I could have had her sign a document on my expectations in the beginning. But you how they act like none of that matters like nothing in the world matters but their emotions at that exact time. All this advice is great for us. But, women are not logical or reasonable humans.
Facts. Fiance pulled this shit. Over and over, she was shocked when I called it off after tons of emotional testing abuse. Women will burn down a building to see if it's fireproof.
Same. Mine was dumbfounded when I dumped her and never spoke to her again. She expected me to play this bullshit break up / make up game. I have no tolerance for that shit.
Sitting here as a 50 year old man, shaking my head watching this, & thinking where were all the “how to know a woman’s BS & how to read it” coaches when I was a young man? These young men today have no idea how valuable this knowledge they can learn for free before they allow a woman to destroy them emotionally & mentally on today’s internet is truly a blessing for ALL MEN! Keep up the good work King!
All accurate in my opinion. I experienced all or most of the tests and to my credit, I had enough self respect to just keep saying buh bye. Her friends had a nickname horse me "Ryan again-- off again."
Everytime a girlfriend tried to shit test me I dumped her the same day and moved on. I now have four ex girlfriends trying to get me back and the sex is constantly on tap. Never commit to these type of women, just keep them hanging on.
My high school gf wanted to break up. I said cool, then she later said "you were supposed to fight for me!" I was totally over the relationship at that point. Fast forward eight years. I photographed her wedding, and she was still telling people we dated in high school. On her wedding day.
Have a similar situation, met a girl at a party and we did the usual stuff. i wasn't really that interested in her and i later introduced her to a frined of mine. They got married and have 2 children. but she still has a crush on me and likes to talk about me in front of others. Even seeks lone time with me. its super weird, especially because i am a longtime friend to her husband.
@@MrHelix7293lol something similar happened to me to like that and I just stopped talking to my friend for that same reason, they both would make it awkward
"Women test the strength of a relationship by purposefully destroying or self-sabotaging it. Majority of men fail to maintain attraction, desire, and arousal during this test. Understanding these concepts is crucial for handling the emotional investment in the relationship." I'm seriously considering whether I still want this female drama/shit in my life (after a divorce one year ago)
And then they turn around in movies and social Media, demonIzing men, making it a culture to think that only men could be the abusers, narcissists and players. It shows you that women just scream their pain louder than men and they manage to get the attention for it, but it doesn’t mean that they are better, humans , more romantic, always the victim or completely innocent.
Yeah you don't want that, the best way to get a Woman that you actually want is laid out for you at the end of this Video. Tell your potential Woman how things are going to be and if she plays games and tries to destroy the relationship, say There's the Door or if you are over at her place when she does this, say I am Gone and actually walk out the door and drive away out of her life. I had enough of my Ex Wife's BS and Divorced her and haven't looked back since. I have been focused on my own endeavors for 4 years since mentioned Divorce and if a Woman wants me in her life, she cannot try to destroy what we have if she truly wants me in her life as I will not put up with the BS Test as I call it. I am out of School, sure Life is Lessons learned, but we are not in a forsaken Classroom and I am not a classroom student! You either want me in your life for better or worse or you don't #TheEnd.
@@frankslade33 Well they are, and if they are damaged enough they will also drain you and consume your sexual energy. You'll figure this out when once you've been with enough women.
@@frankslade33 Heck, I'm on a roll now. Women want attention, attention is currency in girl world, and when a woman wants your _attention_ she IS draining you of energy.
That sounds like a headache dude. Do you actually know how long it can take for a woman to fully,if ever mature. And remember,women are great pretenders.
@@JonThompson-bt8rw it's true, some women are really narcissistic and cold, it's better to drop them, some of them are the exact opposite. However, they all manipulate and test you.
My recent ex did all these things. She has borderline personality disorder. It’s a never ending cycle of accusations , tantrums, breakups and apologies. Last time she tested me I said I was done. I’m so above and beyond those petty games. If that’s the same game mentally “healthy” women play - I’ll happily stay single.
I recently did the same with a girlfriend. And I'm pretty convinced she had BPD, maybe Paranoid Schizophrenia and other mental health issues with it. Not to diagnose her but there was obviously something wrong with the wiring.
I am a 29 year old male. I have diagnosed BPD. It's shit and a lot of drama for sure, as if i am a woman on PMS often and i know i'm hard to handle. I never choose this and i hate myself for being this way but what i can do is try my ass off to not be a hardass and or a douchebag and when i love, i love beyond reason. Which as you can imagine is pain in the ass to say the least. But i think it's beyond BPD because i had a woman i loved more then the world and gave up 80% of my life for her and she still cheated and didn't care. Broke up, forgave and did the whole thing all over again... it's something in female psyche that just can't fully commit and god forbid really love that makes them overevaluate everything including us men and they are often like bees going from flower to flower if it suits them better. They see men as tools, crutch or a badage, sometimes even rebreather or a defibrilator but you have to realise that even doe defib may save your life, you will not use it all the time, hence my analogy... I never even managed to help my mother, whis is left with sister and i after a divorce from a wife & child beater and i stuck with her and tried to help and make her open her eyes and live but she is beyond that, and i knew her all my life. Women are boyond reason
Man… cluster bs are very hard to deal with in a relationship. The best advice I can give anyone dating a borderline is to stand firm and love from a distance. Keep one foot out the door; their fear of abandonment will always keep them in chase rather than the “I love you, don’t leave me” in check
As a woman I concur this is spot on! I pulled this BS on my husband (unconsciously) a few times when I realized I was in love with him and he totally knew how to respond. 17 years and two babies later, we're going strong and I haven't done this in a long, long time. We women are pretty nutty.
I just got out of a 12 year relationship. What Casey is saying is 100% true. I hope whoever is watching this heeds this godlike truth. I'm being sincere here.
So true before I was married my wife pulled this on me and my insecurities started to come out. I tightened up and right when she knew I was starting to date all of a sudden she was ready to come back. We’re married now and I can see her respect for me is much higher now but don’t think the test stop. I just had one the other day and had to reiterate her role in this relationship. Next thing you know she’s moving in to cuddle at night. This is the cycle fellas. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news 🤷🏽♂️
Yes they can love as deep as you, and often ways way deeper. But then the wind blows, and she don't love you anymore. The difference is NOT being able to love as much or not, difference is that women's love fluctuate, comes and goes FAST on a whim. This is why societies shaming divorces where CRUTIAL to maintain families in the past, and why families are fucke today. If you count on love to maintain couples, you're fucked. Only service, sacrifice, social shaming/acceptance works.
I think that after having children with the woman and displaying being a good father and protector the woman will love the man. But not until then. So men have to deal with that imbalance. The other issue is that men may get less attracted to the woman at that point. So may show less affection. So the balance shifts the other way. Complicated stuff
Facts i think its the dumbest thing they do. My ex did that shit and i fucking thought “why the hell would she almosttt end the relationship bc of a fight or me being difficult, when things could easily be handled between us?” When she first said we need a break (bc i got mad and showed bad behavior as she put it) i guess i was wrong by actually telling her i dont do breaks etc. I said theres no reason to break up & i went against that shit…but i should of just let it go im assuming? Hate that shit
I don't care how many techniques are out there to pass their ridiculous tests. I refuse to keep playing into their wicked mental games. I've had enough of them through my life. Either she plays honest or I'm out. And that's that
@user-zg9pb8lz2g I ve had 3-6 month dating runs with different women.....they can't hold it together for any longer than that, I'm convinced. When shit gets real, they can't hold it together.......and there's always 10 idiots begging to take them out anyways
Correction to the video: women do not, and _cannot_ , love men. They can only become attached to a man along one or more of the five connection pathways: physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional and financial. Men, on the other hand, can and often do love women. So, _there is no such thing_ as a woman "loving" a man or "falling in love" with a man. They can only feel attachment, nothing more. If they feel attached to you, they will stick with you. If they ever don't feel attached to you, they will start monkey branching away. So, love has nothing to do with women because they simply cannot feel it.
Women are almost like kids . Like your kid will say hey daddy i want that toy and will keep obsessing over it even for years and keep crying everyday until he gets it and if you dont give it to him he will think about that toy 24/7 and will find ways on how to get it and also behave as you want. But after you get your kid that toy . On the first day he will seem happy and play with it or even sleep with it but after few days you'll feel he has start ignoring it and after getting bored your kid will wonder whats inside that toy and break it to pieces and now that he knows whats inside it he won't be interested. Like you saw your kid obsessing over a toy for months and requesting you but you saw in a week he had got bored of that toy and prolly dismantle it and throw it to trash. And now he will ask you for some other toy
When a humiliated individual is exalted to a pedestal, you have love. That is what love IS. The exaltation of a humiliated person. Ignoring the humiliation.. not letting it lower their value, but actually increase it.. especially if they humilated themselves out of love FOR you. That is what love is. Gives a little more credence to Jesus supposedly being love itself. Women CAN do this. I've experienced it more than once. Even when I had zero "value" and no ability to give back, whatsoever.
She destroyed the relationship blocked me on the gram and I just walked past her with another girl for short time much younger than her - she looked very stunned 👏🏻☺️
@@puanani_usa it's fun for y'all but it's hell for us. You cant be in peace with the person you love. Knowing her love towards you is only conditional. Can't let your guards down. Your love towards her she sees it as weakness.
@puanani_usa If, as a woman (or man), you've never loved a man (or woman) unconditionally, you're only pretending to be human - i.e., going through the motions of life with neither wisdom nor understanding.
This is spot on for women with attachment issues. But, not all women have attachment issues. Also, many women have strong cluster B traits. But not all. Walk away from women with attachment issues and find someone secure and emotionally intelligent. They do exist.
I swear it’s so true. Makes you hate F3mal3 nature. Us men just want to relax, love someone unconditionally, make love occasionally and stay out the way. But it’s like you say, subconsciously they punish the men that they love and one who loves them back. They do it because deep down they feel guilt for emotionally cheating with other men and because they know deep down that they don’t deserve you and the things that you do for them, which makes them feel the need to test you and the relationship. I hate that shyt.
Don't shape yourself into what these worldly women want you to be... Don't do that one... If you just focus, you'll notice a lot of them are spiritually dead. They want you to put her first.. Before God, obviously. They want you to worship the ground they walk on. And, some of them are bold to the point, where they say this with so much conviction, like it's the most natural thing. Well, it isn't. I want you to understand, a lot of women carry demons on them. And I don't mean that in figurative way, I mean that in literal way...they carry bad spirits on them. Spirit of pride is one of them. The leviathan spirit. A lot of women, they can't be told nothing, you know what I mean... It's been normalized that you see a lot of prideful women, or women with an overblown ego. That is an unclean spirit, guys. The holy spirit humbles you. The holy spirit humbles you! You know what I'm talking about, whenever you try to talk to them, it goes in one ear, leaves thru the other, they are twisting your words, skip over facts, deny validity of any input.. That my men is literally a spirit. Don't feed into it, don't interact with it, unless you're a trained professional. You will never make it understand, it'll never be satiated. It's agenda is to confuse and create chaos not to come to understanding and compromise. I have told you, once you see those signs, keep on moving. God bless you all. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
Hard to swallow pill..If you list "she's always right" as one of the "keys" to a happy/functional marriage. Your marriage is dysfunctionial and you're in denial about your level of your happiness.
@@colleenodonnell7700yeah this guy is speaking for himself. I’ve been set up to be raped because a man owed someone money, I have been engaged to a lawyer and he cheated on me at a friend’s bachelor party with a Japanese stripper, and I have been used and abused plenty of times. But they just want to love unconditionally and stay out of the way! He speaks for ALL men!
When women have the power all hell breaks loose. Women are emotional beings and unfortunately emotions have absolutely no logical thought. Men think logically women think with emotions. Men need to have frame to control the relationship. It's actually kinda easy...have frame and women will surrender.
Don’t get overwhelmed by this info guys. Basically if you can be the best version of yourself meaning if you are happy with who you are on your own, that is the key and everything will fall into place.
The best technique to use and its free. Women are crazy so you just ignore them!!! Be happy and safe yourself the unnecessary drama or stress!! Thank you!!!
lol! I failed this test. I was in love with a girl who dumped me and started dating an older guy. I gave up on the relationship in a week because the emotional pain was too much for me. I ignored her out of my mind, and then she screamed at me 2 months later out of nowhere. I was so confused at the time... and no, I didn't take her back.
I failed this test with my H.S. gf when she broke up with me after 5 years I pleaded and cried like a pussy for her not to leave me. Poor girl looked so uncomfortable and embarrassed seeing other people watch in the street
After watching these videos, I learned one thing. By keeping note of hypergamy, since I'm able to easily pull in women in the 7s, and they usually give me less trouble that means I'm an 8. When I get with women who are 8s and 9s, that's when these problem begin, they try to self sabotage and are constantly looking for weakness, it's like a never ending psychological battle. So, I think I'm gonna settle with a woman in the 7s for peace of mind since I still find them incredibly hot and emotionally stable, and they usually treat me like a king.
@awakenedone7577 rating people, including yourself, and looking at people as numbers on a scale rather than recognizing the fact that human beings are greatly nuanced and it just isn't that simple. What makes someone a 1 or a 10? It's just as bad as black and white thinking. It isn't how we should view each other. We're all individuals, and attraction is also very subjective.
Years ago a girlfriend decided to "test me" by sleeping with another guy. After I kicked her to the curb (what else could I do) she kept crying to take her back.
Bro such facts I literally had to learn this lesson the hard way just recently. I figured at some point they would get it together or they would change for the better but nah. People repeat patterns and they tend to revert back to what they know. Gotta learn this. Gotta learn to walk away and have your dignity cause they will try to take all of it away. Stay strong and stay focused men.
If I get exclusive with a girl, I will set a boundary with her. I will say to her, if you threaten to end the relationship, or give me a shit test and actually end it with your words or if she says she wants an open relationship, then I will ghost her forever. I don't care about what relationship we had. She ended it with that crap. I don't want to play games.
@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 Absolutely. I hope, with all my heart, that you have the most wonderful relationship there is. Your desire is super good.
I, as in me, myself just recently broke up with my gf of 5 years after she tried sabotaging the relationship. I was not up for anymore of her games and agreed to end the relationship that she suggested we do. She didn't see it coming this way by me and we ended it with a big fight as the grand finale. Haven't spoke to each in two weeks. I hope everyday she never comes crawling back because I have different plans for me
I was married for 25 years, and she left me for the guy with the million-dollar yacht. two years later she wanted to come back. I had made my rules and said no. I am 75 now and still single. You make some good points however it does not always work out. Women are still drawn to wealth not always your masculine strength.
Impossible to maintain masculine energy and not show fear when she is the mother of your kids . Fantastic methods and female psychology for young single lads however far more daunting for married men .
Dude tell her no problem, Im assured you can raise our kids by yourself, I'm gonna find decent girl and start new family with kids..then leave..she will beg you to raise your kids
@@voiceofreason1829that would mean losing his kids, and paying for them at the same time. Most men can’t afford child support fees and start a new family. No man would want to leave his kids anyway…especially if the mother isn’t particularly stable
I just got caught cheating by my partner of 13 years. We have 2 children. She’s a solid 8/10. I said well you know what I’m like when we got together. You can leave if you like. 2 days later we had a fight and she apologised and asked why she wasn’t good enough and what she can do to improve. Stop being a 🐈⬛. Get jacked, flirt with other women etc.
I've been in a relationship since oct. The other day she broke down and said I'm emotionally unavailable and that she's know she's not my ideal girl. She said she can feel lit. My last relationship was horrible, so I can't really get attached to anyone. Breaking up with a girl is nothing to me
I’m going through a very rough time with my wife, she is testing to the extreme. This video is exactly what I need. Even though we have been married for 27 years and provided for her and our kids the whole time (single income family) she’ll throw out how much I’ve hurt her and never loved her. Now I’m the first to admit I’m not perfect and done stupid and sometimes even bad things but it seems to me her reactions go far beyond what “I’ve done to her.” I’m going to rewatch a few times and I know the one deficit I have is a lack of firm identification of my value and who I am.
She tests to see how attached you are to her, to know your level of commitment. But if you show a great deal of attachment, then she sees that as weakness, hypergamy is not satisfied, and she loses interest. So nothing you do matters. She is just too confused to maintain a stable relationship.
I think someone wrote a good thing in the comment section - replace the word woman with the word GIRL. I’m woman, in a relationship with my man which I love and care about so much. From the point we started to officially date which was less than a month after we have met, I never put myself in a position to lose him! Never! If a woman loves you with all heart and soul and she knows he is the right man for her, she will never put herself in a position to lose the man she loves. I’m talking here about mature women not girls. There is no place for immature games, break-ups to check if you care about me or similar things…every action you take as an individual has an impact/consequence on your partner. I’ve been in a situations where I wanted to do or behave in my way but since I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t like that - I stayed away from those things/behavior/relationship dynamic etc. .. btw. I’m 28 but dating nowadays is just sad… I have 2 younger brothers and when I see how they are treated and what they need to go through as guys it’s just sad and it makes me angry why we ended up where we are as a society now :(
What I’m reading is NOT that you, as a woman, are doing the right thing or behaving yourself out of some mature management of yourself and your emotions but that your man is high value and KNOWS how to manage you. That you don’t risk your relationship with this man you… “love”… because you know that you will lose a sound man and all the benefits he brings to your life were you to choose other behaviors in your relationship.
I like seeing your wisdom geared towards long-term relationships. Being married I try to take the things you show and make them work in a married relationship.
God bless Casey and his work. The cross on his chest is a proof he is the man to follow. I am showing these videos to my 20 yo son so he won't make same mistakes like me
Or, sometimes she is just done. So whether it’s a shit test or she is really done, take her for her word and bounce. Wish her the best, tell her you love her, and go ghost. Do not look back. And, when she reaches out, wish her the best again but it’s done. Decisions were made. She needs to live with it as an adult .
Yup so do us as men once we made the decision. Being sure is a masculine trait, don't bounce back n forth. Don't wish her bad, genuinely wish her good and move on.
Bro u absolutely nailed it. BTW best comment section ever! It feels so damn good to sense some kind of brotherhood that when it comes to future cat ladies.
I've been blessed to have two women in my life I truly loved and wanted a future with both ended with me being hurt after I failed them test this is the things that no one tells you about women so thanks for your work bro
The contents of this video is so true and now I understand why my woman acts like a b...h most of the time but she won't leave me. Dating nowadays is more complicated than calculus, differentiation or nuclear engineering.
Freaking true...too many simps failed to master this important skill. Also, my way or the highway. In my relationship, she plays by MY rule or get out. I don't have time for games.
This is absolutely insane. I don't mean it is incorrect, I mean that the behavior Casey is describing is completely crazy. And this is why I have nothing to do with women anymore. I study them for the entertainment value and because I can't believe a group of people can be so solipsistic and self-destructive. I am teaching my son never to be like them.
I’m binging your channel over the last couple months, and I got to say this might be your best video. It shows a very deep understanding that you have. Thanks for sharing this, it was very helpful.
From a distance it´s fairly easy to understand women, the problem is that we men obviously have feelings too. Our soft "feminine" sides are not welcome with women, it´s just nature, so best advice is to never let yourself fall fully in love with a women, she doesn´t understand that, she want to feel safe with her dominant man,. When we fail to give her that feeling, out of neediness, she is already looking for an escape. What finally makes a women tie her strings to one man is when she feels safe enough with one man and is tired of being chased. So don´t fall in love, and don´t try to tie her down, the woman will settle when she is ready. I´m 43 years and have plenty of experience with these creatures.
*A lot of it comes down to insecurities and not understanding how to communicate or respect each other's needs. Both partners have to be willing to grow and put in the effort to make things work.*
Videos on this topic piss me off because I TRULY BELIEVED that being nonchalant about the relationship rules and showing her I didn’t care is what would be what would keep her. PLEASE listen to this advice men: be aggressive and territorial with her to show her you care. Be decisive, and once she leaves you or crosses a boundary WALK AWAY
Tried and tested. When my ex told me we needed a break, my initial reaction was sadness and fear of losing her. I even begged her to stays. Big mistake because that only pushed her away. But the next day I was pissed off and frustrated because I couldn't understand why she was destroying something good. When she contacted me she was actually surprised that I was angry with her because I never raised my voice at her before. As soon as I yelled at her, she had nothing to say, and just sat there moping with puppy dog eyes, almost like a child. Which was weird because before then she was talking down to me. I was empowered as I had "won the break up". After our last talk she tried contacting me for the next 4 months. Calling, texting me to tell me how sorry she was. I just ignored it. She lost me.
I have been married for 15 years and the last few involved incredibly massive external stress, and a long separation made necessary to help a child in a terrible situation. Working back to the relationship we had before all of this is difficult, but your perspective makes it so very much easier to manage all the drama. I'm a Marine Infantryman. I understand strategy and commitment to a goal. Knowing the logic of the strategy makes executing it and accepting the risks so much easier. I have NO doubt whatsoever about being irreplaceable, but she is happier than most to simply be alone. Life is impermanence and it will be what it will be, but at least with this knowledge I can intelligently adapt my strategy to real time challenges.
Thanks for a great video. I agreed with most of the points. Just want to point out that it is never a good idea to show possessive and jealous emotions to your lady. Hide it if u need to. Only man lacking confidence needs to control their lady and feels jealous if they talk to other man. They will run away from you real quick. You can thank me later. Another tip i want to share is focus on building your internal confidence and be comfortable with who you are. U will automatically passess these tests without any effort or awareness as your actions and emotions are on autopilot if u r self confident. avoiding woman is not the best solution. They bring more positives than negatives overall into our lives if u r a confident man.
Tate said something similar about how when he's sad you can't tell because he doesn't show those emotions even though he feels them. That's a good skill, being able to feel something and keep it to yourself without expressing it or bringing attention to it. There's no benefit to doing so.
That kind of toxic and immature thought process is the reason why most of them will end up being cat ladies. Not surprising why top shelf guys won’t commit to them and only limit the interaction to a FWB level
I like that Casey showed the best way to deal with this is to nip it in the bud. When you decide to be in a relationship, state your boundaries and rules, then call her out if she violates them. I like the idea of being a one-strike kind of guy. The first time she shit-tests you, it's over. The greatest asset we have is that we can choose a life of peace and freedom from drama or we can have a beautiful, mutually benefitting, loving relationship. There is no third option. Women often think that without them, you're just going to get with another woman. They can't stand the thought that you'll be just fine on your own. They can't compete with that.
“Imagine that she only loves you for the image she wants you to portray to her. Wait, did she ever love you for you to ever do all that. Be strong enough to not care if the wrong ones leave. You were ready since the beginning. Heck, I may have stronger feminine energy than to care so much past my heartlessness. The honor and passion to be you past all her bs that doesn’t measure up to your greatness as a person. Oh, I don’t hate in return. I bid her well as a demonstration of my class and character.” 🍷
Omg this helped me to understand myself as a woman! Thank you I agree on everything you are saying and to the guys in the comments: 'I'd let her go. I don't want any drama' I think you won't ever win with this mindset. You'll have to restart again and again with new girls. There must be some biological mechanism proving that you are capable of leading a familiy.
That’s right. Men are creators, women are perfect consumers, users, destroyers. They create life, but the price they charge for creating life is using, consuming and destroying things around them. Men that have kids go for that exchange, but the ones that don’t want to have kids with women looking at it as a parade of pathologies.
Watching this video and reading the comments makes me feel better about these last 2 weeks I’ve had. Glad to know I’m not alone in how I felt, but that I just have to do the work on myself to get better and stand on business as a man.
As a woman I am going through this with a guy over the past 2 weeks. Not sure why guys won't just reaffirm their interest and connection, but rather cold stone a girl. How exactly is that arousing for a woman, sorry I don't get it. His silence is just killing me. There is a need to test a relationship, I don't want to be with a guy faking it.
@@DavidMRudy-kn8ed The reason? The man behaved like he wanted me to pull out by stonewalling me. If we had a more intimate moment together, then the next day the stonewalling would begin. He was manipulating me to become emotionally dependent. Why would I ever have doubts about a man if he treated me well and communicated with me? I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me. I did end it for real, but had he wanted to work on things and find compromises, I would have been more than happy to work things out with him. But it was my-way-or-highway type of attitude. Not a recipe for a healthy relationship, if you ask me. But thank you for your response, I appreciate it.
@@MMS-hr1nz "I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me". Same with every guy as well.Stop with the dumb tests. I'm not going to even try anymore. I'm on the same mindset. If you want it over, fine. I'm going to suffer now, but long term is the best decision, doesn't matter how good the relationship was. I want to be with an adult, not a child playing games. Stop playing games and show the men you love that you love them. Now, I speak in general. I don't know in your case. But comunication is key. But be aware that if something happens with another man, it's over.
I don't think a "woman in love" is to be thought of in the same manner as a man being in love. Males love differently. Women love based on needs being fulfilled and provisioning. They don't connect deeply - this is why they can leave at the drop of a dime and likely monkey branched in the leadup. They love for different reasons and in a different way. It is their ingrained survival instinct mentality, and evolutionary psychology being demonstrated. Don't hate them for it, it's like hating a dog for barking. If you don't want to hear a dog bark though, don't have one. Same thing goes for a woman.
@@involuntarilychad4048 Absolutely, I could never recommend a man to get married or engage in any arrangement that resembles a marriage in the eyes of the state.
Im in in the similar situation right now. This video came at the right time as it confirms my deepest intentions: hold my ground, solidify myself, and be ready to throw the book at her if she goes (and she is) too far. I have one foot out the door now, this is a live-in situation. So maybe the logistics make departing a little .... tricky. I'm sure Ill figure out a plan.
♤ Expect the RESPECT all the time. ♤ Show emotions but not of desperation but of love..the moment you express emotions of neediness, you are fucked. Instead express the emotions of love and affection and yet reamain calm, stoic, independent.
When a women pulls back or bails, let her go. Otherwise, it will be a never ending cycle of drama on her level. And, never take a woman back if she punches out. Women who do this are women you don't want in your life. Keep it simple.
If she truly loves you, she needs to know absolutely, unequivocally, and positively how *not to be* an absolute pain in the ass. End of story. This is *why* there are so many women getting passed by these days. Guys. Stop taking guff.
When the tests come….. it’s time to leave. I let mine sit with her actions for over 5 years……. I’m now divorcing her. I don’t put up with playing games anymore. At all. Be with me or not. End of story. If they start with the tests, it’s time to leave. They are manipulating you. If you care about something too much it can be used as a weapon against you.
I must be showing these "strong characteristics" cause my narcissist is always hitting me with tests and exams and all sorts of stupid bullshit, and has gone through the act of wanting to breakup, and yet when i say that perhaps I should disappear since I am the problem, it twists and morphs into me "running away from my problems" when i wish to exit. She obviously cannot leave with her attachment to me, so it would have to be me to do it, but me doing it would be "running from my problems" in her eyes. For mw it is moving away from toxicity, but they usually do not see their toxicitiy becauae of their self-important natures. To them, they are pristine and do nothing wrong, which assumes they are always right, which is the basis for their self-important natures. I'm physically, mentally, emotionally, and even to the point of spiritually and royally done and tired with women and their bullshit tests. Believe me amd trust me or gtfo. I'm gdtting too old to be playing these games.
Thank you Casey! I have just been hit by a pull back/jealousy test and this video reaffirmed that I have the right approach to it. I let her go, I showed her i was displeased and angry and I haven't reached out since. She has a choice to make and I will let her think about what she's caused.
Man this sounds so familiar, I dealt with this kind of behavior for 5 years straight with my ex fiance. Broke up at least every 2 months. Ladies don't realize how hard this can backfire especially if overdone. Even though I worked things out with her, I slowly lost respect for her each time, and after 4 or 5 years ended up meeting somebody else that I liked, while we were split, and cutting her off for good.
As a woman I can say that feminism is the cause of a lot of trouble. Also the softening of men is reason for many disturbence. Women need strong bold men who sets out the boundaries en rules from the get go. Women need that. That is how are wired. We are followers not leaders.
Yeah, but when women consider themselves as followers... why to hell they want to lead and cannot follow? Allways. You can see it even in dancing courses. 90% of women from 20 to 50, when they come on the first lesson...they all want to lead a men even if they dont know how!🙈😁 First they must to learn how to follow, in dancing as well as in real life, too...
@@TheHonestTruth No. It is the media en society’s fault. They claim falsly that men need to be nice and women need to be independent. Men and women are not equal
The problem isn’t a lack of strong men (there are many around) but a modern woman’s inability to be with one by insisting on giving him crap and trying to fight for control and dominance. No self-respecting man will put up with that nonsense.
My last girlfriend wanted me to listen to her tell me about guys hitting on her. She said it was part of telling me about her day. I didn’t see how it was helpful. I told her it’s hurtful that she wants me to acknowledge that I understand she has a line of guys waiting behind me and I’m just an option. After she dumped me and hooked up with a mutual friend a few days later, she told me over text message how I compare to him when I didn’t get remotely close to asking for solicited knowledge of how much better my friend is now than I. When she’s in a good mood, she’s really pretty and the sweetest thing. It’s really creepy, looking back on all of it.
As a woman watching this, this is 100% correct. We do not do it intentionally and most of us have childhood wounding that leads us to these behaviors. Most people are insecurely attached and that is why divorce and breakups are so high unfortunately. I’m actively trying to get my triggers under control. I have add one last thing, men who use their masculine emotions to the extreme crossing the line with rage and violence, emotional or physical, that is a definite no and should never be tolerated or encouraged.
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I could have had her sign a document on my expectations in the beginning. But you how they act like none of that matters like nothing in the world matters but their emotions at that exact time. All this advice is great for us. But, women are not logical or reasonable humans.
Where does Jesus fit in?
Facts. Fiance pulled this shit. Over and over, she was shocked when I called it off after tons of emotional testing abuse. Women will burn down a building to see if it's fireproof.
Same. Mine was dumbfounded when I dumped her and never spoke to her again. She expected me to play this bullshit break up / make up game. I have no tolerance for that shit.
@@alexgataricsend her text how good was last night, ler her see it, then delete it
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It's like cat 7 lives but I can't never die
@@voiceofreason1829Why would he send that when he clearly stated he doesn’t tolerate that bs
Sitting here as a 50 year old man, shaking my head watching this, & thinking where were all the “how to know a woman’s BS & how to read it” coaches when I was a young man? These young men today have no idea how valuable this knowledge they can learn for free before they allow a woman to destroy them emotionally & mentally on today’s internet is truly a blessing for ALL MEN! Keep up the good work King!
This guy is a fool. Go listen to Tom Leykis.
All accurate in my opinion. I experienced all or most of the tests and to my credit, I had enough self respect to just keep saying buh bye. Her friends had a nickname horse me "Ryan again-- off again."
I had my Dad as coach. He got me on the right track with choosing women, and I have been married to my lovely wife for 48 years
@@Wayne55125So you're here simply for entertainment value🤔
Forgot the financial part
The second they want to leave it just means they think they can do better. Let them go and don’t go back.
enjoy being single forever (:
@@onno_vocks yea and you have to keep dumping them and be single.
@@amandaburleson2035 you're not the prize.
@@amandaburleson2035u indirectly said you’re one of these women 😂😂😂 get ur s..t together and be mature
@@lazi15 have fun with your average looking wife that is a good girl.
Everytime a girlfriend tried to shit test me I dumped her the same day and moved on. I now have four ex girlfriends trying to get me back and the sex is constantly on tap. Never commit to these type of women, just keep them hanging on.
It's sad how this shit actually works 😅😅😅
You too bro oh shit
Legend
And you think you’re the emotionally healthy one? They may not be, but you jumping from partner to partner without caring aren’t either.
This guy right here is beating them at their own game hahaha
My high school gf wanted to break up. I said cool, then she later said "you were supposed to fight for me!" I was totally over the relationship at that point. Fast forward eight years. I photographed her wedding, and she was still telling people we dated in high school. On her wedding day.
Have a similar situation, met a girl at a party and we did the usual stuff. i wasn't really that interested in her and i later introduced her to a frined of mine. They got married and have 2 children. but she still has a crush on me and likes to talk about me in front of others. Even seeks lone time with me.
its super weird, especially because i am a longtime friend to her husband.
What!!????
@@MrHelix7293lol something similar happened to me to like that and I just stopped talking to my friend for that same reason, they both would make it awkward
@@Max-qk3xi Were they… inviting you or something?
you photographed her wedding?? lmao
"Women test the strength of a relationship by purposefully destroying or self-sabotaging it.
Majority of men fail to maintain attraction, desire, and arousal during this test.
Understanding these concepts is crucial for handling the emotional investment in the relationship."
I'm seriously considering whether I still want this female drama/shit in my life (after a divorce one year ago)
U don’t
Nah G, just make money and travel the world homie!
And then they turn around in movies and social Media, demonIzing men, making it a culture to think that only men could be the abusers, narcissists and players. It shows you that women just scream their pain louder than men and they manage to get the attention for it, but it doesn’t mean that they are better, humans , more romantic, always the victim or completely innocent.
Use em and lose em. Be careful doing that too
Yeah you don't want that, the best way to get a Woman that you actually want is laid out for you at the end of this Video. Tell your potential Woman how things are going to be and if she plays games and tries to destroy the relationship, say There's the Door or if you are over at her place when she does this, say I am Gone and actually walk out the door and drive away out of her life. I had enough of my Ex Wife's BS and Divorced her and haven't looked back since. I have been focused on my own endeavors for 4 years since mentioned Divorce and if a Woman wants me in her life, she cannot try to destroy what we have if she truly wants me in her life as I will not put up with the BS Test as I call it. I am out of School, sure Life is Lessons learned, but we are not in a forsaken Classroom and I am not a classroom student! You either want me in your life for better or worse or you don't #TheEnd.
The key is to ignore and keep at arms length these energy sucking vampires until they get their act together and become respectful mature women
Not regarding women as "energy sucking vampires" is much more important.
@@frankslade33What he ment was to show them the way out. Punish them with ignorance if they misbehave, reward them for good behavior.
@@frankslade33 Well they are, and if they are damaged enough they will also drain you and consume your sexual energy. You'll figure this out when once you've been with enough women.
@@frankslade33 Heck, I'm on a roll now. Women want attention, attention is currency in girl world, and when a woman wants your _attention_ she IS draining you of energy.
That sounds like a headache dude. Do you actually know how long it can take for a woman to fully,if ever mature. And remember,women are great pretenders.
Do not relax when you think you can, they act all lovely and then kill the relationship, lesson learned the hard way.
Amen
If you can't relax.......you don't need her.
@@JonThompson-bt8rw it's true, some women are really narcissistic and cold, it's better to drop them, some of them are the exact opposite. However, they all manipulate and test you.
Wrong! . You can leave her and relaxed . Job is done 👍
Those women aren’t worth it. I wouldn’t chase or put on an act for anyone.
My recent ex did all these things. She has borderline personality disorder. It’s a never ending cycle of accusations , tantrums, breakups and apologies. Last time she tested me I said I was done. I’m so above and beyond those petty games. If that’s the same game mentally “healthy” women play - I’ll happily stay single.
TBH, Casey needs to talk about the difference between “test” and mentally ill. I doubt he can.
I recently did the same with a girlfriend. And I'm pretty convinced she had BPD, maybe Paranoid Schizophrenia and other mental health issues with it. Not to diagnose her but there was obviously something wrong with the wiring.
I am a 29 year old male. I have diagnosed BPD. It's shit and a lot of drama for sure, as if i am a woman on PMS often and i know i'm hard to handle. I never choose this and i hate myself for being this way but what i can do is try my ass off to not be a hardass and or a douchebag and when i love, i love beyond reason. Which as you can imagine is pain in the ass to say the least. But i think it's beyond BPD because i had a woman i loved more then the world and gave up 80% of my life for her and she still cheated and didn't care. Broke up, forgave and did the whole thing all over again... it's something in female psyche that just can't fully commit and god forbid really love that makes them overevaluate everything including us men and they are often like bees going from flower to flower if it suits them better. They see men as tools, crutch or a badage, sometimes even rebreather or a defibrilator but you have to realise that even doe defib may save your life, you will not use it all the time, hence my analogy... I never even managed to help my mother, whis is left with sister and i after a divorce from a wife & child beater and i stuck with her and tried to help and make her open her eyes and live but she is beyond that, and i knew her all my life. Women are boyond reason
Man… cluster bs are very hard to deal with in a relationship. The best advice I can give anyone dating a borderline is to stand firm and love from a distance. Keep one foot out the door; their fear of abandonment will always keep them in chase rather than the “I love you, don’t leave me” in check
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As a woman I concur this is spot on!
I pulled this BS on my husband (unconsciously) a few times when I realized I was in love with him and he totally knew how to respond. 17 years and two babies later, we're going strong and I haven't done this in a long, long time. We women are pretty nutty.
Discusting I'ma be g3y
How did he respond? @slavi7191
@@jordanbaltes6719 she not gonna reveal that, bruh. She evil
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Hope he recovered well. Cheers
I just got out of a 12 year relationship. What Casey is saying is 100% true. I hope whoever is watching this heeds this godlike truth. I'm being sincere here.
I feel for u but 12 years should have atleast been a marriage.
@@rubixrude9954that would’ve been worse
If he never married, I'd say he played his hand right!!! @@rubixrude9954
Yeah. Women don’t have forever. Was she past her child bearing years?
So true before I was married my wife pulled this on me and my insecurities started to come out. I tightened up and right when she knew I was starting to date all of a sudden she was ready to come back. We’re married now and I can see her respect for me is much higher now but don’t think the test stop. I just had one the other day and had to reiterate her role in this relationship. Next thing you know she’s moving in to cuddle at night. This is the cycle fellas. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news 🤷🏽♂️
When a woman deep down loves you…..your dreaming. It’s impossible for a woman to love a man anywhere even close to how a man loves a woman.
They only love what you can offer.
Yes they can love as deep as you, and often ways way deeper. But then the wind blows, and she don't love you anymore.
The difference is NOT being able to love as much or not, difference is that women's love fluctuate, comes and goes FAST on a whim.
This is why societies shaming divorces where CRUTIAL to maintain families in the past, and why families are fucke today.
If you count on love to maintain couples, you're fucked. Only service, sacrifice, social shaming/acceptance works.
Compassion and love really aren't the same thing. Its true.
I think that after having children with the woman and displaying being a good father and protector the woman will love the man. But not until then. So men have to deal with that imbalance.
The other issue is that men may get less attracted to the woman at that point. So may show less affection. So the balance shifts the other way.
Complicated stuff
@@kevinpankanin6222 Lol, you watch too much TV.
Any woman who behaves as described wants to somehow test me I will just walk away I don’t need that kind of drama in my life.
I bet your still single. All females are the same.
I agree with you. If you chase her or take part in her drama, then you’ll deserve what you get. Endless drama.
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Testing the strength of a relationship on purpose is a head game.
Facts i think its the dumbest thing they do. My ex did that shit and i fucking thought “why the hell would she almosttt end the relationship bc of a fight or me being difficult, when things could easily be handled between us?” When she first said we need a break (bc i got mad and showed bad behavior as she put it) i guess i was wrong by actually telling her i dont do breaks etc. I said theres no reason to break up & i went against that shit…but i should of just let it go im assuming? Hate that shit
@@redline350zHRion blame you bro I said the same thing with my ex I should’ve just walk away but I was young
I can't stand how much of this has proven time and time again to be anecdotally spot on in my life. This video is insane.
I don't care how many techniques are out there to pass their ridiculous tests. I refuse to keep playing into their wicked mental games. I've had enough of them through my life. Either she plays honest or I'm out. And that's that
Agreed
Agreed
Agreed 👍💯
@user-zg9pb8lz2g I ve had 3-6 month dating runs with different women.....they can't hold it together for any longer than that, I'm convinced. When shit gets real, they can't hold it together.......and there's always 10 idiots begging to take them out anyways
Good luck wit dat. Dats like tryna find a unicorn
Correction to the video: women do not, and _cannot_ , love men. They can only become attached to a man along one or more of the five connection pathways: physical, spiritual, intellectual, emotional and financial.
Men, on the other hand, can and often do love women.
So, _there is no such thing_ as a woman "loving" a man or "falling in love" with a man. They can only feel attachment, nothing more. If they feel attached to you, they will stick with you. If they ever don't feel attached to you, they will start monkey branching away. So, love has nothing to do with women because they simply cannot feel it.
Women are almost like kids .
Like your kid will say hey daddy i want that toy and will keep obsessing over it even for years and keep crying everyday until he gets it and if you dont give it to him he will think about that toy 24/7 and will find ways on how to get it and also behave as you want.
But after you get your kid that toy . On the first day he will seem happy and play with it or even sleep with it but after few days you'll feel he has start ignoring it and after getting bored your kid will wonder whats inside that toy and break it to pieces and now that he knows whats inside it he won't be interested.
Like you saw your kid obsessing over a toy for months and requesting you but you saw in a week he had got bored of that toy and prolly dismantle it and throw it to trash.
And now he will ask you for some other toy
Agree - women will APPEAR to circumstantially love a man. Successful marriages come to mind. But it's not love.
Pretty much yh
We don't need women
When a humiliated individual is exalted to a pedestal, you have love.
That is what love IS. The exaltation of a humiliated person. Ignoring the humiliation.. not letting it lower their value, but actually increase it.. especially if they humilated themselves out of love FOR you. That is what love is.
Gives a little more credence to Jesus supposedly being love itself.
Women CAN do this. I've experienced it more than once. Even when I had zero "value" and no ability to give back, whatsoever.
She destroyed the relationship blocked me on the gram and I just walked past her with another girl for short time much younger than her - she looked very stunned 👏🏻☺️
These girls are an enormous amount of work. Ultra high maintenance.
Dang. Women can be so ruthless, twisted, and self-centered. Care? Love? WTF. Forget about calling it a relationship. It's an ongoing shit test.
And shit testing is abuse. If you disagree, replicate the behavior but reverse genders. Abuse.
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No. It's actually natural and encoded in the DNA.
@@puanani_usa it's fun for y'all but it's hell for us. You cant be in peace with the person you love. Knowing her love towards you is only conditional. Can't let your guards down. Your love towards her she sees it as weakness.
@puanani_usa If, as a woman (or man), you've never loved a man (or woman) unconditionally, you're only pretending to be human - i.e., going through the motions of life with neither wisdom nor understanding.
Women test their relationships all the way to 3 cats and boxed wines.
That makes so much sense😂😂
shit just 3 cats try 9
lol
If they are late 20’s without a good man and some kids they are making terrible decisions. Especially if they are good looking.
If a woman puts me through tests like this I don't even want her anymore.
This is spot on for women with attachment issues. But, not all women have attachment issues. Also, many women have strong cluster B traits. But not all. Walk away from women with attachment issues and find someone secure and emotionally intelligent. They do exist.
Yes to this.
I swear it’s so true. Makes you hate F3mal3 nature. Us men just want to relax, love someone unconditionally, make love occasionally and stay out the way. But it’s like you say, subconsciously they punish the men that they love and one who loves them back. They do it because deep down they feel guilt for emotionally cheating with other men and because they know deep down that they don’t deserve you and the things that you do for them, which makes them feel the need to test you and the relationship. I hate that shyt.
Don't shape yourself into what these worldly women want you to be... Don't do that one... If you just focus, you'll notice a lot of them are spiritually dead. They want you to put her first.. Before God, obviously. They want you to worship the ground they walk on. And, some of them are bold to the point, where they say this with so much conviction, like it's the most natural thing. Well, it isn't. I want you to understand, a lot of women carry demons on them. And I don't mean that in figurative way, I mean that in literal way...they carry bad spirits on them. Spirit of pride is one of them. The leviathan spirit. A lot of women, they can't be told nothing, you know what I mean... It's been normalized that you see a lot of prideful women, or women with an overblown ego. That is an unclean spirit, guys. The holy spirit humbles you. The holy spirit humbles you! You know what I'm talking about, whenever you try to talk to them, it goes in one ear, leaves thru the other, they are twisting your words, skip over facts, deny validity of any input.. That my men is literally a spirit. Don't feed into it, don't interact with it, unless you're a trained professional. You will never make it understand, it'll never be satiated. It's agenda is to confuse and create chaos not to come to understanding and compromise. I have told you, once you see those signs, keep on moving. God bless you all. In the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.
They are the one who are cheating and are afraid that you will cheat too
Gee, "us men" , you have no idea what women go through with men,,, in my experience , this is not what men want in my experience
Hard to swallow pill..If you list "she's always right" as one of the "keys" to a happy/functional marriage. Your marriage is dysfunctionial and you're in denial about your level of your happiness.
@@colleenodonnell7700yeah this guy is speaking for himself. I’ve been set up to be raped because a man owed someone money, I have been engaged to a lawyer and he cheated on me at a friend’s bachelor party with a Japanese stripper, and I have been used and abused plenty of times. But they just want to love unconditionally and stay out of the way! He speaks for ALL men!
The person having more power and frame in the relationship is the who least care about it.
If a woman is with a weak man, she will drag him through hell and back.
@@brentonlthe fact that we have to fight with them constantly gets old
When women have the power all hell breaks loose. Women are emotional beings and unfortunately emotions have absolutely no logical thought. Men think logically women think with emotions. Men need to have frame to control the relationship. It's actually kinda easy...have frame and women will surrender.
@@brentonlits even worse for those guys bc women emasculate, disrespect and destroy a man they cant respects self confidence
not really. power comes from understanding and accepting the reality.
They do not care about the consequences of their emotional decisions or their actions! And if they do, then they’ll have to face it!
100% true bro 💪🏼😪
Girls are gonna hate this but it’s accurate
Truth hurts buttercup
Don’t get overwhelmed by this info guys. Basically if you can be the best version of yourself meaning if you are happy with who you are on your own, that is the key and everything will fall into place.
Most men ARE happy, until they have a woman in their life. Fact: a woman will make you question your sanity and ability to make good decisions.
The best technique to use and its free. Women are crazy so you just ignore them!!! Be happy and safe yourself the unnecessary drama or stress!! Thank you!!!
lol! I failed this test. I was in love with a girl who dumped me and started dating an older guy. I gave up on the relationship in a week because the emotional pain was too much for me. I ignored her out of my mind, and then she screamed at me 2 months later out of nowhere. I was so confused at the time... and no, I didn't take her back.
I failed this test with my H.S. gf when she broke up with me after 5 years I pleaded and cried like a pussy for her not to leave me. Poor girl looked so uncomfortable and embarrassed seeing other people watch in the street
You didn't play her game and won
sounds more like you passed with flying colors! :)
You didn’t fail. You dodged a bullet with a girl of zero character. She left you and started banging someone else. Ratchet behaviour.
Naw, you passed the test.
My ex was shit testing me with some "time apart" shit. A few months later, she came back crying........with herpes. No thanks!
My ex did this too. 😂
She saved you bro!
Maybe aids too
Damn SMH 🤔☁️🤦🏽
They act just like children. My goodness man 🤣🤣
Don't talk about children that way!
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Yeah just like . Better call George said
They are really evil sometimes.
Yup
After watching these videos, I learned one thing. By keeping note of hypergamy, since I'm able to easily pull in women in the 7s, and they usually give me less trouble that means I'm an 8. When I get with women who are 8s and 9s, that's when these problem begin, they try to self sabotage and are constantly looking for weakness, it's like a never ending psychological battle. So, I think I'm gonna settle with a woman in the 7s for peace of mind since I still find them incredibly hot and emotionally stable, and they usually treat me like a king.
Single girls that are 8s & 9s are single because they crazy.
I'm sad that this is how you view the world.
@@JustCammie What do you mean?
@awakenedone7577 rating people, including yourself, and looking at people as numbers on a scale rather than recognizing the fact that human beings are greatly nuanced and it just isn't that simple. What makes someone a 1 or a 10? It's just as bad as black and white thinking. It isn't how we should view each other. We're all individuals, and attraction is also very subjective.
To add, attraction has more to do with one's own self than the other person. That's also something to consider.
Years ago a girlfriend decided to "test me" by sleeping with another guy. After I kicked her to the curb (what else could I do) she kept crying to take her back.
You did the right thing
Perfect timing, crazy how all of us have went through the same thing. Women are pre-wired to do the same stuff, it’s predictable
modern instagram girls are not mature women.
Never ever go back if she breaks up with you. They don't change. Been there, done that.
Facts they play the victim card and act dumb and don’t respect you decision in the future
Bro such facts I literally had to learn this lesson the hard way just recently. I figured at some point they would get it together or they would change for the better but nah. People repeat patterns and they tend to revert back to what they know. Gotta learn this. Gotta learn to walk away and have your dignity cause they will try to take all of it away. Stay strong and stay focused men.
I'm gone through hell for this woman all year. I'm going to reach out to her in Jan. It's been 3 months
@@jasonweber225Don’t
If I get exclusive with a girl, I will set a boundary with her. I will say to her, if you threaten to end the relationship, or give me a shit test and actually end it with your words or if she says she wants an open relationship, then I will ghost her forever. I don't care about what relationship we had. She ended it with that crap. I don't want to play games.
Shut up goof ball 🤣🤣🤣
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Fucking same. I don't care how good it was.
Just leave. You will suffer for a while, but big win long term.
I’ll do the same with men
@@datingandlifeadvicechannel7534 Absolutely. I hope, with all my heart, that you have the most wonderful relationship there is. Your desire is super good.
I, as in me, myself just recently broke up with my gf of 5 years after she tried sabotaging the relationship. I was not up for anymore of her games and agreed to end the relationship that she suggested we do. She didn't see it coming this way by me and we ended it with a big fight as the grand finale. Haven't spoke to each in two weeks. I hope everyday she never comes crawling back because I have different plans for me
I was married for 25 years, and she left me for the guy with the million-dollar yacht. two years later she wanted to come back. I had made my rules and said no. I am 75 now and still single. You make some good points however it does not always work out. Women are still drawn to wealth not always your masculine strength.
From what I see, I think it would be easier for me to become a rocket scientist then to maintain a relationship.
Lmfao my N
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Genius 😂
Impossible to maintain masculine energy and not show fear when she is the mother of your kids . Fantastic methods and female psychology for young single lads however far more daunting for married men .
Exactly. Married with children? You’re hostage.
Dude tell her no problem, Im assured you can raise our kids by yourself, I'm gonna find decent girl and start new family with kids..then leave..she will beg you to raise your kids
@@voiceofreason1829that would mean losing his kids, and paying for them at the same time. Most men can’t afford child support fees and start a new family. No man would want to leave his kids anyway…especially if the mother isn’t particularly stable
@@AdamBrowne-eg1eb no negotiation with terrorists
I just got caught cheating by my partner of 13 years. We have 2 children. She’s a solid 8/10. I said well you know what I’m like when we got together. You can leave if you like. 2 days later we had a fight and she apologised and asked why she wasn’t good enough and what she can do to improve. Stop being a 🐈⬛. Get jacked, flirt with other women etc.
I've been in a relationship since oct. The other day she broke down and said I'm emotionally unavailable and that she's know she's not my ideal girl. She said she can feel lit. My last relationship was horrible, so I can't really get attached to anyone. Breaking up with a girl is nothing to me
It just means she really like you
@ashinthewind2759 just like the video says. She still tests. She's a ghetto latina. Her problem is talking shit 😆. That break up around the corner lol
@@ashinthewind2759she is seeking for his investment, and trust me once he invest without guaging level from the both side he will loose to it
Be careful she could be up to something
Keep focusing on your stuff. Always.
I’m going through a very rough time with my wife, she is testing to the extreme.
This video is exactly what I need. Even though we have been married for 27 years and provided for her and our kids the whole time (single income family) she’ll throw out how much I’ve hurt her and never loved her. Now I’m the first to admit I’m not perfect and done stupid and sometimes even bad things but it seems to me her reactions go far beyond what “I’ve done to her.”
I’m going to rewatch a few times and I know the one deficit I have is a lack of firm identification of my value and who I am.
Paternity test.
She is projecting. Probably she is the one that never loved you, sorry to say that, then again, paternity test!
Time to close the door...
I love that this ended up in my algorithm. These videos give me insight into patterns that I didn’t even know I had.
She tests to see how attached you are to her, to know your level of commitment. But if you show a great deal of attachment, then she sees that as weakness, hypergamy is not satisfied, and she loses interest. So nothing you do matters. She is just too confused to maintain a stable relationship.
I think someone wrote a good thing in the comment section - replace the word woman with the word GIRL.
I’m woman, in a relationship with my man which I love and care about so much. From the point we started to officially date which was less than a month after we have met, I never put myself in a position to lose him! Never! If a woman loves you with all heart and soul and she knows he is the right man for her, she will never put herself in a position to lose the man she loves.
I’m talking here about mature women not girls. There is no place for immature games, break-ups to check if you care about me or similar things…every action you take as an individual has an impact/consequence on your partner.
I’ve been in a situations where I wanted to do or behave in my way but since I knew my boyfriend wouldn’t like that - I stayed away from those things/behavior/relationship dynamic etc. .. btw. I’m 28 but dating nowadays is just sad… I have 2 younger brothers and when I see how they are treated and what they need to go through as guys it’s just sad and it makes me angry why we ended up where we are as a society now :(
How long have you been with him????
How were they treated?
They were treated like simps lmao
What I’m reading is NOT that you, as a woman, are doing the right thing or behaving yourself out of some mature management of yourself and your emotions but that your man is high value and KNOWS how to manage you. That you don’t risk your relationship with this man you… “love”… because you know that you will lose a sound man and all the benefits he brings to your life were you to choose other behaviors in your relationship.
on point. experienced this, every step of the way. Hard lesson to learn, but once you learn it you're free.
I like seeing your wisdom geared towards long-term relationships. Being married I try to take the things you show and make them work in a married relationship.
God bless Casey and his work. The cross on his chest is a proof he is the man to follow.
I am showing these videos to my 20 yo son so he won't make same mistakes like me
Or, sometimes she is just done. So whether it’s a shit test or she is really done, take her for her word and bounce. Wish her the best, tell her you love her, and go ghost. Do not look back. And, when she reaches out, wish her the best again but it’s done. Decisions were made. She needs to live with it as an adult .
"... as an adult". Amen.
Yup so do us as men once we made the decision. Being sure is a masculine trait, don't bounce back n forth. Don't wish her bad, genuinely wish her good and move on.
Bro modern women are far from adults.
The breakup routine is a mega turn off anyway.
If she is just flat out done, you just messed up bad. Because a woman will never be truly 'done' with a guy manipulating her well hehe
Bro u absolutely nailed it.
BTW best comment section ever! It feels so damn good to sense some kind of brotherhood that when it comes to future cat ladies.
I've been blessed to have two women in my life I truly loved and wanted a future with both ended with me being hurt after I failed them test this is the things that no one tells you about women so thanks for your work bro
This is so accurate it’s unbelievable ! But YES this does happen !!!!!!!
The contents of this video is so true and now I understand why my woman acts like a b...h most of the time but she won't leave me. Dating nowadays is more complicated than calculus, differentiation or nuclear engineering.
Looks like you didn’t set the rules.
It's always been this way. Meeting women now gets harder because our heads are stuck in our phones and computers.
Set the rules
learn the power of indifference and you'll avoid most of the nonsense they'll put you through
Freaking true...too many simps failed to master this important skill. Also, my way or the highway. In my relationship, she plays by MY rule or get out. I don't have time for games.
@@mikef2811 like a boss
This is absolutely insane. I don't mean it is incorrect, I mean that the behavior Casey is describing is completely crazy. And this is why I have nothing to do with women anymore. I study them for the entertainment value and because I can't believe a group of people can be so solipsistic and self-destructive. I am teaching my son never to be like them.
I’m binging your channel over the last couple months, and I got to say this might be your best video. It shows a very deep understanding that you have. Thanks for sharing this, it was very helpful.
I don't allow women to test me. I was done with testing back in Higschool. I test them. They don't meet my criteria, they're out.
To test someone is to think that you're in a position of authority that you're the breadwinner....
From a distance it´s fairly easy to understand women, the problem is that we men obviously have feelings too. Our soft "feminine" sides are not welcome with women, it´s just nature, so best advice is to never let yourself fall fully in love with a women, she doesn´t understand that, she want to feel safe with her dominant man,. When we fail to give her that feeling, out of neediness, she is already looking for an escape. What finally makes a women tie her strings to one man is when she feels safe enough with one man and is tired of being chased. So don´t fall in love, and don´t try to tie her down, the woman will settle when she is ready. I´m 43 years and have plenty of experience with these creatures.
Had enough test in school i want to get on with enjoying life peace quiet
This dude is legendary. You’re witnessing a true genius I swear. Had to comment that too!
*A lot of it comes down to insecurities and not understanding how to communicate or respect each other's needs. Both partners have to be willing to grow and put in the effort to make things work.*
Videos on this topic piss me off because I TRULY BELIEVED that being nonchalant about the relationship rules and showing her I didn’t care is what would be what would keep her. PLEASE listen to this advice men: be aggressive and territorial with her to show her you care. Be decisive, and once she leaves you or crosses a boundary WALK AWAY
why do you say this?
I swear. Everytime you post something, is exactly what I'm going through in a relationship. The timing has been bang on for the last 2 months
“We’re not on the same page blah blah blah” is CRAZY WORK. SHOWS HOW ATTRACTIVE THIS GUY IS TO HIS GIRLFRIEND. LADIES RUNNNNNN !!!!!
Tried and tested. When my ex told me we needed a break, my initial reaction was sadness and fear of losing her. I even begged her to stays. Big mistake because that only pushed her away. But the next day I was pissed off and frustrated because I couldn't understand why she was destroying something good. When she contacted me she was actually surprised that I was angry with her because I never raised my voice at her before. As soon as I yelled at her, she had nothing to say, and just sat there moping with puppy dog eyes, almost like a child. Which was weird because before then she was talking down to me. I was empowered as I had "won the break up". After our last talk she tried contacting me for the next 4 months. Calling, texting me to tell me how sorry she was. I just ignored it. She lost me.
They only understand emotional language. Anger resonates with them on a cerebral level.
The secret to any relationahip is aettimg boundaries amd expectations. You WILL be tested on them. You must stand fitm whatever the consrquence
@@jeansollot6419If she leaves, so what? Stop being a dork.
I have been married for 15 years and the last few involved incredibly massive external stress, and a long separation made necessary to help a child in a terrible situation. Working back to the relationship we had before all of this is difficult, but your perspective makes it so very much easier to manage all the drama. I'm a Marine Infantryman. I understand strategy and commitment to a goal. Knowing the logic of the strategy makes executing it and accepting the risks so much easier. I have NO doubt whatsoever about being irreplaceable, but she is happier than most to simply be alone. Life is impermanence and it will be what it will be, but at least with this knowledge I can intelligently adapt my strategy to real time challenges.
Thanks for a great video. I agreed with most of the points. Just want to point out that it is never a good idea to show possessive and jealous emotions to your lady. Hide it if u need to. Only man lacking confidence needs to control their lady and feels jealous if they talk to other man. They will run away from you real quick. You can thank me later. Another tip i want to share is focus on building your internal confidence and be comfortable with who you are. U will automatically passess these tests without any effort or awareness as your actions and emotions are on autopilot if u r self confident. avoiding woman is not the best solution. They bring more positives than negatives overall into our lives if u r a confident man.
Makes totally sense!!! Good job mate for putting in the effort to bring this to the light!
This video by my boy, Casey Zander, was pure GOLD ! 🔥
Tate said something similar about how when he's sad you can't tell because he doesn't show those emotions even though he feels them.
That's a good skill, being able to feel something and keep it to yourself without expressing it or bringing attention to it.
There's no benefit to doing so.
I’m here watching & thinking women are so complicated that there’s multiple people studying them like a science projects 😂😂😂
That kind of toxic and immature thought process is the reason why most of them will end up being cat ladies.
Not surprising why top shelf guys won’t commit to them and only limit the interaction to a FWB level
I like that Casey showed the best way to deal with this is to nip it in the bud. When you decide to be in a relationship, state your boundaries and rules, then call her out if she violates them.
I like the idea of being a one-strike kind of guy. The first time she shit-tests you, it's over. The greatest asset we have is that we can choose a life of peace and freedom from drama or we can have a beautiful, mutually benefitting, loving relationship. There is no third option. Women often think that without them, you're just going to get with another woman. They can't stand the thought that you'll be just fine on your own. They can't compete with that.
If she’s testing you a lot, that means you already failed.
You just solved what am going through right now. Thanks love Guru
Little breakups here and there, sure. That only makes the person not playing games lose trust and respect for the other.
This is why guys are saying f this juice not worth the squeeze
“Imagine that she only loves you for the image she wants you to portray to her. Wait, did she ever love you for you to ever do all that. Be strong enough to not care if the wrong ones leave. You were ready since the beginning. Heck, I may have stronger feminine energy than to care so much past my heartlessness. The honor and passion to be you past all her bs that doesn’t measure up to your greatness as a person. Oh, I don’t hate in return. I bid her well as a demonstration of my class and character.” 🍷
Omg this helped me to understand myself as a woman! Thank you
I agree on everything you are saying and to the guys in the comments: 'I'd let her go. I don't want any drama'
I think you won't ever win with this mindset. You'll have to restart again and again with new girls.
There must be some biological mechanism proving that you are capable of leading a familiy.
A woman builds a home...then destroys it. -- Chinese proverb.
That’s right. Men are creators, women are perfect consumers, users, destroyers. They create life, but the price they charge for creating life is using, consuming and destroying things around them. Men that have kids go for that exchange, but the ones that don’t want to have kids with women looking at it as a parade of pathologies.
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Watching this video and reading the comments makes me feel better about these last 2 weeks I’ve had. Glad to know I’m not alone in how I felt, but that I just have to do the work on myself to get better and stand on business as a man.
As a woman I am going through this with a guy over the past 2 weeks. Not sure why guys won't just reaffirm their interest and connection, but rather cold stone a girl. How exactly is that arousing for a woman, sorry I don't get it. His silence is just killing me. There is a need to test a relationship, I don't want to be with a guy faking it.
@@MMS-hr1nz there are far better ways to test a relationship than by threatening to end it just so you can evaluate whether the response suits you.
@@DavidMRudy-kn8ed The reason? The man behaved like he wanted me to pull out by stonewalling me. If we had a more intimate moment together, then the next day the stonewalling would begin. He was manipulating me to become emotionally dependent. Why would I ever have doubts about a man if he treated me well and communicated with me? I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me. I did end it for real, but had he wanted to work on things and find compromises, I would have been more than happy to work things out with him. But it was my-way-or-highway type of attitude. Not a recipe for a healthy relationship, if you ask me. But thank you for your response, I appreciate it.
@@MMS-hr1nz "I have a life and s*** to do, I did not need someone to come into my life and try to mindf*** me".
Same with every guy as well.Stop with the dumb tests. I'm not going to even try anymore. I'm on the same mindset. If you want it over, fine. I'm going to suffer now, but long term is the best decision, doesn't matter how good the relationship was. I want to be with an adult, not a child playing games. Stop playing games and show the men you love that you love them.
Now, I speak in general. I don't know in your case. But comunication is key. But be aware that if something happens with another man, it's over.
I don't think a "woman in love" is to be thought of in the same manner as a man being in love. Males love differently. Women love based on needs being fulfilled and provisioning. They don't connect deeply - this is why they can leave at the drop of a dime and likely monkey branched in the leadup. They love for different reasons and in a different way. It is their ingrained survival instinct mentality, and evolutionary psychology being demonstrated. Don't hate them for it, it's like hating a dog for barking. If you don't want to hear a dog bark though, don't have one. Same thing goes for a woman.
True but let's be clear, this being what it is, marriage is off the table.
@@involuntarilychad4048 Absolutely, I could never recommend a man to get married or engage in any arrangement that resembles a marriage in the eyes of the state.
Im in in the similar situation right now. This video came at the right time as it confirms my deepest intentions: hold my ground, solidify myself, and be ready to throw the book at her if she goes (and she is) too far. I have one foot out the door now, this is a live-in situation. So maybe the logistics make departing a little .... tricky. I'm sure Ill figure out a plan.
I'm in the same situation too. Question is do you wait for her to contact you first or reach out at some point?
They don’t love you,they love what you do to and for them.
♤ Expect the RESPECT all the time.
♤ Show emotions but not of desperation but of love..the moment you express emotions of neediness, you are fucked. Instead express the emotions of love and affection and yet reamain calm, stoic, independent.
When a women pulls back or bails, let her go. Otherwise, it will be a never ending cycle of drama on her level. And, never take a woman back if she punches out. Women who do this are women you don't want in your life. Keep it simple.
If she truly loves you, she needs to know absolutely, unequivocally, and positively how *not to be* an absolute pain in the ass. End of story. This is *why* there are so many women getting passed by these days. Guys. Stop taking guff.
When the tests come….. it’s time to leave. I let mine sit with her actions for over 5 years……. I’m now divorcing her. I don’t put up with playing games anymore. At all. Be with me or not. End of story.
If they start with the tests, it’s time to leave. They are manipulating you.
If you care about something too much it can be used as a weapon against you.
I must be showing these "strong characteristics" cause my narcissist is always hitting me with tests and exams and all sorts of stupid bullshit, and has gone through the act of wanting to breakup, and yet when i say that perhaps I should disappear since I am the problem, it twists and morphs into me "running away from my problems" when i wish to exit.
She obviously cannot leave with her attachment to me, so it would have to be me to do it, but me doing it would be "running from my problems" in her eyes. For mw it is moving away from toxicity, but they usually do not see their toxicitiy becauae of their self-important natures. To them, they are pristine and do nothing wrong, which assumes they are always right, which is the basis for their self-important natures.
I'm physically, mentally, emotionally, and even to the point of spiritually and royally done and tired with women and their bullshit tests. Believe me amd trust me or gtfo. I'm gdtting too old to be playing these games.
When the great pullback occurs, you hit the gym for some pull downs to commemorate her loss...
she tested.....i walked away ..🤸🍼
Thank you Casey! I have just been hit by a pull back/jealousy test and this video reaffirmed that I have the right approach to it. I let her go, I showed her i was displeased and angry and I haven't reached out since. She has a choice to make and I will let her think about what she's caused.
Man this sounds so familiar, I dealt with this kind of behavior for 5 years straight with my ex fiance. Broke up at least every 2 months. Ladies don't realize how hard this can backfire especially if overdone. Even though I worked things out with her, I slowly lost respect for her each time, and after 4 or 5 years ended up meeting somebody else that I liked, while we were split, and cutting her off for good.
As a woman I can say that feminism is the cause of a lot of trouble. Also the softening of men is reason for many disturbence. Women need strong bold men who sets out the boundaries en rules from the get go. Women need that. That is how are wired. We are followers not leaders.
Yeah, but when women consider themselves as followers... why to hell they want to lead and cannot follow? Allways. You can see it even in dancing courses. 90% of women from 20 to 50, when they come on the first lesson...they all want to lead a men even if they dont know how!🙈😁 First they must to learn how to follow, in dancing as well as in real life, too...
So it's mens faults like always
@@TheHonestTruth No. It is the media en society’s fault. They claim falsly that men need to be nice and women need to be independent. Men and women are not equal
@@tomb3160Sadly most women I know consider themselves leaders. We are not. Most women are delusional about this.
The problem isn’t a lack of strong men (there are many around) but a modern woman’s inability to be with one by insisting on giving him crap and trying to fight for control and dominance.
No self-respecting man will put up with that nonsense.
My last girlfriend wanted me to listen to her tell me about guys hitting on her. She said it was part of telling me about her day. I didn’t see how it was helpful. I told her it’s hurtful that she wants me to acknowledge that I understand she has a line of guys waiting behind me and I’m just an option. After she dumped me and hooked up with a mutual friend a few days later, she told me over text message how I compare to him when I didn’t get remotely close to asking for solicited knowledge of how much better my friend is now than I. When she’s in a good mood, she’s really pretty and the sweetest thing. It’s really creepy, looking back on all of it.
Silver lining is that you know that guy wasn't your friend after all. Say thanks to her!
Sounds like narcissism to me
I’ve dated quite a few I think…
As a woman watching this, this is 100% correct. We do not do it intentionally and most of us have childhood wounding that leads us to these behaviors. Most people are insecurely attached and that is why divorce and breakups are so high unfortunately. I’m actively trying to get my triggers under control. I have add one last thing, men who use their masculine emotions to the extreme crossing the line with rage and violence, emotional or physical, that is a definite no and should never be tolerated or encouraged.
@EricaWexler Can you share your experience regarding this subconscious test and how it ended up?
@@jneanfdwsnfwe1231 it’s doesn’t end well. It drives men and people in general away. That’s why awareness is key ;)
Watching Casey Zander is like getting a licence to date . I recommend every young man to get your licence first . Saving us years of traps and pitfalls .