I wrote my thesis the night before it was due. It was due by 12pm on a friday. I finished it around 9 or 10am and then had to get it bound... lol I just figured I'm a glutton for punishment lol
@@ishaonpurpose I so relate. It causes me way more anxiety and stress now. I know the past is the past, but a big part of me really wishes I had developed better habits growing up.
@@prometheuszero9 I used to beat myself up over that until I learned that ADHD affects executive function and often contributed to struggling to sustain routines others implement so easily.
@@ishaonpurpose yeah I agree. I think routines and habits are a double-edged sword for us at times... It's important to have some sort of structure, because not having it makes our symptoms worse, BUT having too much of rigid or "normal" of a structure also triggers our symptoms and makes us eventually stop doing it. Finding that middle ground is what I've been sorta searching for. I think some people have it forced onto them by their environment/upbringing. I wasn't one of them lol I do think it would have helped me for my parents to have had 50/50 custody. Instead it was more pole 75/25 with my mom. Most of the the time, who I love!... But, I think she was probably also ADHD, and the environment was cluttered usually, and she was also fairly permissive with things like how late I stayed up or woke up, putting off chores, etc. That said, I don't blame her... None of us knew I had ADHD. And I'm an adult, so it's my responsibility to take charge of my life now. But yeah, I hear you... Lots of the advice for "normies" doesn't work quite as well for us, sometimes not at all! That said, I do have an adhd friend who is a successful self-employed Illustrator, and he's also very disciplined and has created a routine that works for him where he gets up very early and gets a bunch fo stuff done. It boggles my mind! Lol But to be fair, he is doing work he really loves, so I imagine that helps for focus and motivation. Still, I'd love to improve even just a little bit! I think there's room for improvement for me.
I pulled off some last minute miracles until I was about 14. Then my academic life went to hell. I had to voluntarily leave private school or they would have expelled me simply for doing hardly any homework. I have 4 GCSEs (high school exams) above grade C. Most people I went to school with have about 10. I was good at short exams and work in the classroom. Long exams, which are a speed, as well as a knowledge test, I didn't finish. Coursework, where I had to do most of it at home and motivate myself: Nope.
@@prometheuszero9don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying shouldn’t strive to build structure and routine, but it can take more work (or meds) for it to stick. I am DEFINITELY at my best when I have a solid routine and don’t give my room to have to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing. I can spend two hours trying to decide what coffee shop to go to! The more external accountability that I have to stay on track, the better.
I Googled "Why can't I listen to someone" or "I missed the beginning or the end of their sentences?" Used to get active listening tips...I can TEACH this. However, this time, Google gave me ADHD as a possible cause. I immediately dismissed this as I'm not hyper but my brain is hyper, wandering all over the place with no focus. Diagnosed with depression in the 90s, body dysmorphia, and anxiety. I have developed an eating disorder. Today, the information on ADHD is tremendous and has pointed me to a solution. I have an appointment with the proper medical professionals. Thank you for such a life-changing resource.
@@VooDooSue I also thought, "well I'm not hyper, so I can't have ADHD!" But as I've learned over the years, it's not always hyperactive in terms of physically hyperactive, but it can also just be mentally hyperactive. I wish I had known that years ago! That was the case for me. "Hyper" boys are often diagnosed with ADHD, but non-hyper boys and many/most girls with ADHD often fly under the radar because they aren't stereotypically "hyper" kids. I was one of those non-hyper boys
@@prometheuszero9 Same here. I thought ADD described me better. Then later I realized I AM hyperactive, but it's mental not physical. So it might well be ADHD. I'm currently in the process of getting an assessment. I'm basically addicted to thinking. The excessive thinking actually has the opposite effect of slowing me down a lot physically. I would say a lot of my available energy is channeled into my mind and there's not a lot left over to do physical things. This over-thinking, as well as other symptoms makes me very slow at progressing with tasks.
The last woman made me tear up. As a black woman, the was no failure allowed, grit was something you had to acquire. You figured it out. I had all the ideas but a lot of difficulty with follow thru. And I still did amazing things feeling like I was lazy and dumb but I had no choice but to figure it out and make it work. I was diagnosed at 50 and all the depression, anxiety, panic attacks, not being able to live up to what my own vision was, was explained. Why I was good a everything, but master of nothing. I created a life that allowed me to live as a music educator and musician. But I just thought my lack of success(by my terms) was just because I just didn’t work hard enough. Medication allows me to access the insane energy I have to complete things without the requisite anxiety, depression, ruminating thoughts, distraction etc. that messed with me before that made me feel like I was a bad person. An unexpected adhd diagnosis has changed everything and made me understand the why and how I can work well and be my version of success.
New subscriber. I wish I could have told my mother about this before she died. She had it worse than me and we had no clue this existed, me in the 70s as a child or her in the 30s. Now my daughter has it. She’s so lucky there’s awareness now. We thought we were just stupid weirdos and lacked self esteem. We knew we weren’t stupid though and none of it made sense.
Every report card I had in Elementary School said the same thing. "Very bright, but lacks concentration and comprehension". I had SO MANY different ways of 'avoiding' homework, but I aced my tests to keep my grades 'acceptable'. I'm in my mid-late 50's now and I got a diagnosis about 1 month ago. I relate to Aron's story, but add about 20 years.
All my report cards said “very intelligent but does not do work to her potential! Needs to put more effort in to it! (I spent all my evenings and weekends just sitting at the kitchen table until I got my homework done, and I never did…) Diagnosed at 44.
I am still struggling massively. I'm 28, and now that I know what inattentive ADHD is, it's very clear to me that is what's going on. Teachers used to pull me out into the hallway starting at age 10 to ask me why I couldn't handle simple assignments. I truthfully didn't know why. One teacher announced to the entire class that I had the lowest grade out of everyone in my year, and slammed the exam on my desk asking "WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???". I didn't know. I just couldn't focus on what they were saying, I regularly had to pull myself out of daydreams, and would absolutely panic every time a teacher said my name in class. When I would tell my parents, my mom would respond by telling me I was perfect and there was nothing wrong with me, and my dad would tell me I'm lazy. I had no behavioural issues, I was social, I wasn't dumb, but I shut down completely and used to daydream about getting hit by a bus on my way to school so I wouldn't have to go through that day. After years of dissociating, I now have very low confidence in myself and my ability to do anything at all. I'm not really sure where to go from here..
Keep researching. Even TH-cam has hacks and explanations that are so helpful. Personally these weaknesses pushed me toward Christ, whom came to seek and save the lost .
I always try to think about hacking the hacks to work for me. So often it feels like the strategies people suggest require ME to change to fit the strategy, and that never works. So instead I try to think about my natural tendencies and natural blocks. For instance, I tend to leave things lying around because putting them away is a hassle. I'd see all these strategies from doing it straight away to having a tidying routine before bed and none of them did anything except make me feel like I'd failed yet again. Then I started to reorganised everything in my environment so that everything has a super simple and easy place. What that means is that putting things away is just a matter of plonking them down somewhere just like I've always done, but that somewhere is its "spot," a spot that is just as easy as wherever I used to dump everything and let it pile up. As much as possible, I'm trying to give everything its own easy spot. This also applies to when I do things and how I do things. I'm trying to notice when I FEEL like doing certain things, what times of day, what circumstances, even how I'm dressed, and not trying to plan to do certain things at other times, even if they are more conventional times. Similarly I'm trying to notice my blocks and not plan my tasks at times when I know I'll hit those blocks. (Sometimes these are super simple things, such as I feel more like doing things when I'm wearing my runners rather than my slippers, even if I'm not leaving the house. Big or small things, whatever works for the way I roll.) It takes time to figure out, especially as life is always changing and sometimes what used to work (e.g. getting up early in the morning and doing things when nobody else is around) might not work anymore (now I have health issues, so mornings are hard, but instead after everyone else is asleep is my best time). And, of course, there are restrictions to how much we can adapt things. But I find starting small and trying to observe myself, reflecting on when I'm productive or fail to be, and learning from that has been the most effective. Making everything else go with my flow rather than constantly failing to change my flow to fit conventional ways.
@@AurinneA wow, my friend, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out. I love the idea of putting things away where you naturally want to put them, and following your own natural rhythms. I have two young children, 2&3, and a husband with hypomania, so I think I struggle with sometimes getting wrapped up and overwhelmed in their chaos, so I think paying better attention to myself and my own flow is extremely important. I think the next big goal/phase for me will be watching myself more closely with a non-judgemental eye, and finding ways to work with myself instead of forcing, exhausting, and shaming myself, and also honouring that to an extent, this is just a crazier period of life that will simmer down eventually. Thank you so much for your time and your insights! 💜
I can relate a 100% with Aaron, it was exactly the same for me in highschool. Every single thins is the same. I hit the wall in University and then, I got the diagnosis. And the same thing with medication happened : I can ACTUALLY sit down and study, for real? That is simple as that? No need to do it in a rush overnight? I am happy the algorithm made me watch this video today. It's still hard to make people understand that I do struggle, I'm certainly not lazy, and it's actually physically hard to accomplish tasks without dopamine. Still have to work on my selfworth and confidence in myself.
My ADHD became obvious in college. I was always behind, I forgot to sign the honor code pledge many times. I had developed no study or organization plan. I did graduate but at the bottom of my class. I went there to get a major in music but had multiple bouts of depression., etc.
Diagnosis on the NHS (I’m in England) involves a 3-4 year waiting list. To go private, it’s very expensive, and can cost anywhere between £600 to over £1000. Plus titration fees and follow up appointments. I’m now 67 and I’m struggling more than ever.
I’m 63 and am just realizing that I am adhd. I think I’ve been misdiagnosed since the 80’s with depression and anxiety. The more I learn about this, I relate to everything. I think it’s become more pronounced the older I get. Starting Ayurvedic herbs to help, maybe they’ll help why you wait?
I'm in the uk and going through the process of getting an assessment at the moment. The waiting list on the NHS in Devon is 4 years BUT I've gone the right to choose pathway which has an 8-12 week waiting list. The right to choose pathway allows for people to go through private companies that are partnered with the NHS and the assessment is paid for by the NHS. Make sure you do your research are there are still some downfalls if your doctors surgery decides not to play ball. But they cannot refuse you to take the right to choose pathway.
@@Sunshine36922 Similar here in Australia, but we don't have that pathway. I was diagnosed by a panel (2 psychologists and a speech pathologist) last year, at age 50. It would have been more than 1 year wait on the public system so I paid AUD $2200 for a private diagnosis. I work part time so that's a huge expense. They accepted Zip and Afterpay though, ha! It will take me about a year to pay off but for me that was better than waiting years. Now I have to do the same thing again with a psychiatrist to try ADHD medication.
I'm sorry about that, it was the same for me when i was in school. Cut to now and i recieved my diagnosis at 28😅 Honestly what would have helped me back then would have been working with myself instead of against me. Things that help other people will not work for you So try to make things as easy as possible for yourself And dont be to hard on yourself Take care ❤
I got diagnosed as an adult, and looking back at my childhood it all makes sense. Once I got put on medication I could finally get out of bed and it didn't feel like I was climbing a mountain everytime I had to do something my brain would deem boring. Please if you suspect you have ADHD find a psychiatrist! It is never too late to change your life for the better, but it is a longer process as an adult.
The part at 31:49 where she says “You were right. All those times they told you that you were wrong, you weren’t wrong, you were right” really struck a chord with me. There are so many times where I’ve been told that something was wrong and I ended up double checking or doubting myself, but then confirmed I was right or later it’s been found to be correct.
Oh my dear brave folks. I am so deeply moved . I have watch this 3 times and am sobbing. I am a 54 yrs old transgender man of color . I seen myself in these stories in a way that cracks my soul open. When the last guest talked about her friend typing her papers!!! That’s me ! I always had good grades but would miss school to make up the work last Minute . It also took me 8 yrs to finish a BA…I am a psychotherapist and here I am still in process of accepting, unveiling and seeking a diagnosis. I am terrified and also excited … thank you for this video !! This is truly life changing !❤
Just a few minutes into it, and I'm laughing at how relatable the other 2 speakers are; the ones in the top-right and bottom-right. Top-right is *dying* to talk and is taking down notes just to remember 100 points and ideas he has racing in his head, and bottom-right is note taking, doodling or looking at her phone and never looking up at the camera. This instantly made me feel at home lol
TH-cam algorithm shared this video to me. This is so self-assuring hearing these stories as I feel I've had experience in all the experiences. I've never been diagnosed with ADHD as I flew under the radar, making good enough grades, being well-behaved. But the almost getting kicked out of undergrad and the being able to do things in a panic, and only being able to do things in a panic speak to me.
Much of this was eye opening for me. I have deadlines at work but I can never seem to get them done early. Only when I am having my boss breath down my neck and I'm going through massive panic do I get everything done and get it done quickly. Then I get reprimanded for "why wasn't it done earlier?". I don't have a good answer. Makes me happy that I have an appointment in a few weeks to speak with a professional.
Im 58 been diagnosed 8 months...very grateful to have been diagnosed...thankyou for the video...could write paragraphs as u could imagine..resonates on so many levels.....loved not linear..." your joining the dots" but other people cant see it then bang u make sense thats me!....go around in a circles .... I've learnt to laugh at myself in a good way..what else can you do ..biggest thing dexedrine( dexies in Australia)has done is I can slow down in EVERYTHING..god I want write so much more...thanks again for video ❤
11:21 “Managed to finagle.” Yep. That’s so familiar. And when anyone said, 12:04 “it’s okay…you just need to…” the word “just” freaks me out. Small for you, maybe!
You always feature people who are wildly successful in defeating ADHD . So happy. How about the people whose lives are still being devastated by this monster. Feature them! Let them tell you how they are suffering now! Show the devastation in real time .
I really wish content creators would consider the impact of their editing style, especially in videos about ADHD. It's incredibly frustrating when the video is chopped up, and numerous thoughts aren't allowed to reach their conclusion. As someone with inattentive ADHD, it not only bugs the heck out of me but also makes it difficult to follow along and fully grasp the content. It's important for these videos to be accessible and understandable to everyone, including those of us with ADHD who might struggle with fragmented information presentation.
The impact needs to be considered for sure, I was searching comments to see if it was just me. Almost like flickering in this video, very quick cuts out of nowhere. I do want to add I really appreciate this video.
@@KidCuda its a rip from Linda Roggi ADHD palooza on every year with the annual update of proven ways impacting those who menstruate and ADHD its well worth a follow she's very Audhd on the festival playback. ADHDIVA I think is her handle
I connected so much with each of you. Thank you. My head has been spinning cause I all of a sudden had a epiphany a couple weeks ago that I have adhd. I want to get tested. I'vebeen stuck inside my head lately because when I grew up how I felt was diminished. "Your fine," "you'll be ok" my parents would say. And granted I didn't know of anything like this that I had. I heard that it wasn't until late 90's that girls stayed getting diagnosis. All this makes so much since to me. I was the girl was day dreamy, who was interested in everytime and nothing all at the same time. I get labored for being crazy cause when I talk.. I take 3 years to get to my point. And words drop from my head as well. I don't sound smart.. and I just happened to be easy going blonde hair blue eyes. And Aron.. yes I was charming. Still am. I'd never take that away. I see the world differently which is a plus. I've always known that. I'm very sensitive and empathic and I to would like to be a counselor, family therapist. The school for that us daunting. I know I've always had to work harder then most. I am 42 years old. Had many many jobs. I'm ready for a change. I want to be taken seriously and not the forgetful one, we'll basicly I was always classified as barbie growing up. Thank you all for sharing your story. When I hear you good talk of it. Makes me own my story.. and that is huge. Thank you thank you.
Hi Crissy, I really identified with what you have written. I haven’t been diagnosed, as I was doubting whether I am ADHD, but I’m realising that I’m more along the lines of the Inattentive ADHD (Or just ADD). Thank you for sharing! Kim xx
Hello Crissy. I so related to your short bio. I am 50 yr old woman with blonde & blue/grey/green (change colors bit most of the time blue, diagnosed during childhood Unattemtive ADHD and emotional disregulation disorder. Of course I received no treatment using medication, CBT therapy or any kind of support. It was shoved under the rug and ignored. So yes I had to mask all my life till now so many women are being diagnosed and sharing stories I feel not alone or an alien anymore. The problem I have is I still get no treatment and it's so hard during perimenopause. My husband and 4 grown children do not understand. I have no support from my mom and 4 sisters. They do not try to understand me while I am trying to find me. I don't know what to do. I have no friends. My best friend since age 11 is busy with her life. How do I keep it together? I'm so lost and hurt. Why is this so hard???
@@blissfulspirits6620 I love your name here! I think this time in our lives is so hard. I've been soul searching for a long time. I got angry and fed up one day.. some how developed an open mind set and I started researching each and everytime I could.. communication is where I started cause that was bugging me the most about relatioships however I tried to get my hands on everytime I could to clarify answers with in me. I had a therapist at the time. Also going through perimenopause.. early as a side effect from chemo in 2020. I do agree so much that it is so hard.. and no one around you understands. I also feel almost everytime you stated. However I am finding my way and things have gotten a lot better. I'll lead you on to what I do if you're open to it. First is obviously exercise 10 min a day..as long as it's something. But way more in addition to.. Iisten to Mel Robbins a lot.. she's my rock. I have also tuned to Brene Brown- she gave me my back story..or my story back.. to listen to her books podcasts and more has validated me along with Mel Robbins. I also have read and listened to Mathew Hussey- this guy is amazing. He created a narrative in my soul of values of how I should treat myself. He answered so many things inside of me that I didn't even ask. I am married so a lot of good content didn't apply to me.. but the content that did.. wow..a game changer. He really worth the listening of his book.. specially the last few chapters. His book allowed me to take in things from my past.. things I've done or haven't done.. and why I do certain things. With out him I have no idea how I've made my marriage work for so long. I'm lucky I guess..lol you can catch all these guys on podcasts, Instagram, youtube and more. I also read the adhd advantage. It's a bit to get through but very very helpful in owning your uniqueness 💗 a must read.. for our mind clarity. And also.. I have now ended up taking gensing and ashwagandha. They have been a game changer in mood, memory and focus. Research it before you take it..obviously if you take other meds and such.. but the ashwagandha lowers cortisol the stress hormone. I started dreaming at night again and such cause I was quite stressed out before and had developed bad anxiety. So anyways.. I hope some of this help can help you.. I hit a limit just before finding out about adhd.. it's hard when you don't have anyone that understands you. I guess we can't expect them too.. cause they don't really know.. and the people Iam around are so surface level of relationships. None of them are around for my deeper needs. Our brains are wired for negativity and and it's hard to stop it. We need self care, love and nurture. Hugs to you. I am here 💗 I'm witnessing you whole heartedly 🫶
Oh I also meant to mention Jefferson Fisher. He is solid and communication which we need in our lives so much.. he clarifies so much. Also mathew husseys book is "love life" that's the one you want. Good luck to you.. I hope hope this helps.. like I said.. I'm here
The first speaker who was talking about having to walk around and she couldn't sit still, even though it is a symptom of hyperactive ADHD, it sounds like "stimming" due to being under stimulated possibly.
Thank you for this thought. I only started doing this in uni, never had that as a child and since adult hyperactivity doesn't usually increase I was frustrated because obviously I just developed that thing. But this actually makes a lot of sense to me
I just learnt of ADHD last week after I became curious about my struggles for 33 years of my life 😢 it's really sad that no one ever told me about it otherwise I'm emotional 😭 to know that there's such a condition and ways to manage it. More sensitisation is needed or maybe it's just in my country I'm yet to find out. Thank you so much.❤
Lady Catnip - I was never formally diagnosed, because I was off the charts excellent at everything but math. I simply could NOT pay attention, and even now (I'm a grandma) things with number concepts behind them are very difficult for me. My teachers were unanimous at report card time: "If she would just pay more attention to details. . ." I was accepted at a phenomenal university that didn't require any math for my Language/Literature major, and graduated with honors. So, basically, I've proven that you can get through life reasonably well AND avoid math if that's the only thing that trips you up.
I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD at the same time as my oldest son. I only understood what the issue was because I was in an LD class at university. Now, as a teacher, it is so frustrating that I am not even allowed to suggest to a parent that ADHD may be the issue! It’s no wonder that it’s so difficult to get a diagnosis if you’re not a boy who’s bouncing off the walls.
I'm so glad more people are opening up about this. I thought I was just the weirdo for so many years. And now I'm getting to a point where I am losing my words when trying to articulate myself. It's so frustrating! I'm so happy I've just realized that I have ADHD. I'm about to go get my official diagnosis next week. I can't wait.
My boss said, 'Theres something wrong with her' in a meeting. Simply because i chose to complete a task differently to how she preferred to do it. Of course, I kept it together, then balled my eyes out and booked an appointment with my younger brother's psychologist. Of course im an adhder, but those words haunted me for a long time. I was 30 when i was diagnosed and thats when everything made sense. I wish some people could be kinder.
The guy described to a tee how I have so far succeeded in my 9-5 career!! This cyclical drowning in your workload is horrendously unhealthy, and I am currently trying to figure out how to stay in my job with the recognition of having ADHD. (Any advice welcome! 🙂)
After working 30 jobs total and being diagnosed with ADHD at uni at the age of 46. I finally decided to stay on the sick, claim P.I.P and do volunteer work in my community instead of putting myself through the continual torture of changing jobs, burn out and financial crisis. Volunteer work doesn`t make so many demands and is more freeing and rewarding for me.
If you are in the US the ADA law requires that your employer makes reasonable accommodations for people with disabilities. They can get an incentive grant from DOR to make the accommodations and to source Assistive Technology that could help you do your job. Hope this helps. If you need more info I'll try my best :)
I charmed friends at uni to help me through with essays/notes etc and somehow got an honours degree in science. Looking at my old notes is like looking at a comic book, covered in doodles! 😂
Can I rent your friends please. Getting a diagnosis in August now because I really struggle but didn't struggle in school or as a child. But my exams are before the diagnosis, so this sucks either way
I’m 54 and I’ve only this year been diagnosed as being on the Autism spectrum and having ADHD…. What a bloody struggle and draining life has been masking every day of my life, back in the day we were just naughty kids and dealt with.
I know im a year late her, but thank you so much for this video. I stumbled across a short video describing adhd traits and it described me exactly, i always thought adhd was an excuse for either bad behaviour/ parenting.......i habe been praying to gain insight into why i am the way i am and the more i look into this the more it all makes sense so thank you. Ive been very anti medical establishment and anti pharma for a few years now, delving into natural heath and medicine with a vow to never return to the doctors office. All this has began to make me rethink a few beliefs .....i guess ill be visiting a doctor again at some point. I could cry, i fonally feel like i have some answers. Thank you inattentive adhd ❤
Great video, thanks for creating and sharing this. I relate 100% with Aaron, it was exactly the same for me in high school and during both my BA and MBA. I told my closest friends about me having been diagnosed with ADHD but they rejected/dismissed the idea, instead of being supportive, since I was able to hyperfocus and study during long periods of time. The level of creativity I have amassed throughout the years has made a huge positive impact on my professional career, since I am able to find creative solutions to complex problems, but it entailed having to pay a hefty price in terms of anxiety along the way. Same as Simran, I had trouble sitting down for long periods of time. One of my co-workers pointed this out about myself after working on the same team after some years. Taking medication has allowed me to manage this issue significantly better, still I need to take breaks. Usually I go to the kitchen for coffee or just walk around the office letting my brain to reset and refocus for another hour or so.
Linda, all the interviews were right on. I was diagnosed w/ ADD/ADHD at the age of 65. I as many of the people that were interviewed, believed that something was off, but as I have read about ADHD over the past 5 years, I see that ADD/ADHD has been with me all my life. So it was very good to hear all the three people's stories. Thank you so much
It gave me chills to listen to Simran. We have twin minds down to all the small details. I have listed to a lot of ADHD content but never resonated so much
Aron's account nearly made me cry. Due to issues with focus I'm currently really struggling to complete university (for the second time) and its beginning to affect my day job too. This has been exhaserbated by working from home since Covid because i feel so disconnected and disengaged with the work. I've always just thought it was me - i managed through school but started falling apart at A Levels and University the first time around was a disaster and i quit before finishing with depression. I have a family now, which is my motivation and 'urgency/pressure' to complete this. It's only upon researching ADHD for my son that i've come across inattentive ADHD and hearing people's accounts are so familiar. I'm wondering what to do and whether i should go to the doctor to try and get a diagnosis, though i'm worried what if i don't get it? I've tried loads of techniques such as pomodoro and creating my own urgency, but even turning focus to these things feels almost impossible.
Lol I've been binging ADHD videos. I recently got diagnosed with combined ADHD, with gerenal anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder. My first day of Concerta removed all the anxiety and low mood I felt everyday and it gave me calmness and motivation that I had not felt. Lol I wish I had known when I was a child.. life would be different right now. But at least I know I can focus on things without fighting myself to get things done.
I’ve seen a psychiatrist for 20 years and have multiple Dax. ADHD was never considered. I’m 62, and it was my weekly psychologist who mentioned it a month ago. Once I looked into the subject, I agreed with her. The bulk of her practice is testing children and adults and she took me through a quick assessment. Any suggestions for approaching my psychiatrist for meds?
I like what that man said about "give me two good (productive) hours a day." That may be a strategy I can work with -- because at my last job, I got more work done in one hour than my teammates did in 8 hours. Every day.
The more and more stories I hear about how people recognized and now cope with their ADHD makes me realize I have it and I can handle it too. I just need to utilize the resources and ask for support
I have had a few friends growing up, not many!!! I have had adhd my entire life. I was actually called "hyperactive" young. My skin literally crawls when i am bored or with ppl who dont like me
Ive recently been diagnosed im nearly 40 well 40 in December when sum1 told me that i seem adhd but also was told have autistic traits i started researching more about it and i thought hey this is me speacily when i look back in my life and remember hoe people acted round me or things that they said to me and not always very nice things either
This is why I've left like a failure all my life still do at 26. Im terrified to drive. Employment is difficult. My memory is bad, so yeah adhd is a burden.
The lady mentions law school. As someone with ADHD, it BLOWS MY MIND that someone can study law or medicine...to me, asking me to do so much study would be like asking me to climb Mt Everest. I just cannot comprehend someone being able to do that. I'd love to help people as a lawyer or doctor but boy...I'd last about 5mins in a course like that
I'm a 34 male from germany and I ltrly started crying after Aron was talking. All my problems matched his 100%... I've read a lot of philosophy, psychology and psycho analysis books in my life in an effort to fucking understand what's wrong with me and NEVER! have I EVER! assumed that I might could have ADHD. If you want my symptoms, list to his part again because thats me! ...paired with an emotionally abusive household and troubled childhood you have a recipe for disaster. I'll get me tested now, I'm scared of taking medication but Aron gave me hope that it might not be as scary as I have thought. I'm very convinced that I have it but I'll not self diagnose. I might give an update when I have more information.
I was naturally good at math. Final year of highschool, teachers moved me to the higher level math class. Lost first day because it they were extremely difficult concepts, and I'd missed the fundamentals at the start of each lesson because I was day-dreaming/distracted...and everything after that made zero sense. Plus the class moved VERY fast. Plus I wasn't used to spending 2hrs each night doing ONLY math homework - that coupled with procrastination...yikes...after only a few weeks I had to move back to standard level math LOL Felt like such a failure. I felt a little redeemed at the end of the year when many failed the final exams in higher level math paper...and many of the really good math students just scraped a pass (40%)...plus the following year they had to make that class/exam easier because so many students all over the country failed the final exam the year I 'graduated' high school. Still....I always wonder if I'd not had ADHD issues how I'd have done. I feel I'm slightly above average intelligence, but not gifted LOL - hope that doesn't sound like bragging...I don't do any better in life than most...I feel intelligence can be measured in many way...plus we only have what God gives us, so I could not take credit even if I was gifted
I always have being called smart, but full of silly mistakes amd the ackwardness of some manerism, that either made me popular or hated nothing in between. Diagnosed at 16 and i had to adapt in a hispanic culture full of prejudice.
I disagree with all these people becoming "superman" after they were diagnosed. Where are the people who are actually struggling still??? I want to hear from those people.
I'm 62 and was just dx this summer with "combined type leaning heavily on innatentive". Due to hypotension, my pcp didn't want to give me the typical adhd meds, so we're trying various non stimulants, but im not sure i see a difference 🤔 Currently, we're evaluating for possible autism too. Thanks for this video!
Man, after watching so many of these im positive my diagnosis is correct, but adderall doesnt affect me the same as other adhd folks. I've had a lot of imposter syndrome about it.
I'm 70. I just found out last year. I breezed thru school,grade wise, do i was able to float through on my cloud but was abused at home. I couldn't relate to my peers , i experience time blindness to this day, then hit the wall when i went to collage. I attempted many times,i have about 2 years' worth of credits. I couldn't understand why i was able to get thru the lower grades but not collage. I'm intelligent, 125 on the IQ score. No one knew about adhd back then. My insurance won't cover the meds because of my age.
I'm so shocked on how many people have either autism or/and adhd I'm going through a process of trying to get my youngest assessed I'm wondering if I should get assessed too as I found out it runs in my family soon as I find some answers I'll know what and how do deal with everything better
Wow, I just randomly jumped to 'Aaron's' part... and ...this is what I've lived and done (up to the right before when he tried the medication to save his career...) .. I'll start from the start and continue. All is really really interesting! Thanks a lot so far!
@the entire speakerpanel Part of the ADHD is a bloodtest (atleast in Germany), what did the doctor say about your potencial comorbitities like Diabities, hypothyroiditis,etc? Did you do additionel tests for lack of nutrients, Epstein Barr Virus, Lyme diseases, Testerone etc ? If so, what did you find ? Cheers from Germany
Learning differences please. A disability means you cannot do it, a difference is that you can learn it it just might take longer and you will need to tackle it in a different way.
@@HazyLove It for sure is a disadvantage in abilities. I think people get hung up on, or forget, the connotations vs denotation of the word "disability". The meaning in medical terms is "-any condition of the body or mind (impairment) that makes it more difficult for the person with the condition to do certain activities (activity limitation) and interact with the world around them (participation restrictions)." - CDC
I'm sorry but I don't relate to most of this. Is it BC of co-morbidities? I feel like "basic functioning" is ridiculously difficult, nvm "keeping career".
I’m finding it really funny that this video is so jumpy and the speech doesn’t match the subtitles entirely. It seems like they’ve tried to cut out every word that wasn’t completely necessary/informative (I’m not sure I like describing people’s words as ‘unnecessary’ but I’m not quite sure how to put it). Did they tried to make the video more concise for people who struggle to focus for long periods and whose minds might start wondering between the main bits of information?
Not liking rule imposed on you LOL - I always just thought I was a stubborn jerk...just NOW realizing it's part of ADHD!!!! LOL Also, the immaturity is a problem. When I was in my teens and all my friends were cool and mature around girls, I kinda childish. Now I know, thanks to Russel Barkley, that people with ADHD mature slower..or are less mature for their age. Anyone else notice that? Also, does anyone else feel their ADHD gives them a fun way of viewing things? I started saying my funny thoughts out loud and people find it hilarious. Just an observation...
Miserable fn life. That’s what is it. Watching people now half my age pass me by. Stuck in low level jobs, yet traditionally educated and seemingly qualified to move up. Only reason I stick around are the moments when my mind cooperates. Which takes about 2-3hrs to engage and the balance of the study session is intermittent moments of useful thoughts. Fn ridiculous
Wow! Me too! Always left behind. I’m in university at 67. Trying to finish some day. Meds have not worked. :( School is so difficult for me. I’ve been told that I am very smart, yet how come I did so poorly in school. I have been diagnosed with autism and inattentive ADHD. Tourette’s also has me. So many low level jobs too. I did finally make it as a regional airline captain. That job I liked, yet after a few years, I burnt out. I can’t fly anymore due to the diagnosis of T1D. I was first tested around fifth grade, yet nothing came of it, no help, anything, other than being held back a year in school. Very humiliating. I was always blamed for things. That I was a, or the, problem. I’ve been called a loser, a flack, etc., yet never stupid. I feel stupid due to so many failures. Keep trying! Never stop. Others will try to cut you down. DON”T LET THEM!!! Peace, my friend…
Hi everyone, I really need an advice from someone who knows this. I seem having many of the symptoms that has been pointed out in several sources, such as videos and professional articles on ADHD. I also have a history of hardship somewhat similar to what Aaron Croft was talking about. I've decided to seek professional help. One of the psychiatric centres offers a so called Gibson test as a professional method of diagnostics. It is a bit costly to me, but I still would be happy to go for it if somebody would be lovely and assured me that this is one of the good ways to start off. Many thanks for any words.
What the man said about cramming everything the night before is exactly how I got by my whole childhood into adulthood. I needed the adrenalline.
I wrote my thesis the night before it was due. It was due by 12pm on a friday. I finished it around 9 or 10am and then had to get it bound... lol I just figured I'm a glutton for punishment lol
I have a plaque that says, “If it weren’t for the last minute nothing would ever get done.”
This makes so much more sense to me now. I think that's why Adderall doesn't work for me. Maybe Strattera is the right medicine for me.
@abav811 your not alone
And, it is exactly what I did in law school. Crazy how a lot of times my best work was produced during those stressful times. 😟
The older I get, I’m not as able to pull off the last minute miracles as well and it creates more stress than it used to.
@@ishaonpurpose I so relate. It causes me way more anxiety and stress now. I know the past is the past, but a big part of me really wishes I had developed better habits growing up.
@@prometheuszero9 I used to beat myself up over that until I learned that ADHD affects executive function and often contributed to struggling to sustain routines others implement so easily.
@@ishaonpurpose yeah I agree. I think routines and habits are a double-edged sword for us at times... It's important to have some sort of structure, because not having it makes our symptoms worse, BUT having too much of rigid or "normal" of a structure also triggers our symptoms and makes us eventually stop doing it. Finding that middle ground is what I've been sorta searching for.
I think some people have it forced onto them by their environment/upbringing. I wasn't one of them lol I do think it would have helped me for my parents to have had 50/50 custody. Instead it was more pole 75/25 with my mom. Most of the the time, who I love!... But, I think she was probably also ADHD, and the environment was cluttered usually, and she was also fairly permissive with things like how late I stayed up or woke up, putting off chores, etc. That said, I don't blame her... None of us knew I had ADHD. And I'm an adult, so it's my responsibility to take charge of my life now.
But yeah, I hear you... Lots of the advice for "normies" doesn't work quite as well for us, sometimes not at all! That said, I do have an adhd friend who is a successful self-employed Illustrator, and he's also very disciplined and has created a routine that works for him where he gets up very early and gets a bunch fo stuff done. It boggles my mind! Lol But to be fair, he is doing work he really loves, so I imagine that helps for focus and motivation.
Still, I'd love to improve even just a little bit! I think there's room for improvement for me.
I pulled off some last minute miracles until I was about 14. Then my academic life went to hell. I had to voluntarily leave private school or they would have expelled me simply for doing hardly any homework. I have 4 GCSEs (high school exams) above grade C. Most people I went to school with have about 10. I was good at short exams and work in the classroom. Long exams, which are a speed, as well as a knowledge test, I didn't finish. Coursework, where I had to do most of it at home and motivate myself: Nope.
@@prometheuszero9don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying shouldn’t strive to build structure and routine, but it can take more work (or meds) for it to stick.
I am DEFINITELY at my best when I have a solid routine and don’t give my room to have to figure out what I’m supposed to be doing. I can spend two hours trying to decide what coffee shop to go to! The more external accountability that I have to stay on track, the better.
I Googled "Why can't I listen to someone" or "I missed the beginning or the end of their sentences?" Used to get active listening tips...I can TEACH this. However, this time, Google gave me ADHD as a possible cause. I immediately dismissed this as I'm not hyper but my brain is hyper, wandering all over the place with no focus. Diagnosed with depression in the 90s, body dysmorphia, and anxiety. I have developed an eating disorder. Today, the information on ADHD is tremendous and has pointed me to a solution. I have an appointment with the proper medical professionals. Thank you for such a life-changing resource.
Could also be auditory processing disorder or both
@@VooDooSue I also thought, "well I'm not hyper, so I can't have ADHD!" But as I've learned over the years, it's not always hyperactive in terms of physically hyperactive, but it can also just be mentally hyperactive. I wish I had known that years ago! That was the case for me. "Hyper" boys are often diagnosed with ADHD, but non-hyper boys and many/most girls with ADHD often fly under the radar because they aren't stereotypically "hyper" kids. I was one of those non-hyper boys
@@prometheuszero9 Same here. I thought ADD described me better. Then later I realized I AM hyperactive, but it's mental not physical. So it might well be ADHD. I'm currently in the process of getting an assessment. I'm basically addicted to thinking. The excessive thinking actually has the opposite effect of slowing me down a lot physically. I would say a lot of my available energy is channeled into my mind and there's not a lot left over to do physical things. This over-thinking, as well as other symptoms makes me very slow at progressing with tasks.
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8:42 love how the 'non involved' were so distracted when not participating!😂
I love how Aron is constantly facially agreeing looking as if he is holding back to speak the entire time. This is so relatable to me XD
I feel like the guy was probably taking notes. I do this. It helps me concentrate and remember things.
@@sarahs.9678 makes sens 🤔 I sure do hope so!
The last woman made me tear up. As a black woman, the was no failure allowed, grit was something you had to acquire. You figured it out. I had all the ideas but a lot of difficulty with follow thru. And I still did amazing things feeling like I was lazy and dumb but I had no choice but to figure it out and make it work. I was diagnosed at 50 and all the depression, anxiety, panic attacks, not being able to live up to what my own vision was, was explained. Why I was good a everything, but master of nothing. I created a life that allowed me to live as a music educator and musician. But I just thought my lack of success(by my terms) was just because I just didn’t work hard enough. Medication allows me to access the insane energy I have to complete things without the requisite anxiety, depression, ruminating thoughts, distraction etc. that messed with me before that made me feel like I was a bad person. An unexpected adhd diagnosis has changed everything and made me understand the why and how I can work well and be my version of success.
I'm 61 this year, black female and looking into getting diagnosed. I really appreciate and resonate with you.
You are so strong. Keep going on ❤️
How has medication helped? What is the medication you are taking if you don’t mind me asking?
New subscriber. I wish I could have told my mother about this before she died. She had it worse than me and we had no clue this existed, me in the 70s as a child or her in the 30s. Now my daughter has it. She’s so lucky there’s awareness now. We thought we were just stupid weirdos and lacked self esteem. We knew we weren’t stupid though and none of it made sense.
Every report card I had in Elementary School said the same thing. "Very bright, but lacks concentration and comprehension". I had SO MANY different ways of 'avoiding' homework, but I aced my tests to keep my grades 'acceptable'. I'm in my mid-late 50's now and I got a diagnosis about 1 month ago. I relate to Aron's story, but add about 20 years.
All my report cards said “very intelligent but does not do work to her potential! Needs to put more effort in to it! (I spent all my evenings and weekends just sitting at the kitchen table until I got my homework done, and I never did…) Diagnosed at 44.
Someone said “Motion is not action.” That really carried forward in my mind as a mantra when I am “spinning.”
I am still struggling massively. I'm 28, and now that I know what inattentive ADHD is, it's very clear to me that is what's going on. Teachers used to pull me out into the hallway starting at age 10 to ask me why I couldn't handle simple assignments. I truthfully didn't know why. One teacher announced to the entire class that I had the lowest grade out of everyone in my year, and slammed the exam on my desk asking "WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU???". I didn't know. I just couldn't focus on what they were saying, I regularly had to pull myself out of daydreams, and would absolutely panic every time a teacher said my name in class. When I would tell my parents, my mom would respond by telling me I was perfect and there was nothing wrong with me, and my dad would tell me I'm lazy. I had no behavioural issues, I was social, I wasn't dumb, but I shut down completely and used to daydream about getting hit by a bus on my way to school so I wouldn't have to go through that day. After years of dissociating, I now have very low confidence in myself and my ability to do anything at all. I'm not really sure where to go from here..
Keep researching. Even TH-cam has hacks and explanations that are so helpful.
Personally these weaknesses pushed me toward Christ, whom came to seek and save the lost .
I always try to think about hacking the hacks to work for me. So often it feels like the strategies people suggest require ME to change to fit the strategy, and that never works. So instead I try to think about my natural tendencies and natural blocks. For instance, I tend to leave things lying around because putting them away is a hassle. I'd see all these strategies from doing it straight away to having a tidying routine before bed and none of them did anything except make me feel like I'd failed yet again. Then I started to reorganised everything in my environment so that everything has a super simple and easy place. What that means is that putting things away is just a matter of plonking them down somewhere just like I've always done, but that somewhere is its "spot," a spot that is just as easy as wherever I used to dump everything and let it pile up. As much as possible, I'm trying to give everything its own easy spot.
This also applies to when I do things and how I do things. I'm trying to notice when I FEEL like doing certain things, what times of day, what circumstances, even how I'm dressed, and not trying to plan to do certain things at other times, even if they are more conventional times. Similarly I'm trying to notice my blocks and not plan my tasks at times when I know I'll hit those blocks.
(Sometimes these are super simple things, such as I feel more like doing things when I'm wearing my runners rather than my slippers, even if I'm not leaving the house. Big or small things, whatever works for the way I roll.)
It takes time to figure out, especially as life is always changing and sometimes what used to work (e.g. getting up early in the morning and doing things when nobody else is around) might not work anymore (now I have health issues, so mornings are hard, but instead after everyone else is asleep is my best time). And, of course, there are restrictions to how much we can adapt things. But I find starting small and trying to observe myself, reflecting on when I'm productive or fail to be, and learning from that has been the most effective. Making everything else go with my flow rather than constantly failing to change my flow to fit conventional ways.
@@AurinneA wow, my friend, thank you so much for taking the time to write all of this out. I love the idea of putting things away where you naturally want to put them, and following your own natural rhythms.
I have two young children, 2&3, and a husband with hypomania, so I think I struggle with sometimes getting wrapped up and overwhelmed in their chaos, so I think paying better attention to myself and my own flow is extremely important. I think the next big goal/phase for me will be watching myself more closely with a non-judgemental eye, and finding ways to work with myself instead of forcing, exhausting, and shaming myself, and also honouring that to an extent, this is just a crazier period of life that will simmer down eventually.
Thank you so much for your time and your insights! 💜
@@riellycardy9899 💜 So glad if it was a bit of help! Good luck!
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I can relate a 100% with Aaron, it was exactly the same for me in highschool. Every single thins is the same. I hit the wall in University and then, I got the diagnosis. And the same thing with medication happened : I can ACTUALLY sit down and study, for real? That is simple as that? No need to do it in a rush overnight? I am happy the algorithm made me watch this video today.
It's still hard to make people understand that I do struggle, I'm certainly not lazy, and it's actually physically hard to accomplish tasks without dopamine. Still have to work on my selfworth and confidence in myself.
My ADHD became obvious in college. I was always behind, I forgot to sign the honor code pledge many times. I had developed no study or organization plan. I did graduate but at the bottom of my class. I went there to get a major in music but had multiple bouts of depression., etc.
Diagnosis on the NHS (I’m in England) involves a 3-4 year waiting list. To go private, it’s very expensive, and can cost anywhere between £600 to over £1000. Plus titration fees and follow up appointments. I’m now 67 and I’m struggling more than ever.
I’m 63 and am just realizing that I am adhd. I think I’ve been misdiagnosed since the 80’s with depression and anxiety. The more I learn about this, I relate to everything. I think it’s become more pronounced the older I get. Starting Ayurvedic herbs to help, maybe they’ll help why you wait?
NHS has lost the plot
I'm in the uk and going through the process of getting an assessment at the moment. The waiting list on the NHS in Devon is 4 years BUT I've gone the right to choose pathway which has an 8-12 week waiting list. The right to choose pathway allows for people to go through private companies that are partnered with the NHS and the assessment is paid for by the NHS. Make sure you do your research are there are still some downfalls if your doctors surgery decides not to play ball. But they cannot refuse you to take the right to choose pathway.
@@Sunshine36922 Similar here in Australia, but we don't have that pathway. I was diagnosed by a panel (2 psychologists and a speech pathologist) last year, at age 50. It would have been more than 1 year wait on the public system so I paid AUD $2200 for a private diagnosis. I work part time so that's a huge expense. They accepted Zip and Afterpay though, ha! It will take me about a year to pay off but for me that was better than waiting years. Now I have to do the same thing again with a psychiatrist to try ADHD medication.
I won’t be diagnosed with adhd due to having good grades and not being disruptive in class or at home. So frustrated with how this process is going.
I'm sorry about that, it was the same for me when i was in school. Cut to now and i recieved my diagnosis at 28😅
Honestly what would have helped me back then would have been working with myself instead of against me. Things that help other people will not work for you
So try to make things as easy as possible for yourself
And dont be to hard on yourself
Take care ❤
That's not what I got out of this.
I got diagnosed as an adult, and looking back at my childhood it all makes sense. Once I got put on medication I could finally get out of bed and it didn't feel like I was climbing a mountain everytime I had to do something my brain would deem boring. Please if you suspect you have ADHD find a psychiatrist! It is never too late to change your life for the better, but it is a longer process as an adult.
So true. Getting diagnosed is a privilege. Doctors blow off my suspicions.
The part at 31:49 where she says “You were right. All those times they told you that you were wrong, you weren’t wrong, you were right” really struck a chord with me. There are so many times where I’ve been told that something was wrong and I ended up double checking or doubting myself, but then confirmed I was right or later it’s been found to be correct.
Yes bro. This shit be pissing me off the most. People feed on our self doubt. Its terrible and infuriating.
This was really affirming to watch. I was diagnosed with inattentive ADD this year at 29.
Oh my dear brave folks. I am so deeply moved . I have watch this 3 times and am sobbing. I am a 54 yrs old transgender man of color . I seen myself in these stories in a way that cracks my soul open. When the last guest talked about her friend typing her papers!!! That’s me ! I always had good grades but would miss school to make up the work last
Minute . It also took me 8 yrs to finish a BA…I am a psychotherapist and here I am still in process of accepting, unveiling and seeking a diagnosis. I am terrified and also excited … thank you for this video !! This is truly life changing !❤
Just a few minutes into it, and I'm laughing at how relatable the other 2 speakers are; the ones in the top-right and bottom-right.
Top-right is *dying* to talk and is taking down notes just to remember 100 points and ideas he has racing in his head, and bottom-right is note taking, doodling or looking at her phone and never looking up at the camera.
This instantly made me feel at home lol
Yes, especially Aron to me was so relatable XD
This was kind of very comforting to hear. Thanks for these fine people to open up publicly. I feel them. 🙏🏻
TH-cam algorithm shared this video to me. This is so self-assuring hearing these stories as I feel I've had experience in all the experiences. I've never been diagnosed with ADHD as I flew under the radar, making good enough grades, being well-behaved. But the almost getting kicked out of undergrad and the being able to do things in a panic, and only being able to do things in a panic speak to me.
Much of this was eye opening for me. I have deadlines at work but I can never seem to get them done early. Only when I am having my boss breath down my neck and I'm going through massive panic do I get everything done and get it done quickly. Then I get reprimanded for "why wasn't it done earlier?". I don't have a good answer.
Makes me happy that I have an appointment in a few weeks to speak with a professional.
Im 58 been diagnosed 8 months...very grateful to have been diagnosed...thankyou for the video...could write paragraphs as u could imagine..resonates on so many levels.....loved not linear..." your joining the dots" but other people cant see it then bang u make sense thats me!....go around in a circles .... I've learnt to laugh at myself in a good way..what else can you do ..biggest thing dexedrine( dexies in Australia)has done is I can slow down in EVERYTHING..god I want write so much more...thanks again for video ❤
11:21 “Managed to finagle.” Yep. That’s so familiar. And when anyone said, 12:04 “it’s okay…you just need to…” the word “just” freaks me out. Small for you, maybe!
I am 44 years old and scheduled to be evaluated for ADHD in a few weeks. I can’t tell you how much I relate to this content, thank you.
You always feature people who are wildly successful in defeating ADHD . So happy. How about the people whose lives are still being devastated by this monster. Feature them! Let them tell you how they are suffering now! Show the devastation in real time .
Yup, most ADHD vids are like "My meds (or even just my diagnosis) solved ALL of my problems BY MAGIC!"
Bugs me immensely
Wowww, this is my story. Especially the last 2 speakers. 😅
I was diagnosed at or around 40. I am now a senior NCO in the military.
I really wish content creators would consider the impact of their editing style, especially in videos about ADHD. It's incredibly frustrating when the video is chopped up, and numerous thoughts aren't allowed to reach their conclusion. As someone with inattentive ADHD, it not only bugs the heck out of me but also makes it difficult to follow along and fully grasp the content. It's important for these videos to be accessible and understandable to everyone, including those of us with ADHD who might struggle with fragmented information presentation.
The impact needs to be considered for sure, I was searching comments to see if it was just me. Almost like flickering in this video, very quick cuts out of nowhere. I do want to add I really appreciate this video.
Curious if it was software auto removing pauses and 'ums'
@@KidCuda its a rip from Linda Roggi ADHD palooza on every year with the annual update of proven ways impacting those who menstruate and ADHD its well worth a follow she's very Audhd on the festival playback. ADHDIVA I think is her handle
I connected so much with each of you. Thank you. My head has been spinning cause I all of a sudden had a epiphany a couple weeks ago that I have adhd. I want to get tested. I'vebeen stuck inside my head lately because when I grew up how I felt was diminished. "Your fine," "you'll be ok" my parents would say. And granted I didn't know of anything like this that I had. I heard that it wasn't until late 90's that girls stayed getting diagnosis. All this makes so much since to me. I was the girl was day dreamy, who was interested in everytime and nothing all at the same time. I get labored for being crazy cause when I talk.. I take 3 years to get to my point. And words drop from my head as well. I don't sound smart.. and I just happened to be easy going blonde hair blue eyes. And Aron.. yes I was charming. Still am. I'd never take that away. I see the world differently which is a plus. I've always known that. I'm very sensitive and empathic and I to would like to be a counselor, family therapist. The school for that us daunting. I know I've always had to work harder then most. I am 42 years old. Had many many jobs. I'm ready for a change. I want to be taken seriously and not the forgetful one, we'll basicly I was always classified as barbie growing up. Thank you all for sharing your story. When I hear you good talk of it. Makes me own my story.. and that is huge. Thank you thank you.
Hi Crissy, I really identified with what you have written. I haven’t been diagnosed, as I was doubting whether I am ADHD, but I’m realising that I’m more along the lines of the Inattentive ADHD (Or just ADD). Thank you for sharing! Kim xx
Hello Crissy. I so related to your short bio. I am 50 yr old woman with blonde & blue/grey/green (change colors bit most of the time blue, diagnosed during childhood Unattemtive ADHD and emotional disregulation disorder. Of course I received no treatment using medication, CBT therapy or any kind of support. It was shoved under the rug and ignored. So yes I had to mask all my life till now so many women are being diagnosed and sharing stories I feel not alone or an alien anymore. The problem I have is I still get no treatment and it's so hard during perimenopause. My husband and 4 grown children do not understand. I have no support from my mom and 4 sisters. They do not try to understand me while I am trying to find me. I don't know what to do. I have no friends. My best friend since age 11 is busy with her life. How do I keep it together? I'm so lost and hurt. Why is this so hard???
@@blissfulspirits6620 I love your name here!
I think this time in our lives is so hard. I've been soul searching for a long time. I got angry and fed up one day.. some how developed an open mind set and I started researching each and everytime I could.. communication is where I started cause that was bugging me the most about relatioships however I tried to get my hands on everytime I could to clarify answers with in me. I had a therapist at the time. Also going through perimenopause.. early as a side effect from chemo in 2020. I do agree so much that it is so hard.. and no one around you understands. I also feel almost everytime you stated. However I am finding my way and things have gotten a lot better. I'll lead you on to what I do if you're open to it. First is obviously exercise 10 min a day..as long as it's something. But way more in addition to.. Iisten to Mel Robbins a lot.. she's my rock. I have also tuned to Brene Brown- she gave me my back story..or my story back.. to listen to her books podcasts and more has validated me along with Mel Robbins. I also have read and listened to Mathew Hussey- this guy is amazing. He created a narrative in my soul of values of how I should treat myself. He answered so many things inside of me that I didn't even ask. I am married so a lot of good content didn't apply to me.. but the content that did.. wow..a game changer. He really worth the listening of his book.. specially the last few chapters. His book allowed me to take in things from my past.. things I've done or haven't done.. and why I do certain things. With out him I have no idea how I've made my marriage work for so long. I'm lucky I guess..lol you can catch all these guys on podcasts, Instagram, youtube and more. I also read the adhd advantage. It's a bit to get through but very very helpful in owning your uniqueness 💗 a must read.. for our mind clarity. And also.. I have now ended up taking gensing and ashwagandha. They have been a game changer in mood, memory and focus. Research it before you take it..obviously if you take other meds and such.. but the ashwagandha lowers cortisol the stress hormone. I started dreaming at night again and such cause I was quite stressed out before and had developed bad anxiety. So anyways.. I hope some of this help can help you.. I hit a limit just before finding out about adhd.. it's hard when you don't have anyone that understands you. I guess we can't expect them too.. cause they don't really know.. and the people Iam around are so surface level of relationships. None of them are around for my deeper needs. Our brains are wired for negativity and and it's hard to stop it. We need self care, love and nurture. Hugs to you. I am here 💗 I'm witnessing you whole heartedly 🫶
Also everytoime I put everytime..almost everytime I meant it to say everything 🤦🏼♀️ oh my gosh.. so sorry..lol
Oh I also meant to mention Jefferson Fisher. He is solid and communication which we need in our lives so much.. he clarifies so much. Also mathew husseys book is "love life" that's the one you want. Good luck to you.. I hope hope this helps.. like I said.. I'm here
The first speaker who was talking about having to walk around and she couldn't sit still, even though it is a symptom of hyperactive ADHD, it sounds like "stimming" due to being under stimulated possibly.
Thank you for this thought. I only started doing this in uni, never had that as a child and since adult hyperactivity doesn't usually increase I was frustrated because obviously I just developed that thing. But this actually makes a lot of sense to me
For sure! I would always do laps around the kitchen when waiting for food in the microwave or waiting for someone to answer the phone.
I watched the same movie too go to sleep every night for 2 years in college. Now I listen to audiobooks and I'm usually out in 10min
Same❤
I just learnt of ADHD last week after I became curious about my struggles for 33 years of my life 😢 it's really sad that no one ever told me about it otherwise I'm emotional 😭 to know that there's such a condition and ways to manage it. More sensitisation is needed or maybe it's just in my country I'm yet to find out. Thank you so much.❤
Yes, we have to grieve the lost potential.
I think the whole world is behind on this subject.
IT is very inspiring to learn from ADHDers who have found success! I am still struggling and hopeful that I create my successful career soon
You will hang in there baby steps!
Lady Catnip - I was never formally diagnosed, because I was off the charts excellent at everything but math. I simply could NOT pay attention, and even now (I'm a grandma) things with number concepts behind them are very difficult for me. My teachers were unanimous at report card time: "If she would just pay more attention to details. . ." I was accepted at a phenomenal university that didn't require any math for my Language/Literature major, and graduated with honors. So, basically, I've proven that you can get through life reasonably well AND avoid math if that's the only thing that trips you up.
I was diagnosed with inattentive ADHD at the same time as my oldest son. I only understood what the issue was because I was in an LD class at university. Now, as a teacher, it is so frustrating that I am not even allowed to suggest to a parent that ADHD may be the issue! It’s no wonder that it’s so difficult to get a diagnosis if you’re not a boy who’s bouncing off the walls.
I'm so glad more people are opening up about this. I thought I was just the weirdo for so many years. And now I'm getting to a point where I am losing my words when trying to articulate myself. It's so frustrating! I'm so happy I've just realized that I have ADHD. I'm about to go get my official diagnosis next week. I can't wait.
Seen a lot videos on this topic. But i actually felt so connected to the experiences of the two last speakers. Thank you for sharing this video!
My boss said, 'Theres something wrong with her' in a meeting. Simply because i chose to complete a task differently to how she preferred to do it. Of course, I kept it together, then balled my eyes out and booked an appointment with my younger brother's psychologist. Of course im an adhder, but those words haunted me for a long time. I was 30 when i was diagnosed and thats when everything made sense. I wish some people could be kinder.
The guy described to a tee how I have so far succeeded in my 9-5 career!! This cyclical drowning in your workload is horrendously unhealthy, and I am currently trying to figure out how to stay in my job with the recognition of having ADHD. (Any advice welcome! 🙂)
After working 30 jobs total and being diagnosed with ADHD at uni at the age of 46. I finally decided to stay on the sick, claim P.I.P and do volunteer work in my community instead of putting myself through the continual torture of changing jobs, burn out and financial crisis. Volunteer work doesn`t make so many demands and is more freeing and rewarding for me.
If you are in the US the ADA law requires that your employer makes reasonable accommodations for people with disabilities. They can get an incentive grant from DOR to make the accommodations and to source Assistive Technology that could help you do your job. Hope this helps. If you need more info I'll try my best :)
Being around people that accept me takes away the anxiety away
I charmed friends at uni to help me through with essays/notes etc and somehow got an honours degree in science. Looking at my old notes is like looking at a comic book, covered in doodles! 😂
Can I rent your friends please. Getting a diagnosis in August now because I really struggle but didn't struggle in school or as a child. But my exams are before the diagnosis, so this sucks either way
I’m 54 and I’ve only this year been diagnosed as being on the Autism spectrum and having ADHD…. What a bloody struggle and draining life has been masking every day of my life, back in the day we were just naughty kids and dealt with.
I know im a year late her, but thank you so much for this video. I stumbled across a short video describing adhd traits and it described me exactly, i always thought adhd was an excuse for either bad behaviour/ parenting.......i habe been praying to gain insight into why i am the way i am and the more i look into this the more it all makes sense so thank you. Ive been very anti medical establishment and anti pharma for a few years now, delving into natural heath and medicine with a vow to never return to the doctors office. All this has began to make me rethink a few beliefs .....i guess ill be visiting a doctor again at some point. I could cry, i fonally feel like i have some answers. Thank you inattentive adhd ❤
2:00 Same. I watch Dr. Katz Professional Therapist on low volume before bed and just let it play on shuffle all night. I have for several years.
Great video, thanks for creating and sharing this.
I relate 100% with Aaron, it was exactly the same for me in high school and during both my BA and MBA. I told my closest friends about me having been diagnosed with ADHD but they rejected/dismissed the idea, instead of being supportive, since I was able to hyperfocus and study during long periods of time. The level of creativity I have amassed throughout the years has made a huge positive impact on my professional career, since I am able to find creative solutions to complex problems, but it entailed having to pay a hefty price in terms of anxiety along the way.
Same as Simran, I had trouble sitting down for long periods of time. One of my co-workers pointed this out about myself after working on the same team after some years. Taking medication has allowed me to manage this issue significantly better, still I need to take breaks. Usually I go to the kitchen for coffee or just walk around the office letting my brain to reset and refocus for another hour or so.
Linda, all the interviews were right on. I was diagnosed w/ ADD/ADHD at the age of 65. I as many of the people that were interviewed, believed that something was off, but as I have read about ADHD over the past 5 years, I see that ADD/ADHD has been with me all my life. So it was very good to hear all the three people's stories. Thank you so much
It gave me chills to listen to Simran. We have twin minds down to all the small details. I have listed to a lot of ADHD content but never resonated so much
Aron's account nearly made me cry. Due to issues with focus I'm currently really struggling to complete university (for the second time) and its beginning to affect my day job too. This has been exhaserbated by working from home since Covid because i feel so disconnected and disengaged with the work. I've always just thought it was me - i managed through school but started falling apart at A Levels and University the first time around was a disaster and i quit before finishing with depression. I have a family now, which is my motivation and 'urgency/pressure' to complete this. It's only upon researching ADHD for my son that i've come across inattentive ADHD and hearing people's accounts are so familiar. I'm wondering what to do and whether i should go to the doctor to try and get a diagnosis, though i'm worried what if i don't get it? I've tried loads of techniques such as pomodoro and creating my own urgency, but even turning focus to these things feels almost impossible.
Great video! Everything sounds so familiar 😂
Theres usually someone in the family who shows these symptoms .. mom or dad.. a parent being undiagnosed makes it so hard for the child
Lol I've been binging ADHD videos. I recently got diagnosed with combined ADHD, with gerenal anxiety disorder, and major depressive disorder. My first day of Concerta removed all the anxiety and low mood I felt everyday and it gave me calmness and motivation that I had not felt. Lol I wish I had known when I was a child.. life would be different right now. But at least I know I can focus on things without fighting myself to get things done.
I’ve seen a psychiatrist for 20 years and have multiple Dax. ADHD was never considered. I’m 62, and it was my weekly psychologist who mentioned it a month ago. Once I looked into the subject, I agreed with her. The bulk of her practice is testing children and adults and she took me through a quick assessment. Any suggestions for approaching my psychiatrist for meds?
Be honest speak from the heart & use common sense❤
I like what that man said about "give me two good (productive) hours a day."
That may be a strategy I can work with -- because at my last job, I got more work done in one hour than my teammates did in 8 hours. Every day.
The more and more stories I hear about how people recognized and now cope with their ADHD makes me realize I have it and I can handle it too. I just need to utilize the resources and ask for support
I have had a few friends growing up, not many!!! I have had adhd my entire life. I was actually called "hyperactive" young. My skin literally crawls when i am bored or with ppl who dont like me
Ive recently been diagnosed im nearly 40 well 40 in December when sum1 told me that i seem adhd but also was told have autistic traits i started researching more about it and i thought hey this is me speacily when i look back in my life and remember hoe people acted round me or things that they said to me and not always very nice things either
This is why I've left like a failure all my life still do at 26. Im terrified to drive. Employment is difficult. My memory is bad, so yeah adhd is a burden.
The lady mentions law school. As someone with ADHD, it BLOWS MY MIND that someone can study law or medicine...to me, asking me to do so much study would be like asking me to climb Mt Everest. I just cannot comprehend someone being able to do that. I'd love to help people as a lawyer or doctor but boy...I'd last about 5mins in a course like that
I'm a 34 male from germany and I ltrly started crying after Aron was talking. All my problems matched his 100%... I've read a lot of philosophy, psychology and psycho analysis books in my life in an effort to fucking understand what's wrong with me and NEVER! have I EVER! assumed that I might could have ADHD. If you want my symptoms, list to his part again because thats me! ...paired with an emotionally abusive household and troubled childhood you have a recipe for disaster. I'll get me tested now, I'm scared of taking medication but Aron gave me hope that it might not be as scary as I have thought. I'm very convinced that I have it but I'll not self diagnose. I might give an update when I have more information.
I love doodling during lame office meetings, i LOVED seeing 👀 my manager giving me angry eyes as.i doodled eye balls on my precious steno pad
That's exactly how I feel.I feel like I'm so stupid.I can't do anything on my own.It's insane
I was naturally good at math. Final year of highschool, teachers moved me to the higher level math class. Lost first day because it they were extremely difficult concepts, and I'd missed the fundamentals at the start of each lesson because I was day-dreaming/distracted...and everything after that made zero sense. Plus the class moved VERY fast. Plus I wasn't used to spending 2hrs each night doing ONLY math homework - that coupled with procrastination...yikes...after only a few weeks I had to move back to standard level math LOL Felt like such a failure.
I felt a little redeemed at the end of the year when many failed the final exams in higher level math paper...and many of the really good math students just scraped a pass (40%)...plus the following year they had to make that class/exam easier because so many students all over the country failed the final exam the year I 'graduated' high school.
Still....I always wonder if I'd not had ADHD issues how I'd have done. I feel I'm slightly above average intelligence, but not gifted LOL - hope that doesn't sound like bragging...I don't do any better in life than most...I feel intelligence can be measured in many way...plus we only have what God gives us, so I could not take credit even if I was gifted
12:16 “that is….past my capabilities” lol if I don’t say that every day.
I haven't heard a word the young woman said! Switched off straight away!
I always have being called smart, but full of silly mistakes amd the ackwardness of some manerism, that either made me popular or hated nothing in between. Diagnosed at 16 and i had to adapt in a hispanic culture full of prejudice.
I just got diagnosed at age 52, inattentive type ADHD, Now it all makes sense!
I disagree with all these people becoming "superman" after they were diagnosed. Where are the people who are actually struggling still???
I want to hear from those people.
I'm 62 and was just dx this summer with "combined type leaning heavily on innatentive". Due to hypotension, my pcp didn't want to give me the typical adhd meds, so we're trying various non stimulants, but im not sure i see a difference 🤔
Currently, we're evaluating for possible autism too.
Thanks for this video!
15:28 from this point, its very powerful and core to adults with ADHD 😢
I always said I wasn’t made for life on this earth
Man, after watching so many of these im positive my diagnosis is correct, but adderall doesnt affect me the same as other adhd folks. I've had a lot of imposter syndrome about it.
The more I hear about these experiences the more I think I did have ADHD as a kid.
So you still have it
Watching this video is keeping me from doing my (self-imposed) project!😅
I'm 70. I just found out last year.
I breezed thru school,grade wise, do i was able to float through on my cloud but was abused at home. I couldn't relate to my peers , i experience time blindness to this day, then hit the wall when i went to collage.
I attempted many times,i have about 2 years' worth of credits.
I couldn't understand why i was able to get thru the lower grades but not collage. I'm intelligent, 125 on the IQ score.
No one knew about adhd back then. My insurance won't cover the meds because of my age.
Thank you. It's so interesting and helpful 🙏🏾
So true about people who work in the beauty business we are therapist.
I had hell as a kid. Diagnosed with a learning disability at 22 and with ADHD at 53. Very painful experience
Thank you for sharing.
I'm so shocked on how many people have either autism or/and adhd I'm going through a process of trying to get my youngest assessed I'm wondering if I should get assessed too as I found out it runs in my family soon as I find some answers I'll know what and how do deal with everything better
I really get him 😢
Wow, I just randomly jumped to 'Aaron's' part... and ...this is what I've lived and done (up to the right before when he tried the medication to save his career...) .. I'll start from the start and continue. All is really really interesting! Thanks a lot so far!
I just got diagnosed and I’m 45.
I’m 38 and going for assessment soon, are you getting medication now?
@@callumm9049 yes i started talking meds about 6 months ago. It helps but im exhausted a lot.
I'm 50 and I just got diagnosed this week
Just received diagnosis for combined type ADHD last week
58! here
It’s quite amazing how Aron can describe my life so accurately without having ever met me 😂
Aron Croft described my entire life up until this point.
I could cry
Thank you for this.
@the entire speakerpanel
Part of the ADHD is a bloodtest (atleast in Germany), what did the doctor say about your potencial comorbitities like Diabities, hypothyroiditis,etc?
Did you do additionel tests for lack of nutrients, Epstein Barr Virus, Lyme diseases, Testerone etc ? If so, what did you find ?
Cheers from Germany
❤❤thank you for sharing this.
Learning differences please. A disability means you cannot do it, a difference is that you can learn it it just might take longer and you will need to tackle it in a different way.
I think a disability is just a disadvantage in your ability in that way it makes sense
@@HazyLove It for sure is a disadvantage in abilities. I think people get hung up on, or forget, the connotations vs denotation of the word "disability". The meaning in medical terms is "-any condition of the body or mind (impairment) that makes it more difficult for the person with the condition to do certain activities (activity limitation) and interact with the world around them (participation restrictions)." - CDC
Wow this is me. Thank you.
I am exactly like the guy. For real 100%
A year into law school with ADHD...everything is fine until we start writing papers which for an ADHD person is NOT FINE.
I'm 61 years old and beginning to realize I may have ADHD.
I'm sorry but I don't relate to most of this. Is it BC of co-morbidities? I feel like "basic functioning" is ridiculously difficult, nvm "keeping career".
It is true--some people with ADHD have co-occurring conditions while others don't. I am sure the co-occurring conditions makes life more difficult.
I’m finding it really funny that this video is so jumpy and the speech doesn’t match the subtitles entirely. It seems like they’ve tried to cut out every word that wasn’t completely necessary/informative (I’m not sure I like describing people’s words as ‘unnecessary’ but I’m not quite sure how to put it). Did they tried to make the video more concise for people who struggle to focus for long periods and whose minds might start wondering between the main bits of information?
Not liking rule imposed on you LOL - I always just thought I was a stubborn jerk...just NOW realizing it's part of ADHD!!!! LOL
Also, the immaturity is a problem. When I was in my teens and all my friends were cool and mature around girls, I kinda childish. Now I know, thanks to Russel Barkley, that people with ADHD mature slower..or are less mature for their age. Anyone else notice that?
Also, does anyone else feel their ADHD gives them a fun way of viewing things? I started saying my funny thoughts out loud and people find it hilarious. Just an observation...
Miserable fn life. That’s what is it. Watching people now half my age pass me by. Stuck in low level jobs, yet traditionally educated and seemingly qualified to move up. Only reason I stick around are the moments when my mind cooperates. Which takes about 2-3hrs to engage and the balance of the study session is intermittent moments of useful thoughts. Fn ridiculous
Wow! Me too! Always left behind. I’m in university at 67. Trying to finish some day. Meds have not worked. :( School is so difficult for me. I’ve been told that I am very smart, yet how come I did so poorly in school. I have been diagnosed with autism and inattentive ADHD. Tourette’s also has me. So many low level jobs too. I did finally make it as a regional airline captain. That job I liked, yet after a few years, I burnt out. I can’t fly anymore due to the diagnosis of T1D. I was first tested around fifth grade, yet nothing came of it, no help, anything, other than being held back a year in school. Very humiliating. I was always blamed for things. That I was a, or the, problem. I’ve been called a loser, a flack, etc., yet never stupid. I feel stupid due to so many failures. Keep trying! Never stop. Others will try to cut you down. DON”T LET THEM!!! Peace, my friend…
Hi everyone, I really need an advice from someone who knows this. I seem having many of the symptoms that has been pointed out in several sources, such as videos and professional articles on ADHD. I also have a history of hardship somewhat similar to what Aaron Croft was talking about. I've decided to seek professional help. One of the psychiatric centres offers a so called Gibson test as a professional method of diagnostics. It is a bit costly to me, but I still would be happy to go for it if somebody would be lovely and assured me that this is one of the good ways to start off. Many thanks for any words.