Proof Alcohol Makes Your ADHD 10 x Worse! - Ruari Fairbairns
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 6 ส.ค. 2024
- Alex sits down with 'One Year No Beer' co-founder Ruari Fairbairns to talk about the surprising relationship between ADHD and alcohol.
Expect to learn: Why quitting alcohol in this day and age is so hard, how to speak to a friend who is drinking too much alcohol and how alcohol is holding you back without you knowing.
Topics:
01:06 The surprising negative relationship between alcohol and ADHD
07:38 When does alcohol become a problem?
11:19 How would you approach a friend who drinks too much alcohol?
12:48 How to NOT give in to peer pressure
15:36 Why quitting alcohol is so hard
27:02 Ruari's ADHD diagnosis
27:33 How ADHD shows up in your marriage
29:03 The most important thing for a neurotypical partner to understand about ADHD
30:19 How your wife felt about being married to a heavy drinker
34:31 How to change behaviour and break habits
37:44 Your drinking habits in your marriage
41:03 How alcohol is holding people back
42:36 Your ADHD item
43:54 Why are people scared to quit alcohol?
46:29 Other ways alcohol affects people
47:46 Washing machine of woes
52:43 The connection between compulsive behaviour and trauma
55:35 Your most impulsive thing
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People with ADHD might want to skip to 1.05
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I have ADHD, but the moment I touch my bed, I'm in dreamland. I think this is because my brain and body are so busy all day; I'm really tired by the end of the day.
bin so neidisch
I'm so glad you challenged on the trauma theory of ADHD, Alex. There's so much misunderstanding and misinformation out there that it's vital to stick to the evidence - well done👏🏻
Most of the things I regret most are things I did when I was drunk or hungover.
Just being devils advocate the best times you’ve ever had was when you were drunk as well I’d imagine. It’s tough
That explains my situation, I got c-ptsd enrooted to my drinking experiences
The only ONE thing that got me off alcohol, is that it makes me more stressed out the next day. The increase of cortisol is not worth it for me. With my ADHD i COULD NOT stop.
100 percent ! Plus casual recreational drugs..
Same here
As someone who stopped drinking I have yet to find an individual who has the courage to say "I didn't felt that much better, I didn't lose the weight, all my problems didn't went away" That's when stopping drinking is really hard, when you don't notice a big difference. Staying absent would be way easier if it did.
Incredible as always! I have learned so much about myself. Being self aware in the moment and learning to take a breath has helped unlike anything else has. Thank you so much Alex for this podcast it has honestly saved me. I am on a new path and learning about my ADHD and how it has actually prevented me from being able to continually heal from my past traumas. Time and time again I have gone to retreat centers where there is incredible structure and a set schedule but after leaving I start forgetting to continue my practices like meditation and yoga and being mindful. Thankfully your podcast has actually made me aware of a lot of what is going on in my life and why it has been such a struggle to stay on the healing path. Now I wake up every morning and meditate because I have started writing on my windows and glass doors reminders of what I need to do through out the day. I know it sounds silly but it works for me and I am so thankful for it because I rarely forget what to do these days. I've tried to do lists on paper or planners but they never work because the second I set it down it was so easy for me to not look at it. With it being on the windows and my doors its right there and there is no forgetting it. There is also the reward aspect of being able to check the things off my list and seeing what I have done through out the day. It also is great at encouraging me to do it because I am the type of person who wants to be proud of what I have done through out the day. Thank you Alex from the bottom of my heart for creating this Podcast!
Thank YOU for being here Sam. So pleased you like the podcast :)
I changed my relationship to alcohol and how I see it when I found out about my ADHD, then therapy combined with medication healed my binging and horrible habits in many ways. I never thought I´d say I don´t really feel like drinking, for months at the time, and when actually having a small drink to be getting tired of it and not even finish the first one. I never thought it was possible but now I have to find out ways to socialize without getting weird looks about not drinking. Peer-pressure and alcohol culture can be hard to avoid
Great interviewing Alex , and loved you challenging the trauma /adhd notion 🙌
Great interview, smart questions thank you both from a mother of a child with adhd and an autoimmune illness, trying to prepare for the future
Thank you! :) Alex
I gave up drinking almost completely in 2017 when I started my last crazy special interest of becoming a bodybuilding competitive fitness model age 49 .. I thought before I gave up that I was an extrovert , then once I gave up I thought I was an introvert.. now I realise that I have had adhd my whole life !
I read Alan Carr’s Easy Way to Control Your Drinking and haven’t had a drink since, don’t even miss it. I highly recommend the book.
His book worked for me for smoking I've been quit for 12 years, but alcohol not so much as it does help to quiet my mind at least initially
That book was actually copied from a book called , ' Jason Vales' Quit The Drink Quickly'
@@baldersn4474 no it wasn't Allan Carr's easy way series came out 30 years before the book you mentioned. No idea what you are saying.
@Nobody-up5zm Bit his book came out before Alan Carrs book ,do the research its mentioned in the forward of Jason Vales book..Jason Vale worked as a thest at an Allen Carr clinic, hos book was written 2 years before Allen Carrs book The Easy Way To Control Alcohol'
@@baldersn4474 yes but Allan Carr's book the easy way to quit nicotine was written well before that. The same principals were then applied to easy way to lose weight, easy way quit alcohol etc. Allan Carr's easy way method was a decade before the author you mentioned.
lovely podcast!
Thank you!
I feel I've had adhd I'm 61 but no one has formally diagnosed me I'm so scared and stressed with not fully knowing but I do know 😤😤
I understand me too ,my DR.is not helping either. My boyfriend said "just ignore it!"😢😢
I am 40 and got diagnosed 2 weeks ago, although many life goals achieved there is were too many indicators to ignore anymore. Mine are procrastination expert, juggling too many projects, unfocused on "important work", long-term relationships at risk, emotional spiraling when triggered, also that alcohol thing, i can drink quite a lot, i think i get funny mostly, but get told too often it is more embarrassing to others than i think.
Got ritalin meds, taking medium dosage ~50mg/day. First impressions are overwhelming, without zombie mode, I just pick from my memorized list what I want to do and it works quite a lot easier, more focused, take it to the end, don't get interrupted etc.
I am hungry all the time, midday nap not needed without feeling too exhausted, sleeping no problem so far, but last pill 5pm max., works for 5-6hrs before you think about that it doesn't work anymore. Will see how it does turn out, so much on the lost which needs to be looked at, but I got more confidence that I could eventually do some of it.
Never too late to talk someone who knows how recent ADHD science and research is. Good luck
It is living with it. Acceptance is the biggest thing l found after was diagnosed at 42. You can download an AQ50 & fill in & not self-diagnose but self awareness
55 adhd
Same 55yr, best to know & all to play for.
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He started losing me on the bits where he says alcohol is absolutely terrible for adhd then couldnt quite admit how terrible it was again as he drinks occasionally with his wife
all because the question was about being an ‘alcoholic ‘
Booze was making his life hell with adhd so he had to really address the problem so that looks like some sort of alcoholism personally
Great watch 👍🏻👍🏻👌🏼
My ex has ADHD and AUD. He won’t seek treatment for either. Wish I had understood the connection between the two years ago.
My advice FWIW; set boundaries; make him aware of how his behaviour is hurting you and other people - without being abusive. (Edit: just realised you said 'ex' so may be less relevant now.)
Alcohol becomes problematic when it touches your tongue 😂
I just found out I have this it describes everything I have had
Tell me about it..Relapsed after 10 weeks ,badly,out if control, list everything , still awaiting adhd diagnoses...im 52
I got diagnosed at 42. Ritalin helped but it's not a panacea. Granted stimulants will lift the scales off your eyes but it's only one tool and you will need more if you want to succeed in whatever you want to do.
I'm lucky. Coffee has absolutely no effect on me. Alcohol just makes me sleepy and uncoordinated. I definitely have a very addictive-prone personality though then it comes to dopamine inducing activities - so luckily managed to avoid trying all drugs. Have certainly had addictions to video games and sexual pleasure. Exercise is the best "cure".
Easy words😤😤
As I get older, the less interest I have in alcohol. Only need to have a couple and I'm ready for bed. Often makes me headachy and sick
Try testorone shots and morning gym work outs for extreme dopamine stimulation!
Cool, but would been better if you talked more about sober clubs/venue and building connections...
It’s the first one that does the damage.20years off the alcohol
Dont pick up the drink at the end of the day , but pick up a dumbell or a pair of running shoes at the start of the day..
No, people like you make people feel bad. You workoutaholics wind me up. I hate sports, it makes me feel so bad, it makes people feel so guilty. Don't get me wrong, I like a good solitude hike in nature, playing guitar live. But all that advise of doing sports or go to the gym makes my adhd and anxiety soooo much worse.
Not a big fan of the clickbaity intro, but the quick summary is helpful. But I guess whatever drives the clicks
I like the ‘tease summary’ personally.
Im the same 😂😂 skip forward lol
Thanks for feedback! Trying different formats currently to see what works best ❤
I don't mind the intro. I understand the need for a bit of clickbait these days. Also, thank you for providing time stamps in the description box!
@@zerbirae4224 pleasure. I know how helpful these can be!
So no ADHDers have figured out not to drink coffee in the morning? They can't figure out this wound-up energy vs sleep by the age of 5?? Dur.
Obv alcohol will ruin that intentionality but only in a few years.
Sorry I have adhd
Alcoholism
I think ADHD is based on both chidhood trauma, and genetics..
Yeah.. I have adhd and can’t find any trauma in my past. My husband also has it and his dad was pretty bad.
Almost all of our kids have adhd.
Whenever I hear the trauma theory I wonder if we have traumatized them. My 1st child, I knew had adhd even in infancy.
the uk is an island of drunks
Ireland and Scotland alone
They also fill up American Boeings and come to Spain.
It’s also an island of inter-generational trauma
Australia too 😂
Canada was but the new demographic from India has changed that
11:48 Anti-alcohol but also heavily pushing expensive psychedelic therapies, a grift I’m not surprised he wants to get into.
Ah yeah and saying I’m a control freak, even when I’m drinking I’ve got complete control over my body, but admitting to getting uncontrollably drunk, having outrageous behavior like car-surfing, etc. and self-injuring is a big red flag.
Alchcholism is not a disease and never was..