until they fire him for seducing students.😂 I'm not playing this game anymore. 👍
I remember a man telling me that if I wanted to have a man attracted to me, then I should stay out of his sight. He said not to let the man that I wanted to see me. Be "unavailable". Let him guess what I am doing. I've used this strategy and this has been very good advice.
So good..Can elaborate abit more please. Thanks so much
@jsthankfultoeat I think that it goes along with the idea of not allowing a man to believe that you will always be there. Like someone he can fall back on and take for granted. Not seeing you or talking to you, will make him wonder about what is going on in your life. It may make him think that he isn't the center of your life anymore and how he treated you. He may think of your positive attributes and how you would have been a good partner for him.
@@ur_favone Thank you so much.
Perfect when they don't see me I have " PEACE and QUIET "
I'm sorry ladies but this only attracts players and only for a short time. So you want to live a life forever like this?! I'm happy married in a committed relationship since 5,5 years and my husband and me are together almost all the time and he can't stop pursuing me with affection. So please work on your standards and boundaries. That's what attracts the good and pulls off the bad guys. Back in the day I thought I had to be the perfect girlfriend and played also these mind games. As mentioned you'll only attract the players. It's a small amount of the deal that a men should think you're the prize (yes that should be the case) but not by playing games but instead of being who you are. Completely being yourself and loving yourself. I wouldn't allow any misbehaving by my husband or anybody else. I was the biggest people pleaser only because I graved love from outside. Today I have both. I finally love myself and have love of a man... Wish you all the best ❤️
You have inspired me to the point of finding my self respect. After watching your last video I completely felt so free and happy to break out of the cacoon I built for myself. I have been waiting for a guy for over two years and now I feel completely healed. i have deep feelings for him living for day he comes back. Now I don’t care. Your style of coaching really resonates with me. Thank you
I appreciate you took the time to leave such a lovely comment.
Its so true... When i keep myself in my mind... Ignoring guys they chase me... When i reciprocate to their feelings caring or showing my feelings for them... The attraction get lost
Girl, ALWAYS!! Makes no sense-we reciprocate, they got their ego fix and then pull away 🙃🙃🙃
@@Catherine-xm4ur they're not looking for serious
Exact shit always happens to me...😢
He was just envying your happiness and peace you had and wondering how can you have it alone.
Same things with me
In my opinion , people should be attached to themselves and no body else.
It is great to love and be loved, but,
Wise women want wise men , happy women want happy men !!
Happiness is within ourselves do not look for it in somebody else ❤
Still need to ask ourselves how we feel around them, & do we like who we are in their company.
If the union is confusing, frustrating, or hurtful more often than not, it's not the right fit.
How long do we last in a pair of shoes that don't fit us properly ???
There's no difference between an ill fitting pair of shoe's and a relationship that hurts, because neither are sustainable!
Well said 👏🏼
@@kathyphillips2727
Absolutely!!
Our energies have to make us stronger and happier as a couple
Without a doubt.
You are right 👍🏻❤
The way I see it, if he loves you he’ll stay committed to you. Simple. No games involved,no bullshit. And the same goes for a woman if you love him you’ll stay committed no games,no bullshit. Simple
not simple
@@mariepetterson7281 why not simple? People shouldn’t have to play games or always having to prove themselves. Being with someone shouldn’t be difficult especially if she/he is the one. There should be a natural understanding between two people.
Ameeen it should be like this😢
@@Ace-v3tthe love games has entirely different rules. It's all a game. Play it well or you miss out
@@Ace-v3tmen's psychology is different than women's!
😂you are right man when i am focusing on my life,when i didnt care about him ,he chased me but then i started giving him attention now he is doest giving me any attention 😂😂 now he is dating another women
@@asp4752yes, we are tired of having to spend time to get to know a person just for them to move on to someone else, then START OVER again. 😢
@@asp4752It's pathetic, exactly.
Stay away from these types of men.
Amen to that.
he did you a big favor 😊
The way you speak I could listen to you four many hours without getting bored, your communication level is top notch.
When on a date, a man says, "you must have a million guys after you, do you get a ton of dm's all the time?" Reply with a smile and say, "Ya you can get a lot of interest all the time but it's only once in awhile someone just stands out from the rest." Don't brag about messages, don't downplay the interest you get and never admit to not getting many date invites messages etc if that is the case. I have found men ask this ALL the time and it's only to get an understabding of their competition. Like he says, men need to feel this competition. Also, don't say only loosers contact you. That is a direct insult if he initiated the date.
ur right
The person who cares less will always have the most power. If you have to ask for love, it's not coming from the person it should. Always have your own bank account, and shut up about it, even when married. You may need a run fund. Don't move in with him. When he cheats, you'll be homeless. Don't be with a man who's looking for a servant/mommy he can sleep with. Don't get tied down by a baby unless you can support it alone.
THIS
Agree but you still sound a little bit harsh to be honest. My husband and me have a share account for household and both have our own accounts. He even helped me with etfs to have enough money when we retire one day (I'm 39 and he's 34). I was single most time of my life (started dating at 33). So I didn't trust anybody, especially not men due to my childhood. My parents had some demons like alcohol. My first attempts I failed big. But still don't think that all men are bad but yes secure yourself in case the partner goes banana... Also work on yourself. No other person will give you fulfillment. It's your job to be happy.
When I was in my twenties going out to parties I observed that most men noticed me and kept staring at me for a while, then they decided that they are not playing in my league and went for some "easy" chicks.
It is pretty hard for intelligent, good looking and spiritual women to choose and pick a guy. No large selection there. 😬🐒
Thanks for telling me about it. What was the biggest surprise you encountered?
So true
@@SaveTheMessenger The biggest surprise? Maybe that most women nowadays are more masculine than most men?
I observe that women chase men, they just do everything to get noticed by men and they do everything for them.
Men just lean back and enjoy their state of being chased low testosterone beta-males.😅 Why should they even work hard when everything is served on a silver plate to them?
It all happened so quick, within one or two centuries.
Same!! They’ll stare all night and not come over to talk to you. They end up talking to the “plain Jane” type.
@@Catherine-xm4ur yeah bc most men a too weak and fearful of rejection.
You have a smooth delivery. Very enjoyable videos, well thought out.
Ignore his ass ... he will come back ... if he does ... no one wants him... get rid of him again because u are worth more.
This is actually unhealthy. It's a bad habit created for men and to treat a women like that. Sounds like a lot of healing needing to take place.
Y'all don't get it. It's simply "if you love yourself, he'll love you" it's literally never the unhealthy games because everyone is obsessed with a person who's obsessed with herself/himself
@Nash_Aurora everyone has their own way to what healthy is. To me, is both wanting to invest and creating together. Not one healed and one not and the one who's not healed is a mess and can really damage emotions and it adds more pain to the other persons life. So if ppl are just hurting ppl it's not love. Love isn't hurting.
@uniquemay08 To be honest you're completely right yes. But everyone has their way of choosing someone. And some people maybe healthy but they still want to test some stuff before knowing who they're going to invest their time on
If he's able to take a person for granted, then he's not a good person to begin with is my opinion! Is he not aware that people are special in their own unique way?! That if worse comes to worse and the relationship DOES end up breaking apart, then eventually they'd be able to give their love and affection onto someone else who DOES appreciate that. ..In a way, a person who is not capable of loving someone or giving/sharing that love, is not someone who will ever understand their role in giving it! Sad but true. You can't force someone to love a beautiful sunset if they don't want to appreciate that.
I agree. The sad thing is while you guys are competing, so are we. We want the handsome guy that makes money because in the end, no matter who the guy is and what he looks like, or how much money he has, they are all the same. Ladies, do not settle. Let that sink in...
they are all the same😂😂
Is this why the men I'm not interested in won't leave me alone? Yet the ones who show interest and I show interest back basically make a u-turn. This is basically the same as men thinking we're just playing hard to get and that if we say we don't want them it means try harder...
But my question is, does this mean chances of a woman getting a man she actually wants is slim because we would immediately reciprocate the interest? Because I recently had this happen to me.
Met a guy, he showed interest, I was 'feeling' him out first because he was a total stranger to me, but the more I got to know him, the more interested I was and I showed it, only to then be told "I'm not looking for something serious at the moment", we stop talking as I respect his decision, only for him to try and chat me up a couple months later.
Make it make sense, please.
Did you get physical with him? Or was it just talking?
They all say that because they want the benefits without having to sacrifice.. it’s like they have men’s summits and they all decide how they’re going to play and say to women.
ah yes, the u-turn
@@SaveTheMessenger just talking
i was in relationship with a man who left me for months ..reason not known...later came back into my life saying he knows my worth n that he needed by money (like an AH)...that moment i broke up with him....came home a cried a lot...but looking back that was the best decision I took...came become so much tough n can really see thru AH n good men ..I now just keep friendship with men...as men around me are good people as friend n they respect my space !
What if a man chased me for a while but when I choose MY professional goals instead of staying with him in this town with no perspective, he offended and falled back? Does that mean he was never that into me and all he wanted was not me but just any girl which would be “comfortable” for him?
Yes.. been there
@@mm62426 oh... can you elaborate please?
@@mm62426 can you pls elaborate?
Sounds like he wasn't willing to support your goals and that he just wanted someone to be there for him to support his.
@@Ashtarot77 typical for men... they only see themselves and other males as “humans”, but any woman is just a serving tool for them.
This is one of your best videos. It’s greatly appreciated!
New subscriber here. I'm surprised you don't have a million plus followers. Your videos are so thought provoking and insightful. Im really enjoying your content. Top quality. 👌
That's very sweet of you. Much appreciated.
This is so interesting! I never heard another person talk about these things before, but it can explain a lot of my experiences with men... I'm going to try your tips!
Many thanks for this video. In another video you talked about not trusting men who chase and this video it’s the other way around. What to do ?
All your videos have clarified the error of my ways. I have become a lot more excited at the idea of dating than before. I dreaded meeting men, now I feel your advice has me seeing clear and thrilled to see what is out there. Muchisimas gracias ❤
That’s incredible. What would you do differently next time?
I learned to always keep him on his toes...sometimes he think he got me figured out (that I love him) other times he is confused that I don't love him as he thought. Keep it hot and cold. Love is a game to men...the moment he knows how much you love him he will take you for granted. Always show you are willing to walk away and show him you have other options as well every once in a while. How to do that? take care of yourself and enhance your face with makeup and wear clothes that compliment your body type. Do it for yourself though but with that he knows you look good and other men find you attractive too. Continue working on yourself for you.
Never compete for no man, Ever!
5:20 i needed that thanks❤. But what to do if he has taken you for granted? Ofcourse you guys talk but what to do?
Really enjoy and appreciate your videos Ismael, and the helpful and respectful atmosphere on your channel.
Clear and straight to the point… I like your content ❤
These are ways of attracting a man I didn't even know about. I want to start dating but I keep holding myself back and I haven't figured out why.
Your video about the 9 things to never do for your man was an eye opener I had no idea. I think I lost the the respect of my ex. I just am not sure how I did that.
@SaveTheMessenger4 ok
VERY useful info...thank you Ismael! 🙌🏻
I’m so appreciative, you’re fantastic.
@@SaveTheMessenger YOU ARE! ❤️
I don’t give compliments no more … they make you feel worse for it
This video is so richly packed. Thank you. Answers a lot of my questions.
I’m grateful. What are your thoughts?
I was married to a doctor and didn’t understand why about 3 men pursued me, aggressively and it was more about my successful husband challenge… ? Thanks I get it now!😮
Thank you Ismael!
Amazing topic!
Very helpful!
I love your content, smooth, voice that you delivered.
Hello Ismail, I am watching your channel for a specific video clip. It shows you know, not without limiting a culture but the truth. Thats why i wanted to subscribe. Thank you for your great ideas! Personally I want to be single forever..this is only for him. If he an go away from me anytime. But this is ending to me. I will focus to another thing rather than thinking a person.
Thank you, I love your videos. I don't multitasking when watching your videos because I am learning so much from you.
Sincerely appreciate it. What's your opinion on this?
This is so weird. Ismael you are right about not beeing available to him… i have this colleague that is very mr nice around the office with every lady he chats with but some time ago we started to have great conversations about difficult things and he asks me many things to advice him on. Then i went back to do what i do but now he is every where all the time, constantly around , giving me hugs, gifts ,support and he totally ignores other women and now im like oh oh cause i think now he is on a hunt … i feel attraction there but feels akward also. Not good in the workplace so to speak and i have a boyfriend and dont fall easilybto temptation. What to do
Good video. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you immensely! What are your thoughts?
You are giving us a great insight into male Psychology!
Thanks so much !
Always my pleasure. Thanks for watching.
you have said a lot of truth, thankyou!
Thank you kindly! What do you think about this?
@@SaveTheMessenger I think all woman should know about this video, we have to put our pride down and learn how to understand a Man, it took many years and marriages and dating to start to realize Men have to be recognized and respected also, thankyou for teaching
Very good advice
This was great! Thank you. You made some valid points.
Thank you! How do you feel about it?
Nice sharing’
Thankyou for your wise and insightful words Ismael ☺️💕
I appreciate it. What's your take on this?
Excellent advice.
Thanks a million! How do you feel about it?
Omg and this is why complaoning but why we are always said to
Play games ? Lean back , dont follow him, be unavaibale , make him happy but dont realu on him, give him thungs because this is feminine energy but dont expect anything and wait , wait, wait because its feminine to wait and masculine to initiate . Give him but not try to much , answer emails and sms but don’t initiate it. 😮😢 plus be mindful he may pursue you, like you, love you, have segs, children … but still not considered wife ever … and we are superseded why women don’t have children earlier , Mary earlier and end up as single moms 😢
Why is it a constant game? Sheesh! Even when men do compete for you and chase you forever once they get a sliver of attention from you they start to retract. Lol Bizarre!
Not really, and if he does that, he is not a good match.
Men are in giver side while women are in recipient side.. no wonder!!
super helpful, thank you!
Thanks! I'd love to hear your opinion.
Love your videos
Thanks. What’s your take on the matter?
Love is unconditional. That's what I think .
Hey Ismael 👋, Your videos are So amazing. All the tips and advice that you give are worthy 🙌. Please make a video on "How to make a Man committed to you" ❤️ This will help lots of women. Love from India 🙏❤️
Take a look at my other videos. I have a few on that topic.
Ismael, you are adorable. Love your insights!
Why someone whom i respect and love ignore,pull away and need distance that i cannot..may be he is on job and busy schedule but before he talk and i didn't attached but when i attached and deep in emotional feelings he is creating space and saying no call no msg conversation 😢
You are awesome. 👏 thank you so much it’s helps me so much God bless you
I like your thinking. When you've both-me and him- interacted and went out once or twice, what is the next part of the courtship?I like him and he likes me and yet I hope it is to not rush the process?
Thank you, hope you have a wonderful day as well.😉🙏
Thanks a ton, you’re a gem.
Thanks for this❤
Much appreciated 🙌
Who exactly is he competing with when he competes for you?
With other men.
@mirela... what other men? Sorry but I don't have a bunch of them swarming around me at the moment.
I’m in a healthy relationship what should i do to make him obsessed with me more and attract him more ever than before so that he doesn’t lose interest in me
❤❤ first watch
Thank you kindly, you’re a blessing.
Thank you ❤
I truly appreciate it.
This sounds toxic AF. I don't want a guy who thinks like that. I don't do games. If someone likes you, they like you.
All true thank you ❤❤
Very hepful 🎉thank you😊 ythank you for telling US the true❤
I’m grateful. What are your thoughts?
Thankyou bhaiya ❤
Hey love from india ❤ in a video you gave an example that if a man have 5 girlfriends and one walked away then he will focus on that one girl instead of other 4 girls who are chasing him but what if 4 girls walked away and 1 girls stayed with him then what will be the psychology of that man for that 1 girl who stayed with him?
Focus on her because he is insecure now she might also leave
Well said
Yup sounds like a narcissist. So gamey 🎮. Thank you so much for the insight. I appreciate the "beautiful " compliment and your support
30 years dang! Mister, you don’t look a day over 25! 🎉
… 5 years isn’t much of a difference.
Me at 6:41 when he said my name 🫠🥵
Strong woman with strong abilities are the best woman ever 2:43 2:43
I agree with A
If a woman chases, first she’s desperate and second she’s operating in low self worth and third, she’s in a masculine energy. She doesn’t have feminine energies or qualities that’s why she needs to chase. Women need to know the differences between masculine and feminine energy in this dating game.
Men are attracted to feminine energy. The more you can embody the positive, high quality (non-toxic) feminine qualities and energies, you don’t need to chase no one. They will flock to you Iike a moth to a flame.
Back in the day there wasn't this modern nonsense of masculine and feminine energies. Women chased after men and got what they wanted and many were in long happy marriages where partners treated each other equal. All this talk about different energies is modern mumbo jumbo. How do you expect a woman, who has had to fend for herself for many years after a relationship broke up, to be in her feminine energy because a man won't take the lead? People either accept you for who you are, or they're not for you. Simple as.
How do you get them not to move so fast. Men from what I can see want commitment to fast in my opinion. It’s like slow down Romeo
Exactly, slow them down. If they pull away, it means they were not that interested.
@@SaveTheMessenger they don’t leave I have to withdraw from them. I am personally not interested in a man with that character so there is no need to entertain
Ok, I am with my husband for 35 years now, how do I create illusion for him so he can keep chasing me in his head?
I just another video of yours where you said quite the opposite where you said that women shouldn’t try to make a man chase /compete for them coz a secure man would never chase
How do you keep and maintain your mystery alive? Like let's say that you and the man actually get closer to each other , and ofcouse, overtime, the more you guys spend time and understand about each other, then that mystery will fade away because of it? Like what else is there for me to do? To be able to keep that mystery? That value, because eventually, the man will find out more intimately and personally about you and your things, so what would be next? What would be the key to uphold that mystery and value, even as you guys get very very close to each other, like in a real and true relationship.
"You become a lot attractive to a man when he sees you have a lot going on for yourself and if he were to walk away you would just go back to your amazing life."
Does this mean a man married to a stay-at-home-wife/mum (SAHW/M) will increasingly find her less attractive overtime because she's literally made her entire life about focusing solely on him and the kids?
Genuinely curious.
You can be home watching the kids and still find some time for self-development. Does that make sense?
@@SaveTheMessenger
Totally agree.
It's just you see a lot of men on social media especially twitter trying to convince women that some of the things you speak against in this video is what men want. i.e making your life entirely about husband and kids with no room for anything else.
Thanks for taking the time to reply. Found your channel today and binge watching with my sister. Thoroughly enjoy your videos.
I just subscribed. 😁
Ismael, but he said I could call him anytime 😅
All right, fair enough you say that men wants to compete but if there’s no man, in a girl’s life and she wants to attract a specific man how she can surround herself with some man so she can be popular in the first place?
I don’t know if you could understood
my question
Because English is not my first language
What are good conversations with men.
Haha im an intovert Id take the left side lol, but as always thank you kindly Im tryimg to follow your advise so I will let you know as time goes forward if it worked, if not as you say its not meant to be but I will now love me ❤
Well, what I said is you'd be more curious. So even if you picked the left side, you'd still wonder why so many people wanted to watch the other one.
@@SaveTheMessenger thank you for pointing that out appreciate you sometimes it takes time to sink in ..
Wait there are channels for women to attract men?
May u please make a video on men that cheat and still marry a woman. Stop for a few months than go back to the same side chicken. How 1 to avoid and 2 talk about divorcing bc I don't feel like the marriage was real when he continues to cheat again
What if im not a woman?
I don't exactly agree with that story of the movie, though...If so many people are in the queue it might also mean that the offer is very popular among the average, ordinary, "nothing special" people 😉
How does a woman make herself more valuable or somewhat unattainable in the eyes of a man, I don't really understand that
what if there are other candidates but i am not the perosn who talks about it. it would be stupid.
I do not know how to be this clever
So I am single
I cant recognize that enibody is interested in me
So I read books
Watch movies
He is the guru. He knows everything. Lol.
When im focused on my work as single mom ( i dont care about these guys asking for me to m meet up call text and when i show some care or feelinh they just give silent treatment or ego i dont like them too much mind games they playing i lose interest and block them all then they keep calling me like mad men
If they are fiance ,, what she do 😅❤
Who are we talking about?
I’m not arguing with you…. It’s 100 💯 fact.. it’s aggravating
Your comment made me smile. I appreciate you.
@@SaveTheMessenger no way 🙀
How to attract a man. Rule number one. Don't. Follow me for more tips.
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Ones its a wife he misbehave
Facts